August - South Jersey Mom Magazine

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10 IDEAS FOR

END OF SUMMER FUN

Sibling Rivalry SOLUTIONS

hormones, infertility, pregnancy and your THYROID

BEST JOBS FOR PARENTS RETURNING TO WORK

5 Ways to Start

SAVING MONEY

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Table of Contents mom 2 mom 8 Don’t Forget, Children are Affected

by Alzheimers Too 10 Best Jobs for Parents Returning to Work 12 Help, I Have A Teenager 13 Five Ways to Start Saving Money Today

moms R women 2 19 Beach Workout 20 Chick Lit: Firefly Lane 21 Hormones, Infertility, Pregnancy and Your Thyroid

know 2 grow 24 Sibling Rivalry Solutions 26 Does Your Baby Have Colic?

features 14 10 Ideas for End of Summer Fun 16 Staycation Guide

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ast Monday, my mom was over spending her usual Monday with Kayden and Camille. Since the weather has been so nice, she set up a little blow up pool in our back yard. It looks quite silly sitting next to the huge above ground pool we have that still has the winter cover on it…but that’s not the main point of my story.

She fills it just enough so the depth is perfect for both kids and lets the water sit for several hours so the sun can warm it. Kayden and Camille love splashing and playing in it.

There is just one thing. Kayden refuses to get in the water unless he is completely naked. He didn’t have that problem last summer. He swam in a suit every day. But this year, for some reason, he freaks out if his swimming trunks get wet. So I tried letting him swim in just his underwear. He freaks out when they get wet too. I tried his regular shorts.

Nope, still freaks out. Every time, he pulls all his clothes off, then jumps right in! He loves it.

He is only three and we have a privacy fence so, for now, it’s not that big

a deal. But what happens when we take him to the public pool? How do I keep him from stripping in front of all the other kids and families? I can imagine the looks they will all be throwing at me!

Where did he get this idea from anyway? Daddy swims in his trunks and Camille always has a swim suit on. I tried being very firm with him and telling him if he didn’t keep his shorts on, he couldn’t swim. So he didn’t. He sat next to the pool until I gave in and let him take his clothes off. I know I shouldn’t give in. But he’s only three, right?!

What’s the harm?

I couldn’t help but pull out the video camera to catch all of this on tape. I can’t wait to show him when he grows up. In the middle of taping, Kayden jumped out of the pool, ran over to the middle of the yard and peed! Right out there in the open…and was very proud of himself.

Priceless. Well, I did tell him not to pee in the pool.✲ Your Friend and Fellow MOM,

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A Day in the Life I t’s my day with the children and, as I watch them grow, each week is truly a new adventure. Both children run to meet me at the door, which, by the way, is one of the sweetest moments there is for this Nana.

Kayden gushes out in one continuous sentence, “Nana, I go fishing wi Daddy and Pop-Pop an Daddy got a big fish an I caught a fish w my Thomas po an Daddy put em back in da wadder an Im goin to da qaureum an swim w da dophin w Mommy an Daddy an I got my hair cut…Nana, take me an Camille in da pool?” At the same time, Camille is right behind him yelling, “Ana, Nana, Ana, Nana,” followed by excited, incoherent toddler-talk only mom and dad understand.

The excitement of my arrival has passed and Mommy and Daddy are getting ready to leave. Little darling Camille is standing in the middle of the living room, eyelids half closed, holding her stuffed Penguin, sucking her paci like Maggie Simpson. She is just about ready for her nap. Here comes big brother Kayden and gives her the “belly bump” accompanied by a “Hi-Ya” that declares, “I’m bigger than you are.” He knocks her over and now she is crying. “Kayden, that’s not nice,” I scold. Daddy laughs from the kitchen, “I told him not to do that to his sister.” Right, dad.

Mom and Dad leave and Camille is now running around the house in her prissy little summer dress, slicing the air with a plastic sword exclaiming, “HiYa.” I try to get the sword from her just as she is getting ready to take revenge on her brother for the belly bump. She squeals, the sword smacks him in the nose, he squeals.

Kayden now realizes he has to go potty and runs upstairs. Camille heads toward the kitchen cabinet where the plastic bowls are. Kayden has finished going potty and is now running around in his shirt, minus the underpants and shorts he was wearing this morning.

“Camille, please put the bowls back in the cabinet.”

“No!” “Kayden, please put your underpants on.”

“No!” “Camille, get your feet out of the bowls.” “Kayden stop pushing sissy.”

“Camille…”

“Alright, who wants a snack?”

Everyone finally settles down.

Camille is napping in her bed. I’ve allowed Kayden to lie on the couch with me in hopes that he will actually take a nap. I think I’m tricking him by telling him he does not have to go to sleep, just have quiet time. After some whining, flip-flopping and rearranging the couch cushions several times, he finally stops talking. Good, he is going to fall asleep.

I hear a sniffing sound. I look over and he has both feet up to his nose and is sniffing away with the biggest grin on his face. I am amazed at the simple things children do to entertain themselves.

What else could a Nana do but laugh?✲ —Nana Jean Nana Jean is a South Jersey grandmother with two daughters and six grandchildren. Enjoy her stories about her 37+ years as a mom and 18 years as a grandmother as she shares her experiences and lessons learned with lots of laughs and tears along the way.

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Girlfriends: Defying Gravitas at 50

ugust already. There have been many happy moments during the season and I practice recording those by fixing them in memory while they are happening. My daughter just came in from playing outside with her girlfriend. They are wet and hungry. I heard the sound of hoses turning on and off, wild screeches like the primate house at the zoo, and a soft whisper: did you hose down the driveway?

I asked if she had injured any of the neighbors’ boys, in case one of their mothers came storming over to see me.

“No, but … poor Bret … (giggling)” Did you injure anyone?

“Hasta la vista!” said my daughter beating a speedy retreat.

“Peace out!” said the girlfriend, skidding away.

Let the record show: I know nothing.

One of the nicest surprises of the summer was a weekend in Cape May with four of my girlfriends from junior high school.

My oldest friend in this world, Linda, I met in the fourth grade. I remember it as if it were yesterday. There was an ambulance, stretcher-bearers and Linda, sitting on the gymnasium stage with her legs dangling, her large blue eyes glazed with shock, and her arm tied up in a sling. Mrs. Sherwood, the school nurse, was looking befuddled.

“How did you fracture your clavicle doing a somersault… on the mat?”

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Ah, memories. We were 10, as my daughter and her girlfriend are now, and we did not know what a clavicle was. But later, we learned it was a collarbone, because Linda’s tumble was only the first of a series. Turns out she had weak clavicles.

