Get It On

Frisky Business

There’s more to it than hormones, ladies. Your emotional and mental health plays a big role in your sex drive. According to Dr. John Randolph’s study published in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism, women need a lot more than men to get turned on. “Mood and an overall sense of health and well-being is key for women,” Randolph says. It’s really a mind game, but you too can play. These ideas should trick you into feeling a bit friskier.

When you hit the sheets at the end of the day and all you’re thinking about are the kids, work and to-do lists, sex is probably the last thing you want to do. But after a rogue night of intimacy, do you find yourself thinking, “Hey, we should do this more often”? Turn those good intentions into reality even when life makes you feel too tired, too stressed and just never in the mood.

1. GET YOUR ADRENALINE PUMPING. One study found that doing something exciting or daring boosts the attraction you feel for the opposite sex. Watch a suspenseful movie, go zip lining or learn to surf with your partner.

2. HAVE A GLASS OF WINE. Women who enjoy a daily glass of red wine reported higher sexual desire in one study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Just keep it to one glass, and finish it off with snuggling.

3. PRACTICE YOGA. Getting in touch with your body will put you in touch with your sexuality, suggests another study. Plus, because yoga improves blood circulation, you’ll feel even better when the deed is done.

4. UNWIND. Go for a walk, or take a bubble bath. Relaxing and letting go of life’s burdens will ease stress and emotions, making you more open to sex.

5. BE TOUCHY. Even just holding hands will make you and your partner feel closer. The key is spontaneity—get a little grabby when he least expects it. It may help arouse both of you, and a bottle of massage oil will do the rest.

6. SWEAT AND SNIFF. The smell of men post-gym has been found to increase cortisol levels in women, which may lead to arousal. Better yet, join him in the gym and hit the shower together when you get home.

7. FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. Get creative with positions or talk to your partner about trying something new. Nothing’s a bigger mood killer than the same old routine.

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