December - South Jersey Mom Magazine by Adam Nichols

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Check out our HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE great ideas for everyone on your list

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Table of Contents mom 2 mom 8 Plan a Family Fun Night 10 Giving of Yourself Says “I Care” Volunteering During the Holidays 12 Smooth Sailing This Holiday Season-Lessen Travel Hassles

moms R women 2 14 Tips to Keep Fit, Not Fat, This Holiday Season 16 10 Gifts Nobody Wants 17 2009 Chick Lit Gift List

know 2 grow 24 I’m Telling! 26 Special Considerations for Parents with Special Needs Children 28 ‘Tweens: Teasing, Gossiping and Reputations

features 18 2009 Holiday Gift Guide 32 Easy Holiday Cookies Kids Can Make

also in this issue 3 5 6 29 31 33 34 35

publisher’s note nana’s 2 sense life sentences green mama learning 2 learn book review things 2 do resource guide

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Dear Readers,

orking from home is wonderful, but what’s not so wonderful, is the late nights! Since my office is right here in my house, I can turn on the computer at any hour and get things done… which isn’t necessarily a good thing. I tend to look at this computer more often than I look at my children. Which, by the way, disturbs me greatly. Every day, I tell myself I’m only working until 4 p.m. Then, I’m not getting back on the computer until after the kids are in bed, and then only until 10 p.m. Every day, I tell myself that today is the day I will go to bed early. But it never happens. What has been happening though, is once I finally fall asleep around 1 a.m., one of my children begins to cry and won’t stop until I get up and comfort them…or they come to my bed and get comfortable. Which means, I’m not. I am so tired of being tired, I just might scream. Everyone around me says, “You look tired.” Really? Working 12 hours a day on the magazine and taking care of a 1-yearold, and a 3-year-old, and a house, and a husband, and... of course I look tired!!!! But I don’t want to feel this way. I just need something to pep me up. I can’t tell you how excited I am about this time of year. I’m hoping that some holiday

cheer will lift me back up. I’m hoping that decorating the house and visiting with family and creating memories to last a lifetime will draw me away from the computer, and closer to my children. I don’t want my children to remember mom for how fast she could type, or how great she could edit an article. I want them to remember how much fun we had together and how much I love each and every minute I spend with them. I love my magazine, but I love my children and my husband more. And I need to start making that clear to them. I need to put them first. I need to stop making them feel like they are interrupting my work and stop letting my work interrupt my time with them. I know, as moms, we try to be all things to all people, but at the end of the day, what’s more important? That I’m a successful magazine publisher? Or that I’m a successful mom? What’s more important to you? Being a successful (fill in the blank) or being a successful mom? May your holiday be blessed with family, love and fond memories...not work. Your Friend and Fellow MOM,

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My Christmas List ach year, at the beginning of October, I start adding some special items to the bottom of my weekly to-do list. “Make Christmas gift list, make Christmas card list, maybe write Christmas letter.” They are at the bottom of the list because I know I have plenty of time. Now, I may have mentioned before that I am a compulsive list maker. If too many items get crossed off my list as they are accomplished, I have to make a new list. This serves two purposes. It gives me a nice clean list and it reinforces in my mind the items still left to do. The more I write something, the better I remember; hence, I am more likely to remember some of those items on the list when I am out and about and have forgotten to bring the list. So you see, by December, I will not only have re-written the Christmas reminders on my list, but I will also have actually made the Christmas lists and re-written them several times. Yes, by December 23rd, I have engrained every item on that list in my brain and am

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fully prepared to brave the crowd...when I forget my list. This brings me to my choice of gifts. I try to give gifts that will be remembered; sometimes fun and a bit crazy, sometimes filled with deep sentiment. Ok, it’s not so much that I want the gift to be remembered, I want me to be remembered. I hope that my children, grandchildren, family and friends will look back through the years and remember me because what I gave or what I did was that special. As the years go by, though, selecting gifts is getting more difficult. Every year, the children receive so many gifts from everyone that it’s difficult to find something special. Maybe just receiving “one” gift from Nana will be memorable in itself. That’s it! That is what I’ll do, and I will wrap each gift in the most amazing and unique package they will always remember! Make it special. —Nana Jean Nana Jean is a South Jersey grandmother with two daughters and six grandchildren. Enjoy her stories about her 37+ years as a mom and 19 years as a grandmother as she shares her experiences and lessons learned with lots of laughs and tears along the way.

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“Cutest Kid in Town” winner: Kayla is 3 years old and lives in Vineland. She has two older brothers, 20-year-old Nick and 13-year-old Eric. She likes to be outdoors playing with her dog, Tango. She is very independent, helpful and is quite expressive. She loves singing and playing with instruments and her favorite singer is Hannah Montana. Her favorite shows are SpongeBob and iCarly. This is her first year in pre-school. Photo by Lisa Ward Photography.

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Missing the

Good Times

sat in a metal folding chair in my son’s school gym, watching a photomontage of students with all manner of challenges. They were smiling, learning, working and dancing. There were several good shots of Greg looking relaxed and engaged with his surroundings; candid shots that I never get because he notices Mom aiming the camera and stands at attention looking uncomfortable, or manages a big, cheesy smile while the top half of his face is sort of straining against an imminent terror. But there he was, caught in the classroom, caught at a picnic, with his teacher, looking confident and smiling all the way to his eyes. A song accompanied the slide show, Trace Adkins crooning these words that reached into my heart and twisted:

“You’re gonna miss this… You’re gonna want this back …” Crying in public is not my style, but somebody smeared mascara all under my eyes. I sat sobbing silently through most of the presentation. No one knows better than me that I am going to miss this school. When he “ages out” in a couple of years, this all goes away: bus rides to school, a staff of trained teachers, therapists and aides, birthday parties, class trips and playing video games as a reward for finishing his work. Gone. The help and services for adults with autism are knocked away at age 21, ready for life or not. Some of them will lose hard-won skills without that help. It’s a

By Fran LoBiondo problem that many talk about, while the number of young adults ageing out of high school climbs and support programs dwindle. It’s up to the parents to come up with something for them to do next. If I let them, anxious thoughts about Greg’s future will gnaw at my mind like tiny dark mice, causing me to miss the miracles happening now, right before my eyes. He is growing, getting used to change, little by little; losing some of his obsessions and picking up others, but they don’t last as long. He is learning to use earplugs when the room gets too loud, helping out more in the kitchen, learning new dishes and at least trying them before declaring, “I don’t want to.” Our family will celebrate Christmas soon, and I will spend the weeks before in preparation for celebrating what we have: family, faith and progress (online shopping, free delivery), the changes in our children and their relationship to each other. Let me focus on these miracles now, while we are all here, rather than looking back at old holiday photos and pining for a return to today. We all have the choice to dive into this holiday with both feet, joyfully, or to gnash our teeth when something’s not perfect and wake up in January with a sore jaw wondering, “Where did everybody go?” You’re gonna miss this, You’re gonna want this back, You’re gonna wish these days hadn’t gone by so fast. These are some good times, So take a good look around, You may not know it now, But you’re gonna miss this… Fran LoBiondo of Vineland has children in grade school, high school and college. A Purdue University graduate with a degree in Journalism, she has written about parenting, food and fun for 25 yrs.

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Plan a

Family Fun Night

10 Fun, Cheap and Easy Activities By Gwen Recinto

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Have an indoor picnic. Enjoy a meal on the floor of your family room. Lay out a blanket and serve picnic items, such as sandwiches, salads, chips and juice. If space allows, play a modified version of horseshoes or beanbags by tossing coins onto sofa cushions placed on the floor.

Play with pictures. Go through old photo albums together and tell stories about each picture. Tell your kids a little bit about yourself when you were younger — or their age — and be sure to tell them what they were like as a baby and as a toddler. If you can, take more photos that night.

