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Just Got Sexy

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Brothers with Daughters

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Danielle Egonu-Obanye Founder & Director Ethnic Minorities in Education Daddies & Daughters London Kamran Assadi Lily Denise Rawls Terrence Ade Founder of Strange Fruit Amani Greeting Cards Chino Okafor Amyah Olivier Kamga Tshaka Campbell Ceylon

MAKING THE ISSUE With film director Eric Kolelas for his feature shoot

We had a lot of fun creating this issue. As usual we met a lot of wonderful, inspiring people. The team grew bigger and so did the readership. So the heat is definitely on but the journey is more than worth it.

Welcome to the wonderful world of CONSISTENCY They say starting is always the hardest part. True, but they hardly ever tell you that consistency is the most important.

If there is one thing we have learnt here at NU People it is that carrying on can be scarier than even taking that first step.

What do the people really want to see?

Are we delivering that?

Well, honestly we dont know that yet but that is the beauty of putting things out there for the world to see.

You will get your answers some way or another and it is what you do with those answers that matter. Just remember to keep doing what you are doing and be consistent with it. One day the people will pay attention when they have seen it over and over again.

P.Y Adjei Senior Editor

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Contents Topics

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10 British,till you do wrong Are ethnic minorities always British Or only when it Suits?

32 Beauty & Grooming

Trends to Dye for MEN: TO Beard Or Not To Beard?

48 So what’s wrong with Speed Dating?

Debunking the myths

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Brothers with Daughters What happens when men are responsible for little women

Sacred Sex

Achieving a higher sexual chemistry

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MORE CONTENTS

Features

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Tahj Miles

on playing ‘Simba’ in Lion King, ‘Tommy’ in award-winning Matilda the Musical...and what he thinks about girls

NU People BookClub

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This Issue’s Essential Reads

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Directors Cut:

Eric Kolelas shares his love for playing characters while working behind the camera

A Season In The Congo

A review of the theatrical adaptation of the life of Patrice Lamumba

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Josh Osho

Redemption: A Man Apart His life and his music after the record label

52 Thinking of Buying a House?

Why should you do it now??

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Dealing With Your Man During Hard Financial Times

What happens when his drought takes a bit longer than expected?

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Be So Good They Can’t Ignore You!

The simple rules to getting where you want to be

Being Portia CRAZY . SEXY .

REVOLUTIONARY

Deep into the mind of model, actress and business woman Portia Freno.

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T H E AT R E R E V I E W | TA H J M I L E S | O P I N I O N S | B O O K C L U B | S I G H T S & S O U N D S ( N O T T I N G H I L L C A R N I VA L 2 0 1 3 )

Retrospect a SEASON in the CONGO

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assassination of Patrice Lumumba is, arguably, one of the most important events in contemporary history, not only for Africa, but the entire world. Telling this story is no mean feat.

A Season in the Congo brings to life a story which has too often been left buried in the ground. Originally a play written in French in 1966 by Aimé Cesaire - considered to be one of the founders of the “negritude” movement – this modern adaptation sees director Joe Wright add a colourfulness and vibrancy, which tells the story in a most spectacular form.

As a young Congolese person who is often vocal about the singular stereotypical negative narrative and

myopic misrepresentation of Congolese people, history and culture – and to a greater extent Africa - I had my reservations about the play before even going to see it. The mainstream reviews about the play were great, which only added to my reservations as, more often than not, the reviewers are rarely from, engaged with or involve the community whose story is being told.

This review is not intended to recount the story of the assassination of Patrice Lumumba, rather analyse the production of a Season in the Congo, and perhaps bring to light some issues that may have been overlooked.

I sat down on Tuesday evening, in a theatre filled with mainly white British middle class, which was not surprising, in fact, I found it rather positive as it this story is reaching an audience who may not have necessarily heard it before.

The stage set was fantastic. It took the audience directly to Congo, and captured the atmosphere that was present during the struggle for independence at the time. Throughout the play some of the characters spoke in Lingala, which really helped to create an authentic feel.

Patrice Lumumba was brilliantly captured by actor Chiwetel Ejiofor, who delivered a passionate portrayal of the first Prime Minister of Congo.

The leader’s zeal and effervescence shone through, only thing missing was the quieter, calmer side of his character, which Lumumba had but was so rarely portrayed.

The most haunting reincarnation however, was that of Joseph Mobutu played by actor Daniel Kaluuya whose portrayal possessed every fibre of the obsessive compulsiveness, greed, and power-hungry arrogance

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that existed in the former dictator’s body. The way Mobutu is develops throughout until he fills this role, is captured exceptionally well.

The supporting cast also deserve significant praise for their performance as they added much needed authenticity and context to the play.

Many of the cast were Congolese, which made the play more genuine.

The play in general overcompensated for its brightness and colour, and did not add in the gloomy aspects of the Congolese independence movements.

For the most part, you would be left questioning whether these people were happy or sad at what was going on.

The depiction of the western agencies; Belgium bankers, politicians, CIA, Mi5/6, etc, who initiated the plan to assassinate Lumumba though this plan is left out of the play originally by Cesaire - as caricatures made their “evil” seem less threatening, almost less real, compared to the evil of the Congolese collaborators, who were portrayed in their regular form.

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The true tense atmosphere of the times was captured in the last 1015 mins of the play, in which the assassination of Patrice Lumumba was depicted as the execution of a Messiah, with the 12 followers, now betraying and washing their hands of him, Mobutu, standing boldly on the table looking arrogantly with selfsatisfaction into a mirror.

It was a good play, very enjoyable, nonetheless, I feel it was catered more for those who are unfamiliar with the narrative, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing as more people need to know about the story. However, if you are well read in the Congolese independence movement and the assassination of Patrice Lumumba, you may leave feeling unsatisfied, though not insulted, save the last 10-15 minutes, which is the highlight of the play.

Favourite ideology: I shudder at the word ‘ideology’ to be honest so I’d say my favourite philosophy is anything that advocates equality in the truest sense of the word.

Least favourite ideology: Any belief that tries to justify systematic oppression of groups of people and nations.

Blog: NO Fly on the WALL What is the Blog about: NFotW is a fresh new platform for discussing gender issues. We want to diversify the ‘voice’ of Feminism and encourage people to re-think the word and re-examine what we tolerate as a society. We have a variety of writers - male and female - from a variety of backgrounds, who offer their own unique perspectives on issues from sex and relationships, to mental health, to women in developing countries, masculinity and even the specific experience of black women in the UK. We hope there is something for everyone.

I am convinced this play will make a return to the stage in the near future.

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Opinions

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OPINIONS

British, Till you Do Wrong ARE ETHNIC MINORITES ALWAYS BRITISH OR ONLY WHEN IT SUITS?

by Bakita Masala

The horrific murder of Lee Rigby that took place, in Woolwich, may have left the attention of the media’s eye, but their coverage of the incident was a reminder of the on-going rippling movement that not only effects the Muslim community, but also Britons from black and ethnic minorities.

The integrity in the reporting of this incident was particularly questionable.

Major news stations were fast and freely used leading and highly emotive terms such as ‘supposedly…’, ‘reported to have been...’ and ‘it has been suggested…’ seeming to cash in on the public’s thirst for negative news regarding Muslims, black and ethnic minorities and young people, without initially substantiating and corroborating facts.

Lee Rigby’s murderer, Michael Adebolajo was initially described as ‘Muslim looking’ and later, as more information was gathered, his Nigerian descent was emphasised. Social media erupted, not only defending Muslims but also to express concern for how the media’s portrayal would affect those who are ‘British of Nigerian [and generally African] descent’.

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Many responded with the following message: ‘Because he [Michael Adebolajo] is not Andrew Osagie, UK’s reigning 800m champion, or Lawrence Okoye, British Discus Record Holder (68.24m), or Abiodun Oyepitan, British Olympic Silver and Gold Medalist, or Christine Ohuruogu, Beijing Olympic British Gold Medalist, or Eniola Aluko, British Olympic Female Football star, or Temi Fagbenle British Olympic Basketball queen.’

It seems evident that the media (and Britain) are eager to claim individuals as British when they have accomplished and receiving positive recognition, through awards and medals. However when those with the same legal nationality status, as their accomplishing counter parts, appear in the news for negative reasons, they are aligned to their country of origin and separated from the rest of Britons.

covering other, potentially more positive stories about black young men and boys, journalists felt that proactive investigation would be necessary to find such stories.’ (Report of the REACH media monitoring project, 2011) The lack of initiative and active investigation has resulted in young people and black and ethnic minorities being betrayed by the media. However, the notion that BlackBritish people are reminded of their heritage when in the ‘wrong’, is not only isolated to media coverage, but is apparent in other environments. In a football settings, for example, there have been numerous occasions when black players, who are deemed to be underperforming, are soon reminded of their race through the taunts and jeering of overlooking ‘fans’.

