TABLE OF CONTENTS
The Challenges of Unleashing Your Bold Belle Kohen
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Break Through Your Excuses and Reach Your Goals Patty Farmer
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Our Favorite Things
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Financial Planning: Helping You See The BIG Picture! Sharon Case
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Have You Met The Joneses? Christine Catoggio
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Be Creative. Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
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What is Your Mother Story? Michael Anne Conley, LMFT
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Is Weight Loss Surgery the Right Choice for You? Lisa D’Alessio
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This Isn’t Your Regular Date Night! Michelle Dean
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5 Steps of Get Out of an Eating Funk Cindy Nunnery
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The Incredible Power of Meditation Belinda Phillips
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Worth Self or Self Worth = Money? Kim Boudreau Smith
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Gratitude and Love Can Overshadow The Pain Denise Joy Thompson
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You Don’t Have to Be Young and Wrinkle Free to Rock Your Second Act! Linda Waldon
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Your Smokin Hot Second Half
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UNLEASHED Magazine exists to intentionally reawaken women to sparkle, eliminate obstacles, and create momentum toward abundance in their lives. Catering to women 50 and above, UNLEASHED provides a community for women who are seeking to rediscover the dreams deep within their hearts, by encouraging women to sparkle, inspiring them to overcome obstacles, and connecting them to resources that can help them realize the abundance that is their birthright.
Belle Kohen is the CEO of Creative Coaching LLC and a Transformation Coach for Daring Women Seeking Success Strategies, Business Breakthroughs and ways to go from Daunted to Daring. She is also a Speaker, Best Selling Author, Radio Show Host and Magazine Publisher. Having had many diversified careers spanning decades, including: Dental Hygienist, Dental Practice Management Consultant for 1-800 Dentist and Mercer Advisors, Belle also owned and operated a Petland franchise, became a self-taught screen printer, and an advertising specialties guru. Belle has been married 40 years, has 2 happily married children and 6 grandchildren. Always willing to help way beyond the norm, Belle has found her niche as a Coach because it is a way to help others while immensely enriching her own life. Belle can be found online at www.coachbelle.com, or you can also email her at coachbelle@gmail.com
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The CHALLENGES of Unleashing Your BOLD By: Belle Kohen
Today, being a woman over the age of 50 creates many unique circumstances and opportunities. Addressing these in a succinct way will serve to clear the clutter while focusing on the beauty of creating the next chapter of your life for YOU!
Do you currently LOVE your life?
So many of us are going through fluctuations in our attitudes and lifestyles at this time of our lives. Whether the changes are in our work situations, empty nest syndrome, divorce, becoming widowed or separated, it is challenging. Writing out what it means to be bold has been a personally daunting task. There are so many different components to being bold, acting boldly and behaving in a most bold way. There is the fearless and adventurous BOLD, the daring and daunted kind of BOLD. Being inconsiderate or rude is another way of showing off being BOLD. In print, being BOLD means darker than the standard and being courageous is also BOLD.
Here is the definition of B.O.L.D.
B = Believe in yourself unconditionally O = Own your voice, your space and your uniqueness L = Live your DREAMS D = Get out there and DO IT!! Take action steps toward your greatness
As an entrepreneur, it takes a lot of daring and boldness to launch a website, learn about social media, and become adept at new methods of communication. For some women at this age, that is daunting and overwhelming. Each of us has our own gifts and serving this niche is my passion and mission. If you are adventurous and fearless, your choices will certainly be different from one who is shy and hesitant. Both have the inner confidence to shine their light, however, it is the process that will be different. Each and every one of us has greatness within that is awaiting development in a healthy and unique way. The process of change is healthy. Are we willing to be honest with ourselves and dream about where we want to be in the near future? When the sky is the limit (just like when we were kids) and, before there were naysayers, we were able to hike, bike, draw and behave without abandon. It is nearly impossible to allow ones self to do that now…at this age! Right? In order to take responsibility for where you currently are and acknowledge that you have a dream (or need one) is delightful. Give yourself permission to begin living the next chapter of life on your terms. Doing things ON YOUR OWN effectively and without interference feels (and is) important.
Believing in yourself is the key to your own success! Allowing yourself to re-create and enjoy where you are in your life today gives you exclusivity, individuality and makes you exceptional. Granting yourself permission to be who you strive to be is awesome, AND, you deserve it. Acknowledge your worth and work to recognize and accept that you can thrive and be successful when you are determined to do so. Be distinct in what you present to the world and unmatched in your rare powers. All of these are your assets and your legacy. You may find that working in connection with others allows you to step into your boldness. Or, you may enjoy working single handedly and connecting to the enormous sisterhood of women on the Internet and beyond. Once you find your own voice and audience, the possibilities are endless. Remember, it is not necessary to look to others for permission. This is your GIG and with all the experiences in life that you have behind you, go for it! This could be as simple as taking an art class, jewelry making or becoming a successful entrepreneur. Daydreams are also vital to expressing oneself. Have you listed all the vacations, escapades, voyages, journeys, fantastic ideas that are tucked way down deep and almost forgotten? Your hopes and dreams ARE worthy of reaching for. Write down your thoughts and dreams on paper. Try to remember what brings you extreme energy and delight. Think about your vision, life’s purpose and any aspirations or fantasies that remain unfulfilled. Now, it is finally your turn. Once you dare to consider taking action and that first step towards UNLEASHING YOUR BOLD, the journey begins. You may have to venture out of your comfort zone and erase the lines of the box behind you. Be as creative as you once were and be brave, adventurous and BOLD. That is where you will find what you are passionate about. Age is not a factor in this exercise.
Give yourself permission to begin living the next chapter of life on your terms. You deserve it. www.coachbelle.com
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Break Through Your Excuses and Reach Your Goals By: P atty Farmer - Patty Farmer International, In c Marketing & Business Growth Strategist, International Speaker, Author & Radio Show Host
There are times when even those of us who are seen as movers and shakers need to step a little farther out of our comfort zone. As an Entrepreneur, boldness generally runs in my veins. However, sometimes I still I feel the need to push myself a bit more in some area, but I manage to find plenty of excuses to wait. Last year, I made the decision to quit finding excuses to ignore one of those areas that had been nagging at me for some time. This nagging feeling was urging me to take the bold step to create an event - my way. After I took that first step, there were months of planning, and even a few days of wondering what I had gotten myself into, but eventually the first Annual Global Retreat became a reality.
Take that Bold Step Forward
That event had such a positive impact on me, both personally and professionally, but taking that first step was a little scary, which is exactly what taking the first step in any new direction can be – scary. If you are like me, then you too have something nagging you inside that wants you to take that step. So today, instead of finding excuses to not do it, let’s look at some ways to get you started on whatever your new adventure may be.
How to Break through Your Excuses and Reach Your Goal
Excuse #1: I will start on that next month •
No you won’t. If you put it off now, you will put it off next month too. Instead, look at small ways you can get started now.
