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A TASTE OF SARCASM // LOTUS UP ESPRESSO & DELI DELISH DELIGHTS // CRAVE AMERICAN KITCHEN & SUSHI BAR

THE ARTS

HEALTH

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CULTURE PROFILES // COMEDY FOR A CAUSE: SNO JAM COMEDY FESTIVAL

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OUTDOOR DATE IDEAS

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Q&A // DEADWOOD MARDI GRAS

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SEVEN WAYS TO LOVE YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW

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BEYOND BORDERS

ENTERTAINMENT 56

ASK THE JOHNS

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FACTOIDS

EVENTS 10

EVENTS RECAP

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EVENTS CALENDAR

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7 THINGS

HOME 20

HACKING AWAY // LONG DISTANT LOOPHOLES

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IN SEASON // LOVE ON DISPLAY

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AT HOME // MICHAEL & SYDNEY LEONARD

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DIY // BATH BOMBS

LIFESTYLE 30

THE SCOOP // FROM INSTAGRAM, WITH LOVE

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GET INVOLVED // 11TH ANNUAL NEMO 500

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THE REAL DEAL // ALTMAN STUDENY

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LITTLE PARENT ON THE PRAIRIE

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LOVE ON A BUDGET

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MONICA ALBERS culture profile A Chicagoland native, Monica is a graduate of Valparaiso University and a news producer in Sioux Falls. Favorite things include hiking trips, plane tickets, new cozy sweaters, and large cups of coffee.

SEAN CALHOUN Factoids Sean, a Sioux Falls native, is a junior writing major at Drake University in Des Moines, Iowa.

He enjoys discovering new music, watching sports on TV, and spending too much time on social media.

KAYLYN DEITER Health Kaylyn is a senior journalism and English major at Augustana University. When she’s not writing and editing, this Aberdeen native likes to adventure around Sioux Falls with friends, read, attempt to cook, and spend time with her family and dog, Cavvie.

KYLE HALLBERG Hacking Away Kyle is a coffee loving senior at the University of South Dakota.

When she isn’t in school, she enjoys creating, building forts, and anything that has to do with Jason Mraz.

THOMAS HENTGES online Writer Thomas is a Sioux Falls–based singer/songwriter, longtime scene staple, floor manager at Prairie Berry East Bank, and an obsessive music collector. He enjoys spinning his large collection of vinyl albums, drinking craft beer and tequila, spending time with his wife, family and friends, and keeping tabs on all his beloved sports teams.

NATALIE SLIETER The Scoop Natalie graduated from USD with a degree in communication sciences and disorders. She has a passion for writing, as well as lazy Saturdays, laughing, and spending time with her husband.

ANNA STRITECKY In season Anna is a student at Augustana University, where she double majors in government and journalism. In her free time, Anna jams to easy listening music, takes photos of the people around her, and can’t resist a good episode of New Girl.

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR

DENISE DEPAOLO

@ d en i s ed epao lo My heart is full of gratitude as I write this; my final letter as 605 Magazine’s managing editor. It seems only fitting that my last issue at the helm is dedicated to love. Like most real-life love, work on this issue was challenging, but overwhelmingly rewarding.

This month’s cover story focuses not on the road to love, but the road through it. Two couples share the stories

compare Me and Early and the Dying Girl's book vs. the big screen with Ellie on the blog this month.

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Tempering the tough with tender, we get to know one of my favorite local artists, Altman Studeny, in this issue.

There is no one who embodies the fun, quirky, creative side of the Mount Rushmore State better than him. We also head to the Black Hills for perhaps the most unique fundraiser of the year - the Nemo outhouse races. And, while we’re there, we stop by Lotus Up Espresso & Deli’s new Lead location for a little lunch.

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F E B R U A R Y 14-15

F E B R U A R Y 24-26

F E B R U A R Y 2-5

Washington Pavilion, Sioux Falls. 7:30 p.m. More info: washingtonpavilion.org or (605) 367-6000.

SONIA AND MASHA AND SPIKE"

» S E C T P R E S E N T S : " C A L E N DA R GIRLS"

Orpheum Theater, Sioux Falls. 7 p.m. February 5 at 2 p.m. More info: siouxfallstheatre.com or (605) 360-4800.

» " INTO THE WOODS"

F E B R U A R Y 14 & 18

» V - DAY S I O U X FA L L S " T H E VAG I N A

» S E C T P R E S E N T S : " VA N YA A N D

Orpheum Theater, Sioux Falls. 7 p.m. February 26 at 2 p.m. More info: siouxfallstheatre.com or (605) 360-4800.

MONOLOGUES"

F E B R U A R Y 25

» B L AC K H I L L S S T O C K S H O W A N D

B E AC H PA RT Y

RO D E O

Edith Mortenson Center, Sioux Falls. 7 p.m. Two night-only benefit reading of Eve Ensler's awardwinning play. More info: Facebook event page.

Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, Rapid City. Various times. More info: blackhillsstockshow.com.

F E B R UA RY 15

F E B RUARY 3

WAT E RC O L O R W O R K S H O P

» P L U S H I E PA L O OZ A 2 ( VA L E N T I N E ' S REVENGE)

Dahl Arts Center Galleries, Rapid City. 6:30 p.m.

Presented by the Rapid City Arts Council. Make your own cuddly monster out of felt. More info: thedahl. org.

G E T I N V O LV E D

Museum of Visual Materials, Sioux Falls. 4 p.m. More info: sfmvm.com or (605) 271-9500.

F E B RUARY 3

F E B R U A R Y 16

» RO M A N C E + R E V E N G E : A VA L E N T I N E ' S C A B A R E T

F E B R U A R Y 3-4 H O L M E S MYS T E RY "

F E B R U A R Y 16 & 18

Firehouse Brewing Theatre, Rapid City. 7:30 p.m.

More info: firehousebrewing.com.

F E B R U A R Y 7-11

» WAT E RT O W N W I N T E R FA R M S H O W Codington County Extension Complex, Watertown. 9 a.m. - 4 p.m. More info: watertownwinterfarmshow. com.

F E B R U A R Y 10 » P E R F E C T LY PA I R E D

Firehouse Wine Cellars, Rapid City. 7 p.m. Wine and chocolate pairings with live music. More info:firehousewinecellars.com.

» CALAMITY'S SHINDIG Homestake Adams Research and Cultural Center, Deadwood. 6 p.m. More info: deadwoodhistory.com.

F E B R U A R Y 11

Icon Event Hall + Lounge, Sioux Falls. 6 p.m.

Supports mission of SURVIVEIT with artwork, R&B music, dancing, and food. More info: commitchange. com/sd/sioux-falls/surviveit/events/artandsoul.

F E B RUARY 4

» D E C A D E N C E I N C H O C O L AT E 2 017 The Coliseum, Sioux Falls. All proceeds benefit the Mulit-Cultural Center. More info: www.sfmcc.org.

The Matthews Opera House & Arts Center, Spearfish.

7:30 p.m. More info: matthewsopera.com.

F E B RUARY 9

M AG N O L I A S "

F E B RUA RY 18 » CHINESE NEW YEAR

Adams Museum, Deadwood. 11 a.m. Celebrate the year of the rooster. More info: deadwoodhistory.com.

F E B R U A R Y 17, 18, 24, 25 » " I L OV E YO U, YO U ' R E P E R F E C T, NOW C HANGE "

Firehouse Brewing Theatre, Rapid City. 7:30 p.m. More info: firehousebrewing.com.

F E B R U A R Y 20

»»»»»» N AT I O N A L PA R K S F E E F R E E F O R P R E S I D E N T S ' DAY

National Parks, everywhere. More info: nps.gov/ planyourvisit/fee-free-parks.htm.

Tretheway Pavilion, Spearfish. Over 40 crafts, wine and goodie vendors. More info: Facebook event page.

F E B R U A R Y 24

» 3 R D A N N UA L M A S Q U E R A D E B A L L

Sioux Falls Convention Center & Arena, Sioux Falls. 10 a.m. More info: hbasiouxempire.com.

» SIOUX EMPIRE HOME SHOW

F E B R U A R Y 24, 25, 26

» P I E R R E P L AY E R S C O M M U N I T Y

T H E AT R E P R E S E N T S : " T H E B E S T M A N "

BY G O R E V I DA L Grand Opera House, Pierre. 7:30 p.m. February 26 at 2 p.m. More info: pierreplayers.com 12 // FEBRUARY 2017

» A RT & S O U L GA L A 2 017

» C O M M U N I T Y T H E AT E R : " S T E E L

» 4T H A N N UA L C H O C O L AT E F E S T I VA L

445 Martini Lounge, Rapid City. 8 p.m. More info: therushmorehotel.com.

Main Street Square, Rapid City. More info: mainstreetsquarerc.com.

» LUMINOUS LANDSCAPE:

Icon Louge, Sioux Falls. 8 p.m. More info: goodnighttheatre.com.

» " B A S K E RV I L L E : A S H E R L O C K

» H O T 9 3 .1 L A S T DAY T O S K AT E

» WE BELIEVE IN KIDS BENEFIT DINNER

Holiday Inn - Rushmore Plaza, Rapid City. 5 p.m.

More info: wellfully.org/we-believe-in-kids.

» 4T H A N N UA L I N H E R S H O E S E M P O W E R M E N T B R E A K FA S T

Sioux Falls Convention Center, Sioux Falls. 7:30 a.m.

