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Parlor 127: Recreating A Building For Beauty

Help Me I'm MarriedAll Seems Dead... Death Valley. A desert place that is known to be the hottest, driest, lowest place in the United States... Page 7

Dugger’s Florist: For A Marvelous Mother’s Day And More... Sidney Dugger Haney was eight years old when Dugger’s Florist opened, and now she is 22. The first shop was... Page 5

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Over the last few weeks, two groups in Limestone County hosted events benefiting the community... Page 9

By Ali Elizabeth Turner

For the past 18 years, Haleigh Fairbanks has been a vital part of the beauty profession in the Athens area. She has been a stylist, part-owner of a salon, and wife and mother of 10-year-old twin girls. She and her husband Zachary have dreamed of adding “business owners” to that list. So, when the old Cricket’s Continued on page 15

Oscar’s Taco Shop Athens: The Best Baja Around

By Ali Elizabeth Turner

I think it’s safe to say that 87-year-old David Ruiz and his 80-year-old brother, Javier, never expected to facilitate the opening of 33 family-owned, authentic Baja-style casual eateries from California to Florida, but that is just what has happened. And, I can say as someone who has lived in Mexico, as well as traveled

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Photo credit: Kristin Claridy Photography

Chamber of Commerce cuts the ribbon on a labor of love

80-year old Javier Ruiz is still doing his life's work

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Happy 100th Birthday To You, “Rhapsody In Blue”

In 1924, George Gershwin wrote one of the most recorded, reworked, and recognizable pieces of American music ever, and it is called “Rhapsody In Blue.” (Just think the music that served for years as the backdrop for the television commercial for United Airlines and you have a taste of it.)

George had talked about the possibility of writing a work for a concert being put together by a man named Paul Whiteman that was designed to introduce America to what was then called “modern music.” However, he never actually agreed to do it. His brother, Ira, happened to see a piece in the paper that talked about a work that was being specially composed by George for the concert, and George had no choice but to either get it ready, or eat a whole lot of crow.

George got to work, and had the entire thing ready to go in six weeks. Interestingly, it was the trip on the train between New York and Boston that inspired him. He could “hear” music in the train tracks, the rhythm of the cars as they clacketyclacked down the line, and provided a whole set of sequences for a piece that famed New York Philharmonic conductor Leonard Bernstein, played, adored, and described as follows:

The “Rhapsody” is not a composition at all. It's a string of separate paragraphs stuck together — with a thin paste of flour and water.

Be that as it may, it is a remarkable piece of music. It is fantastically difficult to play. It is tender, it is wild, it is frantic, and it’s contemplative. It can be played by one pianist; two pianists on two pianos; a small jazz group; what is known as a pit orchestra (which is what is used for things like musicals and ballets); and a full symphony orchestra. Hands become a blur if you watch any videos of a performance, and if the camera is filming from overhead, it is dizzying.

If you use any type of instrumental support for “Rhapsody,” the opening sequence, which is typically performed by a clarinet, presents notes that can only be described as “bent,” yet there is nothing unpleasant or discordant about them. I used to think that one had to have large hands in order to play it until I saw a video performance of a small female Chinese concert pianist by the name of Yuja Wang that is truly mind-boggling. It has been called a “messy masterpiece” by some,

a description I find most fitting.

“Rhapsody” has known its share of controversy. Some object that it was a white Jewish guy who wrote it, and that it only gained acclaim because it was performed for the first time at a venue that was largely white. By contrast, Ella Fitzgerald loved all things Gershwin, and many black artists outright reject the allegation of “cultural appropriation,” as it pertains to Gershwin's works of genius. I think it’s safe to say that few

were as gifted as Gershwin when it came to putting the melting pot that is America squarely in the purview of the 88 keys that make up a piano, and I am so glad that he did. Happy birthday to you, “Rhapsody In Blue”…and here’s to a 100 more!

All Things Soldier Major Kurt Lee -Small Only In Stature

by Ali Elizabeth Turner

It is often said that the Korean War was the “forgotten war,” and that is most unfortunate. Several years ago, I thanked a Korean War veteran for his service, and he teared up, telling me that I was the first person ever to do that. He is now in his 90s, and I hope that over the years the increased respect and honor that we have as a culture have begun to express to veterans has made its way to the ears and heart of this man via others, other than just myself. He certainly deserves it.

Thankfully, Major Kurt Chew-Een Lee was appropriately honored and awarded for his valor while fighting in the United States Marine Corps, and for his service between 1945 and 1968. He served in WWII, the Korean War, and the Vietnam War. However, it is for his bravery during the Kore-

an War for which he is most well-known, due to the fact that he saved over 8,000 American lives from being trapped, killed, and/or captured by the Chinese who crossed over into North Korea. He was a 1st Lieutenant at the time, and was part of one of the most famous battles of the Korean War, that of Chosin.

Lee spoke Japanese, and had hoped to deploy to the Pacific. However, he stayed stateside, but stayed in the Corps after WWII was over. He was commissioned as an officer in 1946, served in Korea, and then as an intelligence officer during Vietnam.

America. He endured racism, and the men who served under him and who were rescued by him spent the rest of their lives thanking Lee for what he did.

In 1950 Korea, as a lieutenant, Lee was carrying bullets in his body and had a broken arm from a previous battle and

was in the hospital. He left the hospital against medical orders to go help his guys. In spite of his injuries, he still led his troops in the dead of winter into a situation that could have been a blood bath for all. At one point, he snuck up on the Chinese and spoke in Mandarin to some of the soldiers. The confusion he caused made enough of a pause and a distrac-

tion that the Americans could fire first. It was the brutal cold and snow that caused the battle to be known as the Frozen Chosin, and at one point Lee got through a storm with only the use of a compass.

Lee was about the height and weight of my own dad -- 5’6” and around 130 lbs. However, he had the heart of a lion and he fiercely loved

It is thought that Lee was the first ChineseAmerican to become an officer in the Marine Corps. He had brothers who served as well, one reaching the rank of colonel. Lee was awarded the Navy Cross, the Silver Star, two Purple Hearts, and the Navy Marine Corps Commendation Ribbon (with a “V” for valor, and General Ray Davis said that Lee was the bravest man he ever knew. Lee died in 2014 at the age of 88, and I believe that America will forever be in the debt of a courageous man who was only small in stature.

Special Feature

Dugger’s Florist: For A Marvelous Mother’s Day And More

by Ali Elizabeth Turner

Sidney Dugger Haney was eight years old when Dugger’s Florist opened, and now she is 22. The first shop was located in Tanner, and they opened in April of 2011, just three weeks before Mother’s Day. Everyone was scrambling to get through what is one of the biggest holidays of the year in the floral industry, and Sidney wanted to do her part to help. So, she went in the back, found a coffee mug with a smiley face on it, made a fresh arrangement, and brought it out to the front. Someone snapped it right up, paid for it, walked out of the shop as a satisfied customer, and Sidney’s career as a florist was born.

Sidney has continued to help out in the shop -- doing everything from washing buck-

ets, sorting flowers, making bows, and of course, learning the details of the trade from her mom, Melinda. Once Sidney was old enough to drive, she helped out with deliveries, and sometimes still does that. There was a time, however, perhaps somewhere between the ages of 14 and 16, when Sidney didn’t want to consider continuing on as an apprentice florist and thought she was headed toward college and another career path. She finished high school, applied to Calhoun, got accepted, and then COVID hit.

“Everything was shut down, and I couldn’t go to class, so I started back working at the shop,” she told me.

Sidney isn’t exactly sure what happened that made the floral world attractive again, but she has decided to join

her mom full time at Dugger’s Florist, and get officially certified as a florist. Back in 2011, when Melinda was getting her training in Louisiana, she chose a school in that state because it was one of the few places in the nation that required florists to be certified, and Melinda felt they had higher standards and were more professional. Sidney is looking at going to school in Atlanta to get her certification. I asked her about some of her favorite flowers she enjoys arranging, as well creative options that she uses in arranging. “I like to use non-traditional containers to put arrangements in,” she said. “I like to do tulip arrangements in glass so you can see the bulbs and the roots,” she added. She told me that buckets and boxes are some of the containers she prefers to use. “Some of my favorite flowers are hydrangeas, ranunculus, snapdragons, and stock, which comes in purple, white and pink,” said Sidney.

Melinda mentioned in our BNI meeting on Tuesday morning that one of the things for which they pre-

pare is the fact that many churches will purchase close to 100 single long stem roses or carnations in order to honor the moms of a congregation on Mother’s Day. Years ago, Melinda let me know that traditionally red is used for moms who are still alive, and white are used to honor moms who have passed. There are several options these days for Mother’s Day arrangements, and the flowers are starting to come in, many arriving from Ecuador. Hydrangeas, tulips, roses, peonies, mixed arrangements—all of them make up the varied selections for this busy season, and you need to get your order in now. Melinda also enjoys stocking the shop with house plants, from plain to exotic. Some of her favorites are ficus trees and fiddle leaf figs, and has scheffleras and palm plants.

