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Monday Night’s Kinus Tefillah at Shomrei Emunah

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A Witness to the Massacre

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Everyone is still reeling following the despicable act of terror on Klal Yisroel by the monsters known as Hamas. The goal of Hamas was to kill Jews in mass in the most heinous manner possible. They certainly accomplished that. They also succeeded in invoking fear and anxiety within Israeli citizens and Jews worldwide. Furthermore, they’ve thrust the world into chaos. Tensions are sky-high throughout the world and the media was fast to pivot from their brief condemnation of Hamas to their regularly scheduled focus of hating Israel. There was one thing that Hamas accomplished inadvertently though. Something that was perhaps more impactful than anything they hoped to accomplish- the unification of the Jewish people. No matter where one may fall on the wide spectrum of Judaism- Orthodox or Reform, Right or Left, Chasidic or Traditional- our hearts are bleeding together for our brothers. Their suffering is our suffering, their sorrow is our sorrow, and their battle is our battle. A unification of this kind is the biggest comfort during these turbulent times, and easily gives us confidence, more than anything else, that the outcome will work in our favor. We’ve been unable to concentrate on our work and our hearts are in knots, but our spirit is kindled

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The coming days and weeks will be tough. There will be ups and downs. The delineation between good and evil though has been drawn and has never been clearer. It’s abundantly apparent who our friends and enemies are. However, It’s also reassuring that in the merit of our unity, we will see a speedy resolution to what seems to be an insurmountable situation. Yeshuas Hashem K’Heref Ayin- salvation can happen in the blink of an eye. Have a peaceful Shabbos! Aaron Menachem

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with the passion of unity. Chesed initiatives are off the charts. Soldiers, Hatzalah members, doctors, and leaders, have enlisted themselves into this war effort. Amazingly, it’s the soldiers of the Israeli army that have been an ongoing source of Chizzuk to all of us. They’re encouraging everyone to do more Chesed, learn more Torah, and keep a better Shabbos. Interestingly enough, within these initiatives, there’s one that they have not brought up- loving your fellow Jew. Because they don’t have to. The pettiness that may have caused bickering amongst us has melted away. When we see a fellow Jew in the street we can look each other in the eye because we’re all in this together.

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Orthodox Union’s Yachad Opens Kosher Grill at Baltimore’s M&T Bank Stadium

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s thousands of Baltimore Ravens fans celebrated the NFL team’s 25-9 win over the Houston Texans at the recent season opener, Yachad participants and staff marked a second big win that day at Baltimore’s M&T Bank Stadium: the opening of Yachad’s Kosher Grill, the first-ever kosher concession stand run by participants with developmental disabilities. Yachad, a division of the Orthodox Union, helps individuals with intellectual, developmental, and learning disabilities participate more fully in the community, via social, recreational, educational, and vocational programs in 10 regions across the United States, Israel and Canada. Located in Baltimore’s M&T Stadium, Yachad’s Kosher Grill is staffed by Yachad participants who work on rotation, and one to two supervisors per game. Employees are selected based on their interest and abilities to handle tasks including stocking and organizing the fridge, plating food, and filling orders correctly. Yitzi Lencz and Yosef Katz were the lucky Yachad participants chosen to work at the season opener. The stand offers a varied menu of hotdogs, corned beef, turkey and pastrami wraps, sushi, water and beer. In support of Yachad, Star-K, a national Kashrus organization based in Baltimore, is graciously supervising the kosher supervision at no charge. Yachad’s Kosher Grill provides an opportunity for people with developmental disabilities to contribute to society via fulfilling work, says Yachad’s Assistant Director Michael Appelbaum. It also enables Yachad to highlight the potential of people with developmental disabilities on a very large scale — M&T Stadium has a seating capacity of 71,008, and thousands of people will see Yachad participants working the concession stand in the coming weeks. “The stand is meant to show any person walking by, that people with disabilities can be active members of the community in many different ways, including through service and work,” says Yachad’s International Director Avromie Adler.

Yachad’s Kosher Grill is the brainchild of Barry Nabozny, father of 26-year-old Yachad participant Yoni Nabozny. Having completed his vocational training at The Arc Baltimore, Yoni works mornings in Northwest Hospital’s Patient Access division and afternoons at Cocoaccinos, Accents Grill and Serengeti kosher restaurants. Both Barry and Yoni are avid Ravens fans, and a number of months ago, Barry came up with the idea for the stand. He contacted Sarah Conlin, the general manager of Food and Beverage Operations at Aramark, which owns the stadium concessions. She loved the idea, and together with Star-K and Yachad, Nabozny says, his dream came to fruition. Among the stand’s visitors were Baltimore City Council President Nick Mosby and Councilman Yitzy Schleifer, and a mother and two children with Down syndrome who thanked the

team for their initiative and told them how much it meant to her family. The Ravens will be playing nine home games at M&T Bank Stadium during the 17-week NFL season, plus playoffs should they qualify. Yachad’s

Kosher Grill will open again on October 22, 2023 and can be found at Section 142 on the Lower Concourse on the west / Russell St. side of the stadium.

Yachad participant Yitzi Lencz worked at Yachad’s Kosher Grill on opening day.

L-R at Yachad’s Kosher Grill: Yachad Baltimore City Director Sima Levine; Yachad participants Yitzi Lencz and Yosef Katz; Star-K Mashgiach Moshe Levi; Kosher Stand Manager Adam Baruch; and Yachad parent Barry Nabozny, who conceived of the initiative.

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love words. Writing is my hobby and for the occasional writers block, it comes easily, or at least flows at some point. Not this time. The only words that now flow are not from the pen but rather from the mouth as I hold my Sefer Tehillim and pray Dovid HaMelechs timeless words. As Jews all around the world, never mind in Israel, are still reeling in shock and horror from the Simchas Torah that wasn’t, we in the Diaspora are grasping for something, for anything to connect to our brothers and sisters across the ocean. I have been avoiding the words of the news like the plague as I search for all the Mi K’Amcha Yisroel stories, photos of our brave warriors and acts of kindness, and displays of unity that are flying all over the word world through other people’s words via e-mail and WhatsApp. The connection is astounding. The chessed is magnificent. And yet the horror is just that. Horror. I am at a loss for words. There is nothing poetic to say about the tragedies and the epic foreverlosses on a gargantuan scale. And yet again, I am so grateful for the words that we do have. Holy words from our Sages in our instituted prayers. Everlasting words from the Psalmist. These are words that join kehillos all around the world, in Batei Kineisios and Batei Midrashos, whether in person, or by phone or on Zoom. These are words that have the power to change the course of the world. That is what the Baltimore Community did Monday night at the Kinus Tefillah at Shomrei Emunah. Filled to capacity and overflowing in the halls and the “extra” room, the men, women and children of Baltimore turned their words into weapons as we uttered, sang, cried out Tehillim in response to our beloved Rabbonim who each recited the designated Kapitlach with great fervor and meaning. The evening opened up with the President of the Vaad HaRabbanim of Baltimore, HaRav Yaakov Hopfer, encouraging the Klal, like the Navi Yonah did as he says that Hashem saw the people of Ninveh change their ways. Hashem didn’t say what exactly

cific mitzovs, rather it was their recognition and action of changing. Rabbi Hopfer said we all must do something on an individual level that only we can determine for ourselves. On a communal level, we have to focus about thinking of the “other” and shift away the focus from the “me,” in terms of how we live our lives with simplicity, and not looking at what other people have or ways to enrich our own personal ones on the gashmiyus level. He emphasized that “living a life of simplicity demonstrates that we focus not on ourselves, but on others, and in our service of Hashem, that we are here to serve Him and not here for our physical pleasures”. As a Preschool Morah, I connect to the aleph beis. Tonight, our precious Aleph Beis letters swirled and whirled, heading determinedly for the target, no different than the Iron Dome

hamim, with strength in numbers evidenced by the massive turnout of or town. Permeated by the cloak of Ki Ani Ya’atof, the apex of the Kinus was the stunning and emotional singing of Acheinu Kol Beis Yisroel, led by Rabbi Menachem Goldberger. Nobody wanted to stop. It was as if we were holding onto one another clutching in the embrace of Am Yisroel Chai. Walking out a bit discombobulated with all the others leaving the shul, the blast of cool fresh air revived my emotionally drained soul as my senses returned to somewhat normal, in preparation to go home. It also awakened within me the preschool morah once again as I head back to my kitah tomorrow, unsure of what to expect from my students. I shared this with my friend, as she is a teacher as well, and we exchanged other tragedies of

the classroom. Parents! Here’s where your words come in! Your kids hear everything. Please make sure to use your words wisely, no matter how old or savvy your child is. He is still a child. Check out Chai Lifeline and Ohel’s websites for guidance. Focus on the beauty of Klal Yisroel’s achdus at this moment. Bring that into your home. Say Brachos outloud. Praise your child. Tell them you love them. Tell them how much Hashem loves them. Daven. Together. May it be in the zechus of our words and the tinokos shel beis rabban that we will see an end to this war and Eis Tzara L’Yisroel, heralding Mashiach, B’Meirah Va’Yameinu Written as a zechus for all the Chayalei Yisroel and captives, and to my former student, Chaim Yair Ben Miriam Devorah.

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Bais Yaakov of Baltimore is known as a big school with a personal touch. Here we spotlight Bais Yaakov’s Learning Centers, which are currently servicing over 150 students in Bais Yaakov’s three divisions.

How do the girls feel about going to the Learning Center? PG: We work hard to make the Learning Center a welcoming, fun, nonthreatening, safe place. Every year we decorate the room in a theme, and we incorporate fun incentives and great prizes. We disguise learning through multisensory games and activities. We have girls that say, “The best part of the day is coming to the Learning Center!” MY: Our students enjoy prizes such as going out for ice cream with their teachers or getting pizza, but they really love coming to the Learning Center because of the

connection they feel to their teachers. Rabbi Naftoli Hexter, former Middle School Principal, used to describe the Learning Center as a mini-Bais Medrash: Everyone is sitting at tables with their “chavrusas,” and there is a buzz of learning in the air, a positive vibe that helps the girls focus. ES: We try to make the Learning Center a place where any girl can come to get hot water or cocoa or just a cup or spoon, so that students should not feel sensitive about going to the Learning Center. How does the Learning Center staff interact with teachers, parents, and administrators? PG: Learning Center teachers communicate with parents and collaborate with classroom teachers to provide accommodations for students, and modify classwork and tests as needed. Administrators and school counselors are also involved as needed. MY: The Learning Center teachers communicate weekly with classroom teachers so they know what’s going on in the classroom and can help the girls be part of their classes. We stay in touch with parents as needed and have end-of-year meetings with parents to discuss the year’s accomplishments and plan for the next year. ES: I work with the school administrators to create schedules that address the needs of Learning Center students. We like to communicate with parents and teachers regularly. Most importantly, we want to hear what the students have to say, and we do our best to accommodate them.

