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upfront

Welcome to January, friends, and HAPPY NEW YEAR 2025!

2024 was a great year, and we expect the same kind of crazy in 2025. In this issue I write a two-page story to highlight each month from 2024. I always enjoy looking back to see the people, places, businesses, and the incredible history we write in each issue about this great city we all call home...Bartlesville.

For all the issues we print each year, January is the most popular issue because of “Baby New Year!” This year we signed up 100 babies in 7 minutes - 12 minutes was the previous record. I will talk about the rest of the record breaking numbers for this year later in the Upfront.

This year’s cover winner, which was voted on by a 9 person panel, is baby Cooper. What a great picture and a great smile he has! I love his hands up in the air welcoming in 2025. Christy and I want to say congratulations to the mom and dad of this little, cutie boy,

We also want to announce and congratulate baby Addison as the Facebook People’s Choice winner for 2025. Look at her little, chubby rolls on her arms and legs. So cute! You just want to squeeze her.

Every year we always have some kind of controversy whether it’s buying votes or the infamous BOTS! I want you to know the first reason we do this is because we love showing off these beautiful, Bartlesville babies to the world. The second reason is to have fun and have your baby’s picture in the magazine to cherish forever. We have 7 kids ourselves with 5 grandbabies. Let me tell you - you’re going to blink and these babies will be in school before you know it. So, let’s address bots and what they are for those who may not understand. A bot is software programmed to do a certain task. Bots are automated, which means they run according to their instructions without a human user. We had some moms saying there was cheating going on with bots.

Let me share with you that during the full week when voting is going on, I get little sleep. The contest really becomes a second job for me. I monitor this contest, read and like comments, and answer questions from thousands of people.

This would be a good time to talk about the numbers - share how big this contest is and the number of people we reach with the contest. When we start promoting the contest in late October until the day voting starts, we reach over 150,000 people from all over the US and at least 4 countries. Then when voting starts, for 7 days my whole week changes. This year we had over a half million people view the baby album! We had over 1000 shares, votes in all 50 states and 6 different countries, and a total vote count for all the babies of over 25,000 votes! That is what we love about this contest. It puts eyeballs on all these beautiful babies, not only in Bartlesville but the whole world. I spent the last 3 days going over all the votes and subtracted votes I knew were bots. Because this contest is so big, bots want to create chaos. I am 100% confident that no parent started the bots. However, there were several babies who had over 100 fake votes. I subtracted those votes from the total votes to make sure we had the right winner, and we did.

Every year we try our hardest to make this fun for the whole family. We do want to give out a BIG thank you to all the moms and dads who took the time to enter the contest, schedule their photo, and share their baby with so many. Over 35 babies came to the group photo with Christy and I, which is absolutely our favorite photo to do each year.

We want to thank Sutterfield Financial Group for always being our sponsor. We also want to thank the best photographer, Amanda Stratford, with Barlesville Photo Studio for capturing these photos of our beautiful babies of Bartlesville. Happy New Year to each of you, and we pray that God blesses your 2025. Keith

Volume XVI Issue I Bartlesville Monthly Magazine is published by

New office located in the B the Light Mission 219 North Virginia Avenue, Bartlesville, Oklahoma 74003 www.bartlesvillemonthly.com facebook.com/bartlesvillemonthly

Publisher Brian Engel brian@bartlesvillemonthly.com

Graphics Engel Publishing matt@engelpublishing.com

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Community Liaison

Christy McPhail christy@bartlesvillemonthly.com

Project Manager Andrea Whitchurch andrea@bartlesvillemonthly.com

Administration

Shelley Greene Stewart

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Contributing Writers

Debbie Neece, Kay Little, Kelly Hurd Jay Hastings, Maria Gus, Brent Taylor Keith McPhail, Jay Webster, Abigail SIngrey Mike Tupa, Lori Just, Miriam Walker, Joe Todd

Contributing Photographers

Liz Throne, Bartlesville Photo Studio Bartlesville Area History Museum Joel Rabin, Andy Dossett

Kids Calendar

Creative

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Experienced, Honest, Local

Maria Swindell Gus

by Lori Just

Maria Swindell Gus. Mention her name, and it’s instantly recognizable. For several decades, she has made a significant impact across community groups, non-profits, businesses and tourism sectors in our region.

Maria was born and raised in a house on Johnstone by her parents, Rosie and Al. Maria’s parents met while working together at Phillips 66. On her mother’s side, her roots trace back to Mexico, as both of her grandparents were naturalized citizens. Her mother has been a powerful role model, showing her the importance of giving back to the community. After her father passed away, her mother worked tirelessly to ensure they had everything they needed and more.

“Strong, talented and funny,” she said. “I’m grateful for the lessons she taught me, especially to work hard and play hard.”

Maria’s siblings—Marty, Sarah and Doug—are not just family, but also close friends. She has five nephews, one niece, grandnephews and nieces and one great-grandniece, with another on the way. Though losing her father at a young age was hard, it shaped her perspective and approach to life.

She attended St. John’s Catholic School, Central Middle School and Bartlesville High School which were strong foundations in her life. (Earl Sears remains a part of her life, and she likes to cheer out “Go Cubs” any chance she gets). She loved singing and performing, reading, drawing and creating. To no surprise, her report card often said, “talks too much.”

Academically, her biggest achievements were in the arts and student government which was a good indicator of her career to come. She was active in choir and served as a men’s soccer coach manager. She was a cheerleader for one year but served as one of the mascots for a couple of years in high school. And cheered from the sidelines as part of the Bru Cru. She also got to be in the TV movie Oklahoma Passage where they filmed a scene at the Frank Phillips Home, and she got to stay up all night. She was in Junior Miss her senior year. And was voted most school spirited twice.

“I was enthusiastic and always loved my friends deeply,” she added. “I’m still friends with many people who I went to elementary school and high school with. Our class of ’91 just has a special relationship with each other. We stay in touch and try to get together – even those that don’t live here anymore.”

Despite her busy social calendar and interests in history and social studies, Maria always found her way back to music or acting. She got a Bachelor of Arts in Theater with a minor in Communications and Education at Avila University, a Catholic school near Kansas City, MO. They had a great theater program, big city vibes yet close enough to home for her to visit and still have some autonomy.

“Acting, singing and getting a theater degree have greatly impacted my career,” she added. “Studying the human condition in theater enhanced my empathy, which is crucial for creating marketing campaigns and connecting with customers. I enjoy interacting with people from diverse backgrounds, and my skills in speaking, singing and improv are essential in my work. While I still get nervous at times, my performance and communication training have helped me stay calm when speaking in public.”

After college, she hoped to teach at an inner-city school in KCMO but ended up returning to Bartlesville to work with Fr. Bill Skeehan at The Community of St. James. His influence on her personal and professional growth has been immense.

“I remember seeking his advice early in my career, filled with doubt,” she shared. “He simply told me, ‘Maria, I hired you because I believed you could do it,’ giving me the confidence I needed.”

After St. James, Maria worked at The Newman Center and St. Thomas More in Tulsa. When her mom asked when she’d use her theater degree, she found the perfect job at Family & Children’s Services, teaching theater to at-risk youth.

“One memorable experience was taking a group to see Red, White, and Tuna, where Joe Sears even met with the kids afterward,” she said. “It was magical! I’m also lucky to spend time with Joe, a great friend to our family.”

While at FCS, she worked with The Scissortail Group on events and PR including the 2004 Tulsa Route 66 Festival, which

sparked her passion for event management, hospitality and tourism.

She met her husband, Stuart, online and had their first date on 03/04/05 and once things got serious, she moved back to Bartlesville. They got married, you guessed it, on 05/06/07. Maria landed a job at the newly constructed building for Elder Care and developed their marketing support and community outreach. And, a fun fact, hired this author, as her community relations coordinator in 2008.

“I feel so fortunate to have been able to work there,” she expressed. “Elder Care will always be very special to me. My grandmother had dementia and after my grandfather died, Elder Care was a wonderful place for both my mother as a caregiver and my grandmother as a patient. Truly a lifesaver for our family. It was an honor and a privilege to work for this organization.”

Late 2008, she was encouraged by friends to apply for the tourism director position with Visit Bartlesville.

“Here’s where my ‘most school spirit’ awards really came in handy,” she joked. “Being able to cheer on this community and invite others to visit Bartlesville is a tremendous joy.”

At the time, Jim Fram was CEO of the Chamber and (then called the) Bartlesville Development Corporation. Today, those organizations are two separate entities, and for most of the last 16 years, Visit Bartlesville operated under the umbrella of economic development. In 2023, Visit Bartlesville became a direct contractor for the City of Bartlesville governed by a board of directors and report to the city council every year to share our economic impact for the year.

“I’m proud to say that Visit Bartlesville has had some great achievements in the last 16 years,” she said. “We’re fortunate to have amazing tourism partners in Bartlesville. Our board and Director of Operations, Becky Cowen (best employee ever), work tirelessly to promote hospitality. With our attractions, festivals and events, Bartlesville offers visitors so much to enjoy. It’s a warm, welcoming city, and I’m proud to serve as an ambassador for our community.”

The other aspect of her job that has been a delightful surprise and so impactful is film. In 2009, Oklahoma Film & Music Office came to Bartlesville to scout for a film.

“I was (not so) secretly giddy at the prospect of hosting a film in Bartlesville,” she grinned. “At the time, I didn’t know they were scouting on behalf of Terrance Malick, noted film director with strong ties to Bartlesville. That was the beginning of a wonderful relationship between Bartlesville and the film industry. To the Wonder filmed in Bartlesville in 2010. I thought it was a once in a lifetime experience. Of course, it wasn’t.”

Bartlesville has been host to many films including larger films like August: Osage County, Twisters and Killers of the Flower Moon. There have also been many smaller films, television shows

and documentaries.

“We’ve been able to demonstrate that Bartlesville is open for business, and a great place to not only visit, but film or do business to increase revenues,” she said. “Visitors come to town, spend money with our businesses, restaurants and hotels, and then they leave. They are helping pay for our community’s infrastructure without being a long-term strain. Film in Oklahoma is a great industry and has really been a wonderful part of Bartlesville’s economic development.”

One thing Maria excels at is connections. When filmmakers are here looking for a certain place or prop, she’ll tell them “I may not know the guy, but I know the guy that knows the guy.” Connection is critical not only for film but for any visitor. Someone may call and say, “do you have a location that looks like this? Do you have a vendor that can provide that?” Customer service - a lesson she learned early on- is that one never says I don’t know, you say I will find out!

“My goal is to provide excellent customer service to both residents and visitors,” she said. “Even day visitors can become overnight guests, and I want everyone who comes to Bartlesville to think of us again in the future. Tourism is about helping people make memories. It’s not just the places they visit, but the stories and memories they take with them. Bartlesville offers so many unique stories and opportunities to make those memories with special places like Woolaroc and Kiddie Park. I hope we make it easy for visitors to enjoy their time with loved ones.”

She also values the exposure to people with different backgrounds, opinions and experiences. She believes a true community is about recognizing the different kinds of people there are and seeing shared humanity.

