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No Child Sleeps on the Floor in Our Town
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Black Hills Woman Magazine has truly been a community effort. Within its pages, we have covered everything from the frilly and fun to the scary and serious. It has been our primary mission to provide lift to women and businesses doing good in the community. I decided to start the magazine after a trip to Disney World in January of 2010. Aware of women’s magazines in other communities, I had always wondered why we did not have one. As a marketing consultant, I found a need to have advertising opportunities to focus on the female demographic for many clients. There just were not any women-only media sources available to them. I gave it harder thought. Sometimes you must think, if not me, then who? Or why not me? Well, cue the inspirational Walt Disney. I was in awe of what he had built, the creativity, the attention to detail, the pursuit of excellence, and, above all, his bold bravery at taking things on. The Disney World experience moved me to a hard ‘yes’. As soon as I got back from that trip, I got to work building the financial model. Most of my planning sessions that did not require paper and pen took place on my treadmill (I think better when I’m moving). After weeks of pouring over details, not to mention many accumulated miles on the treadmill, Black Hills Woman Magazine was born.
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For those of you who do not remember, the initial size of the magazine was digest size. I started it that way so women could easily put it in their purse. It also kept printing costs down, which kept ad costs low for small businesses. We also used mostly stock photography for our covers in the early years. But evolve or die, right? I saw the need to expand our options. My desire to have more space for bolder imagery and an airier layout prompted us to increase the size to square but still small enough to fit in many purses. Putting featured women on the covers was probably something I should have done from the start. This up-front promotion benefits the women interviewed in the feature articles, while the artistry of the photographers encourages more readers to pick issues up. As I sit here typing this, we are facing the greatest challenges and changes to come. With so many distribution points compromised by either being closed or not allowing thirdparty deliveries, we are on our second digital-only issue. We are thankful to our loyal readers that our readership numbers are surprisingly strong despite that switch. We will be taking the next few weeks to determine how we navigate the rest of the year, and we know you will be on that journey with us. I cannot fully express my gratitude for the way the community has supported this publication. The only way to do so is to double-down on my dedication to bring you excellent local content and continue to be an economic and communication vein for artists, entrepreneurs, and philanthropists in our beautiful Black Hills. Thank you! Here’s to ten more years.
XOXO Tracy
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Black Hills Woman Magazine would like to recognize the following individuals for their special role in the past, present, and future of the success of the magazine.
ANYA MUELLER CHRIS BERNARD CHRIS HORNICK DEREK STONE DOROTHY ROSBY EMILY PITZ ERIC GARDNER ERIC LOCHRIDGE HOLLY BECKER JEFF WILLIAMSON JENNA FISCHER JENNY VAN ZANTEN JESSIE FEWSON KARA ACEVEDO KAREN ENGESSER KATIE PAVEL LESA KOSCIELSKI LIA GREEN LINDA RABE PAULA FOSTER SHANIA BIERS
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shattered dreams. As a community, we are feeling the depths of uncertainty. We are learning to shift with the shaky ground. We are adjusting, digging into the depths of strength, and refusing to allow devastation to create disconnection. As we emerge from our nestled dens and reach out for the hands of those around us, we are no longer embracing the old, the old routine and the past status quo. Instead, we are asking ourselves, “Where do we go from here?” What does the new normal look like and how do we get there? What might life look like if we choose to shift one more time?
Center Crisis reminds us how fleeting our lives are. With question marks hanging over end dates, much of our society is feeling unsettled. However, distress leaves us with an opportunity- An opportunity to set our eyes and our hearts on what surpasses life. We are deepening our roots, if we were not rooted already, in our faith in God and His ability to redeem the unredeemable. Despair directs us to the hope that is near as Bibles are opened. It stirs up prayers previously left unspoken and for gratitude to be expressed. Perhaps this is where you are finding yourself during this time. As we slowly step into the new normal, what does it look like for you to remain tethered to your faith? What needs to shift? What priorities no longer look like priorities? Where do you need to be bold in cutting out and holding your ground? What might it feel like to truly experience real freedom from the boundaries of schedule, status, material possessions, and “the norms” you, yourself, created; and solely live for something greater?
