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Contents JANUARY 2015

mom 2 mom 8 Meet a South Jersey MOM Family

9 Technology Changes the Face of Home Education

10 Mitten Mayhem: The Battle to Bundle Up

12 Excuse Me!

Preschoolers and Interruptions

moms R women 2 19 Building a Closet of Clearance

20 The Quest for a Good Night’s Rest

know 2 grow 27 Can Your Marriage

features

Survive Infertility

28 Explaining the Birds &

Smuggler’s Notch: The Best Family Resort in the Eastern U.S. 15 Chef’s Corner 24 Summer Camp Guide

The Bees to Kids

also in this issue 5 Some of My Faves 21 Buying Guide 22 Business Spotlight: Little Hands

29 Things to Do

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South Jersey January

MOM 2015

CEO/Publisher Christopher Ognibene • (609) 670-1794 chris@superiorgx.com

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just loved this post on Mommy Ever After (http://mommyeverafter.wordpress. com/2014/11/21/all-aboard/) where Rebecca Fox Starr wrote about her daughter Belle. What a great example of KIDFUN!

Rebecca’s resourceful little girl was looking for something creative to do and what she decide? To take a train trip – right there from her kitchen. She made a train station! “All Aboard!” her mom called it and explained it this way:

Belle took our kitchen chairs and lined them up as a train, stacking a step stool on the seat for her to sit on and using a plastic cup as her steering wheel. She found a hat to use as her conductor’s hat and off she went!!

So, if your child wants a little distraction, suggest she take a train ride, She can go anywhere her imagination will take her. Help her create a story about this fictional traveling adventure. You can suggest she go to a theme park, to a city, the beach, the zoo, anywhere!

Maybe she’d like to go Never Never Land – oh wait, you have to fly to get there!

It’s the storytelling that can make this little distraction an educational one that helps the kids think creatively. And, don’t forget to grab your suitcase and join her on the journey, too!

Not only a South Jersey Mom, Sharla Feldscheris a proud South Jersey Grandmom (Grammy, as she prefers to becalled). The author of six books on creative ideas to do with young children, including two KIDFUN Activity Books published by HarperCollins, she has a blog at www.kidfunandmore.com with more easy-to-do KIDFUN ideas.

Sharla has her own public relations business in Philadelphia. A real kid-believer, she began her career as the first PR Director of the Please Touch Museum and started her own business with Sesame Place as her first account, representing the park for 26 years.

Executive Editor Karen Ognibene • (609) 230-6280 karen@superiorgx.com Marketing & Business Development Specialist Michelle Scianni • (856) 986-9606 michelle@superiorgx.com For General Advertising Inquiries Marissa Josephick • (856) 537-7089 ocrazyjane@gmail.com Chris Ognibene • (609) 670-1794 chris@superiorgx.com Production Manager Lisa Celfo lisasjmom@gmail.com Cover Photographer Bruce Morrissey Contributing Writers Angela DeGroot, Sharla Feldscher, Dolores Hoffman, Jess Michaels, Patricia Mooneyham, Elizabeth Norton, Louisa Kopp, Cheryl Lynn Potter, Deanna Robinson, Ashley Schafer, Erin Taylor Special Thanks To Smugglers’ Notch Winetowhine.com Telford Inn Little Hands Submit Calendar Listing michelle@superiorgx.com www.southjerseymom.com

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id you know that lip-balm could be drying out your lips? Some brands can contain irritating chemicals that actually dry out lips and create a cycle of necessity. Are you one of those people that have lip-balm in the car, all your handbags, office drawer, bedside table, etc.…? Constant use of lip-moistening products is a very real part of many children and adult’s lives. Dr. Oz says, “Overuse of lip balm suffocates skin cells”. There is a debate among dermatologists as to whether lip-balm addiction is a valid medical condition or is it rather a developed habit from over drying the lips?

Here are few suggestions to stop drying-out lips… w Don’t lick your lips for obvious reasons w Drink a lot of water to stay hydrated w Use a humidifier to add moisture back into the house

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Created by Markations Adam Nichols • (215) 825-7499 Superior Graphics Print Management LLC publishes South Jersey MOM™ monthly and distributes it throughout the region. The publication is available free of charge at select locations.

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a letter from the EDITOR

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his year we celebrate South Jersey MOM’s 7th Anniversary. We spent time last year brainstorming ways to make the magazine more innovative and useful, and the issue you are holding gives you just that. We have a new section to feature a South Jersey MOM and her family, which will showcase them sharing insight into their loving, chaotic, crazy-busy lives (page 8). While it’s still packed with toy and product information, South Jersey moms’ from our region will be stamping their approval on toys and games (page 30). We will continue to connect and share local mom-blogger’s ideas on crafts, food and parenting. Each month writers submit stories that are poignantly written that range from informative to humorous. Don’t miss this month Mitten Mayhem: The Battle To Bundle Up (page 10) by Louisa Kopp she makes

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maddening parent topics delightful and funny.

Also, we have a food page from the Telford Inn (page 15) with delicious recipes that you can make in your own kitchen. Just imagine, when your kids are older you will be able to eat out again with a lot less effort. Some kids make it so hard for parents to relax that cooking at home during this phase is much more pleasant! If your child’s difficult phase seems to be dragging on check out Dr. Stacey’s tips “Powerful Peaceful Parenting” (page 22) she is the author of a beautifully written book about guiding children and changing lives, your lives. And, if you’re searching for the perfect winter family vacation spot for your next getaway be sure to read this months article on Smugglers’ Notch (page 16), it’s the best family resort on the east coast.

Yes, we have made a lot of changes, but what we haven’t changed is our commitment to getting you relevant, relatable material to help you be the MOM you want to be.

Get an early jump on plans for your kid’s summer camp by coming to South Jersey Mom’s Camp and Education Expo. The event will be held on Sunday, January 25, 2015 from 11am to 4pm at the Moorestown Mall. Don’t miss the free giveaways!

Happy New Year!

Your friend & fellow MOM,

Karen Ognibene karen@superiorgx.com

ver year at about this time, most of us get to thinking of what we’d like to do differently in the coming year. Usually, New Year’s resolutions seem to include some combination of working harder and eating less. So why not think about things we could do to make us better moms?

Yell less Do More Things You Like u Pay A Little More Attention To The Hubs u Start Saying, “No.” u Put Down That iPhone u Have Some Kid-Like Fun u Spend Some Quality Mom-Time With Your Kids Separately u Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself u u

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What type of Parent Are You? I

often hear from parents whose children are acting out. The parents are frustrated, stressed and wonder how parenting can be this hard. They wonder why their children do not listen and “obey.” Many times, these parents have rules that are either too loose or too strict.