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Schedule a meeting with yourself to do something toward your goal each day or each week.
If your goal involves others, make an appointment to start discussing the goal with them. Look at your daily schedule and eliminate any “time wasters” that may be lurking in your schedule.
Excuse #3: I’ve never done this before •
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Now is a great time to start learning how to do it.
Perfection is not required. Set aside any perfectionistic tendencies you may have and allow yourself to make some mistakes and learn along the way. Find someone else who has done it before, then find a way to adapt what they did and make it your own.
Remember - You are not trying to reinvent ice cream, you are just creating your own flavor!!!
Excuse #4: What if I fail? •
This is the excuse that usually creates all the other excuses.
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Challenge those negative voices from your past. They are your past, but you are your future.
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Change your thought to, “What if I succeed?”
Do it anyway. You can’t improve something if you never try.
Thomas Edison failed 1,000 times while trying to invent the lightbulb – what if he had let the fear of failure stop him from trying?
Fight Through Your Fear
We all have self-sabotaging legacies from our past, and maybe even a few from the present, that drive us to create excuses. However, there comes a time when you have to decide whether or not you are going let the negative conversations from your past or present keep you from reaching your future goals or if you are going to be bold and take that first step. That means taking that step even while you are scared. If you continue to find more and more excuses to keep you from moving forward in your life or business, then it is time to break free and remember that we are each the author of our own story and we can always write a new chapter. Please feel free to reach out via the link below and make sure to grab your FREE gift to help get you started here!
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Make a call – if it is something that involves another person, at least make that initial contact today
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Set a date – Any goal has a date. Set it today.
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Do anything that is just one step toward your goal.
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You always have time for what you put first. This phrase is an old one, but a good one. It is also very true, so put your goal first.
Excuse #2: I don’t have time
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Helping You See The Big Picture! Financial Planning:
By: Sharon Case
Do you picture yourself owning a new home, starting a business, or retiring comfortably? These are a few of the financial goals that may be important to you, and each one comes with a price tag. That’s where financial planning comes in. Financial planning is a process that can help you target your goals by evaluating your whole financial picture, then outlining strategies that are tailored to your individual needs and available resources.
Why is Financial Planning Important?
A comprehensive financial plans serves as a framework for organizing the pieces of your financial puzzle. With a financial plan in place, you’ll be better able to focus on your goals and understand what it will take to reach them. One of the main benefits of having a financial plan is that it can help you balance competing financial priorities. A financial plan will clearly show you how your financial goals are related. For example, a financial plan will show you how saving for your child’s college education may impact your ability to save for retirement. Then you can use the information you have gleaned to decide how to prioritize your goals, implement specific strategies, and choose suitable products or services. Best of all, you’ll know that your financial life is headed in the right direction.
The Financial Planning Process
Creating and implementing a comprehensive financial plan generally involves working with financial professionals to: •
Develop a clear picture of your current financial situation by reviewing your income, assets and liabilities, evaluating your insurance coverage, your investment portfolio, your tax exposure, and your estate plan. Establish and prioritize financial goals and time frames for achieving those goals. Implement strategies that address your current financial weaknesses and build on your financial strengths. Choose specific products and services that are tailored to meet your financial objectives. Monitor your plan to make adjustments as your goals, time frames, or circumstances change.
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financial plan and often coordinating the activities of other professionals who have expertise in specific areas. An accountant provide advice on federal and state tax issues. An estate planning attorney helps you plan your estate and gives advice on transferring and managing your assets before and after your death. An insurance professional evaluates insurance needs and recommends appropriate products and strategies. This includes life insurance and long term care insurance evaluations. Old insurance policies need to be reviewed to ensure they are still appropriate and in good order. As an investment advisor, I also provide advice about investment options and asset allocation and help you plan a strategy to manage your investment portfolio. The most important member of the team is YOU. Your needs and objectives drive the team and, once you have carefully considered any recommendations, all decisions lie in your hands.
Why can’t I do it myself?
You can. If you have enough time and knowledge, although, developing a comprehensive financial plan may require expertise in several areas. A financial professional can give you objective information and help you weigh your alternatives, saving you time and ensuring that all angles of your financial picture are covered.
Staying on Track
The financial planning process does not end once your initial plan has been created. Your plan should be reviewed at least once a year to make sure that it’s up to date. It’s also possible you may need to modify your plan due to changes in your personal circumstances or the economy. Here are some of the events that might trigger a review of your financial plan: • Your goals or time horizons change • You experience a life-changing event such as marriage, the birth of a child, health problems or job loss • You have a specific or immediate financial planning need (i.e. drafting a will, paying for long term care expenses) • Your income or expenses substantially increase or decrease • Your portfolio has not performed as expected • You are affected by changes in the economy or tax laws continued on page 20 . . .
Some Members of the Team
The financial planning process can involve a number of professionals. I work as a financial planner who works with a team of professionals to provide a holistic approach to the financial planning process. As a financial planner, I play a central role in the process, focusing on your overall 6
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JONESES? HAVE YOU MET THE
By: Christine Catoggio
If you are of a certain age, chances are that you grew up hearing the expression “Keeping up with the Joneses.” It was a popular way of saying that you were maintaining a certain stature or income when compared to your neighbors. Whether it’s the new car in their driveway or the clothes in their closet, the benchmark of success has always been, “Are we doing as well as our neighbors?” Today, neighbor is a general term, referring to those in our immediate circle of influence. And, of course, Social Media has broadened that circle one hundred fold. But, the trappings of success are quite often a façade. In an attempt to give the impression that they are more successful, many people have developed a lifestyle of conspicuous consumption. Chances are that beautiful home is twice mortgaged, or even worse, in foreclosure. Those beautiful clothes are purchased with high interest credit cards, and that fancy car, well, that payment may be a few months behind as well. According to a Federal Reserve Board study, 47% of Americans spend more money than they earn.
So, what is it about this need to compete? The need to feel validated by “stuff”?
There are so many different reasons. Many of them relate to our childhood and what we were taught about money and spending. Being raised with the theory that if you don’t have the money, you don’t buy it, has actually ricocheted for some of the younger generations, who want instant gratification, instead of saving for things that they want. Easy credit and payment plans have made things so much more accessible, that the “want it now” mentality pervades. If someone was raised having to do without, they may actually feel the need to acquire more as a way of showing a new found status, because they did without growing up. Some people feel the need to impress. Because of their own self-worth issues, they feel that this is a way to be respected by their peers. But, so much of this comparison is not just in the physical realm, but in the virtual world of Social Media. We see others post about their apparent successes and accomplishments, and question our own capabilities. “Why can’t I do that?” “Why do they have tons of customers and I am struggling?” It is so easy to believe that others have more then we do. Another old adage that so many of us buy into is “The grass is always greener on the other side.” But, is it really? The fancy trappings aren’t always what they seem. Sometimes, we confuse “stuff” with happiness. And, we all know that is not the case. All that “stuff” cannot take the place of people we have lost, dreams that we have let go, unfulfilled,
lonely lives, and so many other causes of emotional emptiness. We need to spend more time developing those aspects of ourselves that are lacking, than trying to camouflage with more “stuff” the parts of ourselves that our hurting. It’s important to regularly remind ourselves that we all have different dreams and aspirations. What is important to one person is not necessarily important to another. Some people would much rather have an economy car, but have an awesome TV and sound system for spending quality time at home. Others, would much rather go out to fancy dinners and have their car parked up front at valet. Our desires and sense of fulfillment are all different.
