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Irresistible Backyards Living with PTSD Fresh Summer Tomatoes Guardasil: To vaccinate or not to vaccinate?

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Contents JUNE 2015

mom 2 mom 8 Who's The Boss?

Taking Back the Roll of Parent in the House

10 The Importance of

Learning How to Swim–Even Infants

12 Summer Tutoring 14 That Other Vaccine moms R women 2 22 When Past is Still

Present: Posttraumatic Stress Disorder

24 3 Ways to Make Your Backyard Irresistible to Kids This Summer

26 A Dash of Color features

know 2 grow 27 Sleep Soundly, Sleep Safely

28 Summer Slide: Don't

101 Things To Do This Summer 21 Dirt 29 Summer Fun in the Sunscreen 31 Business Spotlight: Tall Pines Day Camp 32 Summer Camp Guide “Like” South Jersey MOM magazine on Facebook and find out about local events, win prizes and connect with other moms in the area! www.facebook.com/SouthJerseyMOM www.southjerseymom.com

Let Your Children Fall Behind in Reading

30 Tips for Coping with Summer Bullying

also in this issue 5 Some of My Faves 25 Buying Guide 37 Things to Do 38 Recipe Corner June 2015 | 3

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t was my granddaughter Jaclyn’s first birthday party and Hope, her mom, came up with such great ideas. (Do you think she was raised on KIDFUN?!) She had kids in the backyard playing homemade Badminton, like Sari is doing below. Actually, there was no net but that was fine! It’s simple to make the racket. Take a paper plate and tape a Popsicle stick to the back of it. Then the “birdie” can be a ping-pong ball — or even better — a balloon.

Everyone can hit that birdie back and forth to see how long the rally lasts. If you wanted to make a net, simply tie a rope, string or ribbon on the back of two chairs. Make sure it’s long. Then

place the chairs a short distance apart, enough to make a net. Now, it’s really a tough competition! Keep score with team members on each side. Sounds like fun, right? That’s because this is one of those KIDFUN games that works for all ages. Try it!

Not only a South Jersey Mom, Sharla Feldscheris a proud South Jersey Grandmom (Grammy, as she prefers to becalled). The author of six books on creative ideas to do with young children, including two KIDFUN Activity Books published by HarperCollins, she has a blog at www.kidfunandmore.com with more easy-to-do KIDFUN ideas. Sharla has her own public relations business in Philadelphia. A real kid-believer, she began her career as the first PR Director of the Please Touch Museum and started her own business with Sesame Place as her first account, representing the park for 26 years.

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a letter from the EDITOR

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t’s hard to believe that June is here and another school year is coming to an end and that is much more exciting than presents on Christmas! But, for me, this year is bittersweet-- it’s a decadelong parenting chapter coming to an end. Our youngest is graduating from elementary school and moving onto middle school in the fall; Julia is pictured below in the center with a red jacket surrounded by her besties since kindergarten.

They are getting ready to leave for their first middle school dance to get them acclimated to seeing new faces. They are so excited for the changes and my daughter is looking forward to making new friends and the future possibilities.

I, on the other hand, am sad that the elementary school connections with parents that I have will become thin and the sneak peeks into the classroom as an involved parent are over. Now it’s onto the next chapter--teenagers. The best part of summer with kids and teens is having downtime as a family and filling your days with fun activities. This month, South Jersey MOM features “101 Things To Do This Summer,” (page 15) to keep the kids busy while school is out. Summertime is meant to be fun and

relaxing; which results in most kids regressing academically (see “Summer Slide: Don’t Let Your Children Fall Behind in Reading,” page 28). Reading is a fun way to keep kids’ brains active; when my kids were younger I paid them $.50 to $1 for each chapter book they read in the summer so that they had spending money at the pool. Reading was always part of their bedtime.

Over the years, both kids would be caught reading under the cover with a flashlight past their bedtime or would beg to stay up to finish a chapter. Our daughter is still an avid reader, but our son in high school only reads out of necessity. Although, I was recently floored when I found him in bed reading and when I asked him about it, he told me that his girlfriend had suggested the book. Hah! The things you do to impress a girl! But, fellow moms, I’ll take it!

South Jersey MOM has two great events this month that you don’t want to miss...See you there!

• Health & Wellness Expo at the Deptford Mall on June 6th from 10am to 3pm • South Jersey MOM Music Festival at RiverWinds on Friday June 12th from 5:30pm to 10:30pm.

Your friend & fellow MOM,

on the Cover William is 3yrs old.

Farming, riding his scooter, and Curious George are a few of his favorite things. He enjoys listening to music and loves to sing, dance, and cook with Mama and Dad. And, of course, he loves popsicles!

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Children Are Our Greatest Teachers M

any parents seem stressed that parenting is so hard, but it doesn’t have to be. I am working with a dad who was feeling disrespected by his children. Looking deeper, we discovered his emotions were actually triggers related to his own childhood when he felt unheard and unvalued. We have been identifying situations where his triggers have appeared and he has been learning to appreciate those triggers as directional arrows for where he needs to grow. His new-found awareness of these triggers has helped him notice when they surface and consciously form a response to his children that does not involve a reactive, verbal lashing-out when really, their behavior has nothing to do with why he is upset in the first place. Lately, his children have been letting him know that he is indeed on the right path and they are noticing by telling jokes with him, sharing what is going on in school, and asking if they can ride in the car with him on errands. Children are our greatest teachers, giving us feedback when we are on the right track and when we need to readjust.

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Erin Taylor, MA

As a more conscious parent, this man is now exploring what his calling is. As the chaos of his daily life is calming down, he is beginning to hear that faint whisper of his heart. He now understands that when he pursues his calling, his soul will be nourished and as a more whole as a person, his relationship with his children will deepen. The more in touch he gets with his authentic self, the more he will model how his children can get in touch with theirs. As humans, we have lost touch with our inner selves - so busy running from one activity to the next - doing, doing, doing, that we no longer know who we are or what we want. When we get back to that core our entire lives improve, from our relationships with our children to our relationships with ourselves.âœ˛ Erin Taylor, MA is a wife, therapist, writer, parent coach and mom to four children ages 7, 9 and 12. Her oldest daughter died of a heart defect as a baby. It Takes A Village Parent Coaching is a source of inspiration for her work, and you can reach her aterin@villageparentcoaching.com.

