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Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Rabbi Motty Rabinowitz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42

PEOPLE 613 Seconds . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT

Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 50

LIFESTYLES My Israel Home. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 Health and Fitness. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 54 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 56 Mental Health Corner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 61 Forgotten Heroes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 62 Shabbos Under Pressure . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 In The Kitchen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 Political Crossfire. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 67 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69

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Dear Readers Are emotions real? Do they exist simply in order to help us accomplish things, or do they have a value of their own? “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” We all say it. But is it true? Rashi, on this week’s parshah, tells us that the reason the three angels who visited Avraham after his bris milah appeared in human form was in order for Avraham to feel like he was doing hachnassas orchim. He wasn’t, since the angels didn’t eat the food or drink or need the shade, but he felt like he was. A few pesukim later, Rashi tells us that as a sign of respect, the malachim stood in their tracks without approaching and disturbing Avraham. Yet this actually caused Avraham Avinu to have to get up and greet them. The Rambam in Hilchos Avel rules that it is greater to accompany guests as they leave than to host them in the first place, and that if one doesn’t accompany a guest, it is as if they shed his blood. The commentaries explain that a guest is naturally shy and ashamed. Accompanying them bolsters their confidence and self-esteem. Again, we see that emotional considerations may trump physical ones. Then there’s the ruling that “It’s better to jump into a raging fire than to embarrass somebody in public.” It seems pretty clear that another’s emotions are on par with or may even surpass their physicality. Perhaps this is because emotions are deeper, and more lasting, for the average person. Perhaps there’s a different reason. One thing is certain: Words might never hurt me—but when we are viewing someone else, sticks and stones might just be the lesser of two evils. With kindness and respect, we can change our homes, our communities, and eventually the world. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos, Shalom

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Baltimore Plastic Bag Ban Passes Preliminary Vote By: Staff Reporter BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

reliminary approval has been granted by the Baltimore City Council to ban retailers from giving out plastic bags.

The Baltimore Sun reports City Council voted Monday night 13 to one to ban the use of plastic bags and charge five cents to give any other kind of bag, including paper bags, to customers. Retailers would keep four cents of the fee and the city would get one cent. Some products, such as

newspapers, would be exempt from the rule. Another vote is planned for Nov. 18. If approved, the bill would advance to the mayor’s desk. He could sign the ban or allow it to take effect without his signature.

Bais Yaakov Alumnae Event in Lakewood An Evening of Connection and Inspiration By: BJLife Newsroom BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

n Sunday November 3rd over 200 Bais Yaakov of Baltimore alumnae from 1950-2019 were privileged to participate in an “Evening of Connection and Inspiration” in Lakewood, NJ. Attendees joined from as far as Brooklyn, Far Rockaway, Passaic, Carteret, Bensalem, and Allentown. The evening’s MC, Mrs. Devora (Neuberger) Einstadter began by commenting on how heartwarming it was to see alumnae of Bais Yaakov spanning so many decades together in the room, and how we all share the gift of a wholesome chinuch from Bais Yaakov of Baltimore. She thanked all of those who had worked so hard to make the evening a reality, including Rabbi Aaron Gross, Bais Yaakov’s Director of Development, our Alumnae Association chairs Mrs. Yocheved (Goldstein) Lieder and Mrs. Perel Malka (Freedman) Simpson, and event chairs Mrs. Chomily (Heinemann) Kushner, Mrs. Faige (Kronglas) Spitz, and Mrs. Shira (Kronglas) Jacobson along with their committee. She then introduced Rabbi Zweig to begin with divrei berachah. Rabbi Yechezkel Zweig began by mentioning the pall cast on the event by the recent, untimely passing of fellow alumna Mrs. Rivki (Kronglas) Wajsbort, a”h. Rivki had a lev tov and built an exalted home of Torah, and her petirah is a tremendous loss for her family, her community, and for the

whole extended family of Bais Yaakov. Rabbi Zweig then addressed the question that was echoing in all of our minds that night: Why do we all feel such a connection to Bais Yaakov? He answered that it is because of the mesorah we all received from Bais Yaakov, the mesorah of achdus, of being a “home” to anyone who wants to learn Torah. This mesorah was established by Rabbi Steinberg, zt”l, Rabbi Diskind, zt”l, and Rabbi Freedman, zt”l – through their ahavas Yisrael and friendliness toward every person. Giveret Steinhardt, a”h, also played a big part of that mesorah. She personified derech eretz, ehrlichkeit, achrayus, conducting oneself in a balanced way, and appreciating knowledge, especially Torah knowledge. Rabbi Zweig ended by exhorting us to use our instinctive feelings, which are rooted in the beautiful mesorah we received from Bais Yaakov, when encountering any challenges or decisions we face in life. Mrs. Rivkah (Gottdiener) Shachnow then delivered inspiring words of hesped about her close friend Mrs. Rivki (Kronglas) Wajsbort, a”h. She described Rivki as easygoing and practical, with a great sense of humor. Rivki was also very smart and capable,

but she never wore it on her sleeve. She turned down the offer for a promotion to a prestigious position within her company on the spot because she knew that taking it would not allow her to be there for her family in the way that she wanted to and because she saw her job only as a means to allow her husband to learn. She put tremendous kochos into giving an individualized chinuch to each of her children and filled her bucket of zechuyos with special efforts she invested in her son with special needs. Always putting her own needs aside, Rivki, a”h, was humble, genuine, and focused on what was important in life. Next, Mrs. Elise (Richels) Wolf, in her inimitable manner, presented a special tribute to Giveret Leah Steinhardt, a”h. Mrs. Steinhardt taught in Bais Yaakov for almost 50 years before her petirah this past summer. Mrs. Wolf described how so many students from over the years kept in touch with Mrs. Steinhardt and pointed out that the number of former students and their parents who attended her levayah were a testimony to the impression she made on them all and the respect and admiration they had for her. Mrs. Steinhardt had a vast store of knowledge and was always happy

to share it with others, especially former students who were now teachers and didn’t know where to start. She commanded respect in the classroom because she wanted us to really learn, but she was also approachable and had a great sense of humor. She was truly a legend in Bais Yaakov – descended from greatness, but also a gedolah in her own right. Finally, we were privileged to hear words of inspiration from Mrs. Brenda Willner. Mrs. Willner exhorted us to use the spiritual legacies passed down to us from Sarah Imeinu, Rivka Imeinu, and Miriam HaNeviah. All used their binah yeseirah and tremendous courage to stand up for what they knew to be right in order to build Klal Yisrael. Echoing what Rabbi Zweig had said earlier, Mrs. Willner charged us to daven a lot for siyata d’Shmaya, but at the same time, to have confidence in our abilities to know what is right, the koach to follow through, and to do it all with tact and chochmah. As we exited into the cold night air, we were warmed by the feelings of achdus engendered at this special event and were so grateful to the program’s organizers for giving us this precious opportunity to reconnect with our Bais Yaakov.

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Record Numbers at Pirchei Agudas Yisroel Hasmodah Banquet

undreds of boys accompanied by their fathers flocked to Shomrei this past Sunday evening to attend the Pirchei Agudas Yisroel of Baltimore Hasmodah Banquet. The boys, most who attend school at Talmudical Academy and Yeshivas Kochav Yitzchak, were being honored for learning daily during the Sukkos vacation, even though school was not in session. The Hasmodah Banquet was single-handedly organized to perfection by TI 1stgrade rebbe Rabbi Ya’akov Horowitz, who oversaw the event from start to finish and MC’ed the event. The banquet started off with a feast fit for b’nei m’lachim, catered by Mr. Fishel Gross and his O’Fishel team. A group of 7th and 8th graders from YKY, along with a few other young eager helpers, set up the room and stocked the tables. After the boys and their fathers settled down, the boys were joined by the mara d’asra of Baltimore, Rav Moshe Heineman,

who cleared his calendar to speak to the young Masmidim, encouraging them to continue learning whenever possible. Following Rabbi Heineman’s inspiring speech, the boys and their fathers joined in a large circle for a dance. The singing was provided by TA’s own 5th grade rebbe Rabbi Eli Scheller’s choir, Choir to Inspire, accompanied with leibedik music by Yehuda Mond on the keyboards. Of course, no such event would be complete without a special raffle, in which many s’forim and the latest toys were taken home by their lucky winners. But the highlight of the event was when the boys were treated to a special

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performance by the world-renowned Twins From France. By the way, did you know that when performing in France, the twins go by the name Twins From New York? The boys were spellbound by the twins’ hilarious antics, dare-devil tricks, and acrobatics. At one point, the boys seemed very concerned as the twins’ bicycle “broke” (interestingly, the bike had the same bad luck at the twins’ previous performance that afternoon at B’nos). With their energizing music in the background, it was the unique event when TA and TI boys unknowingly received a 1-hour crash course in Chabad niggunim. Most parents were surprised to the point of envy by how

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well the kids listened, and begged to participate and volunteer in the Twins’ From France activities. If only they acted like that at home... Perhaps children would do better in the obedience department if their parents wore that signature checkered hat! The community wishes to thank Rabbi Ya’akov Horowitz and Pirchei Agudas Yisroel of Baltimore for this exciting yearly event, which encourages and incentivizes our children to constantly keep growing in Hasmodah. May the z’chus of the Torah learned over Sukkos by Tinokos shel beis Raban be a z’chus to him, his family, and our entire community.

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hr Chadash Academy (OCA)’s first SNL of the season was a smashing success filling the Ner Tamid social hall with parents, students and friends learning together after Shabbat. OCA students and their parents, as well as families from Ner Tamid, enjoyed quality learning time together. From the youngest learners with markers and coloring sheets to our oldest 8th graders, every participant was engaged in their learning. We were privileged to take part in 8th-grade student Noam B.’s si-

yum on Seder Nezekin. Mazel Tov to Noam on this great accomplishment and thank you for sharing it with your OCA family! The crowd then heard a D’var Torah from Rabbi Mordechai Bennett, OCA SNL coordinator and enjoyed delicious pizza. The raffle ended off the evening with 15 lucky winners, though, of course, everyone who attended was really a winner. OCA is excited to partner with Ner Tamid for this wonderful program for the whole family with special thanks to Rabbi Yisrael Motzen and Mrs. Rachel Shar for a wonderful collaboration. We look forward to seeing you next Motzei Shabbat at 6:20 pm at Ner Tamid.

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The Jewish Community Football League (JCFL) by “The Kitchen Spot” is in Full Swing

ith 8 strong teams participating in the 2019 season, the Chippewa Optical title is still very much so up for the taking. For a recap of excitement from Weeks 2 and 3 of the season, keep reading: Week 2

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Looking to bounce back from their opening game loss, Allstate started strong by forcing a 4 and out, leading to a short field and a TD pass to Shua Wealcatch “Er in the Rye.” Harris Automotive tied the game with a TD pass of their own but Allstate took the lead back on a deep touchdown pass to Shmuel Moinzadeh.

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Following an interception by Allstate CB Gershon “Holy” Moses, WR/TE Eliave Sobol reeled in a TD pass of his own to bring the score to 19-7. Harris managed to get a score before the half, resulting

in a 19-13 game headed into halftime.

of the game. Yet Chaim Finkelstein was undeterred and as he always does, gathered his troops for one last drive.

Both teams traded scores in the beginning of the second half, but Allstate was finally able to break away after Yaakov Schmell caught a TD pass to give Allstate a 2 score lead of 33-19. Allstate’s stout defense then picked off back to back passes from HA, leading to 2 additional scores and helping Allstate get on the board with their first win of the season.

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With captain David “The Banana Slug” Flamm at the helm, and star WRs AB Reznick, David Pensak, Ross Mailman and others playing complimentary supporting roles, MyGoods was able to eke out a two point victory against a formidable and talented Built by Nate team, to start the season at 2-0.

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It seems like the showdown each year between Chaim Finkelstein and the Gutman brothers comes down to the wire. This year, it was no different. Finkelstein started hot hitting young, talented and tempestuous WR Shloimie “Jerry” Scheinfeld for 2 deep TDs to take an early 13-0 lead. But Dan Gutman came roaring back as he marched his team down the field and hit Chemi “Thanksgiving” Lefkowitz in the end zone to make it 13-7. After a couple good defensive stops, Finkelstein responded by connecting with Ouriel Brad Nafisi to make it a 21-6 game. After Shulie Hochman picked off Finkelstein with a few minutes to go in first half, Gutman found Shimon “The High Holidays” Kanter for the TD to go into half 23-13. The second half was a different story as the Stutman Chiropractic defensive line took over. Ben Gutman’s and Simi Wilner’s play was described by onlookers as “relentless and tenacious” and their potent prowess helped keep Wreck Room scoreless in the second half. With one minute to go, Gutman found Hochman for his second touchdown

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Stutman Chiropractic stormed out of the gates in this one with QB Dan Gutman looking to WR Shulie Hochman deep on their first offensive play. The result of the play was a call of passing interference, which gave Stutman Chiropractic great field position. Gutman followed that up by hitting WR Yehuda “Dancing King” Abedon for a quick score. After another quick TD, the Chiropractors went up 14-0. Shimz responded as new QB, Adam Steinmetz, hit his WR on a deep pass for a TD but Stutman came right back again with another Gutman/Hochman connection in the back of the end zone, allowing them to go into the half with a 20-6 lead. To start the second half, the “Spine Aligners” showed some trickery, as WR Shulie Hochman took the end around and then hit fellow WR Hillel Stutman deep for a TD. Ultimately, the “Back Adjusters” spread the scoring around, with Hochman and Abedon each scoring 2 TDs and Stutman and WR Chemi Lefkovitz accounting for the other 2.

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Harris Automotive defensive lineman Rafi Taragin set the tone early and often in this one, ending the game with 8 total sacks. Harris Auto was in a hole early but scored on 3 consecutive possessions to put the game away before halftime. Some of the key highlights from the Harris team included a pick 6 from Rafi Strum as well as 10 receptions and a TD from WR Ari Bregin. For those scoring at home, Rafi Taragin is a pretty good guy.

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Bonei Olam and Baltimore, A Partnership Yielding Miracles

magine walking into one of the wonderful Baltimore Yeshivos and finding 5 empty classrooms, classrooms filled with desks and chairs just waiting to be filled with smiling children. Thanks to you, the Baltimore Community, the Yeshiva classrooms are filled! Your support of Bonei Olam has resulted in 100 Baltimore babies being born in the last 10 years; enough to fill 5 classrooms! 1 in 6 couples struggle with some form of infertility. That is where Bonei Olam stes in. Bonei Olam is a non for profit organization renowned for providing financial support to childless

couples enduring the agony of infertility. Bonei Olam is there with its wide-ranging knowledge and resources to assist these couples. Dozens of counselors are available at all hours to advise, help gain access to top doctors, and assist in finding the best fertility clinic or research establishment to suit the couple’s needs. Once a treatment plan is established, Bonei Olam assists with covering insurance plans, advocating for the couple or helping with financial payments associated with treatments. Bonei Olam is tremendously proud of its partnership with the Baltimore community over the past 10 years.

