Atlanta Jewish Times, XCIV No. 17, April 26, 2019

NEXT WEEK: SPA & BEAUTY

VOL. XCIV NO. 17 | SENIOR LIVING

APRIL 26, 2019 | 21 NISAN 5779

YOM HASHOAH PREVIEW LOCAL EVENTS HONORING NEXT WEEK’S DAY OF REMEMBRANCE.

ANTI-GILEE MEASURES FAIL STUDENT SENATE ATTEMPTS RESOLUTION TO ENCOURAGE GSU TO WITHDRAW FROM THE PROGRAM.

MODL STARTUP OVERFLOWS JEWISH UGA GRADS KICKSTART INNOVATIVE WATER BOTTLE.

Senior Living SENIOR ADDICTION AND OTHER TOUGH TOPICS FOR THE WHOLE FAMILY

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Senior Moments Certainly, all of us have had our senior moments, not remembering where we parked our cars or left our keys. Not to mention recalling names and dates.

But for some seniors, forgetfulness is just one of a long list of medical concerns. In this issue, we explore topics of interest to seniors and to those who care for them.

From relocating to sexuality, we tackle the subjects surrounding the aging process. Those include senior addiction, dementia and continuing education. We offer advice from the experts about making tough decisions and provide resources to help ease the journey.

Among those aging are Holocaust survivors, some of whom will be honored at Yom HaShoah events around Atlanta over the next week. You can find those commemorations at Greenwood Cemetery, the Marcus JCC and the state capitol, as detailed in the previews we share.

Also this week, we wrap up another holiday paying tribute to our survival – Passover. We share the delicious excite-

ment of a matzah brie cooking contest at Congregation Etz Chaim and take you to the synagogue’s first-night Pesach seder.

Seems Moses and Pharaoh aren’t the only ones battling it out in Middle East news this week. We bring you a perspective on the controversy at Emory University between pro-Israel and pro-Palestinian students and an update on a debate over similar matters at Georgia State University.

Three grads from still another college, the University of Georgia, launched a tremendous Kickstarter campaign recently, raising money for their collapsible water bottle invention. You can also learn more about Chagall’s artwork and pro-Zionism in our Israel News piece by correspondent Patrice Worthy, who recently returned from reporting for us from the Holy Land.

While we may not all be in Jerusalem next year, as the seder foretells, next week we will surely be exploring

THIS WEEK paradise, at least the kind of nirvana that comes from spa and beauty. By the way, you can get some great gift ideas for Mother’s Day in next week’s issue too.

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LOCAL NEWS

New York Judge Ruchie Freier (left) was featured this year in the AJFF documentary “93Queen” (pictured right).

First Hasidic Female Judge Offers Inspiration for Women

By Bob Bahr Those who attended this year’s Atlanta Jewish Film Festival may remember “93 Queen,” a documentary about how a group of Hasidic women in Brooklyn successfully established Ezras Nashim, the first all-female volunteer ambulance service in the Orthodox community there.

It was one of my “best bets” for the festival, along with Matthew Bernstein, AJFF board member, professor and chair of Emory University’s department of film and media studies. It was what we called “a real crowd pleaser” and a “fascinating

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portrait of female empowerment.”

The woman who headed the Ezras Nashim movement, Ruchie Freier, is to be the guest speaker at Chabad of North Fulton’s Women’s Inspirational Night next Sunday.

Although she has been careful not to describe herself as a feminist, Freier contradicts a number of the commonly held notions of women in the Hasidic community, which emphasizes more traditional roles.

She is a licensed attorney who became an Emergency Medical Technician for the ambulance project, which she still

heads. Her code name on the ambulance’s two- way radio service is 93Queen.

Once the ambulance service was launched, Freier ran for and won a 10year term as a judge in Brooklyn’s 5th Municipal Court District, succeeding her uncle, who was also a municipal court judge in Brooklyn.

She is believed to be the first Hasidic woman elected to office in this country.

Both the ambulance service and her political campaign were fully supported by her husband, a member of the large and very conservative Bobover Hasidic community, but were aggressively opposed by many of

the other men in the community.

Freier has since become something of a media star, after being profiled in The New York Times and appearing on the Today show and in the documentary about her work with the ambulance service scheduled for “POV,” the public television network’s showcase of outstanding documentary films.

She will bring her story to women at an annual night of cocktails, fun and inspiration at Chabad of North Fulton from 5 to 7 p.m. May 5. Tickets are $36 and reservations can be made at www.chabadnf. org/JWIN. ■

LOCAL NEWS

Anti-GILEE Measures Fail

By Dave Schechter A resolution urging Georgia State University to divorce itself from a controversial law enforcement training program may have failed this time around, but it likely will return when the student government reconvenes in the fall.

The vote to table the resolution regarding GSU’s relationship with the Georgia International Law Enforcement Exchange was 17 in favor, two against, and seven abstaining.

GILEE’s opposition includes pro-Palestinian advocates, groups protesting police shootings of AfricanAmericans, and others critical of what they term the militarization of American police departments. Much of their objection stems from GILEE’s programs in conjunction with Israeli police.

GILEE was created in 1992 to address security issues in advance of the 1996 Olympic Games in Atlanta.

Part of its stated mission was to “enhance inter-agency cooperation between State of Georgia law enforcement agencies and the police force of the State of Israel.” Since then, the program expanded to include other states and countries. Since the 9/11 terror attacks, GILEE has focused on homeland security issues.

The resolution voted on April 18 by the student senate encouraged GSU to withdraw its police department from the GILEE program, end the program’s presence at the university, and redirect its funding to “appropriate police training activities.”

A recommendation by a committee of the student senate that the relationship be investigated further will be taken up when the student government reconvenes in the 2019-2020 academic year.

GILEE’s founding director, Robbie Friedmann, a professor emeritus of criminal justice at GSU, referred a request for comment from the AJT to the university.

“The Georgia International Law Enforcement Exchange is an award-winning program that has the support of local, state, federal and international law enforcement and public safety agencies, and the university. The program is in keeping with the university’s mission,” university spokeswoman Andrea Jones said.

According to its website, “GILEE has run law enforcement executive development and trainings to enhance homeland security, through 450 programs that reached over 33,000 law enforcement and other executives across over 25 states and 25 countries.”

GILEE has tax-exempt status as a nonprofit through the Georgia State University Foundation. Its funding comes through the foundation and private donors.

Following a GILEE-sponsored trip to Israel last year, Friedmann told the AJT that participants “have returned with new ways of developing, collaborating on and using police and intelligence strategies to minimize the production of crime.”

The text of the resolution before the student senate said that “GILEE's training partners include foreign law enforcement agencies that restrict civil liberties, violate human rights, and/or engage in bigotry, including antiSemitism, Islamophobia, and violent manifestations of homophobia.

Among the countries named in the resolution were Israel, China, Egypt, Hungary and Uzbekistan.

The resolution said that GSU’s own police department should not – “as a matter of principle” and “as a

Dr. Robert R. Friedmann is professor emeritus of criminal justice and founding director, Georgia International Law Enforcement Exchange.

Rabbi Russ Shulkes, executive director of Hillels of Georgia, spoke in support of GILEE at the recent meeting.

told the AJT, “The groups that don’t practical matter” – “train with foreign like GILEE on campus aren’t lying idle. law enforcement agencies that engage It’s likely they’ll issue another initiain bigotry, restrict civil liberties, or tive and try to close our program. violate human rights.”

“GILEE is reputable and awardAmong those speaking at the winning, and we’re not going anyApril 18 meeting against the antiwhere. But the problem with these GILEE resolution was Rabbi Russ tactics is that it can give legitimacy to Shulkes, executive director of Hillels anti-Semitism on campus and everyof Georgia.

GSU is the site of controversy where else. Even though they have no Shulkes told the AJT that GILEE between GILEE and pro-Palestinian facts and it’s purely propaganda used, “is very strongly identified with the advocates, among others. it’s dangerous.

Jewish people of Atlanta and is a “We’ve had problems with groups trying to shut source of pride for the Jewish community of Atlanta and GILEE down since 2009, including groups petitioning the United States.”

In February, when a motion before the student gov- the university president to shut the program down, but ernment, in support of the BDS (Boycott, Divestment, the president refused. Since then though, the anti-ZionSanctions) movement singled out GILEE, Friedmann ist and anti-Semitic sentiments have gotten worse.” ■

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ISRAEL PRIDE

News From Our Jewish Home

Attendees at the U.N.’s seder in New York City included several Jewish leaders as well as ambassadors from around the world.

Ambassador Danon Holds Seder for U.N. Ambassadors

On April 15, the United Nations headquarters in New York hosted a Passover seder with senior U.N. officials and dozens of ambassadors from around the world. Israel’s U.N. Ambassador Danny Danon was a key figure in making the initiative happen.

“As in our years of exile, there are still those who rise up against us, but today we are a strong nation that can defend itself,” Danon said at the seder, giving modern meaning to the Pesach story.

“The struggle for freedom is the breath of life and it ensures the existence of the Jewish people.”

Danon started the tradition in 2016, after he was appointed ambassador.

This year, notably among those in attendance was Turkish Ambassador Feridun Sinirlioglu, despite tensions between his nation and Israel.

Rabbi Elie Abadie was on hand to

Today in Israeli History

Artwork depicts the violence of Russian pogroms against Jews.

April 26, 1881: Anti-Jewish violence in the Russian Empire since the assassination of Czar Alexander II in March sweeps into Kiev at noon on a Sunday after a fight breaks out and spreads into the marketplace. Rioters soon loot and destroy Jewish shops and homes. The first post-assassination pogrom occurred April 15 in Elisavetgrad (now Kirovohrad, Ukraine), and Kiev officials were warned to prepare for trouble. The police chief told Kiev’s Jews to protect themselves, and they were warned April 25 to stay inside.

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provide advice, instruction and information for those in attendance, including representatives from Argentina, Denmark, Japan, Romania, Slovakia, Slovenia and Ukraine.

The Forum for Cultural Diplomacy, which helped host the seder with a number of other Jewish organizations, was on hand to help attendees, many of whom were attending their first-ever seder.

“The story of Passover teaches us many lessons, including about the roots of anti-Semitism, and its best antidote, the immense contributions of the Jewish culture to humanity,” said forum cofounder Gregory Lafitte.

Chabad Provides Holiday Meals, Hosts Orphans’ Bar Mitzvah

Israel’s longest running charity, Colel Chabad, distributed seder meals for 22,000 people this Passover.

Among the foods distributed were 11,000 salmon filets, 7,000 chicken thighs, and 9,800 almond cakes. All told the recipes used more than 30,000 eggs and 10 tons of potatoes. Based out of one food preparation facility with three distribution centers in Israel, this year’s Passover prep was a monumental undertaking.

“We see it as a true privilege to be able to give Israeli families the ability to have a Pesach seder in a respectful and meaningful way,” said Rabbi Sholom Duchman, director of Colel Chabad.

Bet investigation, fifteen members of the Jewish Underground, an anti-Arab terrorist group formed by participants in the fundamentalist organization Gush Emunim (Bloc of the Faithful), are arrested before they can sabotage five Arab buses in eastern Jerusalem. Twelve more members are arrested in the following days in connection with a series of plots and acts of violence, including attacks on two West Bank mayors, the murders of three college students, and a plan to blow up the Dome of the Rock.

April 28, 1918: Six months after the British government expresses support for a Jewish homeland in Palestine, the American Jewish Committee issues a bland response in support of the Balfour Declaration. AJC’s weak endorsement of the document reflects the views during and after World War I of most American Jews, who either oppose or only vaguely support Zionism. AJC backs Jewish immigration to Palestine for those who want to go but does foresee an independent Jewish state.

April 29, 1979: Five recently released Soviet Jewish prisoners arrive at Ben-Gu-

As part of Colel Chabad’s pre-Pesach tradition, the bar mitzvah of 120 orphan boys was held at the Kotel April 15. The organization hosted a similar bat mitzvah event earlier in the year.

Sponsored by Eli Schlossberg in memory of his father, this year’s event also paid tribute to Rabbi Amram Blau, who was known to many as ‘father of the orphans,’ and founded Chesed Menachem Mendel, Colel Chabad’s support system for orphans and widows. Blau died earlier this year in an accident.

Tel Aviv U. Studies Parkinson’s Patients’ Struggles with Transitions

A Tel Aviv University study has been digging into some long-established challenges facing people with Parkinson’s disease and how they might better be addressed in the future.

Parkinson’s is a degenerative disorder that effects motor controls and often causes tremors and rigidity. Among the difficulties those with the disease face are struggles to transition from walking to sitting and the turning-around process in the middle.

The results of the study could prove useful for those afflicted, especially with difficulties sitting down, and it could provide guidance for rehabilitation.

In contrast to most healthy older adults, who turn and then sit in sequence, “we found that most Parkinson’s patients

rion Airport, where they are welcomed

by Prime Minister Menachem Begin and cheering crowds. The five were convicted in 1970 of trying to hijack an airplane to escape the Soviet Union. Their story catalyzes the movement to free Soviet Jewry.

“It is a great day; our hearts are filled with emotions,” Begin says. “Let us pray to the Lord that we shall soon have here all — all the prisoners of Zion, freed from Soviet jails and gathering in Israel.”

April 30, 2003: The Quartet of the United States, Russia, the European Union and the United Nations issues its Roadmap for Peace, a framework for talks to achieve a permanent two-state solution between Israel and Palestinians.

The plan comes amid the violence of the Second Intifada. Israel lists 14 main concerns with the Roadmap but, like the Palestinian Authority, commits to trying to make it work. Hamas rejects it. Talks under the plan make no progress.

May 1, 1987: Shahar Pe’er, Israel’s highest-ranking tennis player, male or female, of all time, is born in Jerusalem.

After taking up tennis at age 6, she rises

start to sit while they are still turning,” professor Jeffrey Hausdorff of Tel Aviv University said, according to The Times of Israel.

The advice the study provides is to think of sitting as two different processes: first turn and stop, then sit. The findings indicate that it may be safer, but in terms of long-term impact, the results are inconclusive.

AI Company Raises $27 Million

The artificial intelligence imaging company Aidoc announced the end of its $27 million round of financing, bringing its total funds raised to $40 million.

The news came as the company announced that it had analyzed its millionth patients’ CT scan.

The technology is developed to aid radiologists, using AI to examine CT scans in real time. The company is also working on its line of oncology products and expanding the current set to include X-rays, according to Globes, the Israeli business daily.

