ADVICE
BY COACH CHRIS
H
ello ladies! I am super excited about this edition of Her
KEY 2: Learn to forgive often
Magazine because it is a special edition: The Bridal is-
Marriage is a classroom. Your feelings will get hurt and it is import-
sue. Let me tell you why I love this: It is because I ab-
ant to learn to forgive. Do not sweat the small stuff so to speak.
solutely love marriage! I think that marriage is truly a
One of my friends once said this statement to me and it has a lot of truth: “if it is not worth divorcing over—do not spend energy
blessing and an honor—when done right. My husband and I have the privilege of meeting with couples
on it!”
who are thinking of getting married and those who are already married. It is our passion to see marriages work—but most impor-
KEY 3: Learn how to live selflessly
tantly that marriages have access to the right tools and resources
Selfishness is the fastest way to bring destruction in a marriage.
that are needed to experience a great marriage. Each year, we
If you are going to be fulfilled in your marriage, you will have to
plan and facilitate a marriage retreat through our business (The
learn how to give more than you take. Pouring yourself into your
Monday Solutions Group) called “Focusing On Forever” where we
spouse will give you fulfillment.
take couples away for the weekend and lead them through various activities and exercise that are designed to help strengthen their
KEY 4: Continue dating
marriages. It is such an honor for us to partner with couples from
I cannot tell you how many couples forget how to date once they
all walks of life as they focus on growing their marriage.
get married. To nurture your relationship, you will want to do the
One of the things that we hear often from couples is this: “we
things that made you attracted to the person in the first place!
wish we would have spent a little more time preparing for the mar-
Flirt with each other. Run around the house without clothes on (if
riage as much as we spent planning the wedding day.” Now, don’t
you all are by yourselves—of course!) Explore interests and activ-
get me wrong, the wedding day is quite important. It is a time to
ities AFTER you say “I do”—your marriage is worth the continual
bring family and friends together to witness a very special combin-
pouring in!
ing of lives through a sacred ceremony. The flowers are beautiful. The lighting of the unity candle is pretty. The dresses and tuxes
I wish you the best as you are preparing for your wedding day. I
are flawless, and the wedding cake is oh so delicious! I do want to
know that you are going to be an absolutely stunning bride! I just
just encourage you, as you are putting the finishing touches on
want to ask that you keep it in the forefront of your mind though,
your guest list that you do not forget to make sure you plan for
once the wedding comes to a close, that you do not forget that
more than a great wedding day—prepare for a great marriage.
you still must work on building a great marriage. Know that I am
I want to offer you 4 basic keys that I have found that are very important as you are about to spend your entire life becoming
excited for you and I hope that this article has been a blessing to you. Congratulations and many blessings to you!
“one” with the person that you believe will be with you forever. Christy Jones, also known as Coach Chris, is an improvement KEY 1: Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!
coach for leaders who works to help them break free from feeling
Communication is if you are going to have a great marriage. It is
overwhelmed while taking their teams to high levels of perfor-
important that you learn how to express yourself and listen well!
mance. Contact her at beginmonday.com.
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