Soften Calamity also invokes us to join together as a community. It encourages us to see our situation with fresh eyes and a deeper sense of togetherness. We are reaching out to those who have a greater need than ourselves. We are comforting those whose hearts are hurting. We are serving, we are showing up, and we are offering all the time, energy, and presence we can muster. Regardless of race, gender, socio-economic status, or job position, we are coming
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together so we may all reach the finish line less scathed by our circumstance. Truly, we are softening our hearts to the situation and the people before us. As we progress forward, how do you remain tender in order to consistently touch the hearts of others? Where can you serve the underprivileged, the suffering, and the needy who struggle in the “every day� rather than in the day of crisis? What needs to shift in order to create more space in your schedule and in your heart to care for the stranger, your neighbor, perhaps even your very own family?
Experience Maybe the greatest tremor we are feeling during this time in history is the pause, the pause of planning and the pause of gathering. Experiencing the dramatic halt of a routine, the cancellation of vacations and celebrations, and the evaporation of cherished conversations at the local cafe leaves us feeling empty and disconnected. However, through this emptiness, the exquisite beauty of a simple moment emerges. Our eyes are witnessing the colors of
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sunset. Bread and wine are dancing along our taste buds. The melody of a bird’s song is falling gently onto our ears. We are treasuring these experiences deep within our hearts. These day-to-day moments are now the vacations and the celebrations of life itself. We are no longer waiting for the “special occasions” because each precious moment of life is the special occasion presented to us. It is in our ability to recognize this gift that we feel and navigate our tangible experience with childlike love and wonder. In pressing ahead, what does it mean for you to hold onto this wonder? How can you continue to cherish the simple moments and not lose sight of the beauty before you in the minute-by-minute of your days? What might it feel like to walk your neighborhood streets with eyes, ears, and a heart overflowing with awe-struck anticipation? What happens if a Monday becomes your opportunity to experience the same excitement you sought from a vacation? What if “the fix” you strive for is replaced with the daily nourishment of simply participating in the day set before you? The events of the past several months continue to wreak havoc on more than just our health and our finances. They are uprooting much of what we clung to in the past and are leaving us with fresh soil to plant something new. In this moment, we have an opportunity to shift one more time. What does your life look like as we slowly transition into “the new normal”?
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No Child Sleeps on the Floor in Our Town. Katie and Doug Bates launch a local branch of Sleep in Heavenly Peace. By Tracy Bernard
While watching the morning show, Rapid City CRNA for Monument Health Katie Bates saw a man talking about how he was inspired to build and donate bunk beds after learning there were local children who slept on the floor and she thought, “What an amazing cause.” That man was Luke Mickelson, the founder of Sleep in Heavenly Peace. “I hadn’t heard of anything else like it and felt it would be a great project to bring to Rapid City. Not only for the children, but also for the community,“ says Bates. After contemplating it for about a year, she brought up the idea to her husband, Doug. After some discussion, they decided to interview with Sleep in Heavenly Peace for a chapter position. “We got the go ahead to attend the training in Twin Falls, Idaho, in November of 2019. We started the Chapter in January of 2020 and did our first Build on March 1st,” adds Bates. Founded in Kimberly, Idaho, in 2012, Sleep in Heavenly Peace (SHP) is the only charity providing hand-made bunk beds to children who don’t have beds of their own. SHP works in partnership with the community, churches, local businesses, and individuals to turn lumber into bunk beds at events called Build Days. Build Days let employees network and build relationships while learning trade skills and providing necessary and critical support to the local community. Each bunk bed is built from scratch and built to last a lifetime. All power/ hand tools are supplied by SHP. With the mission of “No Kid Sleeps on the
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Floor in Our Town,” SHP then delivers those beds, as well as mattresses, linens, pillows, and comforters to those children who would otherwise be sleeping on the floor or other undesirable scenario. Every child deserves to have a place to lay their head at night that is warm, soft, and promotes a good night sleep. “As we all know, sleep is critical to a child’s emotional and physical development and wellness. We want to support children and families to achieve that, “ says Bates As stated by Luke Mickelson, “Think of all the kids that will be reached, all the dreams that will be saved, the confidence that will be restored, the worry and stress that will be relieved. That’s what happens when a child receives a bed.” “That’s why I do this — for them,” says Bates. “Every moment I get to work with amazing organizations and individuals of the community that have helped me make this dream a reality. Every moment I get to talk and meet with families and the sweet children we deliver beds to. Those are my favorite moments with this organization,” she adds. “Once you deliver a bed to a child that has been sleeping on the floor, you get to experience the joy it brings to the kids and caregivers. This happiness is infectious and maybe, just maybe, we have helped a family by making things a little bit better.”