“...when those with the same legal nationality status, as their accomplishing counter parts, appear in the news for negative reasons, they are aligned to their country of origin and separated from the rest of Britons”

The coverage of this incident once again shines a harsh, but necessary, light on how young people and those from black and ethnic minorities are typically reported in the news and via media. It may not be a surprise to hear that Young Researcher Network and National Children’s Bureau’s report (2008) found that the ‘media often reports stories in a sensational way’, ‘stories involving young people are most commonly about crime; gangs; education; and social exclusion’ and therefore the media ‘does not always represent reality’.

The report also found that the ‘media focuses on minority groups’ and that journalists did not generally believe the bad news that they reported.

‘While open to

Media reports may speedily become ‘old news’, but the effects of such coverage is irresponsible. In a country that publicises equal opportunities to careers and employment, arguably one of the fairest way to give young people and those from black and ethnic minorities the best equal opportunities is to not have a mass platform that chooses to magnify the ill-doings of these sub-group, ignoring the necessity for balanced arguments and equal portrayal, but instead serving to creating preconceptions and prejudices in the eyes of their prospective employers.

Christine Ohuruogu Beijing Olympic British Gold Medalist

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We ask Tahj about playing ‘Simba’ in Lion King , ‘Tommy’ in award-winning Matilda the Musical... ...and what he thinks about girls

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Retrospect On University I do want to go to uni but at the same time feel like I’m wasting time. I don’t want to loose sight of what I’m doing. I don’t want to go to uni and over those year’s miss out on what I could be doing in acting. There can be so many thing’s I could be doing to take my career up to a high but I will be in uni doing education and stuff that I have been doing at school for years now.

My plan B is to do my education, plan A is acting, so for now I am not going to focus on my education, plan A is now so I need to focus on that and if that doesn’t work out then plan B comes in and uni will be a definite.

On acting I am really short so that is an advantage.

There are so many things to do. I have been to playing a little lion, to playing a school boy, then to being an ugly, little, cheesy boy set in the 1980’s, in London. There is no limits in acting. Example, in football, at 25 you are finished, Basketball you are finished….Acting? Look at Morgan Freeman he is an old man but look at what he is doing now.

On his Role Models I have three categories. In terms of money it will have to be Will Smith…Sorry (Laughs). In terms of being well known as a person, probably “The Rock”. He does wrestling, acting, he can do anything. In terms of being something that I really want to do, because I like comedy, probably Kevin Hart because he is too funny, he is just too funny.

On girls Ok here is the thing (Laughs)… Because I’m acting everyone in my school thinks I’m rich and I’m famous and got all this money. When it comes to girl’s, some girl’s wouldn’t even speak to me in primary school then at assembly they said “oh yeah, we got a student that’s a bit of a celebrity”, girl’s come up to me like “my name is …, I am your friend now”. I’m like excuse me, you never spoke to me and you are speaking to me now. So girlfriend’s… Nah. To be honest… Sorry Mum… girl’s are a waste of time for me, I’m sorry… Another thing I just don’t want one really, I am too busy and its not that important, I’m only eleven.

I got my mum, thats fine.

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Tahj Miles Books

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BookClub

THE NU PEOPLE MAGAZINE

with Leighan Renaud

Zadie Smith – NW (2012) Zadie Smith’s brilliant novel NW focuses on the interlinked lives of four Londoners, as they move from childhoods in council estates to separate adult lives where they try to forget their pasts. NW is a stunning portrait of multiculturalism in London. Smith has created a classic text that deserves to become a canonical Black British novel.

To Kill A Mockingbird – Harper Lee (1960) Set in Alabama during the Great Depression, To Kill A Mockingbird is narrated by six year old Scout Finch. When her lawyer father, Atticus, takes on the case of Tom Robinson, a black man wrongly accused of rape, Scout’s eyes are opened to the cruel realities of racial prejudice.

Though To Kill A Mockingbird takes on some serious issues, Harper Lee’s seminal novel is also full of warmth, integrity, and morality. A must read.

Frantz Fanon – Black Skin White Masks (1952) Frantz Fanon was a Martinique-born psychologist and revolutionary. His work centred always around the colonised consciousness, and the consequences of decolonisation. Black Skin White Masks is a study, a thesis, not a novel. It is not the easiest text to access, and will demand a lot of your attention, but it is an essential read, particularly for anybody trying to understand their own blackness.

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Khaled Hosseini – A Thousand Splendid Suns (2007) Afghan-American author Khaled Hosseini’s second novel A Thousand Splendid Suns is a beautiful, tragic novel, focusing on the lives of Mariam and Laila, two Afghan women who are develop a motherdaughter bond during the Taliban rule. A Thousand Splendid Suns is a triumphant, heart wrenching tale of love, family, and friendship.

Negro With A Hat: Marcus Garvey – Colin Grant (2008) If you read any biography in your lifetime, it should be this one. Colin Grant’s stunning book on the phenomenal Marcus Mosiah Garvey gives a stunning insight into his incredible life. From his turbulent childhood to his remarkable adulthood, his triumphs to his exile, Colin Grant eloquently paints the picture of one of the most important Pan-Afrikan figures of all time.

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Music

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by Angela Douglas

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ooking at the handsome, articulate, South Londoner Josh Osho with his cool baby dreads and bright smile, you would never guess his ‘L.I.F.E’ is packed with shocking tales that would make a compelling Hollywood blockbuster; drug dealing, shoplifting, fighting…but it is.

At 16 Josh was kicked out by his Irish Nigerian mother, following differences on spiritual matters.

He slept rough and found himself walking a similar path as his Nigerian father, until he found unappealing ‘solace’ at Ebenezer Hotel halfway house. Within hours of checking in, all his possessions were stolen, even the sheet on his bed. The one thing he was left with would later lead to his salvation… his guitar.

Living a double life; by day, your average schoolboy, by night, a young man struggling to save himself, Osho recalls, “I had to dance with the devil.” Merely existing in darkness Osho’s epiphany came when he realised the light was worth following.

Now, five years on, that same light dazzles when Osho takes the stage to packed auditoriums full of “mostly white, young, trendy,” concert goers, strumming his guitar, singing his “me music” which combines elements of folk, soul, hip-hop, blues, pop, R&B, coupled with strong song-writing and

“No matter how much you put in..., you are a commodity, you may have your day on the consumer shelf, and then they will f ind a new and improved product to replace you with.” real, yes real instruments to uplift and inspire once you listen.

“I want my music to say free yourselves, be you, surrender, stop fighting, just eb and flow with this baby, eb and flow!” Josh uses his creativity not just for himself, but for “others as a connection with freedom and growth.”

Since signing with Island in 2011 Osho’s been hard at it.

Growing his catalogue considerably with singles, two EP’s – “The Manifesto” and “The John Doe,” his debut album, “L.I.F.E. – Learning Is For Ever” and another on its way.

Island dropped Osho earlier this year and his subsequent in-dept

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ADTV interview “L.I.F.E. After The Record Label,” he learnt from the legends the perils of the biz, “They taught me how fickle the music industry is (laughs). No matter how much you put in or how much heart there is about you, you are a commodity and you may have your day on the consumer shelf, and then they will find a new and improved product to replace you with. No one is an exception. What I’ve found is those who are still sane and creative were those who could be content.” And content he is, flowing naturally and essentially not rushing things.

So learning most definitely is forever. The album title was born

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from moments spent talking with his father. Osho says, “As I got towards the end of creating I listened back to every record, which simultaneously took me back through so many of my experiences -writing the songs, making the record and my journey up until then as Josh Osho the every day kid.”

He continues, “I realised I had been through so many ups and downs, in my walk of life generally, but also creatively. However in that moment, breathing, nodding my head, listening to the record, I realised that all the experiences were a lesson with an outcome that is applicable. It is the definition of life itself. Learning Is For Ever. It is but one never ending process of expansion and once we lock into that it is something special, and I especially felt I was just really starting to open my heart and mind.”

Osho’s songs, particularly “Redemption Days,” whose remix features Wu-Tang Clan’s Ghostface Killah, have been given mass exposure especially through TV on last years X Factor and the BBC’s Olympics coverage, plus the ultimate footy fans dream as the soundtrack to ITV Football. With it’s distinctive strings orchestral introduction and choir “Redemption Days” makes an impacting statement.

