The Best Party On Earth- Invitation

You will learn how to: • Get out of the blame game and into the change game • Stop repeating patterns • Create a new relationship story www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

TABLE OF CONTENTS:

1. Introduction 2. Over thinking 3. La~la Land 4. Taking things personally 5. Limiting and defining 6. Mind Reading 7. How to Party tips 8. What’s different?

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INTRODUCTION • •

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Thank you for accepting my Party Invitation!

This is going to be the Best Party On Earth, so welcome, WELCOME to the party where you get to learn how to show up as 100% authentically you, and to re-write your stories This is for you if: (Cue music) ……”you always find yourself in the kitchen at parties.”

What do I mean by that? Well, lots of us and this has been me too, would prefer to hide away a bit. Maybe we don’t feel that confident, maybe we don’t feel that happy, or perhaps we don’t feel we have much value or maybe we are wearing a mask because it looks like we have got everything on the outside, but underneath it all we still feel empty.

I can pretty much guarantee that if you follow my “How To Party” tips in this guide you will be happy to be centre stage (of your own life that is) and you will be free from the kitchen for ever.

Wow! How can I make a promise that big?? Because I know how you feel and I know that you can change too. I also know that you already have all the resources you need, you just can’t see that at the moment. I also know you are already perfect and that it’s not so much about what you need to do, and more about what you need to stop doing. www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

Oops…almost forgot to tell you what we don’t do at this party.

1.We don’t over think.

2.We don’t live in la~la land.

3.We don’t take things personally.

4.We don’t limit and define ourself.

5.And we don’t mind read.

So, what do we do at this party I hear you ask ?(yes, I can hear you!) We do the following:

Nothing | No Thing | Nada | Rien

Because……….and here’s the thing, there is nothing you need to do to fully show up as your full 100% authentic self and to have a life you love……confused? Read on-

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“OVER THINKINGIT’S OVER RATED” Every day we have between 12k-60k thoughts (not sure who counted them). With each of these thoughts we always have a choice, to listen or to let go. None of our thoughts have any particular meaning but then we go adding emotion into the mix. In fact thought and emotion are like two sides of the same coin and whatever thought you are thinking in this moment (even as you read this) determines how you will be feeling. So, if you are reading this and thinking this is boring (how could you! sob, sob) then you will be feeling bored. If however you are reading this and thinking this is inspiring then you will be feeling inspired. This does not always work in our favour!

We scare our self sometimes with our thinking.

Sometimes we might have thoughts that say “I am not good enough” or we might have thoughts that say “I don’t really have any value or purpose in the world because someone else could be paid to replace me” etc. I wonder what your repetitive thoughts are. Anyways, we think and think and think, create feelings and emotions and eventually end up in…… www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

La~la Land

Where we start to make up stories about our life.

Now, we don’t do well in la~la land. It is not where we thrive.

La~la land is where we have believed the thinking we have been repeating to ourself, sometimes for many years, sometimes that is so insidious that we don’t even hear it anymore, we just feel a bit rubbish and under par most of the time.

It is the land of Go Compare, where we look at other people and wish we were more like them/had their wardrobe/their children/their house…where everyone else looks perfect, capable and happy, except you.

It is the land where we magically keep the past alive as if it is still happening and the land where we can magically predict the future (even though only this present moment exists).

The other thing that happens in La~la land is that we believe that things outside of our self actually have the power to affect how we feel. We believe that if we had the latest designer wotnot that we would feel better. We believe that if we didn’t have a husband that worked all hours that we might feel valued and important. We believe that if we lost 10lbs we would feel more confident. www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

Well, sorry to burst your bubble …..and reveal the power behind La~la land but that is not how life works folks!

The only thing that has any power in your life is your thinking… and what is good about this is, is that when we understand this principle and how we are creating our experience of life, nothing out there is scary or meaningful any more except our own thoughts.

But, and it’s a big one…..

(The “How To Party” tips are coming I promise!)

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WE TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY So we get this thought, we go off to La~la land and create a story about it and we end up feeling rubbish and what’s more….we believe it!

We believe that because we have a thought in our head it must be true. Well, let me tell youJust because a thought is in your head it doesn’t mean it true.

All it means is…..drum roll……

You have a thought in your head Full stop.

But sadly, because we tend to believe these thoughts we stop seeing the truth of who we really are.

We stop seeing that we are safe. We stop seeing that we are not just good enough, we are frikkin awesome. We stop seeing that we have so much value and so much to give to the world. We stop seeing how incredibly loveable we ALL are and how much we are loved. We stop seeing how incredibly fortunate we are. We stop seeing how powerful we are…..shall I go on?

