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Is Your Child Ready for Camp?

The Dos and Don'ts of Leggings At-Home Date Night

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A one-two punch against breast cancer 3D Mammography and Malini Iyer, M.D.

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Contents FEBRUARY 2015

mom 2 mom 8 Early Arrivals 10 Avoiding the

Unavoidable Germ

moms R women 2 12 Fifty Shades of Grey The Movie: Sizzle or Fizzle?

14 At-Home-Date Night

Guide for Tired, Busy Couples

know 2 grow 18 10 Tips for Expectant Parents

20 Mealtime Meltdowns 21 For the Love (or

features

Hatred) of Leggings

Barceló Bávaro Palace Deluxe 23 One Big, Happy

(Blended) Family

24 Summer Camp Guide 28 Five Modern Manners

also in this issue 5 Some of My Faves 6 Professing Your Love Everyday

15 Chef's Corner 27 Business Spotlight:

Kadar Orthodontics

29 Things to Do

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CEO/Publisher Christopher Ognibene • (609) 670-1794 chris@superiorgx.com

Homemade Puppets and Theatres Are Just as Much Fun!

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he other day Molly and Ryan were having a very silly time putting on puppet shows. Then Molly’s mom, Erika, told me how they went on a class trip to see Aesop’s Fables and in it all kinds of puppets are created from “stuff!” You know, like socks, paper bags and much more. It was a great reminder of the essence of KIDFUN- having fun in creative ways.

So, I found this picture of stick puppets and saw so many varieties. Erika reminded me that puppet theatres can easily be a sofa (by hiding it and having the puppets dance along the edge of the sofa) or by standing behind curtains or drapes and puppets popping out. Encourage your kids’ imaginations to fly with puppets!

Not only a South Jersey Mom, Sharla Feldscheris a proud South Jersey Grandmom (Grammy, as she prefers to becalled). The author of six books on creative ideas to do with young children, including two KIDFUN Activity Books published by HarperCollins, she has a blog at www.kidfunandmore.com with more easy-to-do KIDFUN ideas.

Sharla has her own public relations business in Philadelphia. A real kid-believer, she began her career as the first PR Director of the Please Touch Museum and started her own business with Sesame Place as her first account, representing the park for 26 years.

The Dirt on Hand Sanitizer

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s parents, we always want to do what is best for our children and keep them safe. Frequent hand washing and the use of hand sanitizers when soap and water is not available may decrease your child’s exposure to germs. Some parents, including you, may wonder if the amount of alcohol in some hand sanitizers is enough to make a child sick if swallowed? It depends on your child’s age and weight and how much the child has swallowed. For safety, it’s recommended to call the American Association of Poison Control Centers (AAPCC) at 800-222-1222 regardless of how much alcohol-based hand sanitizer your child has put in their mouth.

How Much Alcohol is in Hand Sanitizers?

Most alcohol-based hand sanitizers contain 60 percent or higher alcohol content, making it 120 proof. To put this in perspective, most beer contains only 5 percent and even whiskey usually contains 40 to 45 percent alcohol content. This means that a small two-ounce bottle of hand sanitizer that you keep in your purse or diaper bag may equal as many as four shots of hard liquor, if your child were to swallow it.

types of hand sanitizers. You should rub the hand sanitizer onto your baby’s hands until it is completely dry. If you have toddlers or an older child, supervise them until the hand sanitizer is dry and never let your child lick their hands immediately afterwards. Do not use sweet smelling or fragrant hand sanitizer because your child will be tempted to lick their hands. Keep alcohol-based hand sanitizer away from your children and lock it up at home. If you keep a small bottle in your purse or diaper bag, it’s important to place your bag up Should I Stop Using Hand Sanitizers? high and out of reach to reduce the chance of your No, just only use a pea size amount. It’s recomchild finding it. If you think your child has swalmended parents take several precautions. Sulowed some alcohol-based hand sanitizer, call the pervised hand sanitizer use is advised for ALL AAPCC immediately. www.wetreatkidsbetter.org | Cheryl Franco, MSNEd, RN 4 | February 2015

Executive Editor Karen Ognibene • (609) 230-6280 karen@superiorgx.com Marketing & Business Development Specialist Michelle Scianni • (856) 986-9606 michelle@superiorgx.com For General Advertising Inquiries Marissa Josephick • (856) 537-7089 ocrazyjane@gmail.com Chris Ognibene • (609) 670-1794 chris@superiorgx.com Production Manager Lisa Celfo lisasjmom@gmail.com Cover Photographer Barceló Bávaro Palace Deluxe Contributing Writers Carolynn Aristone, Sharla Feldsher, Lisa Figueiredo, Louisa Kopp, Brie Latini, Jess Michaels, Patricia Mooneyham, Kelly N. Moore, Psy. D, Lisa Ann Panzino DiNunzio, Ashley Schafer, and Erin Taylor Special Thanks To Barcelo and MedExpress Submit Calendar Listing michelle@superiorgx.com www.southjerseymom.com Created by Markations Adam Nichols • (215) 825-7499 Superior Graphics Print Management LLC publishes South Jersey MOM™ monthly and distributes it throughout the region. The publication is available free of charge at select locations.

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a letter from the EDITOR

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ack when I was in elementary school, my mom worked in a factory, better known as a “sweat shop” in the seventies. Mom left for work at 5 a.m. to trek an hour for work at 6 a.m. She did this through every season whether it was raining, snowing or the sun was shining.

This time of year, Girl Scout cookie sales takes me back to my successful sales’ career as a girl scout (p. 13). What boosted my sales was that my mom worked in a factory and she, like any good mom would sell cookies to her co-workers. When mom knew the cookies had come in, she would bring home a shopping cart from the local super market she passed on her way home.

In the morning mom loaded the cart and pushed her kids’ cookies to work to fill orders.

My mom was a single mom that worked hard for very little pay and I swore that when I had kids I would be home with them to relish the time and make memories. Now that my tween and teen are self-sufficient I’m comfortable enough to regain a part of myself and work full-time. Indeed, my family feels the ripples of my choices to work as much as I do.

Luckily, as editor, I work from home, but I also work as a psychotherapist 3 days a week and those days are long. On the weekdays that I’m home, in the afternoon when the 6th and 9th grader walk in the door they know that I’ll make a fuss. And, big kids or not, I know they both appreciate it when I’m home.

With busy lives, I like to get away throughout the year to reconnect as a family. This past November, my family traveled to Barceló Bávaro Palace Deluxe (p. 16) to recharge our batteries by experiencing the ultimate getaway.

If you’re like me and you work full-time and you need to think ahead about what your kids will be doing this summer, Is Your Child Ready For Camp?” (p. 24) will give you the head start.

Your friend & fellow MOM,

Karen Ognibene karen@superiorgx.com

Give Your Purse A MAKEOVER

some of my

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nivea lip butter

The lip butter has a nice texture and shine; it’s not too greasy after applying with my finger. I actually purchased it for my cuticles because I liked that it was in a tin and easy to travel with in my bag. It’s great to use under lipstick to keeps lips smooth and moist. It does come in other flavors, but I prefer flavorless lip products because the taste wears on me after time. It’s a great value to keep my cuticles and lips healthy. $3; Target

EZ tails

Ponytails are made easy with this newest hairband. No more pulling and tangling with a traditional hair band. Place the hair into the elastic loop and pull on the strings to tighten and your done. The tops are interchangeable so you can change out different colors and designs. It’s easy enough for dads to use too! $9; eztails.com

Do you plunge your hand into an abyss when you need to find your keys, wallet or phone? It’s about creating a system that works and sticking to it. Here are some helpful strategies: Organize smaller bags within your larger bag. There are so many purse organizers available or you can use clear pouches for different categories: make-up, snacks/gum, nail file/ clipper, pens/pencils, receipts, etc…

Utilize inside pockets for phone and keys. Most handbags have multiple inside pockets to fit smart phones. Select a pocket for each and use consistently so you know where to reach. Keep only necessary keys on your key chain and use a key chain with a shape that you’ll recognize when you feel it.

