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Look Hot in the Cold Fun Winter Fashions

Couple Workouts

Exhilarating Team Work

NEW Pepper Entertainment Section

Un -Valentine始s Day Party How to Celebrate Not Celebrating

Sertoma Butterfly House

Romantic Escape

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Missing and Coping

Girl Power

What It始s Like to Wear a Tiara for South Dakota

February 2009 Vol.1 Issue 2

How Can You Change a Life?

mentor a young student, donate used clothes, help an English language learner read a book, lead a scouting troop, educate students about the dangers of alcohol and drugs, deliver meals to older adults, attend a concert with a disabled individual, donate your gently used furniture, help out at an after school program, complete a home repair project for an older adult, assist lo families after a disaster, become an advocate for local an abused or neglected child, tutor an adult learning to read, read books to young children at a local daycare

Learn how you can change a life by visiting www.seuw.org.

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CONTRIBUTORS Kiel Mutschelknaus – Graphic Designer Kiel is originally from Brandon, SD and graduated from Augustana College with an art major and math minor in 2007. He is currently a graphic designer at Fresh Produce, and has been since January 2008. Kiel enjoys creating anything and everything. He hopes to continue working in the visual realm, write and draw an illustrated novel, open a “creative only” subscription shop, become an art professor, and make Sioux Falls the art mecca of the upper Midwest (watch yourself Minneapolis). Kiel also “curates” a local arts blog called Graphic Content at: desktopsoil.typepad.com/graphic_content Wanting to experiment with illustrating, Kiel shows just what he’s made of with his amazing artwork for Denise’s un-Valentine’s Day party article in this issue.

Rachel Palmer – Writer Rachel grew up near the Black Hills in Rapid City and is a South Dakota native.

She is currently attending the University of South Dakota and is in the process of earning a degree in English education with a minor in music. As cliché as it may sound, Rachel has a passion for reading and writing—creative writing in particular.

She enjoys tutoring students at Vermillion Middle School and volunteering at the W.H. Over Museum. For fun, Rachel loves to go on road trips and see her favorite bands and musicians live. In the future, Rachel hopes to become a secondary English teacher and keep herself busy as a freelance writer.

Rachel features the romantic Sertoma Butterfly House for Why Don’t Ya Do Somethin’ this month.

Mary Dodson - Writer Mary is 28 years old and grew up in Spearfish, SD. She graduated from Northern State University in Aberdeen, SD in 2004 with a bachelor’s degree in English and a minor in theatre. At NSU, Mary’s significant accomplishments included having poetry and a humorous sketch published in the Shelterbelt literary magazine, performing in ten main stage theatrical performances and winning three acting awards. In December 2008, she received her master’s degree in English literature from the University of South Dakota.

This month Mary gives a look at photographer Nick Hruby’s works in The Real Deal.

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Sabina Mustic– Writer Sabina graduated from the University of South Dakota in May 2008 with a degree in English and German.She enjoys writing because it gives her satisfaction when she knows she worked hard and created something worth reading. Some of Sabina’s hobbies include reading, spending time with family and friends, traveling, and shopping. Sabina plans to attend graduate school sometime in the near future to get a master’s degree in library science.

Check out Sabina’s article on the benefits of yoga in this month’s Health Section.

Denise DePaolo Denise is from Sioux Falls and graduated from Washington High School in 2001.

Since then, she has lived in Gainesville, Florida and traveled extensively. She and her husband Tony moved back to Sioux Falls in 2008. She is finishing up her English degree at the University of South Dakota and works as a bartender on weekends.

Denise hopes to one day write for a living, but making drinks is a pretty cool job for now. She like adventures, jokes and going to punk rock shows.

Denise describes how to throw an un-Valentine’s Day party this month.

Jamie Bulian– Writer Jamie is a 21-year-old senior at the University of South Dakota from Yankton. She is graduating in May with a major in communication studies and minors in both contemporary media and journalism and Spanish. Jamie is very involved with the university newspaper and the university weekly newscast. After graduation, Jamie plans to pursue a career in either advertising/marketing or public relations. In her spare time, she loves to run, read, watch movies, and spend time with family and friends.

This month Jamie delves into coping with the death of a friend in The Scoop.

Cori Albers – Writer/Master Chef Cori is originally from Sioux Falls and attended Lincoln High School. When she is not at the University Center studying history, she is with her husband Brett or experimenting with cooking, which she is very passionate about. Cori currently works at Hy-Vee Wine and Spirits and hosts cooking classes at the Hy-Vee Club Room. Cori is extremely excited for this summer when she will study in Greece.

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CONTENTS

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Reviews and Recommmendations 6

February Event Calendar

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Beyond Borders: Book Reviews

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A Taste of Sarcasm

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Pepper Entertainment: Tapes ‘n’ Tapes, Interviews and Upcoming Shows

Life, Love and Laughter 14

COVER: Miss South Dakota USA Jessica Rowell and Miss South Dakota Teen USA Fallyn Patterson

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Why Don’t Ya Do Somethin’?: Sertoma Butterfly House

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The Scoop: Coping With the Death of a Friend

21 The Real Deal: Nick Hruby 22

He Said, She Said...

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Incredible Eats: Easy and Affordable Dinner

“PEOPLE SHOULD DEFINITELY KNOW THAT WE DON’T SAY ‘WORLD PEACE’ EVER...”

- Miss South Dakota Teen USA Fallyn Patterson, page 14

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Ask the Johns

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In the Matter of Nick Kotzea...

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How to Throw an Un-Valentine’s Day Party

31 Quiz: Are You in a Healthy Relationship?

Fashion and Beauty

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32 What Chu Need 34 What’s Boss/Get Lost 35 Fashion: Look Hot When It’s Cold 40 Romantic Makeup: Simple Tips For Radiance

Correction In the January edition’s A Taste of Sarcasm, it was stated that Philadelphia Rolls typically

Fitness and Health

have tuna in them. Philadelphia Rolls actually have smoked salmon, and that is also

41 Couple Workouts

how the restaurant Tokyo prepares them.

44 Yoga: Improve the Body and Mind

Poll of the Month

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Check our official website for next month’s poll and be part of the next issue!

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Feb. 3, 11

Feb. 6, 11, 21, 28

Flight Room Yoga

Skyforce Home Games

8:30 a.m. to 9:30 a.m.

7 p.m.

Sertoma Butterfly House. Yoga instructor Jill Johnson offers Beginning Yoga classes to SBH members. The Augustana Choir and The Cost is $15 plus tax. Call to regis- Augustana Band Home Concert ter: (605) 334-9466. Visit www.ser- Washington Pavilion. The grand tomabutterflyhouse.org for more finale of the concert has both the information band and choir join to perform repertoire of their regional tours.

Admission $12 for adults. For more information call: (605) 274-5320 or Stampede Home Games visit www.augietickets.com.

Feb. 8

Feb. 4, 13, 14, 18, 25, 27 7:05 p.m.

Feb. 6 Little Black Dress for MS Champagne Luncheon and Fashion Show

Feb. 10 Valentine’s Day Cooking Class 5:30 p.m.

Kitchen Store on Tenth. Have fun sampling recipes and beverages as 11:30 a.m. well as receiving a discount coupon Best Western Ramkota Hotel. The to the Kitchen Store for Valentine’s National Sclerosis Society; pre- Day. Cost for class is $20 plus tax. sented by EMD Serono. National Call Michele Schuldt for more incycling champion and woman with formation: (605) 335-1999 or visit MS Maureen Manley is the guest www.KitchenStoreOn Tenth.com. speaker. Ladies, wear your favorite little black dress to represent your commitment to end the devastating effects of multiple sclerosis, Plaza Suite and enjoy a meal, fashion show and Friday and Saturday 8 p.m. a thought-provoking speech. For Sundays 2 p.m. more information call Janey Case: Orpheum Theater. Neil Simon’s (605) 336-7017 or check out www. comedy about three couples who littleblackdressforMS.org. stay at New York’s Plaza Hotel is a great way to spend a night out with

Feb. 13, 14, 15, 20, 21, 22, 27, 28

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friends or for date night and is sure to keep you laughing. Admission runs $13. For more information call: (605) 360-4800 or visit www. mysect.org.

Feb. 14 Valentine’s Day Bash 7:30 p.m.

El Riad Shrine Center. The 12th Annual Valentine’s Bash features the Johnny Holm Band and is hosting one memorable party. This tends to sell out, so get your tickets soon.

Admission is $15 and can be purchased at the El Riad Shrine or any Lewis Drug locations. For more information call: (605) 336-1117 or visit www.elriad.com .

Feb. 19 To Kill a Mockingbird 7 p.m.

Washington Pavilion.

Montana Repertory Theater presents a classic play. For more information call: (605) 367-6000 or visit www.washingtonpavilion.org.

Feb. 20, 27 Flight Room Tai-Chi 8:30 a.m. to 9:30 a.m.

Sertoma Butterfly House. Instructor Kim Kersbergen teaches meditative exercises to increase the body’s range of motion, reduce stress and improve balance and posture. Cost

is $15 plus tax. Call to register: (605)334-9466. Visit www.sertomabutterflyhouse.org for more information.

Feb 24.

South Dakota BIG Job Fair 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Sioux Falls Convention Center.

Check out “The upper Midwest’s most successful job fair” if you are looking for a career or internship opportunities. Visit getgrads.com for more information.

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Mark Lloyd gets all the book perks working at Borders. Our perk? We get the skinny about upcoming books ahead of everyone else.

The Weird Rolls On....

In his latest book entitled Man in the Dark, Paul Auster introduces us to August Brill, a 72-year- old literary agent who has recently been in a car crash that shattered his leg.

On top of that, his wife just died of cancer.

On top of that, his daughter just got divorced.

On top of that, his granddaughter’s husband was recently murdered by decapitation.

Needless to say, August Brill has a lot going on, and can’t sleep. So, in order Man in the Dark to get through the nights, he tells stories in his head. On

By Paul Auster this particular night, he tells the story of a man named Owen Brick.

