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Membership Directory 7
The Most Wanted Auction
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Big Brothers Big Sisters of Greater KC
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Reflect Your Youth with Nerium AD 8
Happy Holidays Children’s Miracle Network/KU Pediatrics
KC Metro CARES members listing
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Letters from the editor and publisher
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Crowdfunding and Wise Giving Greater KC Better Business Bureau
10 Why You Should Consider a Membership KC Metro CARES Magazine
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“What Day Is It?” Fun Calendar
11 Pumpkin Palooza Sunflower House
13 The Arts Improve Our Region ARTSKC 360º
12 Explore Your Creative Side: Arts Events in Kansas City
14 How To Handle A Crisis Without Overstressing Women Connect4Good
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15 Healthy Article
16 Dear Amy
The Health Benefits of Chocolate
Monthly Advice Column
16 Healthy Recipe Grand Marnier Pistachio Truffles
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Letter from the Editor Hello Kansas City! It’s hard to believe that it is finally December! Decorations are going up, pres-
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Crowdfunding and Wise Giving It started with rock and roll fans. In 1997, devotees of the
ing safe. For example, one site requires participants to receive advice from a
British rock band Marillion raised $60,000 on the Internet
fundraising coach who will report suspicious behavior. The specific measures will
to provide funds for a reunion tour in the United States.
vary from site to site.
This collection of small gifts from a large group of individuals to support a project, person, or organization began the now popular fundraising activity known today as “crowdfunding.” From its musical beginnings in 1997, crowdfunding has grown exponentially. According to Massolution.com, which produces a Crowdfunding Industry Report, in 2010 there were 283 crowdfunding platforms worldwide that cumulatively raised $1.5 billion. Two years later, there were 536 platforms raising funds for over 1 million projects and campaigns that generated $2.7 billion worldwide. The cumulative total for 2013 is predicted to reach $5 billion. The Industry Report also indicates which categories of projects dominated the crowdfunding spaces. The stats show a mix of business and charity-focused activities. The category “social causes” was the top type of crowdfunding projects.
3. Projects that share updates provide greater transparency - If a project is providing periodic updates of its progress, expenditures, and accomplishments, this provides greater assurance that the individual or organization is seeking to responsibly use collected funds. 4. Don’t assume your donation is deductible - If you are funding a project that is run by an individual instead of a charity, the funding you provide may not be deductible as a charitable gift for federal income tax purposes. 5. Be especially careful after a disaster or tragedy - Con artists will strike while the emotional iron is hot. As a result, the donating public needs to be especially on guard when reacting to headlines featuring hardship and injuries that disasters and tragedies bring. What’s the plan? How are they going
In Better Business Bureau experience, if there is motive and opportunity, fraud can
to carry it out? What is their connection to the event (are they a victim’s relative,
occur no matter what the medium. Whether it is direct mail, telephone appeals,
friend, neighbor, etc.)? Organizations raising funds should get permission from
in-person solicitation, websites, emails, and now crowdfunding, questionable
the families to use either the names of the victims and/or any photographs of
activities can emerge. While the vast majority of fundraising for charitable causes
them. Some fundraising activities for the victims of the shootings in the Colorado
is honest and forthcoming about the intended use of collected funds, there will be
movie theater and in the Newtown, Connecticut school did not do this and were
some who seek to take advantage of American generosity.
the subject of criticism from victims’ families
So, how can an informed donor take measures to reduce the risk of getting taken in the crowdfunding environment? Here are some suggestions from the BBB Wise Giving Alliance.
6. Read the fine print - Crowdfunding sites will vary in terms of their privacy policies, under what conditions donations will be refunded if at all, and whether the donor or the project organizer will be charged for site administrative costs
1. Charities can be checked - Crowdfunding websites and projects
and credit card fees.
produced by charitable organizations that have received 501(c)(3) tax-exempt 7. Specialized crowdfunding sites may be more adept - If a
status provide more opportunities for verification.
crowdfunding site specializes in a particular kind of crowdfunding activity such 2. Give to individuals you know - Charity-themed projects posted by individuals provide more of a challenge in verification. Crowdfunding sites state they help provide some degree of vetting by requiring a Facebook page, PayPal account, and photo if someone seeks to launch a project. However, those
as medical funding, school projects, overseas development projects, etc., there is a greater likelihood that they will have the experience to spot problems as they emerge. A site that allows any type of crowdfunding activity may result in more challenging oversight hurdles.
