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Table of Contents

Dear Readers,

mom 2 mom 8 Services in School for Children with Special Needs 9 Five Reasons Your Child Should Play a Musical Instrument 10 Starting Preschool for the Very First Time

moms R women 2 11 Top 7 Causes of Heavy Menstrual Bleeding 12 Chick Lit: Love the One You’re With 13 Identity Theft: Are You at Risk?

know 2 grow 20 Building Your Toddler’s Social Skills 21 How Can You Determine if Your Child is Gifted 22 How to Transition Back to School After a Great Summer

features 16 Celebrating Grandparents 18 Can Food Be the Cause of Hyperactive Behavior?

also in this issue 3 5 6 14 23 24 26 27 29 30 32 34

publisher’s note nana’s 2 sense life sentences just born business spotlight business spotlight learning 2 learn green mama her story book review things 2 do resource guide

’m having a really hard time deciding what to write about this month. Kayden starts preschool in six weeks…but this issue goes to the printer five days from now. So do I write about school…even though it hasn’t started yet? Or write about summer? Hhhmmmm. Maybe neither. Instead, I’m going to talk about the birds and the bees. Kind of. I’m having a bit of a dilemma with my son. He is three…and he is kissing girls already! It started out with the babysitter catching him kissing one of the other girls she watches in the back corner of the house. When she told me about it, I didn’t think anything of it. I actually thought it was quite funny and cute. (I’m sure the little girl’s mom wouldn’t think so though.)

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Then, last week, after church, we caught him kissing one of the pastor’s granddaughters in the pews! Even after we told him to not to, he continued. Now, I’m not talking about a little peck on the cheek; he’s giving full smacks right on the lips! What do I do? I tried explaining to him that we kiss our friends on the cheek. I told him he can only kiss family on the lips, i.e., mommy, daddy, sissy, nana, etc. He said ok, but last night, after Bible Study, we caught him kissing her again! On the lips! Do I punish him? Do I let it go and not make a big deal of it? What am I to do? I’ve apologized to these girls’ mothers…how embarrassing! Luckily, they aren’t ready to put a restraining order on him yet. But seriously, what do I do? After kissing the girl, she turned to walk away and Kayden watched her with love in his eyes. He was admiring her from a distance. I know kids are growing up younger these days, but come on, he’s three! MOMs, I need your help! What am I to do??✲ Your Friend and Fellow MOM,

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Smarty Pants I am convinced that three year olds, back when I was three, were way dumber than 3-year-olds today. Heck, the other day my 3-year-old grandson, Kayden, used the word “either,” in a sentence, in the proper context! How did he know that? Are children just getting smarter with each generation? Why? Is it something in the water? I saw a television commercial about an 18-month-old who could read words from flash cards. Parents do interact with their children more than my parents’ generation did. Their generation strongly encouraged imaginative play. Give the kids a few simple toys and let them figure it out. And my grandchildren have so many toys, so many complicated toys. Over the summer, Kayden honed his fine coordination skills by playing Thomas games on a hand held computer/game box. The game has him hold a rather small, thin wand and trace a line, without lifting the pen, from a starting point moving Thomas, the train, to the answer for the question it asks. Yes, it talks too. Did I even talk at three? I vaguely remember hanging dolly clothes on a miniature clothes line with miniature clothes pins in the back yard. Was I three, four, five? Has memory also improved through the generations? Will my grandchildren remember when I read to them

when they were three or two or even one? What will my 3-year-old great grandchild play with in 2013? Yup that is a possibility. I could become a “grand” nana in 2010. I’m thinking more on the lines of having my first great grandchild in 2020, when my oldest granddaughter is 29. Sixty-four sounds like a more reasonable age to have a great grandchild. Yes, that sounds right. I think I will still be riding my bike, kayaking and ok, walking vs. running and certainly still able to sit a little one on my lap and read a story through my coke bottle lenses. So, my number four grand child, Kayden, is already starting preschool; three years old and going to school… not daycare, school. While he is very smart intellectually, he tends to put his underpants on backwards. Is he really ready?✲ —Nana Jean Nana Jean is a South Jersey grandmother with two daughters and six grandchildren. Enjoy her stories about her 37+ years as a mom and 18 years as a grandmother as she shares her experiences and lessons learned with lots of laughs and tears along the way.

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options more. It took me a half-day to finish the test with many interruptions, and 11 seconds to get the results. The stunning result: I like writing and I would make a passable baker/pastry chef (I do make fabulous scones), and I would hate working in an office, especially in a supervisory position where I would have to discipline others. So it’s not that I chose the wrong field. What I’m looking for is what I have: working from home, freedom to not work if I can’t fit it in, long deadlines and flexible hours. My office is in the dining room (or what would have been a dining room if my life had turned out differently) and close to the daily distractions: laundry, mopping, vacuuming, calls from school and my kids. Since it’s my home and not an office, it’s okay sometimes to vent, “I’m working! Nobody thinks I work, but this is me, working. So, whatever it is, go ask Dad!” Such a dream job. And I must tell you, I’ve had worse. My first paid job was babysitting for two little boys while their mother went out on dates. We invite you to visit our friendly and helpful staff. She often came Armstrong Pediatric Dental treats you like family! home late and evi• Accepts a variety of insurance plans dently forgot to teach her children • Expanded the names of their office hours to

am well into my 50th year now, and I don’t really know what I want to do when I grow up. Shouldn’t I have found out by now? I posed that question to my old friend Chas, age 51. Here’s his sage reply: “Did you ever watch Wile E. Coyote when he runs off the edge of the cliff, realizes it in mid-air, turns around and tries to run back? That part, right there, is just like turning 50.” I’m not as fond of this analogy as Chas is, so I went online and filled out a free career skills test, thinking I might go back to school and get better credentials. The test asked all about what tasks I would prefer to do. For example, would I rather encourage others to do their jobs better, explain basic mathematical concepts to children or clean an infected wound? I chose the wound thing, which I would hate, but I would hate the other

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body parts. This left me at a loss one night when her baby cried for hours because, as his 4-year-old brother said, “his chicken hurt.” Next, I made cotton candy at an ancient downtown movie theatre. Before I caught onto the technique, that oncegrand lobby’s high ceiling was so festooned with ragged wisps of spun sugar, it looked as if Rapunzel’s wig exploded. For two summers, I sold foot-long hot dogs at Great Adventure, next to a bandstand where a singer drawled, “Take This Job and Shove It” every third song. Then I upgraded to butcher’s assistant at the local supermarket, where I stuffed dead chickens in to bags. Up the ladder I went, and got hired on at a Wawa, running the meat slicer. I was offered a manager’s job, but I finished college and have worked in journalism jobs to this day. On bad days, I tell myself: You can always go back to slicing headcheese at the Wawa. I still don’t know what’s next for me, but why worry? As Chas says in his Wile E. Coyote analogy, “I think you get a couple of years in that spinning position before the real drop to the bottom of the canyon.” Beep-Beep!✲ Fran LoBiondo of Vineland has children in grade school, high school and college. A Purdue University graduate with a degree in Journalism, she has written about parenting, food and fun for 25 yrs.

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Services in School for Children With Special Needs:

What Parents Need to Know

ome children experience difficulties in school, ranging from problems with concentration, learning, language and perception to problems with behavior and/or making and keeping friends. These difficulties may be due to one or more of the following: physical disorders, psychiatric disorders, emotional problems,

accommodations include untimed tests, sitting in the front of the class, modified homework and the provision of necessary services. Typically, children covered under Section 504 either have less severe disabilities than those covered under IDEA or have disabilities that do not fit within the eligibility categories of IDEA. Under sec-

“Children with special needs are guaranteed rights to services in school under federal and state laws” behavioral problems, and learning disorders (or disabilities). These children with special needs are usually entitled to receive special services or accommodations through the public schools. Federal law mandates that every child will receive a free and appropriate education in the least restrictive environment. To support their ability to learn in school, three Federal laws apply to children with special needs: • The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) (1975) • Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 • The Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) (1990). The Laws IDEA is a federal law (1975, amended by the Office of Special Education Programs in 1997) that governs all special education services for children in the United States. Under IDEA, in order for a child to be eligible for special education, they must be in one of the following categories: serious emotional disturbance, learning disabilities, mental retardation, traumatic brain injury, autism, vision and hearing impairments, physical disabilities or other health impairments. Section 504 is a civil rights statute (1973), mandating that schools not discriminate against children with disabilities and must provide them with reasonable accommodations. It covers all programs and activities, whether public or private, that receive federal financial assistance. Reasonable 8 | September 2009

tion 504, any person who has an impairment that substantially limits a major life activity is considered disabled. Learning and social development are included under the list of major life activities. The ADA (1990) requires all educational institutions, other than those operated by religious organizations, to meet the needs of children with psychiatric problems. The ADA prohibits the denial of educational services, programs or activities to students with disabilities and prohibits discrimination against all such students.

