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We’ve come a long way, baby! (You can take a look for yourself on page 18.) The good thing is that we are constantly improvmom 2 mom ing the magazine. Each 8 Is Your Child Dyslexic? month, we try to out-do 10 When Your Child Fails, How Will the previous month’s issue. You Respond? We’ve never become complacent with where we are; always want11 10 Things To Do in 2010 ing to do better, keeping you informed on what’s happening moms R women 2 in our area and in the lives of 13 Forgive and Forget, mothers. (You are not alone, no A Great Start matter how much it sometimes to the New Year day Camille! h t ir B d n feels that way.) 2 y Happ 14 Working Through This month is also Camille’s 2nd his month we celeDepression birthday. She grew up way too fast. Even brate South Jersey 15 Chick Lit: Start Your readers have written in, people who have MOM’s 3rd AnniNew Year Off Right never met me or my children, saying, “I versary! I can’t believe with Two Mom can’t believe Camille is so grown up; it it’s been three years. Must-Haves seems like just a couple of months ago, Kayden was just 9 you introduced her to South Jersey.” months old when I Time does fly… and kids do grow know 2 grow Reminicising over launched the up… and things 22 Is There a Wrong first issue. change. But one South Jersey Mom’s Way to Build SelfI’ve learned thing that won’t Esteem in Your Kids? so much about First Three Years change is my motherhood 23 Ask the ADDvisor c o m m i t ment, from my own and the commitchildren, and from features ment of our staff, South Jersey MOM. My 17 Ring In the New Year to keep bringing friends always joke that, with an Old Hollywood you relevant, oftentimes, some of the Themed Bash relatable material article topics reflect my 20 Three Firsts Every Mom Will to help you be the own issues with motherGo Through mom you want hood. I think it’s just a 28 Turning This World Upside Down to be. As always, coincidence and has more Kayden enjoys 28 Summer Camp Guide we welcome tothe hippos at to do with the fact that Great Adventu pic suggestions and re Aquarium! we cover topics ALL your feedback. Let also in this issue moms can relate to. us know what you 3 publisher’s note I thought it would be fun to rewind need, as we are here to serve you. 5 nana’s 2 sense time and take a look at what some of the (adrienne@southjerseymom.com). 6 life sentences very first issues of South Jersey MOM looked like. Looking back was like look24 business spotlight ing at old childhood pictures of one’s Your Friend and Fellow MOM, 25 just born self. You know when you see those pho26 business spotlight tos, you can’t believe the clothes you 27 thinking out loud were wearing or you’re embarrassed by 29 green mama the hideous hairstyles you used to have! 32 learning 2 learn Of course, back then you didn’t think 33 book review they looked so bad. That’s how it was 34 resource guide looking back at those very first issues. 35 things 2 do
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hen I was in grade school, a “window” was a way to dry my hair. Back then, only hair salons had blow dryers. My mother did finally get one of those dryers with a hose and a plastic poofy hat. It looked a lot like an inflated vacuum cleaner bag with the hose attached — only pink. You had to roll your hair and it took forever to dry. So I dried my hair in front of the “window” fan. It was pretty big and I could use it most of the year. In the winter, I sat on the floor in front of the heat vent. The vents were huge in the old house we lived in, about 1’ x 1’ square, so when the heat was blowing, it was a pretty good dryer. Today a “window” is a place on my computer where I spend a lot of time and get a lot of work done. And a “window” is also an important frame of time; an opportunity. Over the past three years, I have had the pleasure of spending almost every Monday with my grandson. My granddaughter Camille’s birth two years ago was an added bonus to my Mondays. Kayden started preschool this year so now on those Mondays, I only see him about 30 minutes before mom heads him out the door to take him to school. Which, by the way, he loves!
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So on this Monday, after Kayden went to school and mom went to meetings, I played with Camille. We colored with markers whose tops we could not find. We pretended to feed her baby and every stuffed animal with a magic plastic baby bottle that never goes empty. I brought her a pink and purple tutu to play dress up with and, when she finally decided that she wanted to wear it, she spun in circles until she dropped, giggling. I also brought her a lemon flavored lip gloss just for little girls. She loved it…so much that after an exorbitant amount of repeat applications on herself and all her dollies, mom had to take it away. I realized on this particular Monday that I am in the midst one of those windows of time. The window of Mondays I now have with Camille. So this year, and until that “Monday” window closes, I will most certainly cherish and try to make every moment with both my grandchildren very special. Whatever will I do with my Mondays when Camille starts school? —Nana Jean Nana Jean is a South Jersey grandmother with two daughters and six grandchildren. Enjoy her stories about her 38+ years as a mom and 19 years as a grandmother as she shares her experiences and lessons learned with lots of laughs and tears along the way.
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y little brother, Joey, stopped being little when I was 17. I know that because of an old snapshot we found. In it, I was ready to go out for the evening, keys to Dad’s car in hand, with my arms draped across the shoulders of Joey, 14, and Mickey, 13. They were Irish twins, six days less than a year apart, as different as chalk and cheese. Except, suddenly, they both made me look a little squatty. That picture was taken at a good time in our family, when we had three in college and I was a senior in High School. My father was acting gleeful about his impending empty nest. His plan was to spend his retirement years traveling the world, financed by his children, who
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would pay him back his fatherhood expenses, with interest. He’d cut out news items that tallied the cost of raising a child from birth to age 21, and pin them on the kitchen calendar with a note: PLEASE REMIT. The good time did not last. Two years later, Joey was going through surgery and radiation for a deadly type of cancer, and our father died suddenly of a heart attack. Joey tried to grow up quickly. By age 16, he had lost his father and his childhood within a few months. He found himself taking the four-hour trip to the hospital in a county-operated bus. He missed half his junior year of high school. He was bald from the surgery and tattooed from the x-ray treatments. Today, shaved heads and ink marks are everywhere. But in 1979, he drew stares like a circus freak. The cancer went away, but the radiation effects lingered. It had damaged the sleep center of his brain, so that now he slept sporadically, like an old man; up at night, drowsy during the day. Two strips of hair around his ears never grew back. And, like many childhood cancer survivors, he struggled to get started in adult life. We watched as he graduated from college, started a job and left it. He taught at Christian schools in the Do-
By Fran LoBiondo minican Republic and Canada, but lost the energy to keep it up. He got other jobs, lost them, got depressed, pulled himself up, got other jobs. He’d move back with our mother, move out, and, within a few months, move back, while his siblings, one by one, became exasperated with him. He never stopped being the little brother. Still, he clung to his faith in God, and, for the most part, kept his chin up. He loved corny jokes and puns and playing with his nieces and nephews. In recent years, after several strokes related to treatment, Joe became too physically disabled to work and was facing a long fight to get disability benefits. On a beautiful day in October, God in his mercy called Joe home. Preparing for the memorial service, I found another old photograph: Joey and me, on our front porch before the Thanksgiving Day game. We are looking fine, he in his garnet-and-gold band suit with fringed epaulets, and I in my braided color-guard dress with pom-poms on my boots. I am chewing him out for making us late, and he, my little brother, stood hunching his shoulders under my gale-force tirade. My mother, with her love for the candid shot, chose that moment to snap the picture. Looking at that image, I wish I could have cut out my own tongue. But that was Joey… everyone’s little brother, exasperating and lovable. Finally, he got to do something first. Fran LoBiondo of Vineland has children in grade school, high school and college. A Purdue University graduate with a degree in Journalism, she has written about parenting, food and fun for 25 yrs.
