Blackopps Entertainment May 2012 Edition

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BLACKOPPS ENTERTAINMENT

AUDRETTA HALL

NOELLA FE

MONICA DAYE

EBONY BURROUGHS

GREGORY DEVONN

TERENCE MERRITT

E-Magazine www.blackopps.com PUBLISHER & EDITOR-IN-CHIEF: Damien Prout CONTRIBUTING WRITER: Audretta Hall, Noella Fe, Ebony Burroughs, Monica Daye, Gregory DeVon, Terrence Merritt STAFF PHOTOGRAPHERS: Sierra Jackson, Toya Merritt and Damien Prout FEATURED PHOTOGRAPHER: Diamond District Photography

TABLE OF CONTENT Blackopps Gallery...………………...……..….8 Ready for a Sexual Relationship II...……….20 Theraphy: Is it for us?...............…………….12 Blackopps Night Life………………………..26

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Ready for a sexual relationship?

How do you know if you are ready for a sexual relationship? Is it in the way you walk, talk or the way you give that one person the look of I WANT YOU? Are you ready? How can you say if you are or if you are not? I can be that helping hand for you to look inside yourself and decide if you are. Let’s look at the last time you had a sexual relationship or a sexual encounter. Were you satisfied? Did he or she please you in every way? Did you have at least one orgasm? These are the things people overlook and they sometimes rush back in bed with a person because they were not satisfied. Have you ever asked yourself the reason as to why you chose to do so? If you were satisfied then please analyze your steps of having sex again and being in a relationship. If it has been a long time and you are still single or if you are in a relationship, you have to look at all the above and if sex is one of the main needs that stand out in your life right now.

People I want you to be honest with yourself! Everyone needs a release sexually. The gym, food, drinking, drugs or anything else is not the same as having a hot, heated, and passionate sexual encounter! So what we need to do is to be honest and truly honest with ourselves but the question is how do we accomplish that? What do we need to be honest about? Answer these questions. One - do you like sex? Two – do you need it or miss it? Three – what are you looking for when you are having sex? Lastly - are you going to be truthful about your needs and wants when you are GETTING IT ON! I say be truthful and you will be free. I have met and talked with a lot of women and men that stated their husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend or mate never let them be who they wanted to be in the bedroom. So now they are sexually deprived and want more. Tell your mate what you want, need to happen, and how you want it and please ask them to be truthful with you in return and assure them you will please them in the ways they need. Now if your mate is out there and you know you don’t or cannot perform the... let’s just say the suggested activities they desire you may need to send them on their way. Sure it’s okay to be open and try it out once for them (you may like it as well). Spice it up by adding a partner to the scene that will make the time with your mate an even more memorable experience. Yes I mean another person that wants what you and your mate want but please be an adult about the whole ordeal. Like I said before if you are not being pleased as well as your mate LET IT GO!!! No sense of the both of you being unhappy.

Communication is the only way you and your sexual needs can be addressed! Talk about it with your mate, a friend or someone you feel will listen and give you good to great advice. Being bashful will land you in a world of unhappiness. There are many relationships that do not begin or last because one person in the relationship feels sexually deprived and you do not want to be that person. Listen to yourself and your mate to find a level of agreement on how you two will please each other while keeping it fresh and new. And remember SEX is not a bad word! Sex is a beautiful occurrence when performed and done right. Well as right as you want it to be. Until next month….keep it real, keep it fun and most of all keep it safe.

Written by: Terence Merritt

Therapy: Is it for us???

It is so ironic that at this date and time we as “black people” are starting to seek therapy for those built up issues or hidden issues we have been harboring for years. Now I’m not talking about you pouring your heart out to your girls or homeboys crying about your problems. As we all know they don’t have the best advice always and typically are in your same situation. So how is it that they are the go to outlets that potentially steer us in the wrong direction? I am speaking of the type of help a licensed therapist can provide to you. Let’s be honest here we as a people have not only shunned away from this type of help but have made laughter and ridiculed those of other races for doing so. Why as a people have we now come into the era of using therapy as an emotional outlet? Imagine yourself at dinner with your closest friends and you are having what?? Man or women trouble. You seek the advice of oh what should I do? Your friends drop their opinions in but what you don’t realize is that number one did you really tell the entire story or have you left out an important factor and embellished the story to place more favor on your side so you hear the comfort of your right and he or she is wrong. Of

course you have!! that is just our human nature wanting to believe that we are right most of the time because in reality no one wants to say yes I am wrong and I apologize. Although you have apologized in the past each and every time is not a time in which you want to be the party who has to say those two words of “I’m sorry”. So by telling and seeking this advice is it really true advice with one sided opinions or is it a way to ease your pain so that you go out to your respective partner and spew those tidbits if advice you received from your friends?

The story should be sold not told in this case because we all know one thing about us in general is that you gotta prove it in order for us to move it!!!

So ask yourself this question: how have I viewed the thought of therapy and have you really considered it at this point in your life?

If the answer is yes then select the person you feel most comfortable with. The good thing about technology these days is that you can actually research the therapist. A therapist is like any good hairdresser or barber when you leave you feel fresh ready to take on the world. So can it take a time or two to get it right? Absolutely!!! The key is to try it out before you dismiss the idea or make assumptions on which race it is for and why you won’t seek the help you deserve. The ladies seem to be a little more open than the brothers to this not so new notion. The brothers are a little more hard pressed on the issue am I right fellas??? Most black men have learned from a small age to keep their feelings and emotions inside. MAN UP!!! Isn’t that what is said. That a “real” man doesn’t show or express their feelings and better yet if they do they must be “gay”. They cry inside until the ripe age of around fifty when actual health problems such as heart attacks, high blood pressure, and

diabetes start to kick in… shall I go on and list the countless number of health problems our men have encountered? Not really, you get my point by now. Bottom line is that we need to open our eyes as a race to embrace the fact that we have deep rooted issues rather you choose to believe it or not. Therapy is a resource to be explored not exploited. What we have heard in the past should not deter our thought process of our future. When was the last time you were truly happy? Where were you? What were you doing? Can you answer that honestly or will it be a fictional story?

Stick with me and I will show you the way through the journey in “Therapy”.

~ Rekiea Colbert~

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