Evaluation of Your Child As a parent, you may request an evaluation of your child to determine his or her needs for special education and/or related services. The evaluation may include psychological and educational testing, a speech and language evaluation, occupational therapy assessment and a behavioral analysis. These are the steps you need to take:

1. Meet with your child’s teacher to share your concerns and request an evaluation by the school’s child study team. Parents can also request independent professional evaluations. 2. Submit your requests in writing for evaluations and services. Always date your requests and keep a copy for your records. 3. Keep careful records, including observations reported by your child’s teachers and any communications (notes, reports, letters, etc.) between home and school. The results of the evaluation determine your child’s eligibility to receive a range of services under the applicable law. Following the evaluation, an Individualized Education Program (IEP) is developed. Examples of categories of services in IEPs include: Occupational Therapy, Physical Therapy, Speech and Language Therapy, and/or the provision of a classroom aide. Parents do not determine whether their child is eligible under the law; however, parents are entitled to participate in the development of the IEP. Additionally, the findings of the school’s evaluation team are not final. You have the right to appeal their conclusions and determination. The school is required to provide you with information about how to make an appeal. What a Parent Can Do Children with special needs are guaranteed rights to services in school under federal and state laws. Parents should always advocate for their child and must be proactive and take necessary steps to make sure their child receives appropriate services. The process can be confusing and intimidating for parents. Here are some tips: • Parents should request copies of their school district’s Section 504 plan. This is especially important when a school district refuses services. • If the school district does not respond to your request, you can contact a U.S. Department of Education Office of Civil Rights Regional Office for assistance. • If the school district refuses services under the IDEA or Section 504, or both, you may choose to challenge this decision through a due process hearing (a legal hearing in which you and your child have an advocate who can express your views and concerns). • It may also be necessary to retain your own attorney if you decide to appeal a school’s decision.✲

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5 Reasons Your Child Should Play a Musical Instrument Learning to play a musical instrument offers many benefits. Here are five reasons why:

Playing a Musical Instrument Makes You Smarter Many studies have been conducted on the effects of music to the brain. Scientists say that children who are exposed to music, or those who play an instrument, do better in school than those who do not. Recent research suggests exposure to music may benefit a child’s reading age, IQ and the development of certain parts of the brain.

It Teaches Discipline Learning to play an instrument is like learning to speak another language and it can be challenging at times. One of the qualities musicians possess is discipline. You have to be disciplined in order to master playing your instrument. You have to set time each day to practice, practice and practice some more.

Playing a Musical Instrument Relieves Stress All children have days when they are stressed out and just want to take a break from it all. Have you ever noticed that when you hear soft, soothing music you feel more relaxed? Playing an instrument can do that, and more. Music is one of life’s simple joys; it helps calm the mind.

Sense of Achievement Beginners learning to play their first piece can become frustrated. But once they have mastered it, the satisfaction they feel is priceless.

Playing A Musical Instrument is Fun Sure it can be a lot of hard work, but there is no denying playing an instrument is fun. Once he or she gets better at it, opportunities will arise for your child to share their newly learned skill with family and friends. Who knows? They may also consider playing professionally in the future. Playing a musical instrument opens up a lot of wonderful possibilities that will surely enrich their lives.✲

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25 Smart Tips When Starting Preschool for the Very First Time!

1 If preschool starts earlier than little Jody is used to getting up, change her schedule a few weeks before school starts. There is nothing more frustrating than trying to get a tired, cranky toddler out the door in the morning. 2 Pick out her clothes the night before or let her choose. 3 If you need to pack her lunch, do it the night before. 4 It’s a good idea to get your little one up a half hour earlier those first few days of preschool. Getting ready sometimes takes longer than you think. 5 Do not worry if your toddler wants the same thing for lunch each day. If it’s healthy and she eats, variety may not be her spice of life at this age. The first day of school is the most 6 difficult for any new parent. If possible, ask your spouse to come along and plan a special celebration breakfast after dropping off your little one! 7 No matter what fears you might have, always show your child the happy and positive side… no negativity. Preschool should be fun! 10 | September 2009

Preschool starts in a few days and you are already getting those butterflies in your stomach. After all, it’s the first time your “baby” will be spending her days without you. While it’s exciting, you wonder how anyone can do as good a job as you. Relax… take a deep breath and pat yourself on the back for being such great parents! After all, your little one would not be ready for preschool without all your tender loving care. The following tips should make this transition easier for everyone.

8 When you arrive in the classroom, walk your toddler over to her cubby and ask her to put everything away. Teaching independence from the first day is great for self-esteem. 9 If you are going to take pictures, make those Kodak moments short and sweet. The longer you stay, the more difficult it is to leave. If 10 there are centers set up in the room, let your toddler pick the one that looks best to her. If she is having a shy morning, 11 walk her over to a new friend and stand with them until they are happily playing. Before you leave, tell your toddler 12 that it’s her job to have a good time and your job to go to work. 13 Plant a special kiss to hold in each hand for safe keeping, in case she needs it later. 14 One good-bye is enough. No matter how tempting, do not come back for one more. Your apprehension will only make your child nervous. When it’s time for you to leave and your 15 little one won’t let go of your leg as her crying gets more dramatic, ask the teacher to take over and use all your willpower to walk out the door. 16 If the above is an everyday occurrence, let your little one bring a special lovey each morning. Make sure to tell her that it goes in the cubby when school starts. 17 Never sneak out. Let your child know you are leaving and will always come back. 18 Mommy tears are normal. Let them flow after you say good-bye. There is nothing more frightening than seeing mommy cry. If 19 your toddler wants to know when you will be back, ask the teacher what activity the class will be doing at pick-up time and share it with your child. “Mommy will be back after story time.” Association is easier than watching the clock. 20 Try your best not to drop in for a visit. It’s disruptive to your child and the

By Blythe Lipman classroom, especially if she is having a difficult time adjusting. 21 Never let your child bring anything valuable to preschool. Things can get lost in the shuffle of activities. 22 Ask the teacher to please call you if your little one does not settle down. But remember, those first few days are a transition for everyone. This too shall pass. 23 If you are really nervous, request a mid-morning call the first week with a short progress report. Most teachers are more than happy to accommodate. 24 Ask for a classroom roster with the other parents’ information and plan a “get acquainted” meeting. 25 If you feel uneasy about anything in the classroom, do not keep it to yourself. Ask questions before you leave. Never go to work with that nervous lump in your throat. Starting preschool is a wonderful new chapter in all your lives. If you can walk out of the classroom each day with a smile on your face and warmth in your heart, then you have made the right decision. Be proud!✲

I took Alison to the store and let her pick out a special lunchbox and school bag. She couldn’t wait to show Daddy and tell Grandma about her purchase!! Ali couldn’t [have been] prouder than [walking] into preschool that first day with all her confidence! I have to admit, my tears did start flowing when I walked out the door…my 3 year old was growing up! — Meredith S., mother of 3-year-old Alison

The week before preschool starts, I always have a get-acquainted ice cream party in the classroom. It is a nice way to start the year and I see fewer tears the first day! — Nancy Miller, Preschool Owner 15 Years

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Heavy

ll of us, from time to time, experience what we feel is unusually heavy bleeding during our menstrual periods. Fortunately, most often, what we think is abnormal uterine bleeding is not really excessive enough to cause concern. How do you know when bleeding during your period is abnormally heavy? The easiest way to determine this is to take note of how often you need to change your pad or tampon. If your period is heavy enough to require changing more often than every one or two hours, or if you have a period that lasts more than a full week, you should contact your doctor.

Letâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s take a look at the most common causes of heavy menstrual bleeding:

Uterine fibroid tumors are one very common cause of excessive menstruation. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s important to understand that fibroid tumors are usually benign (non-cancerous) tumors that often occur in the uterus of women during their thirties or forties. While the cause of uterine fibroid tumors is unclear, it is clear that they are estrogen-dependent. Several surgical treatments are available for treating fibroid tumors. Non-surgical pharmacological treatments are also available. Some women find natural progesterone to be an effective treatment for uterine fibroid tumors. Often, when symptoms are not severe or troublesome, a â&#x20AC;&#x153;wait and seeâ&#x20AC;? approach is taken. Once menopause occurs, uterine fibroid tumors typically shrink and disappear without treatment. Cervical polyps are small, fragile growths that begin in either the mucosal surface of the cervix, or the endocervical canal and protrude through the opening of the cervix. The cause of cervical polyps is not clear; however, they are often the result of an infection and, many times, may be associated with an abnormal response to increased estrogen levels or congestion of the blood vessels located in the cervix. Women most commonly affected by cervical polyps are those over the age of twenty who have had children.

