February 2014

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LITTLE PARENT ON THE PRAIRIE

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HURT SO GOOD

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ENTERTAINMENT 10

EVENTS RECAP

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EVENTS CALENDAR

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PROFILES IN SOUND

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EVENTS CHECKLIST

Voice

Blinded by Love Lovey Dovey Dates Julie Anderson Friesen

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BEYOND BORDERS

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WAY TOO INDIE

CREATE

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AT HOME

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CREATIVE WRITING

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A TASTE OF SARCASM:

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DELISH DELIGHTS

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FASHION

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CONTRIBUTORS

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Allen Jones – Cartoonist When Allen was in second grade while living in Miller, S.D., he told his father one night that he believed he was supposed to be a cartoonist. After attaining his BFA in theatre from the University of South Dakota, he decided to once again strive for the goal of becoming a professional cartoonist.

He loves hanging out with his wife and two dogs, fishing and escaping into middle-earth, Westeros, and a galaxy far, far away.

Austin Kaus – Writer Austin is an English graduate student at the University of South Dakota. He has the ability to make ice cubes in the shape of the Death Star.

Bill Tetrault – photography Bill is a freelance event photographer and is also the “computer guy” for a Sioux Falls manufacture.

Like most photographers, his passion came from taking photos of his children; as they grew so did his ability. Some of his favorite things are his family, photography, technology and good craft beer.

Liz Long – Graphic Design & Photography Liz is 21 and is a student at South Dakota State University studying graphic design. She goes to University Center so she can stay in Sioux Falls with her fiance and continue growing her design experience and photography with her obsession of Sons of Anarchy at hand.

Kelsey Bewick – writer Kelsey is a recent South Dakota transplant; originally from Madison, Wis. When she can’t catch a Badger sporting event on TV, she’s busy exploring her new home via hiking trails and ski runs.

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EVENTS RECAP

FROSTY FROLICS The frigid cold didn’t stop the city of Sioux Falls from coming out the first weekend of January for Frosty Frolics, a weekend full of outdoor activities.

Many gathered at Falls Park the evening of Jan. 3 to kick things off with fireworks and an indoor concert from Goodroad. The rest of the weekend was filled with ski races, cross-country skiing, snowshoeing, a 5k/10k, curling, and more! For more info on City Parks, visit siouxfalls.org.

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EVENTS CALENDAR

Sioux Falls Area

ENTERTAINMENT Feb. 2 | 9 | 16 | 23 Nostalgia Night Film Series

Elks Theatre. An annual event presented by The Friends of the Devereaux Library of South Dakota School of Mines and Technology in co-operation with the historic Elks Theatre. Each year 10 outstanding classic films are shown on consecutive Sunday evenings beginning in January. Season tickets $40, $5 door based on seat availability. Films in order of dates: Top Hat, Chariots of Fire, The Tender Trap and Blazing Saddles. For more info, visit friends.sdsmt.edu/tickets.htm.

Feb. 7 Downtown First Fridays

Rapid City Area

Feb. 6 It’s in the Bag Fundraiser

Minnehaha Country Club. 5:30-8:30 p.m. The Compass Center is partnering with Attitudes by Designers to present their fifth annual silent auction of purses and various other bags. Monies raised will be used to provide ongoing services to victims of domestic abuse and/ or sexual assault. Tickets are $30 in advance, $40 at the door. They can be purchased by calling 339-0116. For more info, visit www. thecompascenter.org.

Feb. 7 2014 Red Dress Dash

Downtown Sioux Falls. 10 a.m. - 8 p.m. First Friday is a special day of shopping, art and entertainment the First Friday of every month downtown! Many stores stay open late until about 8:00pm. For more info, visit www.dtsf.com or call (605) 338-4009.

Lumber Exchange Building Lobby, 101 S. Reid Street. 6 p.m. Recruit a friend, then throw your favorite (or not so favorite) red dress over your winter clothing for a dash through DTSF in support of women’s heart health. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, we need your help to raise awareness of our #1 killer — heart disease and stroke.

Registration begins at 5:30 p.m. Free.

Feb. 14 Love is in the Squ-air

Feb. 8 ISIS Gives Back 2014

Main Street Square. 11 a.m. - 10 p.m. Bring your Valentine to the ice rink for 2-for-1 skating. For more info, visit mainstreetsquarerc.com.

Feb. 22 Last Day to Skate Beach Party

Main Street Square. 1-5 p.m. Bring the family to skate in a tropical paradise. JDProductions will host games and giveaways and Hawaiian leis will be provided for each skater (while supplies last).

GET INVOLVED Feb. 1 Cowgirl Pink Champagne Brunch

Dahl Arts Center. 10 a.m. $35 per person includes champagne, brunch and a silent auction. Reserve tickets through the Rapid City Regional Hospital Foundation at (605) 755-9193. All proceeds benefit the Regional Cancer Care Institute.

WaTiki Indoor Waterpark Resort. 100 percent of all proceeds made from La Quinta Inn & Suites, Fairfield Inn & Suites, WaTiki Waterpark Resort and Sliders Bar & Grill will be donated to local charities, including Story Book Island, Ranchers Relief Fund, Front Porch Coalition and more. How to help: Book a hotel room at 866-WATIKIFUN, visit www.isishospitalityllc.com & click the Isis Gives Back button, or bring your donation to any of the listed Isis locations.

SPORTS Feb. 4 | 14 | 15 | 16 | 22 Sioux Falls Stampede

Sioux Falls Arena. 7:05 p.m. For more info, visit www.sfstampede.com.

Feb. 9 | 11 | 21 Sioux Falls Skyforce

Pentagon Sanford. 7 p.m. (7:15 p.m. Jan. 5) For more info, visit www. nba.com/dleague/siouxfalls.

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Feb. 11 | 12 | 17 | 21 | 22 | 28 Rapid City Rush

Rushmore Plaza Civic Center. 7:05 p.m. For more info, visit www. rapidcityrush.com.

Feb. 15 Sioux Falls Roller Dollz

Swiftel Center. 7-10 p.m. Watch their bout against Sioux City. For more info, visit www.rollerdollz.com.

Feb. 21 Sioux Falls Storm

Sioux Falls Arena. 7:05 p.m. For more info, visit www.siouxfallsstorm.com.

MUSIC Due to space, here are only some of the biggest shows of the month.

Feb. 1 Stone Sour

The District. 8 p.m. With Pop Evil and Stolen Babies. All ages. $30 adv/$40 VIP balcony. For more info, visit www.thedistrictsf.com or call (605) 3577377.

Hot Freaks

Latitude 44. 8 p.m. Check out the band with members of Welcome to the Cinema and Golden Bubbles along with We Live In Sod Houses and Kitty Wizard. $7 admission.

Feb. 7 Hairball

The District. 8 p.m. All ages. $17 adv/$30 VIP balcony. For more info, visit www.thedistrictsf.com or call (605) 357-7377.

Feb. 7 | 14 | 21 | 28 Emerging Artists Fridays

Dahl Arts Center. 5-7 p.m. Celebrating local and regional performing artists on the rise, and providing a nurturing place for them to be seen, heard and to grow. Free admission. First Friday: open mic, second: local/regional talent, third: local/regional talent, fourth: mentoring.

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Feb. 8 The Big Wu

The District. 8 p.m. With Jampurifi. All ages. $10 adv/$12 door. For more info, visit www.thedistrictsf.com or call (605) 357-7377.

Feb. 13 CES CRU

Bigs Sports Bar. 8 p.m. Adapt, Chatterboxxx, Project 605, Red vs. Green, and M.E.N.A.C.E. Admission $12 adv, $15 door. 18+. For more info, visit www.thecollectiveeffortsunion.com.

Toby Mac’s “Hits Deep Tour”

Sioux Falls Arena. With Brandon Heath, Mandisa, Matthew West and Matt Maher. Admission $23.50-$45.50. For more info, visit www. ticketmaster.com or call (800) 745-3000.

Feb. 15 Hometown Glow

Great Bear Recreation Park. 7 p.m. Free. All ages. Opener TBA.

Feb. 20 Condor with special guest The Last Revel Latitude 44. 7 p.m. Admission $5.

Feb. 21 Kenny Rogers

Deadwood Mountain Grand. 8 p.m. Known for his instantly identifiable raspy vocals and an extraordinary ability to vividly inhabit each song he performs, Kenny Rogers has enjoyed great success during his storied career of nearly five and a half decades. Admission $34-44. For more info, visit www.deadwoodmountaingrand.com or call (605) 559-1187.

Lucas With a K CD Release Show

Latitude 44. 8 p.m. Openers include The Thundertones, The Odd Life and Serving Size. Admission $7.

Feb. 28 Dakota Jazz Collective w/ Jami Lynn

Dahl Arts Center. 7:30-9:30 p.m. Part of the 2014 Winter Concert Series, the Dakota Jazz Collective is a horn-driven ensemble featuring some of the finest jazz talent in the region. Familiar music with a new twist.

Check out our complete calendar at 605magazine.com and e-mail events to contact@605magazine.com by the 15th of the month prior to issue release date.

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BEYOND BORDERS with mark lloyd

Borders went bankrupt? So what.

That doesn’t stop former employee Mark Lloyd from finding out what’s the next hottest read.

WHAT TO WATCH FOR IN FEBRUARY

Red Rising

by Pierce Brown

On Mars, there is a harsh caste system, which is conveniently color coded. Members of the Red caste work their butts off to support the elite Gold caste.

Of course some dirty Red is going to infiltrate the Gold caste and probably bring it all crashing down. This sounds like a bad Sci-Fi channel movie starring Dean Cain and maybe one of the people on 90210.

A New Leaf: The End of Cannabis Prohibition

by Alyson Martin and Nushin Rashidian

Unless you are living in a cave, you should know what’s going on here. If you don’t know what’s going on, then I suggest you Google Colorado.