Children thrive when they are given boundaries and structure, but when that structure is firm, inflexible and every aspect of their lives are micromanaged by their parents, it can cause children to act out. These authoritarian parents have many rules and do not give children much of a voice in the family. Permissive parents, on the other hand, have few rules and allow their children to dictate how things will go, which can also cause children to act out. Authoritative parents, on the other hand, walk that fine line between the two, being responsive to their children’s emotional needs, and giving them a voice within the supportive structure of limits, striking a nice balance between the two extremes. I liken this type of parenting to a box; the firm edges of the box are the limits that the responsive, authoritative parent gives to the child, but the child is then free to move within that box as s/he so chooses, just as long as s/he doesn’t

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Erin Taylor, MA

step outside of the structure of the box. This type of parenting allows kids to have some say in how they choose to act, but still have the framework of a loving supportive, structure to work within, which empowers children and prepares them well to grow into adulthood.

If you feel like parenting is hard, difficult work, it is important to know that it is hard and does demand a lot of our time, attention and effort. But it does not have to be any more difficult than necessary, and should be very rewarding as well. If this does not describe your experience, perhaps you might take a look at your parenting and see what category your style fits into.✲ Erin Taylor, MA is a wife, therapist, writer, parent coach and mom to four children ages 7, 9 and 12. Her oldest daughter died of a heart defect as a baby. It Takes A Village Parent Coaching is a source of inspiration for her work, and you can reach her aterin@villageparentcoaching.com.

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Give the Gift of Life Wouldn’t it be great to help an infertility couple who is struggling to have a family?

South Jersey Fertility Center is looking for donor egg candidates who want to give the gift of life.

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Meet a South Jersey MOM Family

About Collette First things first, Collette was the winner of the South Jersey MOM Silly Hat Contest at the end of last year. Collette was born on May 15, 2013 with a smile on her face. She has been an absolute blessing upon her family - she wakes up with a smile on her face, and spends the day making those around her laugh. She enjoys her weekdays at Puddle Jumpers Academy, and does gymnastics and learns French in her spare time!

Collette’s favorite things Collette loves Lambie from Doc McStuffins and Minnie Mouse, which she got to visit when we went to Disney World this November. She loves to dance, and much to the dismay of her mother, regularly requests daddy

to play Foster the People and Arctic Monkeys.

Collette enjoys gymnastics on the weekends.

Meet Collette’s parents Collette’s parents Sandy and Marc met on Facebook through Sandy’s sister - Marc was living in Australia and Sandy requested him as a friend. When he returned back to the United States, Sandy went to the bar where he worked and never left! They married 3 years ago, and recently moved into their dream house in Merchantville. Sandy is a South Jersey MOM because no matter where in the world she travels (Australia on her honeymoon, Paris and Sonoma), she always loves coming home and spending a day at the Jersey shore.✲

Mommy & Me

Fingerprint Tree v Find a tree image that you like and print it on quality

paper.

v Let your little one dip their fingers into the paint and

decorate the bare branches of the tree.

v Now it’s your turn for some crafting fun! Secretly,

grab a brown and green colored pencil and lightly go over the tree and the grass… shade lightly. You want this to look like a sketch, plus if your shading skills are anything like mine then the lighter it is the better it will look!

v Now you could stop here…but I wanted to make it a

bit more personal, so I traced 4 birds and wrote out a quote.

v Then I cut out and applied the design to a heavier

cardstock.

v Lastly, I framed it with a mat… yup a MAT! Sounds

crazy, but that little detail right there is the cherry on top of the sundae.

Check out Dee’s website, she’s an over thinking SAHM from NJ, who likes to stay busy on a small budget. If you need EASY and AFFORDABLE ideas to help you pass your day, take a look around her website, grab an idea or two, & pour yourself a drink..after all you deserve a break too! www.winetowhine.com

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Technology Changes the Face of

Home Education

Elizabeth Norton

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he morning approaches and I awake to “Go Tell It On The Mountain” being practiced on our piano, again. My baby girl wakes up.

My husband left for work at 4am this morning but there is no rush for us, there’s no bus to catch. We are a homeschool family.

Math DVD’s teach today’s daily lesson. We press replay if we do not completely understand. The boys open up their age appropriate workbooks and answer their math work. Tomorrow is test day and the proctor is me. We proof read our persuasive letter assignment, inspired by Pinterest, print it out, and mail it to a family member.

Today we have a science co-op that is offered in our area that we learned about online - being digital connects us. Socialization is hardly a problem. Thanks to technology our kids can be connected with local homeschoolers in an instant. We love science and the experiments are pretty intense. I am thankful we can share them with other families. We are learning about the sun today and my kids are actually excited. The oldest reads the headlines of current events on the drive on the way. We discuss our political views. It can get heated. We don’t always agree but respect different opinions. Co-op is over and we reflect on the way home. It’s dinner time again. Another homeschool day complete.

Technology has changed homeschooling. In fact, we have play dates often when we finish our subjects early and we notice another family is active on Facebook. When it snows, we all meet to go sledding. Afterwards we meet at a fellow homeschooler’s house as our bodies thaw. The moms laugh and drink coffee. The kids play Wii and drink hot chocolate loaded with marshmallows. We may even learn something together about weather and snowflakes. We take pictures and share the moments on Facebook. This is a homeschool snow day.

We homeschool because we can be flexible with my husband’s shift work. I didn’t hate public school as a child. Homeschooling helps us rotate with work schedules. We see each other more often. My husband, on occasion, teaches a lesson or two. We homeschool because we know we can provide a quality education for our children and they are still tested yearly just like others.

My kids laugh on the soccer field, smile on the stage during a performance, play video games. They enjoy being kids and I enjoy watching them do just that every day. I realize these moments are fleeting and will not take them for granted.

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ends meet. It can get stressful but the education of my children is always a priority. We discuss and decide year to year our schooling options. Public, cyber, and private schools are considered but this year, this is what we chose. Technology connects us all and in the social media age homeschool families can reap the benefits.✲ January 2015 | 9

Mitten Mayhem:

The Battle to Bundle Up

By Louisa Kopp

When I was childless, I thought I’d never be that chronically late parent. LOL.

Today I consider getting somewhere less than an hour late a win. (Only a half hour late? Go me!)

The reason for my tardiness is one little human being that somehow manages to take hours to get ready to leave the house and then poops in his diaper right after a 45 minute struggle to get his shoes on his feet.

