Baltimore Gay Life September 2012

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MARGARET AND HER MOTHER The comedian, actor, musician, and activist brings her latest show to Maryland (and you can win two tickets!)

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IN THIS GAY LIFE

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7 Baltimore Black Pride 2012 (10 Year Anniversary!)

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"Guys at Brunch"

By Frankie Kujawa

9 GLCCB News, DogFest

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Margaret Cho, Bad-Ass Motha'

BY DANIEL MCEVILY

Comedian, actor, musician, and activist Margaret Cho discusses how her mother has become the focus of her latest cross-country comedy tour.

By Wendy Goldband

10 Cinghiale, Plus Tony Foreman

HIGH LIFE

By John Cullen with Marty Shayt

20 National & International News

REAL LIFE

By Rachel Roth

OUR LIFE

23 Marriage Equality on the Ballot

By Josh Levin

BETTER LIFE

24 Queer Health: Youth

By Alicia Gabriel

26 Estate Planning

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Baltimore Book Festival

By Gary Anderson, Steve Shane

Taxes and Same-Sex Marriage

By Yale M. Ginsburg

BY MAGGIE BEETZ, PAIGE HUNTER PLUS A BOOK REVIEW BY TERRI SOLOMON

For its 17th year, the Baltimore Book Festival is descending on Mount Vernon the last weekend in September. The festival brings not only authors and books, but also crafts, music, food, and drink.

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LGBT-Friendly Fall Travel

27 BSCENE: Femme Conference

SOCIAL LIFE

By Chris Jennings

Pride Volunteer Party at Pazo 28 Datebook

By Rachel Roth

BY STEVE CHARING, DANIEL MCEVILY

Learn about visiting Richmond, Provincetown, and Florida, plus Gay Day celebrations at Hillwood, Kings Dominion and Six Flags Great Adventure.

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DELICIOUS LIFE

30 Dining Out for Life: Sept. 20 (and 21!)

By Ted Blankenship

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EDITOR’S LIFE

Teamwork and Travels Gay Life and the GLCCB are continuing to team up with Baltimore Black Pride, Inc. (BBP) this time to help promote their 10 year anniversary (p. 7). While our partnership is not new, we’re excited to spread the word that celebrating blackness isn’t limited to AfricanAmericans, and celebrating all aspects of Pride simply cannot be limited to one event. As organizers Carlton Smith, Kevin Clemons, and Kimberli Lagree-Simmons have emphasized, Black Pride is not in competition with June’s Pride; rather we are all working together to transcend racial boundaries while simultaneously celebrating diversity. Check back next month for the 2012 Baltimore Black Pride Guide in our October issue.

Speaking of working together, I’m also proud to highlight a contribution from Steve Charing (OutLoud, Washington Blade) (p. 19). Steve is a respected figure in our community, in part because of his great work covering LGBT news and commentary. He’s

been a friend to me since my first days with Gay Life, and I already enjoy working with him in this capacity as well.

This issue has even more for readers to enjoy—learn about the LGBT authors attending this year’s Book Festival (p. 14). Check their reading schedules and drop by; don’t forget to stop by the GLCCB/Gay Life table while you’re there! This issue also features LGBT-friendly travel—from day trips to exotic excursions (p. 16). Like many of you, my favorite getaway is Rehoboth Beach, a wonderful town with something for everyone. Chances are, if you don’t find any place in our travel coverage that suits you, just head 2.5 hours east and whatever you run into, you’ll be as pleased as pie.

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ON THE COVER

Comedian, actor, musician, and activist Margaret Cho. Photo by Austin Young.

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Gay Life is a publication of the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender Community Center of Baltimore and Central Maryland (GLCCB). Gay Life is published monthly in Baltimore, Md., with distribution throughout the Mid-Atlantic region. Copyright 2012. All Rights Reserved. Gay Life is copyrighted and may not be reproduced without the expressed written consent of the publisher. Opinions expressed are those of the writers and do not necessarily reflect those of Gay Life or its publisher.

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Nominate An ICON!

Baltimore Black Pride Celebrates 10 Years

"WE CELEBRATE AND EMBRACE OUR BLACKNESS EVERYDAY" This October marks the 10-year-anniversary of Baltimore Black Pride. This year’s theme is “Legacy: Celebrating HerStory & HiStory,” and the celebration will last Oct. 1–7.

Events include everything from workshops and spiritual services to fashion shows and happy hours. Once again this year the Black Pride culminates with the annual ICONS We Love Awards Gala.

Find updated information and everything else you need to celebrate Black Pride in the official guide to Baltimore Black Pride 2012 in the October issue of Gay Life.

BLACK PRIDE SCHEDULE

MONDAY, OCT 1 Youth Expressions Venue: TBD, 6-8pm

Workshop: Family Law Venue: TBD, 7-8pm

TUESDAY, OCT. 2 Project S.E.L.F. for African American Men Venue: TBD, 6-8pm

WEDNESDAY, OCT. 3 Hump Day Happy Hour: The Black Pride Edition Premiere BBP Citywide Kickoff

Venues: TBD

THURSDAY, OCT. 4 Couture! Couture!

Haute Affair—Fashion for AIDS

The Museum Restaurant & Lounge (with Status Vodka), 8-11pm

FRIDAY, OCT. 5 MGM: Meet-n-Greet Casual Affair of Art, Music, and Fun

Station North Arts Café, 3pm-12am

SATURDAY, OCT. 6 Workshops / Youth Summit

Venue: TBD, 10am-3pm

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The Cultural Affair & ICONS We Love Awards Annual Gala & Fundraiser

Eubie Blake National Jazz Institute & Cultural Center, 7-11pm

SUNDAY, OCT. 7 Spiritual Service

Venue: TBD, 11am–1pm

Legacy Global Village & Music Fest

The Paradox, 3pm-12am

FOUNDERS

Leroy Burgess Kevin T. Clemons Carlton R. Smith

BOARD MEMBERS

Carlton R. Smith, President Kevin T. Clemons, Chair Meredith Moises, Co-Chair Kim H. Walker, Treasurer Phylis Lagree, Secretary

MEMBERS-AT-LARGE

Kevin Brown Leroy Burgess Jamal Hailey Joi Francis-Johnson Kimberli Lagree-Simmons Reverend Sam Offer Legal Representation Angela A. Alexander, Esq.

Baltimore Black Pride’s Annual “ICONS We Love” Awards is accepting nominations through Sept. 8.

Submit your nomination for any person who has actively impacted the African American Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender (AA LGBT) community in Baltimore City and Baltimore County.

Nominees and award winners will be recognized and honored for their contributions to the growth and advancement of the AA LGBT Community at Baltimore Black Pride's annual Cultural Affair Fundraiser on Oct. 6.

Nominees must be: • 18 years of age or older • residents of Baltimore City or County OR have a minimum of six months providing service to the AA LGBT community in Baltimore City or County.

Nominees may be: • groups, organizations (non-profit/for-profit), companies, or agencies • people of any gender and/or sexual orientation (as long as service is provided to AA LGBT)

volunteering in AA LGBT non-profit organization committed to making positive changes.

ENTERTAINMENT: Persons in the entertainment industry including, journalists (newspaper, online news, local city papers, TV news), media (TV, radio, local paper, bloggers) and social event planners/promoters who utilize their influence to bring to our community information concerning and impacting the AA LGBT community.

HEALTH: Persons in or out of the medical field who use their background/skills/influence to raise health awareness within the AA LGBT community. Health awareness includes STI/STDs, men and women’s health, LGBT family health, and mental health.

POLITICAL: Persons who use their political influence or position to maintain and provide the AA LGBT with tools and resources that will aid in the progression of equality. Political issues include gay marriage, hate crimes, the military, human rights, and equality.

Icons can be nominated in the following categories:

YOUTH: Persons who aid in raising the awareness of AA LGBT youth including providing services and assisting with youth LGBTQ awareness programs, youth suicide assistance programs, and youth bullying awareness programs.

COMMUNITY: Those who have greatly impacted the AA LGBT community through various community events including community service and volunteer work. Services may include providing transportation/food to HIV/AIDS gay patients, joining and

Download the nomination form at BaltimoreGayLife.com and email completed forms to BmoreBlackPride@yahoo.com no later than Sept. 8.

NOMINATION FORM

SUPPORT BALTIMORE BLACK PRIDE!

Become a sponsor today by advertising in the official 2012 Baltimore Black Pride Guide (appearing in the October issue of Gay Life). Contact Sabre Chase at 410.837.5445 or sales@baltimoregaylife.com.

Reservation deadline is Sept. 14.

BALTIMORE BLACK PRIDE’S 10TH ANNIVERSARY!

“Legacy: Celebrating HerStory & HiStory” October 1-7, 2012 W443.691.9669 T BlackPrideBaltimore.org E BmoreBlackPride@yahoo.com

Baltimore Black Pride Co-Chair Meredith Moises (left) and 2011 ICON winner Del. Mary Washington Photo by Jay W.

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Guys at Brunch Tackles Issues Around the Table

BY FRANKIE KUJAWA Take two fabulously opinionated men.

Throw in cocktails, a light nosh, a seasoning of current issues, and mix with a video feed. Voilà! You now have Guys at Brunch.

Guys at Brunch, the brainchild of Shawn Bradley and Nicholas Garnett, is a show that provides a conversational outlet on issues affecting the gay community. Currently being aired on public access television in Washington, D.C., and online, Guys at Brunch offers a fresh approach to issues within the gay community. Gay Life recently sat down with co-creator, and Baltimore native, Nicholas Garnett to discuss the show and why Barbara Walters may have a run for her money.

What was the driving force behind creating Guys at Brunch?

I wanted to advocate equal rights for all. I wanted to let people know about organizations and businesses that were against gay civil rights. I also wanted to give perspective from a gay person of color and inject my sense of humor in pop culture.

Do you feel that having an outlet such as Guys at Brunch helps the gay community reach out to the public in a broader spectrum?

Yes. We cover so many different topics. Topics that just don’t affect the gay community. It also lets people from other groups see someone in the gay community in a different light. The stigma is still very present about gay men.

You, and your co-host Shawn, discuss many of these topics on air.

Was Guys at Bunch an idea that you both formed together?

I came across a job posting online to co-host a gay talk show that was posted

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playing off ABC’s The View. I came up with the name Guys at Brunch. We filmed our first YouTube video in October 2010.

Not long after this first video, we became partners with YouTube. Brandon is currently no longer a part of Guys at Brunch.

Why is it important for the gay community to have an outlet such as Guys at Brunch?

Guys at Brunch was formed to bring engaging intellectual conversation to family and friends everywhere around the brunch table. We tackle many different issues and, of course, issues dealing with the gay community in hopes to stimulate conversation and promote a better understanding of our lifestyle.

