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MEALS FROM ABOVE A 50-year-old Triad aviation company, an Israeli start-up and the North Carolina Department of Transportation are preparing to test a program to DELIVER MEALS BY DRONE.

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Fresh off YES! Weekly’s Triad’s Best, LAO RESTAURANT + BAR is basking in the glory of being named Best New Restaurant in Guilford County. The Laotian restaurant opened with much anticipation and excitement last summer, and they’ve been feeling the love. 10 KATIE WALL PODRACKY is painting what she loves and loving what she paints. On July 27 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., you can view her artwork up-close and personal in a free pop-up show at Collective Interiors (113 N. Church St.) in Asheboro. 11 Subtitled Con Men, Gangsters, Drug Lords, and Zombies, PAUL A. CANTOR’s latest book is only the latest in his series of works devoted to popular culture. This, after all, is the man who gave the world a political analysis of Gilligan’s Island in his 2001 volume, Gilligan Unbound: Pop Culture in the Age of Globalization. 12 Despite the title, WILD NIGHTS WITH EMILY is hardly a raunchy romp, especially as the central figure is the esteemed poet Emily Dickinson (1930-1886), played here by Molly Shannon. It is, however, a sly comedy of manners... YES! WEEKLY

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John Hunter, Jason Zod and Derek Prince are three lifelong friends who, like many these days, decided to start their own PODCAST. TrasheCast or “the TrASHE” is an uncensored comedy podcast that cracks jokes and celebrates friendship while picking the brains of some big names in the entertainment industry. 19 Politicians love to declare “WAR” on social problems. We’ve had a war on AIDS, a war on hunger, and now, a war on opioids. Declaring such wars gives us a definable enemy to fight and the means to eradicate it, which begs the question, Why haven’t we declared war on school shootings? 20 The members of the Boone-based band BAREFOOT MODERN have had a slightly different experience. The band was formed in the Triad area, from High Point, Oak Ridge and Jamestown, with members, four at the time, who were all in high school. 21 As spring blooms into summer, the Winston-Salem darkwavers in SPIRIT SYSTEM will embark on a mini tour across North Carolina, spreading their “little black raincloud” to soothe souls and contrast presummer vibes.

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NCDOT TO HOLD PUBLIC MEETING FOR PROPOSED INTERCHANGE IMPROVEMENTS TO JOSEPH BRYAN BOULEVARD AT NEW GARDEN ROAD AND HORSE PEN CREEK ROAD IN GUILFORD COUNTY

STIP PROJECT NO. U-6008 The N.C. Department of Transportation and the City of Greensboro will hold a public meeting regarding proposed interchange improvements to Joseph Bryan Boulevard (S.R. 2085) at New Garden Road and Horse Pen Creek Road in Greensboro. The primary purpose of this project is to improve traffic operations and safety in the project area. The meeting will be held Thursday, June 6 from 4-7 p.m. in the St. Paul Apostle Catholic Church fellowship hall located at 2715 Horse Pen Creek Road in Greensboro. The public may attend at any time during the meeting hours. Please note there will be no formal presentation. At the meeting there will be maps of the proposed plans as well as project team members who will be available to answer your questions and receive feedback. All comments will be taken into consideration as the project progresses. The opportunity to submit written comments will be provided at the meeting or may be done by phone, email, or mail by June 28. As information becomes available, it may be viewed at the U-6008 project website: https://publicinput.com/bryan_boulevard. For additional information please contact consultant Project Manager Bobby Norburn, E.I., at (919) 858-1869 or bnorburn@CALYXengineers.com or P.O. Box 33127, Raleigh, N.C., 27636. NCDOT will provide auxiliary aids and services under the Americans with Disabilities Act for disabled persons who wish to participate in this meeting. Anyone requiring special services should contact Lauren Putnam at lnputnam1@ncdot.gov or (919) 707-6072 as early as possible, so that arrangements can be made.

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Aquellas personas que no hablan inglés, o tienen limitaciones para leer, hablar o entender inglés, podrían recibir servicios de interpretación si los solicitan antes de la reunión llamando al 1-800-481-6494. MAY 22-28, 2019 YES! WEEKLY

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WHAT: Details Hirsch is proud to host the area’s only showing of LUNAFEST Film Festival for a 10th consecutive year, celebrating the art of telling our stories! This year we’re excited to present the films at the Community Theater of Greensboro, in an actual theater setting located on Elm Street. Come enjoy an evening of thoughtful, original programming for, by and about women that will begin with live musical entertainment. WHEN: 7-9:30 p.m. WHERE: Community Theatre of Greensboro. 520 S Elm St, Greensboro. MORE: $25 tickets.

WHAT: Join us at Rooster Walk 11, set for Memorial Day Weekend - May 23-26, 2019! 4-day, 3-day and Single Day Tickets ON SALE NOW! Lineup includes: Galactic, Shovels and Rope, The Marcus King Band, Billy Strings, Steep Canyon Rangers, Turkuaz, King and Strings, BIG Something, Sierra Hull, Ghost Light, The Lil Smokies, The Steel Wheels, Mountain Heart, The Black Lillies, Roosevelt Collier Music, Yarn, and many, many more. WHEN: Thursday-Sunday. WHERE: Rooster Walk. 675 Hobson Rd, Martinsville, Virginia. MORE: $70-165 tickets.

WHAT: We’re back! We’ll be lighting up Bailey Park again this year in conjunction with the Winston-Salem Cycling Classic races, and will feature three days of familyfriendly entertainment on Friday, May 24 through Sunday, May 26, including Stone Temple Pilots Drive-By Truckers Trampled By Turtles and many more ! WHEN: 5 p.m. Friday, Saturday, Sunday. WHERE: Bailey Park. 475 North Patterson, Winston-Salem. MORE: $35-100 tickets. Tickets can be purchased through Etix or in person at the gate the day of the event.

WHAT: Come out for the 9th Annual Pettyfest held here at the Petty Museum! Tour the museum, Petty’s Garage, and the birthplace of Richard Petty and celebrate 70 years of the Petty legacy. Show off your classic or modern vehicles and receive a dash plaque signed by The King (limited to the first 100 show cars on the day of the event). Meet Richard Petty & Kyle Petty (limited to first 150 to receive wristbands, two items signed per person). WHEN: 9 a.m. - 2 p.m. WHERE: Petty Museum 309 Branson Mill Rd, Randleman. MORE: $10 general admission. $25 car entry.

WHAT: Join us for our Spring Market! We will have over 30 high quality and unique vendors setting up selling handmade arts, crafts, and jewelry. You will also find antiques, repurposed, and food items! A family friendly day where you can also enjoy live music and food trucks! This event is free for the public and a rain or shine event! WHEN: 11 a.m. - 4 p.m. WHERE: Gypsy-Road Brewing Company. 1105 East Mountain Street, Kernersville. MORE: Free entry.

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ARCADIA LODGE & DHARMA FARM ANIMAL REFUGE BYJASMYN BRUNSON

“We bought this 10-acre property about seven years ago, and we decided to adopt and rescue some farm animals, and that’s how it all started!” said Dharma Farm Animal Refuge owners Maria and Will Taylor. The not-for-profit Dharma Farm Animal Refuge is located just East of High Point. Maria said Dharma Farm’s primary mission is to “educate people about veganism as well as to help the environment and animals.” Maria manages the refuge, and she occasionally gets help from volunteers, most notably her husband, who is a professor in the UNCG in the chemistry department. Maria said she does not make any money from running the refuge, and that “all the income that the refuge generates goes directly into caring for the animals.” The farm is a micro-sanctuary, with 10 farm animals including alpacas, goats, donkeys and one cow living on the refuge. “They are all lovely and have very distinct personalities,” Maria said. One of the goats, named Kooky, is the “refuge ambassador.” She said he has a neuromuscular condition and uses a wheelchair to get around, “but he is still very active and friendly.” Maria has written a children’s book about Kooky based on his adventures since moving to the refuge and describes it as “a good introduction to animal rights as well as disability liberation.” Maria joked that she is the “low-brow author” in the family, as her daughter Astra Taylor was just featured in the Greensboro Bound Literary Festival, while daughter Sunaura Taylor was the keynote speaker at the UNCG Ashby series a few weeks ago. Maria and Will live in a lodge-like home on the property they call Arcadia Lodge. The lodge has an event space on the ground-floor level where Maria hosts a variety of events such as pop-up/multicourse vegan dinners, coffee house soirees and salon-style gatherings. Maria said that she also organizes a wide range of creative, healthy and inspiring classes, which are led by talented facilitators. Some of these WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