“From the 100 sites we’re already working with, mounting evidence is demonstrating real value to patients,” CEO Elad Walach said. “We feel a responsibility to get this technology into as many hospitals as possible, as soon as possible. Our aim is to reach 500 hospitals in the next two years and we’re proud to partner with Square Peg to support this growth.” ■ through the junior ranks and wins the Israeli championship in 2001 and the Junior Australian Open in 2004. A winner of five WTA tournaments and a two-time quarterfinalist in Grand Slam singles tournaments, she peaks at No. 11 in the world rankings in 2011.

May 2, 1921: Writer Yosef Haim Brenner, a pioneer of modern Hebrew literature and a founder of the Histadrut labor federation, is among six people killed on the second day of violence between Arabs and Jews in and around Jaffa. Born in a shtetl in Ukraine in 1881, Brenner becomes a Hebrew teacher and publishes his first book in 1900, a year before being drafted into the Russian army. He deserts and moves to England in 1904, and then to Palestine in 1909. In contrast to another pioneer of modern Hebrew, Ahad Ha’am, Brenner advocates Jewish salvation through labor and the abandonment of traditional ways. ■ Items are provided by the Center for Israel Education (www.israeled.org), where you can find more details.

ISRAEL NEWS

“Naomi and Her Daughters-in-Law”

“Creation”

“Samson and Delilah”

Exhibit Proves Chagall was a Zionist

By Patrice Worthy During Marc Chagall’s time as a painter he rose to become known as a master colorist, depicting biblical scenes in watercolor all over the world. Vivian Jacobson, a close friend of Chagall, gave a talk April 14 during the opening reception of “Marc Chagall and The Sacred,” an exhibition at Still Point Art Gallery in Alpharetta.

She explained there is superficial attitude that Chagall was not a Zionist when, in fact, he supported a homeland for the Jewish people.

Jacobson met Chagall in 1974 when he was dedicating one of his pieces in Chicago on behalf of the Hadassah Medical Organization. As their bond deepened, she learned more about the painter, eventually becoming a leading authority on his work as a founding member of American Friends of Chagall’s Biblical Message Museum in Nice, France.

“People don’t say I like Chagall; they say I love Chagall,” Jacobson said before diving into her presentation.

In the exhibition “Chagall and The Sacred” more than 50 lithographs portraying stories from the Torah adorn the gallery space. The exhibit begins with a piece titled “Creation,” and the works tell of the rise, fall and eventual advance of humanity.

There is the story of Adam and Eve giving in to temptation in the Garden of Eden, then a graphic depiction of the first murder titled “Cain and Abel.” From there moments depicting the continuity of the Messianic bloodline tell the story of the Jewish people from “Tamar, Daughter -in-law of Judah,” “Moses I,” “Moses II” and “Naomi and Her Daughters-in-Law,” a painting that puts Naomi in the middle of Ruth, the first Jewish convert, and Orpah. The three are enclosed in a hug that

radiates the warmth and love of a story about family, loyalty and hope.

Then there is “Ruth at The Feet of Boaz,” followed by the story of David told through four paintings: “David Saved by Michal,” “David and Absalom,” “David and Bathsheba,” and “David with a Harp.”

David is painted in multiple colors with red as the dominant hue to convey his passion and complex character. David is not perfect, but his passion and determination made him one of the greatest leaders in the Torah.

Chagall used color to give depth to his pieces and, like the Torah, they are layered in meaning. His first layer is sketched with a pencil, giving a simple structure to the piece; then it becomes more nuanced with color.

“Abraham is painted in many different colors because he is the father of many nations; if he was painted one color, he would just be the father of one nation,” Jacobson said quoting a child.

The watercolors are translucent, al-

lowing viewers to see each layer with clarity, a characteristic of the Torah and its text.

Chagall was born on July 7, 1887, and grew up in an Orthodox home where he wasn’t allowed to paint because of the commandment: Thou shall not make any graven images. So as a young boy he found inspiration in an unexpected place, Jacobson said.

“He would go to church behind his house and see beauty and color he couldn’t in his own home synagogue,” Jacobson said.

His mother finagled him into an art school that traditionally banned Jews. After that, Chagall spent the rest of his life painting, Jacobson said.

He was a firm believer in Zion and, having lived through the pogroms and two world wars, he supported a homeland for Jews. As his reputation grew, Jacobson said he waited for Israel to commission him for a piece.

“They were busy building a country and had their mind on other things,” Ja-

Photo courtesy of B'nai Zion Foundation and Hadassah University Medical Center // The

Chagall tapestries in Chagall State Hall in the Knesset in Jerusalem.

Clockwise from top left: “David Saved by Michal,” “David and Absalom,” “David with a Harp” and “David and Bathsheba.”

cobson said. “The Jews did not have money to get stained glass windows; meanwhile he was doing them in France.”

Finally, in 1960, he was commissioned by The Hadassah Foundation to create stained glass windows for the Abbell Synagogue at Hadassah University Medical Center in Jerusalem.

“His genius was in his stained glass,” Jacobson said.

Each window depicts one of the blessings Jacob gave to his 12 sons who became the 12 tribes of Israel. He went on to create three large-scale paintings for the Knesset depicting the story of Israel and its people. Chagall created all the works of art in the Knesset, including the 12 floor mosaics.

“He was there to unveil the Hadassah hospital windows and saw the large empty walls of the Knesset and was inspired,” Jacobson said.

The three tapestries in Chagall State Hall were commissioned in 1965 and completed in 1969. The first tapestry portrays Jacob’s dream, the revelation on Mount Sinai and the sacrifice of Isaac.

The second depicts various events from Israel, including Moses receiving the law, the exodus from Egypt, a burning village symbolizing the Holocaust and David playing the harp. The last tapestry portrays a return to Zion, including Ruth, Boaz and David as central figures.

Jacobson said Chagall, who painted well into his 90s, used his talent for tikkun olam or to repair the world. He expressed his love of the Bible and how he felt about the Jewish people and Jacobson said it is evident in his work.

“Chagall was not a practicing Jew, but he believed in a homeland for the Jewish people,” Jacobson said. “He demonstrated his love of the Jewish people through his artwork.” ■ ATLANTA JEWISH TIMES APRIL 26, 2019 | 7

BUSINESS

MODL’s founders, from left to right: Zack Leitz, Barak Zitron, and Justin Guld.

MODL has many attachments, allowing it to be used for any number of tasks while in the wilderness.

Inset: Collapsable, MODL is easy to store, taking up less room than a conventional water bottle.

MODL Bottle Kickstarts Jewish Entrepreneurs

By Eddie Samuels The water bottle hasn’t changed much in the last 50 years, according to Barak Zitron, one of the founders of the innovative MODL bottle, which has now raised more than $35,000 on Kickstarter.

The realization came to him one day when the recent University of Georgia grad was

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out hiking in the summer of 2017.

“I had a Nalgene that was full of water and every step I took for miles it was banging up against my leg. I was so frustrated with why there wasn’t just one other point on the bottle to clip it in place,” he said. “It’s a rigid, single-purpose container, and I thought I could improve on it.”

The idea lived only in his head for a while, until, later that year, he was camping in North Carolina with two friends and fellow UGA students and Tau Epsilon Phi brothers, Justin Guld and Zack Leitz.

“There was a crazy storm one night and we had to stay in the tent all night, so I just threw this idea I had out there,” Zitron said. “The water bottle wasn’t versatile, and we thought we could do better.

We decided that if we woke up the next day and didn’t think we were crazy, we’d start looking into it.”

Their innovation was a new challenge for the three, but not, by any means, an easy decision. Zitron had an investment banking job lined up, Leitz was beginning work in consulting and Guld was preparing to go to medical school.

“I was able to defer medical school for a year. I didn’t have to jump off all the way into it. It was more of an experimental phase,” Guld said.

Ultimately, Guld would decline medical school for the moment to continue focusing on MODL, a decision that he had to explain to friends and family.

“You can imagine how excited my parents were when I made a left turn from medical school to water bottles, so it took my family some time to really understand and see where our heads are at,” he said.

Zitron didn’t have the same time cushion to make his decision.

“I didn’t get to defer my investment banking job,” he noted. “I always thought I was going to be an entrepreneur, and so the people surrounding me expected this a little more from me than Justin, … but we all have friends and family surrounding us and they’re all on board too.”

While none of the three have prior experience in product design, Zitron

took the lead on making his vision a reality, working with a prototyping firm in Nashville.

“I started with it being collapsible, and I realized that if it was double-ended it would be easier to clean, and you could put caps onto either end and really give the bottle a lot of different functionality,” Zitron said.

Incorporating different lids, each with different designs, MODL has water filtration, shower, hands-free and sports caps.

MODL’s Kickstarter crowdfunding campaign launched on April 16, and within its first five hours online, surpassed its $15,000 goal.

“All this hard work has culminated in the Kickstarter, and of course we had all our stuff aligned for production and fulfillment afterwards, but this was the big make or break jump for us,” Guld said. “It was one of the most exhilarating days of our lives.”

As of Monday, the team announced their first stretch goal: should they reach $50,000, colored ‘lifeloops,’ the attachment straps on the water bottle’s lid, would be available to backers.

As part of that Earth Day announcement, MODL also teamed up with One Tree Planted to plant a tree for every $10 raised that day.

Guld added that hearing from friends, family and supporters has been important for all three founders. “None of us could’ve expected this, and the outpouring of love and excitement from people has been amazing,” he said. ■ MODL’s Kickstarter runs through May 16. To learn more about MODL or the crowdfunding campaign, visit www.bit. ly/2GAfc3u.

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OPINION Emory’s Open Expression Policy Put to the Test Over the past decade, variants of the There was a certain irony in Emory flyer have appeared on campuses across University hosting a conference on “Acathe country. demic Freedom and Free Speech on CamAfter initially putting its stamp on the pus” and two weeks later finding itself emflyer, Emory’s Residence Life Office ordered broiled in a dispute over what some might them removed for violating a policy against term the limits of free speech. posting notices on doors without the ocGiven the acrimony between pro-Israel cupant’s consent. The university admitted and pro-Palestinian students, Emory’s adthat its policy on posting flyers needs reviministrators may be relieved that the spring sion. semester is nearly over and that students Dave The flyers were posted as part of Israel will be leaving campus for the summer.

Apartheid Week, which coincided with EmThe mock-eviction notice incident test- Schechter ory Israel Week, organized by the campus ed Emory’s Respect for Open Expression From Where I Sit Eagles for Israel. Many Jewish students – Policy, which promotes “courageous inquiry through open expression, dissent, and protest, while along with parents, alumni and community members – acknowledging the challenges of the creative tensions saw the eviction notices as something less than “civility associated with courageous inquiry in an ever changing and mutual respect.”

In trying to walk a middle ground in its response, community.”

Additionally, “Civility and mutual respect are im- Emory’s administration left itself open to criticism by portant values in our community; while they do not parties on both sides of the dispute.

The university thus far has side-stepped the “severe limit the rights protected by this Policy, we ask all members of the Community to consider these values care- consequences” against SJP called for by Jewish commufully when exercising their fundamental right to open nal organizations. Those seeking harsher action have been left dissatisfied, even as Emory’ President Claire E. expression.”

Emory Students for Justice in Palestine no doubt Sterk acknowledged the “personal pain” felt by Jewish viewed the eviction notices, which appeared April 2 on students and others in the community.

“All of us are aware that anti-Semitic incidents are dormitory doors and at an off-campus residence and were intended to highlight Israel’s demolition of Pales- on the rise on college campuses and throughout Ameritinian homes, as a legitimate example of “open expres- can society today,” Sterk said. “It is in that context of escalating intolerance that our Jewish students found the sion, dissent, and protest.”

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Mock eviction notices were posted on Emory students’ dorm room doors.

mock-eviction notices.”

College is where assumptions of knowledge and certainties about the world should be challenged and where young people, removed from the cocoon, learn something about navigating conflict and developing resilience.

In another day, when children went off to college, parents had little awareness of events on campus. Parents might receive the occasional telephone call or letter from their offspring, with a brief update of how classes were going and maybe mention of an extracurricular activity or a social relationship.

Back then, colleges acted “in loco parentis,” a Latin phrase meaning “in place of a parent.”

Today, parents call their children away at college and expect their children to call them, or to at least answer a text.

Social media allows parents to stay informed on campus news, by reading the university’s official accounts and the student newspaper, and by following the groups their children join and even “friending” their friends.

When an incident such as the mock-eviction notices occurs, parents – helicoptering above their children’s lives – can swoop down and attempt to smooth the pavement and remove obstacles blocking their path.

Unfortunately, some Jewish parents called and berated Emory staff.

The incident also prompted invective on websites that focus on news in the Jewish world.

Blog posts excoriated Jewish faculty for their supposed silence (overlooking a prominent professor quoted in this newspaper), claimed that Jewish students were selectively targeted (even after both the university and Jewish groups said that was not the case), and contained a myriad of mistakes involving basic facts.

When the students return in four months, so will tensions between the pro-Israel and pro-Palestinian groups. As they plan for the fall semester, perhaps Emory’s administrators will consider bringing these students together for the kind of dialogue that will help all concerned navigate whatever comes next. ■

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OPINION Letter to the editor: Recognizing UGA’s History of Slavery Deuteronomy 24:18: “Remember that you were a slave in Egypt and that the Lord your God redeemed you from there. Therefore, I command you to do [justice].”

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This week we observe Passover, a time to reflect on our slavery in Egypt and celebrate our freedom. As Jews in Georgia, we can also take the time to reflect on the atrocities that occurred in this place: the haroset reminds us of the forced labor at the foundation of our institutions; the matzah reminds us of the treacherous passage to freedom; and the bitter herbs remind us of the atrocity and enduring trauma of slavery.

Passover is a way of connecting to our ancestors by ritualistically reenacting the conditions of their oppression, repeating our history to ensure it is never forgotten, and affirming our commitment to the liberation of all people. This is what calls us to speak on an ongoing incident at the University of Georgia, a place where many readers of the AJT may have experienced their first seders away from home.

In November 2015, a construction project at the University of Georgia was stalled by the discovery of human remains. Bioarcheological testing confirmed that these were the bodies of enslaved people. Their descendants who continue to live in Athens expressed concern with how the situation was being handled and attempted to provide suggestions on how the university should proceed.

Rather than listen, the university systematically excluded them from the discussion, even going so far as to exhume and rebury the bodies without notifying the community, leaving a descendant to watch from behind a locked gate. The university elected to bury the remains at Oconee Hill cemetery, a segregated cemetery, as opposed to one of the community’s black cemeteries. Linda Davis, a member of the Athens-Clarke County School Board, explained this meant that they, “were going to be buried at the feet of the people who owned them.”

All this, as well as additional misconduct by university officials is documented in this recent Faculty Senate Report and the student documentary “Below Baldwin.”

It is well-documented that enslaved people were instrumental to the formation of the University of Georgia.

We ask that the university issue an apology and work with members of the community to properly honor the dead and recognize the legacy of slavery at the University of Georgia.

