Girlfriend Gazette Summer 2013

Girlfriend Summer

2013

Gazette

Your Photo Challenge Entries

The Gift A Story of Surrender

ModPodge Journal The Timeless Art of Teatime A WORD FROM

BROTHER-IN-CHRIST

ANONYMOUS

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Page 19 A Word from Brother-in-Christ Anonymous

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M ONICA M ILLER Editor in Chief | Layout Welcome to this rather bright issue, I’m glad you dropped by!

If your new here, let me tell you what you’ve stumbled upon: At age 12 I started making a 2-paged newsletter called The Girlfriend Gazette to pass out to my friends at church… and it has kind of evolved into what it is today. Our passion is to inspire and equip young teen girls to live a life of purity; completely devoted to drawing close to Jesus now in these younger years. (And we also hope to have a little fun together along the way! :) A lot of prayer, work, passion and energy is put into the making of each issue… so we pray you are blessed!

I am 16 and just moved with my family to the tropical land of Thailand. Jesus is why I am here. My heart beats to know

Him, and to be near Him. Above all I seek to live a life of holiness and faith.

I love to dream big and chase dreams. I have a general curiosity for life. I love all things elegant, colors that are happy, God’s Word, music, journaling, peppermint tea, and dill pickles.

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C HRISTY B ARKMAN Creative Assistant HELLO ALL! So, this is me, and you, reader, are yourself.

I was born at a very young age, into what would become a family of eight.

I am an people-person; outgoing and ready for LIVING. I desire to be a "littleChrist", one who does as He did, one who loves Him so much that nothing will come in the way of honoring and imitating Him. Learning to linger over little moments and love them to their core is my passion.

Poloroid memories, worn journals and piles of pens, marked-up Bibles, COLOR, coffee-shop atmosphere and heart talks, thrift store shopping, interesting buildings, childhood pictures and videos, kindred spirits and paint samples are some of my favorite things.

God has blessed us so much, really. I want to see what God has for each of you (and me) in this issue and the next however many He sees fit to have me involved in!

Photography: Blyss Barkman

Photography: Blyss Barkman

MEET A FEW OF THE CONTRIBUTORS Jana Burkholder Hi. my name is Jana. I'm 22 & live the gorgeous country of Thailand. I love God my deliverer. My family & friends I keep very near my heart. I'm a fan of the beverage that is coffee & I work at a little coffee shop here in Chiang Mai. I love people & diversity & all the little things that tie together to make this life beautiful.

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Teresa Witmer I recently traded rugged Colorado for balmy California to marry my best friend. I enjoy listening to the sounds in our apartment complex, connecting with people, “journaling” on the piano, writing, and traveling to places where Jesus is not known. I have a lot to learn about what it means to follow Jesus and love Him - but am beyond grateful He has called me out of darkness and into His marvelous Light!

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Sierra Herr I'm 17 and the second oldest of 5 kids. I live in the small town of Guys Mills situated in Northern PA and love it. I enjoy spending time in God's creation and capturing it’s beauty on camera. Sewing is something I do as a job and because I enjoy it. I prefer tea over coffee and find pleasure in reading good books. Playing piano brings me peace. Every day is a journey to knowing the Father more and I'm delighted to be his daughter.

Page 9 Page 9 Katelyn Miller My name is Katelyn but my friends call me Kate. I love chai and coffee shops. I love hanging out with friends and being crazy. Rain is amazing. I am 16 and drive a gold pt cruiser. :) I live and breathe music. Writing is a hobby I love. Psalm 138 has been my favorite for a long time. I dream of traveling and making a difference with Gods help.

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“One does not

surrender a life in an instant. That which is lifelong can only be surrendered in a lifetime.” ― Elisabeth Elliot

Photography : Blyss Barkman

THE FLYING CHROCHET HOOK

Savannah Knepp

<<Reader’ s Recipe>> Chocolate-Covered Peanut Clusters Karlita Yoder 7-8 oz. semi-sweet chocolate chips 1/2 lb. roasted peanuts

Oreo Cake Pops

Melt chocolate in bowl over hot water. Remove from heat. Add peanuts, and stir well. Drop from teaspoon onto waxed paper. Refrigerate for 12 hours. Store in cool place.

Ingredients: -1 (1 lb. 1 oz) package of Oreos, minus about 6-8 cookies -1 (8 oz.) package of cream cheese, softened to room temperature -Candy coating/dipping chocolate Directions: Crush the Oreos (including the crème filling) in a food processor until finely ground.