“We can get just about anything,” she said, and the shop is full of indoor plants and containers.

New to the Dugger’s team is Bailee White, who does customer service, takes or-

ders, and works at the front desk. She spent 15 years in the medical field and came to work at the shop because she was looking to make a career change, and you can tell from the amount of laughter and banter that goes on between Melinda, Sidney, and Bailee that she is a good fit for the store.

Once everyone gets through Mother’s Day, wedding season will be starting, and it is important to get your orders in now so that you can get what you want for your special day. And, if by contrast, you are in “the Dog House,” Melinda has great deals on what are known as “Dog House Flowers.” She told me that they make up close to 30% of their annual product, especially after Valentine’s Day.

I asked Sidney at the end of our time together why I should pick Dugger’s Florist if I am in need of flowers, and she said, “We treat everyone like family, we go above and beyond, and we are personable.” So, call them today to get the best flowers for a marvelous Mother’s Day, and beyond.

Sidney Dugger Rainey and Melinda Dugger of Dugger's Florist

Calendar of Events

Silver Sneakers

Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday

Silver Sneaker classes at the Athens Limestone Public Library are now meeting from 1pm to 1:45pm on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Classes open to all. Equipment is provided. Donations accepted. More info: 256-614-3530 or jhunt9155@gmail.com.

Play Outside Day May 4th

Families everywhere are encouraged to get outside the first Saturday of every month and play in public parks, enjoy trails, hit the waterways, explore greenspaces and just play! Limestone County offers over 20 trails to explore including walking, cycling, horseback riding and kayaking – perfect for all ages. For more information: 256-232-5411.

3rd Annual Car Show for East Limestone High School

May 4

10:00am - 2:00pm. 15641 E Limestone Rd, Athens. For those who are looking for something to do before the Cruise-In on The Square, let me invite you out to The East Limestone Band Car Show on the morning of May 4th. It will be from 10 AM to 2 PM at East Limestone High School. The concession stand will be open serving food and beverages throughout the event, including breakfast. Visit The East Limestone Band website.

True Grit Cowboy Church Kids Fun Show

May 11

10:00am - 11:00am. 24378 Pleasant Hill Rd, Prospect, TN.

Senior Lunch Matinee Series

Third Thursdays Monthly

We are back to full speed with our third Thursday Senior Lunch Matinees and first Saturday Early Dinner Shows, already scheduled through Dec 2023. Public events most often will sell out in advance, welcoming attendees from 17 adjacent counties, and 2 neighboring states. Our Senior Lunch Matinees provide guests with a complete lunch including drink and dessert, and a one hour live show featuring one of our roster of 8 of the best regional oldies groups and performers in rotation throughout the year. E-mail reservations are required in advance for all Lunch Matinees and Early Dinner Shows. web: www. yesterdaysevents.com

FB: www.facebook.com/YesterdaysEventCenter

True Grit Cowboy Church is very excited to announcing an all youth fun show and it’s COMPLETELY FREE.

Gettin' Dirty At The Library: Beekeeping 101 May 14

11am - 12pm. Athens-Limestone County Public Library, 603 S Jefferson St, Athens. Limestone County Master Gardeners Association Lecture Series "Gettin' Dirty At The Library" Presents: "Beekeeping 101" by Allyson Shabel. Free and open to the public!

42 Annual Limestone Sheriff's Rodeo May 17th and 18

8pm. Limestone County Sheriff's Rodeo Arena. The 42nd Annual Limestone Sheriff’s Rodeo, Greatest Show on Dirt East of the Mississippi is scheduled for May 17 & 18 at 8 p.m.

Fridays After Five May 31

5pm - 8:30pm. Eastside Steps of the Limestone County Courthouse, 150 S Marion St, Athens. The eagerly anticipated Athens Main Street Fridays After Five Music Series presented by The Orthopaedic Center - Athens is back. This year's series promises an electrifying array of musical talent that will keep audiences coming back month after month. Each month, attendees will have the opportunity to soak up the vibrant atmosphere and enjoy extended shopping hours with local merchants and delicious food from local restaurants. There will be different food trucks and children's activities each month.

May 31 – Dance Party Night Featuring Juice June 28 – Rock the Square Night Featuring Steel 6 July 26 – All The Hits Night Featuring Brez Admission is free, with the party starting at 5pm with DJ Zillion warming up the crowd until 6:30pm and the main performance starting at 7pm. Attendees are encouraged to bring a lawn chair to enjoy the music. For more info about visit https://athensmainstreet.org/fridays-after-five/

Digital Literacy Classes

Athens-Limestone County Public Library will host a series of Digital Literacy Classes in conjunction with Calhoun Community College & Drake State Community & Technical College. Classes will boost your digital confidence & provide you with skills and training needed in today’s job market. Courses include: Computer & Internet Basics, Email, Windows OS, & Microsoft Word®. M-W 9:00 –12:00 or M-W 1:00 – 4:00. Classes start January 24th. Call us at (256) 306-2830 to learn more.

Special Feature

Help Me I'm Married... All Seems Dead

by Donna Clark

Death Valley. A desert place that is known to be the hottest, driest, lowest place in the United States. Temperatures have been recorded as high as 134 degrees. However, once about every ten years a stupendous phenomenon occurs -- the superbloom. What appears as a dry land, with very little life on the surface, erupts with flowers of brilliant color. There are three major events that must take place before this floral show begins. A rainstorm to wash the protective coating off wildflowers seeds allowing them to sprout is essential, then gentle rains that soak deeply into the soil. The seeds remain low to the ground until the springtime sun starts to warm the earth. It may not appear that these flowers are growing, but a strong root system is developing below the surface. Lastly, an absence of a harsh desert wind is a necessity. The windstorms that can sometimes blow through the valley can bring about a quick end to the spring blooms and even prevent it from happening. But when all the needed factors are in place, over ten varieties of flowers in beautiful shades of yellow, pink, and purple will emerge. I’ve never been to Death Valley and seen this gorgeous display, but the pictures I’ve seen of the event are amazing. To think of something so dry and dead bringing forth this grand show is amazing.

So, what does Death Valley, the superbloom, have to do with marriage? A lot, if you feel your marriage compares to this place of dry, parched land with little or no life emerging. The hope of beauty lies below the surface, deep in the soil of this land, just as the hope of a beautiful marriage is buried deep in the heart and mind of every couple. The seeds are there for the opportunity of growth, same in marriage. What is needed to make the flowers bloom is also needed to produce a strong marital relationship. If there have been hurts and pain from choices or words, then there has to be a realization that apolo-

gies are needed and forgiveness granted – just like the rainstorm that washes the coating off the seeds, actions are needed to wash away any guilt, anger, and unforgiveness. Even after these are done, the marriage may still not be to the level wanted, but the roots of the relationship are growing deep below the surface. Just as the warmth of the sun gives the plants what they need to emerge, so will the warmth of love and kindness strengthen a relationship and cause it to thrive. The harsh, dry, desert wind that can destroy these young plants are like harsh uncaring words that can destroy the love between two people.

I’ve introduced you to the 5 Love Languages and the 5 Apology Languages in previous articles, both are vitally important to all marriages. Now, let me share a few simple steps to a better relationship that my pastor shared this Sunday. I thought they were so timely, I had to write them all down to pass on to you. Hopefully there will be three or four of these you can adopt to make your marriage better!

Start the day with a hug. Say “I love you” several times during the day. Compliment freely. Apologize sincerely. Be forgiving. Don’t go to

bed mad, settle that disagreement. Kiss unexpectedly. Slow your life down. Stop talking and listen and listen closely. Get rid of pride and humble yourself. And for you men… let your wife give you directions when you’re lost. Women…laugh at his jokes (even when they’re not funny). Men…ask her to marry you again. Women…say yes!

Never forget how important your marriage is. And to remind you again, marriage is work, but it’s worth all the effort. What may seem dead can be resurrected! Bringing marriage back to life,

- Donna

What Makes Ronnie Roll I Hope They Shine

by Ali Elizabeth Turner

The weather on Monday morning was just perfect. Blessedly, we had been spared the kind of tornadic activity over the weekend that had hit in other states, and that had coincided with the anniversary of our April 27, 2011 “big ones.” Mayor Ronnie took City Councilman Chris Seibert and me down the hall to the large, public town hall where the workshop known as “Flawless Delivery” was just kicking off. “Flawless,” as it is known amongst its originators, is a two-day workshop that is geared toward improving serving in the hospitality and tourism industries, but it is much more. There is brain science, neuroplasticity, role playing, conflict resolution, and sensory training that can be used in far more ways than at the front desk of a hotel. I got to sit in on some of it, and it is excellent. Mayor Ronnie said, “If I were in the service field, I would take this. I think it’s very beneficial, and these kinds of classes are crucial.”

