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Reconnect during wedding planning

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edding planning can be intense and often requires dedication and many hours of work. Coordinating a wedding often requires that couples make many different decisions and spend a considerable amount of time in the wedding-planning trenches.

Couples expend so much energy planning their weddings that it can be easy to lose sight of the bigger picture — namely the relationship that is the basis for the marriage in the first place. But as easy as it can be to get lost in wedding planning, couples can use this time together to connect on a deeper level and learn to work cooperatively.

• Divide and conquer.

Separate wedding planning duties so that both of you feel you are contributing equally and no one person gets Photo overly stressed courtesy Watson out. Stress can Photography lead to short tempers and arguments.

• Establish a mutual budget.

Even the healthiest couple argues over finances from time to time, but budgetary debates should not set a negative tone for wedding planning.

Couples should discuss their potential budget before they even begin to

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plan their weddings, and both partners should do their best to compromise while also understanding where the other person is coming from.

• Schedule time for fun. Do not let wedding planning be all-consuming.

Schedule days that allow you to enjoy yourselves together without having to think about or discuss your pending nuptials. This may include date nights that may have fallen by the wayside since getting engaged or periodic day trips to get away from it all. Explore your mutual hobbies or try something new.

• Learn to laugh at the little things. Not every detail will go off without a hitch.

How you react as a couple may influence how much you enjoy your wedding.

Recognize that certain things will not go your way, but that unforeseen circumstances will not ruin your wedding day, no matter how unpleasant they may seem.

Laugh at what cannot be changed and recognize that, in the long run, the details you think are major today may actually prove trivial when you look back on your wedding day in the years to come. n

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Index

Reconnect during wedding planning............3 Spearfish weather at a glance....................4 Selecting the right space............................4 Choosing the dress....................................5 Engagement announcement form...............6 The profressionals you need.......................7 Wedding invitation tips..............................8 Picking the music......................................9 The Four C’s: Selecting a diamond............10 Maximize your flower budget...................10 Wedding menu ideas..............................14 The cake...............................................15 Wedding budget worksheet & notes......16-17 Choosing a photographer...................19, 21 Wedding information form.......................22 The extras..............................................23 Changing your name...............................24 100 Tips: Planning your wedding.........26-31 Emergency wedding day kit.....................28 Required documents list...........................30

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Spearfish weather at a glance

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Listed below are average temperature highs, lows and preciptation for the city of Spearfish throughout the year.

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Jan. 37˚ 15˚ 0.5”

Feb. 38˚ 17˚ 0.7” Mar. 47˚ 34˚ 1.3” Apr. 57˚ 34˚ 2.2” May 66˚ 43˚ 3.7” June 77˚ 53˚ 3.7” July 86˚ 59˚ 2.1” Aug. 85˚ 57˚ 1.6” Sept.

75˚ 48˚ 1.8” Oct. 60˚ 37˚ 1.9” Nov. 47˚ 26˚ 0.9” Dec. 38˚ 17˚ 0.7”

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hen it comes to your wedding reception venue, there’s plenty of creative options to make sure all of your needs are met.

From churches to barns, boutique hotels or restaurants, your options are limitless.

And while large-group restrictions may be a barrier in being able to secure one of these venues in the short-term, it’s never too early to start mapping out how you’d like your perfect day to go.

CONSIDER THE GUEST EXPERIENCE

Before landing on a specific venue, think about how the day will unfold.

Will you want the ceremony and reception in the same location? Will you be allowed to design and decorate the space the way that you want?

Is the cost of the venue within your budget? These are all critical questions that can help you narrow down your choices to a select few.

TALK TO A PLANNER FIRST

If organization is not typically your thing, you may consider talking to a wedding planner about getting these key details ironed out. Planners are likely more familiar with the capabilities of a space, the layout and the requirements needed to decorate

it according to your needs. Planners likely have information on the decision-makers within each space, as well, and are more likely to have a history with negotiating costs with them.

CONSIDER YOUR GOALS

If you’re planning a modern wedding, look at venues that fit your vision. Places like art galleries or warehouses can be transformed to fit your design specifications. If you’re planning a more natural or rustic wedding, outdoor venues such as parks or a stylish backyard may be a better fit. Never settle and always research every option to make sure you can secure the best venue for your budget and goals.

KNOW YOUR ACCOMMODATIONS

There is no need in securing a giant venue if you’re planning on keeping your guest list small. Alternatively, if you choose a venue that is too small for your guest list and more guests attend than you were originally expecting, you may be caught in an awkward situation.

The number of expected guests should be a key factor in researching the size and layout of your venue. n

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Dress

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they want to downplay others. Try on gowns that play up your best features.

If you have shapely legs, consider a dramatic gown with a slit to show them off. Certain gowns can enhance the decollete or show off an hourglass shape. Remember, many gowns can be modified so that you feel secure and confident. Sleeves can be added or fabric placed to cover up any perceived flaws. Confidence and pride are important parts of the comfort factor.

GET SIZED CORRECTLY

Bridal gown sizes do not coincide with street sizes. Depending on the manufacturer, brides may have to select gowns that are several sizes larger than they would normally wear.

This should not be a cause for alarm.

Brides should go by their measurements. Attempting to squeeze into a dress that is too small will only lead to discomfort on the wedding day.