Or place them in a heavy duty bag and very finely crush them with a rolling pin.

Cream together the Oreo crumbs with the softened cream cheese until completely blended. You may want to use your fingers.

Send your recipes, crafts, and other bright ideas to: theflyingchrochethook@gmail.com

<<Pinterest Ideas I heart>> <<Roast Starburst over the Campfire>> Just like you do marshmallows! This turned out to be a delightfully yummy substance!)

<<Sharpie Dish Art >> Write on a glass dish with a sharpie marker then bake at 170 degrees for 30 minutes. Its easy and fun!

Send your recipes, crafts, and other bright ideas to thefkyingcrochethook@gmail.com

Form into 1″ balls and place on a wax paper-covered baking sheet. Gently poke a sucker stick down into each ball. Freeze for about 20 minutes. In the meantime, melt your chocolate as directed on the package.

For the next step, dip balls into the melted chocolate, lightly tap off the excess, and place it on another wax paper-covered baking sheet to dry.

Let the balls cool on the wax paper for at least 1 hour before very gently peeling them off.

Drizzle with white chocolate coating or decorate as desired.

THIS IS MY TESTIMONY

When Rain Comes Sierra Herr So far this summer has been a summer like none other.

The past 2 summers I have been someone that most people aren’t familiar with. I was grouchy almost all of the time. Ask my Mom if you don’t believe me. My grouchiness never seemed to let up unless I went away from home. I was unpleasant to live with. I lived off of my social life. My Mom got sick of me living for the future. My relationship with God was shallow and most of the time I felt like I was just going through the motions. Church was drudgery and my mind always wandered during the sermon.

At the beginning of each summer I wanted to be a different person by the end but it didn’t happen. I was always the same old Sierra by the beginning of the next school year… the only thing that had changed was my skin color. I was two different people. At home I was a bear, away from home I was an angel.

This summer started out the same way. For me, switching from friends to family was difficult. My Mom said I had matured and wasn’t as grouchy. But inside I still felt the same.

Sleep was a disaster and I slept fitfully every night. I struggled to make my relationship with God feel alive. I felt stuck in a rut.

attitude about everything but I’m learning to find joy in the simple tasks at home.

I was worried that the summer would go slowly because I didn’t have much going on but as each week approaches, it fills up… I haven’t had a boring week yet!

Ever since that weekend, sleep is no longer a problem. I am able to sleep peacefully the whole night. Relationships with my girlfriends have deepened. Now we don’t just talk about our lives… we talk about what God is doing in them.

Family life is becoming more bearable and I find myself more able to love them. My Dad is becoming one of the most important people in my life, my Mom one of my good friends and teachers in all that is necessary for later life, my sisters closer to me, my brother is teaching me and my little sister Destiny has brought me so much joy and is preparing me for my own children someday. God is giving me a patience that I could The last weekend in May I attended a girls conference. I was never cook up on my own. lead singer on the worship team. The first two days it was diffiChurch has begun to hold more meaning. I enjoy church. cult to get into the worship. I felt closed down and unable to It’s refreshing and life giving. I love the people that make receive anything. And then things changed. Stephanie Fast shared her testimony and it moved me to tears… immediately it what it is. following the session we had solitude. I went to the wildlife I have fallen in love with rain. I love to sit and listen to rain refuge and deep in those woods God met me. I talked and He falling and birds singing. Taking pictures of plants with filled me with peace. After that worship came naturally. The raindrops on them is a new favorite. Rain is refreshing. It resessions convicted me. I came away from the weekend revives the earth and enhances all the colors. It washes away the freshed and ready to change. dirt. That’s what Jesus is doing to me this summer. Washing I told God I was willing to change and He began to work. away my dirt, refreshing my soul.

Time spent with Him is no longer empty and hurried. I have This summer is the summer I have wanted for the past two begun waking up early to spend time with Him. For me, that’s years…a summer of change. huge. I adore sleeping in. I’ve realized sleep isn’t worth it and it’s only a small sacrifice. Spending time with Him in the mornWhat is your story? ing sets me on the right path for the rest of the day. I’m no What has Jesus done (or doing!) that you want to shout out? Send your longer grouchy and discontent. God has filled me with peace stories and testimonies (please no more then 600 words!) along with a phoand I am finding contentment in being here at home and workto of you (and if you happen to have some, pictures that accompany your ing. story!) to: girlfriendgazette@gmail.com Frustration still comes and I don’t always have an upbeat

The AGift Story of Surr K ATELYN MILLER

trender

“I don’t understand. I’m tired of carrying this box. It’s heavy.