Proceeds support Dress for Success and EmBe. More info: embe.org.

F E B R U A R Y 10

» 6T H A N N UA L B L AC K H I L L S C A R E S WA L K F O R WA R M T H

Main Street Square, Rapid City. 1 p.m. Help those in financial need heat their homes. More info: blackhillsenergy.com/walkforwarmth.

F E B R U A R Y 11

» GA L E N T I N E ' S B RU N C H & FUNDRAISER

The Gathering Place, Sioux Falls. 9 a.m. Spend a morning with the Sioux Empire Rock-a-Bettys. More info: Facebook event page.

F E B RUA RY 16

» 2 017 S I O U X FA L L S G O R E D F O R WOME N EVE NT

Sioux Falls Convention Center, Sioux Falls. 4:30 p.m.

Hear from survivors and get tips for preventing heart disease. More info: heart.org.

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SPORTS

F E B RUARY 9

F E B R U A R Y 2, 3, 11, 12, 14, 18

The District, Sioux Falls. 6 p.m. More info: thedistrictsf.com.

Deadwood Mountain Grand, Deadwood. 8 p.m. More info: More info: deadwoodmountaingrand.com or (605) 559-1188.

Denny Sanford Premier Center, Sioux Falls. More info: sfstampede.com or (605) 336-6060.

» RO B E RT E L L I S

F E B R U A R Y 19

F E B R U A R Y 3, 4, 19, 24, 25

F E B R U A R Y 10

Brookings. More info: gobrookingsblizzard.com.

TO PRINC E

» S I O U X FA L L S S TA M P E D E

» B RO O K I N G S B L I Z Z A R D

F E B R U A R Y 7, 10, 11, 14 » S I O U X FA L L S S K Y F O RC E

Sanford Pentagon, Sioux Falls. More info: skyforceonline.com or (605) 332-0605.

F E B R U A R Y 8, 10, 11, 24, 25, 26 » R A P I D C I T Y RU S H

» K A N E B RO W N

Total Drag. 7 p.m. More info: totaldrag.com.

Dakota Sioux Casino & Hotel, Watertown. 8 p.m.

More info: dakotasioux.com.

F E B R U A R Y 20

» SIMS

A S S O C I AT I O N P R E S E N T S " S H A D E S O F BUBLE'"

Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls. 8 p.m. With Dwynell Roland.

More info: collectiveeffortsunion.com.

» K A N E B RO W N

F E B R UA RY 12

F E B R U A R Y 11

Sioux Falls Arena, Sioux Falls. 3 p.m. More info: rollerdollz.com.

DREAM

F E B R U A R Y 3, 10, 17, 24

» E M E RG I N G A RT I S T S @ T H E L I E N C U LT U R A L C A F E

» VINOTE SESSIONS: COSMO'S Firehouse Wine Cellars, Rapid City. 7 p.m. More info: firehousebrewing.com.

» BEN FOLDS WITH THE SDSO Washington Pavilion, Sioux Falls. 7:30 p.m. More info: washingtonpavilion.org or (605) 367-6000.

Bruce H. Lien Cultural Cafe, Rapid City. 5:30 p.m.

Check out emerging artists free of charge every Friday. More info: thedahl.org.

» DAT S I K

F E B R U A R Y 3-4

F E B R U A R Y 16

Firehouse Wine Cellars, Rapid City. 7 p.m. More info: firehousebrewing.com.

MORE

» V I N O T E S E S S I O N S : JAC K I E K R I E B E L

F E B RUARY 4

» T WE NT Y ONE PILOTS Denny Sanford Premier Center, Sioux Falls. 7 p.m.

More info: ticketmaster.com or 1 (800) 745-3000.

» HAIRBALL Swiftel Center, Brookings. 8 p.m. More info: swiftelcenter.com.

F E B RUARY 8

» A N E V E N I N G W I T H DAW E S

W O R L D T O U R 2 017

» THE PURPLE XPE RIE NC E: TRIBUTE

Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, Rapid City. More info: rapidcityrush.com or (605) 394-4115.

MUSIC

» D I E R K S B E N T L E Y W H AT T H E H E L L Denny Sanford Premier Center, Sioux Falls. 7 p.m. With Cole Swindell and Jon Pardi. More info: ticketmaster.com or 1 (800) 745-3000.

Deadwood Mountain Grand, Deadwood. 8 p.m. More info: deadwoodmountaingrand.com or (605) 5591188.

» S I O U X FA L L S RO L L E R D O L L Z

» M A RT Y S T UA RT

The District, Sioux Falls. 8 p.m. With Crizzly and Virtual Riot. More info: thedistrictsf.com.

» V E S S E L S , S O U L S , S E E I N G R E D, &

» R A P I D C I T Y C O N C E RT

Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, Rapid City. 7:30 p.m.

More info: gotmine.com.

F E B R U A R Y 21

» O F F W I T H T H E I R H E A D S (AC O U S T I C ) Black Hills Vinyl, Rapid City. 6:30 p.m. With Someday Best, American Heavy Metal Weekend, and Teenage Satanist. More info: Facebook event page.

F E B R U A R Y 22 » P RO F

Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls. 9 p.m. With Finding Novyon, Metasota, and Nikko McFadden. More info: collectiveeffortsunion.com.

F E B R U A R Y 23 » M A RT I N S E X T O N

Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls. 8 p.m. More info: pepperentertainment.com.

F E B R U A R Y 24

» H E AT WAV E & L A N D M A N Total Drag, Sioux Falls. 7 p.m. More info: totaldragrecords.com.

Black Hills Vinyl, Rapid City. 7 p.m. With Clock Strikes Midnight. More info: Facebook event page.

F E B R U A R Y 25

F E B R U A R Y 17

Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls. 9 p.m. With Psychic Twin.

More info: strfkricon.eventbrite.com.

»

F E B R U A R Y 26

V I N O T E S E S S I O N S : M I K E L E M AY Firehouse Wine Cellars, Rapid City. 7 p.m. More info: firehousebrewing.com.

F E B R U A R Y 18

» JA S Q U I N T E T " L E A P Y E A R B A BY " ALBUM RELEASE

» STRFKR

» 10 3 . 7 K R RO P R E S E N T S : D RO P K I C K M U R P H YS

The District, Sioux Falls. 7:30 p.m. With The Interrupters and Blood & Whiskey. More info: thedistrictsf.com.

Wasington Pavilion, Sioux Falls. 9:30 a.m. With Jami Lynn. More info: washingtonpavilion.org.

Orpheum Theater, Sioux Falls. 8 p.m. More info: ticketmaster.com or 1 (800) 745-3000.

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1

Sweet Art Show

February 10. Icon Event Hall & Lounge, Sioux Falls. 5:30-8:30 p.m. Help Jam Art and Supplies’ mission to get supplies into the hands of local artists. This annual celebration features a gourmet ice cream bar, hors d’oeuvres, makeand-take crafting, and of course, amazing local art. A free-will donation of $10 is suggested at the door. More info: jamartandsupplies. com or search event on Facebook.

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PAWS for Wine

February 10. Swiftel Center, Brookings. 7-11 p.m. Give support to the Brookings Humane Society with this Valentine’s-themed event. This evening fundraiser features wine tasting, hors d’oeuvres, dessert, live music, dancing, and a silent auction.

More info: brookingshumane.org.

5

Tour de Chocolate

February 11. Hill City. It’s a delicious excuse to head for the Hills. Spend the day visiting downtown merchants, sampling chocolate treats, and doing a little shopping. Find a “specials sheet” at participating retailers. More info: hillcitysd.com or (605) 574-2368.

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3

Speakeasy Soiree

February 10. Crawford's Bar & Grill, Sioux Falls. 8 p.m. The Bakery is partnering with Crawford's Bar and Grill downtown to host the second annual Speakeasy Soirée. Tickets are $15 and include entrance into a world that was once prohibited – parlor games, specialty cocktails, live jazz from one of South Dakota’s premier jazz ensembles, JAS Quintet, dancing, and a "little slight of hand." More info: www.thebakerysf.com/ speakeasy.

6

Winemakers Dinner

February 11. Valiant Vineyards, Vermillion. Is your Valentine a foodie? Bring your one and only to South Dakota’s first commercial winery for a memorable dinner. This delicious five-course meal includes perfect wine pairings from the Valiant/Stone Faces family.

More info: valiantvineyards.us or (605) 624-4500.

4

Black Hills Sports Show & Outdoor Expo

February 10-12.

Rushmore Plaza Civic Center, Rapid City. If you love the outdoors, this is the ultimate event for you.

Shop and interact with over 100 specialty vendors, browse Ladies Lane, and watch the Youth Archery Shootout, plus enjoy plenty of family-oriented activities. More info: bhsportsshow.com.

7

Chocopalooza

February 11. Dahl Arts Center, Rapid City. 11 a.m.-6 p.m. The fifth annual "festival of indulgence" is back. Check out chocolate, wine, cakes and candies, jewelry, arts, children's activities, and much more. Tickets are $5 and benefit Fork Real Community Cafe. More info: thedahl.org or (605) 394-4101.

Cupcakes & Cookies

for critters

February 7th - 14th Buy a treat, giving is sweet!

