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The Chesed Fund and Project Ezra Celebrate the 5th Annual Community Safety & Service Award Ceremony Recognizing Children, Teens, and Adults

was 11-year old Avrumi Stoll, who alerted Shomrim to a neighbor’s house alarm going off. Miriam Feldman, a 9th grader at Bnos Yisroel, was honored for creating the “Make Baltimore Safe” program which created a homeowner’s surveillance camera registry with Shomrim. Two Beth Tfiloh honorees, Steve Herman and Selena Shirkin, created “Strive”, a phone app to increase teenage driving safety. Two other special honorees were Christopher Ganze and Randy Greer who were recognized for their heroic efforts. They jumped into a lake and saved a young girl who was thrown in the water after crashing her bike into a tree. Another honoree was Rabbi Mordechai Bamberger of the Bal-

timore Community Kollel -Tiferes Moshe Aryeh. He was honored with the Rabbinical Award which is dedicated in memory of Rabbi Simcha Shafran, zt”l. “Rabbi Bamberger’s devotion to Klal Yisroel is an inspiration to all,” said Mr. Kauffman. Also honored were valuable Congregation Shomrei Emunah and Congregation Ohel Moshe members who selflessly volunteered after Hurricane Harvey by traveling to Houston to assist in recovery relief efforts. Dovid Goldwasser, a Miami, Florida resident, was also honored for his lifesaving rescue work during Hurricane Harvey and Hurricane Irma. “This special event was created to celebrate the wonderful and extraordinary accomplishments that

people are doing, whether it is to increase community safety or service,” said Frank Storch. The Chesed Fund & Project Ezra are happy to honor exceptional children, teens, and adults worldwide. Feel free to nominate someone by emailing the person’s name, age, contact information, and reason they should be honored to chesedfund@gmail.com.

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n Sunday, June 24th, the Chesed Fund, Ltd. & Project Ezra of Greater Baltimore, Inc. recognized children, teens, and adults who made a difference in our community. As in previous years, the ceremony was sponsored by Mr. & Mrs. Bruce & Lois Kauffman in memory of Mr. Phillip Kauffman, a”h, Mrs. Rosalie Zwagil, a”h, and Mr. Paul Naden, a” h. This year over thirty people were honored with awards. Honorees included Mr. Tzviel “BK” Blankchtein, owner and chief instructor of Masada Tactical, a unique self-defense and tactical training center in Baltimore. He was honored for teaching our community to keep themselves and others safe. Another honoree

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The Chesed Fund Limited and Project Ezra of Greater Baltimore, Inc. Wish the Winners of the 4th Annual Philip Kaufman, ‫ע”ה‬, & Rosalie Zwagil, ‫ע”ה‬

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Safety& Service The Maryland Jewish Community Award for Exceptional Service, Safety, and Security

The Chesed Fund Limited is dedicated in memory of Mordechai & Rebecca Kapiloff, ‫ע”ה‬, Dr. Bernard Kapiloff, ‫ע”ה‬, and Rabbi Norman & Louise Gerstenfeld, ‫ע”ה‬. Project Ezra of Greater Baltimore, Inc. is dedicated in memory of M. Leo Storch, ‫ע”ה‬.

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COMMUNITY

Around the Community . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .6 Community Calendar . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 36

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JEWISH THOUGHT Rabbi Zvi Teichman. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Rabbi Motty Rabinowitz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34 Rabbi Dovid Jaffee. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38

PEOPLE 613 Seconds with Mesila of Baltimore . . . . . . . . . . 19

HUMOR & ENTERTAINMENT Notable Quotes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 Centerfold. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46

JEWISH LIFE My Israel Home. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Dating Dialogue. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Orthodox at the Olympics. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 BizWiz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 60 Mental Health Corner. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 64 Forgotten Heroes. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 66 Life Coach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 68 Your Money. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 69 Gluten Free Recipe Column. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 70

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Dear readers, Personal responsibility. Simple words, yet they take a lifetime to master. Particularly now – in these politically charged and turbulent times when it is easy to get swept along with partisan fervor and be either boiling mad or ecstatic depending on the day’s news – it is far too tempting to forget to be courteous to those we interact with, dedicated to our family at home, and in general to be an upstanding human being and Yid. It matters little whether this country is acting like a terrorist state or is the best thing that happened to this world (both opinions commonly held today). We need to act in a morally responsible and kind manner. It’s easy to look at the news and take weight off your chest thinking, “I’m not like that!” First of all, neither are most of the people in this country. We see the worst behavior in the news simply because it is unusual, and thus news-worthy, at least to some. But that’s beside the point. The only question we will be called to answer when we reach 120 is how was our behavior. This seems small and trivial in the big scheme of world-wide disasters or miracles (again, depending on what you see), yet that’s the question we will be asked. What will our answer be? Will we be happy with it? The “Three Weeks,” which naturally have a subdued tone to them, is a good time to reflect on this and with Hashem’s help improve in the areas lacking. The two main fasts fall out on Shabbos this year, giving us a taste of the time when “the fast days shall turn into yomim tovim.” May it yet be this year. Wishing you joyful Shabbos and a meaningful three weeks, Shalom

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23 Days And Counting! Biker Cholim Men’s Bike-A-Thon!

By: Rochelle Goldberg

hey are neck and neck- Pinny and Bill-racing to the finish line. Professional cyclist and Virtual rider. Both working round the clock to raise money for Bikur Cholim of Baltimore. And there is still time for you to join the race and make this year’s Biker Cholim Men’s Bike-a-thon the biggest fundraiser ever. www.bikercholim.org Sign Up! Raise More Money! Enjoy a Fun Family Day! Every day, Bikur Cholim of Baltimore is helping Baltimore families with every type of illness, in a variety of ways, including: • 8,000 fresh meals a year to patients and families in local hospitals and at home • 2,500 visits and rides yearly to medical appointments and hospitals • 6,000 patients visited a year by 40 dedicated volunteers in five area hospitals • 3,000 people a year provided with kosher meals and refreshments in Bikur Cholim pantries in area hospitals open 24/7 • Two beautiful Bikur Cholim apartments in the Canterbury House • The Roz Wallin Bikur Cholim Medical Equipment Gemach; medical referrals; visitation in the home; accommodations near hospitals for Shabbos; birth-night babysitting; and more • Patient advocacy in Sinai

and available in all local hospitals. Three recent examples of what Bikur Cholim does: • Bikur Cholim provided meals for a family of a hospitalized child born with a rare heart condition for close to a year. • Bikur Cholim arranged housing with a local family for a young woman released from Sheppard Pratt’s eating disorder unit. Bikur Cholim also provided daily transportation to Shephard Pratt. • Bikur Cholim partnered with Renewal, a nonprofit organization dedicated to assisting people suffering from various forms of kidney disease, in an evening of awareness. The event generated three kidneys for local recipients. So, join the fun, be part of something important. Choose from three scenic routes of 10 miles; 25 miles; or 50 miles. Enjoy a sumptuous BBQ from the one and only YAFFA. Register your children for the KIDS JUNIOR CHALLENGE. Enjoy the family fun day with face painters, balloon man, rockin DJ, moon bounce, snow cones, and more. Hope to see you there! SUNDAY, JULY 29, 2018 AT BETH TFILOH. Check out our website www.bikercholim.org and don’t miss out on any of the fun. Enjoy a healthy fun family day while doing a tremendous mitzvah. Be part of our mission of kindness.

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Monday/Wednesday Night Chaburah Celebrates Siyum

n Tuesday evening, June 19, Rabbi Zvi Schwartz’s Monday/Wednesday night chaburah for 6-8th grade bachurim celebrated a siyum at Dougie’s. The siyum was mainly for the bachurim who completed learning one of a choice of three books that were given out at the chaburah. The program was the brainchild of Rabbi Zvi Schwartz, who noted that middle school boys needed to be engaged to keep them occupied in the evenings. “I have worked with many boys over the years, and one main problem that I have noticed is that they are bored and think that learning is boring. If we create exciting learning programs that speak to them and help them succeed they’re all in. They can’t wait and will run to come and learn. With this in mind, Rabbi Schwartz, who works at Yeshivas Chofetz Chaim/Talmudical Academy of Baltimore and directs the Master Daf program helping hundreds of boys over the past few years perfect reading a daf Gemara, approached the 8th classes and invited them to come to the Agudah Israel of Park Heights on Monday evenings, together with a chavrusa, learn for forty five minutes , earn tickets for great raffle prizes, and then enjoy some delicious food from a

local restaurant. Rabbi Schwartz personally interviewed each boy before he was accepted to the program, to assure that he was prepared to come with a chavrusa, or with his father, and learn Gemara seriously during the night seder program. The program was a great success, with more and more boys from other grades begging to join. A Wednesday night chaburah was opened as well, for boys from Yeshivas Kochav Yitzchok. All in all, about 120 boys were attending, exceeding all expectations. This showed Rabbi Schwartz, who spent much time fundraising for the program, that his premise was correct – the boys want to learn and they want to succeed. Feedback from parents was tremendous. “My son ran to learn.” “He is so excited to learn.” “He never did anything extracurricular before.” The kol Torah each evening was deaf-

ening; and on some nights, the area which was originally allocated for the program could not hold all the boys and they had to be relocated to the Agudah’s main beis medrash. In addition to the chavrusa learning, small shiurim were offered. Mr. Eli Pollack gave a class in Jewish history, weaving in maamarai Chazal and lessons of emunah, and Rabbi Schwartz also gave a class in sefer “What If.” About four months ago, the boys were given the choice of three English sefarim - “What If,” “The Shabbos Home,” and “Positive Word Power.” Those that finished the sefarim were invited to join Tuesday’s night siyum, which was attended by close to eighty boys, and co-sponsored by Seven Mile Market, Dougie’s and Mr. Yossi Laxs, who also sponsored the sefarim. At the siyum, two boys, Yitzi Friedman and Eli Margolese, shared divrei To-

rah. Rabbi Schwartz is looking forward to strengthening the program and continuing it for the coming school year. “I would like to have it more nights a week , and create new opportunities ” he insists. “Middle school boys in today’s dor are very vulnerable, the combination of too much time, access to technology and the widespread lack of skills needed to enjoy Gemara has deflated and destroyed the ruchnius of many. We need to do much more to give every boy the tools he needs to love and connect to the Simcha of Torah Sh’Bal Peh and not have to look for alternatives, especially when they are on the threshold of choosing their future. The boys have shown that they want to succeed. We just have to believe in them and give them the opportunity to make it happen. “

ture of Baltimore and the 41st district. We discussed the out-of-control crime committed by brazen youth who will resort to violence to get what they want. Some of the crime issues are handled by the City Council, but broader criminal justice issues are legislated in Annapolis. We discussed education: one of the biggest battles in our city. We all want more education funding for a better and stronger education system. We discussed health care; with health care changes coming out of Washington, the Legislature must help protect Marylanders and ensure we have affordable healthcare. We discussed mental health, an issue that affects many of our families in many ways, including through depression, eating disorders, opioids and other addictions. We discussed the need for

better paying jobs. We discussed the need for tax reductions. We discussed many, many more important topics and issues as well. I listened to every single discussion, and I heard every one of you. Our Councilman, Yitzy Schleifer, has been addressing many of our concerns in the City Council. Now, it is time to address our concerns in Annapolis and enact legislation that will benefit all of us. With the continued help of Hashem, and in the merit of the achdus of our community, may we work together to improve the lives of every single member of the 41st district. Thank you again for giving me this opportunity to represent you and your families in Annapolis. Have a safe and excellent summer. Dalya

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ear Baltimore Community, Baruch shehechiyanu vkiyimanu vhigiyanu lazman haze. Blessed is He Who allowed us to live, accomplish and arrive to this day. I want to publically thank Hashem for the strength, support, and mazal that brought about my successful campaign run. I would like to thank my husband, Asaf, who has stood beside me throughout everything, and my children who were such great troopers and have always been my inspiration. This victory is not simply my own, but it belongs to every single member of the community who volunteered, supported, spread the word, or voted for me. I would like to wish all of you a Mazal Tov. Almost two years ago, when I was first approached by com-

munity leaders with the idea of running for Delegate, I refused to even consider it before meeting with local Rabbonim to make sure I would have their full support and bracha, and Baruch Hashem I have been so fortunate to have their continued support and guidance throughout my campaign. Councilman Yitzy Schleifer is a role model to me, and he served as an invaluable asset throughout the campaign. I learned from him how to be a genuine public servant, and I look forward to continuing to work with him. I feel so blessed to have such strong unity from the entire community behind me during this campaign cycle, and I do not take your support for granted. Throughout this campaign, I have had many conversations about the fu-