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A simple outpatient office procedure that removes the growth, along with antibiotics, is the usual treatment for cervical polyps.

Endometrial polyps are typically non-cancerous growths that protrude from the lining of the uterus. The cause of endometrial polyps is unclear, although they are often associated with an excess of estrogen following hormone treatment or some types of ovarian tumors.Treatments for endometrial polyps include hysteroscopy and D&C. A pathology lab will evaluate endometrial polyps for cancer following removal.

Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) is an infection of one or more organs that affects the uterus, fallopian tubes and cervix. PID is, most often, a sexually transmitted disease; however, it sometimes occurs following childbirth or other gynecological procedures. The recommended treatment for pelvic inflammatory disease is antibiotic therapy.

Cervical cancer is a type of cancer that occurs when cells in the cervix become abnormal, multiply out of control and damage healthy parts of the body. The human papillomavirus, or HPV, is the cause of over ninety percent of all cervical cancers.

Endometrial cancer occurs when abnormal cells in the uterus or the endometrium (the lining of the uterus) multiply out of control and cause damage to the uterus and other organs. While the cause of endometrial cancer is unknown, it is known that women diagnosed with this type of cancer are usually over fifty, often have endometrial hyperplasia or, many times, have used hormone replacement therapy (HRT). The first treatment for endometrial cancer is usually a hysterectomy, possibly followed by chemotherapy and/or radiation treatments.

IUDs, or intrauterine devices used for contraception, are a potential cause of heavy menstrual bleeding. Women who experience prolonged or heavy periods while using the IUD should have the device removed and choose an alternate method of birth control.â&#x153;˛

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dentity theft has reached epidemic proportions with no signs of slowing down. The revenue from trafficking financial data has surpassed that of drug trafficking. Identity theft affects as many as 9 million Americans each year, and today’s technology is making it easier than ever for the thieves to gather your personal information. What is Identity Theft? Identity theft occurs when someone uses your personal information, such as your name and social security number, with the intent to commit fraud or to aid an unlawful activity. Once your personal information is obtained, the person may open bank accounts in your name, write bad checks, open new credit accounts and obtain a loan in your name. Many people relate identity theft to just credit cards but, in fact, identity theft involves five areas. 1. Driver’s License Identity Theft A thief can use your information to acquire a driver’s license in your name and claim to be you during a traffic stop. This can result in suspension or revocation of your driving privileges or you could receive traffic tickets, DWI, DUI and other driving-related charges. 2. Social Security Identity Theft Thieves and criminals can use your social security number to obtain medical care, commit crimes, apply for credit, procure employment or to report income. An illegal immigrant may use your social security number to get a job. Thieves may be interested in getting paid, but not in paying taxes. There are cases where people are finding out that someone else already filed a tax return in their name and someone else received the refunds. 3. Medical Identity Theft This is the fastest growing type of identity theft. According to an AARP study, stolen health insurance cards are being sold on the black market for $500-$600. If a person steals your health identity and has specific medical conditions different from yours, you could unknowingly be denied potentially life-saving medications or treatments. Or you could experience a dangerous drug interaction because your provider will assume the thief’s medical information is yours. 4. Criminal/Character Identity Theft This occurs when an imposter gives another person’s name and personal information, such as driver’s license, date of birth or social security number, to law www.southjerseymom.com

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Are you AT rIsk? enforcement during an investigation or an arrest. You could be arrested for crimes you did not commit. 5. Financial Identity Theft A thief can use your information to obtain money, credit cards, bank/auto loans, mortgages, leases and other services, leaving you with the bill. Financial institutions advertise zero fraud liability for fraudulent activity on accounts if notified within 48 hours. What happens after 48 hours? You could be responsible for debts you did not create. How can you prevent Identity Theft? • Avoid carrying you social security card in your wallet. • Shred pre-approved credit card offers and bills before disposing of them. • Avoid putting outgoing mail in your home mailbox – place in a U.S Postal Service box. • Be careful using credit cards on line; consider having one card that is only used for on line purchases. • Check your credit report on a regular basis. If you see unusual activity, you can investigate promptly by contacting the three bureaus: Equifax: www.equifax.com or 1-800-525-6285;

Experian: www.experian.com or 1-888-397-3742 and TransUnion: www.transunion.com or 1-800-680-7289. Take Action If you become an identity theft victim, you will need to take action quickly. First freeze your credit or place a fraud alert on all your accounts. Then check your credit report to see if there are new accounts opened in your name. From there, you will need to work with each of your creditors individually to rectify the problem. This can be a long and tedious process. You can be proactive and use a credit monitoring program with a comprehensive plan which also handles restoration—returning your identity to pre-theft status. This helps give you peace of mind. For more ideas and suggestions on how to minimize your risk, visit the Federal Trade Commission website at www.consumer.gov/idtheft/. You can also contact the Federal Trade Commission for a Free Report on Identity Theft by calling 1-877IDTHEFT. To learn more about credit monitoring programs, visit www.Kroll.com.✲ Shaun Stephenson is a Certified Identity Theft Risk Management Specialist. She can be contacted at (609) 560-8370 or Shaun6@comcast.net. September 2009 | 13

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Celebrating Grandparents

By Jasmine Johnson

My Mom (aka Nana) was present at the birth of my son, and her joy was as great as mine. Actually, I think hers was even greater, since it was not dampened by the pain of having to push the little bugger out! Grandparents appreciate their grandchildren and the precious moments of youth in a special way that comes only with the wisdom of years and a bit of distance from the unpleasant day-to-day tantrums and messes. the story and drawings, you mail it in to the publisher and receive back a bound hardcover edition of the masterpiece.

Happy Scrappy It’s relaxing, rainy day fun for grandparents to sit down with the kids at the kitchen table with colored paper, glue, stickers, markers and some fun family photos. As a team, they can create a scrapbook of family memories that will become a cherished heirloom. This works for grandchildren of any age; just adjust materials accordingly.

randparent’s Day falls on September 13 this year, and is the perfect opportunity to celebrate the special bond between grandparents and their grandchildren with some memorable activities geared to edify and entertain.

Safari Adventure Grandparents hide stuffed animals around the house and let your little explorer search for them. With crayons and some sheets of paper, the kids draw pictures of the “wildlife” they have found. Grandparents should have library books on animals available, or be able to search the Internet together, so the kids can learn more about their favorite fauna. A blanket spread on the living room floor is the perfect place to eat a picnic meal. If the grandchildren are sleeping over, grandparents can pitch a little tent in the living room for an indoor campout!

Tea Party For a more prim and proper crowd, grandparents can host a lovely afternoon tea! Let your young ladies and gentlemen-in-training play dress up with fun hats, scarves and neckties that are sitting in the back of the closet. Set the table with fine china (if the kids are old enough to use it gently). Serve hot cider or iced tea and pretty cookies and finger sandwiches with the crusts cut off. Invite some stuffed animals and dolls to join in! This is a perfect opportunity for grandparents to teach proper table manners and social etiquette.

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Not Near, But Still Dear With many grandchildren living too far away to see their grandparents often, a webcam is a blessing. There are many inexpensive and user-friendly webcams on the market today. Get one for the grandparents’ computer and set one up at your house. Using a free downloadable program like Skype, make video calls with your computer instead of voice-only calls on your phone. It saves money and provides a more personal interaction for grandparents and their grandchildren. These are only a few examples of how you can kick-start the fun. There are no limits! Grandparents today are more active than ever before. Children are open to new experiences and eager to learn. It’s a beautiful thing when grandparents expand a child’s world by sharing their own. For more ideas on activities for grandparents and grandchildren to share, check out websites like www.grandparents.com, www.grandparents.org or www.long- distancegrandparenting.com.✲

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Can Food Be the Cause of Hyperactive Behavior? CONSIDER THIS BEFORE MEDICATING YOUR CHILD ou may want to think twice about letting your child tear into that colorful lollipop next time he or she gets a haircut. Yes, it’s a novelty treat but do you really know what that lollipop is made from? Or soft drinks, juice boxes or fruit snacks for that matter? “Preservatives and food colorings of modern times have come under speculation due to increased behavioral concerns and the possible causation of the same,” says Dr. Tanya L. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi, DO, FACOP, FAAP, Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at School of Osteopathic Medicine, University of Medicine & Dentistry of New Jersey in Turnersville and mother of Christan, 11, and Catryna, 9. Some of these behaviors include hyperactivity, attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), attention-deficit disorder (ADD), autism, depression and obesity. According to the most recent statistics published by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 4.5 million children between the ages of 5 and 17 have