So, how do we shield ourselves from “Shiny Object Envy”?
For starters, we need to be very clear on our own values, and what is important to us. This is important for so many reasons in our life, but especially when we are inundated on a daily basis with status trappings. Know what is important to you, communicate and discuss that regularly with your significant other, as well as your children, so everyone is on the same page.
Appreciate and value the things that you do have.
When we look at what others have, it can be easy to diminish the value of what we have. I clearly remember when my daughter got her first car. It was a beautiful shimmery gray/lavendar Toyota Corolla that she picked out herself and really loved! The first day in a new private school, instead of being happy that she drove herself to school in her shiny new car, she came home upset, because “The other kids have Beemers and Mercedes and I have this piece of crap!” Boy, was that a tough lesson! But, it’s easy to not appreciate what we have when we are looking at others. By the way, she had that piece of crap for almost 10 years, and it served her well!
Lastly, know your own self worth!
Because you don’t or can’t have those things now, doesn’t mean that you never will. Value yourself enough to acknowledge that when the timing is right, all those things and more will be available to you.
And, be sure to be thankful to the Joneses for the valuable character lessons they are giving to you and your family! www.christinecatoggio.com
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Be Creative.
Do s tha ometh tw ill F ing to d IRE ME ay UP!
By Dr. Elise Cohen Ho
Well now, that is not a sentence that is going to spark creativity. Creativity does not happen on demand. There is a process, especially if your creativity is blocked. If this is the case, then a really great place to start is by taking a look at your priorities. A priority is a short term goal that you want to accomplish in an allotted time period. A priority should be a good mix of the things that you want to do and the things that you should do. It is unrealistic to think that your entire priority list need only be filled with your desires (such as be creative while writing my award winning book) as that is not the reality of life. The reality of life includes deadlines, appointments and other things that must be taken care. However, I also caution you against filling your list exclusively with what you should do as that will not motivate you and certainly will not allow you to be creative.
Your daily and weekly priority list must include the fun stuff, the stuff that fires you up . . . the stuff that allows you to step fully into your POWER. So how will you find the time?
I often hear the concerns of “I just do not have the time!” and “There is not enough time in the day!” or “Who has the time?” as these are among people’s biggest concerns. These concerns are valid, but the truth of the matter is that you more than likely do have the time. The problem is usually how we are spending the time. Our time is allotted for the wrong thing, the priority is skewed, or we just think that tasks will take less time than they actually do. This means that we must assess our time allowance, expenditure, and debt. Step One: Step Two:
Step Three:
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Now think about how satisfied you are with how you spend your
precious time. And, yes, it is precious! What are the most important things in your life? Who are the most important people?
Your number one priority should be YOU. We have such a hard time seeing that this needs to be the case.
We feel selfish and as if so many other people need to come
first. A prime example of this is the fact that most parents feel that their children must come first, but I encourage you to rethink this. If you do not take care of yourself, that is your physical,
nutritional, and mental state of being, then what do you actually have to give to your kids? Nothing!
If you take care of yourself then you are honoring yourself and
your family. Please do honor yourself…you are important! Set
your priorities so that you are NUMBER ONE and then consider the following questions.
1. What is the most important thing
(you are the most important person) in my life right now?
2. Where would I want to spend more time? 3. Where would I want to spend less time?
Write out your daily schedule and your weekly schedule as you perceive it.
4. What areas need my attention now
Live the day and the week. While doing so write out what you are doing and the amount of time it is taking.
Write down your activities in the order that feels most important
to you. This is your new list of priorities.
Compare the two lists. Is anything popping out at you? Is there some area that your time was off? Is there an activity that you thought would take ten minutes and it took 30? This is important to take note of because it will allow you to plan a realistic schedule for the future.
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(school, health, relationship, business)?
So tell me, what will you work on first?
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What is Your Mother Story? By Michael Anne Conley, LMFT
In search of my mother’s garden, I found my own. ~ Alice Walker, In Search of Our Mothers’ Gardens, 1983
My mother and I were both born in August, 26 years apart. This year she marks 90 years on the planet, which is quite an achievement. The 64 years that I’ve known my mother represent the longest relationship I’ve ever experienced. Knowing how many others cannot say this, I am especially grateful.
This can define you in powerful ways that serve, and don’t serve. You can use your Mother Story to cripple you or to carry you.
Whether or not we knew our mother in person, we each have stories about her. A friend of mine lost her first mother at birth. Given up for adoption, she grew up under the wing of a second mother. She always knew that her birth mother wanted her to be adopted by parents of the same national heritage. This was honored in her adoptive family, which valued connection to the old country. She eventually found her first mother. Another friend was left with only guesses and dreams. Through different paths, each woman found her way toward herself.
Maya Angelou’s story is well known. She wrote of this in I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings and subsequent books. After her parents separated when she was three, she and her brother were sent to live with her grandmother, who knew that Maya was going “to be a teacher all over this world.” This she firmly believed, writes Angelou, despite all obvious evidence that her tall, gangly granddaughter, silenced by guilt, would ever step into herself. In one video, when Angelou speaks of what she learned from this mother, a small tear glistens. “I am grateful to have been loved and to be loved now and to be able to love, because that liberates. Love liberates.”
My own mother speaks with fondness and admiration of her mother, who died suddenly when she was 15. One day my mom was visiting, and as I showed off the garden I’d recently designed, she brightly said, “Your grandmother was a magnificent gardener like you. She could grow anything.” When my mother tells me things about her mother, I feel a connection with this woman who died 11 years before I came on the scene. I am part of a lineage of strong women. My mother used to say that men may pass on their names (more true in the past than now), but social guidance and meaning is passed down through women, from mothers to daughters to granddaughters. That remains. Yet there’s something bigger going on here than the telling of tales. Not just a story about our mothers, but how this shapes the Mother in us. It matters not if you are a mother yourself. As Oprah Winfrey said, “Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother.” Your Mother Story is, of course, informed by your experiences of your mother and mothering figures, yet it’s also created by you, ignited by your own future. As a woman, your Mother Story is abiding. It is your core identity as a woman shaping your own life and impacting the lives of oth
Here’s an example of one woman who used her experiences of being mothered to transcend events that were confining.