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Have a dance party. Have everyone choose their favorite songs and be sure to include some that are slow and sentimental. Take turns “fast” and “slow” dancing together. You can even incorporate “instruments” such as pots and pans to bang on — or a box of pasta to shake — and have an indoor concert.

Cook together. Choose kid-friendly recipes and work together to create an appetizer, entrée and dessert that your whole family can enjoy. You may want to try cooking a special family recipe or your child’s favorite meal. Create a family tree. Map out your family tree on a piece of paper, then work together to replicate it on a large piece of poster board. If you can, add photos, draw pictures and include the birthplace of each relative. Be the next “American Idol.” Have each family member dress up and take turns singing their favorite song. Be sure to award prizes for each performance. Decorate food. Bake cupcakes together. When they cool, decorate them with different types of icing and assorted jimmies. Camp out. Depending on the weather, have an indoor or outdoor camping adventure. Bring sleeping bags and make sure to use flashlights in the dark. Give back to the community. As a family, think of ways you can give back to the community. For example, create a gift box (using an old shoe box) to send to our troops. Or, make a list of the perfect “holiday” meal — then write letters and emails to friends and family, asking them to help gather these items for a less fortunate family. Hunt for prizes indoors. Write clues on scraps of paper and lead each family member to an exciting prize, such as a new board game you can play together. You can even have each person “find” items — such as a DVD, popcorn, candy and soda — for a family movie night.

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Volunteering During the Holidays By Janice Harrell shelters, as well as local charities and community organizations. One such organization is the Robins’ Nest (www.robinsnestinc.org) in Glassboro. Robins’ Nest is a private, nonprofit agency dedicated to the safety, support and empowerment of children and families in New Jersey’s seven southern counties. Lauren Jones, Volunteer Coordinator at Robins’ Nest, says, “Volunteers [who] support us during the holidays are critical, as their time and efforts allow staff to manage regular responsibilities that would otherwise be “on hold” (or postponed) until after the seasonal event passes. This is especially relevant for our annual Santa’s Workshop, Robins’ Nest’s holiday gift-giv-

ing program that is largely run by volunteers. The skill and expertise provided by volunteers enables me to provide continued support to the mentors, tutors and other volunteers that advance our mission to support children and families. Volunteers truly enable us to soar.” Not only is volunteering an opportunity to make valuable contributions to others, volunteering is often humbling, is good for the heart and soul and, yes, even your health. According to a research study by the Corporation for National and Community Service, there is a significant connection between volunteering and good health. The report shows that volunteers have greater longevity, higher functional ability, lower depression rates and less heart disease. So

HOW YOU CAN HELP OTHERS THIS HOLIDAY SEASON:

or many of us, the holidays are a busy time filled with parties, shopping and gift giving – a time filled with traditions and opportunities to celebrate with family and friends. But the holidays also present plentiful opportunities to volunteer and help others – to give to those less fortunate. Many organizations need volunteers year-round, but even more so during the holidays. It’s a busy time for homeless

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Walk dogs at the local animal shelter.

Cook dinner for a single working mom.

Rake leaves/shovel snow for neighbors or seniors.

Babysit for a couple going through a difficult time.

Send cards and write letters to the troops.

Help elderly neighbors decorate and un-decorate for the holidays.

Hold a canned food drive and donate to needy families in your community.

Read books to children or older residents at nursing homes.

Make decorations, ornaments, or baked goods for a homeless women’s or children’s shelter.

Use your talents to help others: gardening, office skills, sewing, handyman, etc.

Donate your used clothes to charity.

Give blood.

Sing carols or put on a musical performance at a nursing home.

Tutor or mentor at-risk children.

Adopt a family. Help out with their individual needs.

Teach a dance class or play games at the senior center. Donate your time wrapping presents.

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let’s get out there and volunteer! One of the best ways to give back during the holidays is by donating your time. Try volunteering at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen. Help organize donations and stock shelves at your local food pantry. Make and deliver meals to the elderly or to those who are homebound. Spend time with patients in the hospital or with senior citizens in nursing homes or assisted living facilities. Many patients and older citizens do not have family and enjoy the company during the holidays. You should also consider volunteering as a family. When families volunteer together, the experience provides you and your family with new skills, teaches young children the value of giving, allows every-

one a shared experience and a wonderful family memory and brings families closer together. Volunteering can become an annual family tradition, and what better time than the holidays to start that new tradition? Sometimes, it’s difficult to find an organization that fits your personality. Try looking at your community’s bulletin board or website to find out how you can get involved or to find a volunteering position that fits your needs. Visit Volunteer New Jersey’s website for ideas, www.volunteernewjersey.org. Volunteer New Jersey is a partnership between the Association of New Jersey Volunteer Centers and the State of New Jersey Governor’s office of Volunteerism. The partnership provides volunteers with

access to information about community needs, as well as providing every non-profit organization in the state of New Jersey with a place to register their needs. Thus, they connect volunteers looking for opportunities with charities in need of assistance. Giving of yourself says that you care about others, and just knowing someone cares can make a tremendous difference in another person’s life. Make an impact on someone’s life by volunteering this holiday season. It does not take much to help make someone’s holiday a bit brighter and a little happier. What you get back will far outweigh what you give!

Local Opportunities to Volunteer VolunteerMatch VolunteerMatch strengthens communities by making it easier for good people and good causes to connect. The organization offers a variety of online services to support a community of nonprofit, volunteer and business leaders committed to civic engagement. The service welcomes millions of visitors a year and has become the preferred internet recruiting tool for more than 72,000 nonprofit organizations. Visit the website to learn about volunteering opportunities in your area. www.volunteermatch.org Volunteer Center of Gloucester County The Center connects individuals to volunteer opportunities in their community. Members of the community can search for opportunities based on interests, skills and geographic location or simply by entering a keyword. You can also register to receive automatic emails that list volunteer opportunities that match your specific profile. (856) 415-9084, www.gloucestercountyvolunteers.org Center for Family Services Holiday Gift Project Center for Family Services (CFS) supports and empowers individuals, families and communities to achieve a better life through vision, hope and strength. Support the Holiday Gift Project and brighten the holidays for a child! With support from the community, they hope to provide more than 1,200 local children and teens with gifts this holiday season. CFS has several additional programs running throughout the year. Visit their website to learn more about them, www.centerffs.org/getinvolved/volunteers.html

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Volunteer Opportunities at the SPCA Looking for a way to help animals? Spend a few hours a week at the animal shelter! No mandatory time schedule, any time you can offer helps. Brush a cat or dog (or two or three), maybe walk a dog, or take them into the play yard for a game of fetch, spend a few quiet minutes petting a cat or dog or teach a dog a new trick. We have many pets that could use a friend with patience and a few kind words. Learn more at www.cumberlandcountyspca.org. Food Bank of South Jersey The Food Bank of South Jersey (FBSJ) operates an effective food distribution program that annually links 4 million pounds of food with over 200 charitable food providers, such as food pantries, soup kitchens and emergency shelters. They are in need of volunteers who can sort, stock, pack, offer warehouse or transportation assistance and more. Volunteers must be over 8 years of age and children 15 and under must be accompanied by a parent or guardian when volunteering and must attend a mandatory volunteer orientation. For more info, visit www.foodbanksj.org/volunteeropp.html Jubilee Women Inc. Provides a home for homeless pregnant women and their children with services such as counseling, case management, educational opportunities, job training and life skills with the goal of empowering the women to grow in self-respect, faith and independence. Volunteer needs include office help, publicity, webmaster, online newsletter, serving on committee for our annual fundraiser, One Desserted Evening and a Volunteer Coordinator! Once open, babysitters

