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Donald Cyprian, Entrepreneur, Husband & Father.
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20 50 Features 38 40zRock Magazine Anniversary Celebration
42 2 Men Who Rock
Their Careers & Fatherhood
44 Achieve
Is it time for a sales intervention?
46 Chemistry Matters 48 Gents: It’s Important That You Know Your Worth Too
50 Human Behavior + Forgive(ness) How They Work Together?
54 A Woman With A Plan 2
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Editor’s Letter
8 Must-Haves: Editor’s Top Picks: A Stylish Gift Guide for Him
1 0 Healthy Living: “If I Could Just Lose These Last 10 Pounds” 5 Tips to Start Your Weight Loss Journey
1 3 Food: A Crock Pot is a Busy Person’s Best Friend
1 4 Entertainment: 3rd Annual Red Tea Party — Make a Change!
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Q&A With Mia: Let’s Get it (W) Right!
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Beauty: The Dapper Pore Guy
20 Fashion: The Importance of a Man’s Shoes
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Health: The New Midlife Crisis
24 Relationships: [5] Signs He Wants to be Committed to You
26 Effective Parenting: Men in Education
28 Finances: Money Talk is Good Talk
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F orty, Fabulous & Free I Got that Good Good
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T ravel Father’s Day Getaways
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40zROCK / EDITOR'S LETTER
GOD HAS NOT GIVEN US THE SPIRIT OF FEAR! This past month, I had the honor of participating in the 14th Annual Metamorphosis Women's Conference. The theme was Say it, See it, Be it! Mind you, I don't consider myself a public speaker, but I managed to get through 8 full minutes of sharing my testimony on being able to dream pass current circumstances. When I was asked to be a part of such a powerful forum, I found every reason as to why I was not equipped to do such a thing. I looked at the other women and thought, this is out of my league. I need some practice! Have you ever been there? Let's keep it real, no matter how confident we are, we can still often times deal with our secret tucked away insecurities. The opportunity to speak, awakened something inside of me, that fear had kept me from visualizing. I recollected a prayer in which I asked "God, please allow me the opportunity to travel the world and to be able to speak and inspire women along the way." I will admit, I did leave out one important thing, in the prayer, that was give me to the courage to stand before people so that I can inspire them! (LOL)
I came to the conclusion, God had already equipped me with everything I needed. It was really up to me to not let FEAR stop me from moving forward. So many times, we allow fear to hold us back. The universe has so many things for us to do, and that's why God assured us in 2Timothy 1:7 that he did not give us the spirit of fear; but of power and of love, and of a sound mind. Because he wants us to know that when we feel fear it is not of him. Speaking, allowed me the chance to see that I can do anything I set my mind to. God is no respecter of persons, if he gave the ability to one he can give it to me. Going forward, I will under no circumstance allow fear to stop me from doing the things that I want to do. When those thoughts of not being enough, or good enough comes to my mind, I know that I am going in the right direction because the enemy wouldn't be messing with me other wise! I pray that we will all continue to move forward in faith. We are all beautifully made in his image. Thank God for another day to make a difference!
Sandra A. Wyckoff Editor-in-Chief
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CONTRIBUTING WRITERS A Life & Relationship Expert, motivational speaker
Jacquie Parish Owner Suga Babes
and author of two books. He is one of media’s go-to
Suga Babes has their own organic and vegan
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relationships.
have a mobile party business. Suga Babes was
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Cheri Alphonse Hayes, ED. S. True to her roots of St. Lucia, Cheri keeps her cultural origins and ancestral foundation alive
Photographer
Bobby B Photos (cover + page 14, 38, 40)
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travel. She nurtures children through mentoring
Merneen Spearman
and teaching. She is employed by the Depart-
An author, minister, speaker, entrepreneur, mom,
ment of Defense Education Activity, Domestic
wife and friend.
Dependent Elementary and Secondary Schools
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at US Army Base Fort Stewart, Georgia. P 26 / Effective Parenting: Men in Education
Danielle Johnson Graduate of Hampton University with a Bachelor's degree in Biological Sciences. She is currently employed with Bristol Myers Squibb Pharmaceuticals as a Senior Diabetes Specialty representative. Danielle has also worked in other therapeutic areas such as: Urol-
Charlotte Stallings The author of “I Wish Someone Had Told Me! Financial Lessons Learned the Hard Way” Charlotte is a proud member of the National Speakers Association who has shared commentary for CNN and serves as a weekly in-studio guest on Houston’s FOX 26 Wake-Up Money segment.
ogy, Cardiovascular and Oncology.
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P 10 / Healthy Living: "IF I COULD JUST LOSE THESE LAST 10 POUNDS", 5 TIPS TO START YOUR WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY
Stacy D. Wilson
Rebecca Johnson, Psy. D., PC
giving tips about natural hair, or writing her column
Dr. Rebecca was awarded her Psy.D. and M.A. in
Forty, Fabulous and Free for 40z Rock Magazine, she
Clinical Psychology by the California School of Pro-
is a dedicated English teacher in Guangzhou, China.
fessional Psychology and holds an active Georgia
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Mia Wright Stephanice D. McKenzie/ Rachel Shuling
As founder of Metamorphosis, Inc., an organization
Award-winning marketer, college educator, certi-
that encompasses the life changing Metamorphosis
fied coach, author, and agent life-altering change,
Women’s Conference. Mia is a powerful inspirational
"Coach Steph" brings more than two decades of
speaker, who encourages others with uplifting mes-
business and marketing expertise to crafting strat-
sages, relevant life stories and life skills that apply
egies that make your relationships work for you.
in both the faith based and industry sectors. She is
Currently, Coach Steph is the Coaching Director for
also a sought after national motivational speaker,
The Relationship Firm, a WhatTheLove Company.
women’s conference presenter, and corporate work
The Relationship Firm is dedicated to fixing all re-
/ faith / life balance coach.
lationship...even yours! For more information, visit, www.TheRelationshipFirm.com. P 24 / Relationships: [5] SIGNS HE WANTS TO BE COMMITTED TO YOU
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❝IF I COULD JUST LOSE THESE LAST 10 POUNDS❞
5 WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY ➺ TIPS TO START YOUR
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by Danielle Johnson
As I sat down to write this quarter’s
quick trip down memory lane to Bio
article, I revisited a number of con-
101. All you need to remember is that
versations that recently took place
in order to lose weight, you need to
between my girlfriends and I, staff at
take in fewer calories that your body
the workplace, random women in line
really needs!
at the grocery store checkout, and
there was one line that seemed lyrical
ber of traps that keep that pesky scale
between us all and that was…”If I could
positioned right where it is or sends it
just lose these last 10 pounds!!” I don’t
soaring in the opposite direction.
On a daily basis we fall into a num-
even have to ask you, the readers, have
singing this tune for quite some time! However, I’ll go a step further and be honest with you all. My proverbial 10
Listed below are FIVE of those common mistakes that keep us enslaved to the “bulge”:
{1 } Believing the “Label-Hype!”
pounds is really 20 and climbing…just
Everything that is labeled or
smh, BUT it’s my reality! Nevertheless,
considered “healthy” is not nec-
what I want you all to know is that I’m
essarily true. You must look at
preparing to do what is HEALTHY and
the CALORIES-which is impor-
necessary to turn things around for
tant when it comes to losing
myself…are you?
weight and keeping it off. Dr.
Marion Nestle, PhD., professor
I’m sure that all of us are very famil-
Our bodies have a hard time sensing calories from liquids which can definitely get some of us into trouble from timeto-time!! Whether it’s “Pop” (as my Midwest friends call it) or a sweet, sexy, and sugary cocktail…as I like to call them!! Data cited from the Harvard Nurses
you heard this line before because I’m confident that most of us have been
{2} N o More Sodas Please!
