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CARI NG FORYOURSELF Ahumanr egul at or yf unc t i ont hatal l owsy ouev al uat e y ourownneedsandt ak es t epst omeett hem. As s es s i ngy ouremot i onal / phy s i c als t at eand c ons t r uc t i v el yac t i ngoni t . Ther ear enogui del i nesor r ul esonhowt opr ac t i c es el fc ar e.Thos et wowor ds hav eauni quemeani ngt oev er yper s on.Is peakon behal fofal lt hec ont r i but or soft hi sz i newhenIs ayt hat wear ebynomeanss el f c ar epr of es s i onal s .We ex per i enc eandunder s t andt hes t r uggl et hats el f c ar e i r oni c al l yt endst obe.Ev er y ones har esac ompl ex r el at i ons hi pwi t hs el f c ar ebec aus ei t ’ sanongoi ng pr oc es st hateac hper s onhast os or tofdi s c ov erf or t hems el v es .Thr ought hi sz i ne,wear ehopi ngt ogi v e y ouapeeki nt oouruni queper s onalr el at i ons hi pswi t h s el f c ar et oopent hedi s c us s i onandgety out or ef l ec t . T ak i ngabr eakt oc hec ki nandt ak ec ar eofy our s el fi s nots el f i s horunpr oduc t i v e.Imean,c omeon!Y ouar e t hemos ti mpor t antper s oni ny ourl i f e,andy oudes er v e t ot r eaty our s el fl i k et hat .
AsIs i tdownt owr i t et hi spi ec e, t her e’ sat i c k l ei nmyt hr oat ,dar kc i r c l es undermyey es ,andal ongl i s toft as k st o c ompl et et hats eemst obegr owi ng.I t hr i v eof fs t r es sands omemi ghtc al lmea wor k ahol i c ,butIhav er ec ent l ys t ar t ed pr ac t i c i ngt heev er s owonder f ulac tof s el fc ar e,whi c hI ’ m goi ngt oneedal otof i nt hec omi ngweek s .
I nt heor y ,s el fc ar el ook sl i k es i t t i ngout s i deand dr awi ng,t ur ni ngof fmyc el l phone,s omer et ai l t her apy ,andget t i ngmy s el fc upc ak esor doughnut s .Howev er ,i t ’ sc ol dout s i de,my phonei sapar tofmeandIc an’ taf f or dt os pend mor et hat$20onany t hi ngt hati s n’ tes s ent i al ( y es ,Iam onl ys at i s f i edwi t h$20wor t hof eout doughnut sandc upc ak es ) .I ’ v ehadt of i gur af f or dabl e,ands omewhatpr ac t i c alway st ogi v e my s el ft heTLCt hatIdes er v e.
I npr ac t i c e,s el fc ar el ook sl i k et ak i ngadayof ft o r es etandnott hi nkaboutwor k .Thi si nv ol v esput t i ng myphoneandl apt opondonotdi s t ur bf oratl eas tan hour ,wat c hi ngNet f l i x ,c l eani ngmyr oom,s pendi ng t i mewi t hf ami l yandf r i ends ,andmos ti mpor t ant l y : c ooki ng.Cook i nghasbeenal i f es av erbec aus ei t r equi r esmet of oc usons eas oni ngt hi ngspr oper l y , notc ut t i ngmy s el fandmak i ngs ur enot hi ngbur ns . WhenI ’ mc ook i ng( pr ef er abl ywi t hmus i ci nt he bac k gr ound) ,Idon’ thav et i met owor r yabout any t hi ngel s eandIgett oes c apei nt owhat ev erI ’ m mak i ng.I t ’ soneofmyf av our i t eac t i v i t i es ,bec aus e wheny ou’ r edonec ook i ng,y ou’ r er ewar dedwi t h f ood!
