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ISSUE 07.12
Benefit Season The Red Dress Party is a national event dedicated to creating awareness and visibility for the HIV/AIDS movement and raising funds for organizations that provide vital community services. The Chicago event will take place on Apr. 21 at the Joffrey Ballet studio. The origin of the event reads like a classic romantic movie; in the early 1990s, two men were dating when they both contracted HIV/AIDS. To show their love and dedication they vowed when one of them passed away the other would attend their funeral adorned in a red dress. Currently there are Red Dress parties all over the United States, the Chicago event is a benefit for The AIDS Foundation and Equality Project.
DINING OUT FOR LIFE VITAL BRIDGES
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The event kicks off with a VIP reception and red carpet arrival with the ubiquitous Miss Foozie greeting arriving guests. An hour later, those with general admission tickets arrive and mingle. At 10:30, special guest musical performer, Beverly McClellan performs. The party continues until midnight, with an after party just up the street at Downtown bar. While drag is not required, it is encouraged and you’ll find many people whom you wouldn’t expect to wear a frock, rocking one out. Red attire is mandatory, however. Tickets for the 2012 Chicago Red Dress Party, being held at the Joffrey Ballet Studios, 10 E. Randolph range in price from $100-$300. For more information, go to chicagoreddressparty.org. boi
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DINING OUT FOR LIFE On Thursday, Apr. 26, EdgeAlliance presents the 19th annual “Dining Out for Life” fund raiser, benefiting children and adults living with HIV/AIDS on Chicago’s West Side. Chicago is one of 60 cities across the United States and Canada participating in the event, making Dining Out for Life the single largest HIV/AIDS benefit in the country! Last year more than 80 Chicago restaurants pledged a portion of the night’s proceeds to EdgeAlliance raising more than $125,000! With the generous support of this year’s Diamond Sponsors – Broadway Cellars, Connie’s Pizza, Crew Bar and Grill, Nookies Edgewater, The Signature Room on the 95th and Zapatista – Cuisines of Mexico – this year, EdgeAlliance hopes to raise $150,000 for Chicagoans living with HIV/AIDS!
For more information on Dining Out for Life, this year’s participating restaurant or EdgeAlliance, please contact Eric Pomajzl, Manager of Community & Special Events, at 773.359.0122 or epomajzl@edgealliance.org. You can also visit the official Dining Out for Life web site at www.diningoutforlife.com for full details! Dine Out. Fight AIDS!
“Just as Chicago is synonymous with good people and great food, Dining Out for Life has become a symbol of hope for our clients impacted by HIV/AIDS and homelessness. I hope you will join us in making 2012 further proof of Chicago’s appetite for great food and doing good,” says Jim Flosi, EdgeAlliance Founder, President and CEO. EdgeAlliance is committed to providing housing, supportive services and peace-of-mind to those affected by HIV/AIDS. Their North Lawndale campus serves more than 125 individuals, offering supportive housing and comprehensive services. boi
Dining Out For Life Participants Restaurant 312 Chicago Acre Andies Restaurant Angelina Ristorante Ann Sather Restaurant Anna Maria Pasteria Anteprima Atwood Café Avenue Tavern Berghoff Restaurant Big Jones Bite Café Blackbird Bluegrass Broadway Cellars Browntrout Carnivale Ceres’ Table Club Lucky Connie’s Pizza Crew Cucina Paradiso Custom House Tavern D.S. Tequila Co. Deleece Deleece Grill El Nuevo Mexicano Fiorentino’s Fiorenza Ristorante Francesca’s Bryn Mawr Francesca’s Forno Francesca’s on Chestnut Francesca’s on Taylor Growling Rabbit Halsted’s Bar & Grill Hamburger Mary’s HB Home Bistro Hearty Restaurant Horizon Café Lady Gregory’s Las Mananitas Leopold Longman & Eagle Magnolia Café Mia Francesca Minibar