During the winter getting dressed takes even longer because more clothing is needed - an unfortunate fact being that my child Owen prefers to wear only a diaper.

The chore of getting dressed begins with the simple suggestion of putting pants on; Owen reacts as if I just told him to light himself on fire. An hour later after two dramatic tantrums, a trip to the potty, a multitude of outfit suggestions, and several kicks to my face, I have somehow managed to get him into thin sweatpants and a lightweight t-shirt. Not exactly winter attire, but at least he’s no longer naked.

We leave his bedroom and head downstairs to finish getting ready to go outside. Progress is slow. My pleas to hurry up fall on deaf ears. There are frequent stops and a lot of deep thought-provoking questions from my toddler, i.e. “Why is the light on the ceiling?” Apparently, moving while talking is not an option and the same questions must be asked and answered a minimum of five times before we can take another step.

Finally we’re downstairs. Similar to getting dressed in his bedroom, it takes another hour to put on socks, shoes, a hat, gloves, and a coat (with another round of kicks to the face, tantrums, and a diaper change). During this process, I consider the very appealing prospect of staying inside the rest of January and February.

I grab my own coat from the closet and put it on; I turn back around to find my toddler wearing nothing but a t-shirt and a diaper.

Two hours worth of work undone in 10 seconds. I contemplate the very tempting option of sending my child away to boarding school during the winter months.

Another hour later, we head out the door at last. Owen’s only wearing a t-shirt, shorts and socks. Oh well. My love will have to keep him warm. Is it April yet?✲ Louisa Kopp is a South Jersey mother and the blogger behind Ice Cream Off Paper Plates, where she shares humorous stories about raising a toddler and infant, easy recipes with step-by-step photos, and party and entertaining ideas. Follow Louisa’s adventures at www. icecreamoffpaperplates.com.

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Excuse Me!

Preschoolers and Interruptions

By Cheryl Lynne Potter

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reschoolers are notorious for interruptions. They interrupt their parents many times during their conversations with other people. It’s not unusual during an important conversation, for a parent to feel a tug at their sleeve from their preschooler with an all important question like, “Mummy, I saw a bug today.”

Why, many parents ask, can’t my child realize that it’s rude to interrupt? If you ask any preschool teacher, they’ll probably tell you that it’s commonplace for preschoolers to interrupt others in and outside of school.

Experts have many reasons why preschoolers interrupt. Some say, youngsters are at that stage of development when they’re starting to realize that the world doesn’t revolve around them. Others say, youngsters crave their parent’s attention and have yet to learn that it’s inappropriate for a parent to give them attention each and every time that they want it.

Preschoolers, who are usually between the ages of three and four, require instant feedback during this stage of development, says preschool teachers Sandi Chacker and her colleague KristinaThumlert. Both are long-term teachers at Aura Elementary School in Elk Township. Preschoolers are at that stage, that it’s “all about me,” they said. However, their classroom’s paraprofessional, Kylie Crompton disagrees with her 12 | January 2015

colleague’s assessment about why preschoolers interrupt. She thinks the real reason for their interruptions is due to their lack of self-regulation.

Their attention span is very short, she said, and they also lack the developmental skills to know when they should or should not interrupt adults.

Experts agree that preschooler’s short-term memory skills are not well developed. This gives them the impulse to say things as soon as they think of them. As their short-term memory improves, they will be less impulsive and more capable of waiting to say something until their mom or dad is finished with what they were doing. Deciding when it’s okay to interrupt requires a high level of critical thinking.

Yet, it’s important for parents to teach preschoolers that they shouldn’t interrupt. Children like to copy behavior, especially from adults, so it’s important for parents to set a good example. Parents need to show preschoolers the appropriate behavior that they would like to see them learn and emulate. If a parent interrupts their preschooler, they should stop and apologize. Using good manners and admitting a mistake will hopefully help your preschooler to emulate these traits. A preschooler may not completely understand at their age why manners are important, but they’ll think it’s something of value that they need to achieve.✲

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Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions 1

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Spend More Time with Family & Friends Make plans to meet up with friends at a favorite restaurant.

Fit in Fitness Exercise keeps you healthy and makes you look and feel better.

Tame the Bulge Setting reasonable goals and staying focused are the two most important factors in sticking with a weight loss program.

Quit Smoking If you’ve tried to quit before and failed, don’t let it get you down. On average, smokers try about four times before they quit for good. Start enjoying the rest of your smoke-free life.

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Enjoy Life More Given the hectic, stressful lifestyles of millions of Americans, it’s no wonder that “enjoying life more” has become a popular resolution in recent years.

It’s an important step to a happier and healthier you!

Quit Drinking If you’ve decided that you want to stop drinking, there’s a world of help and support available.

Get Out of Debt Was money a big source of stress in your life last year? Join the millions of Americans who have resolved to spend this year getting a handle on their finances. It’s a promise that will repay itself many times over in the year ahead.

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Learn Something New Have you vowed to make this year the year to learn something new? Perhaps you’re considering a career change, want to learn a new language or just how to fix your computer? Have fun with it!

Help Others A popular, non-selfish New Year’s resolution, volunteerism can take many forms. Whether you choose to spend time helping out at your local library, mentoring a child or building a house, there are many nonprofit volunteer organizations that could really use your help.

Get Organized On just about every New Year resolution top ten list, organization can be a very reasonable goal. Start today!

Tricks to Get Toddlers to Wear Glasses

By Kathy Gleason

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etting your toddler to wear glasses is challenging. Before tearing your hair out in frustration, take a breath. You might just need a new strategy and a new outlook. If you’re upset that your child has to wear glasses, your toddler might pick up on it and resist them as well. Remember that being consistent and positive can make a major difference in how your child takes to his new glasses.

Let Children Have a Say If possible, let your toddler choose his glasses. Kids might be more inclined to wear glasses if they feel they had some say in them, suggests Early Intervention Support.

Offer Encouragement When children try on glasses, make a fuss over how good they look in them. Also, point out how seeing clearly is better and safer than walking around with blurry vision.

Make Sure Glasses Are Comfortable Lenses for toddlers should be made of polycarbonate because the lens won’t shatter and have soft cables that are comfortable and fit around the ears so they stay on. Look for glasses that have soft nose pads as well so glasses aren’t uncomfortable on your toddler’s little nose. www.southjerseymom.com

Read Stories Go to the library and pick out books in which the young characters have glasses. You can also go online and show your tot pictures of other children wearing glasses.

If other people in her family wear glasses, remind her of that.

