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Inside this Issue

The 4 Horsemen of Relationships Relationships

Susan Turnbull Artist

19th Amendment

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Women Voter Trends Feature

Nonpartisan Rant Against Partisanship Humor

Nicole Heenan: Local Advocate... Girl Gives Back

How High is too High Health and Fitness

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Criticism

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Dr. John Gottman is a psychologist and relationship researcher.

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studied couples for over 40 years and is known as a marriage stability expert. He’s also famous for predicting whether a couple will divorce with over 90 percent accuracy! How is he so good at foreseeing a not-so-happy ending? In his research, Dr. Gottman has discovered four key relationship characteristics that are highly predictive of divorce. They are so damaging to a marriage that Dr. Gottman dubs them the Four Horsemen of Relationships (after the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse). Take a look at these Four Horsemen and see if they regularly ride up in your marriage.

Criticism Criticism hurts a marriage when one partner attacks the other person’s character rather than his or her behaviors. Over time, it can lead to feelings of rejection and distrust. Criticism is different from constructive feedback, which is uncomfortable but important in establishing boundaries and managing relationship conflict. Criticism sounds like this: “Why are you always late? You are so self-centered and disrespectful of my time.” Constructive feedback sounds like this: “I feel frustrated when you’re late to dinner because it makes me think you don’t care about spending time together.” See the difference?

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Contempt The classic look of contempt is a lip curled up and a furrowed brow. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s an ugly emotion that causes one partner to feel morally superior to his or her spouse. Contempt looks and sounds like insults, cruel sarcasm, ridicule, and put-downs. Think of it as criticism on steroids. Incredibly, research shows people who are in contemptuous relationships are more likely to experience physical as well as emotional illnesses. This could be because the stress of being the target of their partnerâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s contempt can lead to chronic inflammation, which can damage their immune system. 10

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Defensiveness It’s normal to want to defend yourself against attacks of criticism. But if a person acts defensively against his or her spouse too often, it can be a sign of impending trouble. People who are overly defensive make a lot of attempts to make excuses, justify their behaviors, paint themselves as a victims, and try to shift blame on their partner. It’s hard for a highly defensive people to see things from their partner’s perspective and try to address problems together as a team. Excessive defensiveness in a relationship may be a dysfunctional but normal response to excessive criticism and contempt. You might see how this can create a vicious cycle of even more criticism, contempt, and defensiveness.

Stonewalling Take anyone to a breaking point and at some point he or she may simply decide to withdraw and shut down. Well-known in the field of psychology, stonewalling is an unhealthy coping mechanism that can erode marital bonds. Stonewalling is an avoidance tactic and may look like this: •

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Stonewalling is not the same as telling your partner that you need a time-out so you can calm down. It’s more like a decision to be uncooperative and alienating. And without cooperation, it’s extremely difficult for two spouses to work as a team through the unavoidable conflicts that will arise in their marriage. BHW

1. Be curious. You don’t have to be hyper-vigilant nor analyze your marriage with a fine-toothed comb. But it helps to be curious about the overall theme of your interactions with your spouse. This can help you notice unloving behaviors so you’ll be more likely to change your approach. Working with a licensed marriage and family therapist or mental health professional can help. 2. Take good care of yourself. When you’re stressed, sleep-deprived, hungry, or overworked, you tend to act less thoughtfully and more reactively. Regularly practice self-care techniques like exercise, meditation, journaling, and spending time with friends. 3. Assume you are 100 percent responsible for your thoughts, words, and actions. Own your role in conflicts with your spouse and give genuine apologies when they are warranted. 4. Be thankful. Show and tell your appreciation to your partner regularly. Your expressions of gratitude are like deposits into your “emotional bank account.” This helps buffer you against the inevitable moments of conflict that will arise. In addition to being thankful for your partner, be thankful for yourself, too. Believe that you are doing your best at all times to be a good partner. Tell yourself you are an asset to your spouse—then act that way. You’d be surprised by what a few positive thoughts can do.

