3 Attitudes to be More Successful

By: Marilyn Martinez SPAIN

Being a woman is not easy...

Does anyone agree with me?

We women work, we take care of our children, our parents and all other family and friends in need... we take care of our homes and the activities and celebrations of our loved ones...

And in many cases, we study and try to improve ourselves....

And as stressful as all of this can be, I feel deeply that being a woman is a great privilege and I am honored to be one....

So, I also honor you no matter how successful you are right now and I want to invite you to honor yourselves and all the women you know because it's not easy for them either and they deserve it too....

Women are designed to be united, to collaborate and to help each other and through this "helping each other" we all heal...

Therefore, I want to share with you 3 attitudes and actions that can boost you in your personal and professional life to be more successful in all areas of your life...

1) You don't need to be perfect

Women in general feel that we have to prove something or at least, it seems that socially that is what is demanded of us....

Perfect in our work, perfect wives or partners, perfect physically, perfect in our perfectly clean house, perfect mothers, daughters, friends....

And this leads us to demand from ourselves something that would be impossible for a single woman to fulfill...maybe three women could do it, but certainly not just one woman with 24 hours a day.... 1 7

Many women who are mothers feel guilty for not being able to be with them and take care of them while they work and become stressed and reach the exhaustion that finally produces health problems and a deep unhappiness because they can not be well neither with their children, nor with their partner or with themselves.... Perfection never goes hand in hand with happiness.

Let me repeat it to you and try to make it sink in and see if it resonates with you... Perfection never goes hand in hand with happiness...not for you, not for anyone around you...And I know this very well because I did the same thing for most of my life because I always thought I didn't do enough, didn't work hard enough, wasn't a good enough mother, didn't take care of my health enough, didn't keep my house clean enough....

Sound familiar?

So I invite you to give yourself permission to break free from that perfection.....

Believe me, you are more than enough, you do more than enough and you don't need to prove anything, no matter what people think....

You can only give your best when you are well, when you speak well to yourself, when you treat yourself well, when you stop putting everyone and everything before your well-being....

Some time ago I heard a very simple phrase that I now use as a mantra: Better done than perfect.

Because many times, after that perfection there is the fear of failure, of being judged, of being successful and even the well-known impostor syndrome...

That's why sometimes we think that we need one more course, more practice, to go over it more times…

So I invite you to let go of perfection and embrace your authenticity because no one needs so much perfection and people are eager to see more real people....

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Because then it gives us permission to be more authentic and less perfect and because when someone is real they can connect with people soul to soul, heart to heart....

2) Listen to your heart

It doesn't mean don't use your brain or question things, but rather listen to the call of your heart....

That purpose for which you are designed, for which you have a special gift....

That thing that you are passionate about and love to do....

I firmly believe that when you are so passionate about something and it comes naturally to you, it is because it is aligned with your life purpose....

Sometimes, it's something so natural to you that you yourself overlook it because it's a natural gift you were born with.....

But pay attention to what people tell you about some of your qualities or what you are good at because there may be the essence of what the world is waiting for you to bring to the table....

I feel deeply that we are all here for something and if you find that purpose and have a "what for" bigger than your fears, then success is inevitable....

I always use to say a phrase that I love which is "Love what you do, do what you love" .....

So if right now you are in a job that is not what you love the most, I invite you to do it with love and put the best of you in it, because that will be the bridge so that one day you can do what you really love....

And if you can't do what you really love, at least that "do it with love" will say a lot about you, about your leadership capacity and your commitment as a person and as a professional and will be an inspiration for your children or for anyone who knows you...

If you are going to do something, it better be right.... As Toni Robbins says, "As you do one thing, you do everything" ....

Don't compare yourself to anyone

Your biggest advantage is to be yourself....

No one is better than you at playing yourself and I feel there is a big reason why we are all so different....

You see, no one wants a person playing a role of someone perfect and not showing themselves as they really are because they don't inspire trust....

Therefore, I invite you to be authentic and do not compare yourself with anyone, neither about your qualities, nor about your capabilities, nor about your physique, nor about the pace at which you evolve, nor the pace at which you are achieving your goals, or in your business, or in your studies, nor compare your relationship or the success you think you have with men, your relationship with your children, if you go out more or less, if you have more or less material things...

We are all different and we do not need the same things to be happy, we do not have the same lifestyle, we do not have the same values, nor the same priorities, so the only thing that matters is that all those things are aligned with you, with your values, your way of being and with what makes you happy....

Don't worry about what other people show on social media or what they say...Believe me, it's not always true...Even the most famous and wealthy people have problems, so the only thing that really matters is your life, your relationships and your happiness....

Not everyone needs a mansion and a Lamborgini to be happy, so give yourself permission to want what you want without having to explain yourself or people agreeing with you....

Just don't use that as an excuse to settle and not going for your dreams, because that will make you very unhappy...

Reflect on the life you want in all areas of your life and create habits that will lead you towards it, step by step, day by day... Do something every day that brings you closer to the life you want to achieve and become the person you need to become to get it....

No one can be happy for you, so get out there and shine.... And if anyone tries to turn off your light, shine brighter and let them put on sunglasses.....

Thank you

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