Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Spring Cleaning
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What are some examples of faulty thinking that might need to be identified, eradicated and replaced in a process of mental/emotional/spiritual spring cleaning?
How do some of the following sound? Do they ring true? Can you identify with them?’
“If you expect good things to happen, you could be disappointed, so it’s best not to expect good things to happen.”
If you don’t expect good things to happen to you, you won’t be in the right state of mind to recognize, appreciate and accept them when they do. If you only expect bad stuff to happen, that’s what you’ll get.
“You can’t trust [fill in the blank here – it could be “men” “women” “anybody” “the authorities” or something else.”
This one often stems out of a traumatic experience in the past that taught your younger self that someone who you should be able to trust isn’t always trustworthy.
“I’m always hopeless at [again, fill in the blank here, e.g. “maths”, “driving”, “talking to strange people", "exercise”].”
If you don’t believe that you are good at doing something – or that you are no good at all at doing something, you’re going to avoid doing it.
And if you are put into a situation where you have to do it, the clash between the inner belief and the behaviour demanded or needed is likely to turn into problems such as anxiety and possibly even phobias.
The most common thing feared by most Australians is public speaking, and it’s the idea that “I’m always hopeless at speaking in public,” that triggers this fear. (We see a lot of people coming for help from hypnotherapy because of this issue).
“Everything depends on me.” Most of us have to shoulder a lot of responsibility and it’s important that we act like adults and do what we have to do.
But taking on too much responsibility and feeling like we’re the only one who can actually be relied on to get anything done is pretty much a prescription for burnout, depression and anxiety – and usually all three together.
Some of this thinking might come from a faulty belief that other people are not trustworthy and can’t be relied on.
However, the truth is that there are probably some things that you can delegate and some things that you possibly can just leave undone for a while.
“I will never forgive‌â€? I think if most of us are honest with ourselves, it can feel good to be resentful and chew over something bad that another person has done to us.
But resentment and unforgiveness are like hot dogs: tasty at first but give you a stomach ache and just about poison you if you eat it all the time.
Someone once said that resentment is like drinking poison and hoping that the other person dies.
The only person resentment hurts is you. This doesn’t mean that the person who hurt you should not face the consequences. Often confrontation is necessary.
But forgiveness means that you acknowledge that it hurt and that it was wrong‌ and then let it go and refuse to let it bother you any more.
This is just a small selection of thoughts that might have worn ruts in your mental pathways. There are, of course, plenty more.
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