Hard shell case for shades and glasses. Avoid scratched lenses and broken frames by always putting away when not in use. www.southjerseymom.com

honest floor cleaner

This is a great non-toxic product to clean your hard surface floors. It’s super easy to use and there is no rinsing needed. Just spray the surface to be cleaned and wipe or mop away the dirt. There is no residue left behind on wood floors and it’s streakfree. The bonus is that it smells fresh without harsh chemicals. $8; honest.com

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Professing Your Love Everyday T

his month we will swim in a sea of colorful red and pink amidst a backdrop of bland winter grey as we celebrate Valentine’s Day. But the whole concept is rather silly when I really stop to think about it. Why do we need one day of the year to profess our love? This puts a great deal of unnecessary pressure on those single folks among us to “survive” February 14th, and there is the pressure to make it a memorable day for those of us in relationships.

Most parents do not tend to think of their children when they think of Valentine’s Day, as it is typically thought of as a romantic love that we are supposed to be professing. But here is an interesting concept; what if on Valentine’s Day we also thought of the pure, unconditional love that we, as parents, have for our children? And if we did that, what if we then expanded that concept to include every day of the year? What would

Erin Taylor, MA

that look like? What if we also expanded our profession of romantic love as well to all year long? What if we added to that expression treating ourselves with the unconditional love we each deserve?

The best thing we can do for our children is to bring them up in an environment of loving connection and support. Can you imagine a world where we chose each day to treat our ourselves and our loved ones the way marketers encourage us to treat them on that one special day of the year? Here’s to Valentine’s Day all year long!✲ Erin Taylor, MA is a wife, therapist, writer, parent coach and mom to four children ages 7, 9 and 12. Her oldest daughter died of a heart defect as a baby. It Takes A Village Parent Coaching is a source of inspiration for her work, and you can reach her aterin@villageparentcoaching.com.

Ask the Doc Dheeraj Taranath, DO MedExpress

What Should I Expect at My Child's Yearly Physical?

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heeraj Taranath, DO, is a physician with MedExpress where he also serves as Regional Medical Director for New Jersey. For more information regarding physicals visit medexpress.com.

I recommend an annual physical exam or “check-up” for children and adults of all ages. A physical exam is an important step toward monitoring the overall health of your child and a great opportunity to screen for medical issues and identify any potential areas of concern or caution.

What to Expect Many parents expect a physical examination, but often forget that a complete medical history is an important component of annual physical exam as well. Make sure to come prepared with your child’s immunization records, if required, and any relevant information regarding previous hospitalizations or surgeries, illnesses

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or diseases within the family, medications, past injuries or allergies.

There are several components to the physical examination. A standard physical includes an examination of your child’s vitals including blood pressure and pulse, while also documenting weight and height. Your child will receive an eye exam and a check of the cardiovascular system, heart, lungs, abdomen, ears, nose and throat. Your healthcare provider may also test your child’s joints and flexibility.

Don’t forget that an annual physical exam is also a great time to discuss any questions or concerns you may have with your healthcare provider, so it may be helpful to come prepared with a list of questions to make sure you don’t forget anything.

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Early Arrivals Brie Latini

tine pre-natal appointment when it was discovered that her blood pressure was alarmingly high. Within a few hours, she was admitted to the hospital and told she was to remain there until she delivered. Doctors set a goal to reach 34 weeks of pregnancy, but Amanda’s blood pressure continued to remain high. She was treated with steroids to help strengthen her unborn daughter’s lungs in preparation for an early birth at 34 weeks. However, two days later, Amanda’s health was continuing to decline and on April 5th Eva was delivered by emergency caesarian section, nearly eight weeks before her due date.

Every new mother feels fear and doubt when it comes to taking care of the new life in their hands, but Amanda’s fears were compounded by her daughter’s fragile health, along with her own health issues. Because of the emergent nature of her caesarian section, she was unable to experience the joy of the nurse bringing the baby to her head for her to see. Eva was whisked directly to the NICU and Amanda returned to her hospital room, no longer pregnant but not with her newborn. She worried that the distance created by the need

for health care would cause a permanent rift in her chance to bond with Eva.

Thankfully, though small, Eva had no major complications. She stayed in the NICU for four weeks to resolve issues concerning body temperature regulation and her ability to suck, ensuring she would be able to eat with no problems. Amanda, Eve, and her husband Frank had the support and love from family and the outstanding medical support of the NICU teams who provided medical care for their little one. Amanda and Eva enjoyed a sweet homecoming that included the baby shower that was rescheduled due to Eva’s early arrival.

Eva is now a healthy, growing 10 month old and with the exception of a few extra medical follow-ups is enjoying life as a little girl surrounded by the love of her parents and family.

The March of Dimes works hard to ensure that premature births have happy outcomes and are prevented whenever possible through their worldwide initiatives. You can learn more about their programs by visiting MarchofDimes.org.✲

Eva happy, healthy, and home!

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regnancy is an exciting time, particularly for a first-time mother. Feeling your little one kick inside of you can bring joy and wonder, along with the realization that your body is housing a tiny, human life. But sometimes, and without warning, the health of the mother and baby can change, resulting in a premature birth. This past fall the March of Dimes launched a campaign to educate the nation on the issue of premature birth. In the US, 1 in 9 babies are born prematurely, a statistic the March of Dines is looking to change through research and raising awareness.

Amanda Sannelli a South Jersey mother welcomed her first child, a daughter named Eva, well before her estimated due date, leaving an otherwise happy occasion to be marked with stress, fear and worry for the tiny new life brought into the world too soon.

In April of 2014 Sannelli was 32 weeks pregnant and visiting her physician for a rou8 | February 2015

Eva in the NICU shortly after she was born

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Avoiding the Unavoidable Germs Louisa Kopp

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uring the winter months, every mother feels an extra anxiety – the lurking fear of infections.

After experiencing one bad bout of a stomach virus with your children, you inevitably become a paranoid germaphobe. You start to avoid all public places and hoard bottles of hand sanitizer.

Every person who makes the slightest sniffle is eyed with suspicion and kept at least 30 feet away.

Thus in the heart of winter there is one place you do NOT want to visit – the doctor’s office, a place that is crawling with germs. Healthy children always leave a well-child visit with more than a lollipop.

So when I got the message reminder that my toddler’s well-child appointment was the next morning, my stomach turned. But I resisted the urge to call back and cancel. We could do this; just stay positive and make sure Owen does not touch ONE thing while we’re there.

Easy, right?

To prepare, we drank a couple gallons of orange juice and took an extra vitamin. I packed up Owen’s favorite things to keep him busy and distracted.

No way is he going to touch the disgusting contaminated toys in the waiting room, toys that children infected with the bubonic plague likely slobbered on that very morning.

We arrive at the doctor’s office.

Holding on tightly to Owen’s hand, we check in and then walk into the waiting room. Owen is suddenly shy and stays by my side. Relief rolls through me and I’m filled with confidence. We CAN do this.

I almost sit down but then remember that a child probably recently vomited in that seat. Instead we stand as far away from the other people in the room as possible. I’m certain I can actually see the germs floating in the air.

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And then I realize Owen is gone!! I frantically look around the room. In horror, I realize he is in the play area licking a plastic apple from the toy kitchen.

NOOOOOOO.