About her own mother, whom she came to know as a teenager, she wrote, “To describe my mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power.” On her mother’s deathbed, she writes that she held her hand and said, among other things, “You were a terrible mother of small children but there has never been anyone greater than you as a mother of a young adult." Later she “looked at my mother's lifeless form and thought about her passion and wit. I knew she deserved a daughter who loved her and had a good memory, and she got one.” The care and belief in her from each of these women set a tone for Angelou’s Mother Story, one of strength, purpose and value.
“How are you like your mother? How are you not like your mother?”
These questions come from my therapist, who has been a mothering figure to me for more than 30 years. The answer is multi-layered. This is probably also true for you. continued on page 21 . . .
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Is Weight Loss Surgery the Right Choice for You? By: Lisa D’Alessio
Nine years ago, I lay on the operating table, waiting for my surgeon to come in and change my life. I had chosen to have Weight Loss Surgery (WLS), and it was one of the biggest and hardest things I have ever done in my life. If you are over the age of 50 and are perimenopausal or menopausal, you may notice how quickly you can gain weight. And if you have had weight challenges or obesity all of your life, you may find that you are morbidly obese and experiencing the medical side effects of having fat on your body: diabetes, heart disease, sleep apnea, high blood pressure—the list goes on and on. Many people believe that WLS is an easy option, an easy way out of the weight loss conundrum: you go in, you get surgery, you come out, and you get thin. Easy, right? But there are many parts of WLS that the surgeon’s office won’t tell you. Or they’ll tell you, but it’s glossed over like it’s not a big deal. But they are a big deal, especially if you are considering this surgery as a way to save your life. So here are some misconceptions about WLS, followed by the real information.
Myth #1: WLS is an easy way out
The truth: WLS can often make the weight loss process easier, because your stomach is surgically altered. Depending on the type of surgery you get, this alteration may be temporary, or it may be permanent. With a smaller stomach, you tend to eat less….at least for the first year or two. But—and here’s the important part—WLS is not a magic wand. It doesn’t automatically mean you will lose weight. Think of it more as a tool that helps you control how much you eat. And as with any tool, it is only effective if it is used and used correctly.
Myth #2: I can keep eating the way I do now, only smaller portions
The truth: One of the biggest changes that will happen if you have WLS is that many of the things you eat now—the sugar and processed 10
foods—will make you sick. Literally. If you opt for the surgeries that cut part of your stomach away, your food will no longer be processed in your stomach, which means it hits your small intestines in the same format that it left your mouth. And when sugar and processed foods are absorbed, they create a sugar spike in the bloodstream. The body reacts by dumping insulin into the bloodstream to counteract it. “Dumping syndrome” feels absolutely awful, like “I have to lie here on this floor and don’t touch me and I can’t do anything but lie here and be miserable and I don’t care that I’m in a restaurant just let me lie here and die” awful. The real truth is that the vast majority of what you will be eating is protein, first via protein shakes, then via soft foods like eggs, and then gradually to whole foods like fish, chicken and beef. You can still have the foods you eat now….just know they come with a serious consequence.
Myth #3: WLS is a permanent solution
The truth: yes and no. Yes, it is permanent if you continue to follow good eating habits after surgery. And no, if you get further out from surgery and old food habits start to creep in, then the weight comes back.
Myth #4: WLS will make my life perfect because I’ll be thin
The truth: If I could wish one thing to really sink in to every woman considering surgery, it’s this: being thin does not take your problems away. It doesn’t make your life perfect. You can have WLS, but all of those things that make you want to overeat—the anger, the boredom, the fear, the anxiety—all of those emotional triggers will still be there. And if you have WLS, you will no longer have food to turn to for comfort. So all of those things will be in your face, and you will HAVE to face them and heal them. Otherwise, two or three or five years down the road, you will have regained the weight. You need an emotional support team in place to help you deal with the emotional part of eating. Every single woman I know who had WLS agrees: healing the emotional triggers is the biggest factor in losing the weight and keeping it off. continued on page 22 . . .
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This Isn’t Your Regular
! t h g i N e t a D By: Michelle Dean, Financial Services Professional
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In an ideal world, we would all agree on the path to our financial future, but we don’t live in an “ideal” world. We live in a world where he wants this and she wants that. We have very different ideas on what our retirement looks like and even how we should get there. So how do we make sure we reach the final destination that makes both of us happy? I once met with a client whose husband had grand ideas of growing their financial wealth and had a very aggressive attitude about how the money was invested. Long story short… the investment advisor made lots of commissions and the wife suffered the consequences when the portfolio dwindled down due to all the losses. The husband passed away leaving the wife to figure out how to survive on what was left. There are several things I could point out here that went wrong. First, the investment advisor should have met with both of them to determine what was in the best interest of both, but instead he only met with the husband and did what the husband wanted to do without much regard to the consequences. This is too bad and gives a bad name to the rest of us who work hard at due diligence to make sure we are doing what is in the best interest of our clients (both of them!). Second, the wife should have been more involved in the financial conversations with her husband to make sure her needs and concerns were being addressed as well. Lastly, the husband should have changed his investment strategies over time to lock in gains when they occurred and become more conservative as he aged.
When was the last time you had a date night and talked about money? Arranging a date night at your favorite restaurant with a bottle of wine and no kids (if they are still living at home) is a great way to talk about money in a nonthreatening way. Share your goals for your retirement with each other. For instance, when would you like to retire? How much income will we need each month? What if something happens to one of us how will we make up that income? Will that loss of income be a hardship for the surviving spouse? How much have we saved so far? Will it be enough? Is our portfolio balanced and diversified? How will social security fit in to our retirement and how can we make the most of it? How will taxes and IRS Required Minimum Distributions affect our income? There is much to think about and each choice has its own set of consequences. Starting the conversation is just the beginning, but if you have never done it before now is the time to start!
Once you are talking, each of you should make a list of the things that are important to you during retirement. Such things as having enough monthly income to pay all your necessities, being debt free, traveling, leaving a legacy for your kids or grandkids . . . whatever the things are that are important to you. Now that you have your list each of you should prioritize your own list with 1 being the most important to you. Depending on how long your list is, narrow it down to the top 5 important things to each of you. Now trade lists and prioritize your partners list with 1 being the most important to you. This is where you begin to compromise. Compare the lists with each other and start with the things that you both agree are most important. Now comes the hard part. How do we accomplish it? Well… now would be the time to seek professional help with someone who can help you create a plan to reach your goals. If you already have things in place and feel confident you will reach those goals, then have another glass of wine and schedule your next date night to make sure you are staying on track. If you don’t feel confident about your current plan, than look for a financial professional whom you feel comfortable with… someone who sits down with both of you and takes the time to review your list and talk about your dreams and goals. Someone who takes the time to listen and gives you options that you feel good about! Don’t wait! That is the biggest financial mistake you can make. Every day you procrastinate costs you more money.
Schedule your date night and start the conversation!