Buy specially-marked cupcakes from any of the Sioux Falls Hy-vee Bakeries or specially-marked cookies from The Cookie Jar Eatery and enjoy a treat with your sweetie while giving back to animals in need!

up to 50% of the proceeds benefit the Sioux Falls Area Humane Society

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>> Comedy for a Cause: Sno Jam Comedy Festival

BY MONICA ALBERS

Winter in South Dakota has brought bone-chilling temperatures, sub-zero windchills, and piles of snow already this season, but that’s not stopping 30 comedians from traveling across the country to collect some Sioux Falls laughs. In fact, Sno Jam Comedy Festival organizers say they’re using "Old Man Winter" to challenge comics to support a cause close to their hearts – and comics are proving themselves up to the task.

A three-day festival held in Sioux Falls, Sno Jam is the first event of its kind in South Dakota. Co-creators Dan Bublitz Jr. and Nathan Hults were among the team who narrowed down more than 100 submissions from around the country to a six-show event of 30 comics this month. All proceeds from the event will go to the Special Olympics of South Dakota.

“We wanted to bring comics here in the middle of the winter when no one else wants to come here,” said Hults. “We wanted a festival that’s in the dead of winter in the worst place to be. So a lot of these people will never come back.”

Fernson on 8th, Wacko’s Comedy Club and Total Drag have opened their doors to the festival, which takes place February 16-18. Audiences can enjoy both stand-up routines and themed showcases, sharing performers’ talents for storytelling and improv.

And if South Dakota’s winter provides another sudden snowstorm, they say the show will go on – with no shortage of talented alternates to fill in the gaps.

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in a growing area comedy scene. In addition to comics from as far away as San Diego and New York, seven local names have been selected for the line-up, providing new learning opportunities for performers.

“It’s a good time to go network with other comics, so that’s kind of the appeal to come to a festival,” said Bublitz. “You get to go perform in a different area, you meet other comics and network with other comics, and you’re supporting a good cause.”

Organizers are glad to be a part of the area’s growth.

“In college when I studied theater, they told me that if you’re in South Dakota, you have to create your own opportunities. You have to do art where you are,” explained Hults. “South Dakota’s never had a comedy festival, and I thought, let's give it a shot.”

Passion soon met purpose. The project became one to raise funds and awareness. As someone with family members with special needs, Hults says he’s always had a soft spot for this particular organization, and a list of charities was soon narrowed down. Hults calls the festival a “party for the Special Olympics.” They hope to make it a winter tradition.

“We love comedy so much,” said Hults. “We like to do it, and when you can do it to help someone else, it’s just a great feeling.”

Tickets can be purchased online and are recommended to purchase soon due to the small size of some of the venues. Tickets are $10 a night, and a VIP all-access pass goes for $50. For complete scheduling information and ticket sales, visit siouxfallssnojamcomedyfest.com.

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DEADWOOD MARDI GRAS

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JUST BECAUSE IT’S WINTER DOESN’T MEAN WE HAVE TO HUNKER DOWN. CELEBRATE THE SEASON WITH THE “BEST PARTY NORTH OF THE BAYOU.” AMANDA KILLE OF THE DEADWOOD CHAMBER OF COMMERCE EXPLAINS THAT DEADWOOD MARDI GRAS (FEBRUARY 24-25) IS A WEEKEND OF FREE FUN, COMPLETE WITH PLENTY OF SPICY CAJUN FOOD TO WARM US UP.

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How is Deadwood Mardi Gras different from celebrations in New Orleans or Rio? How is it better?

Amanda Kille: We were inspired by New Orleans and Rio, and want to honor those traditions, but we put a Deadwood spin on it. Every year we have an elaborate parade, authentic Zydeco music, and costume contests all hosted in one of the most authentic historic towns in the West.

What are some of the can't-miss events happening this year?

AK: For 2017, we have added a new can’t-miss offering to the itinerary. On Friday, February 24 don’t miss the Cajun Crawl. Attendees will enjoy Cajun delicacies at locations throughout Deadwood. It’s a progressive menu and it’s free!

All locations will be serving food from 5-8 p.m.

There will be an appetizer, soup and salad, main course, and dessert locations. Each location will have a different course and a drink to pair it with. At 8 p.m., the Masquerade Party and Coronation begins and will include live music

by Curley Taylor and Zydeco Trouble. All events are free.

Enjoy Cajun food, drinks and fun, sponsored by the Deadwood Chamber of Commerce. Be sure to stay the whole weekend, because you won’t want to miss the lighted parade on Saturday

night, followed by another round of live music

by Curley Taylor and Zydeco Trouble.

What is one of your favorite Deadwood Mardi Gras memories?

AK: The entertainment is always really good from year to year, but there are a few standout floats that stick in my memory. One in particular was the year that the Saloon #10 had their King Kong float. They’ve surpassed that one in size and scope year after year, but I was blown away in that moment, so it’s burned in my mind.

Really, though, every year they come out with something bigger, better, more lights, etc. The bar is set pretty high for floats in Deadwood, thanks to them!

Why should we make Deadwood Mardi Gras a winter tradition?

AK: It’s the perfect excuse to bust your cabin fever, get out, and have a good time. The dates vary from year to year, but it’s always during the prime winter recreation season, and this year’s snow is phenomenal! We encourage people to get out on the snowmobile trails, hit the slopes – enjoy what we have to offer over here in the Hills. Then head back in to Deadwood for your evening entertainment.

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BORDERS WENT BANKRUPT? SO WHAT. THAT DOESN’T STOP FORMER EMPLOYEE MARK LLOYD FROM FINDING OUT WHAT’S THE NEXT HOTTEST READ.

IN THE NEAR FUTURE, THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE PAID TO THINK ABOUT THE FUTURE. THESE PEOPLE ARE BROKEN DOWN INTO TWO GROUPS: THE FORESIGHT STRATEGIST AND THE STRATEGIC FORECASTERS. The foresight strategists think about things like improving our cities. They help governments see how we can employ geoengineering to improve our future. They think about ways to keep people from bringing about the apocalypse.

Strategic forecasters are spooks. They think about how to overthrow governments. They think about the future of warfare and how to win those wars. They think about how we’ll come out on top, even when the apocalypse hits.

And for everyone that does it, thinking about the future for a living will inevitably take them to a dark place. The future is depressing most of the time. Severe mental illness can be a side effect.

When someone loses their grip, some people call it the “abyss gaze,” because it comes from looking into the abyss of the future. When that happens, you get sent to Normal Head, a secure hospital in the woods in Oregon.

Adam Dearden is a foresight strategist who has seen into the abyss a little too long. When he arrives at Normal Head, all he wants to do is unplug and relax. He just needs to get his head straight for a while before he gets back into the game.

THE FUTURE IS DEPRESSING MOST OF THE TIME. SEVERE MENTAL ILLNESS CAN BE A SIDE EFFECT. But when another patient goes missing in bizarre fashion, Adam finds himself in an investigation to find out what happened and ends up unraveling a conspiracy that makes him doubt everything.

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BY ELAN MASTAI Tom is from an alternate reality where the future that people imagined in the 1950s came true. You know, we have flying cars and moving sidewalks and robot maids. But, due to a time travel mishap, Tom is thrown into our timeline.

You know, the one where people don’t even have jetpacks. I bet Tom finds something in our reality that makes him want to stay.

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PERFECT LITTLE WORLD

BY KEVIN WILSON Izzy is 18 years old and pregnant with her art teacher’s baby. Her mother is dead, and her father is an alcoholic. That’s when Dr. Grind offers her a place in The Infinite Family Project. She’ll be placed in a compound with nine other young women in the same ordeal. I don’t know. That sounds like an MTV show waiting to happen.

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FEBRUARY IS FILLED WITH CANDY HEARTS MUSHY SOCIAL MEDIA POSTS. For some, this love is felt from blocks away, and for others, hundreds of miles.

If you find yourself celebrating Valentine’s Day over Skype or FaceTime, try your luck with some of these long-distance relationship hacks, leaving you feeling closer than ever.

ËË SWEET HEARTS Fill a jar with your favorite candy, like M&Ms or Swedish Fish. Count out the number of days between each visit, and then eat one candy each day as a sweet countdown. This is a fun and delicious way to watch the time melt away.

ËË CUDDLE TIME Invest in long-distance relationship gadgets like virtual hugs or Pillow Talk. The Hug Shirt and the Pillow Talk pillows allow for partners to literally see, hear and feel the heartbeats and hugs of their significant other: littleriot.com/ pillow-talk or cutecircuit.com/the-hug-shirt.

ËË HEY YOU! Find you and your significant other are on different schedules? Try downloading the app HeyTell. This app allows couples to leave voice messages in a chat-like setting, eliminating the wait period between voicemails and really important "now" stories.

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Shape the heart by tucking the flaps under the napkin.

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PREPARING A SPECIAL VALENTINE’S MEAL? Don’t stop at the food. Make your beloved’s heart go “pitter-patter” with a napkin design (almost) too sweet to use!

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MICHAEL & SYDNEY LEONARD

Michael and Sydney Leonard knew their 1930s central Sioux Falls home would be a project. The carpet was old, the colors were dated, and the rooms felt claustrophobic. But for the couple, who both work at Sanford Health, it was the perfect opportunity to let their DIY flag fly and create a perfectly personalized home for themselves and their son.

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We went on a walk with Lewis when he was just a few months old and saw it was for sale,” remembered Michael. “The guy across the street said, ‘It’ll be gone tomorrow,’ so in a knee-jerk reaction, we decided to buy a new house. We knew it needed a lot of work, but we could see some potential and loved the neighborhood.”