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From the Editor

ARTIST Susan Turnbull

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PERSISTENCE. It’s a characteristic Susan Turnbull has embraced, an engine that has propelled her forward as a talented artist and one of Rapid City’s pioneering female business owners. “You have to stay persistent because there are so many things worth fighting for,” says Turnbull, whose recent artwork graced the Dahl Arts Center in a shared exhibition with her husband Bill Fleming. Fleming and Turnbull have been partners and soulmates for more than 30 years and the recent Dahl exhibit “He Said/She Said” explored the lifelong conversation of two lovers of art, and each other. Fleming’s artwork showcased his digital images and intricate, elaborate drawings cataloged in sketchbooks. Turnbull’s work included larger, colorful, robust paintings of faces and abstract landscapes. A shared exhibit had been talked about for years, and it was moving to see it all come together, Turnbull muses. Turnbull’s artwork has appeared all over the country, including shows in upstate New York and Santa Fe, New Mexico. Right now, though, she’s finding the space and inspiration to pursue larger works right here in her Rapid City art studio. “I love the larger format with abstract,” she exclaims. “That is what is on my easel right now.” She’s drawn to faces, the depth and emotion conveyed through the eyes, a smirk, the twitch of a lip. “I will always paint faces,” she says. “I just love the emotions human beings put out there — so complex and simple at the same time. Turnbull has also captured facial nuances through the illustration of several children’s books over the years. “With children’s books, there’s a lot of opportunity to play with emotions and

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expressions as well, even if it happens to be the face of a fat little raccoon,” she says. Turnbull is an outspoken creator; her talent and leadership are on display through her work at Hot Pink Ink in downtown Rapid City and voiced through her artwork in galleries and publications nationwide. She gravitates toward politics, a passion she discovered while studying art at the American Academy of Art in Chicago in the late 60s and early 70s. “It was an amazing experience,” she reflects. “It was a colorful time full of lots of political protests. We were knocking on doors for campaigns. Politics is in my heart and soul and women’s rights have always been at the forefront

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“It’s really about being true to who you are,” she points out. Today, with Fleming by her side and a strong staff, she is able to split her time between Hot Pink Ink and her personal art studio. It’s not without some internal struggles. “The balance is so difficult,” she exclaims. “I’m a bit of an emotional artist and when I get in a mood, it’s hard to stop my artwork and then start it again. I have a fantastic staff and when I need to take a couple days off at the end of the week so I can have a long studio session, it works. That’s the only way I know how to create a big body of work for some of those shows.” Turnbull envisions a full future — more travel to inspiring places, creation of new artwork, and time with her family. Between the two of them, Fleming and Turnbull have seven kids and a dozen grandchildren. “I want to travel to Paris again, illustrate more children’s books, create exciting new works of art, and, of course, spend lots of time with my grandkids,” she says. “They inspire me every day.” BHW of that.” Her time in Chicago also shaped her artwork as much as her politics. Her studies at the Academy gave her an edge when she started the uphill battle of opening a business in western South Dakota. “Starting a business as a woman in 1986 was challenging,” she said. “There was a lot of discrimination.” If there’s anything she’s learned over the years, it’s not to get distracted by the hurdles.

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19th Amendment

100 Years of Finding a Voice for Women By Alissa Messinger

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Change in America is slowâ&#x20AC;Śand painful....and downright dangerous for those willing to push the envelope. Dating back to the creation of this nation, women yearned for a voice, a piece of the pie, representation in the government that made decisions for them. Unified in their desire, but unable to agree on a tactic, it would take 71 years and generations of women to achieve what too many of us choose not to exercise: the right of women to vote found in the 19th Amendment to the Constitution.