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By Cindy Nunnery, INHC Ok, so your eating hasn’t always been perfect. If you’re anything like me, you’ve had your share of emotional eating, stress eating, nervous eating, bored eating, and even just plain lazy-ass eating. When you are in a bad mood, tired, angry, or just feeling down, eating clean and healthy seems so much harder - your motivation to eat well begins to fade and even the simplest food or meal prep seems daunting. Luckily, there are a few tricks that you can use to get you out of your eating funk. You may even be able to see the silver lining and use your eating funk to your advantage!
Here are 5 steps to get you out of your eating funk. 1. Recognize why you are in an eating funk
Why did you just eat what you did? Did something happen today? Did you have a tough day at work or have an argument with your spouse? Are the kids pulling you in so many directions you can’t think? Maybe, you just woke up on the wrong side of the bed? Taking a minute to recognize exactly why you’re eating poorly will help you realize what’s affecting what you put in your mouth. Once you recognize why you are in an eating funk, it’ll be much easier to move past it.
2. Have a pity party
There is nothing wrong with being sad, tired, or upset or asking yourself “Why me?” Indulging your feelings. Letting your body and mind feel how they want to feel instead of fighting them can give great emotional relief. Amazingly, it can help you release your emotions, too. When you do this, it becomes about emotional awareness not eating for comfort. Sometimes a good personal pity party is all you need! 12
3. Remind yourself of what you want
When you are all pitied or cried out, head back to your vision board. Whatever put you in this funk is likely temporary. Looking at your personal health goals and thinking about how you want to look and feel will help you realize how much you have going for you, how far you’ve come, and how much you have to look forward to! This will help you see the cause of your eating funk with a positive twist; it’s an unexpected and empowering step in a new direction!
4. Do something just for you
If you’re still feeling down or can’t quite get off the emotional roller coaster, do something you know will make you happy or smile. Make a delicious salad for your neighbor’s party, do a little gardening, or take a long walk – anything that brings you joy and makes you smile (because you’re getting connected back with your true self). This will divert your attention, and help you to start feeling more like yourself again.
5. Go back to the basics
When all else fails, the best cure for a bad case of the eating blues is a trip back to the basics. Maybe you have been in an eating funk for awhile – doing a healthy sugar & carb detox (see my 5-day Jumpstart) might be what you need. On the other hand, if you’re just having an off day or two (or three), you might consider a one or two day clean eating party.
Do you have a go-to way to pull yourself out of an eating funk? Please Tweet me @cindynunnery and let me know - and good for you for recognizing that you need one.
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By: Belinda Phillips In the fast-paced world we live in today, many of us are seeking ways to reduce stress and create more joy in our lives. One of the most effective tools we all have at our disposal is meditation. I was one of those people who thought meditation was a daunting task. It was too hard to turn off my brain, and I didn’t have the time for meditation. That is, until I learned about the profound benefits of meditation and the scientific studies that validate those benefits. Meditation has been shown to preserve functional parts of the brain that would typically deteriorate as we age. A neuroscientist at Massachusetts General Hospital and Harvard Medical School, Dr. Sara Lazar, looked at the benefits of meditation in brain scans. Typically, as individuals’ age, the part of the brain responsible for executive decision making and working memory (prefrontal cortex) shrinks. That’s why we lose our ability to figure out problems and to remember things. Dr. Lazar looked at the brains of 50 year old people who meditate and was surprised to find that they had the same amount of gray matter in the prefrontal cortex as 25 year old individuals. She also looked at changes in brain volume in five different regions of the brain after study participants meditated an average of 30 minutes each day for eight weeks. Dr. Lazar found that there was in increase in brain volume in the areas of the brain involved in: (1) mind wandering and self-relevance (posterior cingulate), (2) learning, cognition, memory and emotional regulation (left hippocampus), (3) perspective-taking, empathy and compassion (temporo-parietal junction), and (4) producing regulatory neurotransmitters (pons). There was also a reduction in brain volume in the fight or flight part of the brain which is important for anxiety, fear, and stress in general (amygdala) and this change correlated to a reduction in stress levels in the individuals involved in the study. With just a small amount of effort, the participants in Dr. Lazar’s studies were able to positively impact brain function and mood and this correlated with physical changes in the brain as well. Meditation can also create new neural pathways and chemical reactions in our bodies that can affect our thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and experiences. The research of Dr. Joe Dispenza, a neuroscientist, chiropractor and published author who is studying
the effects of guided meditation through brain scans, EEGs, and heart monitors, has shown that this is possible. Dr. Dispenza’s research involves neuroplasticity, epigenetics, psychoneuroimmunology, and quantum physics. His focus is on how we can change our external reality by changing our internal state. Dr. Dispenza states, “When the stress response is turned on to either a real or conjured-up threat, a powerful cascade of chemicals rushes into our system that wakes up our bodies and certain parts of our brain. We unconsciously become addicted to this feeling and our problems, and we keep these situations in our lives to feed our addiction to survival-oriented emotions.” Dr. Dispenza argues that if we can turn on our stress response by thought alone, it is also possible that our thoughts can make us healthy and create positive experiences for us. Dr. Dispenza teaches guided meditation that takes our focus, awareness and energy away from the physical body, and the conscious mind, and into our true potential. Through guided meditation, Dr. Dispenza has shown that we can get out of fear and into the creative process so that unexpected and miraculous experiences can show up. The key to creating this positive change in our lives is to make this a daily practice, like taking a shower and brushing our teeth. If we can master suffering and fear in our lives, isn’t it possible for us to master an internal chemical state such as joy? Why is it that so many of us don’t make that choice? There are many reasons for this. We don’t believe it. We are addicted to our current state of being. Our subconscious is convinced that change is dangerous for us. We are too busy. I decided to take a leap of faith and started a daily, guided meditative practice. I was surprised and delighted with the changes that occurred in my life and in my family’s life as well. Getting out of the chemical cocktail of fear and anxiety and into a state of love, joy, and creation has been life changing. I challenge you to learn more about how this can work for you and to make guided meditation a part of your daily life. I love to share, so feel free to reach out and we can explore ways for you to incorporate this into your daily life.
