A Mother’s Love

By LaTonya Ward

Rho Eta Zeta Chapter

Miles at 2 years old, two years before being formally diagnosed with autism.

When Miles was diagnosed with autism, Soror LaTonya Ward sought local resources for support in her community. She also wanted to impact policy and advocate for children like her son. Autism Speaks had what she was looking for; shortly after joining the organization, she invited sorors to help in supporting the cause. In an interview with WMAR 2 Baltimore news, LaTonya highlighted her advocacy efforts and work with Autism Speaks.

“We wanted to raise awareness, particularly in our community. Typically, those in the Black and Brown communities are diagnosed much later than those of other races. And that’s usually what makes all the difference in a child or a person on the autism spectrum: getting those services and getting that diagnosis much earlier in the game, so they can live a productive life,” said Soror Ward.

Raising a son on the spectrum and being a member of a service organization made Soror Ward an impassioned advocate. “If I’m not his biggest voice, who will be? I advocate for those programs that will assist him in being independent and I tell him you have a superpower. You have different abilities than others, you have to use them to your advantage, and you’re capable. You’re a little different, you do things differently, you’re not less,” said Soror Ward.

On October 31st, after participating in the 2020 Autism Speaks virtual walk, Soror Ward and her son achieved the Grand Club honor by raising more than $1,100. What was a team of two and a $25 donation a few years ago, has blossomed into a strong push for Zeta and community support. Soror Ward’s goal helped push her chapter’s team, Rho Eta Zeta, to raise the most out of all the chapters in the state of Maryland.

When Soror Ward is not actively fundraising and advocating, she uses these tips to help her balance life as an autism mom: 1. Focus on the positive: Use positive reinforcement to correct or model particular behaviors that may need improvement. Reward good behavior, of course, but she recommends not to go overboard as it will become expected for everything.

2. Stay consistent and on schedule: This may be a challenge, but try to adhere to a consistent schedule for yourself and your child. Autistic children need consistency, and a chaotic schedule can invite anxiety for you both. If you anticipate a transition in your schedules, be sure to prep your child on what is going to happen and explain the transition to ease any fears or concerns. 3. Give yourselves some grace: Everything does not have to be perfect! If one parenting technique, therapy, or learning approach doesn’t work, don’t beat yourself up! It takes time to figure out what is best for you and your child. 4. Get support and seek out respite care: Being a caregiver of a child or person on the autism spectrum is exhausting! Schedule breaks for yourself, as well as for your child or loved one. Support groups are necessary from time to time to help build healthy coping mechanisms and maintain a positive mental outlook.

PHOTO CAPTIONS Top left and right: The face of Autism: Miles at age 13, enjoying life! He loves traveling and going to the circus.

Bottom left: Soror Perenda Isom and Soror LaTonya Ward, Atlantic Region Autism Awareness Co-Coordinators

Bottom right: Soror LaTonya Ward and State of Maryland Sorors at the Autism Speaks Walk Baltimore 2019