TRIGGERS WHEN IT COMES TO HEALING

Today I want to address "triggers", which affect a huge part of our healing process

Let's start here:

1. What does the word "trigger" mean?

A word that initiates a process or course of action

2. What does it mean when a person is triggered?

When someone is triggered, it means that they're having a strong, uncomfortable emotional reaction to a stimulus that wouldn't ordinarily cause that response While triggered, people may panic, feel overwhelmed, cry, act out, withdraw, or react defensively, especially because they are made to remember something bad that has hap

Now that we have described triggers, let's further discuss where they derive from There are a few fundamental things that cause triggers, such as:

1. TRUTH

Many people may claim to love the truth, but sometimes truth can trigger them in ways they never expected

2. RELATIONSHIPS

As much as we may love to engage in relationships, relationships are a platform where most triggers are aroused, what we experience in our relationships may really expose places where we haven't healed

3 IDENTITY

Having identity crisis can trigger you so much, not knowing who you are, not knowing where you come from, where you're going, which causes imbalance and discomfort

4. PAST

What we've been through often contributes a lot to our triggers, our childhood traumas, abuse, grief, painful experiences, discovering lies that you were raised to believe

Well of course there are more, but these are the highlights, even reading this you might be triggered

At most times we often want to believe we have healed, we have forgiven, we have let go, but triggers will expose that the process is not done

We often want to get over things quick, we often want to move on quick and forget, but triggers will always take you back so you can partake in the healing process correctly.

Some people do heal quicker than others, but healing is not a quick process.

The moment you realize you still have triggers, be humble enough to admit that there are parts of you that are still hurting from what you have been through, yes sometimes you will breakdown and cry and feel like it's starting all over again, but healing needs to take place properly.

Breaking down doesn't mean you're starting over, sometimes it shows progress, because we can't always pretend, we're okay when we know deep down, we're not okay

It's not easy talking about things that trigger us, because we know how much it will hurt, at times we just want to walk away or scream or just disappear, in such events we feel like we are losing ourselves and we don't want to be seen in such conditions

That is why if I have to help someone heal, I need to find out what triggers them so we may know which places haven't completely healed

And at times just because you stopped crying, doesn't mean you have healed, sometimes you have hardened your heart and at an unexpected time, you might breakdown or have a huge fallout So invest in your healing, admit that you need to heal, it is not an insult to say you need healing, it is really a sign of self love