This year’s Bonei Olam event is celebrating the partnership and the miracles it has yielded. The event is in a new venue so the entire community can join in the celebration! Bonei Olam cordially invites the entire Baltimore community to come out for an evening of celebration on Wednesday, November 20th at 7:30 p.m. at the beautiful, spacious and recently renovated DoubleTree by Hilton in Pikesville . The evening will feature a personal account by local couple, Loni and Hillel Goldman, of their personal journey to parenthood, a founder’s message by Rabbi Schlomo Bochner and a 10 year

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Managing Anxiety, One Step at a Time By: Suzann Lasson

n October 28th at Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion synagogue, women of all ages were privileged to attend a showing of the national documentary on anxiety awareness, called Angst. Almost 200 women , mostly parents, educators, and mental health specialists, attended in person, and 40 people listened via an audio-call-in line. The evening began with a recitation of Tehillim chapter 13, led by Ora Goldman, OTR/L, in support of people in the community who are experiencing/have experienced mental health issues. The Angst event was organized by Suzann Lasson, OTR/L, who provided the introductory speech. The event was sponsored by Deborah Graves, CEO of Levindale hospital; Dr. Jonathan Ringo, CEO of Sinai hospital; both from Lifebridge Health; and Bikur Cholim. Mrs. Lasson thanked Bikur Cholim and Relief Services, who have continually supported the community initiative of increasing mental health awareness. She continued to thank Rabbi Moshe Hauer in appreciation for his providing Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion for its second mental health awareness event; As she explained, “Rabbi Hauer has a genuine interest in supporting the communities’ mental health effort to open doors and communication so people with mental health issues can get the respect they deserve and not be afraid to get the help they need”.

Why bring Angst to the community? As Suzann explained, “Last year, I put together One Crucial Night to Raise Mental Health Awareness for this same purpose, which was well attended by 400 people, as well as watched livestream by 1800 viewers around the world. One Crucial Night to Raise Mental Health Awareness is available on torahanytime under the search ‘mental health awareness’. The most feedback I received from attendees at that event was that the Baltimore community would benefit from mental health training geared toward our youth and our schools. In gaining a better understanding of mental health, whether you are a teacher at school, a parent at home, or a friend of someone experiencing anxiety or depression, we can all gain a better understanding of what it is like, so we can help and support each other, learn what to say, and learn what not to say”. The Angst film specifically focuses on anxiety disorders, as anxiety is the most common mental illness in the U.S., effecting 18% of the population in a given year. Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet only 1/3 of those

suffering receive treatment. The film includes interviews with kids, teens, educators, a psychologist, a psychiatrist, parents and an interview with Michael Phelps, the Olympic swimmer. In the film, students discuss their own experiences with anxiety and depression and how they are coping in ways that help. The film provides an understanding of why anxiety happens in the body, and that there is help and hope for treating its symptoms. The creators of Angst believe there is power in watching as a community, the power to change, and permission to talk about anxiety disorders, as well as depression, and encourage those experiencing these mental health issues to reach out for help. Angst screens in schools, communities and theaters around the world. A significant portion of the film focused on management techniques. A handout on coping strategies was

distributed to each attendee, which included: holding an ice cube in each hand, listening to the tick of a clock, or snapping on 1 hand and then the other, repeatedly, in order to transfer one’s focus in their mind from the amygdala (emotional part of the brain) to the frontal lobe (thinking and decision-making part of the brain) in order to relieve panic or high levels of anxiety. The film also featured an actual live experience of Exposure therapy, widely known as the best treatment for phobias (an extreme or irrational fear of something). Exposure therapy gradually increases exposure to a specific fear, thereby combating and overcoming that fear. A round of applause filled the room at the end of the film. Here are some of the comments from attendees: “This should be watched in our high schools”; “The teens in the movie were so relatable…I could feel what they are going through” and “The surprise appearance by Michael Phelps was the best part- he spoke to a young man, also a swimmer with anxiety, about how talking about his anxiety and depression helped him; Michael also spoke about the importance of having a good support system, including his family and friends”. Attendees were provided index cards on which to write questions to be addressed at a future community-wide mental health panel discussion for this upcoming year. If you would like to contribute a question for the panel discussion, please email your questions to: otlasson@gmail.com.

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n the Sunday before Yom Kippur, Torah Umesorah held its annual fundraising event for the Baltimore community. The primary message that was conveyed by the evening’s speakers was the need to hakaras hartov to the organization that does so much for the Torah institutions of Baltimore – professional development, a multi-faceted Tefillah project, professional placements and more – throughout the year. It noteworthy that Baltimore happened to be one of the strongest bastions of TU from its earliest days seven decades ago. The parlor meeting, which was hosted in the home of Mr. and Mrs Ari Krupp, stalwart supporters of Torah Umesorah, commenced with an address by TU’s Menahel, Rabbi Dovid Nojowitz, who thanked the gracious hosts for extending their hospitality for this most important function. Rabbi Nojowitz then proceeded to list the multi-faceted and historical interaction that has marked the incredible relationship between Baltimore and TU. The venerable Rosh Hayeshiva of Yeshivas Ner Yisroel, HaRav Aharon

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Feldman, shlita, who also serves as a senior member of TU’s Vaad Roshei Hayeshivos to deliver his words of brachah and hisorerus. The Rosh Yeshiva praised the work of TU in general and reiterated the achievements that TU makes on behalf of the Baltimore schools specifically. Indeed, she shared personal memories going back to when he grew up in Baltimore, recalling when a meeting was held there over 75 years ago to discuss the opening of the visionary organization. The Rosh Hayeshiva concluded his remarks by urging members of the Baltimore community to show their generous support for TU, emphasizing that the sacred days of ratzon in Tishrei were particularly compelling in this respect. The Rosh Hayeshiva was followed by the evening’s featured speaker – the renowned writer and lecturer, Rabbi Yechiel Spero. His connection to TU was portrayed on two levels. The first and most obvious is his ability to constantly see what TU does in the schools, as per his own serving as a rebbi in Baltimore’s Talmudic Academy. The second was his own person-

al involvement with TU’s recent 75th anniversary celebration. Rabbi Spero was commissioned as the head writer of “City by City,” a beautiful volume compiling TU’s work over the past 75 years, with special emphasis on a selection of both cities and individuals around the country. In fact, during his address Rabbi Spero reminisced about

some of the special interviews he conducted with key mechanchim and askanim around the continent. Perhaps of special note is one particular interview that focused on a boy who was born in Lodz, Poland and who, as a child, moved with his family after the Holocaust to Omaha, Nebraska, then attending yeshiva in New York. When he returned home, a man in shul kept staring at him; with his interest piqued he approached the man but noted tears in the man’s eyes. The man then noted, “I used to have three boys like you; now they are all married to non-Jews.” This young yeshiva bochur was determined to one day do something to correct the trend through serving the agenda of Torah education. He entered the world of business some years later, becoming one of the most prominent lay leaders serving TU and a host of other Torah causes. We refer to Rabbi Yaakov Rajchenbach, who is a member of TU’s Executive Board. The gathered audience was visibly moved by Rabbi Spero’s address as well as by the evening of connecting with Torah Umesorah.

First Annual Mishnayos Shasathon at Yeshivas Kochav Yitzchok/Torah Institute of Baltimore By: Staff Reporter BaltimoreJewishLife.com/Jeff Cohn

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n Sunday, November 3, Yeshivas Kochav Yitzchok/Torah Institute held its first annual Mishnayos Shasathon. Over 1300 participants, including talmidim, their parents, and grandparents, filled the ballroom at Martin’s West to learn and complete Shas Mishnayos in under one hour, creating a big Kiddush Hashem and providing a chizuk for everyone involved. The idea for the Siyum was the brainchild of Dr. Dani Sova, a devoted parent of Cheder talmidim, who dreamed of organizing an event that would create a Kiddush Hashem and benefit the Cheder. After months of hard work by parents and hanhalah members, the dream became a reality. As the talmidim arrived at their assigned seats, each one found the mishnayos they had committed to learn, in

a personalized booklet, accompanied by a table-shtender. The program began with short words of encouragement by Rabbi Eytan Feiner, Rav of the ‘White Shul’ in Far Rockaway, NY, who stressed the beauty and spiritual magnitude of the event. Warmed by Rabbi Feiner’s words, the boys—along with fathers, grandfathers, and other family members—began learning their allotted mishnayos with gusto. As the learning proceeded, Rabbi Feiner addressed the women who had come to participate in

the momentous occasion, highlighting the unique role that mothers and wives have in ensuring the continuity of limud haTorah and our beautiful mesorah. As the countdown clock wound down, the women made their way into the hall. Prior to the Hadran, Rabbi Shimon Hirsch, Menahel of the Cheder, delivered a moving message that eloquently captured the sentiments of the evening. “A little over a week ago, we took out all the sifrei Torah from the Aron Hakodesh and we danced together with them with great simchah.

Tonight, in this room, we again have the opportunity to be mesameach with the Torah, and especially the sweet, pure Torah of the tinokos shel bais rabban. The learning of the Mishnayos took under one hour, but the excitement of this tremendous mesoras haTorah and ahavas haTorah will last a lifetime!” The Rosh HaYeshivah of Ner Yisroel, Harav Aharon Feldman, then took to the podium to complete the final Mishnah in Maseches Uktzin and recite the Hadran. Cont. on pg 16

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Around the Community While reciting the Mishnah, the Rosh HaYeshiva delivered a penetrating message about Torah living being the only reality, whereas everything else is mere fantasy. As the Mishnah concludes that shalom is the kli machzik brachah, the Rosh HaYeshivah emphasized that Torah learning will only make a difference if we have middos tovos, which generate and sustain shalom. Immediately after the siyum, the participants broke into heartfelt dancing, musically accompanied by a band and singing by Baruch Levine and Simcha Leiner. Reflecting on his experience, Rabbi Levine commented, “I was extremely impressed with the character of the boys. There was an energetic and exciting ruach with an impressive mentchlikeit.”

Following an elegant seudah, Harav Nosson Nusbaum, Yoshev Rosh of the Cheder’s Vaad HaChinuch, learned the first Mishnah in Maseches Brachos. He reminisced about the early years of the Cheder and marveled at its exponential growth—from 15 talmidim to the current enrollment of over 700 talmidim. There was a surprise special award presentation in honor of the five parent committee members who spent the past five months planning to make the event a success. These included Dr. Dovid Daniel, Rabbi Zechariah Grauer, Rabbi Dr. Yonason Musman, Dr. Elie Portnoy, and Dr. Dani Sova. Mrs. Libby Spero, a grandmother of one of the talmidim, responded with a most touching message to the Cheder’s hanhalah. She

wrote: «I just came home from an incredibly memorable evening at your first annual Shas-a-thon. As I listened to the beautiful voices of the children singing, ‹Bnei veischa k’ vatichila,’ the tears began to flow. I thought about my father, z”l, Mayer Friedman, after whom our grandson is named. When my father returned from the concentration camps, he and my mother married in a German DP camp - broken in body but not in spirit, baruch Hashem. I cannot imagine they would have ever dreamed of seeing such a resurgence - to see their great-grandchild at such a maamad. Could they have imagined seeing the flourishing of Torah, the joy of your talmidim in their learning, and their accomplishments? Baruch Hashem, they did live to see much na-

chas from their progeny, but as I sat and wept, I know they were with us. I know they were looking down at this monumental event with great pride in what you have accomplished l’ maan Hashem v’Toraso.” Originally named Shearis Hapleitah, Yeshivas Kochav Yitzchok/Torah Institute was founded in 1952 by HaRav Yitzchok Sternhell, zt’l, and a group of Holocaust survivors, determined to transplant, rebuild, and restore, what was lost in the European Destruction. This magnificent event was a full circle. As our children’s voices rang out in Torah learning on that night, they were spiritually bound to the one and a half million pure little souls looking down from Shomayim.

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Can you tell us a little about your job? That is a great title, but can you tell us what it means? How do you spend your days? The Cliffsnotes version is that the Director of Institutional Advancement and Admissions raises money for Ohr Chadash. I also oversees the admissions process by giving tours, answering questions, and guiding families through the process of joining the OCA family. Working on development and admissions means that I have the privilege of working with an amazing team of professionals to advance OCA into its next phase of growth.

What’s it like being a fundraiser? Most people I know find asking for money to be very intimidating. I understand that there is a perception that fundraising is scary and asking people to donate is uncomfortable, but from my perspective, having the job of the fundraiser is a gift. I have seen firsthand how Hashem loves his children and ensures they are being taken care of. Our community is generous and donors are so excited to contribute to and be a part of something meaningful. It’s powerful to see how excited people are when

they realize how their donations can be impactful. I have heard time and time again that it is we who are doing them a favor by enabling them to help build our school and community. It has been inspiring for me. Can you talk about your building and rebuilding education theme? The pasuk says “‫בּ אלא ךינבּ ירקת לא‬ ‫ ;”ךינו‬don’t read it as “your children”, rather, read it as “your builders.” Builders are always busy; they are involved, hands-on, and constantly learning from their experiences. They refine and improve their processes as time goes on to ensure an optimal output from their hard work. That’s how we approach our educational model. We want our students engaged, involved, doing, trying, making mistakes, reflecting, and continually refining their approach. Our students should model the builders’ deep desire to learn and improve. Rebuilding education also speaks to our passion and commitment to make sure we are educating our students in a way that accounts for the fact that our children have evolving needs and skill sets. We are using new methodologies and techniques in order to prepare today’s students for the future. Our educational systems were built in the late 1800s. These systems must be rebuilt to meet the needs of the 21st century workforce. Rebuilding our frame of mind, rebuilding our approaches, and rebuilding our methodologies will help build and prepare our students for their futures. We have focused on building and rebuilding in school this year with our

students and staff. Our campaign builds upon this foundation. Helping OCA reach 500k on November 25-26 allows you to be a part of this passion and commitment to our children. What can the community do to help you reach your campaign goal of 500k this year? I’m so glad you asked! OCA is a community school with families davening in over 15 shuls - Shomrei, Shaarei Zion, Suburban Orthodox, Ner Tamid, Rabbi Teichman, PJC, Rabbi Goldberger’s - just to name a few! We are privileged to be able to serve the Baltimore community as a whole and would love for our campaign to be an event that the community joins with us and participates in. When we all come together to experience and share something positive with others, everyone is a winner. So, if you want to learn more about our school, reach out to me and I’ll be happy to set up a time for you to come see OCA in action. You can also join OCA parents and fellow community members by helping us make calls on November 25-26. And, of course, remember to donate on November 25-26 at www.oca500k.com . Your donations will help us continue to build and rebuild Jewish education. Thank you, Rabbi Margolese! Before we go, tell us something most people don’t know about you? I was once bitten by a camel while wearing a full-body chicken costume. (I had to get the costume in here somewhere!)

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We are excited to be interviewing Rabbi Moshe Margolese from Ohr Chadash Academy (OCA) in this week’s 613 Seconds. Rabbi Margolese, can you tell us a little about yourself? I am the middle child of 9 siblings and I have been living in Baltimore since I was 4 years old. I have a Master’s Degree in Educational Administration. I met my wife Shaina when I was 13 and we have 5 awesome kids. I daven at Rabbi Goldberger’s shul. I have been working at Ohr Chadash Academy since 2013 and I love my job serving as the Director of Institutional Advancement and Admissions.

