The 7 Life LawsTM

A NEW PRACTICAL GUIDE FOR MASTERING LIFE’S CHALLENGES AND ACHIEVING SUCCESS IN HEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS, AND CAREERS

The most educated and talented among us doubt and question our self-worth, our abilities, and even our prior choices, particularly when various lifetime milestones are reached or when friends and peers achieve success or receive their desires.

The questions and criticism echo in our heads.

Why am I not further along in life? I should be doing something greater. Why don’t I have a better job? Why do I always end up in bad relationships? Why do I keep making the same dumb decisions? Am I’m good enough. I don’t deserve better. I’m a failure!

Life can be a cruel game where most have not been given the rules, or least of all, an effective playbook. We find ourselves in patterns or cycles we cannot break and unfulfilled, thus compensating for what we are lacking in lives through negative habits, promiscuity, overeating, alcohol, and other substances.

It is not surprising that personal and professional development is a multi-million-dollar market with a plethora of self-help gurus and experts pontificating about what people should do and how they should live, earning millions through books, courses, workshops, and conferences.

Ironically, what many seek can be condensed into seven guiding principles I developed in 2018 and call, The 7 Life LawsTM The collection of principles combine the essence of universal ancient secret teachings and modern personal development theory into simple, easy to understand principles to help navigate day to day living and master life’s challenges to prosper and achieve success in health, relationships, and careers. But while these life laws may be simple, they take practice, honesty, and commitment.

Unfortunately, people aren’t honest with themselves about their character, personal baggage, or willingness and commitment to change to even benefit minimally. Without that, people’s efforts often become complicated and doomed to failure.

Ultimately, people must first position themselves to receive them. That often comes once a person realizes their pattern or cycle, reaches their pivotal level of frustration, or hits rock bottom.

LIFE LAW #1 – THE PAST HAS PASSED.

The past cripples us. It is a deadly albatross around our necks that we must release. It is an anchor that ties us to mistakes and regrets of our experiences we have no power to alter. While we should not forget the memory of it, we must forgive ourselves for our transgressions against ourselves. We cannot win a race or succeed looking backwards. Otherwise, we are destined to stumble and fall over the obstacles in front of us. Our power and control are in the present. We must not relinquish it through fear, indecisiveness, procrastination, or apathy. The future depends on what we do now while the present is meant as a reflection of lessons learned from our past.

LIFE LAW #2 – ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY AND BE ACCOUNTABLE.

We must own our mistakes. For better or for worse, we made them. The question is how does one move forward and ensure that we and others become whole for our transgressions. If others were not wronged, then we solely owe the debt to ourselves. If our mistakes injured others, we must make amends and do what we can to compensate others for the injury. Fear of judgment often holds us back from doing what we must. Resistance to responsibility and accountability also represent an individuals’ inability to forgive themselves. Some view admitting their wrong or bad behavior as a permanent indictment of their character – a scarlet letter defining who they are, not who they were at that prior moment. Accepting responsibility and being accountable is the first step to true liberation.

LIFE LAW #3 – BE GRATEFUL.

Some people mistakenly equate being grateful with being thankful. The two are not synonymous. Gratefulness is not simply appreciation, as is thankfulness, but it embodies a state of acceptance and understanding. It is the acknowledgment that all we have experienced has worth and beauty, especially those things that have caused us pain and hardship. Gratefulness accompanies the gift of recognition. It is therefore incumbent upon us to receive and reflect on the lessons offered through our experiences and the process. For example, gratefulness allows us to appreciate and not curse the storms in our lives as well as the havoc and destruction they bring. While our storms dismantle all that we have become comfortable with and accustom, they force us to withdraw from the action and cause us to seek shelter and remain still as they perform their function. If we chose to resist or fight against our storms, we find ourselves drawn into their chaos and confusion. We become swept up in the devastation. As a result of our desperation, we move blindly, ultimately making harsh, thoughtless decisions that pull us further into the abyss. But when we chose to be still, our storms eventually remove all foes that have overtaken us. They turn our enemies against themselves and make them part of the destruction. Debris is everywhere. In the end, our storms reveal who and what our enemies really are to us and the world. They are the broken ones and stood no chance. Suddenly, we can see clearly, and are better for it.

LIFE LAW #4 – EMBRACE A SPIRITUAL FOUNDATION AND PRACTICE.

We all possess an inner yearning, a thirst for answers, a hunger for completeness. Often, we silence that yearning with physical pleasures or material things and are left feeling empty. Having a spiritual foundation and practice is central to navigating both the triumphs and challenges life offers as well as providing a desired sense of fulfillment. Spirituality imbues life with hope, direction, and purpose. It also offers practices that encourage contemplation through meditation, prayer, yoga, and journaling. These practices reveal and emphasize that we are all an intricate part of something greater than ourselves. When we embrace a spiritual foundations and practice, our beliefs, values and, ultimately, our actions become inspired, directed, and centered to one consciousness. We become able to interpret incidents and experiences with a transcendent, inner wisdom to make healthier choices. We encouraged and able to forgive both others, and ourselves, which is one of the primary keys accepting responsibility and becoming accountable. And with that overall knowledge and inner wisdom, we realize most importantly that we possess and can access limitless potential.

LIFE LAW #5 – DECLUTTER YOUR LIFE AND ENVIRONMENT.

Clutter is overwhelming and prevents clarity, breeds procrastination, and restricts any thoughtful action in all endeavors. It is one of our fiercest, mental