We talked about the fact that the annual Relay For Life Celebrity Waiters’ Night was happening on Tuesday, and Mayor Ronnie, Chamber of Commerce Director Pammie Jimmar, Athens

High School Coach Cody

Gross, APD Officer Michael Stainbrook, Athens High School Band Director Dr. Ty Parker, Community Advocate Laverne Gilbert, Athens Firefighter Jordan Pugh, and Sherie Prier (daughter of the late Kathy Cothren) were gearing up to compete for tips that would all go to benefit Relay. It is always a fun event for a worthy cause.

Mayor Ronnie was just back from a 14-state conference of the League of Municipalities, and is handing off the baton after serving as its president for two years. He has enjoyed being part of the leadership team and will continue to attend the conferences. “One of the things that keynote speaker Haley Barbour talked about was the need to be aware of the ‘dark side’ of politics,” he said. Other topics were AI and how to be safe with its use, the fentanyl problem and the use of “dark money.” “Everyone knows we are at a critical place in our country, and it doesn’t take much to go backwards quickly,” he added.

A bittersweet time is coming up, and that is graduation. The school year had flown by, and the high points will always include the Mayor’s Youth Commission. “Our wonderful seniors are graduating,”

Mayor Ronnie said with a

touch of wistfulness. “We have laughed and shared and become family,” he said. He went on to say,

“I treasure the time with them more than just about anything. Hopefully wherever they show up in life, I

just hope they shine,” he said.

We talked about some tough things going on, and concluded that we needed to do the best we can with what we’ve got on our watch, and after that, it is up to God to take care of the rest. There was only one thing left to do, and that was to pray. So, we did, and then it was time once again for Ronnie to roll.

Athens Mayor Ronnie Marks and AHS football Coach Cody Gross

Over the last few weeks, two groups in Limestone County hosted events benefiting the community. At the center of these events was a similar theme -- hope.

On April 20, I joined 95 ladies who gathered at the 2024 Hope Women’s Conference, held at The Grove church located on County Line Rd. Through testimony, worship, and powerful messages, we received encouragement, prayer, and hope for ourselves and future generations.

The second event, Hope for Athens, was sponsored by the Athens Limestone Ministerial Alliance in coordination with One Generation Away and Convoy of Hope. Run by roughly 400 volunteers from different churches and the community, the experience offered groceries, health services, haircuts, family portraits, children’s shoes, hope, and prayer for over 1,000 families in need.

Along with the honor of participating in both events, I felt the need to dive further into the definition of hope and the various ways it appears throughout the Bible. Merriam Webster’s Online Dictionary defines hope as, “Desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment, something desired or hoped for, and to expect with confidence.”

By using a variety of

Carissa's Corner

A Community Of Hope

by Carissa Lovvorn

authors, God provided us with His wisdom and guidance in the Bible. In the letter to the Romans, Paul reminded us that through the teachings of the Scripture we will gain patience, comfort, and hope.

Psalm 147:11 states that, “The Lord delights in those who fear Him, who put their hope in His unfailing love.”

And, by gathering together to praise our Father we will find the joy, peace, and strength that is mentioned in Romans 15:13 and Isaiah 40:31.

For those of you who are facing hardships, I am very sorry. God does not promise that this life will be easy for us. In fact, he says that it will be the opposite. However, He does promise that He has good plans for our future. Take this wellknown verse found in Jeremiah’s letter to the captives, for example, “‘For I know the plans I have for you’, declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future’” (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).

Also know that you are not alone. Thankfully, to ease our Earthly suffering, God instructs Christians to bear the burdens of our fellow man, and His love is exemplified through the generosity of His followers.

During the Hope Conference and Hope for

Athens, I witnessed our citizens unifying to provide comfort, love, joy, and courage to those in need. It seems that there is a movement happening in Limestone County as these are just two of many efforts that have recently taken place in the area. Our Heavenly Father is at work, and through the Holy Spirit, there is confidence that His wonderful plan will be achieved.

Thank you all for being a part of a community that strives to fulfill its Godly purpose. Future generations will benefit greatly.

Many Blessings, Carissa

Late on a Friday evening recently, Congress renewed Section 702 of the Foreign Intelligence Surveillance Act (FISA). I get a strange chill up my spine when the House Freedom Caucus and the ACLU find themselves aligned. Yet, there we were.

Renewal of FISA for two more years gives the US intelligence agencies the means to surveil Americans without a warrant. Proponents say that in today’s world, FISA is necessary to provide security by intercepting crime before it happens. Opponents argue that FISA is a dangerous encroachment on our 4th Amendment right against unlawful search and seizure.

It is part of the slow dribbling away of our privacy rights.

It caused a flashback to a movie called The Truman Show. Filmed just down the road in Seaside, FL, the movie followed the everyday life of a man named Truman who was unknowingly the centerpiece of a reality show. Truman lived in a fabricated world never realizing all of his friends, family, and coworkers were cast members. His every moment was contrived. For the outside world, The Truman Show was a fixation as people spent countless hours hanging on the everyday events in the life of Truman.

Rightside Way The Surveillance State

by Phil Williams

But there was a sadness to the story as it became apparent that every day saw new mind games played on him by the infamous Director Cristo. For audience pleasure, Cristo would stoke fears and stir emotions just to keep Truman in the positions needed for the show. The greater goal was the ratings and the endorsements.

Truman was likeable but sorrowful. A man who had no say in the events of his life. A man who had absolutely no privacy. A rightful sense that he was watched. Every corner of his life had a hidden camera. If he whispered to his girlfriend, the world knew it. If he dreamed of a vacation, a script was written to convince him he couldn’t go. If he sang in the shower, read a book, or drank a soda, it was all about product placement for the sponsors.

Everyone had an angle. Everyone was a manipulator. Everyone stood to gain from Truman, except Truman. Truman was duped but not a dupe himself. Suspicions set in as characters were accidentally caught out of character. He began to see through the façade. In today’s world, there is too often a complete loss of anonymity. Criminals can walk past in the grocery store and scan data off a smartphone. Credit cards can be co-opted by holding a device close to your wallet on a crowded subway. Criminals can track your movement by slipping an air pod in a gym bag.

But we don’t expect to see that kind of thing from our government. It starts with simple things like red light cameras. Insidious devices that take a picture of you as you drive by and then send you a demand in the mail months later to pay a fine or risk a warrant. No 6th Amendment right to face your accuser, just a moneymaker for the local municipality.

COVID saw proof of medical vaccination data to eat in a restaurant. It becomes a very slippery slope when we must display our private lives to be allowed to do public things.

Then there’s the farming of social media. It’s in the public domain, right?

Until you realize the government’s intent is to deal with your “misinformation” because it conflicts with the government’s narrative.

But one of the hallmarks of a free and open democracy is the ability to converse with our elected officials. We have access because they are truly our “representatives” in the halls of government. Until the surveillance state decides that may be a problem.

In 2022, Congressman Troy Nehls (R-TX) made known that Capitol Police had illegally entered his office dressed as construction workers. Nehls asserted the copying of legislative papers and grilling of his staff as to certain meetings he had. If true, it would be a heinous violation of

the Speech and Debate Clause of Article 1 Section 6 of the Constitution.

The plot thickened when 33 House Republicans sent a letter to former Speaker Pelosi calling for an investigation into alleged surveillance abuses by the Capitol Police. The letter raised concerns the Capitol Police were surveilling members of Congress, Congressional staff, and their Capitol visitors.

Some would claim that this level of police state action is necessary in the name of security. After all, “insurrection” is still a buzz word for many in the Capitol! We must be safe! We must know your business! Privacy be danged! The greater good demands it!

What it also does is put a chilling effect on the ability of members of Congress to hold meetings with concerned constituents, business interests, or for that matter, to just grill out with friends when they’re home from D.C. Without probable cause, no member of Congress or their various constituencies should expect to be surveilled.

I’ll add fuel to the fire by pointing out that Congressman Nehls is also a staunch Trump supporter who wore a t-shirt with Trump’s mugshot on it to Biden’s most recent State of the Union address. Immediately thereafter, a report was filed against him causing a House Ethics investigation of his campaign finances. Nothing to see here.

Move along, please. We deserve better than this. Citizens of this great nation deserve to know that their rights to speak freely, confront their accusers, remain free from unlawful search and seizure, or meet with duly elected officials will be preserved. Ben Franklin famously said, “Those who give up essential liberty, to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.”

If we continue down this path, we will become a society of Trumans with the government serving as Director Cristo. Keep your eyes open and smile for the camera y’all.

Phil Williams is a former state senator, retired Army colonel and combat veteran, and a practicing attorney. He has served with the leadership of the Alabama Policy Institute and currently hosts the conservative news/talkshow Rightside Radio M-F 2-5 p.m. on multiple channels throughout north Alabama. (WVNN 92.5FM/770AM-Huntsville/ Athens; WXJC 101.FM and WYDE 850AM – Birmingham/ Cullman) His column appears every Monday in 1819 News. To contact Phil or request him for a speaking engagement go to www.rightsideradio.org. The views and opinions expressed here are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the policy or position of 1819 News. To comment, please send an email with your name and contact information to Commentary@1819News.com.

