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Table of Contents mom 2 mom 8 A Day in the Life of a Stay-at-Home Mom 11 Teaching Your Child an Attitude of Gratitude 12 Ten Tips for a Debt-Free Holiday

moms R women 2 13 Part Time Jobs for Every Kind of Parent 15 Love Sees No Color: Our Adoption Story

features 16 Holiday Gift Guide

know 2 grow 22 Type I Diabetes: Living Undefined by the Diagnosis 23 Could Your Child Have Celiac Disease?

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editor’s note nana’s 2 sense life sentences holiday resource guide business spotlight: bancroft things 2 do resource guide

Dear Readers,

hat a month it’s been… and what a month if will be. It all started with a letter from my son’s Kindergarten teacher. She was requesting a meeting with me to discuss Kayden’s “behavioral issues.” Behavioral issues? I wasn’t aware he was having trouble in school. He loves school and was very well behaved in preschool. This got my mind wondering.

What could it be? Is he back-talking? Is he not listening? For the next two days, my husband and I came up with every possible problem we thought he could be having. We even asked Kayden. His answers changed with each question we asked, and were unreliable.

What could it be?

What his teacher had to say was totally unexpected. She started to list several behaviors he was exhibiting, many of which my husband and I had noticed at home, but thought they were just weird quirks, or stages he would grow out of. As the conversation went on, his teacher explained that these were not “normal 5-year-old behaviors” as I had thought them to be. Now what? She recommended Kayden be evaluated by a doctor to see if there was a physiological problem that could be causing these behaviors.

What now? I drove myself crazy for the next week looking up all his symptoms and trying to figure it all out myself. Could it be Autism…or Tourette’s or ADHD…or ODD. What is that? He had some symptoms of each…but didn’t match anything exactly. Our Friday appointment with the neurologist couldn’t come soon enough.

I filled out the 24-page questionnaire from the neurologist prior to the appointment

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and forced myself to get off the Internet. I was driving myself crazy with all the “what-ifs.” My faith kept me grounded and all I could do was wait.

The day finally came when we got to see the doctor. After reviewing, questioning, examining and studying, the doctor informed us that Kayden likely has an autonomic system disorder that could have been caused by the cardiac medications he was on as an infant. They drew blood and ordered several other tests.

We don’t have any finite answers yet, but we have gotten relief. Knowing what is going on with Kayden and getting closer to an answer has lifted the burden of what if.

During the whole ordeal, I posted a vague comment on Facebook about the bad days my son and I were having. One of my friends sent me a concerned message, asking for more details. I told her that Kayden might have Tourette’s or some other neurological disorder. She responded back, “Thank goodness. I was so worried that something unimaginable had happened. I’m so glad that’s all it is! That is manageable.”

Her comment caught me by surprise.

Her perspective was so enlightening for me.

She’s right. Whatever is going on with Kayden is manageable. It’s not fun, it’s frustrating and upsetting, but it’s not devastating news. My focus shifted from worry to thankfulness. No matter what comes next, I’m so grateful it’s not something life-threatening.✲

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The Empty Box was driving home from a day of running errands when I realized my Nana column deadline must surely be coming up soon. A call to the editor confirms my suspicion and I feel a flutter of panic. I did it again. How did the time get away from me? Tomorrow…tomorrow is the big 25 percent off sale I was planning on going to after work. I’ll have to write it tonight.

The change in the air has given me sniffles. I reach over to the tissue box on the passenger seat and it’s empty. Empty like my head right now. Left hand on the wheel, I lean to my right, eyes straight on the road and blindly search for the zipper of my purse which is next to the empty tissue box. I rustle around for the few tissues I know I stuffed in there on my way out the door. It would probably be easier and safer to just put my purse on my lap and search, but the darned thing is too big.

At last, not my favorite lotion-soft tissues, a napkin. It will have to do. This sniffle is turning into a drip too big to be snuffed up. Dry at last.

What’s this? Writing on the napkin?

One of my many misplaced notes, jotted down in the heat of an inspirational moment lest I forget. I had a little trouble reading my writing. I blame it on the flimsy consistency of the napkin. The note reminded me of the young man, just graduated high school, who also could not read one of my notes.

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“I’m sorry my hand writing does get messy when I am in a hurry.”

“Well, that’s not really it. My grandmother kind of writes like this,” as if it were a foreign language, he explained that most people his age don’t write, they print.

Well, I suppose the fancy script handwriting I learned in grade school no longer serves a purpose. Today’s children type on computers in school and use their phones to text messages to each other. They send e-cards, Facebook or Tweet to acknowledge special occasions. They may never know that warm feeling a personal hand scripted note gives.

Has handwriting become an art form?

Now it’s e-learning, e-files, e-books, e-everything. Mind you, I am all for progress and am very computer literate, but I still get the greatest sense of satisfaction from finishing that big fat three-inch novel. And what happens when the lights go out…when the batteries go dead? And the books stores are closing!

I guess the box was not empty after all.✲ —Nana Jean Nana Jean is a South Jersey grandmother with two daughters and six grandchildren. Enjoy her stories about her 39+ years as a mom and 21 years as a grandmother as she shares her experiences and lessons learned with lots of laughs and tears along the way.

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Reverting to Childhood with

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like to think I am a pretty good mother, but when patience and nerves reach an end, it’s best to seek respite.

Tomorrow I will meet up with five girlfriends who have known me since my childhood by the bay. We will leave our adult lives behind and meet at the edge of the sea… we are all so excited. I’ve been afraid to answer the phone, in case it’s cancelled.

There’s Linda, my best friend and hero since fifth grade when she broke her collarbone in gym while somersaulting on a padded mat. She was carried out on a stretcher. So cool. Nancy, who begged me to chaperone her first date with a guy she’d met. There we were, arm in arm … in arm. Ever feel like a fifth wheel? They thought it was romantic, though.

I was a bridesmaid at their wedding.

Pam, who witnessed that wretched night when gin and tonic did me very wrong. Outside her car. In the parking lot of the Bowl-o-Drome.

In November of our senior year Linda, Carol and I took a week off from school to tour colleges in three states in a Chevy Vega that leaked oil over hill and dale.

Cheryl moved to the Deep South and stayed for a while and now runs the seaside hotel her parents owned.

We sent emails in anticipation of our trip – the conversation went like this: “Just checking in to make sure we are all set for next weekend....weather is cooler, but clear. Should be a great time! I have all the Trader Joe wines …”

“There’s a wine tasting and five course meal that weekend and a few festivals and plays. Looks like we picked a good weekend.”

“I can’t drink wine. It makes me sneeze. But I could go to the wine tasting and bring my own hooch in a coffee cup. And I can bring chocolate chip cookies. Who’s up for those?”

“Carol, are you able to hit Costco (my FAVORITE store) on the way to Cape May? May I suggest... Tostitos Artisan Chips, Black Bean & Red Pepper flavor along with Pita Pal Red Pepper hummus. The hummus is in the fresh foods section. Maybe a veggie tray, too? What does everyone else think?”

“I’ll bring the raisin bran and milk…we have to eat breakfast; it’s the most important meal of the day.”

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“I thought we were eating-in one night.

Spaghetti with sausage and meatballs? I can bring that in a crock-pot (minus the pasta of course)…”

“Carol, ANSWER US, DAMMIT!!!”

We finally get an email from Carol: “I was

By Fran LoBiondo on a leave of absence from work the last two weeks. I probably have a hundred messages, but I will catch up on all that has gone back and forth and then I will answer you, dammit! Love you, Carol.”

“Fran, haven’t heard from you in a few days. Perhaps you’ve eaten too much bran?”

“Is there such a thing as too much bran?”