Build Up Gradually Don’t stick glasses on your toddler’s face and expect him to wear them constantly, right away. Start with a shorter time such as half an hour in the morning and afternoon and build up from there. You can encourage children to leave their glasses alone during this time by making “glasses time” fun time in the beginning. For example, have them wear their glasses during a favorite cartoon or while having a snack.

Be a Good Role Model If you have glasses, wear them! Set a good example for children by wearing your own glasses when you’re supposed to. If your toddler sees that wearing glasses is a chore for you, it might be harder to get her to wear her own.✲ everydaylife.globalpost.com January 2015 | 13

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Ingredients: • 3 acorn squash, cut in half and seeds scooped out • 2 ounces olive oil • ¼ teaspoon cinnamon • 8 cups water • Salt and Pepper • 1 Tbsp lemon juice • Toasted pumpkin seeds Directions: Arrange squash cut side up on a sheet tray and drizzle with the olive oil.

• Bake at 350 degrees for 45-60 minutes, or until easily pierced with a fork.

• Allow to cool.

• With a spoon, scoop out the squash and place in a soup pot.

• Cover with the water and lemon juice.

• Bring to a boil then reduce heat & simmer for 30 minutes.

• Add cinnamon and nutmeg.

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• Season with salt and pepper to taste.

• Garnish with toasted pumpkin seeds.

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How did you get started?

I’ve been in the industry for over twenty years. I started in my family’s restaurant, Richman’s, when I was 15 I got my 1st job dipping ice-cream . I graduated from the New England Culinary Institute in Montpelier, Vermont.

I live in Salem with my wife, daughter, and two dogs.

What is your favorite dish to cook at the restaurant?

My favorite dish to cook would have to be our “Best of South Jersey” herb rubbed, slow roasted Prime Rib. We offer three sized cuts every night for dinner or you can enjoy our prime rib sandwich, hand carved in the Taproom.

What is your favorite dish to eat ?

I have two favorites right now. The first is Poutine, crispy French fries topped with cheddar cheese curds and veal demi glace. The second is our pork belly flatbread with Black Garlic-Apple BBQ sauce, red onion, and Vermont sharp cheddar.

What is the one ingredient you could not live without ?

Organic black garlic. I have trouble finding a dish that it’s not good in.

How do you get inspired ?

I get inspired by the local farmers. I’m lucky to have some of the best produce available, right on my doorstep.

What do you do in your spare time ?

I try to spend as much time as I can with my daughter.

We like to cook together.

What was your biggest kitchen disaster?

I’ve been pretty lucky. I do have an almost disaster story.

I tripped while carrying a cake into a room full of wedding guests. I caught it at the last second and the look on the guests’ faces was priceless. It’s also how I met my wife, she baked the cake.

What do you love most about your job ?

Hands down, my coworkers. They are my second family and as much as we may argue, we always pull together and get the job done.

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f you’re planning a family getaway to rekindle family bonds that get lost in the daily shuffle, there’s more to happy memory-building vacations than just the Jersey Shore or Disney. Look no further than Vermont’s premiere ski resort, Smugglers’ Notch, for year-round family fun and relaxation, both indoors and out.

For decades, Smugglers’ mission has been “to provide family fun for all ages,” says Public Relations Director, Karen Boushie. “We have a

100% commitment to families.” Their “purpose-built village,” comprised of five different condominium neighborhoods, surrounds the Village Center which contains shopping, various attractions and entertainment, restaurants and numerous recreation areas. With breathtaking views in every direction each season, you’ll instantly relax into the alpine lifestyle whether you spend time in the snow or pool, dining out or in your own lodging’s fully equipped kitchen.

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Significant snowmaking improvements over the last 3 seasons have completed a full conversion to high efficiency snowguns delivering improved early and late season coverage, plus faster terrain coverage and quick refreshing of trails for the best possible onslope experience.

Find private and group lessons for every age from 3 to adult. New this season, Trail Blazers program gives 5 and 6 year olds the option of full day ski camp or two hour lessons, 3 and 4 year olds are together as Discovery Dynamos in full day ski or ride camp. Adults can enjoy group and private lessons, a Women’s Clinic for all levels, and the Mountain Experience for intermediate and advanced skiers.

Nordic Ski & Snowshoe Adventure Center is where you can discover the beauty of the winter landscape on cross-country skis, snowshoe, or ice skates. Enjoy nightly snow tubing on Sir Henry’s Hill. New last year, the Cat Trax (a heated cabin groomer) that tours the mountain, and junior snowmobile rides for ages 6 to 12.

Indoor activities include a heated indoor pool and hot tubs, The Fun Zone (inflatables and video games); fitness, health and wellness; arts and crafts classes (some taught by local artists) and two Teen Centers.

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“From June through Labor Day… Summer Fun!” From June through Labor Day, Smugglers’ offers: • Four water playgrounds with eight pools and four water slides • Four playground sites • A swimming reservoir • Treetop Obstacle Course • The ArborTrek Canopy Tour, guided nature exploration • Aqua-volleyball and aerobics • Fishing and paddling, golf, basketball, shuffleboard and rock climbing.

Summer programs for children focus on nature exploration, arts and crafts, adventure and games. The year-round ArborTrek canopy tour takes you through the treetops on a series of zip lines, rappels and suspension bridges.Visit area attractions like Cabot Creamery, Echo Center Aquarium and the Vermont Teddy Bear Factory. For reservations and more information, call (800) 419-4615 or plan online at www.smuggs.com where you can view more details about the resort.

Make Smugglers’ Notch your new year-round vacation destination!

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Indoor Winter Fun When the weather is not cooperating for outside fun, you’re probably stuck wondering just what to do with the kids. No worries! Luckily if you live in South Jersey, you don’t have to look far; there are lots of fun places to visit for the little ones! Don’t just settle for a trip to the movies on a rainy day- here are some exciting places with indoor activities that are guaranteed to keep kids happy and occupied!

ROLLER SKATING • FUNZONE INDOOR GIANT JUNGLE GYM INFLATABLES & MORE!

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Valid on any Family Fun Night.

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Come in from the cold and paint some pottery in our cozy, relaxing studio

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Buy 1 activity admission Not to be combined get another activity with any other offer admission, of equal or or discount. Limit one lesser value, FREE. per customer.

Visit our website for daily specials and calendar of events

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ARTS & CRAFTS CLASSES! These workshops are open to the public for those ages 16 and up JEWELRY MAKING WORKSHOP Learn the basics of jewelry making and take home a bracelet, earrings, or key ring using beads and stones. All materials included and all skill levels welcomed.