What do you want to accomplish this year? What do you want to accomplish in the next three years? What do you want to accomplish in your lifetime? What do you need to achieve to look back on your life and say, “I lived a successful life”? These are important questions that need to be answered by everyone because too many people are living a life that is far from meeting their expectations. We have many people who are walking around depressed, feeling lowly, feeling rejected because they have not taken the time to think about what will bring their life purpose.

I believe one of the most important daily habits a person can do is write down their goals. It is vital for me to write down in the morning what I want to achieve. It is vital for me to write down in the evening what I want to achieve. It is vital for me to write down my goals and commit them to paper daily. Failure to do so is ultimately a failure waiting to happen in our lives. Our chances of having success diminish the longer we live life not knowing what we want to expect out of it.

Someone might say I write too much about goal setting. However, I believe I do not write enough about goal setting because there are too many people out there who still are not committing their goals to paper.

Slinkard On Success What’s Stopping You?

by D. A. Slinkard

D.A.

We think too highly of ourselves, almost as if we are too good to take the time to write our goals down -- as if it is beneath us. Too many people are accusing others of just being lucky when it comes to their success when it is not about being lucky but about being disciplined enough to make your life count.

It has been said we all have two lives, and the second life begins the moment we understand we only have one life to live. Steve Jobs, founder of Apple, would oftentimes tell people to live life as if it was their last day because eventually it will be your last day. Every one of us will have “lasts” in life. There will be the last time we talk to our parents, the last time we talk to our siblings, the last time we talk to our spouse, the last time we talk to our children, the last time we show up to work, the last time we… fill in the blank.

anteed tomorrow. What about you? Have you been living your life taking it for granted? I want to encourage you to live your life in a manner as if it was your last day. If we had this type of intensity, we would see even more success because too many of us are walking around leaving too many things undone for tomorrow. We all know that tomorrow never comes, and when our life is over, that is all she wrote.

different than yours, but I write these articles hoping to have an impact on others. Every person on this planet will come into the world and leave the world the exact same way. We can take nothing with us, but we can leave an impact on those here after us. What impact are you wanting to have on those nearest you? What do you

I know I need to make sure my conversations with my wife are sweet. I know I need to make sure my conversations with my daughters are loving because we are not guar-

I do not want anyone to take this life for granted, and the purpose of this column is to motivate people to make decisions that will help them find success. My definition of success is going to be

want to be remembered for? Too many people realize they wanted to achieve more in life, but they realize it when it is too late. Live today with the mentality that your life will be different from this point forward. Truly take the time and think about what impact you want to have and jot it down.

Reflect on what you have written and then think about ways you can bring to light what you want to accomplish. This is the early stage of bringing success to your life, and then it requires taking steps daily to move you closer to achievement. We have one life to live – why put off another day what you can easily achieve today? Write down your goals.

It’s May, so you know what that means…it’s time for the Household Hazardous Waste Collection! Because of the Limestone County Commission, we are once again able to host the annual Household Hazardous Waste Collection. Not only do they help to fund the event, but they also come out and work with us. If you’ve ever been, you know how hard we all work! We are excited to have this partnership because this event is the ONLY opportunity to dispose of most hazardous materials in Athens. This year, the collection will be on May 11 from 8 a.m.-noon in the park-

Clean, Green And Beautiful Household Hazardous Waste

by Claire Tribble - Executive Director, Keep Athens-Limestone Beautiful

ing lot of Athens Middle School. As always, this will be a drive-thru event, just drive up and we’ll take care of the rest!

There will be some changes this year to what we are accepting.

The biggest change is we WILL NOT accept motor oil. This is because the Limestone County Recycling Department accepts motor oil now! They have a large white tank on the lot that you can either leave your containers near or pour your oil into. If you chose to pour your oil, please make sure that you put the lid back on the tank and on your containers. You can always leave your containers there to be emptied and recycled! The Limestone County Recycling Department is located at 1301 North Jefferson Street. They are open Monday-Thursday from 7 a.m.-3 p.m.

Another change this year - we will only be accepting tube televisions (the old ones with the large backs). This is the only time that you can dispose of this type of TV in Athens! These televisions contain mercury, so they must be handled with caution! The transfer station will

not accept them, and they will not be picked up with bulk trash! We will not be accepting flat screens or plasma televisions or other electronics this year because they can be recycled in Athens now! You can call Keri with Limestone County Recycling (256-871-0674) to find out more details. This is the only way to dispose of these televisions in Athens as well.

The only other thing that we accepted last year but we will not this year is mercury. We will be accepting paint, paint products, lawn chemicals, pool chemicals, household chemicals, and automotive chemicals (transmission flu-

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ids, brake fluids, DEF, etc., just no motor oil). We will have the bulb cruncher there for fluorescent bulbs, we will accept medications, pesticides, and propane tanks. We just ask that no commercial load be brought to this event. And as always, NO medical waste!

If you have any questions about what will or will not be accepted, please call Keep Athens-Limestone Beautiful at 256-233-8000, or email us at KALBCares@gmail.com. We will see you there -- hopefully with sunny skies this year!

Cooking with Anna Psalms for Sleep

by Anna Hamilton

May is known as the month for Better Sleep. Do you know anyone that gets enough sleep? If you do, I would love to meet them. I, myself, am a horrible sleeper! I think describing my sleep life as horrible is actually being kind. I feel like most everyone wants more meaningful sleep in their life.

So, how do you get better sleep? The question I asked myself all the time. Finding rest can be difficult. The Bible is full of verses describing what perfect rest looks like. Taking time to focus on God will help you find a peace which in turn

Hearty Stuffed Bell Peppers

Ingredients:

½ cup uncooked white rice 4 medium bell peppers, any color

1 lb. extra lean ground beef, turkey, or chicken

3 Tbsp grated parmesan cheese

1 tsp garlic powder

½ tsp Italian seasoning

½ tsp onion powder

Salt and pepper to taste

Directions:

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Cook the rice according to package directions. Allow to cool for 10 minutes.

While rice cooks, slice the top off of each bell pepper and remove the seeds. Set aside. Remove and discard

will lead to better sleep.

Start by reflecting on who God truly is. Thinking about who God is and all He as blessed you with will help you be calm and your mind clear. Focusing on God’s blessings instead of your worries sets your mind on better things and in return focuses you on peaceful sleep. “I reflect

steam, dice remaining pepper tops.

Cook and brown ground beef. Combine cooked rice, ground beef, onion, diced pepper, garlic, ¼ cup of the tomato juice, parmesan, and spices in a large bowl. Spoon the rice mixture evenly into the bell peppers. Place the peppers in a 3-quart deep dish. Pour the remaining tomato juice around the peppers. Cover the dish with foil and bake for 25-30 minutes, or until the peppers are tender. Remove from the oven and let cool for a few minutes before serving.

Health and Fitness

Unlocking Happiness: How CrossFit Can Transform Your Life

by Nick Niedzwiecki - Owner, CrossFit Athens

In today’s fast-paced world, finding happiness can sometimes feel like chasing a mirage in the desert. We often seek happiness in external possessions or achievements, forgetting that true happiness stems from within. One avenue that offers not only physical fitness but also mental and emotional well-being is CrossFit. Beyond its reputation for intense workouts and competitive spirit, CrossFit has the power to revolutionize your life and unlock the happiness you deserve.

1. Community and Support

CrossFit isn’t just about lifting weights or completing WODs (Workout of the Day); it's about being part of a community. The camaraderie and support within a CrossFit box (gym) create a sense of belonging and connection. Whether you’re a seasoned athlete or a beginner, you’ll find encouragement from coaches and fellow members alike. This sense of community fosters friendships, accountability, and a shared journey towards better health and happiness.

2. Goal Setting and Achievement

Setting and achieving goals is fundamental to happi-

ness. In CrossFit, every workout is an opportunity to challenge yourself and set new personal records. Whether it’s completing your first pull-up or mastering a complex movement like the snatch, each accomplishment boosts your confidence and self-esteem. The satisfaction of overcoming obstacles and seeing tangible progress fosters a sense of fulfillment and purpose.

3. Physical Health and Endorphins

Exercise has long been associated with improved mood and reduced stress levels. CrossFit’s varied workouts -- combining elements of weightlifting, gymnastics, and cardio -- provide a fullbody workout that not only improves physical fitness but also releases endorphins, your body's natural mood lifters. The euphoric feeling post-workout, often referred to as the "CrossFit high," leaves you feeling energized and positive, ready to tackle whatever challenges come your way.

4. Mental Toughness and Resilience

CrossFit isn’t just about physical strength; it also builds mental toughness and resilience. Pushing through tough workouts, facing fears of failure, and persevering

when the going gets tough all contribute to mental fortitude. These skills learned in the gym translate into everyday life, helping you navigate challenges with a resilient mindset. As you overcome obstacles in your CrossFit journey, you develop the confidence to tackle challenges outside the gym, leading to greater happiness and fulfillment.