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Foreigners Also Killed When Hamas terrorists slaughtered 1,400 people last week, they didn’t just kill Israelis. Dozens of those killed came from countries like the United States, Canada, the UK and France, with many holding dual Israeli citizenship and living in the kibbutzim targeted by Hamas gunmen or partying at the music festival where so many were killed.

Among many of the foreigners killed or captured by Hamas were also

migrant workers from Asia, who hail from mostly poor, rural families and work in the country’s agricultural, construction and healthcare sectors. At least 10 Nepali agriculture students were killed when the Hamas militants stormed the Alumim kibbutz and another Nepali is missing, the country’s ambassador to Israel said. Two Filipinos were also killed, according to the Philippines government. At least 21 Thai nationals have been killed as of Thursday, according to Thai authorities, with at least 14 others believed to have been captured by Hamas, their current whereabouts unknown, Prime Minister Srettha Thavisin confirmed. “Thailand has dominated the foreign migrant worker market in Israeli agriculture for the past decade,” noted Phil Robertson, Deputy Asia Director at Human Rights Watch. “As many as 20,000 Thai workers were living on various remote farms and desert areas all over Israel, including areas close to the Gaza Strip.”

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One of the hostages, Manee, had been on the phone with his father, Chumporn, before the attack. “I had spoken with Manee in the morning and we were supposed to talk again in the evening,” Chumporn told CNN. At the time, rockets were being fired toward Israel and this reminded the older man of his own experiences living and working there. Aware of how quickly the dangers could escalate, the 50-year-old urged his son not to go outside, other than to find a bunker and hide if he needed to. But hours later, Chumporn saw photos circulating on social media showing his son with his hands behind his back, sitting barefoot and crosslegged with other male hostages in front of an armed fighter pointing a rifle. “I couldn’t believe it. I thought it was some kind of prank,” Chumporn said. “I called him several times but there was no answer – that was when I started to believe it was real.” “We (Thais) are not involved in

any of the conflict between Israel and Palestine. We are just there to work and earn money so we can have better lives,” he added. “I am begging for my son’s release. I need to have him back, in good shape – like before he left Thailand.” Migrant workers from Asia make up more than half of Israel’s foreign work force, often taking on jobs as caregivers and within the construction industry. Human Rights Watch called for the “immediate and unconditional release” of all hostages and said that Thai workers, along with Nepalese and Filipinos, “were simply there to earn money to support their families. “Such targeting of civilians is clearly a war crime and inexcusable in any circumstance,” said Robertson.

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Every lawmaker in the U.S. Senate except for Republican Rand Paul has signed on to a resolution expressing

support for Israel in the face of the Hamas onslaught. The resolution “reaffirms Israel’s right to self-defense and is committed to helping Israel safeguard its people from future aggression.” It also expresses support for restocking Israel’s weapons supply and urges additional sanctions against Iran over its support for terror proxies. Separately, in the House, 13 of the body’s most progressive lawmakers have introduced a resolution calling for an immediate ceasefire in Gaza. The resolution “urges the Biden administration to immediately call for and facilitate de-escalation and a cease-fire to urgently end the current violence” and to speedily facilitate the entry of humanitarian aid into Gaza.

Hamas Commander Killed On Tuesday, an Israeli airstrike in the Gaza Strip killed the head of

Hamas’s Central Gaza Brigade, a senior commander in the terror organization. Ayman Nofal was also a member of the organization’s General Military Council. He was killed in a strike in the Bureij refugee camp. The IDF said the airstrike was carried out following intelligence efforts by the Shin Bet security agency and Military Intelligence Directorate. Additionally, 14 people were killed in a strike on a home belonging to the family of Hamas leader Ismail Haniyeh, including his brother and nephew. Haniyeh himself lives in Qatar. According to the IDF, Nofal, as part of his role, carried out “numerous attacks against Israel and security forces.” The IDF said Nofal was also previously involved in the production and development of weapons and had been involved in the kidnapping of IDF soldier Gilat Shalit in 2006. The military added that Nofal was “one of the most dominant senior officials in the organization, and was close to Muhammad Deif,” Hamas’s military leader.

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Karhi’s proposed regulations are designed to shut down the Al Jazeera news station, which he has accused of harming national security and inciting violence. Critics such as the Association for Civil Rights in Israel have argued that the proposals would harm freedom of the press. The proposed regulations would give Kahri the authority to instruct the Cable and Satellite Broadcasting Council to revoke a foreign media’s broadcast license, shut down its offices, and seize its equipment if he believed that the outlets broadcasts were harming state security. Such a decision would need the approval of the security cabinet. Karhi’s office has said it cannot provide details of broadcasts that have given rise to concerns about Al Jazeera due to security restrictions, although the Kan public broadcaster reported that the Mossad has supported closing the Qatari media outlet for, among other things, allegedly exposing the location of the IDF’s mustering zones on the Gaza border as well as other sensitive locations. On Monday night, the security cabinet decided that the defense establishment will formulate a more in-depth legal opinion to justify the minister’s proposed regulations and that the regulations will then be brought to the full government cabinet for approval. As the debate in the security cabinet was underway, Karhi took to Twitter to denounce Baharav-Miara’s “warped worldview” and called on the cabinet to approve the regulations regardless. “It would be clear to any thinking person that this process needs to be carried out,” Karhi wrote. “[But] what does Barahav-Miara say…? That there is a constitutional obstacle to passing regulations that would close Al Jazeera.” The Association for Civil Rights in Israel said giving Karhi the power to shut down media outlets would “lead to the silencing of critical voices, the imposition of fear on media outlets under the cover of security, while the voices of minorities and positions opposing the government, and the exposure of governmental and military failures, would be silenced in a manner which would stymie [efforts] to rectify them and hide crucial information from the public.”

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By Sunday, nearly all of the thousands of residents that had lived in the 25 small communities within 2.5 miles from the Gaza Strip had been evacuated. Only a handful of residents still remain in Sderot. On Sunday, coach buses pulled into the community to bring residents to hotels sponsored by the government and away from the frontlines. Just a few days earlier, on Simchas Torah, another coach bus had loaded up 13 Sderot residents for a day trip during the holiday. But it never made it out of the city and was gunned down by Hamas terrorists who infiltrated into Israel during the early hours of the

morning of October 7. The blood-spattered vehicle still sits on the street, surrounded by the burnt shell of a car hit by a rocket. In recent years, Sderot had grown to a population of 30,000. By Sunday morning, only a third remained within city limits, and by evening, that sank to a tenth. Instead of receiving a compulsory and full military evacuation, Sderot, southern parts of Ashkelon, and 32 communities located between four and seven kilometers from Gaza — so close that they only have fifteen to thirty seconds to run to shelter once an air raid siren rings — have received what the military calls a “rejuvenation” incentive. Brigadier General (Res.) Yoram Laredo, head of the National Emergency Management Authority, which coordinates housing those displaced by the war, said in a Sunday briefing that this second group will be funded for hotel stays in Tel Aviv, Jerusalem, and Eilat for a week, renewable by military decision. The government budgeted NIS

134 million ($33 million) for relocating and aiding the evacuees. For those receiving “rejuvenation,” the government has set aside another NIS 70 million ($17 million). Among those who have chosen to remain in the city, despite the Israel Defense Forces’ imminently expected Gaza ground incursion, are residents who see their continued presence as a necessary reminder of what Israel is trying to accomplish. “We, the residents here, we don’t give up and we won’t let our government and our army stop in the middle. Even if there is pressure from the world” to reach a ceasefire, “we can’t live like that,” said Sderot Deputy Mayor Elad Kalimi. Hamas, which murdered over 50 people in Sderot on October 7, “is much worse than ISIS and they have to die,” Kalimi said. “This is the war between good and evil, and we expect our government and the IDF to finish the job, to kill them all,” he added. Likud lawmaker Danny Danon, who visited Sderot on Sunday with a small group of European and African

ambassadors to Israel, made a similar point. “Women and kids were butchered here,” he said. “We need to go into Gaza and find the Hamas terrorists and kill them.” “To see with my own eyes what’s happening, so we can pass the message, there are too many people saying it’s not true,” said the Czech Republic’s incoming ambassador, Veronika Kuchynova Smigolova, who had toured the burnt city. “We need witnesses to say it’s true.”

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The Week In News inee for the speakership. The initial GOP frontrunner was Steve Scalise, the House Majority Leader, until last Thursday, when he announced his withdrawal from the race. “I just shared with my colleagues that I’m withdrawing my name as a candidate for the speaker designee,” Scalise said. Scalise’s exit from the election came after a small faction of House Republicans threatened to vote against the Speaker pick, an action which would give the win to Hakeem Jeffries, the Democratic Speaker of the House nominee. After Scalise backed out of the race, Jim Jordan, an Ohio GOP congressman, won the nomination, but his path to victory will not be without challenge. In order for Jordan to become House Speaker, he needs to win the votes of 217 Republicans out of 221. A few House Republicans said they would not vote for the GOP nominee, but Jordan has made progress in winning over divided Republicans who see him as a potential unifier. For example, Reps. Mike Rogers and Ann Wagner, of Alabama and Missouri respectively, had previously said they would not side with Jordan but changed their minds after he addressed some of their concerns. Rep. Matt Gaetz, who is responsible for McCarthy’s ousting, has also said he would vote for Jordan. While Jordan initially said he would only call for the Speaker vote once he secured enough Republican support, due to the ongoing Israel-Hamas war, he announced that he has decided to force the speaker vote on Tuesday. “You can’t open the House, and do the work of the American people, and

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No More Love Locks in Grand Canyon

National Park Service rangers scoured the South Rim of the Grand Canyon in recent weeks, bolt cutters in hand, and took aim at their targets. Hanging from fences were love locks, etched with the names or initials of partners who, perhaps, had seen the vast, everlasting expanse of mudstone beyond the precipice and believed that their love, too, would be as endless. Except the padlocks these visitors had placed were not emblems of passion but simply human-made litter, officials said. “Love is strong,” Grand Canyon National Park said on Facebook this past week. “But it is not as strong as our bolt cutters.” By Friday, rangers had removed dozens of love locks from fences at the Grand Canyon, one of the country’s most beloved national parks and, since around 2006, a magnet for romantic gestures involving the locks. Jeff Stebbins, a spokesperson for

Grand Canyon National Park, said rangers remove locks that accumulate on the fences every two years. The locks, he said, are “effectively vandalizing and littering and ultimately damaging public lands for both people and wildlife.” The dangers they pose to wildlife are particularly troubling because the love lock custom typically involves throwing away their corresponding keys into the canyon, he said. That could cause trouble for California condors, critically endangered birds that can have wingspans of nearly 10 feet. The park said that, “like a small child,” condors like to investigate strange things with their mouths, including shiny keys. Wildlife officials worry that condors will ingest the keys — or other metallic items like coins, which people toss into the canyon — and possibly die. In some parts of the world, like Paris, the love lock custom has become so mainstream, there are people on a bridge selling padlocks for love-struck tourists strolling by. Officials in certain cities, however, view the padlocks not as symbols of connection but as weighty barnacles encroaching on beloved landmarks. In New York City, workers remove love locks from the Brooklyn Bridge. In Melbourne, Australia, officials made a similar effort on a bridge bearing the weight of around 20,000 love locks that was potentially beginning to wear because of them. And in Leeds, England, officials ordered that love locks be removed from several bridges because of structural concerns. (© The New York Times)

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shutdown of the airport and two hours of chaos in the area. The airport is the fifth busiest airport in Italy. Twenty incoming flights had to be diverted to other airports in northern Italy because of the bird strike. In an attempt to get rid of the feathered pests, Venice airport used a resident falcon, who was dispatched by a falconer to disperse the 200-odd birds. “Fauna-friendly acoustic deterrents” were also used, according to a statement by the airport. Finally, after over an hour, the birds moved on. Such a bird-en.