Could you give the readers an overview of what kind of work is involved in putting together a show such as this?

Shawn and I are constantly working when it comes to topics we discuss on the show.

[We are] taking notes from what we hear at work and from our personal lives. So we would meet, go over our list, and pick topics that will make hotly conversation. Then comes the hiring of staff for the filming. We need three camera guys and two directors to book studio time in Washington, D.C., at DCTV, contact craft services, and take care of guest travel if we have a guest on that show.

As a Baltimore native, what do you think are some of the biggest

Co-creator Nicholas Garnett Photo by Tyrone R. Akins

issues facing the Maryland gay community? In your opinion, how can we as a community work together to overcome these issues?

Not having a support system. I see so many young people in the community whose families disown them because they are gay. They are not loved, so they don’t know how to love. I think if we integrate and all come together and stop having two Prides each year—let all Maryland gay organizations come together to make something great. The more we unite the more issues we can overcome and educate our youth together.

What are your goals for Guys at Brunch?

A short term goal is to [have the show] become a local success. Long term is to become a national success and have our show picked up by a major network, as well as make “Most Influential Gay” lists.

Is there any other pertinent information you’d like to share with readers?

Yes! Season One has wrapped. Be on the lookout for Season Two of Guys at Brunch in Fall 2012. But please check out all past episodes on our website GuysAtBrunch. com. Please feel free to send questions or topics you want to discuss. We read all comments and emails and love to get feedback from viewers. Please befriend us on Facebook (Facebook.com/guysatbrunch), follow us on Twitter (@guysatbrunch), and subscribe to us on YouTube (YouTube. com/guysatbrunch).

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What's New at Your Community Center MEET OUR NEW GLCCB BOARD MEMBERS

Learn about new board members through their online bios: find out who’s known in local poetry and music circles, who can plan your next event, and who is a kickball-playing trivia expert. Visit GLCCB.org/about/ our-board-of-directors.

TOWN HALL

Meet the new board in person by attending the September Town Hall meeting. To engage local leaders and the great community, the board plans to host semi-annual Town Hall meetings during which community members can make suggestions, ask questions, or express concerns about LGBT issues and how the GLCCB can respond.

TOWN HALL

Sept. 24 • 7pm The GLCCB • 241 W. Chase St. T GLCCB.org

HELP US CAPTURE BALTIMORE’S LGBT HISTORY

As the GLCCB celebrates 35 years, the organization is collecting stories from community members. If you were involved with the GLCCB or Gay Life in the 1970s or 1980s, we want to hear from you!

Contact Marlene Adrian at 702.655.2146 or adrianmjlv@gmail.com.

GLCCB ENGAGES NEW ATTORNEY

Mark Scurti, an attorney at Pessin Katz Law, P.A., has agreed to help the GLCCB board of directors reorganize debts incurred over the past decade. Scurti is providing his services on a pro bono basis.

“We’re committed to doing whatever it takes to ensure that the GLCCB will once again be financially stable and able to be out in front, leading the way to achieving equality, understanding, and respect for the full LGBT community,” said Board President Bud Beehler.

Over the past six weeks, the GLCCB has reorganized its structure, elected a new board president, finished a full review of its bylaws—which can now be found online— and held a community town hall meeting.

“We are fully committed to recreating a thriving center at the forefront of LGBT life in Maryland,” said Board Member Rachael Stern. “But to do that, we have to attend to the health of the organization. This isn’t terminal, but rather a physical that waited just a bit too long.”

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THE GLCCB BOARD SEEKS COMMITTEE MEMBERS

After much work over the last three months, the GLCCB has recreated three committees that are vital to the well-being of the Center and its mission to serve the LGBT community of Central Maryland. The board is seeking interested individuals to join the following committees: The Development Committee is charged with ensuring the financial well-being of the organization by recruiting donors, writing grants, and conducting fundraising. The Program Committee is charged with developing a wide range of programs to support the emotional, wellness, and social needs of the community. The Outreach Program is charged with engaging the community by forming collaborations and establishing coalitions with individuals and like-minded organizations to highlight important issues to the community. Interested individuals should call the GLCCB (410.837.5445) or leave a message on their Facebook page.

JOIN THE GLCCB BOOK CLUB!

The first meeting of the monthly book club hosted by English professor and bon vivant John Woods, will cover Tales of the City

by Armistead Maupin. Copies of the book may be available through the GLCCB free of charge. October’s book club selection will be Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides.

BOOK CLUB

Armistead Maupin’s Tales of the City Sept. 17 • 7-9pm • Room 202

FOOTBALL!

Watch the Baltimore Ravens vs. Philadelphia Eagles on a supersized projection with your friends at the GLCCB. Tailgating includes pizza, wings, and beer.

FOOTBALL AT THE GLCCB

$15 • Sept. 16 • 12-5pm • Kickoff 1pm

UPCOMING

Next month the GLCCB will offer “Transgender 101,” the first class in a community education series. October will also mark the beginning of First Friday’s at the Center presenting “Movie Night.” Details to follow.

Like us on Facebook to learn more about the GLCCB and its programs as well as a wide range of local, national, and worldwide LGBT news.

Calling All Pet Lovers

DOGFEST IS COMING OCTOBER 6!

BY WENDY GOLDBAND, DIRECTOR OF MARKETING AND PUBLIC RELATIONS, BALTIMORE HUMANE SOCIETY Mark your calendars: Saturday, Oct. 6 is Dogfest, a dog day extravaganza for pet lovers everywhere. This is the event’s fifth year celebrating the love of dogs and is an all-important fundraiser for the no-kill shelter.

Between 5,000 and 10,000 people are expected to gather on the grounds of Baltimore Humane Society in Reisterstown to participate in games, contests, demonstrations, and kid activities.

This event is not just for humans, however—it’s also for the dogs!

You don’t have to be a pet owner or have a dog accompany you to get a kick out of the day’s canine festivities. Dogfest is a terrific chance to see just about every kind of dog imaginable. From teeny, tiny to mega size, it’s so much fun watching them. Enjoy the antics of dogs trying to find their owners in a game of Hide ‘n Seek or playing Musical Sit ‘n Stay.

Decide for yourself if the celebrity judges make the right call for the Best Costume contest, the Best Trick, or the Best Kisser. If you have a dog that likes to socialize, this is your chance to watch Rover knock down 10 pins in a game of bowling. There’s even swimming for dogs!

Sit back while enjoying a delicious treat from one of the many food vendors and get some hearty chuckles as dogs of all shapes and sizes parade by you decked out in their best costume regalia.

Stroll around the 365-acre wildlife preserve and explore the various vendors and information booths.

And of course, come inside the kennels and meet the many dogs and cats who are staying at the Baltimore Humane Society’s no-kill shelter while waiting to find their forever homes.

SUPPORT THE BALTIMORE HUMANE SOCIETY

The serious side of all this hoopla is the fact that Baltimore Humane Society relies on Dogfest as its

major fundraiser of the year. Most people don’t realize that B’more Humane is a small, independent, nonprofit no-kill animal shelter. It receives no funding from the Humane Society of the United States nor from the local or federal governments.

Baltimore Humane Society is a refuge for homeless dogs, cats, rabbits, and other furry creatures, but it also offers a low-cost Veterinary Wellness Center to the public to help owners who could not otherwise afford their pet’s medical care. Everything from vaccinations to nail trimming to dental care and flea/tick preventatives are available. There is also a beautifully maintained pet cemetery, Nicodemus Memorial Park, which offers a variety of pet grief support services including a free, monthly support group open to the public. Sadly, times are tough and pet relinquishments are up so this no-kill shelter is in dire need of funds.

For more information visit BMoreHumane.org or call 410.833.8848, or text the word “PAW” to 80000 to donate $10.

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DINING OUT

Cinghiale: Baltimore's Finest Dining NORTH ITALIAN IN HARBOR EAST

BY JOHN CULLEN WITH MARTY SHAYT

An invitation to dine at Cinghiale brought expectations of something special (and its free valet parking got us off to a great start!). We entered into the enoteca (wine bar) flanked by the more formal osteria dining rooms. The high wood-beam ceilings create an airy Italianate feeling while large windows offer views of people strolling past the restuarant as well as the adjacent marina. The urbane feel fits right in with the Harbor East neighborhood.

Clientele included a mix ranging from “suit and tie” business people to casually dressed 20 to 30-year-olds.

The menu features Italian food, and while you can order a la carte, two different fixed price multi-course offerings provide comparative bargains: The three-course cucina della nonna (or grandmother’s kitchen) dinner includes a choice of bruschetta, a main pasta course, and a choice of dolci (dessert) for $29. The prezzo fisso (fixed price) four course dinner offers a choice of charcuterie or antipasti as a starter, a pasta course, a main course, and choice of dolci for $59. Wine pairings for each course—including dessert!—are an additional $30. We both opted for the four course dinner (John with wine pairings).

Our first courses included calamari and tuna tartare. The grilled calamari served with shredded parsnips was a wonderful blend of taste and texture (and earned a “Thumbs Up” from John); the round patty of grated tuna with capers and shallots was an enjoyable surprise. Marty’s pasta course was squid ink tagliolini with dark pasta offset by pieces of lobster and tiny clams that left him looking very happy.

John’s pasta course was tagliatelle with zucchini, ramps, asparagus and mint; simpler yet satisfying.

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Cinghiale (chingGYAH-lay) means “Wild Boar” in Italian and celebrates the richness and style of the Italian table.

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pleased Marty. John’s big hunk of tuna was grilled just right and served with braised fennel. Perhaps the biggest hit was a sampling from the chef of grilled duck with rhubarb and pan seared foie gras.

Both John (who likes duck) and Marty (who ordinarily doesn’t) thought it was “Thumbs Up” incredibly good.

Portions are not overly big, which worked to our advantage by leaving room for dessert! John ordered a panna cotta and Marty had homemade sorbets. The panna cotta custard was smooth and silky, but the sorbets were the biggest hit. (A selection of fine cheeses provides an alternative to standard desserts.)

Service during the dinner was exceptional; the staff is attentive and on top of things while friendly and avoiding the pitfalls of over-formality. We left trying to figure out why we hadn’t managed to dine here before.

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A Conversation with Tony Foreman

BY JOHN CULLEN Tony Foreman, the business mind behind the Foreman Wolf restaurants—Charleston, Petite Louis Bistro, Pazo, and Cinghiale—sat down with Gay Life to discuss his fine dining ventures.

How did you get into the restaurant business?

I started washing dishes and doing food prep in 1979, when I was 14. I’d grown up with a great grandmother who was born in the rural south in 1890, and I spent a lot of my childhood learning about food with her. But I started working in the business to make cash when I was in ninth grade.

You completed a restaurant/ hotel management program; how did that prepare you for the realities of restaurant work?