5. Mind-Body Connection

CrossFit emphasizes the importance of the mind-body connection. Each workout requires focus, concentration, and mindfulness to execute movements safely and efficiently. By tuning into your body’s cues and

pushing past mental barriers, you develop a deeper understanding of yourself and your capabilities. This awareness extends beyond the gym, empowering you to make healthier choices in all aspects of your life, from nutrition to stress management.

6. Celebrating Progress, Not Perfection

In CrossFit, there’s no room for perfectionism. Instead, progress is celebrated, no matter how small. This mindset shift from perfection to progress fosters selfcompassion and acceptance. Rather than being critical of yourself for not measuring up to unrealistic standards,

you learn to appreciate the journey and celebrate your achievements along the way. This shift in perspective cultivates a greater sense of self-worth and contentment. In a world where happiness can feel elusive, CrossFit offers a path to holistic wellbeing. Through its emphasis on community, goal setting, physical health, mental toughness, mind-body connection, and celebrating progress, CrossFit has the power to transform not only your body but also your mind and spirit. So lace up your sneakers, step into the box, and embark on a journey to unlock the happiness you deserve—one squat, one rep, one smile at a time.

Parlor 127: Recreating A Building For Beauty

by Ali Elizabeth Turner

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by the Creek building on Jefferson Street became available, they took a deep breath and went for it. This week they had their ribbon cutting sponsored by the Chamber of Commerce, and the story of restoration, renovation, and ultimately, recreation is an inspiring one.

Parlor 127, which is located at 517 S. Jefferson in Athens has housed several businesses over the years. What was a two-story log cabin long ago had been relocated to Athens and ultimately, sat empty for several years. To say that it needed a great deal of tender love and care is an understatement. Erik Waddel with the City of Athens investigated it for me, and it seems no one knows of its exact origin or age, but it has been at the current location for “well over 40 years.” Haleigh was quick to point out that without friends, as well as the sacrifice of her dad, Bobby Crawford, and her husband, Zachary, Parlor 127 would have never gotten past the dream stage. I had been in the old building several times years ago, and the transformation is stunning.

Before we talk about this beauty of a building that is dedicated to adding far more than beauty in the community, the meaning behind the name “Parlor 127” is part of a tale worth telling. The twins, who are avid and excellent dancers who have trained

for years at Kelly’s Studio of Dance were both born two days after Christmas 10 years ago. That is part of the “127,” and because Jefferson becomes AL Hwy 127 going north after you cross Elm Street/Hwy 99, voilà, you have “127.” The “Parlor” part has to do with the full circle of historically referring first to beauty parlors, then beauty shops, then hair salons, and now back to simply “parlor.”

Haleigh also hopes to add a barber, so Parlor 127 seems like a good fit for guys, too.

The inside of the building is in keeping with the unique features of the original, with some post and beam as well as exposed ceilings. It is also blended with some contemporary touches, and a traditional-but-current brick exterior. All of it just works, and it is cozy, inviting, and sharp. It has all new insulation, wiring, HVAC and sheetrock. They tried valiantly to save the original wood floors, but

could not. On the walls in the waiting area there is a beautiful photo journal arrangement of some of the things they discovered as they gutted the building, as well as black and white photos of various celebrities that Haleigh described as “beautiful-but-deep.” The walls are painted a deep green, which is one of Haleigh’s favorite colors, and the mirrors are edged in gold. The open shelving for supplies also functions as part of the décor.

At present, Haleigh has one stylist and herself but is looking to add several more in the near future. One of the visions for the facility is room for expansion and growth. The building has capacity for several more stylists, barbers, and other personal care professionals. Haleigh’s customers (whom she has had for years, as well as newer ones) followed her first to a temporary location in downtown Athens while

the “reno” was going on, and now to Parlor 127 in its newly finished state. Business is brisk and by appointment, and walkins can be worked in between appointments. Both Haleigh and Parlor 127 stylist, Casey Mays, especially enjoy doing “special event hair,” meaning, styling for proms, weddings, galas, etc. Casey also loves to do hair and make-up for bridal parties, as well as spray tans.

Recently Haleigh underwent a certification process with an organization called Wigs for Kids. People donate hair for children who have undergone chemo, brain surgery, have had burns, accidents, or as is the case that inspired Haleigh, have been diagnosed with alopecia. Alopecia is an auto-immune disorder that causes hair to fall out, often in clumps, and one of the twins’ friends

has been open about her struggle. Haleigh wanted to position herself to be paired by the Wigs for Kids organization with the girl, and things are moving forward to make that wig a reality. Wigs for Kids charges no fee to the child or their family, and more information can be found at https://www. wigsforkids.org.

Call Parlor 127 to see what Haleigh happily calls a “labor of love,” and enjoy a beautiful building that now specializes in building beauty. Cricket by the Creek is now Parlor 127, and we have cause to celebrate!

Parlor 127

517 S Jefferson Athens, AL 35611

246-444-0438 by appointment

Facebook and Instagram: Parlor 127

The trip was months in planning and anticipation. Money that was squirreled away just for this trip was drained in five clicks of the mouse. The tickets to every attraction were bought. Blogs were read, travel tips memorized. The schedule was meticulously written and re-written, polished and massaged until it was perfect. Every day would be filled with wonder, delight, tasty treats, and wellplaced naps.

The bags were packed and arranged in a manner that would make even Amazon amazed at the logistics (Seriously, you rocked it. If the phone rings, answer it. It might be Amazon with a job offer.) The vacation started even before the vacation, because anticipation might be the most delicious part of travel.

This was it! The BIG TRIP™. THE trip that everyone would remember throughout their lives. The trip that would live in fame and artistically styled Instagram photos. If there was ever a Nobel Prize for trips, this would definitely be in the running. This was your one chance to have the Perfect Family Trip ™.

The few days before, though, were almost unbearable -- minutes measured in calendar years for the kids, and busy, frantic days filled with last minute “must dos” passed in a blink for you: Water the plants, take the dog to boarding, talk to the neighbors about mail. Clean the fridge. Clean the house. Last minute laundry. Last minute banking. Everything “last minute.” If you can just make it to the air-

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port by 6 a.m....

The day arrives. The BIG DAY! No one, of course, had slept a wink. The kids were more rambunctious than usual, meaning that the trip to the airport was loud, frantic, and late.

Run through check-in. Race through security with mild panic—were there any liquids in 3.5 ounce bottles instead of 3 ounce bottles? Will they separate the kids from Mom and Dad? What if the line was long and the flight was missed? Is it better to have slip-on shoes for speed through security or lace-up shoes in case there is a problem with the plane?

With a minimum of tears and maximum of stress, security is cleared. Another puzzling race through concourses and trams and gates and finally it’s time to sit…

Except someone has to go to the bathroom. And someone is hungry. And someone wants to look out the window and someone needs to stay with the carry-ons, and who is that weird guy and is he looking at the kids? Charlie Brown’s teacher apparently has been hired by the airport to give Very Important Announcements and everything sounds like “Attention. Waaa waa wawawa, waaa wa, please wa wa wa, immediately!” It’s okay. Just make it on the plane and everyone will have to sit strapped in until landing. Dramamine for everyone, just in case, and there is only a tiny bit of Mom guilt that you bought the drowsy kind, not the non-drowsy kind. You reassure yourself that it is for the best because they will need to be well rested for

the next part of The Big Trip.

A little turbulence, but not too much. Slightly cramped seats, but the budget wouldn’t allow first class and speed passes. The Dramamine and the screens kept the kids quiet for the flight. It wasn’t much of a rest, but it was enough for you to catch your breath.

Each bump of the landing built more excitement (which is the kindest word for mild panic). You were even able to force a fake smile to those who apparently thought that they needed to be first off the plane, as if you weren’t going to be waiting at the same luggage carousel for 20 minutes. You are too much of a lady to smirk at them when your luggage comes off first, but you no-

ticed. Oh, you definitely noticed.

Everyone is excited about the rental van with its built in this and automatic that. You gaze out the window with a contented sigh. The clouds are puffy and tall. The horizon is a little dark, but that’s fine, you knew that there could be a little rai...shoot, you forgot to pack raingear! In your very diligent studies, you read that going to the parks in the rain is actually a good thing -- most people stay indoors and the lines are shorter. You checked the weather a few days ago, but somewhere between last-minute lawn mowing and rescheduling a dentist appointment, you forgot to pack raingear. No worries, there are Walmarts everywhere. As long as it doesn’t thunder...

Oscar’s Taco Shop Athens: The Best Baja Around

by Ali Elizabeth Turner

continued from page 1

all over that nation, their stuff is the delicious real deal, and they demonstrate that the American Dream is still very much alive. Two generations later, the grandkids are now opening restaurants, the most recent of which is at 1260 US Hwy 72 E Suite A, and is located just down from Starbucks and Smoothie King.