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mom 2 mom

Who’s The Boss?

Taking Back The Roll of Parent in the House

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will NEVER do that when I am a Mom!” “I will NEVER say that to MY kids!” ... yea… right… then you grow up and have kids of your own and you call your parents and apologize for everything you ever did or said.

Admit it. They were right about everything!

And I am sure you can’t even remember half of things that you said or did when you were raging-bossy-toddler-pants!

No one ever said this whole parentingthing would be easy. We all hear that all of the time. We just never knew we’d get a pink slip so soon in our career, I mean, who’s the boss? I THOUGHT it was me? Right? Wrong.

Suddenly a baby becomes a very verbal toddler who very suddenly has a lot on his or her mind. And this toddler suddenly becomes the CEO of the household and the next thing you know you’re saying “who do you think you’re talking to?” “Do you want to go in time out?” then you’re putting your hand on your head thinking “did I just say that?!”

Don’t fret folks… you can get your job back.

It’s not over. The toddler take over doesn’t last forever. Here are a few strategies to help get your job back: 8 | June 2015

By Samantha E. Gill

w Don’t be NEEDY Nelly: Stop with “I NEED you to be Quiet”, I NEED you to stop pinching your sister”… Key Word: NEED. Unfortunately Mom, you’re making yourself vulnerable without even realizing it. Crazy right? But true. Your setting yourself up, really by inadvertently asking them to reassure YOU: You NEED them to DO something FOR YOU. You’re asking for reassurance: You might as well just say, “Hey! I am completely frustrated and don’t know what to do anymore!” w Be Clearly Bossy: Bosses TELL them what to do and WHY and what will happen: “Stop pinching your sister now, it hurts her.

You will lose your tablet for the evening if it happens again.” w Forget about it: Like the guys in Goodfellas say, and then forget about it! After you say it once and clearly: “Stop pinching your sister now, it hurts her. You will lose your tablet for the evening if it happens again.” Forget about it – literally. Don’t say it again. Walk away. Truly. Even if it pains you. Initially it will. But things take time to work.

w Follow through Calmly: If and when pinchy-mc-pincher attacks, you CALMLY WALK (Yes. Calmly. Walk.) Take a deep calming breath, make sure there are no injuries, separate and show that you have the tablet and say: “you have lost the tablet for the evening.” Say: “If it happens again, you will lose the tablet for the day tomorrow, pinching is not okay.” And walk away.

So what did you do here? You started a process that is new and will show them calm follow through. The more they see it is staying in system and not leaving the more they’ll realize “The Boss” is serious. Of course there’s always round II: The Teenage Years, however, it’s best to just start here.✲ Samantha Gill is a full-time geriatric social worker, a sometimes writer and a full-time single mommy to Audrey, 6, and Addie, 4. Addie has a service, Dog, Data, my awesome tribe and I exist (loudly) in South Jersey

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The Importance of Learning How to Swim– Even Infants!

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Learning how to swim can help children to develop their social skills

s summer break quickly approaches, parents are faced with the annual summer-activity-dilemma. There’s no better way to spend a hot summer day in a pool, even if your child is a toddler. There are many reasons to teach your children – even infants – how to swim this summer!

While it’s never too late to learn how to swim, there are great benefits that can be realized when learning at an early age. Swimming prevents drowning. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), drowning is the third leading cause of unintentional deaths worldwide, accounting for 7% of all injury-related deaths in 2014.

A study by Dr. Ruth Brenner of the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National Institute of Child Health and Human Development found that swimming lessons may help to reduce the risk of drowning by as much as 88%.

Infants tend to be more comfortable with water than older children.

As toddlers’ brains are developing, they absorb information quickly and will have an easier time adapting to water. Familiarizing infants with water reduces the chance that they will fear it when they are older, or be affected by negative attitudes towards swimming. However, older children should still learn how to swim. Research shows that non-swimmers are unlikely to learn after the third grade.

Swimming also encourages earlier physical development. It is possible for an infant to learn to swim before he/she can walk. As a low-impact sport, this means that toddlers can be active at an early age and develop 10 | June 2015

coordination skills earlier. A study from the Norwegian University of Science and Technology found that babies who learn to swim have better abilities to balance and grasp objects than their non-swimming peers. This may be because swimming allows infants to use their muscles more than they do on land. While toddlers do not have the motor skills to properly perform strokes, swimming lessons will teach them to move and float independently in the water. Certain swim programs are also designed to teach infants self-rescue skills such as floating on their back until help comes.

Learning how to swim can help children to develop their social skills. During swimming lessons, they are frequently interacting with others. They learn to follow directions from their instructor, play and share with others, and listen to their parents. According to the German Sports College Cologne, young swimmers are less shy, more independent, and more comfortable in social situations than non-swimmers.

Swimming is often said to be one of the most important life skills and the earlier a child learns to swim, the earlier they can reap the benefits. With that in mind, let your children swim with ease this upcoming summer and have fun!✲ Diana Goodwin is President of AquaMobile Swim School, a private swim school that offers high quality swim instruction at clients’ home and condo pools in over 25 cities across Ontario. AquaMobile Swim School can be reached at info@aquamobileswim. com or 1-888-950-7946

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Summer Tutoring

By Cheryl Lynne Potter

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chool bells will soon come to a halt, as they mark the end of another school year. Unfortunately, this is also a time when kids put the brakes on learning. It’s not uncommon during the summer months, for kids to slip into a summer slump, better known as a summer brain drain. Many teachers know this trend as a summer learning loss. During the summer months, experts say, children lose the equivalent of one to three months’ worth of learning. This learning loss is more likely to occur in math, followed by spelling.

“The average student regardless of socio-economic status will lose 2.6 months of grade-level equivalency in mathematical computation over the summer months,” said Bob D’Orazio, Owner and Operations Director of Mathnasium of Washington Township. Mathnasium is a math only learning center that works with youngsters from 2nd thru 12th grade.

“What a student does over the summer can have profound consequences on their ability to perform in the fall,” said Alan Cohen, Director of the Tutoring Club of Cherry Hill and Voorhees. “Imagine,” said Cohen, “training an athlete for nine months, getting them to a prescribed level of conditioning and then telling them to take 3 months off and do nothing! Now, imagine them back on the field of competition at the end of those 3 months and expecting them to perform at their training peak. Summer tutoring sessions can help a child return to school in the fall with increased confidence and increase the likelihood of them moving beyond the academic level they were when the summer began.”