Friday, February 6, 2015 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. $20 Members $25 Non-Members

TRASH TO TREASURE This workshop will inspire students to hold on to paper!

The beauty of reformed trash will amaze participants, as cardboard, newspapers, and old buttons will be re-purposed into wonderful, poetic art to treasure forever. All materials included and all skill levels welcomed.

Friday, January 16, 2015 7:00 p.m. - 9:00 p.m. $15 Members $20 Non-Members

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Building a Closet of Clearance

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he hustle and bustle of the holidays is over and it’s time to put away all of the decorations and return to reality.

But with the conclusion of the holiday season comes an opportunity to capitalize on all of the holiday inventory that retailers are desperately trying to offload. Here are some things to consider when building your closet off the clearance rack.

Fabulous at full price. Ask yourself ‘If it were full price would I want it?’ I say ‘want it’ verses ‘buy it’ because you may not be tempted by its original pricey ticket. This is a key thing to ask yourself. It is easy to get caught up in all of the red stickers and slashing prices, so try to think of the item and not its price (for a minute at least!). If the answer to this question is yes, than the item it is probably a fabulous not a frivolous find.

Does it fit? A sale is not a good sale if you can’t get a lot of wear out of it. If the item does not fit properly, you most likely won’t wear it. Unless you are willing to invest in a tailor to create the perfect fit, don’t be blinded by the sale and purchase items only that best complement your figure to make you look and feel your absolute best. www.southjerseymom.com

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Opt for ‘stylish’ not ‘trendy’. Don’t be blinded by the season’s hottest trends. Pretty soon the weather is going to change and you will not be able to wear this item. If it’s too trendy, most likely you won’t want to wear it next year either, which is a key sign of an impulse purchase. Stick to styles that are classic and well-tailored, they always stay in style. Items like blazers, riding boots, outerwear, bathing suits, wool sweaters and accessories are all great sale purchases because they are items that don’t change much from year to year and are deeply discounted at the end of the season.

Stay away from bold prints as they can be faddish.

Consider your existing wardrobe. Do you already own something like this? Will the item fit seamlessly in your existing wardrobe? Use a sale to take advantage of expanding your wardrobe to include pieces you do not already own, or wouldn’t want to pay full price to invest in.

Similarly, consider your existing wardrobe and determine if you have the necessary pieces to make this item wearable. The longer an item sits in your closet unworn, the less likely you will be to wear it.

Quality, not quantity. Utilize a good sale as an opportunity to purchase high quality items that you may not normally splurge on. Seeking out items like this will round out your wardrobe and make it appear as if you paid full price! When investing in quality pieces, pay attention to the details such as the fabric, stitching and buttons to ensure the item is well made. A quality piece will get more mileage in your wardrobe and you will be able to style it over and over again.

Think ahead to next year. Are you planning to get pregnant in the upcoming year? Planning on moving to a different climate? If this is the case, you may want to use the clearance rack to invest in items that would be relevant for that life change. Maternity clothes can be expensive, and so can changing out your wardrobe to accommodate a different climate. Why not grab a few pieces to jumpstart the change while they are on sale!✲ Ashley is an image consultant located in South Jersey who helps women create a cohesive wardrobe tailored to fit their image goals and lifestyle needs. She can be found at schaferimageconsulting.com.

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The Quest For A Good Night’s Rest

By Angela De Groot

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re you one of the 30 million Americans not getting a good night’s rest? It’s not all about the number of hours you sleep, either.

Tossing and turning or waking up in the night take a toll. Lack of sleep can be detrimental to your health and several studies have linked it to poor work performance, driving accidents, and relationship issues.

pillow. A pillow should keep your head in line with your spine. Back sleepers need a thinner pillow, while side sleepers need a firmer pillow that fills the space between the ear and shoulder. Stomach sleepers need a flat pillow and may benefit from a pillow under their stomachs to avoid back pain.

In this 24/7 world of ours, how do we get a better night’s sleep?

Exercise yourself to sleep: studies show that daily exercise can help you fall asleep faster and sleep deeper. Keep in mind that exercising close to bedtime may leave you too energized to fall asleep.

Make sleep a priority: Adults need 7–9 hours of restful sleep every night. Try cutting back on one daily activity to add at least 30 minutes to your sleep time. Consistency is key - going to bed and waking up at the same time every day will help you feel refreshed and energized.

Wind down: instead of hopping into bed expecting to crash as soon as your head hits the pillow, try putting 20 minutes aside to decompress first. Shower, put on your pajamas, dim the lights, listen to soft music and relax. If anxiety is keeping you from falling asleep, deep breathing exercises may prove helpful. Picture yourself in a tranquil setting like a deserted beach or forest while doing these.

The quiet, the dark, the cool: create a sleep-friendly environment. Most people sleep better in a darker, cooler room, so lower your thermostat at night to 65 degrees and install room-darkening drapes. Ear plugs and white noise can block out snoring or noisy neighborhood sounds.

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In addition to adopting sound sleep strategies, it is important to avoid things that interfere with sleep.

Nicotine, caffeine and alcohol are stimulants that take hours to wear off. They can also disrupt your sleep later in the night. Eating a large meal too close to bedtime can cause the same problems.

TV and electronic devices stimulate the mind. The lighting can suppress your body’s melatonin production and make it harder to sleep.

Checking emails or engaging in social media right before bed can leave you anxious or agitated.

Sharing your bed with pets or children makes for cramped and disruptive sleeping conditions.

Don’t settle for the amount of sleep you can get by on. How you feel during the day is affected by how well you sleep at night. Experiment with different sleep strategies to find which work best for you.✲ www.southjerseymom.com

Hostess Gift Ideas

Buying Guide Gifts Under $30

Frieling Smart Planter Gift kitchen herbs and more in this stylish planter. It’s clever design gives plants the right amount of water.

