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Photographer Profiles Who fits your style?

Graduation Invites

Fun and creative ideas

Cohabitation

Should you live together before marriage?

Soulcrate Music and Herbalyzah!

The Kickback

Free backrubs, Will Smith and how they’re different

April 2009 Vol. 1 Issue 4

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Rachel Palmer - Writer

Rachel grew up near the Black Hills in Rapid City and is a South Dakota native. She is currently attending the University of South Dakota and is in the process of earning a degree in English Education with a minor in music. As cliché as it may sound, Rachel has a passion for reading and writing—creative writing in particular. She enjoys tutoring students at Vermillion Middle School and volunteering at the W.H. Over Museum.

For fun, Rachel loves to go on “road trips” and see her favorite bands and musicians live. In the future, Rachel hopes to become a secondary English teacher and keep herself busy as a freelance writer. 5DFKHO IHDWXUHV (PSLUH ERZO WKLV PRQWK

Mary Dodson - Writer Mary is 28 years old and grew up in Spearfish, SD. She graduated from Northern State University in Aberdeen, SD in 2004 with a bachelor’s degree in English and a minor in theatre. At NSU Mary’s significant accomplishments included having poetry and a humorous sketch published in the Shelterbelt literary magazine, performing in ten main stage theatrical performances and winning three acting awards. In December 2008 she received her master’s degree in English literature from the University of South Dakota.

This month Mary gives a look at Jake Peterson of the online clothing company Folded Mayhem.

Sabina Mustic - Writer Sabina graduated from the University of South Dakota in May 2008 with a B.A. in English and German. She enjoys writing because it gives her satisfaction when she knows she worked hard and created something worth reading. Some of Sabina’s hobbies include reading, spending time with family and friends, traveling, and shopping. Sabina plans to attend graduate school sometime in the near future to get a master’s degree in Library Science. Check out Sabina’s article on keeping your smile healthy.

Denise DePaolo - Writer Denise is from Sioux Falls and graduated from Washington High School in 2001. Since then, she has lived in Gainesville, Florida and traveled extensively. She and her husband Tony moved back to Sioux Falls in 2008. She is finishing up her English degree at the University of South Dakota and works as a bartender on weekends. Denise hopes to one day write for a living, but making drinks is a pretty cool job for now. She like adventures, jokes, and going to punk rock shows.

Denise gets to know members from The Kickback in this month’s cover story.

Lee Marotz - Illustrator Lee was born and raised in Watertown, SD. He is a graphic artist who moved to Sioux Falls in May of 2008 and is getting married in October 2009. Lee is currently the Web Operator for KDLT-TV in Sioux Falls as well as doing freelance design. As a freelance design he creates logos and graphics for companies and individuals, as well as making slideshows for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays; pretty much any occasion. He loves the creativity of graphic design and truly has found the passion and calling for his life. Lee would love to continue making graphics until the day he dies, whether it be in a company setting or freelance design. Any questions or comments for Lee can be made by emailing him at leemarotzdesign@hotmail.com.Check out Lee’s graphic for this month’s quiz.

Jamie Bulian - Writer Jamie is a 21-year-old senior at the University of South Dakota from Yankton. She is graduating in May with a major in communication studies and minors in both contemporary media and journalism and Spanish. Jamie is very involved with the university newspaper and the university weekly newscast. After graduation, Jamie plans to pursue a career in either advertising/marketing or public relations. In her spare time she loves to run, read, watch movies, and spend time with family and friends. This month Jamie delves into moving in together as a couple in The Scoop.

Kiel Mutschelknaus - Illustrator Kiel is originally from Brandon, SD and graduated from Augustana College with an art major and math minor in 2007. He is currently a graphic designer at Fresh Produce and has been since January ‘08. Kiel enjoys creating anything and everything. He hopes to continue working in the visual realm, hopes to write and draw an illustrated novel, open a “creative only” subscription shop, become an art professor, and make Sioux Falls the art mecca of the upper Midwest (watch yourself Minneapolis!). Kiel also “curates” a local arts blog called Graphic Content, , at: desktopsoil.typepad.com/graphic_content.

Check out Kiel’s illustration with Bulian’s article on the big move as a couple.

Kiley Barnes - Writer Kiley is native to Beresford, SD, but currently resides in Sioux Falls. She plans to graduate this May with an English writing degree from the University of Sioux Falls, where upon she will be faced with the difficult task of finding a real-life, boring job like a real-life, boring adult. Her dreams include traveling, freelance writing and one day publishing a successful children’s book. In her leisure time, she enjoys good music, good food, and good friends along with some dancing, too. Kiley gives easy tips on how to live healthier and writes an article on unique invitation ideas for graduation parties.

Holli Rausch - Illustrator Originally from Hawarden, IA, Holli graduated from Dakota State University with a major in Graphic Design and minors in Art and Center of Excellence. It was at DSU that she took her first graphic design class, Illustrator, and Holli’s been a vector fan-girl ever since. (Though she dabbles in all things design, Illustrator was her first true-love.) She’s currently working as a temporary Publishing Specialist with the City of Sioux Falls and works on projects in her freetime. Around town, you might find Holli fueling her photography interest, acting in her husband’s film projects, baking goodies for coworkers and friends, or frequently hitting her head on something. You can find all you need to know about her at HolliRausch.com or follow her on Twitter, @holli_joi.

CONTENTS

april 2009

Reviews and Recommmendations 6

April Event Calendar

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Beyond Borders: Book Reviews

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A Taste of Sarcasm

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Profiles: Soulcrate Music and Herbalyzah

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Get Involved: Camp Friendship

Life, Love and Laughter 15 The Scoop: Cohabitation 16

Why Don’t Ya Do Somethin’?: Empire Bowl

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COVER: The Kickback

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The Real Deal: Jake Peterson

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He Said, She Said...

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Graduation Invites

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Ask the Johns

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In the Matter of Nick Kotzea...

Photo by Reistroffer Design

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SPECIAL: Photographer Profiles Quiz: Is Your Friend Bad For You?

Fashion and Beauty 37 What’s Boss/Get Lost 38 Pre-Summer Survival Pack 39

Our Favorites

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Fashion: Summer Fun

Fitness and Health

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EVENTS

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April 3

April 6

April 18

Sioux Falls Stampede

Harlem Globetrotters

Roller Dollz Roller Derby Bout

7:05 p.m.

7 p.m.

7 p.m.

Sioux Falls Arena.

Sioux Falls Arena.

Downtown First Fridays

April 11

5 p.m. to 8 p.m.

New Volunteer Orientation

April 3, 4

Expo Building at the Fairgrounds.

Come watch the Sioux Falls Roller Dollz vs. the Wichita, KS ICT Roller Girls. Tickets for general admission are $10 and trackside seats are $15. All proceeds benefit the South Dakota Special Olympics. Doors open at 6 p.m. For more information, visit www.rollerdollz.com.

Interactive Murder Mystery

Sioux Falls Storm

Historic Downtown Sioux Falls. 10 a.m.

Please support Downtown, espe- Sioux Falls Area Humane Society. cially during construction.

Must be invited in order to attend orientation. For more information, call (605)-338-4441 or visit www.

Death After Dinner— sfhumanesociety.com.

Five Performances: 6 p.m., Grooming Training 7:05 p.m.

Sioux Falls Arena.

6:30 p.m., 7 p.m., 7:30 p.m., 12 p.m.

Sioux Falls Area Humane Society.

8 p.m Pettigrew Home and Museum. En- Must be a SFAHS Volunteer partertaining and interactive murder ticipate. mystery. Price is $10 for ages 12 +.

Any questions, please call 367-4210.

April 15

April 22 Sioux Falls Area Chamber of Commerce Young Professionals Network Kick-Off

April 4, 11

2009 Parkinson Awareness 4:30 p.m. to 7 p.m.

Month Conference Cherapa Place (3rd Floor).

Pet Therapy Training

9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

9 a.m.

Schroeder Auditorium at Sanford Sioux Falls Area Humane Society. USD Medical Center. Keynote Must be a SFAHS Volunteer to par- speaker Michael Rezak, MD, PhD ticipate. For more information, call (a Movement Disorder Specialist (605)338-4441 or visit www.sfhu- from Northwestern in Chicago). manesociety.com.

All programs are free. April 10 deadline to reserve a box lunch; call Sanford Healthformation at Sioux Falls Skyforce (605) 333-4444.

April 4, 11 7 p.m.

Sioux Falls Arena

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April 24 Spring Fling Dance 8:30 p.m. to 12:30 a.m.

Moose Lodge (1926 Burnside Ave.).

Beginning Experience of Eastern South Dakota presents this night of fun with music by Full Gallop.

Singles 21 and older are welcome.

Admission $9.

April 25 Girl Scouts-Dakota Horizons 2nd Annual Purses with a Purpose 10 a.m. to 12 p.m.