There were things that were interesting, but I do not feel that in any way, shape, or form they were essential. I had been a liberal arts major who finally had the realization that I like this more than anything else, and if there were nuts and bolts that I didn’t know, I might as well get my degree in it.

Would you recommend this path to a young person today?

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I would recommend they be an English or a history major. I go out of my way to look for people with a background in the arts or a background in communications or language and culture. For me, that is always the most attractive thing.

How do you train your staff?

We can train them on the food and wine and technical aspects of service, but we can’t train them on what their mothers should have taught them. We don’t choose people based on any level of experience they’ve had, but based on whether they’re really nice people—do they care about food, do they care about taking care of people.

You have three wonderful restaurants all within a stone’s throw of Harbor East.

Are there any disadvantages to such a close proximity?

Not really, because they are all enormously different from each other. A lot of guests will have a cocktail in one and dinner in another. I think that’s a fun thing for them. There are so many advantages.

Read the extended interview at BaltimoreGayLife.com with info on Foreman’s next restaurant!

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BAD-ASS MOTHA’ MARGARET CHO IS COMING TO ANNAPOLIS

By Daniel McEvily

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hen given the chance to talk to Margaret Cho—comedian, actor, musician, activist and all around bad-ass, post-Modern Renaissance mama—the most difficult question to ask in preparation for interviewing her is: where to start?

In June, she began her fourth season playing legal assistant Teri Lee in the Lifetime dramedy Drop Dead Diva. July saw her being nominated for her first Emmy for her hilarious guest role as the (allegedly deceased) North Korean dictator Kim Jong-il on NBC’s 30 Rock. Later this fall, Cho will play hostess with the mostest on Food Network’s reality show Blind Dinner Party.

As if all of her television projects weren’t keeping her busy enough, Cho is also embarking on her latest national stand-up tour, Mother, this fall. The show promises to be her edgiest show yet, while presenting “an untraditional look at motherhood and how we look at maternal figures and strong women in queer culture.”

In the lead up to her Sept. 25 Rams Head On Stage show in Annapolis, Cho called in to Gay Life to talk about the tour and all that is maternal.

How has being a queer woman shaped your relationship with you mother?

It’s something that she doesn’t exactly understand, but at the same time is in complete acceptance of. She has trouble trying to understand what queerness is, as opposed to being gay, lesbian, or bisexual, like [in mother’s voice] “Oh, that’s gay. Oh? No!” She doesn’t understand all the differences, but is willing to accept it all. And that’s what I love. For someone who came from a very conservative society to one that is so different is amazing.

My parents were fairly recent immigrants when they started to work exclusively with gay and lesbian shoppers and workers. They didn’t let the homophobia and the conservatism they were raised with [in Korea] stop them from having an amazing closeness with the gay community as it was happening in the ‘70s in San Francisco.

Let’s talk about your upcoming tour, Mother. Why did you decide to dedicate your show to motherhood?

I’ve been making fun of my mom since the beginning of my stand up career. I

Many say that being a mother is the hardest job there is.

Have you ever felt that maternal urge of childbirth and raising your own child?

Oh absolutely. I think being a mother

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wanted to do a show that was pretty much all that. It’s just my observations about her and me getting older and being kind of a mother to the world.

would be amazing and that’s something that I have, but that energy filters in other ways. I’m a mother to every single friend of mine. Even when you’re not literally a mother, you still have that desire to want to parent people.

People are always worried about turning into their parents when they’re younger.

As you’ve grown older, have you ever caught yourself “becoming” your parents?

Totally! My parents created me in the image of them and it’s not fair because I maneuver in a completely different society now. I’m such an Asian immigrant, but I live in a community of affluent showbiz people. I have no social graces. I can clean a fish, but I’ve never written a thank you note.

Your impersonation of your mother’s hi-jinx has been a fan favorite for years now.

Do you ever feel there is an expectation to perform certain material for fans?

I think so, but at the same time, as a comedian, we’re always challenged to do new material. People don’t want to see the same things and we have a responsibility to be true to ourselves as artists and the reasons people come to see us in the first place. What’s been great is that I’ve

been able to find different ways of telling stories and writing material that people who come to my shows will be excited to see. This show in particular is in response to the many years of getting requests of doing more material about my mother, so I decided to a show that’s highlights all of that.

You’re bringing your show to Maryland after a long absence.

What’s your impression of Baltimore and Annapolis?

Well, one of my heroes and a good friend, John Waters, has really done the area quite a lot of artistic justice and brought great icons of Baltimore into prominence, which is just profound and fantastic. I think he’s the city’s best ambassador. I haven’t been to Annapolis in a long time, but the Rams Head is a great place to play and I’m really excited to come back there.

Visit BaltimoreGayLife.com to read exclusive content from our interview with Margaret, including her upcoming projects, judging RuPaul’s Drag Race, and getting cruised as a “ hot little Asian bear.”

Margaret Cho’s “Mother” Tuesday, Sept. 25 • 6 & 9pm Rams Head On Stage 33 West St. • Annapolis RamsHeadOnStage.com SEPTEMBER 2012

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Baltimore Book Festival Brings More Than Authors to Mount Vernon September 28-30, 2012 at Mt. Vernon Place, Centered on 600 N. Charles St. For its 17th year, the Baltimore Book Festival is descending on Mount Vernon the last weekend in September. The festival brings not only authors and books, but also crafts, music, food, and drink.

Plus, for the second year in a row, the GLCCB and Gay Life will be at the festival.

The GLCCB/Gay Life booth will offer information about the magazine and community center, plus a large selection of deeply discounted LGBT books.

Attendants can also enjoy a variety LGBT authors, including Dean Spade, author of Normal Life: Administrative Violence, Critical Trans Politics and the Limits of Law. Spade’s book examines the shortcomings of administrative systems and law enforcement agencies for transgender individuals.

Dean Spade and Laura Whitehorn

Anna Anthropy’s Zinesters Create Diverse Gaming

By Paige Hunter

Anyone can make games. Games are entertainment, yes, but they can also be teaching tools, ways to explore systems and interactions.

Anna Anthropy, a transgender woman, game developer, and author of Rise of the Videogame Zinesters: How Freaks, Normals, Amateurs, Artists, Dreamers, Dropouts, Queers, Housewives, and People Like You Are Taking Back an Art Form, certainly thinks so.

“Games are a monoculture,” she told Gay Life. “The people who are traditionally allowed to make them are straight white cis dudes who know nothing about oppression, and as a result, they produce really homogenous games that don’t have a lot to say to me. I want to see games actually represent the diversity of the human experience—not just white dudes and guns. That’s what the book is about: PAGE 14

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“One of the main things the book aims to do is to help people think differently about law reform,” Spade told Gay Life prior to the 2011 Book Festival. Instead of focusing on passing transgender anti-discrimination laws, Spade advocates a greater energy devoted toward “social movements that win meaningful victories through mass mobilization.” Read the full article at BaltimoreGayLife.com.

Speaking with Spade at the Festival is former political prisoner Laura Whitehorn.

Whitehorn is the editor of The War Before: The True Life Story of Becoming a Black Panther Keeping the Faith in Prison, Fighting for Those Left Behind by Safiya Bukhari.

Whitehorn is a heroine in the lesbian world due to her activism, which includes organizing the occupation of a Harvard University building with 400 women in 1971 to both demand a women’s center and protest the Vietnam War. Dean Spade, Normal Life Laura Whitehorn, The War Before Saturday, Sept. 29 • 2pm Radical Bookfair Pavilion Wikipedia.org/wiki/Laura_Whitehorn

it’s about why more diverse voices in games are important, but it’s also a guide to getting started and making games.”

While this view is centered on the American and European gaming conglomerates, major Japanese and Korean companies do not offer much in the way of diversity either. Every character is the same: The male protagonist is gaming shorthand for the character most players can relate to. The fragile magic user in a fantasy setting is always female. War stories are more numerous than exploration tales, let alone stories of relationships, of getting up again, of love. Sex and violence sell, and it’s the same packaging every time. Different genres may be more blatant than others (for example, the ruckus last year over the busty advertising for Soul Caliber V); but that this is expected and tolerated, is the problem.

Games do not have to rely on the best and flashiest technology, or cutting-edge tools: in fact, this view does more to hurt game developers than help them learn.

“I remember describing the premise to a games journalist and having him ask, ‘but won’t all the programs in the book be outdated by the time it’s out?’ People

Also of interest is Laurie Weeks, author of Zippermouth, a new novel that just won a Lambda Literary Award. According to FeministPress.org, “Weeks captures the freedom and longing of life on the edge in New York City. Ranting letters to Judy Davis and Sylvia Plath, an unrequited fixation on a straight best friend, exalted nightclub epiphanies, devastating morningafter hangovers— Zippermouth chronicles the exuberance and mortification of a junkie, and transcends the chaos of everyday life.”

Laurie Weeks, Zippermouth Sunday, Sept. 30 • 5pm Radical Bookfair Pavilion Feministpress.org/books/ laurie-weeks/zipper-mouth For more authors, schedules, and additional festival information, visit BaltimoreBookFestival.com

are so locked into a technology-centric view of games that they can’t understand technology isn’t the major problem games are facing,” explained Anthropy. “My book sold out at last year’s game developers conference, upon release—twice. So I can’t help feeling there are people in the games industry who recognize the need for and desire change.”

Anna Anthropy Rise of the Videogame Zinesters Saturday, September 29, 4pm Radical Bookfair Pavilion AuntiePixelante.com

Matt Lewis and Renato Poliafito Photo by Brian Kennedy

Baked Elements

An Interview with Cookbook Co-Author Matt Lewis Perhaps the Baltimore Book Festival’s tastiest authors—Matt Lewis and Renato Poliafito—will be visiting from their bakery in Brooklyn, N.Y., to share recipes (and samples!) from their latest cookbook, Baked Element: Our Ten Favorite Ingredients.

Lewis and Poliafito have been partners (of the business, not romantic, variety) since they opened Baked in 2005 with their straight, silent partner. Baked Elements is their third cookbook. Each chapter is devoted to a different ingredient, as well as color. Visit BaltimoreGayLife.com to check out a recipe from the chocolate—or pink—chapter.

Matt Lewis spoke with Gay Life to tell us about their shop, their books, and their success.

Can you tell us a little about yourselves?

Both myself and my business partner were in advertising for years and years. When the cupcake craze really got started in New York, it kind of angered both of us because we felt that New York is known for so many things, we didn’t want the American baking world to just be about the cupcake—people should be aware of the brownie, which was essentially created in America; the choco-

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late chip cookie is, again, a very American dessert—so we kind of decided to leave the ad world. Renato had a really strong coffee background and I had a really strong dessert background, and we created a shop that was an homage to American baking that wasn’t all about Grandma’s baking, but kind of like fun and, I hate the word hip, but a hipper setting than those bakeries.

every corner. But there are also great pockets of regionalism. So, for instance, the black and white cookie (for whatever weird reason) has not left New York like some of these other desserts. Los Angeles has a really bizarre obsession with banana cream pies. And there are all of these little pockets; like when we travel we always notice these things— like the buckeye is a very Ohio dessert.