Study II on over 50,000 women found that after increasing their soft drink intake from one or fewer per week to one or more a day added over 350 calories DAILY and put on an average of… you guessed it, 10 POUNDS!! By reducing the number of sugarsweetened sodas/cocktails/coffees can really make a difference in your caloric intake and help shed some pounds. Pass the
iar with the concept of weight loss but
of Nutrition and Food Studies at
I’ll give you a quick refresher! Simply
New York University says “A rule
put, the combination of proper diet
of thumb is to look first at the
(including portion control) combined
calories per serving, then check
Time after time studies have
with exercise creates a caloric shortfall.
the serving size.” Once again, I’ll
shown that not getting enough
There are several metabolic pathways
raise my hand in confession!! I
sleep can be detrimental to your
that the body uses to breakdown the
have looked at the labels with
weight loss hopes and dreams.
stored fat that our bodies hold onto
great understanding and THEIR
When you lack sleep, there are
and then later the byproducts are
serving size does not always
a number of cascading events
released/ expelled through the lungs,
match up to my serving size
that are set into motion that
sweat, and urine. The energy that is
which means there are times
one doesn’t always take into
released from the fat cells is then used
when I am doubling and tripling
account. For example, you eat
to maintain the overall function of the
my serving size right along with
more at night because you’re up
body. Oh well, moving on from that
the calories… Not. Good!
burning the midnight oil. One
H2O please!!
{3} S leep, Where Are You?
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study suggests that a “sleepy
and if there are 5 servings per
taking the stairs instead of the el-
brain” responds more strongly to
bag or box, divide the snack into
evators and escalators. Parking in
junk food and also has less abil-
those five servings so that you can
the farthest parking space while
ity to rein in the impulse to eat
stop yourself after one (maybe
shopping. On our lunch breaks,
it. Sleeping to little can increase
two) servings. These are just a few
getting outside and walking
your appetite, can compromise
ideas to get you started! Don’t
around the professional buildings.
your insulin sensitivity (which can
overwhelm yourself; just pick
Studies have shown that 5- 6 min-
definitely lead to weight gain),
one or two to begin with until
ute walks a day add up to about
and affect other hormones that
you feel comfortable to make
100 calories, which translates into
control hunger. A piece of advice,
more changes.
10 pounds a year in weight loss!!
SECOND piece of advice, set “closing” hours to your home office (I struggle with this one). Just one more thing…get homework done as early as possible so that you’ll be able to complete your evening tasks early as well and then Go. To. Bed!! Get those ZZZZZZZ…
{4} I t’s All About Portion Control!
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{5} A little Exercise Goes Along Way! I know that our lives are very demanding. Women wear several different “hats, scarves, necklaces, earrings”…you name it and we are wearing it and doing it ALL!! So, it becomes very easy to skimp on exercising daily. Studies have shown that inconsistent exercise or for those of us, who cut back
It can be a challenge to just decide
for longer than usual periods of
to eat smaller portions when
time can’t easily resume working
that has never been your healthy
out again. I can tell you from my
choice. There are several proven
own experience that this is very
ways to help this become your
true. My best friend and I worked
“norm.” One is drinking a 16oz
out every morning at 5am Mon-
glass of water before consuming
day – Friday for months straight
your meal. Do not fill the entire
and then when our lives changed
circumference of your plate. Use
and we weren’t able to make our
smaller serving ware and dishes.
daily morning meetings, we’ve
Eat slower. Take the time to eat a
been struggling ever since to find
bite, put your fork down, and take
our rhythm. So, now we have to
a sip of water. Stop eating from
find other ways to get in exercise
the box or bag. Refer to the labels
outside of the gym. For example,
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turn off the TV and Go. To. Bed!! A
I know that some of these traps and tips are not new to you but they serve as great reminders of the “health traps” that await us on a daily basis and how we can combat those challenges. As I continue on this journey to lose my 10-20 pounds, I’m going to sincerely incorporate some of these action items into my day just to get me started, just as I hope you will too. Also, if there are some tips that you’ve found to be helpful during your weight loss journey, please feel free to share them with us! I’d love to write about them in next quarter’s edition. I’m about to start a program that I hope will be a huge SUCCESS for me. Stay tuned!! Remember, we are all on this journey of health and wellness together! Submit your responses to: goodhealthheals@gmail.com ✖
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A CROCK POT IS A BUSY PERSON’S BEST FRIEND! You’re busy – We get it. Take 30 minutes or less tonight to stop and smell the roses er, garlic. Enjoy this crock pot receipe that will have dinner on the table quick, and you on your way! CROCK POT SWEET POTATO & QUINOA TURKEY CHILI Ingredients 1lb ground turkey 1 large shallot or 1 small onion, chopped 3 garlic cloves, minced salt and pepper 3 cups chicken broth (plus extra for reheating) 28oz can crushed tomatoes 15oz can baked beans (I like sweet baked beans) 1 cup uncooked quinoa, rinsed 1 large sweet potato (about 1lb,) peeled and chopped small 2 Tablespoons chili powder 1 teaspoon cumin
DIRECTIONS:
/2 teaspoon salt
Add ground turkey and shallot to a
except toppings, into crock pot then cook
large skillet over medium-high heat
on high for 3 hours, or low for 5-6 hours,
Season liberally with salt and pepper
or until sweet potatoes are tender. Serve
then cook until no longer pink, breaking
with toppings. May need to add more
Toppings
turkey up as it cooks. Add garlic then cook
chicken broth when reheating. ✖
shredded Monterey Jack cheese, chopped
for 30 more seconds then add to a 6 quart
avocado, tortilla chips, green onions
crock pot. Add remaining ingredients,
1
/2 teaspoon paprika
1
/4 teaspoon red chili
1
pepper flakes
Recipe by www.iowagirleats.com
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3rd Annual
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Make a Change!
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“40’z Rock is a movement designed to encourage all women in their forties to embrace and celebrate their age, life, health, and community.” On Sunday, February 22nd 2015, these fabulous women came together to celebrate Heart Disease Awareness month; by hosting the third annual Red Tea Party themed Make A Change. Convened at the luxurious Hanover Post Oak above Houston’s Uptown Park, 1750 Sky Lark Ln., these renaissance women came together in wholesome chicness to display a wealth of knowledge concerning heart health in various areas. The point speaker was Dr. Leroy Sterling, MD - Cardiologist and Kelly P. Hodges, Senior Director of Equity, American Heart Association.
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With a beautiful spread of finger heart healthy foods and gourmet teas Houstonian women socialized in outright fabulousness.
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40zROCK / Q&A With Mia
Let's Get It (W)right! Mia inspires people to embrace spiritual change and live fulfilling lives. Here, she answers your questions.
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I am single man lo oking for a wonde rful woman to sh my life with. The are problem — I keep ru nn ing into it with sis and I apologize fo ters, r saying sisters bu t that's who I deal They don't know w ith . their role in a rela tionship and it m difficult because ak es it so they don't LISTEN ! I think this issue be addressed. Ca ne ed s to n you please expl ain to sisters, to st ing they know ev op th in kerything and unde rstand that to a re that kind of attitud al man e is such a turn off ?