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DOROTHY ROSBY perfecting the art of a good punch line by pen By Kayla Gahagan
Dorothy Rosby knows comedic timing. As a syndicated humor writer from the Black Hills, she’s spent her career perfecting the art of a good punch line by pen.
So, she wasn’t sure whether to laugh or cry when the Covid-19 global pandemic spread across the world, just as she was prepared to launch a new book decrying life’s hazards. “It makes for a good story,” Rosby said, laughing during a recent phone interview. There was some tweaking to be done—not to the content, which is a collection of humorous essays poking fun at the wiles of modern technology and irritants, but to the title and to the cover design. It was slated to be called Alexa’s a Spy and Other Things to Worry About: Humorous Essays on the Hazards of Our Time. It is now called Alexa’s a Spy and Other Things to be Ticked Off About, and it can be found at local bookstores and on-line. “I could have put it in a drawer when the pandemic hit, but I decided not to,” Rosby said. “There was some paperwork that had to be redone and it was kind of a nightmare, but it was a much smaller problem than a lot of people had.” It’s the same kind of perspective, a keen eye for irony and life experience, that has kept Rosby writing since her early days as a journalism student at Augustana College. “After college, I set out to be a writer of some kind,” Rosby said, and that led her to radio and public relations. She landed a job at Black Hills Works in 1988 and retired from her position as the community relations director there last year after 31 years. “I really, really loved Black Hills Works,” she said. “You grow as a human being working for an organization like that. I loved it there, but it was always my dream to write full time.”
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Dorothy and her husband, Wayne, saved pennies and dimes and paid off their house—and in another twist of grand timing, Rosby made the leap to full-time writer on April Fool’s Day. “I’m as happy as I’ve ever been,” she said. She now writes for 35 publications, including one national publication, Exceptional People. Alexa’s a Spy is her third book, the culmination of a process she has honed over the years. Her ideas for columns and books are often scribbled on scraps of paper, napkins, notebooks— anywhere she can write the antidotes and ideas she sees in the world around her. “I love little notebooks,” she said. “I’m compulsive about writing down everything that strikes me. Every conversation, everything good or bad, or things that get under your skin, that’s an idea.” She files every scrap in a folder and keeps them tucked in a filing cabinet. It’s a method of organization that has yielded great fruit over the years and helps her meet deadlines. “I have ideas for the next couple of years,” she said. “I never face a deadline without an idea. If I did, that would take the fun out of it for me.” Rosby is grateful to live in the Black Hills, where she believes her humor, which she describes as “gentle, self-deprecating and not mean-spirited,” fits well with the Midwest culture. It’s not that way everywhere, she recognizes. “The place I live and grew up in honed my humor and that’s appreciated here,” she said.
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With her hands free to write full-time, Rosby does exactly that, taking her thoughts to paper every single day. “I write every day and I always have, even when I was working full time and raising my son,” she said. “I’m a morning person and I would get up and write for at least 30 minutes. For the 24 years I’ve written a column, I only missed writing in the morning a handful of times. If you welcome the muse every day, I’ve discovered she’s more willing to come.” Consistency, a light heart, and a passion to make the reader smile is a combination that has served her well. Releasing her third book evoked the kind of accomplishment that only comes when the full process is complete, Rosby said. “It’s the culmination of such a long process,” she said. “You feel like there should be some relief, but then you have to market it, which is a whole new job.” While Rosby has long ago mastered the timing of good comedic writing, she said her work isn’t done until it’s in the hands of others. “For me, writing just isn’t done until it has a reader.” BHW
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With the shuffle of a pandemic and all of the uncertainties that surround it, the stress levels in the home are at an all-time high. Our health and wellbeing is a priority now more than ever, and de-stressing plays a big part in keeping our bodies in tune. Doing an at-home facial is a great way to set aside some time to relax and enjoy some pampering. You can find all that you need right in your own kitchen. Here are some at-home recipes for a refreshing facial.