There are a variety of reasons why parents consider getting a tutor for the summer months. If their child struggled academically during the school year, summer is a perfect time to get them caught up in reading and math before the start of the next school year, said Rachel Martin, Director of Education at Sylvan of Turnersville. “For Sylvan’s summer classes, we don’t just work on the things the child learned during the school year,” said Martin. “Our standard tutoring starts with a skill assessment that identifies gaps in their education

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that could stretch back multiple years. We build their lessons around those gaps, so we are only teaching them things they don’t know yet or never fully understood.”

Tutors can also give children one-on-one attention, while also helping them accomplish their academic goals. “We teach our students how to apply the skills they are learning to their work, in school, at home or elsewhere,” said Stephen Pearson, Owner and Executive Director of LearningRx Cherry Hill Brain Training Center. LearningRx is a cognitive brain training center that’s helping students develop and strengthen the skills needed to learn and succeed in school. “Summer is a great time to help students refocus and get ready for the new school year ahead,” said Pearson.

Even some libraries are offering patrons online tutoring help for the summer. Camden County Library System offers oneon-one live online tutoring for students, job seekers and adult learners through Tutor.com.

To use this system, you have to have a library card and a computer or mobile device with internet access. Professional tutors are available online from 2 p.m. to 12:00 a.m. to answer questions on academics, to even how to navigate a job search, or write a resume.

“We offer scores of programs for children, tweens and teens each month at our eight branches said Camden County Library Director, Linda Devlin. These programs are invaluable during the summer months in helping youngsters, she said, “maintain their reading and other learning skills over the course of summer vacation.”✲

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That Other Vaccine

By Patricia Mooneyham

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here is lots of discussion these days about vaccines of all kinds.

Not only there efficacy but also their long term effects on the children who are receiving them have become points for debate.

So while the battle rages on whether to vaccinate or not in regards to traditional childhood disease vaccines (You know the ones like MMR, HepA, HepB, DTaP and Varicella); there is that other vaccine. Amid the questions about these long approved vaccines against childhood diseases there are still even more questions about the vaccines developed initially in an effort to defend against cervical cancer. Maybe you have heard of it by one of its commercial names Gardisil or Cervarix. It is the HPV vaccine and it is designed to vaccinate against between 2 and 9 strains of the Human Papillomavirus depending on which brand is used for vaccination.

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Originally recommended only for girls ages 11-26, now in an effort to reduce incidences of genital warts and the spread of HPV; the 3 shot series of vaccines is recommended for boys as well. When asked about this particular vaccine, my first response to parents is that this is an individual decision that each family must make based on their health history as well as some other factors. The next thing I talk to them about is the fact that the decision regarding this vaccine is an excellent door way to discussing concepts about sex such as: “What defines sex?” “Is sex only vaginal intercourse?” (which unfortunately is a misconception that many young people have.) This leads to discussing the idea that sexually transmitted infections can be passed through other forms of sexual relations such as oral sex. It is very important that the concept of no vaccine can replace safe sex practices is communicated. Things such as knowing the sexual history of anyone with whom you are choosing to engage in sexual behaviors and the use of condoms until you are sure of a committed relationship and sure of the safety of unprotected sex are very important to convey. This includes anal, oral and vaginal intercourses.

For anyone who has no objections to any type of vaccination, it may seem like a no brainer. It is important to know your family’s history as there have been documented reactions in cases where the vaccine recipient had celiac disease or other autoimmune issues. At the same time if you have a strong family history of cervical or other female genital cancers any and all protection may be welcome.

My best advice for any family as they make a decision about this vaccine is to ask questions and do what is best for your family.✲

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he school year is coming to a close and summer is almost here! Vacations are soon to be pursued, and summer camps are opening their doors! You might ask...what can we do to keep the kids occupied on the other free days of summer?

Every June, South Jersey Mom Magazine and its business partners come up with 101 Things To Do This Summer. In this Special Section you will find plenty of things to keep you busy this summer. When the kids say...“I’m bored” and you say...“do you want to go back to school

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n a world of perfectly manicured moms, I don’t always fit in. I am a dirty girl, but I t’s not exactly what you may think. I’ve never read Fifty Shades of Gray and I shower plenty. I’m talking actual dirt.

The kind that is damp and full of worms, it gets packed under your nails and sticks in every crease on your knuckles, the world of my childhood. Some of my favorite memories are of weeding the seemingly giant vegetable garden in my back yard. I would pat down the loose soil into careful mounds each time it came up with a weed. When I needed a break I would look up at the sky through the branches of the enormous oak tree. It was amazing to see the sun peek from behind the clouds and through the tree, casting an intricate lace pattern in the grass. At harvest time we would convene at my aunt’s house to preserve, pickle, jam and relish our season’s bounty.

My first official garden was at a friend’s house. I spent hours digging up grass, tilling earth, fertilizing and planting. When the work was done I was offered a summer job in Michigan. When I returned in late August, it was to one soggy deflated watermelon. Each year I worked to plant some version of a garden that would satisfy my dream of scrapping professional life and becoming a farmer. Sometimes I could only manage flowers and herbs so I supplemented this by taking my children to pick fruit. After hours in the beating sun, my children emerged as wild animals, covered from head to toe in fruit juice and dirt (the glitter and glue of “pickers”). We would journey home with boxes of fruit that would ultimately be shared with neighbors, family and friends. We were that

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weird family, always smiling and trying to feed people. I started conversations with unknown neighbors, saying “I hope no one in your house is allergic” while shoving a bowl of strawberries into their hands.

I am now in what I think of as my real life (grown up). I am much more realistic when planning, planting and picking. I have invested in a few good gardening books, followed by ones on canning and preserving. I plan my garden in early spring, buy and plant my seedlings on Mother’s Day. I pick beetles from leaves in the evening, water my babies while drinking my morning coffee and take pictures of my children with the veggies they chose and nurtured. It has become a family affair. My husband, a city boy at heart, is my heavy lifter. My oldest and tallest picks peaches with me, younger children are excellent blueberry pickers, plucking and plopping them into old easter baskets. I pick cherries alone, to save myself a distracted fall from a ladder. This life of sustainability came to me early and naturally. Now it’s a trend, which is great because you can buy supplies literally anywhere.