I smack the apple out of his hands and immediately wipe him down with antibacterial wipes. I consider going to the restroom to wash his mouth out with soap.

Then the nurse calls us back. Miraculously, Owen listens and sits in a chair with his hands folded in the examination room. I start to feel better about the apple-licking incident. He couldn’t have been exposed to that many germs, right?

Then I notice Owen is eating something. “Where did you get that???” I demand. He points to several fruit snacks scattered on the floor. NOOOOOOO. He pops another one in his mouth while simultaneously picking his nose with his other hand. All hope evaporates. I give up and let him continue to pick his nose and eat his boogers. Maybe the dirt exposure will give him immunity.

Over the next couple of days, I obsessively check Owen’s temperature and interrogate him after every sneeze – “Do you feel okay? Is your nose stuffy? Does your throat hurt?” But nothing happens.

I begin to sincerely believe we are in the clear.

And then Owen projectile vomits all over the van. I tell myself he was carsick. Just a fluke.

When I awake in the middle of the night to the sound of retching, I finally accept my defeat. Why didn’t I cancel that dang appointment? You win, germs, you win.✲ Louisa Kopp is a South Jersey mother and the blogger behind Ice Cream Off Paper Plates, where she shares humorous stories about raising a toddler and infant, easy recipes, and party and entertaining ideas. Follow Louisa’s adventures at www.icecreamoffpaperplates.com.

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Fifty Shades of Grey the Movie:

Sizzle or Fizzle?

By Patricia Mooneyham

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ith over 100 million copies sold, the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy captured the attention and fanned the fantasies of women across generations. From college girls to retirees, no one seemed to be immune to the hypnotic fantasy spun in the works by E.L. James. The books themselves are not considered great works of literature and were even deemed “mommy-porn” by the main stream media. However, they became a sexual reawakening for many women. From BDSM (a super acronym for Bondage, Discipline ,Dominance, Submission, Sadism & Masochism) to BenWa balls the books piqued the curiosity of women everywhere. Fifty Shades also spurred a new interest in the connection between sexual health and overall health in women. Women who had lost their sex drives (or at least pushed them to the lower end of their to do lists) were suddenly getting real information about what they were missing out on in terms of the physiological benefits of orgasm. Unfortunately,

this was also mixed in with literary license on James part that led some women to be mis-educated about bedroom accessories and minimized the extremity of some forms of sexual expression.

This Valentine’s Day the movie version of the first book in the “mommy-porn” series will hit the big screen. Long awaited by many who read the book and even longer awaited by those who said they would wait for the movie; the film stars Dakota Johnson, daughter of Melanie Griffith and Don Johnson, and Irish actor Jamie Dornan (Once Upon A Time). Dornan was slotted as Christian Grey after Charlie Hunnam the director’s original choice for the part bowed out of the role. The movie is set to premier at the Berlin Film Festival on February 11, but tickets for its February 13, US debut are already on sale.

Since filming began in 2013, there have been questions about how far the film would be able to go and still escape being branded with an X-rating. The books allowed women to indulge in fantasies about things many had never even heard of before when it came to sexual

Books To Help Grow..

When You Just Have to Roar

By Rachel Robertson For one reason or another, Ms. Mya’s classroom is just not clicking. Jamilla is jumping. Masha is making a mess. And Reese is roaring like a lion for no reason at all. Ms. Mya gathers the children together and begins a discussion about classroom expectations. This book is about the ways one teacher helps her students practice managing emotions and behaviors to make everyone happier. Ages 3 to 6. Available $16; www.redleaflane.org.

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Noah Chases the Wind

By Michelle Worthington Noah is different. He is sensitive and perceptive, he asks questions most people would never consider, and he doesn’t stop asking until he knows the “why” of nearly everything. But there’s one question Noah has not been able to answer, “Where does the wind go?” Noah chases the Wind is a colorful and magical adventure that celebrates the inquisitive nature of all children, as well as the unique characteristics of children on the autism spectrum. Ages 3 to 8. Available $17; www.redleaflane.org.

play. This was really important for women because it created a safety net of expanding their sexual horizons without the actual gambles of risky sexual activity. The romance novel style of James made for easy reading as one writer described her style as “ a harlequin romance with no fade to black.” The age of electronic downloads made it easier than ever for women to indulge in the experience. This was especially important for women already in relationships that may have been suffering in the bedroom whose partners reaped the rewards of this new information. The books caused such a sensation among women that many men also added it to their reading list to find out what all of the excitement was about. It will be interesting to see if the movie can do the same and create a larger wave of sexual reawakening among readers while adding movie only followers.✲

“Original” Dot-to-Dot Series

By David Kalvitis This challenging collection of connect-the-dots stands apart because of its complexity and variety. In addition to traditional dot-to-dots, there are unique innovations and variations for those who can count into the hundreds and follow simple instructions.

Readers will appreciate the fact that they can’t tell what the images are before they start, as well as the twists and playful challenges that maintain excitement throughout the book. The final pictures cover a broad subject range, adding to the surprise element.

This is a relaxing and fun book that will entertain young and old alike. Great for the kid that loves to count and pages can be colored when finished.

Ages 8 to 108. Available $7 each; MonkeyingAround.com. www.southjerseymom.com

Muffin Tin Heart Crayons This is a fun craft to use up the broken crayons that are around the house. The kids will enjoy making new multi-colored crayons that spring the element of surprise as they are drawing.

Supplies needed • Misfit crayons • Warm Oven to 250° • Non-stick baking pan (if using silicone the crayons will leave color residue behind) directions • Rummage through your box of crayons and pull out all of the misfits: broken, paperless, etc.

• Remove all the paper wrappers. For hard to remove papers, place crayons in a bowl of hot water for a few minutes and they slide right off!

• Here is the fun part for kids, they get to break crayons into small pieces. Mom you can help by getting out the cutting board & cutting up the smaller hard-to-break pieces.

• Have child drop thin layer of crayons into pan. You can do solid, solid layered or multi-colored.

• Bake in over for about 20-25 minutes depending on your oven and the brand of crayons.

• Let the crayons cool, you can place in freezer when warm enough to help along the cooling process.

• Pop out when hard & have fun drawing! www.southjerseymom.com

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At-Home Date Night Guide for Busy, Tired Couples

By Carolynn Aristone, MSW, LCSW

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et’s face it, parenting leaves little room for couple time. Date night requires time, energy and money, right? Not necessarily. With a little creativity (and I mean little), you can find ways to intimately connect and share fun adult experiences together.

Your relationship, like your children, deserves your attention. To jump start your dates, here is a list of 15 date night ideas. Some of these dates simply add something extra special to the “standard”, while others require a little advanced planning. To avoid babysitting costs, these dates can be implemented after the kids go to sleep! w Friday Night Champagne and Popcorn: On Friday nights at 8:00, my retired in-laws would drink champagne, eat popcorn and watch TV in bed. So simple. w No Tech Tuesday: One of my couple clients said they love the space this provides midweek…an opportunity to turn off technology and turn on conversation.

w Food/Wine Tasting: Choose 3-4 varieties of cheese/fruit paired with wine and indulge in the sensory experience.