and nighttime volunteers. Contact Gerry, (609) 805-1421 or gerry@jubileewomennj.org or visit www.jubileewomenNJ.org. Samost Jewish Family and Children's Service Looking for volunteers to be a friendly visitor to homebound seniors, conduct Shabbat services or Hanukah menorah lighting at area nursing facilities, assist in stocking our Food Pantry, drive seniors to doctors' appointments and other errands, mentor a young adult with special needs and more. Call Andi Loew at (856) 424-1333, ext. 180 or email aloew@jfedsnj.org. JFCS is a non-denominational social service agency that serves peoples of all ages and religions. 1301 Springdale Rd, Ste 150, Cherry Hill and Birchfield Park Dr, Ste 702, Mt. Laurel. Give a Day in Vineland, Get a Day at Disney® The Vineland Downtown Improvement District (VDID)/Main Street Vineland has been approved to participate in Give a Day. Get a Disney Day volunteerism program in 2010. Beginning January 1, individuals who do a day s worth of volunteer work for VDID/Main Street Vineland will get one day s admission to a Walt Disney World® Resort or Disneyland® Resort theme park free. The VDID is looking for volunteers to help out on projects and initiatives. Whether it s serving and giving input on one of their four committees, or helping out at events, they are always eager for new volunteers. Call the office at (856) 794-8653 or visit www.mainstreetvineland.org for more information.

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Being prepared can lessen travel hassles ive-point harnesses, booster seats, trudging barefoot through security— travel is complicated these days! In 1979, my family flew from Philadelphia to Atlanta. We did not buy a ticket or bring a car seat for our daughter. It was my first flying experience. Barely pregnant with baby number two, I was thankfully not morning-sick. TSA and 9/11 security rules were more than 20 years in the future. Two adults flying with one child was actually a fun adventure. In 1987, while I was very pregnant, I traveled with 3, 7, and 12-year-olds by train, over night, to Chicago. Two had motion sickness with vomiting roundtrip. One coughed so much that she broke a blood vessel in her eye, but my girls remember this as the best trip ever. So when all your plans fall apart, keep your sense of humor. When your trip becomes absurd, laugh at the situation and accept the complications. It’s much less stressful and makes for great stories.

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a complete change of clothes. Older children can carry their own in a small backpack. • Pack a light throw or beach wrap to be used in any way needed, e.g., blanket, head wrap or pillow. • Plan for every possible contingency that MAY occur, such as bleeding, vomiting, diarrhea, sneezing, coughing etc. Bring a small first aid kit. • Avoid traveling alone with kids. Take a mother’s helper when needed. Family travel is safer and easier. • Keep all medications, formula or anything else you urgently need in your carry-on. • Photocopy all wallet cards (e.g., credit cards, driver’s license, insurance). Store the copies both at home and with you, but not in your purse. • If traveling alone with a school-age son, let him use the “family” restrooms while you wait outside. • Inform at least one person of your itinerary. Let them know of your safe arrival. By Car • Drive at night or during nap times as much as possible. • Never let a child out of his or her car seat while driving, including when diapering or feeding. • Driving while breastfeeding is dangerous multi-tasking. DO NOT DO IT, no matter how behind schedule you are. • Plan rest stops or breaks every two hours. • Pack simple, non-messy foods and drinks to have along the way. • Avoid a trip with an old, dying car. Make sure car maintenance is up to date. • Tools like a GPS, an AAA membership, maps, flashlights and flares are worthwhile.

By Judy M. Schneider By Air • Check with the airline and TSA (www.tsa.gov/travelers/airtravel/children/ index.shtm) about rules for family travel. • Organize tickets, itineraries, passports, photo IDs and all travel papers in a big envelope or plastic zip bag. • Print map of airport(s) and learn to read them. • Airport personnel are helpful – let them help you. • If a child flies free, there is no seat for a car seat. Buy a ticket for the child and bring a car seat for them. • For easier security screening, dress light in layers; avoid wearing metal jewelry, belts etc., and wear socks, as shoes have to be removed when passing through security checks. • Mothers are permitted to bring breast milk or formula in quantities greater than three ounces, as long as it’s declared for inspection at the security checkpoint. Swallowing during takeoff and landings clears ear pressure. Have infants drink fluids at those times; otherwise, they may cry from pain. (www.tsa.gov/travelers/ airtravel/children/formula.shtm) • Be mindful of older travelers who want to avoid kids kicking their seat. If the senior is smiling, then they are kid friendly; but if they are stony silent, then they may be annoyed by normal childish behavior. Read their body language and be considerate. • Gifts must be unwrapped for airport security, so bring materials to wrap them on arrival.

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By Brandi Dockett Get Some Shut Eye Staying up to wrap gifts, write holiday cards or finish holiday cooking can affect your body and contribute to weight gain. Chronic sleep loss can affect your metabolism, causing cravings for sugar and carbohydrates that give an “energy boost.” Lack of sleep can also affect one’s mental ability to resist temptations and increase daily caloric intake, resulting in extra pounds. Keeping your normal bed time or taking a daytime nap will not only help you feel rested, but lighter, too.

Welcome the Holiday Season Without Feeling Weighed Down With These Tips: Be a “Mall Walker” No time for a long walk? Take advantage of the time you spend looking for that “perfect” gift at the shopping mall. One way to work out before hitting the sales is to arrive early, before retailers open for business. Add on a lap or two during your trip to get the heart pumping, and park at the furthest lot and power walk to and from your car. Wear ankle weights to burn even more calories!

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No Time Like The Present This last tip comes from Tom O’ Brien, Certified Perso-nal Trainer and Co-Owner of Versa Fit Studios. O’Brien’s advice is to get a head start and not wait until the New Year to make your resolutions. “Now is a great time to join a fitness center or get into a walking club with friends. Doing it with a friend increases the chance that you will stick with it,” says O’Brien. So keep the holidays merry and festive. If you follow the tips mentioned above, your merriment, less the extra pounds, will, indeed, make it a happy New Year. Brandi B. Dockett is an ACE Certified Personal Trainer, Owner of B-FIT FITNESS SERVICES and Provider of Stroller Strides Fitness Classes. Brandi is also mommy to daughters Libby and Grace.

Keep it Short and Intense When times are hectic, modify your workout. You can do a quick total body workout in just 15 minutes. You can fit in an intense cardio, like jogging or elliptical machine intervals and still feel the “burn” in 15 minutes. When doing resistance workouts, maximize your time by simultaneously doing upper and lower body movements. For example, perform squats while doing shoulder presses with dumbbells. Warning: You’re Eating Again!! “Awareness of what and when you eat is crucial,” says Krista Ricchezza, Fitness Instructor and Personal Trainer at Versa Fit Fitness Studios in Voorhees. Ricchezza says, “Be mindful when having your holiday meals. Use all your senses… smell the turkey, observe the texture of the potatoes, listen to the crunch of the carrots. Take small bites and chew each mouthful completely. Take small breaks and allow yourself to be half or three-quarters full instead of overeating. You will still be satisfied, but without a guilty conscience. Most importantly, drink lots of water with every meal!”

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very year, hordes of people descend upon the malls, the church bazaars, the department stores and the Internet, searching for gifts for family and friends. They shop, they wrap, they give. Often these gifts are appreciated by their recipients, for the items themselves or at least for the thought behind them. Other times, people are left scratching their heads, wondering, “What was she thinking?”