“I love working with young, Hispanic women,” she said. “There weren’t a lot of Mexican-American women in leadership roles growing up. I want women with similar backgrounds to me to know that they are important to our community, and we need them as leaders. I hope people see me as a helper. I hope that I am forgiven for my mistakes. I hope that we can work together to make our community better.”

She attributes her success to her supportive husband, her two amazing and challenging boys, Noah and Evan, and her diverse friends that keep her grounded.

“Some days I feel incredibly lucky, while others, I worry I’m not doing enough—something many people probably feel,” she confided. “Before every board meeting, I doubt myself, but then I realize how much I’ve accomplished. With a bit of imposter syndrome, I sometimes wonder how I got here. The answer is simple: my incredible support system. I’m grateful to do this here, where my grandparents made their home. My grandfather’s spirit of volunteering inspires me, and I hope I’m honoring his memory and all my ancestors. Any time I get down, I remember how wealthy I am in love, friendship and family.”

Oh Baby!

Baby New Year 2025! Christy and I want to thank all the moms and dads who had the opportunity to have their babies in this year’s contest. What a contest it was! This is the 13th year bmonthly has done the contest, and Christy and I’s 6th. This year we signed up 100 babies in 7 minutes - 12 minutes was the previous record. Sometimes things just don’t go as planned. This year was no different, as we had tontend with bots placing votes in the contest. We do this contest first and foremost for fun and for parents to show off their beautiful babies to America. This year we had over a half million people view the baby album! We had over 1000 shares, votes in all 50 states and 6 different countries, and a total vote count for all the babies of over 25,000 votes! That is what we love about this contest. It puts eyeballs on all these beautiful babies, not only in Bartlesville but the whole world. Thank you Amanda Stratford with Bartlesville Photo Studio for your incredible photography, as this was her second year taking pictures of our contest. Another special thank you to contest sponsor Sutterfield Financial Group, Inc. We will see you next year and Happy New Year 2025!

ADALIDA

ANNIE

AVA ROSE

ADDISON

ASHER

ALYSSA

ATLEY AVA

AMINA

AURORA

AVERY

BEAU

BRISTOL

CAMDEN

CAROLINE

DAVID

CASSIAN

CORALYN

CHLOE

CRUE

COOPER

DREW

ELLIOTT

ELIANA

ELOWYN

ELIAS LAYNE

EMBER

EVYNIE

ELISABETH

EMBER

GRADY

HARRISON

IVY

GRAHAM

HAYDEN LEE

IVY

GRAYSON

HOLLIS

IVY JANE

HANNAH

HOLLIS

JORDAN

KELCE LENOX

JORDYN

KINNIE

LIAM

KANE

LAWSON

LIAM

KATERI

LEILANI

LILLIE

MADELINE

LOGAN MAGNOLIA

LUCIE

MARGARET

LYLLA

NAHEIM

OLIVER REAGAN

NELIZA ROSELYNN

QUINN

RIVER

OAKLEIGH

RAYLEE JO

RIVER

OAKLEY

RAYLEE ROSE

ROWYN

SHAYLEE

SANTI

SILAS

SAWYER

STELLA

SAWYER

TAELYNN

TOBY

TANYS JOE

THORAN

Baby New Year 2025

SPECIAL THANKS TO CONTEST PHOTOGRAPHER CONTEST SPONSOR

TRIPP

WILLOW

VALORIE

WINNIE

VIVIAN

WRENLEE PAIGE

WESTON

ZAYDEN

Lady Lawyers... In the Twin Territories

by Debbie Neece

Before Oklahoma became a state, Anabel Fleming Thomason and Margaret Dickinson Yale were tenacious trailblazers in a male dominated field and gained national attention. The women faced almost unsurmountable challenges in passing the grueling bar examination and their eligibility was questioned as men stated, “at the time we formed this organization, we were not aware we had this danger to confront.” And confronted they were…

Anabel Fleming came from stout Texas stock. Her grandfathers were both Texas pioneers and her father, James Titus Fleming, was one of the first commissioners of the Circuit Court of the United States for the Eastern District of Texas. In 1868, he was one of seventeen pioneers who organized the Republican party in Texas. In 1886, the Flemings moved to Ardmore, Indian Territory, where James became the U.S. Commissioner of Ardmore. Then, in 1895, the family moved to Pauls Valley, where James became the Clerk for the Federal Court.

Anabel attended private schools in Texas and worked at her father’s law office as a deputy clerk; so, she came by her love of law honestly. On November 14, 1899, she became the first lady lawyer admitted to the Oklahoma Territory Bar of the United States Court of the Northern District at Guthrie. Her scores on the bar exam were so significant that she received headliner attention in multiple newspapers and magazines, including New York’s Munsey Magazine and the Harper’s Bazaar.

In 1901, Anabel married Charles Harold Thomason and they raised four children, none were lawyers. Charles became City Attorney at Pauls Valley from 1907-1909, U.S.

Commissioner 1919-1929 and completed his career as a bankruptcy lawyer. Anabel spent her career forwarding the study of law by teaching Parliamentary Law in the Pauls Valley area.

A lawyer stew was brewing in Indian Territory too. In 1905, Miss Margaret Noble Dickinson established herself as a law clerk at the Veasey & Rowland law office in Bartlesville. Later that year, she completed her master’s degree at the University of Michigan law department with postgraduate work at the University of Chicago.

Judge Joseph Gill held jurisdiction over the Cherokee Nation with court at Nowata. During open Federal Court, on April 5, 1906, Judge Gill held Margaret Dickinson’s bar examination, giving her exceptional marks. Word spread quickly throughout the newspaper world detailing her accomplishment as the first woman to be admitted to the bar in Indian Territory.

During her educational pursuits at the University of Michigan, she met and married Dr. Alford Yale, also a Michigan University graduate. In 1915, Margaret Yale was admitted to practice law before the Supreme Court of Michigan. The couple moved to California where they raised their son and Margaret was admitted to the California Bar in 1919. Her career flourished. In 1920, she was appointed Census Enumerator for Burbank, CA; in 1922, she was representative of the Speakers Bureau of the Federation of Woman’s Clubs speaking about legislative bills; in 1926, she was elected president of the California Federation of Business and Professional Women’s Clubs including the Women Lawyer’s Club; and, in 1926, she was Attorney and District Attorney for the Southern Pacific Company.

Confronters indeed!

ANABEL FLEMING THOMASON MARGARET DICKINSON YALE

Nowata Courthouse

JANUARY CALENDAR SPONSORED BY

Christmas in the Ville Ice Skating Rink

1PM; Downtown Bartlesville

The event ends on January 4.

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7 14 18 20 23 28 9 10 8

OWKU Basketball vs Bethany College

1PM (W); Mueller Sports Center

3PM (M); Mueller Sports Center

Pretty Woman

7PM; The Center

Classes Resume

All Day; BPS

Bruin Swimming Meet

5:30PM; Phillips 66 Pool

OKWU Wresting Dual

6:30PM; Muller Sports Center

OWKU Basketball vs Saint Mary

6PM (W); Mueller Sports Center

8PM (M); Mueller Sports Center

COP Arvest Basketball Invitational

Times Vary; Bruin Field House

The basktball tournament runs through January 11.

All District Orchestra

Contact BPSD Fine Arts for times. The event runs through January 11.

Bruin Girls Varsity Basketball vs

NW Classen

6:30PM; Bruin Fieldhouse

Bruin Boys Varsity Basketball vs NW Classen

8PM; Bruin Fieldhouse

OKWU Women’s Basketball vs York University

1PM; Muller Sports Center

OKWU Men’s Basketball vs York University

3PM; Mueller Sports Center

Martin Luther King Day No School

OKWU Basketball vs Evangel University

5:30PM (W); Muller Sports Center

7:30PM (M); Muller Sports Center

BHS Bruins on Broadway 7PM; Fine Arts Center

Bruin Swimming

5:30PM; Phillips 66 Pool

Monthly Events

On the Rock Schedule

Camp Rock, 3rd-5th grade

Monday: Kane, Jane Phillips, Osage Hills, Ranch Heights

Tuesday: Wayside, Wilson, Hoover, home school/ private school drop off Rock buses pick up after school on your student’s appointed day, parents pick up at The Rock by 6 pm for all camps. Summit, 9th-12th grade Thursdays: Rock bus picks up at BHS after school. Nitro, 6th-8th grade Fridays: Rock bus picks up at Madison, Central, Osage Hills after school. Bartlesville Public Library

Storytime Babies and Toddlers

Tues., Wed., Thurs. 10:00 a.m. – 10:30 a.m.

600 S. Johnstone Avenue Weekly Programs at the Bartlesville Public Library

Storytime Preschool

Tues., Wed., Thurs. 11:00 a.m. – 11:30 a.m.

600 S. Johnstone Avenue

JANUARY EVENTS CALENDAR

Wed – Sun, January 1-5

1 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.

2024 Season of Christmas in the Ville ends

Downtown Bartlesville, 201 SW Keeler Avenue

Wed-Thurs, Dec 31 – Jan 1

Bartlesville Public Library Closes early 12/31 at 5:30 & all day 1/1

Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone Avenue

Mon, Jan 6

7:00 p.m. – 9:00 p.m.

Pretty Woman: The MusicalBroadway in Bartlesville!

Bartlesville Community Center, 300 SE Adams Blvd.

Sat, Jan 11

All Day

Visit Dewey Second Saturday Downtown Dewey, Dewey

10:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Second Saturday Family Fun Fest Lollipops Woodfire & Grocery, 311 S. Dewey Ave.

Thurs, Jan 16

12:00 p.m. – 1:00 p.m.

Fast, Fresh & Fabulous with Chef Hilary

Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone Ave.

Sat, Jan 18

10:00 a.m. – 11:30 a.m.

Monthly Lego Club at the Library

Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone Avenue

6:00 p.m. – 8:00 p.m.

Big Brothers Big Sisters of Oklahoma - Bartlesville

Bowl for Kid’s Sake Fundraising Kickoff

Cooper and Mill Brewing Company, 200 Dewey Avenue

6:30 p.m.

Nineteen0eight Mixology Tales: 1920–1933—The Prohibition Era Nineteen0Eight, 311½ S. Dewey Avenue

7:30 p.m.

Winter Winds presented by BSO Bartlesville Community Center (Lyon Gallery), 300 SE Adams Blvd

Jan 30

2:00 p.m. – 4:30 p.m.

Stained Glass Art Class at Jarrett Farm Resort and Events Jarrett Farms Resort, 38009 US Hwy 75, Ramona

Every Monday, 5:00 p.m. –6:00 p.m.

FREE Beginning Spanish Class Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone Avenue

Every Monday, 6:00 p.m. –7:00 p.m.

FREE Intermediate Spanish Class Bartlesville Public Library 600 S. Johnstone Avenue

Every Tuesday, 2:00 p.m. –3:00 p.m.

Price Tower Exterior and The Center Tour

Beginning January 7, 2025  Contact Visit Bartlesville, 300 SE Adams Blvd.