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been diagnosed with ADHD since 2006. Preservatives are meant to prevent foods and beverages from spoiling, enhance flavor and maintain freshness. Ironically, they do not help us preserve our bodies or our children’s bodies. According to the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA), there are thousands of ingredients used to preserve food. The FDA maintains a list of more than 3,000 ingredients in its database. Preservatives and color additives are in just about everything, from food to medicine and personal and household products. Studies show that color additives and food preservatives are associated with hyperactivity, skin irritations, asthmatic reactions, depression, obesity and even cancer. These same additives can be found in your child’s favorite cereals, snacks (like potato chips and cheese curls), chewing gum, candy and more. “It may not be solely the sugar that caused the out-of-control behavior, but the additional colorants and preservatives that

hitched a ride in alongside the sugar in soda or the cupcake or lollipop,” says Dr. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi. How can you know if your child is affected by these additives? “A sign that a child or person may be sensitive to something in their food can be as subtle as a poor night’s sleep or increase in night terrors to as obvious as an anaphylactic reaction with hives, rashes, wheezing and respiratory distress,” says Dr. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi. What can we do as parents to protect our children? To protect your children, Lisa Maniaci, mother of Christopher, 8, and Peyton, 2, of East Brunswick suggests, “Read, read, read. If you do nothing else but eliminate the foods that have a color followed by a number (Red #40, Yellow #5), you’ve already won half of the battle. Anything that has ‘Artificial Flavor’ is a no-no, too.” Maniaci turned to a diet eliminating preservatives and artificial food coloring, www.southjerseymom.com

known as the Feingold Diet, when her son was diagnosed with ADHD in first grade. “We were not on board with putting him on meds until all other avenues had been explored,” says Maniaci, who heard about the Feingold Program from a friend. “The success stories we’ve heard from other Feingold families since then really made it a no-brainer for us.” Dr. Feingold developed what he named the “K-P Diet” in the 1960s, which focuses on eliminating all artificial food dyes, artificial flavorings and three preservatives, according to Jane Hersey, who has been the Director of the nonprofit organization since 1985. Hersey found that her husband’s migraine headaches and her oldest daughter’s ADHD symptoms were being triggered by these additives. Volunteers for The Feingold Association of the United States research brand name foods with the manufacturers to identify which products are free of the unwanted additives. They then provide this information to its members. Remarkably, after just two days of modifying Christopher’s diet using the Feingold Program, Maniaci noticed a visible difference. “Little by little, we saw him sitting longer, getting through dinner without the timer, and the dark circles under his eyes disappeared.” The three most dangerous and well-known preservatives to look for on food labels are butylated hydroxyanisole (BHA), butylated hydroxytoluene (BHT) and tertiary butylhydroquinone (TBHQ). These preservatives are actually petroleum derivatives (yes, the same gasoline that we fill up our cars with) and are used in many foods in the United States. Food coloring additives to look for are always listed with color followed by a number. For example, Red #40, Yellow #5, Federal Food, Drug and Cosmetics (FD&C) Blue #1 and FD&C Green #3. Some simple changes you can make are to opt for the less brightly colored cereals (such as cornflakes and oatmeal) that do not turn the milk blue, and those without artificial colors, according to Dr. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi. “When shopping, as always, it’s important to be a smart, educated consumer,” says the doctor. Choose organic juices and items with all-natural coloring as long as your wallet can handle it. They are usually more expensive. Most manufacturers have multiple products with and without preservatives and artificial colors. Reading labels is a real eye-opener. You may be astonished to find that cherries are not on the list of ingredients in a box of cherry gelatin. Hersey recommends that, when reading food labels, you also look for these three words: artificial, imitation and vanillin (at quick glance this looks like vanilla, but it is an artificial flavoring found in many chocolate products). Aspartame was also recently added to the Feingold Program as an additive to be avoided. “I don’t necessarily recommend any particular diets because ‘diet’ in a child’s vocabulary should only mean ‘that which is eaten,’ not ‘that which cannot be eaten,” says Dr. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi. “Teaching kids and relearning ourselves the joys of fresh foods untouched by machine processor/sprayer/packager is a way of life that will eventually help decrease behavioral issues, depression, hyperactivity, obesity and nutritional estrangement that has [occurred with] the industrialization of food supply.” Not only do food items contain preservatives and color additives, but medications, cosmetics and other personal and household products contain them as well. Opt for naturally colored items or preservative-free and dye-free items. “Benadryl® has a dye-free formulation and not only does it decrease exposure to artificial dyes, but it doesn’t stain when spilled or spit out,” says Dr. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi. Or choose an all-natural children’s toothpaste, flavored with real strawberries as opposed to the bright sparkle-colored toothpaste. Choose a clothes detergent without dyes or perfumes. “Nothing bad can come from eliminating petroleum-based foods from your child’s daily food intake,” says Maniaci. “A year and a half ago, there would have been tears, banging fists on the desk and other disruptive behaviors. Now we have essays and creative stories saved in a box of his [Christopher] 2nd grade memories.” Next time you are at the grocery store, be sure to read the label before tossing a product into your cart.✲

HEALTHY ALTERNATIVES FOR YOUR CHILD’S DIET • Jello: Make your own version with gelatin, natural fruit juice and real fruit. • Fruit snacks: Opt for the “fruit leather” made from real fruits and sweetened with fruit juice. • Yummy Beverage: Mix one blood orange with lemons and water to make delicious and refreshing pink lemonade (recipe courtesy of Dr. Kadrmas-Iannuzzi). • Natural lollipops made from grape or carrots; look for these in organic or health markets. • Switch to vitamin water instead of a brightly colored sports drink. • Make your own mac and cheese with elbow macaroni, cheddar cheese, butter and milk, rather than with processed cheese that is not even real cheese.

FOODS RESEARCHED AND RECOMMENDED BY THE FEINGOLD ASSOCIATION • Kraft White Cheddar Mac & Cheese • Natural Cheetos • Ghirardelli Chocolate • Sundrops • Cheerios • Sunshine Hi-Ho Crackers • Lender’s Raisin n’ Honey Bagels • Jelly Belly Natural Jelly Beans

SMART PARTY PLANNING SUGGESTIONS • Provide your own natural candy if having a piñata. • Goodie bags do not have to contain artificially dyed candy. Try animal crackers, bubbles, sidewalk chalk, bouncy balls, small books, etc. • Or forego the goody bag altogether. Give small gift cards to a book or craft store. You would most likely spend the same money on each item in a goody bag and the bag itself. It’s also a more “green” option since you can eliminate the little plastic bags.

Julie M. Vitale is a freelance journalist from Sewell and mother to 4 1/2-year-old Michael. A Temple University graduate with a degree in Magazine Journalism, she has written and published articles both locally and nationally on parenting, fashion and accessories. www.southjerseymom.com

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s children develop a growing sense of the world around them, it’s important to socialize them with other toddlers. They are taking in everything around them. Like little sponges, they soak up everything. Just as they learn the proper manners for the dinner table by eating dinner with a family, they learn the way to treat others by socializing with their peers. This happens somewhat naturally for children who go to daycare or preschool, but even if you are a stay-athome-mom, there are many ways that you can provide opportunities for your toddler to socialize and learn to play well with others. There are lots of companies that offer structured classes for children, most of which are divided by the age of the children. Your toddler can take everything from gymnastics, to music, to sports-type classes, to classes that are really just structured play. Your local parks and recreation department may offer classes, and this is usually the cheapest route to go. Some government organizations for early childhood education sponsor free, or very cheap, classes as well. Many places offer classes for children from 0-5 years old, divided into 7 different levels to ensure that activities are ageappropriate. Some of the toddler level classes include music, art, yoga and fitness. You can choose from parent participation classes or classes taught by a teacher or coach, as you look on from a distance.