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The Seneca Falls Convention in 1848 was the first formal gathering of people attempting to organize a movement promoting women’s suffrage. While no real gains were made, they drafted the Declaration of Sentiments, which was based on the Declaration of Independence and declared all men and women were equal and deserved equal rights. Women’s hopes were raised in 1861 when President Lincoln issued the Emancipation Proclamation, which freed the slaves and gave them full rights as citizens, including the right to vote. It did not, however, extend this right to women. This was a major disappointment to the suffrage movement. Activists felt if men who had been brought up in servitude were to be afforded the right to vote, why not the women who helped forge this great nation as well? National leaders such as Susan B. Anthony, Lucretia Mott, and Elizabeth Cady Stanton realized the fight for women’s suffrage was going to require a more grassroots approach. It was determined the newest states in the west would be the best opportunities to gain women’s suffrage on a state-bystate basis. Women’s roles in rough and dangerous homesteading areas were more valued. To this end, Wyoming would be the first state to give women full voting rights in 1890, followed by Colorado, Utah, and Idaho. The road to women’s suffrage in South Dakota would not be so easy. Legislation that would have provided full suffrage to women lost by one vote in 1875. In 1883, women in the Dakota Territory were given the right to vote only in school elections. In 1885, legislation in favor of women’s suffrage passed, only to be vetoed by Governor Pierce. Susan B. Anthony and Carrie Chapman Catt toured our state, lecturing and organizing; however, two more attempts at full voting rights for women in South Dakota would fail in the final decade of the 1800s. While their names may not be familiar, South Dakota women also took up the fight. Mamie Shields Pyle organized and became the president of the South Dakota Universal Franchise League, which worked through three more legislative attempts for women’s suffrage in the early 1900s until it finally passed in 1918. Alice Pickler and her husband, John, who was one of the first congressmen from South Dakota, used their platform to advance women’s suffrage both in South Dakota and on the national stage. Alice spoke all over the state, saying, “If woman’s influence, presence, and counsel is good in the home, it will be good in the State. If purity is good for the home, it is good for the State.”

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small farms and towns scattered across the state was challenging. Advocates like Ruth Hipple came up with the solution of starting a newspaper called The South Dakota Messenger that could more easily spread the word and educate women and men about the suffrage movement. The United Statesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; entry into World War I in 1917 brought the invaluable role of women into focus for all Americans. Women proved essential on the home front, taking over jobs and businesses for the men who left to fight as well as joining soldiers on the front lines as nurses and Red Cross volunteers. President Wilson changed his view on the suffrage movement and the 19th Amendment was finally passed in 1919 and ratified by the requisite 36 states, including South Dakota, in 1920, ensuring that across the country, the right to vote could not be denied based on sex. Voting is a verb; it requires action. You need not be the one standing on a soapbox in the middle of Main Street Square, but you do need to find your voice and make it heard by coloring in a bubble on a ballot. Vote for candidates that magnify your voice or, even better, add your name to the ballot. We owe it to the thousands of women who risked their very lives to give us a voice in what happens to us and our fellow citizens. In the midst of the current pandemic, opportunity for change exists. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to speak because people have been afforded the time to listen.

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Women Voter

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One hundred years after passage of the 19th Amendment, the female vote does tend to differ from the male vote. By Heidi Bell Gease

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Women didn’t flock to the polls after they earned the right to vote in 1920. And those who did vote were expected to follow their husband’s lead. “How will (women) vote on election day? Just exactly as they were told the night before,” George Gallup reportedly said in 1940. Not anymore. One hundred years after passage of the 19th Amendment, women have become a force to be reckoned with at the polls. According to the Center for American Women and Politics (CAWP) at Rutgers University, women voters have outnumbered men in every U.S. presidential election since 1964. There are more women than men registered to vote (81.3 million women vs. 71.7 million men in 2018). The voter turnout rate among women is also greater than in men (55 percent vs. 51.5 percent in 2018, a non-presidential election year). It wasn’t until 1980 that a clear gender gap was documented in poll results, with women and men voting significantly differently on issues and candidates. Up until the 1960s, women “generally voted the same as men,” Bloomberg News reports. But as more women joined the workforce and delayed marriage, their views began to shift. In 1980, the Republican Party shifted to the right on several issues relevant to women: it dropped support of the Equal Rights Amendment, adopted an antiabortion position, and courted conservative Christians who “lamented the effects of working women on ‘traditional’ families,” writes Derek Thompson of The Atlantic. Ronald Reagan easily won the presidential election that year, but it was largely thanks to men: he received 54 percent of the male vote but just 46 percent of the female vote — a gap of 8 percentage points.