One night, Owen Brick is taken from his bed in New York and dumped into a parallel reality.

In this reality, the United States isn’t fighting any wars abroad.

In this reality, the Twin Towers didn’t fall. In this reality, 16 states seceded from the Union after the 2000 election. New York City has

been thoroughly bombed by the Federals. Tens of thousands of Americans are dying.

And here’s the kicker. Owen is told that he alone can stop

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They must come to enjoy life’s simple and ordinary pleasures in the face of such bleakness. Because, as August Brill says many times throughout the book, “the weird world rolls on.”

What to Watch for in February: Fool

By Christopher Moore

Christopher Moore takes on Shakespeare in this story of the king’s fool trying to clean up after King Lear. I know that sounds really strange, but it is Christopher Moore.

He’s always entertaining.

This is the true story of a child conscripted into the Sudanese army durBy Emmanuel Jal ing a civil war who survives to become a hip hop artist in Africa. Seriously. If you read this book in a café, people will think you’re smart and cool on so many levels.

War Child: A Child Soldier’s Story

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a bit heavier. The white is sweeter and lighter, and before you start going all Socrates on the differences of these two, the food lands, and you are in business mode.

The enchiladas are both phenomenal,

re you dining for one on Valentine’s Day? Do you like Mexican food?

More specifically, do you like enchiladas? Much like a designated hitter in baseball does not field and is there specifically to hit the ball far, Mama’s Ladas focuses on just making killer enchiladas. With a primarily ‘one item menu,’ you would figure that a restaurant might not last. Seven and a half years later, owner Jayme Zea is making an art out of proving everyone wrong.

covered in sour cream, full-

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If I ever do snag ‘the one’ maybe Mexican isn’t bad date food after all

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fresh lettuce, and glorious cheese. Inside— as expected—is the escape you have been looking for all night with juicy chicken and tender beef. Off to the side, you notice your guacamole is feeling a little neglected, and you decide to destroy it with your side of tortilla chips. Lastly, you round out the meal with some of the most unique salsa you have had in… well… ever. The secret recipe is a secret, so all you can tell is that there are big chunks of tomatoes, olives, mushrooms, and the rest is a mystery.

Picture this: It’s February 14th, and you’re strolling down Phillips Avenue downtown cursing the existence of every couple that canoodles their way past you.

This has not been your year with the ladies/gents. You start to feel

Mama’s Ladas, located downtown that deep burning in your stomach— rage? No, you’re just hungry. Thinking quickly, you dash up to 116 W. 11th Street, away from the large couple-saturated restaurants to a small, inviting spot. Mama’s Ladas welcomes you, and you prepare to dig in.

The bill comes, and it’s cheap! You wrap up, walk out the door into Inside it is dim, quaint and cozy. Alicia hands you a menu, and it

the waiting arms of a cab, and think to yourself, “If I ever do snag

is the easiest decision you will have made all week.

‘the one,’ maybe Mexican isn’t bad date food after all?”

“I’ll have two enchiladas; one chicken and one beef, a side of guacamole, and two glasses of sangria, one red, and one white.”

Who says one person can’t dine for two? Rachel from the back checks your I.D., then pours you two glasses of awesome. The red

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TAPES ‘N TAPES Minnesota natives and XL Recordings artists add Sioux Falls date to headlining tour.

Tapes ‘N Tapes formed in 2004 in Northfield, MN. After self-releasing their debut EP and the follow up full-length, The Loon, in 2005, the band started getting widespread press on internet blogs and review websites praising the virtually unknown indie rock band.

“When we started this band, we never had major goals, we just wanted to have fun,” says lead singer/ guitarist Josh Grier.

“It’s great to

be able to put out records and tour. Everytime something new happens, we appreciate it and feel very fortunate.”

By 2006 the band signed to XL Recordings (Radiohead, Sigur Ros, White Stripes), reissued The Loon on the label, replaced their original bass player with Yankton, SD native Erik Appelwick, formerly of the band The Hopefuls, and made a n appearance on The Late Show With David Letterman.

The band released their sophomore album, Walk It Off (which was recorded and produced by Dave Fridmann -The Flaming Lips, Weezer, Phantom Planet) at the end of 2007 to widespread praise from Internet bloggers, to publications like Spin Magazine, Maxim, and The New York Times, to name a few. “[Feedback on the album] has been really good so far,” says Grier. “We are all happy with the way it came out

LIVE AT NUTTY’S NORTH With Special Guests: Wild Light, We All Have Hooks For Hands, The Coltcockers Thursday, February 5, 2009 Doors: 8 PM | Music: 9 PM | 18+

and that’s really important to us.”

In 2007, the band landed a spot on the Coachella Valley Music and Arts Festival, alongside Rage Against The Machine and Red Hot Chili Peppers.

The band spent all of 2008 touring behind the release and they are kicking off 2009 with a two-month headlining tour with openers Wild Light, which includes the Sioux Falls date.

AN INTERVIEW WITH BURLAP

WOLF KING

BY HAYES DAVIS

On Burlap Wolf King’s MySpace page, he compares his sound to flannel, facial hair, leather, denim, turquoise, corduroy, blood stone, beads, silver, etc. Although nothing listed is known for making any sound at all - except maybe for corduroy - I totally get it. BWK evokes the sense of the timeless spirit that has flowed through humanity for centuries. Their performce has a bit of the same effect, reminding the listener of history, passion, and beauty, among other intangible universal truths.

Local singer/songwriter Thomas Hentges created this musical outlet for himself following the 2008 dissolution of the well loved yet short lived band Quaker City Night Hawks. His solo career has been launched, but not without help from his friends in The Smoke & Mirrors Band, who accompany him on most occasions. When playing alone, however, BWK is still able to impress audiences with nothing but his guitar, soulful voice and thoughtful lyrics. They are recording the debut album right now, and the release party is slated for April 25th at Nutty’s North.

Describe how and when you became involved in music?

As long as I can remember I have been almost obsessed with music.

Ever since elementary school I remember hearing music and associating it with my life. It was always some kind of soundtrack to what was going on. Immediately, you know, I was drawn to it.

There wasn’t a lot of music played in my home, which is strange to think about, but if it was the weekend and my dad was cleaning or something, he would bust the vinyl out. That was probably my first introduction to music. I also played trombone in band growing up, so there was also that whole side to it, too. I had a desire to play in rock bands from when I was in eighth grade. I really got into the Beatles and decided I wanted to play guitar. At that age, everyone’s trying to figure out which direction they are going to head, and I was pretty much done with athletics at that point, so I started playing music and became a musician. Throughout high school I played in a couple bands.

Maybe every once in a while you get to play out of town. It was a big deal if you ever got to go anywhere. I remember one time we did Elk Point on a Friday, Sioux Falls the next day, and then Parker on Sunday. That was funny.

Do three stops make a tour?

(Laughs) It was definitely something.

How have you evolved since then?

When I sang for Nodes of Ranvier, that was my first dip into the whole industry part of it all. We just started like any other band. We worked hard, and all of a sudden, some guy was sending us emails and wanted to put up the record that we recorded. From that point on that changed where that band was coming from, and eventually, for me, the business side of it killed off my interest in the whole scene and some of the people involved in it. I went for several years without doing anything and never even thinking I was going to play music. I messed around with a guitar, but I was never even remotely serious about it. But, for whatever reason, four or five years ago I just decided that I wanted to put something out that represented me more than anything I had done in the past. I figured

the first thing I would have to do is be the person who wrote the stuff. I’d say my music has evolved a lot for that reason alone. I’m the one writing the music I’m involved in now. Musically, I have gone from balls to the wall type stuff to the friendly feel of Quaker City, which I really love doing and performing. The Burlap stuff is more of a representation of music that I really want to do. It’s more lyrically based and there is a depth to it that wasn’t in what we were doing with Quaker City.

You work at Last Stop CD Shop. How does your day job affect you as a musician?

I’m spending 40 hours a week listening to music at work, so there are about 60 hours a week that I have music in my ear.

They blend together in a way. Being at work doesn’t distract you from it, but amplifies it.

Yeah, totally. I’ll find myself getting into little niches of only listening to a certain kind of sound or artist and trying to absorb little details of what makes their sound their sound, you know? I just try to learn everything I can about it. Working there helps me with the vision of it. I absorb so much music there.

What about Sioux Falls and the region? How has our part of the world affected you?

First and foremost, it’s the people around me. I was born and raised in Madison and graduated high school there. I moved down here for school, and we were making records by the second year. We had a nice, tight-knit, Photo by Alix Johnson hardcore community, and that sort of dissolved over time. But now, I see that sort of thing coming around again with other bands that we are friends with. There is a lot of camaraderie and I’d also say there is definitely a friendly competition. More than anything, it’s a collective effort. There are so many talented bands here. It’s cool to see.

Red Return To Sioux Falls

Red with Steadlur, Against the Wall Saturday, February 14, 2009 Doors: 7 PM | Music: 7:30 PM | All Ages

Epic/Essential Recording Artists RED will return to Sioux Falls on Saturday, February 14, 2009 with a concert for all ages at Nutty’s North, as part of their 2009 headlining tour.

This show marks the band’s first return since their soldout headlining show at Nutty’s North in March 2008.

The Christian rock band, from Nashville, TN, formed in 2004 and released their debut full-length in 2006 to rave reviews from critics across the board, furthering the band’s appeal into the mainstream.

In November 2008, RED released their new single, “Fight Inside”, which debuted at #1, making rock and roll history as being the first ever Christian rock band to have a single debut at #1, which has been attributed

to the bands’ wide appeal, in both the Christian music market and the mainstream rock market.

February 10, 2009 will mark the release of the band’s sophomore effort, Innocence And Instict, produced by Rob Graves and mixed by Ben Grosse (Sevendust, Disturbed, Depeche Mode).

Their second CD is described as a “provocative new album forged in a perfect storm of inspiration and catastrophe,” dealing with emotions and ideas stemming from such things as a serious highway accident the band was involved in, in late 2007.