Benefits of Toddler Classes: - Structured schedule means no wasted time. - Structured lessons help prepare toddlers for school. - You can choose from a wide variety of classes, usually taught by specialists. Downsides of Toddler Classes: - Some places cost a lot of money. - The families that participate can vary from session to session. - Classes are usually once a week.✲

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t may be somewhat surprising that it is possible to predict with reasonable accuracy if a very young child is gifted. The research shows that gifted children tend to gain skills faster, and with more ease, than normal children. This advanced development can, and does, show up in early life. The following milestones have been gathered over many years of giftedness-research, made public, and are presented here as a guideline. Obviously, the odd isolated advanced ability does not mean that you should immediately stand from the rooftops and scream, “My little Johnny is gifted!” What you should be looking for is broad consistent advancement. There is also no point in trying to force any of these skills on a child early – it does absolutely no good. At any particular level of development, the child’s brain is either wired up for the activity or it’s not; all they need is ample opportunity to practice basic skills in their own time at their own pace. Observe them, encourage them, but do not try hot-housing. It’s a waste of time and effort. If your child generally, roughly attains each of these milestones well before the normal population, then there will be very little doubt that your child exceeds the norm. It’s as simple as that. This should be taken as a warning sign – for all is not sweet and happy when raising a gifted child. Take professional advice early and try to plan ahead regarding school placement. Carefully vet the attitudes of the proposed schools and the schools’ respective counselors towards gifted children. It’s very important to note that there are different levels of giftedness. It’s not always appreciated that, even between these rough bands of ability, there is a very great range of abilities.✲

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FINE MOTOR EXAMPLES ABILITY

NORMAL AGE

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our family had a great summer, but the first day of school is right around the corner. If you want them to be prepared, there are a few things you can do in advance to prepare yourself, and your children, to handle the back-toschool transition. Step One Make sure to return from any summer travels or vacations at least two weeks before the beginning of your child’s school year. You and your family need time to transition and, if you do not allow yourself a few weeks, you will feel twice as exhausted as before you left to “relax.” Step Two Start your child’s school year sleep schedule two weeks in advance of the first day. Adjusting sleep schedules is difficult, and time will be needed. Your child will need help, patience, and extra time to learn to get up earlier and go to sleep earlier.

Step Three If you have not required study time and limited television watching during the summer, then you need to start that now. Homework and studying require structure and time. If you can integrate those skills before school starts, you will have more success. Step Four Make any medical or dental appointments now. The first few weeks of school are essential. If your child misses even one day, he or she will start the year behind. Make sure to get dental checkups and physicals done during the summer so that your child can get the class time they need. Step Five If possible, consider adjusting your work schedule the first day of school. Even if your child will not admit it, your child would probably love to have you there on the first day of school for reassurance. It would also be good for you to be home at

the end of the day to help your child decompress and unload if necessary. Step Six The weekend prior to the beginning of school, try to have one final fling. Start the year off by letting your family know that they are the priority by giving them a great memory to take them through the first few weeks. Consider going hiking or having a fun night out. The together time will charge up your family batteries so that the first few weeks go a bit easier. Tips & Warnings • Take a look at last year’s photos and report cards to demonstrate to your child how much they have grown and matured. • Time spent transitioning will not be wasted. Make sure to invest your time. • If you do not spend time transitioning your family back into the rhythm of school, you could see behavior problems and possibly even school phobia.✲

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Cherry Hill Skating Center

ooking for an activity that is lots of fun and great exercise learn-to-skate through tournament. This season’s hockey leagues too? How about roller skating? Skating is great cardio vascuskate on Wednesday and Friday nights. lar exercise, develops coordination and balance and is recAside from parties, classes and special events, there are still ommended by the President’s Council on Physical Fitness as a top plenty of opportunities for open skating with your family and pick to fight adolescent obesity. friends. Family owned and operated, Cherry Hill Skating Center is Part of the community for over 35 years, Cherry Hill Skating one of the most enjoyable family activity centers in South Jersey. Center continues its tradition of offering the area’s best family Second and third generation skaters are now frequenting the rink skating activities in a clean, friendly environment. The atmosand continuing the tradition. Do not let your family miss out on phere is brand new and upbeat, with games, music and lights to the fun. Stop by the rink soon and experience the excitement. Your enhance your skating experience. The onsite skate shop is memories will last a lifetime.✲ equipped to keep all levels of skaters rolling. A snack bar offers Cherry Hill Skating Center is located at 664 Deer Road in Cherry Hill (near the junction of 295 and Rte. 70). For more information and schedules, scrumptious treats and refreshing beverages to satisfy the active call (856) 795-1919 or visit www.cherryhillskatingcenter.com. skater. Children especially enjoy the redemption games that allow them to earn tickets for use in the prize center. Cherry Hill Skating Center is the perfect place to host your special events. Birthday party packages are exceptional and are available in three versions to suit individual preferences. “Private Birthday Parties” are a huge hit with family and friends. Schools, churches and We have an extensive selection other organizations also benefit from hosting from preemie to size 12 group fundraising and social events at the rink. Classes are available for children who Are your child's new clothes want to take their skating skills beyond the fighting for space in the closet? Clear some novice level. The weekday Pre-School/Kindspace AND make some extra cash! ergarten Lesson and Awards Program and the Saturday Youth Class are extremely popular • shop gently hugged We're Looking for Moms and are enjoyed by children as young as two. and new top brands Who Want to Save Money! Children grow out of their Classes are taught by experienced instructors all in one location clothes so fast! Save money who encourage the children to have fun while • recycle your children’s and shop at our store. All they are learning. Activities enhance balance, items and earn items in great condition! coordination, creative thinking and cognitive extra money development. • fall clothing arrives Sept 12th $35 or more Cherry Hill Skating Center also has an Sweetpea’s—A Children’s Shoppe (excluding already discounted items) organized youth hockey program. The program 2757 S. Main Road, Vineland (Sherman & Main Rds.) With this coupon. One coupon is geared to elementary-aged children and M.-Th.10-5 • Fri.10-6 • Sat.10-4 • Sun. closed per visit. Expires 9/30/09. CALL TO SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT! operates at graduated levels of play, from

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ricia Sloan Dance Center (TSDC), located in the heart of the charming town of Wenonah, has been successfully operating for over 25 years. The dance center is housed in a historic building with over 3,700 square feet of space. The attractive facility sets the stage for children and adults to experience the joy of dance and fitness. A dancewear shop is conveniently located next door. TSDC is truly a family owned and operated business. Every member of the Sloan family participates in the ownership, management and daily operations. Each family member brings their own unique set of skills, talents, energy, enthusiasm and dedication to TSDC in a concerted effort to make it the most successful and highly regarded “family friendly” dance center in the Tri-State region. Sloan is most proud of her stellar faculty, comprised of instructors with professional performing career experience, as well as advanced university degrees in the fields of dance, theater and education. These amazing teachers instruct children from 2½ to 18 years of age in all phases of dance. Specializing in children’s dance, Sloan offers more than 20 classes each week for pre-school age students. The tiniest tots are introduced to movement in a Creative Dance Class that incorporates dance, singing, energetic games and fun. Older children can choose from Classical Ballet, Tap, Jazz, Modern, Lyrical and Jazz Funk. Adults can also enrich their lives in an affordable program of unlimited classes in dance technique, fitness, ballet, tap, hip hop, cardio salsa, Zumba and five different Pilates classes. No experience is necessary. Novices are encouraged. Every fall, over one hundred students from TSDC become part of a most memorable tradition as they prepare for their parts in the annual Nutcracker Ballet performed at Rowan University. In December, the production draws over 3,000 spectators from the South Jersey Area as the TSDC students share the stage with their teachers and other professional dancers. Join the rising stars at TSDC. They specialize in making dreams come true!✲

Tricia Sloan is a member of the Screen Actor’s Guild and the Actor’s Equity Association. Sloan appeared in the motion picture ‘The Stepford Wives’ as a featured dancer. She has also appeared in the television series ‘Law and Order, Special Victims Unit.’ In the last few years, Sloan has had the privilege to appear with such notable performers as Deborah Gibson, Sheryl Lee Ralph, Thelma Houston, Diana DiGarmo and Anthony Federov. Tricia Sloan Dance Center is located at 1 West Mantua Avenue, Wenonah. Contact the center at (856) 464-0128 or www.triciasloandance.com.