I sat down with Adrian, who is the grandson of Javier, and who opened the Athens location in partnership with his Uncle Enrique, who goes by Ricky. I began to learn of their amazing story, and I am sure the tales of blood, sweat, toils, and tears could fill more than one book. He spoke with obvious affection and honor for his family as he told me their history.

Uncle David was the one who taught Javier everything about the restaurant business, and in 1967, Cotija’s Taco Shop opened in San Diego. There have actually been people who have come to the new location, have seen the sign on the wall that tells

some of Oscar’s history, and have exclaimed, “I have eaten there!” Between 7 brothers who have carried on the family business, there are now 33 restaurants, and Javier is still working. Years ago, Adrian moved to Springhill, Tennessee where he finished high school. He then opened Cali Burrito in 2017, and Adrian still wears his Cali Burrito hat proudly. “Honestly, it was rough,” he said. He then told me about the times he felt like he had made a mistake and the restaurant was not going to make it. However, there is a lot of collective wisdom in this family as well as from his wife, and he was told, “Wait 18 months and see what happens.” Sure enough, when they

got over the 18-month hump, they began to flourish. Now the Oscar’s Taco Shop location in Athens is both open and thriving. He has also been blessed with a two-year-old and a newborn, and those boys are the light of his life.

What is the Oscar’s Taco Shop secret? “Everything is made from scratch,” Adrian said. The proof of that in any establishment is always going to be in the salsa, and as I poured salsa verde on my burrito bowl and took a generous bite, I knew he was right. It truly was some of the best I have ever had. Somehow, at Oscar’s they have managed to blend authentic homemade Baja with the convenience of fast food, and it just works. Adrian brought out Javier for me to meet, and I am so pleased to picture him in this article. He is man who has poured his kindness and wisdom into his family and his customers, and

it shows up in the food. Oscar’s Taco Shop also enjoys honoring seniors by offering a 15% percent discount on Wednesdays!

The brothers have an interesting arrangement when it comes to expanding and opening new shops. They have all agreed that they will maintain a ten-mile, non-compete radius around each shop; so if you see a new Oscar’s Taco Shop opening anywhere in the area, just know that they are operating within the design of the family business.

Another thing that Adrian told me is that when they hire people who have worked in other establishments, most often they have worked either exclusively out front or in the back, and have just had one job, such as cooking or food prep. At Oscar’s, if you choose to work there, you are going to learn the whole operation.

The cross-training is a smart move, and it serves to bring a well-rounded experience for the staff. It also works well in the event that someone may be interested in opening their own Oscar’s Taco Shop, and that has happened more than once. You do not have to be a Ruiz by blood in order to own an Oscar’s Taco Shop, but you certainly will be adopted into the family if you do.

There are tacos, burritos, fajitas, bowls, fries, quesadillas, salads, breakfast burritos, and more. You can eat in, take it to go, pick it up at the window, or order online. Whichever way you choose, you will be giving your tummy a treat that will feel like it was made with love…because it was. Visit Oscar’s Taco Shop today and see what happens when a family creates a coastto-coast opportunity to experience authentic Southern California Mexican food.

Oscar’s Taco

1260 US Hwy 72 E STE A, Athens, AL 35611

Hours: 7 a.m.-8 p.m.

Mon-Sat, closed Sun

Phone: (256) 262-9030

Web: https://oscarstacoshop.com/athens-alabama/ Instagram: Oscar’s Taco Shop

Co-owner Adrian Ruiz enjoying the Baja fare at Oscar's Taco Shop, Athens

In the complex landscape of leadership and team management, the interplay between trust, respect, and accountability forms the bedrock upon which successful teams are built. Understanding how to balance these elements can transform the way leaders guide their teams, influence outcomes, and shape the culture within organizations. This article explores the intricate dynamics of these three components and provides actionable insights for leaders across corporate sectors, small businesses, religious organizations, and nonprofits.

The Foundation of Trust

Trust within a team signifies the belief in each member's capabilities, intentions, and commitment to the collective goal. It is the assurance that allows delegation and the sharing of responsibilities without the constant need for verification or oversight. This level of trust doesn’t materialize out of naiveté or blind optimism but emerges from a leader's genuine confidence in their team's competence and character.

To build this kind of trust, leaders should:

• Demonstrate vulnerability, showing they do not have all the answers.

• Encourage open com-

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munication and transparency.

• Celebrate successes and approach failures as learning opportunities.

• Show consistent behavior and actions that align with their words. The absence of trust leads to micromanagement, a culture of blame, and an environment stifled of innovation and growth. In contrast, when leaders exhibit trust, it empowers team members, fosters a sense of ownership, and stimulates creativity.

The Role of Respect

Respect in leadership transcends mere admiration; it is the recognition of the value and abilities of others. It is almost impossible to truly trust someone you don’t respect. Conversely, respect naturally breeds trust. When leaders treat team members with respect, it doesn’t just elevate the individual’s sense of worth but also enhances team cohesion and morale.

Leaders show respect by:

• Actively listening to team members’ inputs and concerns.

• Acknowledging and valuing diverse perspectives and skills.

• Providing constructive feedback in a manner that builds up rather than tears down.

• Offering support and resources needed for team members to perform their roles effectively.

Respect within a team promotes a culture where every member feels valued and understood, paving the way for robust collaboration and innovative problem-solving.

Cultivating Accountability

Accountability should not be confused with punitive measures for not meeting expectations. Instead, it's about creating a culture where every team member feels responsible for their part in achieving the team's objectives. It involves setting clear expectations, providing regular feedback, and holding everyone, including leadership, accountable for their actions and contributions. This accountability fosters a highperforming team culture that is results-oriented and committed to continuous improvement.

To nurture accountability, leaders can:

• Clearly define roles, expectations, and goals for every team member.

• Implement fair systems for tracking progress and evaluating performance.

• Regularly celebrate achievements and constructively address shortcomings.

• Model accountability by owning up to mistakes and demonstrating commitment to personal and team growth.

Leaders who strike the right balance between demanding accountabil-

ity and offering support pave the way for teams that are not only productive but also resilient and adaptive to change.

Striking the Balance

The equilibrium between trust, respect, and accountability is delicate. Overemphasis on one element without the others can lead to dysfunction within the team. For instance, trust without accountability may foster a laid-back culture lacking direction and urgency, while accountability without trust can create a tense atmosphere filled with fear and suspicion.

Leaders must therefore:

• Foster trust by believing in their team's capability and intent.

• Cultivate respect to build a foundation of mutual appreciation and understanding.

• Demand accountability to ensure individual responsibilities align with team and organizational goals.

By mastering the balance of trust, respect, and accountability, leaders not only enhance team performance but also contribute to creating a positive and sustainable organizational culture. This balance is not achieved overnight but through consistent practice, reflection, and adjustment to the nuances of each team's unique dynamic.

Trust and naiveté, though seemingly similar, diverge significantly in

their implications within a team setting. Trust is a calculated decision to rely on someone's capabilities and intentions, grounded in past experiences, evidence, or the strength of a relationship. It involves acknowledging the risks but choosing to believe in the team's commitment and competence. Naiveté, on the other hand, signifies a lack of discernment or experience, leading to unfounded confidence in others without sufficient basis. This distinction is critical for leaders who aim to foster a healthy team environment. Trust empowers team members by giving them autonomy and responsibility, thereby fostering a culture of accountability and mutual respect. Naiveté, however, can make leaders and teams vulnerable to repeated disappointments, undermining the team's effectiveness and morale. Hence, cultivating trust requires not just faith in one's team but also the wisdom to recognize and mitigate potential risks.

In conclusion, the art of leadership significantly revolves around the dynamics of trust, respect, and accountability. Leaders who skillfully weave these elements into the fabric of their teams empower their members to achieve remarkable results while fostering an environment where innovation, collaboration, and growth thrive.

The last time we were together, we looked at how “doses” of criticism can be likened to “doses” of medicine. We considered analogy #1: The dosage must be administered properly to avoid serious side-effects, or at least unnecessary discomfort. Many books have been written on how to give constructive criticism. You may have read quite a few of those through the years and hopefully benefitted from their wisdom. However, there is much less help on how to cope with life’s multitudes of criticisms in ways that enable us to benefit rather than be harmed by criticisms. Uncovering that wisdom has been my desire, and over the course of 40+ years, I have given much thought and study to the quest. A point to consider here is that we cannot usually dic-

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How “Doses Of Criticism” Are Like “Doses Of Medicines” Part II

by Detri McGhee - Certified Life Underwriter, Chartered Financial Counselor

tate HOW criticism will be delivered to us. And, we are unwise to refuse to consider criticism if it comes from a source we don’t like or is delivered in an embarrassing or inappropriate way. But a more important truth to develop deep in our psyche is the understanding that how deeply any other person’s words, thoughts, and judgments can control us is 100% OUR CHOICE. If someone “ruins my day,” it can only be with my permission! That power is MINE, and I am the only one who can choose to give that power to someone else.

