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AIDS RUN & WALK Thousand will gather at Soldier Field on Sunday, Sept. 30 for the 11th Annual Aids Walk & Run. PreRegistration is open now through Friday, Sept. 14. The fees for registrations are, $30 for a walker with online registration, $5 additional for off-line registration and $40 for 5K or 10K runners online registration, $5 additional for off-line registration. Those registering on the day of the race pay $50 and day of registration.
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Event Day Schedule 8:00 – 9:15 a.m. Packet Pickup & Race Day Registration 9:00 a.m. Opening Ceremonies & Warm Up 9:30 a.m. Races Begin – exact start times to be announced 10:15 a.m. Post-race Entertainment For more information contact AIDS Foundation of Chicago 312.334.0946 or go to their website at: www.runwalk@aidschicago.org. boi
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COUPON QUEENS Many people imagine that the only folks who use coupons are white trailer-trash with a brood of snot-nosed kids. It’s true that some people do go a little crazy with coupons, they’ll use coupons for everything and will buy anything for which they have a coupon. That’s what retailers and manufacturers count on. Used correctly, however, coupons are like having an inside track to better prices. First let me start by saying, never buy something with a coupon unless you would buy it anyway. I have a cute little box that I keep on my desk. When I go through the mail I toss any coupons that I think I might use into the box. Before I go shopping I take a couple of minutes to go through the coupons and pull out those I might use. I also use this time to toss out any expired coupons. Personally, I don’t bother with coupons that don’t save me at least 20% of the purchase price, it’s just not worth my time. To increase the effectiveness of coupons, use multiple coupons for an item whenever possible, for example combine a grocery store coupon with a manufacturer’s coupon. Not all stores allow this practice, but if they do, it can mean tremendous savings. I recently used a coupon for $1 off when purchasing two of an item. The store was having a “buy one, get one free” sale. That meant that I paid less than a dollar for two boxes of cereal. Read coupons carefully. There may be some requirements or restrictions. Some coupons are very specific to certain stores, however many stores honor coupons from their competitors. Coupons are easy to find. In fact, they’re hard to avoid. If you’re searching for higherpriced items you may want to be more proactive. Instead of letting the coupons come to you via mailers, magazine and newspapers, go on line to the sites of stores your regularly patronize and get on their
e-mail list. Register to receive coupons in the mail or via e-mail notification. To avoid clogging up your regular e-mail with these notifications, open a second e-mail account specifically for things like this. It’s also good to use the secondary address when you register for contests and things like that. Grocery stores and companies frequently offer their specials, deals, and moneysaving coupons on line. As a matter of fact, some companies offer discounts and coupons only online, so keep a lookout for those online specials and search for coupon codes if they ask for one. Some of the coupon codes actually work! It doesn’t hurt to try until you find one that works. Aggregator web sites are a terrific source of information. Some of the biggest are RedPlum.com, Coupons.com, CoolSavings. com, SmartSource.com and CouponSurfer. com. The internet offers all sorts of deals, however, your local retailer appreciates your business, so watch out for their sales. There are even sites, such as HeyItsFree. net, that offer free samples and product updates. For Twitter users, CheapTweet.com and CouponTweet.com (@CheapTweet and @CouponTweet on Twitter) gather coupon codes and deals from Twitter merchants and other Twitter users. Other Twitter accounts, such as @heyitsfree, @freestuffrocks and @freenology, provide updates and news feeds on free goods. You can get updates from many of these suggested web sites through Facebook, Twitter, or e-mail subscription. Some of these sites will even send the coupons directly to your smart phone. Using coupons for big-ticket items can save you big bucks. Even a simple trip to the grocery store can provide some major savings. Using coupons at the grocery can save at least $10, and that’s money that would be better spent on a cocktail! boi
SMART SHOPPING TIPS by Anita Taylor No matter where you shop or what you are purchasing, there are ways to save money, and in this tight economy who doesn’t appreciate a little extra cash? Why pay more than you have to? Follow a few tips and you’ll never pay full price. Get to know your favorite store’s employees, ask them to alert you to sales. Some will even hold an item back for you if it’s going on sale soon. Fancy packaging usually means higher prices. Obviously, you’re not going to do the same amount of research about buying a jar of peanut butter as you would for a car, however, whether you are shopping for furniture, clothing or groceries, the same basic savvy shopping rules apply.