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w Sunday Spa Night: Soak in the tub together and talk before the week gets hectic…bubbles required! w Saturday Night Comedy: Laughter is bonding! Watch a stand-up comedy hour, a comedy roast and/or a marathon of your favorite funny shows. w Picnic At-Home: Throw a blanket on the floor, some special treats and beverages – if you have a fireplace, even better. w Plan Your Next Vacation: …And then book it! It doesn’t have to be lavish – a long weekend, an overnight, with or without kids, up to you. Just do it. w Ice Cream Sunday Night: Not just for kids, be sure to include all the super yummy, gooey fixin’s! If you prefer healthy, create a yogurt parfait! w Double Date Night: Have another couple over but keep it simple. Play games, share food, enjoy adult conversation. w Foot Massage: Include a warm foot soak first, followed by massage oils. Take turns on different nights, one partner Friday, the other on Saturday.

w Poker Night: Play real poker! Include fun snacks, music and beverages. w Music Night: Music playlists are not just for teens! Spend an evening making playlists together for your music library. w Dark Chocolate/Glass of wine: Consume these while lounging in bed together. Super fun and super sexy! w Restaurant At Home: We recently ordered in, put candles on the table and played sexy jazz music. Better than a restaurant! w His/Her Choice Night: Bring mystery to your date night. One of you gets to be in charge for the evening – anything goes!

Couples develop an intimacy deficit when they solely focus on the kids and forget to feed their own relationship. Intimacy does not require a lot of time or money, simply the conscious intention and plan to connect. When you feed your relationship, your children reap the benefits!✲ Carolynn Aristone, MSW, LCSW is the CEO of The Center for Intimate Relationships. For more information, visit www.myintimaterelationship.com.

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Joey Vento's La Terrazza

Restaurant: Joey Vento's La Terrazza Position: Executive Chef Signature Dish: Balsamic Glazed Salmon How did you get started?

I was 15 years old and a friend asked me if I wanted to dish wash at a restaurant, so I did, and 3 months later I was a prep cook and that is how my passion started.

What is your favorite dish to eat?

Vodka Penne with Crabmeat and Mussels Red. What is the one ingredient that you could not live without?

Garlic for sure!

How do you get inspired?

You have to have a passion for food. I cook what I like and what I think my guests would enjoy. There are so many different styles of cooking out there, especially now with food networking and social media. I get an idea and research it until it has the balance I am looking for.

What do you do in your spare time?

Workout, dine out, and visiting the casino’s. I don’t have a lot of free time in the restaurant business but when I am off I enjoy just about anything even just relaxing.

What was your biggest kitchen disaster?

One summer we had a bad thunderstorm that knocked out the power in the middle of a rush. We didn’t get power until the next day. We cooked mostly in the dark just to finish what we had on the line and the pasta cookers we used were electric. You could imagine the scramble to get the pots of water to boil fast. The next day we lost all our produce in the walkins and freezer items.

What do you love most about your job?

How happy I can make people with my cooking. I love how they just brag about what a great meal they had and how it’s always constant. It’s a real high!

4 Tilapia Filets 2 cups of flour (for dredging) 6 eggs 2-1/2 cups pecorino cheese 1 cup bread crumbs (unseasoned) Oil for frying

Tomato Bruschetta • 8 ripe plum tomatoes • ¾ cup shredded basil • ¼ cup diced red onion • Salt & pepper • ¼ teaspoon granulated garlic • 1/3 cup extra virgin olive oil • Combine all ingredients together in a bowl and set aside.

Basil Aioli • 2 cups mayonnaise • 2-1/2 Tablespoons purchased pesto • Mix mayonnaise and pesto to blend For the Tilapia • Set oven at 350 • Dredge Tilapia in flour then the egg and then in bread crumb mixture • Fry on low or medium heat • Transfer to baking sheet and bake 5 to 7 minutes • Remove the Tilapia, place on plate, top with tomato mixture; serve the basil Aioli on the side Enjoy!

Barclay Farms 210 Rt. 70 East Cherry Hill, NJ 08034 856.354.1888

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Parmesan Crusted Tilapia with Bruschetta and Basil Aioli

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ocated along nearly two miles of sugary, white sand beaches, Barceló Bávaro Palace Deluxe is one of the largest, most complete all-inclusive resort complexes in the Caribbean.

Guests will find an endless array of attractions and amenities all located on the property, Bávaro Beach was named one the top ten most beautiful beaches in the world by National Geographic. Surrounded by tropical gardens and palm tree-dotted trails, you’ll discover crystal clear turquoise sea that is great for snorkeling and scuba diving and an array of other water sports for you to create memories.

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his resort complex distinguishes itself above the rest with endless options to choose from, depending on personal taste, including a dozen unique restaurants, 14 bars (including a sports bar), Las Vegas style theatre, full gaming casino open 24/7, water parks, infinity pool, Pirates Island wave pool and the sublime U-Spa. For family getaways, the all-inclusive resort is conveniently located 25 minutes from the Punta Cana Airport. The all-suite, all-inclusive resort boasts the Barcy Kids’ Club, and Water Park for children, where they can enjoy slides

and waterfalls in the pool with the family. For older kids there is Pirate Island Wave Pool ($). Also a teen disco, laser tag and miniature golf that are perfect for the entire family.

Barceló is perfect for other kinds of vacationers, too. Couples seeking romance and seclusion can spend the day lounging by the adults-only pool before enjoying a romantic dinner for two. Old friends can make new memories as they play in the sand and surf together, hit the links nearby, plan a day of relaxation in the spa or simply dance the night away in the bars and nightclubs.

fun activities and a whole lot more

scuba diving$ (free lesson) • snorkeling • water tricycles • kayaking • windsurfing catamaran sailing • water aerobics • laser tag • miniature golf • fitness center lighted tennis courts • basketball • soccer • 18 hole course/driving range • beach volleyball • jogging/walking trails • archery • darts • table tennis • giant chess pool tables • live entertainment • nightclubs • 3 theaters (2 open air/1 air conditioned) • Teens Club • Barcy Kids’ Club (ages 4-12).

family club

Rooms with two bedrooms that create separate areas for adults and children.

• Family junior suites, family deluxe rooms and family duplexes include a microwave and a special mini bar with juice, cereal and milkshakes.

• Kids will receive beach bags and other valuable ammenities.

• The little ones will be well looked after; the hotel has it's own location beeper and offers a 20% discount on babysitting services.

the lakes golf course

Contact your travel agent to book your trip, or visit www.barcelo.com or call 1-800-BARCELO

The Barceló Bávaro Palace Deluxe has taken the all-inclusive concept one-step further; which now includes golf at the famous Lakes Golf Course designed by P.B. Dye. Tee-time reservations can be made up to 90 days in advance. Family bonding with golf fun!

• Guests staying in Club Premium rooms are entitled to a free round of golf per person all year long.

• All guests receive a free round of golf per person for every 2 nights from December 1st to April 30th.

• All guests receive a free round of golf per person per night from May 1st to December 5th.

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know 2 grow

tips for

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inding out you’re going to be a parent can be both exciting and stressful. But preparation makes for a smoother transition. To help, Lindsay Pinchuk, mother of two, and founder and CEO of Bump Club and Beyond, a “mommy hub,” is offering 15 mental and logistical preparation tips: Get a bouncer. Decide who’s invited into the delivery room and let the nurses and your loved ones or partner enforce your policy.

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Be CEO of your family. When it comes to parenting decisions, listen to advice, but don’t be pressured into not doing what’s best for your family.

Bump up your social circle. Friends with kids around the same age as yours can be a valuable asset for parenting advice and get-togethers. Event companies like Bump Club and Beyond help connect moms and moms-to-be. Bringing a baby into the world is hard work. Accept help from friends and family.

Shower yourself. When creating a registry, don’t overlook useful items you’ll need the most. Include diapers, like Huggies Little Snugglers, which provide outstanding skin care for your newborn’s delicate skin. Wipes are also essential. Look for ones with Triple Clean Layers that are tough on messes and gentle on skin, such as Huggies Natural Care Wipes.

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Get informed. Take an infant CPR class. Bring your significant other and anyone who will be caring for the baby.