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earning to read is an important milestone for children. By kindergarten and first grade, children are associating sounds with letters and forming words from those sounds. They are beginning to recognize “sight words” and to spell words, if not correctly, at least phonetically. For some children, these skills come easily; but for others, learning to read is a challenge that can lead to frustration and leave parents with questions about their child’s development. One possible source of difficulty obtaining language skills is a learning disorder known as dyslexia. While only formal testing can determine whether a child is dyslexic, there are some signs parents can look for in their child that might indicate testing for the disorder is necessary. Preschoolers and young children may talk later than their peers. According to the International Dyslexia Association (www.interdys.org), they may add new words slowly or have a hard time rhyming words. Once they are in school, they might have difficulty with sight words, with relating letters and sounds and may reverse letters or letter orders. For example, q and p may look the same to them, as might god and dog. As kids progress through elementary school, additional symptoms might appear. For example, sequences can be challenging—from the alphabet to months of the year or similar such lists. When reading, kids might guess at words rather than sound them out. Words they have memorized are easily recognizable, but unfamiliar words present a challenge to dyslexic children. While language skills are where most symptoms are evident, dyslexia can affect math skills as well, as numbers can appear out of order or inverted (75 instead of 57 or 6 instead of 9). Bear in mind that many younger children who are not dyslexic start out confusing letters, numbers and words. Again, professional testing is the only way to determine whether a child is dyslexic. Once diagnosed, children with dyslexia are often able to learn better reading and writing skills using such methods as multisensory learning. The Wilson Language Training system (www.wilsonlanguage .org) is used in several New Jersey schools to help teachers help their students. These systems can help children who are dyslex-
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DYSLEXIC? By Renee Taylor Negin ic, as well as those who suffer from other language-based learning disabilities. Parents can use these types of language learning systems at home, also, to help their children improve their abilities. If your child is diagnosed with dyslexia, it’s important to remember they can still acquire a successful level of language learning. The sooner alternative teaching methods are put into place, the better level of success your child can reach. Parents should know that, even though dyslexia is a type of learning disability, dyslexic adults often exhibit extraordinary oral communication skills and can possess excellent memory skills. Dyslexic children can grow to become intuitive adults with successful careers and
great people skills. They are often entrepreneurs or work in fields such as graphic design, drafting, or art—fields where their ability to memorize details in print works to their advantage. While parents should pay attention to their child’s development, keep in mind that children develop at their own pace and learn in many different ways. But if warning signs do pop up, discuss them with a healthcare or education professional. The key to successful learning, whether a child is dyslexic or not, is finding the method that works best for your child. Take advantage of the resources available to help your child reach their fullest potential.
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he way that a child responds to failure is influenced by his own perception and the reactions of the people around him. While winning is good, there is also triumph in failure in the sense that it can teach you lessons guaranteed to last through life. When kids embrace failure as a normal part of life, they will not be afraid to try new pursuits, thereby allowing them to develop a healthy self-esteem. If your child feels he is not being appreciated for his efforts, he will work doubly hard just to gain your approval. In time, he will put it upon himself to always achieve just to please you. He will never be content with being just second best, thinking that it will not make you happy. And, when he finally succumbs to failure, it may just shatter his inner drive to keep on going. Let your child know that everyone gets to experience failure in small and big ways. He can lose in a game with his friend, or he may never get to join a much coveted sports team. During these instances, kids should never think they are already set for a lifetime of failure. Guide him on how he can make the experience positive, either by helping him develop his abilities, or by exploring his potential on other things. Even with hard work, there is still no guarantee that a child can get what he wants. What’s really important is that he’ll recognize failure should not put a halt to all his goals. It should, rather, be like a
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By Jane Heiza driving force to help him find his niche in this competitive world. When engaging in activities at home, do not expect your child to produce a perfect output. If your child is not happy with his drawings, tell him there is absolutely nothing wrong with crooked lines. If your child is frustrated, let him know it actually takes time to master a skill. But with dedication and practice, he can eventually develop the dexterity needed to make straight lines. Make the experience positive by complimenting him on his progress and his small achievements. Children should in no way associate affection with success. They should clearly know that, despite their missed attempts and their shortcomings, they are well loved. Try not to be overly critical, and always be
supportive. When kids hit rock bottom, they may easily recover with the knowledge that failure is always a part of life, and even great men experience failure. Your response to failure can also help shape your child’s reaction to future situations. Show your child it’s okay to make mistakes. If you just ruined a meal by adding too much of a particular ingredient, do not order take out just because you are frustrated. If your kids can see you start again from scratch, they may get the idea that they can always have a fresh start too. Young children may initially dislike the concept of failure or even losing. But when they get to see it’s just a stumbling block they can overcome, they may learn to develop the right attitude towards failure. Help your child overcome his fear of failure by encouraging him to pursue hisgoals. Life has no rewinds, and it’s best to live it to the brim. Jane Heiza is a mother of two and staff writer for Gagazine.com. To learn more about positive parenting tips and helping your kids to deal with failure, visit www.Gagazine.com.
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It’s a new year...and the perfect time to try something different
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Start a family tradition. We all have favorite childhood memories: fun stuff like pizza on Fridays, bagels and donuts on Saturdays, ice cream after each winning soccer game, and even $5 for every “A” on the report card. This year, start some new, creative traditions. Remember, they do not always have to include “junk” food and sweet treats. For example, call grandparents or family members on speaker phone once a week. Or, hang a dry erase board in the kitchen and write special family accomplishments.
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Challenge yourself. Do you have a bucket list? You know, things you want to accomplish in this lifetime? If you have not done so already, write it down and make it happen. There are a lot of interesting things to try, such as learning a second language or running a marathon.
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Organize your pictures. Whether you have a stack of printed pictures — or a ton saved to your computer — get organized! With online resources like Snapfish and Shutterfly, you can create flipbooks with captions or print out pictures. Prices vary, but are affordable.
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Set a new goal each month. This year, pick 12 things and stick to them. Your goals may include cleaning the garage, trying new recipes, using coupons whenever shopping or saving extra money for a family vacation. Whatever your goal, write it down and stick to it. It may be helpful to do some online research to help you get organized or get started.
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Teach your kids how to make their favorite foods. Whether it’s French toast or lasagna, teach your kids how to cook. It’s a great way to spend time together. Before you know it, you will have an assistant eager to help. One day, you may even have a personal chef!
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Go Green. Be “green” — and get your family onboard. It’s easy. Turn the lights off when leaving the room, limit showers to five minutes and reuse jars as storage containers. Use both sides of a piece of paper and recycle whenever possible. There are a lot of ways to be good to the environment. For more information, go online to Worldwatch Institute (www.worldwatch.org).
Give back to the community. Set a good example and teach your kids the importance of helping others in need. You may want to donate clothes you do not wear anymore or send care packages to soldiers overseas. You could even participate in awareness and fundraising walks and get in shape at the same time.
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aggage. We lug around the hurt, the resentment, the disappointment and the anger caused by what our husbands forgot, our girlfriends did and moms or moms-in-law said. We hold on to our negative feelings to punish the people who hurt us, when in fact we are only punishing ourselves. Forgiveness is good for the body. It helps melt away the tension and the stress locked in our muscles, helps build healthier relationships and restores our feelings and thoughts to a positive state. It’s also good for the people around us. When we are mad at someone, we end up taking it out on the people around us – innocent bystanders like sales clerks, coworkers and children bear the brunt of our baggage. Forgiving is difficult. It’s hard to let go. We want to lash out and get even, so we carry around feelings that are toxic to our systems and our relationships. How can we forgive somebody when we do not feel like they deserve our forgiveness? Why should we apologize when we were not the ones who were wrong? Forgiveness does not mean condoning what has happened to you. It does not mean they won and it certainly does not mean that it’s okay for them to repeat their behavior. Forgiveness means letting go of your anger and hurt and the power that those negative emotions hold over you. It means you are ready to move on. Forgiving is something you do for yourself, not for them. Benefits of forgiveness: It’s good for your heart. Less stress and anger means lower heart rate and blood pressure. Forgiveness improves sleep quality; it eliminates the tossing and turning at night, reliving those hurtful experiences. Forgiveness improves relationships, based on honest feelings and mutual respect, where you accept people for who they are and not who you want them to be. Forgiveness promotes a positive outlook. Letting go and moving on lifts your spirits and gives you a can-do attitude. Forgiveness increases self-esteem. Forgiveness improves your self-image and well-being when you accept yourself, faults and all.
Forgiveness strategies: Express yourself – use non-accusatory language and tone to explain how their actions affected you. Expel those negative feelings by putting them into words. If you are not ready to share your feelings with the offender, then write them down in a journal. Look for the positive – ask yourself what you have learned, rather than focusing on your emotions. Give yourself some distance and objectivity. Focus on good qualities – yours and theirs. Nobody is perfect, and that is okay.
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Protect yourself – acknowledge that the actions of others are beyond your control. Forgive and move on without bitterness and without exposing yourself to further upset. If you cannot be around that person without getting sucked back into the cycle of detrimental emotions, then perhaps it’s better to avoid those people and situations.