Perfect for the busy mom. $17, direct.frieling.com

Zoku Ice Ball The simple gadget makes the perfect ice ball and melts slowly to keep drinks cold without diluting them. $17, zokuhome.com

Gifts Under $50

Zoku Ice Cream Maker Make decadent homemade ice cream, custard, yogurt, gelato or even sorbet on your countertop in less than 10 minutes without electricity. $26, zokuhome.com

Frieling Brotforms Easy to use and made of hand woven natural cane, that give bread a European flair. Designed to give a better yield and crunchier crust, sure to please the baking enthusiast this winter. $30-$50, direct.frieling.com

Capresso-On-The-Go Personal Coffee Maker Brews a 16-ounce cup of coffee from ground coffee or pre-packaged pods in less than 4 minutes. Easy and convenient for the mom or dad on the go to brew the perfect cup of coffee. $50, capresso.com

Kuhn Rikon Tong Tools Tong Tools are multiple tools in one! Use the fork as a whisk or to easily lift food. Use the spoon for serving and the turner for flipping food. Combine the tools to create tongs to serve noodles to salad. Great for non-stick pans. $14, kuhnrikon.com

Gifts Over $100 Peugot Altar Corkscrew Endless corkscrew mechanism opens wine bottle with a simple movement. Perfect for the wine enthusiast. $40, waiting to hear website

Gifts Under $100 Capresso Iced Tea Maker Brews pitcher of tea to your individual liking with one touch. Tea brews over ice into beautiful 80-ounce glass pitcher. $60, capresso.com

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Kyocera Ceramic Coated 8” Fry Pan Features nonstick ceramic coating that is scratch resistant and easy to clean. Performs on all stove tops and oven-safe to 400°F. Makes the perfect omelette! $45, kyoceraradvancedceramics.com

Bissell Bolt A lightweight, easy-to-use cordless vacuum with a removable hand vacuum, runs up to 30 minutes of cordless power. Great for parents that need to quickly clean little messes or full rooms. This is a must have for steps, floors, rugs and more! $180, Bissell.com

CarMD Instantly diagnoses engine problems and identifies hidden issues before they become expensive. Save on automatic repair bills by confirming your mechanic’s estimate before repairing. Great investment for a used vehicle-foreign and domestic. $120, carmd.com January 2015 | 21

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Parenting Tips 2 Go with Dr. Stacy

Does parenting have to be so hard? I find that many of us struggle with this question as we are in the midst of parenting. We wonder if we have the ability to help our children and to navigate through the many challenges that parents face.

Have you lost the ability to control your children?

Do you feel like you are powerless as a parent? Do we on some levels complicate parenting? Powerful Peaceful Parenting: Guiding Children, Changing Lives, a new book by Dr. Stacy can help you to answer these questions.

This book is about giving parents powerful tips to change your everyday parenting experience and to help parents believe again that parenting is and can be one of the greatest joys in life.

I would love for every home that is filled with children to be filled with peace.

Powerful Peaceful Parenting Defined Power is the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course of events.

Parenting is the rearing of a child or children, especially the care, love, and guidance given by a parent.

Peaceful is the freedom from disturbance, quiet and tranquility.

So what is stopping you from having Powerful Parenting that results in peace?

The book is not intended to be therapy for children or for parents, but gives you practical and Biblical based strategies to begin to change your parenting and to give you the power to make parenting decisions that change the course of your family’s life. The powerful and peaceful advice is supported by many parenting programs and parenting research that are used in the field of psychology.

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The book covers topics ranging from homework, to morning routines, to chores, to communicating with your child, and many more additional topics. There are practical tips that are easy to follow to help parents make changes to restore peace in their home. Here is a sample tip from the book on how to increase compliance with your children: Give them time to comply...Folks I will ask a room full of adults to meet one another and half of them will wait and look around before complying. It is almost human nature to say we need to hear it a second time for compliance. I can imagine many of you are upset at this point, but the end result is compliance not that I had to say it a second time. I have found that usually if we wait 10-20 seconds and give a similar nice request, our chances of compliance increase significantly.

Time becomes a huge issue in parenting. Many feel that they do not have time for compliance and I agree. We do not, however; save time by getting frustrated and yelling after compliance does not happen immediately. I find children will shut down and not comply once the second direction has a negative or condescending tone.

I can honestly say even at work I have had to be asked twice on occasion to get something done. Slow down and give your child time to comply with your first request.

Powerful Peaceful Parenting: Guiding Children, Changing Lives can be purchased at Amazon.com today.✲ Dr. Stacy Haynes, Ed.D., LPC, ACS is a wife, psychologist, author, radio host, and mom of two. She is the weekly host of Parenting Tips 2 Go w/ Dr. Stacy airing on WIAMRadio.com. Dr. Haynes parenting tips has been featured in articles in national magazines and online newspapers including Ebony, Women’s Health, P&G Everyday, U. S. News, Café Mom. You can reach Dr. Stacy at 856-228-1005 or info@littlehandsagency.com , www.Parentingtips2go.com @DrStacyHaynes facebook/Parentingtip2go.com

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summer camp guide

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Things to When Choosing a Consider Summer Camp Jess Michaels These can include inquiring about medical personnel on property, emergency plans, staff screening procedures and instructor qualifications. n

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Enrollment Options- Ask about the length of the program. For day camp, ask about the length of the day, if there is before and after care, and if transportation is provided.

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Sensitivity to camper needs – If your child has special requirements—from food allergies to ADD— ask how the camp handles children with similar needs.

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Mission and philosophy – Each camp is unique and has their own mission and philosophy. Ask the camp director to explain it to you and ask what type of child is successful at the camp. Make sure the camp’s philosophy and mission matches your own family’s values.

Camp Director – Inquire about the camp director’s background and if he or she is a year round camp professional or a seasonal employee. You also want to make sure you click with the camp director and feel comfortable entrusting your child in his or

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for references from the camp Parents shouldn’t be afraid to ask for references. This is generally one of the best ways to check a camp’s reputation and service record. Ask other parents about the experiences of their children at the camp and whether their child is returning to camp.

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Camp Program – Consider what type of camp program you are looking for and think about what activities are must have’s for your child and make sure the camp offers these activities.

Consider your child – Make sure your child is involved in the process of choosing a camp. Search camps online with your child and tour camps together when possible. The more involved children are in the process, the more ownership they feel.

This helps ease concerns about camp, and can help make a child’s camp experience more successful. Also, make sure you consider the type of child you have. Each camp is different and you want to make sure your child is going to fit into the camp community.

Safety Procedures – Ask about what safety measures are in place at camp.

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Outside Review – You want to make sure that the camp you are looking into is inspected each summer by the Department of Health and ask if the camp follows the nationally known accreditation process of the American Camp Association. ACA accredits summer camps based upon 300 health, safety and program standards and it is the only national organization which establishes uniform standards for reviewing camps.

Need assistance in finding a camp? Families can contact the American Camp Association, New York and New Jersey’s Camper Placement Specialist Renee Flax for free, one-on-one advice in finding the right camp for their child.