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in their perspectives on public policy issues or voting behavior prior to this election, but after the 1980 election, the National Organization of Women (NOW) noted a difference in the votes of men and women and made it a news story. The rest is political history.

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(The gender gap in presidential elections since then has ranged from 4 points to 11 points, according to the CAWP. When Donald Trump defeated Hillary Clinton in 2016, he received 52 percent of the male vote but just 41 percent of female votes — an 11-point gap.) Barbara Burrell, a retired political science professor and author of “A Woman’s Place is in the House,” writes in the Journal of Women, Politics & Policy: “It was not that men and women had never diverged in their perspectives on public policy issues or voting behavior prior to this election, but after the 1980 election, the National Organization of Women (NOW) noted a difference in the votes of men and women and made it a news story. The rest is political history.” Since then, a segment of the voting populace that was once considered irrelevant has come to center stage in the dynamics of campaigns and policy making. How and why women vote have also been the subjects of numerous studies and analyses. Women in the U.S. tend to vote more to the left, just as they do in other modernized countries such as Denmark, Ireland and Japan, Bloomberg reports. By contrast, women in less-developed countries such as Turkey, Chile, and Spain tend to vote to the right. CAWP cites 2012 polling showing that, compared with men, women are “more likely to favor a more activist role for government, [be] more supportive of programs to guarantee health care and basic social services, [be] more supportive of restrictions on firearms, [be] more supportive of same-sex marriage, and [are] more likely to favor legal abortion without restrictions.” As U.S. politics has become more ideologically polarized, the parties have split on issues such as homosexuality, caring for the poor, and deploying military force. More women have gravitated toward the Democratic Party, Bloomberg reports, while more men have moved to the Republican Party. A look at recent election numbers brings new meaning to the phrase “Girl Power.” In the 2018 midterm election, CAWP says it was women of color in particular who helped the Democrats regain the U.S. House of Representatives, with 92 percent of black women and 73 percent of Latina women voting for Democratic candidates. The 2008 and 2012 elections of President Barack Obama also show the impact women voters can have on an

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election, Kelly Dittmar, an assistant professor of political science at Rutgers-Camden and a scholar at CAWP, told The Washington Post. In both elections, black women turned out to vote at a higher rate than any other group of voters. And in 2012, 96 percent of black women voted for Obama, which Dittmar said sealed his victory. Women will likely play a key role at the polls again this fall. Morley Winograd, a senior fellow at the University of Southern California’s Annenberg School Center on Communication Leadership and Policy, told U.S. News & World Report that the gender gap trend has accelerated since Trump was elected, noting the “outsize impact” of female voters on Democratic wins in 2017, 2018, and 2019. A survey by the Barbara Lee Family Foundation found 29 percent of women have gotten more involved in politics over the past three years, with an even higher percentage among millennial and minority women. The Foundation’s Amanda Hunter told U.S. News & World Report that Trump’s election may be a factor in that, “but there really has been a big momentum surge since the (2017) Women’s March that we don’t truly attribute to any one thing.” Whatever the case, make your voice heard. register at www.vote..org. BHW

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5 HEalthy Habits Checklist Never put your child to bed with a sippy cup with juice or sweet liquids! Begin weaning your children from sippy cups and bottles around the age of one Brush the teeth twice a day with a peasized mount of fluoride toothpaste. Begin flossing teeth once per day when teeth are contacting each other. Encourage drinking fortified milk and water with fluoride as much as possible JUICES ARE LOADED WITH SUGAR

40-50% of children will be affected by tooth decay before the age of 5. It is important to know the main contributing factors to tooth decay are sugar and bacteria. Bacteria in plaque feed on sugars that are in your mouth which creates acid. The acid environment will slowly weaken and “cavitate” the protective layer of your tooth enamel. This process can happen quickly in children depending on how they consume the beverage. Sippy cups or bottles are created to release liquid slowly which allows the sugary content to stay in the mouth longer instead of being swallowed.