The small entryway was opened up with the removal of a coat closet, and a built-in was repurposed as a coat rack. Walls were torn down, and what remained were very good bones and a modern, open floor plan.

To the left of the entryway, with its newly-exposed brick, is the living room. The space is full of eclectic, yet comfortable pieces, softened with an array of throw pillows in varying sizes and textures. The shelves and tables were made by Michael, largely of reclaimed wood found on Craigslist.

The main level is floored in a grey oak, punctuated by large area rugs.

“THE GUY ACROSS THE STREET SAID, ‘IT’LL BE GONE TOMORROW,’ SO IN A KNEE-JERK REACTION, WE DECIDED TO BUY A NEW HOUSE. WE KNEW IT NEEDED A LOT OF WORK, BUT WE COULD SEE SOME POTENTIAL AND LOVED THE NEIGHBORHOOD.” The stairs leading to the second floor show their age only in their steep incline. The treads have been redone in a grey oak, and the risers are faced with a corrugated steel, creating a simultaneously modern

and rustic look, which appears to be the home’s prevailing aesthetic.

Michael says he was skeptical about the steel-fronted stairs when Sydney proposed the idea, but now, he wishes he could take credit for them.

In the dining room, a hulking table is surrounded by grey tufted chairs.

The table is another of Michael’s creations, built from timbers salvaged from a grain elevator. He describes it as “very heavy.” A large, ornately-framed mirror hangs on the wall above the table, helping to distribute the light streaming in from the sliding door to the deck.

Although snow-covered during our tour, the backyard practically beckons. The large deck is another fresh addition, along with a paver patio, a modern wood surround for the grill, and the showpiece of showpieces, a garden shed that looks straight out of Middle Earth.

The facade is brick, but the shape is angular and whimsical. Inside, Michael assures us, looks just like your average garden shed.

“LEWIS IS A BUSY BOY, SO HE NEEDED THIS LITTLE PLAY ZONE. I PICKED UP SOME OF THE PLASTIC PIECES FROM LOCAL HARDWARE STORES AND AMAZON.” The kitchen has been completely overhauled, as well. The countertops are butcher block, the backsplash is a whitewashed brick, and the cabinets are dark and distressed. The coexistence of the apron-front sink and stainless steel appliances perpetuate the home’s old-meets-new vibe.

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The basement is partially finished, with an ample storage room, which will likely be the couple’s next big project. The media room has been updated from a dark, dated dungeon to a cozy entertainment space. One wall is dominated by a flat screen television, while another holds a dreamy indoor playset, complete with a slide.

“Lewis is a busy boy, so he needed this little play zone,” explained Michael.

“I picked up some of the plastic pieces from local hardware stores and Amazon. The rest is built out of pine and cedar decking. He loves it. It’s a good place for him to get the wiggles out on a six-below day, like today.”

The master bedroom encompasses the whole of the top floor, which Sydney refers to as a "little getaway."

The bright, airy attic-like space is illuminated by more than a dozen track lights and two windows at either end. The once-dark paneling has been whitewashed. Barn doors, built from wood and corrugated steel, hide a surprisingly large walk-in and neighboring shoe closet. The bed, built from free wood Michael found on Craigslist, is low, to compensate for the angled ceiling, which has built-in lamps for bedtime reading. Now that the main areas of the house are complete, Michael hopes to take on more custom jobs for clients through his company Ruggedly Handsome Creations.

“We collaborated on our home and it’s continuing to evolve and change and there’s probably endless projects around here, but the big stuff is done,” he said.

Sydney continued, “He's touched every surface of this entire house.

He's not afraid to do it, and if he's not sure how to do it, he'll figure it out.”

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s of December 2016, there are 600 million active users on Instagram, according to DMR. While many of those users mindlessly scroll by content and take photos of their family and food, users like Derek Harsch and Oksana Silchuk use their accounts to inspire others with topics they're passionate about. Harsch hopes his imagery and messages will influence others to get up and explore. Silchuk strives to show followers that home décor doesn’t have to be complicated for a happy home life.

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Derek Harsch maintains the account called Awake the Soul. Back in 2011, Harsch and his wife Mandy packed up their belongings and moved out west to Portland, OR. They didn’t know anyone there and didn’t even know where they would live once they arrived.

However, once they got there, Harsch found himself spending most of his time sitting on the couch and looking through his phone. He soon realized something needed to change when he could look out his apartment window and see mountains.

“People need to do what I did and get off the couch and go explore,” said Harsch. “I knew it was awaking me and something within me, and so that became Awake the Soul.”

Harsch has forged friendships with many outdoor-focused accounts on Instagram, which is where he finds the photos that he will post on his account.

Harsch returned to Sioux Falls and used the experience he had back in Oregon as motivation to make the account. He says the goal of the account is to inspire, encourage, and challenge others to get outside and off their phones.

Harsch says maintaining the account is not very time consuming.

He posts on the account three times a day at 8:30am, 1:30 p.m., and 9:26 p.m. He chose these times because he feels he gets the most viewers then. The account is rising in popularity with 120,000 total followers and gaining 700 new followers daily.

All the photos are of the outdoors displaying various landscapes like mountains, oceans, and forests.

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Besides the account, a clothing line for Awake the Soul has also been created.

“I want people to know that we’re not just a page, we are a movement,” said Harsch.

Oksana Silchuk of Sioux Falls is also a local Instagrammer aiming to inspire others with home décor on the account @silchuknest “one corner at a time.” Most of the photos are of her home and consist of simple, white décor with added pieces, such as copper cups at a table setting or a mix of greenery.

“I've always enjoyed creating a cozy home. I catch myself always moving things around, staging, styling,” said Silchuk. “I made occasional posts of my home on my personal Instagram page and received a great response.

I realized that a separate account would allow me to focus more on my passion.”

Silchuk says her motivation to maintain a beautiful home is her husband and two children, Zion and Chloe. She feels that it’s important to make an enjoyable atmosphere for her family by having beautiful

and well-decorated walls

that simplicity is beautiful.

Being the mother of a 3-year-old and 1-year-old keeps her busy, meaning she usually only has time to update the account when her children are fast asleep.

“My long term goal is to inspire others to create beautiful and cozy ‘nests’ where their family feels a warm embrace,” said Silchuk. “By creating a comfortable home, you create an inviting environment which leads to endless memories your family will tuck away in their hearts forever.”

While the account focuses on home décor, she also wants it to be an opportunity for her to connect with others and share her experiences as a wife and young mother.

Silchuk says she wants her followers to know that having a beautiful home doesn’t need to be costly and

To see more photos, follow @ silchuknest and @awakethesoul on Instagram or visit awakethesoul.com.

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REALLOVE DENISE DEPAOLO | ELIZABETH LUCILLE PHOTOGRAPHY

IN THE MOVIES, THE WEDDING IS OFTEN THE END OF THE STORY. THE COUPLE OVERCOMES ARBITRARY OBSTACLES TO GET TO THE ALTAR AND PLEDGE THEIR ETERNAL LOVE TO ONE ANOTHER, AND THAT’S IT. IN REAL LIFE, HOWEVER, DEEP, ABIDING LOVE OFTEN GROWS AFTER THE WEDDING. IT’S EASY TO FEEL ENAMORED WHEN TIMES ARE GOOD, BUT WHEN THINGS GET HARD, THAT’S WHEN YOU KNOW WHETHER YOU’VE FOUND A KEEPER. IN HONOR OF VALENTINE’S DAY, WE VISITED WITH TWO SOUTH DAKOTA COUPLES WHO HAVE BEEN THROUGH HELL, AND CAME OUT THE OTHER SIDE HAND-IN-HAND. NOW THAT IS TRUE LOVE.

TIM + ASHLEY PLUCKER It’s the great American love story: young couple flirts at beer pong tournament, falls in love, and lives happily ever after. That’s the way it was working out for Tim and Ashley Plucker of Sioux Falls. They liked each other right away. Less than a year after their first encounter in August 2009, they were engaged.

Their Halloween wedding was one for the record books, with Zombie Walk photos and a reception full of costumes and candy.

Halloween remains the couple’s favorite holiday, although now, like everything else, it’s all about their three children, Max, Alex, and Sydney.

So when Ashley woke up with a sore neck on November 6, 2016, she saw no reason for alarm.

Any busy mother of three deals with her daily share of aches and pains. Later that day, though, the likely cause of that pain, a blood clot, would prove life-changing.

“She had a blood clot in the basilar artery, which supplies the brainstem and cerebellum with blood. That caused her big stroke,” explained Tim. “Went to Avera [McKennan Hospital] first. Initially, they thought it was a really bad migraine after the first CT scan. Then they took another CT scan and put some sort of dye into her veins and did another scan and found the clot in that artery. They did not have a doctor who could perform the procedure to extract the clot. Sanford [Health] has the only doctor in the state who can do that. His name is Dr. Kim.” Tim, who says he now knows more about the brain and “a lot of other things” than he ever wanted to know, recounts the story of his wife’s stroke with precision, having been present for every step. “They put some medicine (Tissue Plasminogen Activator) on the clot to help it break up, and then we came over here, to Sanford. They went through the groin, in through the veins, and once they got to the clot, the medicine they had put on it at Avera had caused the clot to break up, which is good.