Do Your Research Go on-line or ask family and friends for advice based on their experience. Gather information about the seller and the item or service you are purchasing. Review product test results and other information from consumer experts. Get advice and price quotes from several sellers. Cram Fashion is offering up to 70% off on Spring and Summer items.
Decide in advance exactly what you want and what you can afford. At Moda Boutique buy one summer item, get the second item free (model to the right not included). Remember the “Rule of Three” If an item has three different ways it can be used, you will not be wasting your money.
Compare Advertised items are not always the cheapest. Check for unadvertised specials and don’t be afraid to ask for a “rain check” if an item is sold out. Larger is not always cheaper. Smaller is not always cheaper. Look at unit prices. In most department stores, sales racks are located at the back of the store. Head there first, before you are tempted by higher–priced merchandise. Try alternative shopping like searching for your needed item on craigslist, or check out thrift stores, consignment shops, warehouse clubs, yard sales, and garage sales.
Shopping on-line can result in big savings, especially if there’s no charge for shipping and a site where you don’t have to pay sales tax. That’s 10% in Chicago. Before shopping on-line look for promotion codes (aka coupon code.) Among the best sites are Plan Your Spending CouponCabin, Ebates, Don’t buy on impulse or under pressure. WebbyPlanet, Coupon Buy items before you run out of them. Chief, RetailMeNot, Buxr Buy at clearance, or sale price, instead of and CouponSmarter. regular price when you must have the Select bathing suits 20-50% item. Stock up when prices are low. off. Speedos, square cuts Know the sales cycle in your area. and shorts available at Buy at the end of the season. Egoist
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Shop Defensively 1) Check out a company’s complaint record at the Better Business Bureau’s web site. 2) Get a written copy of guarantees and warranties. 3) Insist that any extras you are promised be put in writing. 4) Get the seller’s refund, return and cancellation policies. 5) Watch the register. Retailers do not update cash register scanners with updated prices. If you think the price displayed isn’t right, speak up. 6) Pay by credit card. If you have a problem, you can dispute a charge made on your credit card.
Through the end of Oct., 7 Diamonds’ full-price menswear is 20% off at Akira Men’s in Andersonville
Anita Taylor is a celebrity stylist, fashion writer, personal shopper and hash house waitress. She attended Parsons New School, Radcliff and Mr. Lance’s College of Cosmetology.
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Invest in the (Flea) Market by Anita Taylor With the way our economy is going, you’re almost certain to get a better return on your dollar at a flea market than in the stock market. Savvy shoppers can score big if they know what they’re looking for. You don’t need to have an encyclopedic knowledge of antiques and collectibles; you just need patience and a good eye. Successfully shopping anywhere requires a certain amount of planning and preparation, and even more so when shopping in non-retail environments. Whether you are shopping at a flea market, thrift shop or hitting garage sales there is a basic ABC that will guarantee success:
• Arrive early • Be prepared • Cash rules All professionals hit yard sales and flea markets early because they know that the best stuff is snatched up quickly (usually). On the flip side of this is that near the end of the day, you may be able to make a better deal. Arriving at a thrift shop soon after it opens is also a good idea, especially if you’re hitting one during a half-price sale. Before venturing out to shop, plan ahead. If you are going to a number of places, assemble the information on your stops. Call ahead to get tips on parking, admission fees (if any), hours, and availability of food and drinks. Take a bottle of water, especially on a hot day.
Shop with a list. If shopping for furniture, measure the spaces where you plan to place the furniture. Also, remember to check the width and height of your doorways. Getting a classic mid-century modern piece at a steal doesn’t matter if you can’t fit it in your apartment. Check the dimensions on the opening on your vehicle. Measure your floor areas ahead of time if you’ll be looking for rugs. Take some shots of your place with your cell phone, so you can picture how something will look when you get it home. Some people like to make a quick circle of everything, and then go back to what interests them. Others start in one corner and proceed slowly through each booth. Some go to an information booth to see if vendors are organized by item (china, furniture, jewelry, etc.), and then go the areas that interests them. Whatever your strategy, have a list of your favorite items so you can stay focused, use a small notebook to remind yourself where you saw items that interest you in case you want to go back. Wear comfortable clothing and shoes. Consider clothing with lots of pockets (for sunglasses, pens, notebooks, maps, tape measure, etc.) Take a light jacket, hat, umbrella, sunscreen, or whatever will help you be comfortable. Take a large shoulder tote filled with plastic grocery bags and bubble wrap. The bags and bubble wrap can store and protect your purchases and a shoulder bag frees up both hands while shopping. You may also consider a wheeled cart or bag to make lugging those heavy items back to your car easier. (hurry.. turn the page to continue reading this exciting article!)