The Shining Girls

by Lauren Beukes

I want you to imagine you are a serial killer.

Yeah, that’s where this is going.

Seriously, I want you to imagine you are a serial killer.

What would be the thrill of it? What would make you kill again and again?

Would it be the thrill of the kill? You could pick random people just to take their lives for that momentary thrill of ending them.

Or would it be the thrill of the hunt?

You could stalk someone for hours or days or months. You could learn what they have to live for just to make it that

much sweeter when you kill them.

And what would be the coolest thing in the world for a serial killer?

That’s right, it would be the ability to travel through time.

You didn’t see that one coming, did you?

Harper Curtis is your basic serial killer in the 1930s until he stumbles into an abandoned house that somehow gives him the ability to time travel. He can open the door into the 1950s, or the 1980s or the 1990s.

And now he can not only kill, but he can meet his victims when they are children. He can stalk them through time and see them as they grow. He can plan the exact moment when he is going to snuff them out. He can even tell them about it when they are kids. He can tell them he will be back in 10 years.

He can start to take things off of them. He can take little trinkets from the 1980s and leave them on victims in the 1950s. How fun does that sound?

But what if one of his victims doesn’t die and starts to do a little investigating? What if she somehow puts it all together?

As crazy as she thinks she may be, she might just be able to stop him.

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WAY TOO INDIE

Inside Llewyn Davis

bio: Dustin Jansick is the owner of WayTooIndie. com, which is dedicated on providing you with the most accurate and honest movie reviews and ratings. The site is focused around, but certainly not limited to, independent films.

Dustin, along with other fellow contributors, not only write reviews on indie, foreign and art house films, but also post trailers, news articles and Top-10 lists. Check them out on Facebook and @WayTooIndie on Twitter.

“SOME GREAT MOMENTS, JUST NOT AS MANY AS YOU WOULD EXPECT FROM THE COEN BROTHERS.”

The latest creation from masterminds Joel and Ethan Coen is about a folk musician named Llewyn Davis; a couch-surfing cat lover with a full beard who rarely is without his guitar and is more concerned with being an artist than being a traditional careerist. Nowadays Davis would likely be considered a hipster, but the film is set back during in the early days of folk music. The most effective moments of Inside Llewyn Davis are when Davis is behind the mic with his guitar, unfortunately that happens less than you would expect. And while there is some great deadpan humor sporadically placed throughout, the overall tone of the film is a bit darker, focusing on his struggles to make it in life.

Inside Llewyn Davis opens with a two-and-a-half-minute solo of Llewyn Davis (Oscar Isaac) strumming his guitar and belting out a downer folk song comprised of catchy hooks that you will not soon forget. At first it hard to tell if the hazy picture is due to the smoky interior of a small New York City pub circa 1961, but as soon as he steps outside the soft focus look remains observable. If you could not

tell from the lyrics of his songs, Davis is a down-on-his-luck musician who lives on other people’s couches without a penny to his name. Also, he may or may not have gotten a fellow folk singer (Carey Mulligan) pregnant.

When the subject of the story is someone who drifts from couch to couch with a career that is practically nonexistent, the film is going to have a natural aimless wander to it. This is fine at the beginning, because Inside Llewyn Davis is frontloaded, containing its best scenes within the first hour of its runtime. Watching him trying to take care of a run-away cat is easily the highlight of the film; followed by a silly recording session with some of his friends (Justin Timberlake and Adam Driver) about being sent into outer space by President Kennedy. Unfortunately, the film spends too much time on autopilot after the midway point that it begins to grow tiresome and very unfocused.

The Coen brothers are known to create remarkably unique characters, just take a look at most of the characters in The Big Lebowski or Fargo. But all of the characters we are introduced to in Inside Llewyn Davis are aban-

doned before they can make a lasting impression. A prime example of this is when John Goodman leaves the picture as quickly as he appears—not even making it through an entire road trip. To top it off, the character we do spend the most time with, Llewyn Davis, happens to be the least interesting character of the film, despite it being easy to sympathize with his situation.

Inside Llewyn Davis is about as close as you get to be a musical without being one—a shame because the musical breaks are one of the strongest components of the film. Watching our protagonist wander through his journey becomes less interesting with each passing act of the film.

There are some great moments in Inside Llewyn Davis, just not as many as you come to expect from a Coen brothers production.

6.9 out of 10

Dustin Jansick Read full review: http://way2in.de/fv

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ALSO WATCHING: A TOUCH OF SIN

6.8 out of 10

CJ Prince Read full review: http://way2in.de/f1

Unfortunately, my admiration for the film did not translate into enjoyment.

Each story’s hammering home of the same point cause the film to lose steam quickly, and while the message is strong it isn’t substantive enough to carry the two hour runtime. The characters feel like blank slates rather than well-defined people, and the attempt to connect all four characters at the end is unnecessary.

Regardless, A Touch of Sin is still worth watching if given the chance. Its execution may be lacking, but thankfully it doesn’t take away from the power of Jia’s intentions.

MANDELA: LONG WALK TO FREEDOM

6.5 out of 10

Bernard Boo Read full review: http://way2in.de/gc

Mandela’s story is one of the most fascinating and inspiring in the history of the world, with peaks, valleys, awe-inspiring feats of courage and solidarity and a lasting impact on worldwide consciousness. Mandela is based on the man’s autobiography, so the material Chadwick and screenwriter William Nicholson had to work with is inherently amazing, yet they somehow managed to crank out an unremarkable (while brilliantly acted) picture. They’d better thank their lucky stars for Idris Elba, whose brilliance barely buoys the film.

THE SPECTACULAR NOW

7.7 out of 10

Dustin Jansick Read full review: http://way2in.de/ge

Credit the writing for creating a redeeming character that makes you want to reach out to stop him from ruining his life, but also for allowing the character to be smart enough to do so himself. You must also give credit to the two main leads who help make some of the familiar plot devices feel fresh again. Far too many teenage dramas are content with staying within the boundaries of the schoolyard, in this case placing all the focus on Sutter’s temptations with getting back together with his ex. Fortunately, The Spectacular Now introduces a darker side of the film that helps separate it from its competition.

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PROFILES IN SOUND

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FEBRUARY MUSIC PREVIEW Woman power, light shows and country take over the month of February with some of this month’s biggest shows throughout the state.

Cassie Taylor When: Feb. 7 @ 9 p.m.

Where: Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls How much: No cover Details: Hailing from Boulder, Colo., Taylor combines a compelling mix of music, theater, fashion and modeling in her repertoire. She is also the daughter of renowned bluesman Otis Taylor and toured with is band as a bassist and backup vocalist for years. Check out Taylor’s new kind of blues which explores the trials and tribulations of a 20-something woman. For more info, visit www.iconsiouxfalls.com or call (605) 444-4266.

BIG GIGANTIC When: Feb. 12 @ 7:30 p.m.

Where: The District, Sioux Falls How much: $15 first 200, $20 after, $25 door Details: Known for high-energy live performances, Big Gigantic is stopping

by Sioux Falls on their 2014 tour. Their shows combine the improvisational dynamics of jam bands and jazz with DJstyle production. Don’t forget their epic light shows that are a prominent part of their performances. For more info, visit www.thedistictsf.com or call (605) 271-5600.

Caroline Smith (Pictured) When: Feb. 6 @ 8 p.m.

Feb. 14 @ 9 p.m.

Where: The Back Porch, Spearfish Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls How much: $6 | No cover Details: “I wanted to find my way back to the reason why I started playing music in the first place,” Smith said. “Over the last year I began to embrace that being a strong, confident, opinionated

woman is something to be proud of, not subdued. I have to embrace where my roots are and stay true to who I am: an unabashed fan of 90’s R&B, pop and neo-soul.” Smith makes two South Dakota stops during her 2014 tour.

Jami Lynn and Dylan James join her in Spearfish. For The Back Porch, visit www.backporchbar.net or call (605) 642-2134. For Icon Lounge, visit www. iconsiouxfalls.com or call (605) 4444266.

The Band Perry When: Feb. 15 @ 7:30 p.m.

Where: Rushmore Plaza Civic Center How Much: $22.50-$37.25 Details: Since releasing their debut album in 2010, The Band Perry have become a worldwide success with hits like “If I Die Young,” which climbed to No. 1 on Billboard’s Country and AC Charts. with sold-our tours and multiple CMT, ACM and CMA award, the group is stopping by Rapid City while on tour. “Our show is very aggressive; there are a lot of electric guitars and hard-hitting drums, and the music on Pioneer captures that,” Kimberly Perry described. For more info, visit www. gotmine.com or call 1-800-GOTMINE (468-6463).

Phil Vassar When: Feb. 8 @ 8 p.m.

Where: Deadwood Mountain Grand How much: $20-25 Details: A career that has seen the release of eight albums, two ASCAP Songwriter of the Year trophies, Billboard Country Songwriter of the Year and countless hits add to the mantle. He has hit the Top five seven times with songs like “Carlene,” “Last Day of My Life” and “American Child.” For more info, visit www.deadwoodmountaingrand.com or call (877) 907-GRAND (4726).

John Mark Nelson When: Feb. 21 @ 9 p.m.

Where: Icon Lounge, Sioux Falls How much: No cover Details: The Minneapolis artist is a 19-year-old songwriter who was raised in a musical home, playing instruments and writing songs like a second language. Thanks to a successful Kickstarter campaign, Nelson is putting together his third album with this new single, “The Moon and The Stars.” For more info, visit www.iconsiouxfalls.com or call (605) 444-4266.

Keller Williams When: Feb. 24 @ 7 p.m.