In a very informal poll of South Jersey moms, certain items made the list of what NOT to give. For the sake of friendship and family harmony, no names are being used. If you are wondering what to buy this year, consider skipping these items. And if you should receive something on this list, find comfort in that fact that you are not alone. And now, what NOT to give! Undergarments. Yes, socks and undies are necessities. Just about everyone wears them and could use a few new pair of each. However, after reaching a certain age, everyone earns the right to choose and purchase his or her own unmentionables. Let them. Coffee mugs. Cute sayings, travel souvenirs and alma maters abound in lots of cupboards and cabinets. As one pollster put it, “I’m forty. What makes her think I could possibly be lacking in the mug department?” Kitchen appliances/cookbooks. Skip the new microwave, onion chopper, oven mitts and cookbooks. If she does not cook, the gift will send the signal that she should; and if she does cook, she will likely already have what she needs. Cleaning items. “A mop is not a gift, unless it comes with a cleaning lady attached,” is how one mom put it. Ditto for brooms, vacuums (exception, one mom’s beloved Dyson) and furniture polish. Like the cooking apparatus, the suggestion behind such a gift would seem to be, “You need help in this department.” Tcotchkes. Just because someone has one ceramic cow does not mean she wants everything ever made with a black and white pattern on it to garnish her shelf. Collections like this often come from one offhand 16 | December 2009

remark—“Oh, turtles are so cute!”—and lead to an uncomfortable display of those dust-collectors. Fruitcake. Nobody wants fruitcake. Nobody. Personal hygiene/fitness items. Yet another category of gifts that leads the recipient to question the giver’s intent. The BMI scale from one pollster’s father-in-law and the single bar of soap from another’s landed this category firmly in the top ten no-nos of gift giving. Slippers. Unless they are fabulous and fun, do not go there. If she does not have a stack of them in her closet already, it’s only because she’s been handing them out to the neighborhood dogs as chew toys. And really, she can buy her own slippers.

pair had given dad the year before. If you must re-gift, choose both the item and the recipient carefully. And consider this—if it was not good enough for you, why pass it on to someone else (unless, of course, you have seven friends in need of fountains)? The holidays are a wonderful time to show your friends and family you care by spending time together, sharing meals and giving gifts. Please choose the gifts you give carefully. And if you should open a gift that is not quite what you were expecting, remember to smile politely and say thank you before drowning your sorrows in your brand new “My other mug is a wine glass” coffee mug.

Home décor. Cute plaques, wall hangings and garden fountains might look appealing when they are on display, but decorating home and garden is a personal process. One woman received seven different fountains from seven family members, all in one holiday season. Why? Maybe they were the trendy gift that year, and maybe she mentioned liking the soothing sound of the water. Had the family communicated, perhaps she would have received fewer fountains, or maybe a wise relative would have nixed the fountain idea altogether. Re-gifts. While recycling is nice, re-gifting comes with two potentially harmful side effects—giving it back to the person who gave it to you and forgetting to remove the original card or gift tag. Other times, re-gifting is just plain weird. One woman reports her husband received his recently deceased father’s bathrobe as a gift—the same gift the www.southjerseymom.com

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A clever blend of Christmas songs and classic nursery rhymes for a fresh, new mix of original lullabies designed to help little ones drift off to dreamland. Features 16 unique holiday-nursery rhyme mashups. http://pianobrothers.com/music/ holidaylullabies/, $13.98

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Mickey Mouse Club House – Meeska Mooska Mickey Mouse Walt Disney Records releases the latest collection of 18 fun-filled songs from three seasons of The Mickey Mouse Clubhouse. www.amazon.com, $9.98

LeapFrog Learning DVD set This 3 DVD set will teach your child counting, phonic skills, the alphabet, word building and much more. Includes 26 flash cards. $29.98

Ben 10: Alien Swarm Based on Cartoon Network’s hit series, Ben 10: Alien Force, this full-length film follows Ben as he leaves the Plumbers - a secret organization that battles alien forces - to help the mysterious Elena (Alyssa Diaz) uncover an alien threat to our world. Joined by his best friends Gwen (Galadriel Stineman) and Kevin (Nathan Keyes) - super-powered heroes in their own right - the fearless threesome must trust each other’s instincts in order to save the day. $19.97 18 | December 2009

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This CD features high-energy, fun songs with topics kids can relate to—with memorable hook lines they will quickly recall. Made with children in mind, but even mom and dad will find themselves humming along to the catchy melodies. www.amazon.com and www.cdbaby.com, $13.99

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Mad Hungry Cook Book A practical guide for feeding the men in your life and building a love of good food. From a celebrated cook, mother and Martha Stewart’s top expert on food and entertaining. $27.95

Mommy, Draw Stars on My Tummy Contains a series of bedtime or playtime stories. Combines touch, storytelling and beautiful illustrations that allow parents and children to slow down, focus on each other and enjoy a close, enjoyable and deeply personal relationship. $19.95

Elf Magic Memories The scrapbook-style journal helps families archive photos and stories about their elf experience into one location. “Elf Magic Timeless Memories” is available for shipment from the North Pole. www.elf-magic.com, $24.95

Waddle: A Scanimation Picture Book This book will inspire prancing, hopping, stomping and scampering. The rhymes are inspiring and the animals full of life. The Scanimation process creates fluid, realistic motion for each of the animals. Ages 3 and up. $12.95

For Pets Pet Christmas Tree Shirt by Mud Pie

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Books

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Life’s Lessons: A Successful Collection of Failures A compilation of shorts stories both hilarious and touching, highlight this comical father and son’s uncanny ability to find themselves in some sort of trouble together and on their own. www.lifeslessons.ca, $24.95

C is for Cooking – 40th Anniversary Edition Cooking is easy with a little help from the Sesame Street gang. Includes more than 55 delicious recipes kids and parents can make together from celebrity chefs like Mar Bittman and Emeril Lagasse. $17.95

The Christmas Clock A holiday story of vows broken and love redeemed, of courage and strength, all in a memorable tale that will resonate long after the book is over. $14.95

Cooking with All Things Trader Joe’s In this fun, lively and lavishly photographed cookbook, the authors show readers how to make gourmet, interesting food out of healthy, inexpensive, fresh ingredients that can be purchased under one roof. Trader Joe’s, $29.95

Twimericks: The Book of Tongue-Twisting Limericks This book offers an unpredictable mash-up of two classic forms: limericks and tonguetwisting, each energetically illustrated. A book everyone will enjoy. $8.95

Planet Dog Unique, tail-wagging products that have minimal impact on the environment. These award-winning Orbee-Tuff® toys are recyclable. Planet Dog has won several awards for their Orbee-Tuff® toys, which are the most durable, pliable, chewy, buoyant and bouncy toys on the market. Made in the USA, non-toxic, mint-scented. www.planetdog.com, prices vary December 2009 | 19

American Girl Crafts

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High-quality supplies and easy-to-make crafting kits for girls ages 8 to 12. Designed to inspire and foster girls’ creativity with themes that are relevant to their lives, such as school, parties, pets, doll fun and room décor. More than 160 unique products, including stamps, stickers and punches—as well as step-by-step kits to make jewelry, sewing crafts, cards, scrapbooks, fashion art and more. Exclusively at Michael’s, $1.99-$29.99

Minnie Cupcake Set, age 3+ Now every child can be a chef as they bake delicious pretend cupcakes that are always perfect. Includes pretend eggs, a bowl, a spatula, a cupcake tin, pretend cupcakes, measuring spoons, frosting and a measuring cup. Disney Stores and www.disneystore.com, $19.50

Wii™ Star Wars Light-Up Lightsabers

Cloud B Every baby deserves a sound night’s sleep for healthy development. Cloud B’s products are developed in consultation with an advisory board of pediatricians and sleep specialists with a single focus: to achieve a better, safer sleep for baby. Cloud B uses only the finest materials to ensure the quality and elegance your child deserves. Available at USA Baby & Learning Express, Cherry Hill; Remember Me, Moorestown; Jillybean’s Baby, Mullica Hill. For more locations, visit www.cloudb.com, prices vary