Why don’t you explain what all is inside?”

The greying sky with its dark clouds looked down on two lone figures. They walked side by side, a young girl carrying a beautiful gift and a man tall, strong, the leader. As they walked the girl continued to glance at the box in her hands.

She started out smiling at it, but slowly as time passed and she began to feel the weight and she began to frown then glare at the box. Wishing she didn’t have to carry it. The man watched her, a look of love in his eyes. He said nothing, just watched.

Slowly rain drops began to patter to the earth. The sun was covered by the dark foreboding clouds. Thunder rumbled in the distant. The road stretched on forever in front of the pair.

Suddenly the girl stopped. Shaking her head she sighed deeply. “I don’t understand. I’m tired of carrying this box. It’s heavy. Why don’t you explain what all is inside?” She raged. “I’m just so tired, I don’t even want it anymore.” She threw the box down at her feet. Rain fell harder, soaking them and the earth. The gift

lay there pelted by the rain.

The man looked at the gift, then her, and back at the box. A look of compassion, love, and concern filled his piercing eyes.

Silence filled the moment. Thunder sounded.

The man stepped forward and faced her. The gift lay between them. The girl wore a pout on her rain soaked face. Her long hair hung limply.

“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts, and my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine. For just as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” His gentle whispered words penetrated the air.

They left her breathless and wide eyed.

Closing her eyes she dropped to her knees. “Oh Jesus, I’m so unworthy.” She gasped. Emotion filled her heart and throat.

The man knelt down, rain water swirling about them. He gently touched her shoulder. She slowly lifted her face but her eyes remained down cast. Reaching out he lovingly pushed her soaking hair behind her ear. She raised her eyes. Their eyes locked. A look of love in his eyes and a look of wonder and amazement in hers.

“For I know the plans I have for you.

They are plans for good and not disaster plans to give a future and a hope. When you pray I will listen. If you look for me wholeheartedly, you will find me.” His words hung in the air, a promise. The rain

had stopped; the clouds began to roll away.

He stood. The wind whipped his hair and coat. The sun shone on him yet he seemed to shine even brighter than the sun.

“Will you trust me?” The question was simple yet held much meaning. It seemed to ring out over the valley.

The girl’s eyes were fixed on the man before her. On bended knee she spoke, “I trust you, Jesus.” He reached out his hand grasping her small one in his large one. He helped her stand. Bending down he picked up the gift box. Straightening, he retied the ribbon. His eyes rested on it a moment.

The girl followed his movements with her eyes. He held it out. Bowing her head she stared at the ground. Why would he give it to her if she had thrown it away?

“It may be heavy but I will help you carry it if you surrender it to me. In my time I will reveal all its secrets.” She looked up a hopeful smile filled her face. She accepted the gift.

“Jesus, I want to surrender it to you.

Will you help me carry it, and will you carry me?” Her words brought a smile to his face. A smile that warmed the girl’s heart like nothing could. He reached down and scooped her up in his strong arms. She wrapped one arm around his neck and the other around the precious gift she carried.

She laid her head against his chest. “I love you, Jesus. I praise You.” She whispered. He kissed her forehead, smiling. He then turned and began the journey once again.

Teresa Witmer

Seeing God

Bigger

Photography : Blyss Barkman

EL ELYON The Most High God It was our last night at Yosemite National Park. I squinted at the narrow path that was barely visible in the forest where our campsite was nestled. Finally, we broke through the trees into a meadow. I stood breathless. The stars. They canvassed the sky by the millions. The longer you looked, the more you would see. Scientists have given dimensions to these specks in the sky - their massive sizes and unfathomable distances from our Earth. It’s beyond what my mind can comprehend.

And God…He created it all. Yet He has no dimensional limits. No one can measure Him. He is El Elyon - the Most High God. The very reference of this name should have my knees shaking.

He is the highest of the highest. Nothing is above Him nothing.

He is the greatest of the great.

Our Savior, the Messiah, is His Son. There is no other god but Him. He reigns over every supernatural power.

Satan was hurled out of heaven for declaring He would be like Him. He can crush. He can restore.

He gives refuge.

He was not created. He has always been.

He is the One who established it all.

The mountains melt before His majesty. The sun rises at His command.

Wrapped in this name - El Elyon - is extreme sovereignty, majesty, and the highest preeminence.

He is the most exalted God – the Most High.

How do I to approach El Elyon – or begin to lift Him

up as Most High in my life? Psalm 92:1 leaps off the page of my Bible: “It is good to give thanks to the LORD and to sing praises to Your name, O Most High.”