courses include vegan cooking classes, art workshops, events for children, and a new practice she is developing called Animal Assisted Mindfulness. One popular event is the bi-weekly Open House with PlantBased Sunday Brunch. Maria said the brunch is free with a ticket purchase to visit the refuge. “The main mission is to educate people about the benefits of adopting a plantbased diet, and to show them that a wide range of delicious plant-based options exists,” Maria said. “Which is why the menu changes weekly. Of course, you do not have to be vegan or vegetarian to attend.” The next brunch is scheduled for May 26 from 11:30 a.m. until 2 p.m., and more information can be found on its Eventbrite page (www.eventbrite.com/e/bi-monthly-farmstyle-vegan-sunday-brunch-at-dharmafarm-animal-refuge-tickets-51612139298). The facility can only seat 24 guests inside, so Maria said it’s important to get tickets in advance as the upcoming brunch is almost full. “All the proceeds for every event that we do goes towards off-setting the expense for caring for the animals,” Maria said. “We still have a huge deficit as we had to build all the infrastructure here for them from scratch, but these events really do help with the ongoing costs.” Maria added, “On June 9 we will be celebrating our seventh anniversary here. The brunch that day will be served outside, weather permitting, and the much-loved local band, the Alley Rabbits, will be performing; we will have other activities as well, like mural and face-painting.” Arcadia Lodge and the Dharma Farm Animal Refuge are only open during special events and Sunday brunches, but Maria said facilities are also available for daylong retreats for small groups. For more information about the farm and events visit their website (www.dharmafarmanimalrefuge.org/) and Facebook page (www. facebook.com/Arcadia.Lodge.NC/). !

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The public has spoken, Lao’d and clear

resh off YES! Weekly’s Triad’s Best, Lao Restaurant + Bar is basking in the glory of being named Best New Restaurant in Guilford County. The Kristi Maier Laotian restaurant @triadfoodies opened with much anticipation and excitement last Contributor summer, and they’ve been feeling the love. Fifty guests of a recent sold-out Chef’s Table at Lao prove that even further. Here’s a little of how it went down (paraphrasing): Me: I’d love to feature you at a Chef’s Table in the future. Vonne: But I’m not a chef. Me: It matters, not. This is about you, your restaurant and your delicious food. Vonne: Let’s do it on Monday, May 6. Me: Great. Vonne the next morning (less than 12 hours later): Uh oh, I messed up. We’re closed on Mondays. Ooops. But maybe we can still do it, depending on ticket sales. Me: Well, it’s sold out at 25 tickets so… now what? Vonne: Add 25 more tickets! And in the end, the Lao Chef’s Table, with the additional 25 tickets, was sold out in 24 hours. Owner Vonne Keobouala closed her restaurant for all 53 of us as she and her team gave us an exclusive peek at some of her favorite Lao dishes. Vonne Keobouala was born in Laos, which is in Southeast Asia between Thailand, Cambodia and Vietnam. At age 7 and as a result of the Vietnam War, her family moved to California. She grew up surrounded by a community who enjoyed their culture’s food. But as time went on, they adapted to the American way of life and eating. Still, Vonne said it has always been important for her to share the culture and cuisine of Southeast Asia. When her brother, Matt “Jit” Lothakoun, moved to North Carolina, she followed soon after and they opened Simply Thai in Elon, with a focus on Thai food and sushi. Ten years have passed, and they have since expanded to a location in Jamestown. But it was the food of Laos that Vonne said needed celebrating. “Here, there are Asian restaurants. We see Chinese and Thai, but not the food YES! WEEKLY

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Appetizer Vegetable Spring Rolls & Sakoo Sai Moo: Tapioca dumplings filled with pork, peanuts, caramelized palm sugar, fried garlic You can’t go wrong by starting out with the quintessential spring roll, and Lao’s is one of the best around. The Sakoo Sai Moo was a sticky little dumpling with a little chili kick, and we wrapped them in beautiful lettuce leaves for a fresh yet sticky, sweet, salty and spicy bite. PHOTO BY WONG KIM

Vonne Keobouala of Laos, not the food of my mother. But I think people are ready to accept our cuisine. Food brings people together, and we want to introduce our culture through our food.” What makes Lao food different is the vibrant colors and unique textures of the dishes. The freshest herbs and produce make for a meal that’s pleasing to the palate while working with your hands. And that’s mostly how the guests at

Chef’s Table enjoyed their meal. Hands washed, enjoying a family-style meal of lettuce wraps and other hand-held items that were crispy, crunchy, spicy, sticky and tantalizing in so many ways. Guests were greeted upon arrival with platters of shrimp crisps. They looked like colorful pork skins with a similar crispy texture, but they were made with shrimp. They were great for snacking and conversation.

First Course Nam Khao: Lettuce wraps, crispy rice, coconut flakes, peanuts, sour pork, with fresh cilantro, green onions These wraps were similar to what you might find in a great Chinese restaurant with lots of cilantro and onions. The crispy rice in this dish helps it stand out. Second Course Chicken Laab: Chopped roasted chicken seasoned with spicy lime sauce, fresh herbs This popular Laotian larb was fantastic as well. “Laotians use sticky rice like bread,” Vonne told us. This dish was

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served with a bowl of sticky rice, which acted as your vessel from hand to mouth. You made a bowl in your hand with the rice and placed the chicken mixture inside. If you like playing with your food, this dish is for you. Third Course Lao Sausage & Beef Seen Lod Jeow (dipping sauce), sticky rice The sausage and beef may also play nicely as an appetizer. Like a Lao charcuterie board, the spicy sausage was so full of flavor, and the beef is considered to be like jerky. The dish was served with more sticky rice and a delicious dipping sauce. Fourth Course Aom : Chicken Herbal stew with fresh dill, long green beans, Lao eggplant The description says it all. The stew was hot, herbaceous, and filled with chunky chicken and veggies. It would be great for a cold day.

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Dessert Nom Vaan Lorm : Mixed-flavored jellies, cantaloupe, corn, served in sweetened coconut milk Now, this little dessert might read oddly. Flavored jellies? Corn? But it was fantastic to me. It tasted like a coconut infused cereal milk. You know how Sugar Smacks taste? That’s what it reminded me of, but with the freshest of real fruit cocktail mixed in. To say that the Chef’s Table guests were stuffed and blown away is putting it mildly. Vonne said she loved seeing the faces of happy customers enjoying the cuisine of her family’s heritage. “Seeing people come in, meeting them and knowing they are so happy to be here and enjoy the food and then they continue to support us…that’s the biggest reward.” ! KRISTI MAIER is a food writer, blogger and cheerleader for all things local who even enjoys cooking in her kitchen, though her kidlets seldom appreciate her efforts.

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Artist’s love for her daughter, art supports rare disease

atie Wall Podracky is painting what she loves and loving what she paints. On July 27 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m., you can view her artwork up-close Terry Rader and personal in a free pop-up show at Contributor Collective Interiors (113 N. Church St.) in Asheboro. Podracky, a Burlington-born Triad native, said she grew up in Asheboro, received her biology and art degrees from Washington Lee University in Lexington, Virginia, and then went on to get her Master’s in art education at The University of North Carolina at Pembroke. She later moved to Savannah, Georgia, where she worked full-time as an artist and took one class a quarter at Savannah Art & Design for two years. Ironically, she met her husband in Savannah, who later got a job in Greensboro, and they moved back to the area with their two children in 2008. Podracky said she was represented in several galleries in 2008, but said, “it was not a good time to be an artist,” so she began teaching art in public schools for five years. Then she became a mother, and once again returned to painting. Presently, she works by commission and is not represented by any galleries. (Although folks can see one of her paintings at @ Elm Street Grill in Greensboro because, she said, a generous customer purchased one of her works. She said she happily donated that money to Irving Park Elementary PTA. ) Podracky said that oil is her favorite medium and that she loves the vivid color and texture. She also likes to work in gouache paint, an opaque watercolor medium that is easier to clean up, especially she said, when traveling with children. She combines her love of nature in her art en plein air (which is the act of painting outdoors). She said she works to find balance as a painter and mother. She has someone who cares for children at least two times a week, while her husband takes the kids places on the weekend. She said she created a time-lapsed video of YES! WEEKLY

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her work to show how she starts with very bright colors that most people are surprised by, and loves how the bright colors create happy surprises in the final painting. She said she does most of her work in her Greensboro home studio above her garage, and she isn’t just creating art for art’s sake these days. It would be impossible to write about her art without including another project near and dear to her heart. It involves raising money for medical research for a rare disease her daughter, Georgia, was born with. “Food Protein-induced Enterocolitis Syndrome (FPIES) is a rare food allergy that affects mostly young children and infants… This allergy occurs in the gastrointestinal (GI) tract and can lead to severe, even life-threatening complications”, according to Healthline.com. Podracky said this diagnosis made her feel like she “had no control over anything in her life.” She hopes to help others who may not have yet found the proper diagnosis for their child. (Folks can read more of her daughter’s story at www.katiewallart. blogspot.com.)