What can you tell us about your current cookbook?

Can you tell us about your Book Festival appearance?

We had a lot of fun with this book. Renaldo and I have this weird overlap in taste, and we decided to focus this book on our 10 favorite ingredients. Some of them are basic like chocolate, and some of them are, well, we really like booze a lot when we’re baking and we put it in a lot of desserts, and peanut butter, bananas, caramel, malt, I mean in a sick sort of way it’s a lot of stuff that’s actually part of our diet, probably more than it should be. But that kind of happens when you work at a bakery—you don’t need four square meals a day. We’ll definitely have a cookie for breakfast or a slice of cake for lunch.

How does this compare to your first two cookbooks?

The first book we did was really all about the bakery, which is fun in itself, but it doesn’t really offer a lot room for exploring or kind of going out there and trying new things. You kind of have to keep it tried and true because people buy that book because they want to serve what you’re serving at the bakery.

The second one was a regional focus.

Another thing that I think America always gets a bad rap for is being too homogenous.

And we’re definitely a homogonous culture in that there’s Walmart and McDonald’s on

In addition to discussing our favorite ingredients, we’re going to be demonstrating on stage. We always try to make something we can sample afterwards. And we’ll be signing copies of the book as well. People always ask us why we don’t open more bakeries and I think it’s because we’re writing books. We love books. If someone said, besides baking, what would you like to do, it would be to open a book store.

Your books have been incredibly well received— you’ve been featured on Oprah, the TODAY show, the Food Network, and the Martha Stewart Show—should we credit your combined advertising backgrounds for being able to successfully market yourselves, or are your desserts simply that amazing?

We focus on customer service which is not something a lot of people in New York focus on. And our quality, I will tell you I stand behind our quality, bar none. But we were blessed in the first six months because Oprah and Martha mentioned us. We went from having 20 customers a day to 200 a day after Oprah mentioned us. I think a little of the press kind of begot other press but having those two iconic women mention us was really great for us, and really launched us and put us on the radar of a lot of other people.

What’s next?

For the first time ever we are seriously looking into opening a store in Manhattan, because we feel like it would take some pressure off our Brooklyn store. It’s not 100 percent done yet, but we are in the works.

And we’re really excited about coming to Baltimore. It’s a really cool city.

Find the extended interview—plus a recipe!— at BaltimoreGayLife.com.

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Before the Rain

A Memoir of Love and Revolution

by Luisita López Torregrosa Reviewed by Terri Solomon Luisita López Torregrosa is a foreign desk editor at a national paper when she meets Elizabeth Whitney, the woman who dominates most of the pages of Before the Rain (published August 2012). “She came out of nowhere,” writes Torregrosa, and had “poise, a guarded manner that permitted no intrusion.” Torregrosa is intrigued, even though Whitney is married at the time, and to a man.

The success of many relationships can be attributed to good timing. This relationship doesn’t have timing on its side, but both Torregrosa and Whitney make a valiant effort to be with each other. When Whitney is transferred to Manila to cover Ferdinand Marcos in early 1986, Torregrosa quits her high-paying job and follows her heart to Whitney and the political upheaval in the Philippines.

Here, Torregrosa gives readers a detailed look into the fast-paced world of newspaper reporting and editing in the late 1980s. She, Whitney, and their associates witness riots and rub elbows with high-ranking officials.

Everyone is depicted as a larger-than-life character, as if being away from the states heightens a person’s senses and makes the mundane extraordinary.

Torregrosa also devotes significant space to describing her new surroundings.

Sentences that go on for days, comma after comma, can be alternately annoying and enchanting, drawing the reader in to the island rhythm of Manila.

“Out in the water there were dozens of bancas, narrow-tailed boats, loaded with families. Vendors in cutoff shorts and rubber sandals, their skin charcoaled by the sun, their bodies fish-bony and sinewy, waded through the water, carrying boxes of food, beer, and ice cream…Kids jumped naked into the sea, teenagers danced to boom boxes, and men tossed their empty bottles over their shoulders. By midafternoon the beach became quiet, that drowsiness that comes in the tropics as the sun spreads out and mutes everything, and the boats, black silhouettes, lay still.”

For all the words devoted to people and place, Torregrosa is surprisingly reticent when it comes to describing her physical relationship with Whitney. I kept wondering why there was no sex in this book. Not that I need pornography in my fiction, but this is

a tale of “passion…like a seizure, uprooting everything, consuming and transforming, taking possession, and at the same time, freeing spirit and flesh.” For a love story, this memoir lacks the concrete focus on the body that lovers share.

Despite a few deficits, Before the Rain is a good read, especially as we near the end of summer. Torregrosa’s accounts of life abroad and the inexplicable complexities of who we love, and why, and how, made me want to travel to a distant, different world.

Before the Rain: A Memoir of Love and Revolution

By Luisita López Torregrosa Houghton Mifflin Harcourt ISBN: 978-0-547-66920-5 Paperback • 240 p • $25

A Local’s Memoir Tuesday’s Child By Phil Cooper tells the story of the author’s coming out journey through actual psychotherapy sessions. “This memoir will resonate with gay men of Cooper’s generation and is a must-read for younger LGBT who may have no sense of pre-Stonewall gay life,” said former HRC Fund Executive Director Vic Basile.

Cooper was born in raised in a small town on the Eastern Shore. Today he lives in Baltimore.

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Fall Travel

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LGBT-FRIENDLY DAY-TRIPS, WEEKEND GETAWAYS, AND FAR OFF DESTINATIONS While vacationing may be more traditional in the summer months, fall travel can be a perfect option for people looking to avoid summer crowds and summer costs. For this feature we outline a few LGBT-friendly travel opportunities both near and far. Find general ideas about appealing areas as well as fall and LGBT-specific events. Discover even more fall fun at BaltimoreGayLife.com.

Did we miss your favorite spot? Write to us at editor@baltimoregaylife.com (subject line: TRAVEL) for a chance to appear in our next issue.

RAINBOW OVER RICHMOND

Rainbow Over Richmond is a LGBTthemed travel campaign featuring a series of events taking place through October.

“Virginia gets a rap as a conservative state, but growing up in Richmond I can see the city has grown as a culture,” said GayRVA.com founder Kevin Clay. “There is a progressive undercurrent of arts and culture and dining.”

So where are the LGBT spots in Richmond? They’re all over: The Fan is residential neighborhood with shops and dining; downtown Richmond is home to museums, historical attractions, and Godfrey’s drag shows; Carytown has the “mile of style” shopping with lots of independent locally-owned shops, as well as the lesbian bar, Babe’s. And that’s not including the attractions, shops, and clubs found in the River District, Shockoe Bottom, or the Monroe Ward.

This fall, Richmond will host an extensive variety of events that will appeal to just about everyone. Plus local establishments are offering extra incentives to entice visitors.

Learn more at RainbowOverRichmond.com

Festivals VA PrideFest

(Saturday, Sept. 29) Show your pride with live music, DJs, and other performances throughout the day with food, drink, and community vendors.

2nd Street Festival (Oct. 6 & 7)

The hands of time are turned back to the past when 2nd Street was the heart and soul of Richmond’s African-American community.

A Taste of Carytown Food & Wine Festival (Sunday, Oct. 7)

This festival spotlights the amazing food and culinary lifestyle of Carytown.

Arts & Culture Regrets Only (Sept. 19-Oct. 13)

Richmond Triangle Players present a comedy of Manhattan manners by one of RTP’s favorite playwrights, Paul Rudnick.

Lesbian & Gay History Bus Tour (Saturday, Sept. 22)

Explores the people and event that have shaped the community, such as women who passed as men to serve in the military, the literary and café society of the 1920s-40s, and the rise of the LGBT rights movement.

Ongoing Events Drag Brunch

Spend Sunday with queens and mimosas at Godfrey’s Restaurant.

College Hump Night

Check out the university crowd at Godfrey’s each Wednesday with a drag show and dancing.

WIN A TRIP TO RICHMOND!

The grand prize includes a two-night stay for two at the Linden Row Inn, theater tickets to Richmond Triangle Players, and dinner for two. Visit RainbowOverRichmond.com.

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SIX FLAGS GREAT ADVENTURE HOSTS ANNUAL GAY DAY

By Daniel McEvily

Roller coasters, Jersey Housewives, drag queens, and deep-fried twinkies of the literal and figurative versions. Sounds like the perfect way to extend your summer season an extra week longer, right?

Six Flags Great Adventure in Jackson, N.J. will host to its ninth annual “Fairgrounds: Out At Night” on Sept. 14.

Touted by organizers as the largest private LGBT event in the United States, the affair plans to serve up reality show realness this year with appearances by Bravo’s The Real Housewives of New Jersey stars, including Melissa Gorga who will perform her dance hits, “On Display” and “Rockstar.”

Additional appearances include Reichen Lehmkuhl (of The Amazing Race and The A-List New York infamy), fitness expert and star of Bravo’s Thintervention Craig Ramsay, and professional nightlife personality Dina Delicious.

“We are going back to our roots and making this year’s event all about Jersey,” co-founder Mark Nelson said in a statement. “New Jersey used to be the Jan to New York’s Marsha, but thanks to shows like Bravo’s The Real Housewives of New Jersey and glittering stars like Melissa Gorga, the state has emerged as a mecca of fabulosity. Break out the hair gel and spray tan and get ready to fist pump as we celebrate being gay—Jersey style.”

For thrill-seekers, organizers note that all rides will be open for the evening event, including the award-winning El Toro coaster, which features the steepest wooden roller coaster drop in the U.S., and the towering swing ride SkyScreamer, a new addition to the park this year that climbs 24 stories off the ground and then spins around at 40mph.

While many may argue that similar theme park events, such as Gay Days in Orlando, cater to white gay men, organizers are hopeful the September event will be as diverse and inclusive as possible.

“We welcome gay crowds from Washington D.C., Boston, Pittsburgh, and the entire tri-state area. Fairgrounds is truly a coming together of lesbians, twinks, Chelsea boys, bears, homo thugs, club kids, and more—all uniting with pride,” co-founder Gage Kristofer said in a statement.

Organizers estimate more than ten thousand people will attend the event. A portion of the net proceeds will benefit the National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Action Fund.

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FLORIDA'S FULL FALL OF LGBT EVENTS Miami Beach Miami Beach is world renowned for their gay-friendly atmosphere, which organizations like the Miami Beach Visitor and Convention Authority help cultivate through services like the Pink Flamingo Program—which identifies welcoming spaces—and the LGBT Welcome Center.