Despite his age, Osho finds inspiration in 1920/30’s Blues music and 1970’s artistes such as folk duo Simon & Garfunkel and soul icon Donny Hathaway, father of neo-soulstress Lalah. “They have been my influence for quite a while,” he says, “If I found

a current R&B artist I connected with I’d like them. For me the Blues, beyond the idiosyncrasies, the messy technique and free flowing nature of it, is a huge energy and heart. It’s captivating, and holds so much history as well.”

He reveals an enchantment with exFugee Lauryn Hill, “She just emanates so much purity and heart, in every thing she touches to a greater or lesser extent is like you can reach

but now when I do I am able to accept it more.”

Therefore, his clarity can work as guidance for anyone living his previous life, or facing different challenges of their own, “Take time to assess what you are doing deeply,” he says. “And if you feel in control and responsible for it, despite how condemning or opposing people or your environment may be, do your thing.”

He understands you cannot control every situation you find yourself in but you can choose your reaction to it and the final outcome.

So, with “Footsteps” lyrics stating, “I will live for the footsteps in my life, each imprint left behind, is a mark of my design, and I’m so far from my footsteps being defined,” out and touch her,” adding Hill’s one Osho wants to help others define of the few artists he wants to collabo- themselves through his music, with a rate with. “Man it would be crazy smile, or wherever he can on a day to day basis. intense!”

But two performaces that are already tussling at the pinnacle for Osho are With his “Imperfections” session on performing with The Voice UK’s Sir The Grammy’s “UK Spotlight” it’s Tom Jones and American Blues mus- clear Osho is taking giant steps to the cian SeaSick Steve at a BBC Four top. session and selling out the Jazz Café (Camden).

Contrasting his mid-teens to adulthood Osho feels like nothing has changed besides his perspective.

“What those experiences and every one after drove home was, the nature of existence is expansion and therefore change. I learnt there is never such a definition as good or bad, just action and reaction. So now I feel that, my understanding just deepens so I’m able to be more efficient in L.I.F.E Out interacting with the world. However, I’m as prone to making shit harder now on iTunes for myself as I was back then (laughs),

“She just emanates so much purity and heart, in every thing she touches to a greater or lesser extent is like you can reach out and touch her,”

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Eric Kolelas

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Eric went on to study Video Production and Film Studies from Thames Valley University, gaining a First Class Degree.

aking films for the love of films, actor and film director Eric Kolelas refuses to be bogged down or waylaid by any political or racial agenda, and is part of an emerging wave of young directors that are unafraid of taking risks, and allowing their creativity to flow in its purest form.

Eric: “Working on other peoples projects, I couldn’t help but notice the amount of not so good projects were more. I realised that the chances of coming across a great project was slim.

For that project to have a role that I will like, then for me to get that role, the chances were getting slimmer and slimmer. Although it could happen, this is out of my control. This is my career, so rather than leave it to the powers that be I might as well take control. I know enough about film making to take that plunge.

“If it weren’t for Power Rangers, I wouldn’t be where I am today,” A strange source of inspiration perhaps, but watching Power Rangers back flip and perform various stunts, spurred on Eric’s desire to be a performer, and influenced a lot of decisions in hislife.

However, for the longest part of his young life, it was music that Eric wanted to pursue.

Getting older, film took priority, and

Eric: “I felt like if I go to University, do music technology and end up working for other people who are doing what I really want to do, I’d hate myself my whole life. I changed course 3 days before the course started and it’s like one of the best decisions I have ever made” As beneficial as a university education was in encouraging Eric’s passion and honing his skills, Eric found that the best way to learn about the film industry was by being on set, and became an extra. Having received parts as an extra This is my career, so rather than leave it to the powers that be I might as well take control.

I know enough about fILM making to take that plunge” in Eastenders, Eric went on to feature in adverts for KFC and Guitar Hero and more recently, spent time on set as an extra in the Hollywood hit movie, Red Tails.

“With acting you go through emotions. With directing, it’s almost like you monitor those emotions.”

Even though acting has become somewhat of a priority for him these days, Eric Kolelas still enjoys making films,

Eric in his latest improvised Short film O U T S O O N

Eric stars in “Sparrow” 2010

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Directors Cut

Eric Kolelas particularly the challenge of directing and acting simultaneously. In 2012, Eric wrote, produced, directed, and took the lead role in his short film, Fifty Pence, which premiered at the London Short Film Festival. Fifty Pence tells the story of Darren, a keen gambler whose values are put to the test as he escorts a woman through Paris.

The film was received warmly, and Eric learned that the only way to deal with the responsibility of being both in front of and behind the camera was to deal with each issue as it arose.

So who inspires a creative mind like Eric Kolelas? As far as film directors, people like Woody Allen, Ben Affleck, and Kenneth Branagh influence Eric, because, as actors, he feels that they have a better understanding of the finished product.

WHEN YOU HAVE BLACK PEOPLE IN FILMS AND TV THERE IS ALWAYS THIS NEED TO EXPLAIN THEIR BLACKNESS...

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“Directors that come from an acting background know how it works as an actor. They really work with creating the scenario’s rather than telling you just do this and do that. They make it easier for you to reach those emotions they need for the film.

“People like Idris Elba…, I discovered Idris like 3 years ago so I wouldn’t say I am doing this because of Idris but since I discovered him I find out all these things about him and I’m like, yes he is doing this right.

“One thing I have had an issue with is when you have Black people in films and TV there is always this need to ex-

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plain their blackness. It does my head in. With Luther, Idris plays a police man that has issues, that can be played by any one of any race. And that’s what we need more of” And what is next for Eric Kolelas? Not far from the Tree, his next short film about the dysfunctional relationship between two brothers is in post-production. Eric, a huge sci-fi fan, is also working on an apocalyptic drama, yet to be named. But, we can be sure that we won’t be expecting any “black” films from the actor/director.

As much as he recognises the need for black movies, Eric says, “I don’t need to be another director doing black films.

Instead he realises that it will take a lot for movies with Black actors to go universal.

Eric: “It will be very hard to have the industry back directors like me. The industry knows that when people see a Black face in a film they may say, it’s a Black film and they may not get the audience they want. So studios, to be safe, make sure it’s not too black. There is this notion that if it’s a white actor a lot more people can relate to it, that it’s more universal. But we need Black people in these films; we need a good 10 – 15 years of movies like this coming out constantly. The only people that can do this are the studios” “The best thing I can do right now is to present myself in my movies as an actor that a wide audience can relate to” Fifty Pence is out now available on Vimeo

Eric stars in his self written and directed Short film “Fifty Pence” 2013

Crazy, Sexy, Revolutionary

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Crazy Sexy Revolutionary

Portia Freno

Well, the “sexy” part is pretty obvious...

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The “crazy”? you only have to wait a few minutes and you find out pretty quickly... the “revolutionary”? that, you will just have to dive a little deeper into the mind of model, actress and business Woman Portia Freno

ho is Portia Freno?

A bit radical, a bit crazy, smart, revolutionary, powerful and creative.

getting this far?

I will say it’s the modeling and the presenting that gave me a platform. I wasn’t really aiming for popularity. I didn’t start off with a plan, which isn’t necessarily a good thing; I just engaged a lot of people quite naturally. A lot of the things I write on my blog helped my following to grow. I am an avid writer; I absolutely love to write. I will say my blog was what got me popular because people called it a “British sex in the city but with more depth”.

I was also the in BAFTA award winning film “Anuvahood” and also went on a huge signing tour for the film which definitely helped raise my profile.

I think I confuse people as many may come on my page I guess because they were attracted to me aesthetically and they don’t expect to read stuff that is so in depth or causes them to think. There is a nice balance there; the “commercial”, “urban” type of look and then finding out that there is more to me. As a lifestyle journalist, I take people on the journey with me, covering food, fashion, travel and food for thought.

getting into modeling and acting?

I was at a christening and a photographer asked me to do a test shoot, but I wasn’t interested then because at that time I was very academic and into law so I was very sure I was going to go down that kind of route.

I was like, “a model? I’m like 5 foot 5” but then I went to the test shoot anyway because my boyfriend at the time set it up for me.

From those pictures I got into a commercial for a hair product and then I got a gig with Baby Phat in Africa and it just took off from there.

Where did you think that was going to take you?

Again, I didn’t think along those lines much at all because I wasn’t actively pursuing modeling. I was back and forth with college, I was studying psychology and it was very confusing for me at that time. I was surrounded by girls that were always like “me, me, me”, they wanted to be famous and I was thinking “why am I here?” but at the same time these opportunities came to me so I figured I had to utilise them.

keeping up with industry expections?

I think what’s made me be happy with myself is I kind of always did what I wanted to do. I never really did anything I didn’t want to do, that includes videos and stuff.