There is an upcoming “Greensboro Walk for FPIES” at Country Park to help Georgia Podracky and other families with FPIES on Sunday, July 28, 3-5 p.m. Podracky said this is a benefit for I-FPIES (a nonprofit that supports medical research for FPIES). A suggested donation of $25 per participant is requested to fund medical research for FPIES. This event will include a 1.5-mile walk on a paved stroller-friendly path and shaved ice (FPIES safe treats) will be available for purchase. In conjunction with the walk, Podracky plans to donate a painting, “Super Moon over Bald Head Island.” Tickets for the drawing may be purchased online with a $5 donation. Podracky will also be teaching four camps this summer: “Up Your Colored Pencil Game” (rising third graders and up) on July 10 and 11; “Under the Sea Paper Collage” (rising second graders and up) on July 31 and Aug. 1; “Paint the Eiffel Tower or a Parisian Portrait of Your Pet” (rising second graders and up) on Aug. 7 and 8; and “Paper Flower Bouquets” (rising fourth graders and up) on Aug. 14 and 15.

“Savannah Hopeful” “Painting has saved me, it’s my therapy, it’s my income and my escape from the overwhelming demands of motherhood,” Podracky said. “I’ve always been an artist; it’s just who I am. I could never be bitter about my life, but I can become a little bitter when I don’t get to paint.” ! TERRY RADER is a former ad agency pro creative director, branding strategist, Earth Harmony columnist and storyteller on a mission to write stories to promote creative people, grassroots, sustainability and underground happenings in our community while she pet/ home sits and writes her personal stories, songs, poems, and nature essays.

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July 27, 10 a.m. - 3 p.m., Katie Wall Podracky Art Pop-up show at Collective Interiors, 113 N. Church St., Asheboro. July 28, 3-5 p.m., Greensboro Walk for I-FPIES, Country Park, Greensboro, $25 donations for participants and $5 for painting drawing, https://www.crowdrise.com/o/en/campaign/ greensboro-walk-for-fpies-2019, http://www. katiewallart.com, www.facebook.com/KatieWall-Art-115757168439385/, (919)704-3637.

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Exploring the American Dream - with a twist POP CULTURE AND THE DARK SIDE OF THE AMERICAN DREAM by Paul A. Cantor. Published by University Press of Kentucky. 224 pages. $40 retail. Subtitled Con Men, Gangsters, Mark Burger Drug Lords, and Zombies, Paul A. Cantor’s latest book Contributor is only the latest in his series of works devoted to popular culture. This, after all, is the man who gave the world a political analysis of Gilligan’s Island in his 2001 volume, Gilligan Unbound: Pop Culture in the Age of Globalization. After his introduction, in which he occasionally refers to (or plugs) his previous works, Cantor gets down to the business at hand, offering an analysis of the impact of such quintessentially “American” works as Huckleberry Finn, The Godfather, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead, and comedian W.C. Fields. It’s certainly a diversity of topics, and Cantor offers a concise and clear analogy to them and other works that have influenced popular culture. In the case of Breaking Bad, the widely – and wildly – praised AMC crime series created by Vince Gilligan that ran 2008-13 and won 16 Emmy Awards (including back-toback trophies for Outstanding Drama Series in 2013 and 2014), there’s a little

Hamlet and a lot of Macbeth in the tale of teacher-turned-crime kingpin Walter White (Bryan Cranston, four times an Emmy winner for the role). In the case of The Godfather (1972) – Cantor focuses more on the film than Mario Puzo’s best-selling novel – there’s a little Macbeth and a lot of Hamlet. Yet Breaking Bad and The Godfather share a similar perspective – admittedly skewed – in that both are a representation of the American Dream, and how it can go wrong. Cantor includes The Godfather Part II (1974) in his discussion, yet dismisses, with good reason, The Godfather Part III (1990). Even devotees of Breaking Bad and The Godfather – and there are many – are liable to find some intriguing observations new to them. Mark Twain’s Huckleberry Finn is certainly among the great works in American literature, but Cantor also finds some fresh perspective in the venerable work, noting that it’s less a nostalgic trip through Americana than a potent examination – and in some cases, condemnation – of society at that point in time. As he points out, most of the characters are either hypocrites or outright phonies. Even Huck himself is forced to represent himself as something he is not in order to “get ahead” in the world. W.C. Fields (1880-1946) might seem an

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unusual figure as one who was emblematic of the American Dream, but Cantor quickly and convincingly makes his case. Both a comedian and a contrarian, Fields could be considered the “ugly American” for his drunkenness, sloth, ill temper, bad manners, and generally obnoxious demeanor. Yet these were the very qualities that made him a superstar on vaudeville, radio and later in film. People loved Fields because, after all, he was just as

rotten as the rest of us – only funnier. And the fact that he made no apologies or excuses for his behavior didn’t hurt his popularity. On the contrary, it made him more popular. In 1940, he even authored Fields for President, which is exactly what it sounds like – an unapologetic, typically blustery campaign for the U.S. Presidency. Was Fields kidding? Did it matter? In the case of AMC’s series The Walking Dead, Cantor came to it in mid-stride. Unlike Breaking Bad, which he admired from the get-go, it was the mounting groundswell of the series’ popularity that piqued his interest, and although he’s less enthusiastic about The Walking Dead than Breaking Bad, the themes explored by the series easily fit into Cantor’s criteria here. Yes, The Walking Dead is about zombies – after all, what’s the title of the series? – But it’s just as much about how the surviving remnants of humankind attempt, with varying degrees of success, to maintain some semblance of a normal society … both the good and the bad. The zombies are less a threat than those human characters that use the catastrophe for their own gain. Yes, indeed – the American Dream is alive and well. Even as the undead hold sway over the world, man is still the most dangerous species. For more information, visit the official University Press of Kentucky website: kentuckypress.com. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2019, Mark Burger.

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Wild Nights with Emily: Historical and satirical speculation

espite the title, Wild Nights with Emily is hardly a raunchy romp, especially as the central figure is the esteemed poet EmMark Burger ily Dickinson (19301886), played here Contributor by Molly Shannon. It is, however, a sly comedy of manners, one that puts a (notinaccurate) spin on the life and legacy of the prolific “Belle of Amherst.” It is the conjecture of writer/producer/ director Madeleine Olnek that Dickinson was not the reclusive spinster she was made out to be, but enjoyed a long-standing lesbian relationship with childhood friend Susan Gilbert (Susan Ziegler), who also happened to be married to Emily’s brother, Austin (Kevin Seal). The narrative of Wild Nights with Emily is structured around a lecture given by Mabel Todd (Amy Seimetz), who published much of Dickinson’s work after her death – after having “corrected” much of it (so to speak) – and presents herself as a definitive authority, despite never having glimpsed Emily once while she was alive. Indeed, Mabel’s main connection to Emily would seem to be an adulterous affair with Austin, and the main thrust of her lecture is wholly self-aggrandizing – although the genteel ladies in attendance listen with rapt attention. That only a dozen of Dickinson’s 1,800 poems were published in her lifetime is a recurring and splendidly ironic joke. Characters criticize them for not rhyming

properly, or for being too obscure. There is, of course, good reason, since many of Emily’s romantic musings were about Susan but had to be conveyed in oblique terms. Brett Gelman plays Col. Thomas Wentworth Higginson, publisher of The Atlantic Monthly – he won’t publish Dickinson’s poems, either – and his completely clueless, self-absorbed discourse on great literature, in which he advises Emily to conform to the conventions of the form, is a gem. Other highlights include Emily’s chat with doddering Judge Lords (Al Sutton), in which he confuses Charlotte and Emily Brontë and their work. There’s also a fabulously funny bit involving Ralph Waldo Emerson (Robert McCaskill).

Shannon’s had an interesting career. Her comedic versatility was evident during her stint on Saturday Night Live (1995-2001), even if she was sometimes overshadowed by the more animated antics of Will Ferrell, Jimmy Fallon and Chris Kattan. She brought her signature SNL character Mary Katherine Gallagher to the big screen in Superstar (1999) at a time when show-runner Lorne Michaels was attempting, with little success, to replicate the success of Wayne’s World (1992). Superstar was anything but super, but Shannon gave it her all. She’s done some fine work since, although it too has sometimes been overlooked: Year of the Dog (2007), Life After Beth (2014), Me and Earl and the

Dying Girl (2015), Private Life (2017), and an award-winning dramatic turn in Other People (2016). She plays Emily Dickinson with wry and subtle tenderness, and although the action revolves around her character, this is very much an ensemble piece – and a successful one, at that. Olnek sustains a light, breezy tone throughout, yet upon Emily’s death, there’s a genuine sense of loss and tragedy. In what is likely a nod to the ongoing impact of Dickinson’s work, Wild Nights with Emily tends to sneak up and make its point – and its mark – when you least expect it. ! See MARK BURGER’s reviews of current movies on Burgervideo.com. © 2019, Mark Burger.

