The Virgin White Couple

by: Coco Temptation London

The SEXuation:

Elaina and Everett started their lifestyle journey over a year ago. They have been enjoying their adventure. Elaina contacted me after having a somewhat confusing interaction with another female at her local lifestyle club.

Here are the details: Elaina and Everett had been enjoying their night at the club and decided to try their luck in the couples room. The couples room is a large room set aside for only couples, no singles allowed. The room has a few large beds, several ottomans, and couches laina from behind, ble. The ottoman Everett, and the laina on the bed er man a hand job sation or consent, 's tits and legs but man hard with her on the tip. Elaina after time. This ting the message. it clear that her ut also tried not to y seems to get the d and stomps off.

With the excitement of having an audience, Elaina instructed Everett to stand up, and she began to blow him. The female of the other couple reaches over, puts her hand up Elaina's skirt, and starts fingering her without exchanging words! Elaina was caught off guard and wasn't exactly sure what to do. A significant crowd watched the interaction; Elaina worried about embarrassing the female. She stood up and pulled Everett over to an available bed space. Everett removed lining the room. It's designed to encourage exhibitionism and/or voyeurism and possibly group play. Elaina and Everett found a seat on one of the ottomans. A couple, unfamiliar to Elaina or Everett, approached Elaina and asked her, "May we share this space?" Elaina scooched over to allow for some extra space and said, "Sure!" This new couple sat down, but as they sat there, they began to move closer and closer to Elaina. Elaina would move increasingly closer to Everett, giving them more space, but soon Everett was almost hanging off the edge of the ottoman. Elaina had assumed that the new couple was in the heat of the moment and unaware of their movement. The room was beginning to fill with more couples.

Elaina is left questioning, "What did I do wrong?" As she recollects the night's events, she focuses on the first part of the interaction and asks me, "Did I inadvertently consent or imply consent by allowing them to share the couch? And was there a way to say no without making it a big deal?" Elaina thought maybe there was some secret code she was unaware of that gave this couple the green light. Upon further introspection, Elaina says that if this had been a more private exchange, she would have been able to speak up, but it was being in the presence of an audience that created the struggle for her.

What We Learned:

This is a case of non-consensual touching; that part is evident. What I appreciate about this SEXuation is that it's also a case of "easier said than done." The people-pleaser in me can empathize with Elaina. I don't want to embarrass anyone, I don't want to kill the mood in a sexy environment, and I don't want to subject someone to being rejected in front of a crowd. An audience of on-lookers getting all hot and bothered watching you play out some sexy exchanges, and you're the jerk that cuts it off; nobody wants to be caught in that crosshair. A simple "May I touch you?" from this female would have gone a long way and saved this SEXuation before it became one. I entirely agree with Elaina's first step to move away. Elaina created another opportunity for the other female to ask to touch again. But this other female seemed to feel she had the right to touch without asking. There is so much emphasis on consent in our current social climate, especially following the Me Too Movement, that it's hard to believe that a scene like this happens at a sex club of all places. I've witnessed similar scenarios, and they tend to stem from women touching women. When we talk about consent, we lean into the rape and forceful unwanted sexual acts side of it. Women don't usually feel they are intimidating, some think it's always a welcomed sight to see some girl-on-girl action, and they mistakenly think this makes them exempt from having to get consent. You may be the hottest girl in the room, you might have the gentlest touch, you could be a tiny petite unthreatening little thing, but you still don't have consent until you ask and hear "yes."

The ottoman female was so offended that she felt the need to stomp off and make it appear as though Elaina was the one with the issue.

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