In the last year, the band has been busy touring constantly, recently finishing a nationwide tour with hard rock staples Puddle Of Mudd.

CHECK OUT THESE UPCOMING SHOWS! For more information and a complete list of shows, visit www.pepperentertainment.com Feb. 5 b 12 b 18 b 21 Feb. Feb. Feb. Tapes ‘n Tapes with Wild Jon Wayne and the Pain, The E3PO Reggae Project Castle with Rifflord Light, We all Have Hooks Welcome To The Cinema with Jaik Willis, 9 pm • 18+ • $8 for Hands, The Coltcockers 9 pm • 18+ • $7 The Minneapolis Henrys, 8 pm • 18+ Eric Swanson Feb. 22 $10 in advance • $12 day of Feb. 13 8 pm • 18+ • $8 Bobaflex with Idyl Exhibit Cecil Otter of Doomtree 7 pm • All Ages Feb. 6 with Truth & Adapt, Feb. 19 $10 in advance • $12 day of The Jump Off featuring Halfway, Me & You Crew Trey Lane with Nightshield, Maniac, more 9 pm • 18+ • $8 Brutal, Kash, Young B Feb. 27 9 pm • 18+ • $7 8 pm • 18+ Damon Dotson Feb. 14 $6 in advance • $8 day of 9 pm • 18+ Feb. 7 Red with Steadlur, Gingerjake with And/ Against the Wall Feb. 20 Feb. 28 Remote, Idyl Exhibit 7 pm • All Ages • $15 Drop Dead Gorgeous with Useful Jenkins CD Release 9 pm • 18+ • $7 Brokencyde, Eyes Set to Kill, with Ian Hilmer Feb. 15 And Then There Were None 9 pm • 18+ • $7 Snakebeard Jackson 7 pm • All Ages • $15 7 pm • All Ages • $5

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POWER

World Peace? Please....

Miss South Dakota USA and Miss South Dakota Teen USA 2009 Jessica Rowell and Fallyn Patterson show they have a lot to offer besides tired cliches.’

By Alana Bowden . Photos by Chris Reistroffer . Hair and Make-Up By Kat Christensen

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iss USA and Miss Teen USA pageants have had a rough couple of years. Its regal reputation has been tainted. In 2006, Miss USA Tara Conner’s face plastered news broadcasts. After allegations of hard partying and indiscretions with men surfaced, Connor nearly lost her crown. Co-owner of the pageants Donald Trump gave her a second chance after she agreed to receive help in a rehabilitation center.

Miss Nevada USA 2007 Katie Rees was not so lucky. After photos depicting her kissing females along with other graphic material surfaced on the Internet, Rees was stripped of her crown. Trump faced more controversy when Miss New Jersey USA Ashley Harder stepped down after finding out she was pregnant.

Another unforgettable moment occurred

during the Miss Teen USA 2007 competition when Miss South Carolina Teen USA Caitlin Upton was asked why she thought 1/5 of Americans could not locate the United States on a world map, and gave her now infamous answer: “I personally believe that U.S. Americans are unable to do so because some people out there in our nation don’t have maps, and that I believe that our education, like, such as, South Africa and the Iraq, everywhere like, such as. And I believe that they should… Our education over here in the U.S. should help the U.S., or should help South Africa, and should help the Iraq and the Asian countries, so we will be able to build up our future for our children.”

This year brings a clean slate, and the Miss USA and the Miss Teen USA 2009 pageants are in for a treat. This year Miss South Dakota USA Jessica Rowell, 22, and Miss South Dakota Teen USA Fallyn Patterson, 16, will represent our state and show our nation what we are made of.

Miss South Dakota USA Jessica Rowell

Rowell, from Sioux Falls, recently graduated from Augustana College, and has already made an impact in her community.

Traveling around to national cheerleading competitions for over 11 years, Rowell noticed that there were cheer teams for children with special needs in other states. This hit home for her since Rowell had worked

with children with special needs in high school and realized there were no such programs in South Dakota. Rowell decided to take it upon herself, and created the Champion Cheer Shooting Stars at the Champion Cheer and Dance Academy in Sioux Falls that meet every Thursday.

Patterson is originally from Rapid City and is determined to have her or Rowell to be the first to win a national pageant title for the state.

Both definitely have what it takes. These young women exemplified how they are beautiful inside and out when we met them for the story. Not only were they incredibly kind, but they were troopers. Neither hesitated for a second when we asked if they would pose in their pageant gowns in 15-degree weather for our cover shot or pose with a male muscle model with hair teased to the max. Rowell and Patterson are the real thing.

What influenced you to compete in the Miss South Dakota USA and Miss South Dakota Teen USA pageant?

Rowell: A close friend of mine was a past Miss South Dakota USA. When she described her year filled with immense experiences, I knew I wanted to compete in order to be a titleholder as well.

I competed for the first time last year and was first runner-up, so I had to give it one more shot.

Patterson: Two years ago I received a recommendation letter in the mail inviting me to compete in the Miss South Dakota Teen USA 2008 Pageant. I had always wanted to be in pageants and this was the perfect opportunity. I went in not knowing what to expect. I gave it my best shot and came out with a top fifteen stop in the first pageant I have ever competed in. I was so excited!

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Miss South Dakota Teen USA Fallyn Patterson The next year I spent training and getting help from all the people I had met at the last years’ pageant. I knew I had done everything I could to prepare myself for this year and hoping that this year would be my year. Pageants were something I had always watched on TV, but I never knew how to get involved until that letter came. I knew it was my chance.

ing the summer and got a new dress, met with my hair and makeup artist and hired a coach to help me with walking and questions. She helped point out the things I did on stage that I wouldn’t have noticed by myself. I wouldn’t necessarily consider the training hard, it just takes time, and you have to put all your effort into it in order to perfect it.

How did you react when you won?

For nationals, I just went to pageant power week, where we get a lot of training. We get interview practice, walking lessons, interview consultants, our hair and makeup

Rowell: When I won I covered my face with my hands in relief that all of my hard work

Neither [Rowell or Patterson] hesitated for a second when we asked if they would pose in their pageant gowns in 15-degree weather for our cover shot or pose with a male muscle model with hair teased to the max...

Patterson: I collapsed! My hands flew to my face and I could hardly stand. I was so excited.

done, and the works. We went through the basics of what to expect at nationals. I now will be continually interviewing with my production people on the phone and via email. I will also have to be practicing my walking and working out to make sure I am physically fit and healthy for nationals.

How did you prepare for the pageant?

How will you prepare for the national competition?

What are your strong beliefs that you want to express or be known as a titleholder?

Rowell: I prepared by working out, eating healthy and being grounded in myself.

I wanted to make sure that I knew myself and was confident in portraying that to the judges. Since I am a ‘sugar nut,’ the hardest training for me was eating healthy. I maintained a healthy food intake, which required protein, vegetables, fruit and healthy carbs.

For Miss USA, I will be maintaining a healthy food intake, as well as keeping up my physical fitness. In order to prepare myself mentally, I will make sure that I am grounded in myself by journaling and concentrating on my passions.

Rowell: I want to encourage women to feel confident in themselves both inward and outward. I want to emphasize on subjects that I am passionate about, be a role model for young people today and further my cheerleading team Champion Cheer Shooting Stars.

had paid off. It was so rewarding to know that when I put in the preparation and time, I was able to accomplish my goal.

Patterson: I went to Minneapolis dur-

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Patterson: I just want to take every opportunity as it comes to me. I will never have the chance to be Miss South Dakota Teen USA again, and I want to make the most of it. If I could do one thing, it would be to prove that South Dakota can do awesome at nationals and that we aren’t just the state that never wins. I think we both will do great and have the determination to do so.

We have goals and want to show people that

South Dakota rocks!

What misconceptions do you think people have for those who compete in pageants?

Rowell: Pageants today are not what they used to be. They are not looking for a programmed person or answer. They are looking for someone to be real with others. Pageants empower individuals to appreciate who they are inside and out.

Patterson: People should definitely know

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brothers play, and we have a semipro team in Rapid, so I’m always at the ice rink. In the summer you can find me either sitting by the pool or golfing with my boyfriend. In the fall I cheerlead and dance for my high school’s competitive squads. I also cheer for varsity football games.

What’s next? Do you get to meet Donald Trump? that we don’t say “world peace” ever. Yes, we do want to make a difference, but we don’t have an ultimate answer for world peace.

We are intelligent young women who are role models for our generation, and we are proud to represent where we come from and be ourselves. I think that pageant girls really are ‘what you see is what you get,’ because we have to know who we are as people.

the office?” It makes me laugh every time.

I do get some grief from people. They might ask me something like, “So what would you do to change the world?”

They tease me, but in a good way. Everyone has been very supportive of me. I am very thankful for that.

Has winning changed things at school or at work? Or with the opposite sex?

What do you do when you are not being a title holder and are just being Jessica or Fallyn?

Rowell: My friends and those I work with are truly encouraging. Besides a lot of fan emails, I haven’t noticed any specific extremes from boys one way or another. In general, my guy friends have been excited for my experiences.

Rowell: My daily schedule consists of working, physical training and continuing to be involved with my volunteer activities.

Volunteer activities include coaching the cheerleading team and volunteering for the Humane Society in my spare time.

Patterson: Whenever I get called down to the office over the loud speaker it is never “Fallyn Patterson,” it is always, “Will Miss South Dakota Teen USA please report to

Patterson: I love to dance, cheer and golf!

In the winter you can find me watching numerous hockey games. I love to watch it. My

Rowell: I will meet Mr. Trump when I am competing for the title of Miss USA in Las Vegas. The final night of the Miss USA pageant will be nationally televised live on NBC, Sunday, April 19, 2009.

Patterson: Next I will be going to Vegas in April to cheer on Jessica. I will get to meet Donald Trump at either her nationals or at my nationals. My nationals aren’t until August, but a specific date or place has not been set yet. They are hoping to get the Bahamas again this year. That would be so amazing!

For more information on Jessica Rowell and Fallyn Patterson, visit www.missiowausa. com/sd_home.cfm.