Here are a few events the LGBT community can enjoy this fall:

events, elaborate performances, and afterhours celebrations. Miami knows how to have fun and it’s all for the great cause of fighting HIV/AIDS. Proceeds benefit Care Resource, an organization that helps Miami-Dade and Broward, two of the hardest hit areas for new HIV infections in the country. For a schedule of events and more information visit WhiteParty.org.

Celebrate ORGULLO Festival (Saturday, October 6)

The world-wide Hispanic LGBT community will gather in Miami Beach for the Celebrate ORGULLO Festival, the first event of its kind showcasing the community during Hispanic Heritage Month. Find more information at UnityCoalition.org.

White Party Week (November 19-26)

Nearly 12,000 people will converge on Miami Beach for the 28th annual White Party Week. Every November this beach city erupts in a weekend of round-theclock beach parties, fashion shows, club

White Party Week The Gay Beach at 12th Street (Year-round)

The gay beach is located at 12th Street and Ocean Drive. It is not too difficult to find, with the rainbow flags marking the territory between two chair rental spots.

LGBT Visitor Center • Miami Beach 305.397.8914 • GoGayMiami.com

Key West Womenfest

(September 4-9) Key West’s Womenfest is a celebration for lesbians and their friends in the island city known for its all-welcoming diversity.

Thousands of singles, couples, and groups are expected to flock to Key West to immerse themselves in activities ranging from women-only water-sports excursions to sizzling late-night dance parties and a trolley tour spotlighting Key West’s LGBT landmarks.

Festival highlights are to include a Curiously Strong Comedy performance by standup comedians Chantal Carrere, Erin Foley, and Sandra Valls; a showing of this year’s indie circuit favorite and award-winning documentary I Stand Corrected and the tantalizing Forbidden Fruit presented by Key West Burlesque.

Find full event information online at WomenFest.com.

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GAY DAY AT HILLWOOD

Paper fashion and floral splendor set the scene when Hillwood Estate, Museum and Gardens unites with the GLBT community for the annual fall favorite, Gay Day. This year, the paper creations of Isabelle de Borchgrave in the exhibition Prêt-a-Papier add an exquisitely fashionable touch to the day of celebration, while the beauty of the cutting garden is tapped for the creation of glorious floral arranging demonstrations.

The day begins with a Family Garden Party with Rainbow Families DC. In the afternoon, all the elements of beauty and cordiality that characterized founder Marjorie Merriweather Post’s life at Hillwood are on display. Attendants can also enjoy performances by Rock Creek Singers of Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington and DC Lambda Squares.

Gay Day

September 15 • 10am- 6pm • $10-15 Hillwood Estate, Museum, & Gardens 4155 Linnean Ave. NW • Wash., DC 202.686.5807 • HillwoodMuseum.org

KINGS DOMINION’S GAY & LESBIAN NIGHT

Gay & Lesbian Night

Kings Dominion • Doswell, VA Saturday, September 8 • 8pm-1am $36, $34 in advance at GayAndLesbianKDNight.com (Do not purchase tickets from Kings Dominion's main site.)

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Kings Dominion amusement park in Doswell, Va., is hosting their annual Gay & Lesbian Night to support Brother, Help Thyself, an organization that provides support to other LGBT non-profits.

Attendants will enjoy unlimited rides (without long lines), DJ Steve Henderson’s dance party, and acres of LGBT people having great fun after dark. All are welcome to Gay & Lesbian Night, including transgender, bisexual, queer, and straight people.

The event is Brother, Help Thyself ’s biggest fundraiser and all proceeds from the day go to the organization.

“It’s just in time, too. We are approaching the end of our grants season and the need in our community is greater than ever,” said Brother, Help Thyself President Bradley “Thumper Bear” Hill. He added that the organization has drastically reduced overhead expenses and strengthened community ties over the last five years. Over the last 35 years, Brother, Help Thyself has given out over $2.3 million in grants to start-up and grassroots LGBT non-profit organizations throughout Maryland, Virginia, and Washington, D.C.

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Fall Travel PROVINCETOWN:

A FABULOUS FALL DESTINATION

By Steve Charing

Most have at least heard of Provincetown, Mass. even if you hadn’t visited this historic little town located on the tip of Cape Cod. With a population of just over 3,000, the one-time fishing and whaling center and artists’ colony has emerged as a trendy vacation spot for lots of people— gay and straight.

Provincetown gained in popularity as a tourist attraction in the 1960s and 1970s and was a haven for gay men from the Northeast. Now vacationers come from all over the U.S. and the world. In recent years, an increasing number of lesbians have discovered this hot spot, familiarly referred to as “P-Town.”

Same-sex couples can walk hand-inhand down Commercial Street—P-Town’s main corridor—and feel perfectly comfortable as they pass numerous straight couples with their children in tow. And the reverse is true: straight families observe gay couples arm-in-arm without even blinking an eye. They are fully aware that Provincetown is one of the most gayfriendly stops on any vacation itinerary, so the blending comes easily.

While P-Town is a magnet during the summer months, its allure is quite prominent during the fall and winter. There are smaller crowds to contend with, the ocean water temperature at its beautiful beaches is more temperate, and many guest houses have fireplaces to mitigate the New England chill as well as off-season price reductions to help with your budget.

Provincetown’s famous stage acts continue through September, and the piano bars and karaoke events occur throughout the fall and beyond. Celebrities from all over come to perform. For example, Kate Clinton was in town this summer. P-Town regular Miss Richfield 1981 is a must-see for an uproarious time as well as Dina Martina’s amazing piano bar show.

Most of the guest houses, as well as the other businesses in town, are gay- or lesbian-owned. Although the rooms are often “cozy,” these houses offer many amenities.

In many ways, P-Town is timeless. The ice cream cones and pizza have always been tasty. The Lobster Pot restaurant is iconic.

The cabarets and street theater are as outrageous and campy as ever. The slogans on

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t-shirts are hilarious.

A stroll along Commercial Street is a delight not only to shop but also to snack, dine, or enjoy people-watching. Many visitors bring dogs, so it can seem like a veritable dog show. There are art galleries as well as businesses that sell jewelry, leather goods, upscale clothing, antiques, books, and fine gifts.

A good number of visitors partake in bicycling at various land trails at the edges of the town or even inside P-Town center.

There are several bike rentals available, as well as gyms (check out MusselBeach.net).

P-Town is known for its beaches on the other side of the dunes. You can reach the beach by car, bike, or on foot; it’s pretty close to the town center. There are gay and lesbian sections on the beach for further sightseeing and a neat way to make new friends.

Whale watching from a boat is a popular pastime during the day, and you can purchase tickets at the pier in the center of town. This attraction continues through the fall.

There are restaurants aplenty. Seafood is king in P-Town, especially lobster and clams, but there are a multitude of options to go with every taste. The better restaurants are by no means cheap but the food is consistently excellent as well as the casual and often scenic atmosphere.

For LGBT visitors, The Boatslip Resort (BoatslipResort.com), overlooking the bay, is world famous for its popular happy hour on the outside deck along with the high-energy daily tea dance. It operates through October.

For LGBT folks, a good choice of bars is available for nighttime amusement.

The Crown & Anchor complex (OnlyAtTheCrown.com) is enjoyed by everyone. For women, the Pied Piper is a favorite. Men like the A-House, The Vault, Club Purgatory, and the Gifford House as well as other establishments.

Bars close at 1am, and afterwards, crowds descend upon Spiritus Pizza on Commercial Street.

P-Town is a fabulous place. Check out Ptown.org and Provincetown.com for events, lodging, dining, entertainment, shopping, and even marriage information.

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REAL LIFE

NATIONAL & INTERNATIONAL NEWS

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Republican V.P. Nominee Paul Ryan on LGBT Rights NATIONWIDE Mitt Romney selected Rep. Paul Ryan, RWisc. to be his running mate. Ryan’s voting record on LGBT rights (via The Advocate) includes the following: • Ryan voted against the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) in 2011.

• In 2009, Ryan voted against the Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act, which ultimately passed.

• During his time in Congress, Ryan voted in favor of the 2007 Employment NonDiscrimination Act (ENDA), a protection against employment discrimination based on sexual orientation. The language of the bill did not include gender identity.

• Ryan has stated that he is for “traditional marriage,” and voted in favor of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) twice, in 2004 and 2006.

Legislator Becomes First Pansexual Elected Official TEXAS Mary Gonzales is set to become the nation’s first pansexual legislature. Gonzales, a Democrat from El Paso, is running unopposed in PAGE 20

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her district. In May, Gonzalez made international headlines as “Texas’ first openly lesbian representative,” but in an exclusive interview with the Dallas Voice Gonzales said that her sexual identity is more fluid. Identifying first as a bisexual, Gonzalez told the Dallas Voice that she ultimately realized “the term bisexual [wasn’t] encompassing of a gender spectrum that I was dating and attracted to.”

“As I started to recognize the gender spectrum and dated along the gender spectrum, I was searching for words that connected to that reality, for words that embraced the spectrum,” she said.

Brigadier General Becomes First Out Military Flag Officer VIRGINIA Tammy Smith has become the first openly gay flag officer since the decision to overturn DADT. She was promoted to the rank of Brigadier General in a private ceremony on Aug. 10 at the Women’s Memorial at Arlington National Cemetery and received her stars from her wife, Tracey Hepner.

“It is a great day for our military and for our nation when this courageous leader is finally able to recognize her wife for her support and sacrifice in the same way that all military families should be recognized for their service to our country,” said Sue Fulton, a 1980 West Point graduate and member of the OutServe Board of Directors.

Romney Opposes Boy Scouts Gay Ban NATIONWIDE While opposed to marriage equality, GOP presidential hopeful Mitt Romney is in favor of allowing gay members into the Boy Scouts of America (BSA). In an email from Romney spokeswoman Andrea Saul to the Associated Press, Saul said that Romney’s position on gay membership is the same as it was when he ran for Ted Kennedy’s U.S. Senate seat in Massachusetts in 1994. At a debate with Kennedy during that race, Romney said that while he supported the right of the BSA to determine their own policies, he personally believes “all people should be allowed to participate in the Boy Scouts regardless of their sexual orientation.”

Two Gay Man Shot in Baltimore MARYLAND Two local men were shot in the early morning hours of Aug. 10. The men, both gay and residents of Mount Vernon, were standing on the front steps of a building near the Belvedere Hotel on E. Chase Street. Lawrence R. Peterson, 56, and Joseph Alexander “Alex” Ulrich, Jr., 40, were taken to Johns Hopkins Hospital where Ulrich died several hours later. As of press time Peterson was still in a coma. While the motive behind the shoot-

ing remains unclear, police officials say that it is unlikely it was a hate crime.