However, you don’t need to completely eliminate juice in your child’s diet. Consider using some of the healthy habits above to help prevent tooth decay. Good nutrition habits begin when you are young. By setting a positive example for your children now, you and your family can have a healthy future and a healthy smile. Brought to you by the doctors and staff at Black Hills Pediatric Dentistry. The team welcomes questions and is happy to help protect your childs teeth!

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Nonpartisan Rant against Partisanship By Dorthy Rosby

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remember clearly the first time I participated in a presidential election. The next

day, an acquaintance asked me who I’d voted for and I made the mistake of telling her. That sounds crazy now. But I was young, naive, and still under the impression that we lived in a free country where everyone could vote as he or she wished. How wrong I was. She scolded and criticized me and promised to hold me personally responsible for any harm that befell this great nation from that day forward. I was so ashamed of myself that I apologized and promised to ask her advice before the next election. No I didn’t. But I did realize then that all of us are the most open to hearing another person’s opinion when it’s exactly like ours. It was the first in a long list of lessons I’ve learned about partisanship. As we face another election, I think it’s a good time to talk about some of the others. 1) Everyone is biased. Except for me. I’m not biased; I’m right. Kidding! Everyone is indeed biased. That explains why we’ll accept behavior in our candidate we’d find repugnant in the other candidate. My candidate is open and willing to change his/her mind after gaining new information. Yours flip-flops like a fish on the bank. Mine is determined. Yours is pigheaded. Mine stands on principle. Yours is an obstructionist. Not only that, yours is too old. Mine is mature. Yours is too young. Mine has fresh ideas. Yours is an insider. Mine is experienced. Yours caves in to special interests; mine caves in to my interests, which is as it should be.

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2) If everyone I know agrees with me on every issue, either I don’t have enough friends or the ones I have are afraid to speak their minds around me. I was once at an event where another guest suggested it was okay to beat up people from the political party he was not affiliated with. He was joking—I think. But I noticed no one else mentioned party affiliation. 3) I cannot change anyone’s mind—unfortunately. But then no one can change mine either. Several years ago, an acquaintance asked me how I planned to vote in the upcoming election. Having learned a thing or two from the previously-mentioned experience, I mumbled my answer and prepared to run if necessary. But instead of criticizing me, this woman said gently, “Let me educate you.” Those were her exact words. Being open minded, naturally I said, “I’d love that. Let’s have lunch and talk. I’ll buy.” No I didn’t. Occasionally, we change our mind. Our thinking evolves as we take in new information. But I don’t believe we ever change our mind because someone sets out to “educate” us. And I know for certain we never change it because someone calls us a boneheaded nitwit on Facebook. 4) We should never behave as badly as the people we think behave badly—in other words, those from the other party. I know of a columnist who was once shoved against the wall with a shopping cart by a man who disagreed with her politics. I don’t know why he didn’t just stop reading her column. Her first instinct was to pull out her phone and pretend to video him, though she was too upset to actually do it. As it turns out, it was a good strategy and one I’ll keep in mind if I’m ever attacked by someone who doesn’t like my column. The guy stomped away rather than have his behavior show up on YouTube. And I’m sure he was thinking she was the one who was a danger to society. 5) People don’t need my permission to believe what they believe, though I really wish they did. I know a man who, after being followed closely for several blocks, pulled his car over to see if there was a problem. Two men got out of the other car and strongly suggested he remove his political bumper sticker. Fortunately, that’s all they did. If you’re wondering, he didn’t take their advice, and I bet he doesn’t check with them before he gets another one either.

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I’ve always had the sense that if people of different viewpoints worked together, things could be better for everybody. But maybe that’s just something I heard on Sesame Street. It’s worth a try though, don’t you think? Let’s you and I rise above the fray and respect other people’s beliefs—foolish as they may be. Let’s never take for granted how truly wonderful it is to live in a land where individuals can think what they think. Of course, unless they think like we do, they’re not only woefully misinformed; they’re a few chads short of a full ballot. But still, isn’t it wonderful? (Contact Dorothy Rosby for advice on who to vote for in the next election.)