I have a rich store of memories from our growing-up years. The first time I visited Linda’s home, it was on the pretense that we were going to practice our clarinets. She was a gifted musician and I was just a squeaking fake. One look in her bedroom closet and I pulled out a Mr. Peanut Peanut Butter Maker. That afternoon was the end of my musical career, but the beginning of a beautiful friendship.

Linda was the one who could have fun at a funeral. She was allergic to everything, including air, spent countless weeks on crutches and laughed the loudest at dirty jokes. Then she would gesture a couple of us into the girls’ bathroom and confess: “Okay, I don’t get it. What’s a testicle?”

When we met in Cape May to celebrate our 50th birthdays, we also celebrated our survival: we were one married, one widowed, one divorced and two

By Fran LoBiondo single by choice. Only one of us still had both parents. We swapped stories and compared surgical scars and drank champagne out of hand-painted martini glasses.

Once again, Linda trumped the group with a souvenir of her vacation in Santa Fe two years ago: a Ziploc bag of heavy metal plates, screws and bolts that until recently had reinforced her ankles as they healed from a near-fatal car crash.

We were awestruck. “You got t-boned in your rental car and broke your ankles, pelvis and a whole rack of ribs on your first day? You look terrific. Great clavicles.”

I wish for my own daughter, friends such as these; strong, lifelong, irreverent, resilient and wise enough to get together often to celebrate good times.✲ Fran LoBiondo of Vineland has children in grade school, high school and college. A Purdue University graduate with a degree in Journalism, she has written about parenting, food and fun for 25 yrs.

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DON’T FORGET...

Children are Affected

by Alzheimer’s Too Children may exhibit their emotions in ways you might not easily recognize. They may verbalize vague physical complaints, such as a stomachache or headache. They may also spend more time away from home or stop inviting friends to the house. Depending on how deeply affected the child is, they may perform poorly in school as well.

There are several ways to help children cope with their feelings and concerns • Offer comfort and support • Provide opportunities for them to express their feelings • Let them know their feelings are normal • Educate them about the disease and encourage them to ask questions • Respond honestly to questions

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hen a family member suffers from Alzheimer’s disease, it impacts everyone in the family. Children, especially, may have a hard time understanding why Grandma or Grandpa does not recognize or remember them. Take some time to talk with your children so they understand what is happening to the person with Alzheimer’s.

The degree to which children are affected by the disease depends on who has it – a parent or grandparent, relative or friend.

Other factors include how close the child is to the person and where the person lives (in the same home, assisted living or nursing home, out of state, etc.).

Children and teens may feel sad about changes in their loved one’s personality and behavior. They may be afraid or confused about why the person behaves differently. They may also worry that the disease is contagious or that their parents might develop the disease. Children will often get angry and frustrated by the need to repeat their activities or questions – then they may feel guilty for getting angry or being short-tempered with their loved one. Jealousy and resentment are common, due to the increased amount of time and attention given to the person with Alzheimer’s.

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Activities that can help and be done as a family • Go for a walk • Do household chores together, such as folding laundry, raking leaves or washing dishes • Listen to music, dance or sing • Look at old photographs • Read a favorite book or newspaper • Create a scrapbook or photo album about the person • Make a family tree • Watch a movie • Keep a journal together✲

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BEST JOBS

for Parents Returning to Work You traded working lunches for PTA meetings and PB&Js. Now you want a more challenging job that can bend to make room for family life. aybe you want to work at home one day a week or travel less or just be able to make it to the occasional 4 p.m. soccer match or ballet recital.

That used to mean part-time work or several big steps back down the ladder. Today, the job world is a little more welcoming for the 26 million mothers in the work force.

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To find the right spot for you, take these steps.

1. Stay involved. Keep your network going if there is even a slight chance you will go back to work one day. At the least, have lunch with ex-colleagues every few months.

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2. Get back in the game. Join a professional organization and attend conferences to make contacts and catch up on best practices and take courses.

3. Make your volunteer work count. Put your pro bono accomplishments on your resume. And get a reference from a key person at the nonprofit.

4. Redefine success. Do not raise the bar so high that you feel like you are missing it. A big, prestigious company might be your dream, but a smaller company might offer more flexibility.

5. Find the right fit. Look for a recruiter that meets your needs.

Mom Corps, On-Ramps and other placement firms specialize in companies that are recognized for giving more than lip service to work-life balance.âœ˛

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Top 20 Jobs for Parents Returning to Work

Nonprofit Manager Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: AFamily Friendly: B+

Marketing Manager Total Compensation: $$$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: BFamily Friendly: B-

Training Manager Total Compensation: $$$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: BFamily Friendly: B-

Sales Representative Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: A Family Friendly: A-

Marketing Specialist Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: B+ Family Friendly: B+

Training Specialist Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: AFamily Friendly: B

Marketing Analyst Total Compensation: $$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: AFamily Friendly: A-

Meeting/Event Planner Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: AFamily Friendly: B

Volunteer Services Director Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: B+ Family Friendly: B

Accountant Total Compensation: $$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: B Family Friendly: B+

New Products Project Manager Total Compensation: $$$$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: C+ Family Friendly: C+

Research by Money Magazine and Salary.com $ — $13,000-$25,000 $$ — 25,000-$30,000 $$$ — $30,000-$51,000 $$$$ — $51,000-$70,000 $$$$$ —$70,000-$100,000

Bookkeeper Total Compensation: $$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: AFamily Friendly: B+

Office Manager Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: C+ Family Friendly: B-

Claims Examiner Total Compensation: $$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: B+ Family Friendly: B

Recruiter III Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: BFamily Friendly: A-

Community Organizer Total Compensation: $$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: A Family Friendly: A-

Recruiting Manager Total Compensation: $$$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: BFamily Friendly: B+

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Staff Nurse/RN/Phone Triage Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: A Family Friendly: A-

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Financial Analyst Total Compensation: $$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: B Family Friendly: B

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Executive Recruiter Total Compensation: $$$$ Job Growth (2004-2014): Flexibility: AFamily Friendly: A-

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parenting recipes

Help, I Have a Teenager!

oing through the teen years can be like going through a war zone for parents and teens. Adolescence is an important part of the “individuation” process, during which kids find out who they are. It’s also an opportunity for parents to explore their own unresolved teen issues.

Raising a teenager can bring up a lot of unresolved issues from your own adolescence. While these issues may be unconscious, they influence how you parent your teen. Helping our teens through adolescence gives us another chance to work through some of these issues. In doing so, we also become more effective parents.

Follow this recipe “How to Relate To Your Teen” taken from my book Parenting Recipes and see if you can work through some of your issues with a better understanding of the difficulties teens have today in their world.

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How to Relate to Your Teen Discover common ground, building bridges with your teen.