PURCHASE THE RIGHT UNDERGARMENTS

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brides may prioritize beauty over any brides-to-be visit bridal comfort, even though it’s entirely posshops with specific goals in sible to find a gown that’s both stunmind regarding the style of ning and comfortable. When friends their wedding gowns. Some women or family who have come come equipped with magazine tear-outs or pull along to offer advice start up ideas on their mobile to blush over wedding Average spent on phones. Others may have gowns, brides-to-be may a wedding dress: an entire scrapbook filled feel pressured to downplay with various ideas they’ve any discomfort they feel. been compiling for years.

To make sure brides Much consideration is look flawless and elegant given to wedding gowns. but are still comfortable The cost and silhouette of the dress in their wedding gowns, consider the may garner the bulk of that considerfollowing tips. ation, but brides might want to spend KNOW WHAT TO more time considering comfort.

HIGHLIGHT AND WHAT TO Depending on the time of day their weddings take place, brides can spend COVER UP 12 hours or more in their wedding No two body types are the same, and gowns on their wedding day. Howmany women feel certain parts of ever, when shopping for their gowns, their bodies are their best assets while

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Improperly fitting bras, shapewear and other undergarments can lead to discomfort as well. Some seamstresses can sew in supportive cups to remove the need for separate bras. Brides can explore various options to reduce the visibility of certain accoutrements.

MOVE AROUND

Brides should not just stand in front of the mirror and smile when trying on gowns. Put them through their paces. Try sitting, bending and even a little dancing. Make sure the dress is comfortable to move around in.

TRY DIFFERENT OPTIONS

The gown brides have in mind may not be the one they ultimately go home with. Explore different styles and materials. Choose cooler, breezier fabrics and lightweight gowns, like crêpe, georgette or organza, for summer weddings. Heavier fabrics, such as brocade, may be more comfortable in the winter.

Wedding gowns can be both beautiful and comfortable for those who know how to shop. n

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Engagement Announcements run free of charge in our Black Hills Pioneer Saturday edition or as space allows.

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Engagement Information Bride’s Name and Hometown: ___________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): __________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Name and Hometown: _________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): ________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Date and Place of Wedding: _____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Education: _____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Education: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ PHOTO ENCLOSED:

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We strongly urge you to type this form or print neatly. Handwriting can be misinterpreted and if we can’t read your handwriting, mistakes can happen.

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Professionals you need

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lanning a wedding requires a lot of moving parts and the list of available wedding professionals is long. How do you know which one you need to enlist while staying true to your budget?

These are some common experts who can take the stress of planning a wedding off your shoulders and allow yourself more time to enjoy the experience.

PLANNING SERVICE

Hiring a wedding planner is a great way to ensure all the boxes are checked before the event. You should ask yourself how much help you will need. Here are a few things to expect

when working with an expert.

Consultation: During the initial meeting, you should express your expectations for the wedding.

They will discuss available packages and determine if they are needed for full service, day of coordination or both.

Find a venue: Based on your specifications, a planner can show you different locations to become the setting of your dream day.

Big day: If you hire a full-time planner, they will be a crucial component during each aspect of the wedding event. They are efficient ensuring vendors are setting up correctly and providing direction to your wedding party and guests.

PHOTOGRAPHER

Of course, one professional present at nearly every wedding is a quality photographer. Through their vision and direction, images of your special day will be captured forever. Before hiring this expert, ask for referrals and examples of their previous work. You should be clear about the type of photos you want pre-wedding, during the event and those after the vows.

FLORIST

To get the most out of the beautiful blooms of spring, a local florist is an efficient expert in creating centerpieces, bouquets and accents.

If you’re traveling for a destination wedding, research experts in the area for the best results in a location you are not familiar with.

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nvitations are a key component of wedding planning. Not only can invitations set the tone for a wedding — giving guests an idea of whether it is formal or casual while offering clues to the theme — but also they are essential for conveying important information about the festivities.

Due in large part to computer and internet access, and myriad user-friendly design applications, it’s easier than ever to design high-quality wedding invitations.

START WITH THE PAPER

The heavier the stock, the more luxurious the invitations will feel. Quality stock also costs more. Wedding invitations should be printed on substantial stock so they don’t bend or feel flimsy.

Expect to pay more for natural or handmade papers.

ENGRAVING & LETTERPRESS

Engraving and letterpress techniques are an art form and create unique wedding invitations. Engraving creates raised lettering while letterpress presses the lettering into the paper. Many people do not have the equipment necessary to produce these designs at home, and if they want a truly high-end invitation, they’ll need to use a professional printing service.

PRINTING COMPANIES

Options abound in regard to in-store and online printing companies. Many companies offer self-service design templates that enable customers to tweak text and placement of some graphic elements and then have the invitations printed and shipped to their homes.

AT-HOME PRINTING

One of the more accessible invitation production methods is at-home printing.

However, there are some limitations when printing at home. For example, couples who do not have a high-end printer may find that the text on their invitations is not as crisp and the ink may smudge. Also, paper options may be limited to what the tray feeder can accommodate. Stock that is 80 pounds or 12-point stock is preferable, but anything more may jam around the print head.

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Music

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ew things set the tone for a wedding ceremony and reception better than music. Music establishes ambience and serves to transition guests through the various components of the day.

Music is played in various ways throughout a wedding. For example, the wedding ceremony may be accompanied by a pianist or violinist, while music during the reception is usually provided by a band or DJ. The decision of whether to hire a band or DJ often comes down to personal preference and budget.

BAND

A live band can bring with it a sense of sophistication. Performers can tone the music to the crowd and improvise if necessary to meet the needs of the room.

Many wedding bands can competently play songs from various genres of music, while some are especially skilled at recreating the sound of a particular group.