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Address 136 N LaSalle 5308 N Clark 5253 N. Clark 3561 N Broadway 909 W Belmont 4400 N Clark 5316 N Clark 1 W Washington 2916 N Broadway 17 W Adams 5347 N Clark 1039 N. Western 619 W Randolph 1636 Old Deerfield 5900 N Broadway 4111 N. Lincoln 702 W Fulton Market 4882 N. Clark 1824 W. Wabansia 600 E. Grand 4804 N Broadway 814 North Blvd. 500 S. Dearborn 3352 N. Halsted 3747 N Southport 3313 N Clark 2914 N Clark 2901 N. Ashland 7404 W. Madison 1039 W Bryn Mawr 1576 N Milwaukee 200 E. Chestnut 1400 W. Taylor 6981 N Sheridan 3441 N Halsted 5400 N Clark 3404 N Halsted 3819 N Halsted 3805 N Broadway 5260 N. Clark 3523 N Halsted 1450 W Chicago 2657 N Kedzie 1224 W Wilson 3311 N Clark 3341 N Halsted
Neighborhood Loop Andersonville Andersonville Lakeview Lakeview Uptown Andersonville Loop Lakeview Loop Andersonville Ukranian Village West Loop Highland Park Edgewater North Center West Loop Uptown Bucktown/Wicker Park Chinatown/Bridgeport Uptown Oak Park S. Loop Lakeview Lakeview Wrigleyville Lakeview Lakeview West Suburbs Edgewater Wicker Park Gold Coast Little Italy Rogers Park Lakeview Andersonville Lakeview Lakeview Lakeview Andersonville Lakeview Westtown Logan Square Uptown Lakeview Lakeview
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VITAL BRIDGES Twenty years ago, volunteers mobilized across metropolitan Chicago to help their friends, family members and colleagues who were battling HIV/AIDS. Their efforts and dedication to provide food, shelter, care and education about HIV grew and expanded, becoming Vital Bridges. In 1988, an HIV diagnosis for most was a death sentence. Today, HIV is still incurable but those who have the disease can lead fruitful and fulfilling lives with the right medications and resources. Today, the organization serves nearly 2,000 people impacted by the epidemic annually. Since its founding in 1988, Vital Bridges has provided more than 10 million meals, 600,000 nights of shelter and 250,000 hours of counseling to over 10,000 clients.
The vast majority of people living with HIV and AIDS live at or below the poverty line, struggling to meet their daily needs while dealing with a complex, debilitating and incurable disease. Since 1981, 11,000 men, women and children in metropolitan Chicago have died from AIDS. Vital Bridges provides high quality basic services through five program sites located on the North, West and South sides of Chicago as well as in the suburbs of Elk Grove Village and Oak Park. Its work begins by providing the most basic needs – nutritious food and safe housing, then working to stabilize clients’ lives and guide them on a path to improve their health.
(Dinining Out For Life Participants Continued from Page 10) Nookies Edgewater 1100 W. Bryn Mawr Ombra 5310 N. Clark Palette Bistro 2834 N. Southport Pars Cove Restaurant 435 W Diversey Prosecco 710 N Wells Sable 505 N State Salpicon 1252 N Wells Signature Room at the 95th 875 N Michigan Sola 3868 N Lincoln South Water Kitchen 225 N Wabash Spacca Napoli Pizzeria 1769 W. Sunnyside Stella’s Diner 3042 N Broadway Tank Sushi 4514 N. Lincoln Taverna 750 750 W Cornelia The Bagel 3107 N Broadway The Bagel Old Orchard The Chicago Diner 3411 N Halsted Toppers Pizza 120 S. Halsted Tuscany OakBrook 1425 W 22nd Uncommon Ground 1401 W. Devon Via Veneto 6340 N Lincoln Vivere 71 W Monroe Wilde 3130 N Broadway Zapatista 444 W Fullerton
Edgewater Andersonville Lakeview Lincoln Park River N. River N. Old Town Gold Coast North Center Loop Ravenswood Lakeview Lincoln Square Lakeview Lakeview Skokie Lakeview Greektown Oak Brook Roger’s Park Peterson Park Loop Lakeview Lincoln Park
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, BOI s Best Restaurants AMERICAN___________
Ann Sather 929 W. Belmont 773.348.2378.