Take a true look at the world your teen is in – their likes, dislikes, music, greatest hero, greatest fear, favorite recording artist, favorite television show or most prized possession.

Respect their point of view. Seek first to understand.

Remember, when you criticize or negatively judge their friends, you are judging them also.

Drop everything when they want to be with you.

Do not take their attitudes personally.

It really is not about you.

Teens learn more from their own successes and mistakes than from our lectures.

With all privilege comes responsibility.

Allow your teen to show you what they can and cannot handle.

Take away any privilege that is not taken with serious responsibility.

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There is still a lot of “little kid” in our teen. Make it safe for those funny, playful, vulnerable parts of them to come out and play.

Let them know you believe in them and love them unconditionally.

Focus on the characteristics and life skills you believe will enhance your child’s success to reach his or her full potential.

Design a plan on purpose, focusing on the end result: a healthy young adult and an empty nest!

Parents try to do their best, but the best of intentions do not always produce the best results.✲ Happy Parenting!

If you like this recipe, learn more about Parenting Recipes at www.MpoweringYou.com.

Compassionate, Quality OB/GYN Care Here in your community The new Physicians of Southern New Jersey Obstetrics and Gynecology practice offers compassionate, quality obstetric services and gynecological care to women of all ages, right here in your community.

Michael Geria, D.O., FACOOG, is a boardcertified OB/GYN with more than 15 years of experience. He received an Outstanding Service Award from the American College of Osteopathic Obstetricians and Gynecologists in 2001.

Physicians of Southern New Jersey Obstetrics and Gynecology SJH Elmer Hospital Physician Care Center 525 S. State Street, Suite 6, Elmer, NJ 08318

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Hema Jonnalagadda, M.D. is board eligible in OB/GYN. She completed her residency at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital and comes to POSNJ from Penn OB/GYN and Midwifery Care, at Pennsylvania Hospital, in Philadelphia.

Delivering at the home-like birthing suites at SJH Elmer Hospital, this practice now offers a quality choice for families who may have thought they needed to travel a long distance to deliver their babies.

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5 Ways to Start Saving Money TODAY! Gifts. Do not buy them; make them.

Give gifts of time and service. Offer to cut someone’s hair or trim their lawn or wash their windows. If you have an elderly relative who is house-bound, offer to do their grocery shopping. If you want to buy something, give a magazine subscription, which is inexpensive and comes each month, or give a gift card.

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Give Up a Bad Habit. Give up a bad habit or at least cut back. If you smoke a pack of cigarettes a day, quitting will save about $1,400 a year. And that does-

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n’t include your dry cleaning bill, or the savings you will get from your homeowner’s or medical insurance for quitting the habit.

In Your House. You can save some cash by doing a few things around the house now. Turn off lights when you are not in the room. Fix drippy faucets and plug air leaks. Set your AC a few degrees higher this summer.

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Trade Down Entertainment. Give up super-premium cable. It’s easy to find

things to do that are free. Go to museums on the free day or night. Go to matinees instead of evening movies. Rent movies or, better yet, borrow them from the local library.

Food. If you eat out often, eliminate one meal eaten out each month. Trade down: trade take-out for a restaurant and home-cooked food for take-out. Shop only once a week, cut coupons and look for deals and sales.✲

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t might be a little late now to plan a two-week vacation with your family and friends, but that doesn’t mean you can’t take advantage of the last few weekends of the summer. Here are ten ideas for some late summer fun that you can plan during the week and make happen on the weekend.

10 Ideas for End-of-Summer Fun 1

Open Pool Party—If you don’t have a pool of your own, ask a friend if you can use theirs or find a municipal pool with grills. Email invitations to your friends earlier in the week, inviting them to a relaxed get-together by the pool. Ask some to bring food, others to bring drinks and let them know they can stop by—in their swimsuits—anytime between 2 and 6 p.m. or later, depending on how the party goes.

2 Canoe Trip

—A great way to spend a warm, sunny afternoon.

Many rivers have long stretches that inexperienced paddlers can handle. Pack a cooler full of food and drink, put on your swimsuits and get ready for a relaxing and fun afternoon.

Look for a canoe rental business in your area.

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Backyard games—Just set up the backyard games and

have some friends over! It’s really that simple. Croquet, horseshoes, badmitton and tetherball are just some of the easy and fun games that everyone can play. Set up a tournament and crown the champion at the end of the afternoon.

4 Summer Concert Series

—Many communities offer a summer concert series with local bands or amateur orchestras.

Often, these concerts are held in public squares or parks. Take a picnic blanket and a light meal and have a relaxing evening.

5 Romantic Picnic Dinner In the Park

—Speaking of picnics…pack a light meal, but include some candles. Let the magic of the warm summer night take over.

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Head to the Lake—Is there a better way to have fun in

the summer heat than by spending the day at a lake? Most communities have a recreational lake nearby. Spending an afternoon at the lake gives you the best of some of the other activities on this list—grilling out by the water, boating, playing backyard games, even hiking if you like.

Digital Photo Scavenger Hunt—Does the thought of your friends running all over the city at your bidding bring a smile to your face? Then organize a digital photo scavenger hunt. Split up into four or five groups with digital cameras or camera phones. Create a list of objects and landmarks they need to photograph themselves in front of.

The team with the most pictures before time runs out wins.

Garden Tours—Check with your local horticultural society to see if they are holding any garden tours. Often, local gardeners allow people into their backyards on these tours, so you can see some beautiful landscaping you would not otherwise see. If there are no garden tours in your area, visit public spaces like parks and squares. Most municipal parks departments do a great job of landscaping.

Hiking—If this sounds too strenuous, think of it instead as a stroll in the woods. Because really, you can go hiking anywhere. Whether it’s a city, state or national park, a walk through nature is good for your body and your mind.

Wash Your Car—To some, this might sound like work.

But when you think about it, you are spending time outside, you are keeping cool and you are taking care of your car. And this can be a great way to spend time with the kids.✲

Summer Indulgences Summer is the perfect time for little indulgences, so give yourself a day off from your usual routine.

Spend half the day starting, working on, or finishing a fun project you have not had the time to do, and the second half doing whatever you wish. Here are some suggestions for fun.

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• Cut through the flesh of the melon along the seed line. Lift off the watermelon piece.

• Use a fork to scrape the seeds from the flesh. You can also use your fork to scrape seeds away from any of the watermelon flesh that is left on the rind.

• If you want to make a delicious and refreshing drink, chop up your seeded watermelon, toss it in a blender and mix.

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• Fill a large pitcher or container with cold water.

• Place tea bags in water (figure three to five tea bags per four cups of water), and place container in the refrigerator overnight.

• The next morning, strain the tea and serve in glasses filled with ice. Add fresh mint leaves or orange slices for extra fun flavor.