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Do not rehash the events and work yourself up over and over again. It’s draining and a waste of emotion and effort. Seek professional help – sometimes feelings and situations are too complex or traumatic to work through on our own. Consider talking with a therapist who will support you and help you work through the process. Be patient – forgiveness takes guts, wisdom, time and imagination. It’s a long journey made up of tiny steps. Forgive yourself – come clean without beating yourself up. Have compassion for yourself and for others. Recognize your own behavior and admit when you are wrong, at least to yourself. Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. Set yourself free from the snarl of emotions holding you back and governing your choices. Is it better to be right or to be happy? By forgiving others and forgetting what has been done to you, you will feel better about yourself. This is me, baggage-free.
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epression – the word itself sounds depressing. Depression is a serious medical condition that can affect men and women of all ages, races and economic levels. It can affect teenagers and children as well. It often interferes with a person’s ability to function in normal activities and can last for weeks, months and even years. The exact cause of depression is unknown, but many researchers feel depression is caused by chemical imbalances in the brain. These imbalances may be hereditary or caused by stressful changes or events in a person’s life. Depression is more than feeling the blues or being down in the dumps. It’s a state of mind that is often accompanied by hopelessness, sadness, discouragement and despair. As well as affecting your mood, depression can affect your thoughts, your behavior, your physical well-being and your outlook on life.
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your life such as a loved one’s death, a divorce, loss of a job, illness, abusing drugs and alcohol, and even happy events such as the birth of a baby or the holidays. Most people associate the birth of a baby with excitement and joy but childbirth can also cause feelings of fear and anxiety leading to depression. Many new moms experience postpartum depression, a more severe form of emotional distress. Symptoms include mood swings, anxiety, sadness, crying, irritability, problems concentrating and trouble sleeping. Approximately 10 percent of new mothers experience postpartum depression but, with prompt treatment, symptoms can be managed, allowing the new mom to enjoy her new baby. Most people go through some type of depression at some point during their lives so it’s important to know the symptoms. Whether the depression is mild or severe, accept the fact that you
Working through By Janice Harrell Depression can be mild or severe. People who are mildly depressed carry on with their normal lives but are less sharp in their thinking, less interested in things they were previously interested in and appear low in spirits. They continue doing necessary activities such as taking care of themselves and their family and going to work or school, but they often stop doing things they do not have to do. There are many treatment options for mild depression but the most effective are lifestyle changes such as getting enough sleep, regular exercise, a healthy diet and relaxation. Major depression occurs when a person has five or more of the symptoms below, for at least two weeks. These symptoms include: • Feeling sad, hopeless and worthless • Agitation, restlessness and irritability • Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much • Fatigue and lack of energy • Dramatic changes in appetite, often with weight gain or loss • Inactivity • Withdrawal from usual activities or loss of interest in activities that were once enjoyed • Extreme difficulty focusing or concentrating • Feelings of helplessness • Crying spells for no apparent reason • Difficulty making decisions • Feelings of self-hate and inappropriate guilt • Unexplained physical problems such as back pain or headaches • Thoughts of death or suicide
may need help. Something as simple as changing your lifestyle or, more seriously, finding a healthcare professional can help you work through depression.
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By Keri Mikulski Mothers Need Time Outs, Too By Susan Callahan, Anne Nolen and Katrin Schumann Do you ever feel pressured to be the “perfect” mom? Do you ever feel worn out, stressed or just plain exhausted? Well, time-outs aren’t just for toddlers anymore, according to Mothers Need Time-Outs, Too. Three mothers (one stay-at-home, one who works part-time, and one who works full-time) with ten children among them set off on a journey to answer ageold questions about parenting. After collecting stories from hundreds of mothers across the country, they discovered happy mothering begins with balance, and they have packed this amazing guide with useful momtested tips and tales. If you have ever felt frazzled, check out Mothers Need Time-Outs, Too.
Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls By Rachel Simmons Bestselling author Rachel Simmons uncovers the hidden truth about twentyfirst century female bullying with her 2002 sensation, Odd Girl Out. A fascinating and emotional read, Odd Girl Out exposes the abuse girls suffer day after day at the hands of their peers, and includes tactics on how to approach and help your ‘tween and/or teen daughter. In fact, this book is so powerful, The Boston Globe deemed Odd Girl Out “required reading for young girls and their mothers.” For more on female bullying, do not miss Odd Girl Out Speaks Out: Girls Write about Bullies, Cliques, Popularity and Jealousy. Keri Mikulski is the author of the upcoming Pretty Tough Series (Penguin/Razorbill), Screwball and its sequel, Change Up. Her first book in the Pretty Tough Series, FULL COURT PRESS, will be available in Winter 2011. Keri lives at the Jersey shore with her husband and daughter. Disclaimer: Occasionally, the columnist receives books from authors and publishers for the purpose of a review and/or recommendation. However, recommendations are based solely on South Jersey MOM’s audience and books that are sent directly to the columnist do not guarantee a recommendation.
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olleen Mullaney, entertaining maven and author of It’s 5 o’clock Somewhere, is celebrating the New Year with a classic chic flair. Many will skip the expensive glitzy parties this year and opt for more intimate gatherings amongst family friends. Just because you are skimping on expensive parties, do not skimp on glam, style and fun for the night’s festivities. Throwing an old Hollywood themed bash is a symbolic and great way to look to the past while bringing in the new. Mullaney touts, go classic. From cocktails that Ingrid Bergman would enjoy to nibbles that would have Bing Crosby dancing, throw a bash that celebrates the icons of past Hollywood while welcoming in the New Year and all that the future days will bring. Here’s how to do it.
Setting the Scene: Start with the invite, perhaps a black and white photo of Hollywood legends, or a vintage style photo of a champagne glass. Use a silver metallic marker to send a sparkling message about the soiree. Décor should be easy, but stylish. Black and white paper lanterns will add great dimension; use accents of silver and
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crystal. Candlesticks add festive glow through the night. Photocopy vintage photos of stars and place them around the party space for added fun. Fresh or faux flowers of lilies in silver cups give a colorful fresh retro feel. Eats, Drinks and Treats: Next, decide on the cocktails and menu. A signature cocktail will set the stylish scene and is an instant party starter. Try something that’s classic but that will appeal to the masses. Nibbles can be anything from cheese sprinkled popcorn to spiced nuts. More substantial bites could include bite-sized brie in puffed pastry, stuffed mushrooms and, a classic by any standard, Swedish meatballs. Entertainment: Do not forget to make a playlist for the evening. It should start out with classic tunes to start, and move into dance tunes to get everyone in the mood to ring in the New Year with pizzazz! If a television will be in the room where the party is taking place, play a classic black and white movie (be sure to turn off the sound, so as to not clash with the music). For a little added fun, bring out your digital camera and set up an area where you can have couples and attendees pose for old Hollywood style photos. Have a few props, such as a boa, top hat, long gloves and huge faux diamond ring. Later, you can create an album on your favorite
social site or web-based photo sharing site. Do not forget the little party goers: If your party will have little ones in attendance, definitely include them in the fun. Set a festive table for them, complete with plastic champagne glasses and create a mocktail that is Tinsel-town worthy. Create a star studded centerpiece by hanging glitter covered paper stars from branches. Add fun to dips with star-shaped chips simply cut out of tortillas with a star shaped cookie cutter and lightly fried.
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• 12 flour tortillas • 1 tablespoon melted butter • colored sugar • ¾ cup powdered sugar Pre-heat oven to 350 degrees. Fold each tortilla in quarters much like you would fold paper when making a snowflake. Cut out shapes with scissors. On a cookie sheet, place the snowflakes and brush with melted butter. Sprinkle each with colored sugar. Bake 5 minutes and let cool at room temperature. Dust with powdered sugar and serve. Whether hosting an adult or familyoriented party, these are easy to do ideas that keep the party going! For more tips, crafts and recipes visit www.colleenmullaney.com.