Old Courthouse Museum. Auction event. Attendees will have the opportunity to support scouting by bidding on purses and other exciting items through a live and silent auction, and enjoy refreshments and brunch. Tickets are $10 and available at the Girl Scout Office at 1101 S. Marion Road or contact Heidi at 605336-2978 or hhunter@gsdakotahorizons.org.

Have an event you want people to know about? Send details to contact@605magazine.com.

*Special Note:

605 Magazine became an official member of the Sioux Falls Chamber of Commerce with a ribbon cutting ceremony on February 27 at Cherapa Place.

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Mark Lloyd gets all the book perks working at Borders. Our perk? We get the skinny about upcoming books ahead of everyone else.

You Shall Know Our Velocity!

publicity as his other works. And that’s too bad, because in my opinion, it’s his best work.

So you may have heard of Dave Eggers for some reason. Maybe you’ve read A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius or What is the What. Maybe you’ve heard of his publishing company, McSweeney’s.

The basic plot is this: A young man dies in a horrible car accident. He leaves behind his two best friends, Will, the narrator of the story, and the annoying, yet somehow lovable Hand. In order to try to cope with their loss, Will and Hand decide that the best thing to do is to try to blow the $38,000 that Will has in the bank on a trip around the world.

But he wrote another book called You Shall Know Our Velocity! that probably slipped right under your radar. It didn’t get as much

But they don’t want to stay at fancy hotels in Paris and Bali. They don’t want to just have a good time and give the money to the peo-

An Unknown Work of Staggering Genius

Jocelyn Stout 362-9844 dimensionshair.com 1900 S. Sertoma Ave. (26th & Sertoma Ave.)

By Dave Eggers

ple that already have money.

What to Watch for in April:

They want to go to Senegal. They want to go to Morocco. They want to go to Siberia.

And they want to give the money away to people who need it. They want to ask people on the side of the road for directions to places they already know how to get to and then give that person $500.

They want to walk right into peoples’ homes in the poorest areas with flowers and $800, and just give it away. They want to tape the money to cows. They want to tape the money to peoples’ homes.

But this is harder than it sounds, because Will and Hand have to come to grips with why they’re doing this. Is it out of kindness, or do they crave the power they get from giving the money away?

Or are they just running from the truth? Do they think that if they keep moving and doing good things, that somehow, they’ll never have to deal with the loss of their friend? That maybe, if they move fast enough and far enough away, that somehow the feelings of anger toward the trucker who hit and killed their friend will subside?

That if they just keep going, that maybe they will stop wanting to seek out and destroy the other “friends” who were laughing and carrying on right after the funeral?

Sag Harbor

By Colson Whitehead

A kid feels out of place as the only black kid in an all white prep school, but feels just as out of place in the all black community of Sag Harbor. W.E.B. DuBois would probably like this

book.

Vanished Smile

By R.A. Scotti

An account of the 1911 theft of the Mona Lisa and its aftermath. Apparently, Pablo Picasso and Guillaume Apollinaire were actually arrested and questioned as suspects.

Interesting.

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SARCASM:

Grille 26

By The Obfuscated Observer

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hen I heard that downtown staple Minervas was opening a casual dining restaurant March 10, I was intrigued to say the least. After getting a look at the menu and prices, I was sold faster

For dessert I opted against the recommended house special ‘Duel-

than shares of Fanny Mae.

ing Brownies.’ Instead, I picked the Berry Tirimisu ($5.50), which had lady fingers, Chambord coffee sauce, mascarpone cheese, and

A few friends and I set out to the corner of 26th and Western at

mixed berries. It was light and creamy and was the perfect capper

Galleria at Park Ridge Mall. The plan was to eat well, pay sparsely

to an inexpensive, fun evening.

and enjoy ourselves in the process. Mission status: accomplished.

Anyone in search of good food and an enjoyable, relaxing atmoWalking in the front door, I noticed the décor of the newly built

sphere will be pleasantly surprised while visiting this new addition

Grille 26 was clean and contemporary. You would have never

to Sioux Falls. All the quality of Minervas at a fraction of the price;

known that Spezia stood in this spot not long ago. Adequate seat-

no tie necessary!

ing for a tad under 200 in the bar and main dining areas combined was higher than I expected, and probably a big part in the short waiting time to be seated.

1716 S. Western Sioux Falls, SD 57105 (605) 444-1716

Once at our table for dinner, dim mood lighting and brown butcher paper as table clothes were the first things to jump out at me as unexpected. Our waitress Tamara was prompt, courteous and

Hours: Mon.-Thurs. 11 a.m. to 11 p.m.

Fri. 11 a.m. to midnight Sat. 9 a.m. to midnight Sun. 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.

attentive. She, like most of the staff, seemed to be in their 20’s and

Non-Smoking Seating: Yes

was buzzing about energetically.

Alcohol: Beer and wine Video Lottery: No

After ordering drinks, we settled in to order the Bruschetta Sampler ($8). It was more than enough to satisfy all four of us while waiting for our main courses. Overall the bruschetta with ingredients like feta cheese, pesto and sun dried tomatoes was very good.

I enjoyed Grille 26’s take on the classic Italian dish.

I ordered the Sassy Pork Tenderloins ($13) as a main course. Raspberry sweet chili glaze over tender pork tenderloins with a side of basmati rice and bok choy. The plate presentation was simple, and the raspberry glaze was a perfect compliment to an above average cut of pork.

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Herbalyzah

SOULCRATE MUSIC pretty random. Everyday things are what it’s about. Anything can inspire a song. It’s hard to pinpoint one thing.

By Hayes Davis Producer Attention Def, Dirt Dee and DJ/ mselves. the Absolution continue to top on tour s act of They have opened for dozens Sioux ble that meander through our hum show the Falls area, consistently stealing te domina the from established crews. They they played a regional hip-hop scene that g with fans huge role in creating, by bondin g live shows through incredibly entertainin blood brother and solid discography. These intelligence MCs weave pain, wit, humor and angements arr bal ver into their stupefying a well of is te seamlessly while Absolu sign of any w sho inventive beats that doesn’t n and tow any in drying up. Drop them off als. loc al loy of they will leave with a legion y Cit sas Kan That became apparent to m the ed sign rapper Mac Lethal when he ords in 2008. to his label, Black Clover Rec s released in Cardboard Cut outs No. 1 wa of their most November and features some e. After a few innovative and best cuts to dat knows that tours, the whole country now to suck. They the opening act doesn’t have g enough to have parked the tour bus lon throw-down set up shop for a hometownrd , the second 23 ril Ap at Nutty’s North on r with Mac tou ” pes stop of the “Off The Ro dline this hea l wil Lethal. Soulcrate Music to be not set a show only, making this missed. r success?

HD: How do you explain you

UPCOMING EVENTS WITH PEPPER ENTERTAINMENT April 1 Earshot with Pale, Core, AndRemote All Ages - $10 ñ 7 pm April 4 Tombs with Old Ironside, Worst of Times All Ages - $6 ñ 6 pm Toby Kane Band with Bitter Root 18+ - $5 ñ 10 pm April 10 Heiruspecs with Dessa Darling of Doomtree, Trey Lane, Truth and Adapt 18+ $8 ñ 8 pm April 11 Peelander-Z (Japanese Action Comic Punk Band), more TBA All Ages - $7 ñ 7 pm

HD: Black Clover helped get you on the road. Is it like a vacation or is it still work?

Attn: Def: The reason we’ve had success, I think, is how hard we work at it, real ly. Any success comes from getting toge ther and practicing five nights a week for seve n years.

We are always working ... always.

We are constantly thinking about different ways to record or little things that will improve the live show.

Attn: Def: It’s not vacation, but itís better than work! Touring is super fun. What I like most is the challenge of getting up there and making it happen night after night. Touring is the absolute only way to develop a fan base. I enjoy trying to win over a crowd. We never treat any audience like they are any less than us.

Absolute: To get a reaction is the goal.

Just acting like regular people on stage helps us out. We don’t have an attitude.

Absolute: Whether it’s recording or practicing a live set, or even talking about it, it never really ends.

HD: That’s what I have always liked about you guys. Does your Midwest upbringing have anything to with it?

Attn: Def: Also, I’ve always said that some of the longevity we have comes from me and Danny being brothers. There have probably been some times when if we weren’t brothers, we would have been, like...

Attn: Def: We go out there and embrace the fact that we are from Sioux Falls, South Dakota. It’s the first thing we say.

It’s almost like audiences like our music more because it shouldn’t be.

Absolute: We’re done!

Attn: Def: We can never split up. The re’s no way around it, me and my brother are always going to be together, so we are forced to work through any hard times.

HD: What else inspires you to keep goin g?

Absolute: I find myself getting insp ired by other people’s hard work. If I see someone working hard and doing something well, I respect that and it make me want to work just as hard.

