Tidings Spring 2021 by Asbury Church

HELPING Others

JESUS

TIDINGS SPRING 2021

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Guest Writers: Nichole Waltman, Lisa Witcher, Tracy Leak, Rick Booth, Greg Johnson, Tom Golliver, Tracy LeGrand, Rob Loeber, Andrea Stephens, Tom Harrison

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Our students love our beautiful new Asbury Students Center. A great facility is essential, but an effective ministry is vital, too. Our student ministry staff is aligning with our mission statement of Helping Others Follow Jesus. Bringing Asbury Students back to our main campus has freed Venue68 to become a “Development Center.” That facility is being designed now. Restore Hope Ministries, Building All Children, Good Samaritan, Circle of Care and our Council Oak District office all will have space in the Development Center. However, another ministry will be there, too— Asbury Theological Seminary (ATS). Serving on the Beeson Clergy Council for ATS was the most important ministry experience in my life. I met some of the leading pastors in our denomination there. I learned of the radio ministry, “Perceptions,” at a clergy council meeting. I met Dr. Maxie Dunnam, a legendary United Methodist pastor, who started “Perceptions” while at Christ UMC in Memphis. Maxie later became the ATS President. Maxie often said: “As the seminary goes, so goes the pastor. As the pastor goes, so goes the church. As the church goes, so goes the world.” Seminary leaves an indelible mark on a pastor. Maxie’s words shaped our core missional philosophy at Asbury. We try to help seminaries produce Christian leaders. I don’t speak Estonian, Russian, Swahili or Spanish or understand their cultures, but we are in mission to these places. While we love to send people to develop long-term relationships, our core missional strategy has been to support seminaries to train and deploy pastors.

We are pleased that Asbury is a leading church supporting ATS. We became an extension site campus for them. Students from Texas, Louisiana, Arkansas, Missouri, Kansas, Colorado, California, and even Canada have taken classes here. ATS will occupy the upstairs part in the newly designed Development Center. Over the years, we’ve been sending some of our staff to ATS. John Vick, Shelby Hood, Andrew Lyman, and Jim Davis are all Asbury staff members in school at ATS. (Blake Broadhurst will start in the fall, too). As the first three (and Blake) are all in their 20s, this means our ministry investment in them could span the next 40 years or so. I want to help repay the debt I owe to those who invested in me when I was in my 20s. My heart is given to an orthodox Wesleyan seminary for the sake of future Christian ministry. We are helping train leaders for the next generation. Stephen Covey calls this “Quadrant II” in his book "7 Habits of Highly Effective People." This is “Not Urgent, But Important.” Quadrant II is where we want to spend the bulk of our energy as it produces the greatest results. I pray that some students now in our new Asbury Students Center will hear God’s call into ministry and become students at ATS in a few years. We have a great opportunity to produce new laborers for the harvest.

BAPTISM Elaine Sidwell

BAPTISM is a sacrament JESUS told ALL

people to do.

February 2021 Baptisms 4

Eowyn Berens

Olivia Bedrosian 5

BAPTISM Isaiah Berens

Mia Wails

ATTENDANCE | MEMBERSHIP

2020 YEAR-END STATS WORSHIP 8 AM TRADITIONAL

1,083

9:30 AM TRADITIONAL

432 768

11 AM MODERN

347 197

9:30 AM ONLINE 11 AM ONLINE

TOTAL WORSHIP ATTENDANCE (average)

1,089 81 468

2020 2,420

2019 2,414

DISCIPLESHIP

2020 1,313

2019

2019 298

2020 150

2019 84

2020 613

1,273

TOTAL

DISCIPLESHIP COMMUNITIES

2020

208 130

2019 793

TEXT TO CHECK IN (Weekly Average)

2020 2019

1,265 1,375

MEMBERSHIP

SPRING BREAK MISSIONS

2021 43 2019 401

PROFESSION OF FAITH 2019 2020

CONFIRMANDS

2019 55

2020 100

BAPTISMS2019 2020 72 46 FIRST TIME 2019 GUESTS 685

NEWCOMER MEAL

2020 403

2019 2020

Newcomer Meal participants

248

154

Attended Newcomer Meal and joined

130

Attended Newcomer Meal and connected in a community

100

ASBURY STUDENTS 10

WHO I AM By Nicole Waltman

Asbury opened its brand new Asbury Students Center on February 28, part of the “Better Together” campaign. The new building is sporting some special touches from former Asbury Students graduate, Alex Etchison, who made furniture that is being used in the building.

Alex is a 2020 high school graduate and an Eagle Scout. He built a 10-foot long conference room table and three coffee tables for the new student center as part of his Eagle Scout project. He has been a Boy Scout for 11 years and actually started in Asbury’s troop when he was in first grade.

“Once I got started, I realized that I loved the outdoors, the working with my hands, and the learning aspect of it. It all led me to stick with it all the way through,” Alex said. Alex has been a member of Asbury since he was a baby and recalls beginning a relationship with Christ in middle school at disciple camp. Before attending Asbury Students, he didn’t fully understand the importance of a relationship with Christ. But after attending Asbury Students throughout his time in school, Alex said he learned much more about Christianity and the love of

“I met some of my closest friends and my greatest mentors through Asbury,” he God.

said. “Without them, I definitely wouldn’t be who I am today. They’ve changed me in such a positive manner and they’ve helped me define who I am as a person and who I am as a Christian.”

nonprofit and it’s supposed to be something that could benefit or assist them in whatever way your project can,” Alex said. “I knew that Asbury was starting the new building and I was hopeful there was something I could do for it.” Alex didn’t act completely alone in this project, as he gained assistance and knowledge from his former private trumpet lessons teacher, Dr. Stephen Goforth. “He was a jack of all trades, really. He could do pretty much anything he set his mind to,” Alex said. “I asked him to give me some knowledge and some help with the building of the tables and he was very willing and grateful to do so.” Goforth recently passed away and Alex said he wants to get a plaque to dedicate the tables to him. “I really could not have done the project without him,” Alex said. “He was a great mentor and a great man. It was very unfortunate and sad when he passed. I want to give him the credit I feel he deserves. He was probably the most God-driven man that I’ve ever met.”