But then it made two smaller clots that caused a smaller stroke near her cerebellum. Once he got in there and saw the two smaller clots that

“I JUST LOVE HER AS MUCH AS I EVER DID, WHICH IS UNCONDITIONALLY.”

he couldn’t get to, he put more of the medication by those clots and those did eventually break up.”

Aside from the sore neck, there was no warning. Ashley had experienced migraines before, but nothing like this. Her doctor explained that the clot could have been the result of any number of things - from a chiropractic adjustment to a simple sneeze.

Over the next few days, fluid build up on the brain necessitated a craniectomy. She remained largely unconscious for a week, except for when she was roused to move her legs or squeeze a hand. As the days passed, though, progress continued. Ashley started opening her eyes. She began physical therapy, able at first to only sit or stand with assistance. As of late December, Ashley was able to walk with assistance and her speech has improved immensely. Her big goal is to walk unassisted to the bathroom. That, Tim says, will be the big goal before she goes home.

Months in the hospital have been hard. Family members have been helping with the kids, and the outpouring of support from friends, coworkers, and even strangers who have donated to their GoFundMe has been overwhelming for the Pluckers. Tim has been able to work from home in the mornings, before spending afternoons, and often nights, by Ashley’s side.

Although her voice was damaged by her breathing tube, and a month of not talking, she is able to string together audible sentences once again. Ashley says that Tim and the kids have been her motivation. She has experienced new depths of courage and strength, both emotional and physical.

“I haven’t seen her cry once in here. This from the girl who used to cry during almost every TV show,” said Tim, kissing Ashley’s hand. “She had our kids without an epidural, so I know she’s strong. I know she can take pain. It’s just... she’s been very strong through this emotionally. She hasn’t given up. In all the therapies, she’s done everything they’ve asked.

Even in the middle of physical therapy, if she gets sick, she finishes. She’s shown how strong she can be. Maybe in the past, she didn’t know she could be this strong.”

Ashley’s doctors expect her to make a full recovery, but it won’t happen overnight. Her discharge date is projected for the end of January, although she and Tim are hoping to go home sooner. Ashley is eager to get back to something resembling her normal life, to her kids, and to building the future she envisioned with the man she loves. Tim is on the same page.

“My feelings haven’t changed. I don’t love her more, I don’t love her any less. I just love her as much as I ever did, which is unconditionally.”

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ADAM + JESSICA WEISCHEDEL Sioux Falls natives Adam and Jessica Weischedel met while studying at the University of South Dakota in 2004.

She had just transferred from Mankato and didn’t think she was ready for a relationship. Adam knew she was the one, and after some persistence, he “wore her down.” Six years later, he proposed on the day after Christmas in front of both of their families. The pair married, bought a house, and adopted a dog. A couple years later, after months of trying, Jessica discovered she was pregnant.

Their daughter, Edith Auburn, was born on October 28, 2014.

“It was just a regular pregnancy with her. Happiest time of my life, probably Adam’s too,” recalled Jessica. “I went into labor the night before her due date and everything was as expected. Just very exciting. Everything looked normal.

Then it was a very sudden turn of events. Right before they were going to have me start pushing, her heart rate declined and I was rushed into the OR. She didn’t make it through.”

The Weischedels don’t know what happened to their 6 lb.

15 oz. little girl. They believe it could have been a placental abruption, but they’ll never know. Adam explains that they allowed Edith to be a tissue donor, so other families could avoid the pain they were feeling. In exchange, they sacrificed that answer.

Immediately, they found themselves part of a community no one wants to join - parents who have lost a child. The hospital referred them to a grief counselor, whom they saw for a while, but Jessica credits Facebook with helping them on their healing journey.

“I found a group of women who had lost in the third trimester, and was added to a group of women trying to conceive after a loss, even though I didn’t consider myself to be technically trying to conceive yet,” she said.

Life had other plans for the Weischedels, though. Just three months after Edith was born, Jessica became pregnant again. 2015 was a year much like the one before, hitting pregnancy milestones during the same seasons.

Their rainbow baby, Weston, was born in October, like his older sister. Having a community of parents on the same journey became a blessing.

“Pregnancy after loss is difficult, so it’s really nice for me to be a part of that,” said Jessica. “I also started a local Facebook group for women who have been through pregnancy loss, and it’s up to 50 or 60 now. It’s a private group, because some people aren’t public with their losses, but I wanted to have a local group of women who could talk to each other without feeling like they’re being judged.”

"THERE’S ONLY ONE OTHER PERSON WHO KNOWS MY STORY. SHE SUPPORTED ME AS MUCH AS I DID HER."

The Weischedels are also founders of Acoustics for Angels, an annual benefit concert held each January. It is a chance for families in similar situations to gather and gain strength from one another. And while Adam and Jessica feel grateful for their community, their most constant and important source of support has been each other.

“There are only two people who lose a child, and they're the parents of that child,” explained Adam. “There’s only one other person who knows my story. She supported me as much as I did her. For me personally, at the end of the day, it’s about watching Weston take his first steps and knowing Edith would have been running by now. She’s there sharing the same feelings with me that no one else could. That's what's so great about being married to my wife.”

The loss of a child is hard on a marriage, and many couples don’t make it. The Weischedels say communication is the only way to keep it together, and that’s the message they try to relay to other parents dealing with loss.

“The communication has to be truthful,” said Adam. “It’s really difficult for me to break through to other guys and say, ‘It takes a real man to tell your story.’ Or, ‘It takes a real man to shed a tear.’ When I meet the husbands or dads, and they see me willing or able to talk about a child loss, it helps them.”

“I think it’s important for the parents of the child to communicate how much they love and miss them, because from the outside, people don’t want to upset them and think they might,” explained Jessica. “It’s important to talk about your child more often than you think you should, because that gives the public permission to acknowledge them. That’s a huge healing thing for me, other people acknowledging Edith, and seeing us as a family of five.”

They have continued to express their feelings openly, while watching their son hit milestones. Now, as they await their third child, a girl, new emotions are bubbling to the surface. And sharing the pain and joys of their parenting experience has only strengthened their love for one another.

“I love Adam’s ability to communicate, because a lot of guys can’t do it,” said Jessica. “He’s a softie and isn’t afraid to be emotional. He’s very selfless and will do anything for anybody.”

“The main reason I fell in love with Jess is she’s the most beautiful person I’ve ever met - physically and emotionally,” explained Adam. “Plus, she’s just so modest.

She is so level-headed, and there’s a truth to her. I think she’s the world’s worst liar. That’s why I fell in love with her, and that’s why I love her today.” ^

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11TH ANNUAL NEMO 500

BY ALANA SNYDER

THIS IS ONE CIRCUMSTANCE WHERE YOU WILL BE EXCITED TO SEE AN OUTHOUSE. ON FEBRUARY 25, CONTESTANTS WILL PUT THEIR CREATIVITY AND SPEED TO THE TEST BY CREATING A TRANSPORTABLE OUTHOUSE TO RACE AT THE 11TH ANNUAL NEMO 500 AT THE NEMO GUEST RANCH. THE FAMILY-FRIENDLY EVENT IN NEMO ALSO HOSTS A CHILI COOK-OFF CONTEST, A RAFFLE, AND “SCOOP SHOVEL RACES.” PROCEEDS SUPPORT THE NAJA SHRINE KIDS TRANSPORTATION, BUT THE EVENT DIDN’T REALLY START OUT AS STRUCTURED AS IT IS TODAY.

February 25 Nemo Guest Ranch, Nemo, S.D.

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Check in: 10 a.m.

Race Starts: 1 p.m.

“The first race was held as a way to get people together to have a little fun after a winter of staying inside,” explained owner and operator of the Nemo Guest Ranch Wiladine “Willie” Saye. “We didn’t do it for a charity, just for fun. We had only a few entries, but ended up having about 200 people show up.”

After the initial success, they decided to use it for a good cause and raised money for the volunteer fire department in the area.

“We are in the National Forest with hundreds of miles of trails, and there are a lot of accidents that happen in areas where first

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“MOST TEAMS HAVE A PIT CREW WITH LOTS OF CHEERING ON. THE SCHOOL TEACHERS WHO HAVE ENTERED EVERY YEAR BROUGHT A MARCHING BAND WITH THEM.” responders were unable to get to with regular vehicles. We raised enough money to help purchase a specially equipped UTV for them,” said Saye.

present on the outside of the outhouse. A few team names from last year included Sesame Streak, The Potent 8, and Fart Wars: The Force Awakens.

Last year roughly 2,500 attendees were present to see what unique outhouses, themes and bathroom puns contestants chose.

Saye recalled her favorite as a group that created their interpretation of the Budweiser Clydesdale commercials. “They actually had horse heads and feathered legs,” she said.

For those looking to try their hand at culinary competition, the Chili Cook-Off has a threegallon minimum with first place winning $150, second place winning $100, and third taking home $50.

A few of the rules for teams is that outhouses can only be human powered (no electric, solar, or gas-powered assistance), it must have four walls, it must have a roof and a doorway, and it must have a seat with at least one hole.

“There is a person in the outhouse, and they have to be visible at all times. Halfway through the course, there is a ‘fire drill,’ where contestants each put a colored roll of toilet paper on a color-coded toilet plunger, and the person in the outhouse then changes with someone else for the rest of the race,” said Saye.

Team names must also be

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There is a $65 registration fee, which includes a T-shirt.