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learning 2 learn

The Struggling Learner: How to Prevent Emotional “Shutdown”

t may be the beginning of a new school year, but last year’s academic struggles and concerns are not that far away. Summer gives parents a much needed rest and time to reflect on what worked and did not work and what they would like to change. Parents can think about what they hope to get from their child’s educational experience this year. Children come into this world with specific personalities, strengths and weaknesses. Often, perceived “weaknesses” are just the flip side of the coin. That is, with development and refinement, they can actually become strengths that, in adulthood will prove to be assets to the individual, the life work they are meant to do and society itself. As Dr. Mel Levine, author of One Mind at a Time, discusses in his book, traditional schooling often does not appreciate the unique characteristics of some children who do not fit into a “box,” trying to force a “square peg into a round hole,” so to speak. Too often, those children wind up losing those special “edges” to their personalities. As parents and educators, supporting our children, seeing their good qualities and believing that they are not defined by their weaknesses or limitations is critical. That said, children still get frustrated and start to shut down under the burdens of learning disabilities, especially when they are covert or undiagnosed. Talking about and emphasizing their good qualities is not enough! Unfortunately, traditional schools,

tutoring centers and many educators are unaware that many learning disabilities can be resolved! The weak intellectual and cognitive processing abilities that are at the root of the learning struggle can be developed. How can we prevent children from shutting down in the first place? Learning Therapy will identify and train the brain skills that are causing the learning disabilities through the Structure of Intellect Systems. Through this approach, tens of thousands of children in public schools and learning centers throughout the US are reaching their academic potential, becoming happier, more confident individuals and parents are reporting that they have “gotten their child back”! This scientifically proven, developmental approach to learning, based on 60 years of research, can be integrated into the daily classroom curriculum enhancing children’s learning and actually helping them to learn faster! Schools in the U.S. which are integrating this approach to learning into the curriculum are seeing improvement in children’s attendance, higher scores on standardized testing, lower referral rates for specialized services and less labeling. What is the difference between learning therapy and traditional programs and tutoring? It’s working comprehensively on multiple intelligences, visual and auditory processing skills, vision, sensory integration and academic achievement. This will hit the proverbial bull’s eye. Many Ceramics parents are confused by which The Pottery Studio that comes to YOU! We supply EVERYTHING... program to use or You supply the CREATIVITY and IMAGINATION! which learning Fun! Unique! Affordable! center or therapist No Firing! to go to because Keep 856.346.3032 piece they hear varying same day! www.paintatreasure.com feedback about

them all. It’s not that the most prevalent ones By Mary Pat on the market are Correro, Ed.M. not effective. It’s just that they do not hit that bull’s eye for some children and, therefore, you may not see the results you are looking for. There are no quick fixes to learning difficulties. Learning and intellectual functioning is a complex ability. All aspects of the brain, body and senses work together and cannot be isolated. In 35 years of professional work in the field of learning disabilities, seldom, if ever, have we seen a child who “just needed” vision therapy or “just needed” auditory processing training or “just needed” academic tutoring for reading or math, etc. If you see your child going to different programs year after year, in or out of school, then you have not hit the bull’s eye. Aside from children with severe organic, systemic disabilities, such as autism spectrum and Down syndrome, most children with learning difficulties can develop their underdeveloped abilities once and for all. You can eliminate the overkill on family life, and the poor self-esteem and frustration of your child having to go day after day, year after year, without seeing any real changes or results saying, “Just give up on me mom!” Hopefully, you will never hear these words.✲

“Children still get frustrated and start to shut down under the burdens of learning disabilities”

Mary Pat Correro is the founder of The Center For Learning Enhancement,LLC. The Center resolves learning disabilities through a comprehensive, developmental approach based on the most current research on the brain and learning. For more info call (856) 234-7337 or visit www.CLEnhancement.com.

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need to make a confession. Last month, I caved into constant cravings and purchased a case of water, juice boxes and pre-packaged snack bags. I somehow needed to make my life easier because I felt overwhelmed with kids’ school, t-ball games, my MOPS group and the never-ending housework. Every day, I saw moms just pulling these products out of their bags and I wanted to be like them. They seemed so happy and put together. Plus, the supermarket sale was unbeatable! The day of my big purchases, I felt a huge rush, similar to the euphoric feeling I get when I eat a big hot fudge sundae. But like the sundae, the rush disappeared and turned into guilt. I realized that I had to find storage space for everything. Then my kids wanted to eat every packet of cookies and crackers because I placed them (not purposely) within their reach. My trash can began to fill up with plastic and food-covered paper. My car had more crumbs in it because the snack bags ripped. I did not find the happiness that I was searching for. So, it’s back to packing reusable snack and juice containers and guilt-free for me!✲

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Compassionate, Quality OB/GYN Care Here in your community The new Physicians of Southern New Jersey Obstetrics and Gynecology practice offers compassionate, quality obstetric services and gynecological care to women of all ages, right here in your community. Michael Geria, D.O., FACOOG, is a boardcertified OB/GYN with more than 15 years of experience. He received an Outstanding Service Award from the American College of Osteopathic Obstetricians and Gynecologists in 2001.

Physicians of Southern New Jersey Obstetrics and Gynecology SJH Elmer Hospital Physician Care Center 525 S. State Street, Suite 6, Elmer, NJ 08318

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Hema Jonnalagadda, M.D. is board eligible in OB/GYN. She completed her residency at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital and comes to POSNJ from Penn OB/GYN and Midwifery Care, at Pennsylvania Hospital, in Philadelphia. Delivering at the home-like birthing suites at SJH Elmer Hospital, this practice now offers a quality choice for families who may have thought they needed to travel a long distance to deliver their babies.

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A Mother’s Mission to Raise Awareness of Her Son’s Rare Neurological Disorder By Sean Gaffney elanie Gaffney, the mother of a young boy named Mason, is on a mission. Her son has been diagnosed with a rare neurological disorder called Chiari Malformation and she will stop at nothing to help raise awareness for this highly unpublicized disorder. Gaffney started a fundraiser to help raise awareness and garner donations. Mason, age 3, is the inspiration behind this fundraiser, titled, “Mason’s Mission.” One hundred percent of the proceeds from all their efforts go to the American Syringomyelia & Chiari Alliance Project, Inc. Frustrated by the lack of public knowledge and support for this unusual disorder after their son’s diagnosis, Melanie and her husband, Sean, went on a fact-finding mis-

“Without publicizing this disorder and building awareness, funds won’t be raised for research” sion. With their world already flipped upside down, just trying to find information on this very uncommon disorder was difficult. Trying to find a person who specialized in the disorder proved even harder. The thought of moving Mason from the best pediatric hospital in the country, where he is currently treated, to another institution was so mind boggling that Gaffney knew she had to raise as much awareness as possible. Chiari Malformation is a serious neurological disorder where the bottom part of the brain, the cerebellum, descends out of the skull and crowds the spinal cord, putting pressure on both the brain and spine. A few of the symptoms people afflicted with this disorder can experience are severe, debilitating headaches, balance and coordination problems, gait abnormalities, pain and weakness in the arms and legs and trouble speaking and swallowing. In some cases, patients develop Hydrocephalus (fluid on the brain), which results in compression of parts of the brain and spinal cord and www.southjerseymom.com

disrupts the normal flow of cerebrospinal fluid (a clear fluid which bathes the brain and spinal cord). If left untreated, Hydrocephalus can cause brain damage, paralysis and even death. In addition to being afflicted with Chiari Malformation, Mason has also been diagnosed with HemiVertebrae; his T4, T5 & T6 vertebrae are only half instead of whole, causing a prominent “S” in his spine. He also has Spina Bifida of two other vertebrae, as well as a few other boney anomalies in his ribs. The Gaffney’s have learned Mason will need multiple surgeries throughout his life, luckily they aren’t needed today. For now, Mason is monitored closely for signs of progressing symptoms and receives MRI’s & CT Scans every six months. Surgery on his brain and spine is not currently necessary. To help Mason deal with the issues created by his multiple diagnoses, he has physical and occupational therapy to improve his gross and fine motor skills, as well as the weakness in his torso, legs and arms. Melanie, the determined mother, is a childhood cancer survivor. She attributes her experience with cancer at a young age to helping her understand and help Mason with what he is going through both mentally and physically. She knows all too well about how childhood illnesses can affect your growth into adulthood. The love Melanie has for her adoring son is more than her heart can hold. It hurts to see her son in pain during his procedures and to think of what the future may hold for him. It’s that energy that she pours into Mason’s Mission, to help raise awareness and donations to help fund research so that other mothers and fathers do not have to go through this, that helps her manage the heartache.