gatekeeper requirements alone will not prevent all fraud from taking place. In fairness, sites usually indicate that other measures are taken to keep crowdfund-
Greater Kansas City BBB Accredited Charities Meet 20 Standards Covering Governance, Effectiveness, Finances and Fundraising / Informational Materials (These standards place reported information in context so that donors can easily make wise giving decisions) Angel Flight Central Assistance League of Kansas City Children International* Christian Foundation for Children & Aging* City Union Mission Coalition For Independence
First Call Alcohol / Drug Recovery & Prevention Harvesters Kansas City Volunteer Lawyers & Accountants for the Arts Kids TLC Outreach International*
PKD Foundation* Progressive Agriculuture Foundation* Skills to Succeed Sherwood Center The Children’s Place Water.org*
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CARES Magazine and GOiCARE.com provide online and print resources to nonprofits in order to create awareness of charitable giving and healthy living in the Springfield and Kansas City areas as well as give acknowledgement to local businesses that give back to these communities. It is our goal to promote local businesses, provide information and savings to consumers, and support the work of the charities where we live.
What does it mean to be a member of CARES? CARES members are 501(c)(3) organizations that are well established, respected by their peers, and meet significant needs within the community. As a CARES member, we provide YOU with the opportunity to connect, promote, and spread awareness about the things nonprofits are doing within the community. What are the benefits of becoming a member? As a member, you’ll receive a wealth of benefits, including: A full year of marketing within the pages of CARES An online profile on our website Access to the our online calendar Access to our online volunteer database Email blast inclusion Addition to the membership directory in CARES Magazine Event coverage in CARES 20 subscriptions to CARES for board members and volunteers 50 copies of CARES magazine per month 10
How do I become a member? In order to become a member of CARES, a nonprofit must request an application by emailing editor.op@goicare.com. An application form will then be sent that must be filled out completely and returned to CARES via email or at: 122 Park Central Square Springfield, MO 65806 What are current members saying about CARES? CARES Magazine has provided a wonderful avenue for the community to know more about the tremendous amount of assistance provided by not-for-profit agencies and how many supporters and volunteers rs are making it possible. -Harmony House CARES is a great value and continues to come up with new ways to make marketing g our organization successful. -Community Partnership of the Ozarks
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How To Handle A CrisisWithout Overstressing
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omen and mothers take responsibility for others, and we need to be careful not to sacrifice our own well-being. We can also save ourselves lots of grief and struggle if we make a few preparations, even if other family members don’t think it’s necessary. I talked about that in the last post. Often we’re the anchors during the crisis, so cultivate the habit of taking time for your own mental health during the crisis as well.
What to do during a crisis Get to safety as quickly as possible. Stay there. Keep your mind there too. Don’t let your your mind run ahead to fret about long-term planning because your job is to survive hour by hour. Encourage every family member to tell their stories as many times as necessary and express their fears and concerns about the crisis. It’s how we process experiences. Find things to laugh about and encourage everyone to focus on gratitude. We need routine to feel comfortable, so find or create your new “normal” in this new situation. Reconnect with the strengths and the coping mechanisms that have worked in the past. A crisis that causes a huge disruption will
likely have long-term effects, so you’ll soon be searching for new support systems and services to help with your day-to-day living. Start asking around, listen hard and take notes. Try not to get discouraged or angry when you receive contradictory information, and don’t give up. The service providers and volunteers are struggling too, and a little kindness and understanding will return to you multiplied. Mental health work is all about helping people tap into internal and external resources. I have worked in the field of crisis response for many years and have a certification in crisis response, traumatology and working with PTSD. I have been privileged to work all over the United States (after 9-11 in New York City and New Jersey, the fires in California, hurricanes in Mississippi, New Orleans and Florida and after the tornadoes in my own backyard in Missouri with last summer’s devastation in Joplin being the most recent). I was also the Director of Employee Assistance Service for a large health service organization, and have helped to develop all types of workplace programs on workplace violence and sexual harassment policy and helped in many workplaces when a crisis has occurred.
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HealthyArticle The Health Benefits of Chocolate It's Christmastime, and you know what that means. Carols,
of milk chocolate has about the same antioxidant content of
lines of people at the store buying presents, Christmas trees,
one glass of red wine.
and food. Not just any food, of course, but delicious sweets and desserts made of chocolate. During this time of year,
The most certain and significant benefit that can come from
chocolate is used more than any other; being put into cakes,
consuming chocolate has to do with your heart. The nutri-
pies, frozen treats, ice creams, drinks, and candies. Normally
ents in chocolate have been shown to benefit nearly every
we all feel a little guilty about all this extra chocolate – after
single part of the cardiovascular system by controlling blood
all, isn't it bad for you? Surprising new nutritional discover-
flow and blood pressure. Cocoa contains substances that
ies about chocolate just may alleviate a little bit of that guilt.