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Worth of Self or Self Worth = Money? By Kim Boud reau Smith
Giving birth is messy, painful, chaotic, and yet so rewarding. And then there is the baby, so sweet and miraculous, facing many years of different stages of growth, development, joy, and tears. Raising another human being. Crawling, walking, talking, kindergarten, high school, university and so on. It is a beautiful journey. Sound familiar? Sound like owning your own business? I believe so! It is painful sometimes, joyous as well, and yet so rewarding. It is like raising a child, infant stages, toddler, and teens. Stages and phases, a beautiful journey. So why is it I hear time and time again that women, the gender that does the birthing of babies, do not want to go through the same journey with their business? An expectation is set that we launch and instant success should happen. This is not a “get rich quick” system here. It is a journey, it takes time! If you are comparing yourself to others on social media, remember you don’t know the whole story behind the profile picture and the posts. That person could be insinuating that they have a business when they are broke and now we have just a hobby, or someone feeling they are worthy because they are busy doing something that leads to nothing. We need dollars to invest in ourselves and our business to grow. Why all of the attachment to money? It is paper, is it not? It is also a form of energy so why do we place our worth on the dollar bill? Is it that we are in an emotional debt? This is where we need to do self-reflection and self-realization. Own the behavior, and ask how to clean this up. What is the remedy here? Step into an attitude of gratitude. When we own the business, we are the CEO, and we need to delegate, build a team, and wear many hats! Clean up our debt, emotionally, spiritually, and financially. We also need to look at how we feel when approaching money; is it with a dreadful, fearful, lack of mentality? A small re-wire around money needs to be handled and quite frankly around all aspects of our business. You can re-wire those negative feelings around money, so in turn your self-worth is not attached to the money. Now do not get me wrong here. We need money at the 14
end of the day, but when we make emotional decisions around money, we remain emotionally in debt. Hence, the worth tanks when we hit bottom, when we don’t have clients, when we don’t make money and when the phone isn’t ringing and such. We need to allow and not force time. So a few things to consider here: 1. Hiring a financial coach to help you work through the blocks with money. Also placing positive affirmation post it notes in your checkbook, wallet, where you pay your bills and even place positive passwords for your accounts as well. Re-train the brain! Change the attitude. 2. Another possibility while you are changing up the attitude towards money, we need to strengthen our confidence, and realign our self-worth. Two very simple steps are positive affirmations and a gratitude log; this brings more awareness to one’s self. 3. Reading books will assist as well. The Abundance Book by John Randolph Price is a great, simple place to begin. 4. Surround yourself with other business owners, like-minded people who experience similar business challenges and persevere. Support is vital in owning your business! Be surrounded with others who have been where you are, going through similar things that you are experiencing as well.
The bottom line here is Abundance. Abundance is about more than money! And our self-worth is priceless! www.boldradiostation.com
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By Denise Joy Thompson The day began as an “ordinary” travel day, 3 am wake-up, packing, last minute computer work, double-checking of details, copious amounts of coffee, quick drive and drop-off at the airport to wait in line for luggage check-in and then security. I do this about 20 times a year, so everything was moving along as normal. I had no thought of arriving at my destination and receiving a phone call from my brother, with the words “it’s bad, it’s Dad.” As a social worker and a crisis/trauma responder, my words were short and to the point, “Is he dead?” The answer, “Yes, a heart attack.” It is 12:15 pm Eastern, my crisis response and military training kicks in, I get my bag from the baggage carousel of Southwest, I tell my friend Carolyn, who had traveled with me from San Antonio to Orlando (she was a blessing), “I have to get a flight to Iowa, Dad has died.”
continued to grow, and we realized it was not just big waves ascending on our resort. Being from Iowa, my parents had not imagined ever being in a hurricane. Of course my parents agreed one was enough!! It is the memories of our time together which allowed my family to celebrate the life we had with my dad. Yes, we cried. Yes it was frustrating and tense at times deciding on the funeral details, but we CELEBRATED we had him in our life. We joked as we would do something the way Dad used to that he was “channeling” through us. I joked one night as I got up 5 times to go to the bathroom that it was Dad. I measured something the other day 3 times with the measuring tape and I told mom it was Dad channeling (his attention to detail is notorious amongst our family and probably to his friends and co-workers also).
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I was in shock; I knew I had to get home. I wasn’t overly coherent or patient with the airline representatives, at times it was difficult to talk and my tears would well-up. Again my training took over, and I focused on the task at hand. Luckily a supervisor assisted and through booking, re-booking I received a mid-afternoon flight and a price which wasn’t outrageous, which at that moment, price didn’t matter. This was on May 26, huge storms were rolling across the US, leaving that morning we had severe flooding in San Antonio, Houston, and most of Texas, flying to Detroit then into Iowa, I knew there may be some challenges. Even with flight delays, ground closures, re-booking to a morning flight, just in case of a total cancellation, I arrived home that same evening after a 17 hour day of flying and being in airports.
Do not get me wrong. We miss him terribly. What gave us comfort was the fact we could celebrate him, and we talked about the fun times, laughed about our times together, cried together, but we did not focus on what we would not have, we focused on the blessing he was to all of us. My mother, after almost 61 years of marriage, will have a significant adjustment, but we also can talk about anything, the good, the bad, and the “I don’t know(s)”.
Overshadow The Pain
My dad, as most of our dads, is a very important person in my life. My dad was a hard-working man, raised by hard-working parents. I know he loved me and all of the family very much. We had become closer after he and Mom retired, and we spent many weeks of vacation together, with my parents visiting me in which ever state I lived (though they would not visit me in Turkey). We laughed that my parents had the best of both worlds, between vacationing with me and my husband and then with my brother and his family. I like cruises, the beach, and wineries, while my brother and his family liked camping, nature, and hiking. My parents were able to enjoy all of the things they liked by spending time with both of us. Holidays are also important and as much as possible we all would try to be home for Christmas, if not we would Skype and share the opening of presents. In October 2014 while in St. Maarten, my parents even lived through their first hurricane. The waves were really exciting until they
There is no one way to grieve; there is no one model to follow. What I do know is being grateful for what a person has been in your life, being grateful for the time shared, being grateful for having love, being grateful and celebrating the life lived can help ease some of the pain. As I am beginning to write, we just celebrated the first Father’s Day, 25 days after my dad’s death. On 1 July, we celebrated his first birthday after his death. The firsts are oftentimes the hardest, but also the realization of how life has changed. Change may be painful, but it is not impossible. We are not yet “moving on,” but we know as a family we have each other to talk to, to share with, and to seek comfort from. Our family growing up with my dad as an EMT, a firefighter and my work as a therapist, crisis responder and a military member is a bit unique, in the fact we may view death differently, knowing more about death and accidents than most families, perhaps we were better prepared, but we also supported each other and knew we had each other. We will all face the death of a loved one. I wish for you to find comfort in what the loved one brought to your life and celebrate their life and love, let the tears flow both in sadness and appreciation for your loved one. continued on page 23 . . .
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You Don’t Have to Be Young and Wrinkle Free to ROCK Your Second Act! By Lind a Waldon
Do you feel like you’ve lost your confident edge? I see it every day. Women of a certain age, super-saturated with talent, sexiness, wisdom, and experience being overlooked, laid off, and overtaken by younger counterparts. Ladies, it’s time to stop apologizing for your age or body image. Claim your place as the CEO of your own life and show the world your confident style as you ROCK your second act with passion and purpose. I see the effects of aging on my female clients when they’re no longer getting the attention their youthful glow once elicited. The result can be a feeling of invisibility, which can have a devastating effect on relationships, career, and business. If you’re hiding out instead of getting out because you don’t feel good about the way you look, it could be all you need is a STYLE UPDATE to get your style mojo and confidence back. You don't have to be wrinkle-free and thirty to project a confident, gorgeous presence that attracts more business and more opportunities. Your second act is the perfect time to get it right and allow the REAL YOU to show up and shine.