Bands tend to be more expensive than DJs, and that’s something couples must factor into their budgets if they prefer a band to a DJ.

DJ

The DJ is one of the first vendors people think of when they envision a wedding reception.

DJs are advantageous for various reasons. Thanks to the accessibility of digital music, DJs can often procure just about any song a couple desires for the reception. That’s a significant benefit for couples who want to hear the original versions of their favorite

songs, and not a band’s take on those songs.

DJs also can read the crowd and make adjustments to the music at any time. If a particular genre is not working, DJs can easily transition to another type of music. That’s not always possible for bands whose repertoire is exclusive to a particular genre.

Many DJs also blend songs seamlessly and may incorporate lights and other effects into their performances, which can encourage guests to loosen up and hit the dance floor.

DJs also tend to travel with less equipment than bands, so they will take up less space in a party room.

No matter which road a couple chooses to travel, it’s a good idea to listen to a DJ or band perform in a live situation before making a final decision.

Couples should provide a list of songs they want to hear well in advance of their wedding day. This affords a DJ ample time to find each song or bands to learn the songs before the big day arrives. n

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The Four C’s Carat, Color, Clarity and Cut

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Buying a diamond ring can be intimidating. Demystify the process by learning about the four C’s. This system of grading diamonds was developed 60 years ago by the Gemological Institute of America.

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• Carat is a weight measurement. A 1-carat diamond weighs 200 milligrams. But there’s no ideal size for a diamond. It depends on your budget and taste.

• Color is graded by letter, starting with D for rare, colorless diamonds. E and F are considered excellent, but G or H diamonds will look just as good to the naked eye.

Farther down the scale, you’ll notice differences. “If you put a K color beside a G color, you’ll notice more yellow in the K,” said Russell Shor, senior industry analyst for the Gemological Institute.

• Clarity measures diamond flaws, called inclusions, which might appear as tiny spots, clouds or cavities in the stone.

The clarity grade SI stands for “slightly included.” VS is a better grade, “very slightly included.”

VVS is even higher, “very, very slightly included.” Most inclusions in the VVS-SI range cannot be seen by the untrained eye “unless someone tells you where it is,” Shor said.

• Cut measures workmanship, rather than a diamond’s inherent qualities. The way a stone is cut enhances sparkle and luminosity and can hide flaws.

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ext to your dress, flowers are perhaps the most visible part of your wedding. According to Brides magazine, you should be budgeting around $3,000 for your big day’s blossoms. For that kind of money, you need to be careful who (and what) you pick. Here are some tips for saving some green on your wedding flowers.

THINK SEASONAL

Ask your florist to work with seasonal foliage to not only give your wedding a sense of time and place but also to save on your budget. If you just have to have that special, costly flower, go for it, but ask the florist to keep it minimal and mix in other, less expensive blossoms.

PUMP UP THE VOLUME

Go for flowers with large, showy blooms instead of lots of smaller stems.

Florists may also opt to mix in structural pieces like branches to make arrangements look fuller. Give the florist their head, but also reiterate that you’re on a budget.

GO BIG, BUT JUST ONCE

If your heart says flowers everywhere on every surface but your wallet says bud vase, see if your florist can make one big show-stopping arrangement and deploy it effectively. Place this bad boy in one key area and opt for smaller, less-expensive arrangements elsewhere.

REUSE

Have the florist recycle ceremony flowers at the reception. And, when possible, use the venue’s own natural beauty to accentuate the blooms. Use lighting or other decor to add some umph to what you can afford, and guests won’t notice what’s not there.

GET CREATIVE

Instead of giant floral centerpieces on tables, mix in smaller arrangements with things like personal keepsakes, pictures, candles or other items for a cozy, intimate feel. Consider using plants, too, instead of cut flowers for a savings. n

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raditionally, one of the more memorable aspects of wedding receptions is the food. Whether it was fun, tasty or something entirely new for guests, food tends to leave a lasting impression.

The experts at Boho Weddings say that, more than ever before, couples are seeking menu ideas that reflect their personalities as a couple as they seek to make a statement at their events.

BITE-SIZED BURSTS

Tapas and a movement toward small bites has started to take hold at wedding receptions. Such a choice allows guests to try many different flavors without filling up too quickly. From sliders to mini grilled cheese to soup shots to bite-sized pizzas, many of these small bites feature

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flavors borrowed from familiar comfort foods — just presented on a miniature scale.

COMFORT STATIONS AND BARS

Couples who love comfort food can put it on display with a crostini station, a mashed potato bar, a chicken and waffles station, a gourmet popcorn snack station, or a ramen noodle bar.

FOOD TRUCKS/CARTS

Outdoor weddings can be enhanced with the addition of trendy food trucks.

These restaurants on wheels can inject burgers, sandwiches, international delights, crêpes, noodles, and so many more flavors into a wedding.

HIGH-END OPTIONS

Couples may want to give guests a taste of the lavish with olive oil and vinegar tasting stations, whiskey bars, French hors d’oeuvres, Kobe beef sliders, lobster tails, risotto stations, and more.

CHILDHOOD FAVORITES

When it comes time for dessert, some couples opt to avoid or downplay wedding cakes in favor of something simpler.

A cookie-and-milk bar, doughnut holes, soft pretzel stations, pie pops, or dessert shot jars push creativity and sweetness to new levels. Do-it-yourself dessert stations, such as s’more-making and ice cream sundae stations, also can be big hits.