“Does this do it? I can only remember what I’m supposed to bring.

And I just realized my plane leaves at 6 a.m. and I have a layover. Who made these reservations????”

“Uh-oh. Someone needs to work on her chill skills.”✲ Fran LoBiondo of Vineland has children in grade school, high school and college. A Purdue University graduate with a degree in Journalism, she has written about parenting, food and fun for 25 yrs.

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A Day in the Life of a Stay-at-Home Mom

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hen I decided to leave my profession and become a stay-at-home mom, I had many illusions. After all, there would be no more frantic mornings trying to get everyone dressed, fed and out the door in time. No more busy evenings with barely enough time to get dinner cooked, conduct bath and bedtime routines, only to fall into bed exhausted and do it all over again the next day.

I would be home, with no other obligations. It would practically be a vacation! I pictured leisurely mornings in which my daughter and I would do crafts or puzzles, perhaps go to the park. (Of course, this would only be after I fed her a hot, nutritious breakfast.)

My house would be immaculate and stylishly decorated. I would make my way down my long “to-do” list of projects, completing each one with ease. I would look great, well-dressed and put together because I would have time. I would also be fit and trim from our daily walks.

We would go on educational field trips, and of course, my children would watch little or no T.V. The afternoons would pass peacefully with nap or quiet time and when evening came, we would joyfully greet my husband at the door before sitting down to the

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gourmet meal I prepared for our family.

I soon discovered several flaws in my brilliant plan. First and foremost, my child did not know or care about my agenda. And when the second baby came, things got even more complicated.

In my previous life as a professional, I had some degree of authority and control.

This, however, in no way prepared me for dealing with small children. Trying to deal with my 3-year-old’s meltdown because her red socks were in the wash and couldn’t be worn or answering the same “why” question approximately one hundred times per day was difficult, to say the least. Logic simply cannot be applied in these situations.

I also underestimated how incredibly long the days can be.This was especially true when I had been up all night with the baby.

Instead of being well-dressed and put together, I was so tired I often returned home from an outing to find, to my dismay, that the flaps on my nursing bra were still open under my shirt.

And, strangely, the house seemed to be messier, not cleaner. I’m not talking about the kitchen and bathrooms, I’m talking about toys. Since we were home most of the day, the toys were out and played with more often. No sooner would I get them picked up, they would be dumped out all

over the floor, again. And my carefully planned craft projects were finished in minutes, yet required hours of cleanup.

Then we discovered activities. Activities like community center playtime, ballet, music class and many, many more. I eagerly signed us up and soon we were busier than when I was working! That didn’t last long; the children and I were quickly frazzled by the rigorous schedule.

Now, a few years later, I wish I could say I have it all figured out. Unfortunately, I don’t. What I can say is that we have found a balance, a rhythm. I’ve decided that actually playing with my children should be a higher priority than having a perfectly clean house. After all, in twenty years, what will my children remember? Will they fondly remember their clean house or time spent with Mom? I do cook a lot, but occasionally I revert to mac n’ cheese or McDonald’s. And my children do watch T.V. How much? Probably more than the experts say is good, but less than many, I’m sure.

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Teaching your child an

Attitude of Gratitude

By Judy M. Schneider, IBCLC

ll of us enjoy being appreciated and knowing that our efforts have not only been noticed, but valued. Thankfulness, however, is not an inborn, instinctive ability. It’s a learned life-skill passed down from generation to generation. In a young infant, needs and wants are indistinguishable. But as the baby grows into toddlerhood, children can and should begin to understand that not all of their wants will be met.

Showering your child with gifts does not necessarily make them appreciative and can often produce the opposite effect. Anyone who has raised teenagers knows their gratefulness comes often as hindsight, many years later.

The nature of the turmoil of adolescence makes them not very expressive or outwardly thankful. But teens who have exercised an attitude of gratitude as a child are most like to be thankful as adults. Politeness, manners and thankfulness are qualities adults admire in any teen.

Nobel Peace Prize Winner and medical missionary Albert Schweitzer says, “To educate yourself for the feeling of gratitude means to take nothing for granted, but to always seek out and value the kind that will stand behind the action. Nothing that is done for you is a matter of course. Everything originates in a will for the good, which is directed at you. Train yourself never to put off the word or action for the expression of gratitude.”

This month, families will gather to enjoy their traditional Thanksgiving feast. While many emphasize a delicious, elaborate meal, this Thanksgiving Day is a perfect opportunity to spend time with your children reflecting on all the ways you are thankful. In spite of tough economic times and challenges of everyday life, we are blessed. So let us all stop and be thankful on Thanksgiving Day and continue an attitude of gratitude all year long.✲

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Judy Schneider voluntarily serves on the New Jersey Breastfeeding Coalition and Healthy Mother Healthy Babies Coalitions of Cumberland and Salem County. Judy and her husband, John, reside in Pittsgrove. They enjoy spending time with their four married daughters and eight grandchildren who all live in South Jersey.

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Promoting Thankfulness in Your Child

More is caught than expressly taught. Make a concentrated effort to allow your children to see and hear you expressing thanks. Allow them to help with a personal thank you note to someone you both appreciate.

Say please and thank you to your children, beginning when they are old enough to hold something and hand it to you. Let them know you appreciate what they do.

Didn’t start when they were babies? No worries. Start now.

Expect them to say please and thank you to others. And yes, you will have to remind them.

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Praise them when they thank someone on their own. Remind them that they made someone else feel good.

Count your blessings as a family. Make a poster to be displayed in a prominent area of the home. You could hang a “tree” which you add leaves of blessings to or make a blessings paper chain. Start with paper strips and have children write (or tell you a blessing for you to write if they are too little) a blessing on each strip.Tape or glue the strips into interlocking links. Challenge them to see how long they can make the chain.

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Discuss your blessings at the dinner table each night. Ask each person something that happened during the day that they are thankful for.

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Choose an age appropriate family project to “pay it forward.” Volunteer at a homeless or animal shelter. Help with a Thanksgiving food drive or Christmas gift drive. Rake the leaves or shovel snow for an elderly neighbor or disabled person.

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Teach them the difference between rights and privileges. Cell phones, video games and trendy clothes are all privileges to be earned. Set up parameters of how these things can be earned, even if it involves them saving their own money.

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Ten Tips for a DebT-Free Holiday

by Heidi Smith Luedtke

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espite your best intentions, you are likely to overspend (again) this holiday season. You probably know you should set a holiday budget, and you may have written expected costs next to each item on your shopping list. But “even those who enter the season with a budget in mind rarely stick to it,” according to Ethan Ewing, president of the personal finance website Bills.com. “People are overwhelmed by marketing, family members and guilt,” Ewing says. The pressure to demonstrate love through gift-giving is real and intense. Marketing ploys and promotions only increase the pressure we already feel.

In most cases, overspending is not accidental. “It’s more likely to be rationalized,” Ewing says. “Shoppers can talk themselves into blowing the budget by convincing themselves they got a great deal or that the smile on the recipient’s face will be worth the extra expense.” Although these may be true, they are not worth risking your financial future.

Spendy Beliefs You know that money is no substitute for love, but you may feel you need to spend equal amounts on each recipient to avoid the impression of favoritism. Or you may feel pressured to spend a certain amount of money because of your gift-giving – and receiving – history, says certified public accountant and financial coach Kelley Long, CPA. “Don’t feel trapped because you were especially generous last year,” Long says. Start fresh, taking your current financial situation into account.

A 2009 survey conducted by Capital One found 55 percent of people did not discuss a holiday budget with their partner or spouse. Before you start shopping, have a family meeting. Everyone should know what to expect.