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• Take another cookie and place it on top of the ice cream, pressing down gently.

• Wrap the sandwich in foil and freeze for a few hours.

• For added sweetness, roll the sides of your ice cream sandwich in chocolate chips or sprinkles before freezing.

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dd some spice to your workout this summer by taking it to the beach, a great place for a relaxed, tranquil, fulfilling workout. Get those feet in the sand and burn some calories!

Beach activities provide a great workout. Sand adds resistance to each move and increases your calorie expenditure. Simply walking along the beach is a great way to burn calories while enjoying the scenery.

Yoga and pilates are two great workout options for the beach. Perform gentle poses on a beach towel to stretch and lengthen your body. The sound of the waves and the touch of the sand will add to the relaxing vibe. An inflatable beach ball can act as a makeshift medicine ball to use for crunches and other core exercises.

Take a look at your surroundings to see what can be incorporated into a workout.

Hiking up and down sand dunes is a great way to build leg muscles.

Running, biking and swimming are all great beach exercises. While swimming, make sure to be mindful of jellyfish and currents. Also, swim only with a partner or where a lifeguard can see you.

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The thyroid gland is located in the front part of the neck below the Adam’s apple. The gland produces thyroid hormones, which regulate body metabolism. Thyroid hormones are important in regulating body energy, the body’s use of other hormones and vitamins and the growth and maturation of body tissue.

Diseases of the thyroid gland can result in either production of too much (hyperthyroidism) or too little (hypothyroidism) hormone.

Hypothyroidism in pregnancy Newly diagnosed hypothyroidism in pregnancy is rare because most women with untreated hypothyroidism have ovulatory problems, which make it difficult for them to conceive.

It’s a difficult diagnosis to make based on clinical observation. Many of the symptoms of hypothyroidism (fatigue, poor attention, weight gain, numbness and tingling of the hands or feet) are also prominent symptoms of a normal pregnancy.

Undiagnosed hypothyroidism during pregnancy increases the chance of stillbirth or growth retardation of the fetus.

It also increases the possibility of complications such as anemia, eclampsia and placental abruption.

The women most likely to have hypothyroidism during pregnancy are those who are currently on thyroid hormone replacement. The ideal dose of medication during pregnancy may rise by 25-50 percent. It’s important to have regular blood tests to check the thyroid during pregnancy to ensure you are on the correct medication dose.

Hyperthyroidism in pregnancy Newly diagnosed hyperthyroidism occurs in about 1 in 2,000 pregnancies. Grave’s disease accounts for 95 percent of hyperthyroidism diagnosed during pregnancy.

As with hypothyroidism, many symptoms of mild hyperthyroidism mimic those of normal pregnancy. However, anyone experiencing symptoms such as significant weight loss, vomiting, increased blood pressure or persistently fast heart rate should have blood tests to evaluate whether hyperthyroidism is present.

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Thyroid Untreated hyperthyroidism does cause fetal and maternal complications including poor weight gain and an abnormally fast heart rate.

Treatment of hyperthyroidism during pregnancy is primarily with medication.

Iodine treatments will cross the placenta though, so its use in either a thyroid scan or in treatment with radioactive iodine is prohibited during pregnancy.

One positive note for women with hyperthyroidism is that they may have improvement in their symptoms during pregnancy Postpartum Thyroid Disease Some women may experience thyroiditis, usually occurring within three to six months after giving birth. It may also occur after miscarriage. The classic clinical picture is a woman who will first have symptoms of hyperthyroidism, followed by hypothyroidism, culminating in normal thyroid function.

Women with type I diabetes have a 25 percent risk of developing postpartum thyroid dysfunction.

Early Symptoms of hypothyroidism: • Easy fatigue, exhaustion • Poor tolerance to cold temperatures • Constipation • Carpal tunnel syndrome (pain at the wrists and numbness of the hands) Later symptoms: • Poor appetite • Weight gain

• Dry skin • Hair loss • Intellectual ability worsens • Deeper, hoarse voice • Puffiness around the eyes • Depression • Irregular menstrual periods or lack of menstrual periods Symptoms of hyperthyroidism: • Insomnia • Hand tremors • Nervousness • Feeling excessively hot in normal or cold temperatures • Frequent bowel movements • Losing weight despite normal or increased appetite • Excessive sweating • Menstrual period becomes scant, or ceases altogether • Joint pains • Difficulty concentrating • Eyes seem to be enlarging When to Seek Medical Care The signs and symptoms of hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism typically develop slowly over a period of weeks to months. If an individual has prolonged symptoms or signs of either condition, see a doctor to be evaluated.

Untreated hypothyroidism may have severe effects on the brain, and may cause intestinal obstruction and inability of the heart to beat effectively. An infection, exposure to cold, trauma, and certain medications may often cause a worsening of hypothyroidism.

Treatment options include medication and/or surgery. Surgery for hyperthyroidism may involve removal of much of the thyroid tissue or the entire gland.

Anyone diagnosed with a thyroid problem should stop smoking immediately because smoking increases the risk of progression to Grave’s eye disease.

Follow the medication schedule prescribed by your doctor. In addition, ask what side effects the medications may cause. Also discuss with your doctor the kinds of symptoms that would prompt a call to the doctor or a visit to the emergency department.

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hen Debra DeFeo brought her two-year-old twin girls, Shannon and Kayla, for their regular check up, she expected a clean bill of health for them both. But after some routine blood work on the girls, the pediatrician noticed an irregularity in Kayla’s findings. More testing was done and, ultimately, Kayla was diagnosed with leukemia. The single mom of three was shocked.

“I was in a fog,” says DeFeo, who already had her hands full with Jessica, the twin girls’ sister, 15 months older than the twins.

“You never think your child will have cancer.”

Shorty after the diagnosis, Kayla began chemotherapy treatment at The Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP).

A long year of chemotherapy later, Kayla clinched her yellow “lovey” and was quite accustomed to the hospital surroundings.

“It’s fortunate, or perhaps unfortunate, that [young children with cancer] don’t know what it’s like without cancer,” explains

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DeFeo. “Unfortunately, kids get used to it.

Even when Kayla gets blood drawn or gets an IV, she doesn’t flinch anymore. She’s so used to it. It’s very sad.”

Also used to the special needs of Kayla and frequent hospital visits are her two sisters, Jessica and Kayla’s twin, Shannon. With the help of a CHOP social worker, Jessica and Shannon understand what it means for their sister to have cancer. Jessica and Shannon are good at both playing with Kayla and getting her to take her medicine daily.

The Mt. Laurel mom was dealt another blow in April 2008 when Kayla relapsed with only two months remaining on her maintenance chemotherapy treatments. The relapse placed the family in the hospital on a regular basis from April to September.