These replica’s of Anakin’s and Yoda’s lightsabers create the ultimate lightsaber experience! The Wii™ Remote fits safely in the lightsaber handle while the LED feature produces a realistic light-up experience, turning an ordinary player into a Jedi Knight. These official lightsabers utilize the twist and lock feature allowing for quick change out and an enhanced gaming experience. Available at Toys R Us, www.amazon.com, WalMart and GameStop, $19.99-$34.99

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ImagiPLAY Eco-Friendly Toys Encourage the kids you love to play hard and play "green" with these durable and ecofriendly, handcrafted, wooden toys. Made from eco-friendly materials, including plantationgrown rubberwood, beechwood from managed forests and bamboo. True to its mission to design toys that help children connect with nature and inspire them to love and respect animals and their habitats, ImagiPLAY plants more than 5,000 trees each year and supports environmental organizations. www.imagiplay.com and www.wholefoodsmarket.com, $12.99-$34.99 20 | December 2009

Hess Corporation celebrates its newest addition to its renowned collection of holiday toy trucks: The 2009 Hess Race Car and Racer. Features a touch-release canopy compartment that reveals a hidden compartment with surprise cargo – a smaller, faster race car powered by a pull-back racing motor and its own set of working lights. Hess Stations throughout South Jersey, find a location near you at www.hesstoytruck.com, $24.99

Classic Princess Dolls in Keepsake Box A great new holiday gift for the Disney Princess fan. Give her all eight Princesses for hours of fun and imaginative play. Collection comes completes with Ariel, Aurora, Belle, Cinderella, Jasmine, Mulan, Pocahontas and Snow White. The dolls come in a sturdy keepsake box to keep and display the royal court. Disney Stores and www.disneystore.com, $99.50 www.southjerseymom.com

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A smart and innovative bike that contributes to your child’s growing skills from an early age – and lets them have fun at the same time. Provides confidence through comfort, easy functionality and easy learning skills. These skills endow independence, letting children experience and learn something new the smart way! For babies, toddlers and kids. Visit www.smart-trike.com to learn more; Available at Toys R Us, $99.99

No matter how unique your name, Frecklebox can personalize it for you. Also give your child a personalized story, coloring or activity book where they are the star! Your child's name will pop off each page, which makes reading that much more fun! Journals, chalkboard lunchboxes, where mom and dad can leave loving messages, stickers, journals, notebooks and more. www.frecklebox.com, $3.95 and up

EA Sports Sweet Spot Hockey The Sweet Spot Sports line of products comes with special electronic features that emit an audio reward when a user hits or holds the ball/puck in the right spot, the "sweet spot," improving accuracy and hand-eye coordination. Sweet Spot football, baseball and basketball lines also available. Ages 5 and up. Available in stores or www.ea.com, $14.99 and up

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Votre Vu Combining French traditions and American ingenuity, Votre Vu is a luxurious skin care brand with naturally-based skincare solutions. With a complete range of products, Votre Vu ensures every area of a person’s skin care is tailored to her concerns and needs. www.votrevu.com, prices vary

Massaging Foot Warmer Just slide both feet in and switch it on for a soothing treat at the end of a long work day, relaxing on the couch or sitting at your desk. Brookstone Stores and www.brookstone.com, $49.95

PhotoBook Creator by Unibind You can make hard cover PhotoBooks, scrap books and presentations from home in 3 easy steps. With a wide variety of covers available the possibilities are endless! Available at Target; visit www.myphotobookcreator.com for more local retailers, prices vary.

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Soft foot comforters are made from ultra-rich, double thick NapSoft® Luxe material. Textured, non-slip soles. Choose from cocoa or pink. Brookstone Stores and www.brookstone.com, $29.95

This women's line of travel essentials are relaxed, elegant and sophisticated all at the same time. Custom zipper pulls and finishing touches in leather and cotton make each piece time-less and brilliantly functional. www.halsea.com, $35 and up

Philip Kingsley Jet Sets Each set contains a generous but airplane friendly shampoo and conditioner duo and three reusable, award winning Elasticizer sachets to keep your locks looking fabulous no matter your destination. www.philipkingsley.com, $34

Dead Sea Soaps Floating Diamonds Face and Body Shimmer This is the season to sparkle and there’s no better way to do it than with Floating Diamonds Face and Body Shimmer by Global Goddess. Adds a perfect amount of shimmer to create that radiant glow. Available at www.victorias secret.com and www.globalgoddessbeauty.com, $25 www.southjerseymom.com

One With Nature is the maker of all natural Dead Sea Soaps. Delivering silky, beautifully scented skin. Each gift set contains 3, 7 oz bars. www.onewithnature.com, $12.99

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For Anyone No-Sew Fleece Kits These hands-on, no-sew projects are great for the entire family. Basic Throw Kits include preprinted panels with lines for cutting perfect, even fringe. A second, coordinated solid fleece backing is then knotted to the panel for a soft and cozy reversible finished throw. Choose from John Deere, Tinkerbell, Cars, SpiderMan, Disney Princess and more! Styles vary by store. Other do-ityourself kits available for all skill levels. WalMart, JoAnn’s Fabric, Michael’s and www.springcreative.com, prices vary

Holiday Initial Towels by Mud Pie 100% linen towels with embroidered wreath and initial. www.christalaccents.com/mp 400150.html; For local retailers, call Mud Pie at 1-800-998-1633 or visit www.mud-pie.com, $5.95

BabyHawk – The Cure for the Common Baby Carrier These Mei Tai's (Asian Baby Carriers) make holding little ones on your front, back or hip as safe, as it is comfortable. Simple design lets you strap on or take off quickly and easily. Pre-washed and dried to prevent shrinkage. Padded top straps and headrest offer the most comfortable walk for mom and a safe, smooth ride for baby. www.babyhawk.com, prices vary

Dazz.com Dazz.com eliminates the background of your digital photo and restyles it into a collection of digital art to give your photo gifts a more designer look. Customers can view the photo design online before purchasing. Take away the fear of buying photo gifts online! www.dazz.com, prices vary

Joy of Soap Sassy handmade soaps that begin with a base of certified organic and locally grown olive oil, plus certified organic coconut, palm and castor oils. Available in various scents for men and women. www.thejoyofsoap.com, $3.50-$7.50

Max® Percussion Massager From high-speed percussion to slow soothing pulses, this massager will ease your aching muscles, work out those stubborn knots and help you enjoy a whole new level of relaxation. Three speeds, two ergonomic handles. Brookstone Stores and www.brookstone.com, $99.95

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Orange HOWELL™ Silver Snowflake Ornaments by designer Paula Zanger The snowflake, always wondrous, always unique. Over generations, families have turned this winter beauty into one of the most highly collected silver Christmas ornaments in the USA. In its premiere collection, Orange HOWELL by Paula Zanger plays homage to the legacy of this traditional icon with an enchanting collection of holiday ornaments infused with the spirit of American design. Timeless yet always relevant. www.orangehowell.com, $25 and up 22 | December 2009

TerraCycle makes affordable, eco-friendly products from a wide range of different non-recyclable waste materials. With over 50 products available at major retailers like Walmart, Target, The Home Depot, OfficeMax, Petco and Whole Foods Market, TerraCycle is one of the fastest growing eco-friendly manufacturers in the world. They help eliminate waste by finding innovative, unique uses for materials others deem garbage. Learn more at www.terracycle.net. Available at Toys R Us, under $15

Vermont Nut Free Chocolates Founded by a mother of a child with a peanut allergy, the entire selection is completely safe for those with any nut allergy, but can also be enjoyed by anyone who loves chocolate. www.vermontnutfree.com, prices vary www.southjerseymom.com