Renee can be reached at 212.391.5208 or families can visit searchforacamp.org to search accredited summer camps.✲

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Tall Pines Day Camp

Philly's, South Jersey's, and the Shore's #1 Choice for Summer Camp

Open House

Saturdays Feb 7, March 14, April 18 & May 16

12:00-3:00pm

“New Family & Sibling Discounts” For boys & girls ages 3 to 14

50’ Zip Tower

with dual NEW800’ Zip Line

• horseback riding • swim lessons • archery and snack • ceramics • School of Rock Lunch provided • sports • ropes course Nut free facility • nature • extended care • tennis • gymnastics • crafts • teen program with travel • dance • half or full day, 3 & 4 year olds • drama • a/c buildings • golf • a/c transportation • woodshop • free camp shirt

66 acres of fun!

For registration rates and fees go to our website www.tallpinesdaycamp.com

Call today 856-262-3900

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The Sooner. The Safer.

• Beyond traditional swimming instruction • Children 6 months–6 years old • ISR Self-Rescue techniques– designed to help them survive should they find themselves in the water alone Contact ISR Master Instructor, Dawn Tapscott at 407.221.6062 or ISR Instructor, Christine Stinson at 610.909.9862 www.infantswim.com

SUMMER CAMP CHRISTIAN PLAYCARE CENTER SUMMER CAMP Ages 6-12 are invited to enjoy our large indoor/outdoor facility which offers weekly themed crafts and activities, weekly trips and a large outdoor pool with a certified lifeguard. Mention this add for FREE registration!

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By Patricia Mooneyham

pproximately 10% of women up to the age of 44 are diagnosed with some type of infertility according to the CDC. It is important to note that women are not the only ones who suffer with this illness. In relationships it is a 3 way split as to who is suffering from the illness between female/male and combination or even an unknown reason. Although with the trend of women waiting later to have children to focus on their careers, these percentages could be changing. Age is one of the contributing factors in infertility; a woman’s ability to conceive declines rapidly after the age of 30. The trend is so strong that company’s like Google and Apple have added cryogenic preservation of eggs to their list of eligible medical benefits to support women choosing to wait later to conceive.

There are multiple approaches in the battle against infertility. Surgery, pharmaceuticals, artificial insemination, and assisted reproductive technology are all treatments for the illness and most couples use a combination of these in their journey. While the causes and treatments may lie with one or both and the treatments vary by individual case there are a few things that are very important for any couple fighting this condition.

Infertility is a very private and personal illness. Many individuals and couples feel shame, inadequacy and a sense of personal failure around their inability to conceive. For this reason many couples suffer in silence.

Instead of suffering alone one of the best things a couple can do is build a support network of individuals to help them along their journey. Individ-

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Can Your Marriage Survive Infertility?

uals that can go to appointments and listen to recommendations and risks and offer you more objective feedback about treatment options than you may be capable of during this process. This can be a very emotional and draining journey even for the most determined.

Another helpful hint is to raise your level of self-care. Not just for the partner that may be experiencing the cause of the infertility, but for both partners. Taking extra steps for stress management, relaxation and just extra pampering allows the body to recover from the procedures, additional medications and stress that can take a toll on both parties and helps the body stay in balance. (There will be plenty of opportunities for selflessness once the baby arrives.) Ensuring that you are taking time for your relationship is also a vital part of the process. Some couples do not survive the physical, emotional, and financial stressors of the infertility process.

Be sure during the process to spend time with each other that is not focused on ovulation and conception. If possible try to even have sex not with any other goal in mind other than to enjoy each other. Don’t let your goal of becoming pregnant become more important than the relationship that made you want to have a family.

The last important thing to be clear about is your why. Is your journey about conceiving and having a baby? Or is it about becoming a parent and creating a family? These can be important questions to answer on your journey.✲

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Explaining the

Birds & the Bees

By Dolores Hoffman

“Where do babies come from?” is a question many parents dread. In fact, most parents dance around the issue and find it hard to give a clear answer.

So what’s the best way to talk with your kids about the birds and the bees?

Well, it depends on the age. Here are some tips to get the conversation started with your child.

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The “Big Talk” The “big talk” is a thing of the past. Teaching your child about sex should occur in “mini” sessions over time. The conversation should be age-appropriate. For example, if your six year old asks “Where do babies come from?” A simple answer like, “The mommy has an egg and the daddy has a sperm and together they make a baby,” is usually acceptable for most kids under the age of 7. As they get older, they may be curious about how these two things join together. You can elaborate on how male and female bodies fit together like puzzle pieces. Age-appropriate books with illustrations are also helpful. Introducing books around the age seven is a good idea, especially if you can’t find the right words on the subject. These talks should be more of an ongoing process, over time and on a need-to-know basis, and remind your child that while these topics are natural, they are also private.

If your child has not begun to ask questions, don’t ignore the subject. Also, take advantage of your child’s age. A ten year old will be more willing to listen because they’re not yet personally involved. The same is not true for a 14 year old. They become embarrassed and don’t want to talk, making the conversations that much harder.

Keep the Door Open Although, your child may not feel comfortable with the initial conversation, they may be inclined to come to you and ask more questions as issues come up and they become more curious.

Sometimes this can be brought on by body changes or something they’ve heard at school. A great place for these conversations is during a car ride because you can’t really make eye contact while driving so this takes some pressure off both of you or right before bedtime when your child is most likely to open up to you. Naturally occurring moments such as magazine articles, TV shows or news reports make for wonderful conversation starters.

Don’t Be Afraid Afraid that your child will ask you personal questions you won’t want to answer? Just think, if you don’t answer them, someone else will. Sticking our heads in the sand in hopes that our children will learn the correct information is naive. We live in a world that is saturated with sex. We’d rather they feel more comfortable bringing their questions to us. Most parents are afraid that, by talking about such issues, we are giving them the impression that we approve. But not talking about it will not keep them from outside influences. A good rule of thumb is to talk openly about issues and your value system. Answer questions as directly as possible.

Your influence on your child is more powerful than you think.

The best approach is to keep your answers age-appropriate and to always keep the line of communication open, even if it feels awkward. Remember, this doesn’t have to be a heavy subject.

Although talking to your child about sex is never easy, it gives you a chance to share your ideals and beliefs, so be ready for those all-important talks.✲

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Entries are due six weeks prior to the event and are filled on a first-come first-served basis. Space is limited.

ATLANTIC COUNTY Parenting Classes Jan 21 and 28, Feb. 4 and 11 Galloway, NJ FREE An award-winning series of parenting classes is being offered to parents and caregivers of children age 5-12. As seen on Oprah, topics include communication and cooperation, discipline and responsibility, as well as power conflicts, courage and self-esteem. Based on the National Parenting Curriculum “Active Parenting Now in 3” by Michael H. Popkin, PhD, this fourpart series will be held 6-8 on Wednesday, Jan. 21 and 28, Feb. 4 and 11 in Galloway. No cost to attend. To register, call Anne at the Mental Health Association at 609- 652-3800.