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A Nobody likes a “know it all” and you are right, that attitude is a turn off to mos t people. On the ot he r ha nd, no one likes generalizations an d stereotypes. My concern with your is that it appears th question at you have catego rized all “sisters” in sampling of wom to the en that you have en countered. Comm tion is key in any re un icalationship. That m eans talking AND – it takes both to listening communicate effec tively. I often tell pe model the behavio ople to r they want. I will encourage you in manner to becom the same e a great listener so that you will be lis to as well. You stat tened ed that the women you have met do know their role in not a relationship. It so unds like you have specific criteria th some at you desire for m ale/female roles. Be able to express th in g ose expectations will help you and tial mate decide ea a potenrly on if you are th e right person and relationship shou if the ld be pursued. Be encouraged, there mate for you. is a godly
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Mrs. Mia, I have been dating my fiancé for about a year and a half. She has a teenage son who is 15 and he really believes he runs her house. It is a nightmare; so much so, that I am ready to call off our engagement. The son causes serious problems in our relationship. We get into arguments because she wants to deal with him on her on. He is very disrespectful, and I have had to literally leave her house to keep from jacking him up. My question is, how can I go into a marriage with a woman who thinks that I am going to be ok in a house with a 15 year old out of control boy that I can't say anything to?
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It is important to realize that when you enter a relationship with someone, you are entering a relationship with his or her family as well. Particularly since your fiancé has an underage son, it is of the utmost importance that you have a good relationship with her child(ren) as well. It is not always easy to become a stepparent or to have blended families, but it definitely is possible and can be a fulfilling relationship for both children and stepparents. You and the son need to build your own relationship. The struggles that you currently are facing are likely due to the fact that this young man feels the need to protect his mother. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing; it is just something that you must overcome by building trust and your relationship with him. It is not okay to enter a marriage with the thought that you need to control her 15-year-old son. He is old enough to make personal decisions for himself. Without knowing how long you and the mother have been dating, and how much time and effort you have put into this relationship, it is hard to say walk away or keep trying. If you really love this lady, you will learn to love her son too and you will know what to do.
r thoughts on Mrs. Wright!! I would love to get you for 3 years. I am a hardthis situation. I have been married figures like my wife. I working man, but I don't make six e a problem with the know usually people think men hav house. Really and truly, woman making more money in the s me is how I find that doesn't bother me. What bother for my place as the man myself, very often having to fight thinks because of of the house. I honestly, feel like she che over me. I have her income, it gives her carte blan some of her actions expressed to her my discomfort in counseling she wants but she doesn't see it that way. In ey, but how do I get to blame it on her making more mon it's her attitude? through to her it's not the money
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king. I believe there I applaud you for your forward thin that they are comfortare few men who will openly state e. The bottom line is this, able with their spouse earning mor le house. It is unfortunate both of your incomes bless the who that she wants carte to hear that you feel because of this your perspective on that blanche over you. I want challenge feels that her earning thought... Are you certain that she is it that she feels like you power gives her power over you or er way, there must have are insecure about her income? Eith se the both of you to been conversations or actions to cau end miscommunication is make assumptions. The best way to another. Get to the root to openly and honestly talk with one ld be that suppositions of what is really at the problem. It cou truth. I hope that you are keeping you both from seeing the live a happy and prosperand your wife can get over this and
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THE DAPPER PORE GUY by Brenda Combs-Jefferson
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Normally, when we think of men; we think rough, rugged, with a touch of “Denzel.” The condition of their skin, hair, and nails doesn’t play a huge part for some women. In TV ads and magazines, no one ever really, I mean really
ABSOLUTELY! PORE GUY, let’s consider your skin first and we’ll discuss hair and everything else later. There are 3 things that everyone’s SKIN needs, whether male or female: 1. cleanser 2. toner (for balance) 3. moisture In addition, to the what’s needed for outside skin maintanence, let’s also talk about diet needs to help the skin from the inside. But before we do, let me give
discuss a man’s beauty regi-
you the real definition of diet ... it’s not
men. Should “HE,” really have a
every day. It can be healthy or one that’s
beauty regimen?
cutting calories ... a diet is what you eat not so healthy. In order, to achieve or maintain healthy pores (skin), you have to watch what you include in your diet. Greasy, salty, and sugary diets do not work in your favor. These types of diets will have your dermatologist saying “POOR PORES!” Oh, and let’s not forget to drink plenty of water.
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BONUS FOR MEN [ 6 ] TIPS FOR A SUPERB SHAVE: 1. Carefully put a hot, wet towel over your face for a few minutes before shaving. 2. Give that mug a massage with your favorite shaving cream or gel 3. Don’t shave too close. Use single-edged razors to protect skin from irritation. 4. Shave only in one direction to prevent the ingrown hairs. Shave in the direction of hair growth. 5. Wash with plenty of water. Pat gently with a towel; be gentle 6. Use a moisturizing cream (containing sunblock). ✖
Ahhhhh, s o f res h and s o cl ean! Give t hos e pores s om e good l ovi n ! ! !
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THE IMPORTANCE OF A MAN'S SHOES by Sandra Wyckoff
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It's no secret women loooooove shoes. We do! Yep! Shoes. Why? Because your shoes can say so much about you: Whether you are high maintenance or laid back. Whether you are doing well in your business or not. Whether you take care of yourself or take a more laissez-faire approach. All of these perceptions come from the floor up — it’s all in your shoes.
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THE NEW MIDLIFE CRISIS by Rebecca Johnson, Psy. D., PC
the middle if they are lucky. But with this
with the demands of friends and family?
career focus comes a new problem: ex-
Try turning off your email notifications
You’ve worked hard to get where you
treme stress and anxiety as a result of the
after a certain time; for most jobs, emails
are and you have the job, paycheck and
pressure to be successful at work. The 40
coming in after 9pm can wait until tomor-
mortgage to prove it. So now what? The
hour work week seems a distant memory
row. Stop texting when you’re with your
largest demographic that comes to my
as people work 50+ hours to secure a
significant other; if they aren’t significant
therapy office is successful men in their
significant paycheck, and their social lives
enough to be with in person, their text
40s. They have great jobs, their own
and emotional stability suffer for it.
can probably wait. Most importantly:
home, nice cars. Some have families or
When we stress at work, it invariably
engage with your partner, listen, and
girlfriends. So why are they coming to
comes home with us. Relationships with
share more with them than just your
see me? It’s what I call the midlife triad:
significant others and children begin
stress at work. Changing the topic to
Stress; Anxiety; and Relationship issues.
to deteriorate as we bring home the
something non-work related is not only
stress of our jobs. People become more
good for your relationship, but good
traversing their 40s isn’t dealing with our
irritable, spend less quality time with
for your mental health!
father’s midlife crisis. They aren’t run-
their families, and their sex lives suffer
ning out to buy cars they can’t afford or
as a result. With little time for cuddling,
time to ENJOY the benefits! ✖
leaving their wives for 22 year old exotic
let alone intimacy, it can be very hard
dancers. People today often see 40 as
to be successful, happy, and 40. So how
Dr. Rebecca M. Johnson is a Licensed Psychologist.
only the beginning of their careers, and
do you balance the demands of the job
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[5] SIGNS HE WANTS TO BE COMMITTED TO YOU by Rachel Shuling
Need to know whether he’s serious, or you’re just wasting your time? Here are 5 signs he wants to pursue a committed relationship with you that can help decide what your next step should be…
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SIGN #1: He is happy to volunteer
you don’t feel convinced, listen to your
ship with you. If he doesn’t bring it up,
information about himself to you.
intuition and proceed with caution.
it means he hasn’t made up his mind
A man keen to pursue a committed
about you yet. In this case, you can
SIGN #3: He has very little interest in other women.
either choose to be patient and wait, or
from you—especially when you ask. He
When a man truly loves you, it doesn’t
the matter. When you start seeing other
won’t kick up a fuss and accuse you of
matter how attractive other women
guys, he will naturally bring up the topic
being controlling when you casually ask
are…he will only be interested in spend-
if he’s mad about you.