Horizon Café 3805 N. Broadway 773.883.1565.
5207 N Clark 773.271.6627 & 3411 N Broadway 773.305.0024. These bustling hot spots, serving traditional Swedish pancake house fare, are best known for hearty fare and delish cinnamon rolls.
This long-time popular Lakeview family restaurant serves up big portions of creative homestyle dishes as well as healthy fare (broth-based soups and whole wheat tortilla wraps) and at affordable prices. Breakfast served all day long. Delivery available.
The Bagel 3107 N. Broadway 773.477.0300
IHOP 3760 N. Halsted 773.296.0048. More than a
Chicago Diner 3411 N. Halsted 773.935.6696
Jury’s 4337 N. Lincoln 773.935.2255. Watch all
The quintessential Jewish style deli is the perfect spot for a corned beef or pastrami sandwich, some chicken soup, lox and bagels or a full dinner that tastes as if someone’s Jewish momma made it. This world famous vegetarian restaurant offers vegan and organic offerings. Organic beers, wine, and spirits are also available.
Clark Street Dog 3040 N. Clark 773.281-
6690. Open until four in the morning and serving up all the deliciousness you can imagine after you leave the bar.
Crew 4804 N. Broadway 773.784.2739. More
than just a sports bar, the menu includes a variety of hamburgers, sandwiches, salads and comfort food.
Jimbo’s Red Hots 3617 N. Broadway 773.868-
9700. Steamed jumbo hot dogs from Red Hot Chicago with toppings such as pickles, lettuce, tomato, celery salt, onions & hot peppers; char dogs & foot longs too. Open 24 hours. Signature Pizza located in the same spot, serving pizza, pasta & burgers, also open 24 hours.
Golden Nugget Family Restaurants
2720 N. Clark 773.929.0724. 2406 W. Diversey 773.252.8903. 1765 W. Lawrence 773.769.6700. A great option for after bar dining as they are all open 24-7, and have free parking. The large menu is sure to please, especially the classic breakfast and hearty dinners. Everything is housemade, known for fluffy buttermilk pancakes,
Halsted’s Bar & Grill 3441 N. Halsted
pancake house, this 24-hour Boystown institution serves up affordably priced appetizers, sandwiches, and entrees that are sure to satisfy varying after-bar wants and needs. the poplular sports at this friendly neighborhood sports bar. Known for their killer burgers. They offer a late night menu along with daily specials and even brunch on Sundays.
Kit Kat Lounge 3700 N. Halsted 773.525.1111.
Providing the best of diva entertainment along with a full dinner menu, they offer ½-price cocktails and Buy 1 Get 1 Free Entree on Wednesdays.. On Monday nights get 50% off your entire bill.
Nookies Tree 3334 N. Halsted 773.248.9888 and Nookies Edgewater1100 W. Bryn
Mawr 773.516-4188. A regular haunt for the locals of Boystown (also Edgewater) and popular with hangover recoverees, the diner serves made-to-order omelets, pancakes, waffles and other brunch fare all day. And it’s open 24 hours on weekends.
Melrose 3233 N Broadway 773.327.2060. This
Lakeview institution has been catering to the afterbar crowds for decades, serving breakfast anytime along with typical diner fare. Open 24 hours
Philly’s Best 907 W. Belmont 773.525.7900.
Authentic Philly cheese steak sandwich. Their meat is brought directly from Philadelphia. Also, medium crust pizza, oven baked grinders & fresh salads.
Pie Hole Pizza 3477 N. Broadway 773.525.8888. Their “hole” is open Sunday-Thursday from 11ammidnight and Friday & Saturday until 3am. Grab it and go or have it delivered.. your pizza, that is!!
773.348.9696 This Boystown eatery serves up a wide array of tasty appetizers, burgers, sandwiches, and popular comfort food items at very reasonable prices in a fun and inviting atmosphere. Beers on tap are aplenty and the weekend brunch draws an attractive crowd.