Some of our readers are curious why you switched positions and moved into the Director of Institutional Advancement and Admissions role this year. Hey - they told me there weren’t going to be any hard questions during this interview! I’m kidding, of course, because as I mentioned earlier, I love my job and am happy to tell you why. I feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to build OCA from 75 students to over 300. We have a 2-year-old through 8th-grade program and last year we graduated our first class. We are enjoying seeing our graduates succeed in high school. In its 9th year, OCA has developed well beyond a start-up school and is a stable, thriving, community institution. It’s exciting that we have entered this new phase. When I thought about my strengths and the needs of the school, it became clear to me that this position will leverage my skills and experience to help us build on our successes and continue to build the school going forward.

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Bombarded by Rocket Fire Hundreds of rockets whizzed across the border into Israel on Tuesday after Palestinian Islamic Jihad declared that it was preparing for war with Israel after the IDF carried out a dawn assassination of one of the terror group’s senior leaders in the northern Gaza Strip. “These terrorist crimes are aggression and a declaration of war on the Palestinian people, and the enemy bears responsibility for them,” PIJ said in a statement following Israel’s targeted killing of Baha Abu al-Ata. “The Al-Quds Brigades [PIJ’s military wing] and the valiant resistance, which announced a mobilization [of

its fighters] and started to hit back against this aggression and terrorism, will continue to forcefully and courageously defend the dignity of the Palestinian people,” it said. According to the Al-Quds Brigades, Abu al-Ata, 42, was “one of the most prominent members of its military council and the commander of the northern part of the [Gaza Strip].” The Hamas terror group, which rules the Gaza Strip, said the assassination of Abu al-Ata would not pass without a “punishment.” “Our Palestinian people bid farewell today to a commander and fighter who followed the path of martyred leaders. We in Hamas affirm that the Zionist enemy will bear responsibility for all the consequences and ramifications of this escalation and dangerous attack,” Hamas said in a statement. Speaking at the funeral for Abu alAta, Hamas official Ismail Radwan said at Omari Mosque that Hamas’s Qassam Brigades military wing would stand shoulder to shoulder with Islamic Jihad. IDF spokesman Jonathan Conricus

said the assassination did not signify “a return to previous policies of what has been termed in the media ‘targeted killings.’” “We conducted the attack because there was no other choice,” he said. The army spokesman said the military saw its chance on Tuesday morning when Abu al-Ata was relatively isolated and the risk to civilians was less. The Israel Defense Forces ordered schools closed in southern and central Israel on Tuesday, including the Tel Aviv metropolitan area, as terror groups in the Gaza Strip launched dozens of rockets at cities and towns in retaliation for the assassination. At least 190 rockets and mortar shells were fired from the Gaza Strip at central and southern Israel on Tuesday. The Iron Dome was able to shoot down 90 percent of them. Rocket attacks began shortly after the 5 a.m. killing of Abu al-Ata, most of them focused on Israeli towns and cities surrounding the northern Gaza Strip. In addition, shortly after 7 a.m., rocket sirens sounded in the Tel Aviv suburbs of Rishon Lezion and Holon. An hour later, sirens blared in the southern neighborhoods of Tel Aviv and in the nearby suburbs of Bat Yam and Holon, and later in Tel Aviv itself and nearby Modiin. Tens of Israelis required medical health from the attacks. Many of them suffered from anxiety and at least 23 of them were treated for injuries sustained after falling while running to bomb shelters during red alert sirens. Two victims, aged 30 and 55, were lightly injured by rocket shrapnel. Assassinations of Palestinian leaders in Gaza have become rare events. In May, during the most serious flareup in recent years, when Palestinian terrorists fired more than 700 rockets into Israel, the IAF killed Hamed Hamdan al-Khodari, who it said was responsible for funneling money from Iran to Gaza terror groups.

Tzofar and Naharayim Go Back to Jordanian Control Tzofar and Naharayim, two Israeli farming villages straddling its eastern border, reverted to Jordanian control

on Sunday. Earlier in the day, IDF soldiers closed the yellow gate for the last time while locals wiped away tears. A few hours later, Jordan’s King Abdullah held a festive press conference at the site and declared that the two villages would remain part of Jordan forever. “Today I announce the expiration of the peace treaty annexes of Al Ghamer and Baqoura and the imposition of our full sovereignty over every inch of those lands,” said King Abdullah, using the Arab name for the hamlets.

To thunderous applause from Jordanian MPs, the king went on to say that “Jordan has paid a heavy price for our stance throughout history” and swore that his kingdom “will continue to support the Palestinians until their state is established.” Known as the “Islands of Peace,” Tzofar and Naharayim were owned by Jews prior to Israel’s establishment. Despite being outside of Israeli territory following the 1948 War of Independence, Jewish farmers continued to work their land. In the 1994 peace agreement between Israel and Jordan, it was agreed upon by both sides that the territories would be leased to Israel for 25 years and that the said lease would be automatically renewed unless one party backed out. Due to the steady deterioration of relations between Israel and Jordan in recent years, Jordan announced last year that it does not intend to continue the agreement, a stance it stuck to despite heavy Israeli pressure to reverse the decision. King Abdullah had been under relentless pressure from Jordanians to scrap the agreement and experts say that he was forced to torpedo the lease despite the severe blow it dealt to his relationship with Jerusalem.

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In a blow to Israel and EU-Israel relations, the European Court of Justice ruled on Tuesday that EU member states are legally obligated to label “settlement” goods produced in Israel as such. The dramatic and precedent-set-

ting ruling paves the way for all Israeli products that originated in Judea and Samaria to be labeled with their origins across Europe. Israel’s Foreign Ministry had been extremely concerned in the lead-up to the verdict and had sent warning messages to European countries saying that those implementing the ruling would suffer severely deteriorating ties with Israel. Starting in 2015, the EU published guidelines that mandated that products from Judea and Samaria be marked as such when sold in Europe. Since then, implementation of the aforementioned rules has been mixed, with only a small number of European states complying with it. The lawsuit against the policy had been brought to the Tribunal by Psagot Winery in 2016. Psagot Winery CEO Jacob Berg had petitioned a French court against marking the

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Bennett was easily confirmed, with only Likud Absorption Minister Yoav Galant opposing the move. Galant, a former IDF general, had bitterly opposed the nomination due to the personal enmity he feels towards Bennett and reportedly feeling that he was more suitable for the job. “Out of a deep sense of responsibility for the security of the State of Israel, I accepted Prime Minister Netanyahu’s request on Friday to serve as defense minister,” Bennett said following the vote. Bennett replaces Prime Minister Netanyahu, who had been Defense Minister ever since Avigdor Liberman resigned last year. Netanyahu had surprisingly agreed to give Bennett the job on Friday amid fears that Bennett’s New Right faction would join with Benny Gantz to establish a center-left government, likely ending Netanyahu’s career. With Benny Gantz unable to establish a government, every seat matters, and Bennett had been sending out signals that he was on the cusp of throwing his support to Kahol Lavan. With the period Gantz has for forming a coalition ticking down, Netanyahu gave Bennett the Defense Ministry in order to ensure that he does not abandon the right-wing bloc. Other than Galant, a slew of Likud ministers was reportedly furious with Netanyahu for giving his rival Naftali Bennett the coveted position. Throughout the weekend, anonymous Likud officials sniped at both Netanyahu and Bennett in the press and alleged that the prime minister’s failure to award the defense portfolio to a Likud member would cost him dearly. “I think that Bennett is really a worthy candidate, but I think there are better people in Likud like Gallant and former Shin Bet security chief Avi Dichter,” Likud MK Yoav Kisch told Radio Jerusalem. Becoming Israel’s Defense Minister is a lifelong goal for Bennett, who first joined politics in order to repair what he said was Israel’s substandard strategic posture. A former officer in the elite Sayeret Matkal special forces unit, Bennett then founded and sold several high-tech companies for hundreds of millions of dollars. Three days after selling his cybersecurity company Cyota for $150 million, the Second Lebanon War broke out and Bennett was drafted to command a seek-and-

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Gantz’s comments come as his period to form a coalition winds down without any end to the impasse in sight. Should he fail to establish a government, any lawmaker would have 21 days to make an attempt, after which third elections would become inevitable. “We in Kahol Lavan will do everything possible to ensure that Isra-

el will not go to elections for a third time in a year,” Gantz asserted. “Every effort will be made to establish a broad and liberal unity government,” he said during a faction meeting. Gantz added that unlike Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, whom he claimed only cared about himself, Kahol Lavan was motivated only by “what interests Israeli citizens – and not just what interests you.” “We will do everything we can to get started on the collapsing health system, the traffic jams, the solution to the budget deficit, and the security challenges we face,” said Gantz. The ex-general’s speech came two days after Yisrael Beytenu leader Avigdor Liberman announced that he would throw his support to any candidate that agreed to compromise the most in order to avoid new elections. With eight Knesset seats, Yisrael Beytenu is now the deciding voice regarding who will be Israel’s next prime minister. Currently, the leftwing bloc stands at 57 seats, meaning that it does not have the 61 votes needed to establish a coalition. Since the polls closed on September 17, Liberman has stuck to his demand that the Likud and Kahol Lavan form a national unity government that excludes the right wing and haredi parties. The demand has been rejected by Netanyahu, who refuses to abandon his right-wing bloc of 55 Knesset seats. With the impasse showing no signs of breakthrough, Liberman said during a televised interview that the Likud would need to abandon the right-wing bloc while Gantz would need to agree to sit in a government with Netanyahu. Should they fail to do

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Russia has condemned the decision by Israel’s High Court to permit the extradition of hacker Alexei Burkov to the United States. In a statement on Monday, the Russian Embassy in Israel said that “the decision violates his rights as well as Israel’s international commitment.” Russia added that the move would lead to a deterioration in Israel-Russian relations should extradition move forward.

Israel’s High Court had rejected Burkov’s appeal to suspend Justice Minister Amir Ohana’s decision to extradite him to the United States. In the ruling, the judges wrote that “despite Burkov’s claims, the Justice Minister’s decision to order his extradition to the United States was made after exhaustively and deeply examining the different options needed.” Burkov had filed the appeal after Ohana signed his extradition to the United States, where he is wanted for cybercrimes. Prior to Ohana’s order, the High Court ruled that there was nothing preventing Burkov from being extradited to the U.S. despite another pending request by Russia. Burkov has been imprisoned in Israel since his arrest in 2015. He is wanted in the United States for stealing millions of dollars in a complicated credit card scheme. Burkov’s petition came following a similar appeal filed by the family of Naama Issachar, an Israeli-American woman who is being held by Moscow since April as a bargaining chip for the Russian hacker’s release. Issachar’s family ended up pulling the appeal following consultations with senior Israeli security officials, who warned that it would only aggravate their daughter’s legal situation. “Naama will not be a tool for the Russian hacker and his people,” her mother said. “I pray that I decide not to aggravate Naama’s situation in the Russian prison and give full confidence in the president and the prime minister to continue working with the Russian president to bring about Naama’s immediate release.” Issachar, 26, was sentenced to seven and a half years in prison last month for transiting Russia with nine grams of marijuana in her luggage. Her lengthy sentence, which is disproportionate by Russian standards for a small narcotics offense, was reportedly part of an effort by Moscow to prevent Burkov’s extradition. The marijuana was in her luggage, and Naama’s intention was not to stay in Russia – a country that does not permit marijuana use. She was on her way home to Tel Aviv after a trip to India. The use of medical marijuana is legal in Israel, and first-time use of marijuana is decriminalized in the country.

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You Can Pay with PB&J Peanut butter can do a lot more than stick to the roof of your mouth in Alaska. At the University of Alaska Anchorage, students can donate jars of jelly, peanut butter, and similar sandwich spreads in lieu of paying their parking fines. Two jars can erase $10 worth of fines, while five jars will eliminate $60 in fees. “Any nut butter – almond, cashew, peanut butter – or any flavor jam, jelly, marmalade, preserves, etc. will be accepted. All donations must be commercially produced (no home canning), unopened and not expired,” the school said. The jars “will be distributed through the UAA Emergency Food

Ever run a marathon? Nick Butter did – and he did it in all 196 countries recognized by the United Nations. The 30-year-old accomplished his feat on Sunday, when he completed the marathon in Greece. Butter has so far raised over £65,000 ($83,000) for charity Prostate Cancer UK as a result of his record-breaking odyssey, which began on January 6, 2018. Butter, a former banker who hails from Dorset in the south of England, ran his first marathon at the age of 11. Later, he competed at a high level while keeping up an office job but eventually decided to become a fulltime runner. The idea for his 196-country challenge came when Butter met a man at a race in the Sahara Desert who had been diagnosed with terminal prostate cancer. Kevin Webber imparted a powerful message that inspired Butter to raise money for Prostate Cancer UK and, when he realized that nobody had ever run a marathon in every country in the world, he set off to become the first person to do so. “You’ve got to value your time, you cannot just assume that you’re going to get to retirement and live this life, you’ve got to go and do what you want now,” Butter opined. Butter filled 10 passports over the course of the trip, sometimes returning home to the UK for just 24 hours to pick up a new visa. Running in some official marathons but largely plotting his own course, Butter got into a number of scrapes along the way, documenting everything on his Instagram account. “I was bitten by a dog, I was mugged, I was robbed at knifepoint, I was put in a cell,” he recalled. Not all his experiences were memorable in that way, though. “I ran with a thousand people in

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There is a popular Yiddish aphorism describing someone so inebriated that he is unaware of his actions that goes: Ehr iz shikkur vi Lot! This literally translates as ‘He is as drunk as Lot’. This refers to the incident after the destruction of Sodom when his daughters fearing they are the last survivors in the world ‘drug’ him with wine, bringing him to a state of unconsciousness that enabled them to commit incest for the sake of preserving the human race. It seems that despite his having been numbed beyond awareness by the alcohol, he was faulted and derided for his behavior. When the Torah describes him waking up the next morning after having experienced intimacy with his older daughter it states that ‘he was not aware of her lying down, ‫ובקומה‬, and of her getting up’. In a Torah scroll there appears a dot above the word ‫ובקֹומה‬, which indicates some ambiguity as to the proper placement of the word here. We are taught that indeed upon arising he had some recollection of her having gone off the bed but had no further memory of what actually transpired. On the second night when his younger daughter implemented the same strategy to dose him with spirits, despite suspecting her intention, Lot readily submitted to her offer of a stiff drink. For this lecherous consent he is forever remembered in disgrace. There is in fact a Midrash that many understand to be referring to a custom in ancient times to publicly read this paragraph weekly, every Shabbos, in spotlighting Lot as an object lesson of the pitfall of indulging in drink ‘to instruct the populace of the dangers of intoxication and how it can bring one to licentiousness’. ‫(ב"ר‬ )‫נא ט ובפי' עץ יוסף שם‬ What is baffling though is the fact that Lot entertained the opportunity to

drink the second time despite knowing he would likely have no memory of the experience whatsoever. In fact when reporting his waking up the second time, the Torah reiterates once again his having been unaware of ‘her getting up’, it is not dotted, indicating that this time he had no recall whatsoever of her even arising. Clearly they must have doubled the dose having perhaps sensed his suspicion the first time. It also seems that it was necessary for his daughters to put Lot asleep to accomplish this mission, and that they didn’t even consider the possibility that he would concede such an inappropriate act otherwise. He must have had some healthy pangs of guilt. What would compel Lot to imbibe in pursuit of a pleasure that he would have no consciousness of anyway? Was Lot that vulnerable that his daughters were so confident they could get him to drink to such an extreme that he would lose cognizance? Lot parts ways with his beloved brother-in-law and uncle, Avraham, declaring, ‫אי אפשי לא באברהם ולא בא־‬ ‫לוקיו‬, “It is impossible for me to accept Avraham or his G-d.” Impossible?! Was it really ‘impossible’ or simply difficult and not enticing? Throughout the entire episode with Lot he is driven by the pursuit of pleasure, whether it be wealth, the beautiful atmosphere, or the alluring and freewheeling lifestyle of Sodom. Lot constantly struggles with what he knows to be true and his seeming blind ambition for pleasure. He valiantly champions the rights of foreigners at risk to his own life, in facing off with the maddening masses that seek to abuse his guests, yet so callously offers them in exchange the carnal pleasure of taking his virgin daughters in order to placate the dangerous mob.