A small business owner, Melanie used her graphic design background to create a web site, www.masons-mission.com, to help bring more awareness to this disorder. Here, you can learn more about Chiari Malformation, find resources to help those afflicted, donate, volunteer, read about brave little Mason and sign the guest book. The web site also spotlights Chiari Heroes, a section that encourages those afflicted, family members or people in the medical field to write about their experiences. This year, the Gaffneys will host the first annual Family Fun Day. Being held on September 20, 2009, it’s the biggest fund-raising event of the year for Mason’s Mission. It will be held at Kid Junction in Mt. Laurel, from 3:00 p.m. to 7:00 p.m. The goal is to raise funds that will be donated to the American Syringomyelia & Chiari Alliance Project, Inc. At the event, attendants can participate in complimentary activities such as mini art sessions, music classes and more for the kids, as well as chair massages and treats for the adults. In addition, Kids Junction has an arcade, indoor playground and imagination play areas for the children to enjoy. Each paying child and adult will also get a family-style buffet including beverages and dessert (in a 100 percent peanut-free environment). Without publicizing this disorder and building awareness, funds won’t be raised for research. The Gaffneys have made it their mission to make Chiari Malformation a household name, to help teach the public about the symptoms and to make more resources available. Mason’s Mission is looking for vendors and sponsors for Family Fun Day. Those interested should contact Melanie Gaffney at masons.mission@gmail.com. For general information on Mason’s Mission, visit www.masons-mission.com.✲ September 2009 | 29

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Tale Spin Stories Read-to-Me Book Reviews By Kathryn Ross, a.k.a. “Miss Kathy”

man visited a children’s publisher and showed him a sample collection of exquisite charcoal pencil drawings, each bearing a captioned title of a short story and illustration quote. He hoped the publisher would think his work worthy of publication. The publisher was enthralled, enchanted and amazed at the wonder in each mysterious drawing. The pictures and single sentence captions were so powerfully presented that a story for each fairly materialized in one’s imagination the more one studied it. The visitor was asked to return the next day with all the stories in writing. He left the portfolio with the publisher, who thought this might be a very promising project. But the visitor with the fascinating illustrations did not return the next day, or the day after that. A great search for the man, named Harris Burdick, came up empty – as though he had never existed. Harris Burdick, and the stories that went with his pictures, have remained a mystery ever since. The publisher kept the pictures to share with his family. Everyone who saw them was inspired to write their own story, as sleuths and storytellers, to finish the thought the picture presented, such as: What, exactly, lived behind that strange little door in the basement? What was the secret about that book Mr. Linden had in his library – the one he warned her about – the one with the strange leafy vine growing out of its spine as she fell asleep with it still open on her bed? What made the pumpkin glow when she placed the knife as if to slice it? And, my personal favorite: What about the seven chairs? Award-winning children’s illustrator, Chris Van Allsburg, came into possession of the drawings and their captions from this publisher who was now retired. He read through the box of stories written by the former publisher’s children and their friends, as inspired by the drawings acquired so many years ago. How many more stories might be written if more people had an opportunity to see these remarkable drawings? That is the mystery Van

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!! T HEME : Of Sleuths and Storytellers! B OOK : The Mysteries of Harris Burdick A UTHOR /I LLUSTRATOR : Chris Van Allsburg EAN: 9780395353936

Allsburg hoped the reader could solve when, in 1984, he published all fourteen drawings and their captions in The Mysteries of Harris Burdick. Follow-up Activity: This book is an activity in its very existence. Each picture puts you smack dab in the center of a mystery. There are clues to possible storylines. The rest is up to your imagination. Make the stories a family affair, each one adding the next part of the story. This book may be out-of-print, but is available online in used editions; but check your library first! There is no limit to the places you can go in storytelling – and the flame of literacy skills you can fan with this treasure of a book! It’s worth the search. By the way, do you know where Harris Burdick is?✲ Kathryn Ross is a professional storyteller celebrating the love of learning and literacy with children of all ages. She hosts Tale Spin Stories every Tuesday for preschoolers at the Cumberland Mall in Vineland. To learn more about Miss Kathy programs from Pageant Wagon Productions, visit www.pwpstorytellers.com.

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September Calendar ATLANTIC COUNTY

Absecon Downtown Family Fair September 26 Food Court, games, music, scarecrow contest and more. Galloway, New Jersey Ave. from Station Ave. to School St. (609) 338-9490 2nd Annual Atlantic City Library Family Fun Festival September 26 from 10a to 4p Join us for a day filled with music, dance, games and more! FREE. Atlantic City Free Public Library, Atlantic City. www.atlanticcityfestival.org or (609) 345-2269

BURLINGTON COUNTY Arts in the Park Festival September 27 from 11a to 5p A variety of arts and crafts including pottery, paintings, photography & art cars. Music, dance & theatre performances, children’s mural project, puppet making and much more. Historic Smithville Park, Smithville Rd., Eastampton. www.burcoart.com or (609) 265-5068

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CAMDEN COUNTY KidzFest Sept. 19 from 10:30a to 3p A fun filled family day with games, face painting, giant slide, characters, sports, crafts, food & more. FREE entry and nominal fee 32 | September 2009

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for activities & games. Cooper River Park Stadium, N. Park Dr. & McClellan Blvd., Pennsauken. www.kidzfest.org or (800) 416-6358

collectibles. $1/pp 12 and up. Star of the Sea Parish Hall, Ocean & Lafayette St., Cape May. www.capemaymac.org (609) 884-5404

Snack Attack at ShopRite of Medford Sept. 14 at 4:30 p.m. (ages 7-12) Sept. 21 at 4:30 p.m. (ages 4-6) Our registered dietitian will read stories and prepare a healthy snack from the book. Scrunchy’s Playhouse, ShopRite of Medford, 208 Rt. 70 E., Medford. (609) 953-7700 x 7

CUMBERLAND COUNTY

Mason’s Mission Family Fun Day: September 20 from 3 to 7 p.m. Fundraising event with mini art sessions for kids & chair massages and treats for adults. Also arcade, indoor playground and imagination play areas. Each paying child and adult get family style buffet meal, includes drink & dessert. $15-25. Kid Junction, 16000 Commerce Pkwy, Mt. Laurel. www.masongaffney.com

CAPE MAY COUNTY Labor Day Craft Show September 5 & 6 from 9a to 5p A variety of quality hand-crafted items such as country, primitive, folk art and contemporary. $3/pp 12 and up. (717) 656-3208. Wildwood Convention Center, Boardwalk, Wildwood. Fall Family Festival Antique Auto Show Sept. 20 from 10:30a to 1:30p Antique auto show and parade, live music and free guided historical trolley tour rides. Boardwalk & John F. Kennedy Blvd., Sea Isle City. www.seaisletourism.com or (609) 263-8687 Cape May Crafts Show September 12 from 10a to 4p Exhibit of crafts people showcasing hand-made items, gourmet food and unique

Arts, Antiques & Music Festival September 13 from 10a to 6p Over 150 artists, antiques, collectibles and talents of musicians and other performers. The Festival showcases the work of the city’s own Glasstown Arts District, as well as that of other arts professionals from the region. High St., Millville. (856) 887-4957 Flea Market to Benefit Homeless Pregnant Women September 19 from 9a to 3p Jubilee Women, Inc. is hosting a Flea Market to benefit “Jubilee House,” a home in Vineland for homeless pregnant women. St. Francis of Assisi Church grounds, 23 West Chestnut Ave, Vineland. Tables are $15 each, you need to supply your own table. Venders are welcome also. snacks, beverages & hot dogs available for purchase. Contact Alice Corica @ (856) 428-1707 for rental space. Ribs and Chili Cook-Off September 26 at 3 p.m. A full day of ribs, chili and great music. If you leave hungry it’s your own fault! 500 & 600 Blocks of Landis Ave., Vineland. www.mainstreetvineland.org (856) 794-8653

all kinds line the streets with food, face painting, music & more. Vehicle registration/$10. Free Admission. College Avenue, Academy Street and High Street. (856) 881-0500 Zach’s Tracks for the Heart Walk September 26 at 9a It’s My Heart Southern New Jersey Chapter will be holding their first Congenital Heart Disease Awareness Walk at Washington Lake Park in Sewell. They are still in need of sponsors, volunteers and participants. Go to www.itsmyheart.org and look for the Southern NJ Chapter for registration information. It’s My Heart’s mission is to provide support, spread awareness, educate and advocate for those affected by Acquired and Congenital Heart Defects.

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Delaware Valley Bluegrass Festival September 4-6 All day event filled with great music! Salem County Fairground Rt. 40, Woodstown. For ticket info visit www.delawarevalleybluegrass.org.

Goldilocks and the Three Bears Sept. 25 at 10a Sept. 26 at 10a and 1p Classic story book comes to life in this live show. Pitman Broadway Theatre, 43 S. Broadway, Pitman. www.thebroadwaytheatre.org, or (856) 384-8381

Crab and Craft Festival September 19 from 11a to 5p Fun for all ages, crafts, food vendors, coloring contest, crab races and dance exhibition. Municipal Complex, Locust Island Road, Hancocks Bridge. (856) 935-7629

Main Street Glassboro 5th Annual Cruise Nite Car Show September 4 Cars, trucks and motorcycles of

To submit your event, send an email to calendar@southjerseymom.com. Entries are due eight weeks prior to the event and are filled on a first come first serve basis. Space is limited. www.southjerseymom.com

grand opening Specials! Ballet, Tap, Jazz & Hip Hop • Drama Classes Art Workshops • Mommy & Me for 2-3 yrs Boys Only Hip Hop • Adult Classes REGISTER NOW...856.427.0100 Located inside ts or International Sp son es Kr 0 60 , er nt Ce Road, Cherry Hill

Register your child for any dance or drama class and receive UNLIMITED ADULT CLASSES FREE! Must register by 10/31/09; classes must be taken between 9/14/09-6/12/10. *Offer valid for NEW STUDENTS ONLY when space is available *One offer per family. A $480.00 value.