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Baltimore’s Whirlwind “Mir Shabbos of Chizuk” a Huge Success

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habbos Parshas Korach (June 15-16) will be remembered by the Baltimore kehilla as a most inspiring and uplifting “Shabbos with the Mir”. It was followed by a Sunday morning Yarchei Kallah, and culminated in an annual Benefit Reception for Yeshivas Mir Yerushalayim, that evening. Harav Yosef Elefant, shlita, arrived in the area on Friday morning; he visited the Yeshiva of Greater Washington in Silver Spring, and spoke there. He then went to the home of his hosts, Dr. and Mrs. Michael Elman, longtime friends of the Mir who graciously opened their house for the entire duration of Rav Elefant’s stay, allowing a constant flow of people who sought their chashuve guest’s wise counsel and hadracha. On Friday evening, Rav Elefant spoke at Kehillas Bnei Torah. Following the seudah, he led an Oneg Shabbos and a highly informative Q & A session at the home of his hosts. A crowd of close to one hundred people

– Mir alumni as well as community members – stayed until 12:30 AM, listening to insights and gaining clarity on many relevant life and family issues such as chinuch habanim, shalom bayis and the like. Rav Elefant gave a shiur on Shabbos morning following the 8:15 Shacharis at Congregation Shomrei Emunah. He then delivered a D’var Torah at Mercaz Torah U’Tefilla (Rav Eichenstein), and at Derech Chaim (Rabbi Pinchas Gross). In the afternoon, there was a 4:45 PM shiur at Bnai Jacob Shaarei Zion (Rabbi Hauer) on the very timely topic of “Connecting in a Disconnected World”. There was a shiur on Chinuch Habanim for both men and women following Mincha at Kol Torah (Rabbi Beger’s shul). He also gave a sichas mussar before Maariv at Khal Ahavas Yisroel Tzemach Tzedek (Rabbi Heber). Harav Elefant participated in Sunday morning’s Yarchei Kallah learning session, which began with Shacharis at 8:15 AM at Kol Torah, followed by breakfast and a seder limud focusing on the sugya of mitzvos lav lei’hanos nit’nu. Over one hundred people par-

ticipated; the ruach haTorah was palpable. The Benefit Reception for the Mir, which has profoundly benefitted Baltimore’s appreciation for Torah, took place at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Gil Horowitz on Sunday evening. Rabbi Moshe Hauer was the guest speaker and Harav Nachman Levovitz, shlita, Rosh Yeshiva, arrived from Eretz Yisroel to meet and greet members of

the community and grace the event. In the twenty-eight years that Harav Nachman has been coming to Baltimore, he has nurtured and maintained close relationships with many families. The weekend’s memorable and enjoyable events provided an opportunity for the Baltimore community to show their appreciation and draw inspiration that will last for many months to come. Photo Credit: Jeff Cohn Photography

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N’shei Café Evening of Stars

’shei Agudath Israel of Baltimore will be having their Annual N’shei Café Evening of Stars on Monday, July 9, 2018 at 7:30 p.m. at Bnos Yisroel, 6400 Park Heights Avenue. All women of the community are invited to attend this event. Each year at the N’shei Café Evening of Stars, N’shei honors Baltimore women who have contributed to the Jewish community in a significant way. N’shei organizes this evening for women every summer during the Three Weeks, a time when tragedy struck the Jewish people because of sinas chinam (baseless hatred). As a way to promote unity and friendship, N’shei highlights the contributions of the unsung heroines of our community. To that end, N’shei has previously honored nurses, Torah mentors,

wives of Hatzalah members, preschool teachers, shadchanim, rebbetzins, Bnos leaders, and others. This year we are delighted to honor the women who support our community with their gemachs. These women spend their time offering much-needed items and services to the community – not for a profit, but for the mitzvah. The women who are being honored include: Miriam Edelson, Shoshana Fishkind, Debbie Gibber, Nusy Lefkowitz, the Golfeiz family, Yehudis Hexter, Esther Hirschman, Miriam Jacoby, Rebbetzin Chavi Horowitz, Rochel Mandel, Yael Meister, Chaya Pollock, Tzilah Raczkowski, Cindy Ring, Chana Shaffer, Rochel Strauss, and Chava Esther Tannenbaum. N’shei is also paying tribute to the

Women of Valor that our community has recently lost. All of these women lived lives of chesed and service to the Ribbono Shel Olam. Their contributions to our community and their gemilas chasadim will never be forgotten. They were all exceptional women, and they will forever remain in our hearts. N’shei Agudath Israel of Baltimore is part of an international organization of women dedicated to achdus, community service, education, and charity. Our members include women from different shuls, schools, and organizations. N’shei provides the women in our community with quality programs to enhance their homes and their families. N’shei organizes halacha and hashkafa shiurim, including our annual Teshuva and Pesach shiurim given by Rabbi Moshe Heinemann. Each year, N’shei officially welcomes wom-

en new to the Baltimore community at their Newcomers Night. N’shei also sponsors a medical symposium where medical and Rabbinic experts educate our community about important health issues. Please join us at the N’shei Evening of Stars Café on July 9, 2018. If you need more information, please email: nshei@netzero.net. To place an ad in our Journal of Stars, please email: nsheijournal@gmail.com. N’shei is a forum for women to share their talents for a worthy cause. Please let us know if you would like to join us and help out in any way. Please call Chavi Barenbaum at (410) 764-6264 or email: nshei@netzero.net.

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Baltimore Community Sunday Baseball League (SBL) Makes a Tremendous Kiddush HaShem! By: BJLife Newsroom

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he Baltimore community Sunday Baseball League (SBL) sent the beautiful note below to their group Dear SBL Coaches, Parents, and Players: Please see the note below that was sent by one of our umpires who has extensive experience in many youth leagues in the region. As the SBL season has recently concluded, we would like to thank you for your participation and support, and for creating this Kiddush Hashem. SBL continues to thrive because of you!

Sincerely, The SBL Front Office Dear….. I was one of your umpires ,I would like to express on what a honor it was to umpire in your league. It is by far the best baseball league that I have umpired in. Please convey to all the coaches , parents and most of all THE PLAYERS on what a great and joyful opportunity it was for me. In no other league do I receive the respect that you give me. I have come to know some of the boys and what a great bunch of kids they are, not to mention the fact that you have some great ball players. I have said that if I could pick an all star team from your players . I would love to take them on tour and play other

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tive and formal vests, bowties and crowns. The preschoolers made their way to the stage walking in an impressively coordinated fashion while the large room was brightened by the children’s shining faces. Once settled on stage, groups of boys came forward saying and translating pesukim word for word and shared beautiful niggunim with the audience. Everyone present surely enjoyed seeing their young sons and grandsons in action, especially the energetic singing which was accompanied with live music. After completing the perek, Rabbi Shimon Hirsch, menahel, expressed deep gratitude to the entire preschool staff and shared divrei bracha, highlighting to the boys the significance of receiving their first Chumash and comparing it to Matan Torah. Rab-

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What is Mesila’s mission? A: Mesila’s mission is to educate and support financial literacy in the community. Many have not been formally or informally educated about finances, and struggle because they have not learned the skills, tools, and behaviors required to effectively manage their finances. What does Mesila do to accomplish its mission? Mesila takes a two-pronged approach. One is prevention: We hold seminars that

credit card debt, get a mortgage modification, or renegotiate tuition discounts; they want to fix the result of the problem. Or, 2) they want to take a hard look at their budget to identify opportunities for adjusting their expenses and/or income to get to the root of the problem. We insist on first helping the family reach a balanced monthly budget, and then, only after the budget is balanced, do we address accumulated debts.

Where do you start the educational process? We ask families to complete a budget form, which enables them to look at their comprehensive financial picture. It is important to foster awareness of the cost and income required to support a desired lifestyle. The fact that expenses are anticipated to increase as families grow makes planning ahead essential. Preparing a monthly, annual, and five-year budget is tremendously eye-opening. From high school students to middle-aged parents; preparing a budget will generate a new level of awareness. When a family is not making ends meet, we help them realize their lifestyle, spending habits, and ability to earn are not aligned, and this is unsustainable situation, one that could worsen with time. We call this the “awareness stage.” Counselors highlight that families in similar situations have come up with a realistic plan for success, and that there is hope.

Why does Mesila work to first help people balance their budget? Looking for a quick fix, like going into bankruptcy or renegotiating credit cards, could indeed relieve the acute financial problem, but it does not get to the underlying cause of the financial imbalance. A family must take a hard look at its budget to understand expenses generated by a certain lifestyle need to be balanced with family income. Otherwise, even if a family can have the debt eliminated, if they don’t change their spending or their earning, they soon will return to the same financial predicament. At Mesila, we help families develop a comprehensive financial plan, and we present tradeoffs for the family to consider in formulating their plan.

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Why doesn’t Mesila prescribe solutions and tell families what to do? This is a key element of Mesila. We never tell families what to do. We want families to recognize this is their issue and they need to own the problem and choose the solution. We help by shedding light on key financial tradeoffs a family is consciously or unconsciously making. We do not change people. We educate, provide skills, and coach fami-

lies to help themselves change how they think about and manage their finances. Who are your counselors and how are they trained? The organization is comprised of volunteers. Mesila trains counselors to walk clients through the process. Even though counselors might know what the family should do, they help families arrive at the best decisions on their own. This is challenging to counselors, but we provide them with formal training and observe more experienced counselors who demonstrate the process. What about a kollel lifestyle? Mesila does not make judgments about any lifestyle. We have successfully helped kollel families using the same process. That plan includes reasonable assumptions about where money will come from and where it will go. For those who choose a kollel lifestyle, financial vigilance cannot be overstated. We addressed a local high school class on these matters. The class struggled with a sample family’s budget and were frustrated that the numbers did not add up to a balanced budget. One of the students asked, “What about emuna and bitachon (faith and trust)?” The teacher in the class retorted, “Of course you should have emuna and bitachon, but you have no business having emuna and bitachon unless you first make an effort on your own to achieve a balanced budget.” The next Mesila seminar is scheduled for Sunday, July 8th and July 15th, at BJSZ, at 7 p.m. Mesila can be reached at MesilaBaltimore@gmail.com or (877) 303-6662.

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activities, though no official source has confirmed this. The diplomats that spoke to the press said that Israel’s move was not definitive and could change. Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu applauded the U.S. walkout that was announced last week. Bibi hailed the White House for being “courageous” and called the council a “biased, hostile, anti-Israel organization that has betrayed its mission of protecting human rights.” The Trump administration said that the move was because the council has been consistently biased against Israel. Palestinians cheered the United States’ withdrawal from the council. Taysir Khaled, a member of the Executive Committee of the Palestine Liberation Organization, told Al-Monitor, “The U.S. is launching a systematic attack on international institutions in order to provide political cover to Israel and ensure its impunity.” He went on, “But this withdrawal may be useful [for the Palestinian cause], as it will prompt neutral Eu-

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ropean countries such as Russia and France, which unlike the U.S. are not hostile to the Palestinian people, to play a bigger role in the Palestinian-Israeli conflict.” Khaled said that concurrently with the U.S. withdrawal from the UNHRC, Russia put forward its candidacy for membership of the UNHRC from 2021 to 2023. “The re-election of Russia at the UNHRC in light of the U.S.’s absence may lead the UNHRC to play a better role in protecting human rights around the world,” he said. Russia was denied membership of the council during the October 2016 elections and has not been re-elected since. Salah Abdel Ati, the director of the Palestinian Center for Policy Research and Strategic Studies in Gaza, told Al-Monitor that the UNHRC resolutions that condemn Israel are not binding for Israel. However, he said, the resolutions are legally very important for Palestinians, explaining, “The resolutions issued by this council … can serve as support-

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rose 28 percent from 2016 to 2017 in Israel while the sale of loose tobacco rose 9.3%. The World Health Organization reports that 25.4% of Israelis 15 and older smoke tobacco while the world average is only 21.9%. “In Israel, taxes on water pipe/rolling tobacco are significantly lower than taxes on cigarettes, therefore it is not surprising that its demand is up,” said Dr. Avital Pato Benari of the Israel Cancer Association. Israel ranks very high – in line with the United States, Canada, and Germany – on the Human Development Index, according to the United Nations Development Program. However, Tobacco Atlas notes that 19.3% more women and 41.2% more men 15 or older smoke in Israel on average than in other countries in its HDI class. In this regard Israel is more like its Middle Eastern neighbors. Benari says that the government is to blame for not having executed the World Health Organization’s 2003 Framework Convention on Tobacco Control, or FCTC, well enough. The FCTC calls for high taxes on tobacco products and a ban on tobacco advertising. ”Although the Israeli government signed the FCTC in 2003 and ratified it in 2005, its implementation is lacking,” Benari noted. “The price increases through higher taxes on tobacco products, such as rolling tobacco, is not sufficient to generate a behavioral change and reduce demand. The recent legislation, including the Knesset’s crackdown on smoking in public spaces, is a step in the right direction. However, it is important to emphasize that only total bans work well. The NGOs need to vigilantly monitor the tobacco industry’s tactics and strategies to undermine or subvert tobacco control efforts.”