Couples are increasingly feeling less beholden to traditional wedding reception menus as they look to infuse their personal tastes into the foods they plan to serve their guests. Many catering managers and chefs welcome the chance to work with couples looking to create unique reception menus. n

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rides and grooms may pour over every detail of their weddings, but few components of the festivities may be as fun, especially for foodies, as deciding what the wedding cake will look like. Couples who want to deliver

show-stopping visuals often express some measure of their creativity and personalities through statement wedding cakes.

Many couples now eschew the classic three-tiered white cake in favor of a dessert that garners instant attention.

Whether the cake is brightly colored or hand-painted, a towering architectural marvel or shimmering in metallics, couples are opting to make a statement with their confections. Apart from clever cake-toppers, here are ways to stand apart when dessert is served.

• According to the Perfect Wedding Guide, a rising trend in cakes is to cover a white or naked cake with translucent glaze tinted in the couple’s wedding colors. This artistic expression can be especially stunning in boho-chic weddings.

• Statement tiers also are popular.

The cake may be traditional in nearly every way, but couples then set the cake apart by featuring an elaborate design or a different hue in one tier.

• Martha Stewart Weddings advises that more than just color can be used to

make a statement. Lifelike sugar flowers can really set cakes apart. Guests may not be sure if they can consume all aspects of some cakes. But delicate sugar flowers taste as good as they look.

• Hand-painted tiles on a cake are another way to add panache. A bride and groom may be inspired by a European vacation or the stained-glass effects of religious windows and want to add that feel to the tiers of the cake.

• Sometimes a statement comes by way of texture. Even an all-white cake can be dressed up with interesting textural effects. Ruffles, lace, embossing, and 3-D rosettes are different textural components that can be incorporated in cake designs.

• Couples also may want to tell their unique stories with cake. Individual tiers designed to reflect various milestone moments from the couple’s relationship can be quite engaging.

• Capitalizing on the trend of edgier weddings, couples may opt for darker hues on their cakes — even a black tier — or nontraditional geometric shapes to the cake itself or its design elements. n

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Use this list to help you develop a budget and keep track of spending as you plan for your wedding.

BUDGETED:

Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Officiant Fee/Donation............. _____________ Ceremony Décor......................... _____________

ACTUAL COST:

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Reception Venue Fee....................................... _____________ Rentals............................................ _____________ Food & Service............................ _____________ Beverages & Bartenders........... _____________ Cake & Cutting Fee................... _____________ Reception Decor.......................... _____________

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Attire & Beauty Gown & Alterations.................. _____________ Veil................................................... _____________ Jewelry............................................ _____________ Bride’s Accessories...................... _____________ Hair & Makeup.......................... _____________ Pre-wedding Pampering........... _____________ Groom’s Tux or Suit.................. _____________ Groom’s Accessories.................. _____________ Shoes................................................ _____________ Undergarments............................ _____________

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Photo + Video Photographer................................ _____________ Videographer................................ _____________ Prints & Videos........................... _____________

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Flowers Bride’s Bouquet............................ _____________ Bridesmaid Bouquets................. _____________ Groom & Groomsmen Boutonnieres................................. _____________ Flower Girl Flowers................... _____________ Additional Boutonnieres & Corsages................................... _____________ Ceremony...................................... _____________ Reception ...................................... _____________ Centerpieces.................................. _____________

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ACTUAL COST:

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Music Ceremony Musicians................. _____________ Cocktail Hour Musicians......... _____________ Reception Music......................... _____________

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Transportation + Lodging Limo or Car Rental.................... _____________ Guest Shuttle or Parking.......... _____________ Bride/Groom Hotel Room(s)............................. _____________

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Gifts Attendant Gifts............................ _____________ Favors.............................................. _____________ Parent Gifts................................... _____________ Flower Girl & Ring Bearer Gifts................... _____________

Event Planner............................... _____________ Marriage License......................... _____________ Dance Lessons.............................. _____________ Rehearsal Dinner ....................... _____________ Rentals & Lighting.................... _____________ Tip Money for Vendors............ _____________

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Travel.............................................. _____________ Lodging.......................................... _____________ Entertainment.............................. _____________ Souvenirs........................................ _____________

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Stationary Save-the-Dates ............................ _____________ Invitations & Reply Cards...... _____________

BUDGETED:

Rehearsal Dinner Invites.......... _____________ Ceremony Programs.................. _____________ Thank You Cards....................... _____________ Postage............................................ _____________ Guest Book.................................... _____________

Miscellaneous

Wedding Rings Her Ring........................................ _____________ His Ring......................................... _____________

BUDGETED:

TOTAL .............................................. _____________

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5 tips on choosing and working with a wedding photographer

(AP) — Your wedding is fast approaching and you have an un-blissfully long to-do list, from finalizing your flower selection to choosing your menu to deciding on your dress.

Near the top of that list you might want to put “select photographer.”

That way, one of the most important parts of your wedding — the memories — will be preserved.

Think about booking your photographer soon after you have selected your venue, and make sure he or she is a good fit with your personality.

Look at potential photographers’ electronic portfolios, pricing and availability, and plan to meet several candidates to gauge their sensibility.

Below are five tips on choosing and working with a wedding photographer: • Look for depth. Ask to see a complete portfolio from beginning to end for at least one or two weddings. You don’t want to see only a few “best” photos.

“It’s easy to show a bunch of terrific single images taken at many weddings,” says Radhika Chalasani, “but

a great wedding photographer has to capture an entire wedding beautifully from start to finish.” The New Yorkbased Chalasani has been photographing weddings since 2004.

Looking at portfolios will ensure that the photographer wasn’t just an assistant or a guest with a camera.