After completing his Eagle Scout project with Goforth, Alex believes the new building will be beneficial to the church. “Now having the student ministry building as a part of Asbury not only makes things easier, but I think it will help the different age ranges at Asbury grow closer together. I think it’s very important for incoming students to really give it a chance because I think it can really change someone in a great way.”

So, when he saw the opportunity to give back to Asbury with his Eagle Scout project, he took it. “The Eagle Project is supposed to be for a 11

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ASBURY STUDENTS BUILDING DISCIPLES By Nicole Waltman

Ivan Cox

Jacob Simpson

Sometimes all it takes is a friend inviting you to church for your life to be changed for the better. That was the case for two Broken Arrow High School seniors and long-time best friends Jacob Simpson and Ivan Cox. Jacob has attended Asbury since he was born and his faith has been greatly impacted by mission trips and small groups within the church. Earlier this school year, he was encouraged to invite a friend to church during senior Bible study at Asbury Students. Knowing that Ivan had recently accepted Christ in his life, Jacob decided to invite him to Bible study and Wednesday night worship.

“He came and met a lot of new people,” Jacob said. “He ended up going to the winter retreat with me back in December and met a lot of new friends there, too. He’s slowly grown into part of the Asbury community.” Ivan said he’s been much bolder about his faith since he began attending Asbury Students. “Being around other students your own age really helps you share the gospel. I was strong in my faith before Asbury, but kept it to myself. Going to all the youth programs at Asbury has made me more bold which makes sharing the gospel a little easier.” Ivan said Asbury Students creates a fun environment while students are learning about God. He said the students staff keep the energy high and make sure everyone is included.

“They make everybody feel like they matter and feel like they’re loved.” After certain life events in recent years, Ivan said God spoke to him and made it clear that it was time to fix his life. “I needed to change,” he said. “God was just saying, ‘Hey, I’m here,’ and He guided me through having discipline and a different system in my life.”

Ivan said surrounding yourself with fellow Christians is very important and inspiring. In fact, Christian role models have made a heavy impact on His life. “I always wanted to be a strong Christian, I just never was. Who you surround yourself with is how your actions will be.” Jacob said he can see the impact Asbury has had on his best friend. He said Ivan has become more knowledgeable about The Bible and a better person in general. “The importance of inviting your friends to church is that it can give them a different perspective on life. They

can know they’re loved by God and that living for God is better than living for the world,” Jacob said.

He said the Asbury Students community is what keeps students, including himself, in attendance week after week. “They’re welcoming and they promote love,” Jacob said. “They tell us after every sermon that we’re loved and that God loves us. You’re loved by God always, you’re loved by people at the church, and you’re loved by the students staff.” After having his life changed by being invited to church, Ivan also believes it’s important to do so, and has even invited people to Asbury. “Some people may be like I was. They have faith but aren’t very strong in it and they might just need to be in the environment with other students to strengthen it. It can be a slow process for some believers, but if all your friends are going to church, it can be a lot easier.”

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HIS JOY BY LISA WITCHER

“So if there is any encouragement in Christ, any comfort from love, any participation in the Spirit, any affection and sympathy, complete my joy by being of the same mind, having the same love, being in full accord and of one mind. Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, …” Philippians 2:1-5 Sometimes a well-known author or talented musician shares his or her God-given gifts with the hearts of Asbury, and we marvel at the opportunity to be in their presence, grateful for the chance to see God at work in our midst. But ordinarily, we witness everyday hearts

complete His joy by humbly counting others more significant than themselves and we see the church not as a building, but dwelling in the hearts and hands of those willing to serve.

Asbury member Kim Benson and her small, efficient crew with Passport Health* answered the call of Philippians 2 by creating Covid vaccination clinics at Asbury. Kim began nursing in 1995. Stepping away in 2004, she rejoined the work force at Passport

Health* in 2017 and retired in 2020. When COVID 19 swept across the globe and science rallied to create a vaccine, her former employer, Passport Health, called on her to assist with the facilitation of vaccination clinics. While watching an Asbury service online, she turned to her husband and wondered aloud, “How can we help Asbury encourage people to return to worship in person?”

Organizing a crazy number of people is difficult, at best, but add the important details of social distancing, paperwork, temperature stations and one crazy Oklahoma winter, and the project was like organizing Walt Disney World, Kim said. “We vaccinated so many more people than we thought we would and were hopeful to do more. We used all of the supply [of vaccines] with which we were entrusted; God just kept making a way.

“The real story,” Kim adds, “belongs to all the Asbury volunteers. We had people who were clearing the parking lot of snow, shoveling sidewalks, assisting folks inside, taking temperatures…” She went on to describe the volunteers printing patient forms, checking IDs, answering questions, copying insurance cards and providing hospitality.

She emailed Asbury’s Senior Pastor Tom Harrison and asked him if Asbury would have any interest in hosting a Covid vaccination clinic. His answer was a resounding, “Yes!” Kim set to work with Asbury’s Outreach Director Jim Davis and Lanette Celoni of 2nd Saturday in planning for the vaccination clinic and squaring away the logistics of social distancing and safety. She educated them on the needs and protocols of a vaccination clinic, and the army of volunteers was put in motion.

Their planning began on Monday and by Saturday, Asbury and Passport Health opened the church’s doors as a vaccination clinic.

After the first clinic was set aside for those in the appropriate age group, Passport and Asbury teamed up again to serve more than 1,400 teachers. By the time both groups had received their second shots, Asbury and Passport Health administered more than 6,500 vaccinations.