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Bungee Bonanza Mike Heard’s head is spinning. The man from New Zealand unofficially reclaimed a world record by bungee jumping 941 times in a single

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To prepare for his latest attempt, Heard held what he called “bungee boogies” with friends, bungee jumping for a few hours at a time to work out how to tighten his harness the best way, and how to use the wind to stop himself spinning. Recently, Heard live-streamed his efforts to recapture the record at the Auckland Harbor Bridge and completed 941 bungee jumps in 24 hours. “From time to time you get sort of like a sea sickness or motion sick-

ness feeling, but I just sort of pushed through that and got on with it. So it didn’t slow us down or affect us at all,” Heard said after completing his feat. He fortified himself with “a wholesome diet” of chocolate, nuts, energy drinks, water and bananas, as well as a piece of pizza “that didn’t go down so well.” The record attempt raised funds for the Mental Health Foundation. “We’ve got a problem in this country, and I want to help expose that and get Kiwis talking, I want my kids to grow up with a positive state of mental health, and it’s a great platform and opportunity to do that,” Heard added. Perhaps staying away from bungee jumping could help keep people sane.

Fat Bear Week A large female bear’s combination of “skill and toughness” earned her the top spot in Katmai National

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nine essential amino acids) and array of vitamins and minerals. However, quinoa does contain some antinutrients, like phytic acid, that can hinder the absorption of certain minerals. However, the levels of antinutrients in quinoa are relatively low, and their effects can be mitigated through soaking, rinsing, and cooking. • Greek Yogurt: Greek yogurt is a great source of protein, calcium, and probiotics. Probiotics promote gut health, while protein and calcium contribute to muscle and bone health. Greek yogurt is indeed nutrient-dense, but it can also be higher in fat and calories compared to some regular yogurts. Choose options with minimal added sugars and suitable fat levels. • Spirulina: Spirulina is a bluegreen algae that has been promoted as a superfood due to its nutrient content and potential health benefits. A common claim about the algae is that it aids in detoxifying the body. The concept of “detoxing” is often overused and lacks scientific backing. While spirulina does contain chlorophyll and antioxidants that can support overall health, the idea that it specifically detoxifies the body is not scientifically proven. • Seaweed: Edible seaweed offers certain nutritional benefits, including iodine, minerals, and certain antioxidants. Some types of seaweed, such as the kind commonly found in seaweed salad, contain levels of iodine that are too high. When iodine is consumed in excess, it can inhibit thyroid function. As with any food, moderation is key to reaping the true benefits of edible seaweed. Consulting with a healthcare pro-

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catechins in green tea may help with weight loss but cannot be relied upon as a real weigh loss tool. Drinking a cup of tea after eating two slices of pizza will not banish the caloric and fat content that was just consumed. Those sensitive to caffeine should avoid drinking green tea in the evening. • Olive Oil: This oil is one of the mainstays of the Mediterranean diet. Its

kled over your salads for a delicious and nutritious dressing. However, it is still a high calorie food, and one should be mindful of their portions. Additionally, olive oil has a lower smoke point than avocado oil, so avoid using olive oil in high heat cooking. • Garlic: Medical research has linked garlic to a number of health benefits including lowering blood pressure,

They are not magic bullets that can replace a balanced diet or negate the effects of an unhealthy lifestyle.

biggest claim to fame is its high levels of monounsaturated fatty acids and polyphenolic compounds. Adding olive oil to your diet may reduce inflammation and your risk of certain illnesses such as heart disease and diabetes. Use olive oil when roasting vegetables and sprin-

reduced blood clotting, reduced risk of gastric and colon cancers, and the ability to fight bacteria, viruses, fungi, and even parasites. However, there are potential risks to eating garlic, including excess bleeding, drug interactions (especially blood thinners), digestive

issues (such as excessive bloating/gas and heartburn) and bad breath. Garlic is easily incorporated into proteins and vegetables/soups, but it’s best to enjoy it in moderation. In conclusion, superfoods can undeniably be helpful when added into the diet, but it’s important to approach their consumption with a critical eye. While these foods do possess nutritional benefits, they are not magic bullets that can replace a balanced diet or negate the effects of an unhealthy lifestyle. Embrace the potential benefits of superfoods while remembering that a diet rich in a variety of whole foods, fruits, vegetables, whole grains, lean proteins, and healthy fats is the cornerstone of good health.

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By Rabbi Zvi Teichman

ight years ago, in October of 2015, our brothers and sisters in Israel were under attack by Hamas in a spate of terrorist attacks and fatalities. I penned this essay at that time. History unfortunately repeats itself. The message remains ever truer. Hashem is still waiting for us. The holy soil of our land has once again been stained with innocent and pure blood. Our enemy’s insatiable thirst for our blood has ignited an explosion of hatred and a frenzy of wanton murder. Yet from the moment Noach and his family stepped off the ark the reality of man’s capacity for bloodshed is addressed. After permitting humanity, after the deluge, to now consume animal life the Torah asserts: However, your blood which belongs to your souls I will demand, of every beast I will demand it; and of man, of every man for that of his brother I will demand the soul of man. (Bereishis 9, 5) The simple reading of this verse seems to be implying that G-d will personally hold accountable every ‘beast’ who snatches a person’s life, every ‘man’ who murders his fellow human, and even a ‘brother’ who extinguishes his siblings life force. If this is so then the order in the verse seems odd. Shouldn’t G-d first establish that He will attend to brothers who kill each other? Then the Torah should have gone on to assert that any man and even the non-free-willed beast will be taken to task for violating man’s right to live. The early commentaries are also perplexed by the implication that animals are ‘guilty’ for following their reflexive instinct to kill. Although I have scoured the texts and have not found a clear source, I would like to suggest the following approach.

The Torah concludes that whoever sheds the blood of man shall have his blood shed ‘for in the image of G-d He made man’. Is that the sole reason for forbidding murder? Isn’t man’s entitlement to live sufficient to hold his fellow man responsible for taking that inherent right away? The actual term for ‘image of G-d’ is ‫צֶ לֶם‬, tzelem. This is rooted in the word ‫צל‬, shade or shadow. Being created in the ‘shadow’ of G-d means that just as a shadow is an outlined representation of the item that it is cast off of, so too are we, in a manner, a replica of G-d’s presence. The way we act and emulate His ways in our interactions in this world is a projection, albeit feint, of His greatness. Conversely we are endowed with the power to have G-d, so to speak, act in the capacity as our ‘shadow’ insofar as a result of our healthy choices and noble deeds, G-d directs proportionately His cornucopia of blessing from on high unto this earth. So perhaps what the Torah is informing us is not simply that G-d will take to task those who shed blood, but rather that all bloodshed on earth is a byproduct of Man’s deficient projection of that inherent greatness. The murderous beast and man can only operate in an environment that is not infused with His presence embodied within man. Precisely because we were created with this power to ‘shadow’, in the absence of our illuminating the world it allows it to become darkened by the baser instincts of man. The Torah therefore correctly begins to assert the most obvious, that nature and the animal kingdom’s reaction are determined by our actions. It then goes on to assert that even free-willed creatures perverse actions can only be cultivated and grow in a world bereft of His presence. Perhaps the final emphasis on ‘every man for that of his brother’ is G-d telling

his beloved children that it is ultimately incumbent upon them to set the standard that will ultimately influence an entire world. G-d’s ‘demand’ in the verse, is His assertion that He will ultimately hold us liable for animals and man turning against man for at the end of day it is how ‘brother treats brother’ that sets the stage for the possibility of murder in the world. The ripple effect of our actions can indeed be fatal. This is not to exonerate those demons who have cast off their cloak of humanity for the beastly blood thirst of the jungle, but it does certainly place a heightened level of sensitivity, empathy and devotion to one another in these most difficult days. In a similar vein, the Gaon and Tzaddik, HaRav Mordechai Yehuda Lubart, a great scholar who was one of the illustrious students of Rav Meir Shapiro in Yeshivas Chachmei Lublin prior to World War II, who escaped the fires of Europe and survived the war years in Shanghai, China, studying with great diligence in the most difficult of circumstances, and eventually settling in New York where he was a renowned teacher of Torah and a celebrated Sofer, expressed the following sentiments evidently during those trying times: The Torah alludes to the responsibility placed on every Jew towards his fellow man and brother who are in danger, and certainly when large numbers of our people are exposed to danger and extinction, may G-d save us, at a time when the enemies of Israel are threatening Jewish communities with killings and destruction, it is incumbent on every individual in communities that are not suffering to carry the burden of responsibility for their brothers who find themselves under venomous attack, it must penetrate their hearts and they must bear the pain of their brothers suffering whose blood is being spilled like water, for only then, will they not rest for a moment spending days and nights arousing the world to the plight, doing whatever they can, and even beyond, to save them. It goes without saying that in these difficult times it is impossible to go about their daily lives normally, they must don sack and ash over the plight of their brethren. To this the verse alludes when it states that, ‘your blood which belongs to your souls I will demand’, the blood of the communities of Israel which is being spilled like blood, ‘of every beast I will demand it, and of

man’, if he is man or a beast in human form, as we have seen, much to our sorrow, in our generation of the frightful Holocaust at the hands of the Nazis, may their name be erased, who exhibited behavior more cruel then the most violent animals of prey. And the verse concludes, ‘of every man for that of his brother I will demand the soul of man’, implying also from our brethren, the Children of Israel, we must seek and determine if they have fulfilled the responsibility placed on them, and they can’t justify their inaction by claiming they were helpless and unable, for every Jew has unlimited spiritual strengths, and these powers can bring to fruition their goals, when their brethren are facing annihilation, G-d forbid, either through efforts of rescue or at the very least by sharing in their pain, to stop for a moment during one’s daily routine to contemplate and join in their suffering. And this is what the following verse gives as the reason for all of the above, ‘for in the image of G-d He made man’, for after all, the image of G-d that man was made in is invested with vast supernal abilities, and is therefore held accountable for the blood of his brother that was spilled. We are living in frightening times. We must do whatever we can to support any effort that serves to protect our brothers and sisters in Israel. We must share in their pain and anxiety. We must support one another in whatever way we can. It is in these actions that the restoral of G-d’s presence to the world is contingent on. ‫ישמחו השמים — ותגל הארץ (תהלים צו‬ )‫יא‬, The heavens will be glad and the earth will rejoice. The first letters of the four words in this sentiment spell out ‘The Name’ of G-d — ‫ה‬-‫ו‬-‫ה‬-‫— י‬and the last letters — ‫ — צלמו‬in His image. We can only deserve the joy of His presence if we live ‘in His image’! May we be worthy in the merit of enhancing ‘His image’ by elevating our consciousness and actions, emulating G-d’s ways in all that we do, so that G-d will quickly send us the Moshiach, so we may rejoice once again in the return of the Divine Presence to the Temple, this time for all of eternity. You may reach the author at: Ravzt@ohelmoshebaltimore.com

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A Gang Member’s Journey from Prison Judaism: A SNIPPET FROM JUDAISM’S NUMBERto ONE PODCAST The Story of Dr. Yehuda Pryce In our interconnected world, the power of the media cannot be mar (Yehuda) Prycesocial gotmedia, radio, newspapers, and overestimated. Internet websites, magazines increasingly control fate of politicians and governments, involved with LostheAngefinances andhe morality. In the chareidi lesworld gangs when was young. His world, the messages conveyed by religious media can shape and strengthen emuna, enrich charitable mother, originally from Sri yeshiva Lan- policies. Therefore, it was a efforts, and ferment new shul and privilege to interview the highly influential Rabbi Eli Paley, owner of ka,great divorced his Jamaican father Mishpacha Media Group and publisher of the Mishpacha Hebrew and and remarried a white man, which English weekly magazines.