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Jacob Gers as Romeo and Sadie Murray as Juliet in the Shakespeare with a twist production of Shakespeare-At-Hand

The Drama Center Presents Shakespeare-At-Hand

he Drama Center of City Arts and Events presents Shakespeare-At-Hand, two one-act plays designed to introduce Shakespeare to the uninitiated, especially young people. The show is May 30-June 2 in the Stephen Hyers Theatre at the Greensboro Cultural Center, 200 N. Davie St. Shows are Thursday at 6:30 p.m., Friday and Saturday at 8 p.m. and Sunday at 2 p.m. There are no tickets but a $10 donation is requested at the door. Written by Rosina Mason Whitfield, a few years apart, both are published and have had numerous productions nationwide. As the Bard Turns is a soap opera

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parody interspersed with scenes from Shakespeare’s plays. Romeo and Juliet, a 45-Minute Foray was written originally as a touring show for middle and high schools in York, Pennsylvania. It features modern commentary along with scenes from the play. Romeo and Juliet will be performed at the NC Triad Theatre League Festival on June 1 at the High Point Campus of GTCC, and is available for touring in the Triad in the fall. For more information, go to www.thedramacenter.com or call (336)373-2728. For more information about the theatre festival, visit www.triadtheatre.com. !

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[NEWS OF THE WEIRD] RECURRING THEME

In April, News of the Weird reported that sweat bees were found to be living in the eye of a woman in Taiwan. Now, United Press International Chuck Shepherd reports doctors at a hospital in Yangzhou, Jiangsu province, China, found a small spider building a nest inside a man’s ear. The man, identified only as Li, arrived at the hospital complaining of discomfort in his ear. Doctors said the spider was too small and fast to be caught with tools, but they were able to flush it out using water.

CRIME REPORT

— A 25-year-old man from Kapaa, Hawaii, will likely spend seven years in prison after going on a drug-fueled rampage in his former boss’s home in December. Forrest Broyles pleaded no contest on May 7 to charges that he broke into the home to claim his fair share of fish the two men had caught

together. Broyles told Kauai police he was using the hallucinogenic concoction ayahuasca when he used a machete to break the glass front door of the home, reported The Garden Island. He threatened the boss and his wife, saying he “was going to kill him and chop him up,” then attacked the house instead, hitting a television, breaking windows, a sliding glass door, kitchen cabinets, the stove and microwave and a canoe paddle, among other items, amounting to about $3,000 in damages. “That is what the whole incident was about,” Broyles told a detective at the scene. “He owes me choke ahi.” Broyles was on probation at the time (for allegedly threatening two people with scissors); he is scheduled for sentencing in August. — The Sioux Falls (South Dakota) Argus Leader reported that Brody Fuchs, 25, of Tyndall was arrested on April 23 and charged with second-degree burglary after a local man contacted police about items disappearing from his home over the course of a couple of years — about $500 worth of sex toys. The man had installed security cameras in the house, which caught Fuchs entering the home, staying for about 40 seconds,

then leaving, according to the affidavit. Bon Homme County Sheriff ’s officers searched Fuchs’ residence and found a number of toys the victim said belonged to him. It was unclear whether the homeowner and Fuchs were acquainted.

CUTENESS ALERT

— Hugo the dog is a frequent boarder at Happy Tails Pet Hotel and Playland in St. Ann, Missouri. In early May, according to KTVI, Hugo proved how much he loves his pals at the doggy day care: He ran away from home, navigated a busy street and covered more than a mile to get to Happy Tails, where he ran inside to greet his canine friends. — Baby’s First Shoes: When Olivia the giraffe gave birth to her son on May 2 at the Woodland Park Zoo in Seattle, zookeepers noticed his rear feet were not in normal alignment, a condition called hyperextended fetlocks. So the 170-pound baby, as yet unnamed, was fitted with casts to correct the problem, and along with them, his own custom-made pair of therapeutic shoes made of plywood and polyethylene. “I’m hopeful they will help him walk better,” zoo veterinarian Dr. Tim Storms told KIRO. He expects the treatment will continue over several months.

RULES ARE RULES

Keith Cutler, senior circuit judge of Winchester and Salisbury in England, had what would seem to be an airtight reason for avoiding jury duty in April: He was scheduled to be the presiding judge for the case. Even so, when Cutler contacted the jury summoning bureau to say, “I would be inappropriate, seeing I happened to be the judge and knew all the papers,” the bureau refused to excuse him, suggesting he could “apply to the resident judge.” Cutler eventually had to call to explain that he is the resident judge, reported The Guardian. He noted that he would have been happy to serve under other circumstances: “I would have liked to have done the jury service to see what it was like and whether I would have liked the judge,” he said.

GOVERNMENT IN ACTION

New Zealand’s House Speaker, Trevor Mallard, ejected National Leader Simon Bridges from the chamber on May 7, claiming that Bridges’ conduct was inappropriate during Question Time. “The member earlier made a barnyard noise of the sort that would not be accepted in a junior classroom,” Mallard said. But Bridges objected, saying, “I made no such noise and it is entirely unfair for you as a speaker to say that sort of unprofes-

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sional comment.” The New Zealand Herald reported that Bridges later said Mallard’s comments made him feel like a “naughty boy”; later inspection of video from the session revealed that Bridges had made a loud sound of disapproval after an answer given by Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern.

FLORIDA

A police officer in Haines City, Florida, was inside a local business on May 4 when he heard “a loud noise” outside. In the parking lot, he found Gary Wayne Anderson, 68, had just crashed his riding lawnmower (with trailer carrying a red cooler) into the officer’s cruiser, reported the Miami Herald. “F—- it, I’m drunk,” Anderson told officers, according to an arrest affidavit. “Take me to jail.” He was so intoxicated, police said, that he failed a field sobriety test and “almost fell to the ground multiple times.” At the police station, Anderson accused police of poisoning him and requested that he be taken to a hospital, where test results found his blood-alcohol content to be three times Florida’s legal limit. Anderson has two prior DUI convictions and has not had a valid driver’s license since 1978. “It’s never a good idea to get behind the wheel drunk,” noted police Chief Jim Elensky, “even if that wheel is to a Craftsman, Massey Ferguson or John Deere.”

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Cinema’s Freddy Krueger has nothing on a winged resident of the Cascavel city zoo in Brazil. The Amazonian parrot started his life at the zoo about four years ago, after being shot in the upper beak during a raid at a drug den, which disfigured his face and earned him the name Freddy Krueger, reported The Guardian. In April, Freddy survived being bitten on the leg by a (nonvenomous) snake, which resulted in profuse bleeding. Just days later, armed thieves broke into the zoo and stole Freddy, along with another parrot and a cylinder of gas. But true to Freddy form, the parrot made his way back to the zoo, where veterinarian Ilair Dettoni speculated that Freddy’s deformities may have made him less desirable to the thieves. “I don’t know if Freddy is really unlucky or really lucky,” he said. The other parrot and the gas cylinder have not been located. !

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Meals from above: Drone delivery coming to North Carolina

50-yearold Triad aviation company, an Israeli start-up and the North Carolina Department of Transportation are preparing to test a program to deliver Ian McDowell meals by drone. Rather than arriving at the front door Contributor like an order from TakeOut Central or Uber Eats, freshly prepared food will be lowered via cable from an autonomous unmanned aircraft hovering 70 feet above the customer’s yard. The first flights will take place later this year in Holly Springs, the small Wake County town 20 miles from Raleigh-Durham International Airport, 74 miles from Greensboro, and 100 miles from WinstonSalem. The Triad company partnering in the venture is Causey Aviation, headquartered in Liberty. The technology is provided by the 6-year-old Tel Aviv-based startup Flytrex, whose CEO Yariv Bash also co-founded SpaceIL, the Israeli nonprofit attempting to put the first privately-funded spacecraft on the moon. In August of 2017, Flytrex partnered with Aha, Iceland’s largest e-commerce company, to deliver sushi, hamburgers and beer across Elliðavogur Bay, which separates two of Reykjavik’s Northeastern districts. Malek Murison from Internetofbusiness.com reported that Skytrex’s drones cut Aha’s delivery times from a 20-minute drive to a four-minute flight. (A video of Flytrex and Aha delivering food to a Reykjavik backyard can be seen on the Flytrex website, www.flytrex. com/projects/iceland-aha.) In 2018, Flytrex and Aha expanded to 13 routes in the Icelandic capital, logging over 1,000 flights. Last August, Matt McFarland of CNN reported that the Israeli drones made its first incursion into the US delivering hamburgers to golfers at King’s Walk, an 18-hole course in Grand Forks, North Dakota. A golf course was chosen for the six-week test due to its open space, relatively few people and clear sightlines between the links. Casually googling “drone” may reveal some confusion between that designator and UAV (Unmanned Aerial Vehicle). But YES! WEEKLY