Registration after February 15 increases to $75. Attending to witness and enjoy the day is free.

“Most teams have a pit crew with lots of cheering on. The school teachers who have entered every year brought a marching band with them,” said Saye.

The restaurant will be open for food, wine, and beer, and no coolers are allowed. As it is winter in South Dakota, the Nemo 500 crew recommends planning for cold weather, but bring layers that can be removed, as last year was 68 degrees.

For more info on Nemo 500, visit www.nemo500.com or call (605) 578-2708.

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32 Baltimore St. #202 • Lead, SD 57754 • (605) 722-4670 • Lotusup.com

Clam Chowder

Turkey Apple Sandwich Fajita Breakfast wrap

Max: “How about coffee? You like coffee?”

Lorelai: “Only with my oxygen.” — Gilmore Girls

We stopped by Lotus Up Espresso & Deli on a chilly Monday for an early lunch. Like many buildings in Lead, this cafe’s new home is tall and built into a hill. Several cars were in the drive-thru and a few locals were lined up inside when we walked in, giving us time to look over the menu, handwritten in brightly colored chalk.

I began with the clam chowder. It was thick and a little peppery. The ratio of potato was good, and there was a clam in nearly every bite. The only thing I would have done differently, and I know this is a picky thing, is add a little green garnish or fresh pepper on top. Anything to break up the visual monotony of the white soup in the white cup.

The menu consisted largely of paninis and wraps, with salads and bakery favorites, like caramel rolls and bagels, thrown in for good measure. We asked if breakfast was still being served, as it was approaching noon, and they told us it was served all day. Points for them.

Next, I bit into the Turkey Apple. This was a really delightful sandwich. The bread was perfectly grilled, the cheese was melted, and the thinly sliced apple added a great deal of freshness. The big surprise, however, was the addition of celery. Of course it was listed on the menu, but you don’t really see slices of fresh, crunchy celery on a sandwich.

It created really great texture without overwhelming the other components.

The woman behind the counter didn’t bat an eyelash when we ordered the Fajita Breakfast Wrap, Quesadilla Wrap, Turkey Apple Sandwich, cup of Clam Chowder, Caramel Latte, Chai, and Diet Coke - all for two people.

More points for them.

We took our number and grabbed a seat in the dining room, which is flooded with natural light from the large windows overlooking the town. Had it been a little nicer, we would have sat on the large deck.

Caramel Latte & chai Quesadilla Wrap

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After about five minutes, someone brought us our drinks. The Caramel Latte was robust and not overly sweet. The Chai was one of the best I’ve ever had. It was rich and creamy, and not overly spicy. As my dining companion commented, “Wow. It doesn’t taste like I’m drinking a candle.” She’s quite the connoisseur.

The remaining minutes waiting on our meals were occupied looking at the local art hanging on the walls. Our food arrived a short time later, spread before us as a veritable feast of wraps and capped plastic ramekins and artful sides. As usual, we immediately did the handoff of halves, so as to try everything.

Another unexpected twist to our meal was our wraps. Unlike a boring old wrap you’d grab at the airport, they were pressed like paninis, complete with grill marks. This elevated the tortillas from ticking time bombs about to leak down your arm to simultaneously soft and crispy vehicles filled with warm and melty wonders.

IT WAS CRUNCHY, CHEESY, AND A LITTLE SPICY. THE SAUSAGE HAD A PERFECT TEXTURE AND PAIRED WELL WITH THE SAUTEED ONIONS. The first wrap we tried was the Quesadilla from the lunch menu. It was full of diced chicken, bacon, and melted pepper jack

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cheese, and served with sides of salsa and sour cream. The flavors were good - a bit spicy and smoky. Then, we moved on to the Fajita breakfast wrap. We’d selected sausage from the choice of that, ham or bacon. This was our favorite thing on the table. It was crunchy, cheesy, and a little spicy. The sausage had a perfect texture and paired well with the sauteed onions.

In addition to the tasty food, we appreciated that there was free wi-fi. As frequent business travelers, our minds are virtual rolodexes of places where we can get a little work done while we eat. We'll definitely be back for breakfast next time we’re in Lead.

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And because many of us like to celebrate special occasions with lobster, she is sharing CRAVE’s showstopping sushi interpretation, along with one of their handcrafted cocktails - perfect for your Valentine’s dinner.

ANGRY DRAGON Ingredients: ▶▶ 1.25 oz Rum ▶▶ .75 oz Soho Lychee Liqueur ▶▶ .25 oz Red cranberry juice ▶▶ .25 oz White cranberry juice ▶▶ .25 oz Raspberry puree ▶▶ .25 oz Strawberry puree Directions: ▶▶ For citrus garnish, zest lemon, lime and orange.

Add sugar and allow to dry for 24 hours.

TJ WIESER, BARTENDER “Between our homemade citrus garnish, four kinds of fruit juice, and the Soho Lychee Liqueur, this is a fun, light, and refreshing cocktail.”

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▶▶ Combine ingredients in ice-filled shaker. Shake gently. ▶▶ Strain into citrus-rimmed martini glass.

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▶▶ Avocado ▶▶ Cucumber, cut into long thin spears ▶▶ 2 Long, thin slices of cream cheese

▶▶ 4 oz Sushi rice ▶▶ Red and black roe ▶▶ Spicy mayo (on side) ▶▶ Siracha (on side)

JOFREY PLATON, HEAD SUSHI CHEF “This is no ordinary roll.

The combination of fried lobster, cream cheese, avocado, crunchy lettuce and cucumber, plus homemade sauce - it’s really nice, so good!”

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ALTMAN STUDENY

BY ALANA SNYDER

AGE: 30 // HOMETOWN: PLANKINTON, S.D. // SPECIALTY: PAINTING, INSTALLATION, AND COMMUNITY-BUILDING THROUGH ART

Sitting down with South Dakota artist ALTMAN STUDENY at Exposure Gallery & Studios is refreshing for so many different reasons. His insatiable love for art, history, and the state is constantly growing each week as he travels from town to town as a resident artist for the South Dakota Arts Council. Some might also recognize Studeny for his column in Plankinton’s newspaper, the South Dakota Mail – a publication he’s written for since he was 12 years old.

Tell us about your history with Plankinton, where you grew up and currently reside.

Altman Studeny: I came back when I got out of grad school in Maine and started teaching at Aurora Plains Academy, so I was the art instructor at the treatment facility in Plankinton. I was doing that for three years, and while there, was taking my vacation time to do projects for the South Dakota Arts Council. I feel really connected to Plankinton; my mom’s family has been around Plankinton for a really long time. The newspaper has been in her family for 85 of its 125 years. I’m the fourth generation to be involved with it. While I was growing up, I really liked poking through the archives and reading – kind of yellowing –pages from the ‘30s and the ‘40s and earlier. There’s all sorts of these crazy stories about locust swarms and baseball teams entirely made of brothers…

Seriously?

AS: Right?! These bizarre little facts that were mentioned in passing became almost mythological to me. I have liked being around Plankinton because of a connectivity to those stories. There’s always something inspiring to find out that can be the start of a project.

It seems like you’re popping up all over the state at events and communities in general.

What always has you visiting different areas?

AS: The response that makes the most sense is that I work with the South Dakota Arts Council with a program called Artisan Schools and Communities. It’s a teaching artist program that has arts of all disciplines coming to towns working with either a school or a non-profit to run an art project, and sometimes that’s in music, sometimes that’s in dance, creative writing… And 46 // FEBRUARY 2017

the things that I do are using art as a tool for community buildings, so a little history research, a conversation with community members, bringing different parts of those communities together to work on a project that will start on Monday and end on Friday or be a couple weeks long, for example. The art object is actually like a foot in the door. The real project is building the relationships between those community organizations in different parts of the town.

How often are you doing that?

AS: Every now and again. This month I’ll be in St. Joe’s Indian School in Chamberlain doing a percussion project. We’re going to be making a public drumming piece that will be either installed on campus or somewhere in Chamberlain. I’m additionally just everywhere, I just kind of love going. You can find me hanging out in spots throughout the state for a weekend.

How often are you home?

AS: Not much (laughs). Not much anymore. I have mustard and beer in my fridge.

Who are you excited about in the community or in the art community now?

AS: I think that now can be a really good time to reevaluate approaches in art-making and what role art fills in South Dakota. The way that it has been seen for many, many years was probably developed in the ‘60s and ‘70s. The contemporary art scene is so much bigger now, like the types of materials and ways of making, and what an art project is even for is so different than when the scene in South Dakota was starting to develop. And I think there are a lot of artists around the state who are finding new ways to engage with people using an art project and are making things that are a

THE REAL PROJECT IS BUILDING THE RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN THOSE COMMUNITY ORGANIZATIONS IN DIFFERENT PARTS OF THE TOWN.

little weirder and a little wilder than a painting or a sculpture, not that there’s anything necessarily wrong with those things. Art has pretty wide arms; it can embrace a lot of different ideas, and I don’t think it’s something South Dakota has really had to address until this point. There’s a sense there’s something that’s about to happen in this state, but it will require a lot of work from artists and then a lot of open-mindedness on behalf of art institutions in this state. We’re going to have to start embracing these non-traditional methods of working in order for the culture to change very much.

What are some of your favorite things about the state?

