Resilience Lesson: Giving Negative Feedback
COMMITTEE REPORT ACADEMIC AFFAIRS
Mary Claire O’Brien, MD FAAEM
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ne of the things that used to be stressful for me as a young attending was giving negative feedback to a resident. I suppose my own training still felt very fresh and I was sorry for them: the anxiety, the exhaustion, the constant criticism. But it’s the duty of faculty to offer verbal performance evaluations to trainees, both positive and negative. As part of my own personal resilience plan, I have learned to “frame” this feedback as an opportunity. “Framing” begins with the premise that you can’t control how you feel, but you can control how you think — which influences how you feel. Framing doesn’t change a given situation but can influence what we get from it. Author Trevor Ragan says: There are three big ways we can frame a situation: • As an opportunity • As a threat • As useless.1 Balancing “opportunity” and “threat” is key to avoiding burnout. Framing negative feedback as opportunity means it is no longer stressful for me and it’s not as painful for the recipient. Medical education is very different from my time as a trainee, when our weekly conferences included a healthy dose of Vitamin WhoopAss. These days we focus on the learner and how he or she will feel when corrected. We try not to make learners feel bad because they made a mistake or forgot to do something important. Early career physicians are especially vulnerable to burnout. A trainee is less likely to be defensive if the supervisor focuses on the error itself and not on the person who made it. After all, the purpose of feedback is learning, not public humiliation.
“Well,” I say. “Did you ever take piano lessons?” This gets their attention — there’s that (old) Dr. O’Brien again. What the heck is she talking about? Just gimme the darn feedback.
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“Here’s the thing,” I say. “When you were a kid, your parents paid for your music lessons. What would it have been like if every week your piano teacher watched you for an hour and then said, ‘That was great, you did fine!’ Would you have ever made any progress? What if your coach never corrected you, would you have ever learned how to play?”
ENOUGH THAT THEY DESERVE FEEDBACK, BECAUSE YOU HAVE CONFIDENCE IN THEIR ABILITY TO USE IT TO IMPROVE THEIR PERFORMANCE.”
Sometimes trainees do not want an answer. They have just worked eight grueling hours; they are fatigued, they are hungry, they want to go home. They also have another two to three hours of charting to do on the computer. “Do you have any feedback” is sometimes code for “I’m required to ask for feedback, but have mercy on me, we just got our asses kicked, and for God’s sake, I need to pee. Just say, ‘You did fine.’ I’ll nod, you’ll nod, and we can both get out of here.”
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Now I’ve got them. They are jiggling their feet at this point, looking around the department to see if anyone is listening. They still need to pee. And they want to get out of there before another patient codes!
TELL THEM THAT THEY ARE IMPORTANT
“Do you have any feedback?” the resident will say.
“Piano lessons,” I repeat. “Did your parents make you take piano lessons? If not piano, some other instrument.”
Almost everyone says yes. If they say no, I ask whether they ever played sports and had a coach.
They look at the floor. By now they can guess where this is going. “You paid to be criticized,” I say. “Well, your parents did. If you were not criticized, they were not getting their money’s worth.” Occasionally a smart aleck resident will interrupt, glancing at the departmental mayhem, “I sure as hell didn’t pay for THIS!” “Listen,” I say. “You are a hospital resident. You are paying with time. With your hard work and time, you PAY me to criticize you. And I wouldn’t be doing my job if I didn’t criticize you. I get paid to criticize you.” They sigh, resigned. Shoot me, Dr. O’Brien, if you must. Just get it over with so I can leave this zoo. Please. Then gently I say something like, “Don’t stand with your hands on your hips when you talk with families. I know you are tired and just resting your arms, but how does it look when I do this to you?”
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