Caregiving TLC: Change

By Kie Copenhaver CSA, RHIA, SHSS, RCFE www.agingwellpartners.com

The only constant is change

The only thing that remains constant in this life is change. Change is inevitable. Change can be scary. Change can be exciting. Change can cause stress. Change can result in sadness and grief or happiness and pure joy. As human beings, we often brace against and resist change; yet it comes at us continuously.

According to Veteran’s Affairs, approximately 250,000 service members transition back to civilian life each year, after serving in the military. These service members face an enormous change when they transition from military into civilian life; a change that can be extremely difficult, confusing, and a challenge to maneuver.The Transition Assistance Programs (TAP) (www.dol.gov/agencies/vets/programs/tap) can be pivotal in a soldier’s life during their separation or retirement from the armed forces.

TAP provides resources, information, online education and classes, and tools for those service members transitioning back to civilian life. These services are also extended to a military member’s loved ones to educate them about some of the issues and challenges that may arise. Service members are encouraged to take advantage of all the TAP program has to offer a year before their separation, or two years from retiring, from the military. The VA also extends specific transition assistance for those who have served in the reserves, understanding that these individuals have lived as both a civilian and service member, addressing the unique challenges this type of service presents. Throughout life, all of us experience numerous changes – some are welcome while many feel like a challenge, a burden or just plain difficult. As we age, we face many changes: changes in our physical appearance and abilities, changes in our mental and emotional state of mind, and changes in our family, friends, and community dynamics. With all these life transitions and changes, we can become overwhelmed and not know which way to turn. This is where a bit of planning ahead can go a long way. Whether we are planning to age in place in our homes or investigate transitioning to an independent/assisted living community, planning today for the steps that will need to be taken can help ease our anxiety and fear of the unknown in the future.

Retirement - What’s Next As our aging military veterans start considering “what’s next”, a conversation about the Veterans Aid and Attendance benefit may be appropriate. This lesser-known benefit can assist a veteran and his/her spouse with some of the financial aspects of aging and remaining as independent as possible, whether in the home or in an assisted living community.

Just as the TAP program helps military members transition back into civilian life once their military service has ended, engaging in some planning for aging well can help all of us as we transition from one life stage to another.

Plan well to age well.