People always asked me to do videos but I didn’t want to be known as a video girl because every one was doing it, it was such an obvious route and every girl was doing it for free and that would stop me from making money.

I think I was always confident, even if I didn’t know what exactly I wanted to do, I knew my worth. You didn’t see me a

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“...I was surrounded by girls that were always like “me, me, me”, they wanted to be famous and I was thinking “ why am I here? ”

Portia as “Persia” with Adam Deacon as “Kay” in “Anuvahood”

Shooting with Slaka the Beatchild

Modelling for FlyLander Couture Leggings & Top by Mankai Saxon designs

lot and when you did, it was like some really good things, something international. People were like “what were you doing in Africa?”, “what were you doing in America?” “How come you never do anything in the U.K?” Because the U.K needs to step their game up and in addition, I was chasing and discovering my interests, as opposed to chasing popularity.

So now when people want me to do something they ask me “what is your price Portia? and I think girls need to be business minded like that. So no I didn’t feel pressured.

Does it bother you that people on first impressions may think of you as just a

pretty girl?

No, I think it’s brilliant; that means I can appeal to a wider audience. If you are just shallow and just looking for aesthetics, that’s great, click on me and once you do I will introduce you to a whole new thought process.

That’s why I said I need to start utilising that popularity; I might even do some more swim wear shoots, get sexy again. I seem to partly be dealing with an audience that are interested in just one thing and they don’t know what else they could be interested in unless I introduce them to it but you have to draw them in first. Obviously, it’s still about doing it and not compromising yourself first and foremost. I also believe that I’ve made Knowledge and Revolution sexy. Sexy does not have to

mean wearing little clothes. Sexy is a state of mind, and as you may see from my dedicated “Alien Army”, there is a small but growing collective who promote and encourage the thirst for truth and knowledge. I started Alien Army to make people feel powerful for being true to themselves, and not conforming. Ali-en means “higher level”; the aim of our army is to reach a higher level of consciousness, and to “discover” yourself. It is Positivity and Power.

the idea behind Snobbish TV? A couple of things, the first was in New York, it was really just about me keeping a diary because I was doing a lot of premiers and press when I was out there and we were just filming on my phone; events I’d go to, bars, studio listening parties for huge artists and my friend was like, if you filmed all of this like some sort of a diary that will be very good. I was around a lot of people that people are interested in so I suppose I could do that and share it

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“Yeah, we are not supporting each other but we are not supporting ourselves properly first. We would rather go out there and blow our hard earned money in Westfield’s, before putting any money back into our communities...”

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Second thing was when I returned to London, I was sitting with some of Akala’s staff and Jaja Soze and we were discussing that we need more of our own channels; we always complain about not being on BBC. Why aren’t we here or there?

I say why don’t we just create our own channels? Rather than trying to fit into mainstream media we need to make our own channels and make them mainstream, and that’s what I am trying to do with Snobbish TV. It will represent being unique, raising the levels, but also knowing we need to unite to move forward. It represents a lifestyle, healthy and alternative way of living. Don’t confuse snobbish TV with the #AlienArmy. Snobbish TV will be about a lifestyle quite similar to myself and my own passions and interests; fashion, music, health, travel. We will be doing some underground stuff but we are also covering mainstream.

#AlienArmy Alien Army is really cool, it just started off because I have always felt like I was an alien and I always say I want to leave this planet because I feel like a lot of people are under a spell.

Its like a cycle, the young generation are doing the same things we did 10 years ago and it needs to evolve. Alien is about seeking the truth and not accepting what’s told to you, it’s about reading and doing your research, away from all the noise and lies around you. I know it sounds crazy but, yeah that’s #AlienArmy. If you are part of #AlienArmy you seek truth, we are all about “Knowledge is Power”. We literally send each other documentaries and things. And it’s good to know a group of people who are growing and positive. It’s not about conforming but having your own individualism and understanding we are all different but need to find a common ground to move forward. It’s a level of consciousness.

support in the Black community?

First of all everyone has different views on what is successful and it’s like Black people will support Black people only if they think they are successful. I believe we have been conditioned to really hate ourselves and don’t even realise it. We have been conditioned to be fully against each other and ourselves and it all starts from the schooling system but that’s another conversation, another time. At present it’s all this “I was born alone, will die alone, get rich quick, I don’t need any one” when really we do need each other. Yeah, we are not supporting each other but we are not supporting ourselves properly first. We would rather go out there and blow our hard earned money in Westfield’s, before putting any money back into our communities, independent businesses or ourselves. It’s like we are still desperate to be led. “Teach me how to look, what to wear” it’s really quite embarrassing. I think

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we need to go back and see what our ancestors have achieved and really remember our power and that’s why I want to do projects with kids. Yeah, we need support but look at the people we are turning to for support….Lost.

uplifting Women It is very, very important.I just feel like women are sometimes against each other and it’s really, really sad. I recently did an interview with a group called Girls Aglow. They are an academy that helps young women develop skills and gain confidence from relationships to careers. Some girls wake up and they have no one telling them that they are beautiful, that they are strong women and can do anything; not hearing that everyday and not feeling loved and beautiful can make life really hard for girls growing up.

I personally think the whole “independent woman” thing is terrible and it has completely killed us and I will be the first to say it. This premature belief that women run the world... how?? We have sadly become one of the cheapest commodities; we are used to sell anything through sex. We get paid less to do the same job as men in the same roles. I fail to see how we run the world, I just see us all over the TV, exploited.

Dressed up to be what they view as sexy, not even being ourselves. This whole “I don’t need a man, I can buy my own shoes”....A mans purpose is not to buy you shoes anyway.

Saying you don’t need a man is like saying your child doesn’t need a father. The whole thing is just crazy. You do need a man and the man needs you. You don’t need a ‘wasteman” No, but you need a King and the King needs a Queen.

We need to build our men back up to be the Kings and warriors they are and in order to do that successfully we also need to become the Queens we once used to be and support our men properly. Being a woman is a truly wonderful thing, and we need to remember this and our power as Women because potentially we can save the world.

advise to young women who are growing up with these ideologies?

Everyone always says this but just love yourself. Don’t chase the ideal, I always say turn the TV off or don’t even own a TV. Do you know the difference it makes? You have to fill that time with something else and you learn so much about yourself. Take every day as an opportunity to get closer to yourself not closer to that mortgage or the money but yourself. Yeah I want money and I want power but I don’t want to lose myself along the way or what is the point?

Lastly, listen to that inner voice, whether it’s God, Allah, Jah whatever you want to call Him; know that really and truly that voice is your heart.

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“Being a woman is a truly wonderful thing, and we need to remember this and our power as Women because potentially we can save the world”

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elegant nights Dress Tina Lobondi www.tinalobondi.com

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STREET FASHION

AFRICA FASHION WEEK

PHOTOGRAPHY.......................KHEYLA ANDERSON EVENT..............................AFRICA FASHION WEEK LOCATION.......................................BRICK LANE

Not only was the runway beaming with the latest African print designs at Africa Fashion Week, so were the attendees. NU People Style picked out a few fashionistas who were rocking the prints to the fullest. This years event was held right in the middle of eccentric fashion central, Shoreditch, East London. Needless to say the fashion, both on and off the runway were dazzling.

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Benjart

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With the recent revival of 90's trends, urban streetwear has never been so popular. If you are looking to stand out from the crowd, look no further than cult London based brand Benjart. The mysterious brand that claims a heritage dating back to 1986, has a refreshing aesthetic that infuses colour, slogans and prints into each collection.

The brand offers a great selection of clothing and accessories but where they really excel is with their collection of headgear. Their caps are a unique mix of prints, colours and textures and their beanies are so cool they have a celebrity following that includes Emile Sande.

Their latest offering for summer is the Royal Garden capsule collection which features tees with vintage floral print sleeves and matching printed buckle caps. Perfect for adding a touch of heritage to your look. The brand is geared towards men but could easily be adopted by women.

Royal Garden capsule collection

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Beauty & Grooming

TRENDS TO DYE FOR Rita Amartey looks at the vibrant hues rocking this summer

Goldwell’s Topchic 6KS, Blonding Cream Colorance 7RO, 6VV

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OR NOT TO BEARD?

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Trends To Dye For

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Festive Fringes

Celebrate the festive season with fierce fringes to set you apart from the crowd.

Warning: not for the plain headed!

Colour clips Don’t have the time and expense to commit? That’s covered with clip in extensions to create block colour flashes or the under layered dip dyed look - try Funky Diva Colour Flash (£3.99) & Beauty Works Dip Dye Clip Extensions (£39).