To the descendants of these people we say, “may their memories be a blessing.”

Mallory Harris and Dr. Tarece Johnson, Atlanta

Letter to the editor:

What bearing do Israeli elections have on achieving peace? Palestinian leaders have flatly rejected or ignored peace proposals offered by left-wing Ehud Barak (2000/2001), centrist Ehud Olmert (2008), and right-wing Benjamin Netanyahu (2009).

The unilateral withdrawal of all Jewish communities and Israeli troops from Gaza (2005) resulted only in increasing attacks on Israel.

Sadly, the Palestinians do not seek a state co-existing peacefully with the nationstate of the Jews. They want a Palestine which has been ethnically cleansed of Jews and an Israel which has been overrun by millions of people classified as refugees under the rules of UNRWA (United Nations Relief and Work Agency) rather than those of UNHCR (United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees), which considers a fiveyear stay in a refugee camp to be “protracted.”

The Palestine refugees (as UNRWA calls them) have been raised on a steady diet of anti-Jewish invective in societies which highly honor and richly reward people who have murdered Jews. The first step toward achieving true peace is for the Arab nations, which prevented the emergence of the first-ever-to-exist Arab State of Palestine, to absorb and uplift the Palestine refugees, just as Israel did for Jewish refugees from Muslim countries.

Toby F. Block, Atlanta

The AJT welcomes your letters. We want our readers to have an opportunity to engage with our community in constructive dialogue. If you would like your letter to be published, please write 200 words or less, include your name, phone number and email, and send it to editor@atljewishtimes.com.

OPINION

Slur of Dual Loyalty I am an American, and I am Jewish. I also support Israel. The charge of alleged dual loyalty of Jews is on the rise.

What is this charge? It’s nothing new. It’s the claim that we American Jews are either not truly loyal to the United States of America or that we have some sort of dual loyalty to the U.S. and to Israel or Doug some allegedly anti-American Weinstein organization or belief.

We must call out those that make these slurs and be heard. It’s coming from the Left and the Right. It’s coming from academics like John Mearsheimer and Stephen Walt.

None of this should be a surprise given the dramatic rise in anti-Semitism and anti-Semitic incidents. Here are just a few recent examples of the charge of disloyalty with which I strongly oppose, as should all American Jews: “I want to talk about the political influence in this country that says that it is OK for people to push for allegiance to a foreign country.” – Rep. Ilhan Omar, referring to the Jewish lobby.

“I stood with your prime minister at the White House to recognize Israeli sovereignty over the Golan Heights,” President Trump at the Republican Jewish Committee’s annual leadership conference in Las Vegas.

This charge of disloyalty by those who harbor antiSemitic views or are simply woefully ignorant has been used against us for centuries. Capt. Alfred Dreyfus was convicted of spying in a French court in 1894 in the midst of public discussion of Jew’s loyalty to France. Nazis made accusations that Jews in Germany were loyal to Communism and not to the State. Communists in the Soviet Union alleged that Jews were loyal to Israel and not the U.S.S.R. Arab States used it to evict millennia old Jewish populations from their midst. And in America, Lindbergh used it to accuse Jews of pushing for war, stating: “Instead of agitating for war, the Jewish groups in this country should be opposing it in every possible way, for they will be among the first to feel its consequences. Tolerance is a virtue that depends upon peace and strength.

“A few far-sighted Jewish people realize this, and stand opposed to intervention. But the majority still do not. Their greatest danger to their country lies in their large ownership and influence in our motion pictures, our press, our radio and our government.”

While this was stated in Des Moines, Iowa, on Sept.

11, 1941, does anyone doubt that we could find similar sentiment and comparable statements today?

We have a major problem when those on the Left and the Right continue to spread false tropes of American Jews, particularly the charge of disloyalty or dual loyalty. To be sure, American Jews have a deep sense of affection for Israel and even attachment to Israel. In the 2018 American Jewish Committee’s Survey of American Jewish Opinion, 70 percent of American Jews agreed that caring about Israel is a very important part of being a Jew, with 41 percent strongly agreeing. A plurality, 39 percent, of American Jews consider Israeli Jews

a part of our extended family when selecting from options using family as a metaphor. At the same time, a majority disapprove – 41 percent strongly – of President Trump’s handling of U.S.-Israel relations. So, clearly, we Jews have strong ties to Israel and have strong feelings toward our government’s relationship with Israel.

But strong ties and feelings do not make for dual loyalty. We must combat this at every opportunity. How do we do it? By condemning it wherever found and not offering excuses for those whose politics might align with ours. By voting out of office those politicians who spread such slurs.

Oppose them in their primary if you don’t want to vote for a party in the general election that you don’t agree with, but if that is unsuccessful, drive them out nonetheless.

Condemn academics who spread the slur.

Make your voice heard wherever appropriate and

possible. The incidents happening in the present may seem like ignorant statements or slips of the tongue, but they must not be allowed to stand unchallenged. Here is yet one more example: “I should not be expected to have allegiance/pledge support to a foreign country in order to serve my country in Congress.” – Rep. Omar, replying to a Congressman charging her with anti-Semitism regarding her earlier remarks.

These comments should be clearly condemned in unequivocal statements that directly address the problem without couching them amongst other anodyne statements. We must all speak out, even against those with whom we might otherwise agree. ■ Doug Weinstein is an intellectual property lawyer and a former member of Democrats Abroad-Taiwan.

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By Eddie Samuels Over the past few years, much of the biggest news in the United States has been focused on the toll of the “Opioid Crisis,” but often such large headlines can feel distant, and far from daily life.

Recently, one Jewish Atlantan shared her story with the AJT, in the hope of spreading awareness about senior addiction closer to home.

In the most recent data released last year from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Americans over 55 experienced the second highest jump in opioid overdoses in emergency rooms over a 15-year period.

The 55 and older population saw a 32 percent increase compared to 36 percent for those 35 to 54, 31 percent for those 25 to 34 and 7 percent for those 15 to 24.

Carol Waldman, 66, moved to Atlanta from Florida in 1990, and now over three years sober, discussed her struggles with addiction and her road to recovery.

“From about 19 years old, I was always experimenting and things like that,” she said. “As I got older, I didn’t do much. Marijuana was a constant, but that was really about it.”

When knee problems and insomnia began to plague her, marijuana wasn’t her only substance of choice.

“About eight or nine years ago, I started seeing a psychiatrist and he began prescribing me Seroquel and Xanax. … My first knee surgery was in 2010,” Waldman said. “When you have surgery, the doctors give you hydrocodone right away. It was like going to a candy store.”

By August of 2015, she was prescribed 4 mg of Xanax and 350 mg of Seroquel, along with other pain managers.

“That’s enough to put out an elephant,” she said. “By this point I was having blackouts because if something hurt me an Advil wasn’t going to do it; a Tylenol wasn’t going to do it. A hydrocodone was going to do it.”

Her behavior was troubling to some in her family and forced her to try covering it up.

“My youngest daughter was very acutely aware of everything that was happening,” Waldman said. “I’d ask her something and she’d say, ‘Mom, you asked me that yesterday. You don’t remember?’”

Aug. 30, 2015, is when her family first started to notice a serious problem.

Waldman fell getting out of bed, dislocating her right knee.

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In recent data released by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, Americans over 55 experienced the second highest jump in opioid overdoses in emergency rooms over a 15-year period.

she joked.

Paramedics were called and she was taken to the hospital, where the knee was relocated, and she moved to her downstairs bedroom to avoid the hassle of climbing the stairs.

“The next day I did the same exact thing, but this time I was foaming at the mouth. They took me to the hospital, and I was in the hospital for five days,” she said. “To this day, I have no memory of it.

None whatsoever.”

Her family realized that there was a serious problem, and, while Waldman was away rehabilitating from her knee injuries, they planned the next step.

“I came home on a Thursday and I was very excited. I came home and the whole family was there, and the doorbell

rang and it was our new rabbi, and I was so excited. The rabbi came to see us! I still had no idea what was going on,” she said.

The difficult conversation began, with family members sharing their concerns with her, and handing her a pamphlet for Caron.

“I didn’t understand. I guess I just didn’t understand what was happening,” Waldman said. “I knew that I’d hit rock bottom, but I didn’t know to what degree.”

Waldman’s daughter and husband flew with her to Caron's treatment facility in Wernersville, Penn. Caron also has an outpatient facility in Dunwoody, but the Pennsylvania location has a seniorspecific program.

“They flew me up and took me in,

Carol Waldman on a trip to Greece in May 2018.

and then they left me there,” she said. Her journey to recovery began on Oct. 19, first with detox.

“I remember it vaguely,” she recounted. “They took away all my pills and kept me there for one night. Then I was transferred to a room in the senior unit. For the first three or four days all I did was kvetch. It hurt, I didn’t want to be there, and all I was doing was throwing up.”

After a few weeks of the recovery process, the weekend of Nov. 12 was a family weekend, and a chance for Waldman to see her loved ones. She was visited by her husband, daughters and her sonin-law, and shared a lunch with them.

“I was so excited, and I said, ‘I’m doing so well, I’m never going to take a pill again.’ When you say that, it’s a big red flag. Later that afternoon, my counselor called me into their office and my husband was there.”

Originally, she was scheduled to return home the week of Thanksgiving, but her counselor gave her some difficult news.

“She said to me, ‘We’ve been sitting here talking and you’re not going home then,’” Waldman said. “I went ballistic. I went crazy, screaming and crying, and she said to me, ‘This is the most emotion I’ve seen out of you since you’ve been here.’ I had to stop playing the game.”

Waldman explained that she had been so focused on going along with the process and being a model citizen, she hadn’t really processed what she was going through.

“I was saying ‘yes, yes, yes,’ but I wasn’t really digging down into myself,” she said.

Waldman was very complimentary of her experience at Caron, and even keeps in touch with two fellow patients from her therapy group there.

“We had a unique group. We were all very open, and we could joke and be serious, we could laugh and could cry. It was so intimate,” she said. “I’ve been lucky to keep in touch with two friends for life.”

Since returning from Caron, Waldman’s life has changed dramatically, and while the professionals advise not making any drastic changes, she returned home to a surprise.

“My husband kind of didn’t listen and he’d sold our house,” she said, chuckling. “It was under contract when I came home on Dec. 27. We closed on it Jan. 30 and moved into a condo.”

Now her life consists mostly of her family, with her three grandchildren. She and her husband have begun to travel more, and she is approaching four years

SENIOR LIVING addiction and the recovery process. of sobriety in October.

“Misconceptions are that it is a lack When asked what she would tell herself if she could go back in time, of willpower, a moral failing or that peoWaldman had a simple question in mind. ple have control of this disease, which they do not,” he said. “It’s a disease where “Why did it take you so long?” one of the hallmark Dr. Joseph Garbely, symptoms is a loss of medical director of control.”

Caron addiction treatLeslie Lubell is inment center, discussed formation and referral senior addition, treatspecialist with Jewish ment and recovery with Family & Career Serthe AJT as he prepared vices’ HAMSA (Helping to speak at the RX Drug Atlantans Manage SubAbuse & Heroin Sumstance Abuse) program. mit this week.

She suggested speak“There’s a lack of ing with a professional quality programs out well-versed in addiction there that can address as a first step if conthe unique needs of secerned about a loved niors and, as a result, there’s an insufficient Dr. Joseph Garbely, medical director one.

“We’re able to help number of quality beds of Caron, is in Atlanta to speak at the RX Drug Abuse & Heroin Summit. people decide how to for this population that use the resources that are available out in can meet their needs,” he said.

Garbely explained that the first step the treatment world, because treating a to treating older adults is getting them senior in the world of substance abuse is different than treating [another] adult,” physically active and rehabilitated.

“Oftentimes they need physical she said. “It presents a lot of specific istherapy to get reconditioned because, in sues.”

She also shared a few warning signs their active addiction, they are inactive,” he said. “We make sure that once they are to watch for: They stop wanting to engage in the safe on their feet and cleared through physical therapy, we start getting them things they used to love.

They stop seeing an exercise regimen in their friends and spend the gym to get them acmore time at home. tive and moving again.”

They start spendIn terms of the ing money irresponsimental, emotional and bly or differently from psychological issues, how they have in the Garbely explained that past. grief and loss tend to be They hop from at the center of the disdoctor to doctor or see cussion around senior many different docaddiction. tors in a short period of “It’s loss of intime. dependence, loss of loved ones and loss of Waldman emphafriends. If they’re in sized that addiction is advanced years, oftennot isolated to any one Leslie Lubell of Jewish Family & times there’s been a lot group.

Career Services offers resources of loss they’ve had to go to help families and individuals “When someone struggling with addiction as through. It can be loss talks to me or looks well as those in recovery. of purpose and funcat me, they would tion,” he said. never, ever think that I’m an addict. I'm While it may seem counterintuitive, a 66-year-old Jewish woman,” she said.

Garbely also said that seniors are more “When people think of addicts, they open to change and rehabilitation than think of slimy people on the street. They most other adult patients. don’t realize that it could be anybody.”

“I would say they embrace it the easiWhen asked why she wanted to est and quickest, because by the time we share her story, Waldman’s answer was get them, it is undeniable that their qual- very simple: ity of life has eroded so much that they’re “This is local,” she said, “I’m glad [to willing to do whatever they need to do to be sharing this]. If one person looks at get some quality of life back. They are a this and says, ‘I have this problem and I joy to work with,” he said. should do something about it.’ There’s so Garbely also described some of the much going on here now, and I think it’s common misconceptions surrounding important that people see it.” ■ ATLANTA JEWISH TIMES APRIL 26, 2019 | 15

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Sexuality Remains Important Part of Aging

By Bob Bahr In recent years, as our population of older Americans increases, health care providers have had to confront the role of human sexuality in the aging process. It is an important consideration for those like Dr. Ted Johnson, a geriatrician who guides health care delivery for seniors in the extensive network of hospitals and clinics at Emory Healthcare.

We asked Dr. Johnson about the issue of sexuality among older Americans.

types of activity that we’re open to and the types of activity that we have as fulfilling.

This whole notion of being intimate versus being sexually active is really an important one. If you have bad heart disease or if you have severe arthritis, there may be different ways of being intimate with someone else.

I can assure you that your 50-year-old golf self is not the same as your 80-year-old golf self. Even the Tiger Woods victory at the Masters was interesting just because he was not longest off the tee like he was in earlier years. So I think that giving ourselves permission to be a different sort of intimate self is exactly right.

AJT: How is the discussion changing?