Every Wednesday 6 p.m. –7 p.m. and Every Thursday, 10:00 a.m. – 11:00 a.m.  FREE Citizenship Classes Bartlesville Public Library, 600 S. Johnstone Avenue

Looking Back to 2020

Louisa Blakemore - Growing Up!

by Maria Gus

Five years ago, Louisa Blakemore was chosen to be Bartlesville Monthly Magazine’s 2020 Baby New Year, making her the face for the start of a new decade. Now, Louisa is no longer a baby but an energetic and curious child with a vibrant personality. To see what Louisa and her family have been up to, her mother Bethany gave an update on Louisa since her cover model debut.

Louisa’s days are busy and full of fun, though she admits that school isn’t her favorite thing. “I don’t like school. It’s boring,” she said candidly. Homeschooled alongside her three older siblings, Louisa has discovered a love for reading. “Reading is my favorite subject because I like to learn to read. I’m doing good at reading,” she shared proudly. While academics may not be her passion, Louisa’s enthusiasm for creativity and movement is unmistakable.

Drawing, dancing, and traveling top Louisa’s list of

favorite activities. She takes hip-hop dance classes at Stage Art, which she describes as “really fun” and perfectly aligned with her personality. “It’s like my style,” she explained. Louisa’s adventurous spirit has taken her skiing, visiting National Parks, and even to Hawaii this past summer. Her mother noted that Louisa’s love of dance is innate: “She dances through life whether she hears music or not.” One of her proudest moments this year was learning to ski and successfully riding the lift on her own as a five-year-old.

Being Bartlesville’s 2020 Baby New Year is still a cherished memory for Louisa and her family. “I like it. I think it’s good,” Louisa said when asked how she feels about her title. Her family keeps a copy of the magazine featuring her, and while she hasn’t offered autographed editions, she joked that no one has asked her yet. Reflecting on 2020, Bethany shared that despite the challenges of the pandemic, the year was a blessing for their family. “With everything paused, we spent lots of time outdoors together, and my husband was able to work from home in a relatively quiet environment,” she said.

Louisa’s bright personality continues to shine as she grows. Known for her friendliness and knack for giving compliments, she makes friends everywhere she goes. “If your nails are done, she’ll tell you she likes them. Even in a drive-through, she’ll roll her window down to compliment someone’s hair or nails,” Bethany shared. Among her many friends, Louisa counts her 80-year-old neighbor Miss Mary as one of her best. Bethany added, “Louisa is funny and makes her siblings laugh often. She’s just a joy to be around.”

The Blakemore family includes Louisa’s three older siblings: 15-year-old Jesse, 12-year-old Joshua, and 9-year-old Bridgette. Louisa and Joshua share a birthday on August 31st, making their celebrations extra special. For her next birthday, Louisa hopes to visit the nail salon, shop at Kendra Scott, and get white Uggs. As the family looks ahead to 2025, their plans include cheering on each other’s activities, enjoying time with friends, and possibly sending Louisa to her first sleepaway church camp. Reflecting on her Baby New Year title, Bethany said, “It was such a special surprise. We’re so proud of her and love watching her grow into the amazing little person she’s becoming.”

Alfredo’s American Dream

by Debbie Neece

Alfredo Herrera treasured his culinary roots from his native land, Chihuahua, Mexico. At the age of 20, he owned a small tenseat restaurant, Mr. Quick, just blocks south of the U.S.–Mexico border. In July 1968, he left Mexico in an old station wagon with only $43, a pocket full of dreams and a goal to better his life in Chicago. However, car troubles halted his travels near 41st and Sheridan in Tulsa.

In 2005, Vardeli’s Restaurant opened at 3121 F.P.B. followed by Saint’s Grill (2006-2007), Outlaws Chophouse (2008-2015) and Planks Steak and Seafood (2015-2017).

He worked his way up to become the warehouse manager while working his days off at a KFC restaurant, saving to buy his own franchise, which allowed him to plant culinary roots in both Tulsa and Bartlesville. “If a person was hard-working, punctual and had at least a little bit of brains, the opportunity was there.” His first KFC franchise was in Owasso, followed by Broken Arrow, Skiatook, Coweta, Bigsby, Stillwater and Glenpool.

Experiencing monetary and communication issues, Alfredo walked until he saw something familiar…a Kentucky Fried Chicken sign. KFC was a popular restaurant brand in Mexico; so, he walked into the warehouse and found a Spanish speaking salesman who helped him obtain humble employment as a janitor. That was the beginning of his American dream.

The Herrera Brothers Inc. managed the Bartlesville KFC at 3125 E. Frank Phillips Blvd. from 1974-1990. The Sirloin Stockade next door to the west at 3121 E. Frank Phillips Blvd. and closed about 1982, allowing Alfredo’s Mexican Restaurant to open in 1984. In 1991, Alfredo’s brother, Estaban became the assistant manager of the Mexican restaurant, which continued through 2004.

Alfredo stumbled upon opportunities that developed into a path of prosperity through humility. While managing the Bartlesville KFC, Alfredo met Donna, the love of his life; they wed April 1975 and three children made them a family. He said, “The opportunities are here. Whether you take advantage of them and work hard is up to you. Some people come here and say ‘Oh boy, now I’m in the United States, I’m going to get rich.’ It doesn’t work that way. You have to work hard and make the opportunities. They are not going to find you while you sit and wait. God has been good to me and he has helped me in many ways. I have a lovely

Late 1990s at Alfredo’s

wife and three children, a good business, a nice home and I drive a nice car. I want to give something back.”

At one time, Alfredo and brother Esteban Herrera were owners/managers of eight Kentucky Fried Chicken franchises and six Alfredo Mexican Restaurants which allowed them to pay it forward by serving free Thanksgiving meals at the Bartlesville location. Patrons were greeted between 11a.m. to 3 p.m. with traditional turkey and all the trimmings meal, instead of the usually served spicy Mexican food.

“I know what it’s like to be hungry, afraid, not to know the language, not to have friends. I’ve been all of those things. I’ve been successful in my business and I would like to do something for those who have no place to eat and no friends to eat with,” he said. His sentimental gesture was heavily supported by his staff, who volunteered their holiday and worked free. Alfredo began his labor of love at 5:00 a.m. by cooking thirty turkeys at his Owasso Kentucky Fried Chicken store. Meanwhile, he prepared the potatoes, gravy, vegetables, pies, rolls and cranberry sauce at his Mexican restaurant in Bartlesville. A seventeen-year tradition followed.

candles, Mexican juices and beer, and pinatas were shelf staples. There is much to be hailed of a Mexican immigrant and businessman who owned/managed several Bartlesville restaurants. Alfredo’s served nachos supreme, Chile rellenos, refried beans, guacamole salad, tacos, homemade queso and salsa. And sopapillas or fried ice-cream for dessert...a cornflake crusted ice-cream ball, flash fried and topped with strawberry syrup.

Alfredo’s Chile Rellenos

8 Poblano Peppers

1½ Pounds Lean Ground Beef

3 Eggs

3 Tablespoons Flour

Grated Monterey Jack Cheese

Red Mexicana Ranchera Sauce

Salt, Pepper, Comino

Par-boil the Poblano peppers until the skins break. Remove skins; open the peppers and remove the seeds. Sauté the ground beef until lightly browned and drain. Add salt, pepper and Comino to taste. Divide filling in eight equal parts. Stuff peppers and roll in flour until well coated.

To make the egg batter, separate the eggs. Beat the yolks and add salt to taste. Gently blend white and yolks together. Add 3 tablespoons of flour and mix until smooth. Dip the stuffed peppers in the egg batter and fry in oil in a deep fryer until brown, 2 to 3 minutes. Place the peppers on a baking dish and cover with ranchera sauce and grated cheese. Bake in a 350-degree oven until the cheese melts. Yummy!

Alfredo took the oath to become an American citizen; he proudly displayed a U.S. flag on a 33-foot flag pole in his front yard; and, he had an entrepreneurial soul. In 1997, he established a Hispanic food market called Casa Herrera in Tulsa. The market was a resource with over 500 different items produced at Hispanic locations and he carried items hard to obtain in America…religious

What goes best with Alfredo’s Chile Rellenos? Alfredo’s special homemade salsa and queso, which is still available at Mr. Munchies, 3604 Tuxedo Blvd. Do you remember Alfredos scrumptious enchiladas? From time to time, Alfredo Jr. also makes pans of these delectable culinary treats. Call ahead and see if he has some available at 918-213-0883.

Mister Munchies is your complete mixology headquarters too, open Monday-Friday 7-6 and Saturday 8-2, with over 35 syrups and purées to personalize your fountain drink; or order hot and iced coffees and energy drinks; and a variety of breakfast and lunch items.

Did You Know?

In 1988, the Greater Tulsa Area Hispanic Affairs Commission appointed Alfredo as treasurer of their board. The Commission sponsored the annual “Fiesta” and awarded two scholarships each year to outstanding Hispanic students in the Tulsa community. And, the City of Bartlesville honored him as Citizen of the Year. Alfredo Herrera Sr. passed away February 13, 2019; however, part of his American dream is still alive and available Mr. Munchies, generations strong Now You Know *

Alfredo’s on New Year’s Eve in 2000.

Ignite Medical Resort

New Long-Term Care Wing Now Open

by Abigail Singrey

The scent of Starbucks coffee in the lobby is the first sign you’ve arrived somewhere exceptional. At Ignite Medical Resort Adams PARC, residents are referred to as “guests,” and the staff’s attention to hospitality is extraordinary.

Although the facility has a long history as a skilled nursing provider, the Ignite team aspired to make a deeper impact on the Bartlesville community. While the primary goal of skilled nursing rehabilitation is to help patients regain their previous level of function and return home, this outcome isn’t always possible. For those unable to resume independent living, transitioning into a long-term care facility can be challenging and finding appropriate accommodations can be stressful for families. Witnessing some former residents struggle to adjust and cope with depression motivated the team at Ignite to create a dedicated wing to allow their guests to remain in a familiar environment.

“For them, it already feels like home,” Director of Business Development Jenny Jenkins said.

The new 16-bed long-term care wing opened in October to allow those guests to stay at Ignite and choose the luxe living lifestyle Ignite offers. In addition, the facility signed a contract with the Department of Veteran Affairs, providing long-term living options to qualifying veterans. The new VA contract helps meet a need for veterans and their families, since there is typically a waiting list to transition into long-term care communities in Oklahoma. In addition, the new long-term care wing at Ignite is only of its kind in Bartlesville to provide luxury amenities, personalized care and a strong reputation for Oklahoma hospitality.

The staff can already see the impact the long-term care wing is having for area residents. Prior to the wing opening, a recent “guest” named Rick successfully completed his short rehab stay at Ignite and transitioned into long-term care at another facility.

“He just kept saying, ‘I wish I could stay here,’” Jenkins said.

When Rick’s family heard the news about the new longterm wing opening, they were delighted. Rick was one of the first guests to move in and will tell anyone who will listen that it’s the “best place.” Now, through the therapies available at Ignite, he’s transitioned from a wheelchair to a walker to walking without assistance, and he enjoys playing games with

his friends in the Ignite community.

“It speaks volumes to the level of care that we provide that people want to come back,” Jenkins said. “Our care is family-centered, and we treat guests as our family members.”