CAMDEN COUNTY The Winterfest Ice Skating Rink Cooper River Park Monday - Friday: 3 pm - 10pm Sat- Sun: Noon - 10 pm Rink will be open until Jan 6th.

Cooper River Park has been transformed into a winter

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wonderland with twinkling lights in the trees, vendors selling soft pretzels, hot chocolate and other tasty treats! The Winterfest Ice Skating Rink at Cooper River Park, presented by the Camden County Board of Freeholders, is located in the center of Cooper River Park’s Jack Curtis Stadium on North Park Drive in Pennsauken (5300 N. Park Drive, Pennsauken, NJ 08109). The 50 x 80 foot ice rink will be open until January 6th.

12 years old and younger: Free 13 years old and older: $4 Skate rental: $3 There is plenty of free parking in lots to either side of the stadium.

BURLINGTON COUNTY Winter Bird Count Amico Island Park January 6- All Day Burlington County’s version of the Christmas Bird Count!

Volunteers are needed to help count over-wintering species of birds in the County Parks. Group size should not exceed 10 people, so registration is required. Exact times will vary and will be given at the time of registration. Prepare for at least 2 hours of cold and windy weather. 81 Norman Ave. Delran, NJ 08075. Call 609-2655068 for more information and registration.

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January Calendar

GLOUCESTER COUNTY Gloucester and Camden County Home Show Virtua-Total Turf Experience January 9, 2015–11am to 9pm January 10, 2015–10am-9pm January 11 10am-6pm At the Home Show, our goal is simple: to inspire, motivate and excite you for your upcoming home improvement - whether it’s a minor renovation or a major remodel. Our events feature a wide selection of home improvement professionals in a fun, interactive environment.

After meeting with and comparing our expert exhibitors, we know you’ll be inspired and motivated to start planning with confidence.

More importantly, we want you to be excited for all the fantastic possibilities that come with your project! Virtua-Total Turf Experience- 614 Lambs Road Pitman, NJ 08071 Downtown Pitman January 23, 2015–5:00pm FREE Join us the Fourth Friday of each month 5-9 PM for an evening of art, music, classic cars, games and wholesome small town fun.

Rain or Shine. Highland Terrace Pitman, NJ 08071 Kids & Family Events Mullica Hill Branch Free Check out this link for the full schedule of events for kids and families to enjoy! www.gcls.org/calendar/childrensprograms/mullica-hill Gloucester County Library System/Mullica Hill Branch 389 Wolfert Station Road Mullica Hill, NJ 08062 856-223-6028

CUMBERLAND COUNTY Designer Bag & Basket Bingo January 16, 2015 Woodland Country Day School Woodland Country Day School is hosting a Designer Bag & Basket Bingo. If you or someone you know loves Coach, Michael Kors, Kate Spade, and Vera Bradley Bags and Baskets made by that famous company in Ohio then you don’t want to miss this funfilled evening. Bring a group of friends, family, co-workers and neighbors and join in the fun.

Tickets purchased by January 15th are $20.00 each, tickets at the door are $25.00 (ticket includes 20 games and a ticket for a Coach door prize). Doors open at 6 pm and games begin at 7 pm. There will also be raffles and a 50/50 during the evening so come ready to win! There will be food available for purchase along with baked goods and refreshments.

For tickets send your donation to Woodland Country Day School, 1216 Roadstown Rd., Bridgeton, NJ 08302. For additional information please call Diane at 856-4538499 ext. 112 or e-mail Diane at reesed@wcdsnj.org. Tickets make great holiday gifts! Woodland Country Day School is located at 1216 Roadstown Rd., Bridgeton, NJ 08302.

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Toy Tested by South Jersey MOMs and Kids

MOM: I appreciate the simplicity of the game and that there aren’t a lot of pieces to keep track of. The game is easy to play and the kids kept each other busy. Find It Dinosaurs has an educational component- kids use their reasoning skills and learn about dinosaurs in the process.

Nate: I played the Find It, Dinosaurs Edition game with my 5-year-old brother Jackson. We loved this game, especially the two-sided cards that describe what object you need to find. We had a blast trying to find the right dinosaur with- $20; Finditgames.com in the time limit. I would recommend this game to anyone that likes dinos between the ages of 4 and 10.

Cindy Lou and Sammy Too Go To The Mall: The Adventure of a Guide Dog Team

By Cheryl McNeil Fisher and Illustrated by Lisa O’Gorman Hofsommer

Come along and have some fun with Cindy and Sammy. They will teach you about blindness and a guide dog team. Sammy is proud of his job. He is a handsome Golden Retriever who will make you laugh as you learn!

It’s a terrific book for the young reader. The book teaches about blindness and answer questions about guide dogs and why some people need them. Kindle, $1

$22; Artterro.com

Isabella: I love the beads and sequins!

Caitlyn: The colorful paper is really pretty.

Book Reviews

For Kids

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MOM: My daughter Isabella, age 8 and her friend Caitlyn, age 9, enjoyed creating their own dolls using the Artterro Art Dolls Kit. They were able to sew colorful beads and sequins onto the felt dresses and added more color to their dolls by gluing their doll to the gorgeous paper that it came with. I like that it’s an ongoing fun craft, they can keep adding more to the dolls whenever they feel like being creative. The girls were very proud of their creations!

For Moms

What Alice Forgot

By Laine Moriarty

So imagine Alice’s surprise when she comes to on the floor of a gym and is whisked off to the hospital where she discovers the honeymoon is truly over — she’s getting divorced, she has three kids and she’s actually 39 years old.

Alice must reconstruct the events of a lost decade, and find out whether it’s possible to reconstruct her life at the same time. She has to figure out why her sister hardly talks to her, and how is it that she’s become one of those super skinny moms with really expensive clothes.

Ultimately, Alice must discover whether forgetting is a blessing or a curse, and whether it’s possible to start over. A great book to curl up under a blanket this winter, it’s hard to put down!

Kindle, $8 www.southjerseymom.com

SAVE THE DATE! South Jersey MOM Magazine Hosts Our 4th Annual

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FREE Admission and Parking

January 25, 2015 â&#x20AC;˘ 11am to 4pm Moorestown Mall

Join Us For a Great Family Day! Have fun visiting vendor tables and getting lots of free stuff and information about various camp and school programs!

Now is the time to start to plan!

Win Prizes, Free Face Painting, Magic Show, Live Dance & Karate Demonstrations!

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