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Make certain that your cell phone is fully charged. If you have a smart phone, you can use it to do an Internet search for items you find, or look up artists of original pieces you find. I was at an estate sale and found an original watercolor thrown in with a bunch of framed posters, etc. I looked up the artist, and picked up a piece worth $5,000 for $10. Look at things with a creative eye. Notice how items are displayed to get creative ideas that might be adapted to your own home. Think innovatively so items meant for one use can be adapted for use in another way Even if something isn’t “perfect” look beyond the rough exterior to see the bones of a piece. Can you paint it or apply a tile mosaic to cover flaws. Would that lamp base be perfect if you found a new shade? If you’re shopping for clothing examine each piece carefully, look for stains, tears or pulls in the fabric, check zippers. Wear a basic tank top and close fitting shorts so that you can try items on easily. Finally, hold the fabric to your nose and smell it. If you smell mildew or mold, pass on it, no matter how perfect it appears. Before packing up any clothing, turn it inside out and reverse hems whenever possible to be sure that you’re not bringing home unwanted “guests”. 14 boi
If you’re shopping for larger ticket items and you’re bringing a car or truck, prepare a small basic tool kit (screwdrivers, hammer, pliers) in case you need to remove legs, mirrors from dressers, etc. You might also want to pack the blankets to wrap delicate purchase, rope, heavy twine or bungee cords to tie items to the roof of the car, a waterproof tarp to wrap or cover items tied to the roof. We all know cash talks! Always ask, “What’s your best price for cash?” Cash is often a great bargaining chip, it saves the vendor from paying a credit card fee and from worries about bad checks. Don’t be afraid to negotiate, but be respectful. Instead of saying, “$50 is too much for that,” instead say, “I really want this, but the highest I can go is $35.” Pad your wallet with lots of small bills, leave all the extra stuff you usually carry in your wallet (library card, photos, etc.) at home. For items under $100, I always pay cash, for bigger ticket items, many flea market vendors will take charge cards. It’s a good idea to charge big-ticket items, and then if there’s a problem you can contest the payment through your credit card company. Not every outing is going to result in finding treasures, but the hunt is part of the fun. If you’re not enjoying yourself, no amount of savings will be worth it.
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Anita Taylor is a celebrity stylist, fashion writer, personal shopper and hash house waitress. She attended Parsons New School, Radcliff and Mr. Lance’s College of Cosmetology.
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BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS AMERICAN___________ Ann Sather 929 W. Belmont 773.348.2378. 5207 N Clark 773.271.6627 & 3411 N Broadway 773.305.0024. These bustling hot spots, serving traditional Swedish pancake house fare, are best known for hearty fare and delish cinnamon rolls.
IHOP 3760 N. Halsted 773.296.0048. More than a
The Bagel 3107 N. Broadway 773.477.0300
the poplular sports at this friendly neighborhood sports bar. Known for their killer burgers. They offer a late night menu along with daily specials and even brunch on Sundays.
The quintessential Jewish style deli is the perfect spot for a corned beef or pastrami sandwich, some chicken soup, lox and bagels or a full dinner that tastes as if someone’s Jewish momma made it.
Chicago Diner 3411 N. Halsted 773.935.6696
This world famous vegetarian restaurant offers vegan and organic offerings. Organic beers, wine, and spirits are also available.
Clark Street Dog 3040 N. Clark 773.281-6690. Open until four in the morning and serving up all the deliciousness you can imagine after you leave the bar.
Crew 4804 N. Broadway 773.784.2739. More than just a sports bar, the menu includes a variety of hamburgers, sandwiches, salads & comfort food.