AS: There is a very strong visual culture in this state. Something I got really fascinated by was when I was in grad school in Portland, Maine and was far away from South Dakota. The program was an experimental studio practice program, so it talked about new ways of thinking about where you do your work instead of, “I’m going to be at my easel all day.” I got very interested in making projects in the street, making collections of things that could be found out in the world, and having conversations with people as a project. So I got into that part of the country where I was by places by Boston, New York and Philadelphia, these very known

art scenes, and there is a very visual identity and history there. People’s houses will have lobster pots and buoys on them. That comes from a place-based understanding. We have things here, too, that are very distinct to this region. I don’t think people often think that there’s a strong movement towards making here, but we have all of the raw materials for that. We have the history that is full of wonderfully bizarre mythologies, we’ve got a visual culture as the way we identify ourselves, and there’s a lot of space. What I love most about South Dakota is the prairie; I love that sort of openness where it feels like nothing is happening unless you start paying attention, and you realize there’s so much going on in one small square yard of the ground.

It seems like you experiment with different forms of art constantly.

Can you tell us about that?

AS: I went to undergrad for painting, and I made paintings for a really long time. There’s so much to explore in the world that I don’t feel always right to just hole up in a studio for a week and a half and not see anybody and obsess over an eight-inch square, so things that are more experimental are really just an excuse for me to go and have a more interesting experience than I would in my own bedroom at my desk. Like the tree planting project for the state’s 125th

anniversary, it was a soil collection and tree planting project from and in every county that started, for me, as a reason to see all parts of the state after having been in Maine for so long.

I decided then that I’m really invested in being part of South Dakota, and I want to understand what South Dakota means to be as someone from this place. A lot of how I see the world is what I experience growing up and the visual culture surrounding me – the Corn Palace, Wall Drug, Mount Rushmore, the lady in Plankinton who went to the dump and found a bunch of mops and put sunglasses on them and set them up in their yard.

That is what made me want to be an artist, because that’s what I saw as art, right?

What is some advice for artists from your perspective?

AS: I really advocate that people look carefully at communities around them and find the person that’s doing “the thing” that they identify with. Just be supportive of that person, tell them that you like what they’re doing.

And that can be someone in a gallery in Sioux Falls or the lady next door making weird decorating decisions.

For the latest on Studeny’s artwork, visit www.altmanstudeny.com or follow him on Instagram, @alti. eddie.stewie, for “South Dakota visual culture.” •

L I T T LE PA R E N T ON T H E PR A I R I E

>>IT TAKES A VILLAGE

BY TRACY KIRBY | CRISTA BALLARD PHOTOGRAPHY

If there is one thing being a parent has taught me so far, (in my measly almost six years of experience) it is this: Just as we cannot create a human on our own, we cannot raise, let alone prosper, a human on our own. No parent, single or married, can wholly shoulder the tremendous honor and responsibility of helping shape a life. No way. We need some major reinforcements. We need sage advice from those that have been there, raised that. We need friends and family to help love our child. Sometimes we need teams of medical professionals to care for our child. Other times we just need someone to bring us a (or several) glazed donut(s) and watch us, without judgment, as we eat our feelings.

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But the moral of this story, parents and future parents? As trite as it sounds, we can’t do it alone.

I’ve been thinking about this truth lately, and I was reminded of a time a few years ago when I saw in action the validity of this “it takes a village” mindset.

My husband and I were relatively new to the Sioux Falls scene, and we randomly saw an advertisement for the Sioux Empire Home Show. Trapped by the frigid temps and with nothing really else to do, we packed up our young daughter and off we went to look at things that we couldn’t buy nor knew anything about. But, regardless, we were out of the house in February: VICTORY.

bored out of her mind in approximately seven seconds. Content for now with her carb, we pushed her in the stroller as my husband and I delightfully wandered the aisles of the show.

At one point, we stopped to look at kitchen sinks. As we were talking and admiring, out of the corner of my eye I saw a man looking at us and waving from across the aisle a little way down. I waved a casual wave back and looked away.

Side note confession: I am horrific at remembering names and faces. Horrific. My husband, however, is the exact opposite. He never forgets a face or a name and we would be hard-pressed to go anywhere without him recognizing someone.

As I saw this man out the corner of my eye and he really seemed to know us as he was waving and smiling a little more frantically now, I began to silently panic. Who is he? I have no idea who he is. Have I forgotten that I met him? Mayday! Mayday! He’s closing in on us!

Trying not to make eye contact with the man, I sharply nudged my husband. “Jon, do you know this guy?” I said between clenched teeth. My husband looked up and was surprised at how fast he was coming at us. He replied, “No, do you?”

Breathless, the man arrived at our scene, and before I could get out my best awkward “Hello!?” greeting, he pointed at my daughter sitting in the front of the stroller while we were standing behind her. “Your daughter... Your daughter put a plastic bag over her head!”

What?

SO NOT WHAT I WAS EXPECTING.

When we arrived at the convention center, we purchased tickets and were given a plastic bag, which we learned later was for all the samples, trinkets, candy, etc. you can collect at the various booths along the way. A goody bag, if you will. Our daughter, probably around 3 years old at the time, was riding face-forward in her stroller and really perked up when she saw there was potential for candy consumption.

As we walked through the giant conventional hall, we were overwhelmed and in awe of all things home this “Home Show” boasted. Not knowing quite where to start, we went with a crowd favorite and where all roads should start and end: The concession stand. We bought some sort of unhealthy carb and gave it to our daughter in hopes of distracting her from the fact that she would be

I ran to the front of the stroller, and there she was, our 3-year-old giggling with a plastic bag over her head. Panicked, I ripped the bag off her head and she burst into laughter. I sighed a big sigh of relief, hugged her obnoxiously, and begin to tell her the danger of plastic bags. “Oh no! You could suffocate, honey! We cannot put plastic bags over our heads! Where did you get this plastic bag?!” She pointed to a table near her where there were other Goody Bags like the one we were carrying around. I sighed. We were standing two feet away. We had maybe looked away for mere seconds, but in that timeframe, she had grabbed a bag and put it over her head as a joke. You know those warnings explicitly written on plastic bags to KEEP AWAY FROM CHILDREN? Yes, those warnings are apparently for us.

I’m pretty sure our “Parents of the Year” trophy was revoked that day.

I stood up and profusely thanked the man. He laughed and said, “Don’t worry! I have kids, too. Can you believe the stuff they do?” He was a stranger. He didn’t have to notice my daughter. He didn’t have to come running down the huge aisle to warn us.

But he did. He was part of our village that day.

As parents, we can do our most very best. We can be the most vigilant parent on earth.

We can hover until we can hover no more. But, at some point along the way, we will need help. Sometimes it will come in the form of a stranger running down an aisle to warn idiot parents their child has a bag on their head, it may come as advice, it may come as someone simply listening, or help may come, again, in the form of a gifted glazed donut. But most times, I’m realizing help comes when we realize we as parents can’t do it all and just ask for help. Recognizing that we simply, for the sake of our children, cannot make this journey alone.

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LOVE ON A Want to show your friend or loved one you appreciate them this February, but your wallet is still hurting from the holidays?

Fear not. We picked some of our favorite gift ideas by price point.

$20 & UNDER Quick add-ons or smaller gifts.

$50 & UNDER Great for early relationships.

$100 & UNDER Great for family or longer relationships.

$150 & UNDER You have earned a gold star this year.

$200 + You better be getting something, too... Just sayin'.

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Top left: POMEGRANATE MARKET, Make Up Eraser $20.00; Top right: LOT 2029, Wall Hanging $17.00; Middle left: ZANDBROZ VARIETY, Sensual Gel $17.95; Middle right: POMEGRANATE MARKET, Zum Gift Set $19.99; Bottom left: POMEGRANATE MARKET, Sandalwood Perfume Roll-on $12.00; Bottom right: LOT 2029, Love Potion Koozie $5.00

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$50 & UNDER

Top left: STICKS AND STEEL, Cosmetic Bag $32.00; Top right: ZANDBROZ VARIETY, Cologne $50.00; Middle left: POMEGRANATE MARKET, Diffuser $49.99; Middle right: YOU'VE BEEN FRAMED, Paper Weight $34.99; Bottom left: ZANDBROZ VARIETY, Candle $31.00; Bottom right: LOT 2029, Mr. & Mrs. Coffee Mugs $31.00

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$100 & UNDER

Top left: RIDDLE'S JEWELRY, Amethyst Necklace $70.00; Top right: YOU'VE BEEN FRAMED, Wall Hanging $67.00; Middle left: LOT 2029, Purse $52.00; Middle right: POMEGRANATE MARKET, Facial Hair Gift Set $53.99; Bottom left: STICKS AND STEEL, Cheers Reclaimed Glasses $67.00; Bottom right: LOT 2029, Sweatshirt $59.00

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$150 & UNDER

Top left: ZANDBROZ VARIETY, Western Majong Set in Black Aluminum Briefcase $149.00; Top right: STICKS AND STEEL, Necklace $124.00; Middle left: YOU'VE BEEN FRAMED, ALEX & ANI Bangles $128.00; Middle right: RIDDLE'S JEWELRY, Bangle $119.00; Bottom left: RIDDLE'S JEWELRY, Mens Watch $146.00; Bottom right: YOU'VE BEEN FRAMED, Pandora Gift Set $125.00

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$200 +

Top left: YOU'VE BEEN FRAMED, Bed Stu Backpack $242.99; Top right: RIDDLE'S JEWELRY, Twinkling Pendant $399.00; Middle left: STICKS AND STEEL, Clock $349.00; Middle right: ZANDBROZ VARIETY, Oiled Bronze Fountain Pen from Parker $470.00; Bottom left: RIDDLE'S JEWELRY, Engagement Ring $3830.00; Bottom right: STICKS AND STEEL, Men's Watch $274.00

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I’ve always been unlucky in love, and at this point in my life, I’m getting pretty desperate. Should I consider online dating, or is there another way to kick-start my love life?