have been shown to aid the body in the normal production
New research has found a few interesting things, and noted
and maintenance of Nitric Oxide. This is a chemical
some very real health benefits associated with the consump-
compound that is vital in keeping healthy blood flow, and by
tion of chocolate. Here are some of these findings, to help
keeping the compound in the blood, chocolate actually
every dedicated chocoholic out there.
causes the heart to be under less stress. Chocolate also has
No, chocolate doesn't contain a lot of vitamins, and it isn't
Platelets are what cause your blood to thicken, and although
rich in minerals either. Cocoa, however, happens to contain a
they are necessary to keep you from bleeding to death, they
few singular nutrients that have positive influences on the
must be controlled and kept at a healthy level. If not, your
the ability to regulate blood platelets in the bloodstream.
body. Cocoa contains endorphins, which are chemical agents
blood would thicken, blood pressure would rise, and the
used as natural opiates in the body to reduce suffering from
heart would, over time, sustain serious damage, as well as
pain. Several different stimulants are also found in cocoa,
placing you at risk of having a stroke.
which will wake you up, increase your cognitive function, and make you more alert to everything around you. Last but
While chocolate is normally viewed as not being very good
not least, cocoa happens to contain tryptophan. This legend-
for you, it can actually be a healthy addition to your diet. It
ary substance, blamed for causing sleepiness in turkey, is
can help keep your heart and blood vessels in pristine
actually known to relieve stress and lower anxiety levels. It's
condition, as well as ward off premature aging. The key to
important to note, however, that you won't really feel all of
chocolate, of course, is that a little g goes a long g way, y and
these effects simply by eating chocolate. Chocolate contains
while chocolate does have a few very
such small amounts of these substances that you'd have to
important health benefits, efits, it is
eat a very unwise amount to really notice the benefits you'd
also loaded with calories. ries.
be getting, and your stomach would probably hurt so bad
Because of this, it is
you might not actually feel them.
recommended that you ou intake chocolate
One area where chocolate does truly excel, however, is
between 3 to 5 times a
antioxidants. For those of you who don't know, antioxidants
month to receive the
are what Hollywood celebrities and health nuts go
most benefits while
absolutely crazy over. They're agents that get absorbed by
consuming the least
your body and protect it from free radicals. These are harm-
amount of calories. Snack nack
ful products that damage the body, causing everything from
on chocolate wisely, and nd
the development of cancer to early aging. Chocolate, fortu-
remember...
nately, contains a lot of these antioxidants – more, actually, than most other foods, even blueberries. Dark and milk chocolates have very high ORAC values, which are measurements that determine how powerful the antioxidant value of a food is. While dark chocolate has roughly twice the amount of antioxidants as milk chocolate, a 40-gram serving 15
HealthyRecipe Grand Marnier Pistachio Truffles Ingredients s 2 tablespoons unsalted butter
s 1/4 cup Grand Marnier
s 1 teaspoon light corn syrup
s 1 1/4 cups (6 ounces) shelled,
s 1/2 cup heavy cream s 16 ounces semisweet chocolate,
chopped (about 2 1/3 cups)
skinned pistachios (toasted if desired), chopped s 1 teaspoon finely grated
orange zest
Preparation 1. Combine cream, butter, and corn syrup in a saucepan over medium-high heat; bring to a boil. Cook for 1 minute then remove from heat. Add 1 2/3 cups chocolate and liquor (do not stir); let stand 1 minute. Gently swirl pan until smooth. Pour into a bowl; chill, stirring every 15 minutes, until thick enough to hold shape (about 45 minutes). Using 2 spoons, shape the mixture into 1-inch balls (about 2 teaspoons each) and place on wax paper–lined plates. Refrigerate until chilled (15 minutes).
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Dear Readers: I have received several questions related to children and divorce (an area that I specialize in). I am happy to answer specific questions (please keep them coming!). However, for today’s column, I am going to provide my “Do” and “Don’t” list for parents. These “rules” will help make life easier on your kiddos while going through divorce. 1. Remember that you are divorcing each other. However, you are still "married" to your children. In other words, you are both parents. A divorce will not change that fact. Make sure your children know (and are told) that the divorce is NOT their fault. Continue to co-parent and put your children’s needs first.
2. Meanwhile, in a bowl set over a medium saucepan of simmering water, gently melt remaining 2/3 cup chocolate. Pour melted chocolate into one bowl and chopped pistachios and orange zest in another bowl. Dip each chilled truffle into chocolate first, then into pistachio-orange mixture, rolling to coat. Refrigerate until firm (about 8 minutes) or until ready to serve.