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Temporary colour flash Get instant colour that washes out using Kevin M Color Bug available in pink, orange, purple and gold shimmer (£12); or crank it up with Colour Extreme Stencil Sets (£12) to create multi dimensional leopard print or peacock patterns.

Tip! Use lots of hairspray to set and prevent transfer.

Purple Paradise ding S, Blon chic 6K RO, 6VV 7 ell’s Top Goldw m Colorance Crea

Purple is a big summer trend and looks amazing on people with colour. There’s a wide palette to chose from including red blushed, pink tinges, plum pastels, deep violets and even orange infusions to complement any skin tone.

Make your purple haze go further by turning up your hi-lights, adding block panels all over or creating stand out blocks and statement fringes.

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Brunette Bandits fess al Pro L’Oré

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Colour SOS - products to keep

Get the model look Lauren from BINTM sizzles with enhanced multi-tones and is finished off with TRESemmé’s Texture Style Velvet Crème.

your colour pumping!

Phil Smith WOW! BRUNETTE Coloured Dry Shampoo – finally a dry

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shampoo for darker hair £3.49

Dark has never been sexier from total eclipse black, chestnut brown and caramel swirls.

Looks effortless on curly styles to create that multi tonal sensual look; or block highlights on straight hair ramps up depth and volume.

Alterna 2 minute touch up takes care of annoying regrowth between treatments £24.95

Label. M Colour Stay Conditioner – super mois-

Wella Professional Illumina

turising and sulphate and sodium chloride free £13.25

Salon chic @ home from £9.99 Surya Brasil Henna Cream’s brunette collection comes in chocolate, mahogany, dark brown, golden brown and light brown – it’s loved by stylists all over the world.

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Reds Oranges Afro hair is perfect for these tones and all reputable salons will be offering daring full head colour transformations and block panels along with subtle highlights and dip dyes

Blue Beats Orange is the new red and never looked so good. Gorgeous exaggerated coppers, bloodlust dripping reds and soft pastel tangs work best on any skintone

Beat your own rhythm with pasty blue hues teaming with cool teals, denim and purple infusions – perfect for short cropped styles, especially natural hair. Maintenance is essential for touch ups and treatments.

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Tip! These trends are a big commitment so bring in the experts for major transformations and visit a salon. It will save time and money trying to rescue damaged tresses and fixing ‘Smurf ’ disaster outcomes.

Makeup: Marina Belfon-Rose Styling: Natalie Joseph Photographer: Didyer Zarate Photographs taken on location at Karma in Brixton Sponsored by Avlon.

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To Beard Or Not To Beard

Beauty & Grooming

GROOMING

TO

BEARD or BEARD

Men put down your razors, facial fuzz has never been more desirable.

Women everywhere are lusting after guys who can rock some serious facial foliage. With celebrities like Idris Elba and David Beckham leading the way, it won't be long till the streets are filled with face manes of varying styles and shapes.

not to

By Mariam Bashorun

If you are new to the beard game and are a little nervous about going full beard, opt for some designer stubble as seen on Idris Elba.

You get all that rugged manliness without any of the commitment.

Nervous that a beard will cover too much of your handsome face? Do a Mos Def and limit your beard to the edges of your face. It's the best of both worlds.

For the very brave and truly rugged, the full beard is all you need. Let that bad boy grow to an impressive length and watch women swoon.

How else do you think Common gets the ladies?

Stylish types, take a leaf out of Andre 3000's book and shape your beard into a coiffed goatee and moustache. This look is a little more high maintenance but worth it.

Whatever beard you decide to opt for, be sure to keep it clean and tidy with regular washing and trimming. There is a fine line between hobo chic and just plain hobo.

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Brothers with

Daughters Precious Princesses...

Prepared Daddies?

What happens when men become responsible for little women?

The laughs, tantrums, hugs, tea parties, pink, school, puberty and oh yeah...BOYS!!!

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Kamran &Lily My initial thought was fear and happiness, It was weird because me and my wife wanted to have kid’s and we discussed it but it was kind of like “we will see what happens”. We weren’t trying and it just happened so it was shock. “Oh my Gosh, we got responsibility, another being coming into the world, what are we gonna do (Laughs)?”

But once we sat down and talked about it. It all sunk in and we were happy to start a family.

a dead beat dad.

My fear was “am I ready for this? I know I said I wanted kid’s, but am I really ready for this?”

I just missed Lily’s birth. I had to go to work. I didn’t want to but me and my wife decided I go to work. I could see she was in some pain but she wanted me to go to work and said it was all fine. I got to work at about 10am and got a text at 11am, she was in labour. So I called her and all I heard was screaming. So long story short she gave birth at 6 minutes past 12 and I got there 10 minutes past 12. But they waited for me to cut the cord, but I was still massively disappointed because I knew I shouldn’t have gone to work, but I will definitely have another opportunity.

My mum passed away when I was 16 and what she did was, she instilled a path in me in terms of education and that already had me thinking of what I needed to do in terms of career. We talked about it so when she died it wasn’t like ‘what am I going to do with my life’? So education is one thing I will be instilling in her I suppose.

Playing as well, in terms of imagination; I think it is always good to encourage imaginary friend’s and role playing and stuff. I was encouraged so I think that’s another important lesson. Lastly love.

Outwardly showing love, whether me and my wife are showing it to each other or showing it to the child. Showing love from early on allows them to be positive.

With the view’s that the media portrays about Black father’s and absent father’s and all of that, I read and I know that’s not me, that’s not who I want to be. To me I don’t have a choice but be a good dad not

As parent we guide our children to be the best that they can be, we can only help and assist. At the end of the day the child will have their own mind and decide what they want to do. A child is going to

At the moment I am not an over protective dad, I’m a competitive dad (Laughs). We go to play group’s a lot with other kid’s that are her age and a little bit older and I naturally compare and contrast my daughter’s achievement to other kid’s. It’s silly; like if my daughter is crawling and one of the other kid’s is walking I’m like ‘we have to get to that point’ (Laughs).

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make mistake’s, let them make mistakes but you should let them know when they have made a mistake and just be there to support them.

When she becomes a toddler and throwing temper tantrum’s and potty training and that, I am not looking forward to it (Laughs) but on a serious note the teenage year’s.

It’s kind of like child to mini adult and it’s a bit scary, how do you deal with that? I hope God give’s me the strength to deal with that. I do want to do it but I’m not looking forward to that.

I am looking forward to my child leaving the house though (Laughs).

I don’t know if it’s easier having a son, because I am only a dad to a daughter. I don’t know how it’s like having a son. It is challenging to have a daughter but I think its all about instilling the right qualities in them. They are going to be birthing other generation’s so it’s important.

Stifling her isn’t the right way and I know that, you don’t want to stifle them too much that is when they rebel and they do thing’s you don’t want them to do, then you either never find out or you find out when it’s too late and you can’t do anything about it. I can’t say she is going to be the most amazing daughter in the world but at the end of the day I am going to love her the same regardless.

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I was 19 when I realised that I was having a child.

A Girl! That is lot of pressure. I wanted a boy, I was buying clothes and getting everything prepared for a boy but it ended up being a girl. It took a while but I finally came to terms with it.

Because of the whole fear that people have. You know, a girl is going to loose my surname some day. She will not be there anymore. The whole thing about there is no name legacy with a woman.

But I quickly got use to it and things were ok.

I was at her birth, I cut the umbelical cord and all that. It was magical and a very passionate moment. Her mother literally put me in a headlock and we were squeezing together; like AHHHHH! (Laughs) It was scary, because I was 19 and did not know how the whole thing was going to happen.

The dating stage scares me. When she comes in and says that she is has a boyfriend. At the same time I have to be understanding of the whole situation and be open about it. I would not like her to be in a situation where she feels scared and unable to talk to me about it, otherwise that might lead her to make mistakes. I should embrace it. It is going to be difficult but I will have to deal with it.

My initial reaction will be F**k. (Laughs). But I will not let her realise it though. Because I know that will mess me up. I cannot be like that, I cannot be like that sort of dad who will be saying ‘no boyfriend, no boys....’ You know what I mean! ...

That will just expose her, she is more likely to go and meet a guy who will mislead her. So I cannot afford to be that kind of guy. I will try and get to meet the guy and try to speak to him and make him understand that she has a father who cares about her and will not accept any nonsense.

I always teach her about education and self reliance. I always tell her that she has to be ready to fight. As a woman… a black woman, she needs to be ready to fight! I always tell her that you need to educate yourself. You have to build a foundation for yourself, as somebody that wants to be successful. I try to push those things that I think I did not get from my parents. I always tell her not to

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be scared to do things that she believes in. If you want to start a business, just go and do it, do not be scared of trying. My parents have always sugarcoated things for me and tried to preserve me from the world out there. With my daughter I always encourage her to explore new territories and to be adventurous, courageous and brave. Be free.