June 11 was the official no smoking day in Israel. MK Yehudah Glick of the Likud party has announced that he is committing to a hunger strike until the Knesset passes a tax on loose tobacco equal to the one that already exists for cigarettes. The gesture brings to light the dangerous fact that smoking has made a comeback in Israel and that overall tobacco use rates are far higher than similarly developed countries. The sale of tobacco for water pipes

Prince William Visits the Holy Land While visiting Israel, British Prince William took a break from his busy schedule of meeting dignitaries to take a stroll on Tel Aviv’s beach and played a game of soccer with a group of Jewish and Arab kids.

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Sauntering down Tel Aviv’s Frishman beach, a smiling William shook hands with crowds of well-wishers and slurped down watermelon under a public pergola on the sand with a group of young Israelis. “It’s a fantastic beach,” declared the Duke of Cambridge. This is the first-ever official trip to Israel by a British royal. The prince arrived in Israel on Monday after spending a day and a half in Jordan. His itinerary did not list his trip to the beach, only saying that he would “travel to central Tel Aviv for an event that will be announced during the visit.”

He spent time chatting with Tel Aviv Mayor Ron Huldai and inspected a lifeguard lookout hut. He also learned about the game of footvolley, a sandy hybrid of soccer and beach volleyball. Before heading to Tel Aviv on Tuesday, William talked English football with President Reuven Rivlin and gave the president a shirt from Liverpool, the president’s English club of choice, signed by club legend and former team captain Steven Gerrard. “Israel kept many of the British customs and laws from the Mandate, but we did not manage to keep the same level of British football. I know you are a fan of Aston Villa, and I am a fan of Liverpool, but we can still talk about that during the World Cup,” Rivlin, who used to be the president of the Jerusalem Beitar soccer club, told his royal guest. The president presented the duke with a gift from the archives of the Yad Ben-Zvi Museum, a copy of an album of photographs taken between 1850 and 1865 by Elizabeth Ann Finn, wife of the then British Con-

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Sara Netanyahu in Hot Water An indictment has been filed against Sara Netanyahu for allegedly misusing $100,000 in state funds to pay for gourmet meals between 2010 and 2013. Ezra Saidoff, a former deputy director general of the Prime Minister’s Office, is also named in the indictment. The prime minister’s wife was notified by Attorney General Avichai Mandelblit and State Prosecutor Shai Nitzan months ago about the

impending indictment. Negotiations had been ongoing for her to return the funds to the state and confess to the charges in exchange for the suit being dropped. Negotiations reportedly broke down this week when Netanyahu told her lawyers that she will not return the funds and would “rather go to jail” than reimburse the state, though her lawyers have denied that she said that. Sara Netanyahu and Saidoff are accused of violating laws which ban the ordering of prepared food when a chef is already employed at the Prime Minister’s Residence. The indictment claims that the pair falsely claimed there was no chef in the Jerusalem home at the time so they could order food from expensive restaurants on the government’s dime. Saidoff is in worse shape than Sara in the indictment because he is accused of illicitly hiring chefs and servers for private meals at the Prime Minister’s home and for falsifying invoices in order to have the expenses approved. Saidoff’s lawyer, Yehoshua

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Hamas Mislead Media about Baby’s Death A Palestinian that was arrested on terror charges last Thursday

told Israeli investigators that Hamas leader Yahya Sinwar paid his relatives to falsely tell media outlets that his baby cousin died of tear gas inhalation. Twenty-year-old Mahmoud Omar and another member of Fatah armed wing, the Al-Aqsa Martyrs Brigades, were arrested after attempting to infiltrate into Israel and torch an unmanned IDF post. While being questioned, he said that the story of baby Layla Ghandour’s death, which made headlines around the world and intensified global anti-Israel criticism, had

been completely fabricated. The suspect told investigators that he is cousins with Layla Ghandour, the 8-month-old baby whose death was reportedly caused by tear gas sprayed by Israeli forces at the Gaza border on May 14. Omar said that he was participating in the May 14 Gaza protest along with 40,000 other Palestinians when his mother called him and said that his baby cousin had died from a blood disease similar to the one that took the life of the deceased infant’s brother who died at the same age in 2017.

Omar told the authorities that Yahya Sinwar paid Layla’s parents, Miriam and Anwar Ghandour, NIS 8,000 ($2,206) to tell the media that the infant died from tear gas. Mariam al-Ghandour, the baby’s 17-year-old mother, subsequently told reporters that “the Israelis killed her.” She was not asked whether the baby has a preexisting medical condition, and the family indicated that the baby had been healthy. Mariam told the media that she had a dentist appointment and left the baby with her little brother who took her to the border.

The Israeli army disputed the media’s report about the baby’s death right away. An IDF spokesperson said that “contrary to the unequivocal Palestinian announcement, we have evidence that undermines the credibility of the Palestinian Ministry of Health’s announcement regarding the death of the baby.” After the funeral, a doctor in Gaza anonymously told AP news that he believed that the baby had a serious pre-existing condition that was the cause of death. Unfortunately, the media gobbled up the story from the 17-year-old mother and headlines blared across the world charging the IDF for the baby’s death.

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And the Jewish Agency in my mind is the narrow bridge that connects the State of Israel and the Jewish people wherever they are. It is that bridge that created the State of Israel, and the bridge brought millions of Jews to the State of Israel and this bridge now has to confront the great challenges that face our people,” he said. The “narrow bridge” reference is likely a tribute to Sharansky who famously sang the Hebrew song based on the Breslov quote in the Gulag in the former Soviet Union. The Jewish people are at a crossroads, Herzog went on, presumably referring to a widening rift between Jews in Israel and the Diaspora, especially regarding the Western Wall. “We have to do whatever we can to unify the Jewish people and make sure it is not split and divided. And we all know what we are talking about,” Herzog said. “We have to strengthen the centrality of Israel within the heart of every Jew, especially the young generations; to fight BDS, to educate, to connect and to promote aliyah, and to bring more

and more Jews to Israel,” Herzog added. “A Jew is a Jew is a Jew, and it doesn’t matter to what stream he belongs to or what he wears on his head,” Herzog added. “We are all one people, and this is what we need to do to preserve and foster the great story of the Jews, and the great story of the State of Israel being the pumping heart of the Jewish people.” Sharansky is to step down as head of the Jewish Agency next month, after nine years in the position.

Cilantro Check Hate cilantro? Love it? Cilantro is perhaps the most polarizing of all herbs. There are some who love its fresh taste. Others say it tastes like dish soap in their mouths.

Now there’s a service that can definitively tell people if they will like or dislike the plant. The controversial heb is commonly used in South Asian and Latin American cuisine. Since 2012, scientists have been testing the idea of genetics as responsible for the enjoyment of the herbaceous add-in. According to a study conducted by DNA testing company 23AndMe, there is a correlation between people who dislike cilantro’s taste and one’s ethnic background, with Ashkenazi Jews, northern Europeans and southern Europeans most likely to describe cilantro’s taste as soapy Cornell University conducted its own study on more than 14,000 participants and traced the preference of cilantro to an olfactory receptor gene “OR6A2,” which is targeted as the receptor that may contribute to the detection of a soapy smell and taste from cilantro. The genetic variants in the olfactory receptors are now thought to be the reason behind those that dislike the herb. Perhaps our ancestors in Europe

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Lost & Found Leg When this man went jet skiing he lost more than just his glasses – he lost his leg.

Members of the Corinth Fire Department and several scuba and diving clubs searched the Hudson River for the precious object, a $127,000 prosthetic leg, for three days. Luckily, they found it in approximately 15 feet of water with the toes sticking out. The owner of the leg, who lives in nearby Greenfield Center, and has not been named, told officials the leg

and that’s about all he could see,” he added. “The smile on [the owner’s] face made what we do well worth it. For him to have it back and turn it on and have it still function correctly from what he could tell ... he got his life back.”

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Scott Holt needed to get to his meeting last week and he knew that he couldn’t rely on public transportation. Think power outages, fires in the tracks, and overflowing train cars. Instead, the New Jersian decided to take a more unconventional approach to getting to the Big Apple on time – his paddleboard. Wearing a suit and holding a briefcase Holt braved the rough winds and choppy waters of the Hudson. He paddled without a leash or a lifejacket. “I didn’t wanna pay for the toll,” the 32-year-old “struggling comedian” quipped. “I’m a starving artist, so I had the board and just kind of popped on and went.” Paddling across the Hudson — especially in bad weather — is a feat in itself. Holt managed to do it with a briefcase in his hand and no leash or lifejacket to keep him from drowning. “I stupidly didn’t bring a leash or a lifejacket, so if a [wave] took the board, then I just would’ve been stuck out there drowning in a suit,” the comic explained. “That’s the worst way to drown – dressed up.” Holt hit rougher waves once he got closer to Manhattan, and realized he needed to get to shore. He paddled up to a closed-down water taxi dock and found a curious police officer, who was waiting for him. “He was just more confused than anything,” Holt said. “He didn’t know what to do with me. I was like, ‘Hey man, do you want me to go somewhere else? I don’t want to come out here and be arrested.’” Hope his meeting was smooth sailing after his slippery commute.

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)‫ויהי אחרי המגפה (במדבר כו א‬, It was after the plague... After the terrible act of immorality initiated by the Moavite and Midianite women that resulted in the tragic deaths of 24,000 lives, the verse stops mid-sentence, leaving a gap in the Torah, continuing the verse in the next paragraph. There are times when the shock is so great we are simply silent. We must take pause. Saying anything else would only diminish the tragedy. The verse continues with the directive to take stock and count the Children of Israel once again. In this recounting the Torah omits the details it mentioned earlier in the beginning of the book of Bamidbar when a census was taken: according to their father’s household, by number of names, every male according to their head count. )‫(במדבר א ב‬ The emphasis here is on the ‫מש־‬ ‫פחות‬, the specific families within the greater family of the ‫שבט‬, tribe. This is the first time in the Torah that each tribe is enumerated by the individual family groupings and names, within

the tribe, ,‫ משפחת הפלאי‬,‫משפחת החנכי‬ '‫משפחת החצרני וכו‬, the Hanochite, Palluite, Chetzronite etc., all the ‘sons’ of Reuven, with the Torah then going on to similarly record the families within each tribe. Evidently the manner in which we recover from such traumatic events is by reconnecting to our ‘family’, its values, support and strength. Discovering and redefining our role within the family unit, is the source of our sense of security, confidence and faith that powers us to proceed in life without fear and trauma. In the enumerating of the families of Reuven, the Torah goes out of its way to mention the fact that Dasan and Aviram were the great grandsons of Reuven, and that they perished when “the earth opened its mouth and swallowed them” )‫(במדבר כו יא‬ Why is it necessary to open old wounds and mention this now? There were no remnants of their families and therefore no need to bring this issue up now. Furthermore, the paragraph ends

with a terse statement, ‫ובני קרח לא מתו‬ )‫(במדבר כו יב‬, But the sons of Korach did not die. Why is this verse placed here? At least the mention of the deaths of Dasan and Aviram in the previous verse, relates to the ‘families’ of Reuven, and their omission from that list due to their sins. Why however, are we mentioning the ‘sons of Korach’ that didn’t die, in the context of the tribe of Reuven? There are varying opinions as to exact meaning that ‘they didn’t die’. Did they crawl out, are they situated somewhere beneath the earth on a high platform in Gehinnom? ‫ רש"י תהילם מב‬,‫ מגילה יד‬,‫(סנהדרין קי‬ )‫ועוד‬ Either way, they were spared the fate of Dasan, Aviram and Korach. There is even a source that states that Korach, their father will one day also escape from Gehinnom. ‫(תנדב"א‬ )‫רבה ל‬ Why indeed were the sons of Korach, and ultimately Korach himself, saved? The Midrash tells us that when the sons of Korach sat at their father Korach’s ‘tish’, table, Moshe happened to walk by. They ‘buried their faces into the ground’ seeking to avoid confrontation. They discussed among themselves as what to do. If they stand up out of respect to Moshe, it would disgrace their father. If they ignore Moshe, remaining seated, they would go against the Torah’s command that tells us to show reverence for a Sage. They concluded, it would be better to get up for Moshe despite the shame they might otherwise cause their father. )‫(ילקוט שמעוני קרח תשנב‬ The Midrash indicates silence on the part of Korach. Why didn’t he react? Certainly he was still at odds with Moshe and remained so till his fateful end. Perhaps the Torah is teaching us that despite Korach’s vehemence in his disagreement with Moshe, he never imposed his opinions on his kids. Indeed, Rashi tells us that his children were part of the strategy from the start )‫(שם שם יא‬, but they had a healthy re-