Debt-Busting Behavior If you want more joy and less stress this holiday season, safeguard your budget. Nothing you could buy feels as good as starting the New Year in the black. Here’s how to do it. m Budget everything. Include decorations, cards and stamps, food for parties, holiday clothing and dry cleaning costs, babysitting, teachers’ gifts and year-end tips for service people. Gifts are only one line-item and they may not be your biggest expense. m Shop sales. “But only for items you already planned to purchase,” says Long. Just because something is on sale does not mean it’s a good value and it definitely does not mean you need it. Make only planned purchases.

m Be card smart. Leave credit cards at home to avoid overspending.

Studies show people spend about 15 percent more when they pay with credit cards. If you must use a card, carry just one. You will be less likely to lose sight of your spending. m Cash out. Maximize savings by carrying large bills, not a pile of ones, fives and tens. You will be less likely to break a $50 bill to buy a latte or a silly stocking stuffer. m Go big. Buy one significant gift for each recipient, not several smaller ones. When you buy a $12 trinket for one child, you will feel pressured to buy the other kids trinkets, too, says Long. Soon, you spent $40 on “nothing.” m Trade up. Purchasing decisions are trade-offs: money spent on ornaments is not growing your retirement account or kids’ college funds.

Focus on long-term wealth and well-being, not short-term satisfaction. m Keep track. Overspending does not happen by accident, but people often do not realize how much they are spending. Writing down each expenditure as you make it will force you to think before buying. m Just do it. Give gifts of giving instead of material goods. Work late so a co-worker can attend her child’s holiday party or take her packages to the post office. She will appreciate your gift of service more than any token you could buy. m Skip yourself. Avoid “to me, from me” gifts, says Long. According to the National Retail Federation, shoppers spent an average of $108 on themselves last year. When you see something you like, write it on a wish list.

You will be ready when your spouse and kids ask what you want and they will be happy to buy something you will really enjoy.

Bottom Line: Focus on having more fun or making fonder memories, not on buying more stuff this season. When you do, you will make your family rich in the ways that really count. Your loved ones would not want you to suffer financially in order to give them a bigger gift.

Give reasonably, with a generous smile. True abundance is in your heart and your home, not at the mall.✲

m Spend time. Plan a family trip instead of buying gadgets. You will treasure shared memories long after today’s technology is obsolete.

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Part-Time Jobs for Every Kind of Parent

By Lela Davidson

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hether you need extra income or just some time away from your family, there are plenty of great part-time jobs for parents. What you really want is a part-time gig that benefits you and your family, instead of simply adding to your already heavy load. The trick is to find the perfect fit—a job that will not leave you feeling drained after your shift.

For the Social Parent If you love play dates and PTA, you may excel in sales. Even with a limited amount of time available to work, you can earn maximum cash in this field. Salespeople often control their own schedules. And talking to other adults is a welcome break from toddler conversation. Daytime salespeople pitch everything from advertising to retail products. However, do not despair if your sunlight hours are consumed in parental chores. Home party sales leverage your social personality in the evening. These companies sometimes get a bad rap, but most are extremely reputable, offer a quality product and equip novice salespeople with every tool to earn extra cash.

For Parents Who Can’t Get Enough Some parents love cuddling babies, others live for wrangling toddlers and some just cannot get enough of settling schoolyard disputes. If other people’s children do not drive you insane, jobs in childcare or education are a natural choice. These positions put your vast parenting skills to use while providing valuable benefits. Free tuition is often worth more than the actual paycheck. Other great perks include school-day schedule and sometimes medical and retirement benefits. For super flexibility, check out substitute teaching. In most districts you do not have to have a teaching degree to fill this role. Check with the state regarding certification requirements.

For the Highly Organized Parent If you love a good spreadsheet, consider becoming a real estate appraiser. Check with the state for licensing and other requirements. Another often-overlooked job is that of a notary, but not just an ordinary notary—a mobile notary. There are very few requirements to become a notary, so as long as you have not been convicted of a felony, you should qualify. Sites like Indeed.com and GetNotaryJobs.com can help you connect with companies that need notaries to witness signings of various legal documents. Reliable and professional mobile notaries set their own schedule and take as many, or as few, assignments as they like.

For Crafty Parents If you like to work with your hands, you can probably find a local florist, caterer or decorator who needs help. While this can provide some hourly wages, do not overlook the opportunity to create your own parttime business. It has never been easier to start and nurture a business based on your love of tinkering, painting or gluing stuff together. Set up a storefront on Etsy.com to sell anything you can imagine. Another crafty business model you might try is consulting. For example, if you love to scrapbook you can offer to complete other parents’ unfinished scrapbook pages. Love to take pictures? You will pay for that fancy camera in no time by providing families with affordable and artful portrait options.

For Deal Seeking Parents Deal seeking parents have virtually unlimited part-time employment options depending on where they want to save. Going broke buying kids clothes? Sign on at The Gap. Need to redecorate? Take a few hours at Pier 1. Like to travel? Flight attendants are not the only ones with airfare benefits. Airline ticket agents and even call center employees travel on the cheap, too—from free or reduced fares to discounts on resorts and attractions. Airline gigs are the ideal solution for those who have extended family in faraway places. If none of these options excite you, you can still save a lot of money by working through a temp agency to get retail inventory jobs. You can “earn” a lot by being the first to know what is about to hit the clearance rack. www.southjerseymom.com

These are only a few of the many options available for part-timers today.

Whatever your style, take the time to match it to your job search.

Securing work that is an ideal fit for your personality will not only pay off financially—it will make you happier and that almost always makes for better parenting!✲ Lela Davidson is the author of Blacklisted from the PTA (Jupiter Press, July 2011). Her writing is featured regularly in family and parenting magazines throughout the United States and Canada. www.leladavidson.com.

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Who Should Attend and Why? • Parents with teens, ‘tweens and children age 4 and up will want to attend!

• Meet one-on-one with camp and school staff, ask questions and gather additional information in a relaxed atmosphere.

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Love Sees No Color:

Our Adoption Story

By Karen Ognibene ust this past week, I received a five-page handwritten letter from a South Jersey MOM reader going through infertility.

She expressed her sadness with her current situation and how alone she feels. I was reminded how challenging that time of my life was. Chris and I were one of the first to get married among our friends and family, yet the last to have children.

We tried to get pregnant for years… and looking back it was a great opportunity for growth and introspection. Going through it was an emotional roller coaster full of laughter and tears. We did fertility treatments, but I did not feel like myself with all the hormones. I did not always have the grace and poise I would have liked to have; hormones took a toll on my body.

We wanted admission into the pregnancy club desperately. We did not want a child-free life. A quandary when the body does not cooperate. Do we continue with fertility treatments?

Adopt? Accept not having children? A lot of couples get stuck at this point. For a year, my husband and I discussed adoption.

We finally decided to move through the fear of the unknown and start the adoption process.

After researching different adoption programs, we weighed our options and selected Holt International’s South Korean program, the oldest international adoption program in the U.S. The first time we went through the adoption process, we spent hours filling out paperwork, as we wanted our social worker to know we were good parental candidates. Looking back, it was a little humorous how intensely we answered the questions. But after seven years of infertility, we desperately wanted a baby. Thirteen months later, we became parents of a 4-month-old baby boy, our son Skyler.

Our life was so full, but we knew our family wasn’t complete. We wanted to adopt again and this time decided to adopt a girl. One of the perks of adoption: you get to choose the gender of your child! It would take 16 months from start to finish for our daughter, Julia, to come home to us.

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Over the years I’ve learned to empower the kids about their adoption instead of protecting them when questions are asked in their presence. It has gotten easier as they’ve gotten older, but we still run into people who ask tactless questions in front of our children. We just do our best to help them feel secure.