Strawberry Face Mask This mask is great for smoothing and hydrating the skin. Strawberries are high in Vitamin C and alpha hydroxy acids, which both work to smoothen the skin. In a blender mix: 10 fresh strawberries 1/4 cup bee pollen 3 tablespoons raw honey 1 tablespoon olive oil mayonnaise A few drops of lavender essential oil Apply to the face avoiding the eye area, and let sit for 20 minutes. Rinse and finish with a thin layer of moisturizer.
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Cocoa Dream Hydration Mask
This is a great hydrating, anti-inflammatory, and fully edible mask.
In a small bowl mix:
One-quarter of an avocado (mashed)
1 tablespoon cocoa powder
1 tablespoon honey
Apply the mask to your clean, dry skin and leave on for 10 minutes.
Wash off with warm water, and then moisturize as per usual.
Organic Banana Face Mask This mask is excellent at brightening and refreshing the skin and can be used even on sensitive skin. In a bowl mix: ½ banana (mashed) 1 tablespoon orange juice 1 tablespoon honey Apply the mask to your face (lumps are totally fine!) and keep the mixture on for 15 minutes. Rinse with lukewarm water and then moisturize.
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Did you know ? Honey is not only tasty; it is great for skin! • Honey is naturally antibacterial, so it’s great for acne treatment and prevention. • Full of antioxidants, let’s call it skin food! • Honey is highly moisturizing and soothing, giving you a bee-kissed glow. • Honey opens up pores, making them easy to unclog.
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Treating People as People, Not Problems Santee Clemons Woman | Native American | Police Officer By Heidi Bell Gease
Santee Clemons always knew she wanted to work in law enforcement. “I haven’t ever had a Plan B for what I wanted to do in life,” she says. “It’s just always been my goal.” Clemons, 29, has been a sworn officer with the Rapid City Police Department for three years now, but she began learning the ropes long before that. At 16, she joined the RCPD’s Cadet Program, which gives teens hands-on experience with law enforcement tasks such as directing traffic. Later, Clemons became a community service officer. That job involves dealing with belated reports, accidents, identity theft, and the like—basically nothing “in progress.” “I just chose to do it to get my foot in the door basically,” she explains. “You definitely have a one-up on the other people starting when you have community service officer experience.” Being the only Native American woman currently on the force can also be an advantage in a job that frequently involves working with native community members. “People actually are more comfortable around me,” Clemons says. They become more relaxed when Clemons—an enrolled member of the Rosebud Sioux Tribe—responds to a call. “They tell me who they’re related to and I tell them who I’m related to,” she smiles. “It’s really cool to connect with people that call you for help.” Native Americans make up less than 20 percent of the local population but have historically accounted for more than 50 percent of arrests. Clemons, who is one of a just a handful of native officers on the force, has seen those situations from both sides. “The way I grew up was pretty rough. I had a hard upbringing,” she says, noting that police were often called to her neighborhood in Lakota Homes. “A lot of the calls we respond to,
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I’ve been there.” Clemons knows how it feels to be a child caught up in a situation she can’t control. That’s made her especially mindful of treating people as people, not problems. “It’s all about the impressions that you’re leaving with that family,” she remarks. “Are they going to remember you in a good way, that you were there to help?” “That interaction could dictate whether that kid or that family calls for help again if they truly need it,” she says. “That’s important to remember.” Newly retired Police Chief Karl Jegeris worked to make local law enforcement more diverse and to improve relations with the native community. He and Pennington County Sheriff Kevin Thom created the Akicita Mentorship Program for native students at Western Dakota Tech, pairing them with native officers such as Clemons in hopes of encouraging more qualified job applicants. A diverse police force may be even more important in the wake of George Floyd’s death in May. Floyd, who was black, died under the knee of a white policeman in Minneapolis, sparking protests across the country. Clemons and other officers worked long days during protests in Rapid City to ensure public safety. For Clemons, whose husband Mark is currently deployed, that meant juggling work and parenting sons Kent, 8, and Noah, 2. “That was a tough couple of days,” she said. “I never thought I would see something like that in my career, to be honest … You’re thinking ‘okay, I hope everybody acts accordingly’.” Calls for reform should be heard, she said, “especially to address the officers that are in this
