KENNY KUPID

I have been in a relationship for a year now, and my boyfriend would rather play Minecraft at night than call me on the phone. We used to talk nearly every minute of the day. He used to pay for my meals, and now we hardly ever go out to eat. I know he still loves me, or at least I think he does. I can’t really tell anymore, especially since it seems like I am the only one putting any effort into our relationship

anymore. These days, I have to beg him to go shopping with me when he used to jump at the opportunity to spend time together. I’m beginning to think we have lost our spark. I might be seventeen, but somehow, we have become an old married couple. I just miss having a reason to get dressed up and show the world that he’s proud to be dating me. Am I overreacting?

I do not think you are overreacting, per say, but I do think we also have to recognize that the honeymoon phase is simply a phase. Yes, he should still be taking you out on dates and showing all his friends on social media that you are the prettiest girl in his eyes, but don’t assume he has fallen out of love with you.

In relationships, some people grow more comfortable than their partners, and you two just need to have a talk about this. If he doesn’t see how his lack of effort causes you to question the relationship, you need to drill it into his brain. If he refuses to make a change, leave. You deserve to be treated like a princess even if your ‘hanging out’ is simply watching ”Stranger Things” alongside each other

on a Saturday night.

Feeling comfortable with each other and ‘losing the spark’ does not mean your love for each other is any less special. Because you have grown content and confident in your relationship, you will not need to constantly pamper each other. Being in a relationship and maintaining independence will save you in the end. Perhaps after having this talk with your boyfriend, you could begin to enjoy your own hobbies during a time when you’d normally be insecure about your relationship.

You most likely have nothing to worry about. Ensure he is willing to make the changes you’d like to see, but remember that you should be confident in your relationship. I wish you the best of luck!