Whenev erIf eel bey onds t r es s edoutor angr yatt hewor l dIus ual l yf ol l owt hi s s equenc et oc al m downandr el ax ;s nac k , mas k ,per i odr omanc e.Thi shel psme des t r es sandbyt het i met hemov i eors how I ’ m wat c hi nghasf i ni s hed,If eelr ec har ged andr eadyt ot ac k l ewhat ev erpr obl em I ’ v e beenput t i ngof f . I ’ mv er ybas i cs oIs t i c kwi t ht hec l as s i c s , popc or n.I ns t eadoft hemi c r owav ev er s i on r eac hf orunpoppedk er nel sandmak ei t ont hes t ov et opus i ngol i v eoi l .I tmayt ak e l ongerbuti t ’ ss omuc hbet t erandy ou ar en’ ti nges t i ngs t r angec anc er c aus i ng c hemi c al s ,s ot hat ’ sal way sapl us .
Thenex ts t epi saf ac emas k .Myul t i mat e c heatt hes y s t em wayofdoi ngt hi si sgoi ngt o Sephor aandget t i ngaf r ees ampl eoft hemos t ex pens i v emas kt heyhav e.Wheny ou’ r e r ubbi ng$75+wor t hofc r us hedpl ant sony our f ac ey ou’ l l f eel l i k eaReal Hous ewi f eof Wher ev erbutf orFREE!Myf av our i t emas ki s t her os ef ac emas kbyFr es hi thasr eal c hunk s ofr os epet al swhi c hi st heABSOLUTEt i ght es t butal s oi tl ook shor r i bl es oi fy ouav er s et o put t i ngbr own,gel at i nouss t uf fony ourpr ec i ousf ac e,t hi smaynotbet hemas kf ory ou. Nowf ort hemov i e.Iwi l ladmi t ,Il ov e c hees yr omant i cper i odpi ec es ,t hec os t umes , t hel anguage,t heac c ent s .Theyar eac t ual magi ct omeandIhav ewat c heds omanyof t hes ewi t hmymom t hati tj us tgi v esmes uc ha homey ,c omf or t i ngv i be.Myabs ol ut ef av our i t es ar ePr i de&Pr ej udi c e( 2005) ,J aneEy r e( 2011) , andAnneofGr eenGabl es( 1985) .
Fi nal l y ,Is ett hemood.T ur nof ft hel i ght s , l i ghtupas c ent edc andl e,f i ndt hewar mes t s of t es tbl ank ety ouc anf i ndandal lt he pi l l owsy ouc anhandl e( myl i mi ti sf i v e) .Lay downi nt hec oc oony ouhav ec r eat ed, c r adl ey ourpopc or nbowlasi fi twer ey our c hi l d( i fy our eal l yl ov epopc or nt hent hi si s unnec es s ar ybec aus ey ou’ v eal r eadybeen t r eat i ngi tass uc hwi t houtmet el l i ngy ou t o,noj udgement ) ,andc l i c kpl aybec aus e i ti snowt i met of or gethowc r appyt he wor l di sandj us tc hi l l ax * . * I ’ m mak i ngi tat hi ngagai ns oac c epti t .
Ev er y dayIs t ar tof fmydayt enmi nut esl at e,f r es hf ac e( unwas hed) , andr el at i v el yc l ean.Bet weenc l as s es ,r al l y i ng,t her apy ,ands t udy i ngIal way smanaget omak et i met or el ax . Her ear eal i s toft hi ngsIdoadi f f er entt i mesoft hedaywhenI managet ohav eac al mi ngmoment :
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Someday s ,Ik nowt hatIwi l l onl ybeabl et ohav e“me”t i mei fi fI wak eupear l i er ,andeas emywayi nt ot her hy t hm oft hi ngs .Ido t hi s*dr um r ol l *byappl y i ngmyf av our i t emak eup.Ihav eal way s f el tt hatbyappl y i ngmak eupIwass ay i ng“Hey !t odayI ’ m goi ng t os howt hewor l dhowIf eel t hr oughmyf ac e! ”… dr amat i c ,Ik now. Il i k et os t ar tof fbywas hi ngmyf ac e,ori fI ’ ml az yIwi l lus et onert o c l eanof fmys l eep.Then,I ’ l l moi s t ur i z eandoi l myf ac eandnec k . hef uns t uf f .Mys t apl esi nc l ude:BBc r eam,t r ans l uc ent Then,t powder ,bl us h,br onz er ,ofc our s ehi ghl i ght er ,mas c ar a,br owgel , andj us tadabofl i ps t i c k .ThenI ’ m of ft obr eak f as t .