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By Renee Taylor Negin outh Jersey MOM is turning three! The magazine, founded by Adrienne Richardson of Vineland, has grown up in these first three years. Adrienne has grown too. South Jersey MOM Magazine was conceived by Adrienne as a way to satisfy her creativity and drive while staying home to care for her child. During her pregnancy, Adrienne attended business courses and mapped out her plans for the magazine. Adrienne’s son, Kayden, was born in May 2006, and postpartum depression almost kept the magazine from becoming a reality. When she searched for resources for herself and found them lacking, she knew she had to share her story with others. Nine months after Kayden was born, South Jersey MOM premiered. Now, three years and one daughter later, the magazine and Adrienne are both thriving. Being a parent and a business owner is rarely easy, and Adrienne admits it’s a constant balancing act. Kayden, now 3½, attends preschool full time, and Camille, 2, naps after lunch. Adrienne takes advantage of their schedules to work on the magazine. She admits there are times where she has to decide whether to work or to play, but also appreciates that she can be flexible with her schedule in order to spend time with her family. Adrienne’s husband, Eric, was skeptical of the idea of starting a magazine from scratch. However, he has witnessed the success of the
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magazine and now he’s her biggest fan. Adrienne is proud of South Jersey MOM, and she is passionate about it too. She still runs the magazine from her home, keeping the overhead as low as possible and allowing her to be with her children. All of her employees work from their homes as well. The employees of the magazine are able to contribute their talents to the magazine while taking care of their families. The sales reps, the graphic designer, and the writers all put their hearts into making the magazine the best it can be. The readers love the articles and can relate to the topics the magazine addresses. Each month, Adrienne writes a note to lead off the magazine, and many times she has been told that people feel like they know her from reading her notes. Adrienne admits her struggles as well as her triumphs in these notes, willing to share her personal life with the community she feels so connected to. During the rough economic conditions of the past couple of years, many businesses have folded. South Jersey MOM has had its share of struggles too, but is doing well. Readership is steadily rising and there are plans to expand into other markets in the next year or two. Adrienne points out that the magazine and its readers—that she and her readers—are part of each other’s lives. “We’re not going anywhere,” she says. “We’re here for you.”
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South Jersey MOM’s In a recent poll, 70 percent of readers said they read the magazine cover to cover. To Adrienne, this is further evidence of the connection between the magazine and the community. She feels that South Jersey MOM is both about and for its readers. Adrienne enjoys getting letters from readers. Oftentimes, they are writing to compliment the magazine, to ask about the writers, or to suggest a topic. She looks forward to continuing that personal relationship with her readers, and hearing from them about what they like about South Jersey MOM and what they want more of. “If there’s a topic someone wants covered, you should definitely contact us and tell us about it. We love to hear from you.” South Jersey MOM will continue to thrive and grow in the South Jersey area. The magazine will continue to provide local resources, valuable information and a sense of family to the South Jersey community. Happy Anniversary, South Jersey MOM! Here’s to your three years of success and many more to follow.
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First Crush…Falling in Love on a Play Date ’m not a fan of play dates, but I’ve learned to call another mother and schedule time for our children to eat my food and mess up my house. If it were up to me, I’d send them into the street to find a friend, but I go along. As my kids get older, though, I’m faced with a new kind of play date: coed. It started when my son came home from school excited about a certain girl he’d been partnered with on a field trip. Sitting together and giggling, they became more than friends. “It’s a very exciting relationship,” my son said. Before I could process this information he added a juicy tidbit. “We’re going to either Hawaii or the Bahamas for our honeymoon so she can wear those coconuts on her nipples.” I was speechless. “Sorry, breasts,” he said. Like that was better. I pushed the honeymoon thing out of my mind until later that night when he asked me for my engagement ring. Yeah right—as soon as your dad upgrades me to the two carat. Things were moving fast, but I appreciated the upside. The same hormones causing my son to smell like a hamper were now making him like girls enough to want to lose that stink. When he showered, the intoxicating aroma of AXE body wash and spray filled the house. When it comes to grooming, we are working on less is more. But information-wise, more is always
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more. I had to play it cool. “What do you call it when you like someone and they like you back?” I asked when I tucked him in that night. “The other kids call it being a couple,” he said. “But I don’t like that.” Oh good. “Because we’re still just getting into each other.” He had a point. “Can we have a play date?” I froze, wondering about the protocol. Do I call the mom? Does he call the girl? Can I send them to the playroom like I do with the rest of the neighborhood rugrats or do I have to chaperone? The next day I called the mother and invited the girl over to play. I even invited the little brother to come along to make it less of a date. Now he and my daughter are engaged too. “We’re getting married,” she said, flashing me the Ring Pop she received. I’ll have to get used to it, this passage from play dates to dating, from dating to rings. And when the big moment comes, I hope my daughter will hold out for something better. But really, a candy ring isn’t so bad. It’s big, it’s gaudy, and when you break up, you can eat it.
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New Moms Need to Take Care of Themselves Too s soon as anyone knows you are pregnant, expect to hear every birth and pregnancy horror story they know. You will receive unsolicited advice and everyone will want to touch your “baby belly.” Rarely helpful, these invasions of your pregnancy bliss can range from annoying to infuriating. Becoming a mother is the hardest and best calling in the world. A new mom cannot imagine how much she is going to obsess over the new baby – 24 hours a day every day for the rest of her life. However, there are five things a new mother should know that will help her transition to motherhood.
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None of us are perfect. Stop expecting yourself to be the perfect mom. All moms make mistakes so learn from them.
2. Even in the earliest days of new motherhood, take time to nurture yourself. Do something every day for yourself, even if it’s just to eat an ounce of dark chocolate.
3. A mom needs to make sure she has balanced nutrition, gets as much sleep as possible, exercises and enjoys some relaxation. A happy, content mom goes a long way in fostering content children and family.
4. Continue learning new skills while you are growing a support system for your
By Judy M. Schneider, IBCLC mothering. Ask experienced moms whom you respect to share their mother craft. Seek balance in your mothering and your whole life. This is a hard task because you are a new, inexperienced, but committed, mom. Ask for help and delegate even if your help does not do it your way. Done their way is better than not done at all.
5. Finally, when all else fails, laugh. Tears and laughter are both cleansing and therapeutic. Laughter is more fun, raises your endorphins and elevates everyone’s mood. Look for the humor and laugh out loud every day. Cheers and Happy Mothering! Visit our website and sign up for our e-newsletter
Parenting Your First
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here are two types of first-borns. Although they both desire control, they use different methods to attain it. The first type is a compliant nurturer or caregiver. The second type is an aggressive mover and shaker. Both types exhibit many of the first-born traits listed below.
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Firstborn Traits • Natural leader – majority of politicians, directors and spokespersons are firstborns • High achiever – sets goals and reaches them • Picky and precise – pays attention to detail and expects perfection • Organized and competent • Punctual • Likes to be in control and does not like surprises • Can be moody and lack sensitivity • Can be intimidating and refuse to take no for an answer • Sometimes can be a “know-it-all” • Often bossy and feel they are right • Responsible and tries to keep the rules; will misbehave if rejected • Tries to please others, especially adults, may not say “no” or disagree because they do not want to cause problems
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If your child is a first daughter or first son with an older sibling of the opposite sex, he or she might exhibit firstborn traits. Your child might also exhibit firstborn traits if there are more than five years between the child and the older sibling. Don’t expect perfection Your child already puts a lot of pressure upon him/herself, so do not have higher expectations than what the child can achieve. Firstborns will set goals for themselves. Make sure the goals are not too difficult to attain or they will become frustrated. Make sure your child is aware of what your expectations are; otherwise, they may assume they are higher. Psychologist Kevin Leman says firstborns seek their parents’ approval. “For instance, let’s say you ask your oldest son to make his bed. If you tell him it looks good but then proceed to fluff the pillow and straighten out wrinkles in the bedspread, you send the message that he could have done better.”
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Don’t demand too much Older children often do more work than their younger siblings. Divide the workload as soon as the younger child is capable of helping. Do not expect your first born to be an instant babysitter. Check with their schedule and pay them when appropriate. Do not put too many responsibilities on your child. You cannot expect a six year old to watch her younger siblings and then be responsible if something happens. Let her know it’s not her fault and praise her for telling you about the incident. Provide one-on-one time Firstborns enjoy adult company. They often feel their parents do not pay attention to them because they are consumed with younger siblings. Spend time with your firstborn, sharing an activity the two of you enjoy.