Give thanks. Sing praises. This is not the answer I look for. It does not come naturally. It’s the last thing I feel like doing. Life weighs us down. Hard times come. The world is broken. I’m broken. The mundane is not extravagant.

Things happen that I don’t understand or never asked for.

I struggle daily to see beyond myself and this world and look to Him. Ann Voskamp says it well: “To thank God in all is to bend the knee in allegiance to God who alone knows all.

That which I refuse to thank Christ for, I refuse to believe Christ can redeem.”

This simple act of giving thanks is an offering of worship to our Most High God. Because every time I thank Him for the hard thing - that which is broken in my life and in the world – I’m lifting Him up as Sovereign. Every time I thank Him for the good things – that which is beautiful and being redeemed – I’m lifting Him up as the Giver of all – the One who is over all.

To thank Him is not tossing elaborate words into the wind. It’s not gritting our teeth and choosing to be strong - or fake. It isn’t denying the pain of life or looking through rose-colored glasses. It’s saying: “God - you’re above all this. You are Reality. You are sovereign over all.

You are El Elyon” I blessed the Most High, and praised and honored the One who lives forever. For His sovereignty is an everlasting sovereignty, and His kingdom endures from generation to generation.” Daniel 4:34 NRSV

Modpodge Journal Tori Miller Tori Miller

Supplies: Composition Notebook Modpodge (I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t have any modpodge and I didnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t feel like waiting till we went to the store so I made my own and you can too! All it is, is one part water to one part glue. Stir it together and Tada!)

Paper Pen Scissors Ribbon Quotes {optional} Flowers

1. Take your paper and lay against the front cover of your notebook. Then open the notebook and trace around the edge. Cut it out, trimming any excess.

2. Take your modpodge and paint a layer on the front cover of the notebook. Lay paper on top.

Smooth out any wrinkles. Let dry several minutes.

3. Cut out your ribbon leaving an inch on either end to fold over.

4. Using your modpodge as your glue paint it on the back of your quotes, ribbon, and flowers. Place on top of notebook. Let dry.

4. Paint one last final coat of modpodge over the top of the notebook as a sealer. Let dry.

Now take your new journal and a pen to a coffee shop and relax, because God has given us these days to enjoy!

Worthyreads

Evidence Not Seen Darlene Deibler Darlene Deibler was the first woman missionary to Madagascar, an island in the East Indies. She and her newly wed husband pioneered the way for Christ to be shared and for future missionaries to come. They had touched many lives when World War II swept in like a whirlwind and both of them found themselves in separate, dirty, Japanese prison camps.

Facing sickness, rabid dogs, hordes of flies, and a cruel camp commander daily, Darlene's trust in God helps her even through the tough times.

My faith was challenged and strengthened as I read of Darlene's courage and faith as she endured the hardships and trials of prison life.

Even when she was forced to to confess to crimes she had never committed and as a result faced death, she still trusted in God to see her through. Her life is an example to all of us of how to be God's light even through the toughest times and I would highly encourage everyone to read this book. “

- Cheyenne Knepp (15)

My Father’s World Michael Phillips & Judith Pella I started reading The Journals of Corrie Belle Hollister by Michael Phillips and Judith Pella last month.

Since then I have grown to love them. It's a series, but I will just tell you about the first book. Corrie is a fictional character set in one of the most historical times...the California Gold Rush. Corrie and her family-her Ma, two brothers and two sisters--live in upstate New York on a small farm. Her pa had headed West by himself when Corrie was not very old. They heard nothing from him until years later... he had died. Realizing they could not hold unto the farm much longer they traveled West to California where their uncle lived. They were just about there when Corrie's Ma came down with fever and died… leaving Corrie in the middle of the desert in charge of the remaining family and the captain of the wagon train their only hope of finding their uncle. What will become of Corrie and her siblings? Find out for yourself in My Father's World, Journals of Corrie Belle Hollister.

-Londa (13)

Rees Howells: Intercessor â&#x20AC;&#x153;If you would ask me what book has changed my life the most, and I had already told you "The Bible," then "Rees Howells: Intercessor" would always be the first book that comes to my mind. This biography gave me an insatiable desire to seek God and to hear from Him; the stories from Rees Howells' life are incredible!

I'll let you discover them for yourself!â&#x20AC;?

-Cherie Barkman (19)

The Girl With

Blue

Photo Credits : Cherie Barkman

The

e Feathered Pen

Christy Barkman

Here we are, time for another addition of Girlfriend Gazette.