Not every “budding” gardener will have the lofty dreams or confidence I had. So many friends want a garden, but don’t know where to start. My suggestion is to google it, seriously. Create a Pinterest board, join online groups and talk to people. Go to small nurseries and ask lots of questions. Gardeners love to share information and TALK, as in you’re ears off. Start big or small but try it, because in the end it’s either a productive plot that you enjoy, or you pull it up and plant grass seed.

Mother nature is pretty forgiving.✲

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When Past is Still Present:

Posttraumatic Stress Disorder By: Kelly N. Moore, Psy.D.

ever role they are in– whether at home, school, or work. As moms, we are expected to always be there for our children. However, it is important that we remind ourselves of the instructions we are given any time we get on a plane: in the event that the pressure in the cabin becomes so low that the oxygen masks drop down, we are asked to secure OUR masks prior to helping the people around us, even our own children.

This is because in order to do our best in caring for others, we must care for ourselves.

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any people experience things in their life that can be described as traumatic. Experiencing or witnessing serious accidents, physical or sexual assault, life-threatening illness, child sexual abuse, or exposure to distressing details about traumatic events (i.e., a first responder) are just some examples of the type of experiences that are identified as clinically significant traumas.

For many people that experience traumas, it is very normal to experience a period of distress, fears, and anxiety immediately afterwards. After a while, those feelings should decrease and a person would expect to have recovered from the traumatic experience.

In some cases, however, things just don’t get better for some people that have experienced traumatic events. For some, their symptoms persist, or even worsen. They have recurrent, intrusive memories about the trauma(s).

They may experience flashbacks so vivid that they believe the terrible event is happening all over again. In an attempt to cope, the person may start to avoid any situation, place, or people that they believe will trigger a memory about the trauma. Maybe it’s a street they 22 | June 2015

don’t walk by anymore, a TV show that reminds them of the trauma, or avoiding exercise because whenever the heart rate increases, their mind wanders back to that scary moment.

Maybe their thoughts about the world, themselves, and/or others have become more negative or less trustful since the trauma.

If you have experienced these types of long term symptoms (more than a month after the traumatic event has occurred), that could indicate that you are struggling with Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Individuals with PTSD often have symptoms like the ones described, as well as feelings of depression, irritability, and sleep and concentration challenges. While it makes sense to avoid things that scare us, unfortunately doing so in the case of PTSD actually makes the symptoms worsen over time if not addressed.

While struggling with PTSD is a challenge for anyone, it is a unique challenge for mothers, especially if you are still caring for younger children. Children require a lot of attention, time, and stability. However, the impact of PTSD is that it can deplete a person of the energy needed to be their best self in what-

While struggling with PTSD is a challenge for anyone, it is a unique challenge for mothers, especially if you are still caring for younger children.

You don’t have to live with the constant intrusion of the past in your present life. There is help to assist you in healing from the past so you can feel more in control of your present, and hopeful for the future. Therapeutic treatments for PTSD have been proven to work well, especially when the person seeking treatment is actively involved in the treatment process. Some of the therapies that are best known to help with PTSD include cognitive behavioral treatments that include specialized programs like Prolonged Exposure therapy, Cognitive Processing therapy, and Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing. There are also medication options for people as well. However, it is important to note that one size (of therapy) does not fit all. Talk to a mental health professional with experience treating PTSD to get a sense of what will be the best fit for you.✲

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3 Ways to Make Your Backyard Irresistible to Kids This Summer W hen summer arrives do you see even less of your kids than you did during the school year? Too many American children, tweens and teens spend those extra hours of free time indoors playing with technology, rather than engaging in healthful activity outside. Even when you know where your kids are, you may not understand what they're doing with all those devices and game controllers.

This summer, why not help your children get excited about a healthy and fun time outdoors? You can make your backyard the neighborhood hotspot that no kid can resist by providing three key ingredients to a great summer: fun, food and friendship.

Fun in the sun To compete with smartphones, PCs, tablets and other digital devices, you need outdoor excitement - the kind that only water can provide.

Installing a backyard pool may not be practical for everyone, but a backyard water slide is.

Easy to set up and use, a water slide is a cost-effective way to create outdoor fun this summer. While parents may have mixed memories of fun and bumps from the water slides of their own childhood, modern options like H2OGO! backyard water slides offer the timeless appeal of water slides paired with modern technology to provide a more comfortable experience. H2OGO! slides feature the Speed Ramp, an inflatable launch pad that creates a smooth belly-flop landing at the start of the superfast 18-foot slide. A Splash Lagoon funnels water throughout the entire slide, reducing friction and increasing speed. Learn more at www. bestway-global.com.

Food for fun All that water sliding and other fun activity is going to make kids work up an appetite. They'll need fuel so they can keep having fun. Look for fare that is easy, kid-friendly and nutritious. For example, instead of serving high-fat, high-sugar ice cream, consider frozen fruit or fruit pops. Replace sugary, calorie-laden sodas with flavored water. For kids who crave crunch, replace chips with fresh-cut crisp fruits like apples and kid-friendly veggies such as carrots or cherry tomatoes. You can serve them with a variety of delicious, yogurt-based dips.

Whip up a nacho platter that incorporates lowfat shredded cheese, fresh salsa and lean protein like beans or grilled chicken.

Friendship and fun With your backyard gaining the reputation of the neighborhood hot spot for great food and fun, you may notice some new faces showing up. Encourage children to engage in games that can help them get to know each other and create new friendships with others in the neighborhood.

Some of the simplest games are great ice-breakers. One game that's great for getting to know each other is to have kids stand in a circle and toss around a bean bag or small ball.

The child who throws asks a question - such as "What's your name?" or "What's your favorite sport?" - and the child who catches has to answer.

Another fun idea for older children is a biography building circle. Kids sit in a circle and start with one child making a simple statement about himself, such as "I like to play baseball with my dad." The next child in line adds his or her own information by building off something the first child said, such as "My dad is an airline pilot." The play continues with children each saying something new that is somehow linked to what the last child said.

Research shows that physical activity is good for kids. KidsHealth.org says exercise helps children develop stronger muscles and bones, control weight, lower their risk of type 2 diabetes and develop a better attitude about life. Parents can help kids get the exercise they need by fostering healthy outdoor play in their own backyards this summer.âœ˛ Brandpoint 24 | June 2015

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Honest Swim Diaper This swim diaper is perfect for fun at the pool, beach, or even backyard water play! Made out of waterproof fabric that can be washed and re-used oodles of times, this diaper is better for the planet and for your pocketbook!