Perhaps the most distinguishing hallmark of an addict is the lack of ability for self-control. Lot perhaps was the world’s first pleasure addict, who by his own admission was totally incapable of controlling his habits. He acknowledged the just life of Avraham, but was so entrenched in his addiction that the restrictions of Avraham and his G-d were ‘impossible’ to abide by. Only one addicted and painfully shackled to behaviors that one inherently knew to be improper would pine to drink even in the pursuit of what couldn’t possibly give him sensorial pleasure in his drunken stupor. He was an addict, his daughters well knew, who could be easily lured by the promise of powerful and enticing alcohol. Might the ‘blindness’ the angels brought upon the lynch mob and their subsequent exercise in futility in searching for the door nevertheless instructive in revealing the nature of addiction to recklessly pursue that which may bring them further danger? Might Lot’s wife’s inability to control herself from looking back knowing that she’s be doomed another piece of evidence in the dossier of addiction this family and the inhabitants of Sodom struggled with? The Ibn Ezra avers that this was not simply a physical malady of sightlessness but more so a blindness of the ‘eye and heart’, a temporary insanity that blocks clear perception of truth. One of the first steps one must take to overcome an addiction is to realize that one is powerless to break those chains alone, without the help of a Higher Power. When Lot is instructed by the angels to escape to the mountain in the direction of Avraham, he hesitates. Turning to the angel he first begs ‫אל‬ ‫נא‬, “Please don’t” ask that of me. He then, for the first time in the entire account of Lot until now, beseeches of

G-d, ‫י‬-‫אדנ‬, declaring, ‫לא אוכל להמלט‬, “I cannot escape...”. -‫(בראשית יט יח‬ )‫יט‬ Lot for the first time in his life turns to the Higher Power, G-d, and admits that without His help he cannot conquer his demons. He knew he couldn’t simply return to the rigors of life according to the House of Avraham just yet. He asks to relocate to Tzoar a town not yet as corrupt and indulgent as Sodom where he stands a chance to rehabilitate himself with the help of G-d. The child his oldest daughter begets is named ‫מואב‬, Moav, meaning ‘from my father’. Refusing to hide the taint of this conception and declare the reality for what it is, is another step in the direction of recovery. One must take inventory of one’s wrongs and admit the exact nature of that flaw in order to affect repair. The Midrash adds that ‫ מואב‬is also a contraction of the sentiment, ?‫מי אב‬, a rhetorical question, ‘who is our true father?’; certainly Avraham and his legacy. We are ready, his daughter declares, to proceed healthily and with proper direction and help in removing our defects. From these daughters’ descendants, Rus and her progeny, the destiny of our nation will come to fruition with the coming of Moshiach. Although we no longer recite this paragraph weekly, but once a year we recall this remarkable comeback that began with one finally accepting one’s shortcomings and committing to be guided by the only One who can bring us home. May we each take an inventory of our ‘addictions’, no longer wallowing in the ‘impossible’ task of ridding ourselves of our flaws, acknowledging G-d as the only one who can bring us up to greatness, as long as we submit totally to His embrace and authority. If we do succeed, we will hear soon the footsteps of Moshiach.

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Bais Din or “Balderdash” It was about 35 years ago. We were off from Ner Yisroel, so a fellow student and I decided to take the subway downtown to check out the Inner Harbor. On the subway, a tall distinguished man took an interest in us. Years later, I found out his name was Karl Goodman, A”H. He was on the way to court, and he offered to take us along. Although we did not end up going, he did leave us with a valuable trick of the trade. He confided that If you ever need to ask the judge for a favor, make sure to ask him right before the morning break. Why? Because the judge is antsy to get his morning shot of liquor, and he will give you whatever you want just so he can get back to his bottle. This was my first introduction to the secular legal system. One of the Sheva Mitzvos Bnei

Noach is to have dinim. According to the Rambam (Hilchos Melachim 9,14), this requires that they set up courts in each major city just as we are required to set up batei dinim. The Rambam holds that the purpose of these courts is only to judge the Sheva Mitzvos Bnei Noach. The Ramban in Parshas Vayishlach argues that the Mitzva of dinim imposes all our laws regarding business to the goyim, and the courts are there to enforce those laws. This would include such things as employment law and overcharging. Others argue that the secular courts merely need to have laws even though they do not match ours. The rules of the secular court itself according to the Rambam are more lenient. They can have one judge, they allow relatives to testify, and there is no requirement of hasrah (warning by

the court system). So even though the laws would apply, the procedures they use are more lax. Once I have mentioned it, I should put the drinking issue into perspective. Lawyers are generally under a lot of stress. Alcoholism historically has been a major problem for attorneys. This problem already starts in law school where the culture is to drink. The local bar association provides support for attorneys who have become addicted to alcohol. The Shulchan Aruch is a little allusive when it states, “some say” a person who drank wine is permitted to judge monetary conflicts. It is more strict when it comes to issues of Issur and Hetter. However, the later Poskim come down hard on any form of judiciary proceeding where the judge is under the influence of alcohol. The

Gra brings that a person who drank a Rviis of wine should not judge at all. In addition, the Pischei Tshuvah brings a slew of Poskim who are also stringent. A mailing went out before Yom Tov for the Bais Din one-time annual fundraiser. If you have not yet done so, please send in your check or contribute at www.BaltimoreBaisDin.org. Yitzchok (Larry) Strauss has Smicha in both Yora Yora and Yodin Yodin and is the Treasurer for the Baltimore Bais Din. He is also an Attorney, CPA and Adjunct Professor in the Univ of Balt LLM program. The author can be reached at mottyrab@gmail.com

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Dinner to Celebrate a Decade of Agra D’Pirka’s Nationwide Growth By Margie Pensak

In 2009, when Reb Ezra Klein founded a learning program for baal habatim in his Flatbush community, l’ilui neshmas his mother, Pesi Rochel Klein, a”h (whose initials spell out “Pirka”), on her first yahrtzeit, little did he realize that it would blossom into a nationwide program. In celebration of its first ten years of tremendous growth, the Agra D’Pirka Decade Dinner will take place on Sunday evening, November 24, at the Tiferes Rivka Hall, in Brooklyn, at 6 p.m. The Backstory “Agra D’Pirka is an organized morning learning program geared towards local professionals, business owners, college students, retirees, and anyone else who wishes to increase his limud haTorah,” explains Agra D’Pirka Administrator and Dinner Committee member Rabbi Chaim Fuhrer. “The program typically runs from 9:30 to 11:30 a.m., with an impressive roster of maggidei shiur at each of its many locations. Currently, Agra D’Pirka has hundreds of shiurim on Torah Anytime and Kol Halashon,

enabling limud haTorah beyond the program’s beis medrash walls.” Adds Reb Ezra, who is a Columbia University-trained lawyer by profession and manages his own legal firm, “I decided that I wanted to start a Kollel for baal habatim from 9 a.m.-12 p.m. After learning for 25 years, during those hours, it occurred to me that there is a large segment of our population that doesn’t need to go to work from 9 to 5, who can benefit from us. The need for it was so clear.” Since its inception, the free Agra D’Pirka morning Kollel program, which includes a light breakfast, has expanded to include: Boro Park, Queens, Lakewood, Monsey, Miami, Williamsburg, Baltimore, and Spring Valley. “We have about 500 people learning about 450 _____ every day,” notes Reb Ezra. “We have 55 top quality maggidei shiur. The program is a sight to behold! There have been a lot of knock-offs of the program, which is beautiful; we encourage that and we try to help them out when we can -

logistically and stylistically - with program ideas because no one has a corner on Torah.” The Honorees HaRav Aharon Kahn, shlit”a, Mara Dasra, Knesses Bais Avigdor, in Flatbush, will deliver Divrei Bracha at the Decade Dinner and the renowned maggid, Rabbi Paysach Krohn, will be the Guest Speaker. The Guests of Honor include: R’Moshe Aharon Hoffman, of Agra D’Pirka of Williamsburg; Rabbi Yankel Herskovitz, Daily Maggid Shiur, Agra D’Pirka of Baltimore; R’Meir Nussbaum, of Agra D’Pirka of Lakewood; and R’Dovid Tanenbaum, of Agra D’Pirka of Queens. An award will also be given to the family of renowned mechaber, HaRav Avraham Finkel, z”l. There will also be a special video presentation. The Baltimore Faces Behind Agra D’Pirka Reb Eli Sofer administers the Agra D’Pirka program in Baltimore, held at Khal Ahavas Yisroel Tzemach Tzedek (KAYTT), more fondly known as “Rabbi Heber’s shul”. I had the priv-

ilege of speaking to Baltimore’s own Rabbi Yankel Herskovitz, a Guest of Honor at the upcoming Agra D’Pirka Decade Dinner, about his longstanding “career” as a Maggid Shiur, particularly his involvement as the daily Maggid Shiur of Agra D’Pirka of Baltimore. “I started giving the Daf Yomi shiur about 40 years ago while working full time, and stopped after 33 years. It was a great education for me, requiring me to prepare for it every day. In the very beginning giving that shiur, my daughters were little girls. Taking time away from them for a certain extent, I wanted them to understand what I was doing. At that time, the Agudah of New York was printing a little Gemara every time they started a new mesechta. They would send me an order form for $7 a volume. When the order form came in, I gave my daughters, 7 and 9, a check and the order form and they had to fill out the form and the check, mail it, and give me the Gemara when it arrived. There was a special shelf in my bookcase for these

Most, not all of the shiur participants, have strong yeshiva backgrounds. The chevra is comprised of all baal habatim - some retired, others still working with flexible schedules. The ones that have a yeshiva background all enjoy going back to their yeshiva years of how they used to learn in those days, remembering how geschmakt that used to be. Just like I enjoy it, they enjoy it, so I have the perfect audience. Being the Daily Maggid Shiur for Agra D’Pirka is certainly one of the best things I’ve done over the years. The learning of Daf Yomi is a wonderful thing and I really enjoyed giving that shiur; this is just a different way of learning. Now, Baruch Hashem, reaching this stage where learning in this manner and having an audience who wants to learn the same way, is a great benefit for me. We owe Ezra Klein a lot and he deserves tremendous credit!” Agra D’Pirka Programs on the

Horizon Concludes Reb Ezra, “It feels great to see how the Agra D’Pirka program has grown in my mother’s memory, but there is lots and lots more to do. There is no shortage of locations to bring it to – it’s just a question of money and some manpower to bring them to fruition, but with Hashem’s help, we’ll bring it to every place where there is a nice-sized Jewish community. Soon, we hope to open additional branches in West Palm Beach (during “Snowbird Season”), L.A., Chicago, Atlanta, Minneapolis, and Dallas -- perhaps, Montreal, but Moshiach should come sooner than that, so everyone can learn in Eretz Yisrael!” For reservations or journal ads, or to begin an Agra D’Pirka in your community, please call: 212-6619157; fax: 212-661-6606; or email: infoagradpirka.org. For information about the Baltimore Agra D’Pirka program, contact Eli Sofer, 917-7551572, or elicsofer@gmail.com .

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en! I couldn’t believe my great fortune. All I told him was, ‘I don’t want to give a Daf Yomi type shiur for the typical 45-minute allotment of time, limiting me with how much I need to cover; I want more time. I want to give a yeshiva-style blatt shiur, where we learn all Tosfos, all meforshim, Rishonim and Acharonim, and spend time on the blatt – if you allow me to do that, I am very interested in giving that kind of a shiur.’ He agreed up front. Agra D’Pirka of Baltimore started a year ago Labor Day and is giving me tremendous benefit because I had not learned in that way since leaving the yeshiva world. We are learning at the level of an advanced yeshiva world shiur. Bringing in as many meforshim as possible– Litvishe and Chassidishe -- we have a real taste of what goes on in the world. The biggest gedolim - for example, the Klausenberger Rebbe, Rav Yaakov Yitzchak Ruderman, and Rav Eliyahu Dessler, zt”l - are ones that don’t limit themselves to one way of learning.

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Gemaras and I told them that when the shelf is full, that means I finished Shas. They would count the volumes waiting for the shelf to be full. It was my way of getting them involved to understand. Otherwise, how do you explain to a child, ‘Tatty can’t sit with you right now, I have to prepare for tomorrow.’ It really worked for my kids. In those years, the shiur was mostly a survivor crowd so and the shiur was given in Yiddish. We enjoyed one another, but over time, of course, since they were older than me, I “lost” them. I moved on to say a shiur in Talmud Yerushalmi, which was a new and challenging experience for me. I continue to say it twice a week; it draws a nice crowd. If Hakadosh Baruch Hu gives me arichas yomim, I’ll finish Talmud Yerushalmi, also. That’s a goal, but at two days a week it will take a while, iy”H. I was a partner in a national CPA firm and retired about a year ago. After the first month or so, Ezra Klein called. It was like manna from Heav-

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6.29am Wednesday morning, partially conscious in bed, I heard the unwelcome sound of the local air-raid siren broadcast its solemn message to the neighborhood. Time to gather the kids into our safe room and wait ten minutes before we proceed with our new day. It took 24 hours, but the new round of hostilities with Gaza finally reached the Beit Shemesh area. Perhaps it is not coincidental, and a bit eerie, that this week’s Torah reading discusses the raining down of fire and brimstone from Heaven on the

evil cities of Sedom and Amorah. In that safe room, thoughts raced through my mind, as I pondered what Divine message was being sent our way, and what the antidote to these recurring episodes might be. A brief perusal through the introduction to the incident of Sedom and Amorah does, I believe, shine a bright spotlight on the key to our situation. The destruction of these cities opens with G-d theorizing that he should probably share information about the impending doom with Avraham:

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“For I know him, that he will instruct his offspring after him, that they shall guard the way of G-d, to observe righteousness and justice.” (Breishis 18:19) The commentators struggle to understand why Avraham’s unwavering pursuit of justice would motivate G-d to notify him of the unfolding situation, especially given Avraham’s opening position to minimize the intended Divine retribution. The Seforno, amongst others, suggests that given Avraham’s inclination to religiously pursue morality, this unfortunate occasion will serve as a future Exhibit A, a definitive example as to what happens to a society that is unable to find its moral compass, or have the unwilling to educate its populace in civil behavior. G-d wanted Avraham to watch and understand the critical need for principled behavior. Rashi, on the other hand, understands this verse more literally. It is Avraham’s current stature and ethical DNA that warrants his insider status. Only Avraham could appreciate the need for a moral standard, and only Avraham could stand as a potential bulwark against the destruction, suggesting justice be observed in a more refined manner. Whichever approach one takes, it was undoubtedly Avraham’s propensity to instruct his descendants to stand morally steadfast, that allowed him to serve as a counter balance to the woes of Sedom and Amorah. As the Jewish nation, we have been bequeathed by our forefather with a deep-seated drive and passion to battle external evils, and to construct a just and kind civilization. Earlier this week, I observed this underlying desire in full force. I was participating in a grueling 8-hour na-

tional exam for Dayanus, Rabbinical judges, administered by the Israel Chief Rabbinate. At 4.15pm, some two hours before the exam ended, the proctor banged on his desk to announce Mincha at our seats (no talking!). As everyone prepared to daven, I looked around in awe. There were several hundred men from every branch, shade and ethnicity of Orthodoxy persevering together with one simple, unified goal – pursue justice! We may indeed have intermittent failings in applying these principles, but let there be no doubt, we are the descendants of Avraham, and we have a role and a mission to enthuse civilization with ethics and righteousness. With the perennial rounds of conflict with Gaza in the background, the current state of Western civilization, and its crumbling ethos, leave us much room for thought. Be it, in the words of the British author Douglas Murray,” The strange death of Europe”, or the mayhem which is Brexit, or the absolute disintegration of civil discourse in the United States, we are observing unprecedented global disarray. And the future seems to be pointing in the wrong direction. The global community appears to be circling purposeless and without direction. We must, of course, first get our own house in order. But at the end of the day, as descendants of Avraham, we have a stabilizing antidote for all the external chaos. We have inherited the capability and responsibility of proudly inspiring justice, promoting kindness, and creating holiness for the entire world. The author can be reached at mottyrab@gmail.com

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Levi Eshkol

Water Superhero

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By Gedaliah Borvick

Then-Prime Minister Levi Eshkol and Defense Minister Moshe Dayan onboard a helicopter while touring army installations in the West Bank, September 1967

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recently met with a young couple living on Levi Eshkol Boulevard in the Jerusalem neighborhood of Ramat Eshkol and asked them if they knew who Levi Eshkol was. “Wasn’t he a war hero or president many years ago?” was their response. I realized that it was high time to dedicate an article to this fascinating leader. Levi Eshkol was the third prime minister of Israel, serving from 1963 until his death in 1969. He was an excellent statesman and forged strong relationships with U.S. President Lyndon B. Johnson and other world leaders. Prior to becoming prime minister, Eshkol held many important posts, including serving as the Minister of Defense and the Minister of Finance. However, what arguably might have been his most significant position started in 1935, planning the national water company Mekorot, which was established in 1937. Eshkol’s important role is reflected by the items featured on the old five-shekel-note: Eshkol on the front and Israel’s National Water Carrier – a project in which Eshkol

played a vital function – on the back. In May 1939, the British government published the White Paper, a policy paper with the goal to severely reduce Jewish immigration to then-Palestine, in response to three years of Arab riots against rising Jewish immigration. With fears of war breaking out in Europe, the British had little interest in expending resources and manpower to keep Palestine calm. British politicians used the concerns of its economists, who stated that the entire geographic area could not hold more than 2,000,000 people due to inadequate water resources, as a pretext for the White Paper. In 1939, the land had 834,000 inhabitants, and the British claimed that allowing Jewish immigration would drain the land of its water. While the White Paper had tragic consequences for European Jews seeking refuge from the Nazis in World War II, one unintentional effect was to focus the Zionist leadership on the importance of creating a long-term water plan for the embryonic Jewish nation. As a result

of this obsession, Israel has become a pioneer in water technology and presently has an abundance of water to the extent that it has become a water exporter. In 1935, Eshkol and Simcha Blass, a brilliant water engineer who was the creative genius behind the country’s early water initiatives, hatched a plan to develop water resources and then transport the water long distances to the farms. Their maiden project identified water resources and pumped water to farms throughout the Jezreel Valley. The project’s success set into motion a multi-phase master plan which has led to national water self-sufficiency. Success bred success, leading to myriad Israeli technological breakthroughs in the water industry, such as drip irrigation, desalination (the process of removing salt from seawater), and wastewater treatment, to name just a few of the advances in which Israel has played a primary role. With urgent reports of growing water shortages around the world – which is not limited to developing

countries, as the U.S. government predicted a few years ago that forty of its fifty states will soon face alarming gaps between available water and the growing demand for it – a global water crisis is looming. Tiny Israel stands at the forefront of helping the world avert these disasters by creating and implementing comprehensive long-term water solutions. I highly recommend Seth M. Siegel’s enlightening book, Let There Be Water – Israel’s Solution for a Water-Starved World, which is the primary resource for this article. The book discusses how Israel has transformed itself from a parched land into a water superpower and, through sharing cutting-edge water technology, has forged diplomatic ties and promoted unity.

Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www.myisraelhome.com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, contact him at gborvick@gmail.com.

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Wurzweiler Combines Social Work and Education in New Graduate Programs Master’s Degrees in Special Education How does one combine 1) a compassionate approach to human welfare with 2) a strong pedagogical foundation for teachers instructing students with a variety of abilities and special needs? The Wurzweiler School of Social Work at Yeshiva University is tackling this challenge with the creation of two new degree programs in Special Education. These two new programs cover two different age groups: Teaching Students With Disabilities (Birth Grade 2), 47 credits and Teaching Students With Disabilities, (Grades 1 - 6), 46 credits. Graduates will be awarded

a Master of Arts degree and will be prepared for their initial certification exam as well as their certification in special education. Each program will focus on developing the skills to teach children who require specialized support. The curriculum includes courses in childhood development, pedagogical practice, differentiated instruction as well as inclusive practices. “These culturally-sensitive programs are rooted in the values of social justice and equity and will provide opportunities for students who are specifically looking to work in Jewish educational settings as well as

secular environments,” said Dr. Joan Rosenberg, Ed.D, founding director of the program. “As with all Wurzweiler programs, students receive extensive support from faculty, academic advisors, and student teaching supervisors, plus their cooperating teachers with whom they work very closely,” she explained. The programs are open to individuals just entering the field as well as experienced teachers who want to become certified to teach special education. Dr. Danielle Wozniak, Dean of Wurzweiler, is excited to offer existing

teachers the opportunity to advance their careers in education as well as improve their earning potential. Dean Wozniak added, “The program’s first cohort is expected to be as diverse and eager to learn as the groups of students they will educate. Wurzweiler students will understand that the process of learning to be a teacher is never finished. Our graduates will become reflective life-long learners.” To learn more, visit www.yu.edu/ wurzweiler/special-education

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An African chieftain flew to the United States to visit the president. When he arrived at the airport, a host of newsmen and television cameramen met him. One of the reporters asked the chief if he had a comfortable flight. The chief made a series of weird noises, screech, scratch, honk, buzz, whistle, z-z-z-z-… and then added in perfect English, “Yes, I had a very nice flight.”

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Another reporter asked, “Chief, do you plan to visit the Washington Monument while you’re in the area?” The chief made the same noises…screech, scratch, honk, buzz, whistle, z-z-z-z… and then said, “Yes, and I also plan to visit the White House and the Capitol Building.” “Where did you learn to speak such flawless English?” asked the next reporter.

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The chief replied, screech, scratch, honk, buzz, whistle, z-zz-z… “From the short-wave radio.”

Alternative Meanings Arbitrator – A cook that leaves Arby’s to work at McDonald’s

Heroes – What a guy in a boat does

Avoidable – What a bullfighter tries to do

Paradox – Two physicians

Baloney – Where some hemlines fall

Pharmacist – Helper on the farm

Bernadette – The act of torching a mortgage

Relief – What trees do in the spring

Burglarize – What a crook sees with

Seamstress – When someone’s clothing is too tight

Counterfeiters – Workers who put together kitchen cabinets Coffee – The person upon whom one coughs.

Morbid – A higher offer

Selfish – What the owner of a seafood store does

elmällistyttämättömyydellänsäkäänköhä. What does it mean?

1. Approximately how many known languages are there in in the world today? a. 350

a. I play drums on my computer keyboard

b. 900

b. G-d bless you (said when someone sneezes)

c. 2,400

c. Delicious herring

d. 7,000

d. Doubtful 6. English has the most words of all languages. Approximately how many words does it have? a. 30,000

a. Igbo

b. 100,000

b. Afrikaans

c. 250,000

c. Igbo

d. 1,200,000

d. Swahili 3. What is the third most spoken language in the U.S.?

7. There is no official language of the U.S. How many states have formally made English the official language of the state?

a. Chinese

a. 1

b. Spanish

b. 15

c. Mexican

c. 31

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2. Hakuna matata (meaning, no worries) was a phrase made popular around the world by the Lion King, but which language is it?

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Language Trivia

d. 50

d. Japanese 4. What is the most popular primary language in the world, with approximately 1.2 billion speakers?

8. What is unique about the language of La Gomera, which is spoken off the coast of Spain?

a. English

a. It consists entirely of whistles

b. Mandarin Chinese

b. It is a mix of Hebrew and English

c. Spanish

c. There are less than 100 words, but their meaning changes based on the tone used d. It utilizes eye blinking to indicate singular or plural

5. The longest word in the Finnish language is epäjärjest-

 Answers

 Wisdom Key 7-8 correct: Felicidades! Tú находятся një limba pispor! Since you speak at least 6 different languages, you don’t need me to tell you what that says. For everyone else, it says “Congratulations! You are an English expert!” (Yes, Google Translate does come in handy sometimes for more than just translating, “Please fold the laundry and then polish the candelabra.”) 3-6 correct: Nisht shlecht! Atah b’seder! If you understood what that meant, you are trilingual, which means that you speak more languages than 87% of the world. 0-2 correct: It’s epäjär jestelmällistyttämättömyydellänsäkäänköhä whether you have any future as a linguist.

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d. Arabic

8. A 7. C 6. D 5. D 4. B 3. A 2. D 1. D

Answer to Riddle Me This: The letter I.

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Notable Quotes “Say What?!”

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As I say, never, never, never say never. - Hillary Clinton, when asked by BBC if she will run for president

I will certainly tell you, I’m under enormous pressure from many, many, many people to think about it. - Ibid.

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Over the weekend, a Bloomberg representative confirmed to reporters that Amazon’s founder and chief executive, Jeff Bezos, had encouraged the former mayor to consider a presidential run. Wow, he just ordered up a presidential candidate. What level of Amazon Prime is that?

You’re gonna impeach a president for asking for a favor that didn’t happen and giving money and it wasn’t withheld? I don’t know what you would impeach him on…. The Ukrainians never did the investigation. And the president released the funds. I mean, when you look at those, there’s just nothing impeachable there. - Former U.S. Ambassador to the U.N. Nikki Haley on CBS News

— Seth Meyers

We live on average for 29,200 days… My message is to explore the world, to appreciate what we have, and make the best use of the time we have. - Marathon runner Nick Butter, age 30, after completing a marathon in Greece last week and becoming the first person to complete a marathon in all 196 countries recognized by the U.N.

In a world where we want speedier trials and we want the justice system to work, if small incentives are part of what actually makes it work, then that’s a smart policy. - Mayor Bill de Blasio defending a new New York City policy which will reward paroled prisoners with Mets tickets, movie passes, and store gift cards for making their scheduled court appearances

If I had to pay $20 billion, it’s fine, but when you say I should pay $100 billion, then I’m starting to do a little math about what I have left over. - Bill Gates talking about 2020 presidential candidate Sen. Elizabeth Warren’s policies which indicate that she will confiscate money from wealthy people

Listen, this isn’t a MAGA rally, okay? Clam it down. - “The View” co-host Joy Behar chastising the usually lapdog audience when they cheered in approval for something that Donald Trump Jr. said, while appearing on the show last week

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52 This is the most prosperous economy the world has ever seen, and it’s going to be a very prosperous economy for the next 100 years. - JP Morgan Chase CEO Jaime Dimon talking to “60 Minutes” correspondent Lesley Stahl

He always told us kids, “I don’t ever want to see you smoking.” So one of us finally asked, “If you don’t want us smoking, why are you doing cigarette commercials?” He called up Phillip Morris and quit that day. – The son of Bob Norris, who played the Marlboro Man, talking about his father who just died at age 90 and who never smoked

When my father came in back in the ‘90s…Israel was in a horrible socialist, primitive economy, no exports, for example, except maybe oranges. Israel was isolated because it was weak; everyone wants to be friend with you when you are strong.

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- Yair Netanyahu, son of Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, speaking at a World Values Heritage event in New York last week

Reaching for verbs to describe Abu Bakr al-Baghdadi’s final moments, President Trump grabbed hold of “crying,” “screaming,” and “whimpering.” Reaching for nouns, he said that al-Baghdadi died “like a dog.” I wasn’t aware that canines expired in a signature fashion, but Trump knows best, even if he doesn’t know so very many words.

I honestly voted my conscience after much thought and study. - The Atlantic’s Andrew Baggarly explaining why he was the only member of the Baseball Writers’ Association of America who did not vote for Pete Alonso for NL Rookie of the Year (robbing him of a unanimous vote), in an article titled, “Hi, Mets fans. Please don’t hate me for voting Mike Soroka over Pete Alonso for NL Rookie of the Year”

I was a little hard-headed. Algebra was my pitfall at school. I refused to try to learn algebra. - Corporal Lewie Shaw, age 95, who fought in World War II instead of finishing high school, upon achieving his dream of getting his high school diploma 74 years later

- Frank Bruni, The New York Times, in an article entitled, “Why Donald Trump Hates Your Dog”

#coup has started. First of many steps. #rebellion. #impeachment will follow ultimately. #lawyers - 2017 tweet, less than three weeks after President Trump was elected, by Mark S. Zaid, the attorney representing the so-called “whistleblower” in the impeachment inquiry

Don’t take this country for granted, never. This is the most beautiful place in the world. - 91-year-old Jamaican immigrant Linval Lindsay who officially gained U.S. citizenship on Veteran’s Day, more than five decades after serving in the U.S. Army

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53 Mitt Romney. - Don Trump Jr. picking Utah’s “Republican” senator when asked on CBS’s “This Morning” to name his favorite Democrat

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Umbrellas are good to go. - Marine Corps Commandant Gen. David Berger announcing that all Marines are now allowed to use umbrellas

- Don Trump Jr., on the Rush Limbaugh Show

My girls have changed my life in a positive way, and I’m not removing them. - Karen Morris of Fort Myers, Texas, talking to a local TV station about local authorities trying to force her to remove her emotional support chickens from her apartment

Once you become conscious of death, and experience it, you undertake a new approach to life.

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It took the Washington Post just 19 minutes after my father’s inauguration to post an article titled “The Case for Impeaching Trump.” That’s about how long it took them to give Obama a Nobel Peace Prize.