Ladies, it’s time to stop apologizing for your age or body image! Here are a 3 powerful Style Success Over Fifty Strategies to own, honor, and express your confidence so you can move out of the shadows and schedule a photography shoot, create a video, go out on a date, or book a speaking engagement: 16
Style Success Strategy #1: Know your best colors and how to dress your shape not your size.
When you turn fifty, it’s time to reevaluate your colors and garment silhouettes. If you go gray, the colors you look best in change. For example, if you previously wore warm colors such as orangereds and browns, now that you’ve gone gray, your coloring is more harmonious with soft cool colors like gray-blue, raspberry, and taupe. Wearing the wrong color is the fastest way to age you! Wearing the right color especially around your face gives you a radiant glow.
When I became a stylist I still had the same body shape of my younger years. Then menopause happened. All of a sudden I had a tummy, breasts that were less than perky, and varicose veins popping out on my legs. Armed with stylist tricks” I have been able to camouflage what I consider my body flaws and accentuate my best features. I call this “The Art of Distraction.” These are simple techniques that I teach in my style workshop to accentuate your positives and strategically deemphasize areas to bring your body into balance – it’s an art worth mastering! •
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It’s okay to buy pants in multiple sizes so there's always one that fits
Look for fashionable silhouettes that don't hug your middle (i.e., Eileen Fisher)
Indulge in delicious, flattering colors around your face -- whether it's a scarf, beautiful top, or a great necklace
Buy fewer, higher quality fabrics -- they fit and flatter better than cheaper fabrics
Style Success Strategy #2: Dress in Your Authentic Signature Style. Your signature style is the expression of YOU on the inside reflected on the outside. When you are dressing authentically, you are expressing your essence as a nonverbal way of saying, “I know who I am, I like who I am, and I value myself.” More importantly, you’ll feel more like yourself!
You probably have a few pieces in your closet that reflect who you are and those are the pieces you wear most often. My signature style is “Structured Bohemian,” which is a combination of tailored lines mixed with a flowy bohemian flair. The juxtaposition suits my “get-itdone-with-fun” personality. When I work with clients I have them choose a couple words that describe how they want to feel in their clothes. If you haven’t done this yet, your second act is the perfect time! continued on page 24 . . .
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DR. ELISE COHEN HO is an expert in holistic health. With over 25 years of experience, as a Naturopathic Therapist, Relationship & Business Mentor, Amazon Best Selling Author and Motivational Speaker, Elise will support you as you embrace the POWER that lies within so that you can reach the top of our own personal POWER Pyramid of SUCCESS.
F E AT U R E D E X P E R T S SHARON CASE is a licensed, independent Financial Consultant and a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst. As a Financial Consultant, she works with women to help them set financial goals that establish peace of mind and clarity. As a CDFA, Sharon works with women in all stages of the divorce process, helping them deal with financial issues they may never have dealt with before. Sharon is also a public speaker on a variety of financial topics. Sharon lives in the Chicago area and has two children, Kelly who is 30 years old and Bryan who is 27 years old. Her other passions include traveling, reading, and wine! For access to financial worksheets and resources, email Sharon at www.sharon@casewealthmanagement.com CHRISTINE CATOGGIO is a Life Transition Strategist, Women’s Empowerment Coach, Inspirational Speaker, and Best Selling Author. She is passionate about helping women understand and
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Visit Elise at www.elisecohenho.com where she shares healthy living info, recipes, tips on healthy relationships and ideas of how to bring more success into your life. MICHAEL ANNE CONLEY, M.A., LMFT, is a private consultant supporting women who are ready to start choosing them- selves first and loving themselves for doing that. Michael Anne has a 30-year track record of bringing clients to a place of empowerment in the world of addiction recovery. Today, her system makes this transformation possible for anyone in everyday life. She is a motivational speaker, leader of personal development classes and workshops, and author of the ebook, Do YOU HAVE a habit ~ or does your habit HAVE YOU? In addition to consulting, Michael Anne is the Founder and Director of Stillpoint integrative health center in Lafayette, California. Michael Anne says, “I am passionate about helping women step into their value, awaken to their beauty and to themselves because I believe that when women become change agents in their own lives, they transform the world.” Contact Michael Anne at www.habitsintohealth.com
LISA D’ALESSIO is a Transformational Intuitive Master Healer with 2 Master’s Degrees and 25 years of committed leadership to her country and community. She works with women from all around the world who are on the path of self development and are seeking wholeness. Lisa D has two spirit guides and combines 10+ healing modalities to help you remember, embrace, and love the woman you were born to be. Contact Lisa at www.lisadalessio.com for more information
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MICHELLE DEAN has always had an entrepreneurial spirit. She has been an entrepreneur since 1990. Michelle has always been a planner and began making financial plans and goals for herself when she opened her own savings ac- count when she was 13 years old! Going into the insurance business in 2006 was a natural progression for her. She stepped out again to run her own business with New York Life in 2012 and once again enjoys being a Fempreneur. With New York Life, Michelle specializes in helping fellow Fempreneurs (Female Entrepreneurs) with simple financial solutions by sharing tools and guidance to help them feel confident and secure about their financial health. She is also the founder of WHOW (Women Helping Other Women) www.whowlivelovelearn.com. You can find Michelle at www.newyorklife.com/agent/mdean or www.facebook.com/mdeanNYLagent CINDY NUNNERY is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, AADP. She is also an author and speaker. Cindy studied at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition and was taught by Dr. Andrew Weil, Dr. Deepak Chopra, Dr. David Katz, Dr Walter Willett, and Dr. Geneen Roth, among others. Cindy strives to make her coaching and programs simple and effective so that you can seamlessly incorporate them into your busy life. She works with clients to help them make lifestyle changes (not just dietary or exercise changes) that produce real and lasting results. Cindy can be reached at www.cindynunnery.com BELINDA PHILLIPS is a certified ThetaHealing® practioner and instructor and has received certifications in Spiritual Response Therapy, Spiritual Restructuring, Psych K, Reconnective Healing, and Pranic Healing. She is the proud mother of two amazing daughters, Alyssa age 23 and Marlee age 21. Belinda left her career as a lawyer when she was 55 to do what she feels is more aligned with her true purpose in life. She found this true calling while on a journey to help her daughter Marlee who had significant medical problems and special needs. Taking a