A special thank you to Michelle’s Coffee, Mama’s Ladas, Dauby’s Sport Shop, Next Edge Academy, Jacob, and for the use of the Free People Blouse that Fallyn is wearing in the tea photo from Posh Boutique.

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by Rachel Palmer

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n the spirit of Valentine’s Day, it might be fun this year to find a place to enjoy a romantic Saturday afternoon away from the charming bite of a sub-zero, South Dakota winter. Believe it or not, there is a tropical haven no further than a quick trek down 49th Street to Sertoma Park, Sioux Falls, SD. Inspired by the dreams of Ray Brook and Jim Hazelwood, the Sioux Falls Noon Sertoma Club began creating the fifth phase to their development of Sertoma Park in May 2002: The Sertoma Butterfly House. The house boasts a sixty by sixty foot butterfly flight room as well as a laboratory, display room, classroom, and gift shop. According to the house’s director, Wendy Lewis, this addition is part of “a more than a 16-year effort to create a unique learning experience for the benefit of the people of Sioux Falls and the surrounding area.”

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Photos Courtesy of the Sertoma Butterfly House

More than 800 free-flying butterflies and exotic moths from around the world reside at the Sertoma Butterfly House on any given day, including species from Costa Rica, Ecuador, Malaysia, and Africa. You and your special someone or friend can enjoy tropical weather along with the natural beauty of floral and water gardens that any age group can appreciate.

After slugging through the gray and slushy streets of a South Dakota winter landscape, the Sertoma Butterfly House serves as a warm and relaxing haven. Butterflies are everywhere, landing on visitors’ arms, backs

and faces. Helpful guides who volunteer at the house provide interesting information about the lifecycles of the butterflies and where the cocoons come from. Visitors are also given butterfly guides to help look for species of interest and explore the gardens.

With this in mind, it is easy to see how the Sertoma Butterfly House might serve up some February romance for those who love nature and unique experiences. Hearts-aFlutter is a program that allows the public to make nighttime reservations for private use of the flight room. Champagne is provided to those of legal drinking age as couples observe roosting butterflies along lantern-lit pathways. The house encourages visitors to order catering and flowers, or even to bring a romantic picnic dinner. Last year alone, twenty-one reservations were made, including first dates, expecting parents and three proposals. The cost for this exclusive evening costs $125 for the month of February.

“The butterfly house offers something different for each individual,” Lewis states.

The Sertoma Butterfly House offers up one-of-a-kind experiences. For those looking for non-romantic, yet unique and relaxing activities, there are opportunities to take morning yoga and Tai Chi classes in the flight room.

And, if you have a flare for photography, the butterfly house sets aside specific hours for photographers during the first Monday and Saturday of each month. Cameras, however, are always welcome, so casual photographers are encouraged to snap shots as well. Photos taken at the Sertoma Butterfly House have been entered in contests around the country.

The Sertoma Butterfly House is a calm and secluded oasis for those ready to escape the cold this winter. Before hitting up the movie theaters and ice skating rinks, break the ice on your Valentine’s Day date by experiencing a unique, tropical experience in the park. And, for those of us without a special someone, relax and enjoy the beauty.

Sertoma Butterfly House 4320 S Oxbow Ave Sioux Falls, SD 57106 (605) 334-9466 www.sertomabutterflyhouse.org Executive Director: Wendy Lewis Hours and Fees: Monday – Saturday 10 a.m. to 4 p.m.

Sunday 1 p.m. to 4 p.m.

Youth (ages 4 – 18): $4 Adults (ages 19 – 59) $6

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: coping with thhe deeatth of a frieend

BY JAMIE BULIAN

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dropped dropped to to the the fl floor, oor, screamscreaming ‘no’ over and ing ‘no’ over and over over again; again; II didn’t and couldn’t believe didn’t and couldn’t believe it. it. II eventually got into my car and eventually got into my car and thought thought that that if if II got got to to the the crash crash site site or or to to his house that he would be there.

I was his house that he would be there. I was in in complete complete disbelief, disbelief, shock shock and and denial, denial,”” says says Justina Fieldsend of Highmore, Justina Fieldsend of Highmore, SD SD about about receiving receiving word word of of her her best best friend’s friend’s death. death.

Th Though ough it it has has now now been been over over aa year year since since the death of her friend, who was the death of her friend, who was killed killed in in aa drunken drunken driving driving accident accident aft after er leaving leaving aa bar, bar, Fieldsend Fieldsend says says she she still still hasn’t hasn’t come come to to terms with the loss. terms with the loss.

“I “I feel feel like like if if II let let go go and and get get better, better, then then I’ve I’ve given up on him and our friendship, given up on him and our friendship, so so II guess guess you you could could say say that that II don’t don’t think think II will will

Justina Fieldsend pages through a photo Justina Fieldsend pages through a photo album fondly remembering her best friend album fondly remembering her best friend who was killed in a drunken driving accident. that was killed in a drunk driving accident.

ever ever come come to to terms terms with with it, it, nor nor do do II want want to, ” says Fieldsend. to,” says Fieldsend.

On On the the other other hand, hand, Dr. Dr. James James Korcuska, Korcuska, grief counselor and educator grief counselor and educator at at the the UniverUniversity sity of of South South Dakota, Dakota, says says that that instead instead of of feeling feeling like like you you will will lose lose everything everything if if you you let let go go of of your your lost lost friend friend or or loved loved one, one, you you

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need need to to establish establish aa new new kind kind of of relationship relationship with that person. with that person.

“People “People oft often en think think that that if if they they let let go go they they will lose that person forever, but what will lose that person forever, but what they they don’t don’t realize realize is is that that they they can can form form aa diff different erent kind of relationship with that person, kind of relationship with that person,”” KorKorcuska cuska says. says. “I “I encourage encourage patients patients to to rememremember ber past past memories memories with with their their loved loved one one and and work out a new relationship with them. work out a new relationship with them.””

Katie Katie Bloom, Bloom, hospice hospice social social worker worker at at AvAvera Hospice in Sioux Falls, also encourages era Hospice in Sioux Falls, also encourages her her patients patients to to remember remember their their dying dying loved loved ones by making memory boxes ones by making memory boxes or or memory memory bears. bears.

Bloom Bloom says says she she frequently frequently asks asks the the families families and friends of dying loved ones and friends of dying loved ones to to make make aa box box with with photos, photos, items items or or notes notes about about aa certain certain time time or or experience experience they they shared shared with with them.

Bloom also asks them them. Bloom also asks them if if they they would would like like to to provide provide an an item item of of clothclothing ing their their loved loved one one wore, wore, so so volunteers volunteers can make them into memory can make them into memory bears bears or or pillows for them. pillows for them.

Erika Hoxeng of Yankton, SD, had a Erikafriend Hoxeng Yankton, SD, had best whoofdied 10 years ago, anda best friend who died 10 years ago, and says she is now as fully recovered from says she is now as fully recovered from the loss as she will get. the loss as she will get.

“Losing a friend at age 13 is tough.

“Losing friend at agetogether, 13 is tough.

Since we adid everything I had Since we did everything together, hadI no idea how to live without her,I so no idea how to live without her, so was mad at God for the longest time,”I was madsaid. at God for the longest Hoxeng “I just didn’t knowtime, how” Hoxeng said.

“I just didn’t know he could take away my best friend how and he could my bestitfriend anda expect metake to away get through at such expect me to get through it at such a young age.” young age.”

Although Hoxeng says she is fully reAlthough Hoxeng says she best is fully recovered from the loss of her friend, covered from the loss of her best friend, she says she still thinks of her often and she says what she still of like her and often and wonders she thinks would be where wonders what she would be like, and where she would be today. she would be today.

Korcuska says that of any age group, adolesKorcuska says that any age group, cents typically haveofthe hardest time adolescoping cents typically have the hardest time coping with the loss of a friend. with the loss of a friend.

“When you are still young it is hard to lose “When are still hardidentity to lose a friendyou because so young much itofisyour

ais friend because so your muchfriendships, of your identity still drawn from ” says is still drawn from your friendships, Korcuska. “Also, unexpected losses” says are Korcuska.

“Also, losses most often the caseunexpected in adolescents, and itare is most the case adolescents, it is harderofttoendeal with in something thatand comes harder to deal with something that comes out of nowhere. ” out of nowhere.”

Both Hoxeng and Fieldsend say it was talkBothtoHoxeng Fieldsend wasthem talking anotherand close friend say thatit got ing to another close friend that got them through the initial grief and depression through the initial grief ofand depression stages following the death their friends. stages following the death of their friends.

“ I feel like if I let go and get bettteer, then I’ve given up on him and our frienndsshipp.... ” “When I was struggling with the loss, I “When toI one was ofstruggling with thewho loss, turned my good friends wasI turned to one of my good friends who was also close with him, and we would help also close with him, and we would help each other remember things that we did eachthings otherthat remember things did and reminded us of that him,”we recalls and things that reminded us of him, ” recalls Fieldsend.

Fieldsend.

Korcuska says it is simply listening that can Korcuska says it when is simply listening can help the most someone is that dealing help the most when someone is dealing with the loss of a loved one. with the loss of a loved one.

“In the early stages of the loss, it is impor“In stages of the loss, it islisten importantthe for early family and friends to just to tant for family and friends to just listen to the grieving individual and encourage them the grieving to individual encourage ”them to continue take careand of themselves, Koto continue to take care of themselves, ” Korcuska says. “It is also important to underrcuskathat says.grieving “It is alsois important to understand an experience that stand that grieving is an experience that everyone will go through, and everyone everyone will go through, and everyone experiences it differently.” experiences it differently.”

Korcuska also points out that it is crucial Korcuska also points thatbut it istocrucial not to minimize the out pain, allow not to minimize the pain, but to allow grieving individuals to cry and mourn the grieving individuals to cry and mourn the loss. loss.

Bloom too says people need to be aware Bloom tooissays needfor to grief be aware that there no people time frame and that there is no time frame for grief and that the level and intensity may change over that the level and intensity may change over time, but never really goes away. time, but never really goes away.