“Passport Health knows how to run a clinic, and the way Asbury can run anything – I knew it was a match made in heaven. “We served our purpose, I think,” Kim offered humbly. *Passport Health is a franchise that offers vaccination to travelers worldwide, travel consultants, and citizens applying for citizenship.

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SHINING THE LIGHT OF CHRIST Fewer than 10% were Asbury members – the other 90% were non-Asbury members.

People were from Tulsa and surrounding areas such as Owasso, Broken Arrow, Jenks, Claremore, Glenpool and others. One couple drove from Edmond; a man from England who was visiting family in Tulsa and another from Michigan who had ties to Asbury were also vaccinated. Asbury has been abuzz with energy and excitement from the COVID-19 vaccination clinics that were held during February and March. Asbury provided a welcoming and comforting experience while trying to meet both the physical and spiritual needs of people in the Tulsa community. Many had little access to the vaccine. People were frustrated with the state’s portal and didn’t know where to turn. Asbury wanted to make the vaccinations easily available and help the 65-andolder group gain access to the vaccine because some were having difficulty navigating the portal. A pastor was available for each clinic to pray during the 15 minute wait period. Before each clinic started, a pastor prayed with the medical staff, volunteers, for the Asbury building and property and the people coming to be vaccinated. Throughout the clinic, volunteers heard over and over how efficient, friendly and organized things ran. People commented, “Asbury was the Chickfil-A of vaccination clinics.” What a true blessing! Thank you to all of the volunteers. We appreciate your hard work and time.

1,400 Teachers vaccinated – Each teacher received a QuikTrip gift card and a small gift. More than 5,100 others were vaccinated, bringing the total served to

6,500.

Each person received a “You Are Loved Card, a “Holy Week services card” and a “Perceptions” book. Volunteers worked from 8:30 am – 3:30 pm, always willing to do more and take on more shifts.

On two Saturdays, Asbury provided food boxes to teachers.

Several people came to be vaccinated or assist their parents and were so impressed, they signed up to volunteer.

Give THANKS in all circumstances.

We received several thousand phone calls about the vaccination clinic. When the public started calling, we asked them to go to Asbury’s website to sign up or we signed them up ourselves when the person told us they did not have a computer. Also, we would sign up those who just needed to talk and felt better knowing they were being taken care of personally. Thank you to all those who helped with phone calls but one individual went above and beyond. "The callers were so thankful that there was a voice on the other end of the line instead of a recorded voice. One caller was trying to find a second shot for her 90-year-old father. She was not in the best of health herself and had to drive him to Ponca City for the first shot. She said she just couldn’t make that trip again. After I made the appointment for her father, she started crying. She thanked me for listening to her. She plans to start coming to Asbury soon."

Thank you, Elena!

Front Desk Coordinator

You went above and beyond with your servant heart.

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JOY of

The

WORDS FROM THOSE WHO SERVED

Serving

When we were asked if we would like to participate in a food distribution with Farmers to Families, my husband John and I jumped at the chance. What we thought was going to be a few weekends turned into our whole summer being filled with the joy of serving. I had been depressed for months because I was unable to be in church, our Ignite Community or serve in 2nd Saturday. I realized God had called me to be in the lane where my mission was to help people understand they were needed, that the farmers needed them to take the food so they could get their grants. But hearing the overwhelming stories of how many families were sharing one box, or how people would sit in line for hours to take a box to others filled my soul. I soon realized it was I who was being healed, coming out of the dark hole of depression.

TRACY LEAK The Farmers to Families program was a major highlight of 2020. Who could have guessed the blessing that would come from performing the simple task of handing out boxes of food to those known or unknown. As a car interviewer, I started with: “So glad to see you! How many boxes do you need, don’t forget about our Prayer Station.” God filled me with compassion as I listened to thankful as well as hurting people. The beauty of the process was being able to direct a person needing hope to the "waiting arms" of our Prayer Team. I quickly found myself in the logistics department helping unload the truck and assessing how much food we had to give away and how to distribute the count per car. One week we had leftover boxes and were scrambling to move the perishables; the next week, we saw no end to the line of cars. Each week we were calmed by the realization, “GOD has this!”

RICK BOOTHE

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Working in the food distribution area required great flexibility as we never quite knew when the truck would arrive and what was going to be on the truck. The early weeks were slow and disjointed but by the last month we were moving vehicles through the lines at a pace that would make Chick-fil-A management proud. Three things stood out over those 16 weeks. The first was the number of people willing to wait in long lines week after week; it was abundantly clear the need was real and ongoing. Second, I was blown away by volunteers willing to give up their Saturday mornings, many for all or nearly all the 16 weeks. Hot or cold, the volunteers showed up. Third, being a part of something bigger than just meeting a physical need was very rewarding. There was something very gratifying about seeing the body of Christ come alive in such a meaningful way.

GREG JOHNSON It is written Jesus came to serve, and not to be served. The Farmers to Families Program allowed Asbury an excellent opportunity for community outreach. Hundreds of cars lined up Saturdays to receive not only material food but spiritual food, as well. I greeted people, waved, smiled, laughed, conversed and prayed with many. It was an experience that helped me grow spiritually. Though I spent hours standing in the northbound lanes of Mingo, I never experienced a close call; I felt God's loving protection over me. My life was touched in so many ways from the outpouring of love and kindness demonstrated by those who came, and the experience strengthened my soul. I am convinced God is calling each of us to serve in different ways right here in our community. I learned from my experience many people need some kind of loving interaction. If you don't serve, that need will not be met!