As part of the hospitality initiative, Ignite staff regularly organizes Surprise and Delight moments for resident guests, offering thoughtful gestures to meet needs or brighten their day. For some, this might mean providing essential items like clothing or toiletries upon arrival if they come without. For others, it could be a compassionate response to a difficult day, such as a special milkshake or a bouquet of flowers to lift their spirits after receiving bad news from a doctor.

The hospitality director plays a key role in these efforts, checking in with guests several times daily to ensure their comfort and address any needs. These small but meaningful acts of kindness reflect Ignite’s commitment to creating a supportive, uplifting environment where every guest feels valued and cared for. In addition, Ignite makes efforts to keep family members connected through the How’s Mom app, which allows them to check on medications, vitals, lab results and more for their loved one.

Ignite is deeply committed to providing top-quality medical care, a dedication reflected in its prestigious fourstar rating and JCAHO (Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations) certification. This certification highlights excellence in critical areas such as patient care, infection prevention, and medication management. Beyond a highly skilled nursing team and therapists, Ignite offers comprehensive on-site medical services, including pain management, wound care, cardiology, and psychiatric support. Doctors from these specialties regularly make rounds, ensuring that guests receive attentive and specialized care tailored to their needs. By combining compassionate care with exceptional medical standards, Ignite is setting a new benchmark for longterm care facilities. Ignite invites families considering longterm care options to stop by for a complimentary coffee and to experience for themselves the luxe lifestyle now available at Ignite Medical Resort Adams PARC.

BARTLESVILLE CHRISTMAS PARADE

WONDERLAND OF LIGHTS

CHRISTMAS IN THE VILLE

What to Expect . . . When Recovering from a Heart Attack

by Abigail Singrey

After surviving a heart attack, the journey to healing often takes some hard work, and can be filled with challenges, adjustments, and opportunities for a healthier future, according to Dr. Anderson Mehrle, a cardiologist with Ascension St. John Jane Phillips Medical Center.

“Having a heart attack can be a life-changing event. It can certainly be scary for the patient and his/her loved ones,” he says. “Fortunately, there are . . . things we can do to help recovery from a heart attack.”

The heart is a muscle, and much like a pulled hamstring, it needs time to heal. This process can be helped along with the right medication; and in fact, if the proper medications are not prescribed, there can still be risks to the patient of arrhythmia, another heart attack or even death. Taking the prescribed medications is the most important thing a patient can do for their recovery.

Patients may be prescribed several medications, each with a specific purpose. Aspirin and drugs like Plavix or Brilinta prevent platelets from sticking together, especially in cases where a stent was placed. Beta-blockers, such as metoprolol, reduce the heart’s workload and improve survival rates. ACE inhibitors like lisinopril or angiotensin receptor blockers (ARBs) aid in heart remodeling and healing, lowering mortality rates within the first 30 days. For patients with reduced ejection fraction—a measure of how much blood the heart pumps out with each beat—medications like spironolactone may be added to enhance recovery. Spironolactone blocks a hormone that can cause fluid retention and strain on the heart. Studies show it provides significant benefits in reducing mortality within the first 30 days after a heart attack.

Long-term cholesterol management is also essential. Statins or newer injectable medications like Repatha or Leqvio help reduce LDL cholesterol levels to prevent future plaque formation.

“Your doctor will monitor these medications, adjust them as necessary, and discontinue some as recovery progresses,” Dr. Mehrle said.

In addition, diet and exercise are crucial in post-heart attack recovery. A heart-healthy diet—such as the Mediterranean

diet—limits red and processed meats, unhealthy fats, sugar, sodium, and alcohol while encouraging fruits, vegetables, legumes, nuts, and whole grains. This diet has been shown to reduce cardiovascular and overall mortality, according to Dr. Mehrle.

Physical activity is encouraged early in recovery. Walking within the first two weeks and participating in cardiac rehabilitation programs are essential steps.

“Cardiac rehab is often encouraged by insurance companies and is available on the ninth floor of Jane Phillips with a well-trained staff to help you recover from your heart attack,” Dr. Mehrle said. “The structure (provided) with a cardiac rehabilitation plan is essential to the patient regaining confidence in their abilities and understanding what exercises are safe for them to do.”

Dr. Mehrle advises that many daily activities, including driving and sexual activity, can resume safely within a few weeks, depending on individual circumstances. Vaccinations like flu and pneumococcal shots are recommended to protect against additional health risks.

Recovery from a heart attack isn’t just physical; emotional well-being is equally important. Stress reduction, adequate sleep, and addressing depression can significantly influence outcomes. A strong support system at home is invaluable during this time.

Post heart attack testing, such as echocardiograms, may assess the heart’s recovery. For patients with more severe heart attacks, recovery may involve additional procedures, extended time off work and closer monitoring. Regardless of the complexity, Dr. Mehrle emphasizes the importance of working closely with healthcare providers to navigate the journey.

“While recovering from a heart attack may seem overwhelming and difficult, your team of physicians and providers, including your primary care doctor, cardiologist, as well as the cardiac rehab and even a nutritionist, are there to help and guide you through this recovery. With your hard work and the hard work of your medical providers, the goal of returning to as close to normal life as possible is obtainable!” Dr. Mehrle said.

by Jay Webster

Well, you did it. You made it through another Holiday Season.

How’d it go?

This is typically when most of us are boxing up the season and running things up into the attic in a weird combination of contortion, yoga stretching, and endurance training. I’m always a bit uneasy about putting decorations that have faces on them back in boxes. I feel like I need to face them toward each other so they can have conversations over the next eleven months while they shelter in place between Valentine’s and the Fourth of July decor. But then, what if I put two ornaments together that secretly hate each other or

I make one gingerbread person mad by matching the wrong pairs - and a feud breaks out? Is that why some decorations appear broken when we unwrap them when we are just sure we wrapped them properly? Is it out of the realm of possibility that a gang war broke out between the Nutcrackers and Nativity Shepherds in crate number seven?

Have you ever packed up a decoration that has a sound feature? Those are tricky.

You place them just so in the box, but inevitably, on your way up the stairs, something shifts, and now you’re being haunted by a garbled youth choir singing “Silent Night” at ever slower speeds like something out of the Shining. You

think you are safe when you drop it off in the attic, but it starts up again in the middle of the night, and you realize the box is just eight feet above you in the attic “holding cell” where you left it. I’m sure it’ll be fine. That battery will just run itself out… eventually…right?

But what’s the alternative? You can’t leave all that stuff out year-round like some aged psycho waiting for their grandson to visit, who never comes. Who will eat these gingy snaps, Trevor? They’re still here for you.

Wow, we got to kind of a dark place there.

Well, before you close that attic door completely, I’d like to offer you a chance to “unpack” your holiday experience from this year just a bit. Luckily, this is all emotional unpacking so it should be less strenuous than what we just went through.

The unpacking I’m suggesting is this: We all had parts of the season we didn’t love as much as others. And, chances are good - you didn’t like them last year when they happened either (or the years before that). How ‘bout we make a list of those now while they are still fresh in our heads?

It works like this:

A couple of years ago, my wife and I had a particularly difficult Christmas season. Some of it was our own doing. Some of it was a series of reoccurring events that very nearly killed our insides each year. So, we made a list. Here are the top five things I liked least about this season. My “low five” list. Even if there are things you know that can’t be changed, put them on the list anyway. Occasionally, the things that seem impossible actually have a solution, but it starts with acknowledging they are there (even if they seem obvious).

We listed everything: number of gifts, number of people we give gifts to, number of gifts we receive, and are therefore responsible for housing until the probation period has been met and we can sell it quietly in a garage sale. We listed the number of days we traveled. We listed waking up in our own beds Christmas Morning. Anything that drained us and eventually made us want to hate the holidays. (Sorry, Tiny Baby Jesus - I know it’s not your fault).

The list was cathartic. The martini probably helped in that.

Once the list was done, we stepped back and looked over it. Surprisingly, several of the items seemed addressable. If we were unified and approached this in a considerate, loving, and resolute way…we could make a better holiday season for us and our family. Yes, dominant personalities would have to be confronted. Some feelings would have to be crossed. Some give and take would have to be negotiated. But the end result was a much happier, healthier Christmas.

But a key is: you need to do the list while it’s fresh. I know you; you’ll start to second-guess your feelings. In another week or two your eye will stop twitching, and your jaw muscles will unlock. And you’ll tell yourself…that really wasn’t

so bad. Besides, the holidays are supposed to be miserable. Make the list today, while the pain is still fresh so you don’t have to repeat the pain next year! Trust me, changes can be made. Life (and Christmas) can get better.

And this is just step one.

Because if you have a “Low Five,” then what’s on your “High Five” list? What are the parts of this season you wish you could get more of? What did you enjoy the most?

Making a High Five list is like making a Gratitude list. Once you start, it’s hard to stop. And, it makes you feel all fuzzy inside. That’s worth it on its own. But making the list can also help you identify the good things about the season and create more windows for that when possible. Maybe you’re tapped out on family and more Friends Festivity is what you are clamoring for. Maybe it’s a Christmas book or movie night once a week. Maybe it’s designating one or two giving exercises that really make you feel connected to the Season.

Making an actual list will help you identify those experiences and bring those moments to the surface.

Don’t be surprised if your list is different than those of others in your immediate family. My wife is a Christmas decorations maximalist, while I, on the other hand, would be fine with a wreath and an unaffiliated red candle. And yet we’ve managed to stay married these last 32 years. My daughter and I spent the first five or six years of her life slyly looking at each other and saying, “You thinking what I’m thinking?” Then, we would nod and snicker together. Now I’ve discovered she has a new-found, near-compulsive love of Nutcrackers. (I love her like family, but it’s like I don’t even know her sometimes.).

The point is that there are areas on our lists that do overlap. Those are places we can work to increase and grow. And in the places that don’t overlap, well, I can still make them better for others.

I gotta say, I think I like this emotional “unpacking” versus the physical stuff. As far as anyone else knows, I’m really working hard here. Of course, making your “Low Five” and “High Five” list is the easy part. Then you gotta take some action on it. Otherwise, it’s like buying the decorations but not putting them out. (Wait, is that a possibility?)

Do good, friends. Cheers.

Trepidation Trail

Somewhere West of Wall Street

by Kelly Hurd

I sat there thinking about it, not sure if I was going to do it – or not.

I weighed it all out in my mind – the pros & the cons –and then decided the timing was right, so I clicked on his number in my phone – and held my breath waiting for him to answer…

The night before we had visited briefly at an event in Oklahoma City. Well, truthfully, it was actually his event. I had bought tickets to attend.

Yes, we had met before, back in 2021, although his secretary and I had been keeping time since 2019, planning his visit to Osage County, Oklahoma.

But still, I wasn’t sure he’d remember me – even though the day we met was one of the highlights in my life.

But last night as I walked towards his table, he stood up and smiled, opened his arms wide and gave me a big hug.

His wife said, “You should have heard the talk at the table a few minutes ago. ‘Kelly Bland is here.’” She chuckled and said “I told them - well, you must not follow her on Facebook, cause it’s not Bland anymore,” and with a smile and hug added, “it’s Kelly Hurd now!”