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Teach patience Eldest children are often bossy. They can do more than their younger siblings, so they may feel as if they are better. Remind them that they were young once and encourage them to have patience. Help your child work through his or her frustrations with younger siblings. It’s their job to teach their siblings, not rule over them. Fun Firstborn Facts • Fifty-two percent of US presidents have been first born children, and most of the others were firstborn sons. • Many newscasters and TV talk show hosts are first born, e.g., Walter Cronkite, Peter Jennings, Dan Rather, Ted Koppel, Oprah Winfrey, Phil Donahue, Geraldo Rivera, Arsenio Hall and Rush Limbaugh. • Twenty-one out of the twenty-three astronauts sent into space were firstborns and two were only children. • Oldest children are overrepresented among college faculty. This article was provided by Families.com – a community rich with articles, ideas, forums and blogs from family-minded participants. They collect the best information and resources for family living and publish the Internet’s largest collection of familyrelated blogs with new entries appearing each day.
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Is there a Wrong Way to build self-esteem in your kids? By Terri Akman
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here are different schools of thought about promoting self-esteem in children. The pendulum swings back and forth from one generation to the next in the belief that you must constantly build up your kids to make them feel special and important. The opposing view suggests that kids must fit into society, and if you make them believe they are too special, they will become narcissistic and have trouble surviving in the real world. According to well-known family therapist Daniel Gottlieb, best known for his award-winning radio talk show Voices in the Family on WHYY and his most recent book, Learning from the Heart, parents
should not pursue self-esteem for their children. That should be a byproduct of the love and support you give them. “Kids don’t have to know that they’re great and wonderful, they have to know that they’re loved,� he points out. “Research shows that kids coming out of college are self-absorbed, less resilient, more narcissistic and their depression rate is going up. Kids should grow up thinking they are human, they are loved, they are similar to everybody else and they have the ability to make a contribution to the world, to help other people. That’s where the gifts are.� Michael Kresloff, Moorestown dad of two boys, ages 5 and 2, views helping his children develop a strong sense of selfesteem as one of the most important things he can do as a father. “I’ve heard it said that praising children repeatedly helps kids feel good about themselves, but this has always felt hollow
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to me,� he explains. “I just don’t see how I can create self-esteem through praise alone. I really think, for the most part, a child has to have self-esteem grow from within.� Kressloff adds that he does not want his kids to ever feel that he has unrealistically high expectations of them. �Sure, I have certain fundamental expectations, but I want my kids to be who they are, not who they think I want them to be,� adds Pam Girgenti, who has 5 and 6 year old daughters and lives in Marlton. “Teaching your children about self-esteem means letting them know you love them, mistakes and all.� Susan Ambrose, mother of three children, ages 8, 7 and 5, from Moorestown, says, “I tell the kids never, never leave anyone out of anything and always stick up for other kids if they can’t do it themselves.� Ambrose teaches her children to believe in themselves and encourages them to always feel confident to come to their parents seeking advice or help. She also urges them to “dream big� and take responsibility for their actions. While most parents try to build up their children’s confidence with praise, Gottlieb urges parents to be careful how they do that. Reinforce a behavior, such as “you did great on that test, and I’m happy for you and proud of you.� But do not go overboard and tell them that they are a math genius. “Over time, they’ll come to know that there’s something precious inside, and they’ll learn that by knowing that they’re loved and secure and they have successes and failures,� Gottlieb says. Terri Akman is a freelance writer and preschool teacher at M’Kor Shalom in Cherry Hill. She has three children and lives in Voorhees. Check out her blog at www.preschoolteach.blogspot.com.
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materials, prioritizing assignments and managing time. 4. Doing the work by putting forth extra effort on a boring task. Those with ADD have brains that shut down complex, tedious tasks without stimulation. 5. Pack up book bag. 6. Turn the homework in.
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How much time should I allow my child to spend on homework?
The rule of thumb to follow is 10 minutes per grade level. Typically children with ADD take two to three times longer to complete homework than their peers. As your child gets older, the amount of time it takes causes distress and takes away from the benefit of homework. Schedule a meeting with your child’s teacher. Bring samples of work with notes on how long it took to complete each assignment and what it took to get it done. Ask for suggestions and have a follow up meeting. If the struggle continues, your next step is to request a 504 Plan* in writing, which will provide accommodations and modifications for homework and in-class support. If your child is on medication, you may want to contact your physician and ask about a small Moorestown Friends School dose after school to Our college preparatory program runs help with homeseamlessly from Preschool (age 3) – Grade 12. work, but one that won’t keep your Learn more about a transformational education for your child at an upcoming Open House: child up at night. Your physician will Sunday, January 24, 2 p.m. help you determine Thursday, February 18, 7 p.m. (Middle/Upper School only) if this is best for Saturday, February 20, 10 a.m. (Lower School only) your child.
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Allow your child to unwind for a half hour before starting homework. During this time, try to have your child do something physical: stationary bike, treadmill or good old fashioned outside play. Research indicates physical activity improves focus. Make sure your child starts homework immediately afterwards to utilize this benefit. Your role is to provide structure, support and encouragement…not to re-teach them the work. Homework is for your child, not you! Stay focused on actually learning something from it, rather than just getting it over with or earning the grade. To be successful, most of the children I see need to have a behavior modification program in place which has been designed specifically for them. A “one size fits all” approach is not beneficial. This involves setting up rules, rewards and consequences along with parent coaching.
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If your child is anything like others with ADD, your child’s room and book bag probably look like a disaster area. You can help your child by color-coding his or her textbooks, notebooks and folders by subject area. Visuals are extremely helpful to children with ADD. Post a list of what needs to be done, and in what order, after school. A clear plastic folder works well for holding completed homework.
*A 504 Plan is a legal document that protects those with disabilities or other health impairments so they can receive special accommodations in school to achieve better learning. Linda Karanzalis, M.S., founder and owner of ADDvantages Learning Center in Cherry Hill is the coordinator of CHADD of South Jersey, a non-profit organization serving children and adults with attention deficit disorder. Listen to her “Ask the ADDvisor‚” radio show on 92.1 FM. For more info contact Linda Karanzalis at (856) 482-0756 or at www.addvantageslearningcenter.com.
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Your Child’s Very Own Dentist By Terri Akman
here is nothing cuter than a gapped-tooth smile on a child, especially when his or her teeth are healthy. Today, parents recognize that strong teeth do not just happen, and that dental care is an important part of your child’s overall health. Luckily, Your Child’s Very Own Dentist is on a mission to keep your children’s smiles in tip-top shape. The colorful, kid-friendly office is welcoming to kids and parents alike. What makes Your Child’s Very Own Dentist different from the dentist you grew up with is their devotion to early prevention of dental issues. “We want to see patients as young as possible to instill good habits,” explains Stacey Yandoli, one of the five pediatric dentists serving offices in Sewell and West Deptford. “That, ideally, starts when the mother is pregnant because, even in the very beginning, you can affect your child’s future oral health.” Your Child’s Very Own Dentist offers informal monthly hourlong seminars for parents to discuss things they can do to help prevent dental decay in their children. “A lot of the focus is getting the mom’s oral health to be as good as it possibly can be,” suggests Yandoli. “Studies show that
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the mom’s bacterial flora is passed on to their children and some of these bacteria are the ones that cause dental decay.” The group sees kids from infant to adolescent. Families are encouraged to bring their children in for their first visit when the child reaches age 1 or six months from the eruption of the first tooth, whichever comes first. That visit gives the kids a chance to meet the dentist and get a feel for the office, which has kidfriendly DVDs running at every chair. This visit also provides a chance to further educate parents about important dental health tips. Topics of discussion include: habits to avoid, when to discontinue the bottle, non-nutritive sucking issues (such as the use of pacifiers) and healthy food choices. “There are hidden dangers in kids’ diets; things you wouldn’t consider a ‘bad snack’ but are actually pretty bad for your teeth,” points out Yandoli. “Fruit snacks and fruit roll-ups are sometimes advertised as being healthy, like fruit, and maybe have Vitamin C in them. But, they are so sticky and high in sugar [that] they don’t come off the teeth, even with good brushing.” Juice is another problem for children’s teeth, as it’s so high in sugar content. Parents think diluting juice with water fixes the problem, yet, by sipping even diluted juice out of a sippy cup all day, the kids are still constantly bathing their teeth in sugar. “Your mouth never gets the chance to go back to a good environment to fight decay,” says Yandoli. Your Child’s Very Own Dentist understands that education is the front line defense against cavities and other dental issues. Come in, meet the staff and find out how you can best keep your children’s teeth healthy. With the new year under way, make a resolution to stay involved with your children’s dental routine. When brushing, check to see they are reaching all of their teeth, that their gums are not bleeding and, if they do not have the manual dexterity to floss, be sure to help them out. Dr. Yandoli’s partners are Gregory McGann, D.M.D and Paul A. Simons, D.M.D. Their team also includes associates George T. Lynch IV, D.M.D, Judith Samselski, D.M.D. and orthodontist Janine R. Trindade, D.M.D. They always have a dentist on call to handle emergencies. For more information call (856) 589-6886 in Sewell, or (856) 848-2211 in West Deptford. Or, visit them on the web at www.kidsowndentist.com.