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FIRST,

SEEK THE KINGDOM

By Tracy LeGrand

When Felecia Antonio’s husband died in 2014 she did what she always does – she turned to Christ. “I accepted Jesus when I was about 12 years old,” said Felicia. “My background is my grandparents were from Mexico and my parents from Texas and I grew up speaking both Spanish and English. My mom was a minister and her strong faith taught me to accept Jesus and so ever since then I have. I am also a minister through Read the Red Prayer ministries led by my older sister. So my journey began as a child, and has stayed pretty strong.” The death of her husband led Felicia to finding strength at Asbury United Methodist, especially with the Widows Support Group and the Balcony Women. “I started going to the luncheons and dinners set up for widows,” said Felicia, “At first I was hesitant, I didn’t know anyone. And with

Balcony Women – these are women who cheer you on as your friend, your mentors to pray for you and guide you in your moments of grief. This support was everything.” One evening Felicia didn’t feel like going out and said she asked God why she had to be at her support group.

a brownie that week. Anyway, I decided to go and lo and behold – our dessert that night was brownies and the gift was a Rustic Cuff bracelet! I wanted to cry and said, ‘God you gave me what I wanted and here I am.’ Later on I asked a woman to pray for me. Ever

since that time, every time I go to the dinners or support groups, it brings me joy and happiness so that I can love and support them back.” Felicia has a deep affinity for the verse from Matthew 6:33: “Seek first the kingdom of God in his righteousness.” “I call Him, Father God in Spanish: ‘PapiDios’ and it’s my favorite word for Him,” she said. “I’m very close to God and have a strong relationship with Him. People here have blessed me and I am overwhelmed with blessings.” Felicia continues her journey in faith by traveling to different countries to minister and teach people of all ages and says, “It is especially widows that are in my heart to love and encourage. The perfect thing that came out of my marriage – despite

its ups and downs – is that I know (my husband) made it to heaven. I don’t want to go back in time and change things – I can see now that this faith is the cherry on top of the sundae.”

“I talk to God all the time and I’d been craving

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EVEN IF By Nicole Waltman

“Even if.” These are two simple words that hold a powerful, life-changing meaning for Jennifer Weiss. After losing her husband

to suicide on December 10, 2014, with The Lord’s help, Jennifer unlearned all of her “what ifs” and replaced them with “even ifs.” One of the main ways she did

so was by joining Asbury’s Young Widows Support Group. Her support group journey started when Jennifer found “GriefShare.” She attended 22

GriefShare until 2018 when Shae Hedrick reached out to her to attend a newer widows support group, which was intended for younger widows. “When Shae first called me about this, I really didn’t want to do it,” Jennifer said. “I was a little further out than some people because my husband had passed away almost four years ago at that point and I had done widow groups, I had done spouse loss groups and every other kind of group I thought was out there. I just thought ‘Oh gosh, not another group!’

Honestly, my plan was to go to the first meeting and then I was going to explain to Shae that I really didn’t need this in my life anymore. And the rest is history. I’ve been going ever since!

“Usually I would find myself sitting at a table or in a room with people who were 30 to 40 years older than me,” Jennifer said. Although we shared some of the same grief, I couldn’t relate to the practical aspects of widowhood. When you get older there is an expectation of illness and death. When you’re younger, I think it’s more traumatic, it’s more unexpected, things are kind of cut short—you haven’t raised your kids yet, there are no grandkids, you’re still in the middle or beginning of your careers. I think I just unwittingly got frustrated over the years by really not having anyone to talk to about those practical things, so this is where that fits in.”

Jennifer said her faith has gotten her through the aftermath of such a traumatic loss. “My faith has not just helped me, it’s been everything in my loss. Satan worked real hard to destroy not only my husband, but myself and my family. I would say ‘Hold me, Jesus.’ Sometimes it was just breath by breath, minute by minute.” Jennifer also lost her mother in 2014 and her father died when she was a teenager. “I felt like an orphan as well as a widow, and both of my children were getting ready to go off to college” she said. “There were just so many

things that Jesus had to be for me. He had to be my friend, who my husband was, He had to be my comforter, He had to be my father and my mother.”

those hands up. I’ve got you no matter what." I would think, "but what if this, what if something else happens, what if I go broke, what if?" and Jesus taught me ‘even if.’ I don’t know how people do without that because I felt like I had lost everything but Jesus, and He was enough.” After leaning on her faith and being in Asbury’s support group for several years, Jennifer wants to give others hope. “Now I feel like my role is twofold. I get something out of it but I also hear what others are saying and I remember how I felt, and I hope that I can give them confidence that what they’re feeling is totally normal. There is hope on the other side. I get joy from the group in hoping that something I say will resonate with someone there.” Jennifer’s children have now completed college and moved to different states. Jennifer said she’s blessed to work a full-time job and relies on spending time with friends in this stage of life. She still attends Young Widows Support Group and encourages anyone considering attending to try it out. “Who knows? God may weave a person or a thing into your life in ways you’re never going to know until you try. A lot of guilt

seems to be associated with widowhood. Sometimes you don’t think you deserve to be happy or you feel guilty if you laugh or you feel guilty if you forgot about your husband for 15 minutes. Let someone bless you! They’ve been so good about that at Asbury. Throw away the guilt, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to laugh, your husband would want that for you. Jesus wants to serve you in this way through these people.”

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FROM CHRYSALIS TO BUTTERFLY By Tracy LeGrand

Tami Howlett’s walk with Christ has not been without challenges including the loss of a 15year marriage and the fallout of her former spouse’s addiction and subsequent death. Thankfully, her family, faith and the support of her church home have brought her through the fray. “We lived in Jacksonville, Fla., during my husband’s oral surgery residency,” she said.