Golden Nugget Family Restaurants
2406 W. Diversey 773.252.8903. 1765 W. Lawrence 773.769.6700. A great option for after bar dining as they are all open 24-7, and have free parking. The large menu is sure to please, especially the classic breakfast and hearty dinners. Everything is housemade, known for fluffy buttermilk pancakes.
The Gardens at Cocktail 3359 N. Halsted
-773.472.1420 The Gardens serves delicious homemade pizzas, at a great price, with drink specials to match!
Halsted’s Bar & Grill 3441 N. Halsted
773.348.9696 This Boystown eatery serves up a wide array of tasty appetizers, burgers, sandwiches, and popular comfort food items at very reasonable prices in a fun and inviting atmosphere. Beers on tap are aplenty and the weekend brunch draws an attractive crowd.
Hamburger Mary’s 5400 N. Clark
773.784.6969. “Eat, Drink and be... MARY” at this fun and popular Andersonville restaurant which features a wide array of burgers and sandwiches, along with an interesting selection of tasty appetizers. Wash it all down with one of Mary’s home-brewed ales.
Horizon Café 3805 N. Broadway 773.883.1565.
This long-time popular Lakeview family restaurant serves up big portions of creative homestyle dishes as well as healthy fare at affordable prices. Breakfast served all day long. Delivery available.
pancake house, this 24-hour Boystown institution serves up affordably priced appetizers, sandwiches, and entrees that are sure to satisfy varying after-bar wants and needs.
Jury’s 4337 N. Lincoln 773.935.2255. Watch all
Kit Kat Lounge 3700 N. Halsted 773.525.1111.
Providing the best of diva entertainment along with a full dinner menu, they offer ½-price cocktails and Buy 1 Get 1 Free Entree on Wednesdays.. On Monday nights get 50% off your entire bill.
Nookies Tree 3334 N. Halsted 773.248.9888 and Nookies Edgewater1100 W. Bryn
Mawr 773.516-4188. A regular haunt for the locals of Boystown (also Edgewater) and popular with hangover recoverees, the diner serves made-to-order omelets, pancakes, waffles and other brunch fare all day. And it’s open 24 hours on weekends.
Melrose 3233 N Broadway 773.327.2060. This
Lakeview institution has been catering to the afterbar crowds for decades, serving breakfast anytime along with typical diner fare. Open 24 hours
Philly’s Best 907 W. Belmont 773.525.7900.
Authentic Philly cheese steak sandwich. Their meat is brought directly from Philadelphia. Also, medium crust pizza, oven baked grinders & fresh salads.
Pie Hole Pizza 3477 N. Broadway 773.525.8888. Their “hole” is open Sunday-Thursday from 11ammidnight and Friday & Saturday until 3am. Grab it and go or have it delivered.. your pizza, that is!!
Rainbow Pizza 3450 N. Halsted . Serving up pizza by the slice. Open late nights Wed.-Sat. and cater to the hoards on Halsted looking for a quick bite to eat.
Stella’s Diner 3042 N. Broadway 773.472.9040.
Friendly staff serve up delicious diner fare, such as; fresh salads, a large selection of wraps, sandwiches, hearty entrees, pastas, and homemade desert
The Edge 2720 N. Clark St 773.929-7024. A bar
and grill serving breakfast, steaks, seafood, ribs, with a full bar until 2am. Free parking lot and open 24hrs.
Wilde Bar & Restaurant 3130 N. Broadway
773.244.0404. This cozy upscale Irish pub offers a laid back and warm atmosphere and a wide ranging menu that is sure to please. Expect updated versions of pub favorites such as chicken pot pie, meatloaf, fish & chips, burgers and salads. boi 17
BOI’S BEST RESTAURANTS ASIAN__________________
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Dragon Lady Lounge 3188 N. Elston
Andies 1467 W. Montrose 773.348.0654. 5253 N
773.267.1970 Serving Korean-Latin fusion dishes from delicious fresh Bi Bim Bop and Kim Chi Veggie burgers, to delicious tofu tacos and beef Kim Chi burgers. ITALIAN_________________
Anna Maria Pasteria 4400 N. Clark
773.506.2662. Owned by sisters who hail from the Basilicata region of southern Italy, this neighborhood gem creates homemade modern and traditional Italian dishes that are authentic, delicious & inexpensive.