During her stay in the hospital, Kayla received a bone marrow transplant that improved her condition and renewed DeFeo’s hope.

Kayla, who is regaining her immune system and her hair, is the typical girly-girl who enjoys listening to music and dancing around the house. She is a hero to her 39-year-old mother.

“What Kayla’s gone through any adult would just pass out on the couch; she’ll come home from a procedure and just play,” says DeFeo. www.southjerseymom.com

Kayla’s strong spirit, happy smile and contagious giggle inspire her mother. DeFeo started an annual blood drive, due to the massive amount of blood used during chemotherapy. She wanted to replenish all the donated blood Kayla used during her treatments.

DeFeo is an active volunteer for the Red Cross. She speaks at local conferences at the Convention Center in Philadelphia and participates in fund raising events for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society.

Perhaps the most meaningful activity for DeFeo is “Helpful Gifts from the Heart.” She created this non-profit organization to give back and help provide families with practical gifts. “I know from being a single mom that a gift certificate to ShopRite or a hospital cafeteria is helpful and goes a long way,” says DeFeo. While DeFeo finds her inspiration from her happy-go-lucky daughter, Kayla, it’s quite evident that other parents who may have received similar shocking news are inspired by DeFeo herself.✲ Helpful Gifts from the Heart is a non-profit organization striving to help those families with a child who has received a diagnosis of pediatric cancer. Their goal is to provide practical gifts to families who are currently undergoing treatment for childhood cancer. Helpful Gifts can include gift certificates for the hospital cafeteria, gifts to offset bridge tolls, parking, meals and transportation to and from the hospital. For more information visit www.helpfulgiftsfromtheheart.org.

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By Jennifer L. Nelson

hen you became “Mommy” to more than one child, you may not have expected all the hair pulling, name calling and toy theft that would go on between your little angels.

Kids will be kids but, at some point, parents should evaluate why Andrew and Michael just cannot seem to get along.

“Sibling rivalry is jealousy, competition or animosity between children in the same family,” explains Cynthia D. Pine, clinical social worker and psychotherapist practicing in Southampton. “Most often, rivalry surfaces when children feel they’re not getting equal amounts of their parents’ love, affection, attention or discipline.”

Other factors include how close they are in age or birth order, as well as gender and personality differences.

“If it’s not managed early, sibling rivalry can continue through childhood and even adulthood,” Pine warns. Fortunately, there are some things parents can do to help stem the tide of sibling rivalry in children of any age.

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Alone Time Making sure you spend quality time with all your children, individually, could be the key to avoiding those “you like her better!” accusations. If your older daughter is into horses, spend a Saturday at the stables, and then present her tutu-clad little sister with tickets to the ballet.

“Each child is unique, and you should help them [know] themselves and what’s unique about their personality, talents, gifts, [skills] and what makes them special,” says Ann McCabe, licensed marriage and family therapist practicing in Cape May. Stay Out of It When your kids are at each other’s throats, your first instinct might be to jump in and break it up. “[However], it’s best to stay out of your children’s arguments as much as possible, and allow them to resolve their own conflicts,” Pine advises.

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ing the issue and, for older kids, inquire when they will come up with a solution that will work for both of them.

Bringing Home Baby According to Pine, sibling rivalry often starts right before or after the arrival of another child, and sometimes it develops when the baby is mobile and starts getting into his or her sibling’s belongings.

Whatever the case, prepare your older child for the arrival of this new little person who will be vying for your attention, particularly if it hasn’t been so long since you were last in that delivery room. “Siblings who are closer in age tend to compete more,” Pine explains.

Your firstborn became accustomed to soaking up all of mommy’s and daddy’s love and affection, so it’s natural for them to feel like yesterday’s news while you are tending to the needs of a baby. If you will be moving your child into a new room, do so long before the baby arrives so they do not feel displaced. Once that little bundle of joy arrives, get your child involved, even if it’s as simple as helping you choose baby clothes or handing you the diapers. “The worst thing that can happen is that the new child is getting [most of the] attention, and the older child isn’t feeling engaged or part of [the family],” McCabe says.

It also helps to put yourself in your child’s shoes every once in a while. Instead of dismissing your daughter’s jealousy over her sister’s straight-A report card, tell her about how your sister did better in school, too, and sometimes you felt like you were not as smart as she was. “If parents have had siblings themselves, they can share how they dealt with those rivalries,” McCabe confirms. “Parents are a really important resource for kids to connect to things that are happening to them.”

While you’re trying to maintain harmony in your household, McCabe warns against trying to be too fair to your kids. At some point, you won’t be able to slip the same exact presents under the Christmas tree — and there’s no reason to feel guilty about it. “Sometimes we think we have to make something equal in the moment,” McCabe says, “but if things are balanced over time, kids will know that.”✲

Set an Example Before you send Johnny to “time out” for screaming at his little sister when she messed up his room, you should take a moment to remember how you reacted the last time your husband left his dirty socks on the floor. If you yelled and your son overheard, you just taught him that the appropriate way to express anger is by raising your voice.

“That modeling example is intensely powerful for kids.

They learn by watching what their parents do,” McCabe explains. www.southjerseymom.com

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Nothing we do results in him following through on tasks and homework. He just doesn’t listen.

Across the country, thousands of families experience this every day. I have never worked with a child that wanted to fail. Have you ever heard the saying “doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is insane?”

The answer is to find out why he is acting this way and then “make him change.”

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Can the school make my child take medication?

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These are great activities for kids who need to expend energy and, at the same time, build self-esteem and a sense of accomplishment.

Animals love unconditionally, which can go a long way with kids who often feel as if they are told everything they are doing is wrong. Another benefit is the teaching of the time management and schedules involved with taking care of a pet. This helps kids to transfer this skill to homework and household chores.

If your child is not ready for such a big commitment, then start small. Think fish, guinea pigs and hamsters. Good luck!✲

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Your baby may have colic. But what exactly is colic? When a baby cries for more than three hours a day, for more than three days a week, the baby may have colic. Keep in mind that the baby should be well cared for and there should be no particular reason that the baby is crying persistently. Colic usually occurs in babies a few weeks after birth. While it seems so, colic does not last forever. By the time the baby is about three months old the colic should go away.

The first sign of colic appears when a baby cries for a certain amount of time at certain times of the day, usually the afternoon or evening. The amount of time your baby is crying can last from a couple of minutes to a couple of hours. Take notice that baby will appear to be crying for no reason. For instance, the baby is not hungry or does not need to be changed, but continues to cry, despite the absence of any obvious signs of discomfort.

The second sign of colic is that the crying will be very intense. Your attempts to comfort the baby will not work. Also, the baby’s face will be flushed.