Johnson: People living through changes in their lives recognize that something’s different about sexAJT: What about those ual activity; it doesn’t mean Dr. Ted Johnson is a professor who are suffering from that we become without of geriatric medicine sex. We’ve maintained our within the Emory School of memory loss or demenidentity as sexual beings, Medicine and director of the tia? How does aging affect Woodruff Health Sciences their sexuality? but things are just differCenter for Health in Aging.

Johnson: The Nationent. In the last decade we’ve seen senior sexuality discussed by Lily al Institute on Aging has some comments Tomlin and Jane Fonda in their “Grace on this question. Some people with deand Frankie” program on Netflix. And so, mentia show increased interest in sex I think that the conversation has changed and physical touch and they may lose the and that there’s perhaps more media por- ability to judge what’s appropriate betrayals of people discussing their sexual- havior. And so, some people with severe ity. Just because they’re over 55 years of dementia may not recognize their spouse or partner. But they may desire contact age, they haven’t just lost interest.

There’s an interesting relationship and seek it with someone else. We’ve had between health care providers and the that situation in some of the long-term older patients. And the first thing I’d say care facilities in which I’ve worked. It’s a is that older adults are probably more very, very difficult issue. interested in receiving information, but AJT: So what is your goal as a leader doctors aren’t sure that their patients want to have this discussion. So the mis- in health care, thinking about health care match is that providers are not necessar- for older Americans? What are your priily willing to initiate the discussion about orities?

Johnson: I’m very motivated as a physexuality and sexual activity with our patients. I remember when I was in train- sician to help my patients and their famiing and my mother was talking to one of lies fully participate in life. The second her friends and my mother's friend said, thing that really motivates me is making ‘Well your son is probably a really good sure that what we do as health care prodoctor, but I have someone who delivers viders in the health care system doesn’t my newspaper who’s older than he looks. cause harm and that our interventions And I feel really uncomfortable talking are thoughtful and well-directed and tarabout things that I’d like to talk about.’ geted so that we’re not causing problems And so there is that level of comfort with and we’re trying to create the best chance someone who is trusted and with whom for health wellness and prevention. we have a relationship.

I’m interested in providers being engaged in what’s important to their AJT: As we age does our definition of patients and their families in life. And intimacy also change? so that means not just being on our own Johnson: I think that it should and agenda but really understanding what that we should have more flexibility in the matters. ■ ATLANTA JEWISH TIMES APRIL 26, 2019 | 17

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Navigating the Sensitive Senior Maze Jaffe: What advice can Geriatric consultant Nanyou give for broaching these cy Kriseman has worked in subjects? the aging field for 35 years as Kriseman: Care cona geriatric clinical social workversations are sensitive for er. A licensed clinical social older adults. It’s my belief worker, she started her first that if elders are cognitively job at the William Breman and emotionally competent, Jewish Home, where ironicalthey have a right to make ly, her mother ended up. their own decisions even She currently has a Marcia if the adult children don’t private practice focused on agree. With that said, I do supporting and consulting Caller Jaffe try to help elders and their for families caring for elders, and helping navigate the elder care families find solutions in collaborative maze. Additionally, it can be emotional to ways, so there is input from both sides. confront parents whom we love and re- It’s a very different situation if elders are spect and to help them decide they have not competent; then it can be invaluable to move, stop driving, or accept live-in to have geriatric professional help, especially when elders have dementia. help.

Since the senior population and corJaffe: How do you talk about taking responding industry have exploded, it can be daunting to figure out “best care away driving?

Kriseman: This is a particularly senoptions and services.” Kriseman focuses on supporting and helping people ex- sitive subject as driving correlates with plore the various services by creating independence. I usually suggest that adult short and longer-term care plans. She children don’t have these conversations. also provides professional and commu- I encourage them to reach out to the elder’s doctor, sharing their concerns about nity referrals that have been vetted. driving skills or lack thereof, and ask that

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the doctor talk with them. For elders that have dementia, doctors need to not only verbally tell them they are not safe to drive, but follow up with a written note.

For elders who are not cognitively impaired, and adult children are concerned, perhaps the doctor can recommend a driving test to make sure reaction time and sight aren't impaired. AARP offers driver classes.

Geriatric consultant Nancy Kriseman

Jaffe: When should they move into an elder care community?

Kriseman: A very difficult question and not one simple answer. First and foremost is for the elder’s safety and well-being. If elders are living in unsafe home situations, for example, when they are not safe to cook or safely take a shower or bath, when their home is in

disrepair, or is not handicap-accessible, these are major red flags or tipping points to moving them into an elder care community. If elders become isolated in their homes, this is important when considering an elder care community. Research is demonstrating that engagement and social connections are critical to maintaining well-being for older adults.

Jaffe: When is the right time to consider home care?

Kriseman: Not all elders are candidates for long-term care environments.

Some might thrive better in their own homes. Then home care might be the best choice. However, many issues have to be considered such as: Is the elder’s home in good repair, is it handicap accessible, is

SENIOR LIVING it in a safe neighborhood? Next, vetting out the home care agency is critical. It is important to understand how the home care agency works, what it charges, what are their hiring standards, supervision and educating caregivers. Get examples of how they work with elders who are resistant to care or have certain disabilities.

Caregivers should also provide companionship and engagement. Keeping elders in their homes with little meaningful activity tends toward faster decline. Lastly, it’s important that family members or close friends check in on a regular basis to see how things are going with the agency and the individual caregivers.

Jaffe: When is it appropriate to move to another city to be near family?

Kriseman: Once people reach 80plus I encourage families and elders to seriously consider where their seniors should live. I generally say that if elders have dementia or physical conditions that require a great deal of oversight and advocacy, then it’s usually best to move them closer to family. (I don’t necessarily advocate that they move their elder(s) into their home).

Also consider the age of the elders.

Too often I hear adult children say, “my 80-year-old mother/father is doing great, no need to think about anything yet.”

Wrong. At the drop of a hat, older adults’ health can change, dramatically. When people reach 80-plus there is a higher chance for having physical or cognitive challenges that generally require more oversight and advocacy.

Jaffe: What should people consider regarding legal matters, such as power of attorneys, wills, etc.?

Kriseman: Being that I am not an attorney, I want to be careful with how I respond. I encourage all my clients to make sure they have up-to-date POAs for health care and finances, and wills, generally

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no older than seven years. Having to get guardianship or conservatorships are “no picnic” and usually considered as a last resort or because of financial abuse.

Additionally, if long-term care will be needed, such as assisted living, memory care or nursing home care, speaking with an elder-law attorney can be important, particularly if there are limited assets.

Jaffe: What is “mindful caregiving?

Kriseman: Being a “mindful caregiver” means making sure you take care of yourself too. Learn to recognize the difference between burnout and what I refer to as “numb-out” which can happen to caregivers who keep going without recognizing how exhausted and stressed they are. They do not make time for selfcare. At least with burnout, caregivers stop providing care. They are too burned out to keep going. Mindful caregivers tune in to themselves and learn to become what I call “self-full,” so they don’t get to burnout or numb-out. They recognize what they can and can’t provide, set realistic expectations and factor in taking care of themselves. ■ Kriseman has written three books:

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Tackling Tough Topics with Your Senior Loved One

By Marcia Caller Jaffe When my mother needed care, we made some bad choices when hiring nurse aides. The first one had three fake flat tires in five days. The next stole my mother’s charge cards, but we thankfully landed with a family – a mother and three daughters – who were reliable and saw us through until the very end.

Lisa M. Reisman, a certified nurse practitioner with a master’s degree in nursing, has been providing services to seniors in Atlanta for 14 years. Here she provides a detailed compass for making “best practices” decisions in hiring nurse aides.

“The greatest gift we give our loved ones is honoring their right to self-determination to the best of everyone’s ability,” Reisman noted.

Learn from her expertise on many practical topics such as homeowner’s insurance liability, how to ask specific interview questions, and what to pay hourly for care.

Jaffe: Do you do any special training

of working with an agency?

Reisman: The con of working with an agency is the higher cost, which translates to more protection. Agencies are regularly surveyed by the state and must maintain compliance with all state laws and accrediting bodies. Agencies conduct background screenings, provide training and oversight by a registered nurse, provide employee worker’s compensation LPN Lisa Reisman shares her expertise on finding the right insurance, liability Jaffe: What can aide to help with home care . insurance and bondone expect to pay per ing, employee health insurance and rehour for assistance?

Reisman: The Atlanta hourly rate tirement plans, have a pool of caregivers ranges between $14 and $26, depending to pick the most compatible caregiver for on hiring privately or contracting with your loved one, and have other caregivers that can cover each other’s vacations and an agency.

Jaffe: What are the pros and cons sick time. Agencies offer an increased level of oversight by periodically having a registered nurse assess your loved one for changes in condition and medication compliance. for aides going into Jewish homes?

Reisman: Agencies develop person-centered care plans based on clients’ needs of activities in daily living, which include kashrut if a client choses. All caregivers are individually trained on the specific needs, taking into account functional and physical assessments, socio-economic environment, quality of life desired, religious observances, and goals of the care.

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Jaffe: I have witnessed tension over the responsibility of “housework.”

Reisman: Light housekeeping can be defined differently. Agencies typically keep clean the areas used by the client. Housekeeping has to be done with both feet of the employee on the ground.

Climbing ladders to clean fans is not a typical service.

Light housekeeping includes cleaning kitchen and bathroom countertops, washing dishes used by the client, mopping the kitchen floor, vacuuming the carpet and dusting in the areas of the home used by the client. It includes wiping out the shower/bathtub and cleaning the commode, changing the bedsheets and doing the contracted client’s laundry and meal preparation. Ironing of a specific garment may be included but typically does not include ALL ironing. Housekeeping duties requested by the client are agreed upon in advance and may include additional charges or referrals to housekeeping companies. If hiring privately,

the level of housekeeping and specific duties should be agreed upon in advance and provided in writing to the caregiver to ensure expectations are clear.

Jaffe: What is a Certified Nurse Aide (CNA)?

Reisman: Certified Nurse Aides are trained in a program approved by the state, which includes education and competency verification in at least 20 different tasks ranging from personal care (bathing, grooming, oral care, shaving, ambulating) to nutrition (meal preparation around dietary needs) to skin care (repositioning and care for dry thin skin) to safety training (fall and infection risk mitigation).

Reisman’s Checklist for Home Care Decisions: 1. Level of care. Do they need help with bathing, grooming, meal prep, housekeeping, medication reminders, transportation, companionship, ambulation assistance, and/or toileting, to name a few? This assessment determines the level of certification or training needed.

2. Costs of home care versus facility care. Understand how those costs will be covered. Care costs money and the financial reality of that care can be shocking.

Families underestimate the emotional commitment of caregiving and the added stress of the financial commitment can be overwhelming.

3. All stakeholders should be part of the care decisions: Your loved one that needs care, their spouse, siblings, friends, and other relatives. Everyone should be honest about their level of involvement/ commitment, whether it is time, money, food, companionship or transportation.

4. Agency or private care: If home care is chosen, next is deciding between agency and private care. An agency will take your assessment data, complete their own assessment and develop a care plan with explicit instructions of what, how and when the caregiver is to work.

If you are hiring privately, the stakeholders will need to develop a detailed list of expectations for the caregiver (job description) and establish clear salary/ wage parameters, including whose responsibility it is for payroll taxes (1099 versus W2).

Review the homeowner’s insurance policy regarding coverage of injuries in the home of hired employees. Do your research, whether it is for a privately hired caregiver or an agency. Talk to people who have used the caregiver or agency in the past. Beware of online reviews, as

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Lisa M. Reisman, a certified nurse practitioner with a master’s degree in nursing, provides a detailed compass for making “best practices” decisions in hiring nurse aides.

disgruntled consumers have a tendency to write more reviews than happy consumers.

5. The interview: Your loved one should be involved, if possible. Find out what similar work the caregiver has done previously. Gather work history. Ask what types of personalities they do and do not work well with. If hiring privately, ask what they will and “will not do.” Ask

what drew them to caregiving and what goals they have in working for your loved one and long term for themselves. Ask about their willingness to have a background screen and what certifications they hold. Be clear on your expectations and be honest about any diagnoses, abilities or disabilities, and/or inappropriate behaviors of the loved one.

6. The last step is decision-making.

Ask your loved one for input on their choice. Once you find someone who is experienced, qualified, has a clean background check and comes recommended, you still have to make a leap of faith. Nothing is guaranteed, but at the same time, nothing is in stone. You can change caregivers and agencies if it is not working out. Arm yourself with knowledge, do the research, and be honest with everyone in-

volved. Caregivers are humans, not robots.

Most are kind, compassionate, and really want the best for your loved one.

Not every caregiver is the right fit, but that doesn’t make them the wrong for someone else. ■ Reisman operates Complete Care at Home LLC. For more information, contact her at 770-551 9533.

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Donna Adler (right), helped her One Good Deed match, Bebe Forehand, celebrate her 90th birthday.

Carolyn Unger (right), and Ann Barr pictured here at One Good Deed’s Volunteer Appreciation event on April 14.

One Good Deed Celebrates Seniors and Volunteers

By Chantal Spector One Good Deed, a program of Jewish Family & Career Services that matches older adults to caring volunteers, is celebrating its 13th year.

Originally started by Marty Halpern and his sister-in-law, Sharon Spiegelman, the program supports older adults by providing a friendly, compassionate volunteer to visit with them and provide enrichment and socialization. Spiegelman will be receiving this year’s Jewish Federation of Greater Atlanta’s Mary & Max London People Power Award for her work in building the One Good Deed program.

Spiegelman, program manager, and Vivienne Kurland, program coordinator, carefully match each community volunteer with an older adult. The volunteers make a one-year commitment

to visit twice a month for a minimum of two hours per visit.

They perform simple tasks that contribute to the care recipient’s sustained independence, including cooking meals with them, shopping for groceries and clothes, visiting museums or cultural events, helping pay bills, running errands and assisting with daily chores such as changing a light bulb. In undertaking these essential tasks, volunteers act as social supports, providing care recipients with companionship, encouragement and friendship. The volunteer visits also provide the family caregivers peace of mind knowing their loved one is in safe hands.

“Over the years, we found that while volunteers were providing companionship, there were many other ways they could help in and outside their home,” Spiegelman said. “We provide that, but

we don’t send just any volunteer to any older adult. We consider ourselves real matchmakers, creating relationships and bonds between the two.”

Donna Adler, a volunteer matched with Bebe Forehand, feels very lucky to have met Bebe. “What I recommend about One Good Deed is that it’s good for both parties. I think I get more out of it than my recipient. It adds richness and texture to both people’s lives.”

Volunteer Carolyn Unger has been matched with Ann Barr for two years.

“One Good Deed has enriched my life. It brought me to Ann, who I adore and love spending time with. She’s always thanking me and asking what she can do for me; she doesn’t understand how much she has already done for me. I no longer have a mother or grandmother. She fills that void for me,” Unger said.