US to Consider Same-Sex Marriages in Deportation Cases NATIONWIDE The Department of Homeland Security will now consider same-sex relationships in deportation cases. House Democratic Leader Nancy Pelosi and more than 80 other members of Congress urged the Obama administration to stop deporting the gay and lesbian spouses of U.S. citizens while the courts decide on the constitutionality of DOMA. In the new policy, a long-term relationship between an American citizen and foreign individual constitutes the type of “close family ties” that would lead the department to consider an immigration case a “low priority.”

Pussy Riot Gets Two Years for Protest RUSSIA Three members of the all-girl punk band Pussy Riot were found guilty of hooliganism driven by “religious hatred and enmity” and sentenced to two years in prison. The three were arrested in March after performing an anti-Putin “punk prayer” inside Moscow’s main cathedral. Pussy Riot has garnered GAY LIFE MAGAZINE

world-wide support, but Reuters reports that polls show few Russians sympathize with them. Vladimir Putin, who returned to the presidency for a third term in May after a four-year spell as prime minister, has said the women did “nothing good” but should not be judged too harshly.

LGBT Pride House Banned at Sochi Winter Olympics '14 RUSSIA The 2014 Winter Olympic Games are scheduled to take place in Sochi, Russia.

However, the LGBT Pride House—a home exclusively for LGBT athletes, their families, friends, and allies—has been banned from Olympic Village. Russia, a nation unfriendly to the LGBT community passed a “gay-gag rule” law earlier this year, which essentially criminalizes all LGBT expression.

Zimbabwe LGBT Organization Raided ZIMBABWE Fourty-four LGBT rights activists were detained during a raid on the headquarters of the Gays and Lesbians of Zimbabwe (GALZ) Association in Harare. According to Times Live, the raid came just as activists were preparing for the launch of a report on abuses against gays and lesbians in the country. Homosexuality is outlawed the country and President Robert Mugabe has referred to gays as being “worse than dogs and pigs.” In a statement addressing the incident, GALZ claimed that that some of the activists were punched and kicked, adding; “police, some of them visibly drunk, assaulted most of the members using baton sticks.”

Lebanese Citizens Protest Anal Exams on Suspected Gays LEBANON Dozens of people gathered outside the courts in Beirut to protest the use of anal “tests” on men suspected of homosexuality, a criminal offence in the Arab country. According to the AFP, the rally was held in response to the July 28 police raid on a gay venue. Thirtysix men were taken into custody and forced to undergo the examinations, reportedly to determine their sexual orientation. Lebanon-based HELEM, considered the Arab world’s leading LGBT rights group, also voiced solidarity with women subjected to so-called “virginity tests” and called for the rally under the slogan: “Stand up against the tests of shame, vaginal or anal.”

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Rights Expanded in Germany GERMANY Gay and lesbian couples in Germany have been awarded the same tax benefits as heterosexual couples. Germany’s Constitutional Court ruled that gay couples that have entered into a “registered partnership,” the German legal phrase for relationships similar to marriage, must be exempted from the country’s land transfer tax just like straight married couples, according to a court news release.

Australian Official Defends Marriage Equality, Parenting AUSTRALIA Australian Finance Minister, Penny Wong, penned a passionate defense of marriage equality and parenting for the magazine SALife, imploring Australians to “not doubt parent’s love for their child simply because they’re gay.” Sen. Wong, an out lesbian, recently became a mother. Presently, same sex couples do not have equal marriage rights in Australia, but two marriage equality bills will go before the federal parliament this year.

National Affairs reports that the premiers of South Australia and Tasmania have told gay rights supporters they will legislate for same-sex marriage regardless of what federal parliament does.

Scotland Supports Marriage Equality SCOTLAND Scotland is set to become the first part of the U.K. to officially sanction same-sex marriage, even though most Scots disapprove of the decision. According to the BBC, the largest pushback against marriage equality is from the Catholic Church and the Church of Scotland. The government, however, is pressing ahead anyway. Deputy First Minister Nicola Sturgeon made it clear that no religious body will be forced to conduct same-sex marriages.

Oxford Amends Dress Code ENGLAND Oxford University amended its strict dress code out of concern for transgender students.

Students taking exams or attending formal occasions will no longer have to wear ceremonial clothing that is specific to their gender. As a result, men will be able to sit tests in skirts and stockings and women will have the option of wearing suits and bow ties.

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OUR LIFE

POLITICS

Marriage Equality on the Ballot: What You Can Do

BY JOSH LEVIN, CAMPAIGN MANAGER FOR MARYLANDERS FOR MARRIAGE EQUALITY The marriage equality referendum now seems much more real. The ballot language is out and marriage is Question 6.

We need each and every one of you to get out and vote FOR 6.

The polls look good; we have the momentum and would win if the election were today. But it’s not today, and we have a lot of work to do to get over the finish line. Our well-funded opponents will be coming at us with everyone they’ve got.

The support of marriage equality by President Obama was a critical moment for the country, but also for Maryland.

He came to Baltimore in May and said, “We’re moving forward to a country where we treat everybody fairly and everybody equally, with dignity and respect. Here in Maryland … you have a chance to reaffirm that principle in the voting booth in November. [Voting for the new same-sex marriage law is] the right thing to do.”

The Baltimore-based NAACP soon followed suit by their—also historic—endorsement of marriage equality. Both they and the President, and people of faith, have ignited the conversation in the state. And we know the more people talk about marriage equality, the more people support it.

But this isn’t enough. The conversation has to keep going around your dinner tables with your parents, grandparents, co-workers and Facebook.

Here’s how to have those conversations: Talk about gays and lesbians getting a civil marriage license down at the courthouse—not at a church. Drawing the distinction is key. Churches and other religious institutions don’t have to marry anyone they don’t want to. We’re only talking about protecting all loving couples under the law.

Meet people where they are. Americans understand that people’s views evolve on this issue and the idea that people can be on a journey on this issue gives people the space to change their own mind. Folks should come to this issue in their own space and timetable.

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Marylanders, like all Americans, have a basic sense of fairness. Focus on why this is important for the thousands of LGBT couples in the state: we treat people fairly and equally under the law.

And above all else, make it personal.

Take Irene Huskens’ story. She served our country all of her adult life—first in the U.S. Air Force and now as a police officer in Prince George’s County. Her partner has also taken a path of public service.

Professionally, they are right where they want to be and are very fortunate.

But personally for them, things are in a different place. They want to marry each other. They want to stand before family and friends to make that public promise.

It’s part of their American dream.

Besides having the critical conversations, here’s what else you can do: Register to vote. Supporting marriage is one thing but voting is what counts.

Host a house party or other volunteer event.

Tell your story in the media. The most effective way to change hearts and minds is for the 12,000 gay and lesbian Maryland couples, their families, and friends to talk about why marriage is so important.

Donate. Our opponents are well funded. Consider making a donation on MarylandersForMarriageEquality.org, no matter how small.

We’re close to making history in the state but only with your help. Let’s get this done!

Beginner Yoga With Yoga Therapist Tim Hurley

Sundays at 3:30pm (please arrive a few minutes early) Room 201 at The GLCCB 241 W. Chase St. Cost is $9 www.glccb.org 410.837.5445 A portion of the cost is donated back to The GLCCB

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BETTER LIFE

QUEER HEALTH

To Quit...or...To Quit

BY ALICIA GABRIEL AND JENINE DAVIS, CHASE BREXTON HEALTH SERVICES More than 80 percent of us started our tobacco habit when we were school-aged and freshly educated about the ills of smoking and tobacco use. Now, 5, 15, 30 years later, we are officially addicted to our tobacco of choice. Maryland is fourth highest in the nation in terms of tobacco use. A total of 45.3 million (19.3 percent) adults nationally smoke cigarettes.

LGBT individuals are 40-70 percent more likely to smoke than heterosexuals.

Several factors such as higher levels of social stress, frequent patronage of bars and clubs, higher rates of alcohol and drug use, and direct targeting of LGBT consumers by the tobacco industry may be related to higher prevalence rates of tobacco use among some LGBT people.

NO MATTER HOW YOU USE IT

Smoked, snuffed, or chewed, tobacco on its own contains more than 19 known cancercausing chemicals (most are called “tar”).

All tobacco use increases risks for heart and blood vessel problems, cancers, poor wound healing, lung problems, problems during pregnancy, and vision loss.

Cigarette smoking is the cause of 87 percent of lung cancer deaths. Smoking is also (conservatively) estimated to be the cause of death for more than 30,000 LGBT individuals each year.

LIVE WITH A SMOKER, DIE LIKE A SMOKER

In the U.S., 50,000 people will die from secondhand smoke this year. Secondhand smokers have a higher risk of heart attacks and heart disease, lung cancer, and respiratory issues. Infants and children who are regularly exposed to secondhand smoke are at risk of asthma, virus-caused upper respiratory infections, lung damage, and sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Eliminating smoking in indoor spaces is the only way to fully protect nonsmokers from secondhand smoke exposure. Separating smokers from nonsmokers, cleaning the air, and ventilating buildings does not eliminate exposure.

JUST QUIT IT

Maybe it’s the fact that we can’t taste food, or our skin is dry, or can’t get up the stairs without our lungs going into shock, but we’re ready to quit. Can we do it? The key is to be prepared.

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1 – Know what to expect.

Common withdrawal symptoms include: • An intense craving for nicotine • Anxiety, tension, irritability, depression, frustration, or impatience • Difficulty concentrating • Drowsiness or trouble sleeping, as well as bad dreams and nightmares • Headaches • Increased appetite and weight gain 2 – Pick a quit date and make a list of all the reasons you’d like to quit.

Do it for yourself not because you were nagged into it or you want to win a bet.

3 – Don’t do it alone.

“Studies have shown that having support through the process gives you a better chance of success,” notes Jenine Davis, Peer Addictions Specialist and smoking cessation educator at Chase Brexton Health Services.

4 – Don’t quit on quitting.

Nicotine is highly addictive and hard to quit.

It may take several attempts before your quitting sticks.

Quitting Resources TELEPHONE SUPPORT

Maryland’s Smoking Quitline 800-QUIT-NOW (800.784.8669) SmokingStopsHere.com American Cancer Society Quitline 800.ACS.2345 (800.227.2345) ONLINE

BecomeanEX.org SmokeFree.gov FREE SMOKING CESSATION CLASSES

Visit 211md.org or call 2-1-1 for classes near you. The Baltimore City Health Department supports community health centers, like Chase Brexton Health Center in Mt. Vernon, in providing smoking cessation classes FREE for the public. Call 410.545.1530 for locations. Visit ChaseBrexton.org or call 410.837.2050 ext. 1700 for information on their free, 6-week smoking cessation class, Mondays 5:30-7pm.