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Try giving the baby a pacifier. Singing to your baby and cuddling helps too.

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just born

Just Born

Looking for the latest gadgets, toys, books or family related products? Look no further! Each month, we highlight the latest and greatest just for you. Take a look at these “just born� products and add them to your list of must haves!

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Pop Pals Insulating ice pop holders designed to help keep hands warm and ice pops cold. Made from soft flexible FDA approved food grade material, are lead-free, PVC-free, phthalatefree and BpA-free. They are also both dishwasher and freezer-safe.

For use with most major brands of ice pops. $4.99, www.amazon.com Kenneth Brown Bedding Includes three exclusive nursery lines that combine sweetness and sophistication: Monkey Vine, Lady Bug Paisley and Handsome Puppy.

Each includes cotton bumper, sheet, duvet with filler and dust ruffle.

Additional accessory options include window valance, mobiles, lamps, wall art and decals, diaper stacker, baby blanket & changing pad covers. $14.99-$135.99, Babies R Us

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Baggino This innovative Combination Diaper Bag-N-Changing-Belt easily converts from stylish messenger bag to super-practical, hands-free baby changing waist belt that stays clean and organized and gives parents utmost control. $149, www.Baggino.com

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Burpie Blocker A baby burp cloth made with an elasticized neck strap that holds in

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Brookstone iDesign Noise Cancelling Head Phones Enjoy peace and quiet. Built-in microphones and advanced circuitry create an acoustical of outside noises effectively cancelling them out.

You hear music and movies with greater clarity and detail. $149.99, www.brookstone.com

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Potty Pony Pals Make your potty training experience more positive and fun than you’ve ever imagined with our new method designed especially for the toddler.

It’s a fact that small children and even adults learn much faster with visuals. Potty pony pals uses visuals to bridge the communication gap between parent and toddler and end the frustration of potty training. $19.99, www.pottyponypals.com

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Nuk Products The #1 Choice for parents worldwide continues to provide Moms and Dads with premium and healthy baby products such as pacifiers and bottles that are affordable! $4.99 -$12.99, Babies R Us

Brookstone e-Pad laptop desk The portable workstation for your laptop. Sturdy surface keeps laptops stable. Padded base keeps your lap cool. Built-in handle makes it good to go. $39.95, www.brook10 So Young Diaper Bags Shallow-bottomed bags have a stone.com contrasting interior with see-through DryBees, Wahmies and Rocky pockets so you can see everything Mountain Diapers in the bag. A pocket for all your A selection of cloth diapers that needs: diapers, wipes, snacks, cater to the earth and to baby’s change of clothes, toys, & pacifiers. delicate skin. Cloth diapers are an A cooler bag for food and bottles, eco-conscious and money saving a cell phone pocket, a flap to alternative to disposable diapers. tuck your baby carrier into and a Saving parents hundreds of dollars front pocket just for you. $125, each year on diapering needs, cloth www.soyoungmother.com diapers are now made to be cute and stylish, as well as to keep little ones dry! $16.95 - $21.95, www.clothdiapercompany.com

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business spotlight

Who Do You Call for B

ChilD Care?

ased on New Jersey census data, more than 266,794 families work outside of the home and many are in need of child care.

Early Intervention Resource Center (EIRC) is one of 16 Child Care Resource and Referral agencies (CCR&R) serving 21 counties in the state of New Jersey. The Southern Regional Child Care Resource Center (SRCCRC) offers referral services in Gloucester and Cape May Counties.

Child Care Resource and Referral Agencies are funded by the Department of Human Services Division of Family Development. Agencies provide free parent education and referral services for parents looking for child care, as well as training and technique assistance to all child care providers. Resource development, health consultation, child care subsidy assistance and data collection are additional services the agencies provide.

Along with offering Professional Development opportunities for Early Care Professionals, the Southern Regional Child Care Resource Center presents four parenting seminars annually, featuring topics like “Balancing Work and Family” and “Nutritious Meals on the Go!” Sessions are from 6:00-7:30 pm. The next session, “Accentuating the Positive!” starts July 14, 2009.

When a parent calls the SRCCRC, they speak confidentially with a child care counselor. The counselor provides information about what to look for in a quality Early Care and Education program, options of care, questions to ask, licensing requirements, a range of costs depending on the child’s age, advantages and disadvantages of each type of care and referrals.

Counselors do not recommend or endorse any specific programs, but allow parents to select the program that best meets their individual needs based on the information provided. SRCCRC has assisted more than 2,753 families in their search for child care.

New Jersey follows national standards for accredited Early Care and Education programs. “Accredited” means the programs have gone beyond the minimal state licensing standards. SRCCRC child care counselors provide parents with information on accredited programs in their area. Accreditation is not required, but is another indicator of higher quality and is based on the National Association of Education for Young Children (NAEYC), the National Association of Child Care Resource & Referral Agencies (NACCRRA) or the National Association of Child Care Professionals (NACCP) standards.

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The SRCCRC currently has 737 low to middle income families receiving child care subsidy assistance. There are several different subsidy programs SRCCRC administers and families must meet eligibility requirements to participate. A referral from the Division of Social Services initiates a child care search for Work First NJ participants. A request for an application, which parents must complete with all supporting documentation, is the start of the process for the New Jersey Cares for Kids Program. A referral from DYFS is required for both Child Protective Service assistance and Post Adoption Child Care services. In either case, families must work 30 or more hours per week or attend an approved educational program on-site, full-time, which is 12 credits.

For more information, please call the Southern Regional Child Care Resource Center, EIRC at (856) 582-8282 in Gloucester County and (609) 886-5164 in Cape May or 1-800-3DAY CARE.✲

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Monday-Friday 8:30am to 5:00pm

856.582.8282 • www.eirc.org

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green mama

Meats and

VEGGIES

By Sheila Taney, RN, MSN

grew up eating meat, but never knew or cared how it got to my plate. Last year, Oprah aired an episode about meat production. I began to learn more about the whole process.

Conventional farmers who raise animals for slaughter inject the animals with hormones and antibiotics to prevent them from getting sick. Animals live in overly crowded conditions and their waste products are released into the air and waterways. Animals are fed up to fifteen pounds of protein for each pound of meat produced.

Organic/free-range farmers let their animals roam in pastures and do not give them antibiotics (unless they become ill) or hormones. The animals are fed a vegetarian-only diet and no harmful chemicals are released into the environment from the farms.

Vegetarians consume a diet based on beans, vegetables, grains, nuts, seeds and fruits. Go to www.goveg.com to learn more. All of these are naturally grown, but can still leave a large carbon footprint if not organically or locally grown. The best way to make your food choices is to get to the source and learn about production methods, whether it be for grain, fruits or even meats.