Where: The District, Sioux Falls How much: $14 adv/$17 door Details: This all ages show features Wil-

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PROFILES IN SOUND

ALBUM REVIEW WITH AUSTIN KAUS Image by Reistroffer Design.

The Putrid Flowers Midnight in the Summer of Caffeine

The best unsigned band in the world breaks a nearly 10-year hiatus to triumphantly return with a melodic punk song cycle that’s full of nostalgia, power and melodies you won’t be able to stop screaming in the shower. Download this album and the rest of their discography for free at putridflowers.com Favorite tracks: “Exit Stage Left...,” “Midnight in Mid-America,” “Tiny Rivers”

liams in a solo set and a set with More Than a Little for their 2014 “What the Funk” tour. Opening is Jon Wayne & The Pain. Williams is known as a “oneman jam-band” due to his frequent use of live phrase looping with multiple instruments. For more info, visit www. thedistrictsf.com or call (605) 2715600.

10 RANDOM FACTS WITH...

BOSS MILLER Ross “Boss” Miller raps, sings, records and performs--but not always in that order. After releasing his first music video “Power Trip” for his second fulllength album Don’t Stand Still (which will be released this month), Miller offered up the single for free via social media. “I had so many talented people put in a lot of work to bring this song to life the way it has, I’m very grateful with the way everything played out,” he said.

Miller’s second single, “Don’t Stand Still,” will be released Feb. 2. For the latest updates and to download “Power Trip,” find Boss Miller on Facebook or visit soundcloud.com/bossmiller.

1. I started making music after an accidental freestyle session at the age of 19.

2. My alter-ego is a man by the name of Gucci Sundae. He’s either well loved, or most hated.

3. I was once asked to rap for the head monk at the Taize Monastery in France. He seemed highly intrigued.

4. I was my high school graduation speaker.

5. I’m the co-creator of the off-the-menu bagel sandwich called “The Dankness” at Bagel Boy. (Get it...you won’t be sorry.)

6. I once had the Nappy Roots over to party, kicked them out of my house for mooching all the party supplies, and was tackled to the ground by a police officer for kicking his clipboard after lighting off fireworks in my backyard at 2:30 am. (All on a Monday.)

7. I once shared an elevator with Prince.

For quite a few seconds I forgot how to breathe.

8. Lately I’m getting into ghost-writing for female vocalists. (Holla.)

9. I was a speech/debate nerd in high school. The skills I learned then carry over very well with songwriting and performance.

10. To this point, we do everything inhouse. I produce music, videos, graphic art, and merchandise with the people I grew up with or with personal friends.

Samuel Locke Ward In Utero

The prolific Iowa City musical madman transforms Nirvana’s 1993 masterpiece into a twisted, minimalist fairy tale that Cobain himself would likely approve of. It is available for free at samuellockeward. bandcamp.com.

Favorite track: “Rape Me,” “Frances Farmer Will Have Revenge on Seattle,” “Dumb,” “All Apologies”

Brent Amaker and the Rodeo Country Sky

This band of outlaws from Seattle releases yet another reminder of why they should be filed under “country” while Toby Keith and the other pop-redneck yahoos should be filed under ... something else. The EP is available at finrecords.com.

Favorite tracks: “Country Sky,” “Tomorrow (feat. Rachel Ferguson of NighTraiN)” To read Austin’s discussion with Brent Amaker on music, whiskey and one particular South Dakota strip club, go to 605magazine.com

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CREATIVE WRITING

About the author: Dorianne Munce (Schmidt) grew up on a farm outside of Crooks, S.D., as one of twelve children. She has been writing poetry and songs since she was fourteen, drawing on her experiences as part of a large rural family. She currently lives in Sioux Falls, SD. with her husband, two children and three dogs.

MOMMA LOOKS FOR HIS EYES

Baby Blue Implanted to see once more Man, woman not sure His eyes see light Living life outside of him Visions someone is thankful for Waking up no longer blind Dreams of a different person Step forth reaching and seeing What he used to Allowing him to live_______ A little longer Through another life With his blue eyes Even though, he rests in peace Momma knows his eyes Live on_______

Graphic by C. T. Miner

AMPUTATED ON BATTLEFIELD

Tripping over branches Limbs that took years to grow Piled like last year’s fall leaves So many_______ Blood must be leaking Sap of tree eyes tear Bark torn exposing flesh Protruding wood bones War must have struck here Destruction tugs heavy on Mother Nature Trees rooted unable to run away Stuck standing taking a beating Budded babies had started Leaving some dead before, The birth of leaves could sprout open Bent over staring at their loss Unfortunate some trees died Dismantled by chainsaws No body bag big enough Burial ground will be Burn pits or bonfire cremation Maybe ground into landscape wood chips Local dumps left to rot

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AT HOME with Jon + Tracy Kirby

“He’s just a big ol’ fluff ball,” Tracy said of her 2-year-old Newfoundland, Edison.

JON + TRACY KIRBY “I’m finally starting to feel like I can live here now,” said Tracy Kirby.

Recognize her? She’s 605’s very own Little Parent on the Prairie columnist.

Tracy and her husband Jon (along with 2-year-old daughter Avianna) have lived in their southeast Sioux Falls home on Prairie Green for a little over a year and have constantly been moving from project to project since.

“It was so brown, and we didn’t have much time to find a house,” Tracy said about the paint in the home from the previous owners.

Tearing down a wall, editing the cabinets, adding a sink, replacing the counter island and a fresh coat of paint later, the kitchen is finally to their adorable/livable standards.

“I like hanging out in the kitchen area just because we put so much work into it,” Jon said of the project, which they finished in July.

Tracy was ecstatic to have the renovations done so she could get back to one of her passions: cooking. Because of a health scare a few years back, the family cooks a lot of or-

ganic dishes at home.

“I cook a ton,” Tracy said. “We’re really into living the optimal healthy life.”

Opening up the space was also important for hosting friends and family, which they do often.

“We love to host and entertain, so we have people over all the time. That’s why we wanted an open floor plan,” she explained.

Tracy continued with a smile, “Jon is the ultimate helper—he’s always cleaning while I’m cooking.”

A favorite feature of the house is the infinite amount of large windows. Tracy said they never have to turn lights on during the day with all of the natural light.

“We had a backyard where we were landlocked by houses with no view,” said Jon of their previous home in Colorado.

“That’s what’s great about South Dakota is it’s pretty easy to have a good view.”

One of Jon’s favorite things about the house is sitting in

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AT HOME

“I just got the bar cart —I’ve been wanting a bar cart,” Tracy said with excitement (pictured bottom left). “I found it at Target for around $130. Usually they can be around $500.”

the living room chairs and watching the golfers on the course. The family lives on the 14th hole.

“By the time they get to this hole the golfers are a little ‘tired,’” Jon laughed. “I’m definitely a people watcher.”

Their beloved pet also takes advantage of the larger backyard, sometimes not coming in all night so he can chase wildlife.

“In the winter we’ll have deer, so Edison goes nuts,” Jon said.

Tracy has taken up gardening since moving into their new home and pointed out lavender hanging over the stove that she has been using in recipes.

“We built a big garden in the summer,” she said. “I can use [the lavender] in oils amongst other things. I got really into gardening now that we have space.”

The family made the move from Denver so Jon could work in his family’s private equity business, Bluestem Capital. Tracy, who misses her old home base, recreated their formal living room to pay homage (shown in the family portrait on the opposite page).

“Honestly, I did this room because we had a room exactly like this, and so to the paint color I replicated it to remind me of our Denver house,” she said, stating it was her favorite part of the home.

Her other favorite is their basement playroom, which they finished days before the interview.

“We just finished the playroom a week ago because Avianna’s just getting to that age where she needed her own space to play,” Tracy said. “Her toys were everywhere and unorganized.

Now she lives down there.”

Just because it’s a child’s playroom doesn’t mean it lacks her mother’s classy touch. Avianna has her own

AT HOME with Jon + Tracy Kirby

chandelier hanging above her toys that they found at a garage sale.

“I really love decorating, it’s like my second love,” Tracy said.

Avianna is also part of another favorite facet of the home, but in this instance it’s in the form of art. This past fall, Tracy and Jon traveled to Paris for her 30th birthday. Knowing they would be visiting the famous Montmartre, the “artist center” for street artists, they printed out an image of Edison and their daughter to have it made into a portrait (the two have a special bond since they have grown up together).

“The artist drew it in white, black and gray chalk,” Jon explained. “It took her about an hour tops.”

“That’s definitely my favorite piece of art by far in the house,” Tracy added (pictured top left).

One of the features that was hard not to be envious of was Tracy’s vanity in her bathroom, which was her husband’s idea (be jealous, ladies).

“It’s my momentary peace in there,” she said.

“I remember in Denver her makeup was everywhere, so I told Tracy we needed to get a vanity,” continued Jon.

“That was my ploy the whole time,” she laughed.

The couple said their opposing tendencies are why they work as a household and family unit as a whole.

“Jon is the organized one and I’m a disaster, so we balance,” Tracy said with a smirk.

What’s next on their list of projects to tackle? Jon’s wine room, which currently is a small rack with around a dozen bottles.

“The wine room isn’t really anything to write home about...yet,” he teased.

To check out Bluestem Capital, visit www.bluestemcapital.com or call (605) 331-0091. Check out more on Tracy’s family life in her Little Parent on the Prairie column on page 48.

“I was never really into pink, then when we had a girl I just went for it,” Tracy said of Avianna’s room (pictured bottom left).

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A TASTE OF SARCASM BY ALANA SNYDER

All Day Cafe & Goodnight Bar 2101 W 41st St Sioux Falls, SD 57106 (605) 274-7711 www.alldaycafe.net

ALL DAY CAFE & GOODNIGHT BAR “My doctor told me I had to stop throwing intimate dinners for four unless there are three other people.” -Orson Welles

First world problems. We all have had our fair share of them now and again, and I was grief-stricken by one until recently: Brunch.