I was relieved, blessed, and touched by their remembering me, and with a great big smile on my face, even got to introduce Mr. John Hurd to them both… It was a great night at the National Cowboy and Western Heritage Museum in OKC…

My phone was on speaker as my call went through. I was a little nervous and still holding my breath.

“Well, what are you doing?” he said as he picked up the call.

At first, I wasn’t sure it was him, what if he had changed his cell number - but he continued to talk and there was no mistaking that drawl. I exhaled and smiled!

Remarkably, on the other end of that line was an American icon who had spent the better part of his life interviewing legends in the cowboy world somewhere west of Wall Street–in addition to writing songs, cutting records, making a star out of Reba McEntire, and penciling down some of the best cowboy poetry ever written.

Talking to me as if we were old friends was one of the kindest gentlemen I’d ever met, so it didn’t surprise me, but it

deeply touched my heart and warmed my soul when he responded “We can sure make that happen,” after I asked him if I might have the honor of enjoying his company as a guest on the Calling to the Good podcast.

It had been on my heart for a while to ask him because I wanted to capture the life and legacy of the man who had done the same for so many, but I was scared to make the call.

In my mind, we’re coming to a point in time when American icons are just slipping through our fingers as an older generation begins to pass – and I was on the phone with one of America’s most iconic- with whom I wanted to spend some precious time reminiscing about his growing up years, discussing his world view, and sharing his love for the western way of life.

You know, in life, there’s some things that are just worth risking a “no” for. That’s what I told myself before calling.

“All he can do is say ‘no,’” I whispered in my mind. What did I have to lose except the chance of a lifetime?

But he didn’t say no, and I’m so glad I was brave enough to travel down Trepidation Road because it led to a pathway I’m calling, the Once-In-A-Lifetime Trail, which is just up the street from Adventure Avenue and Memory Lane.

Yep, no doubt about it, it’s gonna be a banner day on January 8th when Mr. Red Steagall and I sit down over a cup coffee to talk life and legacy. If all goes well, this upcoming episode will be live by mid-January and I hope you’ll search for it on all the major podcast platforms and pull it up and give it a listen!

You may even want to order his just-released autobiography, Texas Red. He’s even personally autographing copies ordered, only from his website, at RedSteagall.com!

Hey y’all, many thanks for going down Trepidation Road with me this month. May you also find yourself on Once-In-ALifetime Trail because I want to hear all about it when you do!

Happy New Year!

#CallingToTheGood #RedSteagall #TexasRed #OnceInALifeTimeTrail

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Mike Bouvier Washington County’s Servant

by Debbie Neece

Massachusetts

born Michael G ale B ouvier was an early Christmas present, born on December 21, 1945; raised in the New England area. After high school, he served the U.S. Army; stationed in Germany for two years. Following military service, Mike hitchhiked across the United States, finding small jobs, but not settling until he went to plumbing tech school in 1968 and began his career in New Hampshire.

It was an Oral Roberts television show that enticed Mike to travel to Oklahoma. He was offered a job at Midwest Christian College in Oklahoma City as a maintenance man, which led him to become a part-time minister. Then, he moved to Bartlesville, where he began MGB Plumbing, Heating & Air in 1979 with an old red pickup-truck and a one-man crew…him.

that started with a constituent calling to report the Tyner Cemetery was in dire need of help, evolved into a hobby and “labor of love” for Mike. He invested much more than just mowing the grass and trimming the trees during his revitalization efforts. He attacked the disgraceful, overgrown cemeteries with honor and made “friends” among those resting around him. He found peace and serenity in speaking to his friends who have passed, but in his world, have not been forgotten. He studied restoration of grave stones and took his direction from the Memorial Cemetery in Washington, D.C. Then, took his tasks seriously and poured his heart into every stone he repaired and fence he mended, hoping future generations realize the great history of Washington County.

Service has always been at Mike’s core. “It’s always about doing something for someone else,” he said. He ran for District 2 Washington County Commissioner in 2012. When his predecessor stepped down, Mike became County Commissioner by default and continued to serve into his third term; however, he made the decision not to run in 2024.

One of the greatest legacies a person can leave is making this world a better place to be in your absence. For Mike, holding a public office was more than weighting a seat. His goal was the betterment of Washington County. He said, “I am a New Englander, but I’m also an Okie!” He was always at the head of the class in appreciation and encouragement; but humble in accepting praise.

Mike’s goals were never self-serving; but full-filled with the purpose of serving the people of Washington County through safe roads and bridges. During a 2021 interview, Mike spoke about the Bison Road Project which paved and greatly enhanced Bison Road, north from Tuxedo Blvd. to Durham Road in Dewey and west to 3980, which travels north with easy access to Highway 75 at Dewey. Most importantly, this project provided much needed bicyclist lanes.

There is a special place in heaven for servants. A project

At 78, Mike Bouvier took his place in heaven on November 25, 2024. His wife of 19 years, Margaret hailed from Pawhuska where her father was the editor of the Pawhuska Journal for 27 years. Mike’s son, Sean, continues MGB Plumbing, Heating and Air. Mike also leaves his daughter Michelle, grandchildren Aissa and Jacob, and great-grandchild Carter Jonathan. He will be greatly missed.

MARGARET & MIKE BOUVIER

Oh, what a Year Looking Back at 2024

by Keith McPhail

Wow! What a year we all have seen and read in bmonthly magazine! I believe this year had some of the best stories we have ever published. So here we go.

January

Every year January’s issue is dominated by the babies! Our winner for 2024 was baby Jenx with his top hat and a great smile. We love doing the Baby New Year issue because it not only shows off the cutest babies in the country - right here in Bartlesville - but it also brings viewers to our great city through our Facebook page. We always seem to have some controversy related to voting, but at the end of the contest we are always confident that the winner won fair and square. Remember it’s a contest for fun. Every one of these babies are beautiful to us. To end this month I wrote a story called “One More Day” which was one of the hardest stories I have ever written. It’s about loss and what one more day would look like for us when faced with that loss. If you still have that issue, I encourage you to go read it. You can also read it by going to Issues on our website BartlesvilleMonthly.com. I hope it helps you see the beauty God gives us everyday and to not waste it because no one knows when our last day is!

February

In this month’s Upfront I talk about my horrific addiction to cocaine and how close I was to losing my family and my life. In March of 2007, Christy and I had seven kids; she kicked me out of the house; and I was living in a 500 square foot apartment. After much prayer for me and our new family, she called me and said “I believe God has told me to give you one more chance and to let you move back into the house.” Against everyone’s advice I moved back in but not without her saying this was my last chance. She had a plan. From the call that morning to now, I CELEBRATE 17 years of being free from my addiction. God absolutely took it all away that morning during spring break in March of 2007. In this issue Debbie Neece wrote one of her best feature stories about “Prairie Song” and one couple who had so much love of the great history of this country. When you walk through this time machine of all these buildings, you’re taken back to the 1800s and how people lived, worked, and worshipped!

April

At the beginning of this month, B the Light Mission opened as a warming shelter for eleven days during one of the coldest winters in decades with wind chills -20 to -30 degrees. We learned a lot and began preparing to open the Poverty Reduction Center - not a homeless mission. The mission will open soon after a year and a half of preparation and regulation hurdles. We also celebrate Black History Month as we have for the past 5 years. This year’s feature story was written by Natasha Mitchell. We highlighted Oklahoma African Americans who stood up and made a huge difference not only in this state but nationally. What a story it was!

This is our Best of Pets issue which has become as popular as the baby issue. People love their pets and love showing them off. It’s different from the babies in the sense you submit your own picture of your pet. We get some crazy, beautiful, and funny pictures of these beautiful animals. Nellie was our Facebook winner with the most votes, and Boomer was our Judges’ Cover winner. Both these dogs were just beautiful, and we just love doing this issue.

May

March

We always focus our attention on Memorial Day. This month’s feature story was D-Day, written by our history queen, Debbie Neece. She absolutely crushed this story. I always tell our younger generation to watch the first 20 minutes of the movie “Saving Private Ryan” if you want to know what D-Day was like. The average age storming those beaches that day was 20 years old. That day changed the world forever. In this month’s issue, I wrote the most emotional story I have ever written. I called it the “The Gift of Grace.” In this story I talk about all of my kids but really focus on Christy and my only child we had together, Grace Olivia

McPhail. I wrote about how she became not only my anchor but our family’s anchor. God knew exactly what HE was doing when she was brought into our family and kept it together!

June

July

In this issue Debbie Neece writes about Pennington Hills and the expansion of Bartlesville moving east beyond the Caney River. It’s a fascinating story and one she bugged me to write for over two years. I finally gave in and learned so much from this story. Thanks, Debbie, for your knowledge and tenacity to not give up on telling this story!

October

In this month the feature story is on the building of the Phillips Building and the change to downtown Bartlesville’s skyline. The story describes how two brothers with the last name of Phillips bet all their remaining money on one more oil well. That well hit and hit BIG! The Anna Anderson well started the company, Phillips 66, and changed Bartlesville forever. I also wrote in my Upfront about our son Tyler who we lost 15 years ago. It’s a moving story and one you should go back and read.

November

I believe this is the most important month of the year because it’s the month Christy and I got married. We had been apart for over eighteen years. We began as high school sweethearts only to later become husband and wife on July 23rd, 2005. Marrying Christy changed my whole life and the husband, father, and person I am today. I still pinch myself knowing that in July 2025 we will be celebrating 20 years of marriage and knowing each other for 40 years. We also had our 4th annual photo contest where you - the readers - take pictures of a subject we choose and submit to the magazine. People vote for People’s Choice and also for the cover for the magazine. Last year’s cover winner was taken by Andy Dossett who took an incredible picture of the Tower at Sooner Park. One of the best pics ever to grace the cover of bmonthly!

August

This is always our Back to School issue. Debbie Neece wrote about the Limestone addition to Bartlesville. Again just like Pennighton Hills’ addition story this is another expansion of Bartlesville. Everything from the intersection of Highway 75 and Nowata Road to the east. So much history is in this story. The story shows how Bartlesville was this little city on the Caney River in the late 1800s and grew to be a city of over 37,000 people.

September

This was our first year in the last four years not to do a Native American feature story. We decided to write about our famous and notorious outlaws who roamed this area. What a great story Abigail Singrey wrote about! We had the worst of the worst on the streets of Bartlesville in the old days.

Our feature story is again written by Deebie Neece. She wrote about the iconic old courthouse. The history of that building and what it meant to the city and Washington County is incredible. Built in 1913, it still looks the same after over a 100 years.

December

This was a month we finished off the article on the History of Churches in Bartlesville and the surrounding area. The story took three years to finish, but it was worth the wait. It is so interesting. On the saddest note for December is that we lost Ron Adams, who has been our Santa on the December cover since the start of the magazine in 2011. I still get teary-eyed thinking about all the great times we had shooting the covers. I made a promise to Ron that as long as Christy and I are running the magazine, he will always be our Santa! Thank you all for picking up what we believe is the best magazine in the state. For any of these issues you can always go to our website at Bartlevillemonthly.com and read them again. God bless and Happy New Year!

from your family at bmonthly Magazine

A New Kind of Livestock

Bartlesville’s 1900’s Better Baby Contest

by Kay Little, Little History Adventures

In the early 1900’s, Nurse Mary DeGarmo, of Louisiana, was concerned about the high infant mortality rate. She worked with a doctor to develop a way to help mothers raise healthy babies. They started a contest in conjunction with the magazine, Woman’s Home Companion.