“Although typically the symptoms of grief “Although typically thetosymptoms of there grief subside after about 12 18 months, subside aft er about 12 to 18 months, there are always going to be events that spark are alwaysofgoing to beloved events memories the dead one,that andspark then memories of the dead loved one, and the grieving process may start all over,”then says the grieving process start allbeings over,” says Korcuska . “We are may emotional and Korcuska . “We are” emotional beings and we grow from grief. we grow from grief.”

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REAL deal: Nick Hruby

by mary dodson

Hometown: Marion, SD Age: 25 Specialty: Photography ick Hruby started attending the University of South Dakota believing a degree in contemporary media and journalism was his destined career path. He soon found the writing aspect was “too structured” for his taste and gained more enjoyment in the photojournalism aspect of his studies. Pursuing the major for another year and a half, he decided to switch to a fine arts major specializing in photography, and just completed his degree in December 2008.

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While not strictly influenced by the work of other photographers, Hruby admires the work of Ansel Adams, as well as artists in other media. Hruby appreciates the paintings of Pablo Picasso, particularly his Blue Period, and the sculptures of Auguste Rodin.

“His sculptures feel like they’re moving and breathing. He can make a hard substance like marble seem alive,” says Hruby of Rodin When describing his own artistic method, Hruby says, “I’m extremely polarized when it comes to my art.” This is evidenced by two vastly different approaches to his subject matter.

Hruby has done some work with a technique called digital projection in which he takes images shot with a macro lens, such as computer boards or segments of ceramic or paintings, and projects it onto a human model’s face.

Recently, his work approaches a different subject matter. In black and white or extremely muted tones, Hruby shoots insects and plant life intimately close.

“There are whole worlds to explore that people walk past every day. You can explore worlds that are within walking distance of

your front door and gain insight into them.”

In addition to photography, Hruby enjoys drawing and painting.

He particularly enjoys painting for it’s evolving process opposite of his preferred mediums.

“With photography you can see what you are shooting and it’s immediate. With painting you have to work the paint, and the idea you have in your head is never what you end up with,” he explains.

Right now Hruby is trying to get his works shown in galleries and is looking into the possibility of graduate school sometime in the future. Prints of Hruby’s photography are available for sale, ranging in price from $175 to $225. Each photograph is printed on fine art paper and Hruby constructs his own frames. Seven prints of each photograph are made and then the image is retired.

To inquire Nick Hruby about any of his works or gallery showings, email him at Nick.Hruby@usd.edu.

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He Said, She Said...

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all about the he said, she said bull… you get it. Lady Tove and Sir Mammenga are here to cut the middle man and give straight-up answers for relationships from a male and female perspective.

My boyfriend and I are long distance, which sucks in general, so we never get to see each other on a normal basis. You would think he would want to hang out with me every chance he would get when we’re home on breaks, but he’s been with his friends almost every night. Do I have a right to be mad?

-Becca, 20 T: Absolutely you have the right to be mad! If this dude isn’t taking the time to be with you when he’s supposed to “be with you,” he’s not worth your headache anymore. Many of us have tried the longdistance thing, and many of us have found that it just does not work. Now don’t get me wrong, long-distance is not impossible; however, it takes a real commitment to one another for success. Him spending time with his friends every night does not say commitment to me.

On the other hand, girls tend to overexaggerate. For all I know he’s spent all but five minutes with you and you’re just way over-territorial. Give the poor man some space! He doesn’t need to be attached to your hip to prove his undying devotion.

M: Hmmm, this is a very tricky question, Becca. I’ve always drawn a line between the terms “mad” and “upset.” I would say that in this case you have a right to be upset. Being long distance will test every relationship, so you should really look at this as a blessing in disguise. This is the time to find out if this guy is really worth your effort. But, I will warn you not to be too hasty with him.

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Friends are important as well. One thing I would suggest is having you hang out with him and his friends. The best way to win a guy over is to go through his pals. Guys catch a lot of heat from other guy friends for ditching out to be with their girlfriend – the whole “bros before hos” mantra. You are all in your twenties now, so hanging out in a co-ed environment should not be a problem. Oh, and bring you friends. This is a brilliant idea. Your boyfriend’s buddies will love this. Guys like nothing more than when a girl brings over her hot friends. This is a way for you to win over his friends, while at the same time spending time with him. It’s a win-win for you my dear; and, I guarantee he will be leaving with you and not his buddies.

I started dating this girl, but she still randomly mentions her ex every now and then. I’m beginning to think she’s not over him. How should I bring this up without making it awkward?

-Max, 17 T: When I started dating my significant other, he spent many of my hours talking about his exes. Yes, plural ex equals exes. At first I was OK with it because I knew those

relationships were in the past. After hearing the same stories fifteen times, however, I got fed up and just told him flat out not to mention “Whatshername” and “Whositz” ever again. It kinda worked, but at least I made my point: forget them and love me!

And he did.

“Maybe she is just a clinger, but maybe she really does see you in her future.”

Talking about exes is a normal part of some relationships. It’s actually a great place for you to start learning about what this new person likes and doesn’t like. It’s when you could tell their entire relationship story without them present that it becomes a problem.

Now don’t embarrass the girl, but do bring it up. She’ll never know it’s bugging you until you say something! (Nevertheless, if she’s calling you his name while makingout, you may need to consider moving on.)

M: Wow Max! You are like the guy girls dream of dating. All you are thinking about are her feelings. What a nice guy you must be. Either that or you have no spine! What’s

around friends who are married or in serious relationships when you’re flying solo.

Regardless of her reasoning, you need to talk to her about these “issues.” If you wait

let me stress you – buy her some essentials to keep at your place, toothbrush, etc. This will show her you care, while at the same time keeping her stuff at her place. You win

“The generally accepted guy ratio has been set at a 70-30 split.

That is, a guy in a new relationship should spend 70 percent of time together at her place; and, conversely, 30 percent at your place. This allows you to safeguard yourself from having your new girlfriend become “too comfortable” at your place...” your problem, buddy? Let’s look at the situation. She talks about an ex-boyfriend in front of you, with complete disregard for your feelings. Obviously, she doesn’t view talking about an ex as awkward, so why should you? If anything, you have already wasted too much time. This is something that needs to be nipped in the bud early on in a relationship if it has any chance of working out. I wasn’t kidding earlier when I called you a nice guy. The fact that you have dealt with this for as long as you have is testament to that. You need to talk to her about it. Trust me; it is better to take care of this stuff early on in a relationship, rather than get burned downed the road when you may have real feelings for her.

I really like my new girlfriend and I’m glad I’m with her. That being said, she is always around. Not only that, but she’s slowly leaving more and more things at my place and constantly assuming we’re going to hang out. I want to be with her, but I don’t know how tell her that I need some space and don’t want her leaving all her stuff at my apartment without her freaking out.

Eh? -Kyle, 25 T: Kyle, I think every man can say that at some point they’ve been in your shoes.

In fact, every woman can probably say that, too. When starting a relationship, it is hard to determine comfortable boundaries, especially when both of you want to be around each other all the time for the first few months.

Now since you are 25, my advice is a bit different than if you were 17. At your age, people (not just women) tend to start thinking about growing up and settling down.

Maybe she is just a clinger, but maybe she really does see you in her future. Also, how many of her friends are settled down and coupled off ? It’s hard to feel comfortable

until you can’t take it anymore, you’re doing no one any favors. Save your frustration for something more worthwhile and get the awkward conversation over with.

M: Well Kyle, let me start out by expressing my extreme disappointment in you.

Obviously you failed “New Girlfriends 101.” Whether it was love or stupidity (often times synonymous terms) you completely ignored Man Law #3. For those who may be unfamiliar – like Kyle – allow me to elaborate.

Man Law #3, otherwise known as the ratio-rule, deals with how often you spend time at your place together compared to how often you spend time at your new girlfriend’s place together. The generally accepted guy ratio has been set at a 70-30 split.

That is, a guy in a new relationship should spend 70 percent of time together at her place; and, conversely, 30 percent at your place. This allows you to safeguard yourself from having your new girlfriend become “too comfortable” at your place, while at the same time disallowing her for calling you out for never spending time at your place.

It’s the perfect ratio. Then, to really win her over, you –

both ways. It’s brilliant, I know.

Now Kyle, you obviously showed blatant disregard for the ratio-rule, and are thus stuck in this predicament. Sorry, but there is really no way out of this without either losing her, or getting seriously shutdown physically. Let me just say this, it’s a good thing you like this girl. You have started down the path of proposal, altar, and then death. My apologies go out to you. Good luck and God’s speed.

Have a question for Tove and Mammenga?

Email HeSaidSheSaid@605magazine.com

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Incredible eats: for your sweet

By Cori Albers

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ave you ever wanted to impress your special someone or a group of your friends by making them a special meal, but didn’t even know where to begin? Well, with Valentine’s Day just around the corner, here are some easy and affordable dishes that will surely have your sweetie or your

friends wanting you to be their Valentine.

I love entertaining, but being a college student and working full-time, I find it hard to be able to afford really fancy meals or unique or expensive ingredients. When I come across a recipe, I love being able to put my own stamp on them and be able to share them with all of my friends. The recipes listed below are super easy, and you guessed it--affordable. I took recipes I have collected and played around with to fit my budget and the time I want to spend in the kitchen. You can make this delicious three course Italian meal in about an hour. I hope you and your date or friends enjoy these as much as mine do. Happy cooking!

Easy Bruschetta 5-6 Roma tomatoes seeded and diced 15-20 Fresh basil leaved chopped finely 1 Clove of garlic diced ½ TBS Fresh ground black pepper ½ TBS Kosher salt 1 TBS Extra Virgin Olive Oil 1 Ball fresh mozzarella cheese sliced 1 Loaf crusty bread cut on an angle

Assembly- Mix tomatoes, basil, garlic, salt, pepper and olive oil in a bowl let rest for 15 minutes. Put your oven on broil and place sliced bread on a cookie sheet.