him who he’s meeting, where he’s going,
ing time with you. You will know how
what he’s doing, etc. He feels happy that
keen he is in pursuing a committed
you take an interest in his life, and is
relationship with you because he keeps
eager to share even more of it with you.
making up reasons to spend more time
relationship with you is happy to tell you all about himself. He won’t hide things
move on. Don’t be the one to bring up
Sign #5: He brings you to meet the people he loves and respects—and they’ve heard about you before.
with you. If you notice that he’s been
If a man talks about you to the people
SIGN #2: He looks at you tenderly
spending so much time with you (for
he loves and respects, it means he can’t
when he says “I love you”.
more than six months) that he can’t be
stop thinking about you. When he can’t
A man who feels strongly about you and
dating anyone else, it’s a strong signal
stop thinking about you, he will eventu-
desires to marry you can’t keep his eyes
that having a long-term relationship
ally realize whether he hates the idea of
off you. He desperately wants you to
with you has crossed his mind.
you seeing other men or not. If he wants
know how much he loves you…which will exude from his eyes. He gives you his full attention when he says “I love you” — so you never have to wonder if he’s telling the truth or not. Another good sign that indicates he’s serious is if he declares his love before you do. Use your female intuition to tell whether he’s sincere. If
to pursue a committed relationship with
SIGN #4: He specifically tells you
you, he will act quickly and ask you to be
that he wants to pursue a committed relationship with you.
his girlfriend or wife. A guy who’s serious
If he suggests the two of you be an
about his intentions. You’re too precious
exclusive couple, and talks about what
for him to lose. ✖
about you won’t keep you guessing
exclusivity means to him, he clearly wants to pursue a committed relation-
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MONEY TALK IS GOOD TALK by Charlotte Stallings
“You’ve got that right!” I yelled at our television when I saw a Bank of America commercial on the screen the other day. It said, “The best way we can help people understand money, is to start a conversation about it.” More under my breath this time (so I wouldn’t freak out Tito, our Yorkie) I mumbled, “That’s so true!” You see I believe if more of us would talk more openly about money, especially at home with our spouses and children, this issue of money (how to get it, keep it, spend it and grow it) wouldn’t be so elusive and overwhelming. We can start up conversations with complete strangers about sports, the weather and our favorite Netflix shows, but when it comes to money, sometimes we tip-toe around it or downright avoid it altogether.
I fully understand that some topics
when I got to stay up late on some
are taboo in the course of general
weeknights with my mother after my
conversations, such as politics, religion,
younger siblings were asleep. It was
and yes… money. These topics can be
during these late night snack sessions
off limits because they trigger deep-
when my mom showed me how she
seated emotions, which generally are
juggled earnings from her bank job to
tied to upbringing, backgrounds and
make ends meet. We’d talk about school
experiences. I don’t know about the first
and the neighborhood news while
two, but I can tell you that the more you
munching on cookies, and then she’d
make all aspects of money an openly
start opening envelopes and pulling out
discussed subject in your life, the better
these little pre-folded pages that had
off you will be.
numbers printed all over them. She’d say,
My first memories of money
“Charlotte, this is the light bill. Right here
conversations go back to when I was
(while pointing at numbers and circling
in 6 grade. I thought it was cool
them with her pen) it shows how much
th
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#REALTALK QUESTION:
Is your family talking about money openly? If not, make it a priority to start doing so today. Remember, money talk is good talk!
••••• is due, but we don’t have enough to pay it all this time, so we’ll send them a check for this much.” Sometimes she’d even let me write out the check, stuff it into the return envelope, seal it shut and put the stamp in the corner. It was during those times that I felt really grown-up and really money-smart.
So I was introduced to bills, how to
pay those bills and stretching a dollar at a young age, but we never really talked strategically about money in our house. I was good at juggling money to meet expenses because my mother had taught me well, yet I didn’t understand the importance of saving and growing money. It’s not that saving wasn’t important, but after the bills were paid, there wasn’t too much money left over, and consequently there wasn’t too much to talk about either.
Since then, I found out we weren’t
alone. I thought we didn’t talk about money because we didn’t have much of it, but I’ve discovered that middle class and affluent families also didn’t talk about money. Several years ago I had the honor and privilege of meeting and working with Barbara Stanny, the author of Prince Charming Isn’t Coming.
Barbara’s father and uncle founded
H&R Block. She grew up wealthy and in a home where there was an abundance of financial knowledge, yet the topic of money was not commonplace around the dinner table. When later in life she found herself as a divorced, single parent
MONEY TALK TIP$
Here are some suggestions that will help you integrate the subject of money into daily conversations. Doing so will make the mechanics of your financial decisions open for inspection and discussion in your family.
» TAKE TIME FOR MONEY HUDDLES Money Huddles are scheduled, designated times (weekly or monthly) when you meet with your spouse, roommate(s), or entire household to specifically discuss money. They are just as important as a business meeting you might have with your boss at work. They are most effective if the discussion focuses on budgets and planning instead of criticizing, blaming or judging. This is the time to be clear. Talk about your current spending, existing debt and anticipated expenses. Review any areas that are challenging or need review. It’s also important during the huddle to celebrate your wins and successes (only bought two coffees this week instead of six, took lunch to work every day, paid off a bill, made a big dent on a credit card balance, increased your savings account, etc.). Setting time aside to discuss money allows you to honor your agreements and to communicate without being rushed or distracted.
» THE BIG FAMILY PURCHASE The next time your family sits down for a meal together, have a conversation about a significant purchase you’ve got planned in the future. Start with this statement, “I know that we need a new__________. That costs about x dollars, I think that if we save x amount for x weeks or months, we should be able to afford it. What does everyone think about that?”
» VACATION PLANS Or how about the family vacation you’re planning. “We’ve been talking about taking a vacation for awhile, let’s do it in June. Now let’s go around the table and everybody give a couple ideas for ways that we can start saving now to be able to pay for it.”
» THE MONEY JAR Put an empty jar or container in the kitchen or family room where it’s visible to everyone. At the end of every day, family members empty change from their wallets and pockets and put it into the jar. At mealtime, have discussions about what the family should do with all the money saved in the jar when it’s filled up.
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face it, even the most general, innocent
money in order to make a living.
money comment can put us on the
this isn’t an easy thing to do!” Trust
So why is talking about money,
defensive and make us feel judged or
me, I feel you 100%. The task of talking
among family or friends, so difficult?
uncomfortable for all sorts of reasons.
about money hasn’t been easy for me
Could it be that money conversations
either, and even today it can be tough. I
can disrupt family harmony? A recent T.
or not, I have come to understand the
wish someone had told me that talking
Rowe Price survey discovered that parents
importance of integrating conversations
about money is an open, healthy, and
find it easier to talk to their kids about
about money into your life on a regular
important part of family life.
drugs and alcohol than about the family
basis. Among other things, financial
finances. Could it be that many money
conversations teach important lessons
talks cast a light on our spending habits,
about saving and goal setting. When
which showcase our financial progress
my girlfriend Carolyn and her husband
and successes, or those sometimes
decided to open an art gallery together,
embarrassing financial failures. “In our
they talked about their goals and they
culture, money and work are closely tied
set up a budget. Together, they agreed
to our identities,” says Dalton Conley,
to forego extra luxuries, like fancier cell
Ph.D., dean of social sciences at New York
phones, to meet expenses. By talking
University. “Money conversations have
openly and committing to honest, timely
a distinct moral tinge to them, which
communication, they made their budget
makes people uncomfortable.” Let’s
– and their business – work.
