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EATING AS A FAMILY: it’s what’s for dinner!

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Table of Contents

Coupon Mania! page 16

mom 2 mom 6 Hassle-Free Homework

moms R women 2 10 Comfortable in Your Own Postpartum Body

features 20 Bond with Baby through Sign Language 22 Combat Bullying by Recognizing the Signs 24 Stop the Struggle with Childhood Obesity 25 All in the Family Tree: Project for Kids & Grandparents 26 Smile and Say Cheese!

28 Make Meal Time Family Time

know 2 grow 18 “Fall”ing Back into a School-Night Bedtime Routine

also in this issue 8 business spotlight: malvern school 12 14 23 27 29 30

mom’s mall making a difference recipe corner business spotlight: little sport things to do resource guide

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Dear Readers,

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id you ever hear the White Stripes song, “We’re Going to be Friends”? To me, it perfectly exemplifies returning to school after summer vacation, especially for young, eager children. It shows the excitement and wonder of new friends, new lessons, and the happy innocence of those once-upon-a-time days of our own childhoods.

With two school-age children myself, I really feel like each new year they attend school brings the promise of good things to come. In fact, I’m sure my excitement over the prospect of a brand new school year, free from mistakes, full of hope, exceeds theirs.

However, if there’s one thing I dread about the new school year, it’s the homework! Every day when the kids return with a new assignment or project, I cringe. Sometimes, I review it and think, “What the…how the…?!?...New math?!?

What happened to the old one?!?” Every so often, my kids and I engage in warfare about how it’s supposed to be done or I ask them to please concentrate and pay attention to the task at hand, so we can proceed with the rest of our lives. Be sure to read Deb McCarson’s article, “Hassle-Free Homework,” and maybe her tips will help me, you and our kids survive and thrive when tackling homework, instead of bracing ourselves for injury!

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And when the homework’s done and dinner’s bubbling on the stove or ready to be picked up at your favorite, take-out eatery, think about connecting with your family on another level by “Making Meal Time Family Time,” Dolores Hoffman’s article on eating together as a family. Even if you make it a point to sit down for dinner as a family once a week, you’ll be surprised at the impact it can make on every family member.

If September simply means a change of scenery and the start of falling leaves; and your kids haven’t traipsed through school’s hallowed halls yet, then take a look at our Business Spotlight profiles on Little SPORT and the Malvern School.

Both offer stimulating learning and active fun for your younger children all in one place.

Still and all, it’s September…time for back to school, newly sharpened pencils scratching in notebooks, fresh, crisp apples; and the start of something good. To quote the White Stripes: “Fall is here, hear the yell, back to school, ring the bell…I can tell that we’re going to be friends…” Thanks for joining me again!

Turn the page and enjoy the issue!✲ Your friend and fellow MOM, M.B.

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Turn on, Tune in and Teach Kids Music

By Christi Fox

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t is often stated that the brain of a child is like a sponge; but, unlike a sponge, the developing brain is very moldable. In the hands of a musical instrument, the brain is virtually putty. According to German neurologist, G. Schlaug, MD, PhD, people who have had extensive musical training have a thicker corpus callosum than that of nonmusicians.This is greater in those who started training before the age of seven.

A thicker corpus callosum means greater communication between the left and right hemispheres of the brain. Musicians also have larger cerebellums which are responsible for motor skills. With such advanced development, your musical child will have:

q Relaxed mind q Self-discipline Playing a musical instrument coincides and goes hand-in-hand with intelligence.

Therefore, the more a child plays, the greater the impact on the brain. While you are researching the best school for your child, please consider the benefits of becoming a Deptford School of Music student and find out why we are South Jersey’s number one choice for music lessons.

Visit www.deptfordschoolofmusic.com or call (856) 345-5480. More students take music lessons here than at any other school in the region.✲

q Increased mathematical skills q Greater verbal memory q Higher intelligence test scores

On the Cover Cutest Kid In Town Winner: Preston is 3 years old and attends kindergarten.

He likes to read books and play with Legos.

He is excited for school to start and is in his school’s tennis club. He loves riding his bike.

Whenever he can, he loves to see his grandparents! His favorite place to visit is the beach, and he loves swimming in the pool. He can’t wait for winter to come so he can go skiing again!

Photo by Forever Young Photography www.foreveryoungphotography.com.

Cover shoot was taken at First Student in Lawnside, NJ.

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By Deb McCarson their work in class. If this is the case, find out why your child is unable to complete classwork. If it’s a matter of self-discipline, work with your child at home on ways to control his classroom behavior. If your child is struggling academically, work with the teacher on getting your child the extra help he needs.

• Don’t undermine the teacher. If you feel the teacher is giving too much homework, don’t express your frustration in front of your child. This will further fuel his indignation at having to do schoolwork at home. Discuss your concerns at parent-teacher conferences and try to come to an understanding.

Use Clever Ideas to Enhance the Home-Learning Experience • Use incentives but sparingly. Earning things means rewarding children for hard work. Increase requirements as children mature. Ask if the teacher offers classroom incentives and work with your child to achieve them.

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omework has become a hot topic among parents and educators. Experts continue to argue over its effectiveness. Some familes welcome it as an opportunity to participate in their children’s education. Others see it as an intrusion into their personal time. Regardless of where you stand on homework’s necessity, the truth remains that you are going to have to deal with it.

The following tips may help you get through it smoothly.

Get Ready • Find out the school’s homework policy ahead of time so you know what to expect. On Back-to-School Night, listen closely to the teacher’s homework requirements. Once you know how much time you’ll need for homework, you can plan your family’s schedule accordingly.

• Set up a homework area where your children can focus, free from distractions. Involve them in this project so they will form a personal attachment to their study area. Allow them to personalize the area by picking out desk accessories and supplies. If space is an issue, create a portable work space using lapdesks 6 | September 2012

and rolling carts. Make sure the homework area remains well supplied so there won’t be distractions looking for pencils and paper when needed.

• Resolve that homework time will be drama-free. No matter how much your children whine and cajole, don’t give in to an emotional blow-out. In his book, Scream Free Life, family therapist Hal Edward Runkel admits, “our biggest struggle as parents is our own emotional reactivity.” Remain calm and firm until homework is finished.