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Bottle Snugglers Need an extra hand? This bottle support system is designed to assists during baby’s feeding time. It supports the bottle while you hold the baby, leaving a hand free. No more propping the bottle under your chin or on unstable surfaces! Just insert the bottle into the Bottle Snuggler, position it properly, and everyone wins. Great for parents with multiples. Machine washable. $23.95, www.Bottlesnugglers.com
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Stay With Me Socks Finally…socks that stay on baby’s feet! This unique design helps keep little socks on tiny feet until they are taken off. Stay with Me Socks also loop together easily for washing. No more lost socks! 0 – 14 months. $4.50 and up, Target or www.staywithmesocks.com
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My Baby Zoo This unique and cute sleep trainer shows, in an intuitive way, when your child is allowed to get out of bed or still needs to catch some sleep: Eyes Closed – “I should be sleeping”, Eyes Open – ”Rise and shine!” $34.99, www.mybabyzoo.com
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Grippies The no-slip solution for tights, socks and gloves. Now you don’t have to worry about the kids slipping on tile or hardwood floors. Make any pair of sock or tights non-slip. Available in various shapes. Offered in adhesive and iron-on options. $5.99 and up, Target or www.grippiesonline.com
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Eti-Kits: Napkin Clips Growing up we were always told to place a napkin in our laps, the only problem is little ones tend to move a lot, which means by the time something spills those napkins are gone. This is where Napkin Clips come in. Perfect for diners of all ages who want to keep their clothes clean while dining at the table or on the go. 6 clips for $8, www.Eit-kits.com
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Spoonful of Comfort Be comforted by the warmth and greatness of old-fashion chicken soup; a home-style taste that even grandmas would approve of! Chicken soup has long been touted by grandmas everywhere as being “good for what ails you”. If someone you love is sick, sad or having a bad say…send a little comfort their way! $32, www.spoonfulofcomfort.com.
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HOW TO BE
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anuary is the busiest time for those who want to get back into the habit of a healthy lifestyle, get into shape and lose those few extra pounds they gained over the holidays. New Year’s resolutions provide the additional drive to make some changes. The unfortunate reality is that most New Year’s resolutions are broken within the first week and more than half are completely forgotten by the end of January. Why do we give up on our resolutions? Most people fail at keeping their resolutions because they were not 100 percent committed, had poor planning, lacked time management or lacked support. How can you break the cycle this year and stick to your resolutions? “Resolve” means to decide with determination and a fixed, firm purpose. So, if you are not 100 percent committed to reaching your resolution, then it’s only an idea or a wish. Once you have made the commitment, you will want to make some S.M.A.R.T. goals for yourself. Here is an easy formula for setting those goals:
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Attainable – When you plan your steps wisely and establish a realistic time frame, you can attain most goals.
Realistic – A realistic goal must represent an object for which you are both willing and able to work. Timely – A goal should be grounded within a time frame. With no time limit, there is no sense of urgency. Remember to be patient with yourself. Constantly remind yourself of the commitment you have made. Measure and track your progress often. Do not be too hard on yourself. Stick to it and you will achieve your resolutions. If you need more help, contact Shape It Up Fitness. They have helped many people, just like you, master their metabolism and fire up their fat-burning furnace. Their exclusive S.H.A.P.E. 26 | January 2010
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MAYBE IT’S TIME TO PREPARE TO CARE FOR OUR PARENTS!
Another Chance
By Eileen Bishop
ecember 31, 10 p.m.: big plans for 2010 are being made in my head and I am very gung-ho about it! January 1, 12:01 a.m.: I have already started forgiving myself for resolutions broken. I figure I’d better get to bed before I really start waffling! By January 7, most of my big ticket promises are laying by the side of the road, abandoned. I do not linger long in my shame because I have decided that, sometimes, the small promises are the most important to keep because, like many small embers, great flames can take flight‌how is that for rationalization?!? In all seriousness, my philosophy is to try and put into practice the lessons learned through mistakes made as a mother, a wife, a friend, a daughter, a human. So instead of beating myself up for the stupid thing I did last September, when a similar situation comes up in February, I will, hopefully, deal with it better, based on my experience. I think the trick will be putting my money where my mouth is, but only time will tell. One of the promises I plan on keeping and which will probably cause me the most angst is to try and wear my rose-colored glasses a little more often. Whereas, I know correcting my many faults and keeping my many promises of self-improvement is an ongoing effort, if I don my glasses and peer into a mirror, I may cut myself a break because I will see a woman who tries every day to do the right thing and does not do all that badly by her family. Sure, she yells like a banshee on the warpath more often than she would like. She lets her kids watch more than the recommended amount of television and she orders out at least once a week, but at the end of the day, her children kiss her and hug her and tell her she is the “best and beautifulest mom everâ€? and her husband still looks at her like a beauty queen. Sweet. Look, it’s simple. We’re human. As parents, we have to understand that we are not dealing with peers; we are dealing with a very intelligent, high-energy being and doing the right thing at the right time with the right temperament is, to say the least, hard. We do the best we can, we pray every day that it’s the right thing and that tomorrow will be a better day‌ even if today was a great day. There is no job in the world, which I am sure you will agree, better than being a mom. Nothing compares – nothing. If we can resolve in the New Year to try and enjoy it as much as absolutely possible, I think that is enough. It’s enough for our kids to see us smiling because, in their minds, if we are smiling, they are not in trouble‌ what more could a kid ask for? Happy, healthy 2010 all you South Jersey moms (and dads secretly reading)!! May you wear your rosy glasses often and cut yourself the same breaks your kids cut you daily.
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Eileen Cassidy Bishop is a National Sales Rep turned stay-at-home mom from Florence, NJ who, along with her husband Gene, is raising their two children, Leo and Catherine and doing whatever she can to keep her name from coming up at her children's therapy sessions twenty years from now! January 2010 | 27
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his month, on January 18, we celebrate our newest national holiday, one that we have celebrated for less than 20 years: Martin Luther King Jr. Day. My children are happy to have no school that day, but I’ve wondered, do they know why we celebrate? I asked my children what they knew about Martin Luther King Jr. The answers they gave were pretty accurate: he fought for civil rights for African Americans, he spent time in jail, he led a march in Washington, he wrote the “I Have a Dream” speech, and somebody shot him. My children had been taught well. But I couldn’t help but feel that the knowledge they had was a little rehearsed. It was just knowledge… knowledge in the head, but not in the heart. This bothered me. I want my children to understand the significance of this holiday and, most especially, the significance of the man himself. I want to teach my children about Martin Luther King Jr. and the great things he did to promote equality in this nation. I want them to understand his intelligence, his great speaking skills, his faith and, most importantly, his courage. I wanted to make this great man more real and meaningful to them and to their lives, not just another excuse to skip school. I headed to the library, where I checked out lots of books on the subject. Buried in my stack of library books, I found one sparkling solution to my quest. It’s called, My Brother Martin: A Sister Remembers Growing up with the Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., (Simon and Schuster, 2003). It’s written by Martin Luther King Jr.’s big sister, Christine King Farris. Written in a simple, straightforward style, this book tells what it was like growing up with her brother, Martin Luther King Jr. Christine describes her childhood with M.L. (the family’s nickname for Martin) and their youngest brother, A.D., “…like three peas in a pod, we grew together. Our days and rooms were filled with adventure stories, and Tinkertoys, with dolls and Monopoly and Chinese checkers.” M.L. also liked to play baseball with the white boys across the street until the children’s mother put an end to it. Trying to explain to the confused children why this happened, M.L. and Christine’s mother said, “Because they don’t understand that everyone is the same, but someday, it will be better.” According to his big sister, M.L. looked into his mother’s face and said, “Mother Dear, one day I’m going to turn this world upside down.” Which of course, he did. What struck me about this story was that, in fact, Martin Luther King Jr. was just a regular kid with some remarkable insights. 28 | January 2010
Insights we hear every day from our own children, if we take the time to acknowledge and nurture these insights into action. On top of that, he had exceptional parents, who provided models of courage and integrity to their children. According to Christine, “… a police officer pulled Daddy over and called him ‘boy’. Daddy pointed to M.L., sitting next to him in the car, and said, ‘This is a boy. I am a man, and until you call me one, I will not listen to you.” So this year, my children and I are talking differently about Martin Luther King Jr. Sure, we remember the great speeches and the thousands who marched with him to Washington. But mostly, we remember a little boy. A boy who knew from an early age that he would fight for justice for all people. Using little M.L. as an example for themselves, my children are thinking that perhaps they too can speak up when someone is being excluded or bullied or shunned because they are different. As a parent, I’m thinking differently about this day too. I’m looking for ways that I can nurture that spark in my children, the one that will make them want to fight for justice and peace in this world, just as Martin’s parents did. And I’ll be looking for ways that I can be a model of justice and courage for my own children. Christine King Farris ends the book, “… my brother never forgot the example of our father, or the promise he made to our mother on the day his friends turned him away. And when he was much older, my brother M.L. dreamed a dream…that turned the world upside down.” Maybe with a little effort and a lot of courage we can all do the same.