I wonder what changes have happened in your lives since you’ve last heard from us.

It continues to hit me, how much can change in even one month.

Life moves on, doesn’t it?

Whether we’re ready for it or not.

I am currently sitting on an equally comfortable/uncomfortable chair in The Office.

As our current home is not equipped with central cooling; every now and then we have parties in here with the air blasting, equipped with a book or laptop and the humid heat forgotten for at least a little while.

It is SUCH a cozy feeling to have the air so cool that you can actually enjoy being wrapped in a blanket.

It’s going on six months that my family has lived in Chiang Mai. Am I any more used to it than I was at the start?

Hmm. I guess the fact that I can now ask where the bathroom is in Thai, drive a motorbike without dropping it and play ball in the heat without fainting would lead one to the assumption that I am.

I feel very blessed.

Blessed to lead the life I do with the people I know to walk beside me, instructing and just caring.

Not that life isn’t hard.

But I’m blessed to EXIST, you know?

And not to just exist. how sad would that be?

But I get to LIVE, and to live fully.

Not because I live in Thailand.

Not because I’m older than I was a year ago.

But because of Jesus, Who GIVES us life and life abundant.

Sure, there are a lot of things that I could complain about.

My dad is in the hospital with dengue fever.

We live on the opposite side of the world than our family.

Our house doesn’t have central cooling in 108 degree weather.

Learning Thai is HARD.

My loft floor consists of rattily plywood that sounds like a herd of wildebeest when I walk on it.

But if I think about, each and every one of those things become blessings.

“Every blessing You pour out I’ll turn back to praise.”

My dad is in the hospital, yes, but he could’ve died; it was that bad.

PRAISE GOD FOR LIFE. We live on the opposite side of the world from our family, but this means we can treasure ‘together moments’ more and see the value of family.

Yeah that sounds cliché, but it’s TRUE. PRAISE GOD FOR FAMILY. Our house doesn’t have central cooling, but …

This is a hard one.

Ah ha.

We drink more water etc. and are thus, healthier.

And all these office parties probably wouldn’t happen with it.

PRAISE GOD FOR TOGETHER TIMES.

But because we know that You turn ashes into beauty.

Teach us to be thankful for hard things because they make us grow.

Learning Thai is HARD, yes, but dude, I get to learn a new language!

How cool is that!

PRAISE GOD FOR NEW – NESS. And my loft floor . . .

That’s another toughie.

Any suggestions?

Do I praise God for rattily plywood as much as I praise Him for butterflies and sunsets?

I guess I’ll wrap this up; it’s getting closer to Thai lesson time and magazine ‘release date’ time.

The Lord is faithful.

The Lord is good.

Lord, teach us to JOY in the ugly, not because it’s ugly,

Find me at: barefoote.wordpress.com

Chayil

Life as the Woman of Proverbs 31

Volume 2 : Monica Miller, Renita Rhodes, Jana Burkholde and Brother-in-Christ Anonymous

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â&#x20AC;&#x153;The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.â&#x20AC;?

This Issue’s Chayil Verse: “The heart of her husband doth safely foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quartrust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him rels. “ good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Philippians 4:8-9: “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is If I had the chance to look every 14-year-old sister of faith in honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, the eyes and say one thing, it would quite possibly go something whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is like, “seek Jesus now and above all else guard your heart.” anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

If you happen to be that 14-year-old sister of faith (or any single Matthew 5:8 “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall sister of faith for that matter) it can be really hard to know how see God.” this issue’s Chayil verse applies to you. I mean, obviously “all the If God has it in His will for you to marry then He will bring it days of your life” include the days before marriage as well as after about in His perfect way and timing. When that time comes do you but how can you really do your husband good now? want to give a heart to your husband that has been consumed and I have a simple question for you: Can you look at your life right broken by others? now and say that your future husband would feel honored by the And yet we shouldn’t guard our hearts just because we are way you think about and interact with the guys in your life? afraid of being hurt (this only builds walls) rather we should guard As some of your peers only talk, dream and live for boys how our hearts against all evil and impurity because of our burning decan you take the stand to keep your heart guarded and your focus sire to see the holiness of God. on Jesus?