Angelina Ristorante 3561 N. Broadway
773.935.5933. Hosting the coolest and hippest Sunday brunch crowd in Lakeview, the menu includes Eggs Benedict, fritattas, Croque Monsieur and mufaletta sandwiches, almond-crusted stuffed French toast, and the free flow of Champagne mimosas. Brunch here is loud, raucous and FUN! Great for dinner, as well.
Club Lucky 1824 W. Wabansia Ave. 773.227.2300. Popular Bucktown/Wicker Pk. restaurant & unique cocktail lounge. Generous portions of traditional Italian specialties and daily specials. Outdoor patio.
Panino’s Pizzeria 3702 N. Broadway
773.472.6200. Panino’s has established itself as a Boystown favorite with its varied menu selections, including gyros and burgers, pasta entrees, and of course pizza. Delivery available.
Piehole Pizza 3477 N. Broadway 773.525.8888. From their hole to yours. Traditional pizza served in untraditional ways. Delivering until late at night.
Mia Francesca 3311 N. Clark St. 773.281.3310.
Celebrating over 20 years in Lakeview. A zesty, earthy cuisine of Rome and the surrounding areas of Tuscany, Umbria and Lazio. Encourages the lively art of dining with a contemporary, casually sophisticated trattoria ambiance, simple, rustic cooking, friendly service and fair prices. Beautiful private outdoor patio and weekend brunch.
Viaggio at the Park 401 W. Fullerton 773.747.3333, and Viaggio Ristorante & Lounge 1330 W. Madison 312.829.3333
Both locations provide a unique, memorable, dining experience by satisfying three essential must-haves, superior food-quality, a beautiful, comforting ambiance, and a service-staff that makes you feel like family. What more could you ask for??
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Clark 773.784.8616. Specializing in Mediterranean and vegetarian cuisine, specialties of the house include steak kabobs, gyros, and poultry dishes such as Greek Chicken and Lebanese Style Chicken Kefta Kabob. And as befits the cuisine, desserts include a very tasty baklava. The Sunday buffet brunch is extravagant and reasonably priced.
Gyro-Mena 905 W. Belmont 773.935.2600.
Augments the Athenian Gyros by satisfying the American desire to pick our own toppings! True Athenian Gyros is a choice of all natural non-ground meat (pork or chicken) stacked and cooked on a rotisserie. MEXICAN/LATIN__________
Cesar’s 2924 N. Broadway 773.296.9097 and at
3166 N Clark 773.248.2835 This family-owned operation offers an enticing menu full of delicious Mexican recipes, popular house specialties, irresistible desserts, and their signature “Killer Margaritas.”
El Mariachi 3906 N. Broadway 773.549-2932
and at 3420 N. Broadway 773.549-7020. Quickly becoming one of the very best Mexican restaurants in the city, the focus is on using fresh, high-quality ingredients for its “south of the border” cuisine. Full bar featuring over 100 brands of tequila.
El Nuevo Mexicano 2914 N. Clark 773.528.2131. Cozy dining room along with authentic Mexican cuisine makes this a great place for delicious dining. Open for lunch & dinner, great patio for summer outdoor dining. Delivery available too!