The contest consisted of a scorecard. The idea had a scientific purpose, to promote healthy babies, so year after year, they would have a “Better Baby Contest.” DeGarmo wanted to bring awareness to the public about child health. She made the contest a social event to entice the mothers to join.

By creating standards for measuring infant health, DeGarmo felt that this would help mothers to better raise their children. The judges consisted of nurses and doctors, who would measure the height, weight, head circumference, mental and physical health. She hoped to prevent child deaths and future health problems in adults.

Since “Better Baby Contests” operated similarly to contests held at state fairs, DeGarmo decided fairs would be a great place to have them. Just as farmers were encouraged to grow better crops and animals, mothers were encouraged to raise better babies.

The judges awarded a maximum of 200 points for mental and psychological fitness and 100 points for physical measurements. The babies were usually between ages 6-48 months. The baby with the highest score was awarded a trophy. The parents of the losing babies were given a pamphlet with suggestions to help educate them. The parents were encouraged to return the next year and try again.

The WHC magazine felt that by promoting the “Better Baby Contests,” they were helping mothers raise healthy children, thereby leading to a better, healthier world. This all led to doctors offering annual checkups of children.

Oklahoma held its first “Better Baby Contest” in 1913 at the Oklahoma State Fair. Washington County held its first “Better Baby Contest” in 1914, in conjunction with the first annual county fair. According to the local newspaper, “Not only will the finest, healthiest and physically perfect babies be on exhibition, but poultry fanciers are going to have many breeds of fancy chickens on exhibition.” Seventy-five babies entered that first county contest. The winner of the 1913 contest was from a Bartlesville family, 13 month old Charles Tuttle, with a score of 98 points, almost perfect.

The event leaders felt that the information from the exams was very valuable for the parents to know their children better, while knowing the latest scientific methods of remedying deficiencies in children and keeping them sound in body and free from physical handicaps for life. They strived to have every baby in the county enrolled in this contest. Even though only a handful of babies won prizes, one of the people involved, said “The great prize will be health and happiness for all.

In 1921, Gene Coker Ledlie, 22 month-old son of Mr. and Mrs. Grover Ledlie, won the Bartlesville Better Babies contest, with a perfect score of 100%. In 1922, a baby conference was held at the First Presbyterian Church. They taught parents the things they had been teaching at the state fairs. We don’t hear anything else about these contests until 1948, when the VFW sponsored a combined baby and queen contest.

BMonthly magazine has revived the annual baby contest with a focus on “cute babies” rather than perfect ones. We hope you enjoy this edition.

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A Champion of Courage

by Mike Jerry Tupa

Even as the silent magic of the Christmas spirit wraps itself around mortal hearts with sweet caress this time of year it reminds us of the awe of childhood and the memories of those who have a left an empty seat at the holiday table.

One of them is former Bartlesville teacher and coach Doug Rawlinson.

Exactly 40 years ago this season, the then 21-yer-old Rawlinson lived a national championship dream with the 1984 Brigham Young University football team.

A towering 6-foot-5, 320-pound plus offensive lineman, Rawlinson witnessed that wonderful season odyssey as a sophomore medical redshirt. It was an odyssey of emotion, drama, thrills and naysayers (Oklahoma coach Barry Switzer judged mid-major BYU undeserving of national title consideration; media personality Bryant Gumbel suggested BYU’s toughest opponent had been “Bo Diddley Tech”).

But after BYU beat Michigan in the 1984 Holliday Bowl, 2417, The AP and UPI crowned the Cougars (13-0) as national champions; BYU awarded team members with championship rings.

Doug wore his proudly — and sparingly — throughout his life.

“I just remember at a couple of football banquets he’d bust out the ring and show it. … It always seemed to be a rare, cool thing,” his son Ben Rawlinson says. “He’d only wear it on special occasions. … How often does a team make it to national prominence?”

As mentioned above, BYU had plenty of critics — and some supporters. Baylor head coach Grant Teaff played both Oklahoma and BYU and proclaimed BYU to be better.

Since then, playoffs have replaced polls. But criticism and turmoil about the process still remain the same as they were four decades ago.

Rawlinson likely would have celebrated BYU’s 9-0 start to the 2024 season — shades of the great run of 1984 — before the Cougars plummeted from title contention.

Doug left us way too soon — in October 2018, as a result of kidney failure — at age 54, survived by wife Therese, his devoted love for more than 30 years.

Up to then, Rawlinson had blessed the lives of hundreds of Bartlesville students and athletes.

“He enjoyed coaching,” and helping form kids’ characters, Ben said.

Outfitted with a grizzly-wide smile, spacious beard and calm but probing eyes, Rawlinson not only taught his students book knowledge but imparted real life lessons, including hard work and turning pain into gain.

Doug and his older brother Randy — also a 1984 BYU team member — received their first lessons going up in Tulsa.

In addition to his ruggedness on the gridiron for East Central High, Doug displayed a gargantuan presence in wrestling. He set a state record by recording 47 consecutive pins in the heavyweight division. He lost only once his final two prep seasons.

He also wrestled at BYU, finishing second in 1985 in the WAC. Two separate polls have named him as one of the top football athletes in BYU history to have worn No. 61.

It was the fortitude he developed from wrestling that bolstered him to a heroic height in his eight-year fight for health and life against his failing and failed kidneys, specifically End Stage Renal Disease.

Employing a running regimen, weight loss and diet change he delayed dialysis for three years — a miracle itself — after the 2010 diagnosis. When he finally had to undergo dialysis — a five-hour mechanical process that systematically drains all the blood, cleans it of impurities, and pumps it back in — he continued to teach and live as normally as possible.

More importantly, he remained buoyant and positive.

“He never complained about the dialysis,” Ben said. He said this is what I have to do survive, what I have to do to stay a little longer. My mom said he never complained. ... I think part of it was that wrestling mentality. ... It was seeing the fight through, what’s next and what needs to be done. ... He retained a happy disposition. He believed when life knocks you down you just fight through it.”

Doug continued to love and serve family and friends and others, Ben added.

In 2014, Doug received a kidney transplant that returned him to a normal and healthy life for more than a year. But then his health began to fail again. He continued to bravely stave off Death. Death won the round, but his disease-free spirit now waits to be reunited with loved ones.

In addition to Therese and Ben, he was survived his children Spencer and Jessica.

Doug was twice a major champion. Once in 1984 with BYU and second — and infinitely more important — a champion of courage.

B the Light Update: The Final Countdown

by Miriam Walker

Wow! 2025HAPPY NEW YEAR

BARTLESVILLE!

B the Light would like to extend our fondest wishes for a safe and prosperous New Year!

At the writing of this month’s update, just seven hours earlier, we were surrounded by kids, teens, and parents, for our Annual Christmas Toy Giveaway. Thank you to Toys for Tots and the Cherokee Nation for making this possible. And thank you to all of our faithful volunteers who helped to make this year’s event such a huge success.

B the Light will always be outreach focused when it comes to our city. At its core and from the very beginning, outreach is a huge part of our story.

Yes, we are a Poverty Reduction Center that will house the unhoused when they choose to enter our program.

However, our demographic reach will always include all of our neighbors. What we witnessed during our Christmas event, made it astoundingly clear that the people we share our city with are in need. It was a mindblowing and sobering event, with both equal parts of clarity at the immense need, and happiness that we were able to help change their Christmas story.

It’s simple really. Every life you touch and every life that touches you, is an opportunity to learn, to grow, and to make that story better.

A huge thank you also goes out to all of our donors, who’ve helped to keep B the Light moving forward in 2024. We literally would not be able to do this without you. East Cross Church was instrumental in the build out for our clothing room, and we’re eager to meet those from their church who have shown interest in volunteering with us.

AND NOW TO THE FUTURE!

We are beginning 2025 with some news that is not only amazing, but news we’ve all been waiting for!

B the Light has successfully passed ALL of the testing that was required by the Department of Environmental Quality, and we have been given a clean and clear rating on our building. THIS IS HUGE!

We knew all along there were no issues in our building, but that did not negate the concerns nor the questions that the DEQ had.

WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?

With this delay now over and the unknown put to rest, we’ll be submitting the necessary paperwork to the city, who’s already been informed. They are as eager as we are, to help those that are being impacted by homelessness.

BE ON THE LOOKOUT FOR OUR OPEN HOUSE AND MORE TOURS!

Much of the city already knows who we are and what we’re getting ready to do for our unhoused neighbors. They know because they’ve been helping, they’ve been volunteering, and they’ve been donating to move the story forward.

But we want everyone to see the story, and until you see with your own eyes what’s getting ready to take place at 219 N. Virginia Ave., you really don’t know the full story. (You’re merely reading the cliff notes )

2025 HAS ARRIVED, and it’s brought with it big changes for our city.

The story continues, and it’s writing itself.

B the Light’s Radar...

History in the Making

by Miriam Walker

If something is not on your radar you’re likely to miss it. Oh you might see it with your eyes, but you’ll miss it all the same. Someone flying under the radar is generally ignored or not noticed much by people in general.

At one point the homeless weren’t even on my radar. They were just people I shared my world with, and never really considered them past that. Until I did. The invisible can only be seen if you’re looking through a prism of humanity. And there they were - on my radar.

The McPhail’s landed on my radar one spring night, when I first moved to Bartlesville. From a bike ride one day, I stood from a distance and watched this couple give out water in Johnstone Park.

“Hmmmm,” I thought, as I headed home, “Wonder what’s up with that?”

I thought two things that evening. One, I have to get them more water. And two, these are my people. I made my introduction days later with a few cases of water and the rest as they say, is history.

My first question for Keith and Christy McPhail, once I began writing my article for this month, was about their radar.

Just like there’s always something that causes a person to find their way into homelessness, there’s usually something that transpires or happens to place those homeless people on somebody’s radar. For the McPhail’s, it was seeing people that had been existing along the Caney River in ten below weather. Some were addicted, some were mentally ill, but all of them were freezing.

The McPhail’s took notice and then they took action.

Time won’t wait past the moment. Moments come and go and they’re fleeting, one coming in right after the other. And it was in those frigid moments in the winter of 2020, that the homeless people of Bartlesville landed on the McPhail’s radar. Shortly thereafter, they made their way into their hearts and the rest, as they say, is history in the making.

Okay, I know what you’re thinking, and I knew it before you thought it.

“History? Come on, really? What’s the big deal?”

I knew you’d say that because I’ve thought it myself, until I knew. And as the young people say, IYKYK. If you know, then you know. So allow me to take you down a timeline of sorts, on a mind-blowing journey that began along the frozen Caney River, nearly five years ago. This journey ended with a 58,000 square foot, 3 story building DONATION, which we call, B the Light.