Attn: Def: As far as inspiration for songs, it’s April 14 Jucifer with Rifflord, South Mouth and Fatal Imbalance 18+ - $8 ñ 8 pm April 15 Starfucker with Kuroma, The Smoke & Mirrors Band, A Ghost Wood Calm 18+ - $8 ñ 9 pm April 17 Liquid Thin with more TBA 18+ - $7 ñ 9 pm

April 20 The Lunar Funk Theory, more TBA All Ages ñ 7 pm $7 in advance, $10 day of show April 23 Soulcrate Music with Mac Lethal 18+ - 9 pm $10 in advance, $12 day of show April 24 Drift Effect with The Kickback, Far from Falling 18+ - $7 ñ 10 pm April 25 Burlap Wolfking CD Release with more TBA 18+ - $7 ñ 9 pm April 30 The Industrial Arts Tour, with Paulie Rhyme, Brutal & Kash, Nyte & Ant 18+ - $8 ñ 9 pm

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G e t I n v o l v e d !: Camp Friendship

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n the Black Hills of South Dakota, there is a unique place called Camp Friendship. The camp, created in 1974, is held every summer at Camp Kinship (originally Camp Paha Sapa) and caters to individuals with physical and developmental disabilities.

Kristi Berg is the current director

teens start out as a Program Aides (PA). Each PA is assigned to a handicapped person for the duration of the camp, and is there to assist and care for them during activities like swimming, arts and crafts, singing, campfires, fishing, water balloons, and performing skits, while also becoming close friends. The camp is divided into three sessions of three days and two overnights.

There are also positions as a Leader in Training (LIT) and a Unit Leader, who are the older staffers there to watch over the PA staff. The three days prior to the first session, there are training sessions for those without experience with individuals with disabilities.

Friendly Fire- Volunteers and campers gather around a camp fire during a session at Camp Friendship Camp Friendship works held in the Black Hills. with the Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, and have worked and says the staff is made up 100 with the Rapid City and South percent with volunteers between the Dakota Jaycees for fundraising ages o f 13 to 25.

Hannah Ackerly is going into her seventh year this summer as a Camp Friendship staffer. “It’s my favorite,” says Ackerly.

Most of the younger staff members in their

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throughout the year. Some events include the Camp Friendship Dance in March, which Ackerly says they are hoping to increase to several times a year, and the Broncos basketball game (April 17 at Central High School, 7p.m.).

Ackerly says a lot of people don’t realize how special individuals with disabilities are. According to Ackerly, “They don’t realize their capabilities and just how fun they are.”

Registration begins this month.

Forms can be found at campfriendship.com. The price to apply is $20 to join the Boy Scouts for insurance purposes.

If you are unable to volunteer, check out their website to see how you can contribute through money or supplies donations.

Life The

: Cohabitating

BY JAMIE BULIAN ILLUSTRATION BY KIEL MUTSCHELKNAUS

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n 1970, there were 500,000 cohabitating couples in the United States. Estimates from the 2000 census indicated that there were over 5 million cohabitating couples in the United States.

This statistic emphasizes the growing trend of cohabitation, or, couples living together out of wed-lock, over the last 30 to 40 years. With people prolonging their education and society expressing the need for gender equality and individuality, American culture is becoming more accepting of delayed marriages and couples sharing living quarters before they are actually married.

Traci Ellis, 21, is one adult who is accepting of cohabitation and plans to move in with her boyfriend. Ellis said she thinks it is crucial to live with your partner before actually tying the knot.

“I definitely plan to live with my boyfriend

before we are married, if that is the case,” Ellis said. “I feel like I would need to find out a person’s habits and tendencies before I decided to commit my entire life to them.”

The idea of living together before marriage is viewed positively by several young adults, including one 22-year-old female who said if her parents would have lived together before they were married, they may not have gotten a divorce.

“It is the only way to truly get to know what daily life with your partner is going to be like,” she said.

Though several individuals expressed optimistic views about cohabitation, several studies have indicated living together before marriage eventually contributes to marital instability, poor marital quality and divorce. Research studies have also found that the longer a couple lives together before marriage, the greater likelihood they will get divorced.

Why might this be?

The Journal of Marriage and the Family reports that spouses who cohabitate before marriage report lower levels of commitment to marriage as an institution. The journal also says that overall, cohabitators’ have more liberal divorce attitudes, which can contribute to a low level of relationship quality.

One 23-year-old female, who is aware of the statistics, expressed strong negative feelings toward cohabitation.

“I have heard the statistics about living together and divorce, and they scare me too much to take that chance,” she said.

“Plus, my parents never lived together before marriage and most likely would not approve of the idea.”

Beside just the fears of potential divorce, one 21-year-old female said it’s the invasion of her personal space that causes her negative feelings toward cohabitation.

“I suppose it would eventually happen when I get married someday, but I want to prolong living with someone as long as possible,” she said. “I am so used to living one way and changing that right now would be very difficult.”

While many people were firm in their feelings about cohabitating before marriage, some said living together can have both strengths and weaknesses.

One 27-year-old male said living together is okay in the right circumstances.

“If the two people are mature enough to handle it, and if it is necessary and convenient for financial reasons, then I don’t see the harm in moving in together,” he said.

“Also, if you move to different locations and can’t survive a long-distance relationship, it’s probably worth cohabitating to save the relationship.”

So, to cohabitate or not to cohabitate?

Although sociology professors teach students that couples who live together before marriage have a 50 percent change of getting a divorce, not everyone is buying it. The research is still inconclusive and doesn’t provide a clear-cut answer.

Are you going to believe the numbers?

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Empire Bowl

by Rachel Palmer photos by Rob Specht

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he game of bowling has been satirized by cult-classic films from Kingpin to The Big Lebowski, and this may be rightfully so. However, bowling need not only be fun for the fowl-mouthed, greasy middle-aged men of America’s Midwest. Empire Bowl, conveniently located off of Sioux Falls’ bustling 41st St. near the Empire Mall, provides a fresh, clean atmosphere where the young (and the young at heart) can enjoy this classic sport.

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Some historians actually believe that bowling may be one of the world’s oldest sports, dating back to 3200 BC Egypt.

Today, over 100 million people spanning at least 90 countries head out to the local lanes to relieve stress and knock down some pins. From casual amateurs to lucrative professionals, bowling offers a little something for everyone.

Bowling became most popular in the United States in the 1950’s, when color television became king and NBC began to

first broadcast “Championship Bowling.”

The masses were pleased, and the bowling alley soon became the “hip” teenage hang-out around the country. Times have changed a bit since then (in more ways than one), and most young adults these days pass up bowling for trips to the movie theater, nights at the coffee shop or afternoons of shopping.

Empire Bowl, however, should not be overlooked. Potential bowlers need only pay 2 dollars per pair of shoes and 3 dollars per game during open bowling hours. It is possible to spend hours at the bowling alley socializing and enjoying a bit of physical activity for the price of one movie these days.

Also, Empire Bowl offers Cosmic Bowling for those latenight Fridays and Saturdays.

The lights go out, the pins light up, and that 50’s “mom and pap” bowling

alley soon takes on a very different mood.

Empire Bowl is also unique in that during Cosmic Bowling shifts, eight plasma televisions connect to the Brunswick satellite network and broadcast music videos ranging from the 50’s to today. There’s nothing like a little Buddy Holly or Elvis to put a spin on a black light atmosphere.

Bowling for a couple of hours is sure to make a group of friends hungry, so Empire Bowl offers everything from the bowling alley standards—French fries, mozzarella sticks, pizza—to home-style grub such as chili, chicken strips, and ham & cheese sandwiches. They’ve also got dessert covered with cookies, ice cream and cake.

For those who are 21 or over, Empire Bowl’s lounge may also add some fun to your evening or afternoon. Happy Hour is from 5:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m., seven days a week, and the staff will special order any wine or champagne of your choice.

Whether or not I’ve convinced you that bowling is cool again, hopefully you will mix things up the next time you and your friends find yourselves bored. If the cheap prices, the Cosmic wonder or the tasty food don’t draw you in, hopefully the fact that bowling is a truly “American tradition” will.

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“Kickin’Back”

with the

THE KICKBACK

Photos by Reistroffer Design

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the guys from one the area’s best bands chat DIY, innovation, and, of course, Will Smith

Story by Denise DePaolo

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outh Dakota natives The Kickback formed like so many bands before them- at college. After lineup changes caused by all of the inevitable complications that result from being students, the band has settled into their current lineup with no intentions of looking back. I sat down over coffee with guitarists Billy Yost and Cody Raterman to discuss the ins and outs of their band and what it is like to give it a go in the Sioux Falls music scene.

How would you describe the music that your band plays?

CR: Sparkle-motion.

Billy: Probably rock ‘n roll, but it’s not what you’d hear on KRRO, so I guess you’d call it

“alternative rock,” or indie rock…or there’s some electronic elements to it as well…

What types of music did you grow up listening to around the house?

Cody: Will Smith and Hanson. That’s what I grew up on.

Billy: I grew up on oldies. It’s what my mom would play in the car.

Was there any specific musical influence in your life that made you want to make music?

Billy: None that I’d feel comfortable talking about…

Cody: Probably Billy. I was a big fan of the original Kickback. I’d go to their shows, tap my toes, nod my head, and wish that I could be in the band, and then… it happened!