• Wean your child off the idea that having his homework done is somehow his mother’s responsibility. “My mom didn’t remind me” or “My mom didn’t buy paper,” should never be an acceptable excuse. Establish rules early in the school year and expect your child to develop disciplined habits.

Maintain Home/School Communication • If your child seems to be have an unusual amount of homework, speak to the teacher.

Sometimes, students have excessive amounts of homework because they are not finishing

• Find and use extra time wisely. Make copies of spelling lists, mulitiplication tables and other facts students need to memorize and keep them in the car and your handbag. Bring them to waiting rooms and during long drives.

• In his book The End of Molasses Classes, renowned educator Ron Clark, suggests taping key bits of information around the house in places your child will encounter them: on the milk carton, in the sock drawer, even under the toilet seat. Make use of mulitsensory learning tools: flashcards, math facts put to music, etc.

• Use a timer. Often kids are overwhelmed by the task, not realizing it will take less time than they think. Set the timer for two minutes and see how many math problems your child can finish. Use realistic time challenges to accommodate for efficiency as well as proficiency.

• Above all, relax and enjoy the fascinating experience of helping your child learn.✲

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A Love of Learning Begins at Malvern School

By M.B. Sanok

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ll parents want the very best when it comes to their child’s education.They want them not only to excel but to develop a “love of learning” that’s offered by a place like Malvern School. With 20 locations in NJ and PA, Malvern’s “starting early” to provide a “love of learning” that’s “fun and relevant,” says Diane Morgan, Director of Operations. While they emphasize higher educational standards in order for each school to achieve National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC) accreditation, they know that without encouraging a natural “love of learning,” a child cannot succeed.

14 years ago, Joseph Scandone, an original owner of The Goddard Schools, and current Malvern President, Kristen Waterfield, started Malvern with a goal that each school receives NAEYC accreditation. The first schools were opened in Frazer and Malvern, PA; Erial was the first NJ school. Now Malvern operates three other NJ schools in Medford,Voorhees and Washington Township. Plans to expand into Central NJ are next.

Malvern offers programs for children starting at 6 weeks to 8 years old. Programs include Infant, Toddler, Get Set, Preschool, Pre-Kindergarten; and Kindergarten Enrichment and After School.

“Morning only and full-day programs” and a 2 to 5 day enrollment are available; and “our curriculum is aligned with state learning standards,” says Diane.

High credentials are in place for teachers, requiring at least an Associates’ degree for those teaching children under 3 while teachers of older children must have a Bachelors’ degree in Education and teaching certificate. Erin Stewart, Voorhees’ Executive Director, says that “all teachers and assistants need 2-years’ experience to be considered for a job,” so you know the staff knows their way around a classroom.

Malvern follows all state and enhanced ratios in many classrooms, so, along with small group sizes; you can count on personalized attention for your child.

“Longevity with directors – many with 10 years,” shows further strength in their programs as well as active promotion from within. “Qualifications for all locations do not differ,” nor does the building design, what each facility offers or the “focus on health and safety.”

One distinction is that “50% of their schools (including Erial and Voorhees) are

accredited and recognized by NAEYC.” Diane further explains that to get this recognition, schools go through a “very stringent and lengthy process,” so this educational honor rates highly.

If you take a tour, you will notice bright and clean classrooms with posters and presentations using realistic photos with worded descriptions that are all student and teacher made, Erin points out. For example, the color red is displayed with the word accompanying a picture of a child wearing red. This type of display is taken into account when applying for NAEYC recognition.

Open communication between parents and staff is important. They encourage feedback from both parties and will “try something new,” asking “how the experiment worked; always examining, improving and evolving,” says Diane. A daily log for each student and the day’s curriculum can easily be found beside the classroom door.

By each of the three age-appropriate playgrounds, an activity calendar shows what the children did that day. Lessons for older children integrate the use of Spanish and sign language, and they receive access to computers by age 2 ½.

Two Malvern initiatives that help out the community are their implementation of Mrs. Bush’s Story Time and dedication to supporting Alex’s Lemonade Stand.

Malvern brought back former First Lady Barbara Bush’s radio program where she and others read beloved children’s stories aloud. Malvern students listen monthly to them, and “parents and students create a project and/or write an essay about the program’s impact.” Malvern offers the program with an activity guide to other schools and libraries.

For the fifth consecutive year, Malvern hosted a multi-school fundraiser with carnivals, raffles and other fun activities for Alex’s Lemonade Stand. This year, they raised a whopping $50,000 in support of the cause.

With high standards and NAEYC recognition; commitment to health and safety; and a community of happy students and satisfied parents, a “love of learning begins here” at Malvern.

Start your child’s “love of learning” at Malvern School by visiting www.malvernschool.com or calling 1-877-MALVERN. ✲

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Comfortable in Your Own Postpartum Body

By Carolyn Leigh Kellerman

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ongratulations, you had your baby! I’m sure you’re feeling overwhelmed with happiness and love for your new addition; however, just when you thought pregnancy was over, you realize your body is about to endear many changes. Below are some things women deal with after pregnancy.

The Shrinking Uterus On the day you deliver, your uterus is about 15 times heavier and its capacity is at least 500 times greater than before you conceived. Within minutes after you deliver your bundle of joy, contractions cause your uterus to shrink. Called afterpains, they usually feel like very bad cramps, similar to when you menstruate. After a week, your uterus weighs a little over a pound and a half after what it weighed before you gave birth. It takes about four weeks before it’s close to your pregnancy weight of 3.5 ounces or less. We call this process the involution of the uterus. Even after the uterus shrinks, you still may appear to look pregnant for a while.

Exercise and time is the key to helping your belly get back in shape.

Milk Production Hormonal changes after delivery prompt your breasts to start developing milk. When your baby nurses during the first few days after birth, she’s getting colostrum, a thick, yellowish substance that your breasts produced during pregnancy. His suckling triggers the release of the hormones prolactin, which stimulates milk production, and oxytocin, which causes milk sacs and ducts to contract, propelling the milk to your nipples. This is also called the “letdown” reflex. Breastfeeding also helps to contract your uterus quicker. When your milk comes in, usually two to three days after you give birth, your breasts may get swollen, tender, hard, and uncomfortably full. This is called engorgement, and it should improve in a day or two as your body gets used to your baby’s schedule.