It was like everyone was having it but me. On Instagram, mimosas are constantly bitch slapping me in the face with jealously. While watching one of my 100 Bravo shows, the ladies get in a fight over 10 a.m. chardonnay downtown (gurl, are you going to finish that quiche before you storm off into your limo?!). Every time I call my sister in Seattle: “Can I call you back? We’re at brunch right now.”

WHY IS EVERYONE AT BRUNCH BUT ME?! Because, in my opinion, we haven’t had that type of true brunch location around the east side of the state until my savior, All Day Cafe & Goodnight Bar, opened a few days after Christmas. And what a Christmas miracle it was.

I essentially was fasting myself (bold-faced lie, but play along) before I showed up because I found out there are three to-go menus of selections. Three. Breakfast, brunch and dinner (or “linner” if you are my parents and eat lunch and dinner at the same time). The majority of the extensive menu has a mod-

ern twist on diner favorites, not to mention classing up the joint (you can get American bison short rib and fried gulf oyster!).

To start, we had the baby “wedge” salad with bacon, cambozola, vidalia, roast tomato and buttermilk dressing and also split the light roasted beet salad with preserved lemon, frisèe, local honey, goat cheese and toasted candy almonds. These were actually so tasty we almost got full before our main meal(s) came out.

Why battle between breakfast or lunch when you can just order both? I had the hot cheese roast beef with tillamook cheddar, caramelized vidalia, pot roast slow vegetables and horseradish crème with their cafè potatoes (seasoned roasted potatoes with onions). I don’t know about you, but sometimes sandwiches can overwhelm me. All of the ingredients were piled high, so I didn’t even attempt to eat it as a sandwich. Luckily, my handydandy knife and fork saved the day so I could inhale the deliciousness .

Meal #2 was the biscuit & gravy with classic sausage or mushroom gravy, farm eggs and roasted potato. Take those eggs, dip them in the potatoes, and muah! Perfection. I must

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say, the gravy looked interesting, but it was very good with a kick of spice. Again, I started eating too much of the biscuit (it is singular, by the way) and almost forgot about my strewn about sandwich.

My husband and breakfast connoisseur *shocker* ordered poached style eggs south style with smoked pork, 5280 chili, red pepper, hollandaise, charred relish and cotija sprinkle. I kept staring at him from across our quaint booth waiting for him to rave about it, and nothing. His main complaint is if he orders eggs, he wants the eggs to be prominent, and these are smothered and almost masked with the other goodness. So if you really want eggs and aren’t up for “that fancy stuff,” order the farmers breakfast with the classic two eggs, thick bacon or big sausage.

Want to try something new and different? Get what he had.

I can’t believe I can finally say the words, “Hey, can I call you back? I’m at brunch.”

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· You know those traps they have at Cracker Barrel where they somehow trick you into buying a $25 Yankee Candle and Big League Chew? Imagine that with items you can buy at places like Urban Outfitters, like Cool Beans that keep your cold coffee chilled, sarcastic mugs or mustache pacifiers for babies. They’re all here. · Happier Hours (as they call it) is every day from 3-6 p.m. with $3 beer, $3 wells and house wine and $5 bites (we’re not talking chislic, we’re talking baked brie with roasted garlic, fig compote and berry jam or a bowl of blues with chorizo, in season mussels, ale beer and sopping bread). · Speaking of happier hour, I’m so happy at their brunch cocktail selection. The bacon & eggs will wake you right up with Jack Daniels, maple syrup, lemon juice, bitters, egg white and a bacon strip. Or try the ‘spresso-tini with Grey Goose, Kahlua, espresso, vanilla ice cream and nutmeg. In a group? The Gridiron punch bowl serves four or five with Fat Tire Amber Ale, sweet pineapple and yellow chartreuse.

(ATMOSPHERE) Part of WR Hospitality, All Day Cafe & Goodnight Bar really did a great job from the branding to the artwork to the coffee shop portion to the bar. It truly feels like you could stay all day and move around to get a different feel. My mouth dropped as I left when I realized there was an insane-looking pastry and dessert selection in the coffee area (those éclairs blew my mind).

(SERVICE) It was the second week it had been open and no one acted like it. Our server was very knowledgeable, super speedy and joked around with us. Also, straws are already at your table (point) and my server brought me refills three times without me ever having to ask (Triple points. I have an addiction to Diet Coke, so what?).

(TASTE) I love how different all of the food looks. You could honestly spend a week trying all new things that are completely different.

It all seems fresh, like you won’t have a post breakfast stomach ache an hour after eating. I can’t wait to try more!

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The month of February is a perfect time to grab a drink and celebrate with the one you love (or celebrate your beloved singledom!).

General manager of The Rush Alan Grey gave 605 His and Her recipes for the drink(s) of choice for Valentine’s Day. For more info on the Sioux Falls establishment known for the cheapest beer and drinks in town, call (605) 338-7335 or find them on Facebook.

for her

ICED STRAWBERRY SHORTCAKE MARTINI 2 oz. Smirnoff Iced Cake flavored vodka 3 pieces of strawberries 2 oz. lemonade 0.5 oz. amaretto liqueur 1 twist of lemon Muddle strawberries and vodka in a shaker.

Add other ingredients.

Shake well with ice and strain into a martini glass.

Garnish with a strawberry and lemon twist.

UPSIDE DOWN CAKE 2 oz. Smirnoff Iced Cake flavored vodka 1 oz. orange juice 1 oz. pineapple juice 1 top club soda Build in a highball glass over ice and top off with club soda.

Garnish with sprinkles, a cherry and an orange twist.

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for him

BULLEIT RYE MANHATTAN 1 oz. Bulleit Rye 0.5 oz. sweet vermouth 3 dashes of aromatic bitters Pour ingredients in a cocktail shaker with ice.

Strain into a highball glass on the rocks.

Garnish with a cherry.

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GET INVOLVED

“We have changed our name, created new friendships, expanded our services, broadened our awareness of illiteracy and its impact and the impact we could make,” she added.

THE DETAILS:

WHERE: Museum of Visual Materials Sioux Falls, S.D. WHEN: Feb. 22 | 7-10 p.m.

HOW MUCH: $40 per person/ $75 per couple

BREWHAHA REACH, formally known as the Sioux Falls Area Literacy Council, is putting on one of its most popular annual fundraisers, Brewhaha, Feb. 22 from 7-10 p.m. at the Museum of Visual Materials.

This unique event combines beer tasting, storytelling and socializing to raise awareness of their organization and the resources they provide in the community.

“Many of our learners come to us with just an oral skill,” REACH executive director Paige Carda said. “Maybe the language they speak doesn’t have a written dialect or they never learned to read or write.

So we wanted to embrace that avenue and decided to bring in storytelling.”

The organization, which was founded in 1986, was originally intended to teach prison inmates.

Evolving over time, the group now provides adults 18 and over tutors to learn how to read and write. These populations of adults range from those on parole to those in South Dakota Achieve to those born in the United States and to those who came as refugees or immigrants.

Changing its name to REACH this past November, Carda said the old name didn’t truly reflect the

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organization any longer.

“[The name] was unwieldy, hard to spell, hard to remember and often confused with literary,” she explained. “Adults looking for help couldn’t spell our name and didn’t know where to look.”

She continued, “We felt the name REACH matched what we were trying to do, reach out to the community as well as what our learners are doing, reaching new competencies and goals.”

Last year’s Brewhaha had around 220 in attendance and raised $7,000. Typically hosting comedians, this year will have storyteller Hugh Weber as one of six speakers.

“I have seen his TEDx talks and felt that he understood the power of a great story. His ability to reach out to an audience was impactful and a great addition to our event,” said Carda.

The theme of the night is metamorphosis, to play off of all the changes in the organization.

“We have changed our name, created new friend-

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ships, expanded our services, broadened our awareness of illiteracy and its impact and the impact we could make,” she added.

Other projects REACH is working on includes a yearlong collaboration with Chad Phillips Photography where his studio will photograph and interview a number of people in the Sioux Falls area who struggle or have struggled with reading and writing.

“The project will conclude with a gallery reception and presentation in 2015,” Carda said.

Proceeds from Brewhaha provides materials and staffing for learners and tutors. This includes books, assessments, training, in-services, computer technology, MP3 players to listen to books, as well as a dedicated staff person for tutor and learner support.

Beer/wine tasting will be provided by Johnson Brothers and heavy hors d’oeuvres by Chef Dominique’s Catering and Banquet Facility. Along with storytelling will be a literacy-related raffle.

Tickets are $40 per person and $75 per couple and can be purchased at www.siouxfallsliteracy.com or by calling (605) 332-2665.

SURPRISING STATS ABOUT LITERACY...

• 14 percent of the nation reads at or below a fifth grade level.

• 43 percent of those people with the lowest literacy rates live in poverty.

• Low literacy adds an estimated $360 billion to health care costs.

• Uneducated girls are four times more likely to have a baby before their 19th birthday than those with a secondary education.

DR. MATT KRIVARCHKA 1511 W. Holly Boulevard, Brandon, SD 605.582.5000 www.todaysfamilydentistrysd.com

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CHECKLIST February

Pull out your pen and check these items off your list this month!

LOOKING FOR LOVE SCAVENGER HUNT

Image courtesy of Monk’s House of Ale Repute.

Image courtesy of Midwest Marketing.

Image courtesy of the Dahl Arts Center.

Image courtesy of DTSF.

Feb. 7 @ 10 a.m. - 8 p.m.

Downtown Sioux Falls Price: Free More info: www.dtsf.com Participating businesses will have a large heart with a letter/ number code written on it that will be hidden within their business.