Drizzle with olive oil and place in oven…be careful not to burn the bread. Keep a close eye on it! When the bread is golden brown take out, add a slice of cheese, and then place the tomato mixture on top. Serve and ENJOY!

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Shrimp Linguini 1 pound uncooked shrimp tails off 15-20 fresh basil leafs 1 TBS Extra Virgin Olive Oil 1 TBS Butter Salt and Pepper to taste 2-3 garlic cloves chopped 1 pound linguini 1 lemon- zest and juice ½ cup chicken stock

Assembly- Start a large pasta pot full of water, cover and when it comes to a boil and a generous amount of salt and add linguini cook as package states uncovered and drain when done.

In a medium sauté pan, add EVOO and butter of medium heat when butter is melted and pan is hot, add the shrimp and let sit for 1 ½ - 2 minutes then flip shrimp and let cook on other side for about a minute. Shrimp will turn white and pink (opaque). Add the garlic and cook for another minute then add in the chicken stock and deglaze the pan (fancy word for get all the good bits off the bottom on the pan). Add the zest and juice of the lemon, and the basil mix all together.

When noodles are done and drained put back in the pasta pot and then add the shrimp and the sauce into the pot to mix it all together; put on a serving platter and garnish with parmesan cheese. ENJOY!

Fantastic Tiramisu -1 package lady fingers -2 shots espresso- ¼ c water added -1 cup simple syrup (you can buy this already made in most stores, but if you can’t find it mix 1 cup of sugar and two cups of water bring to a boil and take off heat when liquid is clear and all of the sugar is dissolved.)

-1 container of tiramisu mascarpone cheese (there are two kind’s plain, and one that already has the coffee flavor in it.

That is the one that you want) -Sprinkle of cinnamon and coco -1 Martini glass- or fun serving dish

Assembly- Baste the lady fingers with simple syrup and espressothe lady fingers will soak up the liquid. Arrange the lady fingers around the rim of the glass and add a tsp of the espresso on the bottom of the glass. Add in a heaping TBS of the mascarpone cheese. Sprinkle top with cinnamon and coco and you are ready to roll. ENJOY!

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Ask The Johns

es, all three of these guys are named John. Yes it was a popular name in the 80’s (I’m sure you feel their pain all you Katies, Michaels and Jessicas). But these three gentlemen, when not slaving away at Worlds of Warcraft, are here to answer every question you throw at them. They’re suave, sort of hip and are here for you.

The identity of these three amigos have been altered to protect the innocent.

I have had the same best friend since I stared middle school. Nothing dramatic there, right? Well my friend has an older sister who is really mean to me and says snide remarks to me every time I go over there or see her at school. Should I say something to my friend? Should I say something to the sister? Help.

-Beth, 16 John P: I would call her out about it in front of at least 13 people (that number just seems right to me). When everyone looks at her like she’s pathetic, then you win. If this doesn’t work, then just tell on her like a 9-year-old. Nice.

John W: You should tell your friend, because if she is really your friend she’ll go to bat for you. And when a sister is mad at a sister... look out! She’ll probably do nastier things to her sister than you could ever even imagined doing to get her to stop

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bothering you.

John T: You need to realize that she is doing this to you because she knows she can get a reaction from you.

People with low self-esteem or people who are seeking acceptance often will find satisfaction from others’ sorrow. So, instead of reacting to her putdowns, which is what she wants, just ignore them or even agree with them.

Agreeing with people when they put you down can work, but only if you treat it as a joke and don’t take it too far. I personally believe that your best action is no reaction.

So video games are really cool—I’m an avid gamer myself—but it’s all my friends do. I want to go out and do something, but all they want to do is stay in. I know I can go out on my own, but I want my friends to come with me, because they are actually fun people once they go out in the daylight.

-Dave, 22 John P: Dave, I feel your pain. My friend John W. is a lamer gamer than your friends, trust me. If you go out by yourself at least you’re not gaming; although most chicks dig gamers (rolling eyes).

John W: Making copies of all your friends house keys = $9 Ski mask = $6 Sneaking into their homes when they are in school = $0 Homemade electro magnet = $40 The look on their faces when they see smoke pour out of their Playstations®3 = Priceless John T: There will come a point in their lives—hopefully—when they realize that playing video games every minute of every hour they have is not the way to live. Of course video games are fun, but when they start to eliminate any social activity with the outside world, it’s a problem. Suggest to your friends that they take off one night a week and go out. If they can’t sacrifice one night (a few hours) of video games, well, then I suggest you ditch them and make some new friends.

My friend and I went to different colleges. She lives in New York and I am going to a local school. Now my friend is acting really dramatic and is super sensitive if I don’t call her back right away and is furious that I can’t afford to visit her. How can I get her to relax and know that nothing has changed?

-Brooke, 19 John P: Tell her you wish you could go, but you can’t because the bank you bank at got robbed and it’s not FDIC insured. When she can’t believe it’s not FDIC insured, tell her that it’s South Dakota and she’ll feel cool and say something along the lines of “makes sense.” Then guilt trip her to pay and put the blame on her.

John W: Brook…you want your 19-yearold female friend to be less dramatic and sensitive? Good luck with that one.

John T: From what it sounds like, she is probably home sick. New York can be a very uncomfortable place for someone who is new to the city, and especially for someone who knows no one. All you can do is just be there for her as a friend (which is what it sounds like you have been doing). She obviously misses her friends and misses being home, and what she needs right now is someone she can talk to and someone who will reassure her. Once she gains some new friends and starts feeling more comfortable, she will get off your back.

Have a question for the Johns? Shoot an email their way at TheJohns@605magazine. com.

Disclaimer: Ask the Johns is a sarcastic piece.

Their advice is not meant to be taken literally… except maybe John T’s.

In the matter of NICK

KOTZEA VS.

MINNESOTA VIKINGS’ FANS

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t is 1:36 p.m. on a bitterly cold Sunday in January. I’ve been standing inside a downtown Minneapolis sports bar for less than a minute. An overweight, middle-aged man with fake gold pigtails calls me something that could only tastefully be printed in a magazine about cats. In less than two hours, an NFL playoff game between the Minnesota Vikings and Philadelphia Eagles will commence a few blocks from where I am standing.

Suffice it to say I am wearing the wrong team apparel inside a sweltering nest of alcohol-fueled Vikings fanatics.

Inching my way toward the bar, sets of eyes zero in on the words “Philadelphia Eagles” plastered to the front of my black hooded sweatshirt. Some imbecile crudely shouts, “Dr. J is a homo,” an apparent attempt to smear former Philadelphia 76ers great, Julius Erving. I wonder if that would infuriate someone actually from Philly. I say nothing and make no attempt to initiate eye contact. A beer would be great. I am tragically sober in a turbulent sea of purple people eaters.

I arrived here on a whim. Two days earlier, my plans for the game inKotzea volved planting myself at a sports bar in Pierre, South Dakota, a seven-hour drive from the Twin Cities. That changed when it became apparent the Minnesota faithful were faithless. Forty-eight hours prior to kickoff, thousands of tickets remained unsold. Truly pathetic. Taunting from central South Dakota would no longer suffice. Three friends and I would make the winter journey.

I grew up 10 minutes from the Minnesota border surrounded by default Minnesota Vikings fans, but the Eagles were my team. I loved Randall Cunningham. There was no Vikings influence in my childhood home. I was raised by a Cowboys fan and a Raiders fan. For those cognizant of the ugly Eagles-Cowboys rivalry, rest assured, I do not hate my mother. In what I now realize is a sports cliché, my dad would maintain, “I’m a Raiders fan, but my second-favorite team is whoever is playing the Vikings.” When the Vikings would crumble on television, my dad would occasionally grab a radio so the whole family could sadistically indulge in the whiny announcers and ensuing call-in show.

It is 1:45 p.m., and I’ve never felt so grateful to have a beer in hand. It appears I am roughly 37 drinks behind the average patron. This will be an interesting day. Approximately 15 feet away is a group of six or seven Philly fans holding their positions around a highly coveted table. Appearances suggest this isn’t some random group of Eagles fans from Holstein, Iowa. These guys look like they’re straight out of South Philly. They have this aura of toughness about them; they’re slightly obnoxious and seem

unphased by the thick purple mob of relative Minnesota Niceness.

I’ve paid my allegiance to the Philadelphia Eagles for the better part of two decades now, but just observing this tiny outpost of intense green on a purple landscape, I cannot help but feel a disconnect. I suddenly feel like a poseur. I’ve never even been to Philadelphia. In fact, I’m a Minnesota Twins fan. If it were August and the Chicago White Sox were in town, I could be in this same bar with the same people exchanging fist pumps and high fives. Instead I’m being insulted and attracting unsolicited comments about Dr. J’s sexual orientation.

It is 2:13 p.m. and the Philly table busts out an Eagles chant, hardly to the liking of the 2,000 Vikings fans that happen to be in the bar. My friend comments to me that a noticeable difference between college football fans and pro football fans is that so many of the latter choose to wear player jerseys instead of simple team apparel. Three out of the four of us are practicing lawyers. I posit a ridiculous scenario in which strangers wear neckties displaying our names in the event any of us achieve legal “rock star” status.

Sacreligious Sweatshirt - Our Columnist bravely dons the regalia of the visiting team during the recent playoff game of the Vikings and Eagles in the Metrodome.

I’m clearly drinking my beer way too fast. I shouldn’t have skipped lunch.

It is 2:28 p.m. Kickoff is an hour from now. The lone female member of my crew, slight in stature and with no allegiance to ei-

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Life ther the Vikings or the Eagles, suggests that shots are in order. We find ourselves staring at shots of tequila and Jagermeister. I pass on

There is a white Vikings towel in each cup holder. I’ll wave a homer hanky for the Twinkies, but not today. I shove mine into my coat pocket... tequila for the same reason as everyone who passes on tequila. The Jag will do. I’m feeling less like a poseur. Rather authentic, in fact.