Stella’s Diner 3042 N. Broadway 773.472.9040. Friendly staff serve up delicious diner fare, such as; fresh salads, a large selection of wraps, sandwiches, hearty entrees, pastas, and homemade desert
Hamburger Mary’s 5400 N. Clark
Wilde Bar & Restaurant 3130 N. Broadway
773.784.6969. “Eat, Drink and be... MARY” at this fun and popular Andersonville restaurant which features a wide array of burgers and sandwiches, along with an interesting selection of tasty appetizers. Wash it all down with one of Mary’s home-brewed ales.
773.244.0404. This cozy upscale Irish pub offers a laid back and warm atmosphere and a wide ranging menu that is sure to please. Expect updated versions of pub favorites such as chicken pot pie, meatloaf, fish & chips, burgers and salads. boi 17
, BOI s Best Restaurants ASIAN__________________ Ba Le 5014 N. Broadway 773.561.4424. The original and still the best bahn mi sandwich in town. In addition to the traditional style, there are a number of vegetarian options. The bright clean dining area is inviting and the staff is eager to explain all your options.
Young’s Chinese 3949 N. Ashland
773.248.7998. This well-regarded outpost has earned a stellar reputation for great tasting food and delivery so quick you’ll swear there must be a wok in the car. ITALIAN_________________
Anna Maria Pasteria 4400 N. Clark
773.506.2662. Owned by sisters who hail from the Basilicata region of southern Italy, this neighborhood gem creates homemade modern and traditional Italian dishes that are authentic, delicious & inexpensive.
Angelina Ristorante 3561 N. Broadway
773.935.5933. Hosting the coolest and hippest Sunday brunch crowd in Lakeview, the menu includes Eggs Benedict, fritattas, Croque Monsieur and mufaletta sandwiches, almond-crusted stuffed French toast, and the free flow of Champagne mimosas. Brunch here is loud, raucous and FUN! Great for dinner, as well.
Panino’s Pizzeria 3702 N. Broadway
773.472.6200. Panino’s has established itself as a Boystown favorite with its varied menu selections, including gyros and burgers, pasta entrees, and of course pizza. Delivery available.
Piehole Pizza 3477 N. Broadway 773.525.8888. From their hole to yours. Traditional pizza served in untraditional ways. Delivering until late at night.
Taverna 750 750 W. Cornelia Ave 773.248.8333.
This restaurant, formerly known as Cornelia’s is the latest trendy Italian restaurant in the neighborhood. New owners, new looks and a new menu is sure to make this a new hot spot. MEDITERRANEAN____
Andies 1467 W. Montrose 773.348.0654. 5253 N
Clark 773.784.8616. Specializing in Mediterranean and vegetarian cuisine, specialties of the house include steak kabobs, gyros, and poultry dishes such as Greek Chicken and Lebanese Style Chicken 18 boi
Kefta Kabob. And as befits the cuisine, desserts include a very tasty baklava. The Sunday buffet brunch is extravagant and reasonably priced.
Gyro-Mena 905 W. Belmont 773.935.2600.
Augments the Athenian Gyros by satisfying the American desire to pick our own toppings! True Athenian Gyros is a choice of all natural non-ground meat (pork or chicken) stacked and cooked on a rotisserie.
Sayat Nova 157 E. Ohio 312.644.9159. Classic
Mediterranean-American fare served in comfortable surroundings Every Thursday night things get extra gay for the “Boystown in Downtown” party. MEXICAN/LATIN__________
Cesar’s 2924 N. Broadway 773.296.9097 and at
3166 N Clark 773.248.2835 This family-owned operation offers an enticing menu full of delicious Mexican recipes, popular house specialties, irresistible desserts, and their signature “Killer Margaritas.”
El Mariachi 3906 N. Broadway 773.549-2932
and at 3420 N. Broadway 773.549-7020. Quickly becoming one of the very best Mexican restaurants in the city, the focus is on using fresh, high-quality ingredients for its “south of the border” cuisine. Full bar featuring over 100 brands of tequila.
El Nuevo Mexicano 2914 N. Clark 773.528.2131. Cozy dining room along with authentic Mexican cuisine makes this a great place for delicious dining. Open for lunch & dinner, great patio for summer outdoor dining. Delivery available too!