For Him Swiss Army Knife: Climber

The Climber is presented in 125th Anniversary elegant commemorative packaging and contains a large blade, small blade, corkscrew, can opener, small screwdriver, bottle opener, large screwdriver, wire stripper, reamer, key ring, tweezers, toothpick, scissors and multi-purpose hook. www.smkw.com, $34.99

Rubik’s TouchCube The iconic best-selling Rubik’s Cube goes “touch” with Rubik’s TouchCube, a must-have hi-tech gadget perfect for dads. Features touch sensor technology on all six sides, a motion-detecting accelerometer, and colored lights in every square. Includes a built-in solver, so anyone can easily solve the Cube. Available at Best Buy, www.amazon.com, www.Hammacher.com and www.rubikstouchcube.com, $149.99

Alligator Lopper Twist Light Three super-bright LEDs last 100,000 hours and never need replacing. It’s also compact and lightweight enough for your jacket pocket. Water-resistant. Rubberized handle. On/Off button. Choose from silver, red or blue. Brookstone Stores and www.brookstone.com, $25

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Gator meets chainsaw and together they make short work of all those pesky tree branches hanging around. It’s a foolproof, can’t-hurt-yourself, tree-limb devouring tool with a 4.5-amp motor, a heavy-duty cutting bar and innovative clamping jaws that grab and cut in one easy motion. It’s truly a yard-pruning fairy tale. Available at Target or where Black and Decker tools are sold, $99.99

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Check out their new fall/winter styles and colors! All Crocs™ shoes feature a proprietary closed-cell resin, called Croslite™. This material makes soft, comfortable, lightweight, superiorgripping, non-marking and odorresistant shoes. Ideal for casual wear, as well as for professional and recreational uses such as boating, hiking, hospitality and gardening. www.crocs.com, prices vary

The fastest growing brand of sheepskin boots in the world. Their collection is supremely unique and creative, with 48 styles of boots, sneakers, slippers, casuals and sandals. www.amazon.com or www.warmbat.com, prices vary

UbU Clothing Unique, versatile outerwear in numerous colors, textures and patterns. Most styles are reversible, waterproof, washable and wrinkle proof and are perfect for travel. “Scrunches” into your handbag and emerges looking fabulous. www.ubuclothing.com, prices vary

Injinji Yoga Toesocks Appaman Clothing Appaman is a beloved children clothing collection out of New York. With perfect proportions and inspired graphics, the line is a staple favorite of many celebrity parents including: Victoria Beckham, Kate Hudson, Naomi Watts, Brad Pitt & Angelina Jolie, Mariska Hargitay, Courteney Cox, Gwyneth Paltrow, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Christy Turlington Burns, Michelle Williams, Patrick Dempsey, Sheryl Crow & Liv Tyler. www.appaman.com, prices vary www.southjerseymom.com

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ids love to report on the activities of other kids. They will call to light everything from the most minor infraction—“Mom, she stuck her tongue out at me”—to the most dangerous act—“Mom, he’s jumping into the pool from the roof.” Any time kids perceive another kid’s action as breaking a rule, he or she is likely to come running to report it. This can result in a never-ending barrage of complaints about others. It’s difficult for kids to know which complaints are legitimate and which are not, yet parents and teachers expect them to be able to do so. The result is that children become frustrated because their needs are not being met, and adults are annoyed at hearing so many reports. The two key factors in lightening the tattling load are setting a clear understanding of the difference between tattling and telling, and understanding why kids tattle. Tattling is what kids do to other kids to get them in trouble or to call attention to themselves as the do-gooders. Telling is reporting a problem in which there is the potential for harm. The gray area comes in with the word “harm.” To some, it’s only physical harm. To others, emotional or psychological harm falls into this category as well. Figuring out what constitutes harm, and effectively communicating that to chil-

dren, can help all involved to be on the same page. One method of helping kids understand when to tell and when telling is just tattling is to role-play various scenarios with them. Practice different scenarios with kids and figure out together which cases call for enlisting an adult’s help. Kids tattle for a variety of reasons. They may lack the skills to resolve a situation without an adult’s help. They may enjoy the reward of positive attention. They may be trying to gain a clear understanding of the rules. Or, they may be attempting to express a sense of unfairness in enforcing the rules. It’s important for parents, caregivers and teachers to give kids the tools they need to solve problems on their own. Kids need to learn to talk to their peers to resolve issues of sharing or kindness or fairness. However, they also need to know if they try to work it out themselves and are unsuccessful, they can turn to an adult for help. Children also need to know exactly what the rules are and that they apply universally. If a child tattles, make sure to acknowledge that the other kid is, in fact, breaking a rule, and let him know you will handle it. Make sure he knows you have followed through. Reward kids for following the rules by complimenting their good behavior. Point out occasions where they are following a specific rule.

What about those times when there is cause for concern? Once kids understand the difference between tattling and telling, encourage them to use a direct approach. “Mrs. Smith, this is an emergency. Katie is trying to cut people with scissors.” Prefacing the issue this way will alert the teacher or parent that what is to follow is more than tattling, it’s important information, and it could otherwise be dismissed by an adult who is too eager to wave it off as tattling. Emotionally dangerous situations are less clear-cut. Consider situations where one child is being bullied or intimidated by another. In these cases, there is not necessarily physical harm being done, yet the child on the receiving end is not able to work the situation out for him/herself. He or she may be too afraid or embarrassed to seek help yet, clearly, someone needs to intervene. A child who is not directly involved might try to stand up for the bullied kid, or might seek out an adult’s assistance. Children need guidance in learning what poses a threat and what passes for nuisance. They also need to know they can turn to an adult in a time of need. What adults need to do is find the balance. Pay attention to the rules, let kids know they are being heard and give them the skills to know the difference between what they can handle and when to call in the troops.

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‘Tweens: Teasing, Gossiping and Reputations

By Valerie Tandoi ullying these days has reached new heights. If you are the parent of a tween (a child between the ages of eight and twelve), realize that your son or daughter is dealing with a whole new battlefield much more complicated than when you were their age. While all generations of tweens have dealt with some type of bullying, it was easier, in the past, to escape your tormentors once the school day ended. Today, kids are still bullied at school, but thanks to the Internet and social sites like Facebook, MySpace and Twitter, the teasing continues heavily into even the safety of their own homes. Since children have so much bullying ammo right at their finger tips, it’s more important than ever for parents to teach the importance of not gossiping and the value of a good reputation. Parents need to be aware of what is going on in the lives of their tweens. Not every child is comfortable telling their parents when they are being bullied or left out at school. There are several warning signs

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that may indicate that they are being teased or bullied. One of the most obvious signals of bullying is a child who suddenly wants to avoid going to school or to social functions. Some kids feel that if they can avoid their tormentor, at all costs, things will get better. But usually, without parent or teacher intervention, things will not get better. It’s important for parents to step in early and talk about what is happening at school. Bullying that continues long-term can lead to the child presenting some of the more serious warning signs, such as weight loss or gain, trouble sleeping, a drop in grades, bruises or destroyed personal property (signs of physically violent bullying) or, in extreme cases, depression or suicidal tendencies. “I talk to my daughter often and encourage her to come to me right away when she is having a problem at school,” says Dana, mother of a tween girl from Cherry Hill. “I remember the first time my daughter was bullied; [it] was in the sec-

ond grade. A girl in her class was bossing her around every day and threatening her if she played with the other children. I was proud my daughter felt she was able to approach me.” Parents should not be afraid to go to their child’s school and discuss what is happening with the child’s teacher. A large percentage of bullying begins in school and teachers need to be made aware of the situation. “I think teachers should be more aware of who the ‘popular’ group is in the class and which students are being singled out by all the others. The students need to know there are serious ramifications for ostracizing another classmate,” says Dana. Debby, mother of a tween girl from Mount Laurel agrees. “I don’t think they should be allowed to have cliques during school functions. For example, on a field trip, the teacher should assign [each student] to a group so that everyone is included. When they leave it up to the kids, there is always someone left out. There have been situations in the past where my www.southjerseymom.com