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As an adult, whether uncomfortable
I can hear you saying, “But Charlotte,
LESSON Whether you have a lot of money or a little, discuss it. Talk to your spouse, your roommate, your children – whoever is a part of your household. Talk about why you need it, what you’re planning to use it for, what you don’t need or want, and how you’re going to use it to save or pay off debt. Talk about money! ✖ Charlotte Stallings is a Financial and Personal Accountability Expert.
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I GOT THAT GOOD GOOD by Stacy D. Wilson
Growing up in the
South I was fed quick witted wisdom to replace lengthy lectures. Saying likes “I’m not fatting frogs for snakes,” or “Don’t take no wooden nickels” was how wisdom was dropped in my house. A simpler yet common idiom shared by family was “If it seems too good to be true, it is.” All shared to protect, out of love.
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However, age, time, and my commit-
to remold your mind. God tells us to not
ment to truth have motivated me to
be transformed by the world, meaning
ent, asking. His word says you have not
challenge everything, verifying it to be
guard your mind to outward influences.
because you ask not. I remember being
either fact or fiction. Some sayings I’ve
He further instructs to renew your mind,
disgusted with random low paying jobs
come to find out are as right as rain and
saying to be trainable to accept the truth.
which motivated me into asking for help
others are not. Such as the “too good to
in obtaining my college degree. I also
be true” old adage. This statement says
to allow in the truth it’s important to
remember feeling like I had exhausted
that if I have the opportunity to get ex-
know what I want. This idea may sound
all creative career possibilities in Dallas
actly what I want or if the blessing comes
simple but this requires one to be as
before asking for assistance in moving
easily, it is in fact dangerous, damaging
detailed as possible. No one walks into
to California. Or feeling numb after an 11
and opposite of what I want. I’m not sure
nail salon, simply requesting to get
year stint in Los Angeles before asking
where this saying, which sounds a lot
their nails done. There are a number of
God to help me think bigger than my
like a curse, originated from but to me it
services that can be provided, once the
current situation leading to China falling
sounds faithless and limiting.
customer knows what they want. It’s the
in my spirit. There is nothing like dis-
same when you put your order into the
satisfaction to unearth hidden desires.
fixed on mantras rooted in fear, prayers
Universe. Through meditation, contem-
Although dissatisfaction is not always
went up and immediate answers poured
plation, research and being connected
necessary to create new goals for your
down. This scared me into vacillating
to God, you will find it easier to decipher
life, I feel God allowed it to be the driving
whether it’s foundation was rooted in
what you want as well as what is needed
force behind me coming correct with
good or bad. What happened next should
to obtain what you want. God is living on
Him to ask for what I felt I needed to take
come as no surprise… the blessings dried
the inside of all of us. His desire is to expe-
our experience to the next level.
up and poofed into thin air. Stamping
rience life through each of us individually.
the “too good to be true” saying as truth.
This gives me comfort and confidence in
in what is asked for. It’s been said that
Not because of its legitimacy but simply
knowing that my question of what I want
sometimes God will give you what you
because of self-fulfilled prophecy.
will be answered. He wants to have a mul-
want, and then whip you with it, when
titude of experiences through me as well
what is desired is not his perfect will.
the first order of business is to have an
as you. So when I feel passionate about
Being a glass half full person, I don’t sub-
open mind. It might seem hard to reboot
doing something, I know that it is really
scribe to that philosophy. However, there
your mentality but you have an infinite
Him urging me to have the experience
should be a willingness to be led into
unlimited power inside you helping you
for He and I.
truth and the truth is that as a follower
Nevertheless, in my earlier years,
However, in order to receive good,
Once I’ve opened my mind enough
Bringing me to the third ingredi-
Still, there are no rights or wrongs
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of God, all things work for good because
found in the dictionary? This is a pow-
I love him. So, if I make a declaration
erful admirable quality when it’s not
with new found courage and faith, which
of what I want and it’s provided but
confused for arrogance. Besides we are
positioned me to find new opportunities
somehow doesn’t work out, so be it. The
heirs to the throne, being born of Him
in a multitude of areas. Some of which
only mistakes made are the ones from
which means that we have joint owner-
are business, romantic and spiritual. All
not trying. Most divorced women, such
ship to everything that is God’s. He owns
of which came to me after knowing that
as myself can understand this principle.
banks, land, people, etc. The world is lit-
I wanted to explore the world, asking
There is beauty in everything because
erarily His and through joint ownership
for the perfect job for me, believing
everything that happens is allowed by
ours. There’s nothing too big or great
that God would answer and having the
Him, even pain. The lesson or growth
that can’t be accomplished or obtained
courage to accept the offer. After a year
that was apprehended from the pain
through God and by God for us.
of living in China I have no regrets but
was the real “good” to be used towards
instead a legacy to share with the world
the “greater good”.
one must be ready to receive the goods.
about God’s faithfulness to his word
Being in my fortified forties I now know
and the powerful of prayer. Just in case
be expected without wavering, lead-
that the Universe loves speed, just as
you might be reading this and think
ing to the belief that the prayer will be
much as God yearns and desires our
that perfectionism is required to obtain
answered. This pleases our father, who
trust in him. He tells us that just like
whatever your good good is, know that
talks about His disdain for people who
parents give good gifts to their children,
it rains on the just and the unjust. Not to
are lukewarm. In this, it is expected that
so does He. Your trust will determine the
say that one should run amuck in hea-
we emit a certain level of passion behind
magnitude of the blessing. Whatever you
thenism expecting a thunderstorm of
what we believe, like we know it, feel it
look for, you will find, so if you’re looking
blessings. But humbly put if he can do it
and without a doubt expect it. This takes
to be disappointed by an opportunity,
for me, He can do it for you. After all, like
faith and knowing that we deserve it.
a blessing, a prayer answered immedi-
Beyonce’s song No Angel, “, I’m no Angel
The condition of our self-esteem is no
ately, chances are the Universe will not
either but atleast I’m trying.” Instead I’m
one’s responsibility other than our own.
disappoint. However, when you receive
simply a messenger sent to share and in-
After all, self-esteem is the “esteem of
without fear, this sends a message to the
spire. So know that nothing is never “too
yourself” as Kat Williams so comically
Universe that you are grateful for the
good” for you. For God came in human
coined it. It seems that the Millennial
goods. This sets up an account to receive
form to so that we could have the good
Generation gets this. Who else could
more answered prayers which will allow
life and have it more abundantly. ✖
invent the concept of a “selfie” which is
you to accomplish more at a faster rate
a newly created word that can now be
taking your life to the next level.
Next, whatever is expected must
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FATHER'S DAY GETWAYS by Jacquie Parish
Five special travel destinations with dad in mind.
(1) JUPITER, FL Jupiter, in Palm Beach Country, Florida, is an ideal Father’s Day destination for its numerous attractions and recreational activities to choose from. It’s also known as one of America’s happiest seaside towns, as ranked recently by Coastal Living Magazine. Fathers can head to Jupiter for a low-key getaway at the Jupiter Beach Resort & Spa where they can explore the area with the resort’s complimentary bikes, go climb the 1860 Jupiter Lighthouse or take sunrise or sunset paddle boarding/ kayaking tours down the Jupiter inlet.
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(2) CLEARWATER BEACH, FL Since it’s both affordable and accessible, Florida makes a good choice for a getaway. If Jupiter didn’t make the cut, try Clearwater, another ideal spot for fathers to celebrate Father’s Day. Located along a 700 feet of sugar-sand beach, Sandpearl Resort offers a variety of unique activities for fathers to do such as sailing, sandcastle building, s’mores at a private fire pit on the beach (yum) or an astronomy night on Sandpearl’s boardwalk. Other fun options include taking a behind-thescenes tour at Clearwater Marine Aquarium or taking a stroll along the beach to Pier 60, where there’s a nightly sunset festival perfect for kids, tweens and teens.