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cause, according to Nicole Heenan. “If you care about something, you can find a way to advocate for it, even in small ways,” says Heenan, 37, whose local advocacy for women’s rights and income equality have placed her on the map of leaders eyeing change in the state’s politics and local initiatives. “There’s nothing special about me. I was just bold and crazy enough to try and make a difference. If you want change, people are willing to support your efforts.” Heenan became a member of the American Association of University Women (AAUW) in 2012 and has been the state president since 2016. She was recently named the first South Dakota Ambassador for the United State of Women, a national organization focused on supporting women’s equality. Heenan ran unsuccessfully for the Pennington County Commission in 2018, and the experience turned her eye toward advocacy. “I never would have done that without the support and mentorship of the AAUW,” she said. “It was fun campaigning and inspiring people to vote. It’s empowering to talk to people and remind them their vote counts just as much as someone who lives in a house four times as large as theirs, or who has no house at all.”

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It connected her to a community that had a lot going for it, she reflects, but needed to change. “It made me realize that maybe I don’t want to be a politician, but I have a voice and an obligation to keep working to engage young people to vote,” she adds. She was approached by USOW to apply for the ambassadorship and discovered the organization aligned with her mission to empower women and also supplemented her goals at AAUW. “Their missions are similar, but the structure of the institution and their efforts are radically different, so it’s nice to be in both pools of women,” she said. “In AAUW, we’re making efforts, but we really struggle to get the engagement of young voters.” More than 40 percent of voters come from Generation Z, she added. “It’s so important to engage with them on important and impactful issues,” she said. Heenan graduated from Sturgis Brown High School, completed her undergraduate work at Black Hills State University in psychology, completed a research project in South Korea, and went on to earn her master’s degree in Clinical Mental Health at South Dakota State University. She now owns and operates Dharma Wellness Institute in Rapid City, a business that utilizes psychotherapy, yoga, meditation, and massage therapy. Her work in mental health led her to a life-altering journey in 2017, when she became a Vipassana student, a Buddhist meditation tradition. Participants meditate in silence for 11 hours a day for ten hours straight.

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“I was running too much and I wanted to get to the nuts and bolts of what mindfulness means,” she said. “It was a really profound experience,” she says. It has continued to inform her work at the wellness institute, and now as an ambassador, which she started in June. USOW provides tools, resources, and support for women in local communities to walk out their advocacy work without overstepping, Heenan says. “They want to provide support for us, help us become better speakers, become more organized as we have a

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national platform, to leverage our grassroots efforts,” she says. “They understand that grassroots efforts look different in Rapid City than they do in L.A. They really give us the tools to execute our plans. It’s such a dynamic, supportive, inclusive group of women.” Heenan’s work this year is focused on multiple campaigns, including “Her Vote. Her Voice.”, an initiative out of Gov. Kristi Noem’s office to celebrate the 100th anniversary of the 19th Amendment, which granted most women in America the right to vote. She will also participate in a conference through the South Dakota School of Mines & Technology to highlight gender equality work in South Dakota. Additionally, she has joined Drawn Together South Dakota, an effort to bring forward a Constitutional Amendment to create an independent citizen redistricting commission. It’s all part of a greater effort to raise up a generation of women that isn’t afraid to speak up, Heenan exlains. “Our glass ceilings and obstacles have changed,” she adds. Instead of asking to vote, women are fighting for income equality in their careers and initiatives and laws that strengthen families, like paternity leave. As a first-generation college student and a fifth generation South Dakotan, Heenan she said cares passionately about the people who live here. She sees change on the horizon for people struggling. “I grew up in a blue-collar family and income inequality is one of the things I care most about,” she says. “I was a 38

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business owner and a single mom and it was hard to make a living, and that’s why I ran for office.” Despite the hurdles of the COVID-19 pandemic, Heenan believes the first step to real change starts with genuine conversation. “I get concerned with the divide you see on social media,” she sighs. “When you actually talk to people, have a conversation and put politics aside, we all want the same things. We need a place where everyone can buy in. No matter your race, color, or gender, when you have equitability, you have a better community.” BHW

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How High is Too High By Audrea Amstutz