California and started on the path to become a Jew. He was not with his wife, Ariella, then although they had a child together. His entire life had been a difficult situation and going through made him struggle with his identithe conversion process was no difPaley is aacceptance, businessman and social activist. chairman of the Paley Family ty.EliTo find he turned to He isAt theandage ofinitiatives 16 years, Omar actions by building a relationship ferent. The Rabbis knew he had Foundation which supports and promotes Torah Centers social in the groups like the Crips and Bloods Charedi community. A member of the Jewish Funders he isof active in several was inNetwork, and out Juvenile Hall. with Hashem. It resonated with just got out of prison, were not The topic of poverty among Charedim and the poor economic situation philanthropic organizations. gangs. However, this acceptance Doing crime added to his prestige him judgemental aboutin the hisIsraeli situation, that Hashem is Eli’s always community lay heavily on heart. there As part of the solution, Eli started the Charedi Institute came at a price. He worked as a in the criminal world and he got even and gave him a chance. Moving of Public engageThe with the government with hopes to resolve this in a way that will in Affairs a darkto cell. more he We discussed the Mishpacha’s origin, the challenges he is faced with policy decision mercenary the gangs, to Irvine and living in a Jewish enallow the Charedi society to retain its Torah values. making, andfor the overall goals hetraffickhopes to attain through the publication. satisfaction. He was dedicated to read the more it made sense. ing drugs, ammunition, and more. being a gangster and he understood vironment made the process more In American 2010 Yehuda wasdifficulty moved Jews may have in relating to the issues overseas, Eli, as a born Eli was born in in the Mattesdorff neighborhood in Yerushalayim. His great-grandfather and While His criminal activities eventually that it would meaningful. believed in during Hashand bred Israeli 4 is certainly touch with He recalls He the issue he faced eitherYeshivah be death or jail. from grandfather arrived in Eretz Yisroel in 1925 to establish the Slabodka in Chevron. a level securityinprison to the a masses. his kolel years when distributing the magazine.em The government regulation forbid happen a ledLater him to California’s that whatever would his grandfather becamenotorious the assistant toHe Rabbi Herzel, the chief rabbi of Israel. was arrested when he was 19 little less from maximum Here yingeman receivingsecurity. Kollel benefits if he had any other source of income. Therefore, Pelican Bay State Prison as an and sentenced to 24 years in jail. It he was supposed to happen but he was introduced to cell phones he was forced to register his side job under his wife’s name, a desperate solution used by Eli himself is an alumni of Chevron yeshiva. When he married his wife, a graduate of adult. During his time in prison, tosolution. do his part, get a job, and many. In his publication, he attempts broker ahad better Michlala in Bayit Vegan, his dream was to continue a few months after was learning. hard toHowever, conceptualize 24 years and did research on Judaism ontohis his marriage, mentioned aexnew monthly publication called Mishpacha was Yehuda had his a brother transformative be a responsible adult. The Jewish as he had not been alive that long. cell phone. He was then transferred looking forHe someone to work asJudaism. a distributor in Yerushalayim for a day and a half once every Another example of difficulties that Israeli chareidim face is the draft. perience. discovered community also made it possible statistics out of four children is also knew going into toMishpacha a level 3discussed securitypopulation prison, now had -- one 5 to 6 weeks. With flex hours like that, Eli took He the job, earning twice as much as heprison would Hebealso his wifein while he was independent, for him to get back with his wife. Charedi– and how the army and Charedi society can possibly reach a solution. for anmet entire month a kolel. Financially he continued to learn diligently. there was a good chance he would a smartphone, and saw a picture of in prison. Through miracles, he got not make it out. There was, how- his wife on Instagram and connectYehuda has a doctorate in social The paper is faced daily with Hashkafa decisions that have far-reaching effects on our His father, Rabbi Yehuda Paley, bought the Mishpacha Magazine business. To help his out and is living life as a Torah Jew the magazine works a clinical social society. issue printing pictures of womenwork in theand magazine hasas been debated back still some pride andit could feelings father, Eli got involved in the editorial angle ofever, figuring out how make ed withThe her. Atof that time, Yehuda and forth in many forums. When Hilary Clinton was running for President, Mishpacha with his family. worker with youth who have a unique contribution to the field of journalism. He left learning to pursue his new mission of “I must be a gangster”. still hadmany 9 years ofbyhis sentence to photo of Donald Trump and Hilary on thebeen shocked readers publishing a blurry toYehuda inspire and influence Chareidi community. It is that idealism that still drives him in grew up inthe a lower-midand helps them to get their Yehuda was first sent to Pelican serve. Shejustwas in to Canada hewouldarrested cover. “We wanted see how and people react,” Eli confides. his work so many years later. dle-class family. His mother was Bay State Prison which is a maxi- was in prison when they started lives in order. In his work, he feels The office did receive some complaints, but thelike Gedolim the magazine consults advisedHe WhileSri Mishpacha well-received around the goal of Mishpacha is to serve, from Lanka isand his father, whothe world, is still doing teshuva. mum-security prison in California emailing eachher other. His was wifea real hadpossibility he them to include since there Hilary would indeed become elevate be the voice of the Chareidim, in Eretz Yisroel. The real customers was notand around much, was from particularly believes Hashem lined up his life president. However, Israel,believed an anti-Mishacha whereseeks all to theportray top an gangsters went. raised frumin and in publication blasted Mishpacha , claiming are not the advertisers but the audience. Mishpacha independent voice been Jamaica. He was raised by a white and has now allowed him to they were breaking the rules of modesty and Torah by publishing a picture of Hilaryrectify Clinton. which is unaffiliated with any political party. InPeople the earlywho years, did in thenot chareidi world of it have what Hashem. He was not yet Jewish pollicization, this was perceived as a weakness. However, the years have passed, and this stepfather. The racial issue was a took to survive in prison used reli- but knew he wanted to live a Jew- some of his wrongs. This became a real issue because it was very hard for Eli to justify in his freedom has become one of the most salient factors of its success. big thing because he always felt gion as a crutch. He was adamant ish Yehuda says we are put on this mind whyThey they could notchatted print modest particularly life. video and pictures she of women, considering how hard it seems to be to explain earth to ba’alei teshuvah why women that he did was not the fit first in. As a teenager, for a reason we mayare not know Mishpacha Charedi publication tothat givehe thewould same respect to the Sephardi and not become religious motivated “ignored.” Inhim orderatolot. make Mishpacha, often one of their first exposures to Yiddishkeit, societies, attempting to create a sense of unity. Over time, this adherence to heAshkenazi was often singled out because but every day we have the oppormore is comfortable his decision. in palatable, 2018. heEliinformed thewith parole equality and ahavas Yisrael became the secretin toprison. the business’ success. of his race. tunity to make that a meaningful This all changed when a friend board that he wanted to become a He’s on a big mission: to expose our brothers toand true Torah values, and he bears the Mishpacha’s in elevating frum society is done through sincere, honest writing. When he quest got involved with gangday. Connecting asked him to come to the Jewish social worker and convert to Or-a differentpurposeful responsibility seriously. He often employs way of thinking, a creative model, a Mishpacha does not engage in pretending that society is perfect. While recognizing the sterism he sensed people started reto Hashem day after day is stretch and a twist, that can support lifestyle while at the same time show thatthere we care There he received a book thodox Judaism which theyouracgreat achievements and accomplishments in services. the frum world, Mishpacha will tackle even specting him and he felt important. always the opportunity to do more about the Israeli economy, security, and its welfare system. “Instead of just complaining unpleasant issues, albeit in an extremely sensitive fromway. the Rabbi and got his first cepted and he was released from about why we are not understood,” Eli explainedand during interview,ourselves. “we must ask what He started fighting a lot, holding glimpse into Judaism. After about prison totheelevate The oninOctober 22nd,we2018. we can do this field. While have to make sure that our kids are not too exposed to the guns, robbing people, selling drugs, 2-3 months he was transferred to more wereality do will eventually bring bigAfter world, the world exists,fundand we have to face and come up with practical a (outside) “16-year State solutions. “ and hanging around with different another prison and then his jour- ed us back to the place of meaning vacation” he was free but had gang members. He discovered he ney started “gaining steam”. and purpose in our life and what Rather thanHe hiding his head thewanted sand, he is ready to take on the problems in our nothing. knew whatinhe was good at this and he had many meant be. them. You Slowly, can afneighbourhoods and cities, working with the authorities of to against Even before meeting the Rabbi, to do and he was determined. 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hy are atoms so selfish? Because they are all that matter!

Best-selling author and leadership guru, John Maxwell, suggested that in order to lead a happy, meaningful life, one should emphasize Significance over Success. Success, he says, has a spotlight on ME and what I did, how much I earned, and what I accomplished. On the other hand, the focus of Significance is what we do for others. Strong personal leadership and a happy life are hinged on being “other-centric”, serving and caring for others, and being impactful in enhancing the lives of those around us. Our Chazal are clearly critical of Noach, who succeeded in saving his own life and those of his family from

the impending Mabul but had zero significance on his generation. This is in stark contradistinction to Avraham who taught, influenced, and cared for all in humanity with whom he came in contact. Rav Dessler, ZTL, notes that this why Noach’s year-long avodah on the ark was to exert effort and dedication to all the creatures, to become significant to other beings and creatures, and transform himself in order to widen his influence. We all got to experience what it means to being Significant following the recent barbaric attack in Israel over Simchas Torah. We witnessed Klal Yisrael stepping up in any way possible to become significant and impactful to our brethren, soldiers, and loved ones. That is why we are Bnai Avraham and not Bnai Noach.