It is obviously difficult for black women, particularly in terms of their insecurities. but i always tell her to be strong and to have her own mind. And to always speak up. Whenever there is something that troubles her or when she disagrees with me I ask her to speak up and to tell me….

Crying will not sort things out, she needs to be able to express her discontent when she feels it.

Before I got my daughter I was playing the field and mistreating women. But having my daughter, made me understand the principle behind dealing with women and I try to keep it real with them. Be honest and straight forward.

Women are good at bringing people together. If they can go pass that competition that they have amongst themselves, they can help create a much stronger community. They can contribute a lot more to us having stronger bonds amongst ourselves.

I teach my daughter to be positive, be connected to her own conscience.

Because, I believe that the more connected we are to our conscience the better we will act. So I always ask her to be positive and connected to her own self.

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I had a son first so i wanted a daughter to be honest and I was looking forward to it.

It’s been great seeing her first smile, saying her first word’s, laughing, all of that.

I am not looking forward to her dating.

But that is something that will happen. I am just hoping that when that happens, that she is looking to be respected the same way that she sees me and people in her family do it. I just hope that she knows that a woman has to be respected.

Have you seen the scene in Bad Boy’s II When Will Smith waves the gun around at

The most important people and the priority in this relationship should be the children. We have to make sure the kid’s are not affected. That is all that’s important.

Young parent’s should not be scared.

There are a lot of things being put in place to help them deal with it. There are organisation’s that give advice and support for all of that. They need to understand that it is not always about them. Society raises us to be a bit selfish to be honest, It is all about me, me, me. “I want the latest trainer’s; I want the latest computer game”.

It is not that! You need to understand that you are about to bring someone else

Terrence &Amani the boy who wanted to take Martin Lawrence’s daughter out? (Laughs) it is going to be a bit like that when I meet that guy (Laughs)

Not really, he will have to know that her daddy and big brother are around, so he can’t mess around with her. Hopefully she will be intelligent and smart enough to try and make the right decision about the right guy to be with.

Its a good journey. I do not understand absent fathers. Some people always make excuse’s and for me that will not happen. I just feel that whatever the situation, even if things are not working between the two parent’s, you have to find a middle ground so that the children do not get affected.

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into the world and you have to also think about them. People make such a big thing of a baby, they need to understand that a baby is a big step but it is not the end of your life or your world. It kind of makes your life better.

With my son, there was a bit of difficulty, because he was born earlier than planned.

But with my daughter, it was very relaxed and very smooth because we had been through it before. So we knew how to handle it.

I am looking forward to it all, the first day at school, everything. Every step of the way. I just learn to really appreciate the whole thing.

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Tshaka & Ceylon

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Life

When I first found out about Ceylon it was ecstatic joy, you know. The fear did not instate itself until later on. It was when I got on the train and saw how other guys interact with girls that I felt like “Oh My God!! You know. I will say that is was about 2 or 3 months after that, the fear kicked in.

I feel that her mother is fantastic and I felt that “if anything you will be like your mother”. It is after we met and she was in the physical form and actually in the real world that I felt “how will she work with all of this? How are we going to guide her through this?” Being of African decent from a boy’s perspective is one thing, but it’s totally different from a girl’s perspective. So it got kinda scary.

I am more of a stricter dad! You now, I mean she can get all she wants with the right smile and all, but it’s about the rules. I think if you are getting the building blocks right early, you will not have to worry as much until the later stages of her life. I am liberal but there are rules, like no fingernail polish until a certain age of her life…(laugh) you know…(laugh) It will be when she reaches somewhere around 13 years old that I may need to watch out. It is at this stage that she becomes conscious of society, how she fits in the real world and starts to play in it. She is already very strong willed but there is very much a ‘sheep mentality’ with these young girls and they all look alike and follow the same path. I am working hard at making her understand that she should not imitate others, to be her own self. My father always instilled in me that you “do not emulate, but be emulated”. At the moment she is a bit shy, but the hope is that she doesn’t start to copy or embrace any and everything, anyhow.

Giving her, her own space to think helps. Since she was born, we have had full-blown conversations with her. At times, my wife walks upstairs and asks me: ‘who are you talking to’ (Laughs) you know! It’s like:

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• “ I do not want to go to bed”

• “Yes you have to go to bed and until you get a job and put food on the table then you can make the decisions” When I grew up it was more like why can’t I do this and the response was “because I said so…you know...

(Laughs)… there’s a little bit of that now but it is about giving her the space to have her own opinion and giving them a full explanation so that they develop their own ideas and mind.

There are a couple of stages I am looking forward to. One of them is her being grown enough to go back home to the U.S. and spend time with her grandmother and grandfather. Because my parents are in the States, it will be nice to see her going there by herself to spend time with them, especially during her school holidays.

The other one is when she is about to grow into being a woman. I guess, that’s when she is 15 or 16; and then you see all your work going out there into the real world and experiencing it. It will be the scariest time but also the most interesting.

Oh God, the “Boyfriend” period. That is why I am taking Karate, Kung Fu and knife throwing (Laughs).

But I cannot think about that because it will bother me. Because, I am a poet and I am visual, I cannot think too much about it now… Then again she has a great mother and it is all about teaching through emulation.

There is the idea that African and Caribbean men do not stick around and all that. I think that there is no smoke without fire. I think it’s about how you want to live your life. There is surely something in that… until you do something different and break the mould for things to be different perceptions will not change. My wife and I did a 17-month long distance thing, she was here and I was in LA. There’s always temptation in the world but it’s about what you want out of your life; so it can be done. I think things are improving around that perception of African and Caribbean men but we all as community still have a lot to do to change things for the good.

Sacred Sex ACHEIVING HIGHER SEXUAL CHEMISTRY by: Elsie Ayotunde Cullen

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WOMEN – IT MAY BE THAT YOU FEEL TO GIVE YOUR PARTNER A FULL MASSAGE AFTER WORK MEN – IT MAY BE THAT EVERY MORNING YOU REMEMBER YOU LAY WITH A QUEEN AND SO YOU’LL EXPRESS THAT TO HER IN THE WAY YOU KNOW SHE’LL MOST APPRECIATE Sex has always been a very beautiful and sacred thing. Even before I lost my virginity, my dreams were filled with deep and tender ecstasy, the pouring out of my soul into another. I’d have to honestly say that all the time I spent dreaming of sex without actually engaging created in me a deep reverence for sex which has allowed me to really fulfil the essence

The beautiful thing about “sacred sex” is by practicing that synchronisation in the very physical realm, you’ll notice that connection transferring to other parts of your relationship. Your mind will be so deeply connected to your partner’s wellbeing, that in nearly all you do, you’ll push that bit further.

For me, by making your sex sacred, you make your part-

THE JOINT ATTEMPTING OF EVERY POSITION, EVERY SLIGHT ANGLE CHANGE, ANY FORM OF UNITED EFFORT JUST TO FEEL THAT MUCH MORE. AND PLEASE BELIEVE EVERY CENTIMETRE COUNTS. of sexual intimacy regarding my interactions. It’s the first moment of eye contact between you and the chosen, the internal burning for fusion. It’s that desire that moves you closer, that keeps you alert, that keeps you focused.

I think something very crucial to the full divine experience of sex is abstinence.

Abstinence firstly allows for pure mental/emotional/spiritual development between you and your partner which is necessary for any relationship to thrive. Secondly it makes every sexual experience that much deeper, more beautiful.

ner sacred, by making your partner sacred you make your connection sacred, by making your partner and your expression sacred, by doing that you feel sacred and treat life as such.

I believe the most beautiful thing about Full sensed sex is the end, no words describe, no thoughts matter…There just is. The two that become one After such a beautiful, passionate, genuine and tender experience. Peace and love are all you can emit.

This transcends the 5 minute post sex breather, that transcends the deep, peaceful well-earned nap afterwards.

Such a powerful, uniting experience creates gentleness and peace in the way you look after each other, in the way you speak to one another, in the way you appreciate

IF YOU GIVE YOU AND YOUR PARTNER THE OPPORTUNITY TO REALLY GROW TOGETHER IN THE MENTAL AND SPIRITUAL REALMS AND THEN TOP IT OFF WITH DEEP SEXUAL SATISFACTION, YOU’LL BEGIN TO NOTICE THAT YOUR CONNECTION FEELS MORE GENUINE, STRONG AND FREE

Full Sensual sex…any word I use to describe will blemish its entirety . Do you understand the full connection of the first, slow, tight, resistant yet forceful entering? Do you understand what it’s like to breathe in your partner and be full filled?