- One of the participants of a recent “living funeral” service at a South Korean Healing Center which helps people learn to appreciate life by placing them in coffins and having a funeral service

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The Overuse of Antibiotics By Hylton I. Lightman, MD, DCH (SA), FAAP

ccording to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), at least 30% of antibiotics in this country are overprescribed and are unnecessary. Why? Antibiotics are wonderfully important, especially when necessary. The world should express gratitude posthumously to Sir Alexander Flemming (1881-1955) for inventing the world’s first antibiotic substance benzylpenicillin (Penicillin G) from the mold called Pencillium notatum in 1928. Sir Flemming was awarded the Nobel Prize in 1945 which he shared with two colleagues. Another posthumous thank you is owed to Dr. Selman Waksman (1888-1973), a Ukrainian Jew who emigrated to the United States in 1910 and received his Ph.D. in biochemistry in 1918 from the University of California. Dr. Waksman discovered streptomycim, the first antibiotic that was effective against tuberculosis. In 1952, he was awarded the Nobel Prize in physiology. These men and many other microbiologists and other health care professionals revolutionized health care for the better through their research and medicine. Imagine a world, G-d forbid, where there are no antibiotics. This would mean, for example, that there would be no treatment for strep throat. Strep throat, which is more common in children and teenagers (especially ages 5-15) than adults, is

an infection in the throat and tonsils caused by bacteria called group A Streptococcus (Group A strep). Group A strep live in the nose and throat and can spread to other people through coughing and sneezing. Strep throat does not always present with sick symptoms. Left untreated, it can cause kidney inflammation or rheumatic fever which can weaken the heart. And yet, not every sore throat is a strep throat. Sometimes, a sore throat is…just a sore throat. There is pain – a scratchiness or irritation of the throat that often worsens when you swallow. The most common cause of a sore throat (pharyngitis) is a viral infection, such as a cold or the flu. A sore throat caused by a virus resolves on its own. You read this correctly: it resolves on its own. This means there is no medicine to make it go away, although Mommy’s chicken soup helps. For real. In addition to the ingredient known as “love” (never to be underestimated), the liquid and vegetables (which are also high in liquids) causes one to urinate. Staying properly hydrated and flushing out the system is important every day, and especially when feeling unwell. Let’s now talk about another malady for which people believe antibiotics are the cure all – ear infections. Children are more prone than adults to ear infections. Unfortunately, they can be uncomfortable and even painful. Yet not all ear infections require antibiot-

ics. Seriously. It is important that a physician or experienced health care provider look in the ears to diagnose correctly whether there is an infection and, if there is an infection, whether it requires antibiotics. Believe your doctor when he tells you that antibiotics are not at that moment warranted and that you should wait it out. G-d has miraculously created the human body so it can often heal itself. Introducing antibiotics when not needed can disturb the cosmos order of the human body and not allow the body to develop its own antibodies which is a necessary part of life. Antibodies are produced by white cells that have a memory to the foreign antigen (bacteria or virus). These antibodies attack the bacteria. Experienced parents are familiar with this scenario. Nonetheless, some will beg for antibiotics even when both the rapid strep test and the overnight throat culture are negative or the ear infection is one which should be waited out (with the help of Tylenol and Motrin). Your child may be getting the strep throat. Notice the verb tense – getting. Sometimes, it takes time to emerge, and I respect a parent, especially a mother, who is asking for the antibiotics at this point, because she will know her child best. But to give antibiotics without proof of infection is not good medicine. Plenty of people go to urgent care or PAs in their homes for throat cultures or to have their children’s ears

looked at. Sometimes, I even get a report (which is legally mandated, by the way). Often, the report will state that the tests were negative. Scroll down a drop further, and it will state that Amoxicillin or something similar was prescribed. Huh? If a test is negative, then there should be no antibiotics. Period. You, my dear reader, might be scratching your head right now, wondering why physicians are against gratuitous prescriptions. The answer is simple: because unwarranted antibiotics can cause more harm than good. Let’s say you become sick with a gastroenteritis, a stomach flu. Antibiotics are not going to get you better. Yet if you take them, you will make your body and germ bacteria (which abound in each of us) drug-resistant to antibiotics. Antibiotic resistance is a problem in today’s world. When you really need antibiotics, they may not work to eliminate the harmful bacteria. If the antibiotics do not work when needed, you could be looking at more aggressive intervention. This will take a toll on your body. There may be more expensive medications and increased health care bills and hospital stays. There could be multiple office visits to your primary care provider and/or specialists to find the correct antibiotics. Because of the overuse of antibiotics, the field of infectious diseases is challenged to finding appropriate antibiotics.

55 sistant Enterobacteriaceae (CRE) are part of a group of germs that live in the intestines of some people. They’re related to E. coli, which are normal to have in your intestine and

transplants, which are needed to reset healthy gut flora, are becoming growing in number. Further, studies from Israel show that the earlier the introduc-

Believe your doctor when he tells you that antibiotics are not at that moment warranted and that you should wait it out.

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Dr. Hylton I. Lightman is a pediatrician and Medical Director of Total Family Care of the 5 Towns and Rockaway PC. He can be reached at drlightman@totalfamilycaremd.com, on Instagram at Dr.Lightman_ or visit him on Facebook.

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stool. The difference is that these germs mutate and become resistant to antibiotics. Some CRE are resistant to so many medications that they are untreatable and, unfortunately, up to half of patients infected may die. This is trouble-

tion of antibiotics to an infant or child, the greater the chance of them becoming obese when older. Why? Because overusing and/or misusing antibiotics changes the gut flora. Then there are superbugs. You read it correctly. Carbapenem-re-

some because carbapenems used to be one of the only antibiotics that could successfully treat another Enterobacter “superbugs.” Yes, I am scaring you with facts. When partnering with your doctor, trust him when he says to wait out something or to return in several days for a recheck. This might cost you another copay (which is part of your insurance plan, not something “extra” for the doctor), and I understand that costs add up. But working with your doctor smartly can save you from problems down the road and on the other end. Everybody wants the best for you and your family. As always, daven.

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There are medicines today for bacterial infections that not so long ago prevented the spread of disease and even reduced serious complications. Unfortunately, overprescribing them has led to resistant bacteria to pneumococcal infections like pneumonia, meningitis, MRSA or Methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus, and tuberculosis, to cite a few examples. It is becomingly increasingly less uncommon that when there has been an over-usage or misusage of antibiotics, there are abnormal bacteria that proliferate in the gastrointestinal tract. The “good” bacteria are killed by antibiotics. C-difficile, which not so long ago was a sickness found in nursing homes and hospital acquired infections, is becoming prevalent in the general population. The havoc that it wreaks on a person’s bowels and their frequent trips to the bathroom are far from pleasant. The antibiotics for this are difficult to administer to a child. Fecal

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Dating Dialogue

What Would You Do If… Moderated by Jennifer Mann, LCSW of The Navidaters

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Dear Navidaters,

We are a group of shadchanim who gather monthly to make shidduchim for the men and women we know. Here is the problem we keep bumping into with most commonly single men we deal with over the age of 30.

When we deal with shidduchim we are commonly dealing with many at a time, and it is not always possible to answer the phone or a text as soon as we get it. However, many times we will encounter singles who will call a few times in a row, sometimes very late at night, and send an angry text asking why we are hard to reach. Then there are the texts. When someone sends a text asking a question and does not get a response right away, these singles will send follow up “??” every few minutes when we did not get a chance to respond. Then the meetings – there are just some weekends we need to take with our families. However, many times we will have people demand a weekend or evening meeting, “if only just for a few minutes,” and make it very hard to take no for an answer. There is also the issue of bad feedback we get from the women after a date with presumably perfectly presentable men. Some examples include: arriving on a date with dirty smelling cars, coming late without apologizing, checking the phone habitually while on a date, making fun of passersby or waiters, not offering the woman a drink, dropping the woman off at her home and driving away before the woman gets inside, leaving the woman to get home on her own from the city after a late date – to name a few. Unfortunately, even if a date went well, only one of these things could kill it. We were wondering if you would be able to offer your insight to singles on how to put their best foot forward on a date and how parents can prepare their sons properly for being in the dating world? Thank you!

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. ou are bringing up several issues that make it hard to get shidduchim moving. I will address each one individually. First, I want to commend you and your friends for keeping at this effort which takes energy, time, and collaboration. You are investing so much into this. Good for you for not giving up and wanting to improve things for yourselves as facilitators and for the young people you are trying to set up. Sometimes it must feel like you are getting so much flak for trying to help. I would suggest that you and your fellow shadchanim set boundaries – in other words, time periods – when you take calls. This can include new calls, follow up calls, and informational calls. Leave a friendly, polite message on your phones and put your hours on your email signatures as well. Obviously, this will vary from individual to individual. You should stand together in sticking to this resolution. Second, together you can develop a respectful reminder for the people you are setting up. In other words, you can put together five key things you want to remind people and decide to package it nicely for presentation when the fixup is finalized. It can go something like this: of course, it goes without saying that you/your son will get the girl back home, she will get full attention from her date, etc. Girls find it respectful when you give them your full attention without texting, pick them up in a clean car, etc. You cannot change today’s world nor do the job of parents in raising polite, refined children. You can, however, collectively with your group, address common issues on an individual basis. It should be done in a respectful fashion when people want to follow up on that yes that you are delivering.

Keep up your efforts as an individual and work collaboratively with your shidduch group. This will facilitate successful dating experiences and keep you supported and motivated to continue. B’hatzlacha!

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. o now I’m a fly on the wall. Listening to the trials and triumphs of today’s modern shadchan. From the sound of your war stories, it’s clear that serving as a shadchan to the millennial/selfie set can be a thankless, if not humbling task. Kol hakavod – my utmost admiration to all of you! I, myself, have redt several shidduchim in my lifetime; I can add a few horror stories to your collection. For instance, the yeshiva bochur who drove up to his date’s house and charmingly texted, “HERE.” Sure, I was tempted to pummel the guy; instead I took the time to educate him on the finer points of pick up and drop off. By date number ten, he arrived brandishing a spring bouquet (just because!). I know, I know. You are professional shadchanim! Your job is not to raise other people’s children (or adults) and train them to be courteous, respectful, and well-mannered citizens. Still, there’s some simple advice you can impart to the more clueless daters out there. It comes courtesy of my daughter’s erstwhile mechanechet. “Be a hostess!” (Or host – depending on your persuasion), she counseled. If you treat your date as you would an honored guest at your table, you’d do your best to make them feel comfortable (and gustatorily satisfied). You will dress appealingly and occasion-appropriate; you will be an attentive escort, open and close doors, and thoughtfully retrieve her outerwear. You will practice your best outside

manners and inside voice. You will be polite and amiable so that your guest will leave with a favorable impression (and perhaps want a re-visit). Even if your “guest” does not become your partner, putting your best foot forward is a workout for your menschlechkeit muscle. Practice these skills and you will ingratiate yourself to your date, her parents, your boss, and yes – most importantly – the shadchan.

You, as shadchanim, are sometimes in a position to see the true colors of these individuals.

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you describe sound very similar to what I experience as well. First and foremost: you must create boundaries in this line of volunteer work. Your free time can be compared to

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castic type of person, never make fun of people on a date or regale the person you’re going out with tales of your previous shidduch dates. 12. Bring a water bottle or drink in the cupholder for her for the ride. 13. Always offer to buy a drink at the place you go. 14. Walk her back to the front door when you drop her off, or at the very least make sure she gets inside before you drive away. 15. Remember: Being a mensch is the biggest segula for getting married!

The Guy Michael Freed yashar koach for your amazing efforts and working together as a group. I’ll address the one minor point before the larger more important issue at hand. You seem to feel beholden to singles’ meeting requests. You must realize that you and your family come first; chessed to Klal Yisrael comes after. The problem I hear regarding the single men mentioned is that they seem to lack either good middos, tact, or the recognition of the effort and lives of the shadchanim. It is possible to be dan l’kaf zchus a couple of calls in a row (especially if the calls are on a landline and cell)

because singles often don’t think along the lines of the other end of the phone, i.e. the shadchanim giving of their time while they are additionally juggling full time jobs, appointments, bills, spouses, homes, children and their needs, and family life. That being said, there are definite guidelines: calling past 11 p.m. (unless it had been discussed beforehand as a follow-up after a date) is inappropriate and past midnight is just plain rude. If you’re receiving an angry text from a single, nix him on the spot as unmarriageable for the time being. Call his rav to make sure he works on himself before entering marriage. The second part I want to address is the complaints from women about their dates. Lacking the busha to apologize, being inconsiderate and checking the phone, being intolerant of others by making fun behind people’s backs, lacking intuitive safety guidelines by letting a girl take the train at night alone are all terrible qualities and make me wonder where these guys are coming from. So here’s the elephant in the room: what do we do about it? We don’t yet have a middos or psychological screening test mandated like we have Dor Yesharim, although that would be a very innovative idea. You, as shadchanim, are sometimes in a position to see the true colors of these individuals. As such, I think it is the obligation of the shadchan to do something about it. I hope that your group is able to find new, good guys to set up, and that you have the strength to give these boys the proper tochaha and send them to get help. I think it is absolutely incumbent upon shadchanim to call the boy’s rav and share their experiences. If nobody does anything about it, some unlucky girl will end up with them.

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Tova Wein ow! There certainly is a lot to unpack here! Many issues and questions. Without going through each and every question and complaint, what jumps out at me first and foremost is that as a shadchan, you are taking matters way too personally. In your effort to do such wonderful work, you are making it mainly about yourself and reacting to how you are being treated and respected. I think you would probably be happier (and more successful) if you didn’t make it about yourself. Individuals and parents who are in the dating game are often nervous to the point of being anxious. For you, an individual is just one of so many who you are working with, but for that individual, the “call back” from the shadchan is their everything, at least for the moment. It seems that sometimes every waking moment is centered around hearing back from the shadchan. And in that regard, it’s not surprising that they may sound insensitive to your life. Not great for you, but if you took a step back and understood where they are coming from, you’d have an easier time creating boundaries without making it personal. While it would be very nice if they were more sensitive to your life, dating can often bring out the worst in some people, in terms of wanting so desperately to be heard and helped.

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Regarding the examples you gave about “bad feedback,” many of them are actually very telling of men who are not super considerate and these young men would do well to take a few lessons on what it means to be a mensch, not only in regard to dating, but in general. Could mothers do a better job “training” their sons in this regard? Absolutely. Is it the fault of the mothers? Sometimes. Can these young men be instructed as to what their role should look like on a date by their mothers, the shadchan, or their best friends? For sure! Will they listen? Maybe... sometimes.... Should every young woman be so reactive to a failure on the young man’s part to always get every detail right? Probably not. Can you, other shadchanim, and people in general effectively convince women to be more generous is their judgments? Sometimes but not always. Bottom line, everyone needs to get on board to do their best. And as a shadchan, you can take your job as seriously as you like, in terms of deciding how “deep” you want to go with the people you are working with. But wherever you draw the line, do it with kindness, compassion, and a desire to help change a life. But please, don’t make it about yourself!