One Good Deed is always looking

for great volunteers and care recipients that live at home and may benefit from these services. They currently have 90 matches and are looking to build more throughout the Atlanta area.

Spiegelman said, “We have the most wonderful, caring dedicated, compassionate volunteers. I am constantly amazed by the lengths they go to to help their older adult friends.”

Kurland added, “Without our incredible volunteers, we would not be able to impact the lives of the recipients and their families the way we have, and the program would not be as strong as it is.”

For more information on becoming a One Good Deed volunteer or getting matched with a caring volunteer, visit www.jfcsatl.org/onegooddeed or call 678-978-1249. ■

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ChangingSpaces Eases Strain of Senior Moving

By Eddie Samuels Any move is a mammoth undertaking, but for seniors, a move can also mean dealing with increased stress and emotion. That’s where ChangingSpaces comes in.

Linda Kaplan and Holly Mitchell are two Jewish Atlantans who, after meeting while working in advertising, found themselves placed in similar situations.

“I had to plan a move for my mom.

My dad had passed away and we were looking at senior communities,” Kaplan said. “My husband travels and so I was going back and forth to Nashville, [where she lived], and it was very stressful. I felt like there had to be people who do this.”

The new entrepreneurs had both taken time off work as mothers and were ready to look for a venture together, when it hit Kaplan, “I said, ‘this is absolutely a business!’”

Mitchell was on board, and ChangingSpaces got its start in 2011 with a client very close to home for her as well.

“One of our first clients, when we finally decided to go for it, was my parents,

who had to move from Delray, Fla., to Atlanta,” she said. “They were our guinea pigs and we knew that we could do a good job when we finished that.”

The two women reached out to the National Association of Senior Move Managers, which at that time was still relatively new and consisted of only around 550 members.

“It really has grown,” Mitchell said.

“What it does is establish expectations, rules, procedures and ethics and provide training, all the things that you’d want in a company that’s helping seniors.”

NASMM has also provided the duo with a network of similar services in different cities across the United States and beyond.

“If people are moving from California to Atlanta or any other city where there are move managers, we can easily connect with those people and make the transition seamless,” Mitchell said.

There’s an important distinction between movers and move managers, and it begins first and foremost in a discussion of what services they provide for their clients.

As an initial step in the process, ChangingSpaces creates a floorplan that shows how the new home will be organized.

“Every job is different for us and we really can do as much or as little as people want us to, but we can handle anything and everything around a move,” Kaplan said. “Our first step is always to go in and see the space and see what kind of help they need.”

If their client knows where they’re moving, the pair will create a detailed floor plan that allows them and their client to better understand how much space they have and how much they can take with them.

“From there, we start sorting through everything with them, room by room,” Kaplan said. “As we get to know them, we start to gently push and offer some advice. We’ve done this so many times and we have a good feel for how to maximize space.”

Possessions can be a challenge for their senior clients, as they are often closely tied to memories, and letting go of those items can be a frightening prospect.

“We have to work creatively with them, and for some that means scanning things and putting them on a disk, or for others, it’s a photo album,” Mitchell said.

The second challenge is what to do with what’s not making the move with them, and Mitchell explained, this gets increasingly difficult as a greater portion of the population ages.

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“We help connect them with consignment shops and estate sale professionals, but as there’s more and more to be sold, it’s a challenge to help them understand that what they paid for it 40 years ago is not what it’s going to bring today,” Mitchell said.

Kaplan said that often the plan was to pass these things down to their children. “This next generation — ours and our kids — don’t want all this. They’re more minimalist and streamlined. The brown furniture and the china and silver just isn’t the lifestyle of today, but just because it doesn’t bring what you think it should, does not mean it hasn’t served its purpose.”

Creative solutions are important, and Kaplan shared her own experience, “I had a set of my grandmother’s china and it made me smile because I thought of her, but I didn’t really love it. What I did is I kept a cup and saucer in my office.

I don’t need the whole set to remember her.”

There’s no doubt that emotions are tied to spaces as well as objects, and, as such, moving can be a painful process, particularly for those who have lost someone in their previous home.

“I went to see a woman recently and her husband had just passed away,” Kaplan said. “Not that you ever really get over that but going through her house

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Holly Mitchell, left, and Linda Kaplan are founders of ChangingSpaces.

ChangingSpaces helps with closet organization to make everyday life easier.

and planning her move brings a kind of closure that we’re very sensitive to.”

Memory issues can also be a big challenge for the senior population, and ChangingSpaces is well-versed in working with those who need extra assistance with adjusting to a new home.

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“We try to make the new place as much the same as possible,” Kaplan said.

“We call it moving the queues and we’re very careful to be specific. What’s in the nightstand? We try to put the same stuff back there.”

At the core of their business is rela-

tionships with clients and knowing that they’re helping provide a service that can be a lot of physical and emotional labor for seniors. The pair often have helped members of Jewish Atlanta as they relocate to Berman Commons assisted living and similar facilities in town.

“We are a tight family and we really do love the feeling of helping people,” Kaplan said. “We get very close to our clients and hear all their stories.”

With close to 400 moves under their belts, that’s a lot of stories to keep track of. ■

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Students have to be among the first to register to secure a spot in Tommy Dell’s ‘Origins of Rock & Roll’ classes.

Popular husband and wife team Dorothy Carrillo and Tom Dell teach fascinating courses at OLLI.

Senior Learning for Its Own Sake

By Marcia Caller Jaffe Imagine living a dream to go back and reprise college by taking courses in a relaxed atmosphere without the concern for writing essays and staying up all night for exams – all for a tiny tuition.

The Osher Lifelong Learning Institute at Emory is a continuing education program for “seasoned” adults who enjoy learning just for fun.

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The fees start at $45 per course, but some also nominally charge for materials. Courses are held at the Executive Park campus and there is free parking.

A panoply of course choices include short and long sessions. To name a few of the classes offered: American sign language, Money and War, comedy improv, estate planning, Anton Chekhov and James Joyce, Spanish, The History of Jazz, and The Fading Sparks of European Royalty.

When I audited “A Biopic of Duchess Wallis Simpson,” I observed a disproportionate number of Jewish students and teachers in the coffee station and around the halls. “After all, we are the People of the Book,” explained Milton Crane, instructor and advisory board member since 2005.

Popular instructor Tommy Dell joked, “My wife (also an instructor) talked me into doing this after retirement; and I have enjoyed the response from the students. I usually learn as much from my students as I impart to them. This is the most fun I have had in a long time with my clothes on.”

Instructors do not get compensated, but they can take courses for free.

Get a taste of the stimulation, the socialization, and the intellectualism of some students and instructors on board at OLLI.

The Instructors

Over the past five years, Rabbi Ari Sollish has taught a variety of classes from Jewish mysticism to Medical and

Legal Ethics, Judaism Decoded, and the Holocaust. Sollish packs in about 60 students per class, and because of his popularity, students have been known to keep their fingers on the registration opening button or face being waitlisted.

He makes difficult subjects fun by offering “Freestyle Topics-50 Top Questions” or deep soulful topics, “The Afterlife.”

Sollish said, “I see many non-Jews in the class. Muslims, and some Christians have taken all of them. Many friendships have been forged.” His next class is “Communication, Art and Soul,” how to overcome texts and tweets drawn on Jewish wisdom.

Crane, 88, retired executive director of AmericasMart buyer relations, served on the OLLI curriculum committee. He recalled that over the past 14 years, OLLI has expanded from 30 to 65 course choices. “It used to be just Tuesdays and Thursdays; now we have sessions every weekday. Some people depend on OLLI as one of the main activities of their re-created lives. I consider it my brain exercise. … I see students starting at 50; our average age is 72.” Crane teaches “Meet the Authors,” which will start again in the fall and feature seven Atlanta authors who make one-time appearances.

Private therapist Nancy Weisman is leading her fourth course in “Mindfulness Mediation through Insight.” She has between 20 and 30 students per class and is a devoted OLLI proponent, as her late husband Dr. Evan Weisman was fully engaged. He taught “The History of American Folk Music” and attended many classes. “We are not slanted toward any ethnic group,” she said, “but we do see more Jewish participants since our

SENIOR LIVING “We were willing to skip the stop at the corner candy store or the soda fountain to see how the kids from Philly Husband and Wife Power Team danced and rated the latest 45s. ... ‘It had a Instructor Dell teaches a course on good beat, was easy to dance to. ...I’ll give it a 92.’ the origins of rock ’n’ roll, “What Tom Dell parts 1 through 5. “This brought us was an uncovers from before W.C. derstanding of the roots Handy in 1903 through and evolution of rock ’n’ psychedelia. The courses roll. Starting in the cotare not a history of rock ton fields of the South, and roll, but a look at the those rhythms and roots of the music and melodies brought us the how the blues grew into blues, and then into the rhythm and blues and jazz era. The mass migrahow rockabilly (Elvis Pretion from the South to sley) then eased into rock the industrialized North and roll. I use videos from Rabbi Ari Sollish teaches as seemed to center on YouTube to show how part of Emory’s OLLI program.

Detroit (Motown), New songs from the 1920s beYork and Philadelphia. And, as they say, came hits in 1958 and then beyond that.”

Students, bordering on fans, said the rest is history.”

Susan Caller, an elementary school that Dell shares much of his own “rather spirited” past to bring the topic alive. teacher, likes being taught by specialists. “We do the three l’s: listen, learn, Dells’ classes are in great demand.

His wife, Dr. Dorothy Fierman Car- and laugh about rock ’n’ roll, the Bible, rillo, is also an instructor. Her father, or where we will hike next. She recently Frank Fierman, was director of the Atlan- went on a half day OLLI hike with both ta Jewish Community Center during its students and instructors on Pine Mounexpansion from Buckhead to Dunwoody. tain, followed by a group lunch.

Other off-campus excursions for Carrillo has taught courses on Woody Allen, Jane Austen, Tolstoy’s “War And OLLI students include azalea viewing Peace,” and “America’s Singing Sweet- at Callaway Gardens, ($85) and a tour of Mercedes-Benz Stadium hearts: Nelson Eddy and ($25). Transportation is Jeanette MacDonald.” “I usually provided to and do it because it combines from Emory. Upcoming subjects about which I trips to Cuba and New am zealous with my love York City have been anof teaching,” she said. nounced.

“I like the variety,” The Students Caller said. “Tommy Dell Pam Cowan, a retired brought different guitars speech pathologist, said to class and explained OLLI filled a void for her. each one, Rabbi Ari makes “It’s enjoyable to ‘learn Torah study fun and for the sake of learning’… brings yummy homenot about writing a paper Milton Crane, 88, has been an made desserts for Jewish or the pressure of taking advisor and teacher since 2005. holidays, and I met internotes and studying for a esting (and very fit) people on the hike.” test.”

Cowan has been a student for five Another student, Michael Jenkins, years and has completed about two said, “Dell was able, with authority, to courses a quarter. “I have taken most of take us all back to the early days of slavRabbi Solish’s classes, plus art apprecia- ery and how music was created initially, tion, music appreciation, A Study of the like the blues, and explain how jazz then Assassination of JFK, The History of Slav- rock ’n’ roll originated from this, the ery, The History of Native Americans, blues period. He relayed an amazing The Dreyfus Case [taught by Burt Parks, story of how modern music became the also Jewish]. I enjoy the camaraderie as phenomenon it is today. there are so many people that I would I know a lot about music. He knows never have met otherwise.” so much more than me! Apart from all of OLLI student Marty Walter said, “It’s this, he is a lovely man.” easy, and most obvious, to consider Tom It’s never too late to teach us old dogs Dell a rock ‘n’ roll encyclopedia. To those new tricks. ■ of us in our 60s and 70s, rock ’n’ roll startFor more information about Emory’s ed as we raced home from school to see OLLI program, visit www.ece.emory.edu/ “American Bandstand.” olli/index.html. demographic is so interested in continuing education.”

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Dealing with Early Memory Loss and Diagnosis

By Chantal Spector

Medders said.

Almost everyone over a certain age becomes concerned about memory lapses or loss. We hear so much about Alzheimer’s disease and dementia in the news that we become fearful and confused and do not know to what degree and when memory loss becomes something more than the natural aging process. How do you know when forgetfulness is a sign to get help?

“Often, people are so affected by the stigma of possibly having Alzheimer’s disease or other related dementias, that they are afraid to go to a doctor about changes in their cognitive function. Getting an accurate diagnosis early on is very important because there are many things that can cause symptoms of dementia and changes in cognitive ability,” said Kim McRae, co-founder of Culture Change Network of Georgia and president of Have a Good Life.

“For example, while changes in the brain that cause dementia are permanent and worsen over time, thinking and memory problems caused by conditions such as depression, medication side ef-

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fects and thyroid problems can improve when the condition is treated or addressed,” she said.

Dementia and Alzheimer’s disease are often used interchangeably. They actually have very different meanings.

Dementia is not a specific disease but is

a general term used to describe symptoms characterized by the loss of cognitive function (memory, language skills, visual perception, problem-solving, selfmanagement and the ability to focus and pay attention). There are more than 200 subtypes of dementia, with Alzheimer’s disease being the most common form.

Often, individuals will receive a diagnosis of mild cognitive impairment (MCI) from their doctor. MCI does not necessarily lead to Alzheimer’s disease (AD), although individuals with MCI do have a greater risk of developing AD. MCI causes a slight, but noticeable, decline in cognitive abilities, but the decline is not severe enough to interfere with daily life. Between 15 and 20 percent of people 65 and older are living with MCI in the United States.

Laura Medders, social worker and administrative manager of Emory’s Integrated Memory Care Clinic, a nationally recognized program that provides primary care individualized for people living with dementia, stressed the importance of early detection.

“If you start to notice changes in thinking, more specifically memory, judgment, reasoning, language, etc., it is helpful to bring these concerns to your primary care provider. Their office may be able to provide you with a cognitive screening or refer you to a neurologist who can provide a more thorough workup. We now know that changes in the brain are happening before people become symptomatic. If the person is diagnosed with dementia, early intervention often leads to opportunities for the individual to plan for the future, to potential opportunities to engage in research trials, and to reduce healthcare spending,”

Research has shown that the best way to keep the brain in optimum health is with physical exercise, cognitively stimulating exercises and staying socially engaged.

Last year, Georgia Gunter, Jewish Family & Career Services geriatric care manager and former director of the Weinstein Center, helped launch a new program, Brain Health Bootcamp, at JF&CS. The first of its kind in Atlanta, this program is designed to provide a cognitive and physical exercise program to individuals who may be experiencing a decline in cognitive functioning as a result of MCI, early stage Alzheimer’s disease, or other related dementias.