practical approach to spiritual energy healing, Belinda empowers people to create rich and fulfilling lives, free of unnecessary obstacles and challenges. Visit www.healingwithbelinda.com and register for your FREE gift and set up your Get to the Root Breakthrough Session now. KIM BOUDREAU-SMITH is a Proprietor of Bold Radio Station, a Turn-Key Service for Radio Show Hosts; #1 International Best-Selling Author; International Speaker & Business Consultant. She created Kim Boudreau Smith Inc. to support women to enhance their Bold selves through Bold Radio Station where they can host a radio show and put their voices out globally. Kim received her life coaching certification from The International Coaching Academy and now focuses her passions in her business. Her goal is to pave the way for our future with inspired and empowered female leaders and teens. Kim teaches people how to have it all without losing anything. Kim can be reached at kim@kimboudreausmith.com DENISE JOY THOMPSON, LISW, ELI-MP is a #1 International Best Selling author, a life coach, military member, Passion Test Facilitator, therapist and transformational speaker. Denise has over 25 years experience as a therapist, speaker, and instructor. She also has 24 years of military experience specializing in trauma and sexual assault support and treatment, including deployments to Iraq and Kuwait, and was recently chosen for promotion to Colonel in the AF Reserves. Denise, through her company The Coach Alliance, offers individual, group, organizational and corporate coaching in life and wellness. She also created a Life Coach Certification program through The Coach Alliance Academy. As the founder/owner of Crisis Re- sponse Consulting, Denise provides crisis and disaster response intervention, management and training to first respond- ers, local, state, and federal agencies and is a faculty member of the International Critical Incident Stress Foundation and ofResiliencySciencesInternational,LLC. Denise can be reached at www.facebook.com/thecoachalliance
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What is Your Mother Story? By Michael Anne Conley, LMFT
I find strength from my mother’s take-charge attitude about life. In her 90 years she moved from her own family into a 59year marriage, and since my father’s death in 2009, she has lived on her own. Last year, she came close to death twice in as many days, but her interest in life prevailed. She has outlived her own mother by many years. Hers is a Mother Story of dedication to her own sovereignty. Some of my clients, born into families beset by addiction, trauma, and tragedy, lacked nurturing role models and entered adulthood without a steady anchor for the human task of selfloving. For them, therapy has been a way to create a Mother Story worthy of their future selves. One such mother was soaked in guilt and grief. Her years of drinking, she was certain, had caused irreparable damage. This led me to say something that was such a relief to her that I’ve continued to share it. “As a parent,” I say to my clients, “there is really only one task. This is true no matter how old your children are, even if they are adults. This most important thing you can do is to demonstrate, through your own behavior, that one is never too old to change.”
I have found my Mother Story.
What about you? How do you carry, inside yourself, the quality of your mother or mothering figures? How have you formed yourself? What is your Mother Story?
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~ Anne Sexton, “Housewife,” in All My Pretty Ones (1961)
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Is Weight Loss Surgery the Right Choice for You? By: Lisa D’Alessio
So, is WLS a terrible thing? No, it’s actually a great choice for the right
people. It really can help you lose weight, and it prevents you from
doing things like eating a whole pie or box of cookies—it’s simply not
2. Why? Why do you want to be thin? Is it to regain health? To regain a lost sense of beauty? Your “why” will often help determine your success. 3. What changes are you willing to make to achieve what you want? Are you willing to change how you eat? To exercise? To say no to sodas and high-sugar treats? Are you willing to make these changes to have what you want? WLS is definitely a lifestyle change and to remain successful, those changes will have to be permanent. WLS can be a wonderful tool to help you lose weight and feel good in
your body again, and for some, it’s a great choice. Knowing what your
expectations are and facing your true willingness to change will help
physically possible to eat that much, unless it’s done over a very slow
you decide if this is the right choice for you.
there are some questions to consider:
And if you have any questions, please reach out to me. I’d love to hear
period. But having WLS does require serious lifestyle changes, so
1. What are your REAL expectations for WLS? To help lose weight? To
clear medical problems? To fix your life? Knowing your real
expectations can help you know if they can realistically be met by
this surgery.
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from you, and I’ll happily answer any questions you might have about
WLS or about healing in general.
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Gratitude and Love Can Overshadow The Pain By Denise Joy T hompson
of my biggest supporters and encouragers. I started writing this on June 23, not even a month from my dad’s death, but did not finish until July 31. I had lost some of my motivation to write, to share my feelings, to be happy. I know I cannot stay in this part of the journey. I, as do the rest of the family, need to move forward a little each day and continue to create our lives, to accomplish goals and live up to everything our dad knows we can do. I can be of more support to Mom and the rest of the family by taking care of myself. As I finish writing this, I know Dad is smiling down on me and my family; I know he loves all of us. Embrace the memories, laugh and cry at the same time, know even though they are gone, you are still here and you can get through this, with no expectations or time frames in which to do so. During this time though, remember to take care of you, it is what our loved one wants us to do.
The picture was taken on May 1, 2015, twenty-five days before Dad’s unexpected death. I cherish he was part of my promotion ceremony. My dad, along with my mom, was and remains, one
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You Don’t Have to Be Young and Wrinkle Free to ROCK Your Second Act! By Linda W aldon
Style Success Strategy #3: Have Fun With Fashion and Enjoy Trends that Flatter Most Body Shapes. Lighten up
when it comes to fashion – get out of your style rut and try some new trends. Break some fashion rules! This is your time to play with fashion and feel good in your clothes. Here are some trends worth trying: •
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Cutout sleeves are really popular and the cutouts are so attractively placed.
Leggings. Yes, leggings. I just dressed my 75-yr-old client in leggings with long tunics and she loves them! She didn’t think they were age appropriate, but I set her straight.
Fluid fits. These aren’t oversized, they’re gently flowing tops, relaxed skinnies, sack dresses, boyfriend jeans and boyfriend shirts over skinny pants. Add a belt to create an hourglass silhouette!
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Believe it or not, the ‘70s are back. That means bell sleeve, kimono, fringe (jackets, purses, and booties), kaftans, tunic tops, empire cut dresses. Lots of flattering fun!
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For a more sensual ‘70s look, try a silky jumpsuit, flared trousers, long boyfriend jacket, tuxedo jacket, wrap dress, denim skirt, cropped pants and shorter hemlines if you have great legs and want to show them off.
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Shoes in gladiator, espadrilles, pointy toe flats, and ankle strap pumps. Even Birkenstocks are super chic this summer!
Being over fifty is a blessing. You get to open the door to the next chapter of your life and reinvent yourself. There’s an unmistakable allure to a mature, confident woman. She feels comfortable with herself and she takes care of herself. She can walk into any room and OWN IT! Stop apologizing for your age, your size, your shape…and START celebrating YOU!
LINDA WALDON is a personal stylist and the creator of Style Your Way to Success, a Step Up and Stand Out Program on a mission to help women over fifty who are ready to overcome their fear of visibility and rock their second act. An inspirational teacher, stylist, and former business executive, Linda writes a style blog, teaches workshops, and offers women over fifty “Love The Skin You’re In VIP Style Sessions” (virtual and in-person), teaches a 4-week, guided online workshop “30 Days to Style Success in Your Second Act” and offers “Second Act Branding Weekends,” at a vacation-setting location on the California Central Coast.
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