Learn basics. Find a class that teaches basics, such as how to diaper, swaddle and bathe your baby.

Read the manual. Babies don’t come with a manual, but their gear does. Be sure to read life-saving information like your car seat manual.

Hug it out. Skin-to-skin contact with the baby right after birth helps regulate the baby’s breathing and heartbeat, and keeps him or her warm and prepared to nurse.

Pack Early. Pack your hospital bag a few weeks beforehand.

The hospital is no hotel, so don’t forget shampoo, conditioner an extra pillow, flip flops for the shower, a robe and an extra bag.

Hoard. Many hospitals will send you home with ice packs, disposable underwear and other supplies to help aid recovery.

Take what you can!

Still stressed? Take a deep breath and relax in the knowledge that no matter what happens, the love you’ll feel for your baby is indescribable.

More tips and expert advice are available at Huggies.com.

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Mealtime Meltdowns Lisa Figueiredo

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hances are if you have children, you’ve experience the drama of a mealtime meltdown, spilled milk possibly even hurling of food or even a dropped plate. As a mom having a picky eater or even a child who refuses food all together can be stressful for the whole family.

My son refuses the staples of mealtime, pasta, potatoes and usually vegetables. While I’ve yet to find the solution for his picky eating behavior, there are a few strategies that have helped combat some of the freak outs.

pasta, vegetable or fruit, is a good way to ensure that at least some of the food winds up in their belly. Use colorful foods to make the food visually appealing.

Though we all lead busy lives, it’s important to enjoy a meal together.

My son generally eats better when my husband and I eat together. My husband usually, has dinner ready by the time I come home. We try to turn off the TV, have quiet music in the background.

Serve smaller portions. I noticed when my son had too much food on his plate he ate less. Large portions can overwhelm a little one.

Make food interactive. Have your child lend a hand in preparing the meal. Let them choose the seasonings, even mix ingredients. This could be a way for your child to take pride in what they are eating and get them excited about dinner time. You can even have them pick out foods the next time you go to the grocery store. I’ve noticed my son loves to dip, even if it’s nuggets in applesauce. For him, the more interactive the meal, the more likely he will eat something. While it does make for some odd pairings (BBQ sauce on everything). Most moms would agree, who cares how they eat it as long as they are getting the nutrients they need.

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If at first you don’t succeed try, try again. My son continually refuses potatoes. As their tastes and likes, can change on a daily basis for a twoyear old, the possibility of them trying or even eating new foods does exist. I have even tried preparing the same food different ways.

Stop the snacks. While it’s tempting to offer snacks as a means of having some calories, it’s best to take a one hour hiatus from snacks before dinner. The likelihood that they will be hungry increases the chances they will eat something at meal time.

According to my son’s pediatrician, the worst thing you can do is get in to a screaming match over eating. Though it’s easier said than done, sometimes you have to know when to let go. If they get hungry enough they will eat. Although after spending 20-30 minutes making a meal geared towards your toddler’s picky ways, it can be hard to remember this.

While there is no cure-all because every child is different, with any luck these tools may help for a more adventurous eater.✲ www.southjerseymom.com

For the love (or hatred) of leggings

By Ashley Schafer

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omewhere in between stirrup pants and snap chat the legging made its debut into the fashion world and soon became the cash cow of retail establishments across America. At first, the legging was something pregnant women wore to aid their changing figures. The trend soon morphed into something worn by not just pregnant women but by all women and their daughters. Society has accepted the legging because of its comfort and its acceptance of all women in all shapes and sizes so why is it that employers and schools are now banning them?

‘Oh I’ll just wear leggings.’ I’ve heard that before. If the legging has become such a permanent fixture in our lives and the fashion world, why is it that women disregard the importance to style them correctly? Here are a few points to consider when shopping and styling leggings: u

Size. Just because leggings are stretchy doesn’t mean that they are one size fits all. When overstretched they lose their elasticity and can even become see through. Look for a legging that is a heavier ponte material instead of just a thin cotton.

When trying on leggings, do a quick ‘backside check’... Bend over in the mirror... If they are see through you should not be wearing them.

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Details matter. Leggings with seams down the front, leather tuxedo stripes, leather inlays, quilted patches, or even zippers look far more presentable than the yoga pant style. Choosing a pair like these does not compromise comfort but elevates style.

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Put some effort into effortless. Yes wearing leggings is effortless but the rest of your outfit should be given some thought. Be sure to make sure your top is an appropriate length. When wearing tight items on the bottom be sure to offset it with a flowy top.

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Crops are for the gym. Cropped leggings should be saved for the gym.

The length is not flattering on any shape as it cuts your figure in half.

Leggings look best full length and tucked into a boot or bootie to create a long seamless line.

Next time leggings are your article of choice, give some consideration to the image your outfit as a whole projects. If you are choosing to wear leggings, the rest of your outfit shouldn’t look like an afterthought or as if you are choosing comfort and disregarding appearance and your image. It is possible to be comfortable and stylish at the same time!✲ Ashley is an image consultant located in South Jersey who helps women create a cohesive wardrobe tailored to fit their image goals and lifestyle needs. She can be found at schaferimageconsulting.com. www.southjerseymom.com

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Toy Reviews by South Jersey MOM’s & Kids Fairy Triad

$25, dunecraft.com Mom: The kit had a good size container and 3 packets of flowers, a magic wand, gravel and dirt to put the garden together. The kids were excited to put the fairy jingle bells inside the container. The instructions were easy to follow and the kids were excited waiting for the fairy’s appearance.

Snuggle Bug: “Mom, when am I going to be a fairy?”

Baby Alive Brushy Brushy Baby $20, hasbrotoyshop.com

Mom: I like the baby alive doll, just wish it did more to make it seem alive, other than peeing. I do like that it made my daughter feel like she was a grown up helping the baby brush her teeth like her mom and dad help her. I would recommend this doll for ages 4 and older.

Grace: I brush the baby’s teeth like I do!

Game of Life

$25, amazon.com Mom: The Game of Life is fast-paced fun that the whole family enjoyed thoroughly.

The instructions were very easy to follow, with both visual guides and clearly written directions. My 8-year-old daughter was challenged to plan ahead and also to flex her math skills while counting money, which boosted her confidence during the game. A single game lasts about 20 minutes, which is just long enough for an 8-year-old to understand the strategies needed to try to win, but not too long that anyone got bored.

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One Big, Happy (Blended) Family

By Kelly N. Moore, Psy.D.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you have a scheduled time for visitation with your child, try to stick to the plan and don’t make last minute changes. This isn’t a doctor’s visit, it’s your child. You do not want your children to begin to feel as if you are blowing them off. And if for some reason, you have an emergency that requires counseling, speak them directly and come up with a plan to make up for the missed time.

Follow-through and consistency are key when it comes to parenting, but is even more important when trying to maintain positive connections to your children from your previous marriage.

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fter a marriage ends, the path towards deciding to remarry can be a challenging one for the children from your previous marriage and can be further complicated if you have children with your new spouse. For the parent with children from both marriages, it is important to identify strategies for integrating your families to ensure that all of your children continue to thrive and have a positive relationship with you. Here are some ideas to help you along the way: What Can You Do? Work with your previous spouse to arrange for frequent visits if you do not live with your children from that marriage. Sounds simple right?

However, this can be one of the most challenging parts of the processespecially if you and your ex-spouse are not very amicable. It should go without saying that despite any interpersonal issues you may have with your ex, your children should know that this will not interfere with your eagerness to spend as much time with them as you can.