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“drone” is increasingly the common term, as well as the oldest, coined in 1935 for the British DH 82B Queen Bee, a radiocontrolled aircraft used for target practice by naval artillery. For most of the 20th century, aerial drones (technically, “drone” can also mean a remote-controlled submersible or even a land vehicle) were remotecontrolled military aircraft powered by internal combustion or jet propulsion engines. But in the 21st century, advances in miniaturization, rotor technology and lithium-polymer batteries, as well as SOC (system-on-a-chip) integrated circuits and single-board computers, popularized the use of the small

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a common sight in Triad skies. In June of 2016, the FAA announced regulations for commercially operated Small Unmanned Aircraft Systems (sUAS). The rules, which don’t apply to private hobbyists, require a licensed remote pilot and restrict the drone to 55 pounds or less (including payload). Under these regulations, the drone must be operated in daylight and in direct line-of-sight and must fly at under 400 feet and less than 100 mph in uncontrolled Class G airspace (that part of airspace over which Air Traffic Control has no authority). Under this regulation, commercial drones cannot fly over anyone not directly participating in the operation or under a covered structure, and can’t be launched from a moving vehicle. All of these rules are subject to waiver by the FAA. In May of 2018, Secretary of Transportation Elaine L. Chao announced that 10 states had been selected by the USDOT as participants in the Unmanned Air-

craft Systems (UAS) Integration Pilot Program, an initiative partnering the FAA

with local governments and private sector participants to explore the commercial capabilities of drone delivery. Along with local governments in Oklahoma, Virginia, Kansas, Florida, Tennessee, North Dakota, Nevada and Alaska, one of the selectees was the North Carolina Department of Transportation. The USDOT announcement described

the purpose of these public-private partnerships in the following passage: “Over the next two and a half years, the selectees will collect drone data involving night operations, flights over people and beyond the pilot’s line of sight, package delivery, detect-and-avoid technologies and the reliability and security of data links between pilot and aircraft. The data collected from these operations will help the USDOT and FAA craft new enabling rules that allow more complex low-altitude operations, identify ways to balance local and national interests related to UAS integration, improve communications with local, state and tribal jurisdictions, address security and privacy risks, and accelerate the approval of operations that currently require special authorizations.” According to the May 9, 2018, NextGov. com article “10 Drone Programs Get Federal OK to Break the Rules,” the NC pilot program “will include drones flying beyond the line of sight, at night and over people.” However, according to “Federal Drone Pilot Program Overview” at Hollyspringsnc.us, the Holly Springs program would begin by operating “under existing Federal Aviation Administration restrictions limiting flights to daytime, line-of-sight operations that don’t fly directly over people,” and with only one drone flying at a time. According to that description on

the town’s website, the program will start “with takeout delivery from one or more restaurants in Holly Springs Towne Center to a delivery location at Ting Park, across the park road from the tennis courts.” The program’s FAQ states that, initially, “all flight routes will be within line-ofsight of the remote pilot at the take-off location at Holly Springs Towne Center,” and that the route to the Ting Park delivery location “will not allow drones to fly above houses.” The FAQ also gives the following answer as to why Holly Springs is interested in the program: “Drones offer the potential to reduce the number of vehicles on the road, thus mitigating traffic congestion and greenhouse gas emissions. Drone delivery replaces a 2-ton vehicle driving on the road with an electric-powered 35-pound vehicle. This pilot program provides the Federal Aviation Administration, N.C. Department of Transportation and Town of Holly Springs an opportunity to assess how drones might play a role in our innovative economy.” In a phone from Tel Aviv last week, Amit Regev, vice president of product at Flytrex, said that the Holly Springs’ program will apply lessons learned in Iceland. “When we started testing this almost three years ago, we would take off from the [Reykjavik distribution] center, and then we landed at the site where we were delivering the product, so somebody would go to the drone, and take the package, prove that the package was taken,

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and then it would take off and fly back to the distribution center.” This, he said, proved impractical. “We quickly learned that you really don’t want to land in somebody’s back yard!” So, it was changed to a system where the drone arrived above the delivery point and alerted an app on the customer’s smartphone. “When you acknowledge this on the app, the drone descends to about 70 feet, hovers, and lowers the package on a wire mechanism to your backyard, so the drone never actually lands there.” The cable’s hook automatically releases the package, and the cable is retracted back into the drone, which ascends to cruising altitude and returns to the distribution center. “It never lands anywhere outside the center.” Regev called this “a really good way to handle the logistics of delivery,” compared to “what you have in the suburbs, where somebody enters a car, which is far heavier than a drone and drives all the way to the destination.” He said, “a 25-pound drone is much less dangerous than a car, as well as much better in terms of the environment because everything is electric.” He expressed confidence that, once users become accustomed to drone delivery, “they will enjoy the experience much better, as it can bring anything in 10 minutes or so to your backyard.” He said the drones could carry up to 6.6 pounds. “That’s the capability that we have today. I’m guessing that we will be able to carry a bit more down the road.” He said that cruising altitude would be 230 feet. “The reason is related to noise,

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mainly. At 230 feet, people on the ground won’t hear a thing. When lowering to 70 feet, you might hear a small noise, but less than from a scooter or a car. And that part usually takes only 20 to 30 seconds.” He explained that the drones don’t descend to anything less than 70 feet for safety reasons. “We do carry a parachute system on top of the drone, which would require about 40 feet to deploy. So, if we stay higher, we can react if something happens. We’ve never used it, but this is part of the safety element we’re working on with the FAA.” Regev said that Flytrex began working with drones six years ago. “For the first few years, we were actually manufacturing small black boxes designed for consumer drones. The purpose of this specific device was that it was connected to those consumer drones and transmitted telemetry data to our servers over several networks, allowing customers to track and log onto the flights. We basically had a gaming platform for drone enthusiasts from all over the world.” But then, he said, “we began to notice what people were actually doing with their drones.” And Flytrex began receiving requests from other companies asking if the drones could be used for deliveries. “About three years after we started, we decided that the big opportunity is here. So, we did a switch and started focusing on the drone delivery side and building the system that can handle the logistics of such a thing and the technology to actually enable that. There’s been huge progress, both in the technology and the way that the market sees that technology.” He said that his company’s drones have

a cruising speed of 33 mph and a maximum round-trip radius of approximately three miles. So, for now, they won’t be delivering fresh seafood from the coast to the Piedmont (the first thing a friend asked about when I told him about this program). Regev said the current model is to place delivery stations in commercial centers. “Specifically, in Holly Springs, such a station will be set up in a strip mall operated by [the Greensboro-based property management company] KRG. We then have a runner that simply picks up, either on foot or by bicycle, all orders from the mall’s merchants and brings them to the delivery center, where the package is then delivered directly to the customer’s backyard. Such station will offer deliveries from all approximately 20 restaurants within this shopping center.” I asked him if the drones would be remote-piloted or fully autonomous. “The drones are fully automatic. The flight plan is loaded from a center server to the drone and the system executes the delivery accordingly. In the initial stages, there is a pilot holding a remote control for safety purposes, but no action is actually required from his end. Eventually, the goal is to have one pilot operating multiple drones together without any remote control. All control is done through a terminal on a PC/iPad.” After speaking with Regev, I reached out to Jeff Causey, director of operations at Causey Aviation, Inc. in Liberty. He was enthusiastic about his company’s partnership with Flytrex and the NCDOT. “The technology to do this is in most ways fairly mature and ready, at least all the different pieces that are required to bring it together. What’s been sort of

lacking is the integration of those pieces, and Flytrex is doing a great job of providing that.” He also spoke to the regulatory environment. “The regulations that govern the national airspace have never really anticipated this technology as being a possibility. So now the FAA, the North Carolina DOT, and Causey Aviation as the operator are all working together to determine where those gaps are and how best to fill those.” He said it’s possible that, in the future, the entire regulatory structure may be changed, not just in relation to commercial drones, but to commercial airspace itself. “I’ve been talking a lot with Basil Yap, the NC DOT representative in charge of this. Whereas right now, the federal government controls all airspace through the FAA, it may be that, at some point in the future, individual states will begin to have some sort of control over the first 300 or 400 feet of some airspace, possibly even establishing virtual roads in the sky.” Causey envisions the technology being used to deliver more than just meals. “It can deliver prescriptions or groceries or your new cellphone or industrial goods. But meals are a good test because it’s something the drone allows you to deliver very quickly, regardless of traffic conditions or the time of day. You can deliver via drone very precisely and always in the same amount of time, and the food will be very fresh and very hot.” ! IAN MCDOWELL is the author of two published novels, numerous anthologized short stories, and a whole lot of nonfiction and journalism, some of which he’s proud of and none of which he’s ashamed of.