What if you don’t want to breastfeed?

Your body will still produce milk after a few days from giving birth. Your breasts will become engorged, but, in the meantime, wear a supportive bra around the clock and put ice packs on your breasts frequently. Avoid applying warmth to your breasts since it can encourage milk production.

Your Skin Fatigue, stress and hormonal changes may affect your skin along with the rest of your body. Some women experience acne problems after pregnancy; some women’s acne problems disappear. Also some women develop chloasma -- darkening patches of skin on your lips, nose, cheeks, or forehead. This may fade in the months after giving birth and will probably go away completely. If you developed stretch marks, they will lighten up but will not disappear.

Your Mood If you feel as if you’re moody occasionally, there can be a number of factors including hormonal changes, discomfort from labor and birth, sleep deprivation and the other demands of a newborn. No matter what your reason for feeling blue, it’s very common and normal to feel this way after pregnancy. If your feelings should worsen, call your doctor to discuss your symptoms. Sometimes, women develop postpartum depression which requires treatment.

Your Hair Just as your hair was thicker than ever, you may begin to lose some after giving birth. During pregnancy, high estrogen levels may prolong the growing phase. After giving birth, the estrogen levels decrease significantly causing hair to fall out. Over time, your hair’s growth will return to normal.✲

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Healing Families with Hospitality: Ronald McDonald House of Southern New Jersey

By M.B. Sanok

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f you had a very sick child who needed an operation, would you consider staying at a place made famous by the red-haired clown known for fast food? More than McDonald’s guilty pleasures of Big Macs and Happy Meals, the Ronald McDonald House (RMH) of Southern New Jersey is a “home away from home” for families with a child in medical crisis. Despite their strong support from and affiliation with McDonald’s, most funds are donated by generous groups, businesses and individuals; and fundraising efforts through these organizations.

Many who founded the first RMH in Philadelphia lived in South Jersey and also founded the Southern NJ RMH in 1983. An old Victorian row home belonging to Cooper Hospital in Camden was “rented for a dollar a year,” says Executive Director,Teddy Thomas. In what used to be a vacant parking lot and YWCA, RMH built a more centrally located home in 1998, adding much needed living space. They knew that “eventually the hospital would need to reclaim the formerly vacant house.”

RMH “provides accommodations to families whose child is going in for surgery or specialized treatment at area hospitals.” Each independently-run RMH offers rooms for families who are traveling a distance for their child’s medical care. The Camden location not only provides rooms for those receiving medical care at South Jersey hospitals but also serves several Philadelphia hospitals.

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Families from all 50 states and 29 foreign countries have used RMH’s Camden facilities.

“Many patients who have retinoblastoma (eye tumors) stay here,” says Teddy, since Philadelphia’s Wills Eye Hospital treats this specific cancer. “The children ride the high speedline and can sense they’re in a tunnel or on a bridge crossing the river and just love it!” she continues.

“Patients with spinal birth defects, severe scoliosis or needing prosthetic limbs” travel from other states and foreign countries specifically for the orthopedic care at Shriners Hospital. Pregnant moms who require fetal surgery for various issues stay at RMH, sometimes until they give birth. They also receive room requests from families passing through NJ or from those vacationing at the shore whose children become seriously ill or injured.

An active Family Meals program ensures that house guests have a nutritious dinner prepared nightly by community groups. Families prepare their own breakfasts and lunches from donated foods.

Local entertainment venues and other fun spots provide the families activities, serving as a pleasant distraction.

The family bedrooms include a private bathroom and plenty of space for everyone.

Walking through the common rooms, they’re clean, comfortable, showcasing an ocean theme. Each bedroom has a

theme, too. Washington Township High School outfitted and maintains one with a Mickey and Minnie Mouse theme; another one, sponsored by the Philadelphia Flyers, used hockey sticks for curtain rods and created a tiny chair out of old ones. Except for the lounges and playrooms, there are no TVs in bedrooms, so that families will meet and socialize with others, forming informal support groups and new friendships. Internet access and laundry rooms add to the convenience. Since 2003 this program has expanded to include eleven Family Rooms in area hospitals.

According to their website, over 800 families per year stay at the Camden RMH and another 13,000 benefit from their Family Room program. No families needing their services are refused accommodation because they are unable to contribute. The kitchen and family rooms are stocked with necessities; and furnishings and supplies are purchased and replaced as needed.

Part of the reason for their success is their volunteers. While they rely on private donations, “we always need volunteers,” Teddy says.

She adds that “money helps them pay practical, utility bills,” but donated basics like toilet paper and coffee are welcome. Also welcome are family volunteers to provide friendly faces and comfort to other families going through a stressful time. More than a stop between hospital and home, RMH helps heal families with hospitality.

If you wish to volunteer or make a donation, visit the Ronald McDonald House of Southern NJ at www.ronaldhouse-snj.org or call (856) 966-4663.

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“Fall”ing Back into a School-Night Bedtime Routine By Fiona Paterna

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h, the easy rhythms of summer! For some families, kids wake up later in the morning. Dinner may be served later. The sun stays up later -- and so do your children. While some parents maintain the same sleep schedule year-round, others resist the urge adhere to a typical bedtime schedule after the nostalgia of summer nights from their own childhood resurface: eating a frosty Popsicle while wrapped in a towel post-night-swimming, playing a game of jailbreak to a cricket-soundtrack, or watching a baseball game on a hazy evening.

Summer, after all, can only be relished for a little more than ten weeks a year. But as the sights and sounds of summer become future sources of nostalgia for your own children, and the sun slips into bed a little earlier each night, so should school-age children.