Baltimore is replete with so many heroes who humbly and quietly become incredibly significant in the lives of our community members in myriads of ways. Each one of Baltimore’s amazing chessed organizations can list the people to whom they turn to on a regular basis, to give and care for others. Some support financially and ensure the organizations remain vibrant and viable, while others are on the front lines doing the grunt work day-in and day-out, doing whatever it takes to be incredibly significant. Even if one is not yet formally a volunteer or supporter of a Chessed organization, one can still strive to enlarge their world and gain a deep sense of fulfillment by looking for opportunities to become more significant to

others. Perhaps there is a neighbor or shul member who can use a friend or companion, or a family with a hectic household that can use an outing for some children. Is there perhaps a need for a Gemach for some much- needed item, or struggling students that can be tutored a few hours a week? The interesting note is that those who are already Significant manage to find more opportunities to do so while those focused on personal success remain blind to them. To enrich your life with more gratitude and compassion and to follow in the footsteps of Avraham Avinu, I encourage you to aim for Significance over personal Success. Seek out ways to volunteer, help, care, and create lasting positive change.

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A Witness to the Massacre

Dov Hikind Sees the Aftermath of the Horror Firsthand By SuSan Schwamm

hen news of the massacre perpetrated by Hamas spread, Dov Hikind was in New York. But two days later, the former assemblyman and activist knew that he belonged in Israel. “On Monday afternoon, as with many times in my life, I asked myself, ‘What can I do?’ I’ve always asked myself that question – what’s the extra that I can do? “When we have problems, when we have challenges, and especially when it comes to Israel, I’ve always been here, whether it’s with the Scud missiles, whether it’s the Intifada, whether Jews are being stabbed, whether it’s the Lebanon War, I’ve always come to Israel during those periods of time. But, at first, I wasn’t planning on going to Israel. But that afternoon, I said, ‘I’ve got to do something.’” Hikind found a flight to Israel, which wasn’t easy, and got on the last flight through Delta with Virgin Airways. He was joined by Israel Bitton, his partner at Americans Against Antisemitism. “I’m gratified to be here,” Hikind says. “People say to me, ‘What are you doing here? You couldn’t get a flight out?’ But I tell them that I came here from the United States to give chizuk, and that gives people strength.” Hikind recalls how he spent his day on Thursday representing Jews in the U.S. at 30 funerals at Mt. Herzl. Thirty soldiers were buried that day. Mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, friends and family joined together to send these heroes to their final resting places. The funerals took place one after another, a harrowing ordeal for those mourning their loved ones. “I felt that I was representing all Jews in America who couldn’t be there,” Hikind explains. At the end of the day, Hikind felt spent, worn out from seeing so much pain. He heard about how the brave soldiers defended the Jews in the south, to the best of their ability. Some managed to hold off the terrorists and

allow Jews to flee to safety. Ultimately, they died helping others. On Tuesday of this week, Hikind traveled to Sderot, Kfar Aza, and Nir Am, communities in the south of Israel which experienced true horror just days before. Hikind was there to witness the atrocities, to see the aftermath of the massacre firsthand and share those stories with the world. But sometimes, words are not even enough. Hikind says that when he was interviewed by Sid Rosenberg on the radio on Tuesday evening about what he witnessed, he could barely speak. It took him time to gain his composure and share some of the tragedy with Sid’s audience. Hikind and his group were taken from house to house in Kfar Aza. Before the pogrom, Kfar Aza was home to around 700 people. But when Hamas militants invaded the community on October 7, they left not one home unscathed. “We were taken by someone in the military from house to house – we saw many of the houses,” Hikind recalls. He talks about the actions of the Hamas terrorists that he witnessed, “the most horrid, the most barbaric, the most cruel, the most evil things imaginable. Everything that I’ve read up until now – I was following everything very closely – it is so much worse than any of that.” He explains, “We went into a house where there must have been 500 bullet holes in that little house where quite a few people were murdered. But it wasn’t just that they were murdered. They brutalized everybody.” What Hikind describes is horror beyond belief, details that are not fit for a family magazine. In seeing the sadism of the murderers, Hikind grapples with how to accurately depict it. “There’s nothing in the English language in our vo-

cabulary to describe the behavior of these barbarians,” he says. “There’s nothing to describe people doing these kinds of things and being proud of it. “Don’t forget, they were the ones who put out the videos for everybody to see. The Nazis used to hide what they were doing to the Jewish people. And these barbarians, they put out the videos on their own to show their behavior. Who are these people?” Hikind also joined with ZAKA, who brought him through the town. So far, Hikind says, only about 350 people’s bodies of those who were slaughtered have been able to be identified. “Do you know what that means? That means they’re having a hard time identifying these people because of what was done to so many people.” He describes the smell that permeates these communities. “I still feel it literally. I feel the smell of all the dead bodies. I’m afraid to go to sleep tonight, thinking about what I saw today.” The community of Kfar Aza is empty of people, the burnt homes and piles of rubble remnants of once vibrant life. In Sderot, where 57 people were murdered, Hikind witnessed ransacked homes, open refrigerators, where terrorists searched for valuables and jewelry and food. He saw bullets on the floors, pins from grenades littering the streets. He went to the police precinct that had been taken over by terrorists and where the Israeli police officers were slaughtered by the Hamas members. Hikind notes that in order to perpetrate so much terror, there had to have been an organized effort by the terrorists. The area and the cities that they managed to infiltrate is a large area, and the terrorists managed to invade so many little towns, massacring families fleeing in cars along the way. The contrast of cruelty of the terrorists to the com-

Toyota, had texted Hikind that he wanted to donate to the cause. Hikind told him to hold off until he gets to Israel and visits the communities to see exactly what was needed. But Giuffre was insistent that Hikind call him immediately. On the phone, mere days after the massacre, Giuffre gave Hikind $50,000 to donate to those impacted by the terror attacks. Giuffre is not a Jew. He is a person who sees that this fight is one of good vs. evil, and he wants to support the good in this world. Hikind emphasizes, “We need to be there for each other. Hashem runs the world, and we know that it will be OK. But we need to be there for each other because when there’s hate, that leads to terrible, terrible things. “Let’s continue to be united. Let’s not let that change.”

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ut in the darkness, there is light. Just a few days ago, prior to the attacks, the climate in Israel was ugly. It was Jew vs. Jew, secular vs. charedi, Labor vs. Likud. The demonstrations

being held were contentious and fiery. But now, these circumstances have brought us all together. Regardless of whether a kippah or cap adorns one’s head, we are united in the fight for our survival. Our eyes, as one, look towards the Heavens for our salvation and success. “The Jewish world and the Jewish people, at least for now, for this week, next week – I hope forever – we’re united,” Hikind notes. “It doesn’t matter who you are, what you are, what kind of Jew you are, how much you daven, how much you don’t daven, you never daven, you don’t believe in G-d, you do believe in G-d. We’re all one right now.” It’s not just Jews who are supporting each other. Hikind shares a story that took place last week. A past supporter, John Giuffre, who owned Bay Ridge

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passion of the Jews is stark. “When we were driving to Kfar Aza,” Hikind relates, “I saw a bunch of people from an organization in the field. We stopped the car, and we saw that two terrorists’ bodies were being put into body bags. Can you imagine? We care to treat these barbarians with dignity. This is direct contrast to the atrocities that I witnessed.” Speaking with the people left in town, Hikind says they’re “in shock – beyond shock. Everybody’s traumatized. Everyone’s afraid.”

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Israel Today

How Can I Work? Rabbi Avromi Mostofsky

ost weeks, my work occupies well above the standard forty hours. This week, even a single minute feels impossible. How can one possibly focus on work? While we were dancing with the Torah, our brothers and sisters were being mercilessly slaughtered in Israel. As we celebrated renewal, they mourned destruction. Here in America, we are, of course, all gathered in tefillah and doing our best to provide support in any way conceivable. Yet, the weight of the question persists: how can I work? I had the privilege of spending four years learning in Israel. The hospitality of my Israeli cousins made me feel like I was always a big part of their lives. Some of their children, having grown up before my eyes, are closer to siblings than mere cousins. During that time, I traveled Eretz Yisrael as much as possible, often solo, trying to absorb as much of our land as possible. When my time learning in Jerusalem came to an end, I cried. I cried on the way to the airport, walking through security, and as I boarded the plane. This week, a few people told me they’re contemplating leaving Israel, fearing for their children’s safety. My heart aches. How can I work, when every fiber of my being yearns to be back home and others are thinking of leaving permanently? Before I left to yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael, my father told me I was only going on one condition: should war break out, I wasn’t to return to the States. Instead, I would reach out to family, particularly my cousins at Terem (the children of Dr. David Applebaum, Hy”d), to ask where I could be of utmost help. I willingly agreed. Now, as I sit miles away, there’s an overwhelming feeling of not fulfilling that promise. How can I work knowing my best friend is pulling bodies out of the carnage near Gaza? How can I work

when my family stands resilient, protecting our homeland, and I’m oceans apart? I’m also overwhelmed with anger. Anger towards those with influence who remain silent. Historically, antisemitic voices told Jews to “return to Palestine,” acknowledging our innate connection to our homeland. Now, the narrative shifts.

women and children when bombing Hamas.” “Two wrongs don’t make a right.” Yet Hamas is the one that continuously launches rockets from people’s apartments and surrounded by children. Last week, two videos shook me deeply. In one, at the very end of the clip,

Before I left to yeshiva in Eretz Yisrael, my father told me I was only going on one condition: should war break out, I wasn’t to return to the States.

The blame is directed at us, questioning our actions, despite us only reclaiming what ours was historically. Even the “occupied” land only came back to us because the Arabs tried to destroy us, and G-d delivered them to us. They accuse us of “killing innocent

a Palestinian child of around ten runs across the corner of the screen, holding two machine guns. The other was a video in which little children were hitting and laughing at one of the hostages, a little Jewish boy. They taunted him saying, “Call Ima, call Ima” in jest. Children,

committing literal torture of another child, simply because he is a Jew. Yes, there might be innocent people in Gaza, just as there were in Nazi Germany. But the Gazans elected Hamas and allowed extremist ideologies to flourish. They arm their kids, instilling hatred for Jews from infancy. Our unity now reflects our collective memory. Our enemies have vanished over time, but we remain. We’re certain of one thing: the threat from Hamas will be neutralized. They will be destroyed, becoming just another one of the groups we think of when singing at the Pesach Seder, “In every generation they rose up against us.” It angers me that while some voices rise for Israel, many stay silent. Like the silence in Germany, it is deafening. It is a reminder of why we fought so hard to reestablish our homeland. It is a reminder why we will never give it up. Not an inch. Not again. As I yearn to be back home, I once again ask, how can I work? Tears are unending; anger is palpable. But hope persists. This past year has been one of bitter ideological differences in Israel. Today, we are reminded that divided, our nation has always fallen. But when united, and filled with love for each other, Am Yisrael has ALWAYS prevailed. This gives me hope. Watching videos of my cousin Shlomo Lipman, a soldier, defending our people while simultaneously singing at a wedding gives me hope – hope for better days, for prevailing despite global indifference, for achdut, and for G-d allowing us, as in days of old, to triumph over evil.