Create opportunities for your children from both marriages to spend time together. Identify commonalities they may have that will allow you to engage in activities that everyone can enjoy. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. Have a game or movie night and let the kids decide what you will do together as a family. You can also take updated family photographs that include all your children and give a copy in a frame to your child to take back home as a way to maintain that feeling of connection to their siblings from your new marriage. www.southjerseymom.com

What to Avoid?

Although a tempting solution, try to avoid overcompensating for your absence from children by buying extravagant gifts or overindulging them when they are spending time with you and your other children. That can set a precedent that could lead to a lot of resentment later from your child.

Instead of focusing on buying things to fill the void of you not being able to be with your child from a previous marriage, focus your efforts on having quality time and experiences with them when you have the opportunity.

Another thing to avoid is bowing out of family activities that may be meaningful to your children because of your own anxiety about interacting with family members from your previous marriage. Holidays, birthdays, games, performances, and/or special religious milestones will require you to be with your children and possibly interact with these extended family members and it is important to make time for these occasions. Be aware that your child is observing you during these occasions and your effort to maintain healthy relationships with the folks your child still calls family will go a long way in preserving your bond your child.

TAKEAWAYS Though ending a marriage can be a roller coaster of emotion, the impact of divorce on children can vary based on their age, gender, and other factors. When parents remarry and go on to have additional children, the effort made to maintain strong ties to children from the previous marriage is crucial. Finding ways to build bridges between the two families can result in improved relationships and stronger bonds with your child. Use your resources by reading books, blogs, or consulting with therapists that specialize in families in order to ensure that you can have great relationships with your children from your previous marriage. Check in with your child during visits and be mindful that you are setting a great example of how to successfully navigate challenging situations.✲

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summer camp guide

Is Your Child Ready for Camp?

By Jess Michaels

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our child going to summer camp for the first time is a big step in his or her life. While it is an exciting time, your child going to camp may cause some nervousness for both you and your child. So how do you know when the right time is to send your child to camp? The American Camp Association, New York and New Jersey suggests that parents consider the following when figuring out whether your child is ready for camp and how to prepare your child for the experience.

Interest & Readiness. Talk to your child to assess his or her readiness. Consider how your child became interested in going to camp and ask yourself the following questions.

When you discuss camp with your child, does he or she sound excited? Is he or she comfortable separating from you for segments of time? Does your child enjoy playing with other children? Does he or she thrive on achieving milestones of independence?

Answering these questions will help you determine if your child is both interested and ready for camp. Remember, the decision to go to camp should be made together. Keep in mind that the more involved children are in the process, the more ownership they feel. This helps ease concerns about camp, and can help make a child’s camp experience more successful.

Age. You want to consider your child’s age when considering camp. Day camps are designed for children 3 years and up. Children can go to sleepaway camp at the age of 7. But families should keep in mind that just because a child is 7 years old, doesn’t mean he or she is emotionally ready for sleepaway camp.

Day or Sleepaway. If you are considering sleepaway camp, make sure your child has had successful overnights away from home with friends and relatives. Were these overnights positive experiences? You want to make sure your child is mature enough to go away for an extended period of time and that that he or she can do certain things independently like showering, getting dressed and brushing their teeth.

Expectations. You should learn about the camp program ahead of time and create positive expectations for your child. Talk about camp in the months leading up to the summer. When possible, go for a tour of the camp prior to the summer. Touring the camp will build your child’s excitement about camp while familiarizing them with the camp program, activities and camp layout. Many overnight camps also offer Rookie Days the summer before a child will go to camp. These days give future campers a chance to experience camp in session by joining in on camp activities for the day or for a weekend. Keep in mind that the more a child feels involved in the process of choosing a camp, the more successful their camp experience is likely to be.

Positive Messages. It is important for parents to share positive messages about summer camp.

It is common for a child to have some apprehension as the first day of camp approaches— encourage your child to talk about these feelings. Before your child leaves for camp, don’t discuss plans to pick up your child early from camp if he/she doesn’t like it. Let your child know you are confident in your child’s ability to have a wonderful summer camp experience For assistance in finding the right summer camp, visit American Camp Association, NY and NJ’s camp website www.searchforacamp. org to register for a free, customized list of camps based on your child’s needs. You may also call the American Camp Association, New York and New Jersey’s camper placement specialist Renee Flax for free, one-on-one advice in finding a camp at 212.391.5208.✲ 24 | February 2015

Parents Getting Ready for Their Child to Go to Camp Now that your child is ready for the summer camp experience, here are some tips for how you can get yourself ready for your child to go to camp: • Make sure you talk to the camp director.

When you are choosing a camp, ask the camp director questions and get to know him or her. Ask the director to describe the camp’s philosophy and how the staff implements it. Make sure the philosophy reflects your own families’ value system.

Find out about the camp director’s background and the staff training. Ask about the age of the counselors and what is the counselor to camper ratio? Talking to the camp director and learning about the camp program will help you feel more comfortable and will ease any nervousness you may have.

• Keep in mind that camp directors have your child’s best interests in mind and the skill to guide your child towards an appropriate level of independence, selfconfidence, and success.

• Remember that kids often get over the adjustment to a new experiences and a new environment before parents get used to the next stage of development. While your child is adjusting to camp, don’t make pick up deals and offer to rescue your child from camp. Instead, offer positive encouragement that you know he or she will have a successful summer.

• If your child is at sleepaway camp, don’t focus too much on correspondence from camp in the first few days of camp. If you receive a discouraging phone call or a letter from your child, remember that like any new experience, adjusting to camp may take a few days and that severe homesickness is rare. Encourage your camper to enjoy all the exciting camp activities that camp has to offer and remind him or her of all the wonderful aspects of camp.

• When your child is at camp, allow him or her to solve their own problems or ask a counselor for help. Camp is a setting that allows your child to experience the real world in a safe environment. Kids learn quickly to rely upon themselves and the camp staff they trust at camp instead of their parents.

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Tall Pines Day Camp

Philly's, South Jersey's, and the Shore's #1 Choice for Summer Camp

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Saturdays Feb 7, March 14, April 18 & May 16

12:00-3:00pm

“New Family & Sibling Discounts” For boys & girls ages 3 to 14

50’ Zip Tower with dual W E N 800’ Zip Line • horseback riding • swim lessons • archery and snack • ceramics • School of Rock Lunch provided • sports • ropes course Nut free facility • nature • extended care • tennis • gymnastics • crafts • teen program with travel • dance • half or full day, 3 & 4 year olds • drama • a/c buildings • golf • a/c transportation • woodshop • free camp shirt

66 acres of fun!

For registration rates and fees go to our website www.tallpinesdaycamp.com

Call today 856-262-3900

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Great Times Day Camp

· Soccer, Tennis, Baseball, Ropes Course, Hockey, Achery, Nature, Cooking, Arts plus daily swimming

OPEN HOUSE DATES: Sunday, March 22 April 19 May 17 June14 1:00-3:30

· Low tuition · 25 acre lake for boating and tubing · Door-to-door transportation provided

All Licensed Adult Teacher Staff Extended Hours – No Extra Charge

www.greattimesdaycamp.com For information contact Mike Kernan—609.567.2166

NJ School of Music Swingin’ Strings Music Camp will introduce string players, of middle and high school age with at least three years of playing experience, to the fun and exciting world of improvisation. August 3 through August 7 from 9:30 AM until 2:30 PM in Cherry Hill. 605 Route 70 West, Cherry Hill, (856) 375-2263, njsm.cherryhill@njschoolofmusic.com; www.njschoolofmusic.com

CHRISTIAN PLAYCARE CENTER SUMMER CAMP Ages 6-12 are invited to enjoy our large indoor/outdoor facility which offers weekly themed crafts and activities, weekly trips and a large outdoor pool with a certified lifeguard. Mention this add for FREE registration!