How important is it to get a good night’s sleep? Rebecca Stanwood of Mullica Hill, Registered Nurse and Certified Pediatric Nurse Practitioner and mom to Claire, 1, stresses the importance of routines and a good night’s sleep: “Having a set bedtime not only allows for routine, which all kids need,

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but it also sets them up to get the appropriate number of hours of sleep.” She explains, “Children that don’t get enough sleep or sleep restlessly, (restless sleep can be caused by several things such as enlarged tonsils; snoring can be a sign) are found to not perform as well in school as children who get enough restful sleep. These sleep-deprived children can exhibit disruptive behaviors, experience difficulty concentrating, moodiness, headaches, or other physical manifestations.”

For parents of teenagers, she warns that lack of restful sleep can lead to a cycle of caffeine (specifically energy drinks) consumption. A set bedtime is still important for adolescents since their circadian rhythm suggests later bed and wake times.

What is an ideal bedtime? An acceptable bedtime for school-age child depends on their specific age. Each age group requires a different number of hours of sleep per night in order to be healthy and able to focus in school. According to WebMD, three to six-year olds need ten to twelve hours of sleep per night, typically retiring between seven and nine in the evening and rising be-

tween six and eight in the morning. Rebecca Stanwood explains that at this age, all hours of sleep are expected to happen at night, not through day-time naps. Seven to twelve-yearolds don’t differ much from the latter age group, requiring approximately ten to eleven hours of sleep per night. WebMD states that while bedtimes for this age group vary between 7:30 and 10 p.m., the average bedtime for a twelve-year-old, for example, is 9 p.m.

Lastly, twelve to eighteen-year-olds require eight to nine hours of sleep per night; however, further research may conclude that this age group needs more sleep than any other.

But how do I get my child asleep by 8:30 when he’s now accustomed to heading into the shower at 9:30? First, establish a bedtime routine. For younger children, this may consist of a winding-down period following the 3 B’s: bath, book, and bed. For older children, it does not matter if the bath is replaced by a shower, and the book is read silently, as long as the essentials are still present: a predictable routine established to relax and prepare for sleep. Starting in mid-to-late August, begin a bedtime routine fifteen minutes earlier each night until you arrive at the desired bedtime. Also, factor in how long it takes for your child to drift off to sleep once tucked into bed.

Second, create the illusion of night.

Children of all ages may find it hard to sleep when the sun still shines. Invest in black-out shades or light-blocking drapes that create the illusion of night when the sun is still shining (and they block out any view of children still playing outside).

Third, be consistent. While life is inconsistent, try not to revert back to late-nights on weekends, especially on Sunday nights.

Rebecca Stanwood realizes, “It takes a lot of routine and sleep conditioning to achieve appropriate sleep goals.”

Creating or reinstating a school-night bedtime routine will not be easy at first, but it will become easier once the demands of early mornings begin to exhaust even the most energetic of night-owls. You will find after the first week of school, once sleepyeyed children slump across their desks wishing they had gone to bed earlier (although they will not admit this), they will eagerly climb into bed. Sleep tight!✲ Visit our website and sign up for our e-newsletter

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Bond with Baby through Sign Language

By Christi Fox

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t’s often said that the key to a relationship is communication and the very first relationship that a child has is with his or her mother. According to Babycenter.com, between the ages of four and five months, a baby begins forming simple words and it’s usually not until a little less than two years of age before they put together two- and three-word sentences. This makes for quite a lengthy amount of time that a child is not able to successfully communicate his or her needs and wants. Wouldn’t it be so much easier if you could communicate with your little one well before he or she is able to speak? Wouldn’t you like to know if your seven-month old has a bellyache? This is definitely possible through American Sign Language (ASL).

Dana Lawlor from Franklinville, New Jersey, and stepmother of three, was born into an all-deaf household. With both parents being deaf as well as her two sisters, sign language was obviously the first tool of communication that Lawlor knew. “Babies learn how to sign well before they can speak. I was able to communicate with my mother and father well before other children because of signing,” Lawlor says. Sign Language

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is much easier to teach than the English language, and it also gives another learning tool and source of communication even if the child is not deaf, says Lawlor. Being able to communicate from a farther distance is another benefit of sign language. Lawlor has taught her stepchildren how to sign and is able to communicate with them from the bleachers while they are on the soccer and baseball fields. Imagine how wonderful it would be to be able to do this!

Everyone can benefit from signing. Teaching sign language to your child not only creates a closer bond but it also eliminates frustration and decreases fussiness. Children with disabilities can greatly benefit from communicating through sign language when speaking may be a difficult task or a slow learning process. For information on learning sign language to teach to your child, you can visit Sign2Me where you’ll find information on local classes. You can also visit Michigan State University’s online ASL browser to learn thousands of signs for free, an excellent tool to get you started.✲

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September 2012 | 21

Combat Bullying by Recognizing the Signs

By Bridget DeFiccio

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t’s estimated that over 18 million young people will be bullied over the next 12 months. Studies in 2009 estimated that 20% of high school students were bullied. Another study showed that number, for students between 6th and 12th grade, to be 28%. An epidemic in the making, bullying can leave its impact ranging from mere annoyance to suicide. Every day, children of all ages combat bullying and its effects on their morale, self-esteem and relationships.

What is bullying and what shapes does it take? Bullying is any type of unwanted aggressive behavior. It can occur one time or be systematic over a period of time. Some types of bullying include: • Verbal: Teasing, name calling, inappropriate sexual comments, negative comments regarding race, sexual preference or orientation; threats to cause someone harm.

• Physical: Hitting, kicking, punching, spitting on others, slapping.

• Social: Purposefully leaving someone out of a group, encouraging others not to befriend someone, spreading rumors, embarrassing someone in public.

• Cyber Bullying: The use of electronic media to bully and intimidate. This includes texting, social media pages, e-mail and uploading of videos and pictures for purposes of bullying.

No indicators determine who will be bullied and who will not. Don’t assume only certain stereotypes of kids are bullied, such as the ‘unpopular’ kids or the ‘nerds’. Teens who are academic and athletic leaders in their class can be bullied, too. As parents, it’s important to understand the signs of potential bullying. Potential warning signs may include the following: • Unexplainable injuries • Lost or damaged clothing, books, electronics, or jewelry • Frequent headaches or stomach aches, feeling sick or faking illness

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• Changes in eating habits, like suddenly skipping meals or binge eating.