Individuals on the hunt will need to write down the letter/number code on the heart on the scavenger hunt sheet to show they went to the business. Scavenger hunt sheets can be picked up at any of the participating businesses. Completed sheets can then be turned in to any of these businesses that will be collected by Downtown Sioux Falls the following Monday.

BONUS! A random drawing will b e done with qualifying sheets and the winner will receive a $25 gift card from each of the participating businesses.

MAKE THEATRE COMPANY PRESENTS CIE MACADÂMES Feb. 8, Rapid City @ 7-9 p.m. | Feb. 14-15, Sioux Falls @ 7 p.m., 2 p.m. & 7 p.m.

Dahl Arts Center, Rapid City | Washington Pavilion, Sioux Falls Price: $10, Rapid City| $7-$15, Sioux Falls More info: www.maketheatrecompany.com | (505) 400-7403 A unique blend of traditional French pantomime, dance and live music, this physical theatre troupe is guaranteed to entertain the whole family with Chaussée Interdite aux Piétons (Roadway Closed to Pedestrians).

BONUS! Their latest creation, Chaussée Interdite Aux Piétons, embodies sound, movement, tragedy and love, all delivered in an entirely universal physical language and movement vocabulary that is easily understood by everyone.

GODSPELL Feb. 14 @ 7:30 p.m.

Rushmore Civic Plaza Price: $39.50-$54.50 More Info: www.getmine.com or (605) 394-4111 Prepare ye for Godspell, the beloved musical from Stephen Schwartz, the Grammy and Academy Award-winning composer of Wicked. Enjoy all the good gifts on one of the most enduring shows of all time in a brand new, intimate, one-of-a-kind production.

BONUS! Enjoy the Tony-nominated score filled with hits like “Day

by Day,” “Light the World” and “Turn Back, O Man.”

BRRRVANA Feb. 22 @ 3 p.m.

Monk’s House of Ale Repute, Sioux Falls Price: Varies More info: www.monkshouseofalerepute.com or (605) 338-2328 The annual beer festival features beer, beer and more beer.

BONUS! Here is just a bit of what to look forward to: Crow Peak Annexation, North Coast 20th Anniversary Ale, Madhouse VIP, Bitter Esters Biere de Hiver and Twisted Pine Pearl Street Porter.

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The single mom of two is a divorcee who is ready to look for love and a partner to share her life with.

“While I am not always brave, I do like to take a chance from time to time, and this must be one of those times,” she said in her e-mail responding to our Facebook post looking for participants.

Seeing that she works from her house, DeJong mentioned it has been difficult to meet someone as of late.

So 605 decided to shake things up this year for Blinded by Love, which typically has readers vote for four gentlemen and four ladies to go on a blind date and see what happens.

This year, DeJong is our one and only bachelorette, hoping to be wooed by three bachelors.

The other kicker? Each bachelor is given only $50 to take her out.

Awkwardness, tears and fun ensued…

Meet William…

William Robertson is a busy man.

Not only did he say he’s taking classes, but he has two jobs as well. The single dad moved to Sioux Falls from St. Louis, Miss. to be closer to his children.

“Anything else you want to know?

Oh yeah, I hate cigarettes,” he said at the end of his e-mail responding to our post. We knew he was going to be a firecracker.

Robertson chose Chevys Fresh Mex for his Friday night date. When we met up with Robertson and DeJong to introduce the two, he had a bouquet of roses.

“She was a very beautiful woman,” Robertson said of first impressions during his phone interview following the date. “She’s very smart, very ambitious.”

“It was really sweet that he brought flowers—I don’t even remember the last time I got flowers,” recounted DeJong in her phone interview the morning after.

For DeJong, that’s where the sweet ended and the sour began.

“He spent a lot of time asking about more personal type of stuff that I normally don’t talk about the first time you meet someone, like my ex…. It was kind of weird,” she said.

She also noted being thrown off by his very first comment to her.

“We were sitting down and the very first thing he said was, ‘That’s a nice purse you got there, is that Coach?’” DeJong recalled with a laugh.

“I’ve never had a guy comment or ask about my purse, especially not as an opening remark, either.”

DeJong was also thrown off, and was a little disappointed, that the awkward start to the date wasn’t followed up with an alcoholic beverage.

“When we ordered I was really craving a margarita, but he didn’t order a drink, so I didn’t order one,” she said.

“I thought I really want to drink right now, is that sad? And then he never asked about it, never brought it up or anything, so I just drank some water with lemon in it and pretended it was a margarita.”

DeJong ordered the veggie fajitas and Robertson ordered a well-done burger and fries since he “hadn’t been to Chevys in a while.”

“I was going to try something, but I didn’t since I’m highly allergic to seafood and wasn’t sure if we should take the time for a meal to come out if it was going to take a while,” he said.

They moved the conversation to their children. Robertson enjoyed being able to share that in common.

“I like that she has kids like me

so she knows the schedule, and I can’t hang out all the time,” he said.

DeJong didn’t feel the same way.

“We have very different parenting styles,” she said.

She also didn’t feel the same way about his favorite television shows, The Wire and Archer. Robertson was recommending she find a way to rent The Wire.

“That’s not me at all, and I think Archer is a horrible show. There is nothing redeeming about it,” she said.

Then there came the 10 or so minutes where Robertson tried to explain where his favorite buffet, Roll’n Pin Restaurant & Bakery, was. By the Motel 6? Not sure where that is. By the Sleep Inn? Still confused. This continued until it was verbally mapped out where she could find the exact location.

“It was so just funny, it was just classic,” she laughed. “That was one of my favorite moments the whole night.”

One of the most uncomfortable moments of the date was when the topic of race came up.

“I thought it was kind of weird. I don’t talk about what race people are, like I don’t talk about what kind of religion people are,” she said. “He talked about his kids’ school and said their teacher is pretty much the only white person, and then asked about my kids’ school and held up the white napkin and goes, ‘Is this what their school looks like?’”

The really confusing part? DeJong was thrown off that he agreed or liked almost everything she talked about.

“It was like, you can’t like everything I like because I don’t seem to like anything you like. It’s not possible,” she said. “Everything he talked about I either didn’t know what it was or where it was or wasn’t really interested in, but everything I would say he would like it.”

Robertson was on a whole different page.

“There was not a dull moment,” he recalled. “It was straight eye to eye contact.”

He continued, “I felt a connection.”

It finally was a story Robertson shared about graduating high school at 16 and receiving football scholarships to a big university that really made DeJong raise an eyebrow.

“He said the college didn’t know when they gave him scholarships that he was only 16, they only knew he was a senior, so they ended up gray shirting him and eventually took his scholarship away because he was only 16,” she said.

DeJong continued, “The whole story, something seems kind of weird.

They would have known how old you are, I know some college recruiters.

They do their homework. Maybe I’m wrong, I just don’t buy that story. I just didn’t think he was honest and genuine.”

This could come from DeJong’s history of dishonesty.

“I had an ex who lied a lot, and even if it wasn’t lies it was half-truths or partial truths, and so honesty and feeling like I can trust what someone is saying is really huge to me,” she said.

Robertson did feel at times he wasn’t sure what she was thinking throughout the date.

“She was kind of hard to read. She kept her wall up,” he said.

After leaving what DeJong believes was a $2 tip, Robertson took a picture on his cell phone of his receipt to capture how much he spent with his date budget.

DeJong said, “I was like, can’t you do that later?”

This was followed by the can-wego-now dance.

“I did the whole sit up and lean forward into the table and thanked him for dinner and the flowers and do what typical social clues are for wrapping things up, and I had to do that four times,” she said. “Finally I had to just pick up my keys and say, ‘I better get going!’”

When she returned home, she texted her friends to tell them about her night.

“My friends were like, ‘I can’t believe you stayed for an hour-and-a-half,’ and I was like, ‘Well he was a nice guy,’” she said, easing up a bit. “He was very nice, and it’s nice talking to somebody else and getting to know somebody. I don’t ever like to make snap decisions on anything, but there were just so many differences. And the funny thing is it seemed like he thought it went well.”

Robertson did feel stellar at the end of the date. “I had a blast. Hopefully, I don’t know about her version, but I had a good time,” he said.

DeJong takes some of the blame, as she never truly spoke her mind about how she really felt about the conversation, and when he asked when he would hear something next she simply answered that she wasn’t sure.

“It’s a huge weakness of mine and has gotten me into trouble before...

I’m a people pleaser,” DeJong said. “If I think what I’m going to say is going to upset someone or hurt someone else’s feelings, I have a really hard time with it.”

Luckily we think Robertson will be

okay since he asked if one of the bachelors can be the main bachelor next year if they don’t get picked.

Meet Kevin…

“It was better. It was really nice,” DeJong started in her phone interview about date number two.

Kevin Yackley, a registered nurse, took DeJong tubing at Great Bear Recreation Park.

“I was looking for things that I would like to do that other people that I don’t know anything about would also like to do,” Yackley laughed. “And if it was terrible, with tubing at least it would still be fun.”

Yackley had not been on a date in general in quite some time, and this was his first blind date experience. The two started with hot cocoa indoors to chat about the basics.

“We talked about the vital information,” he recalled. “Then a person she knew who she had worked with previously sat down next to us. I was like, hey guy.”

That is how he found out she had children, which then led to her telling him she was divorced.

“It was interesting finding out pertinent information from a stranger,” he joked about their random guest.

The pair then went tubing, going down around seven times. They even had a local celebrity sighting.

“[KSFY’s] Phil Schreck was there, he was standing behind us in line,” DeJong recalled.

She continued about her date, “He was really fun and easy to talk to…”

After a few minutes into the conversation, something felt off with the

bachelorette.

“It’s funny… well it’s not funny, you know. I told you about how I had come out of a relationship where it didn’t end badly, it just kind of ended because of circumstances,” she explained.