Las Mananitas 3523 N. Halsted St. 773.528.2109. Traditional & regional Mexican dishes along with freshly squeezed limes for margaritas. Nice place to eat, drink and window watch people on Halsted St. Has a full bar & plenty of hardy dishes to satisfy any appetite. Serving the community for over 28 years. Fiesta Mexicana 2423 N. Lincoln Ave 773.348.4144 (2nd Location) 4806 N. Broadway 773.769.4244. Traditional favorites along with great ambiance. Nice place to bring your family, friends or bring a date to. The Lincoln location has daily specials & live music. Is your target market is in our distribution area?? ADVERTISE YOUR RESTAURANT IN BOI MAGAZINE Call 773.975.0264 or email us at boiADS@aol.com More listings @ boimagazine.com, click on Dining link
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Take 5 With Gary Chichester Interviews with leaders in Chicago’s GLBT community by Gregg Shapiro
Gary Chichester has provided more than 40 years of commitment and work to the gay and lesbian community. In 1971, he cofounded the Chicago Gay Alliance, which created Chicago’s first gay and lesbian community center. He has served on the Chicago Commission on Human Relations’ Advisory Council on Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender issues since 1989 and has sat on the Chicago Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame Committee from its inception in 1991. His organizational involvements since 1970 have included the annual Gay and Lesbian Pride Parade (starting with the first one), the Metropolitan Business Association, the Chicago Gay Health Project, the Gay Rights National Lobby, the Gay and Lesbian Coalition of Metropolitan Chicago, the 1979 and 1987 National Marches on Washington for Lesbian and Gay Rights, the NAMES Project, the Gay and Lesbian Press Association, the National Association of People with AIDS, Strike Against AIDS and the Chicago Gay Speakers Bureau among others. In 1992, he was inducted in Chicago’s Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame. We recently posed out “Take 5” questions for Gary.
When did you come out and what was the experience like for you?
I came out to myself at the age of seventeen and it was a pretty simple acceptance. I left Chicago and hopped a plane for LA. When I landed, it was like I had a transformation. I was an “instant” gay. As for my family, I always told myself if I was ever asked, I would always tell the truth. Being seen in the audience of a televised show featuring a gay topic lead to “the” question from my family. To this day, questions regarding my lifestyle continue to come up as issues in our community change. I still find myself explaining these issues 22 boi
to them. It’s always an education. I am thankful to have a loving family.
Please name five of your GLBT heroes and say a few words about why you chose them.
My personal heroes: Richard Barnes, my first true love, for showing me that two men can be in love, be friends and help each other grow. RJ Chaffin, who knew me like an open book and still was my best friend. Renee Hanover, a generous and high-visibility advocate for human rights of all kinds. William B. Kelley, my go-to person for his opinion on all issues facing our community. Chuck Renslow, my mentor and the man who encouraged me to get “involved” with the issues that concern our community and how to make a difference. I would also like to add Paul Adams to my list to represent all the “in-your-face” activists who put themselves on the line to create change and move our community forward.
What do you consider to be your most significant contribution to the GLBT community in Chicago and at large?
I am very proud of my involvement with the Chicago Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame. I believe the Hall of Fame is a wonderful vehicle to honor those GLBT Chicagoans who made vast contributions to make our city a better place and a way to share our vibrant history with the world.
What are your future goals and aspirations?
I plan to continue my work with the Friends of the Chicago Gay and Lesbian Hall of Fame and hope to see full marriage equality in my lifetime.
Words of wisdom to the next GLBT generation?
Be strong with who you are and don’t let hate override your life.