Rabbi Mostofsky lives with his family in New York. He studied in Jerusalem where he received Smicha at the age of 22. He is a board member of the American Zionist Movement and is a delegate for Eretz Hakodesh at the World Zionist Congress.

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The Great Stuff That Fall Brings Us The Battle of the Leaves: Raking leaves is nature’s way of making you question your decision to own a yard. The Great Sweater Conspiracy: No one really knows where all those missing sweaters go. It’s as if they attend their own secret society meetings during fall.

The Foliage Photographers: Fall turns everyone into an amateur photographer…capturing every tree that changes color.

Pumpkin Spice Takeover: Suddenly, your shampoo, deodorant, and toothpaste are all pumpkin spice-flavored. Squirrel Frenzy: Squirrels frantically collect nuts…nature’s version of a Black Friday sale. Weather Mania: One day, it’s sunny, and the next day, it’s as if the sky decided to dump the contents of all its buckets of rain.

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Self-Discovery: Fall makes everyone discover their inner “basic” self. Suddenly, you’re into apple-picking, flannel shirts, and reading self-help books on your couch while covered in a blanket.

The Great Scarf Debate: Am I supposed to tie the scarf or just wrap it around my neck three times? Daylight Saving Time Confusion: Did we gain an hour or lose an hour? The “It’s So Cozy” Illusion: Convince yourself that being stuck indoors sipping hot cocoa beats being outdoors in the summer swimming, biking, and playing sports.

You Gotta be Kidding Me! A hypochondriac told his doctor he was certain he had a terrible disease. “Nonsense,” scolded the doctor. “You wouldn’t know if you had that. With that particular disease, there’s no discomfort of any kind.” “Oh no!” gasped the patient. “Those are my symptoms exactly!”

1. In the fall, what celestial event occurs when the moon appears larger and brighter in the night sky? a. Solar eclipse b. Blue moon c. Meteor shower d. Harvest moon

3. What is the primary reason behind the changing colors of leaves in the fall? a. Decreased humidity b. Decreased daylight hours c. Lower temperatures d. Pumpkin spice magic

5. What was fall originally called? a. Harvest b. Autumn c. Equinoxal d. Indian Summer 6. What is the official word for the sound of leaves and trees rustling in the wind? a. Psithurism b. Rustlitarium c. Fallacious d. Harvest peace

Answers: 1-D 2-A 3-B 4-D 5-A 6-A Wisdom key: 5-6 correct: You have an equinoxal brain. 3-4 correct: Not bad, although the decreased daylight hours negatively impact some brain cells. 0-2 correct: Maybe once we change the clocks and fall forward, you will do better! (On November 5, make sure to set your clock one hour ahead…and make sure to arrive at school on time!)

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2. What is another name for the fall equinox when day and night are of approximately equal length? a. Autumnal Equinox b. Fall Solstice c. Equinoctial Equinox d. Harvest Moon

4. What is the process by which trees naturally shed their leaves in preparation for winter called? a. Leaf unveiling b. Leaf cascade c. Leaf exodus d. Leaf abscission

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Fall Trivia

Riddle Me This Mr. Brown takes all his kids to a fall fair. He takes his

How many children does Mr. Brown take to the fair?

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5 daughters. Each of these daughters has a brother.

Answer: 6

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

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I met the pilots, the navigators, the operators, the aircrews, and the ground crews. We have something to be proud of, the enlistment rate is far greater than 100 percent and the corps carries out its missions very successfully. Our planes reach each and every point, this aircraft has many missions – but each missile has an address. We will reach each and every Hamas member. - Israeli Defense Minister Yoav Gallant at the Nevatim Air Force base

Hamas members have two options: either die where they are or surrender unconditionally. There is no third option. – Ibid.

A blockade of a land they gave back?! They gave it back! Gaza is no longer occupied! The reason there’s a blockade is to stop [terrible things] like this from happening. That’s the whole point. They gave it back! - Bill Maher to Bernie Sanders’s adviser Matt Duss, who blamed “Israel’s blockade against Gaza” for the pogrom

They gave it to them. And did they use it to build a state? No. They used it to bring in weapons and attack them.

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- Ibid.

Genocidal means you’re trying to wipe out a whole people. Trust me, if Israel wanted to do that, they could. They’re not trying to. They’re trying to live in peace. - Ibid, responding to the claim that Israel engages in “genocide”

The UAW’s leaders have called us the enemy in these negotiations. But I will never consider our employees as enemies. This should not be Ford versus the UAW. It should be Ford and the UAW vs. Toyota and Honda, Tesla, and all the Chinese companies that want to enter our home market. - Ford Motor Co. Executive Chairman Bill Ford addressing striking United Auto Worker union members

I’m deeply saddened and outraged by the explosion at the hospital in Gaza yesterday and based on what I’ve seen, it appears as though it was done by the other team, not you. But there’s a lot of people out there who are not sure. So we’ve got to overcome a lot of things. - Pres. Biden while meeting with Prime Minister Netanyahu and reporters in Israel this week

Imagine being in a position to restore electricity, fuel, food, and water to 2,000,000 people by simply releasing 150 innocent people you just kidnapped. That’s the choice Hamas is facing, and their decision will likely to affirm they’re the enemy of Israelis AND Palestinians. - Tweet by Rep. Dean Phillips (D-MN)

There will be no refugees in Jordan and no refugees in Egypt. That is a red line. - Jordan’s King Abdullah II at a press conference with German Chancellor Olaf Scholz

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Audio released by Israel of two Hamas terrorists talking after the missile struck a Gaza Hospital:

They are saying (the rocket) belongs to Palestinian Islamic Jihad. It’s from us? That this was from us? It seems that it was from us, yes. Who is saying this? They are saying that the shrapnel of the missile are local pieces and not Israeli shrapnel. What are they saying [there]? My G-d, from us, it didn’t just explode, but in a hospital! They may have fired from the cemetery behind. What? It seems that they fired this from the cemetery behind the hospital, and it failed and landed on the hospital. There is a cemetery behind it? Yes, it is right in its area! Where is it exactly? When you enter the general courtyard area?

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When you enter the courtyard area, so that you do not continue towards the city, but instead from the right side, that is where the hospital is.

We cannot accept people from Gaza into this country as refugees. I am not going to do that. If you look at how they behave — not all of them are Hamas, but they are all anti-Semitic, none of them believe in Israel’s right to exist. None of the Arab states are willing to take any of them. - Gov. Ron DeSantis while campaigning in Iowa

An analysis of IDF operational systems indicates that a barrage of rockets was fired by terrorists in Gaza, passing in close proximity to the Al Ahli hospital in Gaza at the time it was hit. Intelligence from multiple sources we have in our hands indicates that Islamic Jihad is responsible for the failed rocket launch which hit the hospital in Gaza. The entire world should know: It was barbaric terrorists in Gaza that attacked the hospital in Gaza, and not the IDF. Those who brutally murdered our children also murder their own children. - Prime Minister Netanyahu, after an Islamic Jihad missile struck a hospital in Gaza and Hamas obviously blamed the IDF

An Islamic Jihad missile has killed many Palestinians at a Gazan hospital – a place where lives should be saved. Shame on the media who swallow the lies of Hamas and Islamic Jihad – broadcasting a 21st century blood libel around the globe. - President Isaac Herzog

I am an avid hunter/fisherman, and I will always be. For the people who are asking me why I have my son with me, I am teaching him a very important life lesson… The beef, venison, poultry, fish, fruits and vegetables all come from somewhere, not just the grocery store. - Toronto Blue Jays pitcher Erik Swanson tweeting in response to criticism for taking his young son hunting

Now when he hunts and he harvests his own food, he knows exactly where his food is coming from and what is in it. Next time you go to the grocery store or restaurant and order something, remember that it had to come from somewhere. Know what you are eating! Safe hunting to all! - Ibid.

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Turning Towards the Source By Sara Rayvych, MSEd

Leading With Actions

United As One We’re different than we were before yom tov, a time that seems shockingly innocent compared to the week that followed. As more information comes out, we are horrified anew. But, as each day passes, we are becoming a stronger people. We’re attaining levels of achdus we haven’t been privileged to experience in the recent past. What divided us previously is now recognized as trivial. Where someone davens, which hechsher (if any) they use, and how they dress are unimportant – we only see they are our Jewish brother or sister. There was a beautiful video that came out this past week, and it’s the only video I permitted my children to view. It showed a chareidi/chassidish shul filled with men devotedly attaching tzitzis to olive-colored garments. Our local media gives daily updates where to bring supplies as duffels fill with toothbrushes, deodorant and other necessities. A photo circulated of a tank covered in handwritten letters, many of them in English. Shuls are adding Tehillim with some mentioning the name of each hostage (may they come home safely) during the mi shebairach. Everyone has been pained over the situation, and we are each trying to help however we can. Include your children (as appropriate, based on age and personal sensitivities) so they, too, can be a part of the solution. Their Torah learning, brachos or helping out extra around the house can all make an impact. They should recognize their strength and ability to move mountains with their actions. Let them know their tefillos matter. We know Hashem is always listening, but it also gives tremendous chizzuk to the chayalim and the affected families to know we are behind them and love them.

One Source The headline on the cover of this past week’s issue of TJH said it all – “Yisroel batach ba’Hashem,” the Jewish people trust in Hashem. We know where everything comes from and Who really controls our future. We do our part, but we know that ultimately success comes from Above. Many perakim of Tehillim have been said. The words we have frequently spoken have taken on new meaning. We asked ourselves how it was possible for others to enter our holy land, but “Im Hashem lo yishmar ir” (Tehillim 127), only Hashem can ultimately protect our cities. We sought solace from the words of the weekly parsha and haftorah. Both described tragedy occurring but were immediately followed by our yeshua and Hashem’s guarantee of survival to us. We proudly proclaim in the Shema that Hashem is One. Even after reeling from the news that came out, we still recognize and proudly declare Hashem’s ultimate unity. It can be easy to acknowledge Hashem’s role when everything is good, but it’s another level to see the Yad Hashem even in the pain. It’s important to note there are those that will question the divine role or feel distanced from the Source following tragedy. We can’t judge them nor can we fully recognize the challenges they are facing. Neither mussar nor fire and brimstone is helpful as they process the pain. Give your child space to work through their feelings without judgment.

Gratitude There are individuals from outside our community that have been support-

ing us. They deserve our gratitude and to know how much we appreciate what they’re doing. The police have an increased presence in the areas with large Jewish populations. Since the initial attacks, our local shul has had a police car with officers parked nearby. While our ultimate protection comes from Above, we certainly owe our gratitude to these brave men and women. We can say “thank you” and let our child know that we acknowledge when others help us. Many of us have had gentiles express their support and concern. We had a neighbor that lived near us years ago reach out to us. Total strangers are inquiring if we have loved ones affected. I have been pleasantly surprised by the outpouring of concern, and it’s been very encouraging. We should appreciate their kind gestures, too. Children easily take for granted those that help them. Our children can learn about gratitude from seeing us appreciate those around us. We are each processing so much pain, and we have so many questions as our children watch us for our reaction. May we learn the important lessons Hakadosh Baruch Hu wants us to gain and bless us with shalom. I join everyone with fervent prayers that each chayal, hostage and all those on the frontlines return back safely.