You can see how the photographer handles all parts of the wedding, including the preparations, ceremony, cocktails, portraits, speeches, dancing and cake-cutting.

• Get a contract. A wedding photographer without a contract (and without liability insurance) is likely not a professional.

The contract should spell out what the photographer will provide, and whether the pictures will be on DVDs, an online gallery, a finished album, etc.

It will include the hours worked, and what happens if you ask the photographer to work longer.

In addition, you want to know how things will be handled if the photographer becomes unable to work on the wedding day due to illness or injury.

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He or she should have a back-up.

The contract also should spell out the cost, the amount of any deposit and when the balance must be paid.

Small, casual weddings might not seem to require a contract, but having one will protect both you and the photographer.

• Don’t be shy about what you want.

“There’s no harm in being specific,” says Chicago wedding photographer Candice C. Cusic, a photojournalist for 15 years and a teacher at Northwestern University.

Tell the photographer what the most important aspects of the day are to you, whether it’s exchanging rings or walking down the aisle.

“Brides should be realistic about their day and make every possible effort to help their photographer capture great imagery,” Cusic said. A bride or groom getting ready inside a messy hotel room, for instance, will not make for strong pictures, she noted.

• Make sure your personalities jibe.

Other than your significant other, the

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person with whom you’ll spend the most time on your wedding day might well be your photographer. He or she will be with you as you get ready and as you go through the emotional highs of the day. The photographer might guide you and your family through a portrait session, walk backward as you process up the aisle, and hang close by during your first dance.

So this person’s personality — sense of humor, demeanor, even appearance — should be a good fit with both of you.

Craig Warga, a New York-based wedding photographer, said “good photography happens when you can get close to your subjects, and they feel completely comfortable being natural and themselves in front of your lens. If you don’t like someone, you’re not going to have that level of comfort in front of them, and it will affect the pictures.”

If you like a sassy personality who will add some color to your day, then by all means hire a vibrant, outgoing photographer who exudes energy. On the other hand, if you want a subtle

documentary photographer who will capture important moments without being intrusive, go for someone who won’t talk loudly over you when you first meet, and who seems cool and composed.

The right photographer, said Warga, is someone who leaves you thinking, “it’d be nice to have that person as a guest at my wedding.”

• Sweat some details. Ask if the photographer has a full set of equipment: multiple bodies and lenses with back-ups.

Will he or she be working with an assistant or second photographer? If so, what is the additional cost and does that person need to be there all day?

If your venue will be dark, can the photographer handle it?

Is the photographer able to work in adverse conditions such as rain at an outdoor ceremony?

• Finally, make provisions for your photographer to eat; it’s hard to be “on” for eight to 10 hours straight. A 15-minute meal break might just be the best thing you do for the photographer. n

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NOTE: Submissions may be edited according to available space.

Wedding Information Bride’s Name and Hometown: ___________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): __________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Name and Hometown: _________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Parents’ Names and Residence(s): ________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Date and Place of Wedding: _____________________________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Wedding Party:________________________________________________________________________________________ Wedding Colors:_______________________________________________________________________________________ Bride’s Education: _____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ Groom’s Education: ____________________________________________________________________________________ Employment: _________________________________________________________________________________________ PHOTO ENCLOSED:

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We strongly urge you to type this form or print neatly. Handwriting can be misinterpreted and if we can’t read your handwriting, mistakes can happen.

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ollar dances and toasts have been the focal points of many weddings throughout the years. Why not set your wedding apart?

Your personality will determine how unique you are willing to go, but even for more traditional weddings there are many ways to infuse some spark into your special day.

Ask around to find out what your friends, family members and co-workers remember most from the various weddings and receptions they have attended.

Pick out the best ideas and put your own spin on them.

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Many professional photography studios now offer traveling services and on-site

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Most booths come equipped with fun props and backdrops, but also high-quality final products printed within seconds.

Guests can take a break from the dance floor to get their pictures taken, and the booths generally fit more than five people inside.

The photo slideshows serve as the perfect parting gift that your guests will surely keep and display.

COCKTAIL HOURS

Cocktail hours can be the perfect way to break up your guests’ waiting time while you and your wedding party finish photos or other responsibilities.

Schedule your cocktail hour to begin a half hour before you arrive to your reception site. This strategy will ensure that your guests reach their destination well before you, and are ready to greet your party with open arms.

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Many weddings feature buffet-style entrees, offering guests the chance to pick and choose exactly what they want to eat.

The same type of method can be used for dessert, with a unique candy buffet that includes various types of sweets. Provide your guests mini boxes on their tables with instructions for filling them.

Choose candy the color of your theme to really impress your guests.

And be sure to offer various textures, types and sizes of candy within different shapes of jars to help to help maintain an interesting visual layout.

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fter months of planning your non-certified copies as well. wedding and all the details that One of the first documents that go along with making your should be changed is your Social Secuspecial day one to remember, you’re rity card. finally able to relax and enjoy spending This should be on the top of your time with your new spouse. to-do list as some banks want your But if you or your spouse plan on new name on your Social Security card changing your name, there is more before opening an account. Updating work to be done. your card will also How does that work, ensure your wages exactly? are posted correctFrom changing ly to your Social your driver’s license, Security records. to bank account, Changing your Social Security card, Social Security and more, getting card cannot be • Thank you notes your name changed done online; on all official however there is • Vendor reviews documents can be no charge to make • Dress cleaning and/or a process, but it is the changes. important to ensure To change your preservation accuracy. name on your • Gift returns Don’t try to start Social Security the name change card you will need • Registry completion game before you say, to complete Form “I do.” It’s a waste SS-5. These forms of time and you have can be obtained plenty of other priorat http://www. ities to take care of. socialsecurity.gov/ Instead, start after you say your vows. forms/ss-5.pdf. Additionally, you will First, stop by your county’s Register need proof of your identity. Sometimes of Deeds office and get at least two you also may need to prove your curcertified copies of your marriage license. rent U.S. citizenship or lawful noncitIt is a good idea to make several more izen status. This can be done with a

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driver’s license, passport, or state-issued, non-driver ID card. Mail your application to your local Social Security office.