And with their non-bulky, non-chafing design, this diaper will add fun to any water adventure. $14; Honest.com BooginHead Splat Mat No more sticky, messy floors with the BooginHead Splat Mat. The 52” round mat is placed under your children’s chair to catch spilled or dropped food, making cleanup easier for everyone. Also, its compact design makes it easy to travel with, making it great for picnics, parks and beaches too. $20; Booginhead.com

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Dabbawalla Lunch Bag These flexible and strong bags are perfect lunchtime solution. Crafted from a revolutionary foam material that is machine-washable and 100% toxic free, the Dabbawalla lunch bags come in a colorful array of patterns designed for every member of the family, and with an option for embroidered personalization, they make every lunch feel extra-special. $30; dabbawallabags.com The Ollie Swaddle The Ollie Swaddle is designed to decrease fussiness and assist in selfcalming. It improves quality and duration of sleep. Elasticity allows for freedom of movement. Opening at the bottom allows for diaper changes.

Made to grow with your baby, custom developed moisture wicking material to reduce overheating. $48; shope.theollieworld.com MyBuckleMate Helps kids in booster seats buckle up independently; fits in tight spaces and between booster seats and can fit three across! Fits securely so seats can be folded down without removing mybucklemate keeps buckles where you can easily reach them, no more falling between seats or getting wedged under booster seats. $14; mybucklemate.com BubbleBum Booster Seat This ultraportable inflatable car booster seat is the solution to your traveling problems. With an inflatable design made for children 4-11, this seat folds flat so that parents or kids alike can carry it in a backpack or purse easily. This makes it perfect for vacations, car-pooling, or any nonpermanent travel solution. $30; Amazon.com Feltman Brothers Sailor Short Set This dashing outfit is perfect for you little sailor-boy! With gentle colors and a cute design, your child will be walking around in style. And, because the shirt buttons right into the shorts, this outfit is an easy way to keep your kid looking great throughout the day! $53; FeltmanBrothers.com Millions of Colors, Ice Cream shirt combo, Elastic Neckline Dress This dress is an amazing way of getting your child looking great this summer! With a playful design made out of soft, comfortable fabric, this cool dress will be a favorite on the hot, summer days to come. $62; MillionsofColorsny.com

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Ralph Lauren Polo Supreme Oud This fragrance is a tribute to Oud, on of the most rare and exquisite perfumery materials. With a blend of precious spices, smoky oud and rich woods, this has a supremely masculine aura, making it the perfect tribute for Father’s Day. $125; RalphLauren.com Ralph Lauren Red Intense Help Dad feel like a rock star with Ralph Lauren Red Intense men’s fragrance. It awakens the soul with an intoxicating blend of red ginger, rich leather, and roasted coffee. Simply put, this cologne will ignite the thrill seeker in dad. $50; RalphLauren.com

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Alterna Caviar Repair Instant Recovery Shampoo In the summer heat, hair damage is a common occurrence. Repair that damaged hair and prevent future breakage with Caviar repair. This shampoo prevents 95% of breakage. After just one use, 9 out of 10 women saw improved softness and shine. Don’t wait another sunny day; go get yours today. $32; shop.alternahaircare.com www.southjerseymom.com

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A Dash of Color

By Karen Harper

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ast Sunday, my children’s high school, Burlington Townhip, held a color run to raise money for the Health and Phys Ed deparment. If you don’t know what a color run is, let me explain. While people running a 5k race, others sit on the side of the course with colored cornstarch in hand, ready to toss it when people pass by. With a variety of colors, like yellows, pinks, and blues, the runners end up a colorful mess. But in the end, everyone will have had some fun and you’ll have raised some money.

In this case, after being sponsered

by Color Dash 5K, I heard that they had raised over $5000 dollars from more than 400 runners! As both a resident and mom, I was happy my kids were making a real difference in their school while simitaneously participating in healthy activity.

My 13-year old daughter ran the 5K along with some of her friends. The day was gorgeous, the blue sky making a perfect canvas. It was a great day for a run, or in this case a perfect day for a Color Dash. I watched, along with my husband and two younger sons, as baggies filled with colored cornstarch were purchased for $1 and then flung open with abandon by racers and spectators alike. Poofs of color fell over hair and clothes, and yes, I made sure that the color would wash out easily. . And yes, I made my 8-year old take three showers before I stopped finding it on his scalp or behind his ears after the race. This, however, is more likely due to his showering skill than the colored cornstarch being tricky to get out.

High schoolers reached into buckets of color and tossed it on the racers as they passed designated sites. Some participants loved to run through the color, others ran around the station altogether. At one site, we saw teachers, friends, classmates, old, and young pass through. I have run races in the past where I knew nobody but the person I came with, but this run brought all of us out of our houses. My daughter finished the race with colorful rivulets of sweat trickling down her cheeks and the back of her neck. Her shirt was a palette of color, which was okay, since I gave her license to be dirty. After the last of the runners came through, all the runners collected on the grass.

I wasn’t exactly sure what to expect at this final “color blast”. After the cue of a countdown, one person after another began tossing up the contents of their baggies. I followed suit and watched the powder rained down around us. Blues, greens, yellows, and pink mixed in a dusty cloud, coloring the summer sky. Looking up, I noticed the colors turned vibrant and sparkly in the sun. It was surprisingly, for one simple, sunny moment, stunning.

Beautiful morning. Great race. Money raised. And the best part? People coming out from the community to show support for our town and high school. A colorful recipe for a great day.✲

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Sleep Soundly, Sleep Safely

By Brie Latini

When it comes to the safety of your baby, BARE IS BEST for sleep environments. This means:

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n the first few months when we mother brand-new little lives, sleep is a hot commodity. We battle through late night feedings and naptime avoidance like bleary-eyed warriors, and will try anything to help aid our babies into slumber. The shelves at any local “baby” store are filled with items that promise easy, comfortable sleep for your baby.

In 2000, New Jersey mother Joyce Davis laid her four month old son, Garret, into his play yard for a nap. Outfitted with a supplemental mattress purchased at a large, chain baby specialty store, Davis was sure that her sweet son would sleep in blissful comfort.