Sara Rayvych, MSEd, has her master’s in general and special education. She has been homeschooling for over 10 years in Far Rockaway. She can be contacted at Rayvych Homeschool@gmail.com.

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As parents, we are not only on our own journeys, but also guiding our children on theirs. We are expanding beyond our previous limitations, and our children are following on our heels. They look to us to see how we respond, and without words, we are teaching them by our example. We have the opportunity to show them how a Torah Jew acts during times of challenge and sorrow. They can see how we unite with others and are feeling the pain of those on the frontlines. They will learn how to act as they see our fervent prayers, extra Torah learning, and ma’asim tovim. Throughout it all, they will appreciate that our faith in Hashem grows as we acknowledge there is One Source for all that happens. We could lecture for hours on end, but that would be pointless. Our example and our actions speak far louder than any

words ever could. We have an incredible teaching opportunity now.

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ife is a Divinely ordained classroom of hands-on lessons. Everything – no matter how small – is meant to teach us and change us into better people. If this refers to something as unremarkable as stubbing a toe, it certainly applies to the recent tragedies. I am certainly not suggesting I know the reason for the recent events, nor do I know what we are meant to take from them. I leave these heavy issues for someone else. What I’d like to mention is simply some of my observations over the past week. As I saw Klal Yisroel rise to the challenges, I recognized some of the many powerful lessons our children can learn by observing our actions. While we never want nisyonos, teaching our children some productive ways to cope and work through tragedy is important. Life isn’t all happiness or cheer, and our children need to know there are ways to function – and even thrive – during these stressful periods.

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

Dear Navidaters,

I was wondering what I can do to simplify the process of shidduchim for my son. We tend to wait about a week and a half after giving a “yes” to a young

woman, giving her time to check references, sometimes getting a “no” from the young woman’s side in response. During the week or more that we have given a “yes,” we put things on hold and when other people reach out with ideas, we are honest that we had just given a yes to someone else. I am feeling that we miss out on opportunities this way. What is the protocol and the honest way to go about the time between giving a yes and receiving an an-

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swer in response? Thank you for your insightful column! Baila G.

Disclaimer: This column is not intended to diagnose or otherwise conclude resolutions to any questions. Our intention is not to offer any definitive conclusions to any particular question, rather offer areas of exploration for the author and reader. Due to the nature of the column receiving only a short snapshot of an issue, without the benefit of an actual discussion, the panel’s role is to offer a range of possibilities. We hope to open up meaningful dialogue and individual exploration.

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iming is tricky and sometimes very frustrating in the traditional shidduch process where a parent checks someone out for suitability as a dating partner. It’s not just about missing opportunities for your child; it’s about the other party being busy after you have given a yes. And when their yes comes back, your child may be busy. It’s an issue of coordination as well, once you have done the work. It’s very time consuming to check people out and then the timing has to work for both parties. I don’t really know the answer to this question. It’s hard on everyone including the shadchanim. However, being honest continues to be important. One can say directly: it

will take me about ten days to give you an answer. Meanwhile, we don’t expect the young woman to be on hold, waiting for an answer from us. If she gets a yes from someone else, she should feel comfortable going ahead with that person. This seems to be de rigueur. Let us keep in mind, however, that young women usually get fewer suggestions than young men, unfortunately. And that mothers get bombarded with shidduch suggestions for their sons. Let’s try to be understanding and compassionate and treat others the way we want to be treated.

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vasive problem. This is generally a more common issue in the typical yeshivish dating world. I have seen people waste SO much of people’s time while looking into a shidduch, only to nix it in the end. This puts the other side in a very difficult and awkward position. In the more modern machmir world, it is common to give a guy or girl a chance without making hours’ worth of calls. I generally find this to be a better idea, since making a single wait while a family does FBI research, in my opinion, lacks basic menschlichkeit. Baila, in your present conundrum, I would do the following. Be direct from the beginning with anyone who sets up your son. You may explain that, in the past, people have taken upwards of two weeks to get back to you with an answer. For the sake of efficiency, explain that you would prefer to know whether the young woman would like to proceed within three to four days. Communication up front will get you what you’re looking for. If the shadchan knows your son will move on after three days of research, she will do her best to move things along on the woman’s side. Readers, please remember, treat others the way you’d like to be treated. Remember that in shidduchim there are feelings on the other side. With our genuine sensitivity towards others may we merit to see nissim and niflaos and Moshiach soon in our days.

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wrong with how young men and women met, years ago, at shul events, or at kosher hotels, or in college classes. This week’s Navidater question exemplifies the frustrating nature of our very challenging and stressful contemporary shidduch system. Yes, yes, I understand that the system does work for many people. And, yes, I understand that my complaining does not help the person who wrote this week’s letter. So, here goes. A good friend of mine, Pepi M, has some practical advice. In her family, when she responds “yes” to a suggestion, she gives the other side two days in order to respond. If the other party does not respond within two days, she feels free to move on to the next recommendation. This technique seems perfectly reasonable to me. In this way, young people are not stuck in an indefinite holding pattern and are not in danger of missing out on other, perfectly viable opportunities. I hope this response is helpful. Please note that I am writing this on Monday, October 16, Rosh Chodesh Mar Cheshvan, while anxiously following events in the Middle East. Let us all pray that for our brothers and sisters in Israel, the coming days and weeks are filled with such good news, that we will feel compelled to forever remove the word “Mar” from “Mar Cheshvan.”

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hank you for writing into the panel! While I appreciate rules and systems, I personally don’t like all the rules and regulations around dating and shidduchim. The system, from soup to nuts, leaves much to be desired. I don’t like systems that induce powerlessness and helplessness and waiting. While I

don’t encourage you to completely brea k t he rules, because I underst a nd the social and practical ramifications this would have in this broken system, I do encourage you to use to your voice and assert yourself while you

continue to remain the honest and ethical person you are. You can also come up with your own “system” for how much time you are going to wait while you are waiting. In other words, take some control here. I don’t have the answer to this common dilemma you are experiencing. I don’t think it’s fair for you and your child to wait on someone else who is taking their sweet time to get back to you. Would you consider saying to the person who is interested, “Thank you so much! We are so delighted. We’re waiting to hear back from someone. I am giving them another day or so as a courtesy. I will be in touch with you once I know.”

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or over a year the Federal Reserve has embarked on a massive interest rate hike aimed at taming record setting inflation in the wake of the Covid-19 pandemic and subsequent monetary and fiscal responses. For many people this is the first time that 7% mortgages and 5% savings account rates have existed, but it is important to remember that a country’s economy works in cycles and while each cycle will have its own unique factors and impacts, rising and falling interest rates always play a role at different times of the economic cycle. So yes, there was even a time when mortgage rates were well over 10% and savings accounts paid well over 5%! Since interest rates play such an important role in both the macro and microeconomics, an informed investor ought to understand why. Whether it is watching a slumping 401K this summer or your mortgage broker quoting you a 7.8% rate for that house you’ve had your eye on – interest rates impact our lives. When discussing financial markets and investing generally, interest rates are a critical factor that can affect various assets, including stocks, bonds, and real estate. Before delving into the intricate interplay between interest rates and stock or other risk assets, it’s essential to define some Key Terms: • Interest Rates: The amount charged, expressed as a percentage of the principal, by a lender to a borrower for the use of assets. Typically that asset is cash. • Risk Assets: Assets that have a significant degree of price volatility. Stocks are a primary example, but commodities, cryptocurrencies, and high-yield bonds also fall into this category. • Bonds: Debt instruments that governments and corporations issue to raise capital. They pay periodic interest to bondholders and return the principal when they mature. Bonds can also be risk assets (as the Silicon Valley Bank implosion reminded us), however the US 3-month Treasury “T-Bill”

is a type of short term bond that US investors will typically use as their “risk free” rate of return when comparing to other Risk Assets. With these definitions in mind, let’s explore why and how sharply rising interest rates exert pressure on stock and other risk assets. The Pressure of Rising Interest Rates on Risk Assets • Discounted Cash Flows: One of the foundational methods to value a business or stock is by calculating its future cash flows and discounting them to their present value using a discount rate. The interest rate often influences this discount rate. When interest rates rise, the discount rate goes up, making future cash flows less valuable in today’s terms. This can result in a lower valuation for businesses and, by extension, their stock prices. Example: Consider a company expected to generate $1 million in cash flow next year. If the discount rate is 5%, the present value of that cash flow is $952,380. But if the discount rate increases to 7%, the present value drops to $934,579. A seemingly small change in the discount rate caused a notable change in valuation. • Cost of Borrowing: As interest rates increase, so does the cost of borrowing for companies. Firms that rely on debt for their operations or expansion will see their expenses go up, impacting their profitability and potentially their stock prices. • Opportunity Cost: With higher interest rates, safer assets like government bonds start to offer better returns. This can make riskier assets, like stocks, less attractive by comparison, prompting investors to reallocate their portfolios. • Consumer Spending: Higher interest rates often translate to more expensive loans and mortgages. As borrowing becomes more costly, consumers may reduce

spending, which can negatively affect businesses and, subsequently, stock prices. For Short-Term Investors (less than 10 years): • Diversify: A diversified portfolio can help insulate you from the worst effects of rising interest rates. Including a mix of assets like bonds, stocks, and perhaps real estate can be a prudent strategy. • Stay Liquid: In a rising interest rate environment, having some liquidity (like cash) can be advantageous. It gives you the flexibility to invest when opportunities arise. Rising interest rates are a great opportunity for short term investors to continue to earn income without sacrificing liquidity. • Re-evaluate Debt: If you have variable-rate loans, consider refinancing or paying them off. As interest rates climb, these loans will become more expensive. • Focus on Quality: Investing in companies with solid fundamentals, low debt, and consistent cash flows can provide some protection against the adverse effects of rising interest rates. Companies that don’t have to rely too heavily on debt to finance their operations, can better weather interest rate hiking cycles. For Long-Term Investors (over 10 years): • Stay the Course: Historically, the stock market has delivered positive returns over long periods, despite fluctuating interest rates. If your investment horizon is long, short-term market disturbances might be mere blips in the grand scheme. • Rebalance Periodically: As interest rates change, your portfolio’s allocation might shift. Regularly rebalancing ensures that your portfolio remains aligned with your long-term objectives. Rebalancing also has the added benefit of forcing you to buy low and sell high. An easy concept in theory, very hard to execute in

practice without forced rebalancing. Consider Bond Ladders: This strategy involves buying a series of bonds with staggered maturity dates. This way, as each bond matures, you can reinvest the proceeds, potentially benefiting from the higher interest rates. For a more conservative and longer term investor this could be a great strategy. • Look Globally: Diversifying your investments across global markets can provide added protection. Different regions might react differently to interest rate changes, offering opportunities for investors. While rising interest rates can pose challenges, understanding their effects on the broader market can equip investors with the knowledge to navigate these changes. Whether you’re a short-term or long-term investor, staying informed, diversified, and proactive can help mitigate risks and potentially harness opportunities. •