Kids may come home from school hungry because they did not eat lunch.

• Difficulty sleeping or frequent nightmares • Declining grades, loss of interest in schoolwork, or not wanting to go to school • Sudden loss of friends or avoidance of social situations • Feelings of decreased self esteem • Self-destructive behaviors such as running away from home, harming themselves, cutting behaviors, or talking about suicide It’s easy for adults to think a child can just tell an adult when they are being bullied. Children or teens may hesitate to take such an action in fear of repercussion by the bully, rejection or social isolation.

As parents, it’s important to keep the lines of communication open between ourselves and our children. Talk with them regarding bullying and be sure they understand the various forms it can take. Children and adolescents may believe they are acting in a normal manner but may, in fact, be engaging in behaviors associated with bullying. Role play various situations with your children and be sure they have identified adults they can go to with reports of bullying. One of the best ways to keep the communication between you and your children open is to engage in family dinners each night!

In a school setting, you may have to be the voice for your child in certain situations and discuss the matter with school personnel. Don’t accept that once one educator is informed that the situation will be resolved.

New Jersey is one of 48 states with an Anti-Bullying law. To access this and other information regarding bullying, visit the websites below: www.stopbullying.gov or www.njbullying.org✲ Bridget DeFiccio, LPC, is the Director of Outpatient Services for the Danellie Counseling Center at Robins’ Nest, Inc. Visit our website and sign up for our e-newsletter

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Teach and Feed Kids Something Good

By Lisa Ann Panzino DiNunzio

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eptember’s here and that means it’s back to school schedules and routines for many children and their families.

The recipes in this month’s column are geared towards tasty, healthy, quick, and easy to prepare foods for your children’s lunch or for a quick after school snack. I encourage you to let your children help prepare their lunches; it’s a great time for conversing and teaching them simple kitchen and culinary skills. Here’s wishing everyone a happy and healthy school year!

Turkey & Cheese Wrap 1 (8-inch) whole grain tortilla 1 - 2 tbs. vegetable cream cheese 1 slice low-sodium roasted turkey breast 1 slice Swiss, jack or provolone cheese 2 romaine lettuce leaves • Spread cream cheese evenly over tortilla.

• Next layer a slice of turkey and cheese.

• Add the lettuce leaves.

• Roll tortilla up, cut in half, pack or serve.

Vegged Out Pita 1 whole grain pita, cut in half to open pocket 2 tbs. vegetable cream cheese 2 large Romaine lettuce leaves 2 tomato slices 3 - 4 cucumber slices 2 tbs. grated carrot 2 tbs. feta cheese or shredded mozzarella cheese (optional) • Open one pita pocket.

• Spread with vegetable cream cheese, layer with veggies, top with cheese.

• Pack or serve.

Note:You can drizzle with extra-virgin olive oil and balsamic or apple cider vinegar in place of the vegetable cream cheese. Just pack the dressing in a small container in your child’s lunch, so they can drizzle it on right before eating. If done beforehand, the pita will become soggy.

Ants on a Log 2 celery stalks, rinsed and wiped dry 2 tbs. natural peanut butter or reduced-fat cream cheese Raisins or dried cranberries • Spread each celery stalk with one tablespoon of peanut butter or cream cheese.

• Place raisins or cranberries on top of the peanut butter or cream cheese to resemble “ants” walking on a log.

Quick & Healthy After School Snack Ideas Raisins, dried cranberries or cherries u Yogurt u Fresh fruit u Veggies with low-fat dip u Granola or fruit bar u Applesauce or fruit cup in natural juices u Low-fat string cheese u Fruit smoothie u Apple slices sprinkled with cinnamon and drizzled with honey u Mild salsa or guacamole served with tortilla chips u Whole grain crackers with low-fat cheese or peanut butter u Mini rice cakes with peanut butter, drizzle of honey and topped with a strawberry or banana slice u Whole grain pretzels with a side of mustard or peanut butter u Multi-grain muffin (banana, applesauce, zucchini, pumpkin etc.) u

As always, Bon Appetit!

Lisa Ann Panzino DiNunzio is the author of “Seasoned With Love,Treasured Recipes” & “Lisa Ann’s Seasoned With Love II”, and the children’s book, “Snicker Learns An Important Lesson.” Visit her blog http://lisaanndinunzio.blogspot.com/ or Facebook page http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001935347501 Visit our website and sign up for our e-newsletter

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Stop the R Struggle with Childhood Obesity

egarding the rise in childhood obesity, there has been a greater focus in the US in recent years. In 2011, there were estimates that 16 to 33 percent of children and adolescents are obese. While the physical effects of childhood obesity are readily recognized by many, the psychological and social impact of obesity cannot be ignored.

Here are some common issues that can be encountered by kids and teens struggling with obesity:

By Dr. Kelly N. Moore

Depression Several studies show that for obese teens, the risk of depressive symptoms increases.

Some examples of depressive symptoms include low/sad mood, sleeping issues, and reduction of enjoyment of daily activities. It’s likely that these symptoms develop as a result of how obesity interferes with peer relationships and/or inability to engage in physical activities that would naturally improve mood. If you suspect that your child is struggling with these types of symptoms, it’s important to seek help from a mental health professional before it progresses further.

Peer Group Challenges For obese kids, there’s a higher risk for peer victimization, with boys encountering more physical aggression and girls experiencing more relational aggression. Some studies have found that this process can begin as early as elementary school as peer groups are forming during these years and become more solidified as the school years progress.

Self-Esteem Issues When rating their quality of life or beliefs about themselves, obese children tend to rate these items much lower than other children who are not dealing with weight issues. Because obese children tend to be targeted by school bullies and are also inundated with media images of svelte celebrities with seemingly perfect bodies, it makes sense that an obese child or teen may think less of themselves over time.

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Other Issues Obese children and teens often report that the physical effects of their weight impact their emotional well-being. Because obesity can cause sleep apnea, fatigue, and general health issues, these children often cannot engage in the normal everyday activities such as school sports which are another way to build peer relationships.

These are just a few of the challenges that obese children and teens encounter, but these issues do not have to be inevitable.When parents adequately address their child’s weight issues, it’s expected that the social and emotional problems will also abate.