“I didn’t know he was addicted to pain pills. We moved back to Tulsa, and my husband had practiced only a few years before his staff and partners noted the pain pill addiction.” After interventions and stints in rehabilitation facilities with no improvement, Tami was advised to consider her own and her daughters’ needs as they were 3- and 7-years-old when he started rehab. “After the fifth attempt in rehab, I said the hardest thing ever – that he couldn’t come home,” she said. “His parents cut us off, blaming me for his addiction. I kept hoping and praying he’d get better, get sober. At the time I was really mad at God. I felt like my prayers weren’t being answered. He got a $ 10-an-hour job and lost that. The dental board made him turn over his prescription license and he turned to alcohol.” Losing material possessions, house and cars, Tami and her girls started from scratch and were helped by Todd and Kellye Johnson, who provided one of their rent houses for Tami and the girls to move into, and other friends at Asbury United Methodist. “Like a caterpillar turns into in a chrysalis and eventually a butterfly, I started over again,” she said. “While at the Johnson’s rent house, a policeman and chaplain came to my door to let me know my husband was found deceased in his apartment on July 17, 2007, by a friend

from his AA group. After that, I really struggled with my faith. I was at Asbury shortly after his funeral sitting in the back and crying.” Tami and her daughters became active in Asbury groups, classes, Bible studies, missions and activities. For her personal journey in faith, the grieving class and women’s widow groups were of immense help, she says, and she continues to be active and to pay it forward to others in personal crisis.

“Now my girls are grown and we’re all doing well. To anyone going through addiction or loss, I’d say you have to get support and you have to let yourself grieve or it won’t stop. You have to go through the process, as bad as it hurts. There is hope and you will have joy again. It took me a while to grow back into my faith and understand that it wasn’t God’s fault. Now my faith is stronger than ever in the last 10 years." “I love the verse, ‘I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me,’” she said. “And my word is ‘hope.’ I have a bracelet with the word 'hope' from some girlfriends from when my husband passed away. This word helped me find a new normal with little kids and is still my word today."

But I rejoiced in the Lord greatly that now at last your care for me has flourished again; though you surely did care, but you lacked opportunity. 11 Not that I speak in regard to need, for I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: 12 I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. 13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. - Philippians 4:10-13 25

WOMEN

BOOK REVIEW These are just a few of the many gems in Lysa Terkeurst new book "Forgiving What You Can’t Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That’s Beautiful Again." The Women’s Evening Online Book Study recently completed this in-depth look at forgiveness which proved to be a skillful blend of scripture, Lysa’s insights gained from Christian counseling, and her personal struggle to forgive her husband for a painful affair that affected her life in many ways.

Forgiveness is a complicated grace that uncomplicates your blinding pain and helps you see beautiful again. Ultimately, healing is our choice and the first step is forgiving—this is what God is asking us to do. It is so much better than living hurt the rest of your life. The best time to forgive is before we get offended, meaning to live from a perspective or position of forgiveness. First, we forgive the facts of what has hurt us, then begin the process of forgiving the person(s) involved for the impact their hurt created. When a painful memory is triggered, we benefit from remembering the blood of Jesus that covers our sins, covers theirs, too. Stop trying to get from others what they can’t or won’t give you, and hand that debt, that hurt, that loss, that need, over to Jesus to take care of it in ways only He can. Forgiveness is the undeniable evidence of Jesus in you. 26

In addition to the book itself, the workbook with its many Forgiveness Exercises, the thorough list of scriptures that refer to forgiveness, and the video teachings were each a helpful tool to give a fuller picture of the who, what, where, when and why’s of forgiveness. “To help us learn to be compassionate toward others, Lysa spent three chapters helping us go back through our lives looking at our hurts beginning in childhood—she called this collecting the dots. Then we looked for lies we were believing and patterns that ended up forming our perspective on forgiveness—connecting the dots. Then we replaced lies we believed and unhealthy patterns with the truth in scripture, thus correcting the dots. Doing this really did open my eyes to hurts I’ve been carrying around that honestly had turned into bitterness and a high need for fairness. These are two things that block forgiveness. So, I had some repentance and healing of my own to seek from the Lord.” -Participant in the Women's Book Study

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SPRING GATHERING railing of the sanctuary. Nichole donated her two books, "Love Story" and "Slow Down," along with several CDs; Asbury member, Teresa Goodnight, donated five facials from her new Hand & Stone Message and Facial Spa in Tulsa Hills. We also had restaurant and movie gift cards, treats from Nothing Bundt Cakes, and a matching mask and gloves set—just to name a few of the items. Yet the grand prize was worth waiting until the end of the evening: A free, gourmet cinnamon roll of your choice every month for a year from Cinnaholic and a mani/pedi from Lavish Salon (both at Tulsa Hills). Women’s Spring Gathering on Friday, March 12, was a special night for Asbury women, along with hundreds from the Tulsa community. The theme "Woven" was taking from guest artist Nichole Nordemen’s top selling CD, "Woven and Spun." Nichole’s singer/songwriting ability has won her numerous Dove Awards and she has been twice voted “Female Artist of the Year.” Nichole moved to Tulsa 10 years ago, her kids attend Metro Christian Academy, and she serves as Worship Arts Director at First Methodist UMC downtown.

Naturally, the highlight of the evening was Nichole with her charming sense of humor and ability to speak to the heart. One person shared,

As the women arrived with boxes of cereal and jars of peanut butter to donate to Restore Hope, they were greeted by our team of volunteers and the macramé décor used on the stage set and photo booth created by the Asbury Events Team. It was fun to hear the level of chatter rise as women filled every other pew and prepared themselves for a true girl’s night out. The display of giveaways, a highlight at our women’s events since everyone loves to win a prize, lined the front 27

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amazed at how fast kids grow up, eventually claiming their independence. The plea for them to slow down is mixed with a mom’s heart for their kids to know that she is their biggest fan. Speaking of this song, one mom said, “The song where she had the video of the different kids growing from stage to stage was a tearjerker.

I miss the days of little hands wrapped around my finger and cheering them on at T-Ball.”

Another added, “Nichole’s story of trying to keep everything together and how deeply tired she got brought on one of those “ugly” cries. It was all good, but I just totally related to that since life can get so overwhelming!”

“The evening with Nichole was AMAZING! Her voice was so beautiful, but it was her stories that touched my heart. So very thankful

that Asbury put together such a great program—and for free so that everyone can enjoy them. It was truly a special evening. Thank you.”