Were you friends with them before?

Billy: Yeah.

Cody: Well, kinda.

Billy: We all kind of knew each other before…

Cody: Through the radio…

Billy: Yeah, the drummer and I had a nighttime radio show in Vermillion that all of the college kids would listen to. We were making demands of the listeners to bring us stuff, and we demanded coffee. And Cody shows up - we didn’t think anyone would actually come- but Cody brought coffee.

Match made in heaven.

Cody: We’ve been BFF ever since.

Do you guys still live in Vermillion?

Billy: Zach and Danny are up here, I’m in Beresford, Cody’s in Vermillion.

You guys practice here in Sioux Falls?

How do you manage that?

Billy: We practice twice a week. Of any band I know, I think we practice the most, and we’re having a having a contest called “Heat the Kickback’s Practice Space.”

Cody. Yeah! We’ll give out a prize like coupons for free backrubs from the band to anyone who can bring us a spare space heater.

Have you guys toured at all?

Billy: Yeah. We did three this last year. Zach set up all of the shows we did. I think it was 165.

Have you gotten all of the way out to the coasts? ls/Guitar

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Billy: Yeah. We were out for two months last summer.

Cody: We went to Texas…

Billy: We did a giant circle, but we didn’t make it out to the coasts on that one. But in December we did Texas again and went down into Florida.

Did you guys play mostly clubs or house shows?

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Zach Verdorn

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Cody: On the last tour, we fortunately, finally got to play in some of the places that you want to play. It’s a very DIY mentality.

Zach books all of the shows. We’re just trying to build up a fan base of people who know us.

We play a rock show. We break strings, bloody our knuckles, we have fun. It feels like an exorcism of sorts, at least for me. - Vocalist/Guitarist Billy Yost Do you guys have a van that you tour in, or do you rent one?

Cody: We’ve got a van, but she’s been on three tours. I don’t know if she’ll make it on another one.

Does she have a name?

Cody: The S.S. NAMBLA Billy: Noah the Whale Cody: Yeah, that’s probably more appropriate.

Billy: It looks like a van that a child predator would drive.

Tour vans tend to look like that, unless you’re signed to a big enough label to afford a new one.

Cody: Yeah, and most van nicknames that you hear aren’t the most…

tough. It’s a tough crowd. I don’t know if it’s that everyone’s focused on a certain genre of music, that is, if a certain genre of music is more popular here, like metal.

Billy: I just wish that people could be a little more welcoming to new music. I have older brothers who all played music in Sioux Falls at some time, and I always hear about how fun it

if you’re not a band with a million loyal fans, that you’re not going to be able to afford that. We talk about this a lot. How it is probably the worst time in musical history to be trying to make a go of it as a rock ‘n roll band. The economy’s weird, and there are ever-shifting technologies, with downloading and whatever. I think that we’re in the dark. At this point, we just want to get as much new music out as possible for people to hear.

So basically, you’re not planning on making a living off of this?

Cody: Not right now, but I wish I could. I would love that more than anything, but we’re not even in the ballpark of that being a possibility. Even if we lived together in a single room, I don’t think that could happen.

Family-friendly?

Both: Yeah.

What do you guys think that Sioux Falls can do as a musical community to improve? How do you think that we can make it a place where bands want to stay and where they want to come and play when they are out on the road?

Cody: Have a venue that’s not reliant on the bars.

Billy: That’s the toughest thing. If you want to have new music constantly coming in, if you want to have a real scene, you can’t do that when people are worried about selling stuff. Certain venues won’t let you play if you don’t have a CD made, or if you don’t have a fan base, it’s tough to get a show.

We don’t have that problem, because we’re from here and have played in town multiple times…

Cody: But we still struggle. We play in Vermillion and it’s tough. Even up here it’s

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used to be and how welcoming and how bands supported each other. It’s just not like that anymore.

There used to be a lot more basement shows and shows in garages.

Billy: Exactly. Outside of the bar scene. We will play just about anywhere as long as people are going to have fun.

Are there any bands that you look at their business model, if you will, and say to yourself that you wish your band could operate like them?

Billy: Radiohead put a record out for free and let people pay what they wanted for it, but one criticism of that has been that

, Danny Yost, C ody Raterman

Can you name a few bands that you like? Obviously, no one wants to say, “we sound like this band,” but it may give us some frame of reference for what is influencing you.

Billy: Radiohead. They’re my favorite band.

Cody: I have horrible taste, [bassist] Zach [Verdorn] has even worse taste, and that leaves Billy and [drummer] Danny [Yost].

I like this obscure, Norwegian death-punk band Turbonegro…

They’re awesome. Apocalypse Dudes is one of the best albums ever.

Cody: Exactly! That’s what I shaved my face

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Billy: Zach loves Prince and ska music…

Cody: Bad ska music.

Billy: That’s a judgment.

Cody: Well, then I judge people.

Billy: I like early 90’s music. Danny loves Jawbreaker and Jets to Brazil. I love the Strokes and Iggy Pop. We also like electronic music. One thing that we’ve been talking about is making our records and our live shows two separate entities.

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into the studio, especially when you’re trying to incorporate electronic or ambient elements. So I think that we are going to start recording two versions of every song. We’ll have the raw sort of rock version and then the more thought-out, planned-out version.

It’s horrible to hear a record you really like, then when you go and see the bad and it’s not the same, and it’s so hard to incorporate all of our weird influences into our music at once. I think that we need to give our songs a few different looks. When you’re listening to the Replacements and Ryuichi Sakomoto- this Japanese electronic artist- and you’re still working on a song, and you want to incorporate the love of both of those into what you’re doing. It’s hard.

Cody: Sometimes it works really well.

The Kickback’s full-length album, A New History, is available on In a Nutshell Records. They will be giving out copies of their new single at upcoming appearances, including their show at Nutty’s North in Sioux Falls on April 24th. To order tickets, go to pepperentertianment.com and check out myspace.com/thekickback for more information on the band.

We’ll give out a prize like coupons for free backrubs from the band to anyone who can bring us a spare space heater.

- Guitarist Cody Raterman

REAL deal: the

Jake Peterson

by mary dodson photos by hauschildts’ photography

Hometown: Sioux Falls Age: 25 Specialty: Graphic Design/Web Design

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ake Peterson describes himself as a “serial entrepreneur.”

“I’m always looking to get involved in new projects, or looking to improve on existing products,” Peterson says.

This entrepreneurial spirit moved Peterson to not only found his own business, 5j design, but also to become the chief creative officer of Folded Mayhem, an online t-shirt vendor.

Peterson started 5j design, a graphic/web design firm, in 2005 while still attending the University of Sioux Falls. “It started as more of a hobby—very part-time,” Peterson says.

In May 2008, Peterson’s then-employer helped him to get started with running 5j design as a full-time, independent business.

But before that, in February 2008, Brian Herbert, the CEO of Folded Mayhem, approached Peterson about helping to design t-shirts for the new company. “I had done some design work for him in the past,” says Peterson. “Brian works more on the business side of things than in design.”

Herbert and Peterson set out to create a clothing company that is “environmentally friendly, fair trade, and trendy.” The company is entirely internet-based and the company strives to “maintain a paperless operating system, use recycled and renewable materials whenever possible and to encourage all of our customers to reduce their footprint on the environment.”

The t-shirts they print on are either made in the United States or in overseas factories that have been certified by third parties to meet Fair Trade standards for fair pay and safe working conditions.

Herbert says, “We offer men’s and women’s designs currently, and also offer screen printing services. We support non-profit organizations promoting environmentalism and social justice.”

Being an entrepreneur is both challenging and rewarding.

“Every day is different,” says Peterson. “Every day I learn something new, but I like learning new things.”

While there is some stress involved in being self-employed, Peterson says he enjoys not worrying about keeping his job, setting his own hours and being his own “boss.” Being a young entrepreneur carries its own unique challenge as well. “Having people trust you with their business is a challenge,” Peterson says.

There are also challenges specific to running Folded Mayhem. “A particular challenge is how to get found,” says Peterson.

“Once we’ve paid all our start-up costs, there’s no budget left for advertising.”

The t-shirt company is looking for a particular niche of consumers. “There are few green t-shirt solutions out there, and most of those are expensive,” Peterson explains. “We’re looking for socially-conscious consumers who are also on a budget.”

When not working for either company, Peterson enjoys outdoor activities, such as backpacking or geocaching, a hobby which also fits in well with another interest of his, learning and using new technology.

For more information, check out Folded Mayhem’s website at www.foldedmayhem.com and 5j design’s website at www.5jdesign. com.

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all about the he said, she said bull‌ you get it. Lady Tove and Sir Mammenga are here to cut the middle man and give straight-up answers for relationships from a male and female perspective.

I am literally the only one left of my friends who does not have a boyfriend. Now every time we all hang out they bring their significant others and I just sit there awkwardly. Or, worse, when the boyfriends aren’t around all I hear about is how everyone compares their relationship to the other. Again, I sit there awkwardly. What should I do?