3. Let them be kids...and eat cake sometimes. When your child sees
Serving amount: 28 truffles
you sad/mad, they may feel the need to take care of you.Although it is okay
2. Keep the love alive. Again, this pertains to your kiddos. Show them love and attention. Spend 1 on 1 time with them. Continue traditions and/or start new ones. Try to keep their daily routines as consistent as possible.
to show emotions (not an emotional break-down), it is not their job to make you happy. Also, cut them some slack while they are adjusting to the divorce (which may also mean a new house, new school, new friends, etc.). 4. Keep adult conversations between the adults. Little ears are always Serving Size
listening, even if you think they are in the other room. Court, child support, money, who did what to whom.... are not their problem and should NOT be part of your conversations with them. 5. Your children don’t work for the post-office or the CIA. Don’t ask your children to be a messenger for you. It is not their job to “tell Mommy/tell Daddy’ whatever it is that you are wanting them to pass along. Also, don’t interrogate them about the other parent’s home. 6. Don't bash your ex! I cannot stress how important this rule is to your child's development and how they will handle the divorce.You will only succeed in building resentment and anger by doing so. Basically, you are telling your child that the person who has loved them, who raised them, and who is their own blood is a "bad" person. This can lead a child to believe that they also harbor those negative qualities. If you must "bash", find a friend, write in a journal, or better yet, seek out the help of a professional. I hope these “rules” will guide you, during this difficult time.
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Are You Actually Ready For a Pet? Are you ready? Adopting a dog or cat is a big commitment. There are hundreds of animals in shelters waiting to find their forever family. There are several important questions to ask yourself when you are considering bringing a new furry family member home. What is your lifestyle? How much time/energy do you have to spend on a new pet? Various breeds/ages have different demands. Generally, the herding, sporting, hound, and terrier breeds require more time and exercise than other breeds. Puppies and kittens absolutely need more exercise, training, time, attention, and supervision than an adult pet. However, your first year with ANY new pet, regardless of age or breed, requires more attention than any other time. This is when you are establishing rules and home routines that teach your new pet their role in your family. Can you afford it? The purchase price of a pet and their initial supplies (bowls, beds, brushes, baby gates, collars, leashes, etc.) is actually a very small portion of the cost of having a pet. There are many other recurring expenses. To name a few: Food. This can be especially expensive if you are considering a large breed of dog. Grooming. Fancy coated breeds, such as Pomeranians, Poodles, and Shih Tzus, require regular grooming/cuts. Chew toys/entertainment. For dogs, vigorous chewers can work their way through a rawhide bone in a single sitting. Let’s not forget veterinary care! Very few pets live their entire lives without at least one veterinary emergency. For example, your puppy may eat a pair of pantyhose, your cat may develop a tumor, your fine-boned small breed may break a leg, or your large breed may have bad hips. The list goes on and on! These surprises can cost $500 or more. Then of course there are the regular vet visits for vaccinations, checkups, flea/tick treatment, heartworm preventative, etc.
What kind of environment do you have to provide? Do you have a house or an apartment? Do you have a fenced yard? No yard? When choosing the age, size, and breed of your new pet, these questions are of the upmost importance. Make sure you are setting yourself and your new pet up for success not failure. If you live in an apartment, consider a cat or a less active small breed dog. If you want a large breed dog or puppy, make sure you have sufficient space for them. Puppies need plenty of room to burn off all their energy! Do you have small children in your home? How about pre-existing pets? Before adopting, bring your children and other pets to meet their new potential family member and make sure everyone gets along. Finally, are you prepared to keep and care for the pet their entire lifetime? Pets are meant to be a lifetime commitment. They will join your family prepared to give you unconditional love for the rest of their days. This can mean 15 years or more! Through sickness and in health, for better or for worse! Make sure you feel confident in your decision before signing the dotted line and saying, "I do!"
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The Business of Giving Back We can talk about two things: what we do or who we are. To us, those are one in the same; we canâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t talk about business unless we also talk about passion, determination and community. This philosophy starts with our chairman, Rick Hendrick, who encourages everyone to think outside the box and incorporate charity into everything we do. The charities we are most involved with werenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t picked with any corporate strategy in mind; rather, they chose us. We draw inspiration from the stories of those we help, and they drive us to be a better business. One such charity is the Most Influential Women of the Year To Be scholarship we initiated in 2012, in partnership with the Kansas City Business Journal. Together we recognize the most influential women of our community and, in their name, select a student who has demonstrated the qualities necessary to be similarly successful. We reward their hard work and determination with a $1,300 scholarship.
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