We have no regrets in our process except that it took us so long to accept the journey that was meant for us. It does not matter that they do not resemble us, we embrace their unique qualities.

Often parents expect their biological children to be a “chip off the old block.” If you are an athlete you may expect the same from your child. With adoption there are no expectations. We have watched our two beautiful children unfold into amazing individuals.

They are full of surprises every day. I remember when our daughter was 4 and asked to play the violin. I quickly signed her up for lessons and purchased a violin because I thought maybe she would be the next Yo-Yo Ma. No music prodigy as of yet, but who knows what hidden talents they will surprise us with in the future.

Everyone’s journey is different and if you are thinking of adopting I suggest attending information meetings that the many adoption organizations have. Every adoption program has different criteria. You have to educate yourself to understand your own parameters. Only you can decide what is right for you. I wish you peace along your journey.✲ For more information about Holt Adoption visit www.holtinternational.org.

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2011 Holiday Books

DAVE RAMSEY’S FINANCIAL PEACE FOR KIDS

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ALPHABET KIDS Alphabet Kids multicultural series follows a group of six children, each from a different ethnic background. This incredibly cute and clever series teaches children to love and respect themselves while doing the same for others.

They learn to embrace other children’s different cultural differences that are more than skin deep. $30, www.alphabetkids.com

WORLD ALMANAC FOR KIDS 2012 The World Almanac for Kids is perfect for the child with an insatiable curiosity. For ages 8-13, this ultimate reference book includes features on everything from animals to games and sports to technology and computers, plus a brand-new “Environment” feature on living green and how small choices and practical changes can make a big difference. $13.99

Dave Ramsey took his acclaimed Financial Peace University series and made a kid’s version that helps parents teach their children about money. The Financial Peace Jr. kit comes with dry-erase boards to keep track of savings and commission; magnets for giving, saving, and spending; a kid’s sized calculator; an instruction manual for parents & more. $19.95, www.daveramsey.com

CURIOUS CRITTERS Photographer David FitzSimmons turns his camera on a variety of animals common throughout North America and presents stunning images of everyday animals. Along with each photo is a vignette, told from the critter’s perspective, that educates and entertains. $19.95

DVDs THE ORIGINAL CHRISTMAS CLASSICS Includes “Frosty the Snowman,” “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer,” “Santa Claus is Comin’ to Town” and “Frosty Returns.” Watching these iconic TV specials are part of the American holiday tradition, just like baking cookies or trimming the Christmas tree! The holiday season just wouldn’t be the same without them. $44.99

BEGINNER’S WEIGHT LOSS TRANSFORMATION WITH BOB HARPER

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Beginner’s Weight Loss Transformation is ideal for beginners and also targets those who want to re-invigorate their daily routines. Contains 2 workouts for a combined 56 minutes of muscle-building drills that burn fat and build body resistance. Features Harper’s dynamic workout methods, focusing on cardiovascular conditioning and muscle-toning performance. $14.98, www.mytrainerbobdvd.com

SCRAMBLED STATES One day, Kansas wakes up grumpy and announces to Nebraska that life is dull and changes must be made. Nebraska, sick of hearing North Dakota and South Dakota bicker all the time, organizes a party for all the states. At the party, they all decide to switch places. What will happen to “The Scrambled States of America?” $14.95 16 | November 2011

JURASSIC PARK BLU-RAY TRILOGY All three epic Jurassic Park films have been digitally restored and re-mastered in flawless high definition for the ultimate viewing experience. Additionally, the films’ visceral sound effects and the unforgettable music from legendary composer John Williams can now be heard in pristine 7.1 surround sound. Blu-ray $79.98; DVD $49.98 Visit our website and sign up for our e-newsletter

Gift Guide Games

TRUTH BE TOLD

Truth Be Told is a laugh-out-loud, pretend to know your friends and family party game! Each round, one of the players is the Host, and asks a question such as, “Truth Be Told, my favorite snack is _____.” The Host writes a truthful answer–pork rinds. All other players pretend to be the Host, and write bluff answers. The Host collects and reads all answers aloud, and players try to guess the True Answer. $24.95, www.buffalogames.com and Target, Wal-Mart & K-Mart

BRAINSTRING ADVANCED The award-winning Brainstring Advanced is perfect for hours of unplugged entertainment during the cold winter months! Trying to figure out this challenging brain teaser will stretch your puzzlesolving skills to the next level.

Touted as the “Rubik’s cube of the next generation.” Ages 8 and up! $16.99, www.recenttoysusa.com

BRONCO Rock the horse back and forth between the holes to find where his feet can fit and turn. Discover the pattern that leads him to the “y” shaped landing and out of the horseshoe. Age 4 and up. $6.99, www.recenttoysusa.com

GOTCHA! In Gotcha!, players race to hit the buzzer whenever they see someone breaking a rule—all the while making sure they themselves are following the rules. The more rules that are played, the funnier the game gets—a perfect mix of laugh-out-loud fun and hectic mayhem! Ideal for 3-8 players. $24.95, www.buffalogames.com

EXACT CHANGE Teaching children financial responsibility can be difficult for parents in today’s society where most purchases are made by swiping a card at the register. Watching a clerk struggle to break a dollar is never a good motivator for kids to learn. Exact Change helps parents boost their child’s counting and addition skills. Age 6 and up. $9.99, www.continuumgames.com

I SPY SUPER CHALLENGER FOR LEAPFROG’S LEAPSTER EXPLORER

Video/Educational Games ZUMBA FITNESS 2 FOR WII This sequel to the best-selling dance fitness video game features tracks from chart toping artists.

These new tracks paired with hot new choreography will kick-start your workout and amp up the fun for everyone. Rated “T” for teen. $39.99, available where video games are sold.

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I SPY SUPER CHALLENGER combines I SPY’s intriguing photographs and riddles with fast-paced arcade style games.

Engages players in seek and find play with 50 different riddles. Require players to use their thinking, matching, memory and math skills to solve puzzles. Ages 5-9. $24.99, Target

HULK HOGAN MAIN EVENT FOR KINECT XBOX 360 Introducing the first full-body motion wrestling game!

Transform your living room into a wrestling ring and train with Hulk Hogan as he schools you on the best jawdropping moves and stunts to win over the crowd and defeat your opponent in spectacular style. Rated “T” for Teen. $49.99, available where games are sold.

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AROMASOUL MEDITERRANEAN GIFT KIT

For Her

Give the gift of relaxation this holiday season with [ comfort zone ]’s Aromasoul Mediterranean Gift Kit. Featuring the Aromasoul Mediterranean Shower Gel and Mediterranean Body Lotion, as well as the Mediterranean Candle. This kit has all the anti-stress essentials. $39, www.comfortzone.it

LOLITA LEMPICKA EAU DE TOILETTE

KRIGLER RICH MICRO SCRUB This deeply indulgent scrub was used by queens of Italy to refine and soften skin by removing impurities and dead surface cells. Made with olive pits, the natural formula is mild enough for body and face. Skin is left looking visibly softer, younger and more radiant with each use. $51, www.krigler.com

The floral-fruity fragrance takes you by surprise and charms you with its mouthwatering sweetness and exquisite femininity. Lemon zest, apricot nectar and black cherry unlock sophisticated floral heart notes of iris concrete and jasmine sambac. A mysterious base of frankincense, musk and violet wood enriches the mood. $48 and up, www.nordstrom.com

HELLY HANSEN CLOTHING Since 1877, Helly Hansen has provided worldclass clothing for skiers and adventurers. The apparel is both waterproof and breathable, yet lightweight and fast-drying. They have everything from shirts to jackets and gloves to boots in great fashionable designs.