The next class begins Oct. 8.

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BETTER LIFE

FINANCES

Estate Planning for Same-Sex Couples and Domestic Partners

BY GARY ANDERSON, JD, CPA, PRINCIPAL, GLASS JACOBSON AND STEVE SHANE, PRINCIPAL, OFFIT KURMAN While few people enjoy talking about death or disability, basic estate planning is essential for “domestic partners.”

In states where lesbian and gay couples cannot legally marry, the relationships of same-sex partners are governed generally by contract law. Because of the confusing patchwork of rights afforded to same-sex couples across state lines, having a comprehensive plan in place covering all aspects of planning is vital.

ESTATE PLANNING

If an individual does not have a will, living trust, or any other legal designation for transferring property, his or her property will be distributed under the state’s intestacy laws, generally requiring that property pass to certain specified family members, such a spouse, children, or parents.

If the relationship is not recognized by the law, the partners are not related to each other and intestacy rules will not apply.

Lack of proper planning could result in an individual’s partner being evicted from their home, denied access to shared possessions, or having to wage legal battle against relatives.

ESTATE AND GIFT TAX

Under federal law, a married person can transfer unlimited assets to his or her spouse by gift during his or her lifetime or by bequest at death with no federal gift or estate tax consequences. With the passage of the same sex marriage bill, the State of Maryland could soon offer the same protections for same-sex married couples. Until that law is enacted, it is important to plan for the potential imposition of estate or inheritance tax.

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partners. A surviving spouse may roll over a deceased spouse’s retirement plan into his or her own plan, but this option is not available to unmarried partners. This may result in the distributions (and resulting taxes) beginning sooner than would have been required by a surviving spouse.

Life Insurance

Life insurance may be a useful tool for unmarried individuals. Properly employed, the proceeds of a life insurance policy can avoid both income and estate taxes. The proceeds of life insurance are paid to the named beneficiary(ies).

The proceeds can be used to pay estate taxes for someone who did not want to make gifts during life. Also, naming a domestic partner as the beneficiary in a life insurance policy or life insurance policy owned by a trust may protect their right to inherit if there is a possibility that a will might be contested.

POWERS OF ATTORNEY

A financial power of attorney requires that the person choose an agent to make decisions regarding financial matters and property. This is essential to protect your assets in the event you become physically or mentally unable to handle financial matters.

By naming a partner as your agent for making financial decisions, he or she can act on your behalf to pay expenses, collect benefits, watch over your investments and file taxes should you be unable. Without this, family members, rather than your partner, may gain controlling interest in your affairs.

CONCLUSION

It is important for unmarried partners to have legal documents such as wills and powers of attorney in place, and review all beneficiary designations. Without these documents, partners may not be able to take care of one another in the event of illness and the survivor may be left with nothing at the first partner’s death. Properly preparing for such contingencies will bring peace of mind to you and your family.

TAXES

Maryland Same-Sex Couples May Be Afforded Same Estate Tax Treatment as Heterosexual Couples

BY YALE M. GINSBURG, ESQ We cannot avoid death and taxes.

When a Marylander dies, two state estate death taxes may apply. A Maryland estate tax applies to an estate in excess of $1 million. Additionally, an inheritance tax may be at 0, 1, or 10 percent.

There is an exemption from both of these taxes for assets passing to a spouse. A spouse was understood as a member of a heterosexual marriage, but a recently enacted Maryland law has changed that.

On Feb. 24, 2012, the Maryland Legislature passed the Civil Marriage Protection Act (the “Act”). On March 1, Governor O’Malley signed the Act into law. Prior to the Act’s enactment, the statute stated that “only a marriage between a man and a woman is valid in this state.”

The Act now provides that “only a marriage between two individuals who are not otherwise prohibited from marrying is valid in the state.” The statute goes on to list those individuals who are prohibited from marrying, but it does not exclude the marriage of a samesex couple. Therefore, by negative inference, a same-sex couple now can be legally married in Maryland.

The Civil Marriage Protection Act is scheduled to take effect for decedents dying on or after Jan. 1, 2013. However, a referendum on same-sex marriage in Maryland will be brought to the voters as part of this November’s ballot. Only time will tell whether the new Civil Marriage Protection Act will remain the law of the land for Maryland.

But if it does, it will have major tax implications for some Maryland residents.

Previously, a same-sex couple had no legal status in terms of

inheritance tax. With one limited exception, all assets passing from a same-sex decedent to a partner would be subject to a 10 percent inheritance tax. This tax applied to the first dollar of assets passing from the decedent to the partner.

The only exception to this rule was in a situation where the samesex couple was qualified as being in a domestic partnership, and where the joint primary residence passed from the decedent to the same-sex partner. In that situation, the value of the primary residence would not be subject to inheritance tax.

The inheritance tax rules provide an exception for assets passing to a decedent’s “spouse.” While the term “spouse” is not defined under the inheritance tax rules, the Act defines a marriage as being between “two individuals” who are not prohibited from marrying; therefore a same-sex couple who marries in Maryland now will be each other’s spouse.

The Maryland estate tax statute does not have its own list of exemptions. However, the Maryland estate tax statute follows the Federal estate tax statute in terms of allowing an exemption for assets passing to a “spouse.” Using the same analysis as above for the Maryland inheritance tax, there should be no Maryland estate tax assessed on assets passing from a descent to a same-sex spouse.

Yale M. Ginsburg is a member of the law firm of Adelberg, Rudow, Dorf & Hendler, LLC. He concentrates his practice in estate planning and administration, and general tax planning. For more information, call 410.539.5195 or visit AdelbergRudow.com.

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BSCENE

Femme Conference 2012 PHOTOS BY CHRIS JENNINGS

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SPOTLIGHT

SOCIAL LIFE

DATEBOOK

BY RACHEL ROTH

SATURDAY, SEPT. 1

TUESDAY, SEPT. 11

Baltimore Frontrunners

Rainbow Youth Alliance of Howard County

LGBTQ running/walking club.

Every Saturday Morning 8:45am • Brunch 10am Panera Bread • 3600 Boston St. BaltimoreFrontrunners.org

Support for LGBTQ teens and allies.

Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia 410.280.9047 • rya_leaders@hotmail.com PFLAGMD.org

The Temperamentals

Rainbow Youth Alliance of Baltimore County

Described as Mad Men meets Milk, this play explores the pre-Stonewall movement.

8pm with Post-show Reception $15-40 • Thru 9/16 Howard Community College • Columbia 443.518.1500 • RepStage.org

Support for LGBTQ teens and allies.

FREE • 7:30-9:30pm Towson Unitarian Universalist Church 1710 Dulaney Valley Rd. RYABaltimoreCounty@gmail.com PFLAGBaltimore.org

Renaissance Festival

Anniversary Gay Bingo at the Hippo!

Club Hippo will be crowded to the rafters with hordes of jolly folks celebrating the 11th anniversary of Gay Bingo on Sept. 26.

“The tremendous long-standing support of Chuck Bowers and all the staff at the Hippo is incredible,” said GLCCB Board President Bud Beehler. Under the leadership of Club Hippo General Manager and weekly Bingo host Roger Dimick, Gay Bingo has raised over $120,000 in the past 11 years to benefit the GLCCB. Last year was a sold out event, so advanced tickets are encouraged. Purchase tickets by calling the GLCCB at 410.837.5445 or visiting the Hippo during regular business hours. Tickets are $20 in advance ($25 at the door) and include 25 bingo games for cash prizes of $25 and up. Weekly, the doors for Gay Bingo open as 8pm with games beginning at 8:30pm sharp.

ANNIVERSARY GAY BINGO

Wednesday, Sept. 26 • $20-25 8pm Doors • 8:30 Games Club Hippo • 1 W. Eager St. W410.547.0018 T ClubHippo.com

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Merriment abounds at the 36th annual festival. $8-22 • Thru 10/21 Revel Grove • Crownsville RennFest.com

Sundance 2012

A two-night benefit for Rehoboth's LGBT community center. $45-80 • Continues on 9/2 CAMP Rehoboth Community Center 37 Baltimore Ave. • Rehoboth Beach, DE CampRehoboth.com

Federal Hill Ghost Tour

One-hour guided walking tour with tales of murder, mystery, and legend. $10-15 • Saturdays 6 & 8:30pm Scarborough Fair Bed & Breakfast 801 S. Charles St. FederalHillGhostTour.ticketleap.com

TUESDAY, SEPT. 4 How to Drive a Vulva

Learn to navigate the twists and turns of female sexuality in a workshop for all genders. $20 • 6:30pm Sugar the Shop • 927 W. 36th St. BrownPaperTickets.com/event/265714

WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 5 Gay BINGO!

Cash prizes and progressive jackpot.

Drink specials, appetizers, and raffles.

Every Wednesday Evening Benefits GLCCB • 8:30pm Club Hippo • 1 W. Eager St. 410.547.0018 • ClubHippo.com

Transgender Issues Working Group

Meets every other Wednesday.

Registration required.

FREE • 7pm Equality Maryland • 1201 S. Sharp St. Owen@EqualityMaryland.org

Howard County PFLAG Monthly Meeting

Raid of the Rainbow Lounge

Award-winning documentary honors the beginning of Latino GLBT History Project’s Hispanic LGBTQ Heritage celebration.

FREE • 7-9:30pm Marvin Center Amphitheatre, GWU 800 21st St. N.W. • Washington, D.C. LatinoGLBTHistory.org

THURSDAY, SEPT. 6 Fashion’s Night Out

Join editors, stars, models, fashionistas, and designers.

6pm • Power Plant Live • 34 Market Pl. FashionsNightOut.com BaltimoreFashionAlliance.org

FRIDAY, SEPT. 7 Pulse

Eight strangers collide on a city street exploring what it is to live and survive in today’s world. $11-22 • 8pm • Thru 9/16 Theater Project • 45 W. Preston St. TheatreProject.org

SATURDAY, SEPT. 8 Baltimore Frontrunners

(See listing under Sept. 1)

The Legwarmers

Baltimore’s beloved '80s cover band performs. $17 • 7pm Rams Head Live • 20 Market Place RamsHeadLive.com Have a calendar listing? Send it to

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For parents & friends of LGBTQ children.

FREE • 7:30pm Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia PFLAGMD.org

WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 12 Gay BINGO!

(See listing under Sept. 5)

Lesbian, Feminist & Hip-Hop in Cuba

Performing artists celebrate the power and beauty of women of color.

