The “R” Word: 5 Ways to Handle the Touchy Topic of Racism with Your Children Children are naturally curious about their environment. They experience the environment through interacting with it, such as playing in the snow, walking in the rain, kicking away fall leaves, and swimming in a lake. It is from this innate curiosity, that the conversation about race should start. The conversation must be an interactive dialogue.
#1 Observe The Natural Environment. This does not have to be a science experiment. When walking or driving helps children to see the differences trees, colors of flowers, and sizes and physical characteristics of birds. Show that they are different from each other. Explain that this is the way the world is created: with a lot of different people, animals, trees, and plants. We all share the same earth. Be aware of your language. To say that “I’m different than you” may be perceived that the race of a child is the norm. A better statement is “We are different.” It’s also important to identify what is similar. Even though trees have different names, they are all trees. Even though races may have different skin colors, hair textures, shapes of noses and mouths, we are all human beings.
#2 Ask Your Child What They Know About Race.
#3 Be Clear About Your Family’s Racial Identity.
As early as three years old, children know the difference and associate either negative or positive perceptions about race. Sit down with your child and simply say, “Tell me what you know about the race.” For early age children, show pictures of diverse people, point to one, and ask, “What do you think about this person?” “What do you know about this person?” You may be surprised that children have already formed perceptions about other races.
Discuss and celebrate your family’s racial identity. It’s important for children to know their identity. In fact, this identity is a building stone for appreciating other races. Example: We belong to a group of people that are descendants from Africa. We are African Americans. Tell stories about your family. Show pictures of relatives. Use a map to locate the country where you are from.
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