We ended our gathering with an invitation to start a relationship with Jesus. Several women stayed to pray with Asbury’s Prayer Team. When dismissed, the ladies had the tough decision of selecting a CandyPOP to enjoy on the way home: Popcorn with either M&M, Twix, or Snickers! It was a sweet time. The Fall Gathering is scheduled for September 24. Plan now to join us!

I appreciated that Nichole’s focus was always on Jesus and what He was doing in her life. Two of my favorites were the songs Holy and Legacy. Holy speaks of how we tend to go our own way, but all God wants is us, on our knees, worshipping Him and realizing that He is all that matters in the long run. Legacy is about how the temporary trappings of this world try to keep us from investing in things with eternal value—the things most important to be remembered for in the future. She poses the questions, “How will they remember me? Did I choose to love? Did I point to You enough?” Wonderful questions for us to ponder. "Slow Down," both a book and song title, ministered to many of the busy moms who are 29

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AMY MILLER By Rob Loeber

There was a nagging thought creeping into Amy Miller’s mind.

I believe God brought this about in such a way that I couldn’t say no.”

“Maybe it’s time for something else.”

Although she was a member at another United Methodist congregation, Amy began attending Bible study at Asbury in 2010. She has long held an appreciation for the people and staff at Asbury, an admiration that has only grown in her first few weeks on the job. Amy credits the intentional process Asbury applies to its attendees for what allows the church to be effective in growing and sustaining disciples.

After 34 years at KTUL News (Channel 8) and holding titles from video tape operator to producer and eventually HR Coordinator, Amy believed she had done everything there was to do at the TV station. For years, she had volunteered at her church in various positions. She considered working full-time at a church, but she was unsure of what it would look like or where to begin. Until she had a dream. “I’m friends with Shari Graham, the Director of Human Resources at Asbury, because we worked together at KTUL for 18 years,” Amy recalled. “I dreamed she hired me for something, but I had no idea what the job actually was. The dream seemed so real and the next morning, I just couldn’t get Shari off my mind.” Amy sent a text to Graham and told her about the dream. The response was almost immediate. “She said there is a position at Asbury, and you should apply,” remembered Amy. The dream became reality a few weeks later when Amy was hired at Asbury for the dual role of Discipleship Coordinator and Administrative Assistant for Women’s Ministry. Her responsibilities include coordinating community groups and providing resources to those groups, planning mid-week Bible studies, and assisting with events. “When I was offered the position, there was never one moment where it didn’t feel right,” Amy declared. “So many things in my life have pointed me in this direction for a long time and

“I’ve always believed Asbury’s approach to people is spot-on,” stated Amy. “Everyone here genuinely wants to help get people plugged in and that’s what keeps people connected to church. When you get people engaged and keep them involved, that’s when you see them grow in their faith and the entire church is strengthened as a result.” Amy understands the power of relationships. At the age of 23, an invitation from a coworker led her to a Christmas Eve service in Ada, Oklahoma. It was in that service Amy finally understood what it meant to be a sinner in need of a Savior. She refers to it as her “turning point” and she fully realizes just how meaningful one word, one shared experience, or one invitation can be. Her sincere hope is to establish real connections with the people of Asbury through shared faith in Jesus. “In doing what God has called me to do at this point in my life, my biggest hope is to play a small part in seeing someone’s life be transformed by knowing and experiencing the love of Christ,” Amy said. No more nagging thoughts. For Amy, there is only anticipation and an overwhelming sense of peace about how God will use this job to demonstrate His love and grow His kingdom.

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ADAM HEARE By Rob Loeber

God’s timing doesn’t always make sense. Even though He’s working in the waiting, the human brain is easily confused and often frustrated at the pace with which God moves. Adam Heare knows the feeling all too well. Whether it was through people or proximity, Adam has been connected to Asbury for almost his entire life. He grew up in the shadow of the Asbury steeple and attended youth group functions with friends as a student at Union and later Bixby. Even when he moved away and his passion for music converged with his calling into ministry, Asbury never left Adam’s mind. After years of working at other jobs and other churches, the admiration for Asbury and the ambition to work there finally turned into an opportunity. “I was moving back to Tulsa in 2008 and I applied for a position at Asbury, but it didn’t work out,” Adam recalled. “They liked me, but they were already further along with another candidate and I thought that might be my only shot. I had no way of knowing what God had in store for me.” Adam left ministry for a few years before returning to an area church where he coordinated music and even recorded two, full-length, original worship albums. The job was good, the work was fulfilling. All along, God knew there was still a desire in Adam’s heart to end up somewhere else. Nearly 13 years after his pursuit ended in a closed door, Adam found himself applying to Asbury again — this time to be the Director of Modern Worship. “There are things you ask the Lord for and sometimes the answer takes a long time,” Adam stated. “Working at Asbury has always been my dream job, and I’m just so humbled to be here.

I am humbled and honored. It’s crazy how God works.” God is now using Adam to lead worship at Asbury while developing a youth music ministry and passing on his knowledge and experience to the next generation of singers, songwriters and musicians. Adam isn’t placing too much importance on hitting the right notes. His desire is simply to see young people develop a passion for the artform of playing and performing music. “A huge part of my story was having adults in my life who took the time to mentor me through music and so it only makes sense for me now to be doing the same thing,” declared Adam. “For me, becoming a disciple of Christ was tied directly to worship and now it just comes naturally to me to be able to disciple these kids in the exact same way.” As for his vision for the worship experience at Asbury, Adam challenges himself to write and perform some of his own material. For a man who is already living his dream, one of the most rewarding aspects of his role is seeing people respond to God through music. “I’ll just turn into a crying mess on stage because it is so powerful to me to witness people worshiping,” Adam said. “It is truly beautiful to see people in God’s presence. It never gets old.” Adam would likely agree that a piece of music is almost a perfect analogy for the way God works. Relationships and moments are like carefully placed notes. There are periods of pausing and waiting. It adds up to one story, one complete melody pointing back to a composer who knew what He was doing all along.