To change your driver’s license, stop by your local department of motor vehicles office. You will need to bring a certified copy of your marriage license. If your license has a gold star in the upper right corner, you will also need to bring your current driver’s license or ID card, two documents proving your residential address such as a utility bill, bank stub, phone bill among other items.

If your license does not contain the star you will need to bring more items.

This includes a document that proves your date of birth, identity and citizenship. This can be a valid and unexpired U.S. Passport, a certified copy of your birth certificate as well as other items.

You will also need to bring documents that prove your Social Security number. This can be your Social Security card, a W-2 form, or a pay stub with your name and full Social Security number. For more information on what documents are needed, visit http://dps. sd.gov.

Now that you have a new Social Security card and driver’s license, other documents can be updated.

If international travel is in your future, be sure to update or receive a passport. You may run into troubles if you have a passport in one name and a driver’s license in another. Find need to know info at http://travel.state.gov. It does take a while for your passport to be issued - four to six weeks, however expedited processing can be requested for a charge.

If you are honeymooning abroad and are using your maiden name and will later change your name, don’t worry about losing all your visas and stamps.

Your old, cancelled passport can be sent separately from your new passport.

Other documents should be changed such as bank accounts and mortgages, credit cards, investments, utilities, health insurance, voter registration, other legal documents and with your employer.

Each entity seems to have its own policy when it comes to the name change game, but relax, and enjoy your new spouse. n

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Being well informed about every detail - big or small - will make all the difference.

hen was the last time you planned a party this big? If you’re like most brides, this event is a first in size, details — and pressure! Because wedding planning is so time consuming, being well organized is the only way to keep things under control. Most weddings, especially large ones, require lots of advance planning in order to book the best bridal resources, many of which are reserved one or two years before the event. Today’s long engagements — ­ 14 months on average — allow couples time to pull the details together and save for the expenses they may be handling or sharing with parents.

This checklist is packed with all the essential steps you need to know about during planning. The more time you have, the more opportunity you’ll have to comparison shop. And you’ll also feel less pressured to commit to something that does not seem right for you.

However, if your timetable is condensed, simply move the steps up. For a much shorter schedule, a wonderful wedding can still be had by making some logical compromises. For example, plan on a

morning/noon wedding, with a breakfast or brunch/luncheon reception, or a Friday or Sunday evening ceremony and reception. In some areas of the country there is also more flexibility for hiring choice resources for a Saturday wedding on shorter notice during the months of January, February and March. Happy planning!

12 to 24 MONTHS BEFORE THE WEDDING

1 Visit your clergy together and set the date for the ceremony.

2 Discuss expenses with all concerned and establish a firm budget.

3 Decide on the size and formality of your wedding.

4 Interview party planners or wedding consultants with a reputation for a job well done. If time is at a premium for you or distance is a problem, a professional planner is well worth the fee. With so many details to look after, their experience can help save you costly mistakes.

5 Consider unusual locations to hold the celebration. Contact your local parks

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department or historical society.

6 Select the place you’d like to hold the reception. Make reservations if it is in a club, hotel, catering hall or restaurant.

If it is to be at home or at a place that does not provide food, check into catering services and book them. Ask to see a variety of possible menus; inquire if a wedding cake is included or if one must be arranged for separately.

7 Start shopping around for your wedding dress, headpiece and veil.

8 Make alternate plans for an outdoor wedding in case the weather is bad. The most logical options include a very sturdy tent and a platform that withstands rain, or an indoor, alternative location that is indicated on the reception invitation.

9 Invite relatives and/or friends to be in your wedding party.

Talk over finances with them and be considerate of their limitations.

10 Select two or three possibilities for your attendants’ gowns and arrange an appointment with the shop to bring your attendants in to see their choices. Because they pay for their own dresses, it’s thoughtful to do this, if possible. After a review of the styles, the final decision is yours.

11 Buy calendars for attendants and immediate families and mark important wedding-related dates for them in red. As other dates are made during the planning, they can plug them into their calendar.

12 Draw up the guest list. Notify your fiancée’s family to do the same.

13 Interview photographers, videographers, musicians and florists. Make a separate folder for each service you select. Keep contracts, notes, questions and all pertinent data in them for a handy and quick reference.

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14 Select and order your invitations. Include extra envelopes in case of mistakes, and a few extra invitations to have as mementos for you and your family. If you want calligraphy and find handwork too expensive, look into computer resources.

Ask for envelopes to be delivered early so you can address them leisurely. At the same time, order personal stationery (an ample supply of both letter and notepaper) for writing thank-you notes.

15 Have mothers select their dresses. The bride’s mother has the privilege of first choice so that she can have the color and style she prefers. The groom’s mother chooses a dress similar in formality and in a complementary color. Both should blend with your bridal-party color scheme.

16 Decide upon the men’s attire. Accompany your fiancée to a formal-wear specialty shop in your locale to select what the groom, best man, ushers and fathers will wear.