The brain fitness part is facilitated

by Fini Shell, certified cognitive stimulation coach and owner of Keep in Mind, a consulting company offering cognitive coaching to individuals and groups.

“The cognitive activities in the boot camp focus on short and long-term memory, executive function, visual memory, multitasking and attention to detail using word games and language-based activities. As part of the socialization component, participants are introduced to various memory techniques and spend time discussing and practicing them as a group,” Shell explained.

The physical exercise portion is led

by Ling Olaes, certified art and yoga therapist at JF&CS, and includes breathing techniques, yoga, and fun cardio moves that require the individual to remember sequenced movements.

“It is rewarding to see the transformations that take place here. Friendships are formed and participants gain confidence and a sense of reassurance that they are not alone in their journey,” Gunter said.

Because of the popularity of the program, there are now two groups that meet weekly, one with mild cognitive impairment and another with more significant memory loss. There are also plans to offer the boot camp at senior living facilities. ■ For more information about Brain Health Bootcamp, of Aviv Older Adult Services, visit www.jfcsatl.org/brainhealthbootcamp, or call 770-677-9421. Ongoing semesters of eight weekly classes are offered 1 to 3 p.m. and 2 to 4 p.m. Thursdays at JF&CS. Individual classes are $25 or $200 for a full semester. The program is made possible, in part, through a grant from the Breman Foundation, Inc.

SENIOR LIVING

Alzheimer’s Documentary Spotlights New Research

By Bob Bahr “Turning Point,” a new documentary following researchers as they edge closer to finding a treatment for Alzheimer’s disease, is generating interest in the importance of clinical trials in drug research.

The film has been shown at a number of film festivals around the country, and in Boston, where it won three awards, including best documentary.

On Tuesday it was shown in a program sponsored by Emory University’s Goizueta Alzheimer’s Disease Research Center, whose director, Dr. Allan Levey, the AJT profiled earlier this year.

The documentary follows researchers through the challenges of the rise and fall of a new drug, solanezumab, developed by Eli Lilly and Company. It had looked highly promising for people with mild symptoms of the disease. Early tests seemed to show that the drug might be able to clear the body of collections of what are called amyloid proteins. They develop in the brain and cause brain cells to die and create memory loss.

The drug was the first to show that it might work on the underlying process of how the disease develops, particularly during the early stages of the disease, rather than merely slowing the symptoms of the disease.

The development of the drug was the result of what had been pioneering research more than 20 years ago that showed that mice with symptoms of Alzheimer’s dramatically improved when the amyloid plaque build-up was removed.

Finding a way to remove that buildup has driven much of the so-far unsuccessful research, including the failure of the new drug, solanezumab, which is chronicled in “Turning Point.”

Today an estimated 5 million Americans are living with Alzheimer’s. If nothing is done, in the next 30 years, that number is expected to triple.

The nonprofit, BrightFocus Foundation, which is the presenting sponsor of “Turning Point” screenings around the country, estimated that nearly 500,000 new cases of Alzheimer’s disease will be diagnosed this year in the United States.

Every 3 seconds, someone in the world develops dementia.

Just last month, clinical trials for yet another promising drug called aducanumab, were also halted. A leading researcher noted that the drug was so promising at one point that research and testing was being accelerated. The hope was that, like the earlier drug featured in the documentary, it could rid amyloid

Director James Keach previously documented the Alzheimer’s struggle of singer Glen Campbell.

New Alzheimer's documentary highlights the need for volunteers for clinical drug trials.

Photo via www.turningpointmovie.com // Dr. Neil deGrasse Tyson, astrophysicist and author, is featured in the film.

proteins from the brain as well as improve cognitive function.

Part of the problem in creating new treatments that target these proteins is that the development of the amyloid deposits begins a decade or more before symptoms appear.

By the time doctors see patients who are having memory problems, their brain may already have begun to atrophy. By then, some researchers have concluded it may be too late to start treatment.

Dr. Rudolph Tanzi, the son of Jewish refugees from Poland and Palestine, is a prominent Alzheimer’s authority at Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School. He reportedly concluded that targeting the amyloid deposits is like trying to put out a forest fire by putting out the match. It is thought that no treatment can bring back the brain cells that are lost.

Prevention through genetic testing and treatment is his controversial approach to treatment.

To truly stop Alzheimer’s, it is felt, doctors must head off those beginning to develop Alzheimer’s dementia and redirect them, much as physicians today measure blood cholesterol levels and, if necessary, prescribe cholesterol-lowering drugs to avert a heart attack.

That can only happen if future research is aggressively supported and there is an adequate number of participants in clinical studies.

According to America’s Alzheimer’s Association, the world's largest funder of Alzheimer's research, recruiting and retaining trial participants is now the greatest obstacle, other than funding, in developing future Alzheimer’s treatments. Every clinical treatment, it is felt, contributes valuable knowledge, whether the treatment works or not.

As the documentary shown at Em-

ory Tuesday demonstrated, the success of the more than 250 studies that are now focused on Alzheimer’s and other dementias depends on having access to those willing to participate in the studies.

The production of “Turning Point” is the latest project developed by actorturned-documentary filmmaker James Keach, whose previous film was “I’ll Be Me.” It was about the struggle by the late

singer, Glen Campbell, to cope with the effects of memory loss. The production was filmed during his final “Goodbye Tour.” That film was nominated for an Academy Award and won three Grammy Awards. ■ Further information about the “Turning Point” documentary and how to schedule a screening is available at www.turningpointfilm.com.

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YOM HASHOAH

We are entering a season in the Jewish calendar that calls for remembrance of lives lost, that reminds Jews why “Never Again” is more than a slogan, and that highlights a divide between Atlanta’s Jewish and Israeli communities.

Holocaust Remembrance Day, Yom HaShoah in Hebrew, is observed on the 27th day in the month of Nisan, which this year falls on May 2.

When the rabbinate in pre-state Palestine considered a date for the observance, the 8th of Av – the date in 1942 (July 22) when the Nazis began sending

the Jews of Warsaw to the death camps – was rejected because it fell the day before Tisha B’Av, when Jews mourn the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem.

The 14th of Nisan – the date in 1943 (April 19) marking the beginning of the Warsaw ghetto uprising – was rejected because it was erev Pesach.

The Knesset decided in 1951 that the 27th of Nisan, one week after Passover, would be Holocaust Remembrance Day.

Holocaust Author Featured at MJCCA’s Yom Hashoah Ceremony On Sunday, the Marcus JCC, invites the community to a Holocaust Remembrance Day (Yom Hashoah) commemoration featuring the co-author of a book about Holocaust survival.

Pamela Sampson co-authored “No Reply: A Jewish Child Aboard the MS St. Louis and the Ordeal That Followed” with the Holocaust survivor whose story the book recounts, Henry Gallant. The topic is especially meaningful because 2019 is the 80th anniversary of the voyage of the MS St. Louis.

The book tells the story of Henry’s narrow escape from the Nazis. Henry was born on October 30, 1928, in Berlin. After

the violence of the Kristallnacht pogrom of the Nazis. in November 1938, Henry’s parents made the decision to leave Germany. They bought tickets for ocean passage aboard the MS St. Louis, which sailed from Germany on May 13, 1939.

The ship, with more than 900 Jewish refugees, was denied permission to land in Cuba, the United States and Canada. The passengers were forced to return to Europe, where Pamela Sampson many fell into the hands

Henry and his mother embarked on a harrowing journey through France, running and hiding from the Nazis and their collaborators until they managed a narrow escape to neutral Switzerland. Henry’s father was detained in a French internment camp for two years until he was deported in August 1942 to Auschwitz, where he died.

Sampson is an editor and former foreign correspondent for The Associ-

ated Press, one of the world’s largest news agencies. Her journalistic work has taken her to countries throughout Europe, the Middle East and Asia, and her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post and many other publications. “No Reply” is her first book. She lives in Sandy Springs with her son, Joshua.

Sunday’s free ceremony will be held from 3:30 to 4:30 p.m. rain or shine at the MJCCA’s Besser Holocaust Memorial Garden, 5342 Tilly Mill Road, Dunwoody, one of the foremost memorials of its kind in the Southeast. ■ For more information, visit atlantajcc. org/yomhashoah or call 678-812-4161.

Unto Every Person There Is a Name

By Patrice Worthy The names of Holocaust victims will be read aloud at the Georgia State Capitol on Yom Hashoah, or Holocaust Remembrance Day, May 3. The Atlanta community is invited to participate in the B’nai B’rith International Holocaust memorial program “Unto Every Person There is a Name.”

Edward Dressler, founder of Dressler’s Jewish Funeral Care, has been managing the program for about 20 years. He said it’s important because people should learn more about the events that took the lives of 6 million Jews.

“I learned about the Holocaust in high school, and after learning about it I realized the importance of education,” Dressler said.

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Lutz is careful to use the word “in30-minute slots. Dressler said reading the dividuals” when speaking names is vital, considering about the Holocaust. Six the recent rise in anti-Semmillion Jews were muritism. dered between the years of “It’s important to have 1941 to 1945, and for Lutz, an intelligent response to it talking about a mass genoand it’s our responsibility cide of Jews can take away to respond because it’s hapthe humanity of the lives pening worldwide.” that were lost. He said it’s Harry Lutz, treasurer important to remember of B’nai B’rith Internationthese people were individal Achim Gate City Lodge, ual mothers, fathers, brothsaid a ceremony like this ers, sisters and cousins. is more crucial than ever Edward Dressler “I can reflect on family because of false narratives that are denying the events that took members I lost in the Shoah. It’s a moving experience for those in the audience place and attempting to erase history.

“It helps accomplish the goal of mak- and those reading the names,” Lutz said. ing people aware of the Holocaust and “It helps you realize the individual living, those individuals who perished,” Lutz said. breathing people that would have had “It also is a way to confront those who want a lot to contribute if they weren’t murdered in the Holocaust.” to say the Holocaust never happened.”

Each year the list of names grows as more victims are added either by family members or by Yad Vashem: The World Holocaust Remembrance Center in Jerusalem. Reading of the names helps B’nai B’rith International unite Jews and brings awareness to Jews all over the world who have been persecuted, Lutz said, adding that he feels a sense of pride that more people are becoming involved each year.

“The number of Holocaust survivors is diminishing; when they are gone, there won’t be anyone alive to describe the experience,” Lutz said. “So, we hope to be able to pass along their message and accomplish the goal of making people aware of the Holocaust.” ■ The program is 9 a.m. to 12 p.m. May 3 at the South wing of the Georgia State Capitol, 206 Washington St., Atlanta.

YOM HASHOAH

Yom HaShoah, a Day of Remembrance

By Marc Huppert We strive to remember the past, live in the present and plan for the future. The memories of the events that took place during the Holocaust are often too painful for those who survived to recount.

The stories we have been witness to clearly show the reason so many survivors will not speak of those times. We must, however, remember where we came from to effectively decide where we are going.

The Nazis murdered our families and tried to remove Jewish people from the face of the earth. Some survivors, thankfully, are still with us and are able to tell us their experiences and how they endured the horrors that were laid before them. We must all keep the memory of those we lost alive; we must prevent such atrocities from reoccurring.

The sounds of soldiers pounding on doors in the middle of the night. The horror of being told to pack one suitcase and be on the street for relocation. Ghettos, overcrowded and devoid of basic needs such as sanitation, food and medicine.

Families separated never to see each other again. Events that are unimaginable to most of us today were the beginnings of what was to be the most horrific event in our history.

The death camps along with killing

Hershel Greenblat and his family survived the Holocaust and moved to Atlanta.

Atlanta’s Yom HaShoah commemoration will be held at the Memorial to the Six Million at Greenwood Cemetery.

squads, the Einsatzgruppen, were responsible for the deaths of 6 million Jewish people. Death camps had been constructed and deportation from the ghettos was in full operation. Transport by train in overloaded cattle cars ran constantly and the gas chambers and crematoria were in operation 24 hours a day. The SS were tasked with the total annihilation of the Jewish people and carried out their task with great efficiency.

It is on the day of Yom Hashoah that we remember and honor those that were taken from us. This memorial provides a place to honor those who were given no resting place.

Through the act of remembrance, we fortify the ground on which we now stand. Saying Kaddish for the 6 million, 1.5 million of them children, not only honors those we lost but, in our hearts, perhaps we receive strength from them

to continue the journey forward. Our community is strong and vibrant, yet we often overlook the foundation of our heritage. This foundation must be kept strong in order to support the weight of the future we wish to construct upon it.

We are very proud and fortunate to have Hershel Greenblat as our speaker for Yom Hashoah. Hershel has a remarkable story of survival. His parents met as members of a resistance group and married in 1940. They went into hiding in a cave in the Ukraine, sharing their hiding place with others who, through their resourcefulness, managed to survive and fight. Hershel was born in the cave in 1941 and did not see the light of day for the first two years of his life. Through the amazing strength and determination of Hershel’s parents, the family managed to survive the war despite the wounds his mother received and the imprisonment

of his father by the Russians. At the end of the war, Hershel’s sister Ann was born and, after they traveled to a Displaced Persons camp in Salzburg, his sister Ethel was born. The family spent five years living in the DP camps.

Eventually making their way to the United States, Hershel’s father opened a grocery store in a neighborhood called “Buttermilk Bottom” in Atlanta, aiding those in need in his community. Hershel attended school in Atlanta, learning to adapt to his new surroundings and become a part of the community. He is now dedicated to speaking to groups, keeping his family’s story alive and teaching their history. Yom HaShoah is a national day of commemoration on which the 6 million Jews murdered in the Holocaust are memorialized. It is a communitywide commemoration jointly sponsored by the Jewish Federation of Greater Atlanta, Eternal Life-Hemshech and the William Breman Jewish Heritage Museum.

Please join us to bear witness to Hershel’s experiences and to honor, remember and celebrate those who lost their lives during the Holocaust. The service will be held at 11 a.m. May 5 at the Memorial to the Six Million at Greenwood Cemetery. ■ Marc Huppert is a board member of the William Breman Jewish Heritage Museum.

For more information, visit www.thebreman.org.

How to Continue to Remember

By Doris H. Goldstein Just as the last matzah crumbs disappear, we move from the pinnacle of our national history, liberation from slavery, to its depths, as we gather to commemorate Yom HaShoah, Holocaust Remembrance Day. One central question always confronts us: how to memorialize the overwhelming number of individuals, some of whom we know and many we don’t.

One answer, albeit inadequate, is to focus on just one whose name we do know and who has a special connection to Atlanta.

His name is Andre Steiner. He was born in 1908 in a small town in Slovakia.