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profession that should not be in this profession. The ones that do things like abuse their authority, which causes some tragic things to happen such as George Floyd’s death.” At the same time, she hopes people remember that the vast majority of officers are committed to helping people. “That’s what we’re here for. We’re here for our community,” she said. “No matter what the opinion is regarding us as police officers, we’re still going to suit up and go do our job and help people.” Rapid City is very supportive of its law enforcement, she said. And while native/police relations remain a work in progress here, “I completely trust everybody I work with.” Clemons has found her fellow officers to be very respectful of Native American culture. When two officers received star quilts in appreciation from a native family, they sought Clemons out to ask if and how they should use the quilts. “They knew it was important, like it was a significant thing in native culture, but they were
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too embarrassed to ask the family,” she said. “That made me so happy,” that they wanted to do the right thing. Doing the right thing is what it’s all about. Clemons frequently tells children, including her boys, that the police are there to help. “You really have to truly want to help people and that’s where your heart has to stay,” she said. That may be where her son’s heart is, too. “Kent tells me he wants to be a police officer when he grows up,” Clemons said. “He has a million questions.” BHW
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In Love we Trust Financial Infidelity
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Research shows that the divorce rate in America is going down. A 2019 paper published in the peer-reviewed journal Socius attributes this decline to the fact that fewer people are getting married in the first place. The paper also notes that many existing marriages are becoming more stable, too. This is good news for married couples. But no matter what your relationship is like, it’s still important to be aware of the leading causes of divorce and what sort of issues can threaten the stability of a marriage. Chief among these issues are financial problems, including one specific problem that has proven to be just as emotionally painful as an extramarital affair: financial infidelity. What is Financial Infidelity? Financial infidelity involves spending money, saving or stashing money, borrowing money, or amassing and hiding income and/or debt without one’s spouse or partner knowing. Financial infidelity may be more common than you think. According to research shared by NPR, as many as 41 percent of adults admit to hiding some of their debt, spending habits, or financial accounts from their partners. A recent survey of Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® professionals revealed that money issues are responsible for nearly a quarter of all divorces in the United States. Another survey from CreditCards.com suggests that millennials (generally thought to be people born between 1981 and 1996) are more likely to hide financial information from their partners than people from older generations, although the problem can affect couples of all ages. Financial infidelity can present differently in every relationship and may include small or large sums of money. In addition, dishonesty about money may start out innocently and then snowball into a major problem, or it could be a sign of deeper relationship troubles, including abuse and unhealthy power imbalances. No matter how financial infidelity shows up in a relationship, the consequences can be intense. Discovering a partner is lying about how much debt they have, how much money they spend, or what sort of things they’re buying can result in deep feelings of betrayal that threaten the stability and longevity of a marriage. In many cases, financial infidelity can
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threaten a couple’s long-term financial future. Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to tell if a partner is being dishonest about finances, especially because of modern-day technology like paperless billing and password-protected accounts. Here are a few warning signs of financial infidelity to look out for in your marriage, according to TheSimpleDollar.com. These signs don’t necessarily prove that financial deception is going on. But they may be enough to trigger your suspicion and encourage you to have a discussion with your spouse or investigate the issue further. •
You find statements to credit cards or other accounts you didn’t know about before.