Call Today! (856) 227-5596.

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LIBERTY LAKE Liberty Lake is a truly transformative experience, teaching life skills to inspire children and adults to change the world.

Campers expand their talents, make friends, and have the greatest summer experience imaginable! Check out the Freedom of Choice Elective Program. 1195 Florence Columbus Road • Bordentown, NJ 08505 609.499.7820 www.LibertyLakeDayCamp.com

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Made-for-You Braces The Fastest Way to a Great Smile Sewell, New Jersey Orthodontist Now Uses Insignia™ Advanced Smile Design™ to Help Patients Achieve One-of-a-Kind Smiles

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miles are a big part of a person’s identity and self-esteem,” said Dr. Tom Kadar of Kadar Orthodontics. “There’s never been a better time to consider the many benefits of orthodontic treatment. By using the latest 3D technologies, we help our patients achieve beautiful, healthy, smiles in record time.”

As a teenager, Dr. Tom Kadar had crooked teeth and underwent orthodontic treatment. “Once my braces were removed, I saw how great orthodontic treatment changed my life,” said Dr. Kadar. “The difference in my appearance and self-confidence was so dramatic that I decided to study dentistry and help others achieve great smiles.”

The orthodontists at Kadar Orthodontics (Dr. Tom Kadar and Dr. Fayth Johnston) have incorporated the award-winning Insignia™ Advanced Smile Design™ into their practice. “By combining Insignia with our proven Damon Braces System,” said Dr. Kadar, “we are able to provide customized orthodontic treatment that requires fewer office visits, helping patients achieve the smile of their dreams more quickly.

When beginning Insignia treatment, Kadar Orthodontics first scans the patient’s mouth, generating a virtual 3D model of their smile structure.

This 3D model creates a visual representation of each patient’s anticipated results, giving them a clear vision of their new, beautiful smile transformation before treatment even begins. Additionally, Insignia allows Kadar Orthodontics to review and conduct a thorough smile analysis based on each individual’s specific smile anatomy.

patients, from kids to adults, the great Kadar smile they’ve always wanted, but with fewer office visits and faster results -- a win-win.”

“Everything we do here at Kadar Orthodontics is geared toward delivering great results for our patients in the least amount of time,” said Dr. Johnston. “We believe that every patient deserves orthodontic treatment that is precisely customized to their unique case, making Insignia an ideal offering for anyone who wants to improve their smile.”

Dr. Fayth Johnston places custom-molded trays to “For me,” said Dr. Kadar, precisely position a patient's braces “nothing compares to the moment when a patient first sees their new smile after their braces are removed. When they look in the mirror and say ‘WOW!’ that reaction really makes me smile -- it’s really why I come to work every day.”

To schedule an appointment and learn more about Insignia, contact Kadar Orthodontics at 856-582-1400 or visit their website at www.gokadar.com.✲

Why Choose Kadar Orthodontics & Insignia?

The most advanced technology. Like fingerprints, your smile is unique. Insignia allows Kadar Orthodontics to create a treatment plan that utilizes customized brackets and wires specifically created to fit your teeth and only your teeth.

Fast, Comfortable Treatment. With Insignia, each bracket is precisely calculated to affect your tooth movement in the most optimal way, reducing treatment time by 37% with fewer office visits.

Dr. Tom Kadar and Alex showing off his newly-applied Damon braces

“Once we create a customized treatment plan,” said Dr. Kadar, “we are able to order brackets and wires tailored to each individual patient. This is unlike traditional braces that are generic and one-size-fits-all. As a result, each patient’s final smile is unique to their own dental structure. By customizing treatment based on each person’s specific facial features, we can now minimize minor adjustments and tweaks throughout the treatment process, leading to fewer in-office visits, faster results and improved patient comfort.

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Precise, Predictable Results. Finally, a treatment plan developed using Insignia creates a layer of meticulous detail that provides fast, accurate and predictable results.

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5 Modern Manners Your Children Should Know

By C.J. Mackey

in a doctor’s waiting room playing angry birds so loudly they impaired the hearing of all the children in the room, and have been embarrassed for a man at a funeral who forgot to silence his phone, only to have his “Tequila” ring tone go off during the mass. While there are times that having them use their devices may actually keep them from misbehaving, help them by defining where you think it is appropriate and where it is off limits.

Being a good guest - I always try to stress to my children that when they are over a friend’s house for dinner or as an overnight guest, that they obey the rules of their friends’ parents. Whether that means going to bed at 7:30 or taking out the garbage after dinner, they should politely comply with a smile on their face. And while I have told my children many times that, as hosts, we try to accommodate any of our guests’ wishes, in the reverse they should not try to use that to their advantage. I have been somewhat surprised by how many children in my home, have refused to wait their turn, or made unreasonable requests because “they are a guest. “ Simply put, I ask them to behave in a way that would get them invited back not only by their friends, but by their friends’ parents.

Waiting your turn - I’m not necessarily only referring to waiting your turn while playing a game. More importantly in this modern age where everything we want can be ordered online for immediate download, or we receive a text response to a question in seconds, people have forgotten how to wait. In lines at school, at the store, even in a place like church, I see people cutting lines, and trying to jostle their way ahead of people who have politely waited longer. Teach your kids to ask if there is a line, where the end is, or if someone in front of them has already been helped.

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ith our fast paced, technology assisted lives; we sometimes forget the manners that our parents worked so hard to ingrain in us. And while I do not in anyway consider myself an etiquette expert, I do have some suggestions in how to impart some common courtesy to our children that will have very positive returns in their interaction with friends, adults, and the With our fast paced, technology assisted lives, we sometimes forget the manners that our parents worked so hard to ingrain in us. And while I do not in anyway consider myself an etiquette expert, I do have some suggestions in how to impart some common courtesy to our children that will have very positive returns in their interaction with friends, adults, and the general public.

When to Use (or Not Use) their Devices - my children, and most of their friends, always have a smart phone, MP3 player or game console in their hands. Left on their own they would never turn them off.

It’s important for them to learn that there are places and occasions that require that they silence and put away their electronics, such as a restaurant, movie or a public location or event. Unfortunately this is a behavior they won’t learn from mimicking adults around them. I’ve witnessed an adult

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Sending timely Thank You’s - with all the technology we have today, letting people know that you appreciated a gift or a visit, can be as simple as texting a message after the event to say thanks for coming, or how much you enjoyed their thoughtfulness. Showing your appreciation doesn’t have to be a painful or long writing process. And if we make it a little simpler, it may get done quickly and with some real feeling.

Eating, well, like a human - with all our over-scheduled activities, my kids are more likely to recognize food in a paper bag than that set at a table. But learning some simple rules about which utensils to use (move from farthest away from plate to closest) or to put your napkin in your lap at the beginning of a meal, or simply not to talk with their mouth full, can help avoid much embarrassment, for you and them, when they are placed in a more formal setting.

This is clearly not intended to be a complete list of all the etiquette do’s and don’ts we want to instill in our children. But it has helped me teach my children some simple guidelines to become more sympathetic, polite adults in the future. And if I saw just a few more examples of this behavior in my adult interactions, how much more enjoyable my day would be.✲ C. J. Mackey is a working mother of three, balancing a full time career while taking an active role in her children’s lives. She has an advanced degree in engineering and over twenty years making technology decisions for fortune 500 companies. She has always been passionate about writing and started contributing to Yahoo! For more professional information you can visit at http://cjmackeypress.com/article/.net

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2015 Homeowners’ Series Healthy Houseplants February 11, 2015, 7:00pm Camden County Environmental Center Healthy Houseplants” presented

by Rutgers Master Gardeners of Camden County, the first in our series of four Homeowners’ Classes—“ Back to Basics”. Learn how you can grow gorgeous houseplants all year long and have them continue to thrive.