You read that correctly. The massive building that sits at 219 N. Virginia was GIVEN to the McPhail’s, in an unprecedented act of generosity. Who in the world even does that, and why? Well, Ascension St. John did, and here’s the why.

You see, driving around and picking up our homeless

neighbors to get them out of the 10 below weather was how it started. What began along the frozen Caney River that runs through our city, was nothing more than Keith and Christy doing what they felt that God would have them do.

The first warming shelter B the Light opened took place inside The Westside Community Center, and it didn’t close until nine frozen days had passed. And when the warm sun finally rose to greet the cold hard streets of Bartlesville, B the Light had begun to show up on other people’s radar, and at the top of that list was Ascension St. John. And now their donated building will be used to house the unhoused, in this city’s first ever, Poverty Reduction Center.

That sounds like history to me. Many see the discarded clothing, abandoned trash, and ragged camps as an extreme eyesore to the city. Let me be clear; B the Light shares this opinion 100%. Bartlesville is their city too. They see the mess, but they also see the forgotten, the mentally ill, and the addicted.

Keith McPhail shares that he knows what it’s like to battle the chains of addiction, and that has provided him a level of empathy that the homeless rarely receive. B the Light’s Poverty Reduction Center will walk alongside those that struggle with the addictions that are so prevalent in the homeless community.

These days the mission is many things to many people, and this is without even being open full-time. We offer the opportunity for those that need community service hours to come volunteer with us, and we have a close connection with the Drug Court program, which has been instrumental in getting many of our clients pointed in the right direction. B the Light is a beacon for both the housed and the unhoused.

Christy McPhail is clear however, that B the Light is not a handout. “We saw how we could make a difference in people’s lives when the time is right, and when they are given the opportunity and presented with a plan of action. When you see that life changed, and generations changed, that’s what it’s all about.”

God is a part of everything that goes on with B the Light, and the best evidence I can present is what happened next.

Another building was randomly donated to the mission. This 2nd property was donated by Family Promise, after witnessing the level of outreach that was coming from B the Light. This 3 story home is currently on the market, and located across the street from the historic Hotel Phillips. The proceeds from the sale of this home will help to complete additional renovations on the 2nd floor.

B the Light is a beacon in this city, pointing our homeless neighbors towards a new story for their life. But the story of B the Light is writing itself, one page at a time, one life at a time.

History shows us where we’ve been, but having a radar that includes the other people we share our world with, is the part of history that shows us where we can go.

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Sessions times: 4:30pm, 5:00pm, 5:30pm, and 6:00pm. We are excited to show you the ins and outs of our programs and give you a behind-the-scenes look at Tri County Tech!

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Mitzi McGregor Bartlesville’s Master Stained Glass Artist

by Kay Little, Little History Adventures

Mitzi McGregor grew up in an abusive situation but was able to leave home at a young age and live with caring relatives. In 1984, as a young adult, she moved to Bartlesville. She became a Christian and started working with stained glass in 1985. She does not feel that is a coincidence. Her work is a spiritual experience for her. While working, she plays worship music. By 2007, Mitzi started her business, Mitzi’s Stained Glass .

Mitzi’s heart right now is to have small classes in order to teach people of all ages to be good, not just mediocre, at making stained glass. One way she has done this is with her annual Gift of Experience with her grandkids. She puts her scraps of materials on the table and helps the children create a work of art for them to give their parents and whoever else they want to bless. This year she is calling it “Old Fashioned Christmas.”

The scraps are usually pieces other people would throw away. Mitzi also uses her scraps to make kaleidoscopes. She says, “they remind me of our lives when we come to Jesus. He takes all the broken pieces in our lives, and all the trash and He makes something beautiful in each of us. Just as you see the beauty in the kaleidoscope when you look to the light, the same is true in our lives when we look to Jesus who is the Light. When we look to the Light, who is Jesus, that is when the beauty of our lives comes out.” John 8:12, “I am the Light of the world, whoever follows Me will never walk in darkness, but will have the Light of Life.”

One of her customer’s favorites are her Christmas ornaments. Many of us can’t wait for the new one every December. She started making these ornaments in 2012. When you see all her pieces, you see pure creativity. That is also the goal of her Gift of Experience with the grandkids and her

classes. She enjoys watching her students create something beautiful out of what other people would call trash.

You can also visit Redeemer Lutheran Church, St James Catholic Church, Green Country Village, and the local hospital to see some of Mitzi’s larger works. Many homes in our community have beautiful stained glass works of art made by Mitzi.

Mitzi is really excited about her next project, which will be teaching beginner-stained glass classes at Jarrett Farm in January and February. Right now, she has planned for January 30th and February 13th. The class will allow the student to craft a beautiful piece of art and take it home. Supplies will be provided. Each class will cost $65 and are limited to 6 students. If you are interested, contact Mitzi at 918-440-1640. You can also ask her about any of the pieces she has for sale.

The Stuff We Keep

by Brent Taylor

The French have a phrase that can mean time, weather, or tense…Le Temps. My son, eight years old at the time, and I were sitting on a mountain peak in Arkansas when he was still dreaming of becoming a Meteorologist. We experienced a moment when time and weather became one. A thunderstorm wrapped around the mountain in a symphony of energy as the trees danced and finally bowed to a violent wind.

I realized what made my son tick and why he dreamed of Meteorology.

He grew up and went to Oklahoma University and achieved his degree and now is an Atmospheric Scientist. I will always treasure that memory along with his birth, that moment when Brandon struggled to take his first breath. He was purple at first, lizard-like. Then a gurgling, a cry, nurses clearing mouth and nose. Magically he melted into the blanket, warm and pink, my son. While my memory is vivid, for others the lens blurs with time.

Mary Gordon was visiting her mother who suffered from dementia. Her mother asked if she was her niece. She said, “No, I am your daughter.” “Does that mean I had you?” she asked. Mary said yes. “Where was I when I had you?” Mary told her she was in a hospital in Far Rockaway, New York. “So much has happened to me in my life,” her mother said. “You can’t expect me to remember everything.” Mary Gordon, author, Circling My Mother

There was a time in my life when I served Christians at a local retirement home by offering communion service for those unable to attend church services. One Sunday, I read from the Gospel of Luke. I looked up from my reading of the crucifixion account to see Marge has tilted her head to the ceiling and closed her eyes.

from my lips. I ask Marge, “Can you see well enough to read the Bible?” She said, “No. And I can’t really make out your face, but I can see that your shirt is checkered.” I lied and told her I was handsome and she replied graciously, “I can tell by your voice.”

Marge asks about my parents. She once lived across the street from them on Meadowlark Lane and I tell her that was the house into which I was born. She can’t always remember my name or what happened yesterday, but she can tell me details about the house from 1959. I told her that Paul Stumpff, a fellow congregant, helped dad roof that house on Meadowlark Lane.

Marge said, “I remember Paul on the roof of that house helping put up a television antenna and he got quite a shock and they drove him to the hospital and the doc told him, ‘You’ll be ok. If you had really touched heavy voltage, you’d be dead by now.’”

I walked outside as wind-blown leaves somersault across the parking lot to a place that I cannot know, brittle but still lovely.

Moments in time, these are first kisses, holding children in our arms, geese flying overhead in a rush, the sudden wind of a storm, moments that feel as if you are experiencing life for the first time, a child with mouth agape, nomads swallowing raindrops in a parched desert.

We are all collectors, keepers of Le Temps, time and space. It’s really all we have. Our money doesn’t travel well, our stuff gets put in dusty garages, our houses need painting, our cars break down, and our clothes migrate to Goodwill. But moments in time, that’s the stuff we keep.

“A thing of beauty is a joy forever: its loveliness increases; it will never pass into nothingness.” John Keats

Next to her Floy cups her hand to her ear like a seashell, coaxing the words of Luke

Heritage Villa... Providing Skilled Therapy

by Lori Just

At Heritage Villa, their employees understand that recovery is a journey, and they are here to provide the support their residents need every step of the way. Whether it’s after a hospital stay or as part of long-term care, Heritage Villa offers a variety of therapy services to help individuals regain their independence and get back home as soon as possible.

“We focus on a holistic approach that looks at the whole person, not just their diagnosis,” said Administrator Peggy Rovenstine. “Our therapists are continually expanding their knowledge and refining their skills, ensuring that they’re up to date with the latest treatments and interventions. Our goal is to provide patient-centered care that addresses not just physical recovery but also long-term health outcomes.”

Therapy options include physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy, all designed to meet the specific needs of each resident. At Heritage Villa, in addition to physical recovery, they integrate health literacy into their therapy sessions. This means educating residents about disease prevention, safe discharge planning and managing their health once they return home. The main goal of their therapy services is to help our residents regain as much independence as possible.

“It’s about giving them the tools they need for lasting recovery and independence,” she added. “We want to ensure that, when they leave Heritage Villa, they can return home with the confidence and skills needed for daily living. Whether it’s walking again, managing daily tasks, or improving communication, our therapies are designed to make that happen.”

If you or a loved one needs skilled therapy after a hospital stay, you’ll receive a recommendation from your hospital care team. The next step is choosing where you want to receive your therapy, and Heritage Villa is here as one of those options. Once the patient arrives, they will be given a room in their Skilled Care wing where their therapists will evaluate the patient’s needs across all three disciplines: physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy. Depending on the individual’s needs, they can expect to receive therapy 1-3 hours per day, 5-6 days a week.

“Our team works with you at your pace, ensuring that the level of therapy is tailored to your tolerance and goals,” said Rovenstine. “And when you’re not in therapy, you can enjoy a variety of activities and amenities, such as social events, entertainment and more. We believe in making your time here as comfortable and engaging as possible.”

Their skilled care services go beyond therapy. At Heritage Villa, they also provide day-to-day care that includes feeding assistance, toileting support, medication management,

transportation to off-site appointments and more. Every aspect of a patient’s care is designed to meet the needs of their residents, no matter how complex.

“What sets us apart is our commitment to quality,” continued Rovenstine. “We have a team of dedicated experts who bring the necessary certifications and experience to provide exceptional care. Our staff is not only skilled but also passionate about improving the lives of our residents.”

Heritage Villa is constantly evolving. Over the past year, they’ve made significant improvements to their facilities, staffing and overall care. Residents benefit from a team that is not only highly trained but also deeply committed to providing compassionate care.

“If you’re looking for a place where you or your loved one can recover and thrive, Heritage Villa is the right choice,” she said. “We’re dedicated to making sure you feel supported and empowered throughout your recovery journey. With our comprehensive therapy services, skilled care, and a focus on patient well-being, we are here to help you achieve your goals and make a smooth transition back home.”

Take a tour of Heritage Villa and see all their service offerings by calling (918) 335-3222 or take a virtual tour at mgmhealthcare.com/facility/heritage-villa/.

Blessings...

And What They Mean to Us

by Keith McPhail

Happy New Year friends!! I chose to write this month’s “The Good Word” which I don’t do very often. I wanted to write about “ Blessings ” and what that means to Christy and me. We pray that 2025 will bring you and your family an abundance of blessings.

In the New Testament the word bless means… and inner peace, and inner bliss, and inner happiness, an inward joy that is not produced nor affected by circumstance.