-Megan, 23 T: Megan, you are in a tough spot, and I can sympathize with you. When I was single it seemed all my coupled friends talked about their significant others 87 percent of the time. However, as friends, they also were there for me and listened to my recent escapades, stories and troubles.

While it is frustrating to be the only single one and to feel completely excluded from their more “glamorous� and “loving� lifestyles, it doesn’t mean you have a big red stamp on your head that says “Exclude Me At All Times.� Schedule time with your friends (without the boys) in a social environment. Bowling, shopping or exercising together gives you more to focus on and talk about than relationships, or lack-thereof.

Your friends do need to recognize that you feel left out and try to include you more, but you also need to make the effort to involve yourself. Tell a funny story to get everyone laughing, be more attentive to individual conversations and learn to stop wallowing in your self-pity when you are around your friends. Focusing on your environment and your friendships should

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help you feel less excluded at future social gatherings.

M: This is an easy fix, Megan. Get a boyfriend. Next question, please.

Only kidding, miss. This seems to be a normal problem for people about your age.

¸:K\ LV KH VR VHFUHWLYH" (DV\ KH›V FKHDWLQJ RQ \RX ¸ People start getting into serious relationships, and girls begin to catch the “wedding fever.� So naturally, all these girls want to talk about is their boyfriends. Fortunately, this is not true of all people, which explains your situation. Obviously you are in no rush to get into a relationship, nor should you be. You’re young so there is nothing to rush. My advice would be to take a more active part in the conversation. Don’t stand by idly feeling awkward. Try to run the conversation by bringing up things you want to talk about that will take your friends’ minds off their boyfriends for a bit. Likewise, don’t

let them keep you out of the conversation when you are with them and their boyfriends. Try the same tactic. I’m willing to bet that some of those guys (probably the majority) don’t want to sit around and talk about relationships. So swoop in and save the day by guiding the conversation a different way.

I want to stress again that I was only kidding at the beginning. Don’t be in any rush to hurry up and find a boyfriend. If we hopped into Doc Brown’s time machine, gunned it to 88 mph, and travelled into the future, we would see that you are much better off for taking your time.

There is this girl I have been hanging out with for awhile, and I do enjoy her company. After a couple of weeks she is already on me about being “official� and sometimes mumbles about becoming “official on Facebook.� How can I tell her that I want to still hang out with her, but not jump the gun on this whole “official� business?

-Scared, 21 T: Ok, Scared, it sounds like you know exactly what you want to say: you just said all of it to me in this question.

The problem many couples face is communication. If you can’t get communication right, it will be nearly impossible to get

question, I would need to know what you mean by “hanging out� and “for awhile.�

Since you haven’t clarified, I will assume

caught a glimpse of his inbox, there are always a bunch of pictures of girls talking to him, and it drives me nuts not knowing what they’re saying. Why is he so private, and what can I do?

-Kate, 22

¸0\ VXJJHVWLRQ LV WR WDON WR \RXU QHZ ODG\ DQG JLYH LW WR KHU VWUDLJKW ,I \RX T: Everyone needs a bit of privacy now and again, but it seems this guy is being a NHHS EORZLQJ KHU RII DQG LJQRULQJ KHU little too private. Sure, he shouldn’t have UHTXHVWV WUXVW PH WKDW ZLOO SXVK KHU to hand over his username and password so you can troll through his history, but he DZD\ DQG WXUQ KHU RII IDVWHU WKDQ also shouldn’t make you leave the room or look away when he logs into his social-netDQ\WKLQJ HOVH \RX FRXOG SRVVLEO\ GR ¸ working sites. anything else right. My suggestion is to talk to your new lady and give it to her straight.

I really can’t emphasize enough the importance of being honest. Sure, she wants to make things official, but maybe she thinks you do, too. Until you speak up and tell her you want to take it slow, she will have no idea. If you keep blowing her off and ignoring her requests, trust me, that will push her away and turn her off faster than anything else you could possibly do.

M: To give an accurate answer to this

that you’ve been “hooking up� for “an extended period of time.� So, all this conversation about becoming “official� is her way of clarifying that she is more into you than just a “booty call.� There is no real easy way out of this one. You may have to just bite the bullet and have an old fashioned conversation about it. This way you can lay out where you see this relationship going and she can do the same. Once you’ve done this, you should have an accurate picture of where you are headed and at what pace you are going to get there.

I also want to take this opportunity to offer you a warning: If this is going to get serious, do not underestimate the Facebook thing.

Facebook has a stranglehold on the world. Never underestimate a woman’s scorn if you fail to make a relationship “Facebook official.�

3.) I have been dating this guy for a year now, and the one thing that really gets me is that he is really secretive about Myspace.

Every time he gets on it I have to either leave the room or look the other way because it’s “private.� When I have

As far as I’m concerned, this is a huge red flag. Granted, it is awkward when people read personal messages over your shoulder, and I can understand his discomfort with that, but we are curious beings, and peeking is bound to happen. If you actually, really, truly do see lots of pictures of girls he’s communicating with, and he actually, really, truly wants to hide it from you, I’d say it’s time to call him out and address this odd, inappropriate behavior. If, however, you don’t want to call him out and potentially make him feel a bit uncomfortable for a few minutes, then stop complaining and get over it. My philosophy: don’t complain if you don’t want to fix it.

M: Why is he so secretive? Easy, he’s cheating on you. Or at least that would be my first instinct. I can see his argument, however. These are his personal pages. This could just be a matter of principles. He wants to hang onto his privacy. He’s probably thinking that you are acting a little clingy wanting to be a part of every facet of his life, including his MySpace. Since you have been together for a year now, and you haven’t caught him cheating yet, he probably isn’t. I would just tell you to relax and have a little trust. Also, talk to him about it calmly. Don’t start throwing out allegations right off the bat. Just have him explain why you have to leave the room when he’s checking his pages. Let him know that it is bothering you, and if he does care, he will do what he can to ease your mind. If you stay calm while you are having the conversation and he gets defensive, he has something to hide. If this ends up being the case, this is not a healthy relationship, and you are both wasting your time. Cut your losses and move on. You’ll be happier and he can continue his “MySpace affairs.�

Have a question for Tove and Mammenga?

Email HeSaidSheSaid@605magazine.com

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CREATIVE SOLUTIONS: graduation invitations

By Kiley Barnes Illustration by Holli Rausch

Facebook Event: Create a Facebook event to send to your classmates. Not only will you receive an RSVP, but it will save you money that you can spend on other invites or party necessities.

Parodied Candy Bar Wrapper: Create a clever wrapper

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hether it feels like it or not, graduation is fast-approaching for both high school and college students alike. It’s not too early to start planning, so hash out that guest list, because we’ve got some great ideas for creative invitations!

on the computer to parody HERSHEY’S or another candy bar. A good idea is to somehow incorporate the graduate’s name into the brand. Otherwise, Mr. GoodBar or 100 Grand are safe bets. Instead of the regular nutrition facts printed on the back, print party facts for an unexpected detail. Be sure to print these on a color printer. You can deliver them by hand or send them in a small box, but be sure to take hot weather into consideration.

Customized Soda Bottles: www.jonessoda.com offers a Certificates / Diplomas: Many office supply stores sell

blank certificates or diplomas for businesses and schools to print on. Use them to print invitations and top it off by wrapping a ribbon of your school colors around it. Roll the diploma up and send through the mail in a round carton or hand them Compilation CD: Create a CD with your favorite songs out. or good graduation songs. Include an insert with a photo and short bio of the graduate. You could also include a short “Thank You” section along with his/her plans for the future. (Note: Make sure the songs are appropriate for all listening audiences.) fun new option; you can customize bottle labels with your own personal message. Include a photo of the graduate along with party details, and you’ve got yourself a fun and exciting graduation invite they can’t say no to. Just be prepared to meet their high expectations the time the party rolls around.

Do-It-Yourself: Make them yourself on Adobe® Photoshop® and/or Windows Publisher and print them out on photo paper.

The “Christmas Card” Invitation: Go to Sam’s Club or any other local Super Store you know of that makes Christmas cards. Order cards with a “Christmas” picture with info on the bottom or side. Corniness is welcome.

Scrapbooking Materials: Use scrapbooking materials such as stickers, lettering and different papers to make homemade invitations. Though it may be time-consuming, each invitation will be unique and your invitees will appreciate the extra effort. Or, use a copy machine to print a paper version of your creation.

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Ask The Johns

es, all three of these guys are named John. Yes it was a popular name in the 80’s (I’m sure you feel their pain all you Katies, Michaels and Jessicas). But these three gentlemen, when not slaving away at Worlds of Warcraft, are here to answer every question you throw at them. They’re suave, sort of hip and are here for you.

The identity of these three amigos have been altered to protect the innocent.

Lately I have had things go missing like a few shirts and cash. The other day my iPod went missing, too. I noticed every time something goes missing a certain friend has been over. How do I even bring up that I somewhat suspect him, or should I just keep my mouth shut?