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TrASHE-talking with ‘the death and life of Asheboro’ John Hunter, Jason Zod and Derek Prince are three lifelong friends who, like many these days, decided to start their own podcast. TrasheCast or “the TrASHE” is an uncensored comedy Katie Murawski podcast that cracks jokes and celebrates friendship while Editor picking the brains of some big names in the entertainment industry. The TrASHE has been up and running for almost two years now, and was recently voted second place for Best Podcast in YES! Weekly’s 2019 Triad’s Best readers poll. The TrASHE meshes film, music and other realms of pop culture that aren’t as mainstream, while the hosts riff off each other. The podcast is usually an hour in length and its name, just as one would expect, has a humorous origin. “We are all from Asheboro, and as it goes in several small towns, everyone has a negative nickname--like Trasheboro,” Hunter said. The initial idea of the podcast was rooted in the three’s friendship. Hunter said the podcast became an excuse for them to find time as adults to hang out and talk about nonsense, just like they did in the old days. But as the podcast grew and got more popular, Hunter, Zod and Prince started to become fascinated in the various ways people get together-- just as they did with their podcast. “People find reasons to come together,” Hunter said. “We have a lot of comedians, filmmakers, musicians, and it is interesting to see their side of it. How they bring people together and what drives them in more of a casual manner.” The three proclaim themselves as “the new kings of all media” because their special guest appearances include many notable names in comedy, T.V. and film such as Lloyd Kaufman, Todd Glass, Ms. Pat, Hilliary Begley, Bonnie McFarlane, Mark Normand, and even some hometown favorites such as Greensboro-native Jourdain Fisher and Asheboro-native Evan Williams. “The best hangouts you’ve ever had in life are not necessarily the people that you always hang out with, and that is the great thing about having guests,” Zod said. “From the beginning, when we started interviewing people, we didn’t YES! WEEKLY

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The TrASHE’s co-host John Hunter promoting the podcast with a sign and megaphone want to ask the same things they have been asked 1,000 times because people don’t want to hear that. We wanted to hang out with these people.” Other “celebrity” guests (which are just their own impersonations) include far-right conspiracy theorist Alex Jones, country music artist Randy Travis, and Fox News’ commentator Tucker Carlson. “The majority of this show is John judging us, or god, who also calls in sometimes,” Zod said. When they are not interviewing guests, they are debating “controversial” topics, such as, which Sugar Ray songs they would “Fuck, Kill, or Marry.” “When It’s Over got killed every time,” Zod said. “Married Every Morning, and fucked Fly.” Hunter said that even though a big part of their podcast consists of interviews, it is not the only thing they do to fill the time. He said a lot of times they just talk about their everyday lives and joke around. “Most of us on the show, we have known each other for a minimum of like 15 years now,” Prince said. “So, the way we communicate and express ourselves with each other is authentic. We know where we can go with each other.” Prince said that Zod and Hunter conduct the majority of the interviews, and he has noticed that their interviewing style is unique to others. “If you listen to a lot of other comedians on other podcasts, you get bullet points, or they are hitting the same two or three stories they tell-- the same thing you hear on talk shows at night,” Prince said. “[The

TrASHE] is more of a casual conversation. You’ll hear it a lot at times in the interview, where it kind of starts off a little bit awkward because they don’t quite know what they are getting into, and that turns into a casual conversation that goes down an interesting path.” “It is refreshing to be able to go outside of whatever somebody structures for you and be able to find out really interesting or fun things,” Hunter said of the interviewing process. It is evident from the podcast that comedy is their niche, and that these guys are influenced by absurdist humor. They said some of their idols include comedians Tom Green, T.J. Miller, Eric Andre, Hannibal Buress, radio personality Phil Hendrie, filmmaker Lloyd Kaufman and writer Chuck Klosterman. “There is a fascination with comedians I think we all have anyway, for me specifically, it is the only art form where it is judged as one whole,” Hunter said. “I think what makes comedians really good to interview too, is the only thing that a comedian is selling is their personality,” Prince added. “Their job is themselves.” Hunter said that the use of comedy in their podcast is intended to lift people up, not weigh them down. Ultimately, the company of each other is what drives them to keep talking TrASHE. “We are definitely not NPR, but at the same time, we try to offer some substance,” Hunter said. “These guys are the funniest guys. They make me laugh harder than anyone else. And I have heard this

said by other people before, but it is that vibe of skipping school forever. That is kind of the way it is with these guys.” “It is like a road trip conversation stuck in a room,” Zod observed. “Some of the time it is a lot of fun. You don’t know exactly where you are going, you have a destination in mind, but the places you meander to get there, especially people that you know well, it is some of the best parts. It has been some of the best times I have ever had in my life.” Hunter said the podcast premiers once a week on either Wednesdays or Sundays. He said the downloads each month are in the thousands, but he doesn’t like to tell that to Prince or Zod, in fear that all of that fame “will get to their heads.” “We are lucky enough to have a good audience, and it keeps growing,” Hunter said. “I am surprised. But if it was just us [listening], so be it. It is a reason to hang out, and it is still fun. Everybody who listens, we appreciate you.” “We love interacting with our listeners,” Zod added. “I am an open book on Twitter, for people who want to talk or whatever.” Looking ahead, Hunter said he hopes to add a video element to the TrASHE soon (such as companion pieces and small vignettes of interviews) along with live shows at local bars. The TrASHE is always looking for sponsors, live read opportunities, and interesting guests. Hunter said the TrASHE doesn’t usually promote celebrity guests just in case the interview falls through. But he added that the TrASHE does have some guests already booked that they are excited about (including an interview with yours truly and other members of Greensboro Roller Derby, coming soon). “Doing something that you love with people that you love is a success,” Hunter said. “I don’t think anybody can say that wouldn’t be their dream. It is a way to live a dream. I did not expect this to get as big as it is, and it is still growing. I visibly see it from the inside, and I could not be prouder.” ! KATIE MURAWSKI is the editor of YES! Weekly. She is from Mooresville, North Carolina and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in journalism with a minor in film studies from Appalachian State University in 2017.

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School lockdowns coming too late Politicians love to declare “war” on social problems. We’ve had a war on AIDS, a war on hunger, and now, a war on opioids. Declaring such wars gives us a definable enemy to fight and the means Jim Longworth to eradicate it, which begs the question, Why haven’t we Longworth declared war on school shootings? Oh at Large sure, some schools now run emergency drills so that students can learn how to hide in the closet if a bad person enters the classroom, but those measures are about as effective in preventing school massacres as when my teachers told us back in 1962, that if we put our head between our legs, we’d be safe from a nuclear blast. Last week, just days after the 20th anniversary of the Columbine High School massacre, 18-year-old Devon Erickson and 16-year-old Maya McKinney, waltzed into the STEM School at Highlands Ranch near Columbine, and opened fire, killing one student and wounding eight others. It was the 35th school shooting of this academic year, and just one more in a long line of school massacres, including at Sandy Hook Elementary in 2012, and Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida in 2018. In the days following every school shooting, elected officials on the left say we need to ban all guns, while those on the right say we need to arm teachers and offer more mental health counseling. Amazingly, both sides tend to agree that we need an SRO in every school, but thus far, that hasn’t happened, and even if it did, those officers would not be able to stop murderous intruders from entering the school. So what’s the solution? We must augment SROs with preventive security measures. For years now, I’ve used this column and my Triad Today television program to advocate for limited ingress and egress, as well as the installation of electronically locking doors and metal detectors in every school building. Under my plan, all students would enter through one main set of electronically-controlled doors, and be scanned for weapons while the armed SRO observes. After that, students and visitors would have to be buzzed in or out by the SRO, or by designated office staff who can view the entrance way on T.V. monitors. If there is more than one building on campus, then the same safety precautions and devices WWW.YESWEEKLY.COM

would be duplicated in each building. Whenever I float this strategy, educators, law enforcement, and elected officials say, “It’s too expensive, the scanning delays would lengthen the school day, and keeping doors locked would violate local fire ordinances. Here’s my response: Will building security be expensive? Yes, but America is the richest nation on earth, and our government always seems to find the money for everything except making our schools safer. Congress can mandate that every school be retrofitted with secure doors and detectors and that federal dollars be allocated to the Department of Homeland Security which, in turn, would subsidize the upgrades in every locality. Would routine metal detection for every student entering the building cause delays that might lengthen the school day? Yes, but so what? Would locked doors put students at risk in the event of a fire? No. The doors can be designed to open automatically with an emergency override function activated by the SRO or office monitor. I don’t mean to oversimplify this, but I’ve visited a number of industrial plants where thousands of employees can only enter and exit through one main gate, and I’ve been buzzed into countless office buildings over the years. Where there’s a will, there’s a way, and there’s a way for this to work. I also realize that what I’m calling for will make our schools feel like prisons, and it pains me to have to make these suggestions. But before you email me to say how crazy I am, first go interview any one of the hundreds of parents who have lost their children to school massacres, and ask them if they would have minded locked doors, metal detectors, SRO’s, and longer school days. In the late 1960s, when highway deaths were piling up, our government mandated the use of seat belts. Today, the government also mandates sprinkler systems for large commercial buildings, requires a blood test before a marriage license can be issued, and won’t let you drill a well or install a septic system until your land has been inspected. The fact is, the government is there to protect its citizens, and the time has come for that protection to extend to children while they are in school. We’ve gotten really good at locking down schools after a shooting has occurred, so let’s try something radical. Let’s get really good at locking down schools before a shooting occurs. ! JIM LONGWORTH is the host of Triad Today, airing on Saturdays at 7:30 a.m. on ABC45 (cable channel 7) and Sundays at 11 a.m. on WMYV (cable channel 15).