How many miles have been accumulated on those chic, glitter, glammed-up leopard print heels? A mile, two miles, one hundred miles? Too many to count? Sure, they are fashion forward; they make a statement. They are a piece of art that showcases one’s personality. But, the impact of those heels yields some not-so-glamorous effects on one’s feet. Let’s take a deeper look, beyond the glitter, beyond the fabulous leopard print, and get to the root of it all. The foot. The human foot contains 26 bones, 33 joints, and more than a hundred muscles, tendons, and ligaments . Pretty incredible, right? Now imagine all those bones, joints, muscles, and tendons jammed into a constricting and narrow pair of high heel shoes. (Yes, point toe-heels, we’re looking at you!) Starting at the foot, when wearing high heels, the weight is shifted towards the balls of your feet, causing your pelvis to tilt forward in an unnatural position. “To compensate, you lean backward, increasing the arch in your lower back, which puts a strain on your lumbar spine,” says Dr. Emily Splichal, DPM, Doctor for Functional & Regenerative Podiatric Medicine, in New York City.

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“Extended wear of high heels and continually bending your toes into an unnatural position can cause a range of ailments, from ingrown toenails to irreversible damage to leg tendons,” says Dr. Splichal. In addition, high-heeled shoes or footwear that’s too tight in the toe box can crowd your toes into a space in which they can’t lie flat, according to the Mayo Clinic. Mayo Clinic also addresses a number of issues that can be caused by frequently wearing high heels, including but not limited to the following: Hammertoes - Hammertoe and mallet toe are foot deformities that occur due to an imbalance in the muscles, tendons, or ligaments that normally hold the toe straight. Bunions - A bunion is a bony bump that forms on the joint at the base of your big toe. It occurs when some of the bones in the front part of your foot move out of place. Metatarsalgia -A condition in which the ball of your foot becomes painful and inflamed. You might develop it if you participate in activities that involve running and jumping. There are other causes as well, including foot deformities and shoes that are too tight or too loose. If that’s not enough to convince “stepping” away from stilettos, this financial perspective may. The damage that results from frequent wear of high heels can result in multiple specialist visits, assessing a slew of other issues such as back pain. Think how much money could be saved when taking preventive measures. One could take a vacation (or two!). So how high is too high? There is no true answer; however, many medical sources advise less than three inches to avoid compromising one’s biomechanics.

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Taking preventive measures is one of the best ways to avoid major problems down the road. The Mayo Clinic recommends these tips when buying shoes: •

Adequate toe room. Avoid shoes with pointed toes.

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Low heels. Avoiding high heels will help you avoid back problems.

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Adjustability. Laced or strapped shoes are roomier and adjustable.

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Buy shoes at the end of the day. Your feet swell throughout the day.

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Check your size. As you age, your shoe size might change — especially the width.

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Measure both feet and buy for the larger foot. A good fit is imperative.

Searching for some alternatives to high heels? •

Wear a pair of flats with arch support.

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Get a pedicure, then show off your cute toes in some form fitting and comfortable sandals.

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Be a trendsetter! Find a shoe that expresses your personality, while providing comfort to your feet.

Cannot step away from the high heel lifestyle? The next best tip is to limit wearing them whenever possible, and, most importantly, choose heels that are less than 3 inches in height and have roomier toe boxes. Here are some additional tips: •

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those shoes, and stretch the calf muscles and feet. Feeling the pain of years of wearing high heels? Monument Health and Black Hills Orthopedic Spine Center have specialists in these areas that will be able to identify those issues and offer professional, medical advice. BHW

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H O M E I S T H E H U B By Brittany Pruess