lationship. Korach definitely sought allies in his sons, but never compelled them. The children were able to retain a comfortable objectivity, perhaps due to their father’s healthy relationship with them that enabled them to make their own choices, which ultimately saved them. Maybe that was the redeeming factor for their loving father as well; after all, it was his healthy attitude that imbued them with that quality to choose. Dasan and Aviram are described as )‫הצו על משה ואהרן (שם שם ט‬, instigating and inciting against Moshe and Aharon. (see Rashi) Earlier they stonewall Moshe, refusing his entreaties to talk. They couldn’t listen nor respect dissenting ideas. They singlehandedly destroyed their own family. There was no hope for children who grew up in so poisonous an environment to survive. As the Jewish people were regrouping from the terrible events that had just transpired, they needed to reassert their sense of self so that they may go forward. Dasan and Aviram are highlighted here, so that we may understand their disappearance from the scene. They are immediately contrasted with the children of Korach. They survived because they were equipped to overcome their failure. They had a healthy family, respectful of one another even when they disagreed. This was a family that allowed their children never to feel coerced. The children of Korach went on to serve as the ‫משוררים‬, the singers and musicians in the Mikdash. There are eleven Psalms attributed to the children of Korach. The playing of beautiful music requires each performer to pay careful attention to his fellow musicians. Although they had erred in their judgment of Moshe, they were able to correct their mistake and go on to listen ever more carefully to those they were in contention with. We must grasp on to our families for support and strength. We must learn to be attuned to the subtleties of their needs. We must respect one another even as we differ. In that we will find solace, comfort and strength.

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The Problem With Cyclops By Rabbi Motty Rabinowitz One common theme that weaves its way through the book of Bamidbar is the selective and often destructive focus of our eyes. The twelve spies failed their mission to positively demonstrate the grandeur of the land of Canaan due to their selective negative perceptions. Korach conjured up mystifying tales of Moshe being a power-hungry charlatan while blatantly ignoring his extreme humility and holiness, by perfecting the art of tunnel vision. But the icing on the cake definitely belongs to Bilaam, the Moabite mercenary, who’s raison d’etre was to seek out and manipulate

any kinks in the Jewish people’s spiritual armor. We are repeatedly told that Bilaam had the sight of only one eye. This emphasis of the Torah on his anatomical handicap is puzzling, and the Talmud explores the meaning behind this interesting feature. Most commentaries contend that he lost the sight of one eye as punishment for its improper usage when attempting to cast the evileye on the Jewish people. However, Rabbi Chaim Yosef Azulai, the saintly Chida”h, explains that this blocked eye was not the consequence of his actions, but a telling

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description of his methodology. I remember back in the day being instructed in high-school biology class to close one eye and attempt to bring my finger closer to touch my nose – not an easy task. With one eye open, we can definitely view that which sits right in front of us. Yet, without the usage of the other eye, we lose all sense of depth and context. We cannot see the whole picture and cannot make an accurate assessment of all that surrounds us. Thus, explains the Chida”h, it is not possible for a person to focus so adamantly on the negative without consciously suppressing one eye. All people, whether individuals or as part of a group, embody multiple positive traits and righteous motivations. While we may stumble in our day-today struggles, only tainted vision, devoid of context, can solely zoom in on our inadequacies. Bilaam’s only possible strategy to success was therefore to proceed with one eye blocked, by which method he wished to somehow only perceive the failings of the Jewish people. It is with this backdrop, that we encounter a special request by Moshe in this week’s Torah reading. He entreated G-d to appoint an appropriate successor to lead the people into the Holy Land. The language used by Moshe as he approached G-d is uncharacteristically wordy: “May G-d, the Lord of the spirit of all flesh, appoint a man over the people” (Bamidbar 27:16) What was the purpose of Moshe’s unique introductory description of G-d? The holy Berdichever suggests that Moshe was defining the critical trait that must be embodied by the future leader of the people. G-d understands the spirit and motivations of all flesh, and can fathom the challenges, triumphs and regrets of all people. All humanity is viewed equally and with empathy in the context of the tribulations of life. Similarly, pleaded Moshe, the future national leader must be capable of being a compassionate leader for all his subjects. He must be able to holistically understand the context of their actions, even when questionable, and be able to advocate for all Jews, from all walks of life. As opposed to Bilaam and our other protagonists who lived in a narrow, one-eye world, a Jewish leader must

be able to non-judgmentally view all persons with two very open eyes. It is no coincidence that all these passages are read at this specific time of year. The Ariza”l, in his mystical teachings, claims that every month of the year is represented by an anatomical feature of the head. The limbs representing these months of mourning, Tammuz and Av, are the right eye and the left eye, respectively. Our historical Achilles heel has always been the way we interact with others whom we perceive to be different from us. We tend to lose the whole picture, fixate on our trivial differences and flaws, and consequently splinter into factions, triggering strife and conflict. Even casual browsing through Josephus Flavius’s The Jewish War, reveals the horrifying bloodshed that ensued at the end of 2nd Temple period, due to pointless conflict and civil war. Perhaps a better modern-day treatment of petty disagreements is presented in Dr. Seuss’s The Butter Battle Book. It is plainly simple to lose sight of the forest for the trees.

But there is a hopeful path forward. Instead of ‘turning a blind eye’ to those outside of our self-defined social or religious circles, we can choose to open both eyes and view all individuals holistically. Every human being we encounter is a unique tapestry of talents, experiences and yes, also weaknesses. How refreshing would it be if we spoke to people as human beings, instead of via narrow labels. Does it really matter whether someone voted Republican or Democrat, whether they are a member of x shul, whether their kids go to y school, whether they dress similarly to us, whether they are in our social strata? Instead of focusing on our differences, we can easily pry open that other eye and seek that which ties us together in a vital bond of brotherhood. We must advocate for and embrace each and every Jew. Moshe’s plea for seeing the big picture and promoting non-judgmental interactions is a guiding light to our future redemption. It is the only possible path forward to the Holy Land.

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Contemporary Loshon Hora Issues

Hilchos Loshon Hora – Wordless and Inexplicit Loshon Hora By Rabbi Dovid Jaffee

This article is adapted from my upcoming sefer on the laws of Loshon Hora in contemporary times. All halachos mentioned herein are complex and part of a larger framework. The purpose of the article is to raise awareness of these essential halachos. Hence, one should not draw any practical conclusions without first consulting a rav.

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Wordless Communication The prohibition of Loshon Hora is not limited to speech. Thus, the prohibition also applies if the information is conveyed through writing or any other form of communication. Hinting or Alluding Furthermore, one transgresses the prohibition of Loshon Hora by merely hinting to the Loshon Hora, even though he did not explicitly say anything negative. Similarly, it is forbidden to relate anything about an individual or his actions that has negative connotations. Example: Rivka asked Avigail what she thought about Devora, the new girl in the class. Avigail simply sighed and rolled her eyes. Although Avigail said nothing, she has violated the prohibition of Loshon Hora by conveying disapproval of Devora. Similarly, leaving out the name of the subject does not circumvent the prohibition if the subject’s identity will be apparent to the listener (over the course of the conversation or otherwise). It is the author’s opinion that the same is true even if it is merely likely that the listener will discover the identity of the person under discussion. Indeed, even if it is unlikely, but still possible, that the listener will

find out, a halachic authority should be consulted. However, when the listener will not discover the identity of the individual under discussion, the prohibition of Loshon Hora does not apply. Note that where the speaker knows the identity of the individual under discussion, it is forbidden for the listener to respond negatively about that individual, even if he is unaware of his identity. Example: Eli is telling Manny that an unnamed plumber did a poor job fixing his sink. Manny may not respond by expressing his shock, or his opinion that such an inferior job is inexcusable. Though it is true that Manny does not have any idea about whom he is speaking, Eli is aware of the subject’s identity. Were Manny to talk in such a manner, he would be lowering the status of that individual even further in Eli’s eyes. Showing a Letter As an extension of the above, the Chofetz Chaim provides a surprising example of Loshon Hora. He writes that merely showing another a letter which was written poorly constitutes Loshon Hora, as it would diminish the status of the writer in the eyes of the reader. Example: Shoshana, a thirty-yearold lady, penned a letter written with the vocabulary of a fourth-grader. It would become clear to anyone who reads the letter that Shoshana is intellectually challenged. It constitutes Loshon Hora merely to show this letter to others, as it would cause them to think less of Shoshana. In this case, nothing was said about the writer of the letter at all. Yet,

it is still considered Loshon Hora, as something derogatory about her will become known through this interaction. This example combines both wordless and indirect Loshon Hora into one case. A Poorly Written Book Based on this, one may be led to think that it is forbidden to show someone an article or book which was written poorly, as this could cause the reader to lose respect for the writer. In truth, though, this case is permitted. The prohibition above refers to a private letter or something similar. However, in our case, the author himself has publicized his work. It is clear that he wants it to be read. This is comparable to a situation in which the subject of Loshon Hora does not mind if the information is spread. In such a case, the prohibition of Loshon Hora does not apply, as we will discuss at length in a future article. Note that the above dispensation is limited to merely showing the article or book to another. In all cases, though, it is forbidden to make a critical comment about the article or book when showing it to others. Obvious Omissions There in another form of subtle, wordless Loshon Hora. At times one is asked a question about an individual, and he either refuses to answer or answers with glaring omissions in his statement. If the silence or omissions obviously implicate something negative about the individual, this constitutes Loshon Hora. The proper way to respond in such a situation is to answer in a way that these omissions are not apparent. If this is not possible,

one is even permitted to alter the facts in order to avoid this implicit form of Loshon Hora. The details of this halacha will be discussed in a future article. Example: Shimon asks Chaim, “I heard that you used Mr. Friedman to do your taxes. Did he do a good job?” (In this case, Shimon was not in need of an accountant, and he was simply asking out of curiosity.) Chaim was not pleased with Mr. Friedman’s performance. However, he does not want to speak Loshon Hora, so he responds, “Yes, he knows how to add and subtract very well.” This answer is forbidden, as praising an accountant for his basic arithmetic clearly implies that his primary skills are deficient. Instead, Chaim should say truthfully, “I was impressed by his honesty and integrity.” In this way, Chaim focuses on another important aspect of the accountant, and in this case, he did not imply anything negative about the accountant’s skills. Note that were Chaim to feel that the above statement would imply that Mr. Friedman is lacking in his skills (for whatever reason), he may not say it. Instead, he may lie by saying, “Yes, he did a fine job.”

Similarly, it is forbidden to praise an individual while blatantly omitting positive qualities that the listeners would expect to hear. In such a case, the omissions will also imply something negative about the individual, and thus, constitute Loshon Hora. *Interested readers can e-mail dovidjaffee@gmail.com to receive the sources for the rulings.