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Ar ey ouc ons t ant l yf eel i ng f r us t r at edanddr eadf ul l yt i r ed?Ar ey ou hav i ngahar dt i mec ont r ol l i ngt hedr ool dr i bbl i ngov ert he2500wor des s aywhi c hi s duet omor r ow? I fs o,her ei sal i s t ,c ompi l edoft hr eebas i c s t eps ,whi c hwi l lt ur ny ourbr ai ni nt oan ex qui s i t e,s t r es s f r ee,es s ay-wr i t i ng mac hi ne.
STEP1:DANCE Ther ei snobet t erf eel i ngt hanj umpi ng ar oundands hak i ngev er ys i ngl epos s i bl e l i mby ouhav e,al lwhi l el i ps y nc i ngt o “Par t yi nt heUSA”byMi l eyCy r us .Danc e unt i ly ou’ r es weat i ng,outofbr eat h,anddo notqui tunt i ly ourl egsar et r embl i ngl i k ea hur r i c ane. I ft her ei soneav ai l abl e,t r yi ti n f r ontofami r r or ,f ornotonl ywi l ly ou s ee howr i di c ul ousy oul ook ,buty ou c anal s oc hec kouthowmuc h y out wer k i ngs k i l l shav ei mpr ov ed s i nc ey es t er day .
STEP2:T AKEABATH Al ov el yhotbat h.Per hapsadds ome bubbl ebat h,orapi nc hofEps om s al t s . Li ghtac andl e,pl ays omeCor i nneBai l ey Ray ,andj us ts i tt her e,f oral ong,l ongt i me. Ther e’ snobet t erpl ac et os i tandt hi nk ,or per haps ,nott hi nkatal l .Whi l ey ourf i nger t i psbec omepr unesandy ourc heek st ur n r ed,t hos e2500wor dsbegi nt os eem mor e l i k e1500wor ds .Y ou’ l lr eal i z e,t hes t r es s i s n’ tgone,j us tal i t t l el es smenac i ng,y our br ai nwi l lbeal i t t l el es sc l oudy ,andt he dr ool i ngwi l lhav es t opped( hopef ul l y ) .
STEP3:READ ABOOK Thet hi r dandf i nals t epoft hi sr ej uv enat i ng r out i nei st or eadac hapt erofabook ,any booky oudes i r e.Don’ tl i s t ent omus i cor s ur r oundy our s el fwi t hanypos s i bl edi s t r ac t i ons .Al ly ouneedi sy ou,y our s el f ,and y ourbook .Andv oi l a!Goodby e Fr us t r at i on,goodby edr ool ,y ouar enow r eadyt owr i t ey ourA+es s ay .
Oneofmyal lt i mef av our i t es el f c ar er i t ual si s doi t y our s el fc r af t s .Ik nowt hi ss oundsabs ol ut el y r i di c ul ous ,andhey ,Iam r i di c ul ous ,butdoi ngc r af t s i smyf av our i t ef or m oft her apy .I tal l owsmet o c hannelmyt hought sandf oc usi nt os omet hi ngt hat i spr oduc t i v e,nott oment i onIendupwi t ha f i ni s hedpr oduc tt hatIc anpr oudl ys ayImade! Her ear es omeofmyf av our i t es . . .
