Why Some People Get Under Our Skin & How to Work Through It - Simon Wing-Lun - Conscious Life Magazine

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By Simon Wing-Lun

If someone's behaviour triggers you or hurts you, it is a sign that on the deepest level you need to love the part of yourself that could behave in the same way, or contains the same energy.

For if you did not contain an aspect of that energy and behaviour, it would not show up in your reality. Or you would actually be completely unaffected by it.

So if you find yourself affected by someone's anger, you may feel fear, sadness, anger, or any mix of emotions in response.

Yet at the core there will always be a corresponding pattern of your own anger which needs to be accepted, loved and released in order to permanently shifted in your own life.

Same things for any other experience, such as being affected by someone else's fear or withdrawal from you. You may have several layers of response to the experience, but you would not be experiencing it if you did not have the energy of fear within you in the first place.

This is really the core of understanding how responsible you are for everything that you experience, and also how powerful you are.

Accepting this level of total self-responsibility for your experience can be confronting on multiple levels, but it is also the most empowering place to live your life from.

It is confronting to the part of us that takes comfort in blame, and in the paradigm of duality we've been born into.

For if everything you experience is a reflection of what you contain in you're own being, then nothing that happens is ever anyone else's fault. There is no one else to blame for anything, for everything is created from within you.

If you take this to mean you are to blame and at fault for everything, it would create more pain within your consciousness than you can handle.

And so in order to integrate this into your consciousness, you need to simultaneously realise that there is no fault or faultiness in reality at all. There are only different projections and opportunities for the experience of love generated from within your own being.

This total spiritual responsibility can also be confronting to the part of ourselves which is attached to being the saviour or rescuer of others. For when we see others as lacking the love that we contain, then why try and take from our own resources and give to those in need. But this is like seeing that your reflection in the mirror needs food, so you take from your own stomach in order to feed it. Nothing is really gained, except perhaps a new experience of messiness.

Rather when we see that lack in others is actually a perception of lack within ourselves, we see the logical thing is to actually find love and abundance within and truly act from this place. From the revelation of love within, greater and more abundant love can then emerge in your reality, without you needing to sacrifice or hurt yourself.

In other words, you can't take from yourself and give to life. Rather know that what you discover in yourself will emerge in your life, and what you see lacking in others is what you are being called to more fully discover within.

So if you are triggered, upset or hurt in any way, it is always an opportunity for growth, self-love, and self-discovery.

And it is also often likely there will be an element of someone being to blame, or someone needing saving in the pattern.

You can experience this in the most empowering, loving, and even exhilarating way, when you see through these patterns of blame, lack, and separation, and into the true unity of your life and consciousness.

From accepting your experience of life as your reflection and projection, you can the accept your powerful place as the creator of your own reality, and the power of your love to transform every aspect of your experience.

Life can then truly be a game without blame or rescuing, without victims and perpetrators, and instead a vision of the rich tapestry of your own soul, into which you can more fully infuse the vibrations and colours of love, with every choice and every moment.

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