-Sheila, 19 John P: Not many people like confrontation. I would say don’t invite the suspect over anymore. Then you don’t have to bring it up and you don’t get your stuff jacked.

John W: Congrats Sherlock, it sounds like you already know they took your belongings. The only question left is which door to throw them out of. Fire the disrespecting ex-friend out and alert your other friends of ol’ sticky fingers.

John T: Without any sort of hard evidence

you should be careful how you go about handling this.

My rule of thumb is to never assume anything because it only makes an “ass” out of “u” and “me”. But, there are a couple of ways to stop this from happening again. The easiest way would be getting a lock put on your door and keeping your room locked when you are not there.

Another way to avoid having your things stolen is to not have them lying around your room. Keep your cash in your pocket or put it in the bank, never just leave it around. If you are the type of person who has to know whether this person is stealing from you, then you have to catch him/ her in the act. And if that is the case then my words of wisdom are “go go gadget.”

I have been working at the same bar now for a year, and I am about to finally quit. I would stay at my job, but I can’t stand the annoying girls that always come into the bar yelling and singing, and most of the time they end up being rude (nicest way I could put it). How can I deal with them and stay sane at my job?

-Josh, 29 John P: Tell them they are ugly, fat, annoying, or all of the above, which theoretically should turn into some pretty firedup girls. Next comes kicking them out, and after that they wont want to come back. Mission accomplished.

John W: These banshees have ruined many bars across the states. While there is no way to defeat them, you can pursue them to move on to an easier target. Step one: make them uncomfortable; remove all Lady Gaga from the jukebox. Step two: neutralize them by bringing an air horn to work and give them a taste of their own medicine. Step three: change the signs on the door from push to pull, they’ll never figure it out.

John T: A job wouldn’t be called work if it didn’t suck sometimes. No matter what you do or where you work you will always

have to deal with people you don’t like.

If you really enjoy what you do and you want to stay there, then my advice is to accept the fact that you will just have to “deal” with these girls.

My best friend just got pregnant a few months ago. She is the first of my friends to have a baby and, I’m not going to lie, it feels weird. Now that is all she talks about and I feel like we don’t relate anymore. What should I do?

-Janelle, 20 John P: Get pregnant.

John W: Babies ruin everything, don’t they? Tell her that you are going on vacation for the next six to seven months.

After that she’ll be so busy that you won’t even have to worry about hanging out for “diaper talk” time.

John T: Your friend had a baby, and along with that baby came new responsibilities.

Right now her priorities are very different from your own. She has the joy of a new baby and she is obviously very excited about it. The best thing you can do is understand that. Life is constantly changing, for better or worse, and the friendships you value will always be there no matter what.

Have a question for the Johns? Shoot an email their way at TheJohns@605magazine. com.

Disclaimer: Ask the Johns is a sarcastic piece.

Their advice is not meant to be taken literally… except maybe John T’s.

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In the matter of NICK

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f a man’s fist is going to violently mangle another man’s face, we deserve to see it in High Definition. I mean, that’s why we paid $45.99.”

That’s roughly the gist of a conversation between my old man and a cable company phone rep in the opening moments of UFC 96, a recent Pay-Per-View event of the popular Ultimate Fighting Championship series.

Through the majesty of technology and the troubleshooting expertise of some guy named Anthony, UFC 96 would display with remarkable clarity in the welcoming atmosphere of the Kotzea family den. It was then that I realized I must visit home more often. After all, nothing says family like watching some amped up dude trying to reduce his fellow man to a puddle of blood and teeth.

The debate is ongoing, and I’m not about to advocate for either side. All I offer are some meaningless, semi-informed observations.

UFC is essentially the “big leagues” of MMA. But below this elite association are countless smaller circuits filled with hopeful fighters. Between Rapid City, Aberdeen and Sioux Falls, I’ve probably been to a half-dozen MMA events across South Dakota. Talent varies dramatically, with many fights featuring former high school and college wrestlers, some of whom aspire to follow in the footsteps of Brock Lesnar, a UFC superstar and native South Dakotan.

Make no mistake, MMA, at any level, can be brutal. While legitimate MMA fighters are unmistakably skilled, well-trained athletes, spectators, for the most part, don’t attend MMA events to witness technically sound take downs. Fans are unquestionably drawn by the prospect of seeing faces smeared off heads. (As a general proposition, the same could be said figuratively for almost any contact sport. However, I mean it quite literally with MMA.) So who are these people filling bars, packing arenas and paying cable providers $45.99 to watch MMA? It truly ranges from the white collar to the white trash. Most I would consider normal folk simply enjoying a new way to hemorrhage what may or may not be disposable income. Yet, in my experiences hypocritically casting judgment upon the throngs of people who eagerly consume MMA, I have observed certain eye-catching demographics.

To be fair to my father, his role that Saturday night was essentially that of financier.

The true UFC diehard is my brother, Ryan, himself a heavyweight mixed martial arts (MMA) fighter seeking to rise through the ranks of an intensely fierce and competi-

Sprinkled within the flow of predominantly nondescripts are guys about my age who look like custom motorcycle fabricators/XGames participants. Many of them are fighters or associated with fighters. They sport arm and neck tattoos, morose graphic tees, flatbilled hats, and they project this aura that suggests they seriously enjoy all things extreme, including Red Bull, Fiery Habanero Doritos and quite possibly crystal meth.

MMA’s commercial market obviously extends far beyond the nuclear families of aspiring fighters. The scene that Saturday in the Kotzea family den has become a familiar one in households, bars and arenas nationwide. MMA, which is a pleasant euphemism for assaulting someone until he either submits or appears to resemble Oprah without makeup, has exploded in popularity despite lingering controversy surrounding the nature of the sport.

A second noteworthy demographic consists of middle-aged men with sleeveless t-shirts, quasi-mullets and tallboys of light domestic beer. They resemble extras from a Larry the Cable Guy movie.

At times, the spectator experience at MMA fights might aptly be described as simultaneously attending a NASCAR race, motocross event and Fred Durst’s birthday party (circa 1999).

Kotzea tive sport.

There is no debating the fact that MMA is a violent exercise in personal combat – a blend of skill, tactic, strength, stamina and raw aggression. MMA’s detractors have historically likened the brutality to human cockfighting. Some want MMA, which incorporates elements of wrestling, boxing, martial arts and other forms of physical engagement, outlawed entirely.

Conversely, supporters of the sport underscore the skill and training that goes into MMA fighting. They feverishly contend that socially accepted sports, such as boxing, actually present more risks.

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The soundtrack for such an occasion? Pretty dicey. I can say with reasonable certainty that if my brother did not fight, the likelihood of me attending live MMA events would greatly diminish. The noise alone might keep me away. Offered at piercing decibels, some of the hip hop is tolerable, but there is also an unfortunate blend of speed/thrash/screaming metal, a genre of music that invokes visions of a thousand angry gremlins being castrated with dull butter knives. I would not expect acoustic Jason Mraz, but I’m not exactly keen on Satan’s cardio playlist either. Or maybe that’s just the sound testosterone makes when it reaches its saturation point.

Apart from the sheer lameness of occasionally witnessing impromptu, bathroomhallway slugfests, my opinions on MMA generally remain mixed. On one hand, I struggle to dismiss the fact that MMA is an acutely violent sport that glamorizes a level of concentrated human aggression unseen in other organized competition.

On the other hand, doesn’t that make it unequivocally splendid?

I suppose one way to muffle intolerable shrieking is to dull the senses. On that note, let’s crack a cool one and let the dulling begin.

I think most would recognize that alcohol alone does a fine job compelling young men to puff out their chests and strut around bars like General Santa Anna. Imagine the possibilities when those same guys are influenced by images of fearless, modern-day gladiators. Whether inside a bar or at an arena, the MMA culture has truly followed the lead of virtually every major sport, embracing the perfect nectar to keep adrenaline-fueled machismo in check...“Did you just bump into my shoulder, man? Hey, I’m talking to you…”

Apart from the sheer lameness of occasionally witnessing impromptu, bathroom-hallway slugfests, my opinions on MMA generally remain mixed. On one hand, I struggle to dismiss the fact that MMA is an acutely violent sport that glamorizes a level of concentrated human aggression unseen in other organized compe-

tition. On the other hand, doesn’t that make it unequivocally splendid? Surely it would be hypocritical to denounce a sport that has, on multiple occasions, brought me to my feet, where I zealously encourage my sibling to transform an otherwise innocuous facility into a Guantanamo Bay interrogation chamber.

I don’t know, perhaps it is a case of loyalty to my blood rather than a lust for blood. Perhaps not. Either way, I’ll keep watching and supporting. What choice do I have? That’s my blood fighting in that cage…and there’s some of his actual blood…and, ouch, some of that guy’s blood, too.

Nick Kotzea, 27, is a lawyer in Pierre, S.D., and a proud double graduate of the University of South Dakota. He can be reached at Nick.

Kotzea@gmail.com.