Houseplants have different growing conditions to match different environment or watering needs. Learn houseplant care, how to propagate houseplants easily and how houseplants are used in garden design (especially container gardening) year round. Presentation by Jeannette Glennon-Morrissey, a Registered Horticultural Therapist at Magee Rehabilitation Hospital and Master Gardener of Camden County. The class will be held at the Camden County Environmental Center, 1301 Park Blvd, Cherry Hill, NJ 08002. Sign-in at 6:30 pm with the class starting promptly at 7 pm. Pre-registration strongly suggested. $10 per household. For more information and to register call 856-216-7130, email njgarden@camdencounty. com or go to the website, www. camden.njaes.rutgers.edu/garden Cooper University Hospital Community Programs offered If you’re into wellness, nutrition, parenting classes, yoga, community lectures and more… visit www.events.cooperhealth. org for program information.

Valentine’s Dinner at Valenzano Winery Starting on Thursday, February 12, 2015, and ending on Saturday, February 14 $60 per person The valentine’s dinner features a gourmet a la carte menu. You can begin with such appetizers as clams, grilled eggplant, or shrimp wrapped in prosciutto.

For your entree, chooses from gnocchi, steakhouse selections, pasta dishes, or surf & turf. End your evening with a choice of tempting desserts. There will be seating’s from 5:00 p.m. until 9:00 p.m. Valenzano Winery is located at 1090 Route 206 in Shamong.

For more information, call 609268-6731.

Kids & Family Events Mullica Hill Branch Free Check out this link for the full schedule of events for kids and families to enjoy! www.gcls.org/calendar/childrensprograms/mullica-hill Gloucester County Library System Mullica Hill Branch 389 Wolfert Station Road Mullica Hill, NJ 08062 856-223-6028

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CUMBERLAND COUNTY Mid-Winter Antiques and Collectibles Show Wheaton Arts and Cultural Center Saturday and Sunday, Feb 7 & 8, 2015 Saturday 10AM to 5PM Sunday 10AM to 4PM The Mid Winter Antiques and Collectibles Show event features approximately 40 regional

antique dealers offering books, ceramics, furniture, glass, jewelry, linens, memorabilia, paper, pottery, primitives, vintage accessories and more.

Admission to the show is $5. For more information visit www. wheatonarts.org

GLOUCESTER COUNTY Hope For Ella Bowling Party Fundraiser Sunday, February 8, 2015 10am-noon Brunswick Zone Turnersville, NJ Come out and support a great cause and have fun at the same time! Includes 2 hours of bowling, free use of rental shoes. $12 in advance per person or $15 per person at the door. Raffles and for your sweet tooth a bake sale. 100 American Boulevard Turnersville, NJ 856629-2422. Proceeds will benefit Neurofibromatosis.

The Gloucester County Library­–Glassboro Branch has events for youth. Check out this link to kids events at the Glassboro Branch www.gcls.org/calen-

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PHILADELPHIA Cupid’s Undie Run Feb 14, 2015 For more information email hopeforella@gmail.com or call Terri at 856-308-6663.

Presidents Day at NMAJH Monday, Feb 16 10am-5pm Free Visit us at the Museum and examine the original letter written

by George Washington in 1790 to the Jewish community of Newport, Rhode Island declaring the importance of religious freedom, and write your own letter with a quill pen! FREE Museum Admission www.nmajh.org Twas the Night with the Idelsohn Society Wednesday, Feb 25, 7:00pm Don’t miss the Museum’s new exploration of holiday music ‘Twas the Night Before Hanukkah before it’s packed up for the season, and join our collaborators and Idelsohn Society for Musical Preservation co-founders David Katznelson (Grammy-nominated producer) and Josh Kun (Author and Professor, USC Annenberg School) for one last hurrah. These industry insiders and music marchers will share their own stories and passion for Jewish music in an energetic onstage conversation about all things (and anything) musical. $12/$10 Members. www.nmajh.org

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ake up something sweet for the sweeties in your life, like this decedent chocolate cake, or these lemony heartshaped cookies, two recipes perfect to make for those you love this Valentine’s Day!

Decadent Chocolate Cake • 1 3/4 cups unbleached all-purpose flour • 1 cup less 1 tbs. unsweetened cocoa powder • 1 1/4 tsp. baking soda • 1/8 tsp. sea salt • 1 1/2 sticks butter, softened • 2/3 cup raw sugar • 2/3 cup firmly packed brown sugar • 2 large eggs • 2 tsp. pure vanilla extract • 1 1/2 cups buttermilk Preheat oven to 350°. Line bottoms of two 9-inch round cake pans with waxed or parchment paper. Grease paper and sides of pans with nonstick cooking spray. In a bowl mix flour, cocoa, baking soda and salt. In a separate bowl, beat butter, and sugars at medium speed until light and fluffy. Add eggs, 1 at a time, beating well after each addition. Add vanilla. At low speed, alternately beat flour mixture and buttermilk into butter mixture just until blended. Divide batter equally between prepared cake pans. Bake cakes until a toothpick inserted into the center of the cake comes out clean, approximately 25-30 minutes. Transfer pans to wire racks to cool for 10 minutes. Turn out cakes onto racks, remove paper and turn cakes top side up, and allow to cool completely.

Indulgent Chocolate Frosting • 2 sticks butter, softened • 2 cup confectioner’s sugar, sifted • 6 ounces (6 squares) unsweetened chocolate, melted • 4 tsp. pure vanilla extract • Chocolate shavings for decoration, optional In a bowl, beat butter and confectioner’s sugar at medium speed until light and fluffy. Add melted chocolate and vanilla, continue beating until

shiny and smooth. Place 1 cake onto a serving dish, spread with frosting.

Top with second cake, spread frosting on top and sides of cake. Let cake stand for at least 30 minutes before sprinkling with chocolate shavings.

Cream Cheese Lemony Heart Cookies • 2 sticks butter, softened • 1 pkg. (3 oz.) cream cheese, room temperature • 1 cup raw sugar • 1 large egg • 2 tsp. lemon zest, finely chopped • 2 tbs. fresh lemon juice • 3 cups unbleached all-purpose flour, sifted • 1 tsp. non-aluminum baking powder • 3/4 tsp. sea salt • Confectioners’ sugar, for sprinkling Preheat oven to 375º. Place butter and cream cheese into the bowl of an electric mixer fitted with the paddle attachment; mix on medium speed until creamy. Add in raw sugar, egg, lemon zest, and lemon juice, mix well. In a medium sized bowl, sift together flour, baking powder, and salt. Add the flour mixture into butter mixture on low speed. Place a small amount of cookie dough into a pastry bag fitted with a large French tip (such as Ateco #865). Holding tip very close to the surface, pipe 3 – 4 inch hearts onto baking sheets lined with parchment paper, space cookies 1 inch apart. Refill pastry bag as needed with remaining dough. Bake cookies until golden brown on bottom, about 12 minutes.

Let cool on baking sheets on wire racks, Once completely cool, sprinkle hearts with confectioners’ sugar. Cookies can be stored in airtight containers at room temperature up to 3 days.

Note: You can pipe heart outline, or pipe filled heart cookies by piping more dough into the center of each heart.

As always, Bon Appetit!

Lisa Ann Panzino DiNunzio is the author of “Seasoned With Love, Treasured Recipes” & “Lisa Ann’s Seasoned With Love II”, and the children’s book, “Snicker Learns An Important Lesson.” Visit her blog http://lisaanndinunzio.blogspot.com/ or Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001935347501 30 | February 2015

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