I NGREDI ENTS •Cl earorWhi t eGl y c er i nSoapBas e( anyar torc r af ts t or ewi l l s el l t hi s ) •FoodCol or i ng( Bak i ngai s l eofanygr oc er ys t or e) •Es s ent i al / Fr agr anc eOi l / Per f ume( s c ent edoi l sc anbebought i nc r af ts t or esl i k eMi c hael ' s ) •Gl as sMeas ur i ngCup( mi c r owav es af e) •Mi x i ngT ool ( Il i k es uperl ongt oot hpi c k sbec aus et heyar e r eus abl eandeas yt oc l ean) •SoapMol d( Y ouc anus eabak i ngt r ayorbuyas oapmol data c r af ts t or e,s i l i c onei st hebes tandeas i es tt oc l ean) STEP1 Cutups oapbas ei nt oc ubesandputhowev ermuc hy ou wanti nt hegl as smeas ur i ngc up.Mi c r owav ei ni nt er v al s of18s ec onds .I ts houl dbec ompl et el yl i qui d.Bec ar ef ul bec aus et hel i qui dwi l lbehot ! STEP2 Mi xi nc ol orandf r agr anc eofc hoi c e. STEP3 Pouri nt os oapmol dandputi nt hef r i dget ohar den. EXTRA STEP Y ouc anl ay erdi f f er entc ol our sbyput t i ngt hemol di nt he f r eez erbet weenpour i ngeac hc ol our
I NGREDI ENTS • Bak i ngSoda( anygr oc er ys t or e,y ouneedqui t eal otofi t ) • Ci t r i cAc i d( i t ’ sawhi t epowdert hatmak est hebombf i z zi nt he wat er .I tc anbef oundatbul ks t or esl i k eBul kBar ni nt hebak i ng s ec t i onors omephar mac i eswi l l hav ei t ) • Eps om Sal t s( s omegr oc er ys t or es ,butal l phar mac i eswi l l hav et hi s ) • FoodCol or i ng • Coc onutOi l ( anygr oc er ys t or e) • Es s ent i al Oi l /Fr agr anc eOi l /Per f ume • Mi x i ngBowl s • Mol d( anys hapedmol d,c ont ai nerorbak i ngt r ayy ouwant ,s i l i c one i sbes t ) STEP1 Mi x3/ 4c upofbak i ngs odawi t h½ c i t r i cac i dand½ c upeps om s al t s . STEP2 I nas epar at ebowl ,mi xt oget hert ol i qui di ngr edi ent s .4t eas poons ofc oc onutoi l ,3t eas poonsoff r agr anc e,andaf ewdr opsoff ood c ol or i ng. STEP3 Pourt hel i qui di nt ot hepowderandmi xt oget her .Y ouwanti tt obe s l i ght l ywets ot hati tc l umpsandhol dsi t ss hapebuti t ’ snotdoughy . Y oumayormaynotneedt ous eal l oft hel i qui d. STEP4Pac kt hemi x t ur ei nt ot hemol dandl eti tdr yf oraf ewhour s . Thi sr ec i pewi l l pr obabl ymak e24bat hbombs ,dependi ngont he s i z e.
I NGREDI ENTS •Whi t eorCl earEl mer sGl ue( s t apl es ,c r af ts t or es ,s omedol l ars t or es ) • Wat er( t omi xwi t ht hegl ue) • L aundr yDet er gent( Pr ef er abl yas c enty oul i k e) •Mi x i ngBowl ( bi ggeri sbet t er ) •As poonors pat ul a •Foodc ol our i ng* opt i onal * •Gl i t t er* opt i onal * STEP1 Poury ourdes i r edamountofgl uei nt ot hemi x i ngbowl .Addi ns ome wat er ,i ts houl dbeagl uet owat err at i oof2: 1.Mi xi tup!Addi nany f oodc ol or i ngand/ orgl i t t er . STEP2 Pouri nonet eas poonofl aundr ydet er gent .St ar tt omi xandf eel i t begi nt os ol i di f y . Cont i nuet os t i rands l owl yaddi ns i ngl et eas poonsunt i l t hes l i mei s t hi c kandnol ongers t i c k i ngt ot hewal l soft hebowl .Thi ss t ept ak es al otofs t i r r i ngs odon’ tgetdi s c our aged.J us tk eeps t i r r i ng. STEP3 Us ey ourhandst ok neadandpl aywi t ht hes l i meunt i l i t ’ snol onger s t i c k yandat ex t ur ey oul i k e.Y ouc anaddl i t t l edr opsofdet er genti f nec es s ar y ,butbec ar ef ul bec aus eaddi ngt oomuc hdet er gentwi l l r ui nt hes l i me.
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