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hris Reistroffer remembers growing up in Sioux Falls and being unable to afford senior photos. Now, Reistroffer is one of Sioux Falls’ most popular photographers, and he is determined to provide edgy, high-quality photos to everybody in town— but at a reasonable price.

Reistroffer, who owns Reistroffer Design, describes himself as an “alternative photographer,” whose clientele ranges from “farmers and ranchers to super gothic emo.”

“I enjoy creating something that is not normal and really represents my client,” he says. “I grew up dirt poor in Sioux Falls. I really make it an effort to work with the community and help people who don’t always have the best.

I love that I can do something like that for them, and it’s really kick-ass for them, and

dents to have unique, creative photos. Reit means something to them.”

Reistroffer specializes in wed- istroffer chooses to work out of his home, ding, modeling and event photog- and without having the spendy overhead raphy, but his skills span a much costs of a building, he can keep his prices wider range, from senior photos low and turn those savings over to his cusand family to fine art and land- tomers.

Wedding packages start at $1,400 and top scape. Reistroffer is also the exclusive photographer for Pepper at $2,250. His rates make him an attractive Entertainment, and has captured pick not only locally, but from those outstage acts like 311, David Banner of-state as well. Customers as far away from and Buck Cherry.

Florida have selected him as their wedding “I have a lust for creating im- photographer, choosing to fly him and proages,” Reistroffer says. “I really vide a hotel room to take advantage of his just enjoy working with clients as reasonable prices. a whole. I don’t have a discrepanReistroffer is proud that his low rates, cy. I’m not limited by one type of coupled with his inventive photography, photography.” allow young couples to “truly capture their Jered Johnson, president of love and happiness.”

Pepper Entertainment, says Reis“It’s not important for me as a photogratroffer’s photography “really cap- pher to be popular or trendy, but to genutures what we’re trying to do in inely leave my mark,” he says. “I’m a firm terms of artistic ability.” Reistrof- believer that you don’t get to take your toys fer has been their premier photog- with you, just the good deeds that you did.” rapher for about a year, and Johnson says in the Sioux Falls market, To check out more of his work, visit Reistrofhe’s the most creative, professional ferDesign.com. photographer they’ve had to work with yet.

“His work is definitely out of the box,” Johnson Alex Farmer says. “And the fact that he’s a local, independent entrepreneur is huge for us.

Anyone can go take pictures, but he has his own view, his own spin. He definitely has a creative edge to him, which is huge.”

Now that he has built a reputation as one of Sioux Falls’ most economical and edgy photographers, he has the luxury of turning down clients if he feels he is not the right photographer for them.

“I will decline a really stiff, conservative customer and refer them to one of my peers,” he says. “But for those who like flirty, fun and who are full of life, I’m the photographer for them.”

Reistroffer prices his senior photography starting at $300, and caps it at $600, making it easy for area stu-

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hen Candace Ann Schwab is preparing for a photo shoot, the outgoing photographer does what comes naturally to her— she befriends her clients.

“It’s collaboration on the creative process,” Schwab says. “If I make a friend, and I find out who you are, the images are only going to escalate.

They are going to pop off that piece of paper.”

It’s one of her philosophies that make her Sioux Falls studio, Candace Ann Photography, a hit among the senior market. Schwab targets seniors who are looking for unique, custom portraits that come with a price tag that can be tailored to fit their needs.

Schwab, who has been a photographer for 20 years, views her studio as a boutique— posh and one-of-a-kind. She focuses her attention on the client, and makes their session “all about them.”

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“It’s going to be fun, it’s going to be interesting, and it’s interesting because it’s all about you,” Schwab says. “It’s fun for me because for the next two hours, I get to live my life through you.”

Crista Vande Pol, a senior at Sioux Falls Christian, took her photos at Candace Ann Photography and said Schwab really captured her personality.

“It was such a great experience, I will never forget it,” Vande Pol says. “She made me feel beautiful inside and out. She makes it all your own and all of the pictures are so different.”

Candace Ann Photography, which not only staffs Schwab as the principal photographer, but also includes a graphic designer, marketer and a person who designs clients’ investments, is located at Pinnacle Place and provides services for seniors, families, children, maternity and couples.

Sessions usually run $155 for an hour session for families and children, and between $125 and $250 for seniors.

While senior portrait packages start at $699 and run up to $2,200, the studio accommodates all types of people by allowing clients to purchase their photos individually.

Schwab says she distinguishes herself as a progressive photographer by regularly attending photography workshops and conventions to stay up-to-date on the latest technology and techniques. Candace Ann

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Photography also provides in-house printing, which allows a quick turnaround for clients and custom printing.

Candace Ann Photography hosts an open house every Wednesday, and can be found online at CandaceAnn.com.

Schwab utilizes social networking sites like Facebook, MySpace and Twitter to relay discounts to potential clients. The studio also offers incentive programs for their clients, where they can earn prizes like laptops, iPods and gift certificates for referring other clients.

While photography is her line of business, Schwab says it’s rare that the shoots actually feel like “work.”

“Our style of art is extremely tailored, and that’s what gets us jacked out of our mind,” she says.

“No one session is going to be alike. It’s not about us, it’s about our clients, but we’re having a good time too because they’re beautiful and it’s art.”

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rom the very beginning, Matt Hauschildt knew he wanted his photography studio to focus on his clients and their vision. That’s where Hauschildt says his versatility as a photographer comes into play— he’s able to adapt his style to suit his clients’ needs, and without a spendy price tag.

Hauschildt, who has owned Hauschildt’s Photography in downtown Sioux Falls for the past eight years, says he specializes in people, which ranges from weddings and engagement photos to high school senior photography.

Once a commercial photographer for advertising agencies in Sioux Falls, Hauschildt says he became hooked on catching the right moment after he tried his hand at weddings. He enjoys working with couples

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“I tend to absorb some of the stress of the day, and make it less stressful for the couple,” Hauschildt says. “I don’t dictate their day. It’s their day, not my day. Everything that I do is geared toward making their day easier.”

Gina McCain, a Sioux Falls resident who won a Hauschildt’s Photography package in a contest giveaway, says she was thrilled when she heard Hauschildt would be taking her engagement and wedding photos. McCain and her husband Ryan took their photos at the Great Plains Zoo in Sioux Falls and were “thrilled” with the results.

“He was our first choice,” McCain says.

“He was very easygoing, and was really helpful. He had a lot of good ideas, but also listened to our ideas and incorporated them into his photography.”

Hauschildt says he sets himself apart from other photographers because he is willing to go on location to capture a client’s personality.

“It’s been my catch phrase from the start— ‘We bring the studio to you,’” he says. “I like working with different environments wherever I go.”

McCain says the photos not only looked stunning in the zoo setting, but at the same time, the wedding photos captured the importance of their day.

“He was able to pick the best moments and bring it all together,” McCain says.

“They all turned out really well— it’s been hard to pick the best ones!”

Hauschildt prices his sessions starting at $100 plus tax for single sessions (either in the studio or on location), or the all-inclusive

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double session for $150. As a bonus, Hauschildt provides his clients with a thumbnail catalog on a CD and slideshows for his high school seniors.

Hauschildt makes it a point to offer specials and discounts throughout the year.

Currently, he offers a free engagement sitting with a no-commitment clause for the wedding.

“We’re confident that after working with us, they will make that choice, but they are under no obligation to,” he says.

For high school seniors, Hauschildt offers unique senior portrait parties, where one student can recruit about half a dozen other students to do their sessions at once.

Seniors are offered online previews with no obligation to purchase the portraits.

Hauschildt says he strives to give every client what they are looking for in a session, whether that means going with something traditional or something a bit more creative and edgy.

“I work with them to get what they want,” he says. “If they’re unsure, I help them find what they want in their images. I’m interested in making them look the best that they can, but also being themselves in the process.”

Check out more of his work at hauschildts. com.

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or Rod Evans, photography is not just about snapping photos with high-tech digital equipment, but capturing images that can truly be considered art.

The former art student, who now owns Evans Photography Gallery in downtown Sioux Falls, says his photography is unique because he strives to capture the “whimsical.”

“I want everything to be perfect, but for something a little ‘wrong’ to happen so it’s relaxed and natural,” Evans says. “What I’m looking for is refined and beautiful, but it has a ‘whimsy’ element to it.”

Evans has been a professional photographer for about 14 years, and has been in the Sioux Falls area since 1980. Evans specializes in high school seniors, children and families and couples, and says he can create whatever style of art his clients are looking for.

His prices vary depending on the season, often offering discounts or reduced session fees, but packages start at $150. Evans offers a variety of products, including several high-end items, which include classic painting portraits that fuse art and photography together. These portraits, which he first photographs and then digitally alters them into an painting, then topically embellishes the painting with real oil paints, can run up to several thousand dollars, but result in a highly unique, artistic image.

Evans also offers annual specials to build his personal portfolio, in which people can take advantage of a free session and receive their photos at a discounted rate. Evans is one of 25 photographers from around the world chosen to be a member of the group XXV, so he uses models of all ages to keep his portfolio fresh and cutting-edge.