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daughter refused to go on field trips because no one wanted her in their group. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s heartbreaking to see your child hurt like that.â&#x20AC;? Many female tween bullies are actually afraid to fight directly with other girls and instead take a more passiveaggressive approach to bullying; for example, excluding a specific girl from a lunch table or birthday party, or gossiping and spreading rumors behind another girlâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s back. Parents should discuss with their tween just how serious gossiping is. Many kids think gossiping is funny and do not see the long-term effects that rumors can have on their peersâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; reputations and their own. Explain that every rumor they hear about a classmate is not always true. By partaking in the conversation, or spreading a false story to someone else, the child is risking getting someone in trouble for something they may be completely innocent of doing. Parents can arm their tweens with tactics to avoid gossiping, such as spending less time with classmates who gossip often or by simply teaching their son or daughter to respond to gossiping friends by saying, â&#x20AC;&#x153;I am not comfortable talking about someone who is not included in the conversation; letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s change the subject.â&#x20AC;? Another important point for parents to stress is that gossiping is a two way street. Children should be taught to take into consideration how they would feel if the rumor they are spreading about a fellow classmate was spread about them instead. The worst part about gossiping is that it can ruin someoneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s reputation. Parents can provide specific examples of how tarnishing their own reputation, or that of another child, can greatly affect their lives. Things that may seem silly to a tween today, such as writing inappropriate comments on a social networking site or spreading rumors about someone around the neighborhood, can result in serious future damage, including not getting hired for a part-time job, not being accepted into a private high school or college, difficulty finding a boyfriend or girlfriend that respects them and gaining the trust of teachers and other authority figures. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I always stress to my daughter how important it is to do the right thing and to be true to herself and the values I have taught her,â&#x20AC;? says Dana. â&#x20AC;&#x153;I believe that making good decisions is the best way for children to maintain a solid reputation.â&#x20AC;? The foundation for earning and maintaining a solid reputation starts at home.

By Sheila Taney, RN, MSN y children love to eat popsicles. It does not matter what time of year it is; even in the dead of winter, they enjoy these frozen treats. I save all the sticks. I have my children trained so well that they rinse the stick off when they are done eating the popsicle! They know not to throw that stick in the trash. I then store them in a reused large yogurt container. Here are some fun things your kids can do with them.

Make a picture frame Play a stacking game Build a fort/castle Make a jewelry/storage box Make a Christmas Tree or Star of David Use as arms and/or legs for Playdoh models Use as a plant stake for a small plant Incorporate into addition and subtraction teaching Color and use as a bookmark Popsicle sticks are yet another item commonly thrown away. By teaching your children to put the stick in the sink instead of the trash, you can accumulate quite a large supply of sticks. Buying the sticks at the craft store just adds to the unnecessary cutting down of trees. Sheila Taney has two children and resides in Cherry Hill. She is passionate about teaching her children and others how they can participate in saving the environment.

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Easy Holiday Cookies Kids Can Make

By Belinda J. Mooney

olidays mean cookies. Everyone loves them and of course Santa needs a plateful on Christmas Eve. So kids, grab your aprons and your mixing spoons and head for the kitchen. Here are three simple, but delicious cookies kids can help make, give and or course, eat!

Easy Holiday Wreaths What you need: • 20 ounces white chocolate, broken into pieces • 1 teaspoon green liquid food coloring • 5 cups cornflake cereal, crushed • 3 tablespoons cinnamon red-hot candies What you do: Spread wax paper on your counter or table. Spray the paper with non-stick spray. Melt the chocolate in microwave or top of double boiler over simmering water; stir until smooth. If you melt the chocolate in the microwave start at 1 minute, stir, and then do 15–30 seconds intervals stirring and checking in between. Stir in food coloring, and then stir in corn flakes until evenly coated. Working quickly, drop onto cookie sheets with a nice, big tablespoon, about 1 inch apart. Dip your finger into water and poke a whole in the middle of each cookie mound. Shape the pile into a wreath shape. While still moist, place the red-hot candies on the wreaths to look like holly berries. Place sheets in refrigerator until wreaths are firm.

Chocolatey Good Oatmeal Cookies What You Need: • 2 eggs • 1 cup sugar • Dash of salt • 1/2 cup chopped nuts • 1/2 cup flour • 1 cup quick oatmeal • 1/2 cup chocolate chips What you do: Mix the ingredients in the order they are in the recipe. Stir well. Drop by spoonfuls on greased cookie sheet. Bake at 375 degrees for 8-10 minutes.

Cinnamon Balls What you need: • 1 cup butter, softened • 1/5 cup granulated sugar • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract • 1 teaspoon cinnamon • 2 cups cake flour • 2 cups corn flakes, finely crushed (measure first, then crush) • 1 cup chopped nuts • powdered sugar

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What you do: 1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees. 2. Beat butter and sugar. Add vanilla extract and cinnamon. Mix in flour and corn flakes, blending thoroughly. Stir in nuts. 3. Roll into 1-inch balls and place on lightly greased cookie sheets. Bake for 20-25 minutes, until firm and golden. 4. Roll in confectioners’ sugar while still hot.

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Read-to-Me Book Reviews By Kathryn Ross, a.k.a. “Miss Kathy”

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he holiday season is upon us with all the hustle and T HEME : A Victorian Christmas bustle of commercialism B OOK : A Christmas Carol being thrust down our throats, as A UTHOR : Charles Dickens I LLUSTRATOR : P.J. Lynch though such were the authentic measurement of the time. Is EAN: 9780763631208 there anything really new under the sun? Christmas stockings are apt to contain an assortment of ditional stocking, but when the aforementioned renditions end up foolishness this season, as retail in a yard sale a year or two hence, this tome of timeless literature circulars advertise dumb and will remain in a hallowed place on the family bookshelf. dumber (a word which broken Follow-up Activity: Read it aloud – one chapter each night (about down to its original meaning an hour of reading) for the five nights it will take to read it. Have reads “no thought”) to quench intelligent conversation as a family about the text and the glory of the craving for amusement. the illustrations. Break out the Webster’s dictionary to look up any Concerned parents might think to put a book in their little one’s unfamiliar words and discuss their meaning. Elevate your family stocking. meditations this Christmas and leave the commercialism to amuse Thank goodness for Charles Dickens! He sleighs in each itself. Peace on earth, good will towards all men. Christmas season on a coach and four of literary brilliance with Kathryn Ross is a professional storyteller celebrating the love of learning and his masterpiece, A Christmas Carol. Children of all ages would literacy with children of all ages. She hosts Tale Spin Stories every Tuesday for fare thee better would they heed the lessons inherent in its pages. preschoolers at the Cumberland Mall in Vineland. To learn more about Miss Kathy Hollywood is even giving the familiar story of the reformation of programs from Pageant Wagon Productions, visit www.pwpstorytellers.com. a sinner’s heart at Christmas a new turn this year with a state of the art CGI animated rendition. Big name voices star in a script featuring roller coaster special effects wherein Ebenezer Scrooge, in nightcap and slippers, zips and zooms through the Victorian starry night with jet stream trailing behind, screaming at the top of his lungs. Funny thing – Dickens wrote this as a character driven tale, not an action adventure. Truly, I do prefer Alistar Sim’s 1951 Swinging New Year’s Eve party, version – or, for that matter, Mr. Magoo or the Muppets treatment – though this new Thursday, Dec. 31st. Ball to drop version may have, I hope, a truly at noon. Hats, streamers, noise Dickensian moment or two. makers & sparkling cider. But, I’m writing a book review here. Space is limited. And the book is always better than the Please pre-register. movie. When we are talking Dickens, this is more than truth – it’s an absolute! My recommended version is the strikingly handsome Candlewick edition illustrated by P. J. Lynch, featuring sumptuous drawings in sync with the unabridged text on heavy, semi-gloss paper in an heirloom quality hardcover binding. This may not fit in a tra-