Tragically, Garret suffocated to death in the too-soft sleep environment the extra mattress created.

The grief brought on by Garret’s death propelled his parents into action. Joyce and her husband realized that information on safe sleeping conditions for babies was not readily available. There were no laws, at the time, regulating crib specifications, allowing items such as supplemental play yard mattresses to not only be sold, but touted as safe, and easy assumption to make when such items are sold in a large, chain store that caters to the needs to www.southjerseymom.com

• Use a fitted crib sheet • No extra blankets. Instead, use a wearable blanket/sleep sack • No crib bumpers • No toys or pillows • SLEEP FIRM- too-soft sleep environments pose a suffocation risk babies and toddlers. For the Davises, this assumption came with tragic consequences The Davises engaged the help of Jack Walsh, a crib safety expert, and Lee Baxter who, before his death, served as the Western Regional Director of the U.S Consumer Product Safety Commission for nearly 40 years.

This led to the creation of Keeping Babies Safe in 2006. Since their inception, KBS has worked tirelessly to increase parent knowledge of safe sleep habits and help create legislation on a national level, ensuring the cribs and sleep accessories meet stringent safety guidelines.

Since their inception, Keeping Babies Safe had brought about changes such as prohibiting the manufacturing of drop-side cribs and improved crib designs that boast slats that are closer together along with stronger hardware and mattress supports. In 2008, then-President Bush signed the Consumer Product and Safety Standards Act into law. This means that crib manufacturers now have a stringent set of safety guidelines that, by law, need to be followed.

Despite such laws, the very mattress that had contributed to Garret’s death was sold alongside of the play yards. Surprisingly, this type of supplemental mattress is still being sold, a

For more information visit KeepingBabiesSafe.org mistake that Keeping Babies Safe is trying to rectify by calling for national laws banning items that, when added to a sleep environment, cause cribs or play yards to fall below safety standards.

The KBS mission also extends to parental education, leading the way in the development is a video explaining safe sleep environments for babies. This video is aired on the “newborn channel” in over 1200 New Jersey hospitals.

KSB is also working with NJ lawmakers to provide all mothers with printed information about sleep safety upon discharge after giving birth, and pass NJ law mandating the screening of educational videos in all hospitals and birthing centers.

Keeping Babies Safe carries on Garret’s legacy with their tireless work aimed at ensuring that such a senseless tragedy does not happen to another family. You can visit KeepingBabiesSafe.org to learn more about their community events, educational information and ways to donate.✲ June 2015 | 27

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Don’t Let Your Children Fall Behind In Reading

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ach year in June thousands of children across the United States empty their desks and say goodbye to another school year. Parents begin planning their summer: trips to the beach, pool and long nights by the campfire. A time for family, fun and unfortunately for many families the “Summer Slide”.

Summer Slide - What is It? The Summer Slide is the three month period when your children are off from school. It is a time where a majority of the reading skills acquired throughout the school year are lost due to lack of daily reading. According to a survey conducted by Reading is Fundamental only 17% of parents believe reading is a top priority during the summer. The survey also revealed that children spend three times as many hours playing video games and watching television during the day rather than reading. Children who fall behind in the summer rarely catch up. In fact, by the end of 5th grade, students can lose up to three years of learning as a result of the lack of reading during the summer.

What Parents Can Do To Motivate Their Child to Read Motivation is the key to reading and creativity is a way to reach your children. Integrating reading into your family trip is a great way to get your children reading. For younger children have them identify letters on signs and make them your tour guide. For older children, always grab a brochure for each of your destinations and have them identify facts in the brochure. If you are going to a sports game have them research a player and report back the information.

The local library is a wonderful resource for children and motivation. Every summer local libraries encourage reading through reading challenges. Many children enjoy competition, making reading competitive motivates children. Often times libraries will have story time with an end of the summer reading “party” for the children. Ask a librarian about their summer reading activities. They are always willing to help.

Let’s face it children are 21st century learners and technology is their friend. There are many free online reading games which will keep your child motivated to read all summer long. Another way to use technology is downloading free audio books as a read aloud. Play the books while in the car or before bed.

What Will Discourage Your Children from Reading Don’t criticize your children’s selection of reading material. If your child wants to read comic books this summer instead of an autobiography encourage the choice. If your child selects a book that is too easy or hard for them allow them to take the book but then select another book on their level. Choice in reading material gives children the confidence they need to continue reading.

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to continue reading. Nothing empowers a child more than accolades from their parents.

Do not pressure your child to read. If a child feels pressure anxiety sets in and causes resistance. Reading should be a natural experience. Take a blanket outside on the grass with lunch and books and make it fun.

Remember, parents are the number one role model for their children.

Parents who read have children who read. Model for your children positive reading habits and within time they will follow you. Before you know it school will be back in session and your child will be ahead of the game and defeated the “Summer Slide”.✲ Tara Twente Pyrin M.ED, MA Reading Specialist

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Summer Fun in the Sunscreen Our Favorites for Babies and Kids

By Michael Ahearn

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ummer has come and that means the sun is shining bright, for better or worse. While we all need a little sunlight for vitamin D, it doesn’t take too long before the sun turns from friend to foe. Most kids get a majority of their lifetime sun exposure in the first 18 years of their lives, and without proper protection, it can lead into skin damage, immune system suppression, and even skin cancer later in life. It is great to let your kids go out and play in the fresh, warm air of summer, but you need to be aware of the sun. In order to stop permanent skin damage, the right sunscreen is key, so we have listed a couple products that will keep the harsh rays off of your child’s skin.

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Summer Bullying Blues: Tips for Coping with Summer Bullying

By Michael Ahearn

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nfortunately, bullying is not just a school year problem; it is also something that parents need to be constantly mindful of, even during the summer. Even though they are out of school, kids are still connected to other kids, whether it is physically through summer activities or electronically through social media. And while those bonds can be fun, bullying or cyber bullying is always a possibility.

That can be scary as a parent. You obviously don’t want something like that to happen to your kids, but don’t worry. There are multiple ways that you can navigate your children’s summer so it not only remains a fun, memorable experience, but so it also stays a bully-free time in their life.

Before you even worry about the possibil ity of bullying, take advantage of less school time, using it to communicate with your kids.