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have been crying every day this week. Sometimes, I can’t get through a sentence without a lump forming in my throat. I have an overwhelming feeling of sorrow flooding my being; I still feel that it’s a long terrible dream. I will wake up very soon. Sadly, I’m not. I hate the internet and the horrific scenes; I refuse to watch. Even though I can’t allow the horrific scenes to creep into my world, they still seep through. It is almost impossible to shut down the images and the spine-tingling cries. I can close my eyes but all too many do not have that luxury. I, along with so many, try to do our best to do more to help and give tzedakah. Somebody I know wrote 25 checks to a long line of people and organizations helping Israel. I am in awe of the extraordinary civilians who have filled their homes with gigantic duffel bags loaded to the brim with long supply lists of what is needed in Israel. Thousands of people have cleared store shelves, shopped and “shlepped” to fill suitcases and cargo planes. My friend Shelly is one of them. Shelly got the post above this morn-

ing; she and her team have already packed and sent almost 200 bags. Three days ago, this bag was in her living room. It had the name and number of the donor on it. The chayal texted Tani to thank him and told him he is already using the stuff. I walk every morning with my dear friend Autumn; she told me this great story about her son and daughter-in-law, Jacob and Kaylie. The young couple have been living the good life in Jerusalem. When war broke out, they dropped everything and began to do all that they could to support people in need. As a couple, they spend their days buying what is needed for soldiers and families. They came up with a plan where people donate money into Kayla’s Venmo account and together they bring the shopping haul to a central collection base in the Great Synagogue for distribution. A pretty grass roots endeavor. One shopping spree, Jacob and Kayla left Asher Od, similar to Costco, with over 20 bags of supplies. Jacob is thin and tall, and Kayla thin and small; together they started the long walk to the car – over a 10-minute walk. They had heavy shopping bags hanging from every available spot on their arms and shoulders.

A woman with a sprained hand stopped and offered her one available healthy one; she insisted on helping. Soon they passed a falafel stand who offered two carts. Last, a policeman filled his police car. Jacob and Kayla had a police escort to their car. I am so proud to know this amazing couple. In all of my many years in education, as a teacher and principal, there has always been an opportunity to raise money for a war in Israel. When we were in Israel during the Intifada in July of 2008, we experienced firsthand the horrors of sirens and running for shelter. We were in the middle of a delicious Italian dinner with our daughter Rachel whose kids were supposed to be sleeping a few blocks away when a siren went off. Our daughter threw down her fork and flew out of the restaurant. Our waitress shrugged her shoulders and went about her business as usual. She shrugged her shoulders and handed us the menus, “This is nothing, it happens all of the time. Are you interested in dessert?” When we got back to Cedarhurst that August, we joined so many others who

were buying basic essentials, socks, toiletries, underwear, etc.to be sent to the fighting soldiers. It’s 2023, and here we go again. At school, we held a rally for Israel. Seeing those small children holding up placards in support of Israel brought me overwhelming pride in the knowledge that we are passing on the legacy. A video of the rally was sent to family member soldiers. We were told that the chayal watched it before reporting to his base. There is no nation like Am Yisroel; as a child of survivors who never lost hope and helped found Israel, I believe that it needs our support more than ever. This Shabbos, let’s light an extra candle for peace and the safety of all our precious soldiers. May it be a Shabbat shalom.

Mrs. Barbara Deutsch is currently the associate principal at HANC 609 and a longtime reflective educator, parent, grandparent, and new great-grandparent. Even after all these years, she still loves what she does and looks forward to working with kids every single day.

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n Monday, October 9, I traveled from Beit Shemesh down to the Dead Sea where several hotels are hosting evacuees from the south, together with fellow United Hatzalah volunteer Brynie Lezevnik. The hotel we were sent to had several families from Kibbutz Magen, Netivot and Sderot, and our role as members of the United Hatzalah Psychotrauma and Crisis Response unit was to alleviate the emotional shock suffered by the survivors of the massacres committed by Hamas on Saturday morning. We arrived at around 4:30 in the afternoon. We saw kids outside, in the back of the hotel, and jumped right in, starting to engage with them. Some other volunteer groups had set up a bubble station and some art supplies. Other kids were running around and playing in the yard. We started by engaging the children and gaining trust and, at the same time, starting to build a rapport with the parents and grandparents (many families have several generations living on the kibbutz and in the cities). We spent a couple of hours with those families, learning that they had only just arrived at this hotel that same morning. Many of them started opening up, recounting their stories and how they felt during the roughly six hours that they had been locked up in their homes. All of these families knew each other, and their children were all friends. After that, the families went to eat dinner, and we started connecting with the rest of the therapists who had arrived to help. Some were from organizations, and some were private individuals. There was an organizer on site who took everybody’s information and opened a WhatsApp group, and we started coordinating. The organizer sat with someone from the social services of Kibbutz Magen, who arrived with the evacuees, to learn what the needs of the community were. They

organized a list of groups that needed to be run for various ages, and we divided up the responsibilities for the next day. The model of intervention that we were trained in is called The Six Cs, a system that signifies the six steps of the intervention itself. The first steps are communication and commitment. This is where the person intervening establishes communication with the person in need and commits to assisting that person. The goal of this is to connect with them, alleviating the sensation of loneliness. The next step is cognition, which encourages the person in need of help to focus on cognitive rather than emotional processing. The next step is continuity, or helping the person regain their psychological bearing and orientation. The fifth step is to challenge the person, presenting them with simple relevant and achievable tasks, thereby alleviating the sensation of helplessness. The sixth step is control, or asking short questions, thereby offering the person the chance to make simple decisions and regain a sense of control over their situation. All of this allows the person to have a cognitive and clear understanding of what happened enabling them to conclude, together with the person providing the intervention, that the threatening incident is indeed over and that they are safe. After that meeting, we spent another couple of hours approaching families in the lobby of the hotel, letting them know who we were and allowing them to tell their stories. Almost everyone opened up with very little prying. People wanted to be heard. They were scared, frustrated, angry at the government, and most of all, unsure of how they could ever return to their homes and feel safe there. This was the number one concern across the board. At the end of the day, even though we were meant to stay in a nearby hotel and

go home first thing in the morning, both Brynie and I decided there was too much work to do. We decided we would stay for another day. After eating something, I made my way back to the hotel where we were working. Some of the kids I had met the day prior quickly came up to me, telling me what they had eaten for breakfast. This showed that we had made some headway in gaining their trust, allowing them to share with us even miniscule facts. The families slowly started to trickle in from their rooms and from breakfast, and I started to reconnect with them. Some new families from the kibbutz had arrived, and they were welcomed by their friends and family. Brynie was tasked with running a group together for 7th and 8th graders while I was asked to run a group with a younger age group. Brynie relayed that the experience of running the group with five 7th graders was quite challenging as they opened up quite fully, relaying their experiences and fears. Included in the group was a girl whose father was still missing. As I was meant to run the group for 1st-3rd graders, I went to find the room I was meant to be in and found out there was an entire kids entertainment center, with video games, ping pong tables and a whole room for young kids with ball pits, art supplies, and toys. Instead of pulling the kids away from their fun, I engaged with them in the room, played with them, spoke to them, listened to their stories and fears, and checked in with the parents to see how they were holding up and how the kids were. The kids, generally, seemed quite happy, strong and resilient as kids are. One of the interactions that left a mark on me was with a woman in her 90s who had great-grandchildren living on the kib-

butz. She had lived up north during the 1st Lebanon War and shared the flashbacks she was having. Another was with a man who had 3 sons and 2 grandchildren who stayed on the kibbutz to help with security efforts after the evacuation. I even accidentally approached a man who ended up being a hotel employee. At first, he thanked me for my work, but then he opened up about how traumatized he is about the situation. He himself is Muslim and married to a Jewish woman and has 2 kids serving in the army right now. The survivors we met with have witnessed horrors and it will take way more than the few conversations we had with them for them to heal, but we hope to have helped them start their long journey towards recovery.

Avi Moskowitz is a volunteer in United Hatzalah’s Psychotrauma and Crisis Response Unit, which addresses the emotional needs of family members, witnesses, and bystanders during and after traumatic situations. He lives in Ramat Beit Shemesh.

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hat country did you visit recently? I’m sure not one you were planning to! Perhaps Athens or Turkey, Rome or Paris or some other convoluted route to exit the Holy Land. And I’m sure you weren’t in a touring mood. So it was just in and out, and shlep, shlep, shlep. We were just looking to get to our homes. Suddenly, the one place we were all trying so hard to get into during Covid was the place we were scooting out of this year. Why? Not because we don’t love it. We just didn’t make sense there right now! We don’t want to compete with the schoolkids for the milk and cookies. We don’t want to give the protective forces more people to worry about. And we don’t want to be in Israel when they don’t benefit from our crazy out of control shopping, eating out, and touring. After all, it’s not just our company they love.

We are back in our respective homes all scrounging around for where to donate and how to help save our brothers and sisters in Israel and keep them safe, short-term and long-term. It’s always interesting to hear all the big “political pundits,” and I mean the

daring and dangerous. Let’s pray not. The road may be circuitous. Let’s pray there is a straightforward plan. But let’s remember one thing. We want to travel a straight route back to our homeland – from and to – and only take a detour when it’s our choosing.

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ones we are all married to, give their well thought-out and brilliant solutions to the issue at hand. Yes, don’t we all wish it could be that easy. But as the old saying goes, easier said than done! The road ahead may be long and arduous. Let’s pray not, though. The road ahead may continue to be

So get on board toward the same journey, and let’s stay the course. Don’t let different opinions among us turn into differences of opinions. We are all praying for the same destination: a united, peaceful, and harmonious homeland. Harmony is composed of different sounds, but each sound enhances each

other and works off each other. Harmony within the land does not have to be about doing the exact same thing, rather it must be created and sustained by each of us respecting each other’s rights to do different things and finding the right place and space to make it happen. Otherwise, we’ll be flying all over the place trying to get somewhere…just like last week. When instead, we want to be able to feel at home when we are with each other. Reach out and love a fellow Jew this week who is different from you, because we are all one family, and families need to accommodate for one another. Do it with patience, kindness, and love. And you will change you as well as them. And make our Parent proud!

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I also noticed and appreciate the care you take not to include “gossip” stories as well and it is a tremendous kiddush Hashem.

I just wanted to thank you Baltimore Jewish Life. I know this email sounds simplistic, but yours is the only news source that I and my children access for coverage of this unfortunate matzav in EY and for news in general. I appreciate the communication of important, relevant and timely information that you post on BJL while being sensitive to too much negative, graphic or violent exposure or lashon hara that doesn’t benefit anyone. I can only imagine the balance that you need to keep knowing the critical role you are playing for the community.

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