Las Mananitas 3523 N. Halsted St. 773.528.2109. Traditional & regional Mexican dishes along with freshly squeezed limes for margaritas. Nice place to eat, drink and window watch people on Halsted St. Has a full bar & plenty of hardy dishes to satisfy any appetite. Serving the community for over 28 years. Fiesta Mexicana 2423 N. Lincoln Ave 773.348.4144 (2nd Location) 4806 N. Broadway 773.769.4244. Traditional favorites along with great ambiance. Nice place to bring your family, friends or bring a date to. The Lincoln location has daily specials & live music. Is your target market in our distribution area?? ADVERTISE YOUR RESTAURANT IN BOI MAGAZINE Call 773.975.0264 or email us at boiADS@aol.com
MAN’S COUNTRY CELEBRATES 40 Man’s Country is one of the “grand old” bathhouses you’ve heard about. Celebrating its fortieth anniversary this year, its reputation is legendary. The structure was built in 1907 as a lodge hall for a fraternal/social organization. From its inception, it had a somewhat sordid story. Acquired by Chuck Renslow and Dom Orejudos in 1972, the building underwent a major renovation to bring it into code compliance and add the things that make a bathhouse fun. During the renovation workers discovered the remains of a speakeasy and gambling casino. Moveable walls hid shelves once lined with slot machines, card rooms contained back staircases allowing patrons quick access to other parts of the building. A basement vault was turned into the steam room. Then, when working on the renovation of the second floor Music Hall, formerly used as a meeting room for the fraternity, workers discovered a human skeleton under the stage. It turned out to be one formerly used in a medical school that was used as part of the fraternal organization’s initiation ceremony. For many, years until its theft, it was on display in the “Pit” at the old Gold Coast leather bar at 501 N. Clark St. In the 19702 and ‘80s, the Music Hall was known for top name entertainment. Contrary to popular belief, Better Midler never appeared at
Man’s Country. However, the roster of stars was quite stunning... The Village People, Boy George, Wayland Flowers and Madam, Charles Pierce and 1930 fan dancer, Sally Rand played the room. You’d be hard pressed to name a disco diva who had not appeared on the Music Hall stage at some time in their career, Thelma Houston, Viola Wills and Pamela Stanley to name a few. One of the most outrageous of those stars was Divine, he performed his last show there before his death. From 1987 through 1992, the room served as the Bistro Too dance floor during which many of those divas made return visits. In 1990, this room gave birth to the stripper troupe “The Chicago Meatpackers” and served as their home base. The Meatpackers eventually came to be known as the Stripper BOYZ and continue to dance on Friday and Saturday nights at Man’s Country and joined from time to time by some of the biggest porn stars. Throughout the hallways of Man’s Country, you’ll find artwork by the artist “Etienne”. Together with Tom of Finland, Etienne is considered one of the two great masters of gay leather art. Etienne’s real name was Dom Orejudos (one of Man’s Country’s founders). The subterranean wet area has been designed to look like the under belly of Paris. Man’s Country is open 24/7. For more info., visit them on the web at www.manscountrychicago.com. boi 21
CHICAGO SPOTLIGHT: OWEN KEEHNEN Interviews with leaders in Chicago’s GLBT community By Gregg Shapiro When it comes to words, it would appear that there’s nothing that Owen Keehnen can’t write. A well-regarded journalist, Keehnen’s writing has appeared in a variety of GLBT publications, both regionally and nationally. Keehnen has also collected his work in a few books, ranging from his interviews with porn stars (the “Starz” series) to those with GLBT authors and celebrities (“We’re Here, We’re Queer”). His fiction has also been published in various outlets, including anthologies, and Keehnen’s most recent novel “The Sand Bar” was published by Lethe Press. When did you come out and what was the experience like for you? I always knew I was gay, but I had steamer trunks of Catholic baggage, so knowing and coming out were very different things for me. Coming out to others came when I gained the courage to be myself and that came from having a sense of community. That’s why I attach such crucial importance to having gay neighborhoods, bars and organizations. All of that saved me. It didn’t give me my identity, but it allowed me to start becoming myself. That’s why I made “gay bar community” a core theme in my new novel “The Sand Bar”. Please name five of your GLBT heroes and say a few words about why you chose them. Writing the bios for the Legacy Project, I have just researched dozens so this will be tough. I’m going to make all these posthumous. James Baldwin, because he inspires me as a writer. I reread “Giovanni’s Room” at least once a year. Barbara Gittings because her level of activism and contribution to GLBT causes is unparalleled. Christine Jorgensen for saying, “This is who I really am” and having the courage to do it all under such public scrutiny. Cole Porter for being so damn sophisticated. Willem Arondeus, a Dutch Resistance Fighter in WWII, a failed artist who along with two gay comrades blew-up the Nazi’s Citizen Registration Building in Amsterdam. He was captured and put before the firing squad, with his final words he wanted it known that he was a homosexual so that people would know 22 boi