Here are some ideas to help children struggling with this problem: • Work closely with the pediatrician to develop a plan for weight loss AND maintenance of loss • Pay attention to signs of depression (social withdrawal, depressed mood, decrease in enjoyment of activities) • Exercise with your child and be creative! Zumba, swimming, boxing, 5K walk/runs; Wii or Kinect on rainy days. Numerous options for engaging a child in exercise that’s both fun and beneficial.

• Ensure that the entire family is eating a healthy and balanced diet. It can be a challenge when only one child in the family is expected to eat certain foods, but it’s a free-for-all for everyone else in the family.

Make healthy eating a family affair!

• Offer praise for every step your child makes in their weight loss progress. Never underestimate the power of a simple sentence of verbal praise for children. A mere “great job on that workout” can be a huge motivator for your child.✲ Kelly N. Moore, Psy.D., is a Clinical Fellow at the University of Pennsylvania’s Center for the Treatment and Study of Anxiety. She lives in South Jersey with her husband and son.

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All in the Family Tree:

Project for Kids & Grandparents

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hildren love stories, and every family has a story. Help your children discover their own stories by planning a family tree project for them and their grandparents. By creating a family tree, children will discover their rich history, while at the same time strengthening the bond with their grandparents. Child psychologist Arthur Kornhaber, MD, who studies the relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, explains the importance of the grandparent connection.

“Their stories and anecdotes shed light on a family’s history, ethnicity, values and religion, contributing to the grandchild’s sense of identity and belonging.”

A little planning and organizing will ensure a successful project.

• Have grandparents gather and organize information into family units. This can be done easily by filling out family group sheets which are available free at ancestry.com.

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By Deb McCarson • Before starting the tree, encourage grandparents to collect any photo albums, scrapbooks or family Bibles that will add facts and visual details to the project. Birth, marriage and baptism certificates are also helpful.

• Create the tree. A pedigree-style tree starts with your child’s name as the trunk and branches out with the names of his parents, grandparents, great-grandparents and so on.

A descendant-style tree starts with the name of an ancestor, perhaps a great-grandparent, and includes all of that ancestor’s descendants. This tree would include your child’s cousins, aunts, uncles, siblings, etc. There are many free downloadable and printable family tree templates online. Familytreemagazine. com has several to choose from. Or you can have your child design one with grandmom’s help to provide the proper amount of spaces needed for each family group. Keep in mind that young children have a hard time writing in small spaces, so provide large paper or

poster board to avoid frustration. Kids can also build their family tree online at kids.familytreemagazine.com.

• Grandmom doesn’t know everything.You can try to fill in any blanks by taking advantage of the many online genealogy sites. Older children can easily navigate sites like ancestry. com, cindislist.com, and usgenweb.org.

• Encourage grandparents to discuss significant historical events that have taken place in their lifetimes or in the lifetimes of their own parents and grandparents. Discover how these events affected them. This will connect children to the history lessons they learn in school.

• Finally, embellish your research with oral tradition. Grandparents can tell stories in context about the members on the tree.

Encourage children to write these stories down. Recording family members’ actions and personalities in a journal will bring your tree to life!✲

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Smile and Say Cheese!

Tips for Taking Stellar School Portraits

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icture day. As a student, it’s the day you are reminded of how vertically-blessed or challenged you are as you line up from tallest to shortest. As a teacher, it’s the day you remind the ladies that it is rude to groom in public and repeatedly ask, “Do you have your picture money?” As a parent, it is the day you try to make your child look his or her best, and more importantly, hope to capture a fleeting moment in time—a toothless smile, a smattering of freckles on sun-kissed skin or the final year with braces.

Grooming Tips • Trim hair two weeks prior • Trim and clean nails • Limit sun exposure days prior • Get plenty of rest the night before to look refreshed Clothing and Accessories • Choose solid colors that complement chosen background

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By Fiona Paterna Photographer-Mom Tip: Toni Agosta, owner of Shuterboxx Photography in Woodstown and mom to Caelie, 8, and Kanon, 1, admits that solids tend to make the shot a little neater and advises to avoid anything too busy or distracting. “The focus should be on the child’s face. The same rule applies with accessories. Less is usually more in this case,” adds Toni.

• While darker colors are timeless, soft shades complement light backgrounds • Avoid shirts with slogans • Avoid overly-trendy styles • Wear small accessories Real-mom Tip: Megan Tatum, mom of Ben and Cammy of Mantua, realizes that younger children may dirty their shirt before picture-time. Last year, she dressed her son Ben in two layers - - a button-up shirt with a t-shirt underneath - - in case paint, marker, food, etc., spilled on the top layer.

Other moms and teachers suggest that younger children pack an extra shirt on picture-day.✲

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ou’ve heard about play places and gym classes for your child where they play and get tired out while you observe, enjoying the quiet. But did your child learn to greet their neighbor, show others praise, the alphabet, numbers, colors, and shapes? At Little SPORT, they believe in “Life Education through Sports and Play.” They are more than the average gym class -- kids play with purpose!

Opened since 2004, the center is now run by busy moms Jen Baker Leonard and Tina Bowser, along with their full-time manager, April Wenger, who have 8 young children between them! The entire Little SPORT team follows a “golden rule work philosophy” – treat all clients, big and small, like you would want to be treated. Most importantly, they believe in promoting healthy fun.

Unlike comparable classes, Little SPORT doesn’t strive to “build superstar athletes,” they use sports as a means to develop healthy, joyful, respectful children. Encouraging children

to learn social skills through play and grow up embracing a love for activity. Since every class incorporates core values, teamwork and fun, parents can trust that children learn lifelong lessons beyond playing. Every child who leaves the program understands how to “Give 7,” Little Sport’s version of a firm, five-fingered handshake emphasizing two-eyed contact.

Visiting their 6,400 square foot space, you’re struck by the bright, primary colors; adorable animal characters welcoming you and separate sections lending to a variety of activities for active children. Colored shapes frame basketball hoops and the colored alphabet blocks that form the Arena’s main track utilize teaching tools that seamlessly fit into their décor. A spacious party room accommodates sizable groups for birthday parties and converts weekly into their Enrichment Room.