SIBLINGS FREE! Pay for your first child’s class, get your second child’s FREE! For dance & drama classes ONLY; Must register by 10/31/09; classes must be taken between 9/14/09-6/12/10. *Offer valid for NEW STUDENTS ONLY when space is available *One offer per family. A $480.00 value.

Register for any Dance or Drama Class and get one FREE! Must be applied to SAME STUDENT ACCOUNT; Must register by 10/31/09; classes must be taken between 9/14/09-6/12/10. *Offer valid for NEW STUDENTS ONLY when space is available. *One offer per family. A $480.00 value

www.artistsinmotiondancestudio.com

Great Kids, Going Places. Matt Purcell ’09 Hometown: Cherry Hill Activities/Honors: Student Government President; Student Theater - Technical Director; Theater Award; MFS Admissions Ambassador Senior Project: FAA - Air Traffic Control at Philadelphia International Airport College Destination: Rochester Institute of Technology Career Interests: Industrial Engineering; Business

“MFS gives each individual student the ability to thrive and explore their own unique talents and interests in a diverse, safe and dedicated community.”

Moorestown Friends School Moorestown Friends is dedicated to academic excellence, ethical development, diversity and service to the community. Highest SAT scores in South Jersey.

Meet great kids like Matt at an upcoming Open House: Sunday, October 18, 2 p.m. Saturday, November 14, 10 a.m.

For more information, call (856) 235-2900, e-mail admiss@mfriends.org or visit mfriends.org. 3 year olds through 12th grade

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AUDITIONS WE ARE LOOKING FOR YOUNG SINGERS! ChildrenSong of NJ, a non-profit community children’s chorus, is holding auditions in Sept. on Mondays, 5:30-8pm for singers age 8-16. Excellent group vocal and music reading instruction. For info visit www.childrensong.org or call (856) 216-1140. JF Tatem School, 1 Glover Ave, Haddonfield.

CLASSES Money tight? Go back to basics & learn to sew! Although most schools don’t offer it anymore, sewing has always been a valuable skill, especially now! Small day and evening classes available for ages 5 through adult; machines available. Contact Lori’s Stitching Studio for details at (856) 358-8553 or Lorizstudio@aol.com. (Trained sewing educator) TUMBLIN’ TOTS – REGISTER FOR FALL NOW! Classes include movement, music, sports activities, games, listening and cooperation. For children 2 - 5 years. Visit www.TumblinTots.net for class locations. Questions, contact Jenn @ (856) 912-3079. Reasonable rates to fit in your budget! JUMPBUNCH SPORTS & FITNESS FOR KIDS Introduces sports and fitness to children in a noncompetitive environment. 18 mos-12 years. Classes improve gross motor skills, hand/eye coordination, balance, and self-esteem & teamwork. For details contact Jamie (856) 433-8220, jstiely@jumpbunch.com. Ask about our birthday parties! www.jumpbunch.com EXERCISE AND FUN FOR YOU & THE KIDS! We offer Mommy and Me Music classes, belly dancing, yoga, hula dancing, Natural Childbirth Classes & Chiropractic care. The Cafe of Life, 1 N. Valley Ave., Vld. (856) 794-9888,www.the-

goodlifefamily.com. WE HAVE SPACE FOR RENT! 750 sq ft in our center, 2 sm. rms, great for health care practitioner.

CLEANING SERVICES SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY AND LESS TIME CLEANING Offering dependable, professional cleaning service to homes, businesses, summer rentals, move-in/out cleaning and more. Flexible cleaning schedule to match your budget. 100% Satisfaction guaranteed or we will re-do the job! Gift certificates available. Call (856) 213-5070 or visit www.csicleaningservice.com

HEATING AND AIR CONDITIONING LOOKING FOR A RELIABLE, HONEST, AFFORDABLE HEATING CONTRACTOR? Then you’ve found them! For new construction, including custom homes, upgrades, change outs or renovations call RJ Mechanical for all your HVAC needs. (856) 690-9692.

Stay-At-Home Moms who make home-based, full-time childcare their career! We’ll help with the equipment, screening, advertising and support!! (856) 802-0500 or MomsNSoNJ@aol.com

PARTIES – ADULT Tastefully Simple Host a Taste Testing home party! We provide samples of our delicious gourmet food and a drink bucket! YOU get lots of FREE products from sales at your party! Also Fundraisers for schools, sports team, etc. Contact: Wendy Hutchinson (856) 307-7399 NOOKIE PARTIES Host a Nookie Party & earn loads of FREE romance products! Cash-n-carry available! Free 2- night vacation for party hostesses! Earn 50% as a Consultant w/no quotas or requirements. Couples parties also available. Book your party today! (856) 397-2234 or www.NookieParties.com. Use coupon code SJMOM at checkout for 10% off online orders.

HOME DECOR

PEDIATRIC OCCUPATIONAL THERAPY

The holidays will be here before you know it! Lori’s Stitching Studio can help you prepare your home now for a stress-free holiday. Enjoy in-home consultation and fabric selection for custom window treatments, slipcovers, bedding and light upholstery projects. Call now for an appointment (856) 358-8553 or Lorizstudio@aol.com.

NEED HELP GUIDING YOUR CHILD’S DEVELOPMENTAL JOURNEY? At The Schlinic, happy childhoods are our specialty. Kids come for awesome motor equipment, fun sensory experiences and developmental play. Parents come for answers, professionals who listen, assessments and research-supported intervention. Learn more at www.schlinic.com or call Dr. Jodi and Karen at (856) 692-9292.

JOB OPPORTUNITIES RAISE YOUR INCOME WHILE RAISING YOUR FAMILY You can make extra money without putting the kids in daycare. You set your own hours. No billing, no collections, no carrying inventory, no large investment. Great local support. Call us today at (856) 305-7680. MONDAY MORNING MOMS® Family Childcare Management consulting with

WILLS/ ESTATE PLANNING WHO WILL TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILDREN? Appointing Guardians for your minor children is one of the most important aspects of Estate Planning. Complimentary initial consultation. Mention this ad and receive 15% discount for Sept. Contact James F Fahy, Esq., LLC to learn more. Call (856) 287-3107 or email JFahylaw@verizon.net.

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Art & Music Classes for Adults & Children

Lots of Fall Classes Cartooning/Animation Pottery Yoga Drawing/Painting Sewing Jewelry Making Piano, Guitar, Flute, Sax Adult One-Day Workshops 100 W. Maple Avenue, Merchantville, NJ Five minutes from the Cherry Hill mall We also host birthday parties-your place or ours!

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STILL trying to figure out what works? Katherine KATHERINE Pérez-Rivera, Ph.D. PÉREZ-RIVERA ,

The TIME to call is NOW NOW!

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NJ Licensed Psychologist #4352

(856) 383-0585 (856) 383-0585 PITMAN • MARLTON

Specializing in helping children, adolescents, and their families achieve optimal mental and emotional health PROBLEMS TREATED INCLUDE: • ADD/ADHD • Depression & Anxiety • Oppositional & Defiant • Autism & Asperger’s • Learning & Academic Deficits www.southjerseymom.com

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All services provided in All services provided in ENGLISH or SPANISH SERVICES PROVIDED: ENGLISH or SPANISH • • • • Individual & Family Counseling • • • EVENING & EVENING & • Couples & Marital Therapy WEEKEND hours WEEKEND hours • Behavior Modification & Play Therapy • • • • • • • Psychological Evaluations SAME-DAYappointments appointments SAME-DAY • Court-Ordered & Forensic Work

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SATURDAY, Í SEPTEMBER 19, 2009 10:00 AM - 3:30 PM

COOPER RIVER PARK STADIUM (Next to the Boat House)

2009

Cooper River Park Pennsauken, NJ

FAMILY FUN!

Carnival Gamz, Face Painting, Pony Ridez, Sportz and this year a new Kidz-A-Thon!

Kidzfest Raising money for:

Boys N Girls Club of Camden and research for Children’s Heart Disease Be A Part Of It!

www.kidzfest.org

877-744-3083 Day Of The Event Bring… Í New Toiletries: soap, shampoo, shaving cream, deodorant, etc., for the Covenant House Í Used ink or toner cartridges and gently used or new children’s books ranging in age from newborn to teenage for CASA of Camden County

Volunteers Welcome Entertainers, Sponsors Call Today!