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fter the establishment of the State of Israel, municipal governments across the country created new Hebrew neighborhood names to replace existing foreign language names. However, most of these new titles were never accepted by the public. Let’s discuss some examples in Jerusalem. A client once asked me, “I noticed on the map that Gonen is well located, so why have I never heard of this Jerusalem community?” I explained that he is familiar with Gonen but he, as well as everyone else, refers to the community by its original name of Katamon. Nestled between Talbieh to the northeast and the German Colony and the Greek Colony to the southeast, Katamon was established just before World War I, and its Greek name means “below the monastery,” alluding to the nearby San Simon monastery. The Jerusalem municipality renamed the neighborhood Gonen, from the Hebrew meaning “to defend,” as it was the scene of numerous battles during Israel’s War of Independence. The new name never caught on. To the immediate northeast of Katamon is the elegant neighborhood of Talbieh. Its name either stemmed from Khalif Ali abu-Taleb, whose relatives lived in the area, or is derived from the “El-Talbieh” prayer said by pilgrims

on their trips to Mecca. In 1958, the community was renamed Komemiyut, taken from the Bible which symbolizes our aspirations for a strong, secure and independent Jewish state. Komemiyut never caught on, and everyone refers to the neighborhood by its original name Talbieh. Baka is a lovely upscale community located in southern Jerusalem. Baka is Arabic for “valley,” which alludes to Emek Refaim, the famous street which runs along the western border of the

that this neighborhood was the site of Manahat, a Jewish village within the borders of the Tribe of Judah. Starting in the late 1800s, Muslims moved into this area and called it al-Maliha. During intense fighting in this area in 1948, the Muslim population fled to nearby Bethlehem and, after the war, the government settled displaced Jewish refugees from Middle Eastern countries, mainly Iraq, into the vacated buildings. One can understand why the Israeli government renamed this neigh-

The Jewish nation is a people steeped in history who attribute meaning and relevance to the past. neighborhood. Baka was renamed Geulim, meaning “redemption,” because the Jewish immigrants felt redeemed from the bonds of the Diaspora. However, the new Hebrew name was never embraced by its residents. The history of Malcha, situated in the southwest corner of Jerusalem near the Biblical Zoo and home of the famous Malcha Mall, goes back over 3,500 years. Archeologists claim

borhood Manahat. Nevertheless, this new-old name never stuck. Why does the Israeli population prefer to retain non-Hebrew neighborhood names over the new, patriotic monikers? I discussed this question with several academics, and a variety of theories were proposed. One suggestion is that many Israelis speak Arabic and therefore Arabic names do not have negative connotations. Per-

haps that’s why so much Arabic has seeped into the Israeli lexicon. Words like “sababa,” cool or awesome; “yalla,” let’s go; and “achla,” that’s great; come to mind. The second theory is that the Jewish nation is a people steeped in history who attribute meaning and relevance to the past. Accordingly, these interesting foreign language names add rich hues to Jerusalem’s vibrant cultural mosaic. A third, and most popular, proposal is that people are creatures of habit. Most of these Hebrew names were approved a decade after Israel came into existence and many years after these neighborhoods were originally established. By that time, the original names were entrenched in society’s collective memory. For example, I spent many years living in Far Rockaway and attended the White Shul. The fact that Congregation Kneseth Israel moved out of their original white building numerous years beforehand didn’t matter. Everybody called it the White Shul forty years ago, and everybody still does so today. Gedaliah Borvick is the founder of My Israel Home (www.myisraelhome.com), a real estate agency focused on helping people from abroad buy and sell homes in Israel. To sign up for his monthly market updates, contact him at gborvick@gmail.com.

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- Tweet by White House Press Secretary Sarah Sanders after a Trump Derangement Syndrome sufferer threw her out of her restaurant

And then, of course, there is the matter of the chronic bias against Israel. Last year, the United States made it clear that we would not accept the continued existence of agenda item seven, which singles out Israel in a way that no other country is singled out. Earlier this year, as it has in previous years, the Human Rights Council passed five resolutions against Israel – more than the number passed against North Korea, Iran, and Syria combined. This disproportionate focus and unending hostility towards Israel is clear proof that the council is motivated by political bias, not by human rights. – UN Ambassador Nikki Haley, explaining why the U.S. is withdrawing from the UN Human Rights Council

Was that a man or a woman? Because he needs a haircut more than I do. I couldn’t tell. He needs a haircut… Go home to your mom, darling. Go home.

The Red Hen Restaurant should focus more on cleaning its filthy canopies, doors and windows (badly needs a paint job) rather than refusing to serve a fine person like Sarah Huckabee Sanders. I always had a rule – if a restaurant is dirty on the outside, it is dirty on the inside! - Tweet by President Trump about the restaurant that threw out Press Secretary Sarah Sanders

Let’s be honest, these people are the faces, they have formulated the policy, they are defending the lies and bigotry. To us who oppose it, it’s immoral. This is the First Amendment in action. This is speaking truth to power. This is not us going low….. Going high is fighting for the values of this country, and that’s what Progressives are about. - MSNBC guest and Daily Beast columnist Dean Obeidallah defending the restaurant owner for throwing Sanders out of her restaurant

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He’s a Nazi. He wants no judicial process. He kidnapped children and commits acts of violence for political gain and to support his racist views. He admires violent dictators. Trump is a Nazi. The debate is over. Soon we will have proof he is a Nazi supported by the Russians. - Tweet by Hollywood director and Trump Derangement Syndrome sufferer Judd Apatow

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If you vote for Trump, then you, the voter, you, not Donald Trump, are standing at the border, like Nazis, going “you here, you here.” - Trump Derangement Syndrome sufferer Donny Deutsch on MSNBC

[W]hen you start talking about people coming in and infesting a society, infesting a culture, that really actually is straight out of Adolf Hitler’s playbook. … How does Mike Pence, how do Karen Pence, how do any of these people continue being associated with a man who is now openly bigoted against everybody who is not white and rich? - MSNBC’s Joe Scarborough

- Former White House communications director Anthony Scaramucci on Fox News, talking about the deranged left

It is a waste of time and destined to fail as long as the attempt to circumvent the legitimate Palestinian institutions continues. - Palestinian Authority spokesperson Nabil Abu Rudeineh slamming the Trump administration’s highly anticipated peace proposal

– From a Washington Post op-ed by Northeastern University professor Suzanna Danuta Walters, titled, “Why Can’t We Hate Men?”

According to a new report, Uber is developing a technology that would allow its app to determine if users are drunk. The new technology evaluates walking speed, whether the phone is swaying, and if you’ve made any typos. Now, look. Let’s take the mystery out of this, Uber. It’s 2:00 a.m., I’m standing outside a bar, and I typed in my destination as Taco Bell. Yeah, I’m drunk. – James Corden

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The real irony is [Democrats] accuse the president of fascism, or somebody like Steve Miller [of] fascism, but the tactics they’re deploying are right out of Joseph Goebbels’ playbook. You dehumanize your enemy, you disfigure your enemy, and then you create a mob support mass protest.

So men, if you really are #WithUs and would like us to not hate you for all the millennia of woe you have produced and benefited from, start with this: Lean out so we can actually just stand up without being beaten down. Pledge to vote for feminist women only. Don’t run for office. Don’t be in charge of anything. Step away from the power. We got this. And please know that your crocodile tears won’t be wiped away by us anymore. We have every right to hate you.

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- CNN political contributor Symone Sanders, responding to calls for “civility”

If you see anybody from that Cabinet in a restaurant, in a department store, at a gasoline station, you get out and you create a crowd and you push back on them and you tell them they are not welcome anymore, anywhere. - Rep. Maxine Waters (D-CA) at a rally in Los Angeles urging people to harass Trump administration officials

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- From Prime Minister Netanyahu’s letter to Charles Krauthammer upon hearing of Krauthammer’s terminal diagnosis

I would like to declare that I am a friend of Israel and the city of Johannesburg is a friend of Israel. Shalom. - Mpho Phalatse, a council member in Johannesburg, South Africa, at a weekend pro-Israel event, resulting in Johannesburg’s Mayor Herman Mashaba suspending her “pending an investigation into the full and proper context in which those remarks were made”

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The media doesn’t report truthfully what the separation of families really is but I would like to show everybody what real separation of families is. This is. What separates my son and myself is a coffin and six feet of dirt. How is that for real separation of families? - Angel mom Agnes Gibboney, whose son was carjacked near the border and brutally murdered by an illegal alien, on Fox News

We weren’t lucky enough to be separated for five days, or ten days. We’re separated permanently. Any time we want to see our kids, we go to the cemetery. Because that’s where they are. We can’t ever speak to them, Skype with them. - Angel mom Laura Wilkerson whose son was tortured and murdered by an illegal immigrant classmate, on Fox News

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You gotta be kidding Little Johnny seemed totally ignorant about things. One day the teacher asked him who signed the Declaration of Independence, and of course he didn’t know. The teacher asked him every day for a week but still he couldn’t give the right answer. Finally, in desperation, she called Johnny’s father to come and see her. She said to him, “Your boy won’t tell me who signed the Declaration of Independence.” The father said to Johnny, “Come here, boy, and sit down.” Johnny did as he was told and then his dad said to him, “Now, Johnny, if you signed that thing, just admit it so we can get out of here.”

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The Next Frum Frontier Liberty, Missouri – population: 29,811 Liberty, Kentucky – 2,189 Liberty, New York – 819

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b. Hot dog eating champ Joey Chestnut’s great-grandfather was a hot dog eating champ in Wisconsin and when he moved to New York he convinced Nathan’s to start a competition. c. Four people were arguing over which one of them was more patriotic. So, to prove their patriotism, they decided to have a hot dog eating competition.

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a. An employee of Macys happened to be in Lancaster with his family between camp and school and purchased an inordinate number of fireworks. He didn’t know what to do with them so they decided to do an Independence Day fireworks show. b. The first fireworks show was to celebrate 100 years since Macy’s founding. The show actually took place on July 1st. One million people showed up, so they did the show the fol-

c. They held the show the first year because they wanted to see if people would look up from their smartphones for long enough to even watch the fireworks… Oh, sorry, that’s today. d. It was started by a 10-yearold who wrote to Macy’s CEO that the company should hold a fireworks show in honor of Independence Day. 3. Which one of the following institutions was founded on July 4, 1802? a. West Point Military Academy b. Harvard University c. Baskin-Robbins d. United States Navy 4. The Statue of Liberty was given to the U.S. on July

 Wisdom Key 4-5 correct: Wow! You are a real patriot. Let me guess, you can eat 14 hot dogs at one barbeque. (I only know that because that’s what I do.) 2-3 correct: Not bad. You are a decent patriot, but you gotta stop putting ketchup on your hot dogs - in the U.S., it’s franks/ mustard and hamburgers/ketchup. 0-1 correct: You are totally not a patriot. Go pound nak-nik-iot (pareve Israeli hot dogs, if you can even call them that)!

4, 1886. Which country gave this gift to us? a. Greenland b. Germany c. Italy d. France 5. In Venice, California, there is a muscle competition every year on July 4th on Venice Beach. On the other side of the country, in Boston, the 4th is celebrated a bit differently, with the following taking place: a. A Prius Parade is held where Bostonians gather information and drive their electric mobiles around town b. There are two public readings of the Declaration of Independence c. Locals spill tea in the harbor d. There is a book-reading competition

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2. The first-ever Macy’s fireworks show lit up New York skies in 1958. Why did Macy’s start the tradition?

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a. Nathan’s opened a new store and wanted to generate excitement so their PR department came up with the idea of a contest.

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5. B 4. D 3. A 2. B 1. C (Because nothing says “I love America” like pounding franks!)

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Dear Navidaters,

I’m about to start dating soon and feel mature enough to begin. Here is my problem. It’s something that has been a problem for me my entire life and affected me socially and in other ways. I just don’t know how to handle it now that I want to date.

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My mother is a hoarder, although she’s not as bad as those hoarders that you see on T.V., where you literally can’t walk around a room because there is so much stuff piled up on the floor and everywhere else. When I watch those shows, I feel like crying – it’s just so awful. But my mother keeps everything. There isn’t a surface anywhere that isn’t covered with something, anything. Old mail, magazines, paperwork, junk! Growing up, I was always ashamed of the condition of our home and I never wanted to have friends over. And it definitely affected my ability to have friendships. My two older siblings somehow didn’t react the same way. They would bring friends over and eventually they dated and married. I guess I’m just different than the rest of the family. I seem to be the odd man out. I keep a spotless room. I keep my clothing and everything else in my possession in perfect condition. I am very sensitive to my surroundings and get easily grossed out by dirt and extreme messiness. So my problem and question are very obvious. How am I going to date and let a man step foot into our home when I am thoroughly ashamed of the place? In the past, I’ve tried to say something to my mother about the messes, but she just dismissed what I said, as if to say it was my problem. I don’t think so. I feel stuck and wonder whether any of you might have some possible solutions for me at this stage of my life.

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The Panel The Rebbetzin Rebbetzin Faigie Horowitz, M.S. ou seem honest about your feelings and history; you want to move to the next stage of your life and recognize that there are issues that need to be tackled. Congratulations on your mature understanding and communication in your letter. Obviously, the mess is more than just a practical obstacle to your dating. There are both your feelings and your mother’s emotions connected with this. Then there is the communication and work necessary to reach an outcome that you both will feel comfortable with. You talk about your efforts to communicate in the past about the discomfort that the clutter causes you; these have been unsuccessful and you felt dismissed. You ascribe difficulty in making friendships due to the state of the home. This adds yet another layer to the problems that you want to resolve so that you can date. Therefore, there are several sets of issues to deal with now. I would suggest that you sit down and suggest to your mother that instead of going around in circles about dating and the house, you are considering going for professional help shortterm. Ask her for support. Prepare several scripts so that you can broach the matter in a respectful assertive manner. You do not want to attack her and assign blame. You want to deal with dating, preparing for it, your confidence, identifying your needs in a partner, and other issues. Remember to say that she is your mother and that her input is important to you. You want to benefit from her wisdom and experience but, at the same time, work with your own needs that may be separate from hers. The idea is to begin the therapy process with her buy-in from the beginning. Eventually, she will be asked to participate by you.