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f you were in a band when you were in high school, you probably saw your group come apart or fizzle out for any number of different reasons: people moved away; John Adamian different members @johnradamian had different levels of interest; some of your bandmates Contributor were serious about it, some were not; maybe you all realized it required more work than you were likely to invest. Or maybe egos or “creative differences” had something to do with it. The members of the Boone-based band Barefoot Modern have had a slightly different experience. The band was formed in the Triad area, from High Point, Oak Ridge and Jamestown, with members, four at the time, who were all in high school. (Three of the original members all attended an arts high school in High Point together.) Then they all headed to the mountains, Westward, three of them to Appalachian State University and one to Lees-McRae. Instead of allowing the change of focus, the new settings and the new routines to spell out the end of a youthful creative project, the members of Barefoot Modern have continued to be a band, writing and recording new songs and pushing their music careers to the next phase while maintaining GPAs, attending classes and being college students. The band just won the Best Alternative Indie Award for their musical submission at the Richmond International Film Festival in April, where they performed at a mixer as a part of the festival. (The band couldn’t stick around for all of the festival events because they had to head back South for their classes.) Barefoot Modern will continue to expand their fanbase deeper into Virginia, performing for the second year in a row at the Celebrate Fairfax! Festival in early June. I spoke with drummer Caleb LeJeune last week about the band’s formation, their shared interests and what keeps them evolving. It’s been a big year for Barefoot Modern. They released an EP called Bitter at the start of 2019, and they’re working on another one. LeJeune sometimes shares vocal duties with the YES! WEEKLY

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band’s main singer Tegan Dean. Barefoot Modern’s sound took shape before they relocated to the mountains. They come from a variety of different musical perspectives. Dean and bassist Hunter Evans had a background in country. LeJeune and guitarist/keyboardist Robert Beverly had a taste for ‘90s alternative rock and grunge. The blend made for an organic mix of that time-honored loud-quiet-loud dynamic sensibility with nicely paired vocal harmonies, a willingness to get abrasive and gritty, but a general tendency to keep things approachable. Their latest recordings have a light dusting of radio-pop soul in the vocals and the production as well. The band’s list of cover tunes tends to reveal their taste for classic too, though they might put a twist on things if the spirit moves them. A version of “Whole Lotta Love” is fairly straight-ahead, while their jaunty take on Nirvana’s “Lithium” drains some of the angst off of the original. Showing a little Boone pride, you can also see a video of Barefoot Modern performing a pleasingly minimal fingersnap-powered cover of “Devil Like Me” by App alumni Rainbow Kitten Surprise. Barefoot Modern have released their recordings (their full-length debut from last

year, Younger Years and the more recent EP) on Boone-based Split Rail Records, which promotes the local music scene there. And while the regional connection is something that means a lot to Barefoot Modern, they’re also on the lookout for ways to bring their music to a more national audience, to find a manager, booking agents, licensing and distribution deals, and all those semi-elusive details that make a music career viable. LeJeune said Barefoot Modern doesn’t do the cover tunes out of any shortage of their own songs. They’ve got something like 50 originals under their belt, and they keep cranking out more. That’s a lot of material for a band whose core members are all under 21. (They recently added another guitarist, Joe Karmazyn, making the band a quintet, with the newest member, 23, being the only one of legal drinking age.) Barefoot Modern has an interesting approach to figuring out who does what on any given song, with music and lyrics generally split, and lead vocal duties sometimes being up for grabs, with different members taking a crack at singing the main vocal to see what works best. Younger Years had the sound of a band reaching out in different directions, with

touches of mellow funk, almost glammy piano flourishes, and somber acoustic rockers. Part of the reason the band stays so dialed into the writing and recording process is that they figure fans connect with the music primarily through hearing new releases. “People expect a certain level of engagement,” LeJeune said. “We try to keep up as best we can.” That means releasing new material every six or eight months, he said. With fans who are also young college students, live shows at 21-and-up venues isn’t always the best way to reach their audience. “It’s constantly something that we’re grinding at,” said LeJeune of the blend of being students, making music and promoting their work. ! JOHN ADAMIAN lives in Winston-Salem, and his writing has appeared in Wired, The Believer, Relix, Arthur, Modern Farmer, the Hartford Courant and numerous other publications.

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Spirit System in bloom As spring blooms into summer, the Winston-Salem darkwavers in Spirit System will embark on a mini-tour across North Carolina, spreading their “little black raincloud” to soothe souls and Katei Cranford contrast pre-summer vibes. The tide is high for Contributor goth revival, and the folks behind Spirit System are already known for pumping lifeblood into the Winston weirdo music scene “It is the Dark Lord’s will,” snickered Laurie Ruroden, vocalist and bassist for Spirit System and mistress of the booking arts for Monstercade, regarding the resurrection of mall goth within popular culture. Both cheeky and somber, Ruroden is joined at the Spirit System core by guitarist (and alleged vampire) Eric Gilstrap, who recently celebrated his “313th birthday” at Monstercade, where he also hosts “NITE MOVES,” a monthly dance party (in addition to performing in Vampiros and Mauve Angels). Beyond goth tropes and jokes, Ruroden helped open Monstercade, the awardwinning weirdo Winston club, in 2017. “I’ve always booked tours for the bands I’ve been in, so booking for a venue came naturally,” she said. “It takes a fair amount of patience and organizational skills that I seem to harness,“ she noted, calling herself a “walking calendar.”

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As a band, Spirit System tiptoes around the sounds and staples of the Cure or Mazzy Star, delivering a “cavernous” vocal atmosphere amidst breathy layers and “ethereal warmth.” Ruroden and Gilstrap feed off each other’s energy, like any good bandmate or married couple (they’re both). Together, they transversed the East coast before settling into Winston; adding a third to come full circle, when drummer Jared Draughon (from Must Be the Holy Ghost), joined the fold in 2018. Ruroden considers Draughon a “revitalizing addition” to the group. “He’s not only a multi-instrumentalist but also a brilliant recording engineer,” she noted, “we’ve been buddies for years.” Draughon’s initiation began as casual chats around recording Spirit System

following a shared tour in 2016. The conversation continued along with Draughon’s involvement until, as Ruroden put it, things “actualized” around this time last year. With Draughon on the throne, recordings are underway. The group is working on what will be their third release, and sophomore full-length follow up to 2016’s Nightfalling. “So far we’ve completed all the tracking for bass and drums,” Ruroden said regarding the progress. “We tracked drums with John Pfiffner at his studio, Seventyfivesound. From there, Jared has taken over as head engineer,” she explained. “We’re taking our time with this one,” Ruroden said. “We’ve recorded our past albums mostly in New York. So one element that we aren’t dealing with is time versus money,” she noted of the advantages in recording close to home. Their goal is to have everything mixed before the end of summer. More time to flesh out the record means more time for special guests, “Don’t be surprised if you see a few other

artists getting involved,” Ruroden said, with a hint that a certain Dark Prophet may haunt a few tracks with some other folks on board. Looking to the future, “we’ll be back in the studio recording guitar after the tour,” Ruroden noted. “The three of us get along remarkably well, so it’s hard to keep us from working,” she added. “I’m eager for the next batch of songs to unfold and see where they’ll inevitably take us.” Most immediately, that’ll be on a little mini tour celebrating the latest release from Asheville shoegazers, VIA. “VIA offered us to open for them at the Mothlight for their album release show,” Ruroden explained, “so I took the opportunity to book a few dates in the region.” That opportunity will play out like a micro tour-de-force of the best dive stages North Carolina has to offer: Slim’s in Raleigh, Snug Harbor in Charlotte, the Mothlight in Asheville, and (of course) Monstercade on the homefront. Dark clubs and good vibes are prime for Spirit System. Each show holds a particular element Ruroden finds exciting, the thrill comes from “both playing with old friends, and just getting out there and revealing our latest material to new audiences.” Plus, “we’ve never played at the Mothlight,” Ruroden said, “so I’m especially geeked about being on that stage.” Looking to stir some witchery and highway miles, Spirit System will be in Raleigh on May 30, Charlotte on May 31, and Asheville on June 1; with a home show at Monstercade on June 2, featuring VIA and Dark Prophet Tongueless Monk. ! KATEI CRANFORD is a Triad music nerd who hosts the Tuesday Tour Report, a radio show that runs like a mixtape of bands touring NC the following week, 5:307pm on WUAG 103.1fm.