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In The Know, On The Go by Harry Taint
Boys! Boys! Boys! Move over dancing boys! In a departure from its usual entertainment, Cocktail will feature a live rap performance by Kaycee Ortiz on Friday, Apr. 13. The original music is a new thing for the bar, but don’t worry, the boys in their underwear will continue… Speaking of boys in their underwear, Lakeview’s hottest clothing store, Cram, will celebrate its anniversary with a huge party on Apr. 19. The event always features male models and fun – or is that redundant?... Get Bent at Parlour. On Saturday, Apr. 14, the Rogers Park riot house kicks off ‘Gender Bent” at 9:30... Tequila is for more than just slammin’ back, you know. Check out the finer points of Mexico’s most addictive export at El Mariachi on Wednesday Apr. 29 when Riazul Tequila will host a tequila tasting. San Francisco’s hottest dance party comes to town on Apr. 28 when Locoya’s “I just Wanna F*ckin’ Dance” lands at Hydrate… jocks! jocks! jocks! Get your Roger Federer on and sign up for Chicago Metropolitan Sports Association’s tennis league on Saturday, Apr. 21 at @tmosphere… Scrum it up! (I don’t know if I used that word correctly, but it’s the only thing I know about soccer and I had to find something to grab your attention). You won’t want to miss the Chicago Dragons’ Bachelor Auction on Apr. 28 at Sidetrack. Hot jocks, date packages and cocktail. How could you go wrong?... If your teen years weren’t about sports and boys but angst and zits you should check out “TV Reruns – The Season of Sin” on Tuesday, Apr. 17 at Mary’s Attic. It’s all part of
a series by A Reasonable Facsimile Theater performing staged readings of television scripts. The shows are at their most hilarious when the source material is the cheesiest, so imagining the fun to be had when the troupe explores puberty via scripts from “The Brady Bunch”, Buffy the Vampire Slayer” and “Punchy Brewster”. I wonder what wine goes best with that cheese platter. I do love me a big package Chicago Gay Men’s Chorus’ annual “Big Package” auction will be held at Sidetrack on Saturday, Apr. 14. The “packages” include prizes and certificates for products and services which are being auctioned off this year by Miss Richfield 1981, and that alone would be reason enough to attend. That queen is funny. I had the honor of performing with her a few years ago in PTown, and she is as witty and funny as she is glamorous. However even she will have to go some to outshine the package which features our own cover boy, Michael Elder, modeling some underwear… Broadway star and uber-hottie, Cheyenne Jackson, will be strutting his stuff around Logan Square as part of the 4th Annual Chicago International Movies & Music Festival. “One Night Stand”, screening on Sunday, Apr. 15, at 1 p.m. at the Logan Theatre, is a documentary about “24 Hour Musicals”, an annual charity event in New York City during which four 15-minute stage musicals are written, cast, rehearsed and performed in a single day. Among the actors featured in the film are Rachel Dratch (Saturday Night Live), Richard Kind (Mad About You), Alicia Witt (Cybill, Friday Night Lights), Jesse Tyler Ferguson (Modern Family) and the handsome Cheyenne Jackson (Xanadu, 30 Rock), who sadly remains fully clothed.
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Ask Ace
Relationship & Sex Advice
Freaked in Franklin Park
About a year ago, my best friend won a fairly substantial amount in the lottery. Recently he has started having cosmetic surgery treatments. I have to admit, the results of the first surgery was fantastic. After his liposuction, he went from having a slight spare tire to having a kicking sixpack. He also had pec implants done at the same time. He’s also had a butt lift and his lips plumped. The results from that surgery are not quite as successful. His lips now have that waxy look. He was a nice looking guy, but he’s starting to look like a science experiment gone bad. What can I do?
Dear FIFP,
It’s time for an intervention. I’m assuming that since you feel this way, that other friends have noticed and possibly made comments. If not, ask yourself, if perhaps that problem is in your perception. I doubt that it is, but it’s always an aspect that needs to be considered. While there’s nothing wrong with having a tweak done here and there, the problem arises when folks don’t know when to stop. Reputable medical professionals should advise patients when enough is enough, but we all know that there are some professionals who are too money hungry to say, “No.” Sit down with your friend and point out the successful work he’s had done. Then explain your concerns doing your best not to sound accusatory or judgmental. It’s a fine line to walk between being supportive and ending up friends with someone who looks like Joan Rivers twin sister.