Prices vary, www.hellyhansen.com

HADAKI BAG Available in unique designs and color combinations, at an extremely affordable price, there is a Hadaki bag for everyone. Edgy yet modern, simple yet sophisticated, and functional for all lifestyles. $8 to $220, www.hadakishop.com.

PSA ESSENTIALS STAMPS These self-inking custom stamps save time! No more writing your address on Christmas cards a thousand times! Ink lasts 10,000 impressions.

Plus, you can switch out the middle of your stamp with thousands of interchangeable designs. $9 and up , visit www.psaessentials.com/newjersey.htm for local retailers

MY LITTLE CUPCAKE CAKE POP MINI MOLDS Easy and fun No-Bake cupcake pop mold creates perfect cupcake shapes every time for your pops!

My Little Cupcake Pop molds are just the right size for guests to snack on. Easy No-Bake recipe gets you decorating in no time!

Yummilicious Guaranteed! $5.95, www.mylittlecupcakepop.com

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LANI DESIGN: CUSTOM HAND PAINTED GLASSWARE From “Bright Lights” to “Holiday Dreams” give the gift of a beautiful, custom wine glass. Lani Designs glassware is scratch proof, fade proof color and dishwasher safe. Available in 8 holiday designs and dozens of others for year round use. $25/glass, www.lanidesigns.com

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Provides intense hydration and decreases the signs of aging. Leaves skin feeling soft and completely rejuvenated. $65, www.zensationbeaute.com

SIMPLY VERA WANG Simply Vera Vera Wang’s holiday collection has chic and stylish, yet affordable slippers, purses and other apparel for everyone on your holiday list.

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SODASTREAM FOUNTAIN JET SODA MAKER MACHINE

MULTI TOOL FLASHLIGHT

Turn tap water into sparkling water in under 30 seconds, with no clean-up. Enjoy the freshness and convenience of homemade soda and protect the environment at the same time. Fizz to your taste and add the flavor of your choice. $79.99 and up, Macy’s, Bed, Bath & Beyond, www.amazon.com

For Him

Got a handyman at home? Quench his insatiable thirst for all things DIY with one of these tools. Choose among the Multi-Tool Flashlight, the Pliers Multi-Tool or the Hammer Multi-Tool, all of which offer a mini saw, two screwdrivers, multiple blades, a can/bottle opener and a file. $30, Things Remembered

SUPERHERO STAMP CUFF LINKS Business man by day with the ability to leap tall buildings by night, he’ll love wearing his favorite superhero on his sleeve with these cuff links. Made from actual U.S. postage stamps. $99.95 www.redenvelope.com

BABY’S FIRST WARDROBE GIFT BASKET

For Baby

LIL JO’S FOOTWEAR FOR BABY

The new baby has just come home and their closet will be full, thanks to you. This practical, two-handled, collapsible storage cube has practically everything baby will need to wear. $119.95, www.capalbosonline.com

These shoes are made with super-soft leather and meet international safety standards.

Lead-free and non-toxic. Sizes 0-6 months to 3-4 years old. Prices vary, www.liljos.com

Stocking Stuffers HARD CANDY NAIL POLISH Put the final touch on fingertips and toes with a top-quality formula. The long-lasting, chip-resistant polish ensures flawless results with each application and is DBP, toluene and formaldehyde free. $4, Wal-Mart

NATURAL VINES GOURMET LICORICE What’s red and black and has only 17 calories? Gourmet licorice made in the USA. Natural Vines are the gourmet licorice that Americans are chewzing! Made with high quality, all-natural ingredients and real licorice extract.

Comes in strawberry and black. $3.49, ShopRite and other grocery stores

BURT’S BEES BEEUTIFUL TREATS Give both your lips and your finger tips something to love this holiday season with Burt’s Bees® Beeutiful Treats. This perfect stocking stuffer includes a collection of the bestselling Burt’s Bees® lip balms and hand care products. Choose from the lip balm, hand salve or cuticle cream. $4.99, Grocery, drug, and mass retailers and www.burtsbees.com www.southjerseymom.com

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For Kids

CAT TOUGH TRACKS Young machine enthusiasts can experience the “feel of real” as they dig and play in the sand with these free-wheeling construction trucks, available in Cat Dump Truck, Cat Bulldozer, and Cat Wheel Loader. $10,Toys R Us, Wal-Mart, and Target

PERSONALIZED PILLOWCASES If your child is having trouble sleeping in their bed, then a personalized pillowcase may add some extra comfort and security!

Bunnies and Bows makes pillowcases silk-screened and personalized with your child’s name, favorite interest, sport, or room décor.

Ballerina, cowboy, angel, baseball, crown, mermaid, and more! $19.95, www.bunniesandbows.com

GOOD BOY ROY SHIRTS

Fun Shirts for Fun Kids. Zack, (aka Good Boy Roy) is 15. He draws and creates all the characters that are part of his line.

These new, original, fun t-shirts with a positive message are great for everyone. Prices vary, www.goodboyroy.com

BACKYARD SAFARI OUTFITTER UTILITY BELT

ALL-NATURAL SPA DAY

Equips your young child with all the essential field gear they could possibly need to explore the great outdoors and get active. $19.99, Toys R Us, Wal-Mart, Barnes & Noble and Target.

You’re invited to explore the natural science of beauty. Use the party-planning guide and the project cards to prepare a shopping list for yummy menus and all-natural beauty products. Then set the scene and get busy relaxing with your friends. Ages: 7+ $29.99, www.smartlabtoys.com

ATLANTIC MEDICAL IMAGING THE REGION’S PREMIER IMAGING PROVIDER OF CHOICE Amy F. Austin, M.D. Musculoskeletal Imaging

For nearly 50 years, the radiologists at AMI have been providing South Jersey with the highest quality of patient care. Our team of 39 board-certified, subspecialty trained physicians and highly skilled staff remain committed to clinical excellence, offering unmatched technology while delivering accurate and timely results.

At AMI, we offer a full range of women’s imaging services including breast imaging, DEXA scan, pelvic ultrasound and 3D/4D OB ultrasound.

To schedule an appointment, please call (609) 677-XRAY (9729) or (609) 463-9500 IMAGING SERVICES: • MRI

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hen 6-year-old Pittsgrove resident Joey Bucolo proclaimed he had asked his teacher to use the restroom six times in one school day, mom Karen Bucolo expected to hear from the teacher. When Joey came home with a similar restroom report later that week, Karen’s mom instincts waved a yellow caution flag. Once Joey sucked down approximately sixty-four ounces of apple juice after playing and was tired and miserable most days, those mom instincts waved the red flag that something was not right and needed investigation.

And Type I Diabetes was the diagnosis. Formerly known as Juvenile Diabetes/insulin-dependent diabetes and commonly confused with Type 2 Diabetes, Type I Diabetes is diagnosed in children and young adults. It occurs when the immune system mistakenly destroys insulin-producing (islet) cells in the pancreas, causing it to not produce enough insulin, the hormone “needed to convert sugar, starches and other food into energy needed for daily life.” In Type 2 diabetes, islet cells still function, but the body either resists or does not produce enough insulin. As prevalent as Type 1 diabetes may seem, only 5 percent of people with diabetes have Type 1.

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DIAGNOSIS The most consistent symptoms of Type I diabetes are increased thirst and frequent urination, extreme hunger, weight loss, fatigue, irritability or unusual behavior, blurred vision, or yeast infection/diaper rash in female children and babies, developing quickly over a period of weeks.

If parents observe these symptoms, a pediatrician appointment should be made immediately.