The building and building and building till all you can do is hold on tight, in every way, in full faith, full connection.

As previously mentioned, practicing “sacred sex” greatly enhances the connection between you and your lover.

one another. It creates an inner peace which allows you to smile on the way to work, face responsibilities with calmness, to genuinely say thank you to all those you who aid you in your day to day activities Silently, subconsciously supporting, clinging on to, thanking, loving.

I understand the attraction to casual sex, easy satisfaction, quick release, the showing off of one’s sexual expertise.

But nowadays there are so many negative consequences and dangers attached to casual sex, as well as the crime of devaluing something that holds so much power.

BY REALLY ENGAGING IN WHAT YOU’RE DOING USING FULL TENDERNESS, FULL CONCENTRATION AND INTUITION, YOU’LL FIND YOURSELF REMEMBERING HONEST WAYS TO SATISFY EACH OTHER, WHETHER THAT’S MULTITASKING, DEEPER POSITIONS ETC. NU PEOPLE MAGAZINE . NUPEOPLEMAGAZINE.COM

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So,whats wrong with Speed Dating?

DEBUNKING THE MYTHS

By Lela, Founder of “Talk To Me” Speed dating events

if

anyone had told me six months ago that I’d be involved in speed dating – I would have probably given them that shocked look. I’d perhaps have responded with “Do I look desperate to you?”

However when I spent time around my non-Black female friends, I realised they seemed more open to speed dating than I was. I spent a few days asking some of my Black friends what they thought about speed dating and their responses were similar – “Seems a bit desperate” “Not really my thing” etc.

I wondered – “Is there a stigma surrounding Black people; especially Black men and speed dating?”

Well, let me take you through a list of stereotypes that I heard when I first decided to start my own monthly speed dating events in the heart of London

“Speed dating is for desperate people” Really? I hear this over and over again and this is possibly one of the most misleading stigmas regarding speed dating.

I find most young men and women who attend speed dating events tend to be career people or graduates, too busy to go to casual social settings to meet the opposite sex.

Speed daters more often than not also have a mutual interest in trying to find someone who is on the same wave length as they are. That’s why you get to

speak to people without the awkward introduction phase.

“Speed dating is too expensive, why pay money just to talk to men/women?”

This is more of a financial concern – however, if you were to breakdown the cost of 30 dates – it would be somewhere between £400-£500 or more.

Speed dating allows you to speak to as many as 20-30 women within one setting. Now I know some men don’t mind breaking the bank if for a female that catches their eye but always keep count of all your expenses. Affection that comes with a price tag is almost never genuine; so it’s advisable to keep spending minimal.

“Why should I go somewhere just to meet women/men”

Well if you think about it – Almost every time you’ve met someone you were interested in (other than through a mutual friend) it is almost always

somewhere social; the club, parties etc.

It’s always somewhere people gather either for a purpose or just a social crowd.

Speed dating is really no different but instead of having your back on the wall until the lights come on and the music goes off; speed dating allows you the opportunity to talk, learn about others – may be not everything but just enough to seize your interest and keep you intrigued. Four minutes isn’t a long time but it does allow you to break the ice.

If after your initial date, you feel there was a connection – just tick each other as a match and exchange details.

I am sure even after all these explanations there would still be some serious doubters out there but the only way to truly break the stereotype is to experience it yourself; round up a few friends, dress casually and attend a speed dating event. Be open minded and remember that the experience is supposed to be fun.

You’ll never know unless you’ve tried.

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Dealing with your man during

HARD

financial times

Believe it or not, your woman always knows when you are broke .

What happens when this drought takes a bit longer than expected?

Have you ever had to ask your wom- with this security. However being broke an for cash one too many time’s and happens and sometime’s you may have she question’s why you never seem to step up one, two maybe three time’s to have any money? For any man to handle or help with some fiscal issues that aren’t necessarily yours. in a committed It is hard and relationship “with every self we know very this is a point respecting man, it is well that a lot where you recof women do ognize that no much harder on him than not like takmatter what it is on you... Our souls ing out their anybody says die a little bit anytime we purses. Don’t finances are a get me wrong take your money” major factor in most don’t mind the oca relationship.

Ladies, we understand that you want to be taken care of, physically, emotionally as well as financially and there is nothing more we would love to do as men than to provide you

casional payment and lending money to the partner but after three or four times the irritation begins to show on your face’s. Believe me, with every self respecting man, it is much harder on him than it is on you. Our soul’s die a little bit anytime we take your money.

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“Seeing your man at his most vulnerable and stripped off his ego gives you the chance to show him the respect and loyalty he deserves” It shouldn’t be so. Aren’t we meant to be comfortable with this? Aren’t we meant to believe you have our back’s during difficult time’s? Would you rather he asked other people?

I think there is a need for women to hold their tongue’s when it comes to giving the partner money on numerous occasion’s. Please DO NOT ask him why he doesn’t have any money or what he did with his money or suggest what to do or not do with his money next time. E.g. “next time make sure you don’t spend all your money on your car etc”.

By all means talk about his situation, but don’t ask probing questions. Discuss the problem along with solution’s, let him understand that you care that this is happening and as well as helping him financially you want to help it stop. Ask what you can do to help.

Hold your frustration’s back. It doesn’t help. You will achieve more by being considerate than being condescending.

The way you deal with this will go to show how much you are willing to stick with your man in hard time’s and how much he can trust you to have his back.

This is a position every woman should want to be in their relationship.

Seeing your man at his most vulnerable and stripped off his ego gives you the chance to show him the respect and loyalty he deserves. It makes him appreciate you a lot more. Make the most out of a bad situation. Use this as an opportunity to grow stronger together.

It will only make things better for the both of you and for your relationship.

Living

travel LOS ANGELES TO THE WORLD

with Michele Gravina

Château de Versailles, France

Arc de Triomphe in Paris, Franc

London, England

Philadelphia, USA

Why travel ?

accept in Los Angeles to pack and board an eleven hour flight to the UK.

In a world so connected by social networks and internet culture, it seems costly, time consuming and for some, too thought provoking to actually plan a trip. Many of us have travel dreams but few decide to follow in the footsteps of Hemingway and move to Paris or experience life in the vein of Steinbeck near the vineyards of Northern California.

Working in London was an experience in itself. The traditions and new ways of life made it such an exciting work environment and my dream of Paris set in. By this point, my family and friends thought I needed therapy. They assumed I was escaping, instead of finding.

The general consensus between young and old in my community was that I needed to be careful in Europe.

Not because I’m a student, or a woman, but because I am black. This puzzled me, as everyone knows the United States hasn’t the best track record in the race relations department and after all I was already in the UK. However, it became incredibly apparent to me that many, who can afford to travel, choose areas where demographics make them feel more comfortable, or simply don’t travel at all because of this fear base that has developed and maintained over time and generations.

Though there is nothing wrong with choosing exotic locales for travel such as the Caribbean, Africa, Indonesia and Bhutan, Never having been to cities of cultural or historical interest due to race is something I would never advocate.

I bring up Hemingway again, as he is probably the most

For me, it was two years in a mediocre college experience, crazy roommates and a crappy job that started my travel journey. Before my quarter-life crisis, I had never been out of the country of my birth, the United States.

I had always dreamed of visiting Paris, my pseudo home, but I had accepted the many perceptions of France given by my non-traveling American counterparts and felt it was never the “right time” for such a trip personally or financially.

After a fated encounter with an English photographer at the start of my junior year in college, I was invited to assist a photo shoot in London on assignment. I knew I may not have an offer quite this amazing again and proceeded to throw away every option I had planned to

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famous “American in Paris” story. The “other” Parisian love stories we seem to forget include Josephine Baker, James Baldwin, Ada Smith and Richard Wright; also Americans who settled down on French soil seeking opportunity, just as Hemingway had. For the many reasons we seem to forget these familiar faces in history, we also seem to forget that racism is existent everywhere whether reserved or blunt.

As I spoke with relatives from home regarding my European adventures (some great, some not) the conversations all seemed to end with a question mark as to whether they would end up someday traveling there.

Even the most well educated, cultured people in my life questioned whether they would ever travel to Paris based on the one racially charged incident I encountered there. “Go!” I said repeatedly, to their shock many times. Yes, I did have experiences that were less than desired, but that could have occurred in any of the many places I traveled to thereafter. One bad seed should not spoil the bunch. I have many amazing experiences from travel that trump any one bad experience, any day.

While visiting the outskirts of Paris with a roommate, we found trouble in the non-English speaking suburbs.