17 Register with the bridal gift registry in your favorite store.

Meet with the director of the registry and her trained staff for help choosing your china, crystal, linens and other household preferences. Indicate engagement and shower gift choices, as well as wedding presents.

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Pack an emergency wedding day kit • needle and thread in white, black and the color of bridesmaid gowns • extra pairs of pantyhose • pain reliever pills/antacid • quick-clean detergent stick • bandages • powder • deodorant • double-sided tape • black buttons • sanitary pads • mints/gum • makeup for touch-ups • extra cash • slippers or a change of shoes • umbrellas • hairspray • hair pins • names and phone numbers of all wedding vendors • static cling spray • hair dryer • contact lens solution/ eye drops • nail file/clipper • straws (to sip drinks without ruining lipstick) • safety pins • black socks • earring backs

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families. If possible, invite out-of town guests, too.

18 Reserve the location for your 26 Arrange accommodations for rehearsal dinner. attendants who do not live in town.

If neither you nor any of your family, 4 MONTHS friends or neighbors have the facilities BEFORE THE WEDDING to house them, make hotel reservations.

Your fiancée does the same for his 19 Address invitations and attendants. announcements. All addressing, stuffing 27 Reserve a block of rooms at a and stamping should be completed in hotel for out-of-town guests. Most time to mail the invitations four to six hotels offer discounts to guests for a weeks before the wedding. If you have wedding weekend. In advance of mailing an “A” and a “B” list, you may mail invitations, write to your guests and “A” eight weeks in advance. When you enclose the hotel information so they can receive regrets, you may invite people on make their reservations directly. Once “B” four weeks (and no less than three they arrive, have waiting for them a weeks) before the wedding. Prepare complete information packet, including maps and directions to include with city maps, transportation schedules and invitations. prices, sights to see and restaurants.

20 Check with the post office for the An additional courtesy, included with postage needed to mail the invitation this information, might be a refreshing when all the pieces are enclosed in the basket of fruit, snacks or other food that envelope. Purchase pretty “Love” stamps your region is known for. for an appropriate wedding touch.

28 Ask a friend or relative to check on 21 Schedule professional dance lessons your out-of-town guests to be sure they to make your first dance memorable. are comfortable and answer any of their 22 Meet with the caterer to firm up the questions. Provide that person’s name menu and all the details. If any guests and phone number in your letter because require special food, arrange that now. you will be so busy those last few days.

Be sure all your expectations are clearly 29 Visit your florist with dress-color defined in a written contract, which swatches to help with the selection of should include taxes, any service charges, flowers for your wedding and additional fees and reception. Ask to bartenders and about providing the aisle waiters, if not included runner for the ceremony. in the package. Also, Again, be sure everything of brides use Pinterest you should make is clearly itemized in a to communicate their certain that the contractual agreement. location — which wedding-day vision to 30 Decide on your should be a licensed planners and vendors. honeymoon destination. catering establishment Consult a travel agent.

— carries basic Traditionally, the groom liability insurance. makes these arrangements, but if you’re 23 Engage a baker to create a special better at that, don’t hesitate to offer. wedding cake, if you want something 31 Hire limousines or other specialty more elaborate than what your caterer cars for the wedding party members. offers. Inquire about a cake-cutting 32 Investigate resources for designing charge if you bring in the wedding cake and printing a program to distribute from elsewhere. at the ceremony. Desktop publishing 24 Investigate having air-conditioning in should make that possible at a a tent when the wedding is to be held in reasonable cost to you. warm weather.

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Within two months of returning from your honeymoon, you should acknowledge all wedding gifts.

40 Call to confirm the exact date and time of rehearsals with your officiant.

Notify attendants and family of the time and place.

41 Send out all invitations to the 2 MONTHS rehearsal dinner.

BEFORE THE WEDDING 42 Plan a get-together party for your 35 Compile a list of all the friends and attendants. family members you 43 Select gifts for would like to have wedding attendants. invited to showers.

Your fiancée does the 36 Tell the hostess of marrying same for his. for parties in your 44 Begin trousseau couples choose to honor where you are shopping for lingerie, write their registered. That store honeymoon clothes and own vows. may be indicated other items you’ll need right on the shower depending on where invitation, but not on you plan to live. the wedding invitation.

45 Purchase a pretty wedding guest 37 Now’s the time to put your wedding book for friends and family to sign at the invitations into the mail. reception.

38 Record your wedding gifts as they 46 Check with local authorities to see arrive. Note the giver’s name, address, whether a blood test is needed for a type of gift, date received and date you marriage license. acknowledge them.

47 Make an appointment with your 39 Write thank-you notes promptly. friends the possibility of their inviting out-of-town guests to dinner the night before the wedding, if you can’t include them at your rehearsal party. Also, they might host a breakfast or lunch for travelers, if the wedding is late in the day.

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doctor for a complete physical. See your dentist, too.

48 Meet with the organist and anyone else you have asked to play or sing at the service to determine the music.

49 Meet with the musicians or DJ engaged to play at the reception to plan the selections you and your fiancée want, from your song to the dance tempo you expect them to maintain. Plan a variety of songs so there’s something older guests will enjoy as well as what’s hot among your peers. Caution the musicians about excessive volume — it can ruin a reception. Tell them about any ethnic favorites you may want so they’ll be familiar with the music. Inquire about breaks, continuous music and overtime.

Get it all in writing.

50 Speak with the caterer about the food you want to serve to your photographer and musicians. Something simple to eat, a beverage and a place to sit that’s away from your guests are considered sufficient.