Educated in Hungarian language schools, he studied architecture in Czechoslovakia, began his practice, married Hetty Weiner, and in 1940 fled the German-occupied territory to return to Bratislava, the capitol of Slovakia. Its leaders were overwhelmingly pro-Nazi and did not

Photos courtesy of the William Breman Jewish Heritage Museum // One

of Andre Steiner’s many architectural projects, he renovated a resort hotel in Tatras, Slovakia. Steiner was from Slovakia.

need urging to enact anti-Jewish laws and activities.

In December 1941, more than 7,000 Jews were deported. The following year, 20,000 young Jews and their families were sent to Auschwitz with the Slovak government paying the Nazis 500 German marks per person.

The Jewish response was an entity

Steiner, a Holocaust survivor and architect, worked on many Atlanta buildings, including AA Synagogue.

called the Working Group, which, with the government appointed Judenrat, was dedicated to helping the community in a variety of ways. Never more than six to eight individuals, they were the first in all of occupied Europe who believed the early reports of the true nature of Auschwitz.

Steiner was an original member. He was involved in the negotiations to bribe

Slovak and Nazi officials, which resulted in the cessation of deportations for two years. His most important contribution was to convince the authorities to establish workshops within the local forced labor camps to produce useful products in short supply. There, thousands of Jews lived securely for almost three years until the Nazi takeover in 1944.

Steiner survived in hiding, coming to Atlanta in the early 1950s. Employed

by Robert and Company, an established architectural firm, he worked on numerous local projects, most notably Ahavath Achim Synagogue.

Join Ahavath Achim on April 27 as we remember Steiner at Yizkor and Greenwood Cemetery on May 5 for Yom HaShoah. ■ Doris Goldstein is a longtime member of Ahavath Achim Synagogue and author of “From Generation to Generation,” a history of A.A., published for its centennial.

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CALENDAR SUNDAY, APRIL 28

Personal Safety and Self Defense Workshop for Kids – Congregation Etz Chaim, 1190 Indian Hills Parkway NE, Marietta, from 12:30 to 2:30 p.m. Protect your child from predators! Join Etz Chaim for this event, hosted by Revved Up Kids and sponsored by the Phillip Michael Silverman Memorial Endowment Fund. Event is for kids in kindergarten through fifth grade. Free. To register, www.revvedupkids.org/events.

Hunger Walk – The Home Depot Backyard, 1 Backyard Way, Atlanta, from 1 to 4 p.m. Join the Jewish Federation of Greater Atlanta and represent the community as it comes together to end hunger and raise funds for the Atlanta Community Food Bank. Free. To register and for more information, www.bit. ly/2KCiuHh.

Yom HaShoah Holocaust Remembrance Day Ceremony – Marcus JCC, 5342 Tilly Mill Road, Atlanta, from 3:30 p.m. to 4:30 p.m. All are invited to a Holocaust commemoration ceremony featuring guest speaker, Pamela Sampson, who wrote, “No Reply: A Jewish Child Aboard the MS St. Louis and the Ordeal That Followed.” The program will also include readings, memorial prayers, and the lighting of six torches in memory of those who perished in the Holocaust. Rain or­shine.

Free. For more information, www.bit. ly/2KlU19e.

CANDLE-LIGHTING TIMES

Pesach Friday, April 26, 2019, light candles at 7:59 p.m.

Saturday, April 27, 2019, Shabbat ends at 8:57 p.m.

Acharei Friday, May 3, 2019, light candles at 8:04 p.m.

Saturday, May 4, 2019, Shabbat ends at 9:03 p.m.

helped people you know get to college the interest-free way. Free. For more information, www.bit.ly/2I9G5gJ.

Israeli Elections Analysis with the New Israel Fund – Congregation Shearith Israel, 1180 University Drive, Atlanta, from 7:30 to 9 p.m. Join NIF for a special evening conversation and analysis of Israel’s election results from Israeli expert Mikhael Manekin, director of NIF grantee The Alliance for Israel’s Future, and Libby Lenkinski, NIF’s vice president for public engagement.

Free. For more information, and to register, www.bit.ly/2GbNj1e or email abigail@nif.org.

TUESDAY, APRIL 30

Pasta Making – Marcus JCC, 5342 Tilly

MONDAY, APRIL 29

Earth Day @ MJCCA – Marcus JCC, 5342 Tilly Mill Road, Atlanta, from 10:30 a.m. to 1 p.m. Get your hands dirty during activities and speaking events that will help you appreciate the environment we all share! Activities include container gardening, earth-based art and a plant-based cooking class. $25 for members, $30 for the community. For more information, www.bit. ly/2UYP4r6.

JELF Young Professionals Happy Hour – Bogartz Food Artz, 227 Sandy Springs Place NE, Sandy Springs, from 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. Network and socialize, meet new people and learn more about a great organization that very likely 32 | APRIL 26, 2019 ATLANTA JEWISH TIMES

Mill Road, Atlanta, from 7 to 9 p.m.

Whether it’s fresh fish and olives from Sicily or rustic flavors from a Tuscan village, Italian cooking is as varied as the country it comes from. Participants will make a chopped salad, pumpkin ravioli, fettuccine with pesto, goat cheese tortellini, and hazelnut truffles. $50 for members, $65 for the community. For more information and to register, www.bit.ly/2Z05rmj.

WEDNESDAY, MAY 1

Metulla Hadassah “Discovering and Liberating Dachau” – Congregation Beth Shalom, 5303 Winters Chapel Road, Dunwoody, from 6:30 to 9 p.m.

Hilbert "Hibby" Margol's story was featured in the “American Witnesses” exhibition at the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, D.C. The exhibit highlights Americans who saw firsthand evidence of Nazi atrocities, presenting their oral and written testimonies with photographs and film. $5 per person at the door. For more information, www.bit.ly/2D2FXeE.

1190 Indian Hills Parkway NE, Marietta, from 6:15 to 8 :15 p.m. Join Etz Chaim for Blue Jean Shabbat dinner followed

by Shabbat services led by teen band Kadima. $8 per adult, $5 per child. All proceeds go toward Congregation Etz Chaim Youth Department. For more information, www.bit.ly/2uXmRlM.

Yom HaShoah Holocaust Remembrance Program – Congregation Etz Chaim, 1190 Indian Hills Parkway NE, Marietta, from 7:30 to 8 p.m. This program has been organized and will be led by teens from St. Ann’s and Etz Chaim who are part of the Interfaith Holocaust Fellowship. Etz Chaim welcomes its friends from the Catholic Church of St. Ann to observe Yom HaShoah together. Yom HaShoah candles will be distributed. Refreshments will be served. Free. For more information, www.bit.ly/2WZ7W6m.

THURSDAY, MAY 2

Yom HaShoah Commemoration – Temple Beth Tikvah, 9955 Coleman Road, Roswell, from 7 to 9 p.m. In commemoration of Yom HaShoah a presentation of “Schindler’s List” will be shown, featuring speaker Holocaust historian Dan O’Lone. Free. For more information, www.bit.ly/2G4kIK1.

FRIDAY, MAY 3

Unto Every Person There is a Name – Georgia State Capitol, 206 Washington St. SW, Atlanta, from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m. Sponsored by B’nai B’rith International. Participants name the victims and where and when they were born and died. These observances, created by Yad Vashem in Jerusalem, honor more victims each year as the project collects more names. Free. If you would like to attend and/or participate in the reading of the names, contact dressler@jewishfuneralcare.com or call 770-451-4999.

Shabbat, Me & Rabbi G @ the JCC – Marcus JCC, 5342 Tilly Mill Road, Atlanta, from 5 to 6 p.m. Activities and crafts followed by songs and blessings with Rabbi Brian Glusman, concluding with a visit from the popular “Weinstein School Shabbat Dinosaur.” Challah and grape juice will be served. Free and open to everyone. For more information and to RSVP, www.bit.ly/2BwiaoZ.

May Blue Jean Shabbat – Pasta with a Purpose – Congregation Etz Chaim,

YJP Cinco de Mayo First Fridays – Chabad Intown On The BeltLine, 730 Ponce De Leon Place NE, Atlanta, from 6:30 to 10 p.m. Join YJP every month for First Fridays Shabbat Dinner on the BeltLine. Mingle, schmooze and meet new people with an open bar and a delicious Shabbat dinner buffet. Bring friends and make new ones. $18 early bird tickets. Tickets include open bar and dinner. For tickets and more information, www.bit.ly/2tjoUj7.

SATURDAY, MAY 4

Israel Independence Day Celebration – Hammond Glen, 335 Hammond Drive NE, Sandy Springs, from 4 to 6 p.m. Join Israel Bonds and PJ Library for a fun afternoon of crafts, music and food! We will be celebrating Israel Independence Day! Free. For more information, www.bit.ly/2IaHfIA.

TBT Men’s Club BBQ, Bourbon & Brotherhood – Temple Beth Tikvah, 9955 Coleman Road, Roswell, from 6 to 9 p.m. Annual BBQ, Bourbon & Brotherhood, live Kentucky Derby viewing and ”wagering,” sports memorabilia silent auction, kosher BBQ and fixings and old school bourbon tastings. $40 per person in advance, $50 per person at the door. For more information, www. bit.ly/2IoHNKu.

SUNDAY, MAY 5

54th Annual Community Yom HaShoah Service – Greenwood Cemetery, 1173 Cascade Circle SW, Atlanta, from 11

APRIL 26-MAY 7 Hasidic judge in American history. $36 per person. For more information, www.bit.ly/2Z4M4Zn.

MONDAY, MAY 6

a.m. to 12:30 p.m. 54th Annual Community Yom HaShoah Service of Rememberance at The Memorial to The Six Million. Free and open to the public. For more information, www.bit.ly/2Z0SXeh.

Torah Tots Preschool Open House – Chabad of North Fulton, 10180 Jones Bridge Road, Alpharetta, from 2 to 3 p.m. Snack, crafts and play. Look at the new preschool at this open house for parents and children. Free. For more information, www.bit.ly/2UQFN4i.

28th Annual Chesed Student Awards – Temple Emanu-El, 1580 Spalding Drive, Atlanta, from 2 to 4 p.m. Join Hadassah Greater Atlanta for its 28th annual Chesed Student Awards honoring excellence and menschlichkeit in Atlanta’s Jewish teens. Partnering with JumpSpark to honor 22 of the best and brightest young leaders and mensches representing synagogues, day schools and Jewish organizations in the community. Please join them on May 5 to celebrate and be inspired by their accomplishments. Free and open to the community. RSVP by April 30, atlanta@hadassah.org or 678-443-2961.

25th Anniversary Harris Jacobs Dream Run 5K – Marcus JCC, 5342 Tilly Mill Road, Atlanta, from 8 a.m.

Annual 5K Run/Walk benefiting MJCCA programming for children and young adults with special needs. $25 to $35 per person. For more information, www.bit.ly/2p0kiNl.

TUESDAY, MAY 7

Yom Hazikaron Memorial Ceremony – Ahavath Achim Synagogue, 600 Peachtree Battle Ave. NW, Atlanta, from 6:30 to 9:30 p.m. Join AA in commemorating Yom Hazikaron, Israel’s official Memorial Day for fallen soldiers and victims of terrorism. For more information, www.bit.ly/2Db0oWL.

Hadassah Ketura Holocaust Remembrance of Penny Bowman z”l – Hammond Glen, 335 Hammond Drive NE, Sandy Springs, from 7 to 8 p.m.

Holocaust presentation. Ketura member Leora Wollner will speak about her mother Penina (Penny) Bowman’s (z”l) experiences during and after the Holocaust. Free. For more information, www.bit.ly/2P4pP1d.

Yom HaAtzmaut Family Celebration – Congregation B’nai Torah, 700 Mount Vernon Highway NE, Sandy Springs, from 3 to 4 p.m. Join B’nai Torah as it celebrates and salutes Israel.

The festivities include a petting zoo, games, craft projects, Israeli-themed nosh, music and more. All families with children age 8 and younger are invited.

Free. To register, www.bit.ly/2IucEFl.

Jewish Women’s Inspirational Night – Chabad of North Fulton, 10180 Jones Bridge Road, Alpharetta, from 5 to 7 p.m. Join Chabad for the annual night of cocktails, fun and inspiration with special guest speaker The Honorable Ruchie Freier, the first female

Confessions of a Jewish Hijacker – Chabad on The BeltLine, 730 Ponce De Leon Place, Atlanta, from 7:30 to 9 p.m.

How one Jew stood up to the Soviets and KGB. A heroic story of faith, courage and survival. Hear Yosef Mendelevich’s harrowing and heroic journey from Soviet gulag to freedom. $18 per person. For more information, and to become a sponsor, www.bit.ly/2Kvj5e7.

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COMMUNITY

Photos by Delores Restivo Lazerson // Iris Bachenheimer re-creates her husband’s recipe to later win the contest.

Joan King and Karen Schultz join Iris Bachenheimer’s team, re-creating the entree based on the honoree’s recipe.

Stefan Pollak prepares for what will become the third-place winning entry.

Lori and Marty Gilbert whip up a batch of matzah brie.

Matzah Brie Honoree Wins Cook-Off

By Roni Robbins A spoonful of irony mixed with the tasty dishes featured at Congregation Etz Chaim’s first matzah brie cook-off last week.

Although it wasn’t intended to coincide, the event April 16 fell on the first yartzheit of the honoree and impetus for the contest, Ron Bachenheimer, who died about a year ago. Also, the winning recipe was his, re-created by his wife, Iris.

“Ron loved a good party, so I hope

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you all enjoy,” she said before becoming the champion cook.

The moist dish, dubbed Team Tzipporah to mask the contestant, was also my personal favorite, with its sautéed mushrooms and onions and the secret ingredient Iris revealed to the assembly: pareve chicken consommé.

For the contest, she said she substituted gluten-free matzah for her daughter, who came from the family’s hometown in Chicago for the event. Iris disclosed after the contest that her hus-

band’s recipe was crispier, but the judges to freeze leftovers from the modern-day – everyone who attended got two votes – re-creation of that memorable cook-off for him to taste when he returned. “Chag didn’t seem to mind.

Apparently, I voted with the major- Sameach from Yerushalayim.”

Also addressing the crowd, Bachenity because my next pick was the secondplace Sisterhood recipe, Team Yochevet, heimer’s daughter Dena said her “larger a sweet variety with chocolate chips, jam than life” father, with his big personality and cream. Third place was Stefan Pol- and gregarious nature, would have loved belack, Team Aharon, who used blueberries ing the center of attention.