When meeting for coffee at the beginning of the Blinded by Love process, DeJong had disclosed to 605 that she had ended a relationship this past fall due to location. She couldn’t move to Denver due to personal situations and her boyfriend couldn’t move due to his 15-year career and city roots.

She continued, “You start going through a process and it kind of makes you realize that as much as maybe your head and everything knows you need to move on, maybe your heart hasn’t completely caught up to that yet. You know what I mean?”

It was hard to hear, as she was very honest of her inner struggle and was very upset with the revelation.

“It’s like… as much as you’re having a really great time with a really great guy—he’s fantastic—there’s this piece of your heart that just isn’t letting you be completely into what is happening because you’re realizing you’re not as healed as you thought you were.”

She continued with a crackle in her voice, “I’m kind of finding that that’s where I’m at right now. I’m going to start crying again…”

During Yackley’s interview, it was obvious he picked up on something going on.

“I left kind of feeling like I was just there for four hours,” he said. “It was fun, but I didn’t really feel like she was into me because she didn’t ask me any questions, so I didn’t feel like a very in-

teresting person.”

DeJong confided, “I mean yeah, I had a really great time and had a ton of fun, but you just hit that point where your head is over here ready to go, ready to do this, and it’s time to move on….

But then you find yourself having a really good time and talking to someone who is attractive, who has a good job, is educated and has his stuff together and has a good relationship with his family…and then to find yourself having a good time but not being able to fully let yourself enjoy it is frustrating.”

After tubing, the two went to the park’s bar for a beer to catch the end of the Denver Broncos game. Yackley admitted he feels uncomfortable being himself right away with new people and felt that way on their Sunday afternoon date.

“If I’m with a group of people and there is even one person who knows me, I can be how I always am,” he said.

Maybe this is the perfect way for them to get to know each other better.

DeJong said, “I would absolutely be open to hanging out again sometime in a group setting, or I don’t know. Right now I just don’t know if I have too many walls up or what it is. I just feel stuck.”

Yackley isn’t sure how that will happen since when they parted ways he realized they didn’t exchange any contact information.

He recalled, “She said, ‘Talk to you later,’ and I just thought, I don’t know how that’s going to happen...”

“I’m so grateful and so thankful, and maybe this is part of the healing process is getting through this,” DeJong said, stating she still wanted to go on date three and finish the experience.

Meet Dustin…

Dustin Drefke, an operations planner, started his Wednesday night date with a rocky start. His initial plan entailed bowling at Empire Bowl, but he didn’t call to check on availability until 30 minutes before the date started.

“We have a problem, Empire Bowl is full,” he said on the phone to 605.

He quickly called around, and 10 minutes before the set time he changed the location to Eastway Bowl.

DeJong was fine waiting since she had gotten a table for one at Spezia and was nibbling on flatbread and enjoying a glass of wine before her date.

She recalled, “I was like, alright, at least I don’t have to chug my wine!”

“She had a pretty smile,” Drefke said of his first impression when she walked through the door. “She had great conversation.”

In just one week with her blind date journey, DeJong had already grown and learned from her mistakes.

She said, “I was honest and told him I wasn’t in the place to do anything more than have a nice night of bowling and hang out, and I told him I really appreciated it. He told me he really appreciated my honesty, and I was like, alright, honesty!”

Both hadn’t been bowling in a while (they were surprised to find out all the bowling shoes now had Velcro on them), which led to a humorous beginning.

“It was funny, when we got up there they asked how many games and Dustin said, ‘Well we could start with three.’ I was thinking, start with three?!

That’s a lot!”

But the three games turned out to be entertaining.

“Beating her every time was fun,” Drefke joked.

The two had the Dallas Cowboys football team in common, but after that DeJong found too many differences for it to work on a romantic level.

“One thing that is really good about this experience is that it’s made me realize that I’m still a little hung up, but it also made me realize what I really do want in a relationship,” she said.

The fact that Drefke went to college twice and hadn’t finished was a turnoff for her.

“That’s fine if you have a good job and don’t have a college education, but I do,” she said. “I think it’s important to have that example set for my kids.

It’s not the education necessarily, but starting something and finishing it, and I took a long road to get my degree.”

Drefke also mentioned he was a homebody, which DeJong couldn’t relate to as well.

“He said he’s kind of a homebody

and has done his partying and had his fun,” she said. “I have nothing against being at home, I’m home with my kids a lot and relax. I’m not a clubber and don’t like to go out and party, but I’m not a homebody, either. I like to go out to concerts, go out to games and try new things.”

She continued, “But maybe he was just trying to say he doesn’t party anymore.”

If anything, Drefke said he was glad he tried out the experience. Having tried online dating before, this was his first blind date.

“That was my first time that I had ever gone out with anyone I didn’t know anything about,” he said. “I had fun.”

“It was sweet, he walked me to my car,” DeJong recounted.

With this entire Blinded by Love journey, our bachelorette has done a lot of soul searching and has had realizations of what she does want out of a partner and what she absolutely does

not want out of one.

She said, “When you asked what I wanted in a date/boyfriend for the [605magazine.com] video, it was a hard question for some reason, but today I talked to my mom and listed off everything bam, bam, bam!”

DeJong continued, “There are definitely things that are important to me, like I want someone who is athletic and active and will go for runs with me and maybe even push me to work harder.

We can travel to places and go hiking… those are things that are huge for me.

Being into football—I want someone who can spend football season weekends watching football with me and wants to help out with my Fantasy League team and talk about it.”

Where will her journey take her?

Will she ever contact (or find contact information) for any of the bachelors?

Well, we can almost guarantee certain bachelors are out of luck this round.

One thing we can take away from this year’s experiment is that if you’re not ready on the inside, you’ll never be ready to pursue dating on the outside.

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B l in d e d by Love P a rty J o in 60 5 at ou r f ir s t-eve r Blinded by Love party at I co n Lo unge Wednesday, F e b . 1 2 f rom 7 -1 1 p.m . Receive a glo w bracelet at th e do o r: green fo r si ngle, r e d f or ta k e n a n d blu e f or co mmi tment not req ui red. Dance th e ni gh t away w it h DJ x p ozu r a n d p la y (or watch ) a dati ng game hosted by 6 05 & v th e no b l e on e .

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THE SCOOP

Whether you’ve been hit with Cupid’s arrow, or you’re flying solo, treat your date – or yourself – to a Valentine’s Day treat.

LOVEY DOVEY DATES Whether you’ve been hit with Cupid’s arrow, or you’re flying solo, treat your date, or yourself, to a Valentine’s Day treat.

E WINE AND PAMPER

Where: A Perfect 10 Nail & Beauty Bar, Rapid City, S.D. When: Mon. – Fri 9 a.m. – 8 p.m., Sat. 9 a.m. – 7 p.m., Sun. 11 a.m. – 5 p.m.

How much: $20 - $95 Skip the formalities and cut straight to the comfortable part of the date.

A Perfect 10 Nail & Beauty Bar serves of manis, pedis and massages with a side of beer and wine. Yes, the day has finally arrived where you can sip spirits while you’re being pampered.

For more information visit aperfect10nailbar.com or call (605) 791-2600.

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E TWILIGHT FLIGHT

Where: Strawbale Winery, Renner, S.D. When: Feb. 14 | 5 -9 p.m.

E WINE TASTING ON A BUDGET Where: Market on Phillips, Sioux Falls, S.D When: Feb. 14 | 12 – 8 p.m.

How much: $220 for 2, $255 for 3

How much: $5

Take your love to a new height with a twilight helicopter flight over downtown Sioux Falls. Pre-flight, indulge in hors d’oeuvres and wine, then cap then the night off with sweet treats once you’ve landed.

Take your loved one out for a cheap date with the Market on Phillips for $5 Wine Tasting Kick-Off. Sample five fine wines while you nosh on perfectly paired artisanal cheeses.

For more information visit strawbalewinery.com or call (605) 543-5071.

For more information visit themarketonphillips.com or call (605) 275-9463.

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Educated professionals to help in your

E ANGELS AND DEMONS DANCE PARTY

natural parenting journey

Where: Bigs Sports Bar & Billiards, Sioux Falls, S.D. When: Feb. 14 | 9 p.m. – 1:30 a.m.

How much: Free for ladies, $5 for men

Boogie down to dance club beats at an angels and demons-themed dance party hosted by Nikko McFadden and Ganzobean with special gust Gloominoti and Taggiz.

No date required!

For more information call (605) 2752447.

E VALENTINE BISTRO

Where: Prairie Berry Winery, Hill City, S.D. When: Feb. 14 - 15 | 6 - 8 p.m.

How much: $55 per person Sip award-winning wines and savor a four-course, freshly prepared Italian meal at this romantic dinner for two. And while you dine, let Vern Juran serenade you with his instrumental jazz and blues guitar styling.

For more information, visit prairieberry.com or call (877) 2269453.

E NIGHTTIME TUBING

Where: Deer Mountain, Lead, S.D. When: Feb. 14 | 5 - 8 p.m.

How much: $28 per person Head to the hills and slide down Deer Mountain’s Zero Gravity Tube Park with your honey at your side during a romantic night of snow tubing. The park boasts 1,000-feet of winding, speed inhibiting runs.

Plus, one free drink for the ladies on Deer Mountain’s tab.

For more information, visit skimystic. com or call (605) 580-1169.

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THE REAL DEAL

Name: Julie Anderson Friesen Age: Not given Hometown: Cinema Falls Specialty: Writer, problem solver, Art House Film Advocate

My passion probably began in a Pontiac Bonneville station wagon, watching movies at the East Park drive-in with my family.

JULIE ANDERSON FRIESEN Are you a Cine-zen yet?