Noon-1:30pm Freedom Square • Towson University Towson.edu

THURSDAY, SEPT. 13 Married in Spandex

Short film viewing and fundraiser for Marriage Equality. $75 • 5:30-8:30-pm University of Baltimore School of Law 1415 Maryland Ave. MarylandersForMarriageEquality.org/events

GLCCB Fundraiser at Pazo

DJ Lady Miss Kier of Deee-Lite performs a DJ set with proceeds benefitting the GLCCB. Drink specials and dancing all night. $10-15 • 9pm Pazo • 1425 Aliceanna St. 410.534.7296 • PazoRestaurant.com

FRIDAY, SEPT. 14 Season Preview Concert

A sneak peak at the Meyerhoff’s upcoming season. $10 • 8pm • Meyerhoff Symphony Hall 1212 Cathedral St. BSOMusic.org

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SATURDAY, SEPT. 15 Baltimore Frontrunners

(See listing under Sept. 1)

Ailey II: Alvin Ailey’s American Dance Theatre

World-renowned dance company performs. $20-100 • 2 & 7:30pm Towson University • 8000 York Rd. AlvinAiley.org

United Night OUT

Yappy Hour

Wine, cheese, and four-legged friends.

FREE • Camp Bow Wow 7165 Oakland Mills Rd. • Columbia CampBowWow.com

Murder on the Vine

A wine tasting turns into the site of a grizzly murder. Play armchair detective to solve whodunnit! $50 • 6:30pm • The Manor Tavern 15819 Old York Road • Monkton WhoDunnitForHire.com

Westminster PFLAG Monthly Meeting

For parents & friends of LGBTQ children.

FREE • 5pm St. Paul’s United Church of Christ 17 Bond St. • Westminster PFLAGWCC.org

Adrianne Gonzalez, Garrison Starr & Maia Sharp

An evening with a supergroup of female singer/songwriters. $22.50 • 8pm • Rams Head on Stage 33 West St. • Annapolis RamsHeadOnStage.com

THURSDAY, SEPT. 20

Dan Choi

The US Army 1st Lt. who challenged DADT, speaks as part of the MSE Symposium: The Power of the Individual.

Johns Hopkins University JHU.edu/mse

WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 19 Gay BINGO!

(See listing under Sept. 5)

Transgender Issues Working Group

Meets every other Wednesday.

Registration required • FREE • 7pm Equality Maryland • 1201 S. Sharp St. Owen@EqualityMaryland.org

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THURSDAY, SEPT. 27 National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day

Napwa.org

Join the Bad Girls of Opera for an evening benefitting the educational programs of Lyric Opera.

9pm • Pazo • 1425 Aliceanna St. 410.534.7296 • PazoRestaurant.com

MONDAY, SEPT. 24 Town Hall Meeting

Share suggestions, concerns, or questions about LGBT issues and how your community center can respond.

7pm • The GLCCB • 241 W. Chase St. 410.837.5445 • GLCCB.org

TUESDAY, SEPT. 25 Margaret Cho’s “Mother”

Group for parents of LGBTQ children interested in support or helping others.

Meets on the third Monday of each month.

FREE • 7:30-9pm Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia PFLAGMD.org

TheAIDSInstitute.org • AIDS.gov

Madonna

The world tour finally comes to town. $48-358 • 8pm Thru 9/23 Verizon Center 601 F St. N.W. • Washington, D.C. VerizonCenter.com

(See Spotlight) 8:30pm • Club Hippo • 1 W. Eager St. 410.547.0018 • ClubHippo.com

Pazo

PFLAG Howard County Parent Forum

National HIV/AIDS and Aging Awareness Day

ANNIVERSARY BINGO!

Roma Mafia presents sexy, cerebral, diverse queer burlesque. $5-15 • Doors • 7pm The Windup Space • 12 W. North Ave. TheWindupSpace.com

MONDAY, SEPT. 17

TUESDAY, SEPT. 18

Baltimore Frontrunners

(See listing under Sept. 1)

Best of Burlesque(er): Femme-A-Peel!

Barry Manilow

SUNDAY, SEPT. 16

WEDNESDAY, SEPT. 26

SUNDAY, SEPT. 23

The night is hosted by the Federal Triangles Soccer Club. $25-30 • 7pm RFK Stadium • 2400 E. Capitol St. S.E. Washington, D.C. FederalTriangles.org

The pop legend performs in town for one night only. $20-130 • 7:30pm 1st Mariner Arena • 201 W. Baltimore St. BaltimoreArena.com

SATURDAY, SEPT. 22

(See article p. 13) Nothing is sacred. $30 • 6 & 9pm • Rams Head On Stage 33 West St. • Annapolis RamsHeadOnStage.com

Rainbow Youth Alliance of Howard County

Dining Out for Life

More than 50 restaurants in the Baltimore metropolitan area and the surrounding counties will donate 2050% of their sales to Moveable Feast.

Thru 9/21 MFeast.org/events/dofl

(See listing under Sept. 11)

Rainbow Youth Alliance of Baltimore County

(See listing under Sept. 11)

Parents of Transgender Kids Support Group

Celebrate the Straight Eights’ 30th Anniversary with an 80s-themed party. $180-205 • Thru 9/23 Rehoboth Beach, DE Straight8s.net

Support and Q&A for parents of transgender kids. Meets on the 4th Tuesday of every month.

FREE • 7:30-9pm Owen Brown Interfaith Center 7246 Cradlerock Way • Columbia cvhyde@gmail.com • PFLAGBaltimore.org

FRIDAY, SEPT. 21

PFLAG Baltimore County General Meeting

Straights Beach Ball

A Midsummer Night’s Dream

This September, the Glass Mind Theater is going to uncover a whole new side of the woods. $8-12 • 8pm • Thru 10/7 LOF/t • 120 W. North Ave. GlassMindTheatre.com

For parents & friends of LGBTQ children.

FREE • 7pm Towson Unitarian Universalist Church 1710 Dulaney Valley Rd. PFLAGBaltimore.org

Thunder Thigh Revue

Joyce Scott and Kay Lawal-Muhammad reprise their award-winning show about being women of substance. $11-22 • 8pm Theatre Project • 45 W. Preston St. TheatreProject.org

FRIDAY, SEPT. 28 50-Fest from Page to the Stage

Celebrate the live performance and art in the community.

FREE • Noon-8pm • Thru 9/30 Mount Vernon Centerstage.org

Invited: The Anniversary List

International and local artists partner with Station North businesses to celebrate anniversaries.

5pm • Station North StationNorth.org/finalfridays

My America

World Premiere of a collection of 50 original monologues by many of the nation’s leading playwrights.

7pm • Centerstage • 700 N. Calvert St. Centerstage.org

SATURDAY, SEPT. 29 Baltimore Frontrunners

(See listing under Sept. 1)

SUNDAY, SEPT. 30 Street Beat Fest

Federal Hill’s biggest festival of the year.

FREE • 11am-7pm Federal Hill • S. Charles & Cross Sts. HistoricFederalHill.org

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DELICIOUS LIFE

Doing Good While Dining Out

BY TED BLANKENSHIP

On Sept. 20, you can Dine Out for Life at one of dozens of participating restaurants and at least 20 percent of your bill will be donated to Moveable Feast.

This year, you can Dine Out for Life on two days! On Sept. 21, Gertrude’s at the Baltimore Museum of Art is hosting a special Dining Out for Life Day, where 50 percent of your bill, from lunch or dinner, will be donated to Moveable Feast.

In the past year, Moveable Feast has provided over 700,000 meals to 3,300 people living in Baltimore City and across Maryland. The meals are delivered to the homes of people who are living with AIDS, breast cancer, and other critical illnesses. The meals that Moveable Feast provides are nutritious and free, since their clients are all fighting poverty as well. The need for Moveable Feast's services continues to increase, especially in Baltimore City, which continues to be disproportionally affected by AIDS. Dining Out for Life is an event that is open to everyone. You don’t have to pur-

“Dining Out for Life is a wonderful opportunity to have a great dinner and to know that you’re contributing to such a worthy cause: helping Moveable Feast deliver food that saves lives.”

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chase a ticket—just dine out at a participating restaurant. Whether you like fine dining, like Gertrude’s, or prefer a place to grab some lunch, like the Mount Vernon Stables—there’s a place for everyone at the Dining out for Life table. And because between 20 and 50 percent of your bill will be donated to the life-saving work of Moveable Feast, you can have an extra appetizer, or dessert, and know that you are helping out your neighbors in need.

(Clockwise from Top) Staff and volunteers at Moveable Feast, brunch at Gertrude's, and flourless chocolate cake at Gertrude's

VOLUNTEER AMBASSADORS

LONGTIME PARTICIPATING RESTAURANT: GERTRUDE’S

Gertrude’s has been participating in Dining Out for Life since 2004. In addition to donating 50 percent, Chef and Owner John Shields has also served as the chairperson for the event.

“We participate because it’s the right thing to do,” said Shields. “The normal mission of a restaurant is to provide hospitality to guests, and what better way to spread the hospitality around than participating in Dining Out for Life.

By coming out for a night on the town, our guests, in effect, partner with us to provide hospitality and nutritious food to folks in need via Moveable Feast. It’s a win-win for all.”

Volunteers also contribute to the success of Dining Out for Life. Each restaurant is assigned a volunteer “ambassador.”

This individual works to fill the restaurant where they are assigned with their friends and family, to help drive business to the restaurant that evening. Additionally, they act as informal hosts throughout the evening, greeting diners and thanking them for Dining Out for Life while sharing information about Moveable Feast.

Gertrude’s attributes a lot of the success of their event to their longtime, hardworking ambassador Phil Cooper. Cooper has been their ambassador every year that they’ve participated.

“The reason I do this is because it is my opportunity to make a difference to those living with HIV/AIDS,” said Cooper.

“By stopping at every table and introducing myself, I am able to not only elicit contributions but also bring the Moveable Feast message to people who have no idea what we do, or maybe even that we exist. It’s a great pleasure for me to know that my efforts can be rewarded and that I can see the difference I make right in front of my eyes.”

DONATIONS & PRIZES

In addition to restaurants donating proceeds from the evening, each diner has an opportunity to make a donation while dining. Diners also have a chance to enter a Dining Out for Life drawing, where they can win some incredible prizes. This year, the prizes include Kathy Griffin tickets, a new 16GB iPad and 2 VIP tickets (second row) to the Anthony Bourdain “Guts and Glory” show at the Hippodrome on Nov. 17, including passes to a post-show reception.

In summary, Dining Out for Life is a great way to support people in the community who are sick, often isolated and in need of Moveable Feast’s services. Just “Dine Out” and know that, by doing so, you are making a difference. Make your reservation today at DiningOutForLife. com/baltimore.

DINING OUT FOR LIFE

Sept. 20 at Participating Restaurants Sept. 21 at Gertrude’s at the BMA T DiningOutForLife.com/baltimore 20-50% of your bill will be donated to Moveable Feast

GAY LIFE MAGAZINE

BALTIMOREGAYLIFE.COM

SEPTEMBER 2012

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