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NEW MEMBERS

WELCOME TO THE ASBURY FAMILY!

Susanne Adkins

Dale Alimena

Bobby & Angela Bacon

Kari Callaghan

Bert & Lois Ann Groves

Adam & Kate Heare

Kelsey Holder

Annette Markert

Jeff & Raymalyn Marquis

Steve & Susanne Mavers

Tom Michael

Richard & Nancy Rath

Jim Shouse

Denzil & Lisa Tallent

Lonnie Trevisan

Char & Amy Whitten

NOT PICTURED: Rick Flemming, Bob & Carla Jones, Emmerson Kemp, Laura Kemp, Di Marshall, Laura Beth Schwier, Elaine Sidwell, Pete Sprague, Sandy Sprague

GONE HOME TO BE WITH THE LORD... Deloris (Dee) Raines 7-2-20 Becky Duke 8-25-20 Rudine McNeill 10-31-20 Dolores Willits 12-8-20 Jo Stall 12-8-20 Mother of Eric (& Teri) Stall Ethel Hubbard 12-9-20 Mother of Vivian (& Larry) Kouplen Jackie Hinson 12-9-20 Spouse of Harley Hinson Jim Grant 12-12-20 Spouse of Marg Grant Molly Davis Scott 12-16-20 Spouse of Jim Scott R.W. (Bill) White, Jr. 1-2-21 Father of Katy (& Brian) Hunt Joanne Stadler 1-4-21 Mother of Mark (& Katie) Bezinque and Tracie Bezinque Steve Hurst 1-5-21 Spouse of Pam Hurst Lou Johnson 1-11-21 Spouse of Ken Johnson Alberta Baker 1-16-21 Mother of Barbara Reeves.

Marcia Marshall 1-21-21 Stephen N. Smith 1-31-21 Helen Warren 2-3-21 Murrel Cowherd 2-14-21 Rick Bowers 2-15-21 Beverlyn Summers 2-18-21 Beth LaBuzz 2-22-21 Erlita Renner 2-23-21 Maria Cowan 3-2-21 Laverle Graefe 3-2-21 Ron Wadley 3-7-21 Frank Clifton 3-11-21 Barbara Westervelt 3-20-21 Rita Lenfestey 3-22-21

Spouse of Nancy R. Smith Father of Matt (& Haley) Smith Spouse of Helen Cowherd Spouse of Vi Bowers Spouse of Larry LaBuzz Mother of Packy Cowan Spouse of Jerry Graefe Spouse of Betty Wadley Father of Todd Clifton Spouse of Wally Westervelt Spouse of Ed Lenfestey

ANNIVERSARIES

75 John & Joanna Neely 1/6/46

60 Tom & Pat Hailey 1/14/61

70 Ray & Betty Gordy 2/17/51

Steve & Terry Curtis 2/19/66

Ed & Rita Lenfestey 2/19/56

55 Dennis & Karen Linscheid 1/12/66

65 Larry & Jeri Myerley 2/26/56

60 Jess & Mary Mitchell 2/3/61

60 Don & Pat Hardin 3/17/61

55 Dave & Jan Meilner 3/5/66

55 Roger & Mary Laney 1/22/66

50 Ben & Peggy Moyer 1/9/71

30- Jack & Diane Harr, 2/23/91

50 Robert & Jean Ann Thompson 2/28/71 35

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Widows (in-person) "Thank you very much for a lovely evening last night very enjoyable and top notch. I appreciate all that you and your sisters in Christ did to love on us and shower us with love. THANK YOU for making us all feel remembered, not alone, supported, and strong enough to continue ‘living’ our life journeyfinally moving forward. God bless you!"

Widows (drive-thru) "Thank you so much! I was able to enjoy my dinner at home. You are such a precious group of lovely ladies sharing the love of Jesus with widow ladies. I had my dinner on my wedding china. My late husband always went all out on Valentine's Day, so it is a very special memory for me. Played a CD of him playing the piano while I enjoyed my dinner."

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On Sunday, February 28, we opened our doors to the Asbury Students Center. We welcomed more than 120 students and their parents. From 10:30 am – 12:30 pm the congregation was invited for self-guided tours to see our next completed project in the Better Together campaign. Thanks to all who have donated and share in Asbury’s future.

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THROUGH THE LENS OF CHRIST By Tracy LeGrand

For Asbury UMC’s Director of Operations Kim Renkema, the path to seminary started off a little rocky. “I began college at the University of Wisconsin at Madison right after high school,” Kim said. “However, after 2-½ years, my grades were terrible, and I was asked to take a semester off. Fast forward to 2014, I was working as the Manager of Special Projects for Asbury and a coworker really encouraged me to investigate finishing my bachelor’s degree specifically in project management. That fall I returned to college, the same year my youngest daughter was a senior in high school. In February 2017, I graduated with a bachelor of science in business with a focus in project management. At that moment I did not have a plan to continue further education.” But God had more plans for Kim. Pastor Tom’s esteem for Asbury Seminary along with the example of her middle daughter — Pastor Melissa Ivey — led Kim to follow what her heart was already telling her. An Asbury staff member since 1999, Kim says, “there are so many places where I can clearly see God’s plan in the rearview mirror. I served in Children’s Ministry for 12 years where my love of Christ grew as we helped grow the children into young disciples. After the Children’s Ministry, I led our events team and then the special project position. I know God ordered my steps to lead me to finish my bachelor’s because of these positions. I know pursuing my master’s was aligned with taking the position as Director of Operations two years ago.” Starting her studies alongside, Melissa, Kim earned a Master of Arts in Leadership, graduating May 2020 and she says, “I feel like seminary better equipped me for work I was already doing but gave me greater insight into what leadership looks like through the lens of Christ. It also gave me a better understanding of our Wesleyan roots and a desire to join God’s mission to better love His people. It was amazing and totally worth all the work. It gave me a deeper appreciation for the ability to gain knowledge. I love to read but seminary was an intense season of learning and I’m now working to apply the knowledge I gained to my position and allowing Christ to continue to use me in ministry at Asbury.”