That can be a bit frustrating when we realize how true it is. It means we must accept and USE the authority we have to control and manage our emotions, feelings, thoughts, and actions. No more blaming others!

How

much fun is that?!

While there are many more lessons to learn from point #1, let’s move on to analogy #2: Criticism, like drugs, can be life-giving, life-altering, or even lifetaking. What do the following true-life headline makers have in common?

• Eleven - & 13-year-old boys ambush innocent teachers & classmates

• Estranged husband murders wife and 3 small children

• Depressed teen attempts suicide when rejected by girlfriend

• High school star athlete beats girlfriend who attempts break-up

• Jessica Savage, once-famous newscaster, hid severe emotional problems from childhood rejection by her father

In every scenario, these horrible actions were committed by those who never learned how to appropriately handle criticism. They were so negatively affected by the rejection, criticism, bullying of others, that they believed they had the right to act as they did. The pain they experienced was so great that their only thoughts were anger, revenge, and causing pain to others.

Before we dish out criticism, and act as judge/ jury/executioner toward others, we would be wise to consider the potential effects of such actions. Remember, you can choose to bully someone, but you cannot choose the consequences. You can choose to call people names, place labels on them, criticize their work, or looks or

possessions…but you cannot choose their response. And, in today's world, those possibilities are far more dangerous than ever before. Much of the criticism we receive today is likely unnecessary. But, when it IS needed, we must show wisdom and maturity in choosing how, when, and where we will respond.

Whether you are giving or receiving criticism, may I encourage you to ACT, rather than REACT, and remember that the choices you make do have consequences. Think things through and develop within your own self the ability to handle whatever comes your way with wisdom, control, and thought. I would love to hear your thoughts. www.criticismmanagement.com detrimcghee@gmail.com

Dog Barker What To Do/Not Do When Meeting A New Dog

by Joel Allen

Hello, folks. I hope all is well. Years ago, back before COVID, I was in Ardmore, Alabama, with my parents. We decided to eat breakfast at Hardee’s and I had brought Zoey (border collie/heeler mix service dog) along with us. Because I knew we would not be in Hardee’s long I decided not to take Zoey in. I sat at a table where I could watch the vehicle Zoey was in with the windows down.

As time went by waiting for our meals, my mom approached the table as I watch another vehicle pull up next to ours. Now, I am watching Zoey to ensure she does not act out or have anyone cause her to. There were three people I could see in the other vehicle getting ready to get out. I noticed the driver look at Zoey, and the look on his face said it all. I elbowed Mom and said, “Not sure, but I think this guy is about to reach into the vehicle and try to pet Zoey. I hope not but he has that look.”

Mom and I watched as the guy stepped out of his vehicle, and I read his lips saying, “Awe! You’re a pretty girl.” Zoey never moved until he reached in the window, and as quick as lightening, she goosed his hand. I say “goosed” because she did not draw blood but inflicted enough pain to make him think twice. Well, I am trying not to laugh (I know, demented soldier humor here) and Mom is going, “That was dumb.” LOL! Then the man’s wife, I am assuming, came around the vehicle, saw the man holding his hand, and I saw her say, “What happened?” The man replied, “That dog bit me!” The woman looked in and saw Zoey, and I told Mom what she was said -- “Awe! What a pretty baby.” Then she reached her hand in and got nailed! By this time, I said, “Mom, there is no way people are this naïve.” Well, we were sitting there watching these two looking sullen and holding their hands when, I am guessing, the mother/mother-in-law

walked around the vehicle. I stated right then, “Surely she won’t do what they did, surely.” The woman looked at the two holding their hands and asked, “What’s wrong with you two?” They replied, “That dog bit us!” She replied to them both, “Well! Don’t reach your hand in there stupid!” I had to laugh at the whole scenario and to my surprise the couple never came into Hardee’s wanting to know who owned Zoey. I call her my “Nibbler” when she is not working. Lord, don’t touch the vehicle she is in if she is not working either! I hope everyone learned from that true story what we are going to talk about. So, with a pinch of common sense and a little knowledge, we can make this outcome turn out differently when meeting a new dog. A rule I tend to speak and say for all involved is, “Low and slow.” What do I mean by this? I have anyone meeting my dogs to lower their hands below the muzzle of the dog and allow the

canine family member to smell them first, and the dog’s reaction will decide whether we proceed through the introduction. If the dog accepts the person who extends their hand out, it will remain in place. As that person looks into the dog’s face and we both see no telltale signs of rejection/aggression, we will proceed with petting under the muzzle and easing their hand above their head. A person should never reach above the head of a dog that does not know them. It can be misread as a challenge and might get that person bit.

Another rule I like to observe when meeting and greeting a dog I do not know is to make no sudden movements around them. If there are children, and I mean young children that have to be watched and monitored around the dog, I advise getting them away temporarily until the dog settles down. Screaming and crying can really cause a dog to get nervous. I have seen this happen. The dog was so nervous that when the kids were running and playing and, of course, yelling, the dog bit an adult because it felt the children were in danger. The exact look on the dog was, “Oh, you’re the bad man!” and chomp!

So, what do we do when meeting a dog we do not know? Yes, we leave it alone unless there is an owner present who is watching and controlling their dog. Another rule of common sense is don’t touch a dog that is eating. Most dogs are “foodies.”

If they don’t know someone who reaches toward their dog dish, the dog might decide not to share, and that can cause a problem…chomp!

If ever a dog bite happens, remember these questions:

• To the person who was bitten, “What were you doing when it happened?”

• “What was the dog doing at the time?”

• To the owner, “Where were you and what were you doing?”

That’s just the way I roll when faced with this situation. So, a quick recap. We do not approach a dog we do not know. We do not make eye contact with them either. If we are meeting them, we have the owner there to assist in the “meet and greet.” Pay attention to the dog’s body language. If their hackles are up or they have an orblike look to their eyes, do not continue to reach or approach. Other than this, have a good time meeting a new dog. Just be careful and never assume anything until the dog knows who you are. See everyone next month and God bless!

“Remember to love your dogs because they love you. Maybe not the way you want them to, like chewing up your favorite shoes or what not, but that is just love chewing. Be thankful for the time you have with them always.”

Joel Allen

Space For What’s Important: Declutter & Organize Your Time

by Sonya Fehér

Prioritizing your priorities means more than just making a list; it's about aligning your actions with your goals. Here are five steps to help you prioritize what’s important to you.

1. Assess What You’re Prioritizing

Step one is to track your time to see how you're actually spending it. To do this, you might like to fill out a time log for a day or a week so you can get a detailed picture of how you’re spending your time. Or you might just create a rough sketch. This doesn’t have to be minute by minute. The goal is to see in broad strokes how you’re spending your days.

If you break your day or week down into the hours you spend doing something, you’ll find what you’re actually prioritizing. This list will likely include some things you feel good about spending your time on and some time that just feels wasted.

2. Create A Priorities List

Next, consider your life aspirations, big and small. This can include bucket list goals and daily habits you’d like to cultivate. What makes a day feel well spent? What would you like to be working towards? When you consider the time log or sketch you made of how you’re currently spending your time, consider what you wish was on there instead.

3. Determine What You Want To Prioritize

Once you’ve considered what you want to spend less time on or eliminate from your schedule altogether and what you want to make any or more time for, you can determine what you want to prioritize now.

While some items on your list may be a daily habit, others may be a larger goal that needs incremental time spent

to accomplish it or a large block of time all at once. For instance, if you’re trying to establish a regular exercise routine, the tasks will be different than if you want to take a monthlong RV trip across the country.

Pick something you’d like to prioritize. The time it will take might be a month, till the end of the year, or something that’s part of a five-year or longer plan.

Write down the steps it will take to achieve that goal.

4. Block Out Time

Make an appointment with yourself or anyone else you might need to help you complete the tasks or accomplish your goals. Show up for that appointment in the way you would a commitment to another person, whether lunch with a friend or a teeth cleaning. If something comes

up in the time you had scheduled to work on your priorities, be sure to reschedule your appointment to another time or day. Don’t let it fall off your calendar.

For many of these priorities, you won’t be scheduling just one time. You’ll need to schedule time for each step, maybe multiple times in the short term or a daily block of time for as long as you’re maintaining the habit or behavior.

5. Prioritize Your Priorities

Making your priorities a priority means that you actually spend time on what’s important to you rather than simply thinking about it. You identify what you want and the steps needed to get there, you block out the time to do it, and then actually do it.

Prioritizing your priorities means taking action. Make the commitment to spend time on what truly matters to you.

If you’d like a free copy of my time decluttering and organizing kit, email me at sonya@spacewise organizing.com and I’ll send it your way. And, if you’d like advice about organizing a particular area of your home or life, email me for a chance to have it featured in a future article.

I’d love to help!