There will be a lot to address and work on during the therapy process: relationships in the family, social relationships with your peers, dating in general, your sense of self and more. Take the time to explore, persevere, and work so that you can transition to the dating and premarital stage with self-awareness, improved relationships and dating skills. It is a process but it will be transformational and empower you to move on.

The Mother Sarah Schwartz Schreiber, P.A. here is a simple and cheap solution to your problem. Introducing…the BBGB, otherwise known as the Big Black Garbage Bag. We know your mother’s got a problem with, um, letting go. And your obsession with orderliness and cleaning are almost assuredly a reaction to her prodigious accumulation behaviors (aka hoarding). And while you both may benefit from a little psychological tweaking, your heightened sensitivity to schmutz and clutter is getting in the way of your moving on. It’s prevented you from having a comfortable social life (heaven forefend your friends see the Bingo Ball in the living room!); now it’s making you anxious about dating. I get that. Barring therapy, which may tamp your insecurity about the state of your childhood abode, sit down with Mommy and get her to understand how important it is for you to give your suitor a positive first impression of who you are (organized and put-together!). With Mom’s permission and blessing pick a space where the young man will most likely spend those awkward first few moments after ringing the doorbell (e.g., living room, dining room, or entry hall with its forty busted umbrellas). The next part is all on you: pull out the BBGB, a vacuum cleaner and the

contents of Costco Aisle 17. Clear all surfaces, pour the contents of said space into BBGBs (for safe keeping, disposal or final appraisal), and light a scented candle. Voila! You’ve got a pristine backdrop for meeting Mr. Right. All subsequent dates may be initiated from your place of work, Starbucks or other mutually convenient venues (most guys prefer this, anyway). P.S. For those readers who believe the BBGB approach is misleading and deceptive, let me assure you that not prepping the house (like not dressing up or wearing makeup) would be giving a negative and false first impression to the young man; this young lady values cleanliness and will almost certainly strive to keep an immaculate home.

The Shadchan Michelle Mond fter decades of living with someone who’s a bit of a hoarder, you have become deeply engrained with a feeling of self-consciousness and low self-esteem revolving around your mother. This feeling is magnified since you yourself became an organized and meticulous person – the polar opposite of your mother from that regard. But when you try to evaluate yourself from what you think is the boy’s perspective, you are in fact judging yourself similar to the meraglim (apropos of the recent parsha!), who saw themselves as grasshoppers in their own eyes. In reality, however, an outsider will not see it that way. When your suitor will be considering you as his potential wife, he will consider you in the setting of your own merits, and the fact that you mother is somewhat of a hoarder will not play a significant role. It is likely that your mother’s habits will not even faze the young man, after all, they are countless Jewish homes with stacks of books, sefarim, receipts and papers hanging around.

Living in someone else’s clutter is as stifling for some as being buried beneath those very magazines and paperwork.

Doubtful of this reassurance? You provided the proof: your siblings dated and got married… despite your mother’s habits! If you’re still afraid, consider meeting for the first dates (I hope you won’t need many!) at a close married friend’s house. This is not an uncommon practice; many have such meetings to circumvent noisy siblings and nosy neighbors. Of course, have in mind that the young man should come face-to-face with your parents’ home once he gets to know your organized personality a bit better. One more piece of advice: You might be overcompensating a bit in terms of your feelings towards your mother, as well as in your own seemingly overly-meticulous personality. If you think this might be true, consider trying to change your attitude on your own or with the help of a therapist. Extremes in general are unhealthy and you can easily come to accept your parents’ lifestyle without it getting in the way of functionally living your life. Much hatzlacha!

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unwilling to deal with it. That’s very sad for her and for you. Obviously your siblings are similar in nature to your mother and therefore felt no sense of shame, bringing friends and eventual dates into your home. They felt comfortable amidst the clutter and so did the people they gravitated to. So it worked out fine for them. I wouldn’t be surprised if your siblings’ homes looked very similar to your home now. You, on the other hand, have a completely different sensibility and I can understand how difficult

it must be for you to live in such a home. Most people who live with clutter feel comfortable in a setting like that and don’t understand what the big deal is. I for sure understand what the big deal is and why it would embarrass you. It’s a really bad look! And it reflects many other disturbing issues. I would explain to your mother that you’re not comfortable bringing dates into your home in its current condition and respectfully give her the choice. She can either figure out

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how to declutter the place satisfactorily, so that you can feel at peace with your surroundings, or explain that you will have to be picked up for dates by an aunt, a married friend, whomever. This arrangement is done for various reasons, and your reason is as powerful as anyone else’s. If your mother is unable to accommodate your needs and you wind up going out with a young man once or twice – it’s a non-issue. If, however, you hopefully meet someone wonderful with whom you feel that you have potential with, once a bond begins to take shape and a sensitivity emerges toward one another, you can share your challenge with him

You have people, you have problems... that’s the truth.

regarding what it’s been like for you living in such a messy home. At that point, he will already have a good sense regarding your personal habits and style and no doubt feel compassion for you rather than judgement. He will be prepared to walk into your home, knowing what to expect and also knowing that it has nothing to do with you.

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hether or not your mother’s piles and junk constitute true hoarding behavior, you are about to get some validation and a very practical suggestion. Living in someone else’s clutter is as stifling for some as being buried beneath those very magazines and paperwork. The same can be said for living with someone who demands excessive order and neatness. (I threw that in there for anyone planning on emailing me about the opposite extreme.) Your reaction to your mother’s mess is understandable and normal. If your mother is a true hoarder, please understand that unless and until she is motivated to make a change, she won’t change her behavior. There is no amount of begging or pleading that will clean up those piles. Much like an alcoholic or drug addict needing her next fix, a hoarder needs to keep her things. Upon confrontation, you will most likely be met with denial, open hostility or a sense that you are the “crazy” one.

T h i s doesn’t mean that a hoarder doesn’t love her loved ones o r that she is choosing her things over her family. Hoarding is recognized as a true mental disorder. By the way, sometimes piles and messes are a manifestation of ADD or anxiety. Bottom line, since you didn’t cause it, you can’t be responsible to fix it. What can you do now as you start dating and bringing guys around the house? Well, if you’d like you can speak with your mother again about how much it would mean to you if she would allow you or the two of you to work together as a team to declutter. You need to go into that conversation with very realistic expectations. If she meets you with a no, ask her if she would be willing to compromise on the living room or den so that you have one safe space in the house. If

your mother becomes defensive during the conversation, my advice is to drop it. Mom ain’t changin’! At this point (and you may already be at this point), you will have two choices. Choice number one: Don’t bring dates home. You can meet for coffee or at a restaurant. You can ask him to call or text when he is outside. Once the two of you are closer and more serious, you will naturally tell him about your home as well as the way you plan on keeping your home. Choice number two: Embrace your home, piles and all. Look up, and chant the Serenity Prayer (easily googleable). Invite guys in, having faith that Mr. Right will see you for who you are, and not as a reflection of your mother’s piles. Certain columns seem to elicit more feedback than others, and the nature of the feedback is often that I’ve missed an opportunity to address issues within the dating world at large. There are times when I have my reasons for not doing so. In this case, I will. For me, your letter speaks to a greater, general issue which is, My family has a problem and I am afraid it will be a turnoff

to prospective shidduchim. Let us try to embrace the truth, which is that most families have a “problem.” (You have people, you have problems…that’s the truth.) Let us make room for what makes us human. Let us not judge the young man or woman by his/her family. There are so many people in the Torah for us to look to understand that people should be judged on their own merit. Enough with the perfect. Perfect is the whole problem…because there’s no such thing. Sincerely, Jennifer

Esther Mann, LCSW and Jennifer Mann, LCSW are licensed psychotherapists and dating and relationship coaches working with individuals, couples and families in private practice in Hewlett, NY. To set up a consultation or to ask questions, please call 516.224.7779. Press 1 for Esther, 2 for Jennifer. Visit www.thenavidaters.com for more information. If you would like to submit a dating or relationship question to the panel anonymously, please email thenavidaters@gmail.com. You can follow The Navidaters on FB and Instagram for dating and relationship advice.

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New England, Old Passion Adam “A.J.” Edelman was born in Boston, MA, and raised in what he describes as a modern Orthodox and Zionistic household. Edelman threw himself into sports at a young age, beginning with ice hockey at three years old. He attended Maimonides day school in Brookline, MA, and continued to play hockey throughout high school for the Brookline Warriors hockey team. It was during this time that he was faced with a weighty proposal: accept an invitation to showcase his talent at important prep

schools and leave Maimonides. He turned it down. “We were raised by parents who really impressed upon us the importance of who we were as Jews,” he says. For him it was a no-brainer. Edelman went on to study at Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) in the field of Mechanical Engineering. He pursued his love of sports by serving as goaltender for the MIT Engineers and helped them win two division championships. Following his graduation Edelman procured a lucrative job at computer technology corporation Oracle, and from all appearances it would have seemed that his trajectory was pretty set. Until it took a hard left turn.

most out of that bracha?” He not only wanted to pursue his own personal passion for sports but wanted to make an impact on the Jewish world at large. “I was thinking at the time it would be great if I could inspire other kids or anyone, really, to believe that sports was a viable route for Jewish people,” he says. “This decision resonated with me for years,” he continues, “and part of that calculus was that (Orthodox) Jews just didn’t do sports.” It became Edelman’s mission to capitalize on the Olympic platform and try his best to change that perception. His goal? For the world, and the Jewish nation, to know that Jews can do sports.

Jews and Sports As his MIT athletic career came to a close, Edelman was faced with the daunting question of what to do next. He recalls thinking, “I clearly have some kind of gift for sports; am I going to [give] it up now and do something else or am I going to make the

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Edelman is someone you might call “a nice Jewish boy.” He wears a yarmulke. He davens for the amud. Oh, and one more thing. He’s an Olympic athlete. It is exactly this sort of contradiction in terms that Edelman was trying to challenge when he embarked on his journey to leave the ordinary for the extraordinary.

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on gravity and a running start to gain momentum. With its single rider hurtling headfirst down the frozen slide using only his body to steer, the sport was considered much too dangerous to become a permanent fixture of the Olympics for many years. It was finally accepted in 2002. Edelman’s introduction to skeleton occurred almost by happenstance. “I was watching television one night before the Sochi Olympics and the USA Olympic team trials were airing. I said to myself, ‘If I can hack that, that is what could potentially be that motivating journey.’” Skeleton had become Edelman’s ticket to proving Jewish athletic proficiency. With a stubborn determination and an eye on the prize, Edelman quit his job at Oracle to pursue his vision. But one doesn’t simply waltz into the Olympic Games on determination alone. Hours of grueling mental and physical training are the least required in any successful Olympian’s regimen. Edelman officially began competing in November of 2014. “At the time it was just such a monumental task,” Edelman remembers. “It feels surreal to say that it actually occurred.” A typical day of training would include 2-3 hours of physical gym training, 2 hours at the track sliding, many hours of video review, and further hours still of watching other athletes and sessions slide, to better understand the mechanics. As mentioned before, the slick ice is unforgiving to its lone skeleton riders. “ You

have no protection from the walls so you hit it with your body,” explains Edelman, “and instead of driving with levers and pulleys (like a bobsled), you drive by applying pressure to your head, shoulders, knees and toes.” Accurate steering requires a unique combination of subtle movement and tremendous

received was that Edelman would never make the Olympic Games. “I was really bad at running,” he explains. “It wasn’t going to happen.” Or was it? The bleak odds may have been a blessing in disguise by stirring up a fighting spirit within the young athlete. He thought to himself, “The likelihood is that I won’t make it; so why don’t I try to make it?” Edelman’s negative prospect had lit a fire underneath him, and he immersed himself in training for the next four years. He would play a running loop of footage to watch while doing laundry, eating, and other household tasks, and he even slept in his sled. He set out to prove them wrong.