51 Meet with the person handling your reception and firm up every detail.

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I’m getting married!

What documents are required?

Marriage licenses may be obtained at your county’s Register of Deeds office.

To receive the license: • Both parties must be present.

• A valid photo ID, such as a driver’s license, state ID or passport is required.

• The fee is $40, and can be paid by cash and usually credit cards.

Checks are not accepted.

• There is no blood test or waiting period required.

• The license may be used the same day, and it must be used within 20 days from issue.

• The license may be used anywhere within the State of South Dakota.

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arrangements for it.

52 Select your wedding ring(s). Arrange for engraving.

53 Set a date with your photographer for a formal bridal portrait to be made four weeks before the wedding.

54 Discuss having a portrait of both of you done for the newspaper announcement. This is an alternative to the traditional formal newspaper photo.

Or you may submit a wedding photo of the two of you taken on your wedding.

55 Check with your local newspaper for the form and timing of your weddingannouncement submission.

56 Select party favors to present to your guests to thank them for sharing your

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happiness. For this purpose, a groom’s 67 Check apparel for the wedding cake, in a traditional fruitcake or deep, party. Have bridesmaids’ gowns fitted. rich chocolate, may be ordered from Get swatches of material and have shoes your baker. Guests take a piece home in dyed to match. If any attendants live little boxes. out of town, send their dresses to them 57 Give thought to your cake top. to be fitted. Check mothers’ dresses and Porcelain figurines are beautiful and accessories. will be a lasting memento. A creative 68 Call the caterer and make a final baker will most likely have other ideas to decision on the reception menu. Be sure present to you. that the cake has been ordered.

58 Talk about ways to personalize your 69 Give your caterer a reliable estimate ceremony and then discuss your ideas of the number of guests expected at with the officiant. the wedding reception, 59 Check with so they can give you a the church sexton written confirmation of Recent trends in and manager of the cost per person with an wedding planning reception location itemized accounting - to indicate September and for accessibility the smallest detail - of October to be the to accommodate what they promise to most popular handicapped or elderly provide. months to get married. guests. Inform ushers 70 Confer with the of this. florist to be sure 60 Buy fake rings to everything is ordered. sew on your ring bearer’s pillow. The Confirm the time that flowers will best man carries the real ones. be delivered and decorations will be completed.

71 Arrange a transportation schedule 1 MONTH for those in the wedding party.

BEFORE THE WEDDING 72 Select a special wedding gift to give each other.

61 Finalize plans with your 73 Go over all procedures of the photographer and draw up a list of wedding ceremony and receiving line pictures you definitely want taken during with each other. the ceremony and reception.

74 Make seating plans for the rehearsal 62 Ask a relative or friend who knows dinner, ceremony and reception. the family well to help the photographer 75 Write out place cards, if you plan identify the people to be included in to have a bride’s table and a parent’s your photos, especially if there is a table. Also complete table number cards divorce or remarriage, or any type of for guests if you’re hosting a sit-down sticky situation among the parents of the dinner. couple.

76 Decide which members of the 63 Develop an orderly system of wedding will be included in the receiving tracking guests’ responses and any line and plan their positions. special information you need to 77 Keep gift checklist up to date, and remember. write thank-you notes daily.

64 Discuss the bachelor party with your 78 Consult professional movers for fiancée. Suggest the event be scheduled estimates to move your gifts and at least a week before the wedding day personal belongings to another town, if so there’s plenty of time to recover from you’re relocating. the revelry.

79 Make certain you are insured against 65 Have a final fitting on your gown damage or loss in transit. and make certain it will be ready to take to your bridal-portrait sitting.

2 WEEKS 66 Make an appointment to have BEFORE THE WEDDING your hair styled just before your formal

portrait is taken, and again the day 80 Set a date with your fiancée to get before or day of your wedding.

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your marriage license. brought to the reception to your parents’ 81 Be sure that the clothing and home or other designated place. accessories for all members of the bridal 87 Call guests who have not responded party are in order. to their invitation to ask if they’ll be 82 Check with the society editor of attending. your local newspaper and your groom’s 88 Add last-minute acceptances and hometown paper to find out what phone your caterer with the final guest form they wish you to follow to submit count. your wedding announcement and 89 Confirm ceremony vocalists and photograph. Mail the materials soon. musicians, and recheck your musical 83 Start gathering documents to change selections. your name on your bank account, Social 90 Arrange your gift display. All cards Security card, license, should be removed. insurance and other Checks are not important documents, if displayed, but a card The reception you are assuming your stating “Check from accounts for husband’s name.

Aunt Louise” may be substituted. Insure of wedding costs, gifts.

1 WEEK with an average price tag 91 Invite friends and BEFORE THE WEDDING of $12,343. relatives to drop by to see your gifts.

92 Present a small 84 Finalize your rehearsal gift or note of appreciation to friends dinner arrangements. and relatives who did special favors that 85 Wrap gifts purchased for your made planning run smoothly. attendants and groom. Present them at 93 Do a final check on details with your the rehearsal party. florist, caterer, sexton, clergy, musicians 86 Make plans to transport any gifts

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94 Finalize your honeymoon plans and begin packing.

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95 Have a manicure, pedicure and even a massage to pamper yourself and help you feel relaxed.

96 Attend the rehearsal. Review all important duties with the principals in the wedding party.

97 Give ushers the list of guests to be seated in the reserved section.

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WEDDING DAY 98 Rest and thoroughly relax in a nice warm bath.

99 Allow plenty of time to dress - about two hours before the ceremony begins, if possible.

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