Rebecca Stanwood, RN, CPNP, states the procedure for confirming Type I diabetes includes a urine analysis test looking for ketones, (chemicals the body makes when blood is insulin-deficient), a blood glucose (sugar) test and a referral to an endocrinologist.

So how do parents and children endure the journey from diagnosis to living undefined by Type I diabetes? Lifting the blame is the first step.

Acknowledging that there was nothing you could have done to prevent your child from the disease is the first step.

Contrary to rumors, it’s not because of the amount of sugar they had as a baby or whether you did or did not breastfeed. (However, research is being done to discern genetics and the environment as factors). Acceptance is the second step and third, parents, children and caregivers should immediately enroll in education sessions, often provided by hospitals. Although each child is different, talking with parents of children with Type I diabetes is comforting.

Lastly, the child-care provider or school nurse should be made aware of the diagnosis and provided with a treatment plan so that students can monitor glucose levels and regulate insulin at school.

Ensuring that students with Type 1 diabetes succeed in school is of such importance that the American Diabetes Association (ADA) created the Safe At School Campaign: Safety and Fairness for Children with Diabetes.

Kathy Loughlin, RN, and school nurse at Red Bank Elementary School in West Deptford, says each child with Type I diabetes is different in terms of the assistance they need in the areas of blood-sugar-monitoring, carbohydrate-counting, insulin injections or pump entries. She suggests all diabetic students carry a parent-approved carbohydrate snack with them to and from school and keep one in the classroom and the health office in the event of hypoglycemia.

Since exercise may cause hypoglycemia, checking blood sugar prior to physical education class is wise. Other recommendations include: the child wearing a medical alert bracelet, including the child in the planning process, meeting annually with teachers, nurse and staff members to provide current medical orders, treatment plans and emergency phone numbers, signing a release so the school nurse may speak to the child’s physician and providing the school with all care-supplies. Health aide MaryKay Zola of West Deptford Middle School reminds teachers to never permit a diabetic student to report to the nurse’s office unattended.

A diagnosis for Type 1 diabetes should not define your child. Should your child be diagnosed with Type I diabetes, remember Karen Bucolo’s outlook: “Are we praying for a cure? Every day without fail. Until then, this is something we have been dealt. It’s something that we will deal with, but it is not something that will define our child and the person he is.” For more information, contact the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation International at www.jdrf.org.✲ Visit our website and sign up for our e-newsletter

Could Your Child Have Celiac Disease?

By Carolyn Leigh Kellerman oes your child suffer from fatigue or loss of energy, have severe abdominal cramping, migraines or chronic diarrhea or constipation? If so, they could be suffering from Celiac Disease. Celiac Disease, also known as Gluten Sensitive Enteropathy is still a mystery. One out of 133 people in the United States are affected by Celiac Disease.

Many people live with it and do not even realize they have it.

Celiac is not a food allergy. It’s an autoimmune disease. Some food allergies, such as wheat allergy, go away as you age. This is not the case with Celiac Disease.

Just ask Brett and Lauren Ravitz of Voorhees. Their daughter Hailey was diagnosed in February 2010 with Celiac Disease.

She was only 2-years-old.

Hailey was always a happy and outgoing child but her energy level slowly began to diminish when she started vomiting a few times a day, usually before and after dinner.

Her happy demeanor disappeared also.

Doctors believed she was having a difficult time recovering from a stomach virus. “I thought it was a bad combination of just having a new baby sister and moving into our new house,” states Lauren.

By April, Hailey was vomiting every other day and sometimes in the middle of the night.

“She would cry, we would run in and carry her to the bathroom where she would vomit in the bathtub; we would clean her up, change the sheets and put her back in her crib. Overnight laundry loads were common so we could be ready for the next night. Midnight baths were needed when we couldn’t get there in time and she threw up in her crib,” explains Lauren.

Hailey was losing weight rapidly.

The Ravitz’s took Hailey to a gastroenterologist. They ran several tests, one of which was an endoscopy, where forceps are passed through a tube to take a sample of tissue from the lining of the intestines. The endoscopy confirmed Hailey had Celiac Disease.

By this time, Hailey had lost 20 percent of her body weight. The Ravitz’s put Hailey on a gluten free diet and saw positive changes almost immediately.

“Our happy daughter was coming back!” say the Ravitz’s. They felt relief knowing this wasn’t a life threatening disease, as long as they stuck to the new diet.

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Hailey is now 3 and doing very well. She learned to substitute foods such as birthday cake for gluten free cake and regular pizza for gluten free.

But it isn’t always easy. Hailey’s parents will always have to pack her gluten-free food and take it with them wherever they go.

The Ravitz’s want other parents with children who have Celiac Disease to know that with some work, they can live a normal life. The most important thing is to be prepared.

The Ravitz’s own Shoprite in Cherry Hill, Marlton and Mt. Laurel. They have now dedicated an entire section to gluten-free foods to help others who suffer from Celiac Disease.

Celiac disease can appear at any time in a person’s life. In adults, the disease can be triggered for the first time after surgery, viral infection, severe emotional stress, pregnancy or childbirth. Celiac disease is a multi-system, multi-symptom disorder. Symptoms vary and are not always gastrointestinal (GI). GI symptoms can often mimic other bowel disorders so a proper diagnosis can be difficult to obtain.

See your doctor if you or your child has any of the classic symptoms (see sidebar).✲

CLASSIC SYMPTOMS • Abdominal cramping, intestinal gas • Distention and bloating of the stomach • Chronic diarrhea or constipation (or both) • Steatorrhea – fatty stools • Anemia – unexplained, due to folic acid, B12 or iron deficiency (or all) • Unexplained weight loss with large appetite or weight gain

OTHER SYMPTOMS • Dental enamel defects • Osteopenia, osteoporosis • Bone or joint pain • Fatigue, weakness and lack of energy • Infertility – male/female • Depression • Mouth ulcers • Delayed puberty • Tingling or numbness in hands or feet • Migraine headaches

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Holiday Resource Guide...

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HAPPY HANKY The handkerchief has long been a part of special occasions and is a new handbag staple for the eco-chic. Happy Hanky sets a new trend with its line of fun, stylish handkerchiefs. $15 each. www.happyhanky.com, (609) 230-0647.

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GIVE A GREAT GIFT FOR ALL YOUR GLASS NEEDS Cutting Edge Glass can repair or replace auto, insulated & plate glass, table tops, mirrors, screens, etc. Window Tinting and mobile service available–we can come to you! www.CuttingEdgeGlassCo.com, (610) 364-3100.

BLS CUSTOM JEWELRY Specializing in custom hip, hand-stamped jewelry. Visit www.blsjewelry.com to view all designs. Follow us on Facebook: BLS Jewelry. Affordable gifts for just about anyone. Contact via email at mblsjewelry@hotmail.com.

LOOKING FOR A GREAT GIFT? Place an order and give gifts for FREE! Host a party & earn $$ while others buy gifts for friends and family? Join our team! Jessica Martin, jlmartin31@verizon.net, (856) 767-0274 or Stephanie Joseph (856) 783-8840, stephanieloves31@gmail.com. Use Code SJMOMS31 for BONUS FREE GIFT! BELL'S DRIVING SCHOOL Building confident, safe drivers for over 15 years, Bell's Driving School offers instruction for beginners as well as those needing to improve their driving skills.

Makes a great holiday gift for students!

(856) 457-7730, (856) 498-3563, www.bellsdrivingschool.org.

MOORE CREATIVE PHOTOGRAPHY Will your family be home for the holidays? This is a great time for a family portrait. Family and children, maternity and newborn; glamour and boudoir. “Fine portraits today because things change.” (856) 415-1000, moorecreativephotography.com.