He would play a running loop of footage to watch while doing laundry, eating, and other household tasks, and he even slept in his sled. strength. “There’s no padding involved,” Edelman adds. “It would slow you down and the aerodynamics would be terrible.” It’s clear why skeleton had been deemed too dangerous a sport in Olympic history. Park City, Utah, 2014 Edelman’s first race was the Park City North American Cup. “When I entered the sport officially in November 2014,” he says, “I had pegged the chances of me getting into the 2018 competition as less than 1%, and making 2022 as less than 10%.” The odds weren’t in his favor. In fact, the scouting report that Israel

Money Talks In speaking with A.J. about his motivations, you find a theme running through every action of his that is impossible to miss. In all his athletic accomplishments, it was never about him. “My goal was, once I would make the Games, to use that platform to get funding to Jewish athletes,” he says. Entirely self-funded, Edelman knew the strains of gathering enough money as was necessary to even think about entering the Games. “You have to pay for everything,” he explains. “Nothing is covered by the Olympic committee.” That includes plane tickets, uniforms, equipment and accommodations, tallying up to about $40,000 per season on average. “Later on, after my first year, people started to generously donate,” he continues, “but the gap was so large that I could never afford a real coach.” Edelman wants to put a system in place to help future Jewish athletes like himself afford the costs. “I couldn’t have afforded the seasons and training without the support and sponsorship of the many individuals who helped, and I am so appreciative. “That is a huge aspect of the journey – it was

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crowdfunded – the community was a driving force in its success and I am forever grateful.” Heart in the East Competing for Israel is another example of Edelman’s twist of the spotlight. A proud Zionist, A.J. had always wanted to become an Israeli citizen, it was just a question of when. He had spent a year at Yeshivat Lev Hatorah in 2010 and began the process of making aliyah a few years later. Some benefits for new Olim expire after three years, and given Edelman’s training in other countries he couldn’t reside in Israel full-time. He became a full Israeli citizen on May 3, 2016, which would lend him a year after the Games on that three-year clock. “I was still able to compete for Israel before that because I was in the process,” he explains. “All Olympic sports have a minimum standard of absolute excellence,” Edelman says. “It used to be that all you had to do was be the best in your country.” After the 1988 “Eddie the Eagle and Cool Runnings Games” the International Olympic Committee made it much harder to make it to the Olympic Games. Israel is considered a part of Europe, which means it’s never an unrepresented continent and the standards of entry are very high. In skeleton there are only 30 people total who make the Olympic Games, invited from about 16 different countries. Usually 10 countries are allowed one entering contestant, while others are allowed two or three. Israel had to fight to be one of those 16 countries. “We weren’t handed it; it wasn’t a free spot,” says Edelman. “We actually made it through on performance, finishing in front of 14 or 15 other nations.” Edelman always makes sure to describe it as Israel’s accomplishment. “I will almost always be saying ‘we’ or ‘us,’” he maintains. “It wasn’t only me.” At the end of the day, as Edelman highlights, the athlete does not qualify himself for the Olympics; the athlete qualifies his country. “I had the best performance and was deemed as best fit to represent Israel,” says Edelman modestly. But even before the

qualifying season the other Israeli skeleton athletes sat down and agreed that it mattered more that Israel qualified than the personal qualifications. “The bottom line was that the goal was to get Israel to the Olympic Games and to give it the best fighting chance it had,” says Edelman. The Hebrew Hammer Competitive athletes are not without their nicknames, and Edelman is no different. The Israeli team had been known in the past as the “Frozen Chosen” but Edelman felt uncomfortable as a new athlete adopting the name of the distinguished team, or insinuating that he was “chosen” in some way for the job and sought other options. One night he was watching a movie entitled “The Hebrew Hammer” and right then and there he adopted it as his moniker. It stuck at the track amongst the other athletes as well. Edelman also designed his own uniform. Much like his determination to prove spectators wrong at his initial race, the uniform design was a nervy response to imposed limitations. “A few years ago Israeli security gave us directives not to wear identifying Israeli colors and uniforms outside competition, even during training,” Edelman explains. “My initial response was annoyance –I had signed up to be an ambassador for Jews and Israelis in sports and telling me that I couldn’t identify as an Israeli defeated my purpose.” So in typical Edelman style he decided to do two things: one was to design an unmistakably Israeli uniform. It features a massive Jewish Star on the back (which is the most prominent side as he races) and identifying Jewish/Israeli symbols on the front, arms and legs. The second course of action was to design his own t-shirts for travel so people would have no doubt about his representation. “It was kind of a chutzpadik response,” Edelman chuckles. Wandering Jew Adhering to his Jewish practices was challenging at times for Edelman, but possibly not as diffi-

cult as it might have been for another in his shoes. “Kashrus was always pretty simple for me because I would eat smoked salmon, whole wheat bread and vegetables,” he says. Every day. He also brought along protein powder, canned tuna and chicken. “I say it’s so simple, but most people, I would imagine, would find it very difficult, very inconvenient,” Edelman amends. “It became a very simple way of life for four years.” When making his arrangements Edelman would book rooms with a kitchenette and buy disposable pans for minimal cooking. Shabbos was often quite tedious, when Edelman would mostly sit and read notes. “You can only sing zemiros for so long,” he laughs. Most of his stops were not close enough to Jewish communities or Chabad houses to make use of their services. Only in Park City and Vancouver did he not only connect with the local Chabad but davened from the amud during the yomim noraim. Making an Impact With most of the focus on the grueling effort leading up to the Olympic Games, athletes are often taken by surprise at the void that emerges following the end of the competition. “You train for thousands of hours, every day for four years; it’s an intense fulltime job,” Edelman asserts. Skeleton athletes ride the sled at the Games for less than 3 minutes, and then it’s all over. “You walk away from the track and you’re like, ‘What happened?’” he continues. “Many athletes have huge comedowns after the games; everything you’ve worked for is now in the past.” Where does one go from there? Though Edelman’s initial impulse was to do it all over again, his bigger-picture goal of making

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an impact for Jews and Israelis in sports reappeared in his mind and directed him toward a new focus. One of Edelman’s favorite things to do since returning to Boston is to speak to groups about his experiences, especially schools. “It’s been a tremendous insight...receiving questions from kids,” he says. “I’ve been in sports long enough to know that kids really look up to accomplished athletes.” Edelman describes the satisfaction of watching their eyes light up with wonder as he tells his story, making connections between his success and their own potential. When asked about the most common questions he receives from kids, Edelman’s first answer is that they want to see the war wounds. “Kids often want to know about my biggest injuries,” he laughs. “Kids love seeing crashes.” But Edelman knows he’s reaching deeper when they approach him privately to share what’s really on their minds. “A lot of times they ask, ‘Were you scared?’ It’s a great lesson to talk to them about how to manage their fear and how fear can help them,” he continues. “There’s more satisfaction in reaching kids in those moments than [there was] walking into the opening ceremonies.”

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admires. “Brad Chalupski is a huge inspiration to me,” he says. “[He] preceded me as an athlete for Israel and was the first serious Israeli skeleton athlete to make a push to make it to the Olympic Games.” Unfortunately Chalupski was prevented

“The likelihood is that I won’t make it; so why don’t I try to make it?” from doing so by bureaucracy related to international standards. Another important figure in Edelman’s life and athletic journey is David Greaves, chairman of the Israeli Bobsled and Skeleton Federation. “David Greaves was an indispensable part of the story, like a one man show,” says Edelman passionately. “David accomplished as much as I did, if not more.” After working for the Federation for 16 years he has fought to achieve recognition by the Is-

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raeli Olympic committee of skeleton as an Olympic sport. “David made everything possible in terms of getting the paperwork done, having people lobbying the Olympic committee in Israel for recognition,” Edelman says. “He made it happen.” One more role model of Edelman’s is a little closer to home. “My older brother Alex is probably one of the biggest influences of my life,” says Edelman with reverence. Alex Edelman is a successful stand-up comedian based out of the New York and Los Angeles areas. “He worked like a dog from a very young age and has reached tremendous success comedically.” What did A.J.’s family think of his new career path? “My family was supportive yet cautious,” Edelman admits. “It’s a dangerous sport with little chance of success.” He knows despite this his parents are extremely proud. “I have immense appreciation for all they’ve done,” he says. Edelman has won four Israeli National Titles and two medals for Israel in international competitions. In the Winter Olympics this past February he finished the third run in 28th position with a time of 52.35 seconds. But more than that, he has defied expectations, broken boundaries, and served as a positive example for Orthodox Jews in the world of serious sporting competitions.

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No shortage of surveys out there on why people start their own businesses. A common theme among many of them is… you guessed it, “independence”. For some it’s the goal of being financially independent while others wish to be free of constraints and limitations that stifle their innovative or creative spirit. Many entrepreneurial stories begin with a major life change that forced a person in to starting their own business, and then there is always the mission driven entrepreneur whose motivation is a vision of a product, service, or impact that said entrepreneur wants to bring to the world. Regardless of the individual details of each entrepreneurial story, if you keep searching, you will very often discover this common theme of independence at the core of what motivated the formation of a more perfect occupation. With over fifteen years of business management experience, and almost nine of them running my own busi-

ness, I feel confident saying that independence alone is only half the story and somewhat meaningless without at least one more word to qualify it. Independence from what? Rules? Deadlines? Expectations? Challenges? Limitations? As if it is self-evident, that all businesses are created equal and that they are endowed by their creator with certain guarentees, that among these are a better life, financial liberty and the unrestrained pursuit of happiness? Nope… that’s not real. A few weeks ago at around 4pm my phone rang and it was my wife. If you have AT&T you will recall a several days stretch with horrendous call quality in the neighborhood. Catching every other half of a word I heard “I had a car accident, I’m at Park Heights and Strathmore, I’m fine but shaken up”. After racing over from my office, I pulled up to find that another driver with an obstructed view of the road had turned in front of

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her thinking traffic was clear leaving no time to stop and… BOOM. Thank g-d nobody was physically harmed but both cars had significant damage. After making sure everyone was ok, and while waiting for the police, we struck up a conversation with the other driver. Unfamiliar to us, but no doubt a “member of the tribe” with NY plates, my wife and I both had a hunch this young woman was Jewish, and while that was not really relevant to how we were going to interact with her, we began chatting with her and working our way toward playing Jewish geography to pass the time. Before long we discovered that our new friend was raised in a traditional home in the 5 towns, became ultra-religious and eventually Chasidish, got married, had 2 kids, got divorced, joined the army as a field medic, and was 2 weeks from deploying to Afghanistan! Looking not-so-much Chasidish these days she shared with us her story and graciously humored our Q&A session about life, liberty and her pursuit of happiness. It was when my wife asked her if it is hard being Jewish in the army that we discovered just one part of her profoundly meaningful motivation. “It’s hard being Jewish” she told us, “but I find it easier to be a Jew”. For her, the experience of being in an environment where keeping kosher and Shabbos made her different also keeps her aware that she is different and makes it easier for her to keep her identity. What could easily be misinterpreted as escape from dependence was actually keeping her in-dependence. In my observation, in the business world just as in life, the more clearly

defined someone’s vision is of what they are doing and why, the more likely they are to succeed. Independence alone is not a goal, if you think about it, on its own it’s actually kind of childish. A motivation to be free of any constraints or dependency simply so that you can do what you wish is not possible. Independence of what? Freedom to do what? Unalienable Rights to do what? Or in more common business vernacular, what is your “why”. Over 240 years ago America declared its independence. If you read the document, the details are all there. A mission statement that included goals, reasons, grievances, and wrongs that were to be corrected. No, it has not always been perfect. In fact, it took nearly 100 years for all men to actually be treated as if they were “created equal” and there is always room for growth an improvement. Independence from one situation does not automatically fix a problem. Independence goes hand in hand with responsibility to take the next steps and accept that achieving your goals depends on what you do next. When a business owner finds their “why” and defines what exactly they are seceding from they have a better chance of succeeding at it. Azi Rosenblum is a business consultant and the founder and CEO of RemSource, an outsourced provider of administrative and bookkeeping services for small businesses. To suggest a topic or ask a question for a future #BizWiz column, email BizWiz@ baltimorejewishhome.com.