Rock & A Hard Place
I work for a small, family-owned flower shop. I’ve been with the company for almost 20 years and love my job. The owners treat me as if I’m a member of the family, which is great because I have no family members in the area. They all know that I’m gay and it hasn’t ever been an issue. A few weeks ago, the youngest son of one of the brothers who own the business came back to Chicago. He’d been working for a tech start-up that went under. He’s now working in the family business. When we go out to set up weddings or bar
mitzvahs he loads and drives the truck. I ride to the site with him and put together the designs. On the past few jobs he’s been asking me for blow jobs when we’re on site. I’ve laughed it off, but he’s serious. He says that if I don’t, he’ll tell his family that I propositioned him. I would never do that, I’ve known him since he was eight years old.
Dear RAHP,
This is where the saying, “Blood is thicker than water” comes into play. If it was any other employee, you could just march up to your boss and explain the situation. You can bet if you did that now, his son would deny it and with whom is your boss going to side? I say, call the kid’s bluff. Refuse to play his game and try to bring someone else with you on these jobs. My guess is that he will tire of playing the game. In the meantime, keep yourself open to the idea of finding a new job should things get ugly.
Incredulous at Clark & Kildare
Is it true that Rick Santorum’s last name is a synonym for a sex act?
Dear ICK,
It was just a matter of time before this story came back into focus. When the “conservative former senator” (our legal department says I can’t refer to him as a right-wing-nut-job-Hitler-wannabe) was last in the public spotlight he was the subject of a prank by columnist Dan Savage. Savage used his knowledge of how search engines operate to arrange it so that when anyone did a Google search for “Santorum” the first results would read “The frothy mixture of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the by-product of anal sex.” Savage admits that it was a crass joke and that was part of his point. It still comes up when searching “santorum”, but technically, the answer is no, his name is not a synonym for a sex act. It’s a synonym for a sex byproduct. And, having studied Latin, I’ll point out that the plural would be “santora” ________________________________________ Ace Magyar has a BA in communications, a MA in sex therapy and a PhD in zoology. He is a registered couple’s counselor specializing in the GLBT community. Send your questions to boieditorial@aol.com.
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Chicago Bars and Clubs Boystown / Lakeview
3160 3160 N.Clark G&L, LM,DS Berlin 954 W. Belmont G&L, D, 4 Bobby Love’s 3729 N. Halsted G&L Buck’s Saloon 3439 N. Halsted G Cell Block 3702 N. Halsted G, LF Charlie’s 3726 N. Broadway G, D, W Circuit 2.02 3641 N. Halsted G&L, D, 4 Cocktail 3359 N. Halsted G, GB Elixir Lounge 3452 N. Halsted G, 4 F. O’Mahony’s 3701 N. Broadway G&L, R Hydrate 3458 N. Halsted G, D, DS, 4 Kit Kat 3700 N. Halsted G&L, DS, R Little Jim’s 3501 N. Halsted G, V, 4 Lucky Horseshoe 3169 N. Halsted G, GB Manhandler 1948 N. Halsted G, W, 4 Minibar 3341 N. Halsted G, R North End 3733 N. Halsted G Roscoe’s 3356 N. Halsted G, D, V, DS Scarlet 3320 N. Halsted G Sidetrack 3349 N. Halsted G, V Smart Bar / Metro 3730 N. Clark MS, D, 4 Spin 800 W. Belmont G, D, V, DS The Closet 3325 N. Broadway G&L, V, 4
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Chicago Downtown