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book review

Tale Spin Stories Read-to-Me Book Reviews

By Kathryn Ross, a.k.a. “Miss Kathy”

he back-to-school frenzy ramps up with checklists and wardrobe inventories. Bustling hither and yon for the best price on princess backpacks, superhero shoes, and gimmicky notebooks with celebrity photos blanketed about for maximized distraction is mandatory. Of course, these must be in matching shades of pink and purple or red and black and of the trendiest upto-the-millisecond fad – for the most well prepared student possible!

Popular culture back-to-school preparations tend to center on the vapid nature of exterior bling, rather than the interior cultivation of a mind ready to pursue academic rigors in preparation for a life’s work and contribution to society.

This is why I have always felt the best August back-to-school preparation is the careful selection of summer reading – summer reading with some meat to it, and brain exercises to keep the gray cells sharp and ready for the classroom challenges awaiting in a handful of weeks!

From a very long list of classic titles, I chose a collection of poetry. Who doesn’t remember the treasure of an afternoon lost in A Light in the Attic, or Where the Sidewalk Ends? Shel Silverstein has been keeping youngsters giggling and reading for over forty years. Sadly, Shel left us in 1999. Prior to his death, he left the notes for what would take his family twenty years to compile and finally publish in 2006. A little casterpiece malled, Runny Babbit. It’s a billy sook. I mean – a little masterpiece called, Bunny Rabbit. It’s a silly book!

The entire collection involves a garden full of critters like Toe Jurtle and Wormy Squirm – along with Runny Babbit – and their adventures, written in a Loony Tune language where the first letters of words are switched, forcing the mind to stay alert to grasp the meaning, and inviting immediate memorization to be the life of the next camping trip or slumber party. My favorite bit is the double spread on pages 36-37 of

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B OOK : Runny Babbit A UTHOR /I LLUSTRATOR : Shel Silverstein EAN: 9780060256531

“Runny’s Rittle Leminders” with a post-it board full of important behavioral mottos like, “Whon’t dine; Bake your med; Cover your snouth when you meeze;” – get it??

Follow-up Activity: Read aloud these hilarious poems and discuss what they really mean. Memorization is great for keeping the mind focused. The book reads like a puzzle, a secret language that needs decoding. Once you have mastered the language, teach your youngsters to write letters to their friends using Runny Babbit talk. Can you list how many academic skills you are keeping alive over the summer in preparation for back-to-school?✲ Kathryn Ross is a professional storyteller celebrating the love of learning and literacy with children of all ages. She hosts Tale Spin Stories every Tuesday for preschoolers at the Cumberland Mall in Vineland. To learn more about Miss Kathy programs from Pageant Wagon Productions, visit www.pwpstorytellers.com.

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ATLANTIC COUNTY Natural Family Planning (NFP) Course August 8 & 29 from 2 to 4:30 p.m.

NFP is fertility awareness that can be used to plan or postpone pregnancy in a healthy and effective way. St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, 591 New Jersey Ave., Absecon. (856) 583-6120 Free Family Film Festival Tues. and Wed. at 10 a.m.

Aug. 4 & 5 Charlotte’s Web or Madagascar 2; Aug. 11 & 12 Horton Hears A Who or InkHeart; Aug. 18 & 19 Space Chimps or Surf’s Up. Regal Cinemas, Hamilton Commons 14, 4215 Black Horse Pike, Mays Landing. (609) 677-9083

Calendar their own grass skirts, learning the hula & doing the limbo! Giveaways & treats provided. Moorestown Mall, Macy’s Court, 400 Rt. 38 & Lenola Rd., Moorestown. (856) 2314444 Ext. 15 Mt. Holly Community Day August 2 from 2 to 5 p.m.

Food, fun, pony rides & water slides! FREE. 700 Monmouth Rd., Mt. Holly. (609) 261-3313 Interpretive Trail Hike at Rancocas August 16 from 1 to 2 p.m.

Join a naturalist for an interpretive hike through our varied habitats.

Bring a camera and binoculars.

Suitable for all ages.

Free/Members, $4/pp, $10/ family for nonmembers. Rancocas Nature Center, 794 Rancocas Rd., Mt. Holly.

(609) 261-2495 Semi-Annual Kids Consignment Sale August 28-30 Fall/Winter clothing, cribs, bouncy seats coats, boots and much more.

120 Kings Hwy., Kings Highway Commerce Center, Maple Shade. www.Just4KidsConsignment.com or (215) 605-5368

Company K Civil War Re- encampment August 15 & 16 Camp with marching drills and musket-firing demonstrations. The public is encouraged to visit and ask questions. Historic Smithville, Village Green, Rt. 9 & E Moss Mill Rd. www.SmithvilleNJ.com or (609) 748-6160 Pinelands 4th Annual Folk Arts Festival August 29 from 10a to 5p A wide array of crafters, artists, food, displays and music. Free gifts for all kids and more. Atlantic County Park, Rt. 50, Estell Manor.

(609) 625-6291 or (609) 432- 3280

BURLINGTON COUNTY Beach Party Madness August 13 from 11a to 12p Kids and parents have fun making

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South Jersey Ballet Theatre Nutcracker Auditions August 23 Auditions for boys and girls ages 5 to 18 held at the South Jersey Ballet School, 415 Commerce Lane, Unit 67, West Berlin. (856)768-1740

CAPE MAY Rubber Duckie Regatta August 9 Watch as hundreds of little ducks race at Raging Waters on Mariner’s Landing Pier at Schellenger Ave., Wildwood. www.MoreysPiers.com or to sponsor a duck call (609) 7292002 National Lighthouse Day August 7 from 9a to 2p Enjoy activities at the base of the lighthouse with games, music & vendors. Free. Cape May Lighthouse, Lighthouse Ave., Cape May. www.capemaymac.org or (609) 884-5404 Wildwoods 100th Anniversary Baby Parade August 6 at 6 p.m.

A tradition since 1909, registration begins at 5p. Convention Center, Boardwalk. www.wildwoodsnj.com or (609)729-4000

CAMDEN COUNTY

CUMBERLAND COUNTY

Starlight Movie Picture Series: Hotel for Dogs August 15 at 8:15 p.m.

Bring your blankets & chairs and enjoy a movie under the stars.

FREE. Lindenwold Park, 1000 United States Ave., Lindenwold. www.camdencounty.com or (856) 216-2170

International Food and Cultural Festival August 22 Enjoy food and music from around the world. 500 Block Landis Ave, Vineland. www.mainstreetvineland.org or (856) 794-8653

KidsRock Day with Rocknocernos August 15 Enjoy a kid-friendly version of Woodstock and hours of music with the help of local musicians. $9.95/12 mo. & up, $8.95/seniors.