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Hilton Head Island was voted as the ninth best island in the U.S. by Conde Nast Traveler Magazine’s Best in the World 2011 Readers’ Choice Awards—with good reason. With so much to see and do (not to mention 12 miles of public beach), it makes a great Father’s Day destination. Nestled within the quaint Port Royal Plantation, the newly renovated Westin Hilton Head Island Resort & Spa makes an ideal base for outdoor-loving dads. The resort’s Hilton Head Bike Package in particular will have you and dad explore the scenic low country of South Carolina, boasting miles of paths, colorful botanicals and flora, and hard-sand beaches.
If a beach vacation is the way to Dad’s heart, there’s no better place than the gorgeous Caribbean island of Anguilla. Exotic but accessible, if pristine white sand and turquoise waters are what you’re after, this is the place to be. Check in at Cuisin Art Golf Resort & Spa home to an 18-hole championship golf course designed by renowned golf pro Greg Norman. Play a few rounds while taking in sweeping views of the Caribbean Sea and having a great time playing golf together (we suggest letting Dad win). Fathers can also scuba dive, rent mountain bikes to explore the island and unwind and refuel at one of the resort’s five world-class dining venues.
(5) ZAMBIA, AFRICA For something more exotic, the adventurous (or travel-loving) father can head to Zambia for an once-in-a-lifetime vacation. Start your unforgettable trip at the Zambezi Sun, in a prime location on the banks of the stunning Victoria Falls, one of the natural wonders of the world. The vibrant, family-friendly resort is perfectly located to experience all the area has to offer: elephant-back safari rides through Mosi-oa-Tunya National Park, white-water rafting, a canoe safari on the Zambezi River, game fishing and much more. ✖
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40zRock Magazine Anniversary Celebration 40z ROCKED off it’s new year by celebrating success with a well-deserved ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY party at the fabulous MODIA 5805 Westheimer. The magazine and organization, which is committed to inspiring women in their forties to celebrate life, is fostering a community of daring ladies opposing the doubty and dull images of forty year old women we’ve grown accustomed to. This event was all about embracing your age, life, health and community. This event was also the unveiling of our Anniversary issue featuring Rebecca King Crews. The party would not have been complete without these special people.
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My 40’z Life Inside
DONALD CYPRIAN
by Sandra Wyckoff
The first 40z Rock man to rock our cover feature. There is nothing more compelling than a forties rock man who can do it all! Entrepreneur, Husband and Father. My 40’z
WHAT I KNOW God loves me and wants the best for my life.
My 40’z
BEST ADVICE Everything you do should ultimately bring God glory. You should also work hard to turn your dreams into reality.
My 40’z
BIGGEST MISTAKE My biggest mistake ultimately became one of my greatest joys. I had my son before I was married. Parenting is truly a challenge However, it has taught me to be a better man.
My 40’z
FAVORITE COLLECTION My ties. I have hundreds of them. My favorite designer is Gucci and Burberry.
My 40’z
WHAT I DIDN’T KNOW ABOUT 40z I had no idea being forty plus would be this exciting! I realize many people believe after turning forty life is all down hill when, in reality, life is just beginning.
My 40’z
HOW I BALANCE LIFE, MARRIAGE & FATHERHOOD It’s imperative as a husband and father to set aside time for family. I make my days off special. I’m always making sure my wife feels loved and knows I will always put God first and my family next to Him. Even on my busiest work days I call my wife and son to check on them. I always want them to know I am thinking about them. I thank God I have them.
My 40’z
WHY MY 40z ROCK I have an opportunity to make sure my son doesn’t make the same mistakes I did. It’s like having a second chance at life. ✖
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MEN WHO ROCK
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2 LEROY JONES, JR. ❱❱ Radio Host / Motivational Speaker / Emcee The esteemed host of the DC based radio show Ask, Talk &
MAJ LLOYD
Listen with PoliticalJones. The popular show offers a unique and
A 44 year old Army Judge Advocate in the US Army currently
up close and personal perspective on major current events,
stationed at Shaw Air Force Base. Paul is the proud father of
newsmakers, celebrities, and the “common folk”. Ask, Talk &
Xander, a five year old full of energy. Being a father can be
Listen—a weekly nationally syndicated 30-minute radio show
a wonderful thing, once you get past all the gross stuff, all
can also be heard anytime on PoliticalJones.com.
the stressful events, the loss of privacy, and the bewildering
numbers of ways you can screw it up. But other than those few
radio segment; The PoliticalJones Report with Leroy Jones,
things, fatherhood is wonderful.
Jr. which can be heard nationally every Wednesday on the
American Urban Radio Networks (www.AURN.com ) on the
As a career Soldier, Paul has dedicated his life to serving
Mr. Jones is also the host of weekly nationally syndicated
his country while attempting to balance the responsibilities of
show “Issues and Opinions” and can be heard on the airwaves
fatherhood. That balancing is complicated even more by the
on over 175 radio markets across the country.
fact that Paul is divorced from Xander’s mother, and they share
physical custody. Divorced parents are well aware of the diffi-
cuts through red tape and breaks down barriers to his listen-
culty in maintaining a daily, active presence in the lives of their
ers, affording them understanding of 21st century political
children, particularly when the children’s primary resident is
processes. Maintaining a powerful, humble voice, he shares his
with the other parent. The separation is even more pronounced
professional and personal philosophies with audiences across
for Soldiers because of their frequent relocation and deploy-
the country—capturing every open ear.
ments. Paul knows this all too well. Paul has tried to compen-
sate for the physical distance and separation by maintaining a
has worked as a legislative aide in both the United States
daily presence through telephone and video calls combined
Senate and the United States House of Representatives giving
with spending as much time with his son as possible when he
him the unique experience of working on both sides of Capitol
is not deployed.
Hill. Shortly after leaving the “Hill”, he accepted a political
appointment to work at the White House for President William
Paul did not know his father growing up so he under-
Coining the term Commentary for the Common Folk, Jones
With a successful 25 year career in Washington, D.C., Jones
stands, as much as anyone, the importance of having a strong
J. Clinton.
father figure in a young boy’s life. Even though Paul cannot see
his son physically everyday he strives to let him know that he
Carolina Central University, and Howard University School of
loves him unconditionally and there is no one more important
Law. He is a member of Kappa Alpha Psi Fraternity, Inc., and the
to him in the world.
proud father of two children—a son and a daughter.
Paul’s advice to all young men would be if you become a
Born and raised in North Carolina, he is a graduate of North
Life rocks because I had the best parents in the world. I
father, no matter the circumstances, ensure that your children
take my role as a parent serious. My parents raised me to be a
understand that you love them unconditionally and are there
good human being. I carry that legacy on by raising my chil-
for them regardless of any physical distance.
dren with those same values as well. ✖
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by Charlotte Stallings
Is it time for a sales intervention? As in the reality TV show Intervention, sometimes it takes hitting rock bottom before we realize we need help. In sales, it’s no different, maybe you haven’t been winning business, you’re at or near the bottom of the ranking reports, or you find yourself on a performance improvement plan. A sales intervention may be warranted at a company level if your sales are consistently flat (year-over-year, or from one quarter to the next), your sales strategy changes frequently, or you’re experiencing frequent turnover of sales staff. Before you find yourself sitting on a sofa listening to people read you letters, here are three things you can do immediately to turn sales around.