Sonya Fehér Organizer, Coach, Author, & Speaker

https://spacewise organizing.com

The Alternative Approach

The Silica Secret

by Roy Williams

In the Bible we learn that God created man from the dust of the earth. Ever wondered what dust actually is? After talking to a natural medicine expert, I learned that dust is a mineral called silica.

Silica is one of the trace minerals that is in sand, crystals, and some foods such as brown rice, cabbage, whole wheat, and one of the best sources for consumption is sugar cane. At one time the state with the least cavities, tooth loss, receding gums, and gum disease was Hawaii. In fact, gum disease and tooth decay were so non-existent that there were practically no dentists in that state.

What was the secret?

Almost the entire population chewed on sugar cane, which is very high in silica. Unfortunately, when it comes to the foods that are high in silica, such as those mentioned above, the absorption rate is so small that you would have to eat those foods with at least two meals every day just to get the amount your body requires. As a result, almost every American is

What does a silica deficiency look like? There are eleven levels of deficiency. A zero means you have no deficiency at all. Level 1 - 5 deficiencies can cause hair loss, weak or brittle fingernails, and thinning of the skin to receding gums, tooth decay, varicose veins, spider veins, joint tenderness, and arthritis. At levels 6 to 11, your health is severely compromised, which may include irregular heartbeat, extreme fatigue, cognitive disorders, and autoimmune issues such as psoriasis, Crohn’s, rheumatoid arthritis, and even Hashimoto disease.

In order to help address a silica deficiency, some people choose supplements like horsetail. The problem is absorption. Most studies show that only about one percent of any of those supplements are actually utilized by the human body. That means you would have to take 100 tablets or capsules to absorb just one.

Back in 1958, a company called Positive Power developed a liquid called Super Silica. When added to water, it delivers 60 times more silica at a cel-

Your Friend in Health, Roy P Williams deficient.

lular level than any other silica product on the market. After 62 years, Super Silica is still their number one selling product and for good reason.

Drinking at least a halfgallon of water every day is now recognized as a must-do for anyone wishing to maintain hydration; support softer, healthier skin; and help with detoxification. Using Super Silica is as simple as putting 12 drops in 16 ounces of clean water four times a day to support better health. It gives your water a really clean refreshing taste, almost like drinking water with a squeeze of lemon added.

Burt Golding has become a regular on our radio show called Today’s Health Update, which can be heard on WKAC 1080 AM Monday – Friday from 9 - 9:30 a.m. in the Athens area and on WBTG 106.3 FM from noon - 12:30 p.m. in the Shoals. Burt is the go-to man when it comes to

Super Silica, with over 20 years’ experience. To hear him talk about this life changing product, simply go to www. nhc19.podbean.dom and look for the programs titled Silica.

In today’s world, many people are suffering from Alzheimer’s or dementia, bipolar disorder, and other cognitive diseases. One of the problems with brain function is flexibility. As we age, and are exposed to heavy metals, such as aluminum and unchecked calcium, our brain becomes rigid. Think of a jellyfish swimming in the ocean. It moves and pulsates in order to travel. A healthy brain functions in much the same way. Yes, believe it or not, your brain must pulsate in order to function as God intended. Without enough silica, the brain, just like arteries, can become rigid, which leads to many disease related problems.

The same is true of ligaments, tendons, and

joints in the body. When those parts of the body become rigid, you will experience inflammation and pain called arthritis.

It is now well understood that following the instructions given above, your silica levels will increase fast enough to reverse the deficiency by one level each month. In other words, if you are a level 5 with wrinkles, weak fingernails, and hair loss it may take five months to acquire enough silica to reverse those symptoms.

By supporting your health at a cellular level with Super Silica, you can be confident that your body can and will over time heal itself. To learn more, go by Herbs & More in Athens or NHC Herb Shop in Killen and get the free CD called The Silica Secret.

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Psalms for Sleep

by Anna Hamilton

at night on who you are, O Lord; therefore, I obey your instructions.” Psalm 119:55

Think about God’s promises. As Christians, we aren’t promised an easy life, but we are promised to be taken care of always. The Lord loves us and always wants the best for our lives. Even when our world seems impossible to navigate, God is always there and will never fail us. So, when you are awake at night, starring at the ceiling, focus on the beautiful promise of God. “I stay awake through the night, thinking about your promise.” Psalm 119:148

Proclaim God’s faithfulness. Saying prayers of thanksgiving offers you true perspective of just how faithful God has been in your life. Not only will focusing on blessings make you at peace for better sleep, it will also make you at peace in your waking life as well. “It is good to proclaim your unfailing love in the morning, your faithfulness in the evening” Psalm 92:2

Sing praise to the Lord. There have been so many times when praying just would not work. Words would not come to mind, only songs. So instead of trying to force myself to come up with the right thing to say, I would just sing to the Lord. Words of thankfulness, words of hope, words of love. Singing can calm the body and mind. “But each day the Lord pours His unfailing love upon me, and through each night I sing His songs.” Psalm 42:8

Thank God. As simple as it sounds, just be thankful. Staying in the mindset of worry and what all you need in your life, focus on thanks. Being a thankful person provides so much more peace thank being one full of worry and never being satisfied. Be thankful. “I rise at midnight

to thank you for your just regulations.” Psalm 119:62

The next time you find yourself laying in bed unable to sleep, I hope you try reflecting on these few principles. Reflect on who God is, think about God’s promises, proclaim God’s faithfulness, sing to God, and thank God. Doing these things not only will provide you better sleep, but will also provide you a better tomorrow.

This week’s recipe is the perfect one dish dinner. It is a crowd pleaser, easy to prepare, and full of yummy ingredients. I hope you love it as much as my family does.

“In peace I will lie down and sleep, for you alone, Lord, make me swell in safety.” Psalm 4:8

“The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.”

- E. E. Cummings

As early as the 13th century, physicians used humor in medicine to alleviate pain. Often, stories were told using dark comedy or “gallows” humor to distract patients from their physical pain. But by the 20th century, researchers began to study the science behind laughter’s visible healing benefits. Norman Cousins, a political journalist and editor of the New York Evening Post discovered that watching funny movies helped decrease his pain and helped him eventually recover from a life-threatening illness. In 1979, Cousins’ book, Anatomy of an Illness, described his experience and laid the groundwork for laughter therapy and its power to heal.

Mental Health Minute

L Is For Laughter Therapy

by Lisa Philippart, Licensed Professional Counselor

Today, we know that laughter therapy can provide physical, mental, and social benefits. Physically, laughter increases your oxygen intake, relaxes muscles throughout the body, stimulates your heart and lungs, and even boosts your immunity. Research also shows that laughter produces melatonin, which helps you sleep. A good hearty laugh releases endorphins in your body, the natural feel-good chemicals, which can promote an overall sense of wellbeing and relieve pain. Mentally, laughter can reduce stress and anxiety, improve overall attitude, promote relaxation, and even lower depression levels. Need to lighten anger’s heavy load? Nothing diffuses anger and frustration faster than a shared laugh. Looking at the funny side can put problems into perspective and enable you to move on. Laughter may even help you to live longer through strengthening your resilience. A study

in Norway found that people with a strong sense of humor outlived those who didn’t laugh as much.

Socially, laughter can strengthen relationships, attract others to us and us to others, enhance teamwork, and help diffuse conflict. Laughter makes you feel good, and that good feeling stays with you even after the laughter subsides. So, what exactly is laughter therapy? Laughter or humor therapy is the use of humor to promote overall health and wellness by using the natural physiological process of laughter to help relieve physical or emotional stresses or discomfort. Mental health therapists can receive training to learn specific techniques to use laughter as a healing tool. But you can learn how to practice laughter therapy on your own. Here are some ways to start: 1. Spend time with fun/ playful people. Have you noticed that some people are

just naturally funny? These people laugh easily, both at themselves and at life’s silliness. Even if you don’t consider yourself lighthearted, you can still seek out people who like to laugh and to make others laugh.

2. Smile. Smiling is the beginning of laughter, and like laughter, is contagious. When you look at someone or see something pleasing, practice smiling. Then notice the effect it has on you and on others.

3. Create a laughter file. Either electronically or hard copy, collect items that make you laugh. I keep a file folder

of funny stories, photos, comics, and letters that I know will cheer me up and make me laugh over and over again.

4. Play with a pet. Your pet just naturally loves to play and have fun. And dog owners laugh more frequently!

5. Watch a funny movie, TV show, or YouTube video. I’ll bet you have a movie that you watch over and over again, and you laugh just as hard every time. Or you can subscribe to your favorite comedian on YouTube, to receive the latest episodes.

6. Count your blessings. Make a list. Simply considering the good things in your life will distance you from those negative thoughts that create a barrier to laughter. When you are sad, you have further to travel to get to humor.

The ability to laugh, play, and have fun with others will not only make life more enjoyable, but also help you to be more creative and connect with others. Laughter raises you up to a place where your perspective becomes more relaxed, positive, and joyful. Have a good laugh!

Lisa Philippart is a Licensed Professional Counselor whose practice is in Madison, Alabama