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filling a cup. If you fill the cup with socially inappropriate and draining cases, you will be filling the cup up with mostly mud, when what you are looking for is water. If your goal in shidduchim is to get dates for the wonderful singles you know, you are wasting your precious time and emotional energy on unhealthy people sucking out your energy. This energy would be better suited to help those who are healthy and ready for marriage. It is not your job to parent those singles. If you get rude texts, demands for immediate meetings, or incessant calls at inappropriate hours from any single person, it is more than understandable to politely step away from helping this person. I would like to take this opportunity to list for our readers some pro-tips for men starting to date: 1. Have a test run. Go with your sister/mother/aunt on a mock-date so you can get a female perspective on how you’re doing and get some personal tips. 2. Make sure your car is neat, smells good, and is presentable. 3. Do not text when you are outside in lieu of picking her up at her door (unless otherwise specified.) 4. Make sure you are nicely put together. (Details include being well groomed, nails cut and clean, hair/ teeth brushed, clothes pressed and clean. A fresh new shirt, shined shoes, and nice belt always make a good impression.) 5. Do not check your phone during the date or text anyone for any reason. Turn it off. 6. Make sure you know where you are going, and drive safely. 7. If meeting someone in the city for a date, offer her a ride home with your Uber account. 8. Be as good of a listener as you are a talker. 9. Try and maintain appropriate eye contact and respond positively to social cues. (If you have been walking for a while and she says she is tired, stop at a bench and offer to sit. If she says she does not eat dairy, do not take her to a pizza shop.) 10. Be reactive to your date’s stories and thoughts, and compliment middos appropriately. 11. Even if you are more of a sar-

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hank you for writing in! I’m going to address both concerns you brought up: the first being the constant sensation of being “on call” and the second issue being how parents can help teach their sons how to date “properly.” I think shadchanim are rock stars. I mean it. The amount of work and effort you put in, the time, the commitment, the emotional involvement, the thought, the hoping, the prodding, the phone calls and emails...sometimes incessant; my goodness! Most people cannot do what you do, and you deserve praise and cheers! From your description, I do imagine you in a white coat with a stethoscope around your neck; on call for all the people you help. When anyone is in the helping field (which you are), our emotions get pulled. I think you are writing in because you care so much and you’d like to be “on call” for everyone all the time, otherwise it wouldn’t bother you. I think you have to find a way to create some healthy boundaries for yourself, otherwise, like the rest of us in the helping field, you are likely to experience “burnout.” When we don’t have healthy boundaries, we may wind up resenting the people we are helping, which is unfair to both parties. When we don’t have boundaries, we also may wind up acting or behaving unprofessionally, which will only ultimately hurt the person we are helping. I can feel you beginning to resent the people you are helping, which is just so natural. This is human nature. So please, be kind to yourself, and at the onset of a new “client” create a friendly “contract,” either written or ver-

bal, depending on what is appropriate for your field. This way, everyone knows the rules and is protected, and there will be no hard feelings. You will still have those that will break the rules and sometimes for good reason. Sometimes situations are urgent and need immediate attention. But you will feel so much better being in control of when you decide to bend your rules. The second issue...raising boys. I do believe that this education begins at home. Parents can do their best, and ultimately it is the son’s choice how he decides to behave. I think that boys need to know how to treat a woman. And I think this education starts in small, age-appropriate doses. We need to tell our sons about women and not make it a mystery or shameful. For example (and this is one of many), boys should be encouraged to help clear the table and do household chores. Time and again, I see couples or married women whose husbands don’t help around the house. It’s not about the actual housework. OK, sometimes it is. It’s about the emotional labor she carries alone which makes her feel distant from her husband. And yes, a housekeeper can muffle this truth, but most people cannot afford this luxury. A lot of women today want to work as a team and feel the emotional support. This conversation can start way before the dating parsha. Another factor is what is being modeled at home. It’s really about the attitude toward women more than teaching something specific

once dating starts. Men like to feel respected, and women like to feel cherished. When a woman gets into a filthy car or her date drops her off and doesn’t wait until she gets in the house she is naturally triggered and doesn’t feel special or safe with this person. “Will he take care of me?” Sorry if this doesn’t sound very 2019 but my money is on human nature. So it’s important to teach boys about women. I believe we may have some cultural issues around this that serve as an impediment to what is simply satisfying basic human nature; Hashem created men and women this way. So, we can work with what we’ve got and talk about it, or we can deny it and deal with issues as they arise. Ideally, the message should come from the father because children identify most with the parent of the same gender. Very often, however, fathers cannot do it because they don’t know this themselves or have a hard time expressing themselves to their sons, so it often comes from the mother. I have some strong opinions about this based on my clinical experience (in other words, seeing what does and doesn’t work from the wonderful people I work with). If you’re not buying into what I have presented, I guess parents can simply remind their boys to clean

the car, wait until the girl gets into the house, and be polite on a date. I think there is room for a class in senior year of high school, taught by a male therapist, to start teaching young men about women’s emotional needs, if it isn’t being done already. If any school would like to do this (please, please, please! It would be so incredible!), I would be happy to connect you with sensitive, emotionally intelligent male therapists who would be phenomenal! I would like to acknowledge all the incredible single men who are true gentlemen; whether learned from home or self-taught. Back to you, dear shadchan. Keep up the fabulous, self-sacrificing work you do! You’re simply amazing! All the best, Jennifer

Jennifer Mann, LCSW is a licensed psychotherapist and dating and relationship coach working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. She is looking forward to teaching a psychology course at Touro College in the fall. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

Hi Readers! Receiving your enthusiastic emails wanting to participate in the Reader’s Respond section has been wonderful! Just a reminder about how Reader Response works. Email thenavidaters@gmail. com with the subject line “Reader Response.” We will then ask you, in the order we receive your email, if you would like to respond to the coming week’s email. If you would like to respond to an already printed Navidaters Panel, please submit your answer to the editor at editor@fivetownsjewishhome.com. You can also join us on our FB page @thenavidaters on Sunday evenings to post your response to the week’s column. Interacting with you has been a pleasure! Thank you for all of your feedback. Jennifer

Mental Health Corner By Rabbi Azriel Hauptman wildered and confounded. These were the exact reasons that she heard from them! Why was she more receptive to her friend than to her own parents? These anecdotes are illustrations of negative reactions to criticism. Why are we so averse to criticism? Isn’t it in our best interest to listen to the suggestions of people who can see our flaws and want to correct them? Part of the answer to this age-old question lies in understanding how our brain operates. Our brain receives data from our senses and then different parts of the brain process that information. There are parts of the brain that process information by analyzing it and thinking about it. But there are other parts of the brain that work extremely quickly and jump to conclusions without thinking it through. The parts of the brain that are involved in the fight-or-flight response fall under this second category.

Most of the time, the swiftness of the fight-or-flight response is extremely beneficial and sometimes lifesaving. It allows us to jump out of the way if a car is speeding in our direction or to instantly push off an animal that is trying to bite. However, anything that is perceived as a threat can trigger this response. That means anything, including criticism! This is especially true if the person criticizing is perceived as having power over us. When Moshe was told by his mother to see a nutritionist, his rapid-fire fightor-flight response was triggered since his mother’s comments were perceived as a threat. Now the last thing on earth he wants to do is to see a nutritionist. When Sarah was told by her parents that her purchase was a poor decision, that was also perceived as a threat and she ran off into her room. However, when her friend criticized her, she did

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Moshe knew that he had to lose weight. After a long period of inaction, he finally built up the self-motivation to contact a nutritionist to develop a plan for a healthy lifestyle. Right before he called, his mother criticized him for being overweight and tried to pressure him into seeing a nutritionist. Moshe’s motivation vanished and he never ended up calling the nutritionist. Sarah, a sixteen-year-old teenager, purchased a coat with her own money. When she came home, her parents told her that the coat was impractical, not warm enough, and not worth the money she paid. Sarah ran to her room and slammed the door. The next day, she returned the coat. When her parents asked her why she returned it she said that her friend, Miriam, had suggested that she return it since the coat was impractical, not warm enough, and not worth the money she paid. Her parents were be-

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not feel threatened and she heeded her advice and returned the coat. The thinking part of our brain can usually realize afterwards that our hasty response was inappropriate, but by that time it is often too late. The lesson from this depends on whether you are giving criticism or receiving it. If you are receiving criticism, the longer you can delay your response the more likely you will be able to actually think about the criticism and respond from a place of contemplation and understanding. If you are the one giving the criticism, you might want to develop strategies to have your criticism not be perceived as a criticism. For example, if Sarah’s parents had said to her, “What a nice coat! How warm is it,” they might have been able to get their daughter thinking about the coat and then she can realize on her own that perhaps this coat does not have the warmth that she needs.

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eroism in big battles tend to be forgotten in the larger picture as the result of the battle is more important to the public. The Battle of Leyte Gulf saw many heroic actions from the Americans as they saved their beaches from Japanese bombardment and ended the threat to a Japanese naval engagement for the rest of the war. Throughout the last year and a half of the Pacific Theater of Operations during World War II, the cruiser USS Reno played an important role in keeping the naval superiority in favor of the American fleet. One of her heroes was a Jewish officer from Brownsville, Brooklyn, who eventually became the fourth Jewish vice admiral in American history. Arthur Gralla was born in 1913 in Brooklyn, NY, where his father worked for the police department. Arthur attended Hebrew school (as to whether it was a yeshiva is unclear to the author) before going to Brooklyn College. During one summer, he worked as an apprentice seaman in the Merchant Marines and won a coveted scholarship to the U.S. Naval Academy. He graduated from Annapolis in 1934 ninth in his class. Later, he went to MIT and received a master’s in electrical engineering. Before the United States entered World War II, Gralla served on the

newly commissioned cruiser USS Omaha and later on destroyers. He then served as an admiral’s aide in the South Atlantic and a researcher for the Naval Bureau of Ordinance. Cruisers played an important role in naval strategy during World War II. Battleships were becoming a thing of the past as the heavy ships couldn’t easily maneuver and were large targets for planes coming off of aircraft carriers. Cruisers had good but not too heavy armor and could carry an array of weapons. The USS Reno sported 12 5-inch guns and dozens of anti-aircraft guns as well eight torpedo tubes and other anti-submarine weapons. Gralla was stationed on the Reno as a gunnery officer after the cruiser was commissioned in late 1943. As an anti-aircraft cruiser, the Reno was part of several battles and invasions starting with the raids on the Marcus Islands in May 1944. The next several months saw her supporting raids off of Saipan, the Volcano Islands, the Bonin Islands (Iwo Jima is part of the island chain group), and the Mariana Islands. The Reno was also part of the Battle of the Philippines Sea and covered the landings at Guam and the Palau Islands. In mid-October, the Reno was off of Formosa when she was attacked by torpedo bombers. Gralla

provided the leadership as gunnery officer when he directed devastating anti-aircraft gunfire against waves of incoming enemy planes. In total, the Reno shot down eleven torpedo bombers during the attack. American troops landed on the island of Leyte in the Philippines on October 20, 1944. Four days later, the largest naval battle in history broke out. A “Judy” dive-bomber dropped a bomb on the light carrier Princeton causing major damage. The Reno was assigned to help the Princeton, which suffered explosions from burning gasoline. The efforts to save the carrier were futile, and the Reno was ordered to sink the Princeton with torpedoes. While trying to save the Princeton, Gralla directed fire at incoming Japanese planes, thereby preventing more damage. On November 4, 1944, the Japanese submarine I-41 sent two torpedoes that hit the Reno, causing 46 deaths. She was dead in the water but managed to survive another three torpedoes from an unknown Japanese submarine that all missed. The Navy later stated, “ Voluntarily taking charge of dewatering operations in the ship’s flooded stern with high waves making footing dangerous, Gralla directed shoring to prevent further water from entering the compartment leading to

the flooded main storeroom. When the water had lowered sufficiently to permit entry, he descended into the partially filled storeroom floating with debris and obnoxious gases before permitting his men to go below and then directed pumping operations in oil-covered water up to his armpits with the ship rolling heavily and the additional threat of possible pressure rupture of other water filled compartments.” For his efforts that saved the Reno and his role in the previous two engagements, Gralla received several decorations including the Bronze Star. Later he became the gunnery officer on the heavy cruiser USS Macon and after the war commanded the destroyer USS Buckley. For the next two and a half decades, he served in various positions and in 1969 was promoted to vice admiral. Arthur Gralla retired in 1971 and passed away in 1998. He is buried in Arlington National Cemetery and is remembered for his heroic actions that saved his ship and the lives of many sailors.

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Shabbos Under Pressure With Shabbos starting earlier, we’re all under pressure to get things done earlier than usual. Here are some dishes made using a pressure cooker to help prepare Shabbos in record time.

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I first found goji berries in my favorite spice store, Rambam, in the Jerusalem market Machaneh Yehuda. They were different than any other berry I’d ever seen, and I really liked their flavor. I found that they are perfect in salads, rice, and other side dishes. Their red color really makes dishes pop. Don’t forget to stop by Rambam and buy some of the “Sharon’s Mix” and say hi to Chaim for me! Pareve • Gluten-free

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PREPARATION

1 pound butternut squash, peeled, seeded and diced into 1/2-1- inch cubes 2 pounds (4 cups apples), peeled, diced into 1/2-1-inch cubes 1/2 cup light brown sugar or maple syrup 1 tablespoon olive oil 1 tablespoon freshly squeezed lime juice 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1/4 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg 1/4 teaspoon salt 1/8 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1 cup chopped pecans 1 cup goji berries 1/2 cup dried cranberries

Place the cup of added water into the EPC (electric pressure cooker) pot.

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Add the diced squash and apples. Sprinkle the light brown sugar/maple syrup, olive oil, freshly squeezed lime juice, cinnamon, nutmeg, salt and freshly ground black pepper over the squash. Lock the lid and close the pressure valve. Cook using manual high pressure mode for 7 minutes, then manually release the pressure. Stir the pecans, goji berries, and dried cranberries into the squash mixture. Serve warm. Note: If you have trouble finding goji berries, you can substitute dried cranberries.

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INGREDIENTS 12 oz. wide egg noodles, uncooked 1 (29-30 oz.) can fruit mix with cherries in syrup 1 (20-oz.) can crushed pineapple, undrained 1/2 cup granulated sugar 1/4 cup pure maple syrup 1/4 cup canola oil 4 large eggs 1/4 cup all-purpose flour 1/4 cup light brown sugar

PREPARATION Spray a 7-inch x 3-inch round pan and lid with nonstick vegetable spray. Set aside. Mix the egg noodles, canned fruit (with the liquid), crushed pineapple (with the liquid), sugar, maple syrup, canola oil and large eggs together in a large bowl. Fold in the flour. Pour the mixture into the prepared pan. Cover with the tightly fitting lid. Place a rack/trivet with handles on the bottom of the EPC (electric pressure cooker) pot. Add the 1/2 cup of the added water to the bottom.

Carefully set the kugel on the rack. Lock the lid and close the pressure valve. Set the EPC to high pressure mode and cook for 10 minutes using manual high pressure mode. Naturally release the pressure for 30 minutes, then manually release the pressure. Remove the kugel from the EPC pot and remove the kugel pan lid. To finish the kugel: Sprinkle the top of the kugel with the 1/4 cup brown sugar. Place the kugel in the center of the oven and broil using medium heat for 5-7 minutes. The top of the kugel will turn a little brown and the sugar will become slightly bubbly. Serve warm or cold. Note: Taking the kugel out of the pan can be a little tricky. When the kugel has cooled, run a knife around the edge of the kugel to loosen. Place a dinner plate on top of the kugel. Place one hand under the kugel pan and one hand under the dinner plate. Quickly flip the kugel onto the plate. To serve, repeat the process with the serving plate.