that gays are not cowards. That story always moves me. Those are my five for today. What do you consider to be your most significant contribution to the GLBT community in Chicago and at large? This ties into my heroes answer. To me anyone who has paved the way, in whatever capacity, for those who follow is a hero. I think my biggest contribution is as a sort of translator. I want to convey to future generations what GLBT life has been like and show some of how it has evolved. I want to serve as a reminder and make it very clear that all the advances and freedoms we enjoy today were won by GLBT folks who fought, struggled and sacrificed because they believed in the future of this community. That is a profoundly beautiful thing and that spirit needs to be celebrated. They deserve to be remembered and they deserve all our respect. It makes me crazy when people pooh-pooh or belittle the idea of the GLBT community because to me they are dismissing all those people and that heritage of contribution. What are your future goals and aspirations? Currently I’m co-writing a biography of local activist Vernita Gray and finishing a humorous novel called “Young Digby Swank”. My big goal after those projects are completed is to write a great gay love story set in the vaudeville world with Chicago’s Iroquois Theater fire of 1903 as the backdrop and culmination of the novel. I love historical fiction and that era is my favorite. I’m drawn to the sort of seediness of the theatrical life of that period and how it was in many ways the underground of “respectable society.” I’m also a romantic who enjoys research and I’m fascinated by tragedies so it seems a lot like a natural fit. Words of wisdom to the next GLBT generation. Don’t take any of the freedoms we have for granted. Historically speaking, being gay has been okay before, but all it takes is a hostile administration or two, some zealots and a few homophobic laws and we’re back underground and in the closet with our lives criminalized once again. My advice is to keep moving forward but never forget the past. And for God’s sake - vote!
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in the Know, on the Go Congrats All Around
Dance for Life had more than 2,000 guests in attendance and raised nearly $400,000 for HIV/AIDS prevention and awareness services... Happy 40th anniversary to Man’s Country. They’re celebrating with a week of parties, including the pre-birthday bash on Sept.. 21 with free flip-flops and birthday cake (served separately, I hope). The fun kicks off with “Founders’ Night” for those of you with membership cards numbered less than 100,000, you know the one’s etched on to stone tablets.
How l Like A Coyote Or A Bear
Coyote 2012, a three day arts festival. Sept. 28-30. Coyote will feature the art of more than 150 painters, sculptors, photographers, performers, poets and musicians in Wicker Park... “Bear All, Four Sensuous Men Singing Steamy Sweaty Songs!” comes to Touché on Saturday, Sept. 22 as four singer/songwriters from the Bear community join forces for a fascinating evening of acoustic entertainment.
The Games (Gay) People Play
The International Federation of Gay Games has received Letters of Intent to bid for Gay Games X in 2018 from five bidding organizations in the following cities: Amsterdam, London, Orlando, Paris and Limerick, Ireland.
So Long, Farewell, Auf Wiedersehen
The Board of Directors of Howard Brown Health Center (HBHC) announced today that it has accepted the resignation of President and controversial CEO Jamal Edwards. Hopefully that won’t effect HBHC’s major fund raiser “Garden of Eve” on Friday, Sept. 14 at The River East Art Center. The reception, hosted by 435 East Illinois Street Ted Allen, of Food Network’s “Chopped” should be the site of some interesting conversations.
Gregg Shapiro’s Theater Scene
Cyndi Lauper will be on hand for a postshow discussion following the Thursday, Oct. 11 performance of “Kinky Boots” as a benefit for AIDS Legal Council. The show, for which Cyndi wrote the score, with a Tats Enough! book by Harvey Fierstein, is in Chicago Sidetrack debuts its Tattoo Project video for a limited pre-Broadway run through on Sept. 19. If you didn’t get yours Nov. 4... “Sexy Baby” in Mary’s Attic was photographed in time to be included in such a big hit for Hell In A Handbag, that the video, they’ll take a picture for the they’ve gone legit. Into a real theater that next edition that night... Miss Richfield, is, Theater Wit, to be exact.... Fran Lebowitz appearing at Hydrate on Sept. 28 & 29 comes to the Harris Theater for “A State of adore gifts, the tackier the better... I’m the Union Conversation” one month before just agog waiting for Cyon Flare’s United House at Circuit, debuting in Oct... Cocktail the polls open on Tuesday, Oct. 2. The wittiest woman in America will give her a offers up peep show on Sundays at six dry opinion on all things topical... There’s no so you can ogle the boys and still show way to segue into this, so I’m just putting it up for work on Monday, how considerate out there.. The legendary Debbie Reynolds of them... If you spy more hot guys on returns to Drury Lane in Oak Brook on the prowl than usual on Saturday, Sept. September 18 with two show at 1:30 and 23, it’s part of the “All-Stud Halsted Bar Crawl” helping to raise funding for GLBTQ 3:30 p.m. I guess her fans can’t drive at night. homeless youth. boi 25
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Ask Ace
Relationship & sex Advice
Rub-A-Dub
I don’t usually go to the tubs, but I was feeling especially horny one afternoon a few months ago, so I decided to go for a couple of hours, get off and go home. Wouldn’t you know it, after years of hoping to meet someone through friends, at the bars or other social events I met the man of my dreams on a Saturday afternoon at the baths. He’s everything I want in a partner, handsome, smart and the sex is mind-blowing. I’ve never connected with anyone else the way I have with him. He calls me every day as soon as I get home from work, and we talk for almost an hour. We’ve been meeting at the baths on a regular basis, mostly weekends. I want to take this relationship a step further, but he is content with things the way they are. What can I do?