By doing so, you not only build a relationship with your children, but you are also finding out what’s going on in their lives. Ask them about the kids they hang out with or their likes and dislikes. By just spending a couple minutes a 30 | June 2015

day doing this, you can help prevent and deal with any potential bullying situation that may arise during the summer months. You can also use those questions to help plan appropriate summer activities.

In this day and age, with the huge num ber of social media platforms available to them right in their pocket, children also have to be mindful about cyber bullying. While it can seem like an overwhelming problem, don’t worry. There are a couple steps you can take as a parent to help. First, make sure that your children have something else to occupy their summer hours besides technology. It could be a camp or summer class; anything that gets them away from being constantly glued to the screen is a plus. Besides having the benefit of getting your child out and active during the summer, less screen time can help deal with cyber bullying. When there is something else to do, they are less likely to be sucked up into the social media space. And for when they are online, you need to establish some ground rules and keep tabs on your child’s online activities. By

doing those two things, you can teach your children Internet etiquette, which has effects beyond cyber bullying. You are not only teaching them how to spot cyber bullying, but you are also helping them remember that social media is a social process. Future teachers, coaches, and college admissions officers could see things that they post today without thinking about it. You can impart your values on their Internet habits, helping them not only deal with cyber bullying, but also help others struggling with it.

And if you want a book series that will

help your younger children understand what bullying is, check out the Weird series by Erin Frankel. It has three books, giving three different perspectives when it comes to bullying: the one being bullied, the one who watches it happen, and the one doing the bullying. Each book talks about a relatable character, showing their feelings as they learn what bullying is and what it does. If would like some help explaining bullying, check these books out today.✲ www.southjerseymom.com

By MB Sanok

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all Pines Day Camp is celebrating their 20th anniversary, and the reunion has already begun. Since former campers make up 84% of the staff, and many parents of current campers attended the camp years before, it’s always an unofficial reunion at camp. But don’t let that stop you if you’re a newcomer to Tall Pines – once you take a look at their list of diverse programs and serene and spaciously green setting, you’ll understand the reasons behind their 20-year success.

Who knew that a group of fields that were proposed as a potential site for the Philadelphia Eagles’ training camp facility transformed into a summer camp yielding unparalleled success in its very first year? A gamut of activities both indoor and outdoor are key to that success including swimming, archery, sports, horseback riding, dance, computers, arts and crafts, climbing towers, boating, fishing, cooking and so much more to choose from that you’ll wish YOU were returning to camp.

Tall Pines’ range of programs and facilities rival those of competing camps (even sleepaway), and they make new improvements and/or additions annually to keep things fresh. Camp Director Andrew Yankowitz notes that “[we’ve] made more physical improvements this year.” After overwhelming acclaim due to building a 50-foot zip tower with two 800foot zip lines for campers ages 7 and up, they’ve added a junior tower for younger campers (ages 3 and up). For Lego lovers, a new room has been devised just for you. Four different craft rooms have been upgraded with new equipment. Their playgrounds have been updated with three new elements, too.

One reason why they exceed the competition is their retention rate of both campers and staffers. People who grew up attending Tall Pines now send their own children to the camp. “They’re coming back to their camp, as they say,” says Yankowitz referring to the former campers who are now parents. On average, most camps can count on about 50% of their campers returning; however, Tall Pines claims an 84% return which is a testament to the caliber of the camp. Many staffers consider themselves alumni as well with about 135 staff members out of 150 fitting those critewww.southjerseymom.com

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ria. According to Yankowitz, 90% of staffers return each year which is an amazing amount and shows how satisfied their employees are. Although the majority are former campers, specialists like the ceramics instructors and lifeguards, for instance, may be outside hires. They encourage campers to “stay and train” and strengthen their ties to Tall Pines by becoming staff members.

When selecting a camp, one decision that arises is if you should send your child to a day or a sleepaway camp. With 20 years’ experience operating Tall Pines, I asked Yankowitz what he believes the advantages are in choosing a day camp over sleepaway for children. He suggested that going to camp at a younger age prepares your child for going away and teaches them life skills, working together and interacting with others.

However, even though your child is away during the day learning new skills and making new friends without the presence of their parents, they are able to sleep in their own beds and recharge for another day of new experiences which can be comforting.

To ease into the transition of camp, Yankowitz advises parents to “go see the camp, check it out, make sure it’s ACA (American Camp Association)-accredited. It helps prepare your child for what is to come if they see it in advance [and so they] can be excited about it.” He cites how kids ingest all types of media regarding Disney World before they even embark on a trip; they are excited and generally not nervous because they know what to expect. He further states that you “don’t [want to] set them up for failure and disappointment [if they camp is not a good fit].

[You need to] guide their expectations.” That way they can acclimate to the idea of camp and know what fun is waiting for them and that it will be a non-threatening yet wonderful and exciting adventure.

Join the 20th anniversary celebration and enroll your child to become part of the Tall Pines family! For more information or to register, please contact them at www.tallpinesdaycamp.com or (856) 262-3900.✲ June 2015 | 31

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LIBERTY LAKE Liberty Lake is a truly transformative experience, teaching life skills to inspire children and adults to change the world. Campers expand their talents, make friends, and have the greatest summer experience imaginable! Check out the Freedom of Choice Elective Program. 1195 Florence Columbus Road, Bordentown, NJ 08505 www.LibertyLakeDayCamp.com, 609.499.7820.

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PUMA JUNIOR GOLF CAMPS

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Entries are due six weeks prior to the event and are filled on a first-come first-served basis. Space is limited.

BURLINGTON COUNTY The Medford Lakes Education Foundation Fundraiser – June 7th 9am-4pm Beach 1 Elite 4 mile race starts at 9amany size board is acceptable, prizes will be awarded to the top 3 men and women- register at paddleguru.com. 4 person relay to start at 11am- 4 people using the same board as a relay- prizes will be awarded to the top 3 teams. We will have boards available to rent Fees are $35 for the Elite 4 mile race and $10 per person for 4 person relay event. Family fun day- festivities begin at 11am Bounce house, Face painting, Kids games dunk tank, food, candy, ice cream, beer garden with live music. 79 Tecumseh Trail Tabernacle Road Medford Lakes, NJ. Saturday - June 13 Bike-A-Thon 8:30 a.m.