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My husband calls Fruity Noodle Kugel “The ugly duckling of the Shabbos meal.” I think when the kugel is as delicious and as pretty as this one, it should be called “The beautiful princess of the Shabbos meal”. Anything that has fruit cocktail and maple syrup can’t be anything but fabulous. I serve this kugel on a pedestal cake stand for dramatic effect because there is never enough drama at the Shabbos table.

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Pareve • Yields 6 servings By Naomi Nachman

I am always experimenting with different flavor profiles for homemade coleslaw. This is one of my favorites, and I included it in my first cookbook, Perfect for Pesach. This dressing is also perfect as a marinade for fish or chicken. I always make a double batch and put half of it away in the freezer for a quick and easy dinner on a different night.

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Ingredients ¾ cup parsley leaves 2 cloves garlic ½ jalapeno, seeds and membranes discarded 1 small shallot Juice of 2 limes (about ¼ cup) ½ cup olive oil 2 teaspoons kosher salt 1 (14-oz) bag coleslaw mix

Preparation Prepare the sauce: In the bowl of a food processor fitted with the “S” blade, puree all dressing ingredients until smooth. Place coleslaw mix into a large bowl; toss with chimichurri sauce. Let slaw sit for 10-15 minutes before serving. Cook’s note: If you like it spicy, use the ribs and seeds of the jalapeno, adding them to the food processor with the sauce ingredients.

Naomi Nachman, the owner of The Aussie Gourmet, caters weekly and Shabbat/ Yom Tov meals for families and individuals within The Five Towns and neighboring communities, with a specialty in Pesach catering. Naomi is a contributing editor to this paper and also produces and hosts her own weekly radio show on the Nachum Segal Network stream called “A Table for Two with Naomi Nachman.” Naomi gives cooking presentations for organizations and private groups throughout the New York/New Jersey Metropolitan area. In addition, Naomi has been a guest host on the QVC TV network and has been featured in cookbooks, magazines as well as other media covering topics related to cuisine preparation and personal chefs. To obtain additional recipes, join The Aussie Gourmet on Facebook or visit Naomi’s blog. Naomi can be reached through her website, www.theaussiegourmet.com or at (516) 295-9669.

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Political Crossfire

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Are We Heading Toward a U.S.China Tech War?

The blue-ribbon commission, perhaps inevitably, tries to steer a middle course between cooperation and confrontation with China. “We’re trying to navigate between decoupling and entanglement,” said Bob Work, a former deputy defense secretary who serves as the commission’s vice chairman, in an interview. “We want to thread the needle.” Eric Schmidt, the commission’s chairman and the former chief executive of Google, argued similarly that even as the U.S. mobilizes for AI competition, it should avoid extreme

sist any Chinese-led effort for “using AI to build a dystopian surveillance state.” This proposal for a free-world AI alliance was endorsed last Tuesday by NATO Secretary-General Anders Fogh Rasmussen at a conference hosted by the commission. He argued that NATO should create its own AI commission “as a forum for exchange of data” and “to counter the autocracies,” according to a transcript of the forum prepared by C-SPAN. The Pentagon’s biggest challenge in checking China’s rapid advances in AI may simply be gathering the best

The Pentagon’s biggest challenge in checking China’s rapid advances in AI may simply be gathering the best brains in America.

policies. “I think that decoupling is too harsh, since it would hurt the United States,” he told me. But even as the commission’s leaders try to avoid a tech Iron Curtain, they’re also trying to encourage U.S. allies to pool data for a common AI strategy among Western democracies such as Canada, Australia, Britain, and other European nations. The report urges “a network of partners” that will share data, research and talent and re-

brains in America (including those working here who were born abroad). The Chinese can commandeer their best and brightest; America can’t. The difficulty in enlisting America’s brainpower was illustrated by the rebellion last year of Google engineers who refused to participate in a Pentagon AI application known as “Project Maven.” Schmidt and Work both argue that tech companies and their employees are now more willing to work with the

Pentagon, so long as projects are transparent and meet clear ethical standards. To proselytize for such cooperation, the Defense Innovation Board, also headed by Schmidt, spent the last year traveling to top U.S. universities to frame a set of recommendations for “ethical” AI. The guidelines, which were released last week, establish a baseline for a continuing conversation with a tech community that instinctively mistrusts governments. Discussing AI strategy is a bit like trying to navigate in a hurricane: the force of the technological change coming toward us is so intense that it’s hard to measure. Henry Kissinger, the former secretary of state who made his name as a strategist of nuclear war in the 1950s, said at Tuesday’s conference that what may lie ahead is “algorithmic warfare.” Chinese and American AI brains would try to outthink and outmaneuver each other, perhaps aided by deceptions that corrupted the other side’s data. A hint of the strategic stakes came in a brief passage of the commission’s report that discussed possible agreements with China and Russia for “prohibiting the use of AI to authorize the launch of nuclear weapons.” Dr. Strangelove’s “Doomsday Machine” has nearly arrived. We’re lucky that even in a chaotic Washington, a few of our best minds, like Schmidt and Work, are thinking about how America can survive and prosper in the coming AI-driven world. (c) 2019, Washington Post Writers Group

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resident Trump last week seemed to be nearing a preliminary truce in his trade war with China. But the deeper danger that still lies ahead is a Sino-America technology war, as the two countries race to develop artificial intelligence. Beijing and Washington seemed to be clearing a path for a limited tariff-reduction deal with Thursday’s announcement by China’s Commerce Ministry of a tentative agreement that “China and the U.S. should remove the same proportion of tariffs simultaneously based on the content of the deal.” That’s far from an overall settlement of trade issues, but U.S. financial markets took it as good news. The broader risk of a U.S.-China tech war – one that could potentially create two rival camps battling for global AI supremacy – was highlighted in an interim report released this week by a commission created last year by Congress. Many national-security analysts are preoccupied by this topic of AI strategy, even amid the blizzard of daily news about the Ukraine investigation. China’s plan to dominate AI and other key technologies has spawned a high-level debate among policymakers and industry leaders. Some have urged sharp limits on what American companies can share with China, as in the “entity list” ban on sales to Huawei, the Chinese company poised to dominate 5G telecommunications. Others have warned that such a “decoupling” of the global tech sector would leave everyone worse off.

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Gluten Free Recipe Column by Mrs. Elaine Bodenheimer

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Blackberry Swirl Pareve Cheesecake

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What You Will Need: 1 ¼ cup gluten free cookie or graham cracker crumbs 3 Tbl. sugar 4 Tbl. margarine, melted 5 packages plain Tofutti cream cheese

1 cup sugar 3 Tbl. potato starch 1 Tbl. vanilla 1 cup Tofutti sour cream 4 eggs 3 Tbl seedless black berry jam- whisked until smooth

Preparation: 1. Line a 9 x 13 inch pan with parchment paper, allowing ends to extend over sides. Combine crumbs, 3 Tbl. sugar, and melted margarine; Press with back of spoon onto prepared pan. Bake 10 minutes. 2. Beat cream cheese, 1 cup sugar, potato starch, and vanilla with mixer until blended and smooth. Add sour cream and then the eggs one at a time, mixing on low speed after each addition. Pour over crust. Gently drop small amounts of blackberry jam all over batter; swirl gently with knife. 3. Bake 1 hour or until center is almost set and edges are light brown. Refrigerate 4 hours. Use paper “handles” to lift from pan before cutting to serve. Can be made with regular cream cheese and sour cream as well. Enjoy!

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Welcome to the Desert of the Real By Allan Rolnick, CPA

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metaphors for two very different perspectives on the world. The blue pill represents, at its worst, basking in sheep-like submission and accepting an essentially dishonest illusion. The red pill, by contrast, represents the genuine freedom and opportunity that come from accepting harsh but liberating reality. The

pill side of the line. They passively take the numbers their clients bring them, from their P&L statements, their W-2s, and 1099s. They feed the data into their computers to put the right numbers in the right boxes on the right forms. They do a great job telling clients how much they owe – and for most clients, the

The good news is, at least as far as taxes are concerned, the red pill doesn’t require you to outrun creepy agents of post-apocalyptic artificial intelligence or dodge bullets in a shadowy subway tunnel.

choice you make has consequences in every aspect of your life – including your taxes and your finances. In our world, every competent tax professional works within the system. (The occasional crooks who cheat on behalf of their clients make headlines because they’re so rare.) Most tax pros work the blue

blue pill may be all they need. But some tax pros do things a little differently. They work the red pill side of the line. They don’t just take the numbers you give them and run them through “the Matrix” of IRS forms and procedures. They help you structure your business entities, your benefit plans, and perhaps even

your investment portfolio to pay the minimum possible tax. They don’t just accept the story the IRS writes for them. They work within the system to write you a happier ending. You may not think choosing a tax advisor is quite as consequential as choosing between the red pill and the blue. But Neo didn’t realize he was living in the Matrix, either, not until Morpheus welcomed him to the desert of the real. The good news is, at least as far as taxes are concerned, the red pill doesn’t require you to outrun creepy agents of post-apocalyptic artificial intelligence or dodge bullets in a shadowy subway tunnel. It just takes opening your eyes to all the legal, ethical, and moral ways to pay less. You don’t have to be a sci-fi fan to appreciate that sort of success. And you don’t have to follow the movies to appreciate the savings we create with the “red pill” approach. Just sit back and enjoy the show. And maybe next time you’re feeling philosophical, ask yourself if the tax system we work in is real or are we just trapped in some sort of twisted virtual reality? Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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wenty years ago, sci-fi fans geeked out to a new thriller called The Matrix following a dystopian vein established in Blade Runner, Total Recall, and The Terminator. It starred Keanu Reeves as “Neo” and Laurence Fishburne as “Morpheus”: freedom fighters in a world where machines have trapped humanity in a computer-generated dreamscape called the Matrix, to distract their minds while sucking energy from their bodies and brains. (Their allies include another hacker named Trinity, famed for cracking the IRS database, but that’s not what brings us here today.) Early in Act One, Morpheus shows Neo two pills that look like ordinary cold medicine and presents him with a choice. “This is your last chance. After this, there is no turning back. You take the blue pill – the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill – you stay in Wonderland and I show you how deep the rabbit-hole goes.” It wouldn’t have been much of a movie if Neo had taken the blue pill — fortunately for viewers (and humanity), he picks red and challenges the machines to a future where “anything is possible.” The Matri x established the blue pill and red pill as cultural

Dirshu

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In Anticipation…. By Rabbi Nachman Seltzer

I’m just going to say it as it is. The talmidei chachomim comprising the vast body of the Dirshu Torah army, live lives of genuine mesiras nefesh when it comes to their learning. I have a reason for mentioning this right now. It has to do with a recent conversation I had with a friend. This man is a Daf Yomi magid shiur with a very popular shiur. “Being part of Dirshu changed my life,” he said to me. I asked him why. “Look,” he replied, “as a businessman, I’m naturally devoted to the idea of accountability. Besides I really wanted to know and remember what I was learning – which was why I loved being part of Dirshu.” “What did you like most about Dirshu?” “The tests.” “That’s funny, most people hate tests.” “Not me. I loved having to take them. Suddenly I found myself foregoing sleep at night - preparing. I sat up learning for hours and somehow without my noticing it, darkness would give way to light outside my window. One second it was midnight and the next it was morning and I’d leave to Shacharis with a feeling of tremendous satisfaction. I hadn’t slept the entire night and I was filled with happiness like you can’t imagine! Without any exaggeration whatsoever, Dirshu completely changed my life.” ……….. This businessman/magid shiur is but one example of the wonderfully committed group of Yidden who devote their days and nights to reviewing for the Dirshu tests, both in Gemara and Halacha. And with siyumim fast approaching at various prime locations around the globe, it will afford all involved with the opportunity to celebrate with their Torah brothers-inarms. I myself have stood beside Rav Dovid Hofstedter, Nasi and founder of Dirshu, at many events and personally

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witnessed the authentic hakoras hatov of “his” people as they thanked him over and over for changing their lives. I have been there as the wives of the Dirshu army thanked Rav Dovid for altering their husband’s state of being. “You can’t imagine what you have done for my husband and for our entire family,” was a line that I heard over and over again. “In the past my husband was busy with many things. Now he is busy with Torah. Every month there’s another test – and he throws himself into the Gemara with a full heart, determined to get the best mark possible, not because he wants to show off, but because a top mark means he really knows the Gemara.” So while we are rapidly counting down the days to the many Dirshu events around the globe, it’s with a recognition that the events themselves are coming to celebrate the members of Dirshu and their incredible commitment to not only learning Torah but to really knowing it as well. ……….. As in previous years, besides the main events in Eretz Yisroel - held at Binyanei Hauma in Yerushalayim and at Yad Eliyahu in Tel Aviv, there will also be a major event at the Prudential Center in North America (a number of sections are already sold out) and in Paris, London, Manchester, Eastern Europe, South Africa and South America. Here’s the thing. Based on ticket sales at Prudential, (and with anticipation that the venue will be completely sold out - based on past experience of these kind of events) the Dirshu team has already

Dirshu World Siyum at Yad Eliyahu Stadium, 2012

secured another first class venue. I am referring to NJ PAC - which is gearing up to be an incredible event “All On Its Own!” I will explain. ……….. There’s another point I want to make A Dirshu event is a celebration for all the senses, both ruchni and gashmi. When I traveled to Radin, the entire group gathered together in Ben Gurion Airport prior to departure. There every person was given a gift bag filled with some snacks, a few well-chosen seforim, and an umbrella. Why an umbrella? Well - we were flying to Eastern Europe and there was a good chance of rain. Therefore the Dirshu team made sure that every person on the trip would be taken care of and protected from the elements. This turned out to be a most fortunate move on their part, because rain poured down the entire time we were davening at the Chofetz Chaim’s kever, only clearing up when the Gedolim finished pouring out their hearts to Hashem on Klal Yisroel’s behalf. This is an example of the kind of thought and preparation Rav Dovid Hofstedter and the Dirshu team puts into everything they do. ……….. I’ll give you another example. When Dirshu celebrated its global celebration of Shas at Binyanei Hauma and Yad Eliyahu in 2012, they produced a musical CD to go along with it. The songs were magnificent (some even composed by Rav Dovid and other members of his family) and

truly helped to raise the overall celebration to additional heights. I still recall the singing and dancing – it was utterly phenomenal! There’s no question that Dirshu has perfected the art of the little touch. Who can forget the moment when Rav Dovid’s father-in-law, Reb Avrohom Bleeman of Toronto, joined a group of children on the stage at Binyeni Hauma, where they sang a song which had been taught to Reb Avrohom as a child, by Rav Meir Shapiro himself! What a beautifully meaningful moment that was! And it’s the same way at every Dirshu event. There are always surprises – both spiritual and physical. Which is why I can state with complete assurance that both Prudential and NJ PAC will be events to remember – each in their own right, and each with their own surprises and special touches. And while some of the Gedolim will remain at each event from beginning to end, others will spend part of the night first at one venue, then the other, thereby ensuring a delightful synergy between two otherwise completely unique events. ……….. In conclusion, I can state with complete assurance that the upcoming Dirshu events will be moments in time to remember. Everyone is invited and everyone is welcome. My recommendation - reserve your seat today while there are still tickets available and join the Dirshu Torah revolution. You won’t regret it. Trust me.

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