COPE
What you exhibited is most likely “roid rage”. Very few men, even with a highly regimented work out, can develop the muscles you have described without the help of steroids. Many men who take large amounts of steroids will develop severe acne, usually on the back and chest and tend to have severe mood swings. No doubt, he is a bit embarrassed by his behavior and/or blames it on you. My advice would be to move on, if he hasn’t responded to your attempts to open a dialogue with him, there’s nothing more you can do.
Stunned on Southport
I’ve been out and proudly gay since I was 15. In the ten years since I’ve come out I’ve had a few boyfriends and more than my share of onenight stands. Everyone knows I’m gay and it’s no big deal with my family or at my job. Almost all RAD of my friends are gay guys my age. Last week I Let’s examine what you’re experiencing. You met went out for drinks with some folks from work a man on a Saturday afternoon at a bathhouse. to celebrate a co-worker’s birthday. At the end He calls you every day as soon as you get home of the night, I was waiting for a bus and a car from work, and you talk for about an hour. He pulled up. It turned out to be a new co-worker comes into the city on the weekends to meet you. My guess is that you’re involved with an attached who had been at the party. She asked where I man or one who just enjoys NSA sex. I’d be up front was going and offered me a ride home. To make a long story short, obviously she didn’t realize with him about this. If what I suspect is true, you I was gay and made a move on me. I’d had a need to make some decisions. Are you ready to accept being “his piece on the side”, for lack of a little to much to drink and, next thing I know, better term? If he’s attached, are you comfortable we’re in her bedroom having some of the most knowing that he’s cheating? From the tone of your exhilarating sex I’ve ever had. I woke up early letter, I would guess not. That means that you the next day and made a dash home. I’ve never have to make a decision, either accept it for what been attracted to a woman before. I’m freaked it’s worth, or stop seeing him. out I’ve never had sex with a woman before. I’ve always been a proud gay man. Am I even gay?
Confused on Paulina & Elston
I’ve been dating the most beautiful man in the world for a few weeks. He’s got an eightpack and pecs to make an underwear model green with envy and his biceps are about as big around as my thigh. We’re interested in the same kind of books and movies and we get along great. After about three dates, we finally had sex. I was a little grossed out by the fact that he shaves his pubes completely. He also has really bad acne on his back. I didn’t say anything about it the first few weeks we were together, thinking maybe it was a temporary thing. Last night, as we were spooning after sex, I asked him if he was aware there was medicine which could help with his acne. He flew into a rage and made me leave his place. Now, he won’t return my phone calls, texts or e-mails. I only meant to help. What can I do to make him forgive me?
SOS
Relax, you’re still gay. If a vegetarian eats only one slice of bacon their entire lives that doesn’t make them a carnivore. Sexual orientation is a continuum, very few people are exclusively hetero or homosexual. You needn’t freak out, most of your friends, even if they find out about your “indiscretion” won’t care. You should be up front with the woman with which you had this experience. If your co-worker puts the moves on you again, explain to her that, while you certainly enjoyed the experience, it’s not one you wish to repeat. Unless of course you do, and that’s all right too. ______________________________________
Ace Magyar has a BA in communications, a MA in sex therapy and a PhD in zoology. He is a registered couple’s counselor specializing in the GLBT community. Send your questions to boieditorial@aol.com. boi 29
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