There’s even a new Wi-Fi parent lounge with video monitoring of the entire center. You can have the entire center to yourself to host your child’s birthday party (stress-free!) or take advantage of their Drop’N Shop and Pajama Play Nights which offer a reprieve for busy parents.

Interested in classes? Little SPORT offers an array of athletics married with social skills and education. For children ages 6 and under, the SPORTBaby and SPORTKid classes, held in Toot’s Training Room, introduces age-appropriate seasonal sports and activities. Enroll your child in their “Give 7” Enrichment Class which provides preschool preparation with the facility’s added perks. Classes are taught by certified teachers and experienced coaches who “find out the parents’ goals for their child and what strategies work with that specific child,” says Jen. They also have a Champions program

designed for autistic children. Taught by special education teachers, it uses the same core values Little SPORT embraces while adding elements like more intensive sign language and the use of visual storyboards.

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Why choose Little SPORT instead of a competitor? Unique features only found here like the complementary Arena Membership which allows daily play access to class members and their families. Employing sign language within the instruction of younger classes.

“Stressing social etiquette” like greeting and cheering on classmates and acknowledging class accomplishments in a team huddle. “Any task becomes a teachable moment” and parents assist in providing rewards like hugs. Team Building nights are available for any social, athletic and/or corporate team where groups engage in activities fostering teamwork and camaraderie. Check their calendar for special activities like Zumba classes, Shop n’ Play days and nights for various support groups.

Little SPORT’s plans for expansion include using the “Maple Shade location as our benchmark” and then begin building a “second location to prove replication.” The goal is to eventually “take the successful concept national.” They are actively working to create a line of “edutainment products and merchandise” including videos, clothing and toys to be for sale soon. For this dynamic business team, you know the sky’s the limit!✲ “Give 7” to Little SPORT and visit their website www.littlesport.net or call (856) 234-6445 for more information about classes, birthday parties Arena Play and many other activities.

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Make Meal Time Family Time

by Dolores Hoffman

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e all know how hard it is to make time for dinner with the family.

With busy schedules and school activities, we quickly get into the habit of eating dinner on the run. A recent study conducted by the University of Illinois found that children ages 7 to 11 who did well in achievement tests, spent a large amount of time eating meals and snacks with their families. More importantly, dinner provides an open exchange of ideas and is a great way to find out “what’s going on” in the lives of our children, especially teenagers.

Researchers also found that those who have two or less family meals a week are 3 times as likely to try marijuana, cigarettes and alcohol.

Try the following tips to get the most out of your family dinners: m To begin with, all devices such as TV and phones should be turned off. m Encourage kids to cook with you even if it means setting the table and getting dishes ready. Being in the kitchen together 28| September 2012

can make them feel important. Gardens, whether a huge backyard patch or a few herb plants on the counter, can be a great way for them to learn where food comes from and become more familiar with nutrition. m Ask each family member to tell one good thing and one bad thing about their day. It may be something as silly as, “the best part was lunch” or “when the bell rang at the end of the day,” but at least it gets them talking and lightens the mood. m Try and remain at the table ten minutes after eating before cleaning up. It gives you more time to finish conversations and may even start more meaningful ones. m Have “free night” once a week. Fridays are good for this, signaling the start of the weekend. Each person can choose where they want to go for dinner, whether it’s take-out or a restaurant. Flip a coin if you have a large crew.

Keep in mind that after-school activities must be chosen carefully in order to keep up the dinner ritual. It may be hard to do but not impossible.

Dinner time is a way for parents to better understand their children: their likes and dislikes, their everyday schedule and school life in general. By having this information, parents can direct them toward activities and behaviors that benefit them throughout their youth.

Be cautious, however; family researchers say that the benefits of family dinner are not a given. Parents can sit and talk with their kids every day and achieve little if the conversation is filled with nothing more than arguing, belittling or silence.

Remember, it’s never too late to start a family dinner routine. Just find one that works for your family and keep it consistent.Your kids will learn to see it as something they can count on and look forward to everyday.✲

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ATLANTIC COUNTY

5th Annual Hammonton Green Day Festival Sunday, September 16, 2012 Noon till 4 p.m.

Located on the grounds of St. Joseph’s High School at 328 Vine Street in downtown Hammonton, NJ. Green Day is an environmental festival showcasing positive solutions to environmental problems as well as spotlighting local and regional groups that offer nature-related activities for families and children of all ages.

This event is free and is sponsored by the Hammonton Green Committee. hammontongreencommittee.com

BURLINGTON COUNTY

Locks of Love Sunday, September 9, 2012 Where: Hands Down by Rebecca 60 E. Main Street, Suite B Marlton, NJ 08053 (856) 596-2700 www.locksoflovegsrhandsdown. eventbrite.com This event supports the efforts of the public non-profit organization, Locks of Love. They are seeking donations of hair at least 10” long as well as monetary donations. Locks of Love’s mission is to respond to the needs of disadvantaged children under the age of twenty-one suffering from a loss of hair (alopecia areata) particularly from treatment for cancer. Based upon the family’s ability to pay using a sliding scale, every child is provided with the highest quality natural hair prosthesis. For Further Information: Contact Deb Myerson at dmyerson@ intelysis.com

CAMDEN COUNTY

Silver Diner Hosts Labor Day Car Show Cherry Hill, NJ Monday, September 3 9-2pm Join the Silver Diner as it pairs up with South Jersey Pontiac Club to celebrate the unofficial end of the summer with a free Labor Day Car Show on Monday, September 3, from 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m., rain or shine. Open to anyone, registration will be from 9:00

a.m. to 10:30 a.m. with a $20 day of show entry fee, no pre-registration required. The first 200 entrants will receive a free commemorative T-shirt.

Trophies will be awarded by 2:00 p.m., so that people can enjoy the rest of their Labor Day activities. For more information about the car show, contact Chuck Catalano at (856) 9044843 or catalano112@verizon.net or call Tom at (856) 524-2588.