“We use everybody,” Evans says. “I can always find something that we can use. That’s my job, to find the best in everyone to photograph.”

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High School, says taking her senior pictures turned into a “really fun experience.”

“We started off in the studio, and he had fun music playing, and it made you feel really comfortable there,” she says. “Then we walked around downtown, and he had such cool ideas that just looked a lot cooler than you’d ever expect.”

Evans says he keeps his pricing competitive for the area, and features free digital retouching and makeup services. Senior clients choose him because he can make the sitting “like a fashion shoot.”

“We crank up the tunes, and it’s crazy, it’s fun, it’s just a blast,” he says. “They’re looking for fun, fashionable images that aren’t going to look like anyone else’s. And because of my art background, they’re going to get images that are highly creative and fun.”

Nix knew she would receive one-of-akind photographs, which is one of the primary reasons she chose Evans.

“I’d seen a lot of his pictures before I did my pictures, and I’ve never seen any like mine,” she says. “Even pictures that he takes in the studio, I’ve never seen two that are alike.”

Part of Evans’ creativity can be seen in his unique “Trash the Formal” themed photos, a popular pick among senior girls. The photos don’t necessarily “make sense,” Evans says, but are visually exciting.

“The interesting thing is, when you put opposites together, like a beautiful girl in a beautiful dress in a grungy location, it actually adds interest to the image,” he says.

“I don’t always want things to match together, I want that contrast too,” he says. “I never want you to just walk by an image. I want to create things that will stop you and make you think about the image.”

For more information, visit evanscreativity.com.

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o make her clients feel comfortable during a photo shoot, Cheryl Elbers isn’t afraid to pump up the music and be a little silly. Her studio, imij in Brandon, is all about the experience.

“We try to make it really fun,� Elbers says. “We try to bring out their personality in them by just goofing off. Our philosophy is for our customer to walk away happy, so we try to make sure we do anything possible to make them happy.�

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Elbers has been an owner and photographer of imij since 2001, and moved to her new location in Brandon three years ago, only five miles away from Sioux Falls. Elbers says her studio can do anything— from weddings to senior portraits to commercial agency work.

Elbers’ staff includes a graphic artist, which Elbers says gives her an advantage over many photographers. “Our re-touching is outstanding,� she

says. “We have graphic abilities for design that are unique and fun.�

Elbers’ clients say imij was just the right mix of comfort, creativity and price. Sioux Falls mom Dawn Rames, whose daughter Brittany Hanson used imij for her senior photography, says she would definitely recommend imij to any parent. The family has already gone back for more photos since Brittany’s shoot. “We had checked around and had looked at pictures and liked those best,� Rames says. “We also felt comfortable because Brittany is a girl and the photographer was a woman. We were so impressed that we went back for family pictures as well.�

One of the strengths of the studio was that Elbers never stopped looking for an original place to grab a shot, Rames says. “When we were done with Brittany’s session, we were driving off, and Cheryl stopped the car and said, ‘Look right there!’ and she had found another place to get another shot,� Rames says.

The reasonable rates also grabbed Rames’ attention. Senior sessions start at $100 and cap at $190. Imij’s four senior packages range in price from $500-$1,500.

For weddings, rates range from $2,200 to $5,400, which include hours, the package, an album and online viewing. “We’re definitely not the highest price, but we’re not the lowest priced either,� Elbers says. “Our pricing is competitive and not overpriced for a quality product.�

Rames agrees. “We were very impressed.

It was a reasonable price for the area, and Brittany was thrilled. She really liked them and got all sorts of compliments on them.�

To check out more, go to imijinc.com.

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You would compare your friend to:

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Dodge the bullet 7-10 Points This friend is not good for you. Not only do they not give you the time of day, but they don’t show you respect. You should only be surrounded by people who make you feel good. No one should make you feel unworthy of their time and make you feel bad.

Pump the breaks 4-6 Points Your friend might be, how do you say, a jerk? Or maybe they’re going through a rough patch. Give them a little time, and if they’re doing things that bother you, mention it casually to them. If they’re a good friend, they’ll understand and try to change.

A Keeper 0-3 Points Your friend is a good one and is what a friend should be. They bring out the best in you, make you laugh and are there for you when you need them. They won’t go after the same catch or hook up with your exes. They’ll be there for you to the end.

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verywhere you look these days people are talking about teeth. Yes, teeth.

Thanks to reality shows, like ‘Extreme Makeover’, more people are aware of their smile than ever. We are bombarded with oral care products through TV and magazine ads. Whitening kits are in almost every store, and whitening at a dentist’s office has become very popular. So how do you jump on the wagon and get a healthy, beautiful smile? Sioux Falls dentist Dr. Richard Koch reveals the secret to healthy teeth without taking extreme measures.

The most common oral health problem, Koch says, is gum disease. But preventing gum disease can be simple. He says, “The best way to prevent [gum disease] is basic plaque removal, meaning brushing and flossing.”

Brushing and flossing also prevents tooth decay. Koch recites, “If you sip all day, you get decay.”

Drinking pop (yes, even diet pop) and

HEALTHY, PEARLY WHITES sports drinks cause tooth decay because they are acidic.

The way it works, according to Koch, is the sugar carbohydrates feed the bacteria in the plaque, and the bacteria produces acid, and the acid attacks your teeth and gums.

So, brushing your teeth is very important.

“You should brush your teeth at least twice a day; in the morning and before bed.

When you go to bed, your saliva decreases, and if you don’t remove the plaque before bed, the acid in your mouth from the plaque attacks teeth and gums,” explains Dr. Koch.

It is important to know that bad oral care does not just affect the teeth and gums; it can affect a person’s health in other ways. Koch says, “When bacteria gets into the blood stream, it can help contribute to diabetes, heart disease and low birth rate.”

Chronic inflammation also becomes a problem. He also stresses tobacco really affects the gums by getting a lot more inflammation along with staining teeth. It’s a carcinogenic. Patients also can get oral cancer from smoking.

You should also floss once a day. He recommends one thorough floss in the morning or at night after brushing.

Alcohol can also have a negative effect on oral health. According to Koch, “Studies show that alcohol and smoking together increase oral cancer risk. This applies to chewing tobacco as well.”

Brushing and flossing your teeth regularly has another great benefit. It can also help eliminate bad breath. According to Koch, “Two basic things that cause bad breath is plaque in your mouth and if you have any upper respiratory disease. The best way to get rid of it is brushing and flossing.”

To prevent oral health problems, and to acquire a bright and healthier smile, all you need to do is follow a few basic steps.

Besides brushing and flossing regularly, you should get at least two cleanings a year.

Koch says, “Some people who form a lot of tartar get a cleaning every three months.”

Purchasing a tongue scraper can also help.

One surprising thing that will not help with bad breath, Koch reveals, is mouthwash. But, you can use sugar-free gum because it can lower acid in the mouth and help with funky breath. Also, not smoking contributes to fresh breath.

Even if you are busy, always find time to brush. You should never substitute mouthwash for brushing and flossing. According to Koch, mouthwash is a good adjunct on top of brushing and flossing, but it does not remove plaque, and it only kills certain germs.

Health Koch also suggests using an electric toothbrush, because they clean further than the bristles from a regular toothbrush. Sonicare is one he recommends. Koch says it is good for the teeth, gums and the breath,

plains. For individuals with sensitive teeth, use toothpaste made specifically for that.

If you are one of those people who have healthy teeth and gums but have stains on them, there may be several reasons. Stains are mostly caused by what we ingest.

WHEN YOU GO TO BED, YOUR SALIVA DECREASES, AND IF YOU DON’T REMOVE THE PLAQUE BEFORE BED, THE ACID IN YOUR MOUTH FROM THE PLAQUE ATTACKS TEETH AND GUMS plus it has a two minute timer, which is the length of time you should brush your teeth.

Koch says the kind of toothpaste you should use depends on your teeth. “When gums and teeth are pretty normal, Colgate Total is great because it has an anti-gingivitis ingredient and good fluoride,” he ex-

According to Koch, “Tobacco products, coffee, tea, cola, red wine, and some red Kool-Aid-type juices all can stain the teeth. If you have poor oral care they stain worse, but there are also different medical causes that cause stains on teeth.”

If you have stains on your teeth, try whitening them first. Over-the-counter kits are

safe. Few result in sensitivity, and according to Koch, those it happens to notice it go away over time. Furthermore, they work. For another option, you can get a more intense treatment at your dentist.

The main difference between over-thecounter whitening kits and what you get at a dental office is that bleaching gel is stronger. If whitening does not work, Koch suggests capping your teeth. You can use veneers, and the newest is Recaldent, which is calcium and phosphate with fluoride in it.

The way this works is the dentist will apply acid on the teeth to take away the stained enamel and use the Recaldent to harden the enamel to prevent tooth sensitivity.

Although every individual’s oral care is different, these simple steps are a sure way to get a healthier mouth and a beautiful smile. If you need help finding a dentist, you can go to dentists.com to find one in your area.

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