Let’s focus our hearts on Jesus instead guys. Let’s live lives that I’ve personally, been wrestling with how to answer these ques- are surrendered to His will. Let’s keep our hearts for our future tions. I want you to know first off that I do not have this all figured husbands and more importantly for Jesus. It won’t be easy—not out. I have so many fears and failings. I boast only of Jesus’ grace in in the least! —but it will worth not having our minds consumed my life and the victory that is mine—ours through the Cross! by guys in order that our heavenly Prince totally consume mind The only way I can find answers to what our standards should and heart! be in thought life and interacting with guys is to go straight to the place where our every conviction and standard should come from: The Bible. [Because I really doubt anyone is going to gain much from my ramblings. :)] Sadly though, I doubt that very many girls will do more then skim over these Bible verses… but it’s my hope that the few who do read this will be challenged to search it out on their own with the commitment to do whatever it takes to remain pure in heart.

Psalm 24: 3-4: “Who shall ascend the hill of the Lord?

And who shall stand in his holy place?

He who has clean hands and a pure heart, who does not lift up his soul to what is false...”

2 Timothy 2:22-23: “ So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. Have nothing to do with

And now I will stop rambling and let you move on in this section because the rest of these writers have some pretty awesome things to say!

God bless you reader as you seek His face above all else!

Honoring Honoring Now Now a word from Brother-In-Christ Anonymous

To ask the question: “How can a woman honor her husband before marriage?” could be compared in some ways to asking “What plus what is fifty?” In both questions you are setting the destination, expecting the answer to tell you how to get there. Also just as there are many ways to add two numbers to get to fifty, there are many ways to honor your husband before marriage. Some of these ways were made known to me as I talked with other guys about it. I learned very much about this subject while talking with them, so much in fact that to thoroughly cover the subject would require me to write a short book. Even though a book is out of the question, I think I can point you in the right direction by briefly telling you about the three things that came up over and over again.

1. Hon or God “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31 As a guy, I can't think of any way my future wife could honor me more than by taking God from being the number one part of her life and making Him her entire life. If God is all of a person's life, then everything that person does will be to honor Him. One of the ways we honor Him is through a Godly marriage.

Honoring God is not just another way to honor your husband, it is the only way to fully live your life.

I also think it's important for you to realize that attempting to honor yourself instead of God will only result in victory for our enemy.

When you try to lift yourself up, there is no more likely time that you might fall. This does

not honor you, it will not honor your future husband, and it certainly does not honor God.

Honoring God is not just another way to honor your husband, it is the only way to fully live your life.

2. R es p ect A u t h o r it y “A wife of noble character is her husband's crown.” Proverbs 12:4a To guys, this one's a no-brainer.

You are very likely to respond to your husband and the decisions he makes the same way you respond to your authority before marriage. To respect authority now is a great step to take in becoming ready for marriage.

Preparing for marriage in this way will not only honor your future husband, but will also bring honor to yourself and most importantly to God. Respecting authority in most cases means obeying authority. Often obeying authority is tough, especially when it involves giving up your own freedoms or doing something that you find difficult or unpleasant to do. Whether it's getting rid of your makeup to meet your father's standard of apparel, or doing more than your fair share of work while your sibling is in charge when your parents are gone; you will be honoring all involved and will eventually be blessed because of it by God. Preparing for marriage by honoring your authority may mean making things right with them. Offenses that are not made right, debts that are not paid, and relationships that are not mended before marriage will

likely involve your spouse after marriage.

So why not try to keep your record clean and stay pure before God and man. If you're thinking that it's too late for a clean slate, just remember that God can make you new again, and that He will always love you no matter what you've done!

3. Be Em ot ion a lly P u r e Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life. Proverbs 4:23 As a guy, I get this “butterfly feeling” whenever I talk to a girl I like, it makes me enjoy the conversation far more than if I were just talking to one of my “bros” about the exact same thing. I also get the same feeling, although it's not as strong, when I sit next to one of those girls or am even just in her company. Even though I'm looking all chill on the outside, on the inside I feel as if I just took a step into paradise. The butterflies vanish as soon as the conversation ends or she gets up to leave, but I'm left still wanting more. So what do I do? I look for a reason to talk to her. Although I realize there are many legitimate reasons for me to talk to a girl, when I try to create reasons so I can talk to her it's called flirting. Guys do it just as much as girls do, and the more the guy likes the girl, the stronger that feeling is for him. This is as dangerous as walking on live coals. The question is not if you will get burned or not, but just how badly those burns will be. The longer you're playing in these coals the more they will burn.

Flirting is just chasing that butterfly feeling at level one. The problem is that it's not sat-

isfying at level one for very long. When it's no longer satisfying, there are only two options for you to choose from: quit chasing the butterflies, or increase the dosage by taking it to level two.