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ASK FOR REFERRALS
Ask for the business. Statistics have shown
From your list of satisfied clients, ask your con-
that many sales people feel awkward about ask-
tact person who they know that could use your
ing for the business or closing the deal. Think
product or service. You will be surprised at the
about it; you have asked all the right questions
number of people they know who are part of
and answered them to the clients’ satisfaction,
the same trade association or industry forums.
and now it’s time to ask for the business. You’re
If you have done a good job, these individuals
hoping the client says, “Where do I sign?” Yet
can be an outstanding referral and reference
they are waiting on you to ask them for the
resource.
business.
ASK STRATEGIC QUESTIONS
HERE ARE A FEW WAYS TO ASK:
Asking the right questions is key! Too many
1. “It sounds like you’re ready to move forward, let me explain the implementation process.”
sales people want to talk about themselves, their years in the industry, their accomplish-
right questions is key to advancing the sale.
2. “Besides yourself, who else needs to be involved in making the final decision?” (If others are involved, look at calendars and schedule the next meeting in their presence.)
Consider asking questions that are strategic
3. “When would you like to get started?”
ments, or their company. Remember, you were brought in to solve a problem, and asking the
and explore the client’s main objectives. For example: 1. What are you trying to accomplish? 2. W hy have you decided to change from your current product or service? 3. What are your key priorities and objectives? 4. H ow will you define a successful product or service that is meeting your needs?
Remember, the close doesn’t always happen at the end of the meeting or conversation, be ready to ask for a next appointment, or the business, at any point throughout. ✖ If you need help turning your sales around, contact Ron Stallings today. Call 832-484-9697, email info@stallingssalesconsulting.com or visit www.stallingssalesconsulting.com
By the way, if you’re doing most of the talking, you have already lost! The client should be speaking 80% of the time.
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Chemistry MATTERS by Mena Freeman
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You can’t force chemistry to exist where it doesn’t in the same way you can’t deny it when it does. ~ KUSHANDWIZOOM
Yes guys, women are sometimes hard to read. It is a part of our charm. However, if you leave the first meeting with the feeling that she likes you too, go for it. By the way, there is no rule regarding the appropriate waiting time. If you feel the two of you had a great time at that coffee shop, call her later. Perhaps you won’t be able to talk for hours, but a quick chat to say, “I’d like to see you again”, is very much acceptable.
on one time with her. Do something which will allow a casual conversation during the evening. The other activities can come later. Initially, your goal is to get to know her.
You want to know if this lady s compatible with you. The
only way to know is through having conversations and investing some time to the cause. Invest in having stimulating conversation and spending some quality time with the lady. If you find that she is the one, the time spent in the beginning will also hold the best memories. Also, if she is not the one it is always best to find out as soon as possible.
Most often if you feel that connection, so does she. Do not
be insulted if she cannot spend two hours on the phone. You
Enjoy your date. Even if she turns out not to be the lady of your
will know if she is open to continuing to get to know you. We
dreams, there is always something to learn from each experi-
women are great at giving the signal. If during that first date
ence. Do not dismiss her because she does not appear to be
there is laughter, flirting, eye contact with lots of smiles, then
your type. She may not have the body type that you think that
that is a good signal guys. Go for it.
you require. But she may be the most interesting lady you have
ever met. Have an open mind.
Now sure during that conversation there was talk about
Finally on this subject, remember life is so very short.
what you each like to do. I suggest, if your thing is skydiving,
don’t do that on the next date unless of course she also sky-
really know her. Expect something wonderful. Get BACK IN
dives. Be sure and find out several things that she likes to do.
THE GAME.
It’s likely one of those things you enjoy doing as well. Get a
Go someplace interesting and quiet. Be polite. Get to
Let me know how it goes. ✖
few ideas of something that the two of you can do together. If she likes golfing, biking and dancing, go for the golfing. What a perfect opportunity for you to spend a bit more one
MenaFreeman@thed8consultant
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GENTS: —
It’s Important That YOU
KNOW YOUR WORTH Too — by Cheyenne Bostock
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❱❱❱ You should never equate outer beauty to inner beauty and confuse it with substance.
We always warn women about the dangers that come
public figures and they consider themselves high class. Yes, I
with dealing with men, don’t we? We sit them down,
know what you’re thinking, “How do any of the things listed
talk them to death, and even try to segregate them from
benefit me?” I’m glad you asked! As quality men of substance and as leaders, we don’t look for a woman to provide for us,
the male population as if we’re some sort of plague.
chauffeur us, or connect us. As men, we take pride in providing
The reality though is that danger can come from any
for our family and ourselves, getting behind our own wheels,
gender, any angle, and any relationship. The brothers are
and making the connections. Doing these things makes us feel
often overlooked when it comes to these forewarnings
better as a man, so meeting a woman who wants to do it for us isn’t our type of woman anyway. However, there are many
because society expects us to simply know how to pro-
women who feel as if her material things have value to a man
tect ourselves or worst, bounce back after we get used,
and will try to use it as leverage.
abused and mistreated. Today, I’m here to tell you that
just as sure as a woman should know her worth, you too should know yours.
You should never be the type of man a woman can take
advantage of unless she is willing to reciprocate.You should never feel obligated to use your time, money and resources to accommodate a woman who has nothing invested in you. You should never equate outer beauty to inner beauty and confuse
As men, there are two things that we value the most and
it with substance. You should never have to compromise your
that is our money and our time. After all, we work hard to get
beliefs out of fear that a woman will abandon you. You should
the things we have and we shouldn’t have to fork it over to any-
stand firm, know your value, know your worth and partner with
one who hasn’t earned it. There are plenty of charities out there
a woman whohas proven herself worthy.
that we could donate to if we’re feeling generous. You have a
busy schedule and it’s hard enough simply being a man and
setting requirements for a woman. In fact, that should be your
surviving, let alone investing time and money into a woman.
protocol when it comes to dating and relationships. Bringing
For this reason, you should place high value on your time and
something to the table willdetermine whether or not she gets to
money. As you continue to expand your network, you will meet
remain at the table, so pay attention to the value she’s adding.
many beautiful and successful women. Some of which equate
The same way a woman can require you to do certain things to
their success in their career to value in a relationship. They’ve
win her time, you can do the same. Women respect men who
got their college degree(s), nice car, house, great career and
know their value and are bold enough to stand for what they
the list goes on an on. They treat themselves to fine dining,
believe in. If you don’t know what your value is, take some
trips around the world, they’ve got friends who are well-known
time away from dating and relationships to figure it out. ✖
There’s nothing wrong with a man having standards and
❱❱❱ You should never feel obligated to use your time, money and resources to accommodate a woman who has nothing invested in you.
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Human Behavior
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Forgive(ness)
ď ¨work How do they together? by Jacquie Parish
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What is human behavior? Human behavior refers to the array of every physical action and observable emotion associated with individuals, as well as the human race as a whole. Some behavior changes with age.
What is Forgiveness? How do you forgive? What does it mean to forgive? Forgive means to stop feeling anger toward (someone who has done something wrong); to stop blaming (someone); to stop feeling anger about (something); to forgive someone for (something wrong).