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Your partner suddenly wants to open a post office box without having a good
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Your partner starts to react very emotionally whenever money is brought up or
seems suddenly more worried than usual about finances. (Of course, the current economic turbulence we’re facing due to the global pandemic could explain this kind of emotional reactivity, too.) •
Your partner suddenly has a lot of new possessions or spends money on trips,
outings, and other hobbies, or becomes unusually generous by buying things for you, your kids, or other people. •
Your partner has a hobby or favorite pastime that tends to cost a lot of money, such
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There’s no one right way to handle finances in your marriage. Some couples prefer to keep their finances largely separate, while others prefer to pool their resources together. No matter how you decide to manage your money, it’s important you and your spouse remain honest with each other. Finally, please note that nothing here should be construed as legal advice. If you suspect your partner is hiding financial information or money habits from you, use your best judgment to decide what to do next. This may include speaking to your spouse directly and as nonjudgmentally as possible, going together to a financial planner, or talking privately to a counselor or lawyer. No matter what you decide, make sure you take whatever precautions are necessary to ensure your rights are protected. BHW
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Working From Home When the Kids Are Home, Too By Kimberly Blaker
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Whether you usually work from home or you’ve been thrust into this new dynamic because of COVID-19, working from home can be a challenge while juggling educating and caring for kids. Even as stay-at-home orders begin to lift, many companies and individuals will continue to work from home for many months ahead to maintain social distancing. On top of this, both school and work closures may go back and forth as the country, state, and communities deal with the uncertainties of the pandemic. Already, kids and parents alike feel stuck and miss their friends, activities, and normal routines. This new family dynamic, coupled with the anxiety and stress from what’s happening in the world, may make it seem impossible to get anything done. But the following tips can help you develop a routine and environment that works for you and your family so you can get your job done. Create and Follow Routines Kids thrive on consistent routines like those they have at school. Make a list of what your family needs to get done throughout the day—work calls, completing tasks, school Zoom meetings, school work, meals, chores, and anything else. Be sure to include some time for fun as well! Now, start filling in a schedule with the activities that occur at set times and work in other responsibilities and activities to create a family schedule. Include your kids in the planning so they feel involved and are more willing to follow the routine. Then, post the schedule where the whole family can see it. Also, be sure to adjust the design of the schedule for the age of your kids. Younger children benefit from straightforward visuals using bright colors, precise times, and pictures to make the schedule clear. Set Clear Expectations Kids and adults tend to do better when there are clear expectations set beforehand. Agree on a set of rules and expectations for the day regarding your work time and their school time. With older kids, sit down and make a written contract. If you have younger kids, work together to create a poster with visuals. To make it clear, talk about what different parts of
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your schedule, especially your work time, look and sound like and what everyone should and shouldn’t be doing. This will probably be a difficult adjustment at first. It can help to set up a visual reminder to let your kids know when you cannot be disturbed except for emergencies. Create a sign outside your workspace that clearly states the beginning and ending time of your work hours. This can help kids to be more patient. For younger kids, use a countdown clock so they can anticipate the end time. Designate a Workspace If you’re not used to working from home, recreating a space that feels like going to a workplace can get you into a better routine and improve your focus. Try to create your workplace away from the main areas of your home and, if possible, with a door you can close. These tricks will also help remind your kids not to disturb you when you’re in your workspace. Make your workspace as similar to the one at your job as possible. You can also play music or wear noise-canceling headphones to reduce distractions if another adult or older child is there to care for the younger ones. Ask for Help This isn’t the time to try to do everything yourself. If you have a partner at home, take turns spending time with the kids so you can each have uninterrupted time to focus on work or time to yourself to recharge. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or are struggling to get something done for work, talk to your boss or team about the situation before things become too difficult. Everyone is affected in some
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way by the COVID-19 outbreak and, therefore, will likely understand. If you’re struggling to balance work and being home with the kids, try talking to them at their level. Kids are more aware and understanding than we often realize. An open conversation with them may help. Be Flexible No one knows how long this is going to last, and everything about sheltering in place is new, just realize it will take time to adjust. Even if a strategy works one day, it may not work the next. This is a difficult time for kids as well, who may not fully understand what’s going on or be able to handle it emotionally. Unexpected things will come up in your work, with your kids, or any other aspect of your life. Try to build in some wiggle room because you’ll likely need to make changes as you go. For example, if the day is going really smoothly, perhaps work a little longer to accomplish a bit more in case things don’t go smoothly on another day. Stay Positive Focus on the positive aspects of being home with your kids. Remember, the circumstance is only temporary. Things will eventually get done, and everyone is trying their best to manage right now with their own set of challenges and obstacles. Try to balance work and quality time with your
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