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Ocean City’s Christmas Parade—December 5 Enjoy an old fashion parade with floats, string bands and Santa Claus coming to town. (609) 525-9300 Train Show Dec. 5 from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. Dec. 6 from 11 a.m. to 4 p.m. Ocean City Music Pier, Moorlyn Terrace and the Boardwalk. $3/adult, $1/child. (609) 525-9300, www.ocnj.us.com A Christmas Wonderland December 18 & 19 at 7:30 p.m. December 20 at 2 p.m. Ocean City’s Holiday Spectacular. A family friendly, fully staged song and dance revue perfect for the holiday season. Ocean City Music Pier, Moorlyn Terrace and the Boardwalk. (609) 525-9300, www.OCNJ.US/ boxoffice. Christmas Tree Lighting Benefit Dec. 3 from 6:30 to 7:30 p.m. Santa Claus, hot cocoa and a Christmas Tree Lighting! Bring a new unwrapped toy - benefits the children and families that the Atlantic City Rescue Mission helps at Christmastime. Park Avenue, Port Republic. www.acrescuemission.org , (609) 345-5517.

BURLINGTON COUNTY Sounds of the Season Holiday Concert December 11 and 12 at 8 p.m. December 13 at 3 p.m. Burlington County Footlighters Playhouse, 900 Pomona Rd, Cinnaminson. $15. (856) 829-7144, www.bcfootlighters.com Holiday Hayride December 5 & 6 from 10 a.m. to 3:15 p.m. Pemberton Township Historic Trust Pemberton Station Museum & Rail Trail, 3 Fort Dix Road, Pemberton. $3–5/person. Children under 5 free. (609) 894-0546 or (609) 784-8721 or pthtrust@yahoo.com

CAMDEN COUNTY The Hip Hop Nutcracker December 18 & 19 Artists perform the Hip Hop version of the Nutcracker Ballet. $15–22. (856) 313-2093, www.remixtheater.com. 34 | December 2009

American Red Cross Throughout December Give the gift of life this holiday season. Donate blood. Camden County donation center. 5424 Marlton Pk, Pennsauken. To make an appointment call 1-800-448-3543, www.givelife.org. Springdale Farms Holiday Event December 5 & 6 from 11a.m. to 3p.m. Decorate a holiday cookie (Christmas, Chanukah, Kwaanza) and make your own chocolate dipped marshmallow or pretzel, enjoy hot cider or hot chocolate, visit with Santa and more! $10/child, accompanying adults free! Springdale Farms, 1638 S. Springdale Rd, Cherry Hill. (856) 424-8674 or www.springdalefarms.com. Breakfast with Santa December 5 from 8:30 to 11 a.m. MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) presents breakfast with Santa! Full pancake breakfast, visit with Santa, crafts, raffle baskets. $6/person. St. Pius X Church, 344 Kresson Rd, Cherry Hill. (856) 429-1330, www.mopsofstpiusx.vpweb.com A Modern Nutcracker December 11-13, 18-20 Hip Hop, Jazz, Dialog, Lyrics… This is NOT your little niece’s Nutcracker. Original arrangements of Tchaikovsky’s score and all original choreography bring a new approach to a yearly classic. A dance crew of Toy Soldiers, Sugar Plum Fairies that break into a hip hop groove, Russian Cheerleaders bustin’ a rhyme, Reggaeton Flutes, Bebop Jazz Snowflakes & more. Fusion Performing Arts Ctr, 1931 Olney Ave., Cherry Hill. Fri. & Sat. @ 7:30p and Sun. @ 2p. $12/person (pre-ordered $10). www.fusionschool.com, (856) 424-8836 "A Christmas Wizard of Oz" December 12 at 7:30 p.m. In this holiday twist on the traditional story of "The Wizard of Oz," Dorothy is swept away by a blizzard to Elfinland. Along her journey to get home in time to open presents on Christmas Day, Dorothy meets many new friends. Timber Creek High School, 501 Jarvis Rd, Erial. $9/Adults, $7/Children (Under 10). (856) 435.3110 or DanceClassNJ@aol.com

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W. Cape May Christmas Parade December 5 at 5 p.m. Over three hours of family fun and entertainment. Starts at the WCM Fire Hall, proceeds south on Broadway to West Perry and to the Washington St. Mall. (609) 884-1005 O. Henry Christmas December 10-13 Experience the magic and joy of the holiday season with two heartwarming one-act musicals that capture the true spirit of giving. Based on the classic O.Henry stories, this holiday favorite transports you to turnof-the-century New York City and will have you leaving the theatre with feelings of love, giving and hope. Robert Shackleton Playhouse, Corner of Bank & Lafayette Streets, Cape May. www.capemaystage.com, (609) 884-1341

Candlelight Tour December 4 from 6 to 9 p.m. Experience the Whitall House by the glow of candlelight. These special tours feature natural decorations, living history activities, and colonial and seasonal music. Whitall House (Red Bank Battlefield Park). Megan Giordano @ (856)853-5120, mgiordano@co.gloucester.nj.us Ceremony of Carols for Children’s Choir December 5 & 6 ChildrenSong of New Jersey, a non-profit children’s chorus based in Haddonfield, will put on a winter concert, featuring selections from Benjamin Britten's “Ceremony of Carols” and other seasonal favorites. December 5 concert at St. Stephen’s Lutheran Church (230 N. Evergreen Ave, Woodbury) at 7pm and December 6 concert at Christ the King Church (200 Windsor Ave, Haddonfield) at 3pm. $15/adult at door, $12 in advance, $10/seniors and students, children 11 and under free. www.childrensong.org or (856) 216-1140. Adopt a Room at a Shelter Pitch in and help remodel or redecorate a room at one of our shelters. (856) 854-4660, www.voa.org. Powerful You! Women’s Network December 17 from 7 to 9:30 p.m. Powerful You! Women’s Network is open to all women who have an interest in networking/connecting with other women on a business/ professional level, light dinner, discussions, relationships. Adelphia Restaurant, 1750 Clements Bridge Rd., Deptford. $25/members and new attendees; $35 non-members. Contact Shaun Stephenson at (609) 560-8370 or shaun6@comcast.net or www.powerfulyou.com for more info.

CUMBERLAND COUNTY 28th Annual Walk of Lights December 4-5 & 11-12, from 5 to 9 p.m. Stroll the quaint country village decorated just in time for the Holidays. Dutch Neck Village, 97 Trench Rd, Bridgeton. (856) 455-6003. Read to Me Tea with “Santa & His Elf” Dec. 5 & 12 from 10 to 11 a.m. Santa’s Elf will read Holiday stories and children (ages 4-10) can talk to Santa. $15. Includes scones, tea sandwiches, desserts & tea. Each child receives a free book. Prepaid reservation required. Vintage Rose Tea Room, 132 N. High St., Millville. (856) 2930500, www.vintagerosetearoom.com Soul of the Season December 12 from 6 to 9 p.m. Horse and carriage rides, Santa’s village, holiday shopping, dining and more. Glasstown Arts District, High St, Millville. 1-800-887-4957, www.glasstownartsdistrict.com.

SALEM COUNTY Remembering Christmas Past December 6 from 1 to 3 p.m. A mini-exhibit of vintage Christmas cards and toys of yesteryear. Donations accepted. (856) 299-1556, www.upnhistory.org

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