I met a Bolivian man who was so wonderful to communicate with in the little Spanish I knew, that I became inspired to travel to South America to work on my language fluency. My South American Visa began to take some time, so a month later I traveled to Puerto Rico to practice a little more Spanish before a bigger trip. I fell so in love with the islands of Puerto Rico that I spent the rest of winter there assisting a community activist on the island of Vieques. It was incredible: the beaches and wonderful indigenous culture, the African history and museums, the amazing stars and bio luminescent bay. Every moment was so enriching, I actually forgot to take photographs. It was there that I read a wonderful book on Dante and began plotting a move to Florence. By this time, my family and friends were probably thinking I should be committed.

Traveling back home to Los Angeles after a year of being

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“I met a Bolivian man who was so wonderful to communicate with in the little Spanish I knew, that I became inspired to travel to South America to work on my language fluency”

The island of Vieques

away was also incredibly enriching. I valued my interpersonal relationships and responsibilities more. I took every day for the blessing that it was and chose more wisely what my energies were being directed toward.

I laughed more, cried more and appreciated more. I enjoyed more of my surroundings and explored the Pacific Northwest of the United States, driving through, San Francisco, Napa Valley and Salinas, California, a favorite of Steinbeck. I took lots of photos from Portland, Oregon, Philadelphia and New York City, visiting family and attending graduations.

I plan to spend summer 2013 in Northern Africa and encourage travel for anyone who wants an experience; any experience. Travel doesn’t have to be specific and come with obligations and itineraries attached. Travel can be a plane ticket and duffel bag. Or a five star hotel and first-class seat. It is what you have and want to make of it. There is no perfect vacation, just as there is no perfect location. Racism and atrocities occur in all parts of the world but fear should never be embraced.

Instead we should love ourselves, our reasons for travel and our air mileage.

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FINANCIAL WELLNESS |BE SO GOOD THEY CANT IGNORE YOU!

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THINKING OF BUYING A PROPERTY, WHY YOU SHOULD DO IT NOW?

by Olivier Kamga

ust like in the US, the UK property market has taken off, with the council of mortgage lending (CML) confirming that Mortgage lenders have advanced an estimate total gross mortgage lending of £16.6 billion in July, an increase of 12% from £14.8 billion in June as well as representing a 29% increase from the £12.9billion in July 2012.

This increase in lending is claimed to be a direct result of the availability of cheap money that has emerged from the bank of England quantitative easing scheme, the

Funding for Lending scheme and So what does this mean for you the treasury help to buy scheme. as a potential buyer? The help to buy Scheme is here to provide help The Funding for Lending and the with raising a deposit. In the adhelp to buy scheme have been the dition, because of the Funding for main driving force behind the Lending and the Help to buy, the surge in lending, and the forecasts rate of borrowing is very low and predict even further growth in it is a good idea to secure a fixed lending as the Help to buy scheme rate deal now before interest rate extends in January 2014 to buyers start to rise in the future. Similarly, of existing homes. The Bank of although, properties prices have England has also kept its base rate started to grow again, they are still at a historically low level, half of a at a low level outside London. per cent, for the 54th month in a row whilst Mark Carney, the cur- The supply for property has not rent governor of the Bank of Eng- kept pace with an increasing land, has said that interest rates are demand. In other words the total likely not to rise until 2016 or until number of houses built only employment fall below 7%. totalled 106,820 in the 12 month

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▶ Thinking Of Buying a Property till June 2013, 9% lower compare to the previous 12 months. They also confirmed that property prices grew in England year on year at a rate of 3.3%; outstripping inflation rate which came at 2.9% in June.

Year on year prices paid by first time buyers were 3.9% higher on average than in June 2012 therefore prices are rapidly increasing.

As the economy on both sides of the Atlantic gather momentum, interest rates at some point will need to be raised to maintain inflation around the target rate.

Even though there are positive factors encouraging entry in the property market, it is equally important not to forget that at some point in the future, interest rate are going to go up, meaning that even if rates are fixed now for the next 5 years, there is still a risk that your monthly mortgage payment may go up after the end of the fixed rate period.

Be so good the y can’t ignore yo u!

Therefore long term affordability should be a key criterion when making the decision to buy. Besides, buying a property is a huge lifetime commitment hence the pros and cons of making such a purchase would have to be evaluated thoroughly before any decisions are made. It is not just because it is cheap to buy now that you have to jump in, there has to be other factors taken into consideration: Such as location, career planning, deposits, plans to return to education etc Given the current level of properties prices and borrowing cost, the time is definitely right to take that leap on the property ladder; however the question that you need to answer for yourself is whether that decision is right for you given your personal circumstances in order to avoid making a bad investment.

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By: Danielle Egonu-Obanye Founder and Director of Ethnic Minorities in Education (EMIE)

L

ets face it, some of the biggest barriers people have to progressing in their careers are those they impose on themselves.

Those inner demons that tell you that you’re not good enough, that you can’t do it or that you will be mocked and make a mistake need to be ignored.

Selling yourself and your abilities are one of the best skills you can develop but that all comes after you start believing in yourself.

Now, by no means does that mean you become arrogant and believe that you are perfect and know it all. Believing in yourself means that you know how to ignore your negative thoughts and push past them. It means you can ask for help if you come across a problem and it means you can stand in a room in front of your peers to present an idea or project that you are passionate about with articulate swagger.

Reflection is also a huge element to self belief and successful leadership is dependant on it. Leaders need time to reflect, as there will always be people at your left and right stating their viewpoint but ultimately you need to know how to make your own decisions and carry the responsibility that they may presents.

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Blazing your own path is not as dramatic as it sounds, having a measurable impact is important and making sure the relevant people know it, is also important. I’m not saying you should scream your successes from the rooftop at every possible opportunity but do create a portfolio and speak to people about why your ideas worked successfully and what you want to do next.

Remember no one can be a leader without followers and people need to buy into what you represent. By being consistently good at what you do, you will become outstanding and difficult to ignore.

Being so good that they can’t ignore you, means that you become an exemplar. People will look to you as an example of how to handle difficult situations, or how to overcome a mistake or share successes. Outstanding leaders don’t always get everything right but they can handle all situations thrown at them with energy and clarity of understanding, which comes with experience and confidence.

Ultimately, don’t hide how good you are (and just incase that inner demon is speaking particularly loudly today), remember, that you are amazing, don’t doubt yourself and what you can achieve.

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Financial Wellness

Top 10 ways to achieve your financial wellness; and gain a peace of mind

By: RJ White President/CEO RJ Credit Associates, LLC

Financial problems create a lot of stress and anxiety. With many people this anxiety causes depression and also has negative effects on self esteem. However financial wellness can be achieved through some discipline and money management. Here are a few tips to help you gain some control over your finances.

1. Educate yourself: The more you know about financial management and finance the better routes you will take 2. Save, save, save: Pay yourself first before you send out any bills take around £20.00 or less and set it aside in a saving account so you can watch it grow.

Don’t touch it not even for a minor emergency. After you get £500.00 place it in a high yield saving account for a few years.

3. Pay of off credit cards or pay down your debts : Start smallest to highest dollar for bills to pay off and once credit cards are paid off only use them for small purchases and pay them right off never use more than 35% of the credit limit so on credit card of £300.00 only use £105.00 at the most.

4. Track your spending: it’s been said to know where

you’re going you need to know where you have been- look back at all of your previous financial decisions, now is the time for change -the best way to change is to track your spending. First things first you need to know the type of spender you are… if you know the type of spender you are its easier to track yourself when it’s time to shop.

5. Envision your Future: where do you want to be, would you prefer for your saving to look like a few thousand, MILLIONS maybe- it’s all possible with structure, effort and planning.

6. Talk to a professional: if you want to build a great financial portfolio for stock, and future investment talk to a licensed financial planner or advisor. They can help you build your retirement plan. If you don’t have one you should start immediately.

7. Live below your means:

RJ White President/CEO RJ Credit Associates, LLC RJWhite@rjcreditassociates.biz www.rjcreditassociates.biz Office: (248) 451-1533 Georgia Office: (404) 532-9102

Always try to use half your income per paycheck. Go through all bills and see where you can cut and what you don’t need. Get rid off or sell things that are collecting dust and not in use.

8. Keep a timeline: Mark the date on your calendar as to when you started the financial makeover and review progress. Every month check for progress, every year check for progress and you should see the difference from when you started.

9. Pay off your mortgage before you retire: It’s a hard task to accomplish but if you can get it done it will save you time, stress and money.

10. Plan major expenditures: If you plan on buying a new home or car plan it thoroughly- a little planning could never hurt it can definitely help you prepare for your budget.

*RJ Credit Associates operate solely in the USA, Lucky for us across the pond, financial advice is universal. Thank you R.J for your very useful contribution

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