JR: It’s 2017. Online dating is better than real life dating. It’s awkward if you meet a single person in real life and you haven’t swiped right on their Tinder profile.

JW: If you aren't online dating, then where are you dating? I've been checking out this new site ashleymadison.com or something like that. It is full of people willing to help you on your journey, even married people! All so helpful!

One lady who 'counseled me' over dinner and drinks a few times recently was so helpful that I sent flowers and a card to her house.

I guess I did get a crazy message from her husband that just didn't seem to understand how she was helping me. Also my car window is now shattered. Upon further review, maybe stay offline.

JT: I think mix it up both ways.

Attend networking events or take a fun workshop where you will meet people you wouldn’t normally meet. Also find the right form of online dating that caters to your needs. Some of my best friends met their future spouse online, and I recently attended my first Tinder wedding.

I want to propose to my boyfriend, but my friends think he should be the one to do it. How do I convince them it’s okay for the woman to make the move?

JR: Don’t be shy. If Hillary Clinton can run for President and Beyoncé can be declared a Queen, you can ask a question.

Just make sure to wear a power suit when you do it.

JW: Equal rights! So what kind of diamond ring did you buy him? Better make sure it's a nice rock or he might turn you down. Cushion cut only!

Cushion!

JT: Of course you can ask him! That sounds like the best plan ever! That way, he doesn’t have to guess what you’re thinking, and you can get on to celebrating with champagne with friends and family. You can pick out your dream ring together afterwards, and everyone wins

I just started dating my boyfriend a couple weeks ago. As Valentine’s Day gets closer, I’m wondering if I should get him a gift or not. What’s an appropriate present for a three-week long relationship? Or does giving him a gift look like I’m overzealous?

JR: I have never had a threeweek long relationship, so I can’t speak from experience. But if I had to guess, the perfect present would be meeting your parents.

My parents always keep me calm, so this will hold you off from being overzealous. But don’t tell him; guys love surprises!

JW: Don't do it. He will read into it. Or, you could go over the top and do some crazy-huge thing just to troll him. When you reveal that you're not really obsessed after two weeks, he'll be so happy. It’s your call.

JT: It is completely up to you.

I would advise getting him something small, like his favorite beer. Even better? If it’s so new treat him on a date, like bowling, or take him out for a cocktail before a movie. Just don’t overthink it.

DISCLAIMER: ASK THE JOHNS IS A SARCASTIC PIECE. THEIR ADVICE IS NOT MEANT TO BE TAKEN LITERALLY… EXCEPT MAYBE JOHN T’S.

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DO YOU KNOW THE FACTS? EACH MONTH WE BRING YOU INTERESTING TIDBITS ABOUT OUR COMMUNITY AND MORE.

BY SEAN CALHOUN

399 the number of dating service establishments nationwide, including Internet dating services, as of 2012, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

51 % the percentage of people who buy red roses for Valentine’s Day, according to CNN.

$142.31 the average individual spending on Valentine’s Day, according to U.S. News & World Report.

180 MILLION the number of Valentine’s Day cards exchanged annually, according to Statistic Brain.

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OUTDOOR DATE IDEAS THINKING OF DATE IDEAS? Try something active and outdoors!

It's genius, really. Get close and keep each other warm. You see where we're going with this. Director of The Outdoor Campus East Thea Miller Ryan put it best when discussing outdoor activities in the winter: "If you have cabin fever, get out of the cabin!"

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ËË ICE FISHING Whether you're just getting to know each other or are celebrating your 10 year anniversary, ice fishing is great for bonding. "You actually spend time together. It's a great time to talk or to reminisce of childhood winters," suggested Miller Ryan. Go for 20 minutes to give it a try or park it for hours.

ËË CROSS COUNTRY SKIING "It's a great way to work out together," described Miller Ryan. "It's so refreshing; there's no way to totally describe it." Check out groomed locations, like the George S. Mickelson Trail, Richmond Lake Recreation Area, The Outdoor Campus, Newton Hills State Park, and many more. More info: gfp.sd.gov/to-do/x-country.

ËË SNOWSHOEING Snowshoeing is an easy, last-minute date idea or for an outing with a friend. Miller Ryan said, "Rent a pair of snowshoes and pick your favorite park. It's that simple." More experienced? Try the Valentine's Lover's Leap Showshoe Hike on February 11 from 1-3 p.m. at the Peter Norbeck Outdoor Education Center at Custer State Park. This guided snowshoe hike takes participants through a dense pine forest meandering near Grace Coolidge Creek. Note: Snowshoes are provided, but reservations are required due to limited space. More info: (605) 255-4464.

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Blanket

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Thermos

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Gloves

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Hat

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Hand Warmers

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Socks & Gaiters

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Sun Protection

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ËË SKIING OR SNOWBOARDING Though the equipment rentals and passes do add up, this is a day full of fun that can end with drinks and food at the lodge. Make an entire weekend out of it at Terry Peak or try it out for a day at Great Bear Recreation Park. More info: terrypeak.com // greatbearpark.com.

ËË TUBING Not into skiing and snowboarding, but want a unique experience going downhill? Try tubing. You'll get the giggles, and it's a great first or 50th date. Have a night you won't forget with Lazer Light Tubing at Great Bear Recreation Park. For $15, tube under flashing lazer, spot and stage lighting on February 4 from 9:30-11:30 p.m.

Purchase your ticket: www.greatbearpark.com.

ËË SNOWMOBILING With a 350-mile network of marked, mapped, and groomed snowmobile trails in the Black Hills, snowmobiling is a great date for the adventurous couple. Trails lead up through deep canyons, weave through the pine forests, and ascend to summit lookouts. The trails also open onto huge, untracked meadows and play areas where the powder-floating is amazing. Use South Dakota's Sno-Wats phone service to check snow and trail conditions at 1 (800) 445-3474. More info: gfp.sd.gov/to-do/snowmobile

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>> SEVEN WAYS TO LOVE YOUR BODY RIGHT NOW

BY KAYLYN DEITER

EVER FEEL LIKE YOU’RE FIGHTING A LOSING BATTLE WITH YOUR BODY? USE THE MONTH DEDICATED TO LOVE AS AN INCENTIVE TO EMBRACE WHAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE. 1. WRITE A LOVE LETTER TO YOUR BODY Your body has gotten you this far. Whether you love every part of it, or constantly find areas for improvement, the fact that you’ve gotten through this much life with your body is pretty awesome. Boost your gratitude by writing your body a love letter. Tell your body thank you for all you’ve been through together thus far, and let it know what you love most about it, wrinkles and all.

2. SWEAT IT OUT Nothing makes you appreciate all your body can do like a little physical activity. Go for a run. Take a hike with a friend. Dance.

And while your heart is pounding, take time to be amazed by what your body does on a daily basis.

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3. PUT ON YOUR FAVORITE OUTFIT Everyone has that one outfit that makes them feel like someone off the World’s Most Beautiful People list. Grab that pair of jeans, dress, or T-shirt from your closet, and spend a few minutes admiring how good your body looks in the mirror.

There’s nothing like a killer outfit to brighten your perspective.

4. STOP COMPARING YOURSELF Comparison doesn’t benefit anyone. Each person is unique, and that means his or her body is too. Don’t let what a friend or stranger looks like define how you see yourself.

5. DISREGARD THE NUMBERS We’re always being told the number on the scale or tag doesn’t matter, and that’s because they literally don’t matter.

Who cares how much you weigh or what size waistband is on your jeans? As long as you feel comfortable in the clothing you wear, that should be the final judge, not the number.

6. FIND POSITIVE ROLE MODELS Want to be like the 90-year-old lady who plays in a tennis league? Think your uncle has a great outlook on his appearance? Find the people in your life who you believe radiate a positive body image (and we’re not talking about Photoshopped celebrities). Chat with them about how they came to that mindset, and try to integrate it into your own life.

7. GIVE YOURSELF A HUG You are so much more than your physical appearance. Give yourself a break when it comes to your looks, and realize that your body has little to do with your overall self-worth.

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COST:

SKILL LEVEL:

MATERIALS:

INSTRUCTIONS:

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Silicone pan

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8 oz. baking soda

In a large bowl, mix the baking soda, cornstarch, epsom salt, and citric acid together.

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4 oz. cornstarch

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4 oz. epsom salt

Mix the water, essential oil, and food coloring together in a smaller bowl.

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4 oz. citric acid

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3 tsps. water

Gradually mix the wet ingredients in with the dry ingredients using a whisk.

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8-10 drops essential oil

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Spray the silicone pan with pam spray.

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2-5 drops food coloring

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Cooking spray

Fill the the silicone pan with the mixture about

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Slide a butter knife across the top of the the pan to remove the excess from the top.

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Allow the mix to sit in the pan for around 12-14 hours.

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Pop the bath bombs out of the mold.

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