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he days are shorter and the nights are colder. Winter months keep us inside more often, which means we use more energy. Try some of these easy tips to decrease energy use. The tips will carry over into the warm weather months as well.
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Turn off the lights/TV/computers when you leave a room. Keep the heat on the lowest comfortable setting. Switch to CFL or LED light bulbs. Line-dry clothes as much as possible. Wash dishes in a full dishwasher. Teach your children the importance of these energy-saving measures and they too will do their part. These little tips will bring big savings to your energy bills and reduce your carbon footprint. Sheila Taney has two children and resides in Cherry Hill. She is passionate about teaching her children and others how they can participate in saving the environment.
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learning 2 learn
If You Suspect a
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ell, it’s that time of year. Teachers have finished reviewing material and getting the children acclimated to their new class and grade. Some children may be starting to show stress, resistance or difficulty learning the new curriculum. These are often subtle indications of covert learning difficulties. If your child is being taught well, is doing all assignments and attending school regularly, then academic struggling points to a difficulty in how they process information. Talk to your child’s teacher to stay on top of things and get their feedback. Monitor your child’s progress and problems closely and do not go more than another marking period to find out what is really going on for your child. Trust your instincts and do not let anyone “talk you out of” what your gut is telling you. You know your child best! You have the right to request that a comprehensive learning evaluation be done to determine if your child does have any learning difficulties. Very often, comments about not paying attention, failing to get their work done on time or an inability to stay on task are red flags that may signal learning disabilities. If you choose to have your child evaluated, here are some critical suggestions: First, request an evaluation by sending a letter (not an email) to the director of your township’s child study team. By law, they are required to send you a response. When the meeting has been scheduled, make sure you bring a friend or preferably an advocate with you. Just as we seek lawyers, accountants, etc. to help us with important legal issues, so too is this a legal matter; and unless you are an experienced special education specialist, you need another objective “set of ears” with you as support. You will receive a lot of information and your emotions may interfere with your ability to really hear everything being said. Tape record all the sessions. This is perfectly legal and there should not be any problem unless there is something to hide! Again, write a letter to the appropriate person to inform them that you will be doing so. Understanding the process of interpreting diagnostic tests is the most important piece of information. Most districts still use the “Discrepancy Model” which is a subjective approach to determining if a child has a learning disability or not. The criteria are subjective, vary from town to town and never have been supported by scientific research or proven to have any correlation to learning disabilities. The discrepancy is between the Standard IQ score and the academic achievement scores. Basically, what the Discrepancy Model indicates is if your child is an over achiever who has an unidentified learning disability or if your child is an underachiever who probably has a learning disability! The WISC, WIAT and WJ III are the usual tests used. Through years of sitting on both sides of the desk, testing children for learning disabilities and then working directly with them in remediating learning problems, it has become very clear to me that these tests are neither comprehensive nor diagnostic enough! They do not test all the areas proven to be critical to the learning process and the scores tend to be inflated.
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When it comes to testing, insist that your child have a thorough reading assessBy Mary Pat ment, which must include a reading invenCorrero, Ed.M. tory to be a truly valid assessment. Audiological assessments and vision evaluations are also critical components. If necessary, request a private evaluation or a second opinion that includes these tests. Just as you would take your child to a specialist for a serious illness beyond the treatment of your local pediatrician, you may have to go outside your local school district alone to diagnose and resolve learning problems. If you choose to seek an outside opinion, make sure they are not using the same tests the school district is using and that they are not using the “Discrepancy Model.” Make it clear what you want to have tested and, if they cannot or will not do it, move on until you are satisfied with the answers you get. Wrightslaw.com is an excellent resource for parents involved in this process. Best wishes for a successful school year for your child and you! Mary Pat Correro is the founder of The Center For Learning Enhancement,LLC. The Center resolves learning disabilities through a comprehensive, developmental approach based on the most current research on the brain and learning. For more info call (856) 234-7337 or visit www.CLEnhancement.com.
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Read-to-Me Book Reviews By Kathryn Ross, a.k.a. “Miss Kathy”
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o you remember when T HEME : First Language Lessons you first learned to read? B OOK : Green Tiger’s Illustrated ABC Scroll back to those earliA UTHOR : Green Tiger Press est days of your childhood when the world seemed simpler and I LLUSTRATOR : Blue Lantern Studio adults bustled about in your life EAN: 9781595830418 seeing to your personal needs… someone there to tie your shoe and plete with a moral poem concerning the vice, plus “idle” illustratblow your nose and make sure ed. Character education and reading skills in one! That’s the way food was served at appropriate they used to do it. I’m so glad Green Tiger has preserved a samtimes of the day. Clothing worn ple of our heritage in language and literacy for the 21st century one day and muddied in play child! would miraculously reappear in your dresser drawers clean and Follow-up Activity: This large hardcover edition is a treasure. folded and ready to be worn once again with no effort on your Share it one letter at a time and discuss all five renderings. Then part. Ahhh . . . remember when? consider how you would present and illustrate the letter. Have And at some point, those mysterious marks in neat little rows paper and crayons available to visually create your spin on the on paper stuck between two hard bits of board magically turned ABC’s and preserve them in a binder. Have everyone in the famiinto words when a nearby adult looked at them. It was a mysterily contribute to the task! ous language that, you were told, you would one day be able to Kathryn Ross is a professional storyteller celebrating the love of learning and read for yourself. For a time, the colorful illustrations were literacy with children of all ages. She hosts Tale Spin Stories every Tuesday for enough of a feast for your eyes and meditations of your heart. But, preschoolers at the Cumberland Mall in Vineland. To learn more about Miss Kathy oh! To read words! programs from Pageant Wagon Productions, visit www.pwpstorytellers.com. Enter the obligatory ABC book. Every child had one. A is for apple. B is for boy. C is for cat. Each letter accessorized by a charming picture. For generations, children have loved their ABC books – the first lessons of learning language. Letters have sounds. Stringing those letters together makes words. Words have meaning and convey ideas. Literacy! Magic! I recommend the literacy and magic of Green Tiger Press’ nostalgic ABC book, featuring five renderings of each letter on a Celebrating 15 double page spread with illustrations from Award-Winning five different antique alphabet books circa Years! 19th and early 20th century. The illustrations were culled from the vintage collections of children’s book illustrations at the Now Enrolling for Blue Lantern Studio. How fascinating to Preschool Winter Sessions study through the myriad ways the alphabet has been presented to tender tots. My favorite is the action alphabet letters: “K is for kicking” accompanied by a whimsical letter “K” with face, arms and legs, kicking a ball in what appears to be a soccer game. And how about letter “I” for “idle” com-
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CONSIGNMENT SERVICES BRING DOWN THE COST OF GROWING UP AT KIDSTUFF! KIDSTUFF consignment shop specializes in superior pre-owned clothes for kids. Vast selection of high quality & designer brands,
all in excellent condition at fraction of original cost. Recycle your child’s “still like-new” clothing back into cash! www.kidstuff.vpweb.com, (856) 589-7171.