Locks of Love Sunday, September 9, 2012 Where: Mindy’s Place Salon 904 Kings Highway Haddon Heights, NJ 08035 (856) 323-8321 www.locksoflovegsrmindysplace. eventbrite.com This event supports the efforts of the public non-profit organization Locks of Love. They are seeking donations of hair at least 10” long as well as monetary donations. Locks of Love’s mission is to respond to the needs of disadvantaged children under the age of twenty-one suffering from a loss of hair (alopecia areata) particularly from treatment for cancer. Based upon the family’s ability to pay using a sliding scale, every child is provided with the highest quality natural hair prosthesis. For Further Information: Contact Deb Myerson at dmyerson@ intelysis.com

CAPE MAY COUNTY

Saturday, Sept 15 10am – 3pm Annual festival at the Municipal Airport 26th & Bay Ave. Features include a ground display of unusual airplanes ranging from World War II planes to Classics and Warbirds. For more information, call (609) 525-9223 Boardwalk Aerobatic Airshow Sunday, September 16, 2012 1:00pm, 6th – 14th Streets. Thrill to some of the best stunt pilots and aerobatic champions in the world plus military demonstrations. For more information, call (609) 525-9300

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CUMBERLAND COUNTY

11th Annual Wheaton Arts Golf Classic Tuesday, September 18, 2012 Running Deer Golf Club, Pittsgrove, NJ Registration is $185 per golfer or $675 per foursome. Registration includes greens fees, golf cart, bag drop, barbeque lunch and awards ceremony with open bar, door prize entry, entry into the Longest Drive, Closest to the Pin, and Hole in One contests; and golfer gift bag with a handcrafted glass piece made by a WheatonArts resident artist. Scramble registration also includes our evening reception and awards ceremony with open bar and two beverage tickets to use on-course. Tournament entrants are invited to purchase tickets for the 50/50, Beat the Pro, and Putting Contests at the Golf Classic.

All tournament proceeds support WheatonArts and Cultural Center’s arts education programs which serve more than 12,000 children from our region annually. If you have any questions or if you would like to discuss sponsorship benefits in detail, please contact Katherine Landberg at (856) 825-6800, ext. 114, or klandberg@wheatonarts.org.

New Jersey Motorsports Park Millville, NJ (856) 327-8000 Bring the family and check out some of our races and special events. www.njmp.com

GLOUCESTER COUNTY

9th Annual Italian Heritage Festival of Gloucester County Sunday, September 30, 2012 11 a.m. to 5 p.m.

All day family fun with entertainment, Italian cuisine, crafts, vendors and exhibitors. Featuring Center City Opera Theatre, Dr. Neff’s Sicilian Marionettes, the Vivaci Dancers, children’s activities, and more! Free admission & free parking. Riverwinds Community Center, 1000 RiverWinds Dr., West Deptford. For info visit www.facebook.com/GCItalian or call (856)494-3289

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September Calendar

Peter Rabbit Friday, Sept. 21st: 10am Saturday, Sept. 22nd: 10am & 1pm Broadway Theatre of Pitman 43 S Broadway, Pitman, NJ 08071 (856) 384-8381 This is the story of one very naughty bunny. Did he stay in the strawberry path? No. Did he listen to Mama Bunny? No. Instead, he goes to Farmer McGregor’s garden, and he learns a lesson he will never forget. Why don’t you join us to see if Peter can get himself out of the trouble he got into in this wonderful September show? The Broadway Theatre of Pitman’s live Children’s Theatre calls fantasy and imagination to the stage with performances designed by Mr. Malcolm to educate, entertain and inspire. Children’s Theatre is best appreciated by children ages 3 to 9. Tickets: $7.00 & $9.00. www.thebroadwaytheatre.org Saturday, Sept. 29 Gloucester County Animal Shelter Open House 11am - 4pm Please join us for our Annual Open House! Free refreshments, pets for adoption and a Pet Costume Parade at 3pm. Come join the fun! 1200 N. Delsea Drive, Clayton, NJ 08312 Phone: (856) 881-2828

SALEM COUNTY

Fort Mott State Park Pennsville Township, New Jersey (856) 935-3218 Spacious park with plenty of clean bathrooms, fountains and benches.

A trolley boat with a $5 charge runs to the dock every few hours for a lovely ride across the bay.

Cowtown Rodeo at 7:30pm Now - Sept. 29, 2012 Come experience Cowtown Rodeo every Saturday night. Gates open at 6 pm. GPS address: 780 Harding Highway, Pilesgrove, NJ 08098 www.cowtownrodeo.com

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CLASSES Enrichment Classes & Workshops for Home School Families Constellation Academy offers Christ-centered resources and teaching at affordable rates. Services include academic and elective subject tutoring and/or class instruction, workshops, teacher mentoring, student contests, field trips and fellowship opportunities! Visit ConstellationAcademyHSRN.blogspot.com for more info or call (856) 205-9334.

GIFT IDEAS GREAT PERSONALIZED GIFTS FOR ALL AGES At JUST FOR LITTLE PEOPLE (and others, too!) we specialize in new baby gifts both hand-painted and/or embroidered. Beautifully wrapped and available for pick-up at our new Gibbsboro location or we can ship it for you. Call (856) 627-8901 or check out www.justforlittlepeople.com

PARTIES CELEBRATE CREATIVELY! Abrakadoodle’s CUSTOMIZED CELEBRATIONS are perfect for BIRTHDAY, PLAY DATES and SCOUTING events. Every child takes home a FRAMED masterpiece! Hosted at your location, we provide an ARTFULLY FUN teacher, materials & frames. Call (856) 914-0521 or visit www.abrakadoodle.com/nj01

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ATTRACTIONS ABSECON LIGHTHOUSE Visit NJ’s tallest lighthouse. Climb the 228 steps to the top for fabulous views. This 1857 historic site features a museum & gift shop, exhibits, free parking and lawn for picnics. We are located at 31 S. Rhode Island Ave., one block north of Revel Entertainment in AC, NJ. September thru June open Thursdays thru Mondays from 11am to 4pm, last climb at 3:30. Call (609) 449-1360 or visit www.abseconlighthouse.org for information & printable coupon.

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