Bobby’s Run School-30 Dimsdale Rd., Lumberton, NJ. Take a scenic ride through beautiful Burlington County, including Historic Lumberton and the Pine Barrens— Ride 10, 25, 35, 50 or 100 mi on low-traffic roads over flat-togently-rolling terrain, or walk 1, 3, or 5 mi. The 100-mi route is the 50 ridden twice. Last year’s event drew more than

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200 participants from around the Delaware Valley. This is a family-friendly charity ride, fundraising optional to participants. Your participation will help fund programs and services for children and adults with disabilities--Githens Center (Burlington County Cerebral Palsy Assn.) For more information and to register, go to www.githenscenter.dojiggy.com

CAMDEN COUNTY Alex Lemonade Stand Saturday- June 6, 2015 9:00am to 1:00pm Lindenwold Park At Lily’s BIG Grand Lemonade Stand, we will go larger than ever by attempting to break the Guinness World Record for the Largest Cup of Lemonade: 1,500 gallons. 1000 United States Avenue, Lindenwold, NJ 08021.

Tall Ships Challenge Philadelphia Camden June 25-28 Both shores of the Delaware River It’s an annual event, which drifts in a three year cycle between the waters of the Great Lakes, the Pacific and the Atlantic coasts of North America.

Billowing sails will waft in the breeze for four days when this traveling festival of sea craft pulls into port right here in Philadelphia and Camden.

Audition for Summer Stage Children’s Theatre June 8, 9, and 10 6:30 p.m. at Lincoln Hall, Camden County College, Blackwood, NJ Be part of the magical world of Summer Stage and audition for Mainstage Center for the Arts Children’s Theatre season. Auditions for children entering sixth through twelfth grades for the productions of The Wizard of Oz, My Son Pinocchio, and Shrek, Jr. will take place Each participant will receive everything they need at the auditions, but they must have previously registered for Summer Stage’s seven-week Children’s Theatre program or register the evening of the auditions. Everyone who registers receives the opportunity to perform in one of the shows, plus the final musical revue at the end of the season.

No child is eliminated. For more information on Summer Stage and all Mainstage Center for the Arts programs, visit www. mainstage.org or call (855) 9362467 ext. 6.

Daniel Silva at the Katz JCC Thursday, June 30 7:30-10pm Katz JCC Open to the community New York Times bestselling author Daniel Silva returns to the Katz JCC to discuss his latest novel, The English Spy. This event is part of the Bank of America Festival of Arts Book and Culture of the Katz JCC. Cost: General Admission: $30 per person (includes book.); Please inquire about VIP tickets.

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GLOUCESTER Health Education & Beauty Expo Saturday June 6, 2015 Deptford Mall 10-3pm Family Fun Day! Bring the family. Lots of information and you will be able to talk to representatives from the various businesses represented about their products and services.

Lots of FREE stuff! Raffle prizes and demonstrations for various dance and karate schools.

Sunset Music Festival Friday, June 12, 2015 RiverWinds Community Center Deptford, NJ 5:30PM-10:30PM Featured Band - Don’t Call Me Francis to play at 8pm. Food, beer garden and lots of vendor tables from 5:30-10:30. Free Giveaways, DJ, Face Painting, Bounce House & more. A great night for family fun!

Kids Dance Workshops Tuesday, June 23, 2015 9:00 a.m. - 11:00 a.m.

Ages 6 - 9 years. Wednesday, June 24, 2015 9:00 a.m. - 11:00 a.m. 10 - 13 years $25 Member; $35 Non-Member To register, contact Monarch School of Dance at 856-885-4928 by Fri 6/19.

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Fresh Summer Tomatoes

By Lisa Ann Panzino DiNunzio

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his month I’m sharing two recipes using a heart healthy fruit, the tomato, I know that may sound confusing since many people think of the tomato as a vegetable, but inall actuality it is a fruit! But no matter what it is, tomatoesare chock full of health benefits for you and your family,(unless you are allergic of course).

Tomatoes are known for their outstanding antioxidant content, including their rich concentration of lycopene, they also provide an excellent amount of vitamin C, vitamin E, beta-carotene and a good amount of the mineral manganese. Some research studies show that by eating tomatoes or tomato based foods regularly, along with a healthy diet, may reduced the risk of heart disease, which is even more of a good reason to add tomatoes to your family meals as often as possible! So, until next time, eat well, sleep well, live well. Here’s to our health!

Homemade Tomato Sauce • 2 tbs. extra-virgin olive oil • 1/2 medium onion, finely chopped • 3 cloves garlic, minced • 1 tsp. tomato paste • 10 -12 fresh Italian plum tomatoes, diced • 1/4 cup water • 1 tbs. raw sugar, honey, agave or natural sugar substitute • Pinch of crushed red pepper flakes • Sea salt, to taste • Black Pepper, to taste • A few leaves of fresh basil, chopped Heat olive oil in a medium saucepan over medium heat.

Add onion and cook until translucent, stir in garlic and tomato paste, cook for 1 minute, then add tomatoes and water. Add sweetener of choice, crushed pepper flakes, and season well with salt and pepper, once the sauce comes to a boil lower the heat and cook for 25 minutes.

Add the chopped basil and simmer sauce for 5-10 minutes longer. If desired, puree tomato sauce in a food processor before serving over hot cooked, and drained multi-grain pasta.

Bruschetta • 1 loaf crusty multi-grain bread, sliced • 3 tbs. extra-virgin olive oil, divided • 3 cloves garlic, minced • 5 fresh Italian plum tomatoes, diced small • 2 tsp. balsamic or apple cider vinegar • 4 - 5 fresh basil leaves, cut into thin shredded strips • Sea salt, to taste • Black Pepper, to taste Preheat oven to 450°. Brush each piece of bread with olive oil, place on an un-greased baking sheet and bake for 3 to 5 minutes or until lightly browned. In a bowl, combine garlic, chopped tomatoes, 1 tbs. olive oil, balsamic or apple cider vinegar, basil, salt and pepper, give a good stir then spoon mixture on top of bread slices and serve.

As always, Bon Appetit!

Lisa Ann Panzino DiNunzio is the author of “Seasoned With Love, Treasured Recipes” & “Lisa Ann’s Seasoned With Love II”, and the children’s book, “Snicker Learns An Important Lesson.” Visit her blog http://lisaanndinunzio.blogspot.com/ or Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/profile. php?id=100001935347501 38 | June 2015

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