FAMILY PHOTOGRAPHERS NOW BOOKING VALENTINES PORTRAITS Family, children, babies & maternity portraits. Ladies, having a hard time finding that perfect gift? Book a glamour/boudoir portrait session and give him, “The Valentines gift only you can give.” Call (856) 415-1000 or visit www.moore creativephotography.com or email bob@moorecreativephotography.com.
HEATING AND AIR CONDITIONING LOOKING FOR A RELIABLE, HONEST, AFFORDABLE HEATING CONTRACTOR? Then you’ve found them! For new construction, including custom homes, upgrades, change outs or renovations call RJ Mechanical for all your HVAC needs. (856) 690-9692.
JOB OPPORTUNITIES RAISE YOUR INCOME WHILE RAISING YOUR FAMILY You can make extra money without putting the kids in daycare. You set your own hours. No billing, no collections, no carrying inventory, no large investment. Great local support. Call us today at (856) 305-7680.
PARTIES – ADULT COME H.O.M.E. TO TUPPERWARE! Let us help you be healthier, organized, make n save money, and better our environment! Ways to bring Tupperware home: In home Parties, book sales, fundraisers or by joining our awesome team! Ed Maher at (856) 616-1515, http://my.tupperwarecom/ed or tupperwareboy@aol.com.
PARTIES – CHILDREN CELEBRATE YOUR SPECIAL DAY WITH CARVEL Order your holiday cakes today. Custom flavors and designs. Gluten & egg free available. Made fresh daily. Open year round. Mention this ad and receive a 15% discount for Jan. Have your next Party at Carvel! (856) 478-4599.
PEDIATRIC OCCUPATIONAL THERAPY NEED HELP GUIDING YOUR CHILD’S DEVELOPMENTAL JOURNEY? At The Schlinic, happy childhoods are our specialty. Kids come for awesome motor equipment, fun sensory experiences and developmental play. Parents come for answers, professionals who listen, assessments and research-supported intervention. Learn more at www.schlinic.com or call Dr. Jodi at (856) 692-9292.
WILLS/ESTATE PLANNING WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN? Appointing Guardians for your minor children is one of the most important aspects of Estate Planning. Complimentary initial consulta-tion. Mention this ad and receive 15% discount for Jan. Contact James F Fahy, Esq., LLC to learn more. Call (856) 287-3107 or email JFahylaw@verizon.net.
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STORIES ABOUT SOUTH JERSEY MOMS! o you know a woman who is an inspiration to others? We are looking for MOMs of all types to interview for future articles. Below are just some examples of MOMs we want to hear about:
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Parents who have a child with Cerebral Palsy, Austism, Asperger’s, Tourette’s Syndrome, Speech Impairments, severe skin disorders, Spina Bifida, Down Syndrome, Epilepsy or Juvenile Diabetes.
Foster Parents Breast Cancer Survivors Experienced the loss of an infant/child Adopted a child Volunteer in their community/ are a mentor to at-risk children Military moms
Please send a brief description of a MOM who deserves recognition to editor@southjerseymom.com! Please include all contact information so we can reach you if chosen. 34 | January 2010
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Climbing Your Family Tree January 11 from 6 to 8 p.m. Introduction to www.ancestrylibrary.com & www.heritage quest.com. Atlantic County Library System/Buena Community Reading Room located in Buena Regional High School, Buena. Open to adults. Registration required (609) 625-2776 x 6325. For information (856) 697-4701.
Kids Karaoke Night! January 27 from 4:30 to 8:30p Move over American Idol! Kids and their families are invited to belt out their favorite songs Karaoke-style or just sing along with Miley, Taylor Swift and the Jonas Brothers. Line dances and surprises, too! The Pop Shop, 729 Haddon Ave, Collingswood. (856) 869-0111
Toddler Tales January 13 at 10:30 a.m. Children ages 2-4 and a caregiver are invited for stories and songs. free. Registration required. Atlantic County Library, 134 Philadelphia Ave., Egg Harbor City. (609) 804-1063.
Splashtastic New Year’s Bash Dec. 31 from 6:30 p.m. to 1 a.m. Admission to Water Park, arcade, hors d’ oeuvres, dinner & dessert buffet, DJ, kids craft corner. Sahara Sam’s Oasis Indoor Water Park, 535 N Rt 73, West Berlin. Reservation required, (856) 767-7580.
CAPE MAY COUNTY
BURLINGTON COUNTY Medford Least Studio Exhibition Jan. 15-Feb. 8 from 11a to 6p (Fri. & Sat) 1 to 5p (Sun) Gifted artists from the Medford Least Studio exhibit their finest works. Medford Arts Center, 18 N. Main St., Medford. (609) 654-6033 or www.artsinmedford.org. Winter Subscription Concert January 17 at 2 p.m. The Philharmonic of Southern New Jersey presents its Winter Subscription Concert featuring internationally known pianist Veda Zuponic. $20 - $25. Philharmonic of Southern New Jersey, Eastern High School, Laurel Oak Rd, Voorhees. (866) 779-2600 or www.psnj.org.
Child Safety Seat Inspections at Burke Motors January 16 from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Nationally certified technicians will review the current seat installation and point out deficiencies, check for recalls and walk the parent /caregiver through the proper installation. Children should be present at time of inspection. 519 Stone Harbor Blvd, Cape May Ct House. (609) 463-6425. Yoga at Woodbine Library January 6, 13, 20 & 27 from 3 to 4 p.m. The Cape May County Library is delighted to offer Yoga classes at Woodbine Public Library. Classes in gymnasium at Woodbine Community Center in the library. 800 Monroe St., Woodbine. (609) 861-2501 or www.cmclibrary.org.
For a complete list of events, log onto www.southjerseymom.com Wine Pairing Dinner January 15 Enjoy a wine pairing dinner at the Peter Shields Restaurant where each course will be paired with a different wine from Cape May Winery & Vineyard’s current wine selections. Reservations required, (609) 8849090 or www.capemaywinery.com.
CUMBERLAND COUNTY Story Time for Children Throughout January Baby story time (age 6-23 months w/ adult) on Fridays from 10:30-11a. Toddler story time (age 2 w/ adult)on Tuesdays 10:30-11a. Preschool story time (age 3-5 w/ adult) Wed and Thurs 10:30-11:15a. Toddler and Preschool Music Time also available. Call (856) 794-4244 x 4246 for details. Registration REQUIRED. Vineland Library, 1058 East Landis Ave, Vineland. Exhibit: Animal Attraction Dec 21-March 3 Features a juried photography exhibition with animals as the subject of the photos. Cumberland County Library, 800 E. Commerce St., Bridgeton. (856) 453-2210
GLOUCESTER COUNTY The Frog Prince; Jan. 22 at 10a & Jan. 23 at 10a & 1p. The first in the classic collection of Brothers Grimm fairytales, The Frog Prince is the story of a spoiled princess and her unlikely prince. The princess is forced to keep her word to befriend the frog after he retrieves her lost golden ball from the spring. Broadway Theatre of Pitman, 43 S. Broadway, Pitman.
(856) 384-8381 or www.pitmanbroadwaytheatre.com.
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Nature Tots January 13 at 10 a.m. A special program for preschoolers and their caregivers. Explore nature through crafts and the outdoors. Children must be accompanied by an adult. Make a winter craft and take a “Cabin Fever Walk”. Call Jill Taylor, (856) 881-0845. Powerful You! Women’s Network January 21 from 7 to 9:30 p.m. Powerful You! Women’s Network is open to all women who have an interest in networking/connecting with other women on a business/ professional level, light dinner, discussions, relationships. Adelphia Restaurant, 1750 Clements Bridge Rd., Deptford. $25/members and new attendees; $35 non-members. Contact Shaun Stephenson at (609) 560-8370 or shaun6@comcast.net or www.powerfulyou.com for more info.
SALEM COUNTY Chris Smither’s Music January 30 at 8 p.m. Chris Smither’s music draws as deeply from the blues as it does from American folk music. Smither considers himself a performer first, though the strength of his songwriting skills is clear from the artists who have covered his songs – from Bonnie Raitt to the Dixie Chicks and Diana Krall. $25. Appel Farm Arts and Music Center, 457 Shirley Rd, Elmer. (856) 358-2472
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