Set out to be the first arthouse in the city of Sioux Falls, Cinema Falls continues to amaze by bringing American independent films, foreign films and documentaries that typically would not get a run in the local cineplex. Film aficionado Julie Anderson Friesen started the organization with the intention to both find and create community among those film lovers--or as she calls them, the cinematically adventurous.

February is no exception for great films with Oscar Nominated Shorts playing Feb. 1 and 2, Oscar Nominated director Steve James speaking to students and screening Life Itself (based on the book by the late Robert Ebert) Feb. 9, and a documentary following one of America’s most innovative classrooms, If We Build It, screening Feb. 23.

Where did your passion for film begin and what are some of your favorite films?

My passion probably began in a Pontiac Bonneville station wagon, watching movies at the East Park drive-in with my family. That was completely magical. There is no way that downloading a movie on a laptop or an iPad for your kids is as magical as that. I’ve pursued writing, teaching, marketing, baseball and video production. Cinema Falls feels cumulative for me. I have several favorite films in each genre of filmmaking, and films that were my favorites at various stages of my life. I don’t define myself by my favorite films, but more by my film advocacy.

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For those who haven’t experienced it yet, what are the Oscar Shorts and why is it so cool that we are able to see them in Sioux Falls?

On Jan. 16, the Academy announced the five finalists in three categories: Animated, Live Action and Documentary Shorts. For most of us, these were the categories where we’d take a wild stab on our home Oscar ballot, or we’d simply take a kitchen or bathroom break because we’d never seen any of those films. This event is a chance to see them all. Our audience loves seeing a collection of shorts--it’s novel, and they’re very good. What I have found is that they change your Oscar viewing. The other categories may be predictable or anti-climatic by March 2, but for those who have attended our Oscar Shorts, it’s a really great anticipation to see if your favorite won--we compare our local voting with the Academy by having our own ballot.

Tell us about the student/faculty screening event of Life Itself, and how did you get Oscar-nominated director Steve James to come to town?

I’ve been given support and sponsorships as Cinema Falls because of our role in film advocacy and cultural contributions to our community. I also conserve any gains so that I can sustain what we’re doing and use them wisely for events and experiences. I noticed that Indiegogo had a campaign for the Steve James film based on Roger Ebert’s

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memoir and life, and that with a certain level of pledge he would come to a college or university. I deliberated and then purchased it, and when they reached out I told them I was inviting five colleges, not just one campus. They were thrilled. I got a note that Chaz Ebert, Roger’s wife, was particularly pleased about this screening...

Your event was featured in USA Today. Do you feel the impact you are making locally/nationally?

I’ve just finished attending a national arthouse conference and people had heard and read about it, yes. So, that was a great icebreaker. I’m not sure if when you’re in the middle of it that you can feel it, but I’m still certainly surprised by it. I try to stay focused on that old Jed Bartlett phrase from West Wing.....what’s next? If I’m making an impact locally and nationally, it’s likely because I don’t let up.

I’m all in. I’m fighting for so much--for my CineFamily, for our community to have access, and also to keep arthouse strong and vital. That’s why the college event is so important--indie and foreign film lovers likely saw their first arthouse film in college.

My mission is to bring film fans really good story telling through film. It’s pretty simple.

The first evening of Oscar Nominated Shorts (Animated and Live Action) will be at the West Mall 7 Theatres Feb. 1 at 4 p.m. while the second Oscar Nominated Shorts showing (Documentary Shorts) will be Feb. 2 at Icon Lounge at 12:30 p.m. $30 gets the ticket holder both film programs, along with an after party with hot and cold appetizers and desserts at Minnehaha Country Club. Limited $50 tickets gets ticket holders everything mentioned, but includes reserved seating in the theatre and access to the VIP Lounge at Minnehaha with a champagne reception, private bar and food stations and luxury seating.

If We Build It plays Sunday, Feb. 23 at Icon Lounge.

For the latest info, sign up for their e-news at www.cinemafalls. com or follow them on Facebook or @cinemafalls.

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LITTLE PARENT ON THE PRAIRIE by Tracy Kirby

At times, we think and act as if our children should behave supremely, and if and when they don’t, we feel as if we are blowing it big time as parents.

bio: Tracy Kirby’s roots and heart are in the Hawaiian Islands, but destiny has led her to the prairie. She is a wandering traveler, a wife to a dashing Sioux Falls native, a mother to a 2-year-old daughter and 145-pound bear puppy, a freelance writer, and a lover of souls.

THE PERFECT SOLUTION I want to meet the most perfect child in existence. The child who came out of the womb sleeping and eating famously. The child who never, ever fussed. The child who spoke early, walked early, potty-trained in a day with no accidents.

The child who began speaking as if he/ she was a fancy-mannered Downton Abbey character with one part intelligent banter and two parts humble, witty humor. The child who will undoubtedly grow up to be a model student, employee of the year and an overall delightful citizen. The perfect child.

I really want to meet that kid. Or, more importantly, I want to meet the

Illustration by Liz Long.

parents of this kid and get in their heads and take a stroll around whilst stealing their secrets on how they raised a flawless human. And since I’m already stealing stuff while I’m there, maybe I’ll just steal their identity and pretend I was the perfect parent all along …

But, alas, I will never meet said perfect child. Nor will I ever meet his/her parents. Because--newsflash--they don’t exist.

I got a lesson in this just a couple of weeks ago. You might have noticed a few pages back that the lovely folks here at 605 Magazine came to our house to photograph and talk to us about our

home. On the particular day they were scheduled to come over, I wanted the house to be “perfect,” so I did what any self-respecting mom would do: I hid dirty laundry in the closet. I stuffed toys in cabinets to be found again on a rainy day. I cleaned food smears off of the window. I organized. Heck, I even showered. But the one thing I forgot to prepare for was a toddler behavioral meltdown.

You see, my daughter chose this day to display the “Terrible Twos” in the flesh. She refused to talk to anyone, heaved herself onto the floor, threw food across the room, refused to smile

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The good news is, I haven’t been fired… yet.

But, as I rehashed the event over with my Sioux Fallsnative husband, he gently reminded me that a tantrum by a 2-year-old does not make me a bad mother or him a bad father. It merely makes our daughter, and us, human.

“Show me a toddler that doesn’t have a tantrum once in awhile,” he wisely chided.

So, that’s when I realized I was not only trapped in a winter polar vortex, but a perfect vortex.

Why do so many of us parents (myself included here) subconsciously compare ourselves and our children to fictitious, unblemished humans? At times, we think and act as if our children should behave supremely, and if and when they don’t, we feel as if we are blowing it big time as parents. And sometimes, let’s face it, we are blowing it and we need to step up our game. But other times--most of the time--I think the perfection standard trips us up more than it should.

Perhaps it stems from our own culture’s obsession with all things perfect: The perfect house. The perfect body. The perfect couple. The perfect marriage. The perfect pregnancy. The perfect meal. The perfect vacation. The perfect book.

The perfect child. The perfect life. We are bombarded with messages of perfection and how we need it, how we get it, and how to keep it.

I personally blame Pinterest.

But all jokes aside, the message we get is: Perfection is king and we have a huge #FAIL after our name if we don’t have it in every area of life. But as I’m learning, the problem with this mentality is that perfection is simply unattainable. In fact, it doesn’t exist. Especially, when it comes to our journey as parents and our children. So, we can simply be our best and do our best for our children and leave the notion of being “perfect” out in the cold polar vortex.

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ASK THE JOHNS

Yes, all three of these guys are named John. Yes, it was a popular name in the ‘80s. The identity of these three amigos have been altered to protect the innocent.

Have a question for the Johns?

Shoot an e-mail their way at TheJohns@605magazine.com.

1.)

2.)

3.)

An event is coming up where I’m 99.9 percent sure I’ll run into an ex. What is proper ex etiquette in public? I’m always so nervous since it didn’t end the best.

I have a friend who will help me out a lot, like when I need to move things around in my house or with other small things here and there. Lately when we go out to eat or they ask if I want to get drinks they make it awkward when the bill comes and I always end up paying. I think I’m way past paying my way to show my appreciation, and I don’t know what to do now. Should I just not go out to eat/drinks with them?

One of my friends is ‘sick’ almost every other time I ask them to hang out. Either they have the world’s worst immune system and they need to go to a hospital, or they’re full of it. Should I confront them?

-Jessica

-Ridiculous...

-Dumbfounded

JR: The first thing you want to do is

JR: My parents and I have this deal: I

JR: My best friend has been sick since

make sure you are looking your absolute best. For me, this means throwing on my Life is Good t-shirt and doubling the hair gel. Then I make sure my mom drops me off at least a block away so I can lie and say I finally got a driver license. Finally, I pay my cousin to show up and act like she is interested in me.

By the end of the night, I’m clearly the winner of the break-up.

agree to help them move anything in the house and, in turn, they pay for my video games and karate classes. Last week they told me the only way the deal would continue is if I moved my stuff to an apartment. I was like, what the heck Mom and Dad, I don’t want to walk to some random apartment every time I want to chillax and play some video games?!

we graduated from the 5th grade back in 1993. I call him every weekend to see if he is feeling better yet. I have no idea how I’m going to catch him up on 20 years of karate classes when he is finally feeling better...

JW: Step 1: Amazon Prime yourself a

JW: There are other types of favors

rental Ferrari and a professional runway model to accompany you to the event.

Tell your current real life significant other, ‘Sorry, but I need to upgrade ya... temporarily’. Step 2: Strut.

that can be given... Wait, get your mind out of the gutter. I was talking about doing their taxes!

JT: Just be yourself! If you think too much about it you’ll throw yourself off and it could turn uncomfortable.

Simply say hi, and if a conversation comes from it then briefly catch up, or if it doesn’t that is fine, too. You obviously cared for one another at some point in time and just decided it was best not to be together.