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OBEDIENT TO GOD’S PLAN By Tracy LeGrand

Shelby Hood’s call to ministry began in a middle school youth worship service. “Up until that point, I had never even considered going into ministry,” said Shelby. “Even though I wasn’t praying for anything specific during our time of worship, I suddenly just felt and knew that I was supposed to go into youth ministry. Ever since, that’s all I’ve ever wanted to do and what I knew God was calling me into. I just had to do whatever it took to make it happen and be obedient to His plan for me.” Family and community were key in Shelby’s journey. “I was raised my entire life in church with extremely supportive parents who prioritized me being involved in the life of the church. I was also surrounded by an amazing support system of Christian friends and mentors.” For Shelby, the educational choice was clear as she chose Asbury Theological Seminary, “because it provided me with the opportunity to receive an excellent education without having to relocate or greatly disrupt my work and life here in Tulsa. I had just graduated from ORU when I got hired at Asbury and they told me that I could possibly get my graduate studies paid for. Immediately continuing on to graduate school was always my goal after finishing my undergraduate studies, so it was honestly a huge blessing." “I knew Asbury Seminary was an amazing school and it only got better when I found out our church was becoming a satellite campus where I could attend classes.” The community factor has meant much to Shelby who says, “One of the best parts for me of going to Asbury Theological Seminary has been getting to be in class with some of my coworkers also going through seminary. It’s nice knowing that you have people living the same life as you, working full-time at Asbury and going to school. We’re able to support each other and study together which only brings us closer. " “I’ve also been able to meet students from all around the country in classes. Everyone comes from so many different backgrounds with unique journeys on how or why they ended up in seminary. It’s nice to see the different ways God moves people to the same institution for a season of learning and growth. I’ve made friends in classes and get to continue to see how God will use them even after seminary.” Shelby will graduate in May with a Master of Divinity; she started the 96-credit-hour program in 2018, attending full time, year-round. She plans to continue with doctoral studies.

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ASBURY SEMINARY WAS ‘THE RIGHT PLACE’ By Tracy LeGrand

Pastor Melissa Ivey followed her heart to Asbury Seminary for her ministerial education as she was already home and because of the pastoral leadership. She says in retrospect, it was always the right decision for her. With a passion for teaching people about Jesus, Melissa was called to deepen her personal mission, “I trace my call into ministry back to my last semester of undergrad. I was moving towards a plan of doing equine therapy — when I began to hear the message of ‘course correction.’ I submitted to God for what He would have me do.” She finished her last semester and graduated without a plan. “For a semester I worked odd jobs and was seeking God’s guidance, but He didn’t say much. This time is when I decided to get my master's (degree) at Asbury Seminary and so I met with Pastor Tom to discuss scholarships; this is where my invitation to join the Asbury staff came from,” she says. “As I started doing ministry, I realized that I always wanted to do ministry, but didn’t know if I was able to do so. But when I started to do the work, I realized I loved it, I had the skills and God had a plan for me all along." Dick Read was an awesome mentor for Melissa and she did become a pastor. Melissa started her master’s degree in 2017 and graduated December 2019, earning a Master of Arts in Christian ministries. Melissa announced in March 2021 that she is planning to launch her own business and bring a long-time dream of hers to fruition. "I am very excited for what is next for me. My passion since I was a child has always been horses and I am excited to start my own equine business offering riding lessons and facilitated learning for people who are faced with the challenges of life. I know that because of my time at Asbury I am better equipped and prepared to make this dream a reality. With COVID leaving so many in need of connection and emotional support, now is the perfect time to start this business and I am grateful to be launched from Asbury to continue to do ministry in a different way."

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A GROUNDING IN CHRISTIAN TRADITION By Tracy LeGrand

A focus on Jesus and the primacy of the Bible led Adult Discipleship Pastor James Lambert to choose Asbury Seminary to further his walk with God. He was influenced by associate pastor role models in his church who were Asbury Seminary graduates and by another who wasn’t an alumnus, but recommended it “as a place where Jesus is central and the Bible is authoritative,” says James. “There are other models of theological education, some of which are ‘deconstructive’ and critical. Asbury is built on affirming and informing and strengthening the faith of students, rather than the idea of tearing it down then building it back, which often ends up never getting around to the re-constructive part.” His calling to ministry came gradually in college and he says, “I always felt most at home at the Wesley Foundation, the Methodist student ministry at the University of Oklahoma. I found more purpose leading Bible studies and music there than I did in my music or physics studies, though I enjoyed those. Being asked to be on freshman leadership at the Wesley Foundation, and being asked to be on the worship music team as a sophomore and continually being asked to be a sponsor for youth camps by my home church back in Altus over the summers; all of those things helped grow my faith in Christ and learn how to lead others.” James is thankful for the changes in his life from seminary study and says, “I received a grounding in the Christian tradition that is deeper than any one time or place, any nation or generation. I received the theological language to understand the journeys of Christians from across time and space. I received a perspective on the Gospel of Christ which speaks to every tribe, tongue and nation.” His choice in an educational institution was easy he says, because, “Asbury Seminary is the real deal because it is theological education tied to worshipping churches and living Christian community. It isn’t there to critique the church’s beliefs or to advance a human agenda, but to spread the Good News of Jesus Christ throughout the world and launch people on the Mission of God. The motto 'where head and heart go hand in hand' is really true. I would encourage people to go to chapel if you are an in-person student, and try to make the most of whatever worship and fellowship and connection opportunities you have if you are an online or extension campus student.” James began seminary in 2004, after a year off from undergraduate study and finished in 2008, earning a Master of Divinity degree and going on to become a deacon in the United Methodist Church. 47

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