It is 3:00 p.m. The sidewalks are icy. It becomes immediately apparent that Eagles fans sucked up a good number of the unsold tickets. I remember it being a lot colder than this before we walked into that bar. It would be fun to see Arizona fans navigating these ice patches. I don’t care who you are; watching people fall is delightfully amusing. I’m a firm believer that a shot to the groin is a tired comedic event. It’s run its course. It’s been relegated to mere smirk-worthiness. Falling down, however, is an arena rich with dramatic variation.

It is 3:12 p.m. Excitement builds as we circle the dreary Hubert H. Humphrey Metrodome on our way to Gate D. As we move against foot traffic, Vikings fans are getting a good glimpse of my

sweatshirt. Some anonymous fan fires a forgettable jab. I fire back, “You’re welcome. I’m the reason this game sold out.” Not my best work, but a decent start. The heart is beating. I’ve found my swagger.

Maybe when I have kids someday, I’ll grow to appreciate the wholesome, Saturday-youth-soccer-league-kum-bay-yah-let’snot-even-keep-score brand of sportsmanship, but for now, I’m all about fierce competition and clever, well-timed trash talking – and that applies to the players and fans. Forget what I said earlier about my Twins affiliation. For the next few hours, I want nothing to do with these purple people.

It is 3:25 p.m., and our seats are decent – 17 rows up from the five-yard line. The Vikings fans in our section are less than thrilled to see me. There is a white Vikings towel in each cup holder. I’ll wave a homer hanky for the Twinkies, but not today. I shove mine into my coat pocket. I secretly hope an Eagles player incorporates one of these towels into a tasteless end zone celebration.

It is 3:30 p.m. Kickoff is minutes away. This place is electric.

White towels are waving. The crowd roar is deafening. The stadium is literally shaking. I have goose bumps. The American Idol who looks vaguely like a fat version of George Clooney is about to sing the National Anthem. Like a Neanderthal, I will spend the next three hours drinking $6 beers, pounding my chest and telling complete strangers to “Get some.”

This is my Super Bowl.

Nick Kotzea, 27, is a lawyer in Pierre, South Dakota, and a proud double graduate of the University of South Dakota.

SORROW.

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e are taught from the start to acknowledge and purchase in the name of St. Valentine. In elementary school, we spent our entire art hour every February 13th covering shoeboxes with construction paper hearts, knowing that the next day it

By Denise DePaolo Illustration by Kiel Mutschelknaus would be filled with 25 to 30 forced well-wishes. The best of which would feature candy, and the worst of which would only have an illegible signature of an annoyed eightyear-old.

adoration to one person in particular through astronomically-priced flowers, waxy chocolates with questionable fillings and contrived passion found in mass-produced cards.

Fast forward 15 to 20 years and it Valentine’s Day has begun to deis not much different. It is expected mand the same window of consumthat we will all choose to express our erism afforded to Christmas—its big

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gathering gath ga th her erin ingg where wher wh eree a few few friends friend frie ndss wa watch movies with non-romantic, nonsexual themes—or even better— where love goes bad.

We are intelligent, enlightened people. We all know that this “holiday” has been inflated to comically grandiose proportions by card companies and the like. So I ask, why do we continue to play their game? Why do we buy the flowers and the cards and the diamond tennis bracelets?

Why do we propose to our significant others and make first dates and wait for an hour to get a table at Olive Garden?

Some of my favorites include:

1. Night of the Living Dead (practically anything with zombies works beautifully in this capacity) 2. Sid and Nancy (drugs, tempers, punks- a lethal combination) 3. Sleepaway Camp (promiscuity and cruelty are punished, and the end yields a special treat) 4. The Queen (a lovely performance as devoid of sexuality as the lady herself) One word: Fear.

5. Texas Chainsaw Massacre (the new one, the old one, any one will We are taught to expect that the spe- do) cial person in our lives will impress us with some grand gesture of love/ Or you can have a real, live party. merchandise that we, in return, must Think black and blue balloons, pin reciprocate and/ or top. If we fail in the stake on the heart, fattening, this endeavor—or god forbid—are messy foods, and lots of fun drinks. single, then we are hopeless losers Try not to be an elitist about it by who might as well stay at home, lest excluding attached friends, because we pollute the atmosphere of love odds are, they hate V-Day just as with our pathetic selves. much as you do.

Why not fight back this Valentine’s Day? Attached or not, this affects all of us.

Here are some suggestions for a party:

1. Make it a costume affair. Find a My best suggestion is to throw an fun theme like rock stars, the 1970’s, Anti-Valentine’s Day party. After all, or tragic characters throughout his-

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2. Invent a signature drink. To make an easy punch, throw some ora orange soda, Hawaiian Punch, and pin pi n pineapple juice into a bowl or pitcher and voila! If you are of legal age er to consume alcohol, add a little rum. to 3. Keep the music up-tempo. Most 3. pe pe people are cool with their relationshi status, but you do not want to shi ship b responsible for any sobbing from be th genuinely broken-hearted. Big the ba music is always a winner, as are band sal music and any foreign dance salsa music with indecipherable lyrics.

4. Play games. Make your own Pictionary game using note cards and a magic marker. Buy one of those big pads of paper and marvel at the artistic abilities of your nearest and dearest.

5. Have a big, elaborate countdown to midnight New Year‘s style.

Deliver a toast with your raised glass when Valentine’s Day is officially over.

The most important thing to remember is that it is a party. Whatever you do, keep things upbeat and goofy. Encourage people to mingle and to enjoy themselves while poking fun at this most ridiculous of days.

It is not February 14th’s fault that corporate America has perverted it so. Tell your lover and your friends that you admire them today. Do not wait until Valentine’s Day to do something special for them. After all, when it is the day of your party, you may need help decorating.

Are You in a HEALTHY Relationship?

Illustration by Brad Herrera

wanted until you got it. Perfection!

8 to 10 Points

“Love is a losing game.”

A. You’re the one always calling your significant other. They said they “don’t like the phone.”

B .It’s pretty equal with who calls who.

C. What’s calling? You always text.

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Last time you saw your friends was:

A. Last Friday.

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When it comes to the opposite sex with someone other than your significant other:

A. You can hang out with whomever you want. They know lines won’t be crossed.

B. If they so much as see a picture with you and someone of the opposite sex, you will definitely hear about it later, maybe even go on a “break,” and still hear about it months to come.

C. It’s perfectly fine if you hang out with someone they know or have met before, but no exes allowed ever, and no hanging out with someone they don’t know.

There is a reason why you never see your significant other and only talk to them at their convenience…they don’t really want to be with you. If they wanted to be with you they would put forth effort to call you, hang out with you and make you happy. If they are not making to the time to be with you they are probably making the time to see other people, if you catch the drift.

If you also were in a solid relationship, you would not have to always “catch up” with your friends. You should know what’s going on with them, because you should be able to balance friends and boyfriends/girlfriends. It’s okay to hang out with your significant other’s friends, but also ask them to make time to hang with your friends as well.

4 to 7 Points

“No regrets and no emotional An average ideal debts.”

It would be jumping to conclusions to say evening with your that your relationship is not healthy, but lova includes: make sure that you are not losing yourself

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A. Hanging out with a bunch of their friends watching football or a BRAVO marathon.

B. Receiving saucey texts while they’re out with friends. You don’t really get to see them much, but it keeps it alive.

C. Making a meal together and enjoying it while watching a DVD.

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On your last birthday you received:

A. Absolutely nothing.

They “were going to get you something” and then went into an elaborate explanation of what they were thinking of getting you and what obstacle got in the way of following through with it.

B. Something they found last minute.

C. A gift you either have always wanted or didn’t even know you

in your relationship. Call instead of texting nonstop (unless you have a deep passion for texting), take turns doing things the other person wants to do and don’t let jealousy take over. Remember the reasons why you two started dating in the first place and who you were before you met them. Can you be yourself and date them simultaneously? Are they putting forth as much effort as you are?

0 to 3 Points

“I can get mine and you get yours.”

Your forecast includes clear skies in your relationship. If you more near the 3 mark, be a little wary, but for the most part you are in a pretty normal relationship. Have fun, enjoy yourself and embrace young romance. Who knows, maybe it could lead to something more!

1.)A. 2 B. 0 C. 1, 2.) A. 0 B. 1 C. 2, 3.) A. 0 B. 2 C. 1, 4.) A. 1 B. 2 C. 0, 5.) A. 2 B. 1. C. 0

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On an average day when you want to talk:

B. You usually just hang out with their group of friends now. That way you know they’re having fun.

C. You’re always with your friends.

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e have access to all the goods around town and are willing to share the wealth. Check out these featured items from local establishments.

P.S. This is only the beginning of what you can find, so if you like what you see, check ‘em out yourself!

Who knew you could get a Caravelli suit for only $79? Where could this concept possibly be true? At Halberstadt’s At The Mall. There’s more where that came from!

Halberstadt’s At The Mall 4001 W. 41st St. Sioux Falls (605) 362-8080

Paging the inner Johnny Cash This Taylor DN5-E SB has a Tropical Mahogany back and sides, with a Sitka Spruce top and features the Taylor Expression system pickup—a beautiful, rich, sunburst finish.

This guitar retails for $3,398, but the price on this guitar is so low at Sioux Falls Music that you have to call to find out just how low!

Sioux Falls Music 1209 W. 41st St. Sioux Falls (605) 334-5361 www.siouxfallsmusic.com

Isn’t it ironic?

This unique tote bag lets you express how full your glass of self-esteem is that day, and is large enough for you to carry all of your things! Flip it to show “Perfect.”

This $65 accessory is faked by Zinoo Park and is part of the Truth and Irony Project.

Zandbroz Variety 209 S. Phillips Ave. Sioux Falls (605) 331-5137

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A heart of gold…

White gold, that is. This gorgeous 14K necklace is full of diamonds and love. Your object of your affection will be touched that you spent $625 to show her how much you care.

Raymond’s Jewellers 206 S. Phillips Ave. Sioux Falls (605) 338-7550 www.raymondsjewellers.com

Peace and dragons This conversation starter not only is interesting to look at, but it is from Bangladesh and holds your incense! It is impressive, while also making your spiritual aroma seem tough, all for only $14.