JT: This is definitely uncomfortable. I would start hanging out in situations where there isn’t a bill. If down the road you grab a beer and it’s still awkward, maybe just ask the server for separate bills. It will be awkward, but you can’t let yourself get stuck paying for them every time, either.

Illustration by Chuck Bennis DISCLAIMER: Ask the Johns is a sarcastic piece. Their advice is not meant to be taken literally… except maybe John T’s.

JW: Yes, set a time to confront them.

But, when they bail out at the last second because their grandparents have suddenly died for the seventh time, just write them off.

JT: Either they truly are sick all of the time, which is unfortunate, or they don’t know how to turn things down without having a ‘legit’ excuse. Some people worry they will upset others if they simply say no or they ‘don’t feel like it,’ so they make up that they’re not feeling well. I wouldn’t read into it too much.

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605 FACTOIDS

Do you know the facts?

Each month we bring you interesting tidbits about our community and more.

52,014 The amount of visitors Downtown Sioux Falls attracted through special events and promotions for an estimated economic impact of over $1.1 million.

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Three games of bowling equals one mile of walking.

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Reptile Gardens was named the #1 largest reptile zoo in the world by the 2014 Guinness Book of World Records. The facility was started in 1937 by herpetology enthusiast Earl Brockelsby as a one-man show, and the popular tourist attraction now hosts at least 225 different reptilian species and subspecies.

844,877 South Dakota’s current population, growing 3.5 percent in the last three years and making it the sixth fastest growing state in the nation.

Provided by the U.S. Census Bureau

FASHION

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MARIE: CROCHET JERSEY TANK, $39.95. GREY CARDIGAN, $20.98.

WINE BOW SKIRT, $31.77.

BRACELETS $12 EACH. EARRINGS AND NECKLACE, $23.

ALL AVAILABLE AT CHELSEA’S BOUTIQUE. MIKE: COOPER JONES SUPPLY JACKET, BORGO 28 BUTTON UP, MAVI JEANS, AND WILL LEATHER GOODS BAG. ALL AVAILABLE AT MAN CODE.

Dainty Date Wear Two local photographers got in front of the camera to show readers flirty and fun date ensembles.

MARIE: RED DRESS, HEALS, PURSE, AND NECKLACE. ALL AVAILABLE AT TRY IT AGAIN. MIKE: 1969 JEANS, $29.99.

CARDIGAN, $59.95. BUTTON UP, $ 59.99. ALL AVAILABLE AT THE GAP.

MARIE: TAN CAMISOLE, $14.99. BLACK SNOW SHIRT, $79.99. PLEATED LACE AND CHIFFON SHIRT, $64.99. PINK PEWTER HEAD BAND, STYLE ALLISON, $50.

ALL AVAILABLE AT YOU’VE BEEN FRAMED. MIKE: TIE, $49.90.

BUTTON UP, $69.90. DRESS PANT, $59.90. ALL AVAILABLE AT EXPRESS.

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HEALTH TREND BY KELSEY BEWICK

“Learning to challenge yourself is a pretty powerful way to work out.”

HURT SO GOOD You know those really awesome workouts that leave your heart feeling worked and your muscles worn?

TRX is totally that workout.

It’s hard to believe one piece of equipment can deliver a total body exercise, but slip your feet through the suspension straps, try to hold a full plank for one minute, and you’ll quickly become a believer.

The total resistance exercise was developed by Navy SEALs as a means of training on missions with limited space—the entire system required just two suspended straps. What began as a few lengths of hand-stitched parachute webbing is now a functional training system that has been pushed beyond the battlefield.

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“It can be a great training method for not only sports performance, but just your general fitness,” Tammy Buehner, TRX instructor at All About Pilates in Rapid City, said. “TRX also helps build more of a functional strength and improves your flexibility, balance and core stability.”

With moves like bicep curls, single-leg squats and sprinter starts, TRX seamlessly combines full-body strength, cardio training, and constant core work into an action-packed 45- or 60-minute class that challenges your body as well as your brain.

“You really have to keep your mind in the workout to know

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where you’re standing, what’s your angle, where’s your stability and do you have alignment correct,” Stacey Niewenhuis, TRX instructor at 605 Fit in Sioux Falls, said. “You have to be fully aware of yourself and the movements.”

But don’t let the need to engage every inch of your body—and mind—scare you away, TRX is completely customizable and it’s up to you how far you want to push yourself.

Feeling too much of a burn? Step your legs closer, straighten your angle, come down to your knees, or take any other modification offered by the instructor to help relieve some of your own body weight and make moves a little less taxing.

“The goal is to access where everybody is on their own fitness level and be able to personalize it for each person and make them feel that they have achieved their goal for the day,” Buehner said.

And most importantly, don’t lose sight of how fun TRX can be. You are literally hanging from the ceiling and getting a killer workout at the same time. How cool is that?

When embarking on your first class, both Buehner and Niewenhuis suggest listening to your body while pushing yourself to a point you feel comfortable with.

“Learning to challenge yourself is a pretty powerful way to work out,” Niewenhuis said. “[With TRX], you will never just go through some movements and walk out, you’re going to feel like, ‘yeah I worked!’”

As time goes on, both instructors agree students naturally get stronger and progression happens quickly. So that oneminute full plank that was impossible in your first class—it’s entirely attainable. And before you know it, you’ll be pulling your hips into pike, no problem.

So embrace those straps, boost your heart rate, make your muscles burn—every last one of them—and send your endorphins soaring. TRX packs a feel-good punch you’ll be feeling the next day.

For more info, visit allaboutpilatesrc.com or call (605) 4301418 in Rapid City, or visit urfitjourney.com or call (605) 9290714 in Sioux Falls.

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HEALTH PROFILE

The first year they chose a non-profit, they raised funds for the Nemo Volunteer Fire Department to get a UTV for easier access to save those in trouble.

NEMO 500 OUTHOUSE RACES Troy and Willie Saye were sitting at their restaurant at the Nemo Guest Ranch in Nemo, S.D. with relatives when one of them excused themselves to prepare for an outhouse race.

“We all looked at each other and thought, What the heck is an outhouse race,” Troy recalled.

Troy had heard of hospital bed races and bathtub races, but never anything regarding racing portable toilets. He took to the internet. Outhouse races were happening throughout the nation.

“We were flabbergasted at what we found. I said, ‘We’ve got to do this,’” Troy said.

After reading the rules and regulations, they decided to host their first event called the Nemo 500 in the winter of 2007. It started to blizzard, but that didn’t stop the four teams who participated.

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“They all showed up,” he said. “They considered it a challenge against the weather. And 150 people came to watch.”

When the winners were chosen, Troy approached them and asked why they braved the weather for a first-ever race in terrible weather conditions.

“They said they had cabin fever and wanted to get out, and other people said they wanted to see what an outhouse race was,” Troy recounted.

The next year there were eight teams. The next, 12.

“It just kept growing and growing,” he said.

They soon realized they should taken advantage and started to put on the event for non-profits. The first year they

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chose a non-profit, they raised funds for the Nemo Volunteer Fire Department to get a UTV for easier access to save those in trouble.

“Now they can get back and rescue people a lot faster and easier,” Troy said.

This year’s non-profit is for the NAJA Shrine Kid’s Transportation, which transports parents and sick children to and from the hospitals.

“I get enthusiastic for helping the kids,” Troy explained. “I had some personal experiences of some friends and relatives who died from leukemia, so I really enjoy doing this.”

Enthusiasm is a common feeling participants get, especially “the teachers”--a group of teachers whose team has won the last three years. The group always goes with a movie theme, last year’s being Plunger Games. Other noteworthy teams have been the Pooper Troopers (pictured) and Zombie Apoopcalypse.

“They get their own mobile cheerleader group. Last year [the teachers] brought around 70 people with them,” Troy said. “They’re the ones we’re trying to beat this year because they’re so good.”

First, second and third place receives a little model outhouse and the audience chooses Most Unique, who wins a double decker outhouse trophy.

It is $65 to enter, and there are three divisions: Division one is ages 12-25, division two is ages 26-45 and division 3 is ages 46 and over. Each participant receives a t-shirt, but not just any “cheap t-shirt.” A Nemo local embroiders each tee.

Teams must consist of two to five people, and one must ride inside the outhouse. Helmets and adequate safety are required and ice cleats are recommended. Handles and seatbelts are required for outhouse riders. The race is timed start to finish with the objective being to get the lowest time to win.

Along with the races is a “little shovel” race for children.

This year’s Nemo 500 Outhouse Race is Feb. 22 at the Nemo Guest Ranch beginning with a captain’s meeting at 12:15 p.m. For more info, visit www.nemo500.com or call (605) 578-2708.

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DIY with kerry mcdonald

Let your sweet pea know you’re thinking of them with this personalized valentine.

SWEET PEA VALENTINE’S Cost:

bio: Kerry uses her love for typography and ranged design talent to compile both 605 Magazine and Dainty Obsessions. Her subtle quirks include her color coordinated closet and her somewhat unhealthy Pinterest obsession.

Skill level:

Sweet pea flower seeds Floral scrap booking paper Cream cardstock White vellum paper Blush vellum paper Gold pen Red sealing wax Flower stamp Fold and cut the blush vellum paper into small envelops.

Cut the cardstock, vellum, and scrap booking paper into 1/2 inch. by 2 inch. strips. Cut out a triangle shape on one end of each piece to make them into flags.

Write a message to your sweet pea on the vellum.

Fill the glassine bags with sweet pea seeds.

Gather all the flags together and fan out slightly. Place on the flap of the bag. Heat up the wax, and drip a quarter size amount onto the fans and the bag.

Lightly press the stamp into the hot wax.

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