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638 W 4th St | 336.777.3348 foothillsbrewing.com May 22: Eversole Brothers May 25: april B & the Cool May 26: Sunday Jazz May 29: Redleg husky Jun 2: Sunday Jazz Jun 5: Mason Via Jun 8: tyler long Jun 9: Sunday Jazz Jun 12: Redleg husky Jun 15: disaster Recovery Band Jun 16: Sunday Jazz Jun 19: turpentine Shine Jun 22: Patrick Rock and the Wreckage Jun 23: Sunday Jazz

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MuddY CREEk CaFE & MuSiC hall

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CmCu amphithEatrE former Uptown Amphitheatre 820 Hamilton St | 704.549.5555 www.livenation.com Jun 16: Jon bellion Jun 20: the mighty o.a.r. w/ american authors

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1000 NC Music Factory Blvd | 704.916.8970 www.livenation.com may 30: brytiago & Darell may 31: appetite for Destruction Jun 1: Dababy Jun 5: tesla Jun 6: Slushii Jun 8: Yacht rock revue Jun 11: Catfish & the bottlemen Jun 12: gojira Jun 17: todd rundgren Jun 18: naV

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pnC muSiC paViLion 707 Pavilion Blvd | 704.549.1292 www.livenation.com Jun 2: Luke bryan Jun 14: thomas rhett

SpECtrum CEntEr

333 E Trade St | 704.688.9000 www.spectrumcentercharlotte.com Jun 10: ariana grande Jun 12: twenty Øne piløts

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greensboro

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AGE: 26 WHERE ARE YOU FROM? I currently live in Greensboro. My family is originally from Cambodia. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN BARTENDING? I have been bartending on and off for about six years. HOW DID YOU BECOME A BARTENDER? I came to the bar/club industry when I was in college, first as a cocktail waitress who provided bottle service for club sections. The first club I worked at kind of just threw me behind the bar one night, where I learned a lot of different drink recipes. I loved it! In fact, way more than doing the bottle service. Needless to say, I’ve been behind the bar ever since! WHAT DO YOU ENJOY ABOUT BARTENDING? I love being able to be myself, and I also love to network with potential clients, being that I am in the jewelry business as well. On top of that, I am already a person who likes to entertain and serve others, so this is a great opportunity to meet different people who appreciate a genuine spirit with a great drink to follow! WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE DRINK TO MAKE? A mojito!

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[LEO (July 23 to August 22) You still need to move carefully where financial matters are concerned. Better for the Lion to move slowly than pounce on a “promising” prospect that doesn’t keep its promises.

[LIBRA (September 23 to October 22) The early part of the week could find you looking to balance your priorities between your family obligations and your career responsibilities. Pressures begin to ease by week’s end.

[SAGITTARIUS (November 22 to December 21) Although a financial problem could be very close to being resolved in your favor, it’s still a good idea to avoid unnecessary spending for at least a little while longer.

[VIRGO (August 23 to September 22) A rejection of an idea you believe in can be upsetting. But don’t let it discourage you. Get yourself back on track and use what you’ve learned from the experience to try again.

[SCORPIO (October 23 to November 21) An associate’s problem could cause unavoidable delays in moving ahead with your joint venture. If so, use the time to look into another project you had previously set aside.

[CAPRICORN (December 22 to January 19) Support for some unwelcome workplace decisions begins to show up, and continues to build, so that by week’s end, the gregarious Goat is as popular as ever. [AQUARIUS (January 20 to February 18) Congratulations. Deciding to attend a social function you might have earlier tried to avoid could turn out to be one of the best decisions you’ve made in a long time.

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having to tackle a humdrum task. But finding a creative way to do it can make all the difference. A more exciting time awaits you this weekend.

[TAURUS (April 20 to May 20) Finishing up a job on time leaves you free to enjoy your weekend without any Taurean guilt pangs. A romantic attitude from an unlikely source could take you by surprise. [GEMINI (May 21 to June 20) Moving in a new career direction might be seen by some as risky. But if you have both the confidence to see it through and the facts to back you up, it could prove rewarding. [CANCER (June 21 to July 22) Holding back on a decision might be difficult, considering how long you’ve waited for this opportunity. But until you’re able to resolve all doubts, it could be the wiser course to take. © 2019 by King Features Syndicate, Inc.

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My boyfriend and I are in a longdistance relationship (for almost four years) that works very well, talking daily and seeing each other every two Amy Alkon months. The problem is that it feels Advice like he has much Goddess more love for me than I have for him. (He’s totally head over heels and expresses this constantly.) I absolutely do love him, and I tell him frequently. But my love intensity just does not match his. Additionally, I should mention that I’ve tried to leave him in the past. I didn’t think the relationship was serving me. He is married and technically unavailable. (He is working toward dissolving the marriage.) Also, he works hard but has no financial resources. I do want to stay in the relationship, but I’m not sure how to deal with the imbalance in expressiveness. I don’t want to be inauthentic. — Pressured You’re dating a man who not only is still married but needs to crowdfund his divorce. Many women believe it’s somehow nobler if they love a poor dude, telling themselves (and often the guy) that they don’t really care about money. But as I often point out, because women are the ones who get pregnant, female emotions evolved to make women feel bad — resentful, angry, screwed over — when

they get involved with men who are (for example!) still “married and technically unavailable” and have “no financial resources.” Boyfriend: “Hey, honey...got ya a great birthday present, and you won’t even be charged for it till your next credit card statement!” And even if a woman is a staunch feminist, all “I don’t care who the earner in the relationship is,” the psychological operating system driving us right now is adapted for ancestral times and the problems that arose then. So it just keeps on keepin’ on, pushing a woman to go for men who can “provide,” even when she’s on the birth controlliest birth control (like a copper IUD — basically bioterrorism for sperm, backstopped by a Ukrainian nightclub bouncer). In other words, you are not getting the long end of the stick here, financially or commitment-wise, and evolution has programmed you to be nagged by feelbad emotions until you do something to change that. Your boyfriend, meanwhile, surely has some feelbad of his own. Because men coevolved with women, male psychology leads men to anticipate that female romantic partners who feel shorted on cash flow and/or commitment will soon be conducting their exit interview. In light of this, your boyfriend’s expressing love in the manner of a burst water main may be a form of “mate guarding,” evolutionary psychologists’ term for attempts to fend off mate poachers and keep one’s partner in the relationship. Because we humans have an evolved motivation to reciprocate — to give back what we get in equal measure — it’s pos-

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sible that the more romantically expressive your boyfriend is, the more you’re led to feel you’re shorting him on what he seems to be owed. But is the apparent emotional asymmetry here actually a problem? Many people do make the assumption that romantic partners’ love should be 50-50 and that there’s something wrong with the relationship when it isn’t. However, what really matters is whether there’s enough love on each side to keep the partners together — especially in the face of any costs imposed by a partner or the relationship. Accordingly, consider whether the long-distance aspect might be staving off feelings and conflict that could come out if you two were living together. Research repeatedly finds that women tend to resent male partners who aren’t their equals or betters in job status and earnings. For example, a study by business school professor Alyson Byrne finds that a woman’s having higher job status (and the money that comes with) often leads to marital instability and divorce. She and her colleague even find that women experience “status leakage,” finding the

status they’ve earned through their work diminished by virtue of their having a lower-status spouse. As for you, you say you want to stay in the relationship, presumably because you love your boyfriend. However, it’s also possible that your being in the relationship for a while — almost four years — is keeping you in the relationship. Consider what economists call the “sunk cost fallacy,” the human tendency to keep investing in a project based on the time, energy, and/or resources we’ve already “sunk” into it. Of course, the rational approach is deciding to continue based on whether the investment will pay off sufficiently in the future. Looking at your situation that way should help you make a decision. At the moment, as I see it, there’s nothing standing between the two of you riding off into the sunset together...pulling a wagon carrying his current wife, their couples therapist, a divorce mediator, and several collection agents. ! GOT A problem? Write Amy Alkon, 171 Pier Ave, #280, Santa Monica, CA 90405, or e-mail AdviceAmy@aol.com (www.advicegoddess.com) © 2019 Amy Alkon Distributed by Creators.Com.

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