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TASTEFULLY SIMPLE Tastefully Simple: The food you love, the time you deserve. Contact Lisa: FREE taste test at home/ work, corporate gift giving, hassle-free fundraising, business opportunity consults. tastefullysimple.com/web/llozada-shaw; (215) 380-4215 id#0076036.

RIVERWINDS RESTAURANT Offers on the water dining and catering with an elegant atmosphere and spectacular view! Legendary service! 1075 Riverwinds Dr, West Deptford. www.theriverwindsrestaurant.com, (856) 579-7900.

SIRI’S THAI FRENCH CUISINE & PATISSERIE High-class presentation with reasonable prices. 2117 Rt 70 West, Cherry Hill. www.siris-nj.com, (856) 663-6781.

CHILDREN’S THEATRE NOV & DEC SHOWS Dr. Dolittle Nov 17-19. Don't miss Broadway Theatre's adaptation of this beloved children's story.

Santa Claus is Coming to Town Dec 15-17. Follow Kris Kringle’s entertaining journey from childhood to adulthood! Tickets $9. pitmanbroadwaytheatre.com; (856) 384-8381.

NEVER DRIVE TO THE DRY CLEANER AGAIN! Bernie’s Mobile Dry Cleaning provides a timesaving service that simplifies busy lives.

Convenient pick-up and delivery of dry cleaning, laundry & alterations.

Superior customer service. 116 Wilson Rd, Turnersville.

(856) 245-7161.

MAGIC SHOW The Amazing World of Magic 2011 Edition.

Dec 28-31. Tickets: $12-$15. See magic & mystery presented in a humorous fashion! Fun for all ages; more than 2 hours of magic fun! (856) 384-8381, pitmanbroadwaytheatre.com.

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RELAX AT UTOPIA SALON & SPA Utopia’s world-class massages and other services help you escape the hectic pace of the holidays. Give the gift of relaxation to yourself & friends. Utopia Salon & Spa, 510 N. East Ave, Vineland. (856) 794-9200, www.utopiasalonspa.com.

CALL REDEFINED SPACES FOR ALL OF YOUR HANDYMAN SERVICE NEEDS! Relax and enjoy your new space! Offering repairs & installs of doors, windows, kitchens & bathrooms; painting, drywall and trim work. Licensed (#13VH048180) & insured. Serving South Jersey. References available.

(609) 670-0604.

ESCAPE DAILY LIFE Absolute Haven is: an escape from daily life, a massage, an experienced staff, a facial, a natural break for your body & mind and really the place you should be right now. www.absolutehaven.com, (856) 753-9993.

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business spotlight

Local Moms Laud New “Inclusive” Daycare Center Little Butterflies is operated by Bancroft, a leading nonprofit organization

J

ennifer Houseman knew her son Ryan needed a special kind of daycare program.

Like most children with autism, the 4-year-old has delayed language and social skills, so he needs lots of extra attention in those areas.

Fortunately, a new Haddon Heights program fits the bill. One of just a few similar centers across the tri-state area, Little Butterflies is designed for children both with and without autism and other developmental disabilities.

“I was so happy this was available,” says the Mickleton mom. “I’ve seen improvement already. Ryan’s eye contact is better; he’s happier. He’s happy to go there every day.”

A program of Bancroft, a leading nonprofit organization, Little Butterflies can serve about 40 children ranging from infancy to age 7.

“Most daycare centers are not set up to handle the needs of children with developmental issues and often don’t accept them. Bancroft wanted to address that need for parents,” says Sharon Jurman, senior director of early childhood and outreach services for Haddonfield-based Bancroft, which has provided special education and related services since 1883.

Michelle Borden, whose son Cole goes to Little Butterflies, is also thrilled with the program. “Not only is Cole getting great care, I’m learning better ways to handle his behaviors.”

The Collingswood mom credits Bancroft for providing an extra level of staff training that is not found in typical daycare centers – and that enables staff members to teach appropriate behaviors and accommodate different learning styles.

For instance, children with developmental delays are especially prone to temper tantrums and other behavior problems. Such was the case with Cole, when he tried two previous daycare facilities.

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“It was disastrous,” recalls Michelle.

“He was disruptive; he was throwing things.”

At Little Butterflies, however, staff members redirect Cole’s attention when he begins to melt down, thereby lessening or preventing his outbursts.

“That extra training they have means Cole isn’t in time-out all day,” says Michelle.

Plus, behavioral therapists, specialeducation professionals and other experts are available on-site for consultations, Jurman notes.

Moreover, Little Butterflies has special appeal to parents of siblings with and without developmental challenges.

“We provide families with a onestop facility that offers an enriched educational and socialization program for all of their children,” says Jurman.

In addition to a full schedule of structured activities each day, Little Butterflies provides art and music periods and community outings that help children practice new skills in the real world.

Communication is a major focus of the program. But, unlike typical daycare centers, Little Butterflies engages children through whatever form of communication they use, including sign language, gestures or pictures.

That emphasis is critical for kids like Ryan and Cole, who have language-related delays.

“Ryan tends to do things alone,” says mom Jennifer. “At Little Butterflies, they’re helping him to get involved. His neurologist said he needs to be in an inclusive environment, because he’ll learn from his peers.”

After less than two months, Michelle has already noticed Cole “says please and thank you a little better and more freely.”

“I like that it’s inclusive,” she adds.

“He’s not the special child; he’s just another kid and that’s it.”

For more information or to arrange a tour of Little Butterflies, call Pat Reid at (800) 774-5516 or email pried@bnh.org.

Or, visit www.bancroft.org.✲

Ryan works on a puzzle at Little Butterflies

Little Butterflies daycare — at a glance • Serves children with and without developmental delays • Offers full-time and part-time schedules • Provides structured activities throughout the day • Emphasizes functional communication skill-building • Offers a higher ratio of staffing than typical daycare centers • Provides access to consultation services for children who are behaviorally challenged • Is a program of Bancroft, a leading service provider for people with neurological challenges since 1883

Cole enjoys a structured play session at Little Butterflies, a new daycare center for kids with and without disabilities.

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Little Butterflies A Bancroft Inclusive Daycare Program

Frustrated with traditional daycare centers that are unable to meet the needs of children with autism or other developmental challenges? So are we!

Little Butterflies daycare is designed to meet the needs of children both with and without developmental challenges.

As a program of Bancroft – a leader in the disabilities field since 1883 – we provide expert care that helps all kids reach their full potential. Plus, Little Butterflies…

• offers a higher staffing ratio than typical centers • provides structured activities throughout the day • includes daily opportunities to improve social interaction • emphasizes communication skills, and more!

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Call now to learn more, or to schedule a tour:

(800) 774-5516 425 Kings Highway E. | Haddonfield, NJ www.bancroft.org Bancroft, a New Jersey Non-Profit Corporation

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To submit your event, send an email to calendar@southjerseymom.com.

Entries are due six weeks prior to the event and are filled on a first come first serve basis. Space is limited.

ATLANTIC COUNTY Happy Feet 2 in IMAX 3D November 18 to December 15 Tropicana’s IMAX Theatre, located on the third floor of The Quarter, seats 280. Crystal-clear images projected up to five-and-ahalf stories high and digital surround sound awaken the senses and captivate the imagination. The theatre provides viewers with polarized glasses that reveal the stunning 3D images. For show times and tickets, visit www.tropicana.net.

BURLINGTON COUNTY ABF 10k Mud Run November 5 at 8 a.m.

ABF 10K Mud Run at Camp Ockanickon, 1303 Stokes Road, Medford. Come & enjoy the fun! half of all proceeds from the race will go to the Strong Kids Foundation. (609 )864-5492, www.abfmudrun.com Family Funday Sunday – All About Hats November 20 at 2 p.m.

