Embracing Feminine Traditions in a Modern World

EMBRACING FEMININE TRADITIONS IN A MODERN WORLD

By Brittany Pruess

THERE is an Italian comedian by the name ofSebastian Maniscalco. He discusses everything from awkward family dynamics to the tiniest quirks of the human race, and aside from ignoring his inappropriate language from time-to-time, his content leaves many thinking about how present they are for their community and those they love. One of his skits demonstrates society’s current relationship with the “open door policy.” Here is a synopsis of the skit: Today, a friend pulls into the driveway and the family inside quickly turns off all the lights in their house. Everyone remains completely and utterly silent, waiting for the guest to quickly determine “now is simply not a good time.” Rewind to a decade ago. The family eagerly greets this same guest with open arms, a fresh coffee cake, and a bit of Sanka. Together, they spend hours discussing life events such as how Suzie is currently doing in school. What has happened from then to now? Where is the coffee cake and the Sanka in today’s current social condition?

Sebastian’s skit provides the somber reality that the "open door policy" no longer applies. However, it is possible in a world that is often consumed by to-do lists and is stretched for time to get back to a place of connection by reflecting on the historical feminine traditions that brought communities together in the past and considering how they can be incorporated into the present day.

Here are a few historical examples of feminine traditions that you can still incorporate into your life today.

HANDWRITTEN NOTES Notes were a grandmother’s heart message historically, and perhaps this remains true still today. Cards were written for any and every occasion: a written “Thank You” for the invitation to an event, a “BirthdayWish” for someone’s special day, and a “Get Well Soon” when a coworker or friend was having an off day. If there was something to write about, a lady would do so and have the card sent out the very next day. Consider making handwritten letters your tradition. The smallest gesture of the written word can greatly impact another’s day.

HOMEMADE TREATS + RECIPE SWAPS The thoughtfulness women often demonstrated through their baking, or sharing of food is also something we can embrace today. Do you have a friend with an extra busy schedule, or perhaps someone who simply needs a little pick me up? Bake them a wholesome treat and leave it at their doorstep or office. Attach the recipe and a note to simply enjoy the treat! You may also plan a recipe swap with your circle as well.

MEAL PREPARATION FOR MULTIPLE FAMILIES This idea takes the historical concept of preparing meals together and adds a slight modern twist. For many, meal prepping means a major time commitment and a lot of stress, but when you make it an event with the ladies in your circle, it can become a time you really look forward to each week. Create a chat or an email thread with a theme for the meals and share recipes throughout the week. Then, when meal prep day arrives, meet at someone's house with containers in hand and your assigned ingredients and let the meal prep begin! You get to catch up and prepare your weekly meals for your family. You can also do something similar during the holidays with afternoon baking sessions and gift wrapping parties.

FEASTS FOR FAMILY AND FRIENDS Women in past generations were professionals at bringing people together around a table. Whether it is a Sunday afternoon dinner or a monthly Saturday brunch, you can also create an opportunity for your community to gather together. You can make the meal as simple or as elegant as you would like. The key is to create a consistent opportunity for everyone to connect.

OPEN DOOR POLICY One of the greatest takeaways from the past is the open door policy. Let your neighbors, friends, and family know that if they ever need anything, your door is always open. You can make your space even more inviting by having a small treat or cup of tea readily available.

The modern woman can learn a lot from the women of history and the traditions they embraced. It is these traditions that reflect the importance of caring for one another, showing love, and offering genuine hospitality. They encourage women to work smarter, not harder, by experiencing the beauty of working as a community of strong, yet undeniably nurturing women. What are some tangible ways these feminine traditions will show up in your life today? BHW