Discovery Museum, 2040 Springdale Rd., Cherry Hill. www.discoverymuseum.com or (856) 424-1233

Free Family Film Festival Tuesdays & Thursdays at 10 a.m.

Aug. 4 & 5 Pirates Who Don’t Do Anything: Veggie Tale Movie or Star Wars: Clone Wars; Aug. 11 & 12 The Tale of Despereaux or Water Horse: Legend of the Deep; Aug. 18 & 19 Curious George or Kung Fu Panda.

Regal Cinemas, 3849 S. Delsea Dr., Vineland. (856) 327-0018

GLOUCESTER COUNTY The Jersey Fresh Food and Wine Festival August 8 & 9 from 12 to 5 p.m.

Featuring hundreds of New Jersey wines and gourmet, fresh food produced in NJ. $20/pp.

Heritage Vineyards, 420 Mullica Hill Rd., Richwood. www.newjerseywines.com or (609) 585-0085

things 2 do

August

For a complete list of events, log onto www.southjerseymom.com

Free Family Film Festival Tuesdays & Thursday at 10 a.m.

Aug. 4 & 5 Wallace & Gromit or Evan Almighty; Aug. 11 & 12 Clifford or Barnyard; Aug. 18 & 19 Charlottes Web or Madagascar 2.

Regal Cinemas, 121 Tuckahoe Rd., Sewell. (856) 262-0581

SALEM COUNTY Salem County Fair August 4-7 from 8a to 11p An old time country fair with animal exhibits, tractor pulls, displays, food, skillet throw, nightly music & more.

Salem County Fairgrounds, 735 Rt. 40, Woodstown. www.salemcountyfair.com or (856) 769-3494 Fido’s Festival USA August 28 from 4 to 9 p.m.

August 29-30 from 10a to 5p A trade show, conference and themed event for dog and dog lovers in an outdoor festival.

Salem County Fairgrounds, 735 Rt. 40, Woodstown. www.fidosfestivalusa.com or (609) 332-7546

To submit your event, send an email to calendar@southjerseymom.com.

Entries are due eight weeks prior to the event and are filled on a first come first serve basis. Space is limited.

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resource guide

CLASSES

JOB OPPORTUNITIES

TUMBLIN’ TOTS – REGISTER FOR FALL NOW! Classes include movement, music, sports activities, games, listening and cooperation. For children 2 - 5 years. Visit www.TumblinTots.net for class locations. Questions, contact Jenn @ (856) 912-3079. Reasonable rates to fit in your budget!

RAISE YOUR INCOME WHILE RAISING YOUR FAMILY You can make extra money without putting the kids in daycare. You set your own hours. No billing, no collections, no carrying inventory, no large investment. Great local support. Call us today at (856) 305-7680.

CLEANING SERVICES

SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY AND LESS TIME CLEANING Offering dependable, professional cleaning service to homes, businesses, summer rentals, move-in/out cleaning and more. Flexible cleaning schedule to match your budget. 100% Satisfaction guaranteed or we will re-do the job! Gift certificates available. Call (856) 213-5070 or visit www.csicleaningservice.com

FOR RENT GREAT OPPORTUNITY – SPACE FOR RENT 750sq ft space in rear entrance @ The Cafe of Life Wellness Ctr in Vld. 2 treatment rooms, full bath, full kitchen & eating area, large waiting room, ample parking. Ideal space for quiet health care practitioner.

Call for details. (856) 794-9888 or www.thegoodlifefamily.com

HEATING AND AIR CONDITIONING LOOKING FOR A RELIABLE, HONEST, AFFORDABLE HEATING CONTRACTOR? Then you’ve found them! For new construction, including custom homes, upgrades, change outs or renovations call RJ Mechanical for all your HVAC needs. (856) 690-9692.

MONDAY MORNING MOMS® Family Childcare Management consulting with Stay-At-Home Moms who make home-based, full-time childcare their career! We’ll help with the equipment, screening, advertising and support!! (856) 802-0500 or MomsNSoNJ@aol.com

PARTIES – ADULT NOOKIE PARTIES Host a Nookie Party & earn loads of FREE romance products!

Cash-n-carry available! Free 2- night vacation for party hostesses!

Earn 50% as a Consultant w/no quotas or requirements. Couples parties also available. Book your party today! (856) 397-2234 or www.NookieParties.com. Use coupon code SJMOM at checkout for 10% off online orders.

PARTIES – CHILDREN ABRAKADOODLE ARTY PARTIES ART is FUN and ABRAKADOODLE parties are EASY for parents – plus EACH GUEST takes home a FRAMED masterpiece. Call us to learn more! Creative party themes for children 3-12 yrs; (856) 914-0521 or visit www.abrakadoodle.com/nj01

PEDIATRIC OCCUPATIONAL THERAPY NEED HELP GUIDING YOUR CHILD’S DEVELOPMENTAL JOURNEY? At The Schlinic, happy childhoods are our specialty. Kids come for awesome motor equipment, fun sensory experiences and developmental play. Parents come for answers, professionals who listen, assessments and research-supported intervention. Learn more at www.schlinic.com or call Dr. Jodi and Karen at (856) 692-9292.

WILLS/ ESTATE PLANNING WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN? Appointing Guardians for your minor children is one of the most important aspects of Estate Planning. Complimentary initial consultation. Mention this ad and receive 15% discount for August.

Contact James F Fahy, Esq., LLC to learn more. Call (856) 287-3107 or email JFahylaw@verizon.net.

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Is your child often sad, irritable or angry?

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Private special education schools provide services and options you’d expect from a first-rate, private school—individualized attention, on-site therapies, vocational training and inclusive social events, to name a few. As the preeminent South Jersey schools for students with disabilities, our schools boast staffs of New Jersey Department of Education certified special education teachers, licensed therapists and counselors, and adhere to the New Jersey Core Curriculum Content Standards.

Many parents are surprised to find that these unparalleled services are provided at NO TUITION for families. In New Jersey, all special education services—including placement in a private school—are funded through a combination of federal, state and local tax dollars.

Using this funding, your school district pays the costs of tuition and transportation for private special education schools.

Our Executive Directors can help answer your questions. To find out more about what programs may be right for your child, call us at

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Brookfield Schools HollyDELL, Inc. Garfield Park Academy Kingsway Learning Center Larc School St. John of God Community Services

Private special education is an option for many children, and provided at no cost to families.

Finding the appropriate educational option for your child can sometimes be a complicated process. We have access to education and legal experts who can help you navigate through the process. For more information or for help in understanding your rights, call us at 1-800-697-8555. www.southjerseymom.com

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