Read the Dr. Seuss classic “The 500 Hats of Bartholomew Cubbins,” then make your own crazy paper bag hat to wear home. $5/person; 2 & under free. Medford Arts Center (the MAC), 18 N. Main St., Medford.

(609) 654-6033

CAMDEN COUNTY Train Festival Nov. 12 & 13 from 1 to 4 p.m.

The festival features our own permanent G-Scale display and Arrow River 1/3-scale Train Ride.

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and a reading of The Polar Express.

The Garden also invites train vendors and exhibitors to celebrate America’s favorite transportation. Stop by the concession stand and check out the snacks and produce. Camden Children’s Garden, 3 Riverside Dr, Camden. (856) 365-8733, www.CamdenChildrensGarden.org Flyers Youth Hockey Club Scholarship Gala Nov. 4 from 7 p.m. to midnight The Flyers Youth Scholarship Fund gives struggling families assistance in affording to play Ice Hockey for the Flyers Youth Travel Hockey Club. This event includes wine tastings, silent auction & live auction. THE MANSION IN VOORHEES, Evesham Rd, Voorhees. $50/person. Call Kelli Hauler at (609) 8682346 for info.

tickets. Haddonfield Plays and Players Performing Arts Center, 957 East Atlantic Avenue at Crows Woods, Haddonfield. (856) 4298139, haddonfieldplayers.com

CAPE MAY COUNTY Candlelight Walk Nov. 5 from 5:30 to 7:30 p.m.

Luminaries will line the paths and guide you to several of the Village’s restored historic buildings where wine, beer and a variety of light fare will be served. Enjoy fireside desserts, live musical entertainment and hot beverages. $25/person must purchase in advance.

(609) 898-2300, ext. 10 for information and tickets. Historic Cold Springs Village, Cape May. www.hcsv.org.

Craft & Vendor Sale Nov. 5 from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m.

Featuring over 50 vendors offering goods and services including but not limited to jewelry, clothing, collectibles, personal services, art, photography, and furniture. While there enjoy Greek pastries and other goodies at bake sale and refreshment stand. Saint Thomas Greek Orthodox Church, Danielle Kousoulis Community Center, 615 Mercer St, Cherry Hill.

(856) 665-1731.

CUMBERLAND COUNTY

Jesus Christ Superstar Now thru November 5 Jesus Christ Superstar changed the face of musical theater when it debuted on Broadway in 1971.

Telling the story of the last seven days in the life of Jesus, Superstar dramatizes Jesus’s entry into Jerusalem, the unrest caused by his preaching and popularity, his betrayal by Judas, the trial before Pontius Pilate, and his ultimate crucifixion. Call for dates, times and

Oyster Fest Nov. 5 from 5:30 to 10 p.m.

Oysters served every which way, fabulous raw bar, best silent auction on the Bay, outstanding live auction opportunities. Wheaton Arts Event Center just off Route 55 in Millville. (856) 785-2060 ext 102.

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GLOUCESTER COUNTY Cheer for a Paws November 13 Kick off the Cheer Season for the PAWS! Donations being accepted for Gloucester and Cumberland County Animal Shelters. $250 CASH PRIZE for GRAND CHAMP WINNERS! (856) 625-9977, www.royalrenegadescheer.com Annie Now thru November 20 The popular comic strip heroine takes center stage in one of the world’s most beloved musicals.

Annie is a spunky Depression-era orphan determined to find her parents, who abandoned her. In adventure after fun-filled adventure, Annie finds a new family and a home with a billionaire. $25/person. Call for tickets and times.

Broadway Theatre of Pitman. (856) 384-8381, www.onthebroadwaytheatre.org

SALEM COUNTY

VPCS Annual Fall Festival November 5 Lots of fun for you and your family!

Food, music, face painting, yard sale, Chinese auction, baked goods, etc! Vineland Public Charter School, Montrose St, Vineland. (609) 805-5680, Kelli.Martinez@dhs.state.nj.us

Yuletide Workshop November 19 Learn how to create a Williamsburg-type wreath. There will be two sessions: 10a-12p and 1-3p with 8 slots available at each session. Please bring your gloves and garden clippers. All other materials provided. Call Lorraina Sharp at (856) 935-2617. Hancock House, 3 Front St, Hancocks Bridge.

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DOES YOUR CHILD STRUGGLE WITH SPEECH?

CHILDCARE LOOKING FOR A HIGH QUALITY PRESCHOOL OR KINDERGARTEN PROGRAM? Cornerstone Montessori School delivers fun, safe and enriching Montessori programs. Highly experienced and certified Montessori teachers with MA degree.

Cornerstone is an AMS member school. Call Today!

(856) 685-3258 or email Jlee.cms@gmail.com or visit www.CornerstoneMontessoriNJ.com.

u Therapy by an experienced professional that is

designed specifically for your child u Quicker results with parent involvement u I make learning fun so kids love to come Call me for an appointment

PEARL SPEECH ASSOCIATES Sharon K. Pearl, M.A., C.C.C.-S.L.P. Licensed Speech Language Pathologist

CLASSES

CARA ASHLEY SCHOOL OF DANCE IN HAMMONTON Celebrating 9 years of quality dance education! Ballet, tap, hip-hop, jazz, contemporary, pre-school combo & acro for ages 3 and up and adult classes. Birthday parties available. Register now!

Call (609) 567-6566 or emailcaraashleydance@yahoo.com.

18 Barclay Pavilion East, Cherry Hill, NJ (Located in the Barclay Farms Center on Route 70)

856.429.1505

GIFT IDEAS GREAT PERSONALIZED GIFTS FOR ALL AGES At JUST FOR LITTLE PEOPLE (and others, too!) we specialize in new baby gifts both hand-painted or embroidered. Beautifully wrapped and available for pick-up at our new Gibbsboro location, or we can ship it for you. Call (856) 627-8901 or check out www.justforlittlepeople.com.

JOB OPPORTUNITIES EARN EXTRA INCOME ON YOUR SCHEDULE Are you a DRIVEN, MOTIVATED FEMALE who wants to earn extra income on your schedule? No selling, stocking or delivering products. National Health & Wellness Company with 26 yrs of proven success. Call Adrienne at (856) 305-3490 for more info.

PARTIES CELEBRATE CREATIVELY! Abrakadoodle’s CUSTOMIZED CELEBRATIONS are perfect for BIRTHDAYS, PLAY DATES and SCOUTING events. Every child takes home a FRAMED masterpiece! Hosted at your location we provide an ARTFULLY FUN teacher, materials & frames. Call (856) 914-0521 or visit www.abrakadoodle.com/nj01.

FINE COSTUME JEWELRY AND HIGH END HANDBAGS We specialize in baby earrings and wedding jewelry. We take designer handbags on consignment. Call 877-YES-5544 or visit www.yourelegantstyle.com. Book your home party today!

NOVEMBER

Giveaways!

H Judy Moody and the Not Bummer Summer DVD H Christmas Classics Blu-ray H VeggieTales The Little Drummer Boy DVD H Yo Gabba Gabba: Music Makes Me Move DVD H Strawberry Shortcake: Bright Lights Big Dreams DVD

Is your child the CUTEST KID IN TOWN? Every month, South Jersey MOM will feature a local child on the cover!

If you think you have the cutest kid in town, send a 4x6 photo and a $15 entry fee (per household) to P.O. Box 268, Wenonah, NJ 08090. Please make checks payable to Superior Graphics.

If your child(ren) is/are selected, we will arrange a FREE professional photo shoot and they could be on our next cover for all your friends and family to see! Sorry, photos cannot be returned.

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