Level two is probably Chasing the casual dating or as is butterflies is an becoming popular in some circles: predat- addiction and if ing. Pretty much not stopped you're wanting to hang out with the oth- now, will pop er person to feel up after you no those butterflies in a longer are satisstronger way but don't really have fied with the long term goals in mind. Going to level butterflies that two also just made come from your the danger levels go husband. up. Now it's no longer just playing on a bed of hot coals, you're now playing a game of hot potato, only instead of a potato you're using a hand grenade.

“Dear Simpleton, Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!”

Madam Folly—Proverbs 9:13-18 Chasing the butterflies is not how God wants us to love. We are to choose to love and then enjoy it as the butterflies seek us.

Chasing the butterflies is an addiction and if not stopped now, will pop up after you no longer are satisfied with the butterflies that come from your husband. Flirting with others after marriage is one of the worst things for a marriage. I'm convinced, chas-

â&#x20AC;&#x153;Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.â&#x20AC;?

Proverbs 4:23

ing the butterflies is never really satisfying, but loving someone in the way God intended for you to is always enough to fill your cup.

4. A Bon u s Th ou gh t He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord. Proverbs 18:22 According the Proverbs 18:22 and common guy sense: A wife is a blessing just by being a wife. I realize marriage takes effort, but I also realize God designed marriage to be enjoyed, and one

of the best ways I can think of to fully enjoy my future marriage is by preparing now.

This not only applies to my future marriage to a woman, but also as my being a part of the bride of Christ. Perhaps marriage as we know it here on earth is just a foretaste of what is to come and the enjoyment that we look forward to here will fade in comparison to what God has waiting for us in heaven.

Let your eyes look straight ahead; fix your gaze directly before you. Proverbs 4:25

Her Heartâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Desire Jana Burkholder Her beautiful spirit is refined & by grace and trust she is defined.

The intentions of her heart are pure & faith and trust in Him secure.

In her eyes is loving adoration beyond words for her first love is in the almighty LORD. Over her heart He does watch with care even though on her sleeve her heart she does wear.

She guards her heart, emotions & mind knowing that in Him contentment she'll find.

From the heart her smile shines radiantly for on His will does she wait patiently.

Photography : Blyss Barkman

Renita Rhodes

An Interview on Proverbs 31:11-12

Proverbs 31:11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Girlfriend Gazette: What is your story?

Renita Rhodes: I grew up in a very small Mennonite community where we related a lot with our neighbors and other non-Christians. I have had a heart for other nationalities from a young age and I’ve been blessed by God to be able to live in several different countries and among different cultures. I count it a privilege to get to experience the richness of variety of people that God has placed in our world.

GG: Tell us one thing about each of your family members.

RR: Rick and I have 7 children. Rick is the “steady visionary” – with all of our coming

& going and activity he is stable in God and leads us well! RaVonne is the oldest and is the “other female” in the house and is very much a lady even though she keeps up well with her brothers. She has a heart for God and young teens! Riley is the oldest of the

6 boys and is the leader – very confident. He has a soft heart for people, especially for kids. RaMont loves to tell jokes, is a hard worker and is very dedicated and loyal. Reid is very creative! He cares deeply about those who may be in trouble. Rodney is our explorer and is also a story teller. He makes friends easily. Reggie is the smart 4 year old in the family. He loves to learn and loves numbers and letters. He tries to keep up with his older brothers. Rylan is the baby (for now) and is definitely Daddy’s boy. He loves to go along with whoever is leaving.

GG:Are there some things that you did in your teenage years that shaped your beliefs and the way you view God? RR: I am blessed with parents who spent a lot of time with all 5 of us kids while growing up – that gave me security! God also gave me a strong heart for Him no matter what others did. So, from a young age I chose to follow Him, read the Bible, honor authority and make right choices. I am so thankful for that now – it has saved me a lot of grief. I still had to learn in later years that God was a good God who cared for me not just about what I did.

GG: What have you learned about the importance of guarding your heart, and learning to respect guys as brothers in Christ at a young age, now that you're married?

RR: I have learned that the “art” of guarding your heart is a lifelong business. From observing others and from my own experiences in relating to guys/men I realize that it is very important to have girlfriends to talk to about heart/personal issues. Also, it is important to have guidelines set as we talk to guys (even authorities or mentors) so that we don’t become emotionally attached to them when we share or get input. Accountability to girlfriends or a lady mentor who will be very honest with you about the way you relate is very important!

GG: How do you think Proverbs 31:11-12 applies to teenage women?