About the origins of the contest, she and strawberries along with sugar and said, “There was not much else to eat if vanilla in his recipe. you kept kosher.” Late About 100 people at night, her father attended the event, would whip up his inspired by a bragsavory Passover dish ging contest that bewith its base of eggs gan years ago when and matzah, combined Bachenheimer chalwith mushrooms and lenged Rabbi Shalom onions for pareve meals Lewis to a Passoverand salami for fleishig time cook-off. ones. “There was a lot Delores Restivo of mingling, yelling and Lazerson, the contest sweating,” she recalled organizer and co-chair of the competition beof the synagogue’s adult tween her father and education program, the rabbi. The winner read Lewis’ Passover was more likely a result greetings from Israel, in of personal connections which he shared memothan a superior taste, ries of the good-natured Dena Bachenheimer decorates cooking duel between a she said. a stone she’ll bring to her father’s grave along with others “Yekkisha,” German Jew, Tearing up, she created by those gathered for Bachenheimer, and a told the congregation him or their own loved one.

“Litvak from Lithuania.” she appreciated the “Over the years, as Passover ap- cooking contest in her father’s memory. proached, Ron boasted of his talent in “It’s about an old tradition brought to life the kitchen in the preparation of matzah in a new manner. I can hear my Dad now, brie, as did I. Our Pesachdik braggadocio ‘Oy, I would be in heaven.’” ■ ultimately ended up in a friendly competition one fateful yontif many years ago surrounded by hungry friends.”

With the two friends “shvitzing and laughing” in the kitchen, “folks in the dining room hollered for the next round,” Lewis recalled. “As the evening drew to a close, with the kitchen reeking of oil, we shook hands, embraced and called it a draw, to the applause of those assembled.”

Photo by Roni Robbins // Rabbi Albert Slomovitz The rabbi said he’d love someone prepares to sample the matzah brie entries.

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First Night Seder at Congregation Etz Chaim

By Marcia Caller-Jaffe It was an experiment that went well. Rabbi Daniel Dorsch began the first night communal seder April 19 at Congregation Etz Chaim by stating that he initially thought 35 people would sign up and was overjoyed to have a crowd of 180.

The mood was elevated as generational families mingled with visitors, and most guests were secretly joyful that they were not at home chopping apples.

The evening coincided with the Sabbath, and Rabbi Dorsch was wise to start prior to sundown to allow for photos before the start of the service. The rabbi did a fine job of managing the group by interspersing his custom-made haggadah with handouts and passing the microphone for participation. The pace was lively as worshippers had to pass around questions and even circle the table to ponder various topics such as: Eat only matzah brie all year, or only cholent?

Have freed the Jews and brought them to Uganda or enslaved them in Israel?

Still be in Egypt or be in school 100

hours a week?

Have a nine-hour seder with gourmet food or a one-hour seder with just OK food?

There were more serious topics as well.

Speaking of food, the caterer Tropics was under the mashgiach supervision of Rabbi Dorsch who said, “I personally supervised all aspects of kashrut from delivery on.”

The staff did a yeoman’s job of food quality, service, and variety. Each table was equipped with a seder plate, pickles and cole slaw. The entrees served family style were preceded by matzah ball soup, gefilte fish (not from the jar) and broiled fresh herbed salmon. Then came the paraded platters of chicken breast stuffed with spinach, smashed red potatoes, broiled cubed potatoes, a second variety of crispy chicken, grilled vegetables, eggplant, peppers and squash. The desserts did not disappoint: poached pears, peach cobbler and finally a crumbled lady finger fluff, any one of which would have been “Dayenu.” Sara Bee wine was plentiful. Even Passover ketchup was proffered.

Congregant Sandy Bailey said, “This

Rabbi Dorsch made for a fun exchange at Congregation Etz Chaim’s inaugural first night seder.

year, instead of preparing it all, I combined family with friends to reserve an entire table. It worked out so well that I hope it becomes a synagogue tradition.”

Rabbi Dorsch concluded, “I was absolutely delighted with this year’s seder here. Being away from our homes in Canada and New Jersey, over these past three years, Etz Chaim has become our family ‘home away from home and that’s a lot of

what it’s all about.’” The Dorsch’s son Zev stole the show with his Pharaoh costume and gold sword.

In its most recent airing, CBS “Sunday Morning” reported that 23 percent of U.S. Jews attend a religious service every month, but 70 percent attended a seder.

Yasher koach to Rabbi Dorsch and Congregation Etz Chaim for their success.

Maybe next year, nights one and two?

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Dear Defendant, What a heavy burden to carry! It sounds intensely difficult, but I applaud your transparency and your earnest desire to remedy the situation.

I think I would advocate a two-step process.

Reach out to each of your children individually. Tell them how you feel. Ask if there is anything they want to bring up or discuss. If they agree and spill out their accusations, don’t justify your past actions, simply validate their thoughts and feelings.

Be there to listen and soothe. (If you want to scream or cry, find a supportive person who will listen – far away from your children.)

It is my hope that following these healing conversations, you can move forward.

Your children can choose to accept your apology or not, but at this point, what else can you do? As you said, you are incapable of turning back the wheels of time.

The second step involves forgiving yourself. As you said, due to a variety of factors, probably including family circumstances, personality, tools and knowledge, you walked a certain path. Had you known better or been gifted with the tremendous amount of resources available for parents today, you would have acted differently.

If your children cannot forgive you and treat you with love, compassion and respect, then I feel they should address their deep-seated issues with a therapist. If they ask you to join them for family therapy, it can be a searing experience, but it has the potential to generate healing and comfort.

I wish you luck on this difficult journey, my friend. Ultimately, I believe you will come out that much richer for having reached into the hearts of your children and attempting to mend the breaches. No one is perfect. All any of us can do is try our best each and every day. But chuck the excessive guilt! As you said, it is counterproductive and will only weigh you down. Take action, give love, and passionately pursue loving relationships. And a little prayer always helps.

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Yiddish Word of the Week kvetch Kvetch - ‫( קוועטש‬pronounced as written), literally, a squeeze; derived meaning, a complaint, hence kvétcher - ‫קוועטשער‬, complainer, and kvetchen – ‫קוועטשען‬, to complain. From German quetschen, to squeeze, squish, crush, squash, push.

Used in its literal meaning, for example, when your partner wants to take a whole wardrobe along for a weekend getaway: “Hon, kom, gib a kvetch ‫ גיב א קוועטש‬,‫( קום‬come, give a push). I can’t close the suitcase.”

A Passover Lunch A Jewish man took his Passover lunch to eat outside in the park. He sat down on a bench and began eating.

Since Jews do not eat leavened bread during the eight-day holiday, he was eating matzah, flat, crunchy unleavened bread that has dozens of perforations.

A little later, a blind man came by and sat down next to him. Feeling neighborly, the Jewish man passed a sheet of matzah to the blind man.

The blind man handled the matzah for a few minutes, looked puzzled, and finally exclaimed, “Who wrote this nonsense?”

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The derived meaning may be linked to a German expression “he quetsched me until I was half dead.” Good kvétchers can do it by kvétching much better than physically: “What a kvétcher, my father-in-law! First, he kvétches that he’s cold, so I turn on the heat. Then he kvétches that he’s hot, so I turn on the air. Then, guess what? He kvétches about the utility bill!”

Rabbi Joab Eichenberg-Eilon, PhD, teaches Biblical Hebrew and Aramaic at the Israel Institute of Biblical Studies, eTeacher Group Ltd.

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25 Years Ago// April 29, 1994 ■ Joyce Klein, an Israeli-based educator, held a workshop at Temple Emanu-El on April 24 to demonstrate how theatrical techniques can work in a classroom. The visit was sponsored by Jewish Educational Services.

■ The Temple restored its 75-year-old sanctuary and dedicated its new Covenant Chapel. Renovations included 300 seats and a solar powered ner tamid (eternal light) located over the congregation rather than over the ark.

■ Emory University freshman Aaron Cohen held the number five spot on a six-man tennis team. The 19-year-old economics major received a full academic scholarship to Emory. Aaron is the son of Larry and Caroline Cohen.

50 Years Ago// April 25, 1969

■ Sydney Shaffer, a 10th-grader at Lakeside High School, placed first in the botany category of the DeKalb/ Rockdale regional competition at Fernbank Science Center.

■ Adam Marx, a 7th grader at The Davis Academy placed first in the category of physics at the Georgia Science and Engineering Fair.

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■ Mr. and Mrs. William Breman of Atlanta became grandparents twice in 12 hours. Daniel Adam Nemo, son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert S. Nemo of Atlanta, was born Feb. 26. Michelle Ann Breman, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. James M. Breman of New York City, arrived on Feb. 27.

The Temple’s ner tamid was placed over the congregation instead of the ark.

■ Miss Rebecca Joan Green of Atlanta, daughter of Mrs. Hazel Green and Clyde Green of Lindale, and Dr. David Harris Nathan of New Orleans, son of Dr. and Mrs. Daniel E. Nathan of Fort Valley, were married Saturday, April 12, at the Ahavath Achim Synagogue chapel in Atlanta. Rabbi Raphael Gold, assisted by Cantor Isaac Goodfriend, officiated at the ceremony.

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OBITUARIES

Charlotte Glyck Marcus 84, Atlanta

Charlotte Glyck Marcus, the widow of former Georgia legislator Sidney J. Marcus, died April 15. She was 84. Born in Waycross, Marcus moved to Miami Beach, and later attended the University of Florida, where she graduated in 1956.

Shortly after marrying Sidney, Charlotte Anne, as she was then known, relocated to Atlanta, where she spent the rest of her life. While raising her three children, she earned a master’s degree in early childhood education at Georgia State University and worked as an administrator in the field.

Marcus also served on the Civil Service Board for the city of Atlanta and worked for many years for the Georgia legislature doing research. She was a tireless advocate for eradicating homelessness and for the preservation of the Piney Grove Baptist Church cemetery, which was across the street from her home.

Marcus was proud of her roots in the Southern Jewish community, and particularly of her late grandfather, Charles Glyck, who served as a rabbi to the small Jewish community in Macon. For 15 years, Marcus taught Sunday school at Atlanta’s Temple Sinai where she and her husband were charter members.

In addition to her devotion to her family, Marcus wrote poetry, collected Southern pottery and loved art.

She is survived by her three children: Robyn Marcus, Brad (Pam) Marcus and Beth (Doug) Schwarz; brother, Jay Goldman; sister, Maxine Humphreys; sister and brother-in-law Sandra and Gary Silver; four grandchildren, Benjamin and Leah Marcus and Marcus and Julia Schwarz; as well as many cousins, nieces, nephews and countless friends, including her wonderful caregiver, Loretta Williams.

A graveside service was held April 17th at Crest Lawn Memorial Park. In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to the Temple Sinai Social Action Fund or a charity of your choice. Arrangements by Dressler’s Jewish Funeral Care, 770-451-4999.

Arthur Stoltz 96, Atlanta

Arthur Stoltz, 96, passed away April 18, 2019. A native of Atlanta, he was a fourth generation Georgian. Arthur was a World War II veteran and a devoted husband, father, grandfather and great-grandfather. He was active in the local Jewish War Veterans Post 112, a founder of the Atlanta Jewish Bowling League, and a leader of the Atlanta synagogues’ citywide annual American Red Cross blood drive, having himself donated 15 gallons of blood over his lifetime.

His beloved wife, Ruth, passed away in 2006. His son Kenny died in March 2018.

Arthur is survived by his sons Ronnie, Steve and Mark; six grandchildren and five great-grandchildren. Graveside services were held April 23, 2019, at Crest Lawn Memorial Park. Donations in Arthur’s memory can be made to Congregation Shearith Israel of Atlanta or to the American Red Cross. Arrangements by Dressler’s Jewish Funeral Care, 770-451-4999. ■

‫זיכרונה‬ ‫לברכה‬ Obituaries in the AJT are written and paid for by the families; contact Managing Publisher Kaylene Ladinsky at kaylene@atljewishtimes.com or 404-883-2130, ext. 100, for details about submission, rates and payments. Death notices, which provide basic details, are free and run as space is available; send submissions to editor@atljewishtimes.com.

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CLOSING THOUGHTS One Good Idea Can Launch a Career better fit for me, so I went I was good at mathback to school again to maematics, but I had no idea jor in operations research, how to establish a career often called management based on it. In college I mascience. jored in accounting but With a Ph.D. in hand, I didn’t like it. I worked for started jobs in operations a couple of CPA firms and research and the work was found the work boring. interesting. I moved from However, I learned how to job to job doing interesting add a column of numbers Allen H. assignments, but I always quickly. I did that at various Lipis concluded that I could not businesses week after week The Bottom Line see myself doing that job and could combine groups for the rest of my life. Howof numbers without having ever, in the process of doing these jobs to add them individually.

After my sophomore year, I switched I learned about business, how to make to statistics, which suited me much bet- a profit and why and how new ideas ter, but I knew I needed more education improve a company. There is a learnon the subject. I went to graduate school ing process that occurs by being in and became a statistician. After my first business. You learn about investments, job I concluded that I liked it okay, but I about manufacturing, about persuading didn’t want to build a career on it. I didn’t people on your ideas, how to evaluate a want to work on the theory of statistics, process, and many other activities. You or teach it, or deal with only data. It just tuck them away in your head for future use. wasn’t exactly what I wanted.

Sometimes you get lucky and you Somehow, I found a new area of work called operations research. That find what you’re looking for. Other peoarea was using mathematics to solve ple may search for a lifetime, still looking business problems. It seemed like a for the perfect job. What I found was con-

sulting in bank operations. I worked for a bank and studied different aspects of the bank’s operations. The Ph.D. helped to get that job, but it was my abilities that really mattered. Studying the payment operations in a bank suited me, and it challenged me. There was, fortunately, much going on that made my mob interesting and often exciting. My decision to stay with a career depended first on the assignment, second on my boss and third on whether it would produce anything useful. I found all of that in the new world of electronic banking.

I knew nothing about this new world. I had the right credentials to be invited into that world because of my education and my banking background, but I had no idea whether it would be interesting or not. In fact, I moved my family from the New York area to Atlanta to do the work for a year and believed we would be back in the New York area thereafter. However, the work was more than interesting for me. It was exciting, challenging and the people I worked for wanted me to continue, so we stayed in Atlanta, and we have been here ever since.

Some people know intuitively what they want to do with their lives. I have met medical doctors who wanted to be a doctor at an early age. I met professors who always wanted to teach. I was not like that. It took me until my mid-30s before I knew what career I wanted. It was frustrating going through the process, but the end result was worth it. I have no secret on how to find an idea to launch a career except to broaden your outlook, to do as many different jobs as possible, and be open to new opportunities. The broader the net, the greater the chance that your career will be captured in the net.

That’s why a liberal education is valuable when you don’t know what you want to do early in life, and that’s why a technical education is useful for those who know what they want. I have no idea why some people know what they want to do, and some people don’t know. I wish I did. The only advice I can give is to know yourself and be happy if you know what you want and be happy if you don’t know.

The bottom line: Education is a union card – it gets you in. But what you know is what really matters. ■

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