Ten Thousand Villages 218 S. Phillips Ave. Sioux Falls (605) 335-6209 www.tenthousandvillages.com

“No one calls me chicken.”

For two sides, toast and two pieces of the best chicken in town, $5.69 is chump change The Keg 4529 E. 26th St. and 5301 W. 57th St. Sioux Falls (605) 371-1675 (605) 275-8500

Warm, chocolaty goodness Picture this: you and a good book on a cold winter’s day, sipping on your Caffe Mocha. This delight has espresso with Ghirardelli chocolate, steamed milk, and is topped with fresh whip cream for the so-worth-it price of $3.75. Tempted yet?

Michelle’s Coffee 324 S. Phillips Ave. Sioux Falls (605) 367-1100 www.michellescoffee.com

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fashion

Get Lost...

What’s Boss

Using the word “dank.” Dank should no longer exist in your vocabulary…

…unless you’re talking about something dark and damp, like a cave.

Wasting a bunch of paper and plastic bags every time you go shopping.

Using eco-friendly, reusable cloth bags, or recycling plastic bags after you are finished.

Using gel in your hair. It’s thick and sticky, and most of the time—when abused—it looks gross.

Using styling creams. They are creamy instead of thick and crunchy, and are rich in emollients.

When applied on wet hair, they can control curls, tame frizz and protect hair from heat when you style.

Noticed Trend of the Month : Feather hair accessories. Just when you thought it wouldn’t look hot to appear you have a dead bird in your hair…it does. (Pictured feather headband can be found at The Icing by Claire’s at the Empire Mall $14.50)

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HOT cold

fashion

in the

It seems easy to feel nasty and grungy when snow and slush cover the ground and you are covered from head to toe with warm articles of clothing. But don’t forget all of the incredible shops around town where you can find stylish and rare items and accessories to make you look fabulous, even when you’re outdoors!

Photos by: Hauschildt’s Photography Models: Tom Woodworth and Raleigh Hansman

(On her) White Sierra® snow pants; $45.50. Roxy Jewel jacket; $170.

Burton Paradise youth hat; $23.

(On him) FOURSQUARE Pants; $109.99. FOURSQUARE jacket; $189.99. DAKINE hat; $18. Poles; $30. All available at Sun ‘n Fun.

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(On him) Robert Talbott Sweater; price available upon request. Available at Halberstadt’s Men’s Clothiers. Hat by the San Diego Hat Company; $36.95. Available at Zandbroz Variety.

(On her) re*baa recycled wool mittens; $36. Available at Zandbroz Variety.

Want to model for 605 magazine? E-mail a headshot and full shot to contact@605magazine.com

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(On him) Mantoni Brown Pea Coat; price available upon request. Available at Halberstadt’s At The Mall. (On her) Hat by the San Diego Hat Company; $26.50. Available at Zandbroz Variety. Alternative Vintage soft spaghetti tank; $19. Alternative Vintage soft washed burnout long sleeve; $39. People*s Liberation jeans; $189. BC Footwear suede boots; $129. All available at AMaVo Boutique.

Gloves by Ragged Dog Collections RDC by S.L. Fletcher; $27. Available at Archival Elements.

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(On her) Scarf by Ragged Dog Collections RDC by S.L. Fletcher; $60.

Available at Archival Elements.

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fashion

Romantic Makeup:

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simple tips for

or any special occasion, like a girls night out or a date, it is always fun to experiment with makeup and get all gussied up. Makeup artist and hair stylist Kate Christensen from the Beauty Room shows two ways to look romantic.

Before...

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Flirty:

The main goal of a “flirty” look is to appear to have a natural glow. While applying makeup like foundation, Christensen suggests using a light diffusion to make it appear that you’re not wearing anything. “You want to make sure you can see the natural color of their skin,” Christensen says.

To accomplish this, use cream shadows for the eyes to bring a shimmer. Christensen stresses shimmer does not mean glitter, but more of a “candlelight glow.” Use natural colors like light browns, and for the lips, use a concealer to neutralize and wear flirty colors that aren’t too bold, like a light pink.

For this look makeup-wise, remember less is more.

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Sexy: For a sexy look, Christensen suggests either choose a dark lip or dark eyes, but never both, so you focus on the dramatic feature. In this case, Christensen chose a smoky eye and a nude lip.

Don’t limit yourself to using black for smoky eyes. Christensen says you can experiment with blacks, browns, greens, you name it.

For perfect smoky eyes, make it darker on the lid and lighter on the brow.

Add eyeliner from the corners, and move in so you can control the lid and how much you want on the edges. Smudge the eyeliner with eye shadow to make it last longer. You can use eye shadow as eyeliner for a softer look. Highlight the brow bone and use light shadow on the upper sides of the nose to open up the eyes.

False eyelashes are also a little something to add to give lashes length and appear full. Always apply mascara when using false lashes to help them blend in.

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Health

Couple Workouts

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on’t take out your aggression with your significant other by quarreling; take it out in the gym! Co-owner and fitness instructor at Next Edge Academy Julie Hoyer has some of the best workouts you can do with your sweetheart or your best friend.

Hoyer says not only does working out together help a person bond, but it provides motivation and safety.

Medicine Ball Twist with Squat Stand back-to-back with your partner. Lower into a squat position. Twist sideto-side passing a medicine ball back and forth.

One-Legged Squats Face your partner and grab hands. Both partners start by extending their right legs.

Squat with the left leg.

Alternate legs. Squat 10 times on each leg.

Lunge/Chest Press Stand back-to-back with your partner. Hold one end of a resistance band in each hand. Both partners should step out into a lunge at the same time. At the bottom of the lunge, press the bands out into a chest press. Return to the starting position. Alternate legs each time, completing 10 reps on each side.

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Palm Pat Start in plank position sideby-side and facing the same direction. Lower into a push up.

As you come up, turn to face your partner, reach up and slap hands at the top of the extension.

Return to plank and repeat.

Do 10 reps on this side and then switch positions.

Repeat on the other side.

Roundhouse Pyramid Attention Chuck Norris Fans: Grab the right wrist of your partner and face opposite directions. Point your left foot away so it is perpendicular with your body. Raise your right leg and extend at the knee. Kick in the air, aiming at your partner’s stomach with the top of your foot. Kick once and set your foot back on the ground. Kick twice but do not set down in between kicks. Kick three times without setting down. Continue this pattern to 10 kicks. Switch and have your partner kick. Switch sides and kick with your other leg.

Punches One partner will hold a pair of hand targets. The partner punching will stand with their left foot forward and alternate jabs and straights. Switch holders.

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YOGA:

Health

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Improving the Body and Mind

By Sabina Mustic

or some, yoga has been regarded as the latest “thing” for celebrities. But if you look at history, yoga is much more than a trend.

YMCA Health and Wellness Coordinator and registered yoga instructor Laura Barket says the physical and mental discipline has been practiced for more than 5,000 years in the eastern world. The word yoga comes from the ancient Indian language Sanskrit, meaning “unity.”

According to Barket, “Yoga is considered a mind and body exercise, because the breath unifies the mind and the body.”

Next to regular exercise, yoga provides a vast number of physical benefits. Barket explains, “There are several physical benefits of yoga, and two most noticeable are improved flexibility and improved balance.

You also improve your strength through yoga, and you can improve your cardiovascular fitness through breathing.”

The book Complementary Therapies and Wellness says that yoga also lowers blood pressure, improves circulation, massages organs, energizes nerves, increases endurance, balances the metabolism, and strengthens bones.

According to Yoga-for-life.org, yoga plays an important role in disease prevention as well. Human beings have a greater tendency to acquire disease when the immune system is compromised. This leads to infection and illness. Yoga strengthens the immune system; therefore it assists individuals who practice it regularly to fight illness. As if that were not enough, the same website notes that yoga slows down the aging process by giving elasticity to the spine, firming up the skin, removing tension from the body, strengthening the abdominal muscles, eliminating the possibility of a double chin, improving the tone of flabby arm mus-

cles, correcting poor posture and so on.

People who practice yoga on a regular basis experience many mental benefits as well.

Barket suggests, “Breathing counters your parasympathetic nervous system and that translates into being mentally calmer. If you are able to get more oxygen into your body, your heart rate will be lower, so you would be more relaxed physically and mentally.”

One of the breathing exercises practiced in yoga is the breath of fire which is rapid breathing that awakens the mind and body and elevates the heart rate. Another type is the ugiya breath, which is deep, controlled breathing that helps calm the parasympathetic nervous system, also known as the fight-or-flight-response.

The spiritual benefits of yoga are significant as well. According to the book Complementary Therapies and Wellness, “Yoga offers a great opportunity for insight, selfawareness, and growth through observation of thoughts, feelings, and experiences.”

Awareness helps individuals realize they are connected to everything and everyone around them. It also permits people to open up and experience happiness, which in turn makes people feel better and allows them to project the felt happiness onto others.

Yoga teaches acceptance also. Barket reveals, “If you are more accepting of where you are physically, you will be more accepting where you are in life. It makes you accepting of where other people are in their life. You would be less judgmental overall, and okay with the hidden plan of things.”

There are no limits to who does yoga. Barket says that yoga can be practiced by individuals of all ages. The fitness level may vary from person to person, but people of all levels can be in one yoga class because in-

Yoga instructor Sarah White teaches Yoga for Lunch at the Sioux Falls YMCA.

structors offer modification, and yoga is not a competition.

Barket reveals, “Through the practice of yoga you learn to be okay with your body’s limitations. You learn to take the poses to the point of tension and not pain and, ultimately, you learn to respect that boundary, because your body is your temple.”

Barket suggests to people who are interested in yoga to call a facility and ask if yoga for beginners is offered. If a gym is not in your budget, yoga can be practiced anywhere, anytime, as long as it is a level surface. All you need is a yoga mat.

The benefits are too great to pass up, and yoga just might be the picker-upper and change in your life that you may need. * Consult a physician before beginning any exercise regimen.