All of these thoughts get in the way of us being our 100% vulnerable, perfectly ok, wonderful selves and we go off and…… www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

LIMIT AND DEFINE OURSELF Are you getting an insight into how mad it all is yet? Are you seeing what you have been doing to yourself? It’s not your fault for misunderstanding how life works, and Jeez….it’s exhausting isn’t it?

Keeps us awake at night, means we make un-useful choices, we might even sabotage and leave behind perfectly good relationships/career’s because we have believed the labels we have placed upon our self. It all gets in the way of feeling deep peace, security and wellbeing.

Our “I am this (insert negative thing)” becomes our definition and limitation of how we show up in the world.

We tell our self “we can’t have this and we can’t have that because…..” and create this big gaping hole where excitement and curiosity used to live and we go off to look for things that make us feel better!

Get your credit card out, we are off shopping!

We might think if we define ourself by wearing the right things, going to the right spa’s, having the latest haircut then everyone else will think we are fabulous and what is more WE will think we are fabulous. And we do. For a little while. But the nagging feeling is still there and the thoughts come back and bite us on the bum through our Armani jeans and we…….. www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

MIND READ We decide that if this is how WE see ourself then this is how everyone else sees us. We decide that people we love don’t really love us, or at least if they did they would treat us differently and we point the finger of blame.

We decide that we can’t really live this lie any longer. We find ourself attracted to people we perhaps should not be attracted too because they make us feel better about ourself.

We might find the 6 o’clock glass of wine turns into a bottle and that the joy we once got from family life has started to wane.

We long to be on our own, away from people that make us feel bad.

We long to live on our own, to be free, to make our own decisions, to feel empowered because then we would be happy, to start afresh; then we could be fully and completely ourselves, find out who we are, what is important to us, feel valued, feel we had a purpose in life………

Gawd….this party is going a bit downhill isn’t it!!

Slow down a minute and breathe……because breathing is always good.

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We end up …..always being in the kitchen at parties Talking to other people in the kitchen.

Comparing our lives.

Wondering how to sort it all out. How to make it better.

How to get the excitement back. Doing the “my husband is worse than your husband” story. Realizing that money, things in fact any THING out side of us, does not make us happy.

Phew.

So, here we are.

I feel a bit stressed and depressed now- how are you doing?

What do we do about it??

Well, you could do what I did which was leave my husband, leave behind my millionaire life/home/bank account, change my children’s lives irrevocably and sign up for a few years of struggle to find out who you REALLY are or you could do the following and here come the tips now: www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

“HOW TO PARTY” STOP IT! That’s it.

Stop listening to the thoughts and let them pass you by.

Stop making up stories about yourself and going off into La~la land.

Stop taking your thinking SO seriously.

Stop trying to fill the gap with things outside you.

Stop believing you know what is in other people’s minds.

Stop blaming everyone else for not “making you happy”.

STOP IT ALL and breathe. Breathe deeply, relax into yourself, allow your mind to become quiet. Notice how in that quiet lives a wisdom. Within that wisdom are all the answers that you need for how to live a more rewarding, deeply secure, peaceful, happy life. You just need to listen to that voice.

And then ask yourself a really useful question“What do I want instead?”

We are not victims, we are creators. How your life looks is your creation, your most successful creation to date. If it is not what you want then you have some work to do. It is time to ask yourselfwww.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

“What do I need to believe to be true about myself to have it all AND be happy?”

“What is truly important to me?”

“What are my values?”

“What makes me happy?”

“What does my heart long for?”

“What would I change now if I could?”

“What’s not currently working about my lifestyle/career/family life/relationship?”

“When was the time in your life that I felt most alive? What was I doing?”

“What is the problem thinking that I wake up to every morning?”

“What gets me excited?”

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Maybe write your answers next to each of these questions if you have printed this out. It’s often more effective if you get someone else to read them out.

Start to see if you can spot your repetitive thoughts, if you can see where you are taking your thinking seriously, because here’s the thing it

ALL LOOKS AND FEELS SO REAL!!

But it’s not, honestly. It is just a bunch of thoughts that you are currently living in the experience of.

Start to see where you are telling yourself porky pies, what inspires you that you could do more of, how you could begin to show up differently and be more you (or at least the version of you, you would prefer and used to be, before life got you down), drop the blaming and complaining.

At the Best Party On Earth, the party where you can be 100% authentically you, loud and proud, you may still decide that the life you currently have is not right for you, but ask yourself the questions first eh?

Because you might decide that actually you appreciate everything in your life and that it is all going to turn out absolutely fine :0) www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk

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I would love to hear what you thought?

How it felt? If you heard something new?

If you have seen something different.

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Alison Heather Sutton www.alisonheathersutton.co.uk Community, co-creation and mutual support mean a lot to me. I used to be rubbish at asking for help because I thought it meant I was weak when in fact being vulnerable is one of the strongest most empowering things you can do, so I love it now :0)….. and, people love helping……..win-win.

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