Baton Show Lounge 436 N. Clark DS 312.644.5269 Club 720 720 N. Wells MS, D, 4 312.787.8720 Crimson Lounge 333 N. Dearborn MS, D, R 312.923.2473 Downtown Bar & Lounge 440 N State G 312.464.1400 Excalibur/Vision 632 N. Dearborn MS, D, 4 312.266.1944 Funky Buddha 728 W. Grand Ave. MS, D 312.666.1695 House of Blues 329 N. Dearborn MS, LM, 4 312.923.2000 Krush/Prop House 1657 N. Elston G&L, D, 4 773.486.2390 Second Story Bar 157 E. Ohio G, V 312.923.9536 Sound Bar 226 W. Ontario MS, D, 4 312.787-4480 Spy Bar 646 N. Franklin MS, D, 4 312.587.8779 Underground 56 W. Illinois MS, D, 4 312.644.7600 Vibe 1543 N. Kingsbury MS, D, 4 312.266.1900
Chicago Northside CONTINUED
Crew 4804 N. Broadway G&L, V, R 773.784.2739 Davenport’s 1383 N. Milwaukee G&L, LM 773.278.1830 Debonair Social Club 1575 N. MilwaukeeAve. MS, D 773.227.7990 Fat Cat 4849 N. Broadway MS, R 773.506.3100 Green Dolphin St. 2200 N. Ashland G&L, D, LM, 4 773.395.0066 Green Mill 4802 N. Broadway MS, LM, 4 773.878.5552 In Fine Spirits 5420 N Clark MS, R 773.334.9463 Jackhammer 6406 N. Clark G, D, V, GB, LM, 4 773.743.5772 Joi de Vine 1744 W. Balmoral L, R 773.989.6846 Kinetic Playground 1113 W. LawrenceMS, D, LM, 4 773.769.5483 Marty’s 1511 W. Balmoral G&L 773.561.6425 Mary’s Attic 5400 N Clark G&L, D, V, R 773.784.6969 Parlour On Clark 6341 N. Clark 773.564.9274 Mary’s RecRoom 5402 N Clark G&L, D, V, R 773.784.6969 Scot’s 1829 W. Montrose G&L 773.528.3253 SoFo Bar 4923 N. Clark G 773.784.7636 T’s 5025 N. Clark G&L, R 773.784.6000 The Call 1547 W Bryn Mawr G&L, D, DS, V, LM 773.334.2525 The Glenwood 6962 N Glenwood G 773.764.7363 Touché 6412 N. Clark G, V, LF, 4 773.465.7400 Uptown Lounge 1136 W. Lawrence 773.878.1136
Chicago Southside
Club Escape 1530 E. 75th G&L, D Escapades 6301 S. Harlem G&L, D, V, 4 Inn Exile 5758 W. 65th G&L, D, V Jeffrey Pub 7041 S. Jeffrey G&L, D, V, 4
Chicago Suburbs
Hideaway 7301 W. Roosevelt Forest Park G, D, V, DS, GB Club Krave 13126 S. Western Blue Island G&L, D, V, DS, GB, 4 Hunters 1932 E. Higgins Elk Grove Village G, D, V, GB, 4 Mission 209 E. Chicago Downtown Elgin G&L, D, V Encompass 24215 Rush St. Lake Station, IN G&L, D, R, DS Velvet Rope 728 Lake St Oak Park G&L, D, V, R
Adult Entertainment
Chicago Northside
The Anvil 1137 W. Granville G, V @mosphere 5355 N. Clark G&L, V, GB Big Chicks 5024 N. Sheridan G&L, D, R
773.973.0006 773.784.1100 773.728.5511
G------------------------------------------------------------------Gay Male L---------------------------------------------------------------------Lesbian G&L-------------------------------------------------Gay Male & Lesbian D-------------------------------------------------------------------Dancing V-----------------------------------------------------------------------Video GB-------------------------------------------------------------Go Go Boys DS--------------------------------------------------------------Drag Show R--------------------------------------------------------Restaurant, Food
30 boi
773.667.6454 773.229.0886 773.582.3510 773.363.8555
Banana Video 4923 N. Clark G, BK Bijou Theater 1349 N. Wells G, GB, BK Man’s Country 5017 N. Clark G, GB, BH Steamworks 3246 N. Halsted G, BH, FC The Ram 35111/2 N. Halsted G, BK, D
708.771.4459 708.597.8379 847.439.8840 847.488.0320 219.962.4640 708.358.8840
773.561.8322 312.943.5397 773.878.2069 773.929.6080 773.525.9528
4-------------------------------------------------------------Open til 4am MS--------------------------------------------------------Mostly Straight LF---------------------------------------------------------Leather / Fetish W-------------------------------------------------------------------Western LM--------------------------------------------------Live Music / Cabaret BH--------------------------------------------------------------Bath House BK----------------------------------Adult Book, Booth & Video Store FC-------------------------------------------------------------Fitness Club