Human behavior suggests that people are “hard-wired”
the highway.” We tend to let ourselves off the hook and give
to retaliate when they have been hurt by another person. Our
ourselves permission to fail.
pride or self-esteem is injured. Our expectations or dreams are
disappointed. We lose something very valuable to us. We want
the same things that they are doing.
recompense for the damages.
tion Error”. We assign total responsibility or blame to others
But there are other resistances which block our motivation
We tend to judge others harshly when we can do some of This is what psychologists call the “Fundamental Attribu-
to forgive. Automatic thoughts or beliefs impede us from for-
for their behavior while explaining away our own negative
giving others. We tell ourselves, “I won’t forgive because he/she
actions in terms of situational factors. In other words, it’s
never accepts responsibility for what he/she does” or “I would
not our fault because…
be a hypocrite if I forgave because I do not feel like forgiving” or
“Forgiving is only for weak people”.
the error in behavior does not relieve the offending person of
moral responsibility. Forgiving someone does not cancel out
Explanations for behavior can also get in the way. When
It’s important to note that understanding and accepting
someone hurts us or lets us down we tend to assign internal
the consequences of their actions. The goal is to promote em-
causes for behavior to others. We argue that it is based on
pathy and forgiveness and look more realistically at the hurtful
personality or character traits. We tell ourselves, “he’s just so
events from their point of view. This involves thinking the best
forgetful or careless” or “she doesn’t appreciate me” or “she did
of people rather than jumping to harsh conclusions about their
that purposefully”. We judge them harshly. But when we do
character or intentions.
something wrong or hurtful/disappointing we tend to excuse
our own behavior by attributing external causes. In those cases
forgive others) for others can also get in the way of our ability
we say “my child made a mess” or “there was a car accident on
to forgive. We can develop empathy for others by beginning to
Lack of empathy (empathy is the psychological highway to
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Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart. ~ PicureQuotes.com
change our way of thinking. It is impossible to fully know why a person acted the way that they did. Make room from grace.
You can receive Christ right now by faith
Remember GRACE? Grace is something that God grants us daily despite our short comings.
through prayer. Praying is simply talking
When have you been able to have empathy for someone
to God. God knows your heart and is not
who has hurt you? Ask yourself “do I want things bitter or bet-
as concerned with your words as He is
ter?” Forgiveness has a huge impact on our own health and
with the attitude of your heart. Here is a
feelings. Forgiveness is not so much about the other person as
simple yet powerful prayer:
it is about our own hearts. Forgiveness is for our benefit, but so often things get in the way. Think of a time when you have
Lord Jesus, I want to know you personally.
needed forgiveness.
Thank you for dying on the cross for my
Don’t let resentment imprison you for life; it will destroy
you and your other relationships. Lewis Smedes wrote: “To
sins. I open the door of my life to you and
forgive is to set the prisoner free…and to discover that the
ask you to come in as my Savior and Lord.
prisoner was you.” Let go of the pain. Give it to God. For God
Take control of my life. Thank you for for-
alone understands more than anyone the pain and humilia-
giving my sins and giving me eternal life.
tion you feel. Jesus felt more pain, rejection and humiliation
Make me the kind of woman you want me
than any person. Letting go of your hurts is often not an
to be. Amen.
overnight experience. It takes time, but as you work toward it you’ll find that it is worth the effort. Ask God to give you the grace to forgive.
The ability to forgive is rooted in being forgiven our-
If this prayer expresses the desire of your heart, pray it
selves. In the Bible it says that God loves the world so much
right now and Christ will come into your life as He promised.
that he sent his only son so that we could be forgiven. As
If you invited Jesus Christ into your life, thank God often
people we all make mistakes, not one of us can live up to the
that He is in your life, that He will never leave you and that
standard God set on our own. But God promises that if we
you have eternal life. Now that you have prayed this prayer
accept what Jesus did for us, we can be forgiven. The slate
believe that your life has changed and live like your life has
can be wiped clean no matter what has happened in the past.
changed. Don’t go back to the same things, same environ-
God promises us strength for today and bright hope for the
ments and same friends. As you learn more about your
future. Whatever happened in your yesterdays God can take
relationship with God, and how much He loves you, you’ll
care of all of your tomorrows.
experience life to the fullest. ✖
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Dear Prospective 40z Rocker, When you turned 40, what was the first thing that came to your mind? Honestly…Was it something like, “It’s all down-hill from here or I can now live MY life?” Whether positive or negative, did you realize there are billions of women asking themselves those same questions around the world? Better yet, did you know there was an organization Founded in Houston, Texas that tailored to the needs of women in their 40’z? YES… An organization where you can share empowerment, support, and make positive changes in your community. Women from all walks of life, all beautiful hues and tones, sizes and shapes with a positive outlook on life.The organization is 40’z ROCK, Founded by Sandra Wyckoff; a woman of class, couture, and culture. When she refers to a woman who ROCKS, she is distinctly referring to You, a woman who has done the work on herself, and has reached a level of awareness and balance; mentally, physically, and spiritually. She believes that once a woman has tapped into these areas of her life, then she ROCKS! And when she ROCKS, she can ROCK the world. We are looking for women who ROCK to join our movement. Are you a Rocker? We think so. It takes A Rocker, To Know a Rocker! If you know you have what it takes and would like to Rock the World with us, please visit www.40zRock.com to find out how become part of this growing movement.
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7 PLANNING POINTS 1. A Woman With a Plan –must
follow God, to avoid being self-indulging.(Proverbs 16:3)
2. A Woman Without a Plan – is in danger of Sa-
Women of today have great plans. We plan everything. But the key to our planning should be the perfect will of God for our lives and for those in whom we are planning with and for. Everywhere you look and everywhere you go, there had to have been a plan set in motion for you to even see it and for you to have arrived there. Planning is great and good. We as women, we do a lot of planning, so it is very necessary for us to include God’s plan for our lives in all that we do. Sometimes we can plan without His knowledge and blessing, and of course, this will cause great problems down line and sometimes immediate discourse.
tanic Influence. (Genesis 3:1-2) and a Woman who does not follow God’s plan causes detriment.
3. Prepared Plans-
Put you in Position and helps you to produce (Matt. 1:18)
4. Pop Up Plans- Cause Growth and Applica-
tion. Sometimes you have to plan on the spot (Psalm 119:105)
5. I Plan to…- What are your desires? Identify
and Write your plan. You are planning, even if it’s to do nothing.(Psalm 20:4)
6. My Plans Failed, Now What?-Fear of planning again, after failed plans? (2 Tim.1:7)
7. I didn’t plan on this…But God did! - God
already decided that you would go through whatever you’ve experienced. (Psalm 119:91) (I Samuel 1).
The main focus of this lesson is that we cannot plan anything without knowing and respecting God’s plans.
His plan for our lives is clear and obvious and He has made
them clear through His Word and we cannot ignore these plans and go on with our plans. I am so glad to have a God who understands His creation and has created us to be planners as well. God is an awesome planner with great results. Think about it, He planned your life and countless others. He is a God who is takes care of business. He planned for His Son to die for us on the cross and that took planning.
A woman with a plan is a woman who will produce great
results in the earth for the glory and honor of our God.
Proverbs 16: 3 “Put God in charge of your work, then what you’ve planned will take place.”
A woman with a plan must allow God to take charge of
we must allow God to be in charge of what He has given us to do. God does not tire like us, He does not think like us and He is very faithful and diligent to His promises and His timeline.
Putting God in charge of your work will ensure that it takes
place, according to the text. So, as we apply this scripture to the context of this subject, it provides us with one main reason as to why your plans do not take place. It is because God is not in charge of the work.
No other reasons should be accepted. No matter how you
may have thought that God was in charge, if the plan did not take place; then, He wasn’t in charge. Don’t try to reason it out. You will only be wasting time. Repent and plan to allow God to
your work. Sometimes while planning or even pre-planning,
be completely in charge from now on.
we neglect to put God in charge. We take charge and do not
pay close attention to what we are doing because we are so
that your plans will take place, not your education, training,
busy planning and we become tired and frustrated. This is why
gifts or know how. ✖
I’m stopping now and doing this. Join me. God guarantees
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