RR: Obviously most teenage girls don’t have husbands, so I think it could apply for the future – Is what you are doing now going to affect how your husband

can safely trust you in the future? It also could apply now – Can the men in your life safely trust in you? Can they count on you to do them good and not harm every day? Are you consciously living in a way that blesses the men in your life?

GG:What are some practical, down-to-earth things for us all to do to learn how to apply those verses to our everyday lives?

RR: First of all, memorize these verses. Meditate on them! Ask God what He wants you to learn from them. Go to your dad, your brothers, your pastor, and ask them what they see in your life that you could improve on so that they can say these verses about you! Ask your mom what she has learned from these verses. Be a learner! We can all grow in this area!

GG:How have you learned to walk with your daughter, in teaching her these same principles?

RR: My daughter has been a challenge to me in the last years – wanting so much to guard her heart and live well with her dad and brothers. We have had conversations about these topics, but I feel like it has been God working in her showing her the way more than me teaching her how to do it. I am blessed by her heart to do right.

GG: Any closing remarks?

RR: All of us want a marriage that is built on God and that is a happy marriage. What we do now definitely affects that in the future. So, I would just say be careful about what you put into your mind and heart now so that you can live well both now and later. Be diligent about the little things now …

How do you respond to your authorities – is it from a heart of submission? How is your heart response toward those who think differently than you do? Are you willing to be a servant to those around you – your siblings, your church family, your neighbors? All of these things and more are Christ-like responses that will definitely be a blessing to your husband should you get married in the future. Be diligent now so that all people can safely trust in you!

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Teatime With Monica Miller

It all started on the ancient streets of Old City, Jerusalem. Chloe and I were taking in the colors, smells, and textures of that beautiful city (she on my back as I tried to convince her that I was not her camel but a prancing pony) when we, being girls, began discussing tea parties (most likely inspired by a vendor bargaining hard for a pretty, frilly fan) and all their loveliness. I made the promise there, in the land I came to love like none other, that we would have ourselves a tea party when we moved to Asia and became neighbors.

Less than a year later, amidst settling in and not having many things to pull of such a merry affair, these three fair maidens came over and we had the most pleasant time celebrating the simple joys of life and the beauty of girlhood.

Thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s an Idea: Beforehand, collect tea cups at second-hand stores, then at the tea party tell each guest that the teacup set at her place is a gift to take home.

Thereâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s an Idea: Mix together some brownies and bake in a mini cupcake pan for a yummy, last-minute tea party treat.

Swirl on some whipped-topping to finish off.

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Name: Dawn Age: 16

Name: Blyss Age:18 (gasp)

City I want to travel to: Right now I just really want to go to Chiang Mai Thailand.

City I want to travel to: Chiang Mai, London, almost anywhere.

Favorite Color to Wear in the Summer: Blue Word I overuse: Awesome. Because there is just so much that is… awesome!

Favorite color to wear in the summer: This changes almost every year.. this year? Coral.

Indoor or out?: Depends on my mood.. mostly out!

Indoor or out?: Outdoors.

Hobby: Making bracelets. Learning new random facts.

Something I want to accomplish this summer: Train for 10K, write a poem, read more books off of my reading list.

What God is teaching me right now: Probably the biggest is to follow and live for Him EVERYday in EVERYway. And to trust Jesus always, even in the really small areas of my life.

How I distress or Relax: Take a nap [I love naps so much.]

Three adjectives to describe me: That depends if it's how I imagine myself or how I really am! Talkative, Goal minded, and indecisive.

Bible Verse that Means the Most to Me Right Now: 1 Corinthians 10:13 "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but [God is faithful,] who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it."

Psalms 16:11 "Thou wilt shew me the path of life; [in thy presence if fulness of joy;] at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore"

Hobby: (do i have to choose just ONE?!!) photography Thing i want to accomplish this summer: Learn how to love unconditionally!

DIY or Reading: Reading. but i love both!

What God is teaching me: What others think of me isn't nearly as important as what God thinks of me! People will come and go.. but God's around for forever..

How I de-stress and relax: Swimming, reading, baking., or watching a movie.

Three adjectives to describe me: Happy, bubbly.. and a bit loud.

Bible verse that means the most to me right now: Philippians 4:13: “ I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” and Isaiah 29:23b: “They will recognize the holiness of the Holy One of Israel. They will stand in awe of the God of Israel."

BONUS PAGES “There is nothing dreary or doubtful about (the life).

It is meant to be continually joyful… we are called to a settled

happiness in the Lord whose

joy is our strength.”

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