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Unexpected and uncertain— words many are uttering lately. Families are overwhelmed, fatigued, and feeling battered and bruised from the last several months. As they head into another year of navigating home, work, education, and the elements, many are longing for a short reprievean opportunity to just catch a breath. Perhaps this season allows for shifting‑ especially within the home. Perhaps it is an opportunity to recalibrate and to reconnect, with home becoming, once again, the central hub not only for studious activity, but also the place for diving into human experience, family connection, and community interaction. Gaining an Education This fall is looking a bit different for many regarding their child’s education. As schools reopen with established safety precautions in place, it is leaving parents feeling nervous and uncertain about what the best approach is for their family, and for their child. Katy Urban, Community Relations Director for RCAS, both acknowledges and encourages the community in this regard with her words, “Change is hard and, this year, it will not be business as usual. These changes will require patience on the part of educators, families, and students. Whatever the issue may be – whether it’s a debate about wearing a mask, online vs. in-person instruction, and the list goes on — we must all recognize that plans will be fluid and we are all going to have to adjust. Hopefully, the challenges we are facing now will help us weather adversity better in the future,” says Urban. As changes are occurring within the school system, consider what role education plays within the home, and what may need to shift as a result. What does “gaining an education” look like for a child? How much time should be given to formal studies versus creative learning within the home? How does a particular child retain information most effectively and how can that type of learning be nurtured? These questions can be intimidating but also an opportunity to regroup and refocus on what is truly important as it relates to the studies and course load a child is committed to overall. Fostering Family The home is not just the central hub for hours of formal study, but it is also the place where intimacy is fostered within a family. It is the space in which studies of formality and of life intersect, are wrestled with, and, ultimately, are expressed in the heart of an individual. By

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creating an environment for connection, conversation, and unconditional love, the home once again is becoming the place where an individuals can be free to process, grow, and experience not only what they are learning in school, but also in life. They may study math, but they are also pursuing the fundamentals of love, faith, celebration, and deeply-rooted relationships within the home as well. Families are cultivating opportunities to gather around the table, re-establish family nights, and simply enjoy quiet moments. People are getting back to what the foundation of a home is all about when it comes to their family relationships, and in doing so, they are nurturing more intentional day-to-day living as a result. Community Connection Having an open-door policy for family, friends, and neighbors allows for a home to be a place where community connection begins. What happens when connection is encouraged rather than only navigated during extracurricular activities? Encourage children to bring their friends over after school to study or for dinner. Invite a member of the community over for a warm dinner and a heart-filled conversation. Allow the home to become the central hub for gatherings and meetings. When discussing the upcoming year, Katy Urban is encouraging individuals, “Maintain a growth mindset! None of us know how long this pandemic will impact our world, but we can choose to see this current situation as an opportunity to thrive instead of just something to survive. Look for the learning opportunities and roll with the punches.” This can also be applied to a household’s involvement within a community as well. If a child is showing an interest in a local cause or is seeing a need within the area, provide him or her with the tools, resources, and support to get active and involved in the process of fostering change. Throw off the “always scheduled” mindset within the home, and look for opportunities to stir up life and connection, instead. Home is so much more than a place to study and live. Rather, it is a space for creative learning, human interaction, fostering relationships, rooting faith, encouraging community involvement, and navigating how to approach the daily elements of life as a whole. Home is the central hub. BHW

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Hot springs are a natural resource that have been used by people for thousands of years for aesthetic and therapeutic benefits. Archaeologists from across the globe have unearthed ancient bath sites and now the trend of bathing in natural springs is coming back around. Many places in urban areas are creating a natural spring effect by adding oils and minerals to the water, but here in the Black Hills, we are able to experience the benefits of natural springs naturally fumed. Scientists studying balneology, or the â&#x20AC;&#x153;treatment of disease by bathingâ&#x20AC;? have found many benefits from soaking in natural hot springs. There are several things that make natural spring baths so effective for relaxation and therapeutic purposes. The mineral content in the springs plays a big part in its benefits. While most hot tubs or bath soaks contain minimal minerals and sometimes harsh chemicals, natural mineral springs are packed full of minerals such as calcium and magnesium, which have a wide array of health benefits. Here are just a few of the benefits that come from bathing in natural hot springs. Boosted Blood Circulation: The minerals in the water as well as the temperature help to increase blood circulation and oxygen flow in the body. Pain Relief: The water in natural springs helps to alleviate pain in the body in a couple of ways; the heat helps to calm pain receptors and soothe the entire body. The minerals in the water also help to cause buoyancy and reduce pressure on the joints. 54

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