So what can you do?

“How do you accept your fat body in the society we live in?” Well, in all honesty, even though this might not sound like an answer, the answer I have for you is this;

“You have no choice You have to accept your body Your body is the body that you’ve been given And YOU only have this life in this body And in this lifetime your body is not going to change its genetics You can restrict and restrict and restrict which you most likely have been doing (whether or not you were capable of sticking to that restriction or not doesn’t matter, you will still be restricting mentally and emotionally regardless) but that will not get you anywhere good. It doesn’t work and it doesn’t change your genetics.”

Your only option is to stop restricting yourself and work on your body image You’ve most likely come to the conclusion that restriction actually causes your body to want to store more fat anyway Most people’s bodies are predisposed to hold onto as much fat as possible when in an energy deficit because that’s sensible!

Your body doesn’t all of a sudden turn stupid because you want a smaller body… it won’t go – “Oh there’s not enough food in the environment, therefore I won’t store fat” Your body is too smart for that.

“And so if you’re in a naturally “fat” body, no amount of restriction will “work” AND if it did “work” AKA if you were able to lose a lot of weight and be in a smaller body, it will completely fuck you up mentally anyway and so its completely off the table regardless!

Restriction does not work

Your body knows what it is doing, Your unsuppressed, healthy and natural body weight may be “fat” but it is perfect for your body

“Body diversity is a thing. It may be fashionable and desirable to be in a lean body, but that is unfortunate. That’s not how bodies work. Bodies come in all different shapes and sizes. This might be hard to accept but recovery from an ED (anorexia, orthorexia, bulimia, binge eating) is about not suppressing your natural body weight and accepting what that may be.

If your body naturally and optimally wants to be a BMI of 30 for example (like mine) then to be anything other than that, you’ll be restricting And if you’re restricting then you’ll have an eating disorder evidently which is why you’re here

You need to make the decision of “I’m going to fully recover and I’m not going to suppress my body weight. And wherever my body needs to go and whatever my body deems appropriate, I’m going to allow it to happen and I will stay completely out of it.”

Then you can relax into that You can’t go into recovery and say “I’m going to go all in and not restrict but if my body gets to a certain size or weight then I’m going to start restricting again” because some people’s bodies are larger sized They are naturally supposed to be there and look fabulous there too!