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There are many myths concerning the nature of psychotherapy. The privacy of the therapy session does not allow others to observe it from a distance before they try it out on their own. This has led to many myths about what exactly transpires between the therapist and the client which has unfortunately caused many people to be opposed to therapy or to not see its value. Here are a few of the common psychotherapy myths. Myth #1: All therapists do is to try to make you feel good. The truth is that although positive unconditional regard is a core feature of the therapeutic relationship, many forms of therapy have a strong directive component where the goal is to help the client live his life in a more functional and meaningful way. Therapy is not merely cheerleading. Myth #2: Anyone with common sense is just as good as a therapist. This is like saying anyone can perform a heart transplant. Just rip out the old one and plug in the new one! It is certainly true that a therapist that lacks common sense is probably not the right person to see, but the actual art of psychotherapy is very detailed and nuanced. Myth #3: Talking it over with your best friend is as good as therapy. There is no doubt that having supportive friends is a huge benefit and there is tremendous therapeutic value in having a close friend to talk to. Therapy can still help you in many ways that a friend cannot. Myth #4: If you need therapy, then you must be “crazy”. Nothing can be further from the truth. We all have our challenges in life, and very often we need someone with professional training to help us thrive and grow and not be pulled down by the

hindrances that we face on our journey through life. Myth #5: Therapy is a sign of weakness. If you were strong you would be able to handle it on your own. This is a very dangerous notion. When people avoid dealing with their problems and difficulties because they view therapy as a sign of weakness, then they will often develop extremely inappropriate and dangerous ways of dealing with their predicament. This can lead to marital problems, anger management issues, substance abuse, and many other maladaptive methods of coping. Myth #6: If something happened to you in the past, then you do not need to see a therapist. Just get over it! If our behaviors and emotions were completely controlled by the logical part of our brains then this would be true. But there are parts of our brain that are not controlled by logic and can be scarred from past experiences that can lead to disorders many years later. Therapy is often needed to process past traumas in order to achieve peace of mind. Myth #7: All therapists want to do is to blame everything on your childhood. Therapy is a multi-faceted endeavor that does indeed sometimes involve understanding how the experiences of our youth are influencing us many years later. But the goal of a therapist is not to explore their client’s childhood but rather to help the client flourish and thrive in their life. Therapists have many tools in their proverbial toolbox to assist the client on their journey. This is a service of Relief Resources. Relief is an organization that provides mental health referrals, education, and support to the frum community. Rabbi Yisrael Slansky is director of the Baltimore branch of Relief. He can be contacted at 410-448-8356 or at yslansky@reliefhelp.org

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ailure in a secret mission can spell the end of a career for an intelligence agent. Months and years building up to a mission only to realize that the result created an international disaster can really take the energy out of an entire agency. But this was not the case for Mike Harari and the Mossad in 1973. Harari and the Mossad worked very differently than other agencies and their best agents. Harari’s record is so impressive that he was called the Zionist James Bond, although many of his missions aren’t known because they are still classified. Still Harari’s background and his known missions make him one of the most intriguing operators of the 20th century. The Haganah was a paramilitary organization created soon after the British took control of Palestine in 1921 and lasted until the creation of the State of Israel in 1948. One of their units was the Palamch which was their elite strike force taking on difficult missions. Michael “Mike” Harari was born in Tel Aviv in 1927 under the British Mandate. He began working as a courier for the Haganah when he was just 13 years old. Mike joined the Palmach in 1943. Two years later he was sent on a dangerous mission to release prisoners from the Atlit detention camp. On October 10, 1945, a Palmach force under Yitzchak Rabin broke into the camp. Harari was part of this unit, and 200 detainees, many of whom were Holocaust survivors, were set free.

Less than a year later the Palmach wanted to show the British they meant business in letting in Holocaust refugees and wanted the Arab neighbors to know that they were here to stay. To achieve these goals they set up Operation Markolet, or the Night of the Bridges. Nine of the eleven bridges targeted were bombed with only one site being contested by the British. Harari took part in this operation, and the entire operation was considered a major success despite losing fourteen operators at a railway bridge. The British retaliated by imposing a curfew.

security at Lod International Airport until 1954. During the 1950s the Mossad was looking for more operatives and recruited Harari. Until he retired in the 1980s, Harari lived in the shadows. Some of his operations included smuggling Jews out of Communist Europe and relocating them in Israel. Mossad’s special operations unit is called Caesarea and within that division is the Kidon (Spear) team specializing in assassinations and sabotage abroad. Starting in 1970 it was led by Harari and was a

Called Operation Wrath of God, Kidon under Harari sought out leaders of the group as well as the escaped murderers.

At the end of World War II, Harari was sent to France to facilitate the immigration of over 1,000 Holocaust survivors to Israel. Harari was arrested by the British several times and before the British left Eretz Yisrael for good he was sent to the Palmach’s naval unit, the Palyam. The foundation of the IDF was the Palmach as its units became the backbone of the new country. Harari joined the IDF as well the Shin Bet, Israel’s security agency. He headed

major part in taking out members of the Black September terrorist group. During the Munich Olympics these terrorists murdered eleven Israeli athletes and coaches, and the Mossad sent the Kidon unit out to eliminate these terrorists that had planned the massacre. Called Operation Wrath of God, Kidon under Harari sought out leaders of the group as well as the escaped murderers. Within nine months, six of the terrorists had been killed and they were

closing on an important leader. Black September’s chief of operations, Ali Hassan Salameh, was thought to have been in Lillehammer, Norway, and was taken out. Unfortunately, it was a case of mistaken identity and they had killed an innocent waiter instead. Despite this, Harari and his team continued looking for the real Salameh. They located him in Lebanon, and Harari led the team to track his movements. Salameh was finally killed in 1979 in an explosion that killed four of his terrorist henchmen as well. In another operation called Spring of Youth, Harari led the team that gathered intelligence in which three senior Fatah members were killed. During his time with the Mossad a secret delivery of equipment meant for the Iranian nuclear reactor was destroyed in an explosion. Harari was thought to have been behind this bombing. Hijacking airplanes became a new favorite ploy of terrorists in the 1960s and 1970s. The Entebbe hijacking wasn’t the first that the Israeli Special Forces had resolved successfully but it is the one that is still being studied today in many Special Forces training classes worldwide. While the Sayeret Matkal took operational control of the mission, called Operation Thunderbolt, the Mossad and Harari in particular were on the scene to provide up-to-date intelligence. Dressed as an Italian businessman Harari flew to Uganda to reconnoiter the airport. He also used

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threat. A year later he was awarded the Mossad’s highest decoration for his service. Mike Harari passed away in 2015 at the age of 87. The Israeli James Bond did not share the fame that some of his counterparts enjoyed but that suited him just as well. He didn’t like to give in-

terviews and only others that worked with him have revealed some of his missions. His efforts were certainly noticed in the intelligence community and by Hollywood researchers. The public became aware of his role in Operation Wrath of God in the 2005 film Munich when Harari’s ef-

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his contacts in Kenya to set up a refueling station for the C-130 Hercules aircraft carrying the freed hostages. Harari officially retired in 1980 after a stint as the Mossad’s station chief in Latin America. In 2006 he was called back to help the Mossad plan to foil the Iranian nuclear

Harari, left, with Mossad commander Yitzhak Hofi in the ‘70s in Panama

to The Jewish Home. He welcomes your comments and suggestions for future columns and can be reached at aviheiligman@gmail.com.

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have none of the right clothing – I need to go out and buy everything.” You would think from the way our kids talk that we have them running around the neighborhood naked. There must be something in the house they can pack to take to camp. But they don’t think so! They take one look at that camp list and report they need to go shopping immediately. I’m thinking – what happened to last year’s stuff? At least some of the towels, sheets, blankets? They’re saying, “Ich, are you kidding? I left that in camp. Who would bring that stuff home?!” And I’m thinking – have they not heard of the existence of that longstanding invention called the washing machine? Sure, I get it, they’ve changed since last year; they want some new items. But, they didn’t grow out of the bed, did they?! Furthermore, they can’t need every article in their wardrobe replaced, can they? They were wearing some clothing the past few weeks, weren’t

they? But they claim they don’t want to ruin their clothes in camp. Why not? They come home and say they need new clothes anyway. You know: for the new school year or for the upcoming holidays or because somehow, even though they stayed the

keep Target in business. With every item that the kids need it’s another trip back there. T-shirts, check! Bedding, check! Fan, check! Sandwich maker, check! Snacks, check! Laundry basket, plastic drawers, towels etc., etc., etc. This store carries it all!

Why can’t we just send them to campout in Target for the summer?!

same height the whole 10 months they were at home, amazingly in these few short weeks away, they have moved up a whole size or two. So, let me get this straight: camp destroys inanimate objects (like clothing and sheets) but fortifies and enhances the human body. Amazing place! On another note. I’m just wondering if it is our job to singlehandedly

Why can’t we just send them to campout in Target for the summer?! Certainly, it would be a much shorter trip for us on visiting day! And then, once we get them everything they need, we still are not done! We have to start labeling every single item as theirs. It’s interesting, while they are in camp they don’t want anyone taking their stuff. But once the summer is over they don’t even

want it themselves. There are like 23 people daily per bunk participating in cleanup, which is way more than we have cleaning at home. Shouldn’t it be sparkly clean?! And still, no one thinks anything is clean enough to accompany them back home. My big question is: if the stuff that goes there gets that messed up, are we making a big mistake taking our kids back?! Of course, I’m kidding! Camp is a great place to be outdoors, make friends, learn to share, gain some independence and much, much more. And ultimately, it’s a wonderful place to help us support our economy each spring, even though that may not be our original “target”! So, even if they do leave some stuff filling their closet as they go off to camp, use it as a reminder of the little angel you sent off. And have a wonderful summer, especially now that the packing is over! Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.

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ovirus, salmonella, e coli, and campylobacter jejuni sneaking into the burritos. (Hard to taste the viruses under all those seasonings, right?) Partly because of these incidents, founder Steve Ells resigned as CEO in late 2017. In February, Chipotle hired for-

The move should actually mean less highway time for Niccol, who used to waste 20 soul-crushing minutes commuting to god-forsaken Irvine every day. So here’s where it gets perplexing. Colorado’s personal income tax is a flat 4.63%, which seems like a

Do the quality of your life and breadth of opportunity mean more than mere taxes?

mer Taco Bell CEO Brian Niccol to run the company. (Most would agree that moving from Taco bell to Chipotle is a step up: Taco Bell describes their food as “Mexican-inspired,” rather than authentic, but some critics pan it as merely “food-inspired.”) Last month, Chipotle announced they’re moving their headquarters and 400 jobs from Denver to Niccol’s hometown of Newport Beach, CA.

fair price to pay for those 300 days of sunshine per year that civic boosters promise residents. But California has the highest state tax rate in the country — a genuine millionaire’s tax of 13.3% on income over the two-comma mark. The recent Tax Cuts and Jobs Act of 2017 makes that top rate even harsher by limiting federal deductions for state taxes to $10,000. Logic suggests that any rational

business would move the other way. And thousands of companies have fled California, citing taxes and regulations. But California’s job growth since 2011 has “easily outstripped” the rest of the country, and the Golden State’s economy is growing faster than low-tax states like Texas and Florida. In 2016, Stanford sociologist Cristobal Young looked at tax returns showing million-dollar incomes over a 13-year period. His study showed that millionaire tax flight is occurring, but “only at the margins of statistical and socioeconomic significance.” What do you think? Would high state taxes be enough to make you move? Or do the quality of your life and breadth of opportunity mean more than mere taxes? Either way, we’re here to help you pay less. So call us when you’re ready for a plan, and see where your wasted taxes have kept you from visiting! Allan J Rolnick is a CPA who has been in practice for over 30 years in Queens, NY. He welcomes your comments and can be reached at 718-896-8715 or at allanjrcpa@aol.com.

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ast month, we wrote that New York money manager AllianceBernstein is moving its headquarters and 1,100 employees from a slick black Manhattan skyscraper to the steaming concrete jungles of Nashville, TN. It’s going to be culture shock for the firm’s employees, who have to trade their harsh winters and corned beef sandwiches for milder weather and hot fried chicken. But AllianceBernstein promises employees they’ll love the financial climate most of all: lower housing costs and no personal income tax. Of course taxes played a big part in that move! But is that always the case? A recent Los Angeles Times article argues that another corporate relocation “gives the lie to all that guff you’ve been fed about taxes being a crucial consideration.” Chipotle Mexican Grill launched in 1993 with a single location in a former ice cream store in Denver. The chain now has over 2,000 locations and 45,000 employees. But growth has sputtered in recent years. This is partly due to competitors like Qdoba, Moe’s, Rubio’s and Baja Fresh. And it’s partly due to ingredients like nor-

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Preparation: 1. Pre-heat oven to 400 degrees. 2. In a medium bowl, whisk together the flours, baking powder, sugar, and salt. Pour oil into a small bowl, and whisk in the cold milk until well-blended. Pour liquid into flour mixture and stir until a dough is formed.. Pat the dough into an oiled 9 inch pie pan. Form a crust, shape the edges and flute the top edge, if desired. Poke holes all over crust to avoid “bubbling.” 3. Bake for 15 minutes or until light brown. Cool before filling. 4. Beat whipping cream until it starts to stiffen. Add pudding slowly and continue beating until thick. Fill pie crust and decorate with toasted coconut. 5. To toast coconut, put ½ cup of sweetened coconut into a dry frying pan. Heat until light brown, and place coconut around pie as desired. Refrigerate and enjoy!!

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