If I wrote what God has blessed me with in my 55 years, I would need the whole magazine to do that. Every morning when I wake up, I go outside to drink my cup of coffee - no matter how cold or hot the weather is. I sit there enjoying the birds, the silence, the sunrise, and the beautiful painting of the sky right in front of me. I breathe in everything that God has blessed me with. I thank God each morning for allowing me to wake up, and I pray every morning for the strength and courage to be HIS hands and feet. I pray to make a difference in someone’s life… not mine or our family’s. I pray for someone who might be on the verge of giving up. I pray for the one who has given up all their hope. I pray for the one who can’t pay their bills or has no money to buy their kids gifts for Christmas. How much effort does it take to be a blessing to someone who just might be having a bad day and needs a little good word? Your blessing is different for the one who might need it. Maybe when you get great service, you give the waitress that extra 50% tip. That tip may be the difference between her paying her electric bill or not. That’s a blessing!

We have many faithful volunteers who believe in what we are doing. The good news is we are really close to opening 24/7 to help and change the lives of our homeless and our lost community in this area. Yesterday on Saturday, December 14th, we were blessed by Toys for Tots and the Cherokee Nation to be able to give each child 3 toys and a book. We had over 600 kids in the Bartlesville area select toys and books. Now that is a blessing to so many moms and dads! None of this is about us. It’s about giving back and being a blessing to those who need help. We want to give them love and a hand up, not a hand out!

To the thousands who will read this story, you know my story and our story. You know how I truly should not be here today because of my many mistakes. I overdosed three times but still breath and wake up everyday…WOW! What a blessing I have received! I truly thank God everyday. I BELIEVE THAT GOD SAVED MY LIFE, SO I COULD BE HIS HANDS AND FEET. Thank you, Lord, for the opportunity to be able to do that for you.

It’s 12:06 am on December 15th as I’m writing this story. Christy and I, as you know, started B the Light Mission .

The year of 2024 may not have been a good year for you. I want you to know that God’s got you. The day that I turned my eyes off myself and put them on others, my whole life changed. Has it been easy? No. But nowhere in the Bible does it say that your life will be easy, you will never experience hurt, or your life will not be turned upside down. Don’t ever give up! Wake up everyday and send a simple prayer up to God. Say thank you for giving you one more day to make a difference in someone’s life, not yours! Someone who needs that one blessing that only you can give.

SINGLE TICKETS AVAILABLE

PRETTY WOMAN

Monday, January 6, 2025

7:00 PM

Recommended for ages 13+

THE ADDAMS FAMILY

Sunday, February 23, 2025

7:30 PM

Recommended for ages 10+

DEAR EVAN HANSEN

Thursday, March 6, 2025

7:30 PM

Recommended for ages 13+

Broadway in Bartlesville!

Broadway in Your Backyard in 2025

Support local and experience the magic of Broadway in Bartlesville! shows in 2025. This new year, see the same professional shows that swing through Tulsa, Fayetteville, and Wichita, right in your hometown. Each show in the Broadway in Bartlesville! line-up is out on a national tour after having had their start in New York on Broadway. Now, they can be seen, just minutes from your home, at The Center for arts, events, and community in downtown Bartlesville.

PRETTY WOMAN: THE MUSICAL , based on one of Hollywood’s most beloved Rom-Coms of all time, plays The Center on Monday, January 6 at 7:00pm. Please note the earlier-than- usual start time, so you don’t miss a minute of Vivian and Edward’s fairytale story.

On the heels of WEDNESDAY, the 3rd most-watched show on Netflix of all time, see THE ADDAMS FAMILY on Sunday, February 23 at 7:30pm. This devilishly delightful musical comedy is based on the bizarre and beloved characters by legendary cartoonist Charles Addams. THE ADDAMS FAMILY is a comical feast that embraces the wackiness in every family, THE ADDAMS FAMILY is the magnificently macabre hit musical featuring everyone’s favorite creepy, kooky characters. Wednesday Addams, the ultimate princess of darkness, has grown up and fallen in love with a sweet, smart young man from a respectable family. A man her parents have never met. And if that weren’t upsetting enough, she confides in her father and begs him not to tell her mother. Now, Gomez Addams must do something he’s never done before - keep a secret from his

beloved wife, Morticia. Everything will change for the whole family on the fateful night they host a dinner for Wednesday’s “normal” boyfriend and his parents.

Then, on Thursday, March 6, DEAR EVAN HANSEN hits The Center stage at 7:30pm. Declared “one of the most remarkable shows in musical theater history” by The Washington Post, DEAR EVAN HANSEN is the first musical to take a groundbreaking look — from the point of view of both the parents and young people — at our complex, interconnected, and social media-filled lives. Evan Hansen is a high school student who always feels like he’s on the outside looking in. Evan finally gets what so many of us are searching for—the chance to finally fit in. What follows is a poignant, funny, and powerful musical about how even though it can be hard, we can find each other—and ourselves—along the way.

Can’t select just one? Get the best seats at the best price to experience each of three awarding-winning shows when you purchase a short season subscription to Broadway in Bartlesville! Show further support for Bartlesville and visit one of the many restaurants before the show, then enjoy free parking at The Center.

Single tickets to each show are also available. Visit The Center box office at 300 SE Adams Boulevard, online at bartlesvillecenter.com, or call 918-337-2787. The Center is open from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Monday through Friday, and evenings and weekends during scheduled concerts and events.

Ed Bond ... And Nightmares About Vietnam

by Joe Todd

Ed Bond was born 17 Aug 1946 in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. He went to school in Bartlesville but did not finish high school. After he left school, he worked on the Mullendore Ranch and broke horses. Mr. Mullendore always treated him decent.

He joined the Army 9 Sep 1963 and sent to Fort Polk, Louisiana for Basic Training. He said there was not to tell about Basic but the worst part was bivouac where almost froze to death. Went to the rifle range and fired expert with M-14 Rifle. After Basic, he was sent to Fort Sill, Oklahoma for artillery training and trained on the 105 mm that had a crew of three, the gunner, loader and powder man. They had to clean the gun every time it was fired and had to take the breech block off and then clean the barrel.

were unarmed and left and their jeep had six bullet holes when they arrived back at base. American patrols always chased the North Koreans back across the border.

It was reported that a North Korean patrol came south every night. His unit worked in the cold and had to keep three miles of commo wire in working condition and they were working in sub-zero weather. He received orders for Vietnam in January 1967 and thought how strange to go from freezing weather to the jungle.

He was at Fort Sill eight weeks, then sent to Fort Leonard Wood for engineer training. He went to engineers because he re-enlisted. They were trained to work on generators and operate the heavy equipment. His training lasted six weeks, then he was sent to Fort Hood, Texas and spent six months there. He was assigned to the 2nd Armored Division as a combat engineer and worked on the heavy equipment and the company generators.

In March 1966, he was sent to Karlsruhe, Germany as a combat engineer. They were building a bridge across the Hana River and in their off time, they visited farmers and even helped them pitch hay and the wife fixed a big dinner for them and they had a good rapport with the local people. He left Germany December 1966 and went to Korea for thirteen months and assigned to the 38th Missile Battalion and was a mechanic on the diesel equipment. He was based at Camp Page near the 38th Parallel.

The North Koreans would fire wooden shells close to the guns and this was to let them know the North Koreans had then zeroed in. He said that North Korean patrols could come south and his group ran into one patrol, but they

He was assigned to the 44th Signal Brigade and was based at Bien Hoa then moved to Long Binh. He worked as an engineer and was at Long Binh when Tet 1968 broke out. He said everyone was on the front line shooting and there were NVA and VC and the VC did more infiltration. The VC or NVA even hit the ammo dump and it blew everything to hell. The NVA had uniforms, but they would put on civilian clothes and try to infiltrate. There was no way you could tell the good guys from the bad guys.

He and another guy were in a truck and hit a booby trap. The other guy was killed and he was blown out of the truck. During Tet, he was on convoys taking supplies to different compounds and they had the ARVN as security, but he never trusted them. He was in Vietnam one year, came back to the states then went back to Vietnam. His second tour, he was with a group that repaired bridges the VC and NVA blew up.

His second tour was almost one year, then he came home and went back a third time because he did not like the Army stateside. He was based at Ban Me Thout and did a lot of time on patrol.

He came home and sent to Fort Riley and was discharged 7 Oct 1971. He said there were a lot of incidents but he did not want to talk about them. He said he lost 37 men over there and and still had nightmares about Vietnam.

The Empire State Building

Built With Air Travel in Mind

by Jay Hastings

The 102-story Empire State Building, located in downtown Manhattan, was built between 1930 and 1931. It has a roof height of 1,250 feet and stands 1,454 feet tall including its antenna. It was the world’s tallest building until the first tower of the World Trade Center was completed in 1970.

As the building was being planned in the late 1920s, the idea of airship travel was all the rage. At the time, it was believed cross-Atlantic travel would soon be executed using zeppelins or other dirigibles. Thus, the investors behind the Empire State Building decided its top would serve as an ideal site for embarkation. In 1929, the New York Times reported Alfred E. Smith, the leaser of a group of investors erecting the Empire State Building, announced the height of the building would be increased by 200 feet so a mooring mast for dirigibles could be installed. It was envisioned that passengers would exit the airship down a gangplank and in a mere seven minutes be on the streets of Manhattan.

Since the idea was rooted in a very practical desire to make the building more profitable, the developers went so far as to actually construct a mooring mast on top of the building. However, even the best of American engineers failed to figure out how to attach a zeppelin to the top of a 1,250 ft-high building that regularly saw 50mph winds, let alone make it a pleasant experience for the average cross-Atlantic traveler. Besides, the airship companies weren’t interested, deeming it impractical and even dangerous. As reported by the New York Times, Dr. Hugo Eckener, Commander of the Graf Zeppelin, dismissed the project, noting dirigible landings required dozens of ground crew, not to mention plenty of rope. “The notion that passengers would be able to descend an airport-style ramp from a moving airship to the tip of the tallest building in the world, even in excellent conditions… beggars’ belief,” Eckener was quoted.

In 1930, International News Photos distributed this manipulated photograph. At the time, no airship had docked at the Empire State Building. In reality, no airship ever docked there, and the

notion of the mast itself was a publicity stunt perpetrated by the building’s backers. The photograph is from the Metropolitan Museum’s exhibition “Faking It: Manipulated Photography before Photoshop.” (Metropolitan Museum of Art) The one and only actual mooring occurred in September 1931, when a privatelyowned dirigible, “Columbia,” managed to dock for three minutes in an ultimately failed attempt to pick up a bag of mail. Jaded New Yorkers became transfixed, watching the airship maneuver around the mast. The spectacle brought pedestrian and vehicle traffic to a standstill.

The infamous 1937 crash of the Hindenburg bursting into flames and crashing down to the ground, all caught on film, pretty much ended airship travel.

In the end, docking airships to the top of the Empire State Building just wasn’t practical. The plans were abandoned, but the tower still got its signature mast. Over time, four buttresses were added to its base, as well as a needle-like antenna to its top. This re